I haven’t watched all of this but I have a daughter who is 9 and is extremely sensitive. When we have family gathering, go out in crowds that are loud, loud TV, loud events… she will literally break down. Eyes start rolling and she collapses. At first my family would rail into me how spoiled she is and I need to discipline her more. But I knew something was up. She’s very aware of other peoples comforts and will help them. She wakes up in the morning before everyone else because it’s quiet and she can do her art. She’s extremely creative and intelligent. Now before events or large gatherings, we have her bring headphones and I also encourage her to go to a quiet spot and do what helps her feel better. It takes work to remember to remind her to self regulate. She’s young but we are getting through it! Phew 😅
Many people that have HSP also have undiagnosed CPTSD. I grew up with loving parents, but they didn't have good communication or emotional regulation skills. They never physically abused me or belittled me. But when they were upset they didn't handle it well; even though they didn't direct their anger toward me. They were often passive, passive aggressive, and aggressive when they communicated when they were stressed. I can't remember my parents ever calling me names or anything like that. So, I never thought I had early childhood traumas. But I later realized I did have CPTSD and childhood traumas that put me in fight or flight mode a lot because I didn't want to upset my parents. I've been in trauma therapy for over a year and I am about ready to leave because I don't need it anymore. I also did EMDR therapy too. The Body Keeps the Score was the best book for me. I know some people have suffered narcissistic abuse and books on that topic are helpful to them as well. My mom would usually leave the room and not talk to me and avoid things when she got upset, so I was on edge a lot to try not to upset her. She was really sensitive to noise, smells, sights etc. I became sensitive as well and for my first 30 years of life I was extremely sensitive. I have switched college classes because a professor was making a sound that bugged me a lot. I have left movie theaters and plays a few times because someone is breathing loud or jiggling their foot. I used to notice the sound of every single plane that flew above me. But then I did trauma therapy and EMDR and I saw about a 80%-90% improvement in my sensitivity; and I don't have issues with being sensitive anymore. I meditate weekly and that is about all I do now to regulate my sensitivity. But for a while when things were bad - yoga, massages, cognitive behavioral therapy, and daily breathing practices really helped me improve and become in tune with my body and my fight or flight senses. It took a lot of practice to get to where I am today, but I can honestly say I overcame my symptoms and have learned how to regulate myself. Childhood trauma isn't just physical abuse or life threatening situations. I used to assume that is what it was but I was wrong. It can be caused by many things, including your parents not having strong communication skills or emotional regulation skills. If anyone feel debilitated by their sensitivity to the point where they have to drop out of a class or leave situations - then I recommend researching childhood trauma and trauma informed therapy.
Thank you for sharing your experience, and I'm glad that therapy has helped you. This is incredibly enlightening to me, who grew up with a verbally abusive / emotionally distant parent (but no physical violence was involved). I never considered that traumatic because it didn't feel "bad enough," but your comment makes me reconsider. Good healing to both of us :)
I am naturally sensitive anyway but growing up in a home environment that sounds similar to yours has definitely heightened it, especially in even slightly intense situations.
00:00 introduction 00:43 outline -THE CONCEPT AND IT'S MRASUREMENTS - 01:08 D. O. E. S. 04:15 two strategies in behavior of species 06:35 negative frequency dependent /SPS will always be a minority 07:24 history of development the concept SPS 13:43 what SPS is NOT 15:09 study developing the SPS scale 19:10 distinguishing SPS from introversion and neuroticism 21:41 new developments of HSP scale: three subfactors 23:37 category or continuous dimension? 24:33 high, medium and low sensitivity 26:06 12 items measure for older and adolescent children 26:21 improving measurements of Depth of processing - DIFFERENTIAL SUSCEPTIBILITY - 27:35 does SPS interact with effects of childhood environment to predict Negative Affectivity 28:14 tentative interaction model haven't finished watching yet but will update once I do - hopefully some other people will find this helpful as well
Ajmal M U hey, I noticed you writing “a.m.” instead of “am” while speaking of yourself. Just out of curiosity, is this because you’d perceive it as blasphemous to write it out the same way that God calls himself? And if not, would you mind explaining? Thanks :)
Welcome to the family! Dr. Aron's book helped me a lot. We learn how to avoid overstimulation and to get enough sleep, for example. I tell my non-HSP friends that I love them but can't shop or socialize as much because it tires me out. 🌹
I am a highly sensitive man the most difficult was both my parents didnot know what Sensitive is ,they sucked my energy at all forced to crowded and overstimulated school classes later unhealthy jobs trapped a relationship with a narcissist wife and ended divorce , had depression, anxiety and low self esteem discovered my sensitive trait in 2017 I am 35 that means I was suffering since I was 5
Who else felt bad for her, when Elaine, took her watch off? 😂 We, (hsp folk), knew she took it off for her audience. She thought, the fact, she checked the time, would make her seem rushed or insincere. Does'nt all of this just blow in a way? I love helping people, but I am pushed away a lot. After you do a deep dive with someone, we think, it brought us closer to that person, it did for us!😂😂😂 We make others feel weird sometimes, we put up mirrors, and that part sucks, for them, so they push us away. Who wants swim in the deep when you can swim in shallow and not get eaten. We do, we swim there, because even though painful, its beautiful and, important, and we want to be in on the knowing, in on the healing! Thank you Shari, for being an hsp, that cared enough to birth this truth for us all! God bless you! ( HIGHLY SPIRITUAL)! 😂😂😂
You are quite welcome. This was videotaped by me at Elaine's request. It was originally just for professionals, but I had her permission to put it on TH-cam so that it would be available to all.
