Questions We've Been Avoiding *full disclosure*

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  • @MattandAbby
    @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2153

    Wish we would have included this in the video, but we wanted to say that our position on being pro-life also extends to the lives of people on death row. To immigrants lives. To the lives of women that face sexual assault and rape. We are pro-life across the board. Not just regarding the lives of babies in the womb.

    • @elliottkate2759
      @elliottkate2759 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Pin this!!!!

    • @sophiamorrison6269
      @sophiamorrison6269 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      U guys r so inspiring 💕💕

    • @bridgettemiller4628
      @bridgettemiller4628 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Awesome

    • @krissygonzales5180
      @krissygonzales5180 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      You guys are amazing!! I love how you are open and real! Stay that way please!! And I love love love this comment!!! Can’t wait for the next video!! Love y’all 💕🌸

    • @sarawood7986
      @sarawood7986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I appreciate you all including this. I’ve got a daughter your age and sincerely think your generation will change the world!!

  • @avaparks8989
    @avaparks8989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3087

    Who else found them on accident and now are addicted to them !?!?

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +216

      WE LOVE YOU!!

    • @avaparks8989
      @avaparks8989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@MattandAbby I love you guys too!!!!!

    • @averyW-vlogs1018
      @averyW-vlogs1018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      It was the best accident ever!!!!! I found them through TH-cam shorts

    • @leoragrunewald6468
      @leoragrunewald6468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@averyW-vlogs1018 same!

    • @nwah1750
      @nwah1750 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@MattandAbby I love you guys more

  • @ruthaqvist978
    @ruthaqvist978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2105

    Abby saying “if we are going to have this stance, then we need to be part of the solution” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🧡

    • @kcolourart6521
      @kcolourart6521 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Truth!

    • @Kayla-fm2ie
      @Kayla-fm2ie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I stan

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @alyssamartinez1725
      @alyssamartinez1725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      that was such a great answer!!

    • @tommccarthy8092
      @tommccarthy8092 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@OffbeatLiteracy your comments in here are the opposite of making progress lol “if you’re pro life you don’t care about women” is such a dumb thing to say.

  • @merediththompson8857
    @merediththompson8857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +563

    “we got to be able to to learn how to disagree with people and still be able to have a civil conversation… it shouldn’t be a deem on your pride”
    THIS IS SO GOOD! i wish more people had this mind set!!

    • @lifeinthemitten6535
      @lifeinthemitten6535 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes! Me too!

    • @LCEVIDS
      @LCEVIDS ปีที่แล้ว

      See we disagree on whether you should have civil rights and bodily autonomy? Why won't you be civil? I'm only trying to strip you of your ability to live in freedom.

  • @jillianmiller7877
    @jillianmiller7877 2 ปีที่แล้ว +654

    “how much do you make”
    matt: “great question, i’m actually trying to figure that out”
    i died

    • @talkelley3
      @talkelley3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes this was so hilarious 😂😂😂

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @kahmed9064
      @kahmed9064 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Omg lol I read this at the exact same time he was saying Matt in the video 😂

    • @danaschreiner3334
      @danaschreiner3334 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Matt & Abby like ballpark figures, though lol

  • @Lauren-vq1gd
    @Lauren-vq1gd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +488

    Yalls way of explaining controversial topics is so compassionate and inspiring! Ecspecially when dealing with politics, we should all be willing to have conversations, yall did so well 🤍🤍

    • @fikemiaiyepeku2492
      @fikemiaiyepeku2492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      100% agree with this. I'm not American but living here has really shown me how important it is to not just "pick sides" but to really have logical and empathetic conversations about what solutions could look like. They definitely did so well

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Conversations are sooo important! It’s so sad how the media can divide us so much.

    • @sydney7464
      @sydney7464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@MattandAbby This comment! 🙌

  • @susanbednar5255
    @susanbednar5255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +484

    When my mom was pregnant with me the doctor offered to have her abort me because they knew I would be born premature and there was a chance I could be deaf and/or blind. She kept me (thankfully!) and I was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 lb. on oxygen first year-18 months

    • @jakeflo7834
      @jakeflo7834 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Don't mean to be rude, but are you deaf or blind?

    • @susanbednar5255
      @susanbednar5255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@jakeflo7834 no. Have no side vision but other than that not blind

    • @caitjones644
      @caitjones644 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Oh my! That’s a miracle! So glad your alive and doing better now!

    • @hannahrosenow303
      @hannahrosenow303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      God is so good!

