Don't have an 'aw-brain', but a 'Wow-brain'. Be willing to go through the pain to change.1- Set (envision) a path to improvement. 2- Set Trigger (small) goals leading up to the big goal. 3- Set Improvement goals. 4- Gather a tribe around yourself. Get a coach, mentor, people to support you. 5- Script your setbacks; What will you do if you don't get the response or support you expected to get to accomplish your goals?
He just explained exactly what I’m going through now “confidence and growth” .... I used to think all these people say/do is a woohoo and they just want to waste my time and money but now I have opposite opinion in fact, I reflected on my old thoughts and think to myself, how negative I was is shocking! I’m just so grateful for the people who put great content out there everyday because it is absolutely changing lives!!!
I appreciate the way Todd Herman has distilled the latest neuroscience on making substantive changes in one's life. As someone who's been retraining a hair trigger limbic response for a long time, his approach of reducing surprise and overwhelm, specifically with the microchanges/goals and scripting setback is very welcome and appealing. I want more WOW brain action and this is doable. Thanks!
I have my goal trigger when it comes to working out! It's new but I realized that I was sabotaging myself by simply finding excuses and being lazy when it came to moving my laptop in the other room (I work out with youtube videos) and setting up the speakers! How lame is that? But after analyzing it, I simply asked my husband to set up my computer every day so that I don't have anymore excuses and it WORKS! Great video!!
The last tip, Scripting Your Setbacks, is the most helpful to me right now. Made a great change a week ago and totally didn't see a side swipe to my goals coming just yesterday. Now I can plan for times such as these and not get frustrated that I'm losing valuable time to work on my goals.
You are full of life. I can see and feel your great kindness and knowledge. I love your full awareness of all the topics you discuss. I hope my two daughters can learn from you 🌻
September 2018 and I search this video coz somehow my memory said that this video is one of the best concept for helping us to go through in life. Who else still watching this
Usually I am a wow brain person. But Recently I had OWW Braine. Lol when my teacher asked me to sit for the exam. Now I know how to keep my Wow Braine and be adventurous. I didn't know about this at all. Thanks Marie. You are soooo sweet. 💗💗
wow !!!! no matter how many yrs this video is, its really a wow by itself. I'm an oww person who never knew how to come out of it. Thanks to Marie and Todd. Excellent of both of you
What he shared in the beginning part explained a lot to me. For the 1st time ever I realize that those "yuck" feelings I get when trying to change something about myself isn't really me. It is my body/my brain wanting more of the uggg feelings that it is so use to getting. This specific subject needs shared & taught MUCH more often! I bet I al ot of people would get from it what I did. I am a self help junkie & have listened to hundreds of speakers and not ONE time was anything like this ever mentioned. Thank you! Beth :)
Nowadays, I tend to have more of an OWW brain. I have been struggling with being consistent with changes I am working on. The steps from this video that really helps me is: 3. Setting improvement goals and 5. Script your setbacks. I have the other steps down, but these two steps I mentioned have been the missing pieces. I am excited to start implementing them! Thank you so much Marie and Todd!
I struggle really really hard to create my own business. Each year I start and that's all I ever do is start. But Marie you are my inspiration a long with some other people I watch on TH-cam. Y'all have inspire me to start NOW and not wait because I'm getting older with time and I don't want to regret not doing it now later. Thank you so much.
Love this video! :D I naturally have a "Wow" brain, and the "ow" brain comes from traumas. It's easy to distrust my "wow" factor after years of narcissistic-style abuse. Now, I focus on both the "wow" and the "ow" to make the wisest decisions possible. Transitioning to healing myself from procrastination, I've developed my own system of 3/4-assing my way through life, which helps me change from splitting against myself into promoting healing on a daily basis, whether it be through writing, singing, cleaning, creating my own choreography, connecting with friends and my husband, or meditating either in my mind or on a nature walk as a morning date with my husband and our dogs. Even on major depression and burnout days (I have fibromyalgia), I've realized I have less self-sabotage when I focus on what I want in life instead of what I didn't get in life.
I think I have the OWW brain because every time I tell myself I'm going to make a change this time, the self-sabotaging resistance resurfaces again. The self-defeating thoughts and the need to feel safe are dominant in my vibration. I do have a clear vision and I know what path I want to be on, but uncertainty is always on my radar. I am learning to becoming more of a planner and planning tomorrow helps me to feel less overwhelmed and stressed which will help me improve my habits. I also believe in feeding myself with positive thoughts and establishing a connection with people who are open-minded, positive and spiritual has helped me reinforce the positive energy I needed.
