This is so true to me. And the funny thing is, I have thought about many of your points, but I treated them as "goals" that I needed to accomplish or "problems" that I needed to solve. But really, the problem lies within my understanding of self-values. I am only 20 years old, but I've been pushing myself so hard. I was constantly struggling to outperform my parents' expectations while experimenting with my own path as a rebellion. I literally work like a dog every day to get those As, to fulfill those internship hours, to socialize, and at night to build my little startup. One thing true about me is that I love comparing myself to the most talented people around me and I hate to admit my mediocracy. My mom really wanted me to do well in math, and my whole experience on the math team back in high school was terrible. My confidence was crushed by a good friend who was just so terribly smart and talented in maths (and he went to MIT with a full-ride). When I rebelled from the pre-med track in the first year of college and started to do politics and debate, I immediately compared myself to those national champions in the same circuit and felt hopelessly stupid. It is truly hard for a go-getter to change his/her/their minds because, at least in my case, I almost treat it as a human instinct that is beneficial to my personal survival. I am passive, but cautiousness saves me from the worst scenario. I overwork, but overwork makes me ahead of some other folks. I have such a strong sense and motivation within me. But you're right. I deserve some appreciation from myself. And I deserve some free time. So instead of doing some extra Econ readings, I'll just go to bed and read books tonight.
One of my tricks to improve in this over-functioning way of living, I consider resting as part of the to-do list. I include some personal pleasures into my to-do list, like taking a bath, or napping, or playing a game for some time, and enjoying them in the present moment when doing those things, rather than doing them in a "I'm ticking a box" kind of way.
This is very helpful. Realizing I need to focus on my OWN journey. "Success" does not mean something has to be "perfect". In fact, as humans, we really can't do anything "perfectly".
Thank you for your message. Yes, I'm an over functioner :D I get depleted and over stimulated easily by doing too much and then crashing in guilt and shame. It is a horrible cycle, but learning about it helps and knowing that I'm not alone.
First time commenting here. If only I had found your channel 4 years ago, heck 10 months ago. After living a "broken" childhood, I found my self, at the age of 19, stuck in life. I took a moment to grieve my losses and understand what I was feeling so that I could actually forgive and move on. Weighing my options, all or nothing, I chose the "all". I had to make many changes very rapidly. I set goals and I worked towards them. I've had to learn about depression and anxiety. My only strategy is to keep moving. I won't lie, it hasn't been easy. Especially without any form of support. It's hard for me to realize how far I have come in just ten months. Thank you for the work you are doing.
Watched it twice. I suspect that somehow ,julia kristina knows me personally. She makes me see my personal flaws. While listening i tried to mirror mode her concepts, holding her concepts as my temporary state of mind. It does feel better! There is something calming/soothing about listening to a pretty woman , speaking words of wisdom. Despite the fact that english is not my first language, slowly, her words are sipping through. Glad to notice it. Julia kristina is the only human being that gets to me. She does it with a smile. It feels she really cares for you. I cherish her in my mind for times when my life seem so low. I find solace in her mere image.
Much needed!! I'm definitely an over functioner and feel guilty for resting. I have made myself physically ill from doing too much, burning the wick at both ends. Thank you for these healing words!
Before, I don't take much breaks during work or even at home. I work hard, thinking it would make me feel worthy. But one day, I just stopped. I took a break I needed, sometimes even longer than the usual. I tried to do things I enjoy as part of my relaxation. It did me good. And watching this reminded me that I have changed even if it's a little bit. Thank you!
A wise counsellor once told me I am a human being not a human doing. I have to give myself permIssion for leisure time because I am worth it. all the signs you described above are symptomps of codependancy. I have been in codependant recovery for many years and saying no has been the hardest lesson
Hey Julia, "Lead from the heart and wants to move forward" - A great way to explain the heart-centered go-getter. Over functioning, yes that gets tricky when you work in the helping field. Learning it is ok to set boundaries took some time but that has been a game-changer for me. You help remind me to set the track you want to be on and be yourself. If only it was as easy to be kind to ourselves as is it to others.
Three things in particular clicked with me. Asking for help, taking a rest, and saying no. It has to do with the fact that I sometimes don't know what else to do, I'm often tired and could use a nap, and some people don't know when to let up. I say if they can't take no for an answer then try hell no.
Julia, I am learning so much from you. Thank you for setting the example of living true to your purpose, being of service to the world in an authentic way, and shining a light in our hearts!
