Ukrainian Girl Opens Up About Dating In Sweden
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ม.ค. 2023
- In this video, we delve into the world of international dating as we speak with Alina, a Ukrainian woman who has had the opportunity to live and date in Sweden. Alina shares with us her unique perspective on what it is like to navigate the dating scene as a foreigner in a new country.
Here she opens up about cultural differences and candidly discusses the challenges and rewards of dating a Swedish man. She also offers valuable insights and advice for anyone considering a similar cross-cultural relationship.
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00:34 🚶♀ In Sweden, women approaching men is more common compared to places like Ukraine, where it's frowned upon.
02:08 🤝 Swedish people generally avoid prolonged eye contact, making it less inviting for someone to initiate conversation or make a move.
03:50 💬 Initiating conversations with strangers, particularly in everyday situations, is more accepted in Ukraine compared to Sweden.
05:50 💑 In Ukraine and Sweden, there's an expectation for men to make the first move in dating, demonstrating serious intentions.
07:24 🌡 Swedish dating culture involves testing compatibility physically before pursuing a relationship, contrasting with other countries where emotional connection comes first.
10:08 📚 "Sex Before Coffee" explores Scandinavian dating culture, highlighting how physical intimacy often precedes emotional connection in Sweden.
11:03 💖 Cross-cultural understanding can lead to unique and beautiful dating experiences, as demonstrated by a Swedish guy's thoughtful gestures towards a Ukrainian woman.
11:27 🌟 One of the top attributes appreciated about Swedish guys is their good looks, contributing to their desirability in the dating scene.
I always hated the pressure of having to respond to a girl wanting to have sex straight away. I know that i might not have the opportunity to see her again if i decline the invitation. To me its not a good way to start a relationship and i prefer getting a stronger emotional attachment before going there. Dont let anyone nag you into having sex with them and if they belittle you calling you gay or a pussy they are not for you anyway.
Beware of the sluts
Snippen, remember that conversation is also a part of foreplay. Use it to discover and chose what to do. The only meaning in anything is the meaning that we give to it. Speak your peace and see if she honors that. No harm, no foul in asking. Just smile and say, "Let's talk about that."
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I agreed
Detta va ett roligt avsnitt! Mycket bra!
This was a great discussion and a great interview ! Well done Stefan!
It's so interesting hearing how Scandinavian dating is perceived by other cultures. I do think most swedes use their 20's to find out how to approach partners and at the same time have that mutual respect that are typical for Scandinavia.
I always try to be respectful no matter, not talking about dating now but just to hold up doors (for the elder or people with babycarriers etc) is just a thing you should do if just to be nice to the people around you...
Sweden is one of the world's most equal countries and this definitely affects dating standards. A date today looks nothing like the same date might have done 30 years ago. Although many other countries have also come a long way in gender equality issues, Sweden has probably taken it a little step further. It is at least as common for women to make contact with men as the other way around. As a woman, you should not expect the man to pay for the dinner, the drink or the coffee, we Swedes are more used to everyone paying for themselves. For many, it is even important to be able to pay for oneself, we are independent. For us, the quality of the date depends as much on the woman as on the man. These are some things that might be perceived as strange in other dating cultures, where the role and responsibility of the man is still prominent when it comes to the success of a date.
Sweden is a dysfunctional feminist cesspool where women now act like men and 'men' act like women. Everything is upside down. There's a lack of male female polarity, to put it lightly. None of these issues in Eastern Europe.
@@eriklarsson3188 As an EU citizen, you have the right to live, work, study, look for a job or live as a pensioner wherever you want in the EU. Just do it Erik 😄
@@eriklarsson3188 One problem is that a lot of guys act too much like "simps", and this is a turn-off to almost all women;
but women will actually often become "feminine" when they speak to a guy who has an attractive vibe, and this will usually be a guy who is confident in himself, has good manners, and has a playfully flirty and down-to-earth attitude.
It is a little hard to describe, but you immediately recognise a guy like that when you see him in real life.
@@Peter_1986 Your taking about fictional stereotypes not actual human beings existing in the real world.
You mean some 60+ years ago - because 50 years ago - in the 1970's pronounced equality was absolutely the dating standard. So today a young person's greatgrandmother would have been the las generation who expected some very special gendered signs of being polite and making a fuss about roles for ladies and for men.
I once had the most beautiful Swedish woman approach me and ask me to walk over to the bar and have a drink with her. Being American that seemed like a red flag or just felt really weird, so my first reaction was to make an excuse to leave. I've been kicking myself for it for years but it was just a knee-jerk reaction and had no idea she was actually interested in me. I thought maybe she might just be trying to make another guy jealous or something strange. She was genuinely interested in me though.
