You don’t owe anyone an explanation! Everyone deals with these things in their own way & no one has the right to judge you for doing it you’re way! Sending you & your family lots of love x
Oh dear, dear Georgina! you owe NO ONE an explanation for what you’re going through. It pains me to the core that someone is hurting you even more with an insensitive comment to say the least! You are going through so much right now and maybe this person isn’t following you with sincerity and is just a grump! (to put it mildly.) you are handing and balancing so many activities and feelings with grace and dignity. God bless you! I love you for being such a beautiful person, wishing you the best. ❤️.
very well said. the person who posted that comment is just IGNORANT beyond belief. I think you are a very strong and inspiring woman. you have my full support. ❤
Yep. I used to get hit in the shower with it. My ex-husband took his own life and I was left to sort out his affairs and household stuff etc. I was judged by his workmates as cold cow etc bc I just got on with it but I cried and cried each night for months! It took years to be in a comfortable place to deal with it.. he died 8 years ago! Nobody knows what somebody else is going through when it comes to grief. I can't even imagine losing a child. She might have been 23 but she was her baby! How can people be mean?
My mother died 10 years ago. I dived into my work and after several months I had no energy left. I sat on my sofa for 2,5 years before I got up and was able to say: it’s ok now. Sending you love.
Wow. This is exactly how I handle things and exactly how I feel stuck on the couch and in the house most days (whenever I don't HAVE to be somewhere else). This comment just smacked me in the face! Wow wow wow. Thank you for sharing thus, I know it's over a year old but still.. hope you are doing well!
I have personally found your strength and ability to move forward as best you can absolutely mind blowingly inspirational. To get yourself out of bed every day at this time when the pain must be unreal is a giant achievement in itself, but to then be able to do things for yourself, to smile when you can and to continue to serve the community that enjoys your work is beyond incredible. You have shown to me that it is possible to live even after such a terribly sad loss and I will remember you and your beautiful strength should unfortunate times of grief face me. You’re doing amazing ❤️
Some people are just horrid. Grief is different for everyone. And we all deal in different ways. Sounds like this person wanted attention! We know how heartbroken and upset you are. But you are choosing to live! And honor Ellie's memory. More power to you! Sending love and positive vibes. X
Normally I would say don’t bother wasting energy on people like this. They just don’t have empathy which too many are lacking. However you’re using your platform to bring awareness to a huge issue and you’re helping soo many other people just by being your honest and vulnerable self. It’s also good to let out frustration in any way. It will get easier and all you can do is take it day by day , hour by hour and sometimes minute by minute. Which is how we all should be living anyhow in the moment as much as we can. ❤️
That’s what I thought. Grief is rarely talked about and we all we have to go through it at some time in our lives. If my video shows people they are not alone then I’ve done a good job x
Wow, I can’t believe someone had the audacity to say that. Grief is not linear, it hits you at different times in different ways and you don’t owe anyone an explanation but we all appreciate you sharing this loss with us. You have no obligation to share but it’s nice letting us know what’s going on and for making us more aware of epilepsy because it is a condition I feel not a lot know about well. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and do whatever is you need to do to deal with the grief. Best wishes!❤️
I was upset listening to this , how dare a horrible person choose to impose on your grief , what was their intention? That’s the only trouble with being in the public domain I suppose, keep making these lovely videos , I love watching you’re bubbly personality you are a lovely lady xx
Grief is a very strange thing. My partner died 3 years ago and I almost don't remember the year after, but apparently I was a bit all over the place. You do things as best you can and muddle through as best you're able. For whatever it's worth, in my (limited and egocentric) experience, it's better to try to enjoy what you can. Being miserable doesn't achieve anything. If you are miserable at any one time, fair play and it's good to let yourself feel, but if you're not, then don't force misery. Anyway, that's a long winded way of saying that just keep muddling through and doing the best you can under the circumstances, even if that's just having a shower.
How dare anyone judge! Of course you are heartbroken and I’m so glad you got to experience happiness again! You will go through the grief cycle in so many ways! Sending so much love to you! You are so strong and brave for sharing your story 💚
Georgina, you do not have to justify your life and what you have to do to cope, grief is terrifying, 1 day you can face life, another day you can't, you are a fantastic lady and very genuous with your time talking about Ellie, you were fantastic together, you will never forget her and you are still alive and Ellie would want you to carry on, the best thing for you is the fact you have a lot of Ellie you can see, she is singing, you are together doing your vocal coaching, so she will never be out of your sight, and you will be together again, God obviously really wanted Ellie for a reason and you will find out when you also go to Heaven, God Bless you Geogina always.
So sorry you have received negative comments during this difficult time. You are not required to justify your grief process to anyone. Do whatever you need to. Sending you support.