Hey Julia I'm back :) It feels like you are talking directly to me. I could only nod my head the entire video. The good part is, I've already started to be kinder to myself and giving myself some slack. This was a very good reminder that I'm on the right track. Thank you for helping us who are out here struggling
Great video Julia!🙏🏻💕 I see a lot of childhood trauma survivors who also tend to over-function too -and have signs of autoimmune/health issues, which link a lot to the exhaustion we can feel! Such an important topic from you as usual!❤️
The wrong choices can bring us to the right places. The biggest failures often carry the best lessons. When you fail to get what you want, consider that it just might be a blessing in disguise. Seriously, be grateful that certain connections and situations didn’t work out. If you didn’t let go and learn, you would be stuck with false promises. Celebrate your progress. It’s funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted. Eventually you’ll end up where you need to be, doing the right things, alongside the right people. Patience and persistence are the key. But don’t forget to pause on occasion and appreciate how far you’ve come too. You’ve been through a lot, and you’ve grown a lot. Give yourself credit for the steps you’ve taken, so you can step forward again with grace. Afterthoughts… On Stepping Through a Day with Grace All details aside, the goal in the year ahead is to grow so strong on the inside that nothing on the outside can affect your inner wellness without your conscious permission. It’s about letting go of fantasies, accepting reality, having faith in your journey, and appreciating all the little things that are within your reach. As you continue to progress forward, do your best to avoid letting anyone or anything clutter your peace of mind. Live a life that moves you and makes you smile every day. Because you don’t want to get to the end, or to tomorrow even, and realize that your life is merely a collection of stressful expectations and “somedays” and errands and receipts and empty promises. You CAN choose differently! You CAN step through each day with grace… peeeace🕊
I would of never thought I was a heart centered go getter, but I am! When you say that I would instantly think of my daughter! She’s the perfectionist, she overwhelms herself and justifies it because she’s 23 and she has been teaching English Lit to the honor students at a wonderful high school for 2 yrs. now & by summer she’ll be done with her masters! I was a hands on mom and did flash cards at 3 months...She still won’t thank me😂😂😂 no I’m so proud!
This video hits me hard at the right time. Every point that you explained reflects myself so well. I have been diagnosed with MDD, Bipolar Type 2 and axiety disorder and have been on prolonged medical leaves for since end of 2017. In 2020, i returned to work, then after few weeks, the covid19 pandemic strikes. We are working from home. I'm performing great for few months then many things changes and my performance deteriorates significantly. I pushed myself beyond limits but i end up accomplishing nothing. It is very hard to explain myself to my boss and colleagues since i think the problems are all from my inability to manage works and triggers. I have reached my limit lately and fall sick. I can't sleep, feeling suicidal and worthless. The harder i tried the worse i become. I feel hopeless, severely burnt out and disappointed with myself. Worst thing is my poor performance affects other people's works. I feel guilty and ashamed to even exist. Naturally, people get mad at me and i don't blame them. it is my faults. ☹️ Listening to your video helps me to understand my situation better. Thanks Julia. ❤️
Thank you for that insight. I've gone no contact with family...Mom covert narc realization at 54! I'm working on that NO word and trying to grow, as someone who needs to prove my worth this is very helpful to think about a slower journey - my journey to a healthy me - vs abusive relationships. I own my business and definitely never feel like I'm enough - helps to understand the root cause of being an overachiever - reminder that it's okay to slow down & quit trying so hard :) Working on getting past guilt and shame.
I have just begun to listen to your sessions. I am amazed by how profoundly I am reacting to your guidance. I feel like you are speaking directly to me! I connected, strongly, this subject with the last point you made in "10 Things That Will Get Better When You Love Yourself" namely Fighting for Acceptance. Working too hard to please, trying to prove (earn) love. I am staying tuned to you! You are so helpful!