This interview was amazing! I discovered Marie Forleo's videos a couple days ago and I am hooked. She is so positive, talented, and inspiring! Definitely feel like I discovered her at the right time. I recently quit my job after 5 years so that I could pursue my dream life of working for myself. In this journey I am focusing on what I truly want out of life. It is scary and uncertainty has hit me in the face hard! I am now focusing on starting my own business and researching like crazy all over the web to get prepared. Its been a tough but exciting! I would identify myself as a Wow until I'm an Oww type of person. I start off extremely optimistic and pursue what I'm interested in like a lion chasing its prey. As soon as I feel overwhelmed with the amount of work I start the self sabotage! So I identify with each step of the process but two of them stuck out the most. Step #4: Gathering a tribe and Step #5: Script your setbacks. Being alone in your pursuit to making your dreams come true is tough. So realizing that I should surround myself with a tribe makes me feel supported, which is what I need! Step 5 spoke to me because it makes perfect sense! Anticipating how I am going to react in certain situations ahead of time will better prepare me for battling the self hate! Thanks again!!!!!
Loved this so much! I kid you not - every time I turn one of the episodes I plan on just listening to it in the background when I edit photos (I'm a photographer). Once again, instead of editing, I found myself grabbing a notebook and taking notes from the very beginning of the conversation. One of my struggles is the Law of Process, I learned so many practical tips to help me tweak my behavior ahead of time so I don't sabotage my progress. Thank you so much for sharing your light and wisdom with us so freely! Ewelina
We're thrilled that your brain consistently chooses to engage with our work! We hope that you have a good time putting those tips to practical use, and remember - it's all about progress, not perfection :) - Team Forleo
Thank you so much! I'm struggling to make an important change in my life and this video came in the perfect timing to help me with it! I'm starting to practice the 5 steps now!
I think my positivity has me go to the WOW first! I am going to start planning for tomorrow today! Planning is always my downfall... So my I don't (sorry I am binging on Marie F today) is I don't forget my planning!
WOW brain and the idea of set trigger goals is the most useful in my case. Thank you again and again and again Marie, you are like a candle in my life!
Since I work with clients using EFT (meridian tapping), I LOVED this video! GREAT explanation of how our minds work, the neurology of our brain. This is why I see profound results using EFT since is lowers the cortisol in the brain when we tap on the meridian points to stimulate the neuron transmitters. THANK YOU!
I discover myself and I guess I'm more an OWW brain, but I'm changing my whole self, everything ! And of course I'm facing a lot of resistance, but I start to have WOW moments, and i'm building my WOW brain. You guys are doing a great job, it's so helpful and supporting. Thank you sincerely
I am going to try the baby steps to the goal. I think that is a great idea. I will start by training myself to get up at least 30 minutes early in the morning 3 days a week and trying to work out at least 15 minutes of that 30. Then add 5 minutes a week. Then add additional days.
Thanks for the note summary. It makes it easier to listen while working on something else. Otherwise I would be stopping and starting the video to make notes.
This video came at a great time. I was let go from my job and have to admit I was an oww brain. This is great advice and definitely applying it to my life. I already have the tribe set but going to do the having a clear vision of what I need to change. I've heard of vision boards, so I'm going to create that to work from there... Here is where I would apply the trigger goals. Thank you Marie for this video!
I love this stuff… I'm a BIG Tony Robbins FAN and he's been teaching this stuff since the eighties. I do my own version of the OWW, WOW with my clients and it's a great way to bust through the road blocks that hold people back. Great stuff thanks Maria. :)
This is an old video but I just loved it! These 5 straight forward steps are a great help for planning out chance. I've been on this road for a while and these 5 steps sum it up really well. Thank you Marie and Todd.👏🙏
First, I absolutely love this episode and Todd is probably one of my favorite speakers now. This episode makes too much sense! I have an OWW brain when it comes to doing things that involve creativity because I had never thought of myself as a creative person and because of my belief that real creativity doesn't exist because we always get inspiration from somewhere or someone. But I have a WOW brain when it comes to exercise and eating healthy and trying new things like study habits and decision making. The steps I would like to work on the most are steps 4 and 5, gathering a supportive tribe and scripting my setbacks. Again, LOVE this episode. I have to share it.