@@Shari225 I am so grateful! Im 57, an enfp, and have just learned about hsp, and hss, and Myers briggs. I am so happy to know, that I am not alone!! I really thought something was kinda wrong with me. I do have an interest in healing humanity, I hate injustice. My father was a narcissist, he was a minister, my mother was almost angelic, she passed when I was 19. It has been a very bumpy ride for this hsp gal. I do run on hope, even if I have to cry my way there everyday! 😂 Thank you again, Shari! Sincerely, Barbara
I hate the sound of a ring in phone. It over stimulates me. Freeways and cities, a tv that is to loud sends me through the roof instantly. Cannot take crowds for the same reason. Every time I go out on a crowd, I think, " this is exactly why I don't go out. Its very peopley." Last year I bough an rv and moved into it so I can travel to remote places.
In my case, it isn't that every sound stimulates me-just lots of them. I found that white noise, antistress music for cats is totally fine with me as is lots of classical music. However, start a mixer and just like our cat, I will run from the kitchen or at least plug my ears. Crowds for me are big no, not just because of the noise, but also smell and movement(i react to too much movement too.)
So grateful for your work which has helped me understand myself in adulthood. I am now working with HSPs and specifically children to support their self understanding and energy strategies.
Grateful for this! I have a friend who told me to slow down when speaking the other day. She said she has a processing difficulty. I want to understand this better for her and for myself. I personally have noticed things about myself but I'm not sure what it all means. I noticed when I am out in public too long I become agitated. Once I am home, I feel completely drained and need time to myself to recoup. I also become frightened by loud sounds to the point where my pulse rises and my heart seems to pound harder. I cannot stand repetitive noises such as someone clicking a ball point pen over and over. Just little things like that. Not sure if those fit with sensory sensitivities but I'm hoping this video can clarify.
Sounds just like me! Everything is too loud! Shuffling feet, I could write a book just on noise s that ma angry! I can only describe noise as a lightening bolt… shutting down any thought process I had. …..angers me! Sad part to our dilemma is……..so many people are losing their hearing due to amplified entertainment/music etc Think most of us HSP are unable to tune out bk gd noises……hearing all the layers separately. Bright lights! Array of bright colors ….screaming, repetitive vocals! How great it would be if groceries would open at seven with no music for one hour!?? Or …….restaurants with soft instrumental music! Ahhhh, those were the days! Be safe ya’ll
This is really warming me to the concept. When I first started hearing and reading about the condition I was skeptical because I thought: if this is something that anyone can self-diagnose, how legitimate can it be? But hearing her lay it out, she shows a more solid background than I had supposed. I still tend to see my sensitivity in a more negative way but I don't know if I still think it's merely a disability. I guess it's a combination of ability and disability balancing each other.
At many times people equates HSP to empath and forget the sensory part. And this is a HUGE part. When a HSP is conscious about it, life gets easier. Not kidding. For example: I can’t with bright places, I only use indirect lights. The wind (which I love) gives me headaches after a while. Strong smells kill me 🤢. And ai live in a 6 million people city. I am often very exhausted.
This. I agree so much, I believe the term HSP is often very romanticised, but the day to day experience is what you describe (I relate to all of that). Life starts to improve significantly once you know about things like these (instead of the aetheric debates about empaths that leave things at that).
