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As a coach that works with couples, I don't agree that polyamory is "expert level" relationship dynamics, but just the opposite. Monogamy is actually "expert level" relationship dynamics. In fact, polyamory enables the behavior from men that you're speaking about in this video because with polyamory neither partner is required to develop the consciousness of how to be sensitive to another person's needs and also find ways to meet their own needs THAT ALSO meet the needs of their partner. The question with polyamory is why do people want to have sex with others or entertain others sexually outside of the primary relationship? Because in some way their needs aren't being fulfilled in their primary relationship. Instead of immediately searching for a strategy outside of the relationship, what is more vulnerable, in fact most vulnerable, is saying to one's partner, "My needs aren't being met in relationship with you" as well as to hear one's partner say, "You aren't meeting my needs in our relationship." That level of honesty takes tremendous courage to express in one's primary love relationship, but it is precisely that level of vulnerability that's required to create the relationship both partners want. That being said, it is possible to do polyamory consciously, however it is impossible to experience the depth of closeness and intimacy that is available in a monogamous relationship in a polyamorous relationship simply because every single human being has a finite amount of time. Whenever time and emotional connection is developed in the secondary relationship, that time spent could otherwise have been used to develop deeper intimacy with the primary partner. Lastly, many in the conscious community reject monogamy, but they do so because they only know one type of monogamy, which is the monogamy of the patriarchy. In other words, when monogamy is imposed as a set of rules (what can and cannot be done in or outside the relationship) then it's just an extension of the domination structure ruling our planet right now. However, when monogamy arises not from a set of rules but rather as a conscious choice made by two people to commit their lives to each other because they both truly see how a deep commitment is the #1 best strategy to experience closeness, connection, intimacy, love, trust, safety, security, etc, then the relationship is totally conscious and the degree of intimacy that is possible dwarfs that which is available in a polyamorous relationship. Thank you all for coming to my TED talk lol.
Spirituality is for a lot of narcissists a perfect excuse. Especially for a lot of men and i have said it about ferdi a lot. He is a narcissists per excellence and is using "the highest excitement" as an excuse for every action...
Britnee he really is this energetic vampire, he is a narcissist NO DOUBTS he is just ridiculous I am so happy that you finally got out of this relationship your are such a beautiful living being, so empathetic and pure soul ❤ wishing you all the best with your healing, no doubt why you atract all this vampires you are completely the opposite and they feed of your energy. All the best ❤
I've been there, being gaslighted by someone after they broke the agreements they made with me, and they're acting like I'm the one who did something wrong by being hurt. I'm sorry you're going through this. Good for you asking him to get out of your house! I'm glad you stood up for yourself and didn't tolerate broken agreements. ❤
He’s definitely a man child. Happy that you are free from him! Please reconsider open relationships. I hope you can find happiness with your correct match one day.
You are leveling up, love. This is one hefty experience, a testamey to your personal growth and ability to raise above it. Thank you for sharing, the vulnerability and sharing in the moment. All love, sister ❤
I realized that the he said he is all about his growth, for me it sounded more like he use persons to get the „growth“ he want and if he is not exicted anymore he leave them. Its all about his ego, not about the persons.
using excuses as highest excitement for actually his excitements of lower vibrations is very visible watching him and now hearing from you. If these weren't actually coming from the point of fear, unworthiness or all the other beliefs related to these emotions you wouldn't feel like you have been betrayed yourself, and as a person who also grew with a narcissist I wouldn't relate to this either. You are very strong Brittnee, and i hope you recover well ♥
Crazy to hear how heartless Ferdi moves. He can‘t even apologize for hurting someone. Thank you for your perspective! I‘ve disliked the „open relationship“ drama you and him had. Stay honest and I‘ll love listing to more podcasts of you
...and another woman abused by a narrcisistic guy.. i am so sorry for you!! been through the same, its horrible! the best is to block him and dont speak to him anymore. Narcisists will never give you a finish line, to their abuse.
Classical narcissistic behavior, fully confirmed in the actions, the words and the kind of unchanged behavior of his. You're losing excess weight pulling you down. Now you can be light and free and come back home. YOUR HOME, YOUR SPACE, YOUR AUTHENTICITY. Lots of love from Germany from a sister ❤
He’s still a child :/ I’m so sorry you had to go through this! Really harsh lesson around standing up for oneself. You are the most important person in your life. So glad you were so courageous ❤️ You deserve much better you beautiful soul! ❤️
A break up = a breaking out of patterns that are not good for you . Very good you are priority !! You love yourself more than you think ,you go your way !!! Lots of love and a hug from Europe /Austria 😊🤗💝
Thank you Brittnee for sharing your story! I means a lot. I feel you a lot. Your voice and vibration feel authentic and real. You got this. Sending much love and strength for your journey. ❤️
Wow. Followed Ferdi for a very long time, probably 6 years and am not in agreement with who he has become and how he treated you, nor how he speaks on pods lately. It's very narcissistic in a literal, definitive sense. Glad you got away from that and listened to your body.
thank you so much for speaking your truth! also going through a breakup right now and your words make me feel calm and good in between these storms of emotions
❤️ I relate so much, I also just got out of a relationship with a narcissist. The shame you feel and the guilt for leaving yourself to stay with them and keep on giving everything for this person.. it's a lot. Wishing you so much love and support at this time ❤️❤️❤️
I hope you heal from that pain and that you heal the root cause why you attract a man like this. Oftentimes the boring, normal men are the real gems 😉 You deserve a man who keeps your heart safe ❤️
I feel like the narcissist matrix is breaking. A friend of mine also opened up to me about her ex partner. Women we have to stick together and TALK to eachother! ❤❤ much love
Thank you for speaking up and sharing your truth. Listening to your story is so powerfull and encouraging, it makes me proud to be on the same timeline with you, creating a new world together. Thanks for taking responsibility and setting boundaries at the same time. Your response to what happend shows all your strengh and courge. Thanks for shining your light!
I have so much to say… yet I’m flabbergasted.(despite me also having a narcissistic & abusive parent and a narcissistic partner who cheated on me after 4yrs and I left him) - I really empathise with you ❤ it’s normal for us to fall into the trap of the narcissists… subconsciously it felt like home. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Wish I could give you a huge hug ♥️♥️♥️ it’s time for a celebration girl! You found YOUR POWER AND SAFETY AGAIN ♥️🎉
Britnee! Send you a lot of hugs and love for this moment. You have been through a lot and very rough things in that relationship. You are a strong and empathic woman with huge voice. Glad you came back to yourself and see the best of the scenery ❤🎉 the best is coming
Man...that fucking sucks. So sorry Brittnee 💜 This all sounds so so so so painful. I am a man, and I admire your vulnerability. To me vulnerability, emotional vulnerability, is strength, and you are right... many men don't see that and aren't willing to face themselves enough to hear the truth of a woman's pain, or really anyone's pain.
