Thank you Chance for airing the fact that we as a community need to attend to support the couple and not come just to eat at their expense. We need to change the narrative and financially support couples with a good start.
My uncle and aunt said my husband and I were to young to be married and was having too many babies (that they didn’t have to care for). July 8 it will be 46 years, 3 sons, 3 daughters in love, 8 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. Our marriage has never been stronger.
To God be the glory, y'all keep on hanging on! I'm only 11 years married and 21 together, I would not change a thing. I have y'all in my prayers and continue to be blessed. Shalom ✌🏾💜💐
We got married in the living room of our then townhouse. I was washing dishes and the pastor rung the doorbell. That was 16 years ago. And you have to also learn how to keep some stuff sacred and private. Everyone does not need to know everything or see every photo or know every trip you take. Marriage is sacred. Its depth. It’s maturing and growing as a unit and as individuals. It’s love when love doesn’t look like unicorns and sparkles.
Exactly this. We had a small church ceremony --immediate and church family only with no pomp and circumstance. Someone later asked when we were going to have the bigger, more extravagant ceremony. I proudly told her never, that's the ceremony we wanted. ❤❤❤
Love all this! We a CourtHouse Couple! We celebrating 10 years of black love and 8 years of marriage! We plan to renew our vows on the beach at 10th year anniversary! We were broke buried in college debt so we decided to go to the courthouse! God is good as we just celebrated homeownership way better than spending thousands on a wedding!
Exactly! My husband and I got married with just the 2 of us by our pastor. We didn’t tell anyone and when our families found out almost no one even congratulated us. Think I’m planning a ceremony and reception now? I’m not! 🙅🏽♀️😂
There's definitely a difference. I've always considered it an honor to be invited to witness the vows, the actual wedding. The rest is a celebration of those promises.
Chance really snapped on the part about investing in the couple! And not showing up to a wedding empty handed❤ I would also love if you guys did an episode on "People not wishing you well" you touched on it a little bit in terms of the wedding, but can you do an episode maybe talking what it's like to be in your marriage or relationship with family or friends that aren't happy for you? Or are judgemental about your relationship.
Great topic. And I’m TRIGGERED 😂😂😂 so many people came to my wedding just to WATCH. SOME UNINVITED 😑. Some family didn’t attend because “it’s not going going to work” 30 years later some are divorced that had a more elaborate ceremony 😏
You guys are speaking the truth! 💯 My husband and I have been married for 25 years, but we didn't have much money to put into our wedding. However, we had a beautiful 20th vow renewal, and that's when we spent money. In short, a nice wedding is great, but what's more important is investing in your marriage (key- invite God into your marriage). 🎉
We were dating for 1.5 yr before hubby proposed, and we saved up and 1.5 yrs later we were joyfully married, went on the honeymoon in Paris and here we are still going in Christ. 🙌🏾 14yrs this October.... And yes it's Love work and play 💜🎁✨💐💪🏾🤗🥰
Marriage is serious, either you have a ride or die, someone who is a giver, care and love you, like you, like it or not, willing to put God first, staying in gratitude, patient and keep it moving! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Chance and Tabitha, you'll gave some great advice on marriage vs. weddings! Having a good marriage takes a lot of work from both partners. My husband and I have been married for 53 years and we thank God for joining us together.🙏❤️
Not the camera stare and the "How you doin?"!🤣🤣🤣 I love the positivity and good energy you two as individuals and a team give off. Thank you for being present for us.💛💯
You guys spoke truth. July 1st we will be celebrating 46 years of marriage. We faced challenges that were unexpected including my health challenges, raising children and finding out who we are and who each other is. That’s not as easy as you think. Trust in God helped our marriage . The beauty of the wedding alone will not help the marriage survive because a wedding is superficial but BABY making a marriage survive is supernatural and requires understanding divine intervention. Love you guys
I appreciate today’s video because my partner and I will be getting married at the court house next month on the fifth. We have decided to just have a nice reception for certain loved ones to attend to celebrate us
I’m single and I’m thankful for this topic. ☺️ I feel like some of us have grew up in a society that treats weddings more like a party than a celebration. Thank you Chance for saying that for people(me) in the back!