Grief is such a personal experience. I cannot believe that someone would even stoop so low. Shame on them!!! Sending you lots of love and hugs and keep shining your beautiful light with us all Georgina xXx
Your description of the grief fog and the cyclic nature of the stages of grief and how completely overwhelming it can be is the best description I have heard and can relate to, by far, ever. My prayers and sympathy for your great loss. Much love ❤️
When my dad committed suicide, I was 18 years old. I had lost my mum 10 years earlier. When I found my dad in the bathroom, I calmly called the services and waited in the other room for them to arrive. I was shortly before my university exams, after the funeral I threw myself into my studies and didn't have time to process it. Every grief is experienced differently. People have asked me why I didn't cry at the funeral. If they only knew how many therapy sessions I cried through a few years after the incident, they wouldn't ask stupid questions. Georgina, you are entitled to grieve and whatever form it takes, it is your personal business. Know that your community and audience supports and cheers you on. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. Take care! ❤️
You grieve how you feel is best for you. You grieve for as long as it takes. You do not ever owe anyone an explanation. 13 years I still grieve a loss. 6 months I still grieve a loss. Sometimes I'm ok, sometimes I vocally grieve, sometimes I silently grieve. You're an amazing strong lady!
Georgina, thank you for this video. I lost my mum suddenly in February and as much as my heart is breaking every day and I can't go a second without thinking about her, ironically I've been living life to the fullest this year. I think that has something to do with COVID lifting this year too, but on my social media you would've seen me enjoying life more.
Your daughter would be proud of you. She would love you to keep smiling and wanting to get better and better despite the pain. You are a strong and sweet woman, your integrity is admirable. Lots of love from France, we'll always be here to watch your videos.
You shared a ten minute snippet of 72hrs. Well done on keeping it together for a ten minute vlog to keep you distracted and working and sharing a nice time you had with your internet family xxxx You have been such a source of strength to me, my ex partner died the week before your Ellie and her daughter wouldn't allow me to attend her funeral. There was no closure . She was still my best friend. But I've closed it off. And I send you so much love xxx (Guilt feels like a stage of grief that is missing)
Ever since you lost your daughter I have followed your channel quite closely I suppose just to make sure you're ok. It's crazy I don't even know you but this breaks my heart. And I often think about you. I'm so glad you have been able to still love and enjoy life. Do you have any other children? Its great to know you have a partner . That's a good support X
Each person deals with grief the best they can, nobody has the right to judge you. You are going through a veeeeery hard situation nobody should have to live, and no one that hasn't experience something like that can even begin to understand what it is like (I myself haven't lost a daughter, so I include myself). You're such a strong person, do whatever feels right and ignore comments like those. Sending all my strength from Spain ❤️
So what that comment basically said was when you are grieving you are not allowed to smile or be happy, when those things are so important when going through it. Stay strong ❤
Its so horrific. I lost my brother too. Recently. Cant imagine a life without him. And i know what you say is True. I wont stop grieving. I'll learn how to life with the pain😢
It sounds like that person has never had any major loss in their lives. Lucky for them. Those 5 stages of grief will be all over the place. People go through the stages multiple times and not always in order. It's been almost 20 years since I lost my Mom, and those stages sometimes come out of nowhere. Now that I have my own children, I relive those stages because I miss her not being here and sharing in all the ways she never got to be a grandmother and there for me as a new Mom etc. You grieve however it comes to you and apologize to no one!! We are here to support you, Georgina! Try and ignore the unsympathetic people. In my opinion, that means that they are not very happy people in their own lives. How sad for them.
We love you very much. Your response to this shows what a big person you are. Most people rightfully so would be raging and putting the commentator on blast. But you took the high road and turned it into an educating moment. Really appreciate this outlook and you are incredibly strong that you can compartmentalize in as healthy of a way possible and still try and enjoy your life and work, you know that’s what Ellie would want. Much love Georgina 💕
So sorry that you are grieving and have to put up with negative comments. I'm coming to yUK soon. I miss England and hope to take singing lessons with yourself, face to face, if possible. Perhaps we could arrange a Blended Learning program later. Lots of Love martin xxx.
How dare ANYBODY judge or even have the gall to comment on how someone else is grieving!!! Infuriating. Good for you for speaking out against this abuse. And it is an abusive comment. You, or anybody else, should not have to justify how you're handling the loss of a loved one, nevermind one of their children, to anybody.
@@georginavlog I thought the writer’s intention was to suggest that grief can cause the sufferer to be all over the place, and that there is not a strict or predictable pattern that everyone follows.
This is what is meant by squiggly: “Grief rarely (if ever!) follows a linear path. It is more like a squiggly line that goes up and down, backwards and forwards, runs straight and gets tangled up again - sometimes many times over. There are ups and downs. In the midst of emotional times, remind yourself that there is not a ‘correct way’ of how you should be feeling or reacting.” I’m so sorry you got that judgemental comment that you talk about in the video, it was so insensitive of them. You’re completely right in saying that it’s a personal experience… I don’t know how anyone could judge what another person is going through. I’m very sorry for your loss. @@georginavlog
The emotions of grief come in so many waves including undeserved guilt. I’m proud Georgina you speaking up for yourself , we won’t tolerate that nasty anonymous insensitive behaviour here. They come for you they have to go through all of us first
Everyone has a different way of dealing with grief! I think you are amazing how you have dealt with losing your daughter and the way you have been able to go on holiday and carry on and still remember that you have to live your life and laugh. Your daughter would want you to! Keep doing what ure doing you are wonderful