As someone with ADHD I cannot do this. I can kind of multitask but usually I am running around doing a bit of this or that but never effectively complete a whole task and never very productively. Sort of squirrel brain without follow through. I envy you.
@@jeffcullifer5629 Yeah, they seem to make me less obnoxious to my family but I honestly don't notice much improvement in my executive functioning. Of course that's my personal experience. I know a lot of people who find it incredibly life changing.
I can relate! We've finished our morning schooling for my 5 kids 8-10mos. Dinner is simmering on the wood stove, and I have a year's worth of baked beans brewing that I'll pressure can this afternoon. I've also begun my own YT channel pushing back on oppressive systems, and have my first MAGA insulting me! Time to respond to him and get that algorithm working to promote this new project! We get it done!
Multitasking is something I think a majority of moms have just adapted to doing. We don't just wear all the hats, we have a chaos ensemble with lots of pockets and a fun necklace
This is so affirming, thank you. I feel stressed and unhappy when I have to function in a way that you enjoy functioning. My brain needs to have lots of quiet, the space to meander, and time to process it all very very deeply. I wish there were more voices in the culture telling us to play to our strengths.
my brain would love to do a million things at once. But the truth is i can't get anything done that way. (I do have ADHD and poor executive function.) so i have to force it to get one thing done at a time. If i do anything else when i'm cooking, i'll burn the food or forget an important ingredient. But i have to do something else while watching tv. I wish i could do more but i have had to force myself to do less and focus on one thing at a time.
This is what I tell people when they say multi-taskers have ADHD...the ADHD brain lacks executive functioning and is unable to process multiple tasks and sometimes even one task can be daunting.
I am 100% someone who has to have an audiobook or podcast on while I am doing gardening or house cleaning or other chores, and if I don't knit/crochet while I watch TV or sit in a long meeting or class, I will start to fall asleep lol. I knitted through college also - I had to explain it to a few profs who thought I was not paying attention. This is literally how I pay attention lol
As someone who is very challenged in the executive functioning area, I can appreciate your ability to prioritize tasks & switch so quickly. 😊 And dinners sound very tasty!
Your ability to mentally shift time front to back 8:50 is almost the exact opposite of the time blindness I experience. I can mentally flip space and objects around, but doing it with time is amazing to me!!
this is one of the main reasons I never thought I had ADHD. I am hyper aware of time and scheduling backwards and forwards. I can't imagine what it's like for folks with time blindness
The lamb balls sound AMAZING. I like your discussion of how you didn't earn this, you are playing to your own strengths, and I appreciate your encouragement to others to find an play to their own strengths without feeling they need to match your process or output.
ADHD is mostly the OPPOSITE of executive function. ADHD is a spectrum, like everything human related, but lack of executive function is a hallmark. Yes we multi-task, but that's by nature not need - usually - as it can get in the way of completing tasks. There are many, many things ADHD people can be very strong at (memory, creativity, able to understand and recall complex things in detail, etc) but executive function takes brain chemistry that is deficient in people with ADHD.
I 100% relate to having this ability to multi-task. I'm a full time parent to a special needs child who I homeschool, I own a therapy business, I also have 4 different contract jobs with the state, I'm doing my master's degree right now, and I cook all my meals from scratch everyday. I don't know how to do just one thing...my brain doesn't work like that. And people think that is ADHD when in fact that is farther from the case. People with ADHD can't finish the multiple tasks they start and lack focus whereas multi-taskers actually do finish what they started and have a laser sharp ability to concentrate. I crochet too just haven't done it in a long time.
That’s not entirely true. ADHD is a combination of hyperfocus and inattentiveness. But, a well-managed ADHDer can be a highly productive, multi-tasker.
@@VariousAndSundryBee Any well-managed individual with a diagnosis can be productive. The point is being made for those whose diagnosis is not managed which is most people. Hyperfocus is not the same for a multi-tasker and a person with ADHD...ADHD hyperfocus is on the steps needed to complete a task whereas a multi-tasker is focused on actually finishing the task.
