You put yourself in that box, if you say your going to be forever alone then you will be forever alone. Some might call it law of attraction but I call it common sense. Instead of saying “if” I find someone say “when” I find someone. Subconsciously you are doing things/saying things that cause you to potentially be single and not by choice. For example being negative on a date equals a girl thinking your insecure which equals no next date or never hearing from her.
It's way better than being heartbroken trust me. Also before walking into a relationship you need to work on your self esteem and learn to be happy even by your own. I was pretty insecure and in that forever alone mindset when I met my ex and that put a strain on the relationship for sure and most importantly is making it so hard for me to move on right now!
1:50 "People who genuinely want to be with you will always show themselves from there best side." What? No, that's totally false. Genuine people are willing to show their bad side in a responsible way and let you decide if they are right for you. People who ONLY show their good side are hiding something and that is surely the sign of a toxic relationship.
No. If someone 'loving you' is hurting you or making you feel like less of a person then it is a toxic relationship and not one worth being in. No matter how much they claim they love you.
To an extent. For example, my senior year of college I was taking 21 hours in addition to my capstone project. When I didn’t have time to spend with my boyfriend he would become extremely upset and angry with me. when I tried to say it wasn’t fair to me, he said he was expressing his honest feelings. I couldn’t afford another semester of college if I didn’t do well enough to graduate, and was struggling to keep up in all my classes. And he thought “expressing his honest feelings” was more important than what I had spent the past four years and thousands of dollars achieving. I can’t find it in me to call that love.
I think a lot of these ideas are wrong, never try to hide how you really feel, if you want to be with them all the time...then you should be them. If you are with the right person, that is what they will love about you. What other people might find needy or possessive is what some like in a partner, but I know others would hate which is why it's important to be with the right type of person for you. I have been married for just about 10 years now, and I am more in love with my husband today then when we met. We fell in love almost immediately, we wanted to spend every moment together, I moved in with him after a few weeks (which everyone said was a bad idea, but it felt right and i'm glad we did!) He can get jealous when other men flirt, but I like that about him. If you try to go by a playbook on how long to wait to do things, how often to call, how to not seem needy, etc. I dont think you will be as happy in the long run, because you aren't letting out your true emotions and you wont have as much passion
I agree! The relationship I have with my current boyfriend happened quite fast, and after one month together we left to go on a trip, only the two of them. My cousin said it was way too early but hey I wanted to, and I don't want to plan things or say, wait I cannot do that because it's going too quick. So yeah. Anyway, I wish you happiness with your husband xx
Chantelle Lay me too!!!😩😩😩 ... thats why i stay single.. lol when i see some of these signs on myself with someone im trying to take serious, i take a step back & get out if it. It wouldn’t be fair for the both of us. I also want to be with someone i fully trust so, i don’t have this behavior come out of me. I noticed that a lot of women r like this with their partners; thats because they can’t trust them but still r not willing to let go.. so they make everything complicated on themselves. **reason is because most men cheat but try to hide it & show off they are a good partner.. I see it all the time & that is another reason why im so cautious/scared to just trust any “good man”. I need to work on myself & give a little more trust to some, not all men though haha but, i know theres a few good ones out there..
I was in a toxic/abusive relationship like that for 2 to 3 years until he left me with a concussion plus a misscarriage never want be in a relationship again. Thank you god for helping me get out and call the cops. Amen
Cutting off and distancing are different tho, you should have said the difference. A man married man should leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife, his family.
As someone who's been in relationship counseling. I can safely say you can follow these if you aren't looking for a serious relationship. Otherwise. Drop most of them. Bright side is not certified in relationship or marriage counceling.
If to be certified means regurgitating what your teacher teaches you and gives you a bumper sticker after the years are over, you can shove that certification where the sun does not shine :)
Where are they “wrong”? Maintaining your friendships and family relationships? Maintain hobbies you like that support your well being? Maintain healthy boundaries? Pay attention to what people tell you about themselves? Notice how they treat others? Don’t break long made plans with close friends or family to spend every minute with someone you barely know? These are common sense and not controversial.
The answer to a toxic relationship? Love and respect yourself. Spend time doing things you love. Put yourself first and know that you’re single until you’re married.
If act single till ur married u will never get married...if u cant show signs of commitment in a relationship how will u show it in a marriage...I tell a woman I'm single till we get married means I can do what I want because we are not married even though we are in a committed relationship
😂 First time I gave him a bj he said his ex did it so much better. I should've runned away immediately but I didn't. Learned so much about relationships tho..
How do you know if they don’t have experience??? Plus maybe if people were actually paying attention there would be less divorces and more kids would be raise with both their parents together
i don’t know if you have had experience but i don’t know if my boyfriend is toxic or not.. my friends constantly tell me to break up with him. i’m not saying this video is right but i noticed that i do leave my friends to be with him cause he wants me to go with him. i don’t do my old favorite things anymore cause i’m focused solely on him. he’s never tries to fix any problems and i’m a little scared he might be cheating on me. but i cant leave him or bring it up. i apologize for things i bring up that i want to talk about, i ask him if he hugged a girl which isn’t a big deal but i’d ant to know. he gets mad at me for bringing it up and i always apologize, he’s never apologized for anything. i don’t know..
You know what I think? A lot of people which are here to watch this video in order to seek knowledge will have a good relationship one day, everything happens to the right time we need to be patient folks😊
Toxic, emotionally immature human beings don't often display any meaningful signs of self-awareness. This video is for people who aren't toxic to be able to point it out in others. People who haven't developed mechanisms described in this video have to develop them over a long time or, more often than not, never change. If only I could just forward this video to that person in our lives hasn't got a clue. We all have one... or three.
Toxic, when u say emotionally immature I would say the list applies to all relationship's( boyfriend vs girlfriend, wife vs husband, brother vs sister/brother, parent vs child). When u also say they must learn skills or not change that is also so true.... I would add if they fail to change then minimize if not eliminate their effect in your life. For a bad partner or family member or friend stop spending more time with them. No one can afford to just walk away but you can withdraw so they don't drag u down as well Everytime you relate day to day. It works...they can only ask why or not even care...either way you tried, you've failed, you're moving on....