Great stuff! Over the years I discovered some of these tricks and tips through trial and error. This would have saved me so much time! That plotting your setbacks is key!
Making and keeping changes will be MUCH easier if you learn and practice associating pleasant emotions and feelings with thoughts and actions that used to cause you to feel unpleasant emotions and feelings. This is much more efficient that what Todd spoke of.
***** I don't view these two approaches as being the same. If one reduces or eliminate unpleasant emotional "charges" associated with a thought or action and/or attaches pleasant emotions and feelings to an appropriate thought/action, then there will be no need in several steps in the process of establishing steps. For example, if you consider his situation with a chocolate cake... if he were to eliminate his addiction to chocolate cakes, there would be no need to prepare his reactions to invitations to eat a cake, or to use will power not to eat one. That's how I view this.
***** Monica, I think you think that because you took my words as just general ideas, a piece of advice, guidelines, philosophy, etc. However, there are specific psychological techniques that make achieving what I described pretty quick and easy. E.g., EFT, Sedona Method, RPT, etc. can allow one to drop an unpleasant emotional charge VERY quickly (often in seconds or minutes). An NLP technique called Swish Technique also allows one to do that, but it also allows connecting pleasant emotions and feelings to a thought or action. If you haven't tried these methods, you will probably be very pleasantly surprised when you do. They allow making very serious changes without taking days, weeks or months.
xchump And I've gotten a woman out of deep depression using it - in one session. And have helped another to eliminate her strong unpleasant emotion. (I've used it on just two people. I have used other techniques with more people.) Perhaps, there were other important factors to using the technique.
***** I am aware of the fact that not all people are able to use it (and other techniques) in solo mode. What also happens is that the same people are able to do that, but not in all situations. Having a competent trusted facilitator helps in those cases. The success rate is close to 100% (if "success" could be taken to mean, at least, a very significant improvement). As you said, it is possible that you haven't used the method properly. The essential aspect of this and other methods is "aiming", i.e., applying the method to the correct emotion, feeling, sensation. Many people don't know or understand that and simply pay attention to the mechanical aspect of the method, which isn't important, actually. It is also possible that you might have needed a facilitator... at least, in those cases. There's a simpler variation of the classic EFT - called FasterEFT (promoted by Robert Smith). My knowledge and experience tell me that his version is better, particularly, the newest version, in which he doesn't even "tap". I also think that tapping is meaningless. It's useful, but isn't key at all and can be replaced by many different mental or mechanical actions, without loss of effectiveness.
I've definitely got an OWW brain. I hit that resistance earlier this year with my heath goal. This is inspiring me to get back on it. It's amazing the learn the biology of what causes us to fail and retreat into our comfort zone! Technique #5 is definitely a powerful thing, and I think that the one that will impact me most going forward. It's definitely a question I would have never thought to ask myself!
Really needed this video. Thank you Marie and Todd. I'm definitely more OWW than a WOW. Going to start by using step2 and step 3 to incorporate the much needed change in my life. Wish me luck.
Love that, i wrote most of the goals down for me. I think i am an owwbrain, and "gather a tribe " would be perfect for me, but its not practible. So setting trigger goals would help me the most
This is one of the most insightful, inspiring, motivating and realistic videos I've ever seen on the subject. Amazing. So grateful this ended up on my newsfeed!
I cant find your video about what to do when life sucks, wanted to show my little sister. I tried finding it, by looking around for better information about depression like I did but no luck. helped me a lot thank you Jessica also your listening pause works my conversation are getting better and better.
Wow I love this video. I haven't heard of trigger goals and scripting for negative maybes. I'm watching again taking notes sharing with my peeps AND LEAVING A COMMENT ON Maria's website. You this Gorgeous Man & Woman Thank you LEGENDS xx❤💃🕺❤xx
WOW! Literally! Such an interesting take on resistance to change, really helped me look within actually. Marie, you just always speak to the most interesting writers. Thanks, Todd, your book is on my list!🌈👍
Gretchen Rubin has a book called Better than Before that touches on creating new habits. It's pretty much the same concept, but I love his spin on everything. So glad I watched this!
thank you for sharing this. it's a blessing to have you share this very helpful video.May you continue doing what you do :-) thank you so much for being there to help us.