    • @Lifewithjessandmatt
      @Lifewithjessandmatt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I would still keep my baby if the doctor said that

  • @kylielester9275
    @kylielester9275 2 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    “The goal is not to change the other persons mind, but it is to gain a new perspective” Great stuff y’all

    • @mjb_yt.youtube
      @mjb_yt.youtube 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/channels/QaPNWspXGDL_DFxOe_GPoA.html

  • @isabellecarter5954
    @isabellecarter5954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    This video shows so much maturity and I’m blown away at how you addressed these hard topics. I don’t even know you guys personally, but I’m so proud of you. Thank you for being bold, but also showing gentleness-it’s so rare!

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      You are so kind! Thank you!

  • @hermionepink96
    @hermionepink96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    I got pregnant at 14 from r@pe. Had a miscarriage prob bc I was a child. That's why I'm pro-choice though because there are kids like me that have horrific things happen to them. The idea of birthing a baby from a traumatic event as a child was terrifying.
    I love the way you explain being prolife even though I have a different view based on my life.

    • @mechadoggy
      @mechadoggy ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Most pro-life people would be fine with making an exception for rape though, so you’d still be allowed to abort

    • @danaschreiner3334
      @danaschreiner3334 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @mechadoggy thats why it's gets confusing, though, bc that is pro choice. It's still allowing a person to choose for themselves. If you're willing to make any type of exception, then you're allowing a person to choose for themselves and not the government. It is confusing because some people could be pro life from a personal or moral perspective but pro choice from a legal one. Allowing women to choose for themselves what is an appropriate reason to abort is paramount to their health and sense of self.

    • @danaschreiner3334
      @danaschreiner3334 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed

    • @mechadoggy
      @mechadoggy ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@danaschreiner3334 It’s not black and white like that. There’s a whole spectrum of political positions that are in between the extremes of “abortion should be available (and provided for) at every stage of pregnancy no matter what, no exceptions” vs. “abortion should not be allowed no matter what, no exceptions”.
      I’ve never heard though of people being considered pro-choice if they were pro-life except in the cases of rape or if the mother’s health was in danger. Usually, those people just get called women-hating misogynistic fascist Nazis on Twitter.

    • @andreil1313
      @andreil1313 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      people can be pro life and pro choice at the same time. I could never get an abortion and still think that women should have a choice still.

  • @alainab2898
    @alainab2898 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I love how honest and open you guys are! Especially now that we live in a world where people constantly will judge you for your opinions. You show people it’s okay to stay true to yourself❤️❤️

  • @Melanie-ww4yk
    @Melanie-ww4yk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I thought you two handled this beautifully. And, I second your thought: as someone who has both conservative and liberal friends, I've found that they are all equally smart and well intentioned, but just have different perspectives on things. The more you try to understand all points of view, the better your understanding truly becomes. Empathy is key.

  • @vanessajanik4623
    @vanessajanik4623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +485

    Love that you guys didn’t shy away from the pro life question. Being part of the solution.. that’s what it’s all it’s about! Adoption is great but even if that’s not an option for some couples..every single one of us can do something to support women & children in need whether it’s helping w/individual needs or supporting your local maternity home or crisis pregnancy center. Hope & healing is available for all. ❤️

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @samyukthas
      @samyukthas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      It's a woman's choice what she does with her body period

    • @LA-fr4gp
      @LA-fr4gp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@samyukthas your right. We choose what we do with our bodies. But we do not get to make the choice to end the life of another human being.

    • @LA-fr4gp
      @LA-fr4gp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@samyukthas wait I'm confused. I'm saying that abortion isn't a choice. Are you agreeing with me?

    • @samyukthas
      @samyukthas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@LA-fr4gp it is. You were the one who agreed with me lmao

  • @Des_Amar
    @Des_Amar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +327

    You guys should start a podcast and talk about controversial things people are too afraid to talk about. We feel like a lot of people would enjoy listening to you guys talk about it! Love you guys! ❤️

    • @miached6533
      @miached6533 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree! I love hearing you guys talk about stuff!

    • @tjb7588
      @tjb7588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I NEEEEED a podcast

    • @CelineCNS
      @CelineCNS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yess please start a podcast!

  • @erinplace6696
    @erinplace6696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    YOU TWO AMAZE ME. So wise, so smart, so kind, so respectful. Such WONDERFUL humans.

  • @jillianteeter6041
    @jillianteeter6041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Have y’all ever thought of having a podcast? I’d like to hear you guys talk about things regularly, not like serious topics but about relationships, your life in social media, etc. and have guests. I could just listen to you guys for hours!