I see a lot of people saying that this is why you shouldn't do open relationships, but that's just weird(?): cheating exists in all kind of relationships and that doesn't mean you shouldn't do them. She said it already but I'll explain it again: In an open relationship cheating is when you or your partner breaks the agreements you have. He cheated on her, not for sleeping with the other girl but for not using protection (their agreement). With that should be enough to understand the breakup but there's also All the other things she mentioned. I'm sorry Britney you had to pass through this and thank you for sharing it. I'm sending you a virtual hug and know that Im rooting for your happiness ☀️
Dear Brittnee, feel yourself hugged (if you want to). I also experienced this and i hope you get trough this safely and heal from this betrayel. You deserve more than a „Man“ like this. Im sending you love ❤
Dear Britnee, I wanna embrace you, hug you, congratulate and celebrate you for these clear and authentic words and for you finally finding back to your true self. I‘m sorry to say but I just couldn’t stand your videos as a couple… I always felt his pretended „leader“like behaviour and his toxic positivity. I couldn’t follow you anymore because to me it felt so unreal and unauthentic. You calling him Peter Pan just nailed it. Finally now seeing you speaking I can „feel“ you again, coming back to your vibe that has been veiled more and more over the time of your relationship. And still probably the painful experience you‘ve made going through that has clearly peeled out even more of your true essence. I‘m glad you‘re back in the game you beautiful strong powerful shining starseed female leader soul ♥️ Sending love & hugs ✨
Oh Brittnee.. I send you so much love. I think you both went into this learning and teaching each other a lot. Does it look from the outside like you are enforcing strict rules on your partners and you are happy as long as they behave that way - but then scold them once they don't and they either let you control them or sooner or later break out and get back to themselves? Yes it does. Does it also look from an outside perspective like you are still dealing with your trauma towards men by repeating believes such as "this World is made for men so we have to fight so much harder as women" victim believes? Yes it does. I don't think it's funny that he said you have to heal your Trauma. It's true. Laughing is a defence mechanism when you are not ready for the truth. That is why I am sending you so much love. You don't have to control anyone but yourself, you don't have to mold anyone into your divine counterpart because like we see now, they will morph back anyway - you just have to be brittnee. And that will always be enough and just as equal as everyone else. Finally does ferdi still have a lot to learn as well? Absolutely! Does he spread any details of the relationship or any blame? Not yet. And I actually think that the more mature way. I'm not sure this podcast accomplished what you wanted it to accomplish and I prefer venting in a journal but to each their own. You are both free again and I am grateful for both of you sharing to freely. Again so much love even if it possibly doesn't seem that way because my comment is my complete honest outside perception. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing and making yourself so vulnerable. I feel so sorry while hearing all of what you are saying. Betrayal is so hard and being able to trust anyone again seems impossible. I send you some positive energy ✨
Brittnee, you are too powerful and intelligent, he was not at your level. Your intuition and everybody could see it but it was part of your path. I can't wait to see you expand even more! We love you!!!!!!
I see & feel your pain - you had a lot of trauma to endure during your life. Take your time to heal, sweetheart. You got this! 🌷✨🕊️ Edit: After watching everything and thinking about the topic I must say that you are very emotionally mature, strong, reflective and self-aware. You got everything to learn what the Universe wanted you to learn via this relationship. Sometimes we need the grounding and being thrown in the dirt by our higher self, like my mother would say. It's all to be seen as a lesson & learning experience. And I agree: He is a very big airhead & manchild. Please, never ever get back with him. Never ever again. YOU DESERVE BETTER! A calming, caring & responsible man.💯
Girlll. I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I am SO PROUD of you!!! I was in your shoes 3 years ago when I left my trickster man child lol; and everything you said here just felt sooooo close to home it’s unreal! Unreal how freakin boring and unoriginal these men are. You’re a queen. 💜💜💜 So happy for you!
Lovely Brittnee-I see you and feel you. I can relate so so much with such shit shows little boys play when they not able to handle their own emotions like grown up men would do it. You are ready now for a real man who feels blessed to secure the heart of a queen like you! Send you much love from Germany❤️❤️❤️ and at last: the pitty award gooooooes to…. (Fill in the blanks) 😅😎
i just want to meet you, make some cacao, dance, talk, laugh and go to the waterfalls. I feel you so much Brittnee. You are such an amazing woman and I feel you as a friend. THANK YOU FOR EXISTING AND SHOWING YOURSELF.
you are mature, he is not. and that s why you can't fully understand his actions, bc he is no a man, and he is not a man for you. I am actually so happy for you to have realized all of these and come back to yourself and your truth.
stay strong bb and indeed, we put so much effort to make things work. we should stop watering dead situations. love you, and i understand every single word as i went through a similar situation. take care of yourself, thats all that matters. it takes time bb.
This usually happens when all goes too fast and there is no groundedness in the relationship. I’ve seen it too many times. I’m glad I made it out of the hippie world 😅 and found myself a grounded man. I’m at peace now 😌🙏🏼
@@katalinstappenbeck9107 There are different opinions in this regard but you can find a lot of research about relationships with two narcissists. It is definitely possible. The dynamics are different because they both want to benefit of each other.
I've silently followed you and Ferdi for a few years, primarily because of veganism, but then I stuck around to try and learn more about your way of life. I'm really sorry to hear that it ended the way it did. I think you've done amazingly well to articulate the experience of both heartbreak and triumph. And I say triumph, because it's genuinely admirable when anybody is able to, in effect, stop the bleeding and walk away from something that causes needless and continuous hurt. Overcoming the tendancy to hang on for dear life is tough, even when it comes to things which are not healthy. There are a lot of concepts that you've explained quite beautifully, which apply to (potentially) all relationships and not just ones that are romantic in nature. For example, the phenomenon whereby our perception of someone isn't necessarily the same as who/how the person actually is in reality. It's commendable that you've openly, and honestly, taken ownership in your part in creating your perception of Ferdi. It's too easy to just dump 100% of the blame on the ex partner, yet you chose not to do so. Although it's ended, it may well be possible that whilst it lasted (or at least during the early days) it wasn't "fake", "unreal", or a "ploy". Maybe Ferdi's efforts were real in the beginning and maybe he did feel (at the time) that aligning to your lifestyle would elevate him to the best version of himself. Unfortunately, when a person's actions aren't completely in tune with their true nature (or I guess you can say energy), then as you said, it's usually a matter of time before they look for reasons (or rather, excuses) to justify acting in accordance with their instincts instead of honouring agreements. I hope people understand the importance of mutual agreements, mutual understandings, and promises, as they are an essential part of upholding and maintaining both trust and respect, without which no relationship can truly blossom. When one party later turns around and implies that any of the rules/understandings/agreements were imposed on them and that they were not mutually accepted, it's tragic. Brittnee, I wish you nothing but the absolute best. You have a wonderful future ahead of you, and I pray that as and when you are ready, the universe brings you face to face with the partner that shares your values, vision, and energy 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing. Do you think Ferdi was genuinely trying to change and become that person that you wanted to have in your life? Of course from an outside perspective we can only see the tip of the iceberg that you allowed us to see but in the old podcasts you did together, it always seemed like he is really trying to learn from you and transform himself.