Love how contemplative Chance is before answering a question and how attentive and focused Tab is on him when he's speaking. Great example of good communication skills. What a beautiful couple they are, I love watching their interaction as they share their thoughts. May God continue to bless their beautiful union and make it stronger and more successful everyday!❤
I’m NOT married. And I will never married 😂 but I grew up around married people and all my friends are married. What I’ve seen and heard smh I said no that’s okay. You really have to work at it 24/7. If you aren’t ready work compromise, communicate, forgive etc. don’t even do it! Love yall so much ❤❤❤
First.. The energy and the intro was hilarious 😂. I love yall. But YES, there is a difference in weddings and marriage. My wedding cost $600 and we're still together after 15 years and 4 kids later, because we realized that, this is not that. Chance you are so right about the gifts at weddings, they wanna come eat and talk but leave nothing. Everything you both spoke on was spot and and we need more of that. Also, Chance.. Close the doors😂😂😂.
A lot of people me included be thinking marriage is a Disney movie and over time since working on myself living anyone is hard and has ups and downs so why wouldn’t a marriage we must start living in reality instead of how We FEEL 🤷🏽♀️
And also include picking your battles is majorly important too.Some people stay in abusive marriages for so long they forget themselves.You have a choice always to pick up and leave or stay and continue to be mistreated.Leaving doors open is waaay more miniscule than being with someone who doesnt like to wash,clean up or is overall unsanitary.
Congratulations 🎉 This is all so true. 30 yrs and we have really learned how to move out of each other's way and give space when needed. We both over the years learned to listen to each other. We realized after having kids that we really are a team!😉 Each year we pivot and it has been the greatest tool. Kiss and hug each other every day. 😍🔥Pray together every night before you go to sleep. I also read a short scripture to my hubby every night and he loves it.😉 Blessings Always 💞
I love you guys and Thank you for pouring into us all!! My husband and I are celebrating 5yrs in November. Married in Vegas and did our wedding a year later. Only 80 people, spent 8k but we set boundaries and if ANYONE was late or absent for ceremony they were turned around! We poured into our guest with full experience so the least you could do was be on time for the union dedication!!! We specified no gifts only monetary blessings. Thank God for our tribe of people ❤️
People have to realize that they are two different people from different backgrounds upbringing and you have to work to be on the same wavelength or path together. The wedding is one day but the marriage for many will not be like that wedding day.
I look forward to see the both of you on Friday.😊. Just because at my age of 66 I have never experienced true love, only a broken heart. BUT nevertheless, I am content and celebrate those who have a loving marriage and relationships., which give me great joy😊 from the both of you 🙌🏼
@gtzion6501, may God bless you with a superlative love. A couple at my mom's church got married 10yrs ago. They were both about 70. 1st time marriage for both. They dressed to the nines and the focus was thanking God for this answered prayer. Tender and sweet with each other to this day. May you and your divine spouse find, recognize and love each other...soon. Amn. May your love of God and each other illuminate your lives and be a testimony that encourages others. Now and always may the good-heartedness shown in your comment be rewarded by a circle of people who consistently give you love, respect and support 🙏🏿🤗🙋🏿
Thank you Chance and Tab, this is much needed. On a particular Judge show the bride was asked are you happy with your marriage, she was so focused on an issue that happened at the wedding it appeared she didn’t understand that it wasn’t all about her wedding and it was that she was happy with her marriage. So the judge told her to “look happy” I have been married 46 years and it has been for better or worse. Invest your money in the best marriage counseling and marriage retreats. Marriage is beautiful, but it is work! Pray with and for your spouse.
With my first wedding I and my family did all the decorations. Had my dress made by a friend, food catering by a relative. Performed in a small church. When I get married again I don't even need that much. I just need someone that he and I are on the same page striving for the same goals for the rest of our lives together. I don't even need a social media display to a million people I don't even know.
I hadn't even heard of Wedding goals and marriage goals!! Haha! You are so right. A lot of people spend so much time and effort preparing for the wedding, but never a minute preparing for the marriage. Good point, Tab!
I agree about the gifting aspect because when you look at other cultures, that's what they do. They invest in the marriage to ensure a good start. Much love
Love this one! Those reasons is why my husband and I did not have a big wedding. We did not want any ill talk, folks coming just because. They are not there for the union of two ppl. Not there for the blessings. Our wedding was just our immediate family and our closest friends that truly was there for us.
Well said! Grateful to God for a great wedding in 1984 and just celebrated 40 years of a blessed marriage in better and worse and health and sickness . Yes, we have an intercultural marriage and many didn't think we would make it. We always put God first and not culture. Also, had family who supported us with monetary gifts. Thank you again for this episode.
We married after knowing each other for 9 months. I had the wedding I wanted, and for the last 19 years I've had the marriage I wanted. I acted out of obedience to God, and He has blessed our union.