Wow where's the Love these videos are to help LOL please and everyone is entitled to their own opinion let's all have a Awesome day. Thank you Jesse Merchant III
but anyones paretner should never talk to thier bf or gfs back to thier ex or another person saging the spouse is just friends and date the ex or another girl or man.behind ones back
I strongly disagree with having your partner meet your friends/relatives. I also never wanted to meet my bf's relatives until we're were very committed to each other. Who needs to explain to your loved ones what happened to someone.
Exactly! You don't know if you want to make an investment in someone. Why introduce your friends and family to someone who you've decided you never, ever want to see again? You will be known as a serial dater, or worse.
I kinda agree in that this is very situational and there may be circumstances that limit when or if you want to do this and your condition seems appropriate to me in many contexts.
I think allowing your partner to pursue any Hobbies or Career of their choice is one of the greatest sign of Trust that is necessary in a Healthy relationship besides spending time together and introducing each other to their Family or Friends 😊
Shubhajit Panda dude almost called it quits his of this...his career/passion. Huh...I wonder why anyone would want to act this way if they Love someone...#thinks
Naturally this should be encouraged and fully supported along the way. It is also nice if these can be shared same interests, hobbies or career but I think separate ones are also important along with time and space and a full whole life that isn't just about the relationship is essential and healthy.
She hates me cuz i always do my hobbies, she get angry when i want to talk to my friend, she seeks attention, she thinks jealousy makes relation ships stronger but she got jealous over everything, she doesn't know the word "space" between couples she thinks i'm getting colder to her (cuz i'm an introvert)... Super toxic tho, she got angry when i can't chat her cuz i'm at school... Nah i'm done.
Spaniard King Everyone needs time alone? I used to think that too because I'm a total introvert, but oddly, the relationship I'm in, we're never alone and my two past relationships I hated that, I felt I'd need my alone time, but now, I love every moment we spend together and he does too; we've talked about it. We share a lot of the same hobbies, so if we want "alone time," for us, that tends to mean doing things together away from other people and if we just need time to "ourselves," we just don't talk and do our hobbies in front of each other. It seems weird, but it's actually really fun. I just don't know if I believe in 100% "alone time" anymore. I know, it's probably just a lucky relationship, not the norm. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like I was just wrong before.
How did you get out of it? I’m in the same boat. Whenever I try to bring up the situation he starts hitting himself and goes into a complete panic. So I end up lighting up the situation by forgetting it. 😞
@@captainamerica7800 maybe but it's also dangerous if the relationship fails. And you should never rule out this possibility. I know people who broke up after they seemed to be a perfect couple for 15 years.
Yes. All of these signs fit astoundingly well with the central relationships in Twilight and the Fifty Shades Trilogy, and people unfortunately buy into them, which can actually be dangerous. That's why I'm here, so I can show stuff like this to people and make them understand that this is bad, possibly even deadly for you.
they shouldn't ask permission for doing things on their own, but letting your partner know you're out or busy takes about 10 seconds. instead of ignoring them and not replying, tell them you got stuff to do.
You know when your in the right relationship,because that person brings out the best version of you,you grow with them and flourish,if they hold you back then its time to go!
It’s true. I have been in a toxic relationship and I was very blind for it. And when I did see I just couldn’t break up, afraid to hurt him after he hurt me for too long. That’s why I like to add to the list: making “funny” remarks which actually hurt the partner.
You might be the toxic one, because you did nothing about it. He made "funny remarks" that hurt you. Maybe you should've told em? Same about the whole " they don't know they are doing anything wrong." So what? You expect the person to change randomly?
guaranteed they will see those same traits at home lol and their parents will not want to hear a word of it. they would probably call the school and tell them off yelling at them to stop telling their kid what good/bad relationship looks like.
I think it's important to let somebody know about your flaws ahead of time . it saves a lot of time in figuring out whether you're compatible or not . I'm very headstrong and stubborn and have a hard time being emotionally available . you'll never find the perfect person but you can find the person who is perfect for you .
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how do you deal with communicating emotionally? i know someone who is fine emotionally in general, but romantically, he's vacant. the problem is all of his friends said he wanted me as his girlfriend,. but he can't verbally or physically tell me. no matter how much i open up and coax him to open up the best i've got was, 'we might as well' as far as being a couple. id like to have more insight in that kind of statement because it made me feel i was wasting my time. if he can't be straight with me about his initial feelings, how can we ever talk about anything that might be important?
Sometimes people don't always listen when you do I know for me I started some years ago to tell people my flaws and "perks" and I do not try to force anyone to accept any part of me. A lot of my flaws I have worked on especially since I have gotten married and I know my flaws could be very bad for a relationship especially marriage
Long-distance can work but it's not easy. I've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 years and will finally be moving overseas with my love. Work and family kept me here but now I'm free to enjoy! We have visited one another every year to keep the relationship alive and viable. It can work.
im pretty sure we've all been in that position where we pretend to be someone we're not, or at least code switching of somesort.. i mean the feelings may be real, just their true colors start to show later
People with these tendencies and that exhibit these behaviors tend to be very manipulative. They don't immediately show this side. They start to implement their rules little by little once you're already serious.
I’ve been with my wife for 18 months. I checked almost everything this video said except we don’t lose our tempers on strangers easily, we didn’t abandon our hobbies, and neither of us drink, smoke or anything like that. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, she is honestly an angel. We have a 3 week old son and we’ve been married for 4 months. In the most genuine way I can say it I never ever get sick of being around her. We’ve never had an argument even though supposedly they’re good for relationships. We agree on almost everything and we spend every second together unless I’m working. And it might just be my perspective that sees it this way but she reassures me it’s mutual. If my relationship is toxic I don’t want a normal one.
This video spits some truth. Number 2 is so true. Sometimes it's easy to be blinded early on and start ignoring or accepting toxic behavior. The truth is that they will treat you like this in the long run. All people are toxic to an extent the thing is what type of potion you create when you're together. Venom or Antidote.
I literally did all of these things when I got into a relationship with a guy I thought was a “prize” I’m so happy I went through this because I learned and have never loved and appreciated myself more. I realized that I’m the prize.