Oh Marie and MF-Team, i really needed this....seriously. I can't believe how good you are at choosing important topics....fantastic. thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Thank you so much for this piece of precious information. It really helps me to understand better. I am currently in the change and it is not just like injecting positive thinking to myself only. Along the way I discovered there are so many micro stuffs to deal with in my perspective, memorisation, action, etc... all that without understanding it feels like being defeated when I encountered a minor setback. The 5 keynotes are really helpful in my goal setting, thank you so much once again.
I have an OWW brain majority of the time I think. Its easier for me to go back into my shell. Every time I get too lazy to make a change in my life. I tell myself its not worth the effort maybe I have set up the wrong goal. The best prescription I liked from Todd was to set up trigger goals. Small action steps will lead to large action steps.
This was so insightful! I definitely have a bit of an OWW brain. I must focus on setting small improvement goals for myself as well as scripting my setbacks.
I loved this video, so interesting. I would say I'm a combination of a oww and wow. I love to learn, I love adventure and getting uncomfortable, but there are certain areas where I'm stuck and resisting. The 2 new things I got out of this that will help in my stuck areas are to set trigger goals and script your setbacks. Thank you, just what I needed.
Maria Forleo I love love love you so much...I've only been listening for a couple of months since seeing you on Better Together/Heal Squad with Maria Menounos ❤️ Thank you for your Beautiful Heart 💖
love the interview!! For me the scripting your setbacks is a huge one. Im going though a major life change right now and I think that is one thing that will make the process go a little smoother (i hope) :-) Thank you!!
OMG! that intense feeling, ive experienced when i started to a meditation group and also attemppting to go to school,accompanied by the thought i dont really want to do this i dont belong here,etc..I think the thoughts sometimes comes first.And it seems Like im fighting myself so i would stop.I considered it may be an inner child conflict.Seeing it described here is cool.
What an inspiring and motivating video! I am definitely a WOW brain. Todd Herman is a fantastic speaker. I think step 3 ... Set up Improvement Goals will help me the most with my career change from teaching elementary/primary school to property management. The biology of change is a great way to understand why when I am happy and I get happier and happier. Thank you. I would like some help with how I can implement step 5 "Scripting my setbacks"?
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Don't have an 'aw-brain', but a 'Wow-brain'. Be willing to go through the pain to change.1- Set (envision) a path to improvement.
2- Set Trigger (small) goals leading up to the big goal.
3- Set Improvement goals.
4- Gather a tribe around yourself. Get a coach, mentor, people to support you.
5- Script your setbacks; What will you do if you don't get the response or support you expected to get to accomplish your goals?
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I love how Marie is genuinely excited about what Todd is saying... which is absolute Gold btw!! loved it.
He just explained exactly what I’m going through now “confidence and growth” .... I used to think all these people say/do is a woohoo and they just want to waste my time and money but now I have opposite opinion in fact, I reflected on my old thoughts and think to myself, how negative I was is shocking! I’m just so grateful for the people who put great content out there everyday because it is absolutely changing lives!!!
I appreciate the way Todd Herman has distilled the latest neuroscience on making substantive changes in one's life. As someone who's been retraining a hair trigger limbic response for a long time, his approach of reducing surprise and overwhelm, specifically with the microchanges/goals and scripting setback is very welcome and appealing. I want more WOW brain action and this is doable. Thanks!
I have my goal trigger when it comes to working out! It's new but I realized that I was sabotaging myself by simply finding excuses and being lazy when it came to moving my laptop in the other room (I work out with youtube videos) and setting up the speakers! How lame is that? But after analyzing it, I simply asked my husband to set up my computer every day so that I don't have anymore excuses and it WORKS! Great video!!
The last tip, Scripting Your Setbacks, is the most helpful to me right now. Made a great change a week ago and totally didn't see a side swipe to my goals coming just yesterday. Now I can plan for times such as these and not get frustrated that I'm losing valuable time to work on my goals.
You are full of life. I can see and feel your great kindness and knowledge. I love your full awareness of all the topics you discuss. I hope my two daughters can learn from you 🌻
September 2018 and I search this video coz somehow my memory said that this video is one of the best concept for helping us to go through in life. Who else still watching this
Usually I am a wow brain person. But Recently I had OWW Braine. Lol when my teacher asked me to sit for the exam. Now I know how to keep my Wow Braine and be adventurous. I didn't know about this at all. Thanks Marie. You are soooo sweet. 💗💗
I love re-watching videos and taking notes like I'm back in high school!