I absolutely love y’all to death! We need more “real life” content especially when it’s younger married couples. I love y’all 🤍❤️ thank you for being the best internet fairy god parents
I. Like. the wisdom y'all demonstrating & have also experience on FACTS of. your. Own. Marriage is a sacred thing, responsible thing, serious thing, soul ties, partnership, as well as a financial obligation. & agreement. Kinda contract between to ppl. GOD BLESSES that. UNION. 🎉 I like what Chance said regarding ppl. that hate or frown on marriage. I also agree with TAB said it's never to late to get married. But don't put a burden on Ur. Relationship in the beginning as newlyweds. 👍 Very good😊 westside LA Cali auntie Roro ❤
Tab, you are beautiful inside and out! You have a light about you. Chance is funny but seems like he would help anyone. Truths about marriage , yes ..❤ Enjoy watching your channel!
I appreciate yall giving the game to the people. The season on disagreements are harsh but the beautiful seasons make things worth it. I seen many marriages and some good and some horrible but im learning from it because nobody taught us first hand. God's word been my teacher and i aint perfect but im learning, we're learning. I pray yall that want to, get it together and those that are keep it together. May God be your guiding light. Shalom ✌🏾
Love this conversation! Ebo Taylor has a song called Love & Death which really sums up what marriage and weddings are about. I’ve been married 10 years and hold on to that song.❤️
Yesssss, thank y'all soooo much for touching on this topic. My husband and I have been together for 26 years years and have been married for 7 years, we had a small wedding, and our bond is strong....It was all in God's timing....🙏🏽🥰🤗
Advice like this I can listen to. A couple who's been married for over 25 years and went through the vows that say "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health,..." Kev and Melissa, another great example. Not those fly-by-night marriages. Thank you, T&C!👊🏽
Amen Amen we been together 34 years been married 33 we went to court house I don’t regret it family’s and friends ask when your getting remarried I sad I’m not I did it once in 1991 I have nothing to prove to any one I love love my best friend our love is stronger than ever I always say we didn’t have a home we was renter we only had one car so the money ppl was talking about marriage I said no used that money for another car and getting a home once he decided to get out military than we got that home no regrets ❤
Just had this conversation with my engaged daughter. I asked her if she wants a good wedding or a good marriage. I’ve been married for 38 years. Simple church wedding followed by a reception at our development community center.
I got married at my church and then went to dinner with our parents and siblings ❤and the next day went on our honeymoon 😊still together 38 years later 🙌🏿God is good.
I love the wisdom your individual and collective perspectives bring. I think people see the wedding as the goal not the marriage. The marriage is the ultimate destination. Couples should attend intensive counseling with the understanding that marriage may or may not be the best decision.
Hi Ms. Tab and Mr. Chance! My name is Ky and was wondering if you could speak more about the fear of getting married due to negative family members comments or brokenness or broken marriages! My husband and I had to cut off our entire family on both sides due to this and never had a wedding and just got married at the court house🥰we now have a beautiful daughter and have been happily married for one year! Thank you ☺️
Thank you both so very much. We just got engaged, and for the past 2 months, I've been looking for videos from married couples on this very subject. Other than the Gottman Institute and Dr. Myles Munroe, I haven't really found any. Thank you for being so real and open, and for listening to Holy Spirit. 🙏🏽
I've been watching you all do these videos since the shut down and still look forward to and enjoy each offering. Thank you both for such authentic sharing. ❤❤
Tab and Chance this is a powerful conversation. I was married a longtime ago and unfortunately my husband stepped out on us and then he divorced me, then he died. I’ve been Ina long term relationship but I don’t want to get married but I do believe in the institution of marriage.
And I would add for our young adults contemplating marriage, that all real relationships have conflict… family, friends, work, etc. so you have to know that when you enter into a marriage it will have conflict too and we need the right tools (wisdom) and the character to navigate, maintain and grow even stronger. Marriage is to make us holy. So hang in there and devote yourself to figuring it out if you don’t come from a family that has a history of good marriages. Join a good Bible believing church and talk to couples that have a successful relationship. Ask questions and perhaps ask if they would mentor you for a period. Pre-marital counseling is also highly recommended. Being married at 32 years and together with my husband for 35 years…I agree and I approve this message! Right on Brown family. Great topic, advice…everything!