These are 10 signs you have low self-esteem, need better boundaries. ** SOLID BONUS ** And valid info overall. Way to use cute animal vids too, good job Bright Side.
Right these are traits of co dependency not narcissist toxic abuse lol. Usually the co depend is with a narc and acts this way because they bring that out in them. It's not healthy either, but usually when someone acts this way they have gone through trauma or are currently going through a trauma in the relationship. I don't see anything wrong with a someone wondering why you aren't communicating if you just got into the relationship with them..if the other person withdraws and you don't hear from them for days that actually shows you that you are not worthy and they do not value you and take you for granted. Yes people need space, but don't ghost people and make them sit around and wonder why you are not talking to them. This is something I just went through. I came off as needy and co depend, but I just started seeing this guy and we became official so why the heck is he disappearing so soon, not communicating, and keeping his distance. That's what people do when they are comfortable and in a relationship for awhile, not a relationship that just began...so yes my red flags went off. A sign of toxic relationship is gaslighting, lying, someone who never says sorry, and lack of empathy. My ex husband was this person, and I think my current ex lacks empathy and is a manipulator too. I would tell him he is hurting my feelings for ghosting me or for some other things he said to me, and he would never apologize or try to walk in my shoes. He would laugh and say I'm too sensitive and say you're crazy. That's gaslighting, a form of manipulation.Yeah that's gonna cause me to become a little toxic and get angry...I'm not taking this behavior anymore...those are the actual signs of toxicity. This video is more about behaviors of co decency which is in the spectrum of a person who is an Empath. An empath attracts the opposite person, someone who lacks empathy(narc or psycopath) and that person brings out these behaviors of co dependency..
this sums up most relationships. there is no such thing as a safe relationship, romantic love is toxic but it can be fun if you want an emotional high.
This is good advice especially for young people . Don’t give up everything for your bf or gf don’t spend every single minute together even if you have to force yourself to do other things and keep your friends !! You will need them again.
Every point resembles me and my behavior from the very first day of my relationship..... now I realize I was making my relationship so toxic.... it's so helpful thank u
I'm roomates with a couple who are married and have a kid and are expecting twins they fight everyday the wife is a bit controlling and extremely jealous it's a very toxic relationship that was pretty rushed let's see how long they last :/
Girls are often 'empty inside' in that they rarely have hobbies, they often idealize their partner because they want James Bond/ Prince Charming, and being chameleons they adopt their partner's beliefs and interests like a new outfit. Of course outfits do not stay new and few men are James Bond.... so most women are off like a butterfly to their next flower on what seems like a whim, leaving the man devastated, when in reality sound judgment was never really present. This is the reason/basis why females initiate 80% of all divorces.
Menstrel I agree that there are many girls like that but it seems that men are not interested in women with hobbies, interests, or even a personality. They don’t want any quirks- just be docile and good looking. Looks must be approved by his friends and family, and must not do or say anything that might rock the boat. I’m married now, but that’s what I experienced in the past.
Im sorry this has been your experience. Most of the women I know are not like this. Maybe its because I choose to associate with women who have their own identities. It seems so many men go after girls like this just because they are "hot". (Im not saying that's you). My advice is to look for a women and not a little girl who needs a man to validate her.
It’s been scientifically proven that being in love makes us less productive since romantic love is biochemically indistinguishable from having severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. Enough said!
This video is so spot-on regarding falling in love and starting a new relationship. With my advanced age I can safely say 'Been there, done that.' If I compare my younger self to now, I think I can safely say that I'm happy at least 90% of the time, which is fantastic.
My best friend overlooked what I saw in the guys she dated, but the outcome was always the same. Her boyfriends would go as far as to insult me when I called them out on their bs, but I'll never stop looking out for her and will remain by her side,f whether things are looking good or not so great. When we started high school, she was seeing someone in his mid to late twenties, and when she introduced me, I was instantly blown away by how much he spoke for her, instead of letting her have a voice. He visited her unannounced in person when she was of age, and complained when she wouldn't leave her studies to be with him. I told her he made me uneasy, and they broke up when he attempted to lure her to live with him across the country, away from her family.
It’s hard to trust anyone nowadays...so go ahead and be blind...and see what happens...I believe you should show your love to that person and never be selfish and be considered to that person.
Trust them but not blindly; my girlfriend isn't a great talker and she expected me to believe she was with her work colleagues 0900-1700 and then drinking with them 2100-0200 maybe three times a week. That's 13 hours.....when she's not a huge talker.....and 13 hours the next day......add in 6 for sleep...19.. add an hour for shopping/cooking......half for bath....well how much time does the bf get?
Not a good video. I am more attracted to people who shows their bad side first rather than good side. They are some honest motherfuckers and i love them.
I’d agree but lol ummmm even if you tell someone you’re a certain way doesn’t mean that justifies the rationality of them being that way gotta better ourselves and also some make it seem like it’s not too big but later on dating them u realize they r waayyyy worse than what you thought they’d be
Signs of a toxic person is when they consistently and rudely interrupt you when you’re speaking. When they treat you differently in private than in public. When they gossip or talk bad about others. When all of their exes are crazy. When they don’t have any friends. When their stories don’t add up. When you ignore your intuition.
This video is good because it goes both ways. So many of this type of video make the listener seem like a victim this shows that everyone is responsible for their own pathologies.
watching this had made me realise how good i have it. i’ve had definite attachment issues in the past, but with my partner of over 3 years, i have zero of these issues. i am one of the luckiest girls in the world to have a loving, balanced and healthy relationship
I am in a toxic relationship.I have already an internal observer and I do a lot of things to get her out of my head.Sometimes it works.Thank you for the video! Really apreciate it! Please make more vids like this
I think it means for example thinking of someone instead of doing something you would do like going out or doing something around the house more than just thinking about them when you have free time
NEED YOUR HELP!!! what if she gets angry when you say to her you want to go to sleep and if you actually go to sleep she doesn’t speak to you for days and in general makes ur life hard ......and when u ask her why she said she was telling something important and she does this every single day ......I don’t know what to do ........