@@Paczbro Why do you keep attacking someone you don't truly know? Please refrain from using medical terms as if you're an expert in psychology, it requires extensive therapy sessions to diagnose conditions properly. Also, remember that everyone displays narcissistic traits in various contexts, whether pathological or healthy. It would be beneficial to update yourself with the latest scientific literature and research before labeling people with diagnoses.
thank you so much for sharing this. just needed that so badly. as you said there are just too many guys out there, running around with childhood trauma and are not able at all to handle that in a healthy way. instead of that, they are still wounded childs caught in a body of a grown up. not taking responsibilty for their actions and creating an environment where you just can't feel emotionally safe. you never can be your true self around those guys because they will see that as a threat to their own personality which is just insane. had to handle a narc myself, badest relationshit experience in my entire life. had to laugh with you so hard at 21:10, just too delusional omg
He called the new girl around "wifey material".... someone called me the same once right at the beginning.... it did not end well. And I know one thing for sure: I never want to be with someone again who sees me with such eyes.... if u need translation B, just tell us. Some of your girls here speak german 😘😘. I feel you! ❤
Monogamy feels like the only way because so many people are not really and truthfully on the level to be polygamous respectfully and stick to the boundaries agreed to. Someone always seems to break them.
Brittnee.. i feel like you already once had the situation where a flatmate (i think during covid) broke your trust and "stole" your Boyfriend. I think the idea of community you have sounds beautiful, a group of people trusting and loving and sharing things but unfortunately it takes a very, very developed person not to only act from greed and self interest and it bites you back like now with trusting those people too much.... :( be careful especially in kpg which is full of hedonists and self interested people
When something bad happens to you (accidents, natural disasters, someone abuses you or worse or your child, someone dies too young from an illness etc.) it is always a reflection of your inner self? How can you think that? You are just trying to push the fear away from you by telling yourself that nothing bad can happen to you. But it's not the truth, unfortunately.
If you didn't want him to sleep around then you shouldn't have been in an open relationship. You expected him to be fine with you sleeping with others. If you truly loved each other so much then you wouldn't desire other people, this proves open relationships don't work.
Thank You! Yes, I‘m always amazed, that she always leaves out the part that she had multipe other men during that relationship. And I‘m 100% sure that it wasn’t just because of the condoms that she felt betrayed.
Multiple things don’t add up here. First: Ok, he broke that deal. Was it about possible pregnancies? Or STD‘s? Fine - wait for her cycle, get tested. As soon as he‘s clear and she‘s not pregnant, that should be out of the way. Or is it just an excuse and what was really going on was simple and straight jealousy? Nothing wrong with that, it‘s a very basic human emotion, and it makes biological sense to ensure a shared responsibility for our offspring. BUT to pretend that he can do whatever and just has to follow along certain rules that seem to have been quite unclear to him is a little unfair. I got the impression he really went out and about for her and more than once moved out of his own comfort zone, put up with a lot of pain, swallowed his pride to make her feel good. At the point that he was in May, when he fell in love with Céline, he was pretty much done with her already. Hence he could fall in love with another woman. He still tried to keep his promise to make it work but his heart was somewhere else bc of everything that went down the months before. From what I concluded she: threw emotional painful tantrums every couple weeks, insulted him, had another boyfriend living in the house with them for weeks, didn‘t allow flirting, had problems with his sexual acts or crushes, but gave blowjobs and whatnot herself on their shared „Play Parties“, while she got viciously mad at him when he was only slightly jealous. Second: She says she always apologized when she made similar mistakes. She told this story a lot different in other podcasts, saying that her (seemingly closed) relationships always ended once she had another man, (which she claimed she always had at some point). The men got jealous, couldn’t „handle it“ and that was it. No word about mistakes or apologies or that it could have been wrong in the slightest! Just her nature and very „future-relationship“-like. But if he does it - in an open relationship - it‘s betrayal. The double-standards and changing narratives are really mind-bending.
They were in an open relationship so of course she had other secondary boyfriends and he was making her feel unsafe of course she was throwing tantrums, everybody would! The fact that you are defending him is so crazy to me. Brittnee is much more intelligent than what you think. He had nothing to do with her. Now he is back with girls younger than him, great for him.
Multiple things don’t add up here. First: Ok, he broke that deal. Was it about possible pregnancies? Or STD‘s? Fine - wait for her cycle, get tested. As soon as he‘s clear and she‘s not pregnant, that should be out of the way. Or is it just an excuse and what was really going on was simple and straight jealousy? Nothing wrong with that, it‘s a very basic human emotion, and it makes biological sense to ensure a shared responsibility for our offspring. BUT to pretend that he can do whatever and just has to follow along certain rules that seem to have been quite unclear to him is a little unfair. I got the impression he really went out and about for her and more than once moved out of his own comfort zone, put up with a lot of pain, swallowed his pride to make her feel good. At the point that he was in May, when he fell in love with Céline, he was pretty much done with her already. Hence he could fall in love with another woman. He still tried to keep his promise to make it work but his heart was somewhere else bc of everything that went down the months before. From what I concluded she: threw emotional painful tantrums every couple weeks, insulted him, had another boyfriend living in the house with them for weeks, didn‘t allow flirting, had problems with his sexual acts or crushes, but gave blowjobs and whatnot herself on their shared „Play Parties“, while she got viciously mad at him when he was only slightly jealous. Second: She says she always apologized when she made similar mistakes. She told this story a lot different in other podcasts, saying that her (seemingly closed) relationships always ended once she had another man, (which she claimed she always had at some point). The men got jealous, couldn’t „handle it“ and that was it. No word about mistakes or apologies or that it could have been wrong in the slightest! Just her nature and very „future-relationship“-like. But if he does it - in an open relationship - it‘s betrayal. The double-standards and changing narratives are really mind-bending.
I'm confused too because the things Brittnee described here are the exact same things she used to do to Ferdi when she had the upper hand in the relationship: did as she pleased regardless of how insecure it was making him feel in the moment, and justified hurtful behavior by supposedly being more spiritually aware and advanced than him. Long-time subscribers will sure remember. Now that the tables have (inevitably) turned, I'm not sure how this is not obvious to her. I do empathize though, healthy relationships are hard when you come from trauma (Brittnee) or didn't have good modeling growing up (Ferdi, I think).
I don't know if u didn't hear Frederick's voice, but it's mire rhan ckear this dude is not a man he sounds like a child in voice and that shoul have been a huge red flag already
Queen is back ❤️ sending you so much Love. You are so wise and ahead of this Timeline. Everybody who has a Chance to learn from you is insanly lucky and blessed.
Wow- how manipulative this guy is - boom ...😳and the NEW women is a toy for him 😅- my Feeling told me stay away from this Guy...listen to your feelings - the head Plays tricks...dont let it happen anymore !! HONESTLY- you touch me much more now - than when HE was around !!! You have a pure soul- do not let it be corrupted by others false snakes🙌🏽💝🤗
Sending you so much love & healing Sister! ❤️ i feel you and you nailed it on Point with your deep scorpio wisdom - we know you will grow out of all of this as a new shining Phoenix Version of yourself and thank you, thank you, thank you for being so vulnerable thats a big Inspiration for all of us and we heal with you together! Much love to you and your amazing heart ✨😘
Omg this bullshit about mission of sharing sperm.. My ex also was on this mission 😅 I don’t regret many things in my life, but being with this pseudo spiritual narcissist I do regret every day.. I listen to you and I see myself in your story.. 🥺 Stay strong, you are beautiful! 💙
First of all - my compassion. That’s really sad. But I find it quite strange that you accuse your partner, who is a Reflector by Human Design, of changing in the relationship, or rather, of changing in a direction that actually corresponded to you. As a Reflector, Ferdi is absolutely open in his centers and is constantly conditioned by the people around him. You should know this best. Of course, Ferdi changes in the relationship. And he will always, no matter where he is and who he is with, always be a new version of Ferdi. That is one point I want to make. The other point is that I personally do not believe in open relationships at all, as they lack any framework to enable a sacred union between man and woman.