I'll bet you will not do that twice!
This was a truly great interview/ discussion. As I’ve lived in several diffrent countries but not Ukraine so it was also from that aspect really cool.
Heck, I am Swedish but lived overseas for a very long time and now moving to Stockholm; This was informative.
I mentioned reviewing a previous video that my wife is Ukrainian/Lithuanian, which translates to TRADITIONAL! It was more like dating in the US than it was in Sweden (where I got in trouble offering to pay her meal). I also found eye contact in Sweden, even in dating to not be as long as here in the US. Stefan, you are coming up with some of the most interesting and informative video's I've watched about Sweden. Keep up the good work!
It’s good to know that!
This is so interesting and great !
and so sweet
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I have that problem with eye contakt, i look people in the eyes a bit longer than most sweds, and some think that im flirting with them, i just want to see their face and eyes when i talk with someone! Im always open to say to people that they have a nice shirt or scarf, or hairstyle but im not flirting, i always say that im to social to live in scandinavia.
In the end regardless of culture the most important thing is to complement eachother's energies. To explain this in a nutshell; Guys look for a womenly woman and women for a manly man, these types compliment eachother very well. No girls want a simp because they have more feminine energy and are easily controlled and manipulated by masculine women. And no guy like's a girl with too much masculine energy because we will feel out place and insufficent in this type of situation. We guys like simplicity and women who confuse us and make us feel "unmanly" is definitely a red flag.
that's it, I'm moving to Sweden
Not sure I agree with how swedish women approach the guy more than the guy. That's not really my impression, but I'm not from a big city so I guess it really depends countryside or city.. we tend to be more traditional. However, as a woman I really never allowed the men to pay for anything. To me, that feels like I commit to something and I'm an equal and I don't want to feel as a non-equal. It wasnt that long ago we werent equals, the man had a vote in politics and so it was the man with the wallet, with the social power, with the social rights and it is very much apart of our structure now. I'd say it also reaches into social classes. "I might be poor but I'll still pay my dinner, as we are equals eventhough you earn a million a year" if you get what I mean.
As a Ukrainian, I can say that it's not that uncommon for Ukrainian girls to do the first move
I don't know if it's because I live in northern Sweden, but I don't recognize that girls are the ones who take the first initiative. Here it is quite unusual. But that may be because there are more men than women here in northern Sweden.
Alina is beautiful. I'm sure she gets a lot of attention, even in Sweden. The attention she gets may not be as direct and forward in Scandinavia, but that can be a good thing,I feel. Excessive attention is annoying.
I'm not going to comment on Alina's looks, but If she get's more attention than commonly in Sweden It's defenetaly because she's Ukranian! Swedish men are so sick of Swedish women and the femininity of a Ukranian woman will stand out!
Swedish women arr bland and can't walk in heels If so their life depended on It 🤣🤣
Well I agree she looks nice but you probably haven't been here mate. I'm not going to rate her, but there is a LOT of women here that is in her class or yeah.. See for your self
Thank you Sara, 😊
Well, I’d say it’s hard to understand and read Swedish men, and it feels that I am as reserved as they are, haha
SteMy dafan, This so funny for me to listen to. I feel like I have a bit of understanding of your background because I was your 'neighbor across the river' in the US. I am in the final stages of moving from Sandy, Oregon to a small town about 3.5 hours north of Stockholm. In the last two days I have had one woman ask me out and another telling me that my friends have not done their job in finding me a relationship. I then busted up laughing at what Alina said about older men in Sweden being more outgoing, interested and natural in opening up a conversation. No one ever comes close in guessing my age. In the US women are not inclined to date older men. I find that age is far less of a consideration in Sweden. My dad was Swedish and one of his comeback to me once when I gave him a hard time about getting old was, "Just because there's snow on the roof doesn't mean there isn't a fire in the furnace!" I'm sure that he probably heard that from either han far eller farfar. At 73, I now have 'snow on the roof' and I am very clear about what he meant by his comment. I give a lot of credit to my good Nordic genetics. Great job with the videos. Keep it up!
I need to say this, I really think Stefan is way so attractive! I hope he (or anyone around here) doesn’t think I’m trying to catch the last coach or I’m desperate for getting a partner, also, I know he already has a partner 😅
haha I love this!
Красивая девушка)
She’s stunning and very sweet
End come is so cute
Yeah, in Sweden the woman is also supposed to put in an effort.