I think you’re demonstrating what could be a good outcome for ADHDers. Many of us come to diagnosis because we’re forced to be in a lifestyle that doesn’t suit the way our brains naturally want to go. You can be completely asymptomatic, not be on any medication with the right lifestyle, but that’s not accessible for most of us.
I relate much more to KC Davis, who did a Ted Talk on how to do laundry when you're depressed. 🙃 For anyone else who needs to hear this, "Care tasks are morally neutral." You're not a bad mother if you lack the energy to do all the things you are expected to do.
The reality is that it is very difficult to skill build in this area. Studies have shown that most folks who think they are more productive when they divide their attention are wrong, including those with ADHD. People sometimes feel more stimulated that way, but it doesn't always mean they're actually more effective. I'm not saying that you're wrong about your experience, just that a lot of people aspire to multi-tasking and it may be ill-advised, which I think you're also saying here. We're just all not wired to do it. I think we're better served having a functional society that spreads responsibilities out efficiently. There's too many things most of us are wholly responsible for. Driving is one of these things that are just insanely inefficient and too spread out.
Oh your last words hit hard -i know I have talents but I also struggle so hard with imposter syndrome -not setting myself up for failur seems sometimes like an impossible never ending fight against myself 😅
I have ADHD, and this level of workload is doable if the person with ADHD is hyperactive, a workaholic, and a perfectionist. (Source: I used to be very much like this.) It’s depression that has slowed me down as it destroys motivation. Now I’m experimenting with healthier forms of motivation to get my executive functioning kicked back on.
Girl, my AuDHD could NEVER! 😭 I can't even think and make eye contact at the same time. If I try to do too many things at once, I will constantly lose track of background tasks and ultimately crash and burn HARD within a few hours at most. I know you dont choose the brain you're born in, but I applaud you for all that you!
can I just say I'm so incredibly jealous?! I do have the boredom and need to have audiobooks or podcast on while doing any menial tasks, but unfortunately I don't have your Executive function… Luckily my daughter does and you remind me of her. She's another crunchy mom here in the Willamette Valley
@@ParkrosePermaculturebut giftedness doesn’t disappear 😉 and we are neurodivergent in so many things. More sensitive emocional and sensory, more rigide in some things as values but too adaptive in others like conditions in work, multitasking, difficult to be quiet, faster, creative, with great memory… I suggest reading “The rainforest mind” to learn that to be gifted is more than intelligent. In Portugal we don’t do tests as kids for school and we don’t need if we are adapted as I was. I only discovered with 39 years old. You described your mother and your grandmother. The condition is genetic as autism or ADHD.
aha your mind is quieter when you have more going on. That is a great insight (: I've always envied women with your kind of energy and wished I could be more like them. alas not the way I am in the world (: Your house sounds like a happy place.
😂 I was going to write to you to ask exactly how you do what you do like a sample day in the life of Angela. I’m almost sorry to get the answer!! 😂 I was hoping for some productivity tips 🤣 Anyway, I have to do me, like you said. People like you though find it frustrating to be around people like me though, especially in the work place. Not trying to insult you at all, I absolutely love what you give the world. I just can’t keep up with you!!!
How do/did you balance excellent nurturing of your young children with a personal need to multitask for extended periods? The parents I know who are ultra busy also have children that I notice are hungry to be emotionally attuned to. These children, I observe, also become very busy people, because that is rewarded with attention from their parent. And none of these folks seems to have much of an inner relationship with their feelings. Thoughts?
@@stephencody6088In actual classification they are the same but there are people with ADHD more hyperactive, more distracted or both. I’m a doctor and I have an husband and a daughter ADHD and the type is different. The problem with the brain is the same, the manifestation is different.
As someone with ADHD I cannot do this. I can kind of multitask but usually I am running around doing a bit of this or that but never effectively complete a whole task and never very productively. Sort of squirrel brain without follow through. I envy you.
I feel your pain. It's not fun and meds don't quite do the trick.
@@jeffcullifer5629 Yeah, they seem to make me less obnoxious to my family but I honestly don't notice much improvement in my executive functioning. Of course that's my personal experience. I know a lot of people who find it incredibly life changing.