  • @chloejones_21
    @chloejones_21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Proud of you two for opening up! So brave to do these days, and I respect and love everything you said. Most inspiring people ever. ❤️

  • @danbrock3185
    @danbrock3185 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My respect has literally gone through the roof for yall. Keep being you and God bless!

  • @graceandalethea
    @graceandalethea 2 ปีที่แล้ว +543

    I'm pro-life as well and I had the most refreshing conversation with someone who was pro-choice recently. It was honestly so beautiful because it wasn't an argument which is so rare now a-days. Like you said, we didn't change each other's opinions, but I think we both gained a new perspective. Thanks so much for being so open and emphasizing having these conversations peacefully.

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      This ❤️🙌🏼

    • @gus4198
      @gus4198 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      Just let people make their own decisions. You can be pro life for yourself, not a problem. But why should YOU decide what OTHER people can and can’t do with their lives. That’s the only thing I can’t understand as to what gives you the right to dictate other people’s lives.

    • @Becca-jt5ec
      @Becca-jt5ec 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@gus4198 I agree. I say, if you don’t want an abortion and you believe it’s wrong, it is well within your rights to refuse it and I completely respect the sanctity that you place on that life. BUT when those beliefs start to infringe on my rights to reproductive healthcare, that’s when I have a huge problem with it. PLUS a lot of people are pro choice but call themselves pro life because it sounds more moral. Abby and Matt don’t sound like these kinds of people, just to clarify. But there are tons of them out there that are like “I’m pro life unless there was rape or invest involved” well guess what, you’re pro choice. Or “I’m pro life but if the mother or baby may die, then abortion is ok” well guess what, you’re pro choice. These pro life and pro choice buzz words are really just designed to imply morality vs. lack of morality. It should be called pro choice and anti choice

    • @Becca-jt5ec
      @Becca-jt5ec 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @grace I love this! The reality is these subjects evoke very strong emotions and opinions and because of that, it’s very unlikely one side will ever change the other side’s mind. But it’s so valuable to be able to disagree respectfully.

    • @chayashapiro8423
      @chayashapiro8423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same pro life

  • @racheleickmeier3157
    @racheleickmeier3157 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Out with a bang! Love having conversations with people who have different opinions. It's never what you expect and you learn so much. So thankful you're encouraging that ❤

  • @riechelle9134
    @riechelle9134 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As a foster kid myself (well, not anymore since I’m 21. But my foster parents are still my parents) it makes me SO SO happy to hear that you 2 want to adopt! Foster care is not easy, but I think it still is beautiful! I am so grateful for my foster parents! Thanks to them, I can have A bright future! You are 2 beautiful people❤️ I really admire you!

  • @lizzyburford
    @lizzyburford 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Love you guys! So appreciate how you talked about being Pro-Life and aren’t afraid of the hate. Influencers need to take a stand on this to help the babies and the mama’s.

  • @bonniepaora8664
    @bonniepaora8664 2 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    I love how you spoke your mind about being pro-life, without attacking or being judgemental. Very rare to see honestly and I appreciate it a lot

    • @MarkK395
      @MarkK395 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I completely agree! I do have mixed feelings about being pro-life as far as an unborn child and a unhealthy pregnancy goes, but I totally agree with the rest of it.

    • @bonniepaora8664
      @bonniepaora8664 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@MarkK395 personally I'm pro-choice and normally I've found pro-lifers to be very aggressive and judgemental. But Matt and Abby spoke about it in such a way that made me feel like we were pretty much on the same page even though we label ourselves as the opposite view point. I believe no one should be forced to endure a pregnancy they do not want to go through. That's all there is to it for me. The way they spoke about it didn't make me feel like they were challenging that idea at all

    • @andreil1313
      @andreil1313 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bonniepaora8664 and also both opinions can co exist. being pro choice doesnt mean being a fan of abortions.. i really liked them too

  • @katelyndurham9147
    @katelyndurham9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your beliefs! I wish there were more people in the world like you two!

  • @rachel-yx7dp
    @rachel-yx7dp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Though I disagree with some of your opinions, I have to thank you for being honest. So many people avoid the hard questions, so thank you for answering them. Also, loooove your speech about how we need to start having civil conversations. 🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @JoshuaMO33
    @JoshuaMO33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Y’all are so awesome. Wish I could find someone with the same values as me and genuine funny and chill but those people are hard to find sadly.