3:19 is where it all hit me. After watching this video, I'm actually starting and going to keep on track. Thanks Marie Forleo!
wow !!!! no matter how many yrs this video is, its really a wow by itself. I'm an oww person who never knew how to come out of it. Thanks to Marie and Todd. Excellent of both of you
I LOVED this! Trigger goals and scripting setbacks were my favorite!
What he shared in the beginning part explained a lot to me. For the 1st time ever I realize that those "yuck" feelings I get when trying to change something about myself isn't really me. It is my body/my brain wanting more of the uggg feelings that it is so use to getting. This specific subject needs shared & taught MUCH more often! I bet I al ot of people would get from it what I did. I am a self help junkie & have listened to hundreds of speakers and not ONE time was anything like this ever mentioned. Thank you! Beth :)
Nowadays, I tend to have more of an OWW brain. I have been struggling with being consistent with changes I am working on. The steps from this video that really helps me is: 3. Setting improvement goals and 5. Script your setbacks. I have the other steps down, but these two steps I mentioned have been the missing pieces. I am excited to start implementing them! Thank you so much Marie and Todd!
I struggle really really hard to create my own business. Each year I start and that's all I ever do is start. But Marie you are my inspiration a long with some other people I watch on TH-cam. Y'all have inspire me to start NOW and not wait because I'm getting older with time and I don't want to regret not doing it now later. Thank you so much.
I've got a WOW brain - the goal that is going to help me the most will be setting Trigger Goals!
Love this video! :D
I naturally have a "Wow" brain, and the "ow" brain comes from traumas. It's easy to distrust my "wow" factor after years of narcissistic-style abuse. Now, I focus on both the "wow" and the "ow" to make the wisest decisions possible.
Transitioning to healing myself from procrastination, I've developed my own system of 3/4-assing my way through life, which helps me change from splitting against myself into promoting healing on a daily basis, whether it be through writing, singing, cleaning, creating my own choreography, connecting with friends and my husband, or meditating either in my mind or on a nature walk as a morning date with my husband and our dogs. Even on major depression and burnout days (I have fibromyalgia), I've realized I have less self-sabotage when I focus on what I want in life instead of what I didn't get in life.
I think I have the OWW brain because every time I tell myself I'm going to make a change this time, the self-sabotaging resistance resurfaces again. The self-defeating thoughts and the need to feel safe are dominant in my vibration. I do have a clear vision and I know what path I want to be on, but uncertainty is always on my radar. I am learning to becoming more of a planner and planning tomorrow helps me to feel less overwhelmed and stressed which will help me improve my habits. I also believe in feeding myself with positive thoughts and establishing a connection with people who are open-minded, positive and spiritual has helped me reinforce the positive energy I needed.
This is one of the most incredible breakdowns of habit-changing I've seen. Thank you for this!
The oww brain and wow brain analogy is an amazing way of thinking about things.
This interview was amazing! I discovered Marie Forleo's videos a couple days ago and I am hooked. She is so positive, talented, and inspiring! Definitely feel like I discovered her at the right time.
I recently quit my job after 5 years so that I could pursue my dream life of working for myself. In this journey I am focusing on what I truly want out of life. It is scary and uncertainty has hit me in the face hard! I am now focusing on starting my own business and researching like crazy all over the web to get prepared. Its been a tough but exciting!
I would identify myself as a Wow until I'm an Oww type of person. I start off extremely optimistic and pursue what I'm interested in like a lion chasing its prey. As soon as I feel overwhelmed with the amount of work I start the self sabotage!
So I identify with each step of the process but two of them stuck out the most. Step #4: Gathering a tribe and Step #5: Script your setbacks. Being alone in your pursuit to making your dreams come true is tough. So realizing that I should surround myself with a tribe makes me feel supported, which is what I need! Step 5 spoke to me because it makes perfect sense! Anticipating how I am going to react in certain situations ahead of time will better prepare me for battling the self hate!
Thanks again!!!!!
I am starting with planning for tomorrow, today! One small step at a time:)
+Jessica Barone How far is your progress.
lol
Jessica Barone
Yes !!!! me too! I am planning tomorrow today. Planning for WOW brain!
Curious how do it work for you I’m just starting this month?