I can relate! We've finished our morning schooling for my 5 kids 8-10mos. Dinner is simmering on the wood stove, and I have a year's worth of baked beans brewing that I'll pressure can this afternoon. I've also begun my own YT channel pushing back on oppressive systems, and have my first MAGA insulting me! Time to respond to him and get that algorithm working to promote this new project!
We get it done!
Autistic + ADHD here. My ADHD side feels this in my soul and my tism is exhausted just listening lol. The dichotomy of warring disabilities
same here
I'm so envious. I think my executive disfunction has been the biggest impairment from my ADHD, possibly more so than inattention even.
Multitasking is something I think a majority of moms have just adapted to doing. We don't just wear all the hats, we have a chaos ensemble with lots of pockets and a fun necklace
This is so affirming, thank you. I feel stressed and unhappy when I have to function in a way that you enjoy functioning. My brain needs to have lots of quiet, the space to meander, and time to process it all very very deeply. I wish there were more voices in the culture telling us to play to our strengths.
my brain would love to do a million things at once. But the truth is i can't get anything done that way. (I do have ADHD and poor executive function.) so i have to force it to get one thing done at a time. If i do anything else when i'm cooking, i'll burn the food or forget an important ingredient. But i have to do something else while watching tv. I wish i could do more but i have had to force myself to do less and focus on one thing at a time.
This is what I tell people when they say multi-taskers have ADHD...the ADHD brain lacks executive functioning and is unable to process multiple tasks and sometimes even one task can be daunting.
I am 100% someone who has to have an audiobook or podcast on while I am doing gardening or house cleaning or other chores, and if I don't knit/crochet while I watch TV or sit in a long meeting or class, I will start to fall asleep lol. I knitted through college also - I had to explain it to a few profs who thought I was not paying attention. This is literally how I pay attention lol
As someone who is very challenged in the executive functioning area, I can appreciate your ability to prioritize tasks & switch so quickly. 😊
And dinners sound very tasty!
Your ability to mentally shift time front to back 8:50 is almost the exact opposite of the time blindness I experience. I can mentally flip space and objects around, but doing it with time is amazing to me!!
this is one of the main reasons I never thought I had ADHD. I am hyper aware of time and scheduling backwards and forwards. I can't imagine what it's like for folks with time blindness
Im the same way. I’m not adhd and also same about the house. I LOVE this video and thank you so much for sharing ❤
The lamb balls sound AMAZING.
I like your discussion of how you didn't earn this, you are playing to your own strengths, and I appreciate your encouragement to others to find an play to their own strengths without feeling they need to match your process or output.
ADHD is mostly the OPPOSITE of executive function. ADHD is a spectrum, like everything human related, but lack of executive function is a hallmark. Yes we multi-task, but that's by nature not need - usually - as it can get in the way of completing tasks. There are many, many things ADHD people can be very strong at (memory, creativity, able to understand and recall complex things in detail, etc) but executive function takes brain chemistry that is deficient in people with ADHD.
I 100% relate to having this ability to multi-task. I'm a full time parent to a special needs child who I homeschool, I own a therapy business, I also have 4 different contract jobs with the state, I'm doing my master's degree right now, and I cook all my meals from scratch everyday. I don't know how to do just one thing...my brain doesn't work like that. And people think that is ADHD when in fact that is farther from the case. People with ADHD can't finish the multiple tasks they start and lack focus whereas multi-taskers actually do finish what they started and have a laser sharp ability to concentrate. I crochet too just haven't done it in a long time.
It is giftedness. We are a lot of time confused with ADHD because we seem agitated.
That’s not entirely true. ADHD is a combination of hyperfocus and inattentiveness. But, a well-managed ADHDer can be a highly productive, multi-tasker.
@@VariousAndSundryBee Any well-managed individual with a diagnosis can be productive. The point is being made for those whose diagnosis is not managed which is most people. Hyperfocus is not the same for a multi-tasker and a person with ADHD...ADHD hyperfocus is on the steps needed to complete a task whereas a multi-tasker is focused on actually finishing the task.
I think you’re demonstrating what could be a good outcome for ADHDers. Many of us come to diagnosis because we’re forced to be in a lifestyle that doesn’t suit the way our brains naturally want to go. You can be completely asymptomatic, not be on any medication with the right lifestyle, but that’s not accessible for most of us.