  • @angelshaw567
    @angelshaw567 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so glad to hear that y’all are supporting adoption and foster care. Just wanted to say how much that warmed my heart! I was adopted myself, and all my siblings are adopted as well, and I can easily without a doubt say it was the biggest blessing and the greatest thing that could’ve happened in my life. It’s people like y’all who are able to change the lives of future generations. Thank you!

  • @clareperkins304
    @clareperkins304 2 ปีที่แล้ว +206

    I think what's helpful in these conversations is remembering that being pro-choice isn't pro-abortion, it's pro-choice, as in if someone absolutely is forced into that decision, they have that option. Not recommending it as the #1 solution, but making sure that people have the option when absolutely necessary, which is necessary until there are WAY more people like them who are willing to be apart of the solution

    • @brendamiller5785
      @brendamiller5785 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes totally....it's about choice....choosing....deciding.....talking
      ....praying....then making a Choice ....and that Choice might be Life

    • @clareperkins304
      @clareperkins304 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@brendamiller5785 might. Choice is about having both options be an option!

    • @CrowandRaven
      @CrowandRaven 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      No offense, but if you’re pro choice, you open abortion as an option, therefore making you pro abortion even when circumstantial. Unless your life is being legitimately threatened (such as an ectopic pregnancy), to kill an unborn child (which until the 1960s was considered a living being from the moment of fertilization) should be ostracized.
      Of course, this sentiment won’t matter if it turns out that those children born are not valued by their parents to the extent that they consider abortion as a viable option simply for convenience. I’ve seen the trauma on video by toddlers who had no stable home and were transferred to foster care too often. And there needs to be better care for the women forced into that position. No wonder this issue is so nuanced.

    • @Runner-Boy
      @Runner-Boy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes but that's not how it works they can do it for any reason no restrictions

    • @MonkEBoy-ud6kj
      @MonkEBoy-ud6kj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@CrowandRaven being pro-choice means you support and advocate for a woman’s right to choose for herself… regardless of what that choice is. Being “pro-abortion” sounds like people picketing outside of maternity wards demanding that the pregnant women abort their babies. It’s not a thing that exists. It’s all about choice.

  • @sabrinalim3333
    @sabrinalim3333 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    I’m pro choice, but that’s honestly the best ownership and reasoning I’ve ever heard from people who are pro life. They support and will adopt, open to fostering and acknowledge the problems! in my opinion #slayed

    • @fayeroscoe9044
      @fayeroscoe9044 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      That’s if they actually adopt and make an effort to support these women financially, emotionally… even then it’s honestly not a good reason to have an opinion on something that isn’t their decision to make in the end…

    • @rachelkessinger2295
      @rachelkessinger2295 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@fayeroscoe9044 the baby is choosing to be killed either….

    • @EK-ij9fg
      @EK-ij9fg ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@rachelkessinger2295 there is no baby pre-birth

    • @lylacsa
      @lylacsa ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby?
      Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?

    • @lylacsa
      @lylacsa ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby?
      Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?

  • @vanessajanik4623
    @vanessajanik4623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Also love your guys answer about college. You’re absolutely right, it’s not a one size fits all. Especially w/so many young ppl going into lifelong debt to get a degree they’ll never use. There’s so many other more practical options. As long as you have goals, realistic expectations & are willing to do the work. Also, your passion doesn’t necessarily have to be your career.. like your job can just be the thing you get paid for & you find a way to take joy in it but your passion can be totally separate. To many ppl get stuck thinking they have to be one in the same.

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Could not agree more! College is a great tool for a lot of people, but it's not "one size fits all" and not the sole determinant of success. There are a TON of billionaires that dropped out of college to start businesses and change the world.

  • @JordanSmith-xb2dy
    @JordanSmith-xb2dy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am SO thankful for you guys!! I tell you this often, but you two literally make my days so much better and always make me smile!! Thank you for being so completely open about your life and letting us in on some deep conversations!!

  • @EllieHawkes
    @EllieHawkes 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You two have become such a comfort to me! I've recently moved across the country, I live alone and I honestly look forward to watching your videos in the evenings haha, thank you. You're fab.

  • @Kim_Martin
    @Kim_Martin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Whole new level of respect for Matt & Abby, especially in challenging us to talk with someone who may have different views than us. This is what we need in 2021

  • @toladep
    @toladep 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You guys are so positive and well adjusted, it’s awesome you found eachother.