My husband died ❤🌹a few months shy of our 50th anniversary. We had many up ups and many down downs but I’d do it all again. You nailed it!!!! Thanks for sharing.👏🏾👍🏾(Side note- I have a relative that attended a wedding in the big city I live in. They were shocked at the food served. In there small town a wedding reception meant only cake and punch! 😮That was close to 30 years ago though. Things ma be different now.)
Great topic! What Chance said is Real Talk...Some People Just Need to Keep Their Mouths Closed when they don't believe in something like Marriage for example.
In October we will be celebrating 10 years. Both of us previously married. We are not the same people we were when we got married. It takes work, communication, and commitment to being better versions of ourselves.
This episode was funny,Choyce is a pretty young lady, you two did an amazing job! Very respectful, “Normal!” Well adjusted! Raised with a Mom and Dad in the home.
That’s some good stuff yall! We are 38 years in, God is Good! We had about 350 people at our wedding, and it definitely did not cost us a lot. Had a church wedding, reception at a community center, free limo, free videographer and photographer, plates were about $6, per plate, we had a caterer. Mom made my wedding gown and the bridesmaid dresses. No debt from that wedding at all! Still going strong, but marriage definitely ain’t easy, it’s work!☺️
As Kev and Melissa's so pointedly stated Marriage be hard! I am a few mos into year 19 and the season is a bit stormy. The wedding was beautiful, but Chance and Tab said a WHOLE WORD! Don't let these IG reels fool ya. ❤
Yes Chance! We need to change the narrative in our culture to definitely invest in the couple and at least pay for your plate. You know if you’re at a hotel wedding that’s a $100.00 + per plate meal. Leave the cake plates and wine glasses for the shower not the wedding. I’ve been married 34 years and my husband and I received so many cake plates and punch bowls at our wedding that I could never use. You hit that point out the park.
Our generation needs way more videos on marriage more of these please
This is so true......
I believe they exist because people are being more transparent. But will people listen to the honesty?
Agree… 10 years in and the strugggglesss are struggling
I agree
Yes God
Marriage is work!!!! If you are not willing to serve one another it will not work.
Say it again, Sis, for those in the back! You both have to be willing to put the work in order to have a successful marriage.
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Thank you Chance for airing the fact that we as a community need to attend to support the couple and not come just to eat at their expense. We need to change the narrative and financially support couples with a good start.
I just love y'all! This from two 70 year olds that have been married for 50 years, great conversation!
Married 33yrs and things change everyday. Keep growing and finding different things about yourself.
My uncle and aunt said my husband and I were to young to be married and was having too many babies (that they didn’t have to care for). July 8 it will be 46 years, 3 sons, 3 daughters in love, 8 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. Our marriage has never been stronger.
Awesome!! Keep God 💪🏼 n the Center of your marriage.🙏🏽🥰
To God be the glory, y'all keep on hanging on! I'm only 11 years married and 21 together, I would not change a thing. I have y'all in my prayers and continue to be blessed. Shalom ✌🏾💜💐
@@Sheena_the_LiteI pray God continues to shower you both in love, peace and protection.
We got married in the living room of our then townhouse. I was washing dishes and the pastor rung the doorbell. That was 16 years ago. And you have to also learn how to keep some stuff sacred and private. Everyone does not need to know everything or see every photo or know every trip you take. Marriage is sacred. Its depth. It’s maturing and growing as a unit and as individuals. It’s love when love doesn’t look like unicorns and sparkles.
Exactly why we didn’t have a “huge” wedding because ppl just come to eat,drink, and judge. No ma’am no ham no cheese!
😂no ham no cheese
Exactly this. We had a small church ceremony --immediate and church family only with no pomp and circumstance. Someone later asked when we were going to have the bigger, more extravagant ceremony. I proudly told her never, that's the ceremony we wanted. ❤❤❤
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Yes ma’am! Tiny ceremony here! As well!
Love all this! We a CourtHouse Couple! We celebrating 10 years of black love and 8 years of marriage! We plan to renew our vows on the beach at 10th year anniversary! We were broke buried in college debt so we decided to go to the courthouse! God is good as we just celebrated homeownership way better than spending thousands on a wedding!
Exactly! My husband and I got married with just the 2 of us by our pastor. We didn’t tell anyone and when our families found out almost no one even congratulated us. Think I’m planning a ceremony and reception now? I’m not! 🙅🏽♀️😂
Congratulations sis, I'm sorry family didn't congratulate y'all. Praying God bless your union
Congratulations on your union…Truly sorry that your families didn’t support you. Hopefully, with time they’ll come around.