Thank you for this precious info! I haven’t yet heard of sensitivity and hormonal changes for women’s. There isn’t much topic on the subject and I would really be interested in finding out how much more women feel and suffer these changes due to their sensitivity...
Hello, Gibbons! I am 73 and my matetnal grandmother was a Gibbons. Her father was an Irish immigrant who settled in Wisconsin. I have these sensitivities. I am sensitive to the gravelly voice of Dr Aron. She occasionally has a resonant voice, but mostly she gravels it up to the point it is difficult to listen to. My biggest sensitivity is to sound.
21:31 “We do well in bright light.” I have never been happier than when we moved into an apartment with big windows and lots of natural light. I keep the window shades open all the time because the light makes me so happy. And I have always found my mood dips in the winter when the days got shorter. I always thought I was just making that up, or that I should toughen up and “just be like everyone else”. 😳
I'm an HSP. I don't do well in bright light at all. I avoid going out into the bright sunlight of summer - it hurts my eyes and gives me headaches. I have daylight-balanced lighting in all the rooms in my home, so winters are not mood changers for me. (There is a wide spectrum as to what is sensitive for an HSP.) Hang in there - you will never be "like everyone else". The world needs us as we are.
Yeah, I can also relate to the photosensitivity. I have had chronic headaches/migraines since I was a kid, and have had little success controlling them after trying dozens of medications/treatments. The one time I do close the window shades is in the late afternoon when the sun is low and shines directly into the apartment. It hurts my head to look at, and can sometimes trigger or worsen migraines.
Thank you SO much for your research!!! As an HSP, to say it means a lot to me is a gross understatement. PS though, did anybody else notice how jarring it was when she said THANK YOU at the end?! Lol The sound came out of my earbuds really loudly on the left side - made me JUMP!!! Lol Obviously not intentional, but I thought it was hilarious as the talk I had just heard was about being highly sensitive to stimuli. 😂💕🙏
I think working in highly overstimulated, environment, with a mass of loud messy sounds, and a lot of people passing by, stressful phones, everyday, for a long period of time. Without any possibility to take breaks when needed, so you burnout, also can, have an impact on our brains, if one already have or are HSP-type. And that will break you down more into becoming "overly" sensitive to much more than you were, before that workplace with 70-90 db for 8h a day. Still cant stand loud noice, more than short periods, before that job, I had no problem with noicy places or to crowded spaces. So whats what. Great to listen to. Always been very reflecting, not only on myself, but on others and surroundings/could be wind lights shadows small shifts aestethic sensitive yes, aso. Quick in seeing patterns. Long time for processing most things, mostly called mild and easy to be with, calm inner, and calming effect on others, seldom angry (before to many judgers came into my life) very patient, rich inner life, easy to pick up shifts in others, and in the environment, yes. Easy to go into deep meditation, and easy to hypnotise, and go into altered states, and easy to get back without losing myself. Both social, and need alone time. Thank you for uploading.
My very first years of childhood were good ones. As a whole. The f was known to be something unusual. Thank you. A person should be compared with herself ,n not others within many fields of life .
Was wonderful if I had this but don't think I do. I have no problem with crowds, noise, chaos etc when it's outside. Certain people spark me off. Make me rage and lose energy. I might be overstimulatd by music etc and to situational awareness. For example if someone is sneaking up behind me or doing it quickly I usually turn quickly in a defensive position. I don't plan to do it I just do it. No fear, no startled.
Hi Shari, I have not watched Elaine’s videos yet that you’ve posted, so I apologize if this info is discussed. Curious to know if she has ever spoken of a correlation between HSP and bipolar disorder?
Not to my knowledge. All she has said is that it is quite possible to have any disorder on top of being an HSP. This video goes quite deeply into the research regarding HSPs.
We are here for a reason fellow friends ♥️ Listen to your body and be more mindful of the “little things” and you will reach some clarity. Not in knowing all the answers, but alas knowing you are NOT ALONE and are here for a reason. LOVE>FEAR
This is amazing, she even mentions concepts that I never realized are related to sensory processing sensitivity, like preferring to research & investigate before taking action, and preferring to “do something once and do it right” rather than taking many tries/chances. Also interesting how -every one of the HSP’s that she interviewed brought up spirituality without being prompted. -she mentions HSP’s do better with sunlight and struggle more in the winter Amazing talk!🩷
Anyone got recommendations for those of us who've experienced the more negative affects of this trait? I.e. alcoholism, high risk sexual behavior, low self-worth, Relational issues, depression, etc?