Yes dear, i totally agree with you in the sense that he reflects his environment. I have done extensive research on reflectors especially since dating him. 2 things: 1. reflectors reflect their environment and are chameleons yes, but they also have base imprints from childhood that influence how they show up the rest of their lives - just like the rest of us do. Knowing his family intimately i understand why he behaves the way he does (his family praised him for being the youngest and rewarded him for being the joker and happy child). 2. I have a very strong value system of loyalty and holding to my word and communicating when something is no longer working for me so this is not something he reflected to me in his actions in this situation (i.e., his behaviour was not "reflecting" me). Human design is the blueprint of how our souls created us in this timeline, but we also have to give weight to our actions and how we choose to have a lived experience. It's not accurate to say that whoever he is is ONLY dependent on who he's surrounded by - he is a very powerful soul (more than people realize) so this would be an excuse in my opinion.
32:30 as long as you need a man to create safety around you, you will feel unsafe. It comes from within never from outside. Also the whole "men provider - women nurturer" dynamic is so exclusive of the 90% of other dynamics out there. So tired and restrictive. You have the possibility to subscribe to every single belief structure out there and you choose the most archaical. Interesting choice. Would never be mine.
I can see right through you, it’s hilarious. I dated someone like you before and it’s a combo of borderline personality disorder and extreme narcissism. It’s scary stuff, I already feel bad for your next victim/boyfriend.
Why do you keep attacking someone you don't truly know? Please refrain from using medical terms as if you're an expert in psychology, it requires extensive therapy sessions to diagnose conditions properly. Also, remember that everyone displays narcissistic traits in various contexts, whether pathological or healthy. It would be beneficial to update yourself with the latest scientific literature and research before labeling people with diagnoses.
@@cotteneyebill74747No one is just one thing or the other. Please don't be so harsh on yourself. :) Diagnoses and name-calling are not useful for anyone. They merely put people in boxes and make us feel good about ourselves by eliminating the fear and threat we perceive from them for whatever reason. If you feel that, this is probably something to look into and work on within yourself.😉 I have a good alternative I can humbly suggest, which may support you in some way: There is a reason why you found yourself here on this channel. You want to learn, or you are simply curious for whatever reason. While listening, you might think, "Oh, I don't agree with her on this point; I see/experience it differently," or even, "Oh, I think she isn't being 100% true to herself here; I sense a little escape there." But you might also think, "Oh, I totally understand what she is saying here, and this point of hers is very interesting and something to reflect upon." It's a 'luxury' to be able to listen to the experiences of another human being going through struggles in life and learn from them. No one is perfect, and everyone is trying to learn, and that's beautiful. I believe if you approach it this way, you will open doors for yourself to learn a lot from a fellow human who has an open heart and is vulnerably sharing her story with strangers to support them and reflect on her own journey while doing so. Greetings
@@cotteneyebill74747 No one is just one thing or the other. Please don't be so harsh on yourself. :) Diagnoses and name-calling are not useful for anyone. They merely put people in boxes and make us feel good about ourselves by eliminating the fear and threat we perceive from them for whatever reason. If you feel that, this is probably something to look into and work on within yourself. 😉 I have a good alternative I can humbly suggest, which may support you in some way: There is a reason why you found yourself here on this channel. You want to learn, or you are simply curious for whatever reason. While listening, you might think, "Oh, I don't agree with her on this point; I see/experience it differently," or even, "Oh, I think she isn't being 100% true to herself here; I sense a little escape there." But you might also think, "Oh, I totally understand what she is saying here, and this point of hers is very interesting and something to reflect upon." It's a 'luxury' to be able to listen to the experiences of another human being going through struggles in life and learn from them. No one is perfect, and everyone is trying to learn, and that's beautiful. I believe if you approach it this way, you will open doors for yourself to learn a lot from a fellow human who has an open heart and is vulnerably sharing her story with strangers to support them and reflect on her own journey while doing so. Greetings
Everyone is a "potential". We are all in an endless process of growth, of course if we genuinely choose to grow. I personally don't have this experience, but I choose to believe that a couple can grow together and as individuals in the loving trusting relationship. Whereas dating kids is another story. Kids don't want to grow up. I guess choosing an adult to build a relationship with is a wiser choice if you are seeking true partnership. Otherwise it's a silent agreement: I'm gonna teach you how to be a real man but refuse to see you are a spoiled boy and you gonna call me queen and treat me accordingly. Because we look like a great couple. I'm sorry about all this, it must hurt really bad. When you stop living in a lie, it's an extremely painful experience.
As a coach that works with couples, I don't agree that polyamory is "expert level" relationship dynamics, but just the opposite. Monogamy is actually "expert level" relationship dynamics. In fact, polyamory enables the behavior from men that you're speaking about in this video because with polyamory neither partner is required to develop the consciousness of how to be sensitive to another person's needs and also find ways to meet their own needs THAT ALSO meet the needs of their partner.
The question with polyamory is why do people want to have sex with others or entertain others sexually outside of the primary relationship? Because in some way their needs aren't being fulfilled in their primary relationship. Instead of immediately searching for a strategy outside of the relationship, what is more vulnerable, in fact most vulnerable, is saying to one's partner, "My needs aren't being met in relationship with you" as well as to hear one's partner say, "You aren't meeting my needs in our relationship." That level of honesty takes tremendous courage to express in one's primary love relationship, but it is precisely that level of vulnerability that's required to create the relationship both partners want.
That being said, it is possible to do polyamory consciously, however it is impossible to experience the depth of closeness and intimacy that is available in a monogamous relationship in a polyamorous relationship simply because every single human being has a finite amount of time. Whenever time and emotional connection is developed in the secondary relationship, that time spent could otherwise have been used to develop deeper intimacy with the primary partner.
Lastly, many in the conscious community reject monogamy, but they do so because they only know one type of monogamy, which is the monogamy of the patriarchy. In other words, when monogamy is imposed as a set of rules (what can and cannot be done in or outside the relationship) then it's just an extension of the domination structure ruling our planet right now. However, when monogamy arises not from a set of rules but rather as a conscious choice made by two people to commit their lives to each other because they both truly see how a deep commitment is the #1 best strategy to experience closeness, connection, intimacy, love, trust, safety, security, etc, then the relationship is totally conscious and the degree of intimacy that is possible dwarfs that which is available in a polyamorous relationship.
Thank you all for coming to my TED talk lol.
I loved your point of view, i deeply agree with it.
You wrote factssss
Beautifully articulated perspective and one I deeply share.
@@mariaokhapkina6971 thank you and I’m glad to hear that 🫶
Perfect😊❤️
Spirituality is for a lot of narcissists a perfect excuse. Especially for a lot of men and i have said it about ferdi a lot. He is a narcissists per excellence and is using "the highest excitement" as an excuse for every action...
She’s a narcissist as well
@@Paczbrono
@@Paczbroyou dont know what you talking😂
@@Paczbro😂2 promiscueus narcs, soo surprising that it didn't end well.
@@annemarieb.1460 The videos of them together were off the wall. The gruesome twosome.