I think this year even if not easy for many is a perfect time to learn to let go once and for all because we've got no other choice anyway. We can all understand that we have to lose control of what happens before our eyes. This year enabled me to have no intentions anymore, no specific desires because you often realize that they are not yours but that It's just those of the others, your neighbor, a member of your family, a celebrity but not yours. That's why from now on, I just live my day as It is already done because you don't create anything from the human dimension. You live your journey and your journey, if you have enough intuition, is already done because you are your own unfoldment everyday. Nothing is missed. You just have to follow yourself but not your human condition, your higher human who knows exactly what to do because It's already done. Thank you
Damn; this is ME. I am unpacking codependency, boundaries, overfunctioning (just learned this term from a Brene Brown podcast last week). Overfunctioning is NORMALIZED AND COMMENDED in my profession (teaching) and I love my job but NOT AT THE COST OF MY OWN HEALTH. I have been an overfunctioner for My Entire Life and although I do not "compare" myself per se to others - I definitely meet all other criteria. It is as though somewhere along the line I accepted and owned the myth that I am what I do. And even though cognitively I know this is not healthy - it is a hard truth to move into emotionally. So worth it though. Thank you so much for your to the point, awesome teaching videos. They are really helping me move through on onwards in my journey! Exhausted and resentful all the time is definitely not where I want to be. And in a backwards sort of way, I give credit to this pandemic for finally breaking me down to the point where I saw that something had to change! The only way out of rock bottom is up. :)
Thank you so much Julia! I’ve been following you now since December 2019 after I had a stroke I’m 41 and my life fell apart . I came across you as I was looking for mindfulness but you have helped me so much More! Keep up the amazing work x
Yes! I had a relationship break up 3 years Ago and have been uncertain about what to do next ever since. Well after 3 years of pushing, I’m stuck and exhausted. All I have is intention and patience to sit and wait now. Yes, the weights. I’ve been feeling that. So heavy. Great video. Thank you! 🙏
I recently started thinking I should further develop my musical talents by practicing long hours everyday, like Coltrane. The universe spoke to me quickly and often (“that’s not where fulfillment waits”), and this video is now saved in my “timeless” folder for future reminder. I’m indeed a heart centered go getter. Bless you for all your helpful videos.
OMG today I was talking with my ex-manager about this topic to figure out how to be as good as I were in my previous department.. Thank you very much for helping me clearing my mind and focusing on what is matter the most to be more successful in life and career
I'm so grateful I came across this video in a way it amazes me that I'm doing more of the right stuff I never feel pressure to be like others I always admire and commend people's achievements but dont reflect to myself I often take a step back I afford .myself alot of calmness ,rest and less anxiety If I have a to do list it is more for reminding me what still needs to be done not as a means of pressure because if I only get stuck at number 2 then I know number one needed attention so I'm pleased with the level of self care I have achieved although I need to say no much more as i tend to always want to show up for people and many times they are not worth it because they are selfish and will not do the same for me.
Wow! I just watched this and I'm tearful. This is me!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I'm running in quicksand with a straitjacket on. Being an African American woman I've always had to prove myself, that I'm intelligent, educated, a hard worker, etc and it's getting to me. I can fake it so good, I'm ready to crawl in a hole and sleep at the end of each day I'm so done. I don't know. I just don't know. 😢
I know your post is old. but wanted to send you love and light anyways!! You are heard and understood. You got this... sometimes we have to just get to the place of BE STILL AND KNOW. And sometimes that means some things "seemingly" fall apart, but a lot of times those things that fall away weren't things that we needed to keep holding on to anyways. YOU GOT THIS and you are not alone!!
Julia, 5:40 am here in Helensville NZ, I'm a long time fan of your thought process. Overfunctioning or Fluidity?The more options people allow themselves to learn in order to reach a decision the greater the chances they confirm a reason to stay still. The other way to look at it is through doing research prior to step's you take - you can simply take them with confidence and if you feel the need for support you are confident that you know where to get the best support quickly. The ability to shake, to feel, to have empathy, as a man too cry and be happy and to smile are all assets which make viewers whole. Instead of thinking overfunctioner think fluid in times of joy and crises, able to assess a situation with ease and follow through with action. Confidence is within me I am XXXXXX charm surrounds me.
This is sooo me but I'm starting to learn and beginning hopefully to make good and better decisions and in doing so it's how I begin to love my self and feel like life is worth living. Thank you for this video Julia
This is me 1000 miles an hour for like 3 or 4 days then 3 miles an hour for 4 to 5 days dwelling in a deep trench of self pity and dangerous depression. My days of diddling along 3 steps forward two steps back cannot continue, going on 4 years of misery and suffering, psychological, physically, socially, spiritually and mentally. I can't and won't spend much more time with that garbage, I won't. If I don't succeed in all those areas right quick or a significant change in my perception of reality, it's all bad. Does that make sense? I am reaching out for phycological and therapeutic resources, watching your videos almost daily as well as a slew of others. I no longer have a choice about how hard I'm going, it's all or nothing now.
dear Julia, this video was a true discovery for me today! this is exactly what i needed as I literally recognized so many of your signs of over-functioning in myself. Thank you for your content and improving people's lives
The symptoms that you've mentioned are the life of over functioning people like me. This video alone is opening a whole new humane life for me. I will take all points that you have made into consideration. Thank you so much for this video, sure it will lead my life to better stage.