"People who like you will always try to show themselves from their best side." So, I don't like anyone and other people lie to people they like is what I'm hearing you say. If you want the relationship to work in the long run, hiding the bad parts of you is never good. If I like someone, I'm not gonna try to scare them off intentionally, but I'm not going to hide my personality and flaws from them either. I'm going to be myself, and if they don't like me the way I am then that just means we're not meant to be together because we don't mesh well enough.
Showed this to my girlfriend... now I'm single.
I think I should do the same lol
Me too I'm planning to show her😂
we're sorry for your loss, that's tough
Demon . . . MGTOW is freedom.
DemonKingNom right
Being forever alone is both a blessing and a curse
You put yourself in that box, if you say your going to be forever alone then you will be forever alone. Some might call it law of attraction but I call it common sense. Instead of saying “if” I find someone say “when” I find someone. Subconsciously you are doing things/saying things that cause you to potentially be single and not by choice. For example being negative on a date equals a girl thinking your insecure which equals no next date or never hearing from her.
Emmanuel Mensah true
My gawd you forever alone people get annoying
Emmanuel Mensah true
It's way better than being heartbroken trust me. Also before walking into a relationship you need to work on your self esteem and learn to be happy even by your own. I was pretty insecure and in that forever alone mindset when I met my ex and that put a strain on the relationship for sure and most importantly is making it so hard for me to move on right now!
If you notice them treating strangers better than you!
Great point!
that means the problem might be you
Definitely
😩😩 been there, now we're done
Yes
1:50 "People who genuinely want to be with you will always show themselves from there best side." What? No, that's totally false. Genuine people are willing to show their bad side in a responsible way and let you decide if they are right for you. People who ONLY show their good side are hiding something and that is surely the sign of a toxic relationship.
This advise is TRUE & INCREDIBLY ACCURATE.. THANKS MY FRIEND. YOU ARE THE REAL DEAL
Agreed.
Agreed. Bright side isn't always right.
BuT ThEy SaId iT iS tOxIc It MuSt Be tRuE.
What if my "bad side" might scare away the other person?
Well, nobody’s perfect. A key to a good long-lasting relationship is to accept each other.
Yes but their is a limit don’t be with someone who’s personality makes you miserable
I won't accept bullcrap just because I'm in love🤞
Not a narcissist
No. If someone loves you, they show themselves. Wether that be a sad side, or happy side
Love is blind
No. If someone 'loving you' is hurting you or making you feel like less of a person then it is a toxic relationship and not one worth being in. No matter how much they claim they love you.
Anym ikr
Nope. People begin to change their behavior and attitude to make themselves more attractive.
To an extent. For example, my senior year of college I was taking 21 hours in addition to my capstone project. When I didn’t have time to spend with my boyfriend he would become extremely upset and angry with me. when I tried to say it wasn’t fair to me, he said he was expressing his honest feelings. I couldn’t afford another semester of college if I didn’t do well enough to graduate, and was struggling to keep up in all my classes. And he thought “expressing his honest feelings” was more important than what I had spent the past four years and thousands of dollars achieving. I can’t find it in me to call that love.
*It’s sad sometimes we* _love_ *the people who hurts us*
Nope....we get hurt only from those whom we love
When you grow up in a toxic environment it just normal.
Hurt people that love us , love people that hurt us
Hurt people that love us , love people , I'm inspired , so get inspired .
Negging. Trauma bonding and stockholm syndrome is stronger than a healthy attachment.
Yeah right I punch my crush now she love me
Manipulation, over possessiveness, too much drama, controling, easily jealous, emotional abuse, easily flies off the handle.
Always seeking validation from people outside your relationship.
I think a lot of these ideas are wrong, never try to hide how you really feel, if you want to be with them all the time...then you should be them. If you are with the right person, that is what they will love about you. What other people might find needy or possessive is what some like in a partner, but I know others would hate which is why it's important to be with the right type of person for you. I have been married for just about 10 years now, and I am more in love with my husband today then when we met. We fell in love almost immediately, we wanted to spend every moment together, I moved in with him after a few weeks (which everyone said was a bad idea, but it felt right and i'm glad we did!) He can get jealous when other men flirt, but I like that about him. If you try to go by a playbook on how long to wait to do things, how often to call, how to not seem needy, etc. I dont think you will be as happy in the long run, because you aren't letting out your true emotions and you wont have as much passion
Good point, Kristal! Thank you for this wonderful love story of yours! It brings hope!!
I agree! The relationship I have with my current boyfriend happened quite fast, and after one month together we left to go on a trip, only the two of them. My cousin said it was way too early but hey I wanted to, and I don't want to plan things or say, wait I cannot do that because it's going too quick. So yeah. Anyway, I wish you happiness with your husband xx
Wow , so good
Well said the video feels like stereotypical cliche
I do agree with you..
Another sign of toxic relationship is your partner belittles you to others or talks down to you.
True but that's usually only AFTER the other person on the hook.
Not early on
I agree
@@barbaraherman5584 give examples
it happens to me lot , putting me down especially behind my back
I hate how the "Bright Side" talks to you like you're 5.
How??
😂😂😂
im glad they do, cuz english is not my native language, so its easy to understand xd
im glad they do, cuz english is not my native language, so its easy to understand xd
Thank you. Lol
I think the title of this vid should be "10 signs you may be a toxic person"🤔
usmale9112001 but then the toxic ones won't see it.
Alison Howton I seen it according to this I'm completely toxic 🤷🏻♀️
Chantelle Lay
me too!!!😩😩😩 ... thats why i stay single.. lol when i see some of these signs on myself with someone im trying to take serious, i take a step back & get out if it. It wouldn’t be fair for the both of us. I also want to be with someone i fully trust so, i don’t have this behavior come out of me. I noticed that a lot of women r like this with their partners; thats because they can’t trust them but still r not willing to let go.. so they make everything complicated on themselves. **reason is because most men cheat but try to hide it & show off they are a good partner.. I see it all the time & that is another reason why im so cautious/scared to just trust any “good man”. I need to work on myself & give a little more trust to some, not all men though haha but, i know theres a few good ones out there..
nobody would watch it if they called it that. most toxic people are blind to or try to avoid the fact that they have issues to work on.
usmale9112001 lmbo. Yeah seems like the "you" is the toxic one not ur partner
I’m so happy I’m no longer with my ex!!!! SO HAPPY!!! Worst relationship ever!! Extremely toxic! Thank god ! 👏❤️
Mathew Angelo same bro it was bad
I’m the toxic one smh
You are full of sh__! Want me to prove?