Britnee he really is this energetic vampire, he is a narcissist NO DOUBTS he is just ridiculous I am so happy that you finally got out of this relationship your are such a beautiful living being, so empathetic and pure soul ❤ wishing you all the best with your healing, no doubt why you atract all this vampires you are completely the opposite and they feed of your energy. All the best ❤
I've been there, being gaslighted by someone after they broke the agreements they made with me, and they're acting like I'm the one who did something wrong by being hurt. I'm sorry you're going through this. Good for you asking him to get out of your house! I'm glad you stood up for yourself and didn't tolerate broken agreements. ❤
He’s definitely a man child. Happy that you are free from him! Please reconsider open relationships. I hope you can find happiness with your correct match one day.
You are leveling up, love. This is one hefty experience, a testamey to your personal growth and ability to raise above it. Thank you for sharing, the vulnerability and sharing in the moment. All love, sister ❤
I realized that the he said he is all about his growth, for me it sounded more like he use persons to get the „growth“ he want and if he is not exicted anymore he leave them. Its all about his ego, not about the persons.
I absolutely agree! And his pseudo „laughing“ and child like behaviour is just a strategy to hide away the real pain living under the surface!
using excuses as highest excitement for actually his excitements of lower vibrations is very visible watching him and now hearing from you. If these weren't actually coming from the point of fear, unworthiness or all the other beliefs related to these emotions you wouldn't feel like you have been betrayed yourself, and as a person who also grew with a narcissist I wouldn't relate to this either. You are very strong Brittnee, and i hope you recover well ♥
Crazy to hear how heartless Ferdi moves. He can‘t even apologize for hurting someone. Thank you for your perspective! I‘ve disliked the „open relationship“ drama you and him had. Stay honest and I‘ll love listing to more podcasts of you
...and another woman abused by a narrcisistic guy.. i am so sorry for you!! been through the same, its horrible! the best is to block him and dont speak to him anymore. Narcisists will never give you a finish line, to their abuse.
Classical narcissistic behavior, fully confirmed in the actions, the words and the kind of unchanged behavior of his. You're losing excess weight pulling you down. Now you can be light and free and come back home. YOUR HOME, YOUR SPACE, YOUR AUTHENTICITY. Lots of love from Germany from a sister ❤
He’s still a child :/ I’m so sorry you had to go through this! Really harsh lesson around standing up for oneself. You are the most important person in your life. So glad you were so courageous ❤️ You deserve much better you beautiful soul! ❤️
A break up = a breaking out of patterns that are not good for you . Very good you are priority !! You love yourself more than you think ,you go your way !!! Lots of love and a hug from Europe /Austria 😊🤗💝
"Do not date Potential!" Best advice ever! Also learned it the hard way.. 🤷🏼♀️
simply don't date German man Child!
Thank you Brittnee for sharing your story! I means a lot. I feel you a lot. Your voice and vibration feel authentic and real.
You got this. Sending much love and strength for your journey. ❤️
Brittnee I can only say that I feel you. Your words. Your heart. Sending you love and hugs. ❤️❤️❤️Feel loved and you are not alone. ✨❤️🫶🏽❤️✨
Wow. Followed Ferdi for a very long time, probably 6 years and am not in agreement with who he has become and how he treated you, nor how he speaks on pods lately. It's very narcissistic in a literal, definitive sense. Glad you got away from that and listened to your body.
he's always been like that
thank you so much for speaking your truth! also going through a breakup right now and your words make me feel calm and good in between these storms of emotions
❤️ I relate so much, I also just got out of a relationship with a narcissist. The shame you feel and the guilt for leaving yourself to stay with them and keep on giving everything for this person.. it's a lot. Wishing you so much love and support at this time ❤️❤️❤️
This is a hard time you are going through. I wish you all the strenght and everything you need to go through it, sis.
I hope you heal from that pain and that you heal the root cause why you attract a man like this.
Oftentimes the boring, normal men are the real gems 😉
You deserve a man who keeps your heart safe ❤️
I feel like the narcissist matrix is breaking. A friend of mine also opened up to me about her ex partner. Women we have to stick together and TALK to eachother! ❤❤ much love
Thank you for speaking up and sharing your truth. Listening to your story is so powerfull and encouraging, it makes me proud to be on the same timeline with you, creating a new world together. Thanks for taking responsibility and setting boundaries at the same time. Your response to what happend shows all your strengh and courge. Thanks for shining your light!
I have so much to say… yet I’m flabbergasted.(despite me also having a narcissistic & abusive parent and a narcissistic partner who cheated on me after 4yrs and I left him) - I really empathise with you ❤ it’s normal for us to fall into the trap of the narcissists… subconsciously it felt like home. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Wish I could give you a huge hug ♥️♥️♥️ it’s time for a celebration girl! You found YOUR POWER AND SAFETY AGAIN ♥️🎉
I came from his page but ill be staying here. Im sorry this happened to you 🖤
Stay strong sister. We have your back. ❤
Britnee! Send you a lot of hugs and love for this moment. You have been through a lot and very rough things in that relationship. You are a strong and empathic woman with huge voice. Glad you came back to yourself and see the best of the scenery ❤🎉 the best is coming
Man...that fucking sucks. So sorry Brittnee 💜 This all sounds so so so so painful.
I am a man, and I admire your vulnerability. To me vulnerability, emotional vulnerability, is strength, and you are right... many men don't see that and aren't willing to face themselves enough to hear the truth of a woman's pain, or really anyone's pain.
THANK YOU BRITTNEE FOR DOING THIS, RECORDING THIS VIDEO AND ALLOW TRUTH TO GO THROUGH.
I see a lot of people saying that this is why you shouldn't do open relationships, but that's just weird(?): cheating exists in all kind of relationships and that doesn't mean you shouldn't do them. She said it already but I'll explain it again: In an open relationship cheating is when you or your partner breaks the agreements you have. He cheated on her, not for sleeping with the other girl but for not using protection (their agreement). With that should be enough to understand the breakup but there's also All the other things she mentioned. I'm sorry Britney you had to pass through this and thank you for sharing it. I'm sending you a virtual hug and know that Im rooting for your happiness ☀️
I was searching a comment like this. Amen.
Dear Brittnee, feel yourself hugged (if you want to). I also experienced this and i hope you get trough this safely and heal from this betrayel. You deserve more than a „Man“ like this. Im sending you love ❤
My dear Brittnee, i send you soo much love 💖 Your vervy brave for beeing so vulnerable and open
Dear Britnee,
I wanna embrace you, hug you, congratulate and celebrate you for these clear and authentic words and for you finally finding back to your true self. I‘m sorry to say but I just couldn’t stand your videos as a couple… I always felt his pretended „leader“like behaviour and his toxic positivity. I couldn’t follow you anymore because to me it felt so unreal and unauthentic. You calling him Peter Pan just nailed it.
Finally now seeing you speaking I can „feel“ you again, coming back to your vibe that has been veiled more and more over the time of your relationship.