These negative effects would only possibly occur if you had any adverse childhood experiences & developed cptsd. Trauma informed therapy should be looked into. There are many good trauma books such as, "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk or Complex PTSD: From Surving To Thriving" by Pete Walker.
My wife is HSP ... the jury is still out on whether or not she is also AvPD (I'm convinced she is) I read that HSP's that grow up in dysfunctional home will probably acquire AvPD. Online testing for HSP and AvPD produced the same almost unanimous results (like 21 out of 23 or 23 out of 25) Anyone with any insight with a connection between HSP and AvPD..
I grew up with loving parents, but they didn't have good communication or emotional regulation skills. They never physically abused me or belittled me. But when they were upset they didn't handle it well even though they didn't direct their anger toward me. They were often passive, passive aggressive, and aggressive when they communicated when they were stressed. I can't remember my parents ever calling me names or anything like that. So, I never thought I had early childhood traumas. But I later realized I did have CPTSD and childhood traumas that put me in fight or flight mode a lot because I didn't want to upset my parents. I've been in trauma therapy for over a year and I am about ready to leave. I also did EMDR therapy too. The Body Keeps the Score was the best book for me. I know some people have suffered narcissistic abuse and books on that topic are helpful to them as well. My mom would usually leave the room and not talk to me and avoid things when she got upset, so I was on edge a lot to try not to upset her. She was really sensitive to noise, smells, sights etc. I became sensitive as well and for my first 30 years of life I was extremely sensitive. But then I did trauma therapy and EMDR and I saw about a 80%-90% improvement in my sensitivity and I don't have issues with being sensitive anymore. I meditate weekly and that is about all I do now to regulate my sensitivity. But for a while when things were bad yoga, massages, and daily breathing practices really helped me improve and become in tune with my body and my fight or flight senses. It took a lot of practice to get to where I am today, but I can honestly say I overcame my symptoms and have learned how to regulate myself.
too many pronouns makes it harder to follow ("it" - which "it" the last one? the one before??). segue from one thought to another and from one sub-topic to another is choppy and confusing. manner of speaking is almost "stream of consciousness" not conducive to teaching. I resigned after 12 minutes....
I am sensitive to the cadence of speech. Especially if “you know” is used frequently or the message is delivered in a sing-song fashion with each sentence ending on the up curve. Dear Lord! I hope ya’ll understood this!
Things I took from this. 1. She admits to being outside of a parental mentality 2. She believes hsp are more in tune with their kids 3. She feels HSP shouldn't have children unless they have help. Kinda want to slap here...
I knew I was highly sensitive, or, rather, highly conscious. I was aware of many things at 5 years old that I realized no one else was aware of or even thought about. I’ve been a deep thinker. People in general don’t have the attention span to listen to the concepts I’ve observed and validated my entire life. It frustrates me. I literally cannot stand most of the human inhabitants of this planet. They’re mostly delusional and highly conflicted.
I haven’t watched all of this but I have a daughter who is 9 and is extremely sensitive. When we have family gathering, go out in crowds that are loud, loud TV, loud events… she will literally break down. Eyes start rolling and she collapses. At first my family would rail into me how spoiled she is and I need to discipline her more. But I knew something was up. She’s very aware of other peoples comforts and will help them. She wakes up in the morning before everyone else because it’s quiet and she can do her art. She’s extremely creative and intelligent.
Now before events or large gatherings, we have her bring headphones and I also encourage her to go to a quiet spot and do what helps her feel better. It takes work to remember to remind her to self regulate. She’s young but we are getting through it! Phew 😅
Your great parents !
Well done! She is lucky to have you as a mother 🙏❤️
Don't hesitate to teach her meditation! Mindfulness of breathing... You can do it with her actually...
It saved my life 🙏
Many people that have HSP also have undiagnosed CPTSD.
I grew up with loving parents, but they didn't have good communication or emotional regulation skills. They never physically abused me or belittled me. But when they were upset they didn't handle it well; even though they didn't direct their anger toward me. They were often passive, passive aggressive, and aggressive when they communicated when they were stressed. I can't remember my parents ever calling me names or anything like that. So, I never thought I had early childhood traumas. But I later realized I did have CPTSD and childhood traumas that put me in fight or flight mode a lot because I didn't want to upset my parents. I've been in trauma therapy for over a year and I am about ready to leave because I don't need it anymore. I also did EMDR therapy too. The Body Keeps the Score was the best book for me. I know some people have suffered narcissistic abuse and books on that topic are helpful to them as well. My mom would usually leave the room and not talk to me and avoid things when she got upset, so I was on edge a lot to try not to upset her. She was really sensitive to noise, smells, sights etc. I became sensitive as well and for my first 30 years of life I was extremely sensitive.