Why you wanted them to congratulate you, if you didn’t even told them?🤔
😊 it’s you and your husband’s business. Congratulations sis 🎊🎉
There's definitely a difference. I've always considered it an honor to be invited to witness the vows, the actual wedding. The rest is a celebration of those promises.
Chance really snapped on the part about investing in the couple! And not showing up to a wedding empty handed❤ I would also love if you guys did an episode on "People not wishing you well" you touched on it a little bit in terms of the wedding, but can you do an episode maybe talking what it's like to be in your marriage or relationship with family or friends that aren't happy for you? Or are judgemental about your relationship.
Oh this is a great topic to discuss! 👏🏽👏🏽 I have many who aren't happy for me.
OMG it’s mainly family that comes with the HATE and negativity.
Great topic. And I’m TRIGGERED 😂😂😂 so many people came to my wedding just to WATCH. SOME UNINVITED 😑. Some family didn’t attend because “it’s not going going to work” 30 years later some are divorced that had a more elaborate ceremony 😏
You guys are speaking the truth! 💯 My husband and I have been married for 25 years, but we didn't have much money to put into our wedding. However, we had a beautiful 20th vow renewal, and that's when we spent money. In short, a nice wedding is great, but what's more important is investing in your marriage (key- invite God into your marriage). 🎉
We were dating for 1.5 yr before hubby proposed, and we saved up and 1.5 yrs later we were joyfully married, went on the honeymoon in Paris and here we are still going in Christ. 🙌🏾 14yrs this October.... And yes it's Love work and play 💜🎁✨💐💪🏾🤗🥰
Marriage is serious, either you have a ride or die, someone who is a giver, care and love you, like you, like it or not, willing to put God first, staying in gratitude, patient and keep it moving! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Marriage ain't for the weak
It’s me, I’m the weak 😂. I know I’m not getting married
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No it's not I've been married 30 years.
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So true! Been married almost 14 years and it's not for the weak. Who you marry makes ALL the difference in how it turns out.
Chance and Tabitha, you'll gave some great advice on marriage vs. weddings! Having a good marriage takes a lot of work from both partners. My husband and I have been married for 53 years and we thank God for joining us together.🙏❤️
Take those wedding VOWS seriously! Because that's the road map to a successful marriage. How quickly we forget our VOWS.❤
I currently live in a country that dont give wedding gifts, they give money only to start the couple on the right foot without money issues
That’s a great point. They can buy what they need specifically,
Chance, you gave the people something to think about. If you can afford, it give them something to start the marriage off.
Not the camera stare and the "How you doin?"!🤣🤣🤣 I love the positivity and good energy you two as individuals and a team give off. Thank you for being present for us.💛💯
Omg! I didn’t even catch that cause I was too busy fixing my plate!!! 😩 Now I gotta go back and rewatch it! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Crying. A tainch of petty Betty was received.
You guys spoke truth. July 1st we will be celebrating 46 years of marriage. We faced challenges that were unexpected including my health challenges, raising children and finding out who we are and who each other is. That’s not as easy as you think. Trust in God helped our marriage . The beauty of the wedding alone will not help the marriage survive because a wedding is superficial but BABY making a marriage survive is supernatural and requires understanding divine intervention. Love you guys
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Happy anniversary!!! @sassynola8417
@@clariseharrington8252 thank you
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Next y’all should do a signs your ready for marriage vs signs your not ready
This is a great idea!!!
I agree!
Great idea fasho
Love this idea!
I appreciate today’s video because my partner and I will be getting married at the court house next month on the fifth. We have decided to just have a nice reception for certain loved ones to attend to celebrate us
Whoops, yall done stepped on some toes today! The truth is the light though and yall are 100% on point!
Marriage is not for the faint of heart.❤
I’m single and I’m thankful for this topic. ☺️ I feel like some of us have grew up in a society that treats weddings more like a party than a celebration. Thank you Chance for saying that for people(me) in the back!
Invest into that couple 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and if you don’t believe in marriage don’t go-thanks Chance
Love how contemplative Chance is before answering a question and how attentive and focused Tab is on him when he's speaking. Great example of good communication skills. What a beautiful couple they are, I love watching their interaction as they share their thoughts. May God continue to bless their beautiful union and make it stronger and more successful everyday!❤
I noticed that as well!! Awesome!🎉
Married 38 years and yes things do change in the husband and wife but you can make it work. God bless those who are still married ❤🙏🏾
I’m NOT married. And I will never married 😂 but I grew up around married people and all my friends are married. What I’ve seen and heard smh I said no that’s okay. You really have to work at it 24/7. If you aren’t ready work compromise, communicate, forgive etc. don’t even do it! Love yall so much ❤❤❤
Chance preach!!!! You so right people need to show up to weddings the right way not with bad intentions and empty-handed!