And still probably the painful experience you‘ve made going through that has clearly peeled out even more of your true essence. I‘m glad you‘re back in the game you beautiful strong powerful shining starseed female leader soul ♥️
Sending love & hugs ✨
Oh Brittnee.. I send you so much love. I think you both went into this learning and teaching each other a lot. Does it look from the outside like you are enforcing strict rules on your partners and you are happy as long as they behave that way - but then scold them once they don't and they either let you control them or sooner or later break out and get back to themselves? Yes it does. Does it also look from an outside perspective like you are still dealing with your trauma towards men by repeating believes such as "this World is made for men so we have to fight so much harder as women" victim believes? Yes it does. I don't think it's funny that he said you have to heal your Trauma. It's true. Laughing is a defence mechanism when you are not ready for the truth. That is why I am sending you so much love. You don't have to control anyone but yourself, you don't have to mold anyone into your divine counterpart because like we see now, they will morph back anyway - you just have to be brittnee. And that will always be enough and just as equal as everyone else.
Finally does ferdi still have a lot to learn as well? Absolutely! Does he spread any details of the relationship or any blame? Not yet. And I actually think that the more mature way. I'm not sure this podcast accomplished what you wanted it to accomplish and I prefer venting in a journal but to each their own. You are both free again and I am grateful for both of you sharing to freely. Again so much love even if it possibly doesn't seem that way because my comment is my complete honest outside perception. ❤
Wow! This comment should be pinned as another great example of gaslighting. 👆🤯
If you play with fire you risk getting burned...that are open relationships!
Thank you so much for sharing and making yourself so vulnerable. I feel so sorry while hearing all of what you are saying. Betrayal is so hard and being able to trust anyone again seems impossible. I send you some positive energy ✨
Brittnee, you are too powerful and intelligent, he was not at your level. Your intuition and everybody could see it but it was part of your path. I can't wait to see you expand even more! We love you!!!!!!
I see & feel your pain - you had a lot of trauma to endure during your life.
Take your time to heal, sweetheart.
You got this! 🌷✨🕊️
Edit: After watching everything and thinking about the topic I must say that you are very emotionally mature, strong, reflective and self-aware. You got everything to learn what the Universe wanted you to learn via this relationship. Sometimes we need the grounding and being thrown in the dirt by our higher self, like my mother would say. It's all to be seen as a lesson & learning experience.
And I agree:
He is a very big airhead & manchild.
Please, never ever get back with him. Never ever again. YOU DESERVE BETTER! A calming, caring & responsible man.💯
Thank you dear. I feel and resonate with everything you’ve said 🥰💚🙏
Girlll. I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I am SO PROUD of you!!! I was in your shoes 3 years ago when I left my trickster man child lol; and everything you said here just felt sooooo close to home it’s unreal! Unreal how freakin boring and unoriginal these men are. You’re a queen. 💜💜💜
So happy for you!
Lovely Brittnee-I see you and feel you. I can relate so so much with such shit shows little boys play when they not able to handle their own emotions like grown up men would do it. You are ready now for a real man who feels blessed to secure the heart of a queen like you! Send you much love from Germany❤️❤️❤️ and at last: the pitty award gooooooes to…. (Fill in the blanks) 😅😎
Thank you so much, Britney ❤.
you Are such a authentic queen ❤
i just want to meet you, make some cacao, dance, talk, laugh and go to the waterfalls. I feel you so much Brittnee. You are such an amazing woman and I feel you as a friend. THANK YOU FOR EXISTING AND SHOWING YOURSELF.
I am really sorry you had to go through this sort of betrayal. Sending you a lot of support and love❤
I feel you sister. Big hugs to you
you are mature, he is not. and that s why you can't fully understand his actions, bc he is no a man, and he is not a man for you. I am actually so happy for you to have realized all of these and come back to yourself and your truth.
stay strong bb and indeed, we put so much effort to make things work. we should stop watering dead situations. love you, and i understand every single word as i went through a similar situation. take care of yourself, thats all that matters. it takes time bb.
protect her heart? what about yours? ah wait youre heartless? what about being respectful and mindful for everyone’s heart :)
thank you so much dear one. we got this
So much love ❤ thank you for reminding me to my path ❤
We all saw this coming lol. Both of you were just delusional and toxic using each other.
There‘s never 2 narcissists in a relationship, they need an empathetic person to feed off of.
This usually happens when all goes too fast and there is no groundedness in the relationship.
I’ve seen it too many times.
I’m glad I made it out of the hippie world 😅 and found myself a grounded man.
I’m at peace now 😌🙏🏼
@@katalinstappenbeck9107 There are different opinions in this regard but you can find a lot of research about relationships with two narcissists. It is definitely possible. The dynamics are different because they both want to benefit of each other.
Britnee, send you love ❤
I've silently followed you and Ferdi for a few years, primarily because of veganism, but then I stuck around to try and learn more about your way of life. I'm really sorry to hear that it ended the way it did.
I think you've done amazingly well to articulate the experience of both heartbreak and triumph. And I say triumph, because it's genuinely admirable when anybody is able to, in effect, stop the bleeding and walk away from something that causes needless and continuous hurt. Overcoming the tendancy to hang on for dear life is tough, even when it comes to things which are not healthy.
There are a lot of concepts that you've explained quite beautifully, which apply to (potentially) all relationships and not just ones that are romantic in nature. For example, the phenomenon whereby our perception of someone isn't necessarily the same as who/how the person actually is in reality. It's commendable that you've openly, and honestly, taken ownership in your part in creating your perception of Ferdi. It's too easy to just dump 100% of the blame on the ex partner, yet you chose not to do so.
Although it's ended, it may well be possible that whilst it lasted (or at least during the early days) it wasn't "fake", "unreal", or a "ploy". Maybe Ferdi's efforts were real in the beginning and maybe he did feel (at the time) that aligning to your lifestyle would elevate him to the best version of himself. Unfortunately, when a person's actions aren't completely in tune with their true nature (or I guess you can say energy), then as you said, it's usually a matter of time before they look for reasons (or rather, excuses) to justify acting in accordance with their instincts instead of honouring agreements.
I hope people understand the importance of mutual agreements, mutual understandings, and promises, as they are an essential part of upholding and maintaining both trust and respect, without which no relationship can truly blossom. When one party later turns around and implies that any of the rules/understandings/agreements were imposed on them and that they were not mutually accepted, it's tragic.
Brittnee, I wish you nothing but the absolute best. You have a wonderful future ahead of you, and I pray that as and when you are ready, the universe brings you face to face with the partner that shares your values, vision, and energy 🙏🏽
Strong sister 🫂
This is so shocking to me. I’ve followed Ferdi for years and this is just mind boggling. My heart 💜 goes out to you.
She’s a manipulative narcissist
@@Paczbro she might be but he also is full of his own problems. It was a big mess.
Thank you for sharing. Do you think Ferdi was genuinely trying to change and become that person that you wanted to have in your life? Of course from an outside perspective we can only see the tip of the iceberg that you allowed us to see but in the old podcasts you did together, it always seemed like he is really trying to learn from you and transform himself.
That‘s my feeling too!! Absolutely, he really cared and adored her
Thank you so much for sharing, for being so brave and authentic. ❤
I see you, thank you so so much for sharing this, send you just Love and hugs!❤️💫
The only good thing I am grad for your relationship is that he helped you to be online so we all could meet you and feel save thoguh your talks.
I am so so sorry you have to go through all of this❤️ I‘m sending love
Why send love to a narcissist?