I have switched college classes because a professor was making a sound that bugged me a lot. I have left movie theaters and plays a few times because someone is breathing loud or jiggling their foot. I used to notice the sound of every single plane that flew above me. But then I did trauma therapy and EMDR and I saw about a 80%-90% improvement in my sensitivity; and I don't have issues with being sensitive anymore.
I meditate weekly and that is about all I do now to regulate my sensitivity. But for a while when things were bad - yoga, massages, cognitive behavioral therapy, and daily breathing practices really helped me improve and become in tune with my body and my fight or flight senses. It took a lot of practice to get to where I am today, but I can honestly say I overcame my symptoms and have learned how to regulate myself.
Childhood trauma isn't just physical abuse or life threatening situations. I used to assume that is what it was but I was wrong. It can be caused by many things, including your parents not having strong communication skills or emotional regulation skills.
If anyone feel debilitated by their sensitivity to the point where they have to drop out of a class or leave situations - then I recommend researching childhood trauma and trauma informed therapy.
Thank you for this comment. Can i ask whst kind of traima therapy it was?
Do you have any siblings? We’re they affected at all as well? How was grade school for you?
Thank you for sharing your experience, and I'm glad that therapy has helped you. This is incredibly enlightening to me, who grew up with a verbally abusive / emotionally distant parent (but no physical violence was involved). I never considered that traumatic because it didn't feel "bad enough," but your comment makes me reconsider. Good healing to both of us :)
I am naturally sensitive anyway but growing up in a home environment that sounds similar to yours has definitely heightened it, especially in even slightly intense situations.
00:00 introduction
00:43 outline
-THE CONCEPT AND IT'S MRASUREMENTS -
01:08 D. O. E. S.
04:15 two strategies in behavior of species
06:35 negative frequency dependent /SPS will always be a minority
07:24 history of development the concept SPS
13:43 what SPS is NOT
15:09 study developing the SPS scale
19:10 distinguishing SPS from introversion and neuroticism
21:41 new developments of HSP scale: three subfactors
23:37 category or continuous dimension?
24:33 high, medium and low sensitivity
26:06 12 items measure for older and adolescent children
26:21 improving measurements of Depth of processing
- DIFFERENTIAL SUSCEPTIBILITY -
27:35 does SPS interact with effects of childhood environment to predict Negative Affectivity
28:14 tentative interaction model
haven't finished watching yet but will update once I do - hopefully some other people will find this helpful as well
Thank you!!!
I a.m. an hsp ,I listened her this presentation thank God today I realized why I a.m. who I a.m....
I a.m. so happy ...
Ajmal M U hey, I noticed you writing “a.m.” instead of “am” while speaking of yourself. Just out of curiosity, is this because you’d perceive it as blasphemous to write it out the same way that God calls himself? And if not, would you mind explaining? Thanks :)
Welcome to the family! Dr. Aron's book helped me a lot. We learn how to avoid overstimulation and to get enough sleep, for example. I tell my non-HSP friends that I love them but can't shop or socialize as much because it tires me out. 🌹
I am a highly sensitive man the most difficult was both my parents didnot know what Sensitive is ,they sucked my energy at all forced to crowded and overstimulated school classes later unhealthy jobs trapped a relationship with a narcissist wife and ended divorce , had depression, anxiety and low self esteem discovered my sensitive trait in 2017 I am 35 that means I was suffering since I was 5
Wow so like me bro 👍walalo
same boat
Oh wow. Similar story. Hope things are much, much better for you 4 years later 🙂
We are happy ppl. Flexible. Easy-going. Strong-willed. Thank you. You are so exactly spot-on. Thanks millions.