I was in a toxic/abusive relationship like that for 2 to 3 years until he left me with a concussion plus a misscarriage never want be in a relationship again. Thank you god for helping me get out and call the cops. Amen
💞
If someone wants to cut you off from your friends and family, you really better dump them.
Kitty Cat Sweetheart i wish my boyfriend wanted me all to himself. i want a crazy jealoys boyfriend.
dErPY DaWG please be careful what you wish for.
I just dont him hanging with a drug addict friend or slaving away to do his parents house work.
Cutting off and distancing are different tho, you should have said the difference. A man married man should leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife, his family.
And don't let her bs " you don't care about me and choosing them over me" arguments stop you. It's a ploy
There are 3 types of people in this world, One who bangs every one, two who bangs only one person and three who bangs no one.
BlaCkBurN truuuue
But maybe you can change from one to the other as you grow 🙄
Omg 😂
Haha my ex was number one
CosyLife most ex's are Number 1
All I have realised after watching this video is...I AM FU*KED!
Hopefully she change after you knocked her up or Marry her....😁
😈
Same
lol
FahadBaigTV No U are not just learn and change baby steps.
This comment made my Day...... Ha ha ha
As someone who's been in relationship counseling. I can safely say you can follow these if you aren't looking for a serious relationship. Otherwise. Drop most of them. Bright side is not certified in relationship or marriage counceling.
If to be certified means regurgitating what your teacher teaches you and gives you a bumper sticker after the years are over, you can shove that certification where the sun does not shine :)
Where are they “wrong”? Maintaining your friendships and family relationships? Maintain hobbies you like that support your well being? Maintain healthy boundaries? Pay attention to what people tell you about themselves? Notice how they treat others? Don’t break long made plans with close friends or family to spend every minute with someone you barely know? These are common sense and not controversial.
The answer to a toxic relationship? Love and respect yourself. Spend time doing things you love. Put yourself first and know that you’re single until you’re married.
If act single till ur married u will never get married...if u cant show signs of commitment in a relationship how will u show it in a marriage...I tell a woman I'm single till we get married means I can do what I want because we are not married even though we are in a committed relationship
When your partner brings up little things you do, that reminds them of their ex.
Anyssa Saavedra but that's not always the case it could be he just don't like the habbit??
😂 First time I gave him a bj he said his ex did it so much better. I should've runned away immediately but I didn't. Learned so much about relationships tho..
Run!🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️
constantly always being put in the same category despite all I say and do : /
She always does that and always did
You are scared everytime your partner comes home
Why would anyone still be in that kind of relationship.
Neng Yang because the person makes you feel like you're not good enough for anyone else. Manipulation at its finest.
Why is this funny to me 😂
Neng Yang Because you Can financially depend of abuser or have children together, etc. She needs to get out of it, but sometimes it’s not that easy.
noah stuart because you are weird
"do not lose yourself just to please the another person, cause in the end it won't be appreciated..!!!! "
Please don't take relationship advise from a top ten list go ask someone who has actually had real world experience...
This person probably already experienced the real world.
How do you know if they don’t have experience??? Plus maybe if people were actually paying attention there would be less divorces and more kids would be raise with both their parents together
i don’t know if you have had experience but i don’t know if my boyfriend is toxic or not.. my friends constantly tell me to break up with him. i’m not saying this video is right but i noticed that i do leave my friends to be with him cause he wants me to go with him. i don’t do my old favorite things anymore cause i’m focused solely on him. he’s never tries to fix any problems and i’m a little scared he might be cheating on me. but i cant leave him or bring it up. i apologize for things i bring up that i want to talk about, i ask him if he hugged a girl which isn’t a big deal but i’d ant to know. he gets mad at me for bringing it up and i always apologize, he’s never apologized for anything. i don’t know..
These videos can make you overthink as a matter in fact , not all relationships are the same
Exactly!!
I’m going to watch this video every time my emotions gets the best out of me
It's stuff like this why I'm glad I'm single sometimes...
Lulu Love but only sometimes ??😊
Lulu Love
Same
Lulu Love amen
You know what I think?
A lot of people which are here to watch this video in order to seek knowledge will have a good relationship one day, everything happens to the right time we need to be patient folks😊
If you have genitals then this applies to you.
Toxic, emotionally immature human beings don't often display any meaningful signs of self-awareness. This video is for people who aren't toxic to be able to point it out in others.
People who haven't developed mechanisms described in this video have to develop them over a long time or, more often than not, never change.
If only I could just forward this video to that person in our lives hasn't got a clue. We all have one... or three.
No, thank you. I love to love.
Or four.
Then you really have to start picking better relationships...
Exactly.
Toxic, when u say emotionally immature I would say the list applies to all relationship's( boyfriend vs girlfriend, wife vs husband, brother vs sister/brother, parent vs child).
When u also say they must learn skills or not change that is also so true....
I would add if they fail to change then minimize if not eliminate their effect in your life.
For a bad partner or family member or friend stop spending more time with them.
No one can afford to just walk away but you can withdraw so they don't drag u down as well Everytime you relate day to day. It works...they can only ask why or not even care...either way you tried, you've failed, you're moving on....
Got to admit I felled into a couple of these during my youth but I'm 61 now and got more wiser Thank you
Isaiah Phyfiher Anytime you want to give me a grammar lesson feel free
Isaiah Phyfiher he's 61. why does he need to worry about grammar?
Isaiah Phyfiher i disagree but to each his own
Wow where's the Love these videos are to help LOL please and everyone is entitled to their own opinion let's all have a Awesome day. Thank you
Jesse Merchant III
Isaiah Phyfiher LOL kiddo I guess ypu would get along great with my niece she has a Masters in English and doctor's degree in linguistics
Drinking. Bad temper, controlling...all things to look out for
my gf is all three of them.. god, how blind was I?? and how was I not realizing for 10 months that she is toxic for me?! so angry at myself
Well, atleast you have a girlfriend...
yup
but anyones paretner should never talk to thier bf or gfs back to thier ex or another person saging the spouse is just friends and date the ex or another girl or man.behind ones back
Very true
Gaslighting is a huge red flag.