@@Paczbro Why do you keep attacking someone you don't truly know? Please refrain from using medical terms as if you're an expert in psychology, it requires extensive therapy sessions to diagnose conditions properly. Also, remember that everyone displays narcissistic traits in various contexts, whether pathological or healthy. It would be beneficial to update yourself with the latest scientific literature and research before labeling people with diagnoses.
Strong woman I can feel you . Thank you for sharing your emotions and thoughts, I wish you the best ❤
thank you so much for sharing this. just needed that so badly. as you said there are just too many guys out there, running around with childhood trauma and are not able at all to handle that in a healthy way. instead of that, they are still wounded childs caught in a body of a grown up. not taking responsibilty for their actions and creating an environment where you just can't feel emotionally safe. you never can be your true self around those guys because they will see that as a threat to their own personality which is just insane. had to handle a narc myself, badest relationshit experience in my entire life.
had to laugh with you so hard at 21:10, just too delusional omg
Oh Brittnee, I send u so much love. I feel u, so sorry. It is devastating. Hug u
He called the new girl around "wifey material".... someone called me the same once right at the beginning.... it did not end well. And I know one thing for sure: I never want to be with someone again who sees me with such eyes.... if u need translation B, just tell us. Some of your girls here speak german 😘😘. I feel you! ❤
Open relationship: Expectations vs Reality
I’ve never met someone where it actually works.
I came to the realisation that Monogamy is the real deal when you want to go really deep 😉
Monogamy feels like the only way because so many people are not really and truthfully on the level to be polygamous respectfully and stick to the boundaries agreed to. Someone always seems to break them.
@@emilyflaherty24 polyamory must be led by the man to work, otherwise it's pure chaos
Send you a LOT of Love.. you strong and wonderful power woman 💚💚💚
Brittnee.. i feel like you already once had the situation where a flatmate (i think during covid) broke your trust and "stole" your Boyfriend. I think the idea of community you have sounds beautiful, a group of people trusting and loving and sharing things but unfortunately it takes a very, very developed person not to only act from greed and self interest and it bites you back like now with trusting those people too much.... :( be careful especially in kpg which is full of hedonists and self interested people
Highest excitement as a PrimaryGuiding principle is a Desaster. Synergetic Morality should be
Sending you so much love!!! You are so strong!
The outside is ALWAYS a reflection of your inside 🌱
When something bad happens to you (accidents, natural disasters, someone abuses you or worse or your child, someone dies too young from an illness etc.) it is always a reflection of your inner self? How can you think that? You are just trying to push the fear away from you by telling yourself that nothing bad can happen to you. But it's not the truth, unfortunately.
I wonder why you don‘t mention the 2nd boyfriend you had in january living in the same home? And what that did to you as a couple.
If you didn't want him to sleep around then you shouldn't have been in an open relationship. You expected him to be fine with you sleeping with others. If you truly loved each other so much then you wouldn't desire other people, this proves open relationships don't work.
Exactly!
Thank You! Yes, I‘m always amazed, that she always leaves out the part that she had multipe other men during that relationship. And I‘m 100% sure that it wasn’t just because of the condoms that she felt betrayed.
Guys, you don't get the point, he could sleep with people but he refused to protect himself! i am sorry but that's a deal breaker!
Multiple things don’t add up here.
First: Ok, he broke that deal. Was it about possible pregnancies? Or STD‘s? Fine - wait for her cycle, get tested. As soon as he‘s clear and she‘s not pregnant, that should be out of the way.
Or is it just an excuse and what was really going on was simple and straight jealousy? Nothing wrong with that, it‘s a very basic human emotion, and it makes biological sense to ensure a shared responsibility for our offspring. BUT to pretend that he can do whatever and just has to follow along certain rules that seem to have been quite unclear to him is a little unfair. I got the impression he really went out and about for her and more than once moved out of his own comfort zone, put up with a lot of pain, swallowed his pride to make her feel good.
At the point that he was in May, when he fell in love with Céline, he was pretty much done with her already. Hence he could fall in love with another woman.
He still tried to keep his promise to make it work but his heart was somewhere else bc of everything that went down the months before. From what I concluded she: threw emotional painful tantrums every couple weeks, insulted him, had another boyfriend living in the house with them for weeks, didn‘t allow flirting, had problems with his sexual acts or crushes, but gave blowjobs and whatnot herself on their shared „Play Parties“, while she got viciously mad at him when he was only slightly jealous.
Second: She says she always apologized when she made similar mistakes. She told this story a lot different in other podcasts, saying that her (seemingly closed) relationships always ended once she had another man, (which she claimed she always had at some point). The men got jealous, couldn’t „handle it“ and that was it. No word about mistakes or apologies or that it could have been wrong in the slightest! Just her nature and very „future-relationship“-like. But if he does it - in an open relationship - it‘s betrayal.
The double-standards and changing narratives are really mind-bending.
They were in an open relationship so of course she had other secondary boyfriends and he was making her feel unsafe of course she was throwing tantrums, everybody would! The fact that you are defending him is so crazy to me.
Brittnee is much more intelligent than what you think. He had nothing to do with her. Now he is back with girls younger than him, great for him.
feel ya. Sending you much love and Leo Power to you, scorpion queen. Speaking up your truth!!!!!!!! Sacred silence is one of the best :))
I send you just love, love and love ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Keep going ❤
I am sooo sorry you lovely soul❤
Multiple things don’t add up here.
First: Ok, he broke that deal. Was it about possible pregnancies? Or STD‘s? Fine - wait for her cycle, get tested. As soon as he‘s clear and she‘s not pregnant, that should be out of the way.
Or is it just an excuse and what was really going on was simple and straight jealousy? Nothing wrong with that, it‘s a very basic human emotion, and it makes biological sense to ensure a shared responsibility for our offspring. BUT to pretend that he can do whatever and just has to follow along certain rules that seem to have been quite unclear to him is a little unfair. I got the impression he really went out and about for her and more than once moved out of his own comfort zone, put up with a lot of pain, swallowed his pride to make her feel good.
At the point that he was in May, when he fell in love with Céline, he was pretty much done with her already. Hence he could fall in love with another woman.
He still tried to keep his promise to make it work but his heart was somewhere else bc of everything that went down the months before. From what I concluded she: threw emotional painful tantrums every couple weeks, insulted him, had another boyfriend living in the house with them for weeks, didn‘t allow flirting, had problems with his sexual acts or crushes, but gave blowjobs and whatnot herself on their shared „Play Parties“, while she got viciously mad at him when he was only slightly jealous.
Second: She says she always apologized when she made similar mistakes. She told this story a lot different in other podcasts, saying that her (seemingly closed) relationships always ended once she had another man, (which she claimed she always had at some point). The men got jealous, couldn’t „handle it“ and that was it. No word about mistakes or apologies or that it could have been wrong in the slightest! Just her nature and very „future-relationship“-like. But if he does it - in an open relationship - it‘s betrayal.
The double-standards and changing narratives are really mind-bending.
I'm confused too because the things Brittnee described here are the exact same things she used to do to Ferdi when she had the upper hand in the relationship: did as she pleased regardless of how insecure it was making him feel in the moment, and justified hurtful behavior by supposedly being more spiritually aware and advanced than him. Long-time subscribers will sure remember. Now that the tables have (inevitably) turned, I'm not sure how this is not obvious to her.
I do empathize though, healthy relationships are hard when you come from trauma (Brittnee) or didn't have good modeling growing up (Ferdi, I think).