  • @lachlanqmurray
    @lachlanqmurray 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Just want to say-I love how you guys think, because you guys are people that are open minded and aware of all the different possibilities in life. I also loved what you said about subjects and politics you guys are so amazing and smart for a young couple. Love your videos!😊❤️

    • @lachlanqmurray
      @lachlanqmurray 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      P.S. I’m only 15 but I hope that I find a partner later on, that is as open minded as you guys😂❤️

  • @AaMmack
    @AaMmack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Included in many of the controversial topics you guys discussed here, I love that you mentioned setting up a fund for your future children. As you guys said, college is one avenue to success, but it’s not the only one. That’s coming from someone who has two degrees lol. I think it’s extra important to not constrict certain adulting processes for our youth, including in funding. If we can be more open-minded and allow our youth with as many resources to succeed in whatever ways they want, the sky’s the limit💪

  • @rebeccapatterson8049
    @rebeccapatterson8049 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Liked that you talked about issues that are considered “political” but really shouldn’t be. But left actual politics out of it. Pro life pro vaccine. That’s gotta have people’s heads spinning. I love it.

    • @miahahn3227
      @miahahn3227 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know a lot of people are

    • @gareth2736
      @gareth2736 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It shouldn't though because it's actually consistent unlike the alternative positions.

    • @Daye04
      @Daye04 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's so sad that people think those are oxymoronic positions, though

    • @derek96720
      @derek96720 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm one of those weird people that considers abortion to be the killing of a growing human being, while also being pro-legal abortion. I think society doesn't need tens of thousands of unready moms poorly raising tens of thousands of unplanned babies every year. It's a burden on society. So yeah, there's practically no one I can have a civil discussion with. 😂

  • @bekwolfpack8139
    @bekwolfpack8139 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    GOD BLESS YOU GUYS AND EVERYONE ELSE! You guys are amazing! Road to 1 mil!!

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @quinn3585
    @quinn3585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    i love how honest y’all are with your viewers!!!

  • @samanthareynolds8352
    @samanthareynolds8352 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you, thank you for advocating for self research!!!! I don’t care what your decision is on any topic as long as it is informed by conclusions made from your own research from multiple different sources. Also thank you for promoting conversation! Love you guys! ❤️

  • @PeaJayTastic
    @PeaJayTastic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Through this video i learned that you guys have different opinions/beliefs than i have. I lean more towards pro choice and will not be getting the vaccine. However, i have always urged people to start conversations, listen and learn from eachother. I appreciate you guys bringing that up also.
    Life would be ultimately boring if everyone thought and acted in the same way 💗
    Love you guys.

  • @lgsmith17
    @lgsmith17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Thank you so much for giving your stance on being pro-life! I am pro-choice, but I also believe that it's important to support children through adoption, improving the foster care system, and providing teens/adults with a comprehensive sex education. I completely respect your views and am glad you also support "solutions"!

  • @deathby1000cats
    @deathby1000cats 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I gained so much respect for y'all watching this video. Thank you for answering all these tough questions. I loved seeing a different side of you.

  • @sajnishah2593
    @sajnishah2593 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Subscribed.
    Just for how well you handled much of this "we gotta be able to learn how to disagree with people but still have a civil conversation and be thinking logically"

  • @beachlover3273
    @beachlover3273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    i just recently found this channel and i am so addicted now lol

  • @vanessajanik4623
    @vanessajanik4623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Ok last comment. I respect so much that you guys don’t answer the super personal sex questions. Seriously there’s no reason anyone needs to know that. Ppl who compromise there privacy for views, likes etc.. no bueno. Love that you guys draw boundaries 👍🏼

  • @mckennaelo3143
    @mckennaelo3143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Even though I personally don't agree with some of your opinions in this video, this was one of the most compassionate and intentional responses I've heard. I really appreciated that you acknowledged the complexities of some of these issues. Very classy and refreshing to hear, thank you!

  • @Sstackpole
    @Sstackpole 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just recently have seen your videos and subscribed. You both bring me genuine smiles and laughs. I love how you both are very open and talk about issues that many see as controversial.
    Love the outlook. We all really need to just come together and love one another. 🙏🏼

  • @annaphillips1951
    @annaphillips1951 2 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    I’m pro choice & I loved hearing your guys stance on being pro life. so nice & refreshing, you guys are truly so good! we can all agree to disagree & MOVE along ❤️

  • @amandabrinks2070
    @amandabrinks2070 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Matt and Abby! Foster mom here, THANK YOU THANK YOU for being honest about being pro life. Babies deserve your honesty and your action of being future adoptive parents. You being honest, is making a difference and it brought tears to my hears to hear Abby say "100%."
    Thank you ❤

  • @sheriem4026
    @sheriem4026 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yaaas! Thank you for the encouragement. I feel so strongly about that. It's important to have an open mind and listen to others cause you can never know how much you could learn from talking to other people. These days people can be so mean and close minded. They don't want to learn. And it breaks my heart. I 💕 you dudes 😍😍🙏

  • @hajarairfan8041
    @hajarairfan8041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are really cool about being open to us, love you DUDES💖 stay safe and blessed!!🤗

  • @sarahroth6737
    @sarahroth6737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We just moved to Missouri and already love it and how friendly people are!