Neavah Leah Skye,you got a lovely smile 😊!
I strongly disagree with having your partner meet your friends/relatives. I also never wanted to meet my bf's relatives until we're were very committed to each other. Who needs to explain to your loved ones what happened to someone.
Vllah But carefully.
I agree
Agreed, and sometimes introducing relationships to friends/family can lead to major backstabbing and heartbreak.
Exactly! You don't know if you want to make an investment in someone. Why introduce your friends and family to someone who you've decided you never, ever want to see again? You will be known as a serial dater, or worse.
I kinda agree in that this is very situational and there may be circumstances that limit when or if you want to do this and your condition seems appropriate to me in many contexts.
I think allowing your partner to pursue any Hobbies or Career of their choice is one of the greatest sign of Trust that is necessary in a Healthy relationship besides spending time together and introducing each other to their Family or Friends 😊
Shubhajit Panda dude almost called it quits his of this...his career/passion. Huh...I wonder why anyone would want to act this way if they Love someone...#thinks
Naturally this should be encouraged and fully supported along the way. It is also nice if these can be shared same interests, hobbies or career but I think separate ones are also important along with time and space and a full whole life that isn't just about the relationship is essential and healthy.
"Allowing"...😒
Miry Reina that's what...I was also thinking..
@*ALLOWING*@??
Allowing or encouraging ?
She hates me cuz i always do my hobbies, she get angry when i want to talk to my friend, she seeks attention, she thinks jealousy makes relation ships stronger but she got jealous over everything, she doesn't know the word "space" between couples she thinks i'm getting colder to her (cuz i'm an introvert)... Super toxic tho, she got angry when i can't chat her cuz i'm at school... Nah i'm done.
No. Yes. I bet she also says you are giving her attitude when you are just trying to talk to her...
Spaniard King i already told her what i feel, she still not accept it
Spaniard King Everyone needs time alone? I used to think that too because I'm a total introvert, but oddly, the relationship I'm in, we're never alone and my two past relationships I hated that, I felt I'd need my alone time, but now, I love every moment we spend together and he does too; we've talked about it. We share a lot of the same hobbies, so if we want "alone time," for us, that tends to mean doing things together away from other people and if we just need time to "ourselves," we just don't talk and do our hobbies in front of each other. It seems weird, but it's actually really fun. I just don't know if I believe in 100% "alone time" anymore. I know, it's probably just a lucky relationship, not the norm. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like I was just wrong before.
Get out of that relationship. It's not going to end well.
How did you get out of it? I’m in the same boat. Whenever I try to bring up the situation he starts hitting himself and goes into a complete panic. So I end up lighting up the situation by forgetting it. 😞
Had a break up 2 days ago.. Watched this video now i feel good being single
A bit wishywashy..
Basically says "Don't be clingy or too dependent".
You say it like that's bad advice
@@ShapurTheLegend some women or men love that about the other.
@@captainamerica7800 maybe but it's also dangerous if the relationship fails. And you should never rule out this possibility. I know people who broke up after they seemed to be a perfect couple for 15 years.
Thumps up if u are single and think that u would be single in future too but still watching this video😄😄😄
I actually saw it for research purposes, and no, I’m totally serious.
Serious about research?
Yes. All of these signs fit astoundingly well with the central relationships in Twilight and the Fifty Shades Trilogy, and people unfortunately buy into them, which can actually be dangerous. That's why I'm here, so I can show stuff like this to people and make them understand that this is bad, possibly even deadly for you.
Ahmad Sajjad Paracha not think. Know
Cuteasfk
Dude all of these are so true! I just realized I had been in one and I'm so glad it's over
Nuzie Maharafa i think I'm in one but I don't want it to be over yet
Monse Dorantes its hard to leave while you're in it, we like to blind ourselves to it and hope that things will change. Good luck.
Ya dude, i was in two, one right after the other, i learned a lot, now im with someone who is so so different.
yea, AFTER it all I find videos like this. You don't look for them while in them, they usually see your web browsing history
Nuzie Maharafa was also in one
they shouldn't ask permission for doing things on their own, but letting your partner know you're out or busy takes about 10 seconds. instead of ignoring them and not replying, tell them you got stuff to do.
You know when your in the right relationship,because that person brings out the best version of you,you grow with them and flourish,if they hold you back then its time to go!
I totally agree with you !
Kept thinking about toxic rick and Morty
It’s true. I have been in a toxic relationship and I was very blind for it. And when I did see I just couldn’t break up, afraid to hurt him after he hurt me for too long.
That’s why I like to add to the list: making “funny” remarks which actually hurt the partner.
Yalokivi Lotus YES
toxic relationships take 2 people
You might be the toxic one, because you did nothing about it. He made "funny remarks" that hurt you. Maybe you should've told em? Same about the whole " they don't know they are doing anything wrong." So what? You expect the person to change randomly?
I dont really need this info. Because im forever alone. ^-^
Lucy Heartfilia no way!
Same
Lucy Heartfilia u are not the only one #foreveralone
MARRY NATSU
Same here haha 😁
This should be taught in every middle school
Cognitive Triad agreed
LOL just got out of middle school
guaranteed they will see those same traits at home lol and their parents will not want to hear a word of it. they would probably call the school and tell them off yelling at them to stop telling their kid what good/bad relationship looks like.
I think it's important to let somebody know about your flaws ahead of time . it saves a lot of time in figuring out whether you're compatible or not . I'm very headstrong and stubborn and have a hard time being emotionally available . you'll never find the perfect person but you can find the person who is perfect for you .
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how do you deal with communicating emotionally? i know someone who is fine emotionally in general, but romantically, he's vacant. the problem is all of his friends said he wanted me as his girlfriend,. but he can't verbally or physically tell me. no matter how much i open up and coax him to open up the best i've got was, 'we might as well' as far as being a couple. id like to have more insight in that kind of statement because it made me feel i was wasting my time. if he can't be straight with me about his initial feelings, how can we ever talk about anything that might be important?