I don't know how much thankful i am for this video❤ love u britney, keep shining the world🪽✨️
I don't know if u didn't hear Frederick's voice, but it's mire rhan ckear this dude is not a man he sounds like a child in voice and that shoul have been a huge red flag already
Queen is back ❤️ sending you so much Love. You are so wise and ahead of this Timeline. Everybody who has a Chance to learn from you is insanly lucky and blessed.
Danke vielmals für das Teilen deiner Sichtweise.
Ich fühle dich ❤
Wow- how manipulative this guy is - boom ...😳and the NEW women is a toy for him 😅- my Feeling told me stay away from this Guy...listen to your feelings - the head Plays tricks...dont let it happen anymore !! HONESTLY- you touch me much more now - than when HE was around !!! You have a pure soul- do not let it be corrupted by others false snakes🙌🏽💝🤗
Sending love & light to you 💚
you've learnt how to edith it very well!!! Happy for you!!
Sending you so much love & healing Sister! ❤️ i feel you and you nailed it on Point with your deep scorpio wisdom - we know you will grow out of all of this as a new shining Phoenix Version of yourself and thank you, thank you, thank you for being so vulnerable thats a big Inspiration for all of us and we heal with you together! Much love to you and your amazing heart ✨😘
Omg this bullshit about mission of sharing sperm.. My ex also was on this mission 😅 I don’t regret many things in my life, but being with this pseudo spiritual narcissist I do regret every day..
I listen to you and I see myself in your story.. 🥺
Stay strong, you are beautiful! 💙
You always seem very authentic to me❤❤stay strong girl
First of all - my compassion. That’s really sad.
But I find it quite strange that you accuse your partner, who is a Reflector by Human Design, of changing in the relationship, or rather, of changing in a direction that actually corresponded to you. As a Reflector, Ferdi is absolutely open in his centers and is constantly conditioned by the people around him. You should know this best. Of course, Ferdi changes in the relationship. And he will always, no matter where he is and who he is with, always be a new version of Ferdi. That is one point I want to make. The other point is that I personally do not believe in open relationships at all, as they lack any framework to enable a sacred union between man and woman.
Basically he started to behave exactly like she did since mid 2023 and it hurt her.
Yes dear, i totally agree with you in the sense that he reflects his environment. I have done extensive research on reflectors especially since dating him.
2 things:
1. reflectors reflect their environment and are chameleons yes, but they also have base imprints from childhood that influence how they show up the rest of their lives - just like the rest of us do. Knowing his family intimately i understand why he behaves the way he does (his family praised him for being the youngest and rewarded him for being the joker and happy child).
2. I have a very strong value system of loyalty and holding to my word and communicating when something is no longer working for me so this is not something he reflected to me in his actions in this situation (i.e., his behaviour was not "reflecting" me). Human design is the blueprint of how our souls created us in this timeline, but we also have to give weight to our actions and how we choose to have a lived experience. It's not accurate to say that whoever he is is ONLY dependent on who he's surrounded by - he is a very powerful soul (more than people realize) so this would be an excuse in my opinion.
Love you Brittnee☀
You are damn crazy
On his podcasts he seems narcissistic. ✌🏻Good for you that you broke up.❤
32:30 as long as you need a man to create safety around you, you will feel unsafe. It comes from within never from outside.
Also the whole "men provider - women nurturer" dynamic is so exclusive of the 90% of other dynamics out there. So tired and restrictive. You have the possibility to subscribe to every single belief structure out there and you choose the most archaical. Interesting choice. Would never be mine.
I can see right through you, it’s hilarious. I dated someone like you before and it’s a combo of borderline personality disorder and extreme narcissism. It’s scary stuff, I already feel bad for your next victim/boyfriend.
Have you considered, that you are actually projecting? Please work on yourself. You might learn something…
Why do you keep attacking someone you don't truly know? Please refrain from using medical terms as if you're an expert in psychology, it requires extensive therapy sessions to diagnose conditions properly. Also, remember that everyone displays narcissistic traits in various contexts, whether pathological or healthy. It would be beneficial to update yourself with the latest scientific literature and research before labeling people with diagnoses.
She obviously is.
@@cotteneyebill74747No one is just one thing or the other. Please don't be so harsh on yourself. :) Diagnoses and name-calling are not useful for anyone. They merely put people in boxes and make us feel good about ourselves by eliminating the fear and threat we perceive from them for whatever reason. If you feel that, this is probably something to look into and work on within yourself.😉
I have a good alternative I can humbly suggest, which may support you in some way: There is a reason why you found yourself here on this channel. You want to learn, or you are simply curious for whatever reason. While listening, you might think, "Oh, I don't agree with her on this point; I see/experience it differently," or even, "Oh, I think she isn't being 100% true to herself here; I sense a little escape there." But you might also think, "Oh, I totally understand what she is saying here, and this point of hers is very interesting and something to reflect upon."
It's a 'luxury' to be able to listen to the experiences of another human being going through struggles in life and learn from them. No one is perfect, and everyone is trying to learn, and that's beautiful.
I believe if you approach it this way, you will open doors for yourself to learn a lot from a fellow human who has an open heart and is vulnerably sharing her story with strangers to support them and reflect on her own journey while doing so.
Greetings
@@cotteneyebill74747 No one is just one thing or the other. Please don't be so harsh on yourself. :) Diagnoses and name-calling are not useful for anyone. They merely put people in boxes and make us feel good about ourselves by eliminating the fear and threat we perceive from them for whatever reason. If you feel that, this is probably something to look into and work on within yourself. 😉
I have a good alternative I can humbly suggest, which may support you in some way: There is a reason why you found yourself here on this channel. You want to learn, or you are simply curious for whatever reason. While listening, you might think, "Oh, I don't agree with her on this point; I see/experience it differently," or even, "Oh, I think she isn't being 100% true to herself here; I sense a little escape there." But you might also think, "Oh, I totally understand what she is saying here, and this point of hers is very interesting and something to reflect upon."
It's a 'luxury' to be able to listen to the experiences of another human being going through struggles in life and learn from them. No one is perfect, and everyone is trying to learn, and that's beautiful.
I believe if you approach it this way, you will open doors for yourself to learn a lot from a fellow human who has an open heart and is vulnerably sharing her story with strangers to support them and reflect on her own journey while doing so.
Greetings
Everyone is a "potential". We are all in an endless process of growth, of course if we genuinely choose to grow. I personally don't have this experience, but I choose to believe that a couple can grow together and as individuals in the loving trusting relationship.
Whereas dating kids is another story. Kids don't want to grow up. I guess choosing an adult to build a relationship with is a wiser choice if you are seeking true partnership. Otherwise it's a silent agreement: I'm gonna teach you how to be a real man but refuse to see you are a spoiled boy and you gonna call me queen and treat me accordingly. Because we look like a great couple.
I'm sorry about all this, it must hurt really bad. When you stop living in a lie, it's an extremely painful experience.
I can relate so much. Love to you ❤
Edit: sounds like a narcissist to be honest…
I feel you Scorp sister ❤
Sending you so much love ❤
Sending so much love❤
I am Soo down for a Karl X Brittnee colab!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It's simple, just stop sleeping around whilst being in a relationship.
Big love hope u will heal ❤❤