That banter about the DOORS in the beginning was so wholesome. 🥰😂 love y’all!
First.. The energy and the intro was hilarious 😂. I love yall. But YES, there is a difference in weddings and marriage. My wedding cost $600 and we're still together after 15 years and 4 kids later, because we realized that, this is not that. Chance you are so right about the gifts at weddings, they wanna come eat and talk but leave nothing. Everything you both spoke on was spot and and we need more of that. Also, Chance.. Close the doors😂😂😂.
A lot of people me included be thinking marriage is a Disney movie and over time since working on myself living anyone is hard and has ups and downs so why wouldn’t a marriage we must start living in reality instead of how We FEEL 🤷🏽♀️
And also include picking your battles is majorly important too.Some people stay in abusive marriages for so long they forget themselves.You have a choice always to pick up and leave or stay and continue to be mistreated.Leaving doors open is waaay more miniscule than being with someone who doesnt like to wash,clean up or is overall unsanitary.
I’m getting married in 2 weeks. Thank yall for this.
Congratulations!!!
Thank you
Congrats!!! 🖤
Congratulations 🎉 This is all so true. 30 yrs and we have really learned how to move out of each other's way and give space when needed.
We both over the years learned to listen to each other. We realized after having kids that we really are a team!😉 Each year we pivot and it has been the greatest tool. Kiss and hug each other every day. 😍🔥Pray together every night before you go to sleep. I also read a short scripture to my hubby every night and he loves it.😉 Blessings Always 💞
Congratulations
I love you guys and Thank you for pouring into us all!! My husband and I are celebrating 5yrs in November. Married in Vegas and did our wedding a year later. Only 80 people, spent 8k but we set boundaries and if ANYONE was late or absent for ceremony they were turned around! We poured into our guest with full experience so the least you could do was be on time for the union dedication!!! We specified no gifts only monetary blessings. Thank God for our tribe of people ❤️
People have to realize that they are two different people from different backgrounds upbringing and you have to work to be on the same wavelength or path together. The wedding is one day but the marriage for many will not be like that wedding day.
I look forward to see the both of you on Friday.😊. Just because at my age of 66 I have never experienced true love, only a broken heart. BUT nevertheless, I am content and celebrate those who have a loving marriage and relationships., which give me great joy😊 from the both of you 🙌🏼
@gtzion6501 thank you! I thought I was the only one😢
@gtzion6501, may God bless you with a superlative love. A couple at my mom's church got married 10yrs ago. They were both about 70. 1st time marriage for both. They dressed to the nines and the focus was thanking God for this answered prayer. Tender and sweet with each other to this day. May you and your divine spouse find, recognize and love each other...soon. Amn. May your love of God and each other illuminate your lives and be a testimony that encourages others. Now and always may the good-heartedness shown in your comment be rewarded by a circle of people who consistently give you love, respect and support 🙏🏿🤗🙋🏿
@@loveheals6184Amen!
Thank you Chance and Tab, this is much needed. On a particular Judge show the bride was asked are you happy with your marriage, she was so focused on an issue that happened at the wedding it appeared she didn’t understand that it wasn’t all about her wedding and it was that she was happy with her marriage. So the judge told her to “look happy”
I have been married 46 years and it has been for better or worse. Invest your money in the best marriage counseling and marriage retreats. Marriage is beautiful, but it is work! Pray with and for your spouse.
With my first wedding I and my family did all the decorations. Had my dress made by a friend, food catering by a relative. Performed in a small church.
When I get married again I don't even need that much. I just need someone that he and I are on the same page striving for the same goals for the rest of our lives together. I don't even need a social media display to a million people I don't even know.
I hadn't even heard of Wedding goals and marriage goals!! Haha! You are so right. A lot of people spend so much time and effort preparing for the wedding, but never a minute preparing for the marriage. Good point, Tab!
I agree about the gifting aspect because when you look at other cultures, that's what they do. They invest in the marriage to ensure a good start. Much love
Another great show. 28 years married. Going on 33years together. ❤🙏🏾
Love this one! Those reasons is why my husband and I did not have a big wedding. We did not want any ill talk, folks coming just because. They are not there for the union of two ppl. Not there for the blessings. Our wedding was just our immediate family and our closest friends that truly was there for us.