Sometimes people don't always listen when you do I know for me I started some years ago to tell people my flaws and "perks" and I do not try to force anyone to accept any part of me. A lot of my flaws I have worked on especially since I have gotten married and I know my flaws could be very bad for a relationship especially marriage
The thing that I learnt from this video is that being alone is way more fun...
This really helps, i think i'm on a toxic relationship, what's more is that we're on a long distant relationship.
F.B.I
Long distance relationships never workout unless you really meet that person n spend time with them in real life.
Long-distance can work but it's not easy. I've been in a long-distance relationship for 15 years and will finally be moving overseas with my love. Work and family kept me here but now I'm free to enjoy! We have visited one another every year to keep the relationship alive and viable.
It can work.
SOOLIN S Wow! I envy you ma'am, i hope mine works out fine too
MrNinjaGaming End this
yea it is really helpful
I like how Bright side talks to us as if we’re still kids
How can anyone fall in love with someone like this? To fall in love you need to be treated right.
Wish it was this simple.. People usually fall for the treatment they got from their parents..
What if the partners hobbies are getting high/ partying out ? Should I let them do their hobbies??
im pretty sure we've all been in that position where we pretend to be someone we're not, or at least code switching of somesort.. i mean the feelings may be real, just their true colors start to show later
People with these tendencies and that exhibit these behaviors tend to be very manipulative. They don't immediately show this side. They start to implement their rules little by little once you're already serious.
rukshani edirisinghe you should be with someone who shares most of your hobbies or have ones that don’t upset you. Seem like you are different people.
I’ve been with my wife for 18 months. I checked almost everything this video said except we don’t lose our tempers on strangers easily, we didn’t abandon our hobbies, and neither of us drink, smoke or anything like that. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, she is honestly an angel. We have a 3 week old son and we’ve been married for 4 months. In the most genuine way I can say it I never ever get sick of being around her. We’ve never had an argument even though supposedly they’re good for relationships. We agree on almost everything and we spend every second together unless I’m working. And it might just be my perspective that sees it this way but she reassures me it’s mutual. If my relationship is toxic I don’t want a normal one.
This video spits some truth. Number 2 is so true. Sometimes it's easy to be blinded early on and start ignoring or accepting toxic behavior. The truth is that they will treat you like this in the long run. All people are toxic to an extent the thing is what type of potion you create when you're together. Venom or Antidote.
I literally did all of these things when I got into a relationship with a guy I thought was a “prize” I’m so happy I went through this because I learned and have never loved and appreciated myself more. I realized that I’m the prize.
These are 10 signs you have low self-esteem, need better boundaries. ** SOLID BONUS ** And valid info overall. Way to use cute animal vids too, good job Bright Side.
Right these are traits of co dependency not narcissist toxic abuse lol. Usually the co depend is with a narc and acts this way because they bring that out in them. It's not healthy either, but usually when someone acts this way they have gone through trauma or are currently going through a trauma in the relationship. I don't see anything wrong with a someone wondering why you aren't communicating if you just got into the relationship with them..if the other person withdraws and you don't hear from them for days that actually shows you that you are not worthy and they do not value you and take you for granted. Yes people need space, but don't ghost people and make them sit around and wonder why you are not talking to them. This is something I just went through. I came off as needy and co depend, but I just started seeing this guy and we became official so why the heck is he disappearing so soon, not communicating, and keeping his distance. That's what people do when they are comfortable and in a relationship for awhile, not a relationship that just began...so yes my red flags went off. A sign of toxic relationship is gaslighting, lying, someone who never says sorry, and lack of empathy. My ex husband was this person, and I think my current ex lacks empathy and is a manipulator too. I would tell him he is hurting my feelings for ghosting me or for some other things he said to me, and he would never apologize or try to walk in my shoes. He would laugh and say I'm too sensitive and say you're crazy. That's gaslighting, a form of manipulation.Yeah that's gonna cause me to become a little toxic and get angry...I'm not taking this behavior anymore...those are the actual signs of toxicity. This video is more about behaviors of co decency which is in the spectrum of a person who is an Empath. An empath attracts the opposite person, someone who lacks empathy(narc or psycopath) and that person brings out these behaviors of co dependency..
I met a guy who called himself "a wolf in sheeps skin". I thought it was a joke. Now I'm scared to go on the date.
Yeah I did that before. He is telling the truth. Don’t go out with him.
yeah, he is telling the truth.
I used to be one of them sorry...
This was the best advice. So the ones that don't want to listen to the ones warning you through experience, this is the best heads up..Thank you
All of the above 👍
Let’s not forget lying and violent behavior, whether it be physical or emotional. Or substance abuse. Giant red flags.
A good example of a toxic relationship is Alcohol abuse 🥁
Holding hands apparently is being in a toxic relationship
I was just arguing with my boyfriend and come to this video and i just realize im in a toxic relationship.
The #1 bonus tip needs to go viral. So many angry people blaming everybody else for how they are feeling. It's so immature.
this sums up most relationships. there is no such thing as a safe relationship, romantic love is toxic but it can be fun if you want an emotional high.
*DO ONE FOR TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS!!!!!*
I don't know why i watch these ,
Even though I'm forever single
😥
I hear ya. Some of these relationship/love/social videos are tough pills to swallow.
- Ziro out.
Toxic relationships can prevent those involved from living a productive and healthy life.
This actually helped. It gave me perspective on my relationship, partner and also myself. Thank you for posting.
This is good advice especially for young people . Don’t give up everything for your bf or gf don’t spend every single minute together even if you have to force yourself to do other things and keep your friends !! You will need them again.
Every point resembles me and my behavior from the very first day of my relationship..... now I realize I was making my relationship so toxic.... it's so helpful thank u
All I've had is toxic relationships😔
This video is 10 months too late for Khloe. 🧞♀️
Marley Jade 😅😅😅😅🤣🤣🤣
Marley Jade you are evil 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Savage
Lol
Marley Jade i dont get it
Thank you for this.This is what they should be teaching in school
My partner sent me this because I often apologise for being too much at times.