Hi Julia, ty so much for this excellent video, been there done that, so many people are unappreciative and ungrateful, I live for myself and to please myself, my experience, ty, Bob,
Julia another great video I can identify with I know I spent a good part of my life over functioning trying to get everything done, but then I say "doing all this stuff but not accomplishing anything" I don't know how many times I've heard myself say that! it is exhausting to the point of burnout. Thank you Julia for this video it helps to keep things in perspective especially now with all the crap that's going on it makes even harder to remember that it's okay to take a time out and rest.👍
I only recently found out about mindfulness. I love how you are able to point these habits out in such a simplified way and I really appreciate that. I definitely over function but burn out quickly. Wow, this video is so relatable it sounds like your describing me. That's so cool! I look forward to applying.
Problem for me with to-do list is that if I don't push myself to get it done that day then that means more stress the next day, to do both yesterdays to-dos and the current ones. And so on the more you postpone it. And I already got full days every day, so it's more or less impossible either way.
Julia, Thank you very much for your videos, very interesting and useful ! Sometimes you think, that you have to got some pain to progress, but I can´t complain about that
Thank you so much Julia! I've been following you for a couple months and i watched most of your videos. Your videos are great! I love your work, keep it up!
I hear you Jay, we're 2 peas in a pod, and reminding ourselves to set a fair pace for ourselves will be what allows us to appreciate the success AND the journey.
Wow!! This Heart ❤ Centered Go Getter just got an education on what WAS holding me back.. Thank You soo much Julia, I am Moving Forward without the cinder blocks now!! I cant thank you enough 😃🙏🎆🔮
I am 36 and deffinatly feel the cinder block thing but most of my life. I feel so burnt out and a failure in so many aspects. I have severe adhd hyper sensitivity hf anxiety and depression approval seeking and cptsd. I tried for many years to figure it out on my own and I finally hit the bottom with it all. I got diagnosed and got on cymbalta and adderal I am still struggling in many aspects and have been so burned out that I am actually struggling more with time and getting to work on time which makes me feel even worse about myself. I just dont know what to do. Im tired of struggling and I want to be and do better for myself for my son and myself.
This one hit really close to home for me. Especially the bit about feeling like you are lazy if you don't accomplish enough in a day. So very me.
Isn't that an interesting story we've adopted?
This is so true to me. And the funny thing is, I have thought about many of your points, but I treated them as "goals" that I needed to accomplish or "problems" that I needed to solve. But really, the problem lies within my understanding of self-values. I am only 20 years old, but I've been pushing myself so hard. I was constantly struggling to outperform my parents' expectations while experimenting with my own path as a rebellion. I literally work like a dog every day to get those As, to fulfill those internship hours, to socialize, and at night to build my little startup. One thing true about me is that I love comparing myself to the most talented people around me and I hate to admit my mediocracy. My mom really wanted me to do well in math, and my whole experience on the math team back in high school was terrible. My confidence was crushed by a good friend who was just so terribly smart and talented in maths (and he went to MIT with a full-ride). When I rebelled from the pre-med track in the first year of college and started to do politics and debate, I immediately compared myself to those national champions in the same circuit and felt hopelessly stupid.
It is truly hard for a go-getter to change his/her/their minds because, at least in my case, I almost treat it as a human instinct that is beneficial to my personal survival. I am passive, but cautiousness saves me from the worst scenario. I overwork, but overwork makes me ahead of some other folks. I have such a strong sense and motivation within me.
But you're right. I deserve some appreciation from myself. And I deserve some free time. So instead of doing some extra Econ readings, I'll just go to bed and read books tonight.
One of my tricks to improve in this over-functioning way of living, I consider resting as part of the to-do list. I include some personal pleasures into my to-do list, like taking a bath, or napping, or playing a game for some time, and enjoying them in the present moment when doing those things, rather than doing them in a "I'm ticking a box" kind of way.
This is a reminder I really needed, I put in way too much effort compared to everyone else!! I hope you have a lovely day 💛
Take good care of yourself Admir - you deserve that from you.
@@juliakristinamah Awe thank you so much, it genuinely means a lot! :)
This is very helpful. Realizing I need to focus on my OWN journey. "Success" does not mean something has to be "perfect". In fact, as humans, we really can't do anything "perfectly".
Amen to this!
Thank you for your message. Yes, I'm an over functioner :D I get depleted and over stimulated easily by doing too much and then crashing in guilt and shame. It is a horrible cycle, but learning about it helps and knowing that I'm not alone.