Chance knows he spoke a word about giving and investing into marriages!!!
Well said! Grateful to God for a great wedding in 1984 and just celebrated 40 years of a blessed marriage in better and worse and health and sickness . Yes, we have an intercultural marriage and many didn't think we would make it. We always put God first and not culture. Also, had family who supported us with monetary gifts.
Thank you again for this episode.
Man I could be having the most weird or even horrible week and I’m guaranteed a smile when i watch yall
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Them good days leading up to the bad days will have you forgetting about the good days. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 thank you chance. I needed to be reminded of that.
“It’s a time when you need to get out from up there” 😭😭😭😭 you know what uncle chance
Listen, the doors left open, spoke to my soul😂😂
Chance you are PREACHING!!!
We married after knowing each other for 9 months. I had the wedding I wanted, and for the last 19 years I've had the marriage I wanted. I acted out of obedience to God, and He has blessed our union.
"Get out from up there!" Yes, Unc. 😂😂😂😂
Great topic. Wedding Ceremony/Real Marriage used to scare me. Real Marriage all day. God brought me a mighty blessed long way!
I most definitely want the marriage.
The good days will outweigh the bad 🥳🥳🥳. Happy to hear that!🙌🏼
I absolutely love y’all to death! We need more “real life” content especially when it’s younger married couples. I love y’all 🤍❤️ thank you for being the best internet fairy god parents
I. Like. the wisdom y'all demonstrating & have also experience on FACTS of. your. Own. Marriage is a sacred thing, responsible thing, serious thing, soul ties, partnership, as well as a financial obligation. & agreement. Kinda contract between to ppl. GOD BLESSES that. UNION. 🎉 I like what Chance said regarding ppl. that hate or frown on marriage. I also agree with TAB said it's never to late to get married. But don't put a burden on Ur. Relationship in the beginning as newlyweds. 👍 Very good😊 westside LA Cali auntie Roro ❤
Tab, you are beautiful inside and out! You have a light about you. Chance is funny but seems like he would help anyone. Truths about marriage , yes ..❤ Enjoy watching your channel!
I appreciate yall giving the game to the people. The season on disagreements are harsh but the beautiful seasons make things worth it. I seen many marriages and some good and some horrible but im learning from it because nobody taught us first hand. God's word been my teacher and i aint perfect but im learning, we're learning. I pray yall that want to, get it together and those that are keep it together. May God be your guiding light. Shalom ✌🏾
Love this conversation! Ebo Taylor has a song called Love & Death which really sums up what marriage and weddings are about. I’ve been married 10 years and hold on to that song.❤️
Yesssss, thank y'all soooo much for touching on this topic. My husband and I have been together for 26 years years and have been married for 7 years, we had a small wedding, and our bond is strong....It was all in God's timing....🙏🏽🥰🤗
Advice like this I can listen to. A couple who's been married for over 25 years and went through the vows that say "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health,..." Kev and Melissa, another great example. Not those fly-by-night marriages.
Thank you, T&C!👊🏽
Amen Amen we been together 34 years been married 33 we went to court house I don’t regret it family’s and friends ask when your getting remarried I sad I’m not I did it once in 1991 I have nothing to prove to any one I love love my best friend our love is stronger than ever I always say we didn’t have a home we was renter we only had one car so the money ppl was talking about marriage I said no used that money for another car and getting a home once he decided to get out military than we got that home no regrets ❤
Just had this conversation with my engaged daughter. I asked her if she wants a good wedding or a good marriage. I’ve been married for 38 years. Simple church wedding followed by a reception at our development community center.
This is definitely needed to be said!!👏🏾👍🏾💯 However, I’m in total agreement with Chance!! 💯💯👏🏾
I agree brother Chance..."It's a time where you need to get out from up there!" Amen
Still single..I appreciate the transparency and honesty.
I got married at my church and then went to dinner with our parents and siblings ❤and the next day went on our honeymoon 😊still together 38 years later 🙌🏿God is good.
The stare down tho!!
Im glad to hear Chance's perspective. Its rare to get a man's honest view on marriage. TY both.
Hahaha the ending was hilarious. I love it. Thank you for sharing this great information.
Thank you for keeping IT REAL!!!
It's so beautiful to me, to see how yout two have different points of view, but still are on the same page💙
I love the wisdom your individual and collective perspectives bring. I think people see the wedding as the goal not the marriage. The marriage is the ultimate destination. Couples should attend intensive counseling with the understanding that marriage may or may not be the best decision.