  • @annabelprevidi6722
    @annabelprevidi6722 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i really appreciated your thoughts on being able to be comfortable when encountering disagreement. i think it's so critical to listen and value everyone's opinions and really think about them before automatically jumping to a personal opinion. thank you both for speaking on this; very smart!

  • @jessicahickey4527
    @jessicahickey4527 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really respect you guys for answering these questions. Really vulnerable and mature

  • @jmelynn0213
    @jmelynn0213 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    💛 found you all accidently 6 months ago and haven't missed a video yet! I married young too (18 years old, now 29) and love seeing other young love couples rocking it at married life! Many may doubt you, but keep your heads held high even when it gets harder then you ever imagined. Together, you truly can make it through anything❤❤❤

  • @Cro944
    @Cro944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    I don’t agree with your pro-life stance, however I appreciate you acknowledging that you want to be apart of the solution!

    • @ByMagdaYT
      @ByMagdaYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ps just to clarify, I don't think Abby and Matt are now obligated to adopt a disabled baby because it might not be their goal/dream and adopting any baby/kid it's a huge help and improvement from the society (just don't get me wrong from my previous comment). I just wanted to highlight that many babies that are not wanted are not the healthy ones but just the kids with problems/disabilities (and that for many people that's the argument for abortion because prenatal medicine improved so much during past few years/decades) people may not decide to have a kid who you have to put tons of money for therapy and milion of hours of work, for which not many people are prepared and able unfortunately 😔

    • @VeggiesbyEos
      @VeggiesbyEos 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I 100% agree with this comment! They don't seem like the typical pro life people

    • @ByMagdaYT
      @ByMagdaYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@VeggiesbyEos also much more forward thinking

    • @mckennaelo3143
      @mckennaelo3143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Same here, don't agree but thought their response was very classy, intentional, and compassionate. So refreshing to hear people share their views in a respectful way!

    • @LA-fr4gp
      @LA-fr4gp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@VeggiesbyEos except they are typical pro life people. You assume so much about our community when we just want to help without babies dying

  • @rachelmyers4570
    @rachelmyers4570 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you so much for expressing your view on being pro-life. You said it beautifully! You're doing an amazing thing by being willing to adopt and I wish you all the best in your journey!!

  • @purplephoenixpoetry8542
    @purplephoenixpoetry8542 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you guys and have for years, but my respect for you went up 1000% in the first 5 minutes of watching this! Thank you so much for sharing ❤

  • @Maddie-jt8fi
    @Maddie-jt8fi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Guyssss!!!! I'm obsessed with how genuine you both are and I've been binge watching your videos ❤️
    Thanks for giving out such positive and happy vibes😊

  • @its__asedaaa
    @its__asedaaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +635

    It’s rare seeing people being open about being pro-life 🙌🏾

    • @elizabethmcloughlin7115
      @elizabethmcloughlin7115 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      yeah i was kinda shocked they answered but i 100% agree with them

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @matthewrandell5055
      @matthewrandell5055 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Kayla Carpenter how do you know they're not democrats?

    • @elizabethmcloughlin7115
      @elizabethmcloughlin7115 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Kayla Carpenter same! well i knew some were pro life but they don't publicize it. but thanks Matt and Abby for saying what you think/ believe.

    • @ytaccount5284
      @ytaccount5284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @Kayla Carpenter I think the reason it seems that way is because those who are not democrat can’t share their views on politics or they will be cancelled, argued with, and destroyed 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @valenshelly5639
    @valenshelly5639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love that y’all have a passion for adoption! One of my younger sisters is adopted and she has been a blessing to the rest of my family. Also loved hearing that y’all are pro-life! God is using you two for great things❤️

  • @LJ13222
    @LJ13222 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow I applaud you guys for being so well spoken at such a young age!! So respectful and aware of the impact of your words 👏🏼

  • @safaribusnelli
    @safaribusnelli 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you guys are the best!! i love how you respect other peoples opinions & are so honest. 💗

  • @TheScottFamilyy
    @TheScottFamilyy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +526

    Love you guys!!♥️♥️♥️

    • @SquidBobCircleJeans
      @SquidBobCircleJeans 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Literally my favourite YTers commented on my other favourite YTer! Ridiculously elegant!