First time commenting here. If only I had found your channel 4 years ago, heck 10 months ago. After living a "broken" childhood, I found my self, at the age of 19, stuck in life. I took a moment to grieve my losses and understand what I was feeling so that I could actually forgive and move on. Weighing my options, all or nothing, I chose the "all". I had to make many changes very rapidly. I set goals and I worked towards them. I've had to learn about depression and anxiety. My only strategy is to keep moving. I won't lie, it hasn't been easy. Especially without any form of support. It's hard for me to realize how far I have come in just ten months. Thank you for the work you are doing.
Julia is so young and so wise. I would like to live enough to see her becoming mature, and still be able to share her excelent advise
I’m more sensitive, more emotional, more empathic and caring Julia.
Watched it twice.
I suspect that somehow ,julia kristina knows me personally. She makes me see my personal flaws.
While listening i tried to mirror mode her concepts, holding her concepts as my temporary state of mind.
It does feel better!
There is something calming/soothing about listening to a pretty woman , speaking words of wisdom.
Despite the fact that english is not my first language, slowly, her words are sipping through. Glad to notice it.
Julia kristina is the only human being that gets to me.
She does it with a smile.
It feels she really cares for you.
I cherish her in my mind for times when my life seem so low.
I find solace in her mere image.
Much needed!! I'm definitely an over functioner and feel guilty for resting. I have made myself physically ill from doing too much, burning the wick at both ends. Thank you for these healing words!
Glad it connected with you Carrie. I hope you're able to use some of these tools and be more gracious with yourself.
Before, I don't take much breaks during work or even at home. I work hard, thinking it would make me feel worthy. But one day, I just stopped. I took a break I needed, sometimes even longer than the usual. I tried to do things I enjoy as part of my relaxation. It did me good. And watching this reminded me that I have changed even if it's a little bit. Thank you!
A wise counsellor once told me I am a human being not a human doing. I have to give myself permIssion for leisure time because I am worth it. all the signs you described above are symptomps of codependancy. I have been in codependant recovery for many years and saying no has been the hardest lesson
Hey Julia, "Lead from the heart and wants to move forward" - A great way to explain the heart-centered go-getter. Over functioning, yes that gets tricky when you work in the helping field. Learning it is ok to set boundaries took some time but that has been a game-changer for me. You help remind me to set the track you want to be on and be yourself. If only it was as easy to be kind to ourselves as is it to others.
Three things in particular clicked with me. Asking for help, taking a rest, and saying no. It has to do with the fact that I sometimes don't know what else to do, I'm often tired and could use a nap, and some people don't know when to let up. I say if they can't take no for an answer then try hell no.
Julia, I am learning so much from you. Thank you for setting the example of living true to your purpose, being of service to the world in an authentic way, and shining a light in our hearts!
Hey Julia I'm back :) It feels like you are talking directly to me. I could only nod my head the entire video. The good part is, I've already started to be kinder to myself and giving myself some slack. This was a very good reminder that I'm on the right track. Thank you for helping us who are out here struggling
Great video Julia!🙏🏻💕 I see a lot of childhood trauma survivors who also tend to over-function too -and have signs of autoimmune/health issues, which link a lot to the exhaustion we can feel! Such an important topic from you as usual!❤️
You can easily tell Julia is a REAL one....
The wrong choices can bring us to the right places. The biggest failures often carry the best lessons. When you fail to get what you want, consider that it just might be a blessing in disguise. Seriously, be grateful that certain connections and situations didn’t work out. If you didn’t let go and learn, you would be stuck with false promises. Celebrate your progress.
It’s funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted. Eventually you’ll end up where you need to be, doing the right things, alongside the right people. Patience and persistence are the key. But don’t forget to pause on occasion and appreciate how far you’ve come too. You’ve been through a lot, and you’ve grown a lot. Give yourself credit for the steps you’ve taken, so you can step forward again with grace.
Afterthoughts… On Stepping Through a Day with Grace
All details aside, the goal in the year ahead is to grow so strong on the inside that nothing on the outside can affect your inner wellness without your conscious permission.
It’s about letting go of fantasies, accepting reality, having faith in your journey, and appreciating all the little things that are within your reach.
As you continue to progress forward, do your best to avoid letting anyone or anything clutter your peace of mind. Live a life that moves you and makes you smile every day. Because you don’t want to get to the end, or to tomorrow even, and realize that your life is merely a collection of stressful expectations and “somedays” and errands and receipts and empty promises.