Excellent conversation! Pre-marital counseling would likely help a lot of people have successful marriages. ❤️❤️
Hi Ms. Tab and Mr. Chance! My name is Ky and was wondering if you could speak more about the fear of getting married due to negative family members comments or brokenness or broken marriages! My husband and I had to cut off our entire family on both sides due to this and never had a wedding and just got married at the court house🥰we now have a beautiful daughter and have been happily married for one year!
Thank you ☺️
Thank you both so very much. We just got engaged, and for the past 2 months, I've been looking for videos from married couples on this very subject. Other than the Gottman Institute and Dr. Myles Munroe, I haven't really found any. Thank you for being so real and open, and for listening to Holy Spirit. 🙏🏽
a pleasant good morning everyone. Thank you for this video Mr and Mrs Brown 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️
I've been watching you all do these videos since the shut down and still look forward to and enjoy each offering. Thank you both for such authentic sharing. ❤❤
We bought our house while engaged and got married in our backyard. Best decision ever! 7 years happily married.❤
Tab and Chance this is a powerful conversation. I was married a longtime ago and unfortunately my husband stepped out on us and then he divorced me, then he died. I’ve been Ina long term relationship but I don’t want to get married but I do believe in the institution of marriage.
And I would add for our young adults contemplating marriage, that all real relationships have conflict… family, friends, work, etc. so you have to know that when you enter into a marriage it will have conflict too and we need the right tools (wisdom) and the character to navigate, maintain and grow even stronger. Marriage is to make us holy. So hang in there and devote yourself to figuring it out if you don’t come from a family that has a history of good marriages. Join a good Bible believing church and talk to couples that have a successful relationship. Ask questions and perhaps ask if they would mentor you for a period. Pre-marital counseling is also highly recommended.
Being married at 32 years and together with my husband for 35 years…I agree and I approve this message! Right on Brown family. Great topic, advice…everything!
My husband died ❤🌹a few months shy of our 50th anniversary. We had many up ups and many down downs but I’d do it all again. You nailed it!!!! Thanks for sharing.👏🏾👍🏾(Side note- I have a relative that attended a wedding in the big city I live in. They were shocked at the food served. In there small town a wedding reception meant only cake and punch! 😮That was close to 30 years ago though. Things ma be different now.)
Tab ...... i just seen you in a episode of the UPSHAWS 😊 as Miss Wilson 😊
Y’all need a part two of this episode.
I love marriage talk with Tab & Chance…it’s so 🔥🔥🔥
Amen Chance 🎤🎤you are so right 👏🏾👏🏾give generous to the couple getting married.
Such a great conversation. As a millennial, I know this is a conversation that needs to be heard and discussed more often.
Great topic! What Chance said is Real Talk...Some People Just Need to Keep Their Mouths Closed when they don't believe in something like Marriage for example.
In October we will be celebrating 10 years. Both of us previously married. We are not the same people we were when we got married. It takes work, communication, and commitment to being better versions of ourselves.
This episode was funny,Choyce is a pretty young lady, you two did an amazing job! Very respectful, “Normal!” Well adjusted! Raised with a Mom and Dad in the home.
I totally agree with everything you two have said. We have got to emphasize this to our loved ones!!💕🙏🏾
Chance has a beautiful voice.
He's married
Tabitha loves him and she will never abandon him
Y'all hit us with the double head nod! Y'all meant that!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
That’s some good stuff yall! We are 38 years in, God is Good! We had about 350 people at our wedding, and it definitely did not cost us a lot. Had a church wedding, reception at a community center, free limo, free videographer and photographer, plates were about $6, per plate, we had a caterer. Mom made my wedding gown and the bridesmaid dresses. No debt from that wedding at all! Still going strong, but marriage definitely ain’t easy, it’s work!☺️
As Kev and Melissa's so pointedly stated Marriage be hard! I am a few mos into year 19 and the season is a bit stormy. The wedding was beautiful, but Chance and Tab said a WHOLE WORD! Don't let these IG reels fool ya. ❤
Yes Chance! We need to change the narrative in our culture to definitely invest in the couple and at least pay for your plate. You know if you’re at a hotel wedding that’s a $100.00 + per plate meal. Leave the cake plates and wine glasses for the shower not the wedding. I’ve been married 34 years and my husband and I received so many cake plates and punch bowls at our wedding that I could never use. You hit that point out the park.
Hello Tabitha & Chance I really enjoyed you sharing the important and difference between a wedding and marriage.💕