    • @abl1551
      @abl1551 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hey theae two people my favorite

    • @abl1551
      @abl1551 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And her smile sound 😂😂😂 jzt kdng not shaming you

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      Love you too!

    • @krissygonzales5180
      @krissygonzales5180 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Awe Matt and Abby you and Rodger and Talia should so get together and do some videos!! Y’all could go to Vegas and they could come to Hawaii!! Love both of these youtubers!!

  • @rachelbleth1445
    @rachelbleth1445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    the Q and A’s with Matt and Abby are so wholesome and mature. Honestly, some of the best videos on youtube.❤️❤️

  • @Doy3791
    @Doy3791 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm so happy I found your channel. Your candor and sincerity is so refreshing!

  • @amberbrown9012
    @amberbrown9012 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes!! Love that y’all aren’t afraid to say you’re pro life! It’s a very sensitive topic and I think you guys are right about adoption. My husband and I are thinking of adopting as well for this reason.

  • @justjamie7828
    @justjamie7828 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love y'all even more!!! My husband and I are becoming foster parents and we are almost done with the certification process. We don't have any kids other than our God daughter who we have 6 days a week. She was a friends baby and she was young and just needs alot of help and support. I love that y'all want to adopt. I've wanted to since I was a little girl and I can't wait for our first placement.

  • @anavanessa9182
    @anavanessa9182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i appreciate you guys speaking out what you believe in with kindness 💜

  • @taylorgermann5528
    @taylorgermann5528 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love y’all and y’all are so inspirational! Y’all set a great example to TH-cam and y’all are a light on this platform. Please don’t be afraid to open up. Do what is right! Seriously I will be forever grateful for y’all. I’m from the mid west too!
    Mathew 5:14

  • @gracebleekman2557
    @gracebleekman2557 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I’m so in love with your intro. Also you should do dming our subscriber’s crushes because I think it would be fun.

  • @rhiannawolfe2495
    @rhiannawolfe2495 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys are so amazing! I look up to you both in so many ways and always love watching your new videos!
    Also incredible that you guys shared your honest opinions on such controversial matters, it says a lot about who you both truly are!
    Thank you so much for what you do!

  • @sarahjessee4575
    @sarahjessee4575 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow I love how you guys approach all these topics with kindness and respect ❤️ It’s so amazing!!! I always love your videos so much and y’all make me laugh every time I watch them 😄

  • @Kjmck-pl1jk
    @Kjmck-pl1jk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I respected y’all before but now… wow. Multiply that by 10 💕 love you guys!

  • @eryng515
    @eryng515 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    watching this 11 months later when they’ve been living in arizona for a few months and have a baby boy 🥲

  • @txxxmkxxm9780
    @txxxmkxxm9780 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Always happy about your videos 💚 . And you are right about discussing with people who have a different opinion because I think it’s a great way to extend yourself and be more open minded

  • @claranagy9564
    @claranagy9564 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love Abby saying to have a conversation with someone not with the goal to change their mind but to simply gain more perspective. You never know how your words will affect someone down the road or how someone's words will impact you. Love you Matt and Abby!

  • @shannonrachelrafuse1950
    @shannonrachelrafuse1950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    New Zealand is AMAZING. You guys should totally move there.

  • @brooklyncook3257
    @brooklyncook3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Im 13 and I was going through a really tough time and lokey this channel and this couple really helped me find the positive in everything and I’m so grateful that you guys continue to make fun and positive videos!

    • @MattandAbby
      @MattandAbby  2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That means so much! WE LOVE YOU DUDE!

  • @madisonmcclure1439
    @madisonmcclure1439 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love you guys so so much and for being so real & authentic!! Love how you express your views on things!!❤️❤️

  • @katherinecaldwell1849
    @katherinecaldwell1849 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    yay! i love the new video!! love you guys so much! i love what u guys talked about with politics, and i completely agree with what you said about civil conversations. this whole thing only made me love this channel so much more.

  • @kyanaboily
    @kyanaboily ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I cannot believe how many people are pro life. I really love you guys and agree we don't all have to have the same views but everybody should have a choice, sadly I wish more people saw why this was humane

    • @mary-brentbrown6736
      @mary-brentbrown6736 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree. Abby and Matt generally seem like such empathetic people, and I wish that their empathy extended to allowing everyone to have a choice. They, who are in a loving relationship, of course view children as a blessing, but not everyone is fortunate enough to have a pregnancy in their context

    • @lowkeybrynn
      @lowkeybrynn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wait could one of y’all explain, how they aren’t giving everyone a choice??? How is that possible they can’t make you not have a choice.