You CAN choose differently!
You CAN step through each day with grace…
peeeace🕊
We don't need to prove ourselves to anyone including ourselves! Thanks, Julia, for such a greatly timed one! This video is really relatable to me!
I’m an introvert Julia and I think it’s keeping me stuck.
I would of never thought I was a heart centered go getter, but I am! When you say that I would instantly think of my daughter! She’s the perfectionist, she overwhelms herself and justifies it because she’s 23 and she has been teaching English Lit to the honor students at a wonderful high school for 2 yrs. now & by summer she’ll be done with her masters! I was a hands on mom and did flash cards at 3 months...She still won’t thank me😂😂😂 no I’m so proud!
This video hits me hard at the right time. Every point that you explained reflects myself so well.
I have been diagnosed with MDD, Bipolar Type 2 and axiety disorder and have been on prolonged medical leaves for since end of 2017. In 2020, i returned to work, then after few weeks, the covid19 pandemic strikes. We are working from home. I'm performing great for few months then many things changes and my performance deteriorates significantly. I pushed myself beyond limits but i end up accomplishing nothing. It is very hard to explain myself to my boss and colleagues since i think the problems are all from my inability to manage works and triggers. I have reached my limit lately and fall sick. I can't sleep, feeling suicidal and worthless. The harder i tried the worse i become. I feel hopeless, severely burnt out and disappointed with myself. Worst thing is my poor performance affects other people's works. I feel guilty and ashamed to even exist. Naturally, people get mad at me and i don't blame them. it is my faults. ☹️
Listening to your video helps me to understand my situation better. Thanks Julia. ❤️
You are a real gem! 💎 I can’t thank you enough for all you do. 🤍
Love your delivery, clarity and shared passion. I learn sooooo much from you!
Thank you for that insight. I've gone no contact with family...Mom covert narc realization at 54! I'm working on that NO word and trying to grow, as someone who needs to prove my worth this is very helpful to think about a slower journey - my journey to a healthy me - vs abusive relationships. I own my business and definitely never feel like I'm enough - helps to understand the root cause of being an overachiever - reminder that it's okay to slow down & quit trying so hard :) Working on getting past guilt and shame.
Powerfully stated! I receive this through the grace of God! Thank you!
Your videos have been candles of light. 🕯⭐️
Thank you very much for all the information. I am learning a lot about myself to improve myself.
I have just begun to listen to your sessions. I am amazed by how profoundly I am reacting to your guidance. I feel like you are speaking directly to me! I connected, strongly, this subject with the last point you made in "10 Things That Will Get Better When You Love Yourself" namely Fighting for Acceptance. Working too hard to please, trying to prove (earn) love.
I am staying tuned to you! You are so helpful!
I think this year even if not easy for many is a perfect time to learn to let go once and for all because we've got no other choice anyway.
We can all understand that we have to lose control of what happens before our eyes.
This year enabled me to have no intentions anymore, no specific desires because you often realize that they are not yours but that It's just those of the others, your neighbor, a member of your family, a celebrity but not yours.
That's why from now on, I just live my day as It is already done because you don't create anything from the human dimension. You live your journey and your journey, if you have enough intuition, is already done because you are your own unfoldment everyday. Nothing is missed. You just have to follow yourself but not your human condition, your higher human who knows exactly what to do because It's already done.
Thank you
This for me is the perfect graduation video from mental/emotional healing. Beautiful.
Go forth!
Damn; this is ME. I am unpacking codependency, boundaries, overfunctioning (just learned this term from a Brene Brown podcast last week). Overfunctioning is NORMALIZED AND COMMENDED in my profession (teaching) and I love my job but NOT AT THE COST OF MY OWN HEALTH. I have been an overfunctioner for My Entire Life and although I do not "compare" myself per se to others - I definitely meet all other criteria. It is as though somewhere along the line I accepted and owned the myth that I am what I do. And even though cognitively I know this is not healthy - it is a hard truth to move into emotionally. So worth it though. Thank you so much for your to the point, awesome teaching videos. They are really helping me move through on onwards in my journey! Exhausted and resentful all the time is definitely not where I want to be. And in a backwards sort of way, I give credit to this pandemic for finally breaking me down to the point where I saw that something had to change! The only way out of rock bottom is up. :)
Thank you. Very true and eye-opening.
Thank you so much Julia!
I’ve been following you now since December 2019 after I had a stroke I’m 41 and my life fell apart . I came across you as I was looking for mindfulness but you have helped me so much
More! Keep up the amazing work x
Great! All these videos around issues related with self-trust are so useful for me. Thank you so much, Julia.