"See, you got nothing to worry about".
He's so cool. 😊
Thank you for this! It was super helpful
I saw this to late, could of saved me some heartache😔 , but now i know
I'm roomates with a couple who are married and have a kid and are expecting twins they fight everyday the wife is a bit controlling and extremely jealous it's a very toxic relationship that was pretty rushed let's see how long they last :/
It's sad how we put another person on a pedestal. Always value yourself above all!
He left me after he watched this video. Thank you so much 😭
Glad that I've ended a toxic relationship at it's early stage.
Helped me become a better man to my woman thanks I will avoid all of this
I think you should do the friendship version.
Thanks for giving possible solutions to the subject matter
Tbh, , most of watever been said are spot on, , the huge subscriber base now makes sense to me.
Where was this video 4 years ago!! :(
Girls are often 'empty inside' in that they rarely have hobbies, they often idealize their partner because they want James Bond/ Prince Charming, and being chameleons they adopt their partner's beliefs and interests like a new outfit. Of course outfits do not stay new and few men are James Bond.... so most women are off like a butterfly to their next flower on what seems like a whim, leaving the man devastated, when in reality sound judgment was never really present. This is the reason/basis why females initiate 80% of all divorces.
Menstrel I agree that there are many girls like that but it seems that men are not interested in women with hobbies, interests, or even a personality. They don’t want any quirks- just be docile and good looking. Looks must be approved by his friends and family, and must not do or say anything that might rock the boat. I’m married now, but that’s what I experienced in the past.
Im sorry this has been your experience. Most of the women I know are not like this. Maybe its because I choose to associate with women who have their own identities. It seems so many men go after girls like this just because they are "hot". (Im not saying that's you). My advice is to look for a women and not a little girl who needs a man to validate her.
woman*
It’s been scientifically proven that being in love makes us less productive since romantic love is biochemically indistinguishable from having severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. Enough said!
This video is so spot-on regarding falling in love and starting a new relationship. With my advanced age I can safely say 'Been there, done that.' If I compare my younger self to now, I think I can safely say that I'm happy at least 90% of the time, which is fantastic.
My best friend overlooked what I saw in the guys she dated, but the outcome was always the same. Her boyfriends would go as far as to insult me when I called them out on their bs, but I'll never stop looking out for her and will remain by her side,f whether things are looking good or not so great. When we started high school, she was seeing someone in his mid to late twenties, and when she introduced me, I was instantly blown away by how much he spoke for her, instead of letting her have a voice. He visited her unannounced in person when she was of age, and complained when she wouldn't leave her studies to be with him. I told her he made me uneasy, and they broke up when he attempted to lure her to live with him across the country, away from her family.
Jealousy always ruins relationships. Trust on your partner . That's most important in a relationship
It’s hard to trust anyone nowadays...so go ahead and be blind...and see what happens...I believe you should show your love to that person and never be selfish and be considered to that person.
Trust them but not blindly; my girlfriend isn't a great talker and she expected me to believe she was with her work colleagues 0900-1700 and then drinking with them 2100-0200 maybe three times a week. That's 13 hours.....when she's not a huge talker.....and 13 hours the next day......add in 6 for sleep...19.. add an hour for shopping/cooking......half for bath....well how much time does the bf get?
Thank you, I finally broke up with my right hand.
Not a good video. I am more attracted to people who shows their bad side first rather than good side. They are some honest motherfuckers and i love them.
Vin Nie that’s EXACTLY what i do! I tell people about my baggage up front, so they know what they’re getting into
I’d agree but lol ummmm even if you tell someone you’re a certain way doesn’t mean that justifies the rationality of them being that way gotta better ourselves and also some make it seem like it’s not too big but later on dating them u realize they r waayyyy worse than what you thought they’d be
Signs of a toxic person is when they consistently and rudely interrupt you when you’re speaking. When they treat you differently in private than in public. When they gossip or talk bad about others. When all of their exes are crazy. When they don’t have any friends. When their stories don’t add up. When you ignore your intuition.
This video is good because it goes both ways. So many of this type of video make the listener seem like a victim this shows that everyone is responsible for their own pathologies.
How to breakup from a toxic girlfriend? Video needed brightside
You know that...just be single and none of this will happen to you and you won't get hurt 🤷♀️
If you had made this video earlier, I would have follow these and be a good responsible person.
Haryish Kumaran 😂😂😂
Haryish Kumaran Same
Thanks for supporting my comment
Same
Better later than never. 😅
watching this had made me realise how good i have it. i’ve had definite attachment issues in the past, but with my partner of over 3 years, i have zero of these issues. i am one of the luckiest girls in the world to have a loving, balanced and healthy relationship
I am in a toxic relationship.I have already an internal observer and I do a lot of things to get her out of my head.Sometimes it works.Thank you for the video! Really apreciate it! Please make more vids like this
Does that means that we shouldn't think much about our partner??
Maybe we should live our life... spending time with the partner but without forget that we have a life!
VIDEOS TO WATCH its okay to think about your partner if you love them. point is dont be obsessed with them.
Anonymous Speedster Thanks😊
VIDEOS TO WATCH actually, I think you should spend time and think about the people you love.
Not obsessively, but because they mean a lot to you.
I think it means for example thinking of someone instead of doing something you would do like going out or doing something around the house more than just thinking about them when you have free time
Everyone goes through “he/she’s the one” dudddeeee literally everyone goes through these.
NEED YOUR HELP!!! what if she gets angry when you say to her you want to go to sleep and if you actually go to sleep she doesn’t speak to you for days and in general makes ur life hard ......and when u ask her why she said she was telling something important and she does this every single day ......I don’t know what to do ........
This is actually pretty on point
"People who like you will always try to show themselves from their best side." So, I don't like anyone and other people lie to people they like is what I'm hearing you say. If you want the relationship to work in the long run, hiding the bad parts of you is never good. If I like someone, I'm not gonna try to scare them off intentionally, but I'm not going to hide my personality and flaws from them either. I'm going to be myself, and if they don't like me the way I am then that just means we're not meant to be together because we don't mesh well enough.