The dating scene in Stockholm is quite strange to me. First of all without the social lubricant AKA Alcohol it's very hard to meet anyone who's comfortable and secure being sober, especially on first interactions. I deleted all dating apps from my phone. Most people aren't interesting to me. This Ukrainien women in the video looks lovely though. Maybe I should go Ukrainien...
first im rly sorry for whats is happening in ur home country....
i think most ppl in Sweden would do atleast some basic research, and go trough some thought process...like did u just arrive or have u been here 2 years...if u just arrived u prob could be offended doing something totally awkward.
I hope u enjoy ur stay here and may the situation in Ukraine find a resolve sooner rather than later. 🇸🇪💛💙🇺🇦
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I''m Danish and i know i probably fall out of the norm, but i've been approached alot by women in in Mexico, Canada, Vietnam, Philipiness, France and Italy, places where you typically wouldn't expect these things
Player! 😁
Because u aRe a foreign. But mexican women dont do that with mexican men probably.
When you go out and looking for a girl what do you expect to do after a wet night in the bar... ?... exactly. The difference between sweds and you seems to be like the sweeds are strait forward and honest with what they whant and dont go around like a cat and hot milk.
Why do those IKEA mirror on the wall makeup a USA map?
I started a TH-cam channel just to start talking about THIS TOPIC LOL
I bet she friend zoned that guy she talked about 😄
I have always admitted first that i’m interested to all my past boyfriends here in Sweden 😅
They would never have had the courage
As an American this is absolutely crazy to me 😂 women NEVER make the first move.
Usually I skip this part
Мужчины как всегда слишком глупые и мерзкие, опошляют все что могут
Jag är lite "under isen" would be almost equivalent to "under the weather" in english. Under vädret will be totaly weired in swedish.
Guess that the dating scene in Ukraine have become a bit complicated lately .
You don't say?
How do you do when you bye shoes?
Test them before😘
Don’t generalize, all Swedes are not the same! Gothenburg has a way different way to approach people, we like to talk with people and have no problems look people in the eyes!
Really in Sweden women are not condemned for sex? if a woman had many sexual partners before marriage, is this normal for most men? If so, then that's great. I myself am a very liberal man, but in our country there are double sexual standards and women are shamed. It's too bad I want to live in a free country.
Can’t believe a pretty girl like Alina would have any problems meeting a guy in Sweden…unless she is picky. 🤭
I don't really get it when foreigners say that Nordic people are good looking...
Some Nordic people really look incredible, but most are just normally average-looking. To me all southern Europeans tend to look naturally amazing, especially men, while the women tend to look too fake, their beauty coming from a beauty parlour and a lot of "fixing". Nowadays in all Europe and the USA young people tend to look less healthy than before.
For me eastern european are prettier.
She was saying how Swedish history explains why the men are very passive, today women there approach the men…So did the women previously hunt while the men gathered?
😂😂😂
I totally agree with Ukrainians. I'm in the U.S. and I've never had a Girl ask me out or pay on the date. That would be so weird, that I would think she's trying to sell me something or convert me to their Religion!
9:20 bro what is she yapping about :;D
Why don’t wimmen do the first move!? 🤷🏼♂️🤔
I have lots of friends who slept with their partners first and then started dating… yes it’s backwards
#Stockholm
Is she single? 😅
Nice chick man.
Lol
I wish Ukraine all the best! They are welcomed here. But don't make this into trafficking wibe thing, please. Slava Ukraina och Svenska folket! Hälsningar från hoppfull svensk.
What a shallow comment!
@@sakicasakic782истина је ,већина су украјинки тешке дроље које изигравају неке рибе тамо на западу ,смејурија
all muslim countries boycott Swedish products : IKEA, H&M, Spotify, Volvo, Ericson.
Well If the 1million Muslims we've taken care of and given free wellfare money and apartments due to persecution or war moved back home, Sweden would be better off...
Would you boycott Chinese Volvo? Polkagris? Köttbullar?
Do not forget to boycot: Ball bearings, Pace maker, Cochlear implant, Zippers, Matches and 3, 4 and 5G moblieservise. Oh and any food using dried milk.
Oh and the Turkish alphabet, do not forget to boycot that, put together by a Swedish person on Kemal Atatürks order. And safety belts in cars, you'll have to take them all out and boycot them to.
Yes, don't forget to boycott the country itself.
Our governments says all Muslims living here contribute a lot to our wealth, so the best thing would clearly be to move back home and devastate our economy.