Yes! I had a relationship break up 3 years Ago and have been uncertain about what to do next ever since. Well after 3 years of pushing, I’m stuck and exhausted. All I have is intention and patience to sit and wait now. Yes, the weights. I’ve been feeling that. So heavy. Great video. Thank you! 🙏
I recently started thinking I should further develop my musical talents by practicing long hours everyday, like Coltrane.
The universe spoke to me quickly and often (“that’s not where fulfillment waits”), and this video is now saved in my “timeless” folder for future reminder. I’m indeed a heart centered go getter. Bless you for all your helpful videos.
OMG today I was talking with my ex-manager about this topic to figure out how to be as good as I were in my previous department.. Thank you very much for helping me clearing my mind and focusing on what is matter the most to be more successful in life and career
great break though. Thanks for sharing.
I'm so grateful I came across this video in a way it amazes me that I'm doing more of the right stuff
I never feel pressure to be like others
I always admire and commend people's achievements but dont reflect to myself
I often take a step back
I afford .myself alot of calmness ,rest and less anxiety
If I have a to do list it is more for reminding me what still needs to be done not as a means of pressure because if I only get stuck at number 2 then I know number one needed attention so I'm pleased with the level of self care I have achieved although I need to say no much more as i tend to always want to show up for people and many times they are not worth it because they are selfish and will not do the same for me.
Right on time! Great video...thank you.
This is definitely me and how I give so much to a relationship and all aspects of my life
What about your relationship with you Kim?
@@juliakristinamah i constantly give everything I've got to my relationship and I'm usually the one that gets hurt
Wow! I just watched this and I'm tearful. This is me!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I'm running in quicksand with a straitjacket on. Being an African American woman I've always had to prove myself, that I'm intelligent, educated, a hard worker, etc and it's getting to me. I can fake it so good, I'm ready to crawl in a hole and sleep at the end of each day I'm so done. I don't know. I just don't know. 😢
I know your post is old. but wanted to send you love and light anyways!!
You are heard and understood. You got this... sometimes we have to just get to the place of BE STILL AND KNOW. And sometimes that means some things "seemingly" fall apart, but a lot of times those things that fall away weren't things that we needed to keep holding on to anyways. YOU GOT THIS and you are not alone!!
sheesh. this one spoke to me. sitting at a pancake house listening to it 4x in a row. thank you for what you do!
Your simple words are so deep and important..
Thank you Julia..
Really glad this connected Jareer.
This is so true it hurts.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge
Thank you Julia for helping through difficult moments with your counseling 🤗
Always CJ. Glad you're here.
Constantly trying fix things that might not be my “circus” or fix things that haven’t even happened yet. YOU CANT FIGHT THE CLOCK -IT WINS
Thanks for this video. I needed to hear this .
Very wise speech. Thank you!
Julia, 5:40 am here in Helensville NZ, I'm a long time fan of your thought process. Overfunctioning or Fluidity?The more options people allow themselves to learn in order to reach a decision the greater the chances they confirm a reason to stay still. The other way to look at it is through doing research prior to step's you take - you can simply take them with confidence and if you feel the need for support you are confident that you know where to get the best support quickly.
The ability to shake, to feel, to have empathy, as a man too cry and be happy and to smile are all assets which make viewers whole. Instead of thinking overfunctioner think fluid in times of joy and crises, able to assess a situation with ease and follow through with action. Confidence is within me I am XXXXXX charm surrounds me.
This video has hit me hard. Thank you for the wisdom you share with the world.
This is sooo me but I'm starting to learn and beginning hopefully to make good and better decisions and in doing so it's how I begin to love my self and feel like life is worth living. Thank you for this video Julia
This is something I’ve always had a problem with. I’m impatient. Thx Julia, felt like you were talking straight to me
The shortcut is the long cut ;-)
This is me 1000 miles an hour for like 3 or 4 days then 3 miles an hour for 4 to 5 days dwelling in a deep trench of self pity and dangerous depression. My days of diddling along 3 steps forward two steps back cannot continue, going on 4 years of misery and suffering, psychological, physically, socially, spiritually and mentally. I can't and won't spend much more time with that garbage, I won't. If I don't succeed in all those areas right quick or a significant change in my perception of reality, it's all bad. Does that make sense? I am reaching out for phycological and therapeutic resources, watching your videos almost daily as well as a slew of others. I no longer have a choice about how hard I'm going, it's all or nothing now.