    • @mary-brentbrown6736
      @mary-brentbrown6736 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lowkeybrynnmany people who have the same opinion Matt and Abby have intentionally vote in a way to prevent everyone else from having a choice and advocate for limitations on this choice

  • @johnslade9751
    @johnslade9751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    This is why i fucking love these guys, wholesome and are genuinely nice people. Their response to the political stuff was great to see.

  • @melissamoskau5667
    @melissamoskau5667 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sooo happy for both of you. It’s so joyous seeing your family and friends come together in celebration and support. 💙

  • @gwencharles9624
    @gwencharles9624 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I already loved you guys and to see you taking a stand for life this way made me love y’all even more 😭❤️

  • @despoinachasapi4793
    @despoinachasapi4793 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    In the spirit of having a civil conversation, I totally appreciate your point, but wanted to say that sadly the issues you talked about are political. It can't not be political when topics like universal access to healthcare, contraception and sexual health services are involved. The very fact that there are laws permitting/banning abortion make this political. When answering the vaccine question, you said that everyone should make decisions about their own body, which is exactly what the pro-choice movement stands for - it's not promoting abortion, just the ability to have access for those that need it. It's not just young women affected, it's women of all ages and backgrounds, and a lot of us have been extremely fortunate in life to not have any first-hand experience of this. Likewise, not everybody is in a position to carry a pregnancy to term and choose adoption for their child, both for medical and psychological reasons; sadly, adoption cannot be the only answer. Just something to talk about, really enjoyed the video :)

  • @emilywaddington3072
    @emilywaddington3072 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    LOVE your stance on abortion! While I am personally pro-choice, I completely respect your stance and the fact that you guys want to be part of the solution. You don’t hear it often, and it’s such a unique and beautiful thing ❤️

  • @shravanianand9391
    @shravanianand9391 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The vibes and the positive energy you guys radiate is just *chef's kiss*🌻. Dosent matter where you guys are Hawaii or on the mainland whatching your videos just makes it feel like I am just relaxing and having a conversation with my 'dudes' after hectic day✨

  • @heartcandy21
    @heartcandy21 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just LOVE how respectful and mature you guys are

  • @raeseier1563
    @raeseier1563 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Matt and Abby, Thank you for talking about being pro life! I am very pro-life myself and it is so refreshing to see this on social media!! God bless you both.

  • @catherinefellows3131
    @catherinefellows3131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    THANK YOU for sharing that you're pro-life! You're so right- it can be so hard but its so important to voice it!

  • @meaganlatulippe5996
    @meaganlatulippe5996 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You two are great❤️. I appreciate your abilities to voice your opinions without hurting the feelings of others with opposing opinions. Love you

  • @lizgreer6888
    @lizgreer6888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My husband was raised in deep rural Alabama (think super conservative upbringing). I was raised in Massachusetts (think very progressive upbringing). We have vastly different backgrounds but through hard work and a lot of communication, we learned from each other. My views belong to me, his to him, we understand our views come from vastly different world views. He opened my eyes but I opened his as well. Neither of us will fully change but we respect and appreciate each other. It took a lot of hard work and continues to be hard but were closing in on 5 years married!

  • @avasrinivas3647
    @avasrinivas3647 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Aww. My future plan is to adopt kids too. In india adoption is not so popular. So, I feel like my extended family will probably hate me for this.

  • @justified1949
    @justified1949 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    One of the cutest couples on TH-cam 🥰🥰

  • @daniellenorman498
    @daniellenorman498 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you guys! You are so cute and adorable together.
    You are also both so mature and well rounded people. I've always said that I will respect anyone's opinions or beliefs as long as they are educated and live as authentically as possible. We can have different beliefs and still respect and care for one another. Being open to new points of view will always enrich your life.

  • @yashvishah5994
    @yashvishah5994 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Another awesome video with icecream :) Its so good to see your videos! They have such positive vibes ♥️🌟
    You guys are the best!

  • @BreeMichelle5655
    @BreeMichelle5655 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Listening to you guys explain your explanation on pro life just shows what truly beautiful people you guys are so glad I’ve come across your channel! Binge watching to get caught up 😅

  • @madisoncook4925
    @madisoncook4925 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Abby’s answer on pro-life- AMEN!! Loved everything she said. Thanks so much for y’all’s honesty and the way you speak with love!