Loved this so much! I kid you not - every time I turn one of the episodes I plan on just listening to it in the background when I edit photos (I'm a photographer). Once again, instead of editing, I found myself grabbing a notebook and taking notes from the very beginning of the conversation. One of my struggles is the Law of Process, I learned so many practical tips to help me tweak my behavior ahead of time so I don't sabotage my progress. Thank you so much for sharing your light and wisdom with us so freely! Ewelina
We're thrilled that your brain consistently chooses to engage with our work! We hope that you have a good time putting those tips to practical use, and remember - it's all about progress, not perfection :)
- Team Forleo
The best Marie TV episode ever, girl is on point as usual!
Thank you so much! I'm struggling to make an important change in my life and this video came in the perfect timing to help me with it!
I'm starting to practice the 5 steps now!
I think my positivity has me go to the WOW first! I am going to start planning for tomorrow today! Planning is always my downfall... So my I don't (sorry I am binging on Marie F today) is I don't forget my planning!
Wow, this is an amazing talk! It really helps to remember that we're being guided by our thoughts, AND our chemicals! Thank you for this!
WOW brain and the idea of set trigger goals is the most useful in my case. Thank you again and again and again Marie, you are like a candle in my life!
Since I work with clients using EFT (meridian tapping), I LOVED this video! GREAT explanation of how our minds work, the neurology of our brain. This is why I see profound results using EFT since is lowers the cortisol in the brain when we tap on the meridian points to stimulate the neuron transmitters. THANK YOU!
Thank you Carmen
This channel everyday helps me more and more! ❤
I discover myself and I guess I'm more an OWW brain, but I'm changing my whole self, everything ! And of course I'm facing a lot of resistance, but I start to have WOW moments, and i'm building my WOW brain.
You guys are doing a great job, it's so helpful and supporting.
Thank you sincerely
I am going to try the baby steps to the goal. I think that is a great idea. I will start by training myself to get up at least 30 minutes early in the morning 3 days a week and trying to work out at least 15 minutes of that 30. Then add 5 minutes a week. Then add additional days.
Great plan, I hope you keep your goals.
+Rachel H How's your goal going for you?
Thanks for the note summary. It makes it easier to listen while working on something else. Otherwise I would be stopping and starting the video to make notes.
This video was a massive eye opener! Thankyou so much for your service!
This video came at a great time. I was let go from my job and have to admit I was an oww brain. This is great advice and definitely applying it to my life. I already have the tribe set but going to do the having a clear vision of what I need to change. I've heard of vision boards, so I'm going to create that to work from there... Here is where I would apply the trigger goals. Thank you Marie for this video!
Constantly chasing growth always drives me too! Thanks so much for sharing Marie!
I love this stuff… I'm a BIG Tony Robbins FAN and he's been teaching this stuff since the eighties. I do my own version of the OWW, WOW with my clients and it's a great way to bust through the road blocks that hold people back. Great stuff thanks Maria. :)
This is an old video but I just loved it! These 5 straight forward steps are a great help for planning out chance. I've been on this road for a while and these 5 steps sum it up really well. Thank you Marie and Todd.👏🙏
Finally something, that's not just bullshit, but actually valuable and tangible
First, I absolutely love this episode and Todd is probably one of my favorite speakers now. This episode makes too much sense!
I have an OWW brain when it comes to doing things that involve creativity because I had never thought of myself as a creative person and because of my belief that real creativity doesn't exist because we always get inspiration from somewhere or someone. But I have a WOW brain when it comes to exercise and eating healthy and trying new things like study habits and decision making.
The steps I would like to work on the most are steps 4 and 5, gathering a supportive tribe and scripting my setbacks. Again, LOVE this episode. I have to share it.
Jasmine Lewis
Great stuff! Over the years I discovered some of these tricks and tips through trial and error. This would have saved me so much time! That plotting your setbacks is key!
Making and keeping changes will be MUCH easier if you learn and practice associating pleasant emotions and feelings with thoughts and actions that used to cause you to feel unpleasant emotions and feelings. This is much more efficient that what Todd spoke of.
***** I don't view these two approaches as being the same. If one reduces or eliminate unpleasant emotional "charges" associated with a thought or action and/or attaches pleasant emotions and feelings to an appropriate thought/action, then there will be no need in several steps in the process of establishing steps. For example, if you consider his situation with a chocolate cake... if he were to eliminate his addiction to chocolate cakes, there would be no need to prepare his reactions to invitations to eat a cake, or to use will power not to eat one. That's how I view this.