Who else felt bad for her, when Elaine, took her watch off? 😂 We, (hsp folk), knew she took it off for her audience. She thought, the fact, she checked the time, would make her seem rushed or insincere. Does'nt all of this just blow in a way? I love helping people, but I am pushed away a lot. After you do a deep dive with someone, we think, it brought us closer to that person, it did for us!😂😂😂 We make others feel weird sometimes, we put up mirrors, and that part sucks, for them, so they push us away. Who wants swim in the deep when you can swim in shallow and not get eaten. We do, we swim there, because even though painful, its beautiful and, important, and we want to be in on the knowing, in on the healing! Thank you Shari, for being an hsp, that cared enough to birth this truth for us all! God bless you! ( HIGHLY SPIRITUAL)! 😂😂😂
You are quite welcome. This was videotaped by me at Elaine's request. It was originally just for professionals, but I had her permission to put it on TH-cam so that it would be available to all.
@@Shari225 I am so grateful! Im 57, an enfp, and have just learned about hsp, and hss, and Myers briggs. I am so happy to know, that I am not alone!! I really thought something was kinda wrong with me. I do have an interest in healing humanity, I hate injustice. My father was a narcissist, he was a minister, my mother was almost angelic, she passed when I was 19. It has been a very bumpy ride for this hsp gal. I do run on hope, even if I have to cry my way there everyday! 😂 Thank you again, Shari! Sincerely, Barbara
I hate the sound of a ring in phone. It over stimulates me. Freeways and cities, a tv that is to loud sends me through the roof instantly. Cannot take crowds for the same reason. Every time I go out on a crowd, I think, " this is exactly why I don't go out. Its very peopley." Last year I bough an rv and moved into it so I can travel to remote places.
Wandering Free any loud noise makes me jump, too. 🌲💕
In my case, it isn't that every sound stimulates me-just lots of them. I found that white noise, antistress music for cats is totally fine with me as is lots of classical music. However, start a mixer and just like our cat, I will run from the kitchen or at least plug my ears.
Crowds for me are big no, not just because of the noise, but also smell and movement(i react to too much movement too.)
So true 😀 wandering
Can I join you? But I'll stay on the roof cuz I really wouldn't wanna be around you either 😆😆
Good for you! RV!
So grateful for the work of Elaine N Aron.
Thank you Shari for sharing it.
So grateful for your work which has helped me understand myself in adulthood. I am now working with HSPs and specifically children to support their self understanding and energy strategies.
This was very informing. Thank You for your years of research on this Dr. Aron. It is greatly appreciated.
Grateful for this! I have a friend who told me to slow down when speaking the other day. She said she has a processing difficulty. I want to understand this better for her and for myself. I personally have noticed things about myself but I'm not sure what it all means. I noticed when I am out in public too long I become agitated. Once I am home, I feel completely drained and need time to myself to recoup. I also become frightened by loud sounds to the point where my pulse rises and my heart seems to pound harder. I cannot stand repetitive noises such as someone clicking a ball point pen over and over. Just little things like that. Not sure if those fit with sensory sensitivities but I'm hoping this video can clarify.
Sounds just like me! Everything is too loud! Shuffling feet, I could write a book just on noise s that ma angry! I can only describe noise as a lightening bolt… shutting down any thought process I had. …..angers me! Sad part to our dilemma is……..so many people are losing their hearing due to amplified
entertainment/music etc Think most of us HSP are unable to tune out bk gd noises……hearing all the layers separately. Bright lights! Array of bright colors ….screaming, repetitive vocals! How great it would be if groceries would open at seven with no music for one hour!?? Or …….restaurants with soft instrumental music! Ahhhh, those were the days! Be safe ya’ll
Prudence is a virtue...this is superb information .
You 're back. Thanks a lot. I 've always been noted for my sensitivity the same as grandma was. Never anything else.Thanks so much.
This is really warming me to the concept. When I first started hearing and reading about the condition I was skeptical because I thought: if this is something that anyone can self-diagnose, how legitimate can it be? But hearing her lay it out, she shows a more solid background than I had supposed.
I still tend to see my sensitivity in a more negative way but I don't know if I still think it's merely a disability. I guess it's a combination of ability and disability balancing each other.
At many times people equates HSP to empath and forget the sensory part. And this is a HUGE part. When a HSP is conscious about it, life gets easier. Not kidding. For example: I can’t with bright places, I only use indirect lights. The wind (which I love) gives me headaches after a while. Strong smells kill me 🤢. And ai live in a 6 million people city. I am often very exhausted.
This. I agree so much, I believe the term HSP is often very romanticised, but the day to day experience is what you describe (I relate to all of that). Life starts to improve significantly once you know about things like these (instead of the aetheric debates about empaths that leave things at that).
Thank you for this precious info!
I haven’t yet heard of sensitivity and hormonal changes for women’s.