This was so helpful. THANK YOU !!
I think that I have to get everything off my to-do list Julia and I get anxious just like you do Julia.
I very much related to your talk today. Be safe. You add so much to the lives of so many of us.
The way this video blows my mind and explains my lifetime struggle, omg!
dear Julia, this video was a true discovery for me today! this is exactly what i needed as I literally recognized so many of your signs of over-functioning in myself. Thank you for your content and improving people's lives
The symptoms that you've mentioned are the life of over functioning people like me. This video alone is opening a whole new humane life for me. I will take all points that you have made into consideration. Thank you so much for this video, sure it will lead my life to better stage.
Hi Julia, ty so much for this excellent video, been there done that, so many people are unappreciative and ungrateful, I live for myself and to please myself, my experience, ty, Bob,
Really glad you found it helpful Bob.
Julia another great video I can identify with I know I spent a good part of my life over functioning trying to get everything done, but then I say "doing all this stuff but not accomplishing anything" I don't know how many times I've heard myself say that! it is exhausting to the point of burnout. Thank you Julia for this video it helps to keep things in perspective especially now with all the crap that's going on it makes even harder to remember that it's okay to take a time out and rest.👍
I like your material. You don't know how much it helps.
With only very little exaggeration I can say - amen.
I only recently found out about mindfulness. I love how you are able to point these habits out in such a simplified way and I really appreciate that. I definitely over function but burn out quickly. Wow, this video is so relatable it sounds like your describing me. That's so cool! I look forward to applying.
Hello 👋 JULIA, I’m back again. I wouldn’t give up your videos for the world!🙋♂️❤️🙏
Hello! I really appreciate and relate a lot of your talks.
Great video Julia!
Problem for me with to-do list is that if I don't push myself to get it done that day then that means more stress the next day, to do both yesterdays to-dos and the current ones. And so on the more you postpone it. And I already got full days every day, so it's more or less impossible either way.
Julia, Thank you very much for your videos, very interesting and useful ! Sometimes you think, that you have to got some pain to progress, but I can´t complain about that
I say yes to often Julia.
I really need to let my journey be my own Julia.
Very helpful to understand the personalities very well . Thanks 🙏
Thank you so much Julia! I've been following you for a couple months and i watched most of your videos. Your videos are great! I love your work, keep it up!
Hi I am Laura , I am new 2 yur channel. I needed this sooooo much ! I have been dealing w/ this all my life !!
Hello Julia thank you for your help
Thank you. I really needed this reminder.
Thanks again! Your awesome!💞✌
Hello! I’m so happy I found you Julia ✨
Mindblown! 🤯
I’m SOO driven as a small business owner and Musician. Awesome post! Many points
I hear you Jay, we're 2 peas in a pod, and reminding ourselves to set a fair pace for ourselves will be what allows us to appreciate the success AND the journey.
Loved the comment on the "to do" list! So true, there will never be a shortfall of things to do. 😂
That’s exactly me now days ..over functioning myself -🙏thank you!
I'm the master frustrator of overdoing things!!
Thank you.
Julia you are a magician ❤️
Yes, thank u!!!
Wow!! This Heart ❤ Centered Go Getter just got an education on what WAS holding me back.. Thank You soo much Julia, I am Moving Forward without the cinder blocks now!! I cant thank you enough 😃🙏🎆🔮
I am 36 and deffinatly feel the cinder block thing but most of my life. I feel so burnt out and a failure in so many aspects. I have severe adhd hyper sensitivity hf anxiety and depression approval seeking and cptsd. I tried for many years to figure it out on my own and I finally hit the bottom with it all. I got diagnosed and got on cymbalta and adderal I am still struggling in many aspects and have been so burned out that I am actually struggling more with time and getting to work on time which makes me feel even worse about myself. I just dont know what to do. Im tired of struggling and I want to be and do better for myself for my son and myself.
All yes to all this.
This is such a great one to hear.... thank you for sharing your ideas... Love it!.
Wow, dear, thank you! I love ♥️ the Amy Grant song, 🎶"Don't Try So Hard" 🎶
Yasss!
HI, you are awesome, and your videos are delivered to me just at the supreme moment I need them! I really enjoy your perspective.
This is a piece of advice I need, thank you, from Costa Rica !!
Hi Kristina. Nice to know you. Merry Christmas. Tim from Guildford England.
Great points. Thanks. Enjoy the journey. 😉
I feel naked with these videos! Heart centered go getters is a perfect definition! Thank you 😊