I relate much more to KC Davis, who did a Ted Talk on how to do laundry when you're depressed. 🙃 For anyone else who needs to hear this, "Care tasks are morally neutral." You're not a bad mother if you lack the energy to do all the things you are expected to do.
I am the same. So was my mom and a lot of my siblings.
The reality is that it is very difficult to skill build in this area. Studies have shown that most folks who think they are more productive when they divide their attention are wrong, including those with ADHD. People sometimes feel more stimulated that way, but it doesn't always mean they're actually more effective. I'm not saying that you're wrong about your experience, just that a lot of people aspire to multi-tasking and it may be ill-advised, which I think you're also saying here. We're just all not wired to do it. I think we're better served having a functional society that spreads responsibilities out efficiently. There's too many things most of us are wholly responsible for. Driving is one of these things that are just insanely inefficient and too spread out.
Oh your last words hit hard -i know I have talents but I also struggle so hard with imposter syndrome -not setting myself up for failur seems sometimes like an impossible never ending fight against myself 😅
I have ADHD, and this level of workload is doable if the person with ADHD is hyperactive, a workaholic, and a perfectionist. (Source: I used to be very much like this.)
It’s depression that has slowed me down as it destroys motivation.
Now I’m experimenting with healthier forms of motivation to get my executive functioning kicked back on.
Girl, my AuDHD could NEVER! 😭 I can't even think and make eye contact at the same time. If I try to do too many things at once, I will constantly lose track of background tasks and ultimately crash and burn HARD within a few hours at most.
I know you dont choose the brain you're born in, but I applaud you for all that you!
I would love to hear more about why your kids don't drive.
can I just say I'm so incredibly jealous?! I do have the boredom and need to have audiobooks or podcast on while doing any menial tasks, but unfortunately I don't have your Executive function… Luckily my daughter does and you remind me of her. She's another crunchy mom here in the Willamette Valley
Sensory seeking vs sensory avoidant
I’m so sure you are gifted…
eh, I mean I was a GandT kid in school, but I think this particular wiring of my brain is what my eldest kid calls "an undefined neurotype"
@@ParkrosePermaculturebut giftedness doesn’t disappear 😉 and we are neurodivergent in so many things. More sensitive emocional and sensory, more rigide in some things as values but too adaptive in others like conditions in work, multitasking, difficult to be quiet, faster, creative, with great memory…
I suggest reading “The rainforest mind” to learn that to be gifted is more than intelligent.
In Portugal we don’t do tests as kids for school and we don’t need if we are adapted as I was. I only discovered with 39 years old.
You described your mother and your grandmother. The condition is genetic as autism or ADHD.
aha your mind is quieter when you have more going on. That is a great insight (: I've always envied women with your kind of energy and wished I could be more like them. alas not the way I am in the world (: Your house sounds like a happy place.
😂 I was going to write to you to ask exactly how you do what you do like a sample day in the life of Angela. I’m almost sorry to get the answer!! 😂 I was hoping for some productivity tips 🤣 Anyway, I have to do me, like you said. People like you though find it frustrating to be around people like me though, especially in the work place. Not trying to insult you at all, I absolutely love what you give the world. I just can’t keep up with you!!!
Row city rollers!! Wooo
How do/did you balance excellent nurturing of your young children with a personal need to multitask for extended periods? The parents I know who are ultra busy also have children that I notice are hungry to be emotionally attuned to. These children, I observe, also become very busy people, because that is rewarded with attention from their parent. And none of these folks seems to have much of an inner relationship with their feelings. Thoughts?
I need that pot pie recipe
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So you made your ADD work for you? Because that's what it sounds like. My friend Aaron is the same way.
She said in the video she is not ADHD
@delicadacomoumelefante A) It's a joke B)ADD and ADHD aren't the same
@@stephencody6088In actual classification they are the same but there are people with ADHD more hyperactive, more distracted or both. I’m a doctor and I have an husband and a daughter ADHD and the type is different. The problem with the brain is the same, the manifestation is different.