There isn’t much topic on the subject and I would really be interested in finding out how much more women feel and suffer these changes due to their sensitivity...
Silvia Gibbons oh, I am one of those women and would also be very, very interested in this! Thanks for voicing the interest, Silvia Gibbons!
Hello, Gibbons! I am 73 and my matetnal grandmother was a Gibbons. Her father was an Irish immigrant who settled in Wisconsin.
I have these sensitivities.
I am sensitive to the gravelly voice of Dr Aron. She occasionally has a resonant voice, but mostly she gravels it up to the point it is difficult to listen to. My biggest sensitivity is to sound.
21:31 “We do well in bright light.” I have never been happier than when we moved into an apartment with big windows and lots of natural light. I keep the window shades open all the time because the light makes me so happy. And I have always found my mood dips in the winter when the days got shorter. I always thought I was just making that up, or that I should toughen up and “just be like everyone else”. 😳
I'm an HSP. I don't do well in bright light at all. I avoid going out into the bright sunlight of summer - it hurts my eyes and gives me headaches. I have daylight-balanced lighting in all the rooms in my home, so winters are not mood changers for me. (There is a wide spectrum as to what is sensitive for an HSP.) Hang in there - you will never be "like everyone else". The world needs us as we are.
Yeah, I can also relate to the photosensitivity. I have had chronic headaches/migraines since I was a kid, and have had little success controlling them after trying dozens of medications/treatments. The one time I do close the window shades is in the late afternoon when the sun is low and shines directly into the apartment. It hurts my head to look at, and can sometimes trigger or worsen migraines.
Thank you SO much for your research!!! As an HSP, to say it means a lot to me is a gross understatement. PS though, did anybody else notice how jarring it was when she said THANK YOU at the end?! Lol The sound came out of my earbuds really loudly on the left side - made me JUMP!!! Lol Obviously not intentional, but I thought it was hilarious as the talk I had just heard was about being highly sensitive to stimuli. 😂💕🙏
I think working in highly overstimulated, environment, with a mass of loud messy sounds, and a lot of people passing by, stressful phones, everyday, for a long period of time. Without any possibility to take breaks when needed, so you burnout, also can, have an impact on our brains, if one already have or are HSP-type.
And that will break you down more into becoming "overly" sensitive to much more than you were, before that workplace with 70-90 db for 8h a day. Still cant stand loud noice, more than short periods, before that job, I had no problem with noicy places or to crowded spaces. So whats what. Great to listen to. Always been very reflecting, not only on myself, but on others and surroundings/could be wind lights shadows small shifts aestethic sensitive yes, aso. Quick in seeing patterns.
Long time for processing most things, mostly called mild and easy to be with, calm inner, and calming effect on others, seldom angry (before to many judgers came into my life) very patient, rich inner life, easy to pick up shifts in others, and in the environment, yes.
Easy to go into deep meditation, and easy to hypnotise, and go into altered states, and easy to get back without losing myself. Both social, and need alone time. Thank you for uploading.
My very first years of childhood were good ones. As a whole. The f was known to be something unusual. Thank you. A person should be compared with herself ,n not others within many fields of life .
I envy that, but can i ask how you do you manage emotions like anger, pain etc.
Saumitr Sharma i have a very low threshold for pain . I do get angry when irritated , but not easily, in normal everyday -life situations
WOW 🤩 Thank you so much for sharing such important information! 🌞🙏🏼
Many fascinating insights. Thank you...
This was such an awesome presentation! Thank you very much!!
Thank you for putting this video up! 😊❤️
Love this information. Thanks a lot. Back here....
Thanks for sharing this
I would like to know if Dr. Elaine have done a research about what blood type the highly sensitive people have.
I don't think blood type has anything to do with it. She's never mentioned it. I'm 0+. How about you?
@@sharidyer4332 haha, I’m AB+
Let's ask people here! I'm also AB+.
Was wonderful if I had this but don't think I do.
I have no problem with crowds, noise, chaos etc when it's outside. Certain people spark me off. Make me rage and lose energy.
I might be overstimulatd by music etc and to situational awareness. For example if someone is sneaking up behind me or doing it quickly I usually turn quickly in a defensive position. I don't plan to do it I just do it. No fear, no startled.
Hi Shari, I have not watched Elaine’s videos yet that you’ve posted, so I apologize if this info is discussed. Curious to know if she has ever spoken of a correlation between HSP and bipolar disorder?