***** Monica, I think you think that because you took my words as just general ideas, a piece of advice, guidelines, philosophy, etc. However, there are specific psychological techniques that make achieving what I described pretty quick and easy. E.g., EFT, Sedona Method, RPT, etc. can allow one to drop an unpleasant emotional charge VERY quickly (often in seconds or minutes). An NLP technique called Swish Technique also allows one to do that, but it also allows connecting pleasant emotions and feelings to a thought or action. If you haven't tried these methods, you will probably be very pleasantly surprised when you do. They allow making very serious changes without taking days, weeks or months.
humanyoda I've tried practicing the Swish technique without success.
xchump And I've gotten a woman out of deep depression using it - in one session. And have helped another to eliminate her strong unpleasant emotion. (I've used it on just two people. I have used other techniques with more people.) Perhaps, there were other important factors to using the technique.
***** I am aware of the fact that not all people are able to use it (and other techniques) in solo mode. What also happens is that the same people are able to do that, but not in all situations. Having a competent trusted facilitator helps in those cases. The success rate is close to 100% (if "success" could be taken to mean, at least, a very significant improvement).
As you said, it is possible that you haven't used the method properly. The essential aspect of this and other methods is "aiming", i.e., applying the method to the correct emotion, feeling, sensation. Many people don't know or understand that and simply pay attention to the mechanical aspect of the method, which isn't important, actually.
It is also possible that you might have needed a facilitator... at least, in those cases. There's a simpler variation of the classic EFT - called FasterEFT (promoted by Robert Smith). My knowledge and experience tell me that his version is better, particularly, the newest version, in which he doesn't even "tap". I also think that tapping is meaningless. It's useful, but isn't key at all and can be replaced by many different mental or mechanical actions, without loss of effectiveness.
I've definitely got an OWW brain. I hit that resistance earlier this year with my heath goal. This is inspiring me to get back on it. It's amazing the learn the biology of what causes us to fail and retreat into our comfort zone!
Technique #5 is definitely a powerful thing, and I think that the one that will impact me most going forward. It's definitely a question I would have never thought to ask myself!
OMG!!! Girl, you are such a Blessing !!! Giving me so much power to overcome my fears !!!
Just wow. I love the break down of how we handle change.
Really needed this video. Thank you Marie and Todd. I'm definitely more OWW than a WOW. Going to start by using step2 and step 3 to incorporate the much needed change in my life. Wish me luck.
Excellent video- Very inspiring and has such clear action plans, it's great. Thank you Todd and Marie!
Love that, i wrote most of the goals down for me. I think i am an owwbrain, and "gather a tribe " would be perfect for me, but its not practible. So setting trigger goals would help me the most
I enjoyed this video so much. I sometimes tend to lean towards the oww brain and all of the 5 steps will help me
Lots of practical advice. Loved the interview.
Thanks Marie TV.
Day 3 of watching this video everyday for a week. And Marie, I’m checking off my boxes!! Thanks to you both…:)
This is one of the most insightful, inspiring, motivating and realistic videos I've ever seen on the subject. Amazing. So grateful this ended up on my newsfeed!
I cant find your video about what to do when life sucks, wanted to show my little sister. I tried finding it, by looking around for better information about depression like I did but no luck. helped me a lot thank you Jessica
also your listening pause works my conversation are getting better and better.
This is the one I've been waiting for, all my life. Thanks, you two!
Wow I love this video. I haven't heard of trigger goals and scripting for negative maybes. I'm watching again taking notes sharing with my peeps AND LEAVING A COMMENT ON Maria's website. You this Gorgeous Man & Woman Thank you LEGENDS
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WOW! Literally! Such an interesting take on resistance to change, really helped me look within actually. Marie, you just always speak to the most interesting writers. Thanks, Todd, your book is on my list!🌈👍
Wow, I needed this episode! Mario Forleo is such a positive force, I admire her so much♡
Thank you for sharing such a lovely BIO - PSYCHO-SOCIAL approach! THOUGHT + ACTION = transformational change! amazing interview!
Gretchen Rubin has a book called Better than Before that touches on creating new habits. It's pretty much the same concept, but I love his spin on everything. So glad I watched this!
Habit research started way before her honey.lol.
You are just hands down amazing...or said with a Wow Brain, you are a hands up!!!! You Go Girl!!!
Thank you so much for sharing your gift with us. Love the video. Amazing. My brain is juiced with all of this good information.
thank you for sharing this. it's a blessing to have you share this very helpful video.May you continue doing what you do :-) thank you so much for being there to help us.
Excellent video. So many great ideas to put into play. Thank you!
Oh Marie and MF-Team, i really needed this....seriously. I can't believe how good you are at choosing important topics....fantastic. thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Fantastic topic!!!! Loved the 5th Point, which is crucial for the success of our resolutions! Many thanks!
Thank you so much for this piece of precious information. It really helps me to understand better. I am currently in the change and it is not just like injecting positive thinking to myself only. Along the way I discovered there are so many micro stuffs to deal with in my perspective, memorisation, action, etc... all that without understanding it feels like being defeated when I encountered a minor setback. The 5 keynotes are really helpful in my goal setting, thank you so much once again.
Script Your Setbacks is amazing because I am definitely an Oww Brain which gets me in a really negative loop in my head. Thank you for this video!
I have an OWW brain majority of the time I think. Its easier for me to go back into my shell. Every time I get too lazy to make a change in my life. I tell myself its not worth the effort maybe I have set up the wrong goal. The best prescription I liked from Todd was to set up trigger goals. Small action steps will lead to large action steps.
I so needed this today! I will get in my gym gear and just try and walk out the door this week!!! :) thanks Todd and Marie, awesome video!
This was so insightful! I definitely have a bit of an OWW brain. I must focus on setting small improvement goals for myself as well as scripting my setbacks.
Loove this! Thank you so much! Todd Herman is very likeable and this advice is priceless!
I feel that this video is going to change my life... I have had a wow moment while watching it
I loved this video, so interesting. I would say I'm a combination of a oww and wow. I love to learn, I love adventure and getting uncomfortable, but there are certain areas where I'm stuck and resisting. The 2 new things I got out of this that will help in my stuck areas are to set trigger goals and script your setbacks. Thank you, just what I needed.
Thanks Marie... Can't stress much. This is my first comment after watching so many of your Episodes. Feeling really good, +ve and Hopeful.
Improvement goals really resonated in me. I'm taking action!
Awesome, really awesome you are, my regards from Ecuador-South America!!!!!!!
Maria Forleo I love love love you so much...I've only been listening for a couple of months since seeing you on Better Together/Heal Squad with Maria Menounos ❤️ Thank you for your Beautiful Heart 💖
i definitely have more of an "ow" brain.
trigger goals are the most effective takeaway for me.
thanks, marie!
I thought this video was excellent!!! Thank you guys.. For me the 2nd part was the most important (set trigger goals) as I know this helps me most...
This is amazing advice here. Thank you both for bringing this to all of us. I'm so grateful!
I love the idea of trigger goals. Thank you!
Amazing video! Thank you Marie and Todd.
At the ow brain, but this is a great set of steps to help me get to the wow brain! So thankful that I stumbled upon you!
It's official, I'm addicted to Marie TV!
Wow!!!!! Marie where have you been all my life. Love it! Excellent
I love this video! Marie you are amazing. You are sooo inspiring! ❤
Wow! Such an interesting discussion. I'm so glad I've found your channel some time ago.
This was awesome! Thank you so much. Learned so much in this segment. I will definitely be applying what I learned today to make new changes.
love the interview!! For me the scripting your setbacks is a huge one. Im going though a major life change right now and I think that is one thing that will make the process go a little smoother (i hope) :-) Thank you!!
OMG! that intense feeling, ive experienced when i started to a meditation group and also attemppting to go to school,accompanied by the thought i dont really want to do this i dont belong here,etc..I think the thoughts sometimes comes first.And it seems Like im fighting myself so i would stop.I considered it may be an inner child conflict.Seeing it described here is cool.
Amazing video ! This video came into my recommend box just in time as I'm trying to me make changes in my life :)
Marie i love you girl you keep me positive through hard times!
Positive thinking! Planning for tomorrow.
Superb information. Good job to Todd. Believe me when I say that I could benefit from all 5 steps.
Great video. Thanks for sharing all the wonderful information.
Great video! I'm "oh brained" for financial matters. I'm "wow brained" for creating easy, efficient systems that benefit others.
Growth, confidence & adventure! YES - WOW brain :)
Thank for this, totally amazing. Will be watching again soon . 💖💖
What an inspiring and motivating video! I am definitely a WOW brain. Todd Herman is a fantastic speaker. I think step 3 ... Set up Improvement Goals will help me the most with my career change from teaching elementary/primary school to property management.
The biology of change is a great way to understand why when I am happy and I get happier and happier.
Thank you.
I would like some help with how I can implement step 5 "Scripting my setbacks"?