Not to my knowledge. All she has said is that it is quite possible to have any disorder on top of being an HSP. This video goes quite deeply into the research regarding HSPs.
We are here for a reason fellow friends ♥️ Listen to your body and be more mindful of the “little things” and you will reach some clarity. Not in knowing all the answers, but alas knowing you are NOT ALONE and are here for a reason. LOVE>FEAR
Love Elaine A. Thank you Will be back after midnight.....💖💕💜
This is amazing, she even mentions concepts that I never realized are related to sensory processing sensitivity, like preferring to research & investigate before taking action, and preferring to “do something once and do it right” rather than taking many tries/chances.
Also interesting how
-every one of the HSP’s that she interviewed brought up spirituality without being prompted.
-she mentions HSP’s do better with sunlight and struggle more in the winter
Amazing talk!🩷
I think HSPs are in a catch-22
Anyone got recommendations for those of us who've experienced the more negative affects of this trait? I.e. alcoholism, high risk sexual behavior, low self-worth, Relational issues, depression, etc?
These negative effects would only possibly occur if you had any adverse childhood experiences & developed cptsd. Trauma informed therapy should be looked into. There are many good trauma books such as, "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk or Complex PTSD: From Surving To Thriving" by Pete Walker.
So clear!
Thank you so much Shari
Con gusto!
The internet is fulled of misonformation so now I am just looking for science and research!!
Thank you
All the flowers have the soil on common.
Neuroasthetic. Is that what they called hsp.
Neuroasthenia. Sorry
My wife is HSP ... the jury is still out on whether or not she is also AvPD (I'm convinced she is) I read that HSP's that grow up in dysfunctional home will probably acquire AvPD. Online testing for HSP and AvPD produced the same almost unanimous results (like 21 out of 23 or 23 out of 25) Anyone with any insight with a connection between HSP and AvPD..
I grew up with loving parents, but they didn't have good communication or emotional regulation skills. They never physically abused me or belittled me. But when they were upset they didn't handle it well even though they didn't direct their anger toward me. They were often passive, passive aggressive, and aggressive when they communicated when they were stressed. I can't remember my parents ever calling me names or anything like that. So, I never thought I had early childhood traumas. But I later realized I did have CPTSD and childhood traumas that put me in fight or flight mode a lot because I didn't want to upset my parents. I've been in trauma therapy for over a year and I am about ready to leave. I also did EMDR therapy too. The Body Keeps the Score was the best book for me. I know some people have suffered narcissistic abuse and books on that topic are helpful to them as well. My mom would usually leave the room and not talk to me and avoid things when she got upset, so I was on edge a lot to try not to upset her. She was really sensitive to noise, smells, sights etc. I became sensitive as well and for my first 30 years of life I was extremely sensitive. But then I did trauma therapy and EMDR and I saw about a 80%-90% improvement in my sensitivity and I don't have issues with being sensitive anymore.
I meditate weekly and that is about all I do now to regulate my sensitivity. But for a while when things were bad yoga, massages, and daily breathing practices really helped me improve and become in tune with my body and my fight or flight senses. It took a lot of practice to get to where I am today, but I can honestly say I overcame my symptoms and have learned how to regulate myself.
Thanks for sharing about your wife's condition. After reading it I googled AvPD and it seems to me I might have it also, alongside my HSP.
Thx but i dont know why there isnt subtitle for this video in youtube
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Ever looking for people to interview?
too sensitive to listen to her voice :(
too many pronouns makes it harder to follow ("it" - which "it" the last one? the one before??). segue from one thought to another and from one sub-topic to another is choppy and confusing. manner of speaking is almost "stream of consciousness" not conducive to teaching. I resigned after 12 minutes....
I am sensitive to the cadence of speech. Especially if “you know” is used frequently or the message is delivered in a sing-song fashion with each sentence ending on the up curve. Dear Lord! I hope ya’ll understood this!
Things I took from this.
1. She admits to being outside of a parental mentality
2. She believes hsp are more in tune with their kids
3. She feels HSP shouldn't have children unless they have help.
Kinda want to slap here...
Needs some time to listen to the whole thing.
I knew I was highly sensitive, or, rather, highly conscious. I was aware of many things at 5 years old that I realized no one else was aware of or even thought about. I’ve been a deep thinker. People in general don’t have the attention span to listen to the concepts I’ve observed and validated my entire life. It frustrates me. I literally cannot stand most of the human inhabitants of this planet. They’re mostly delusional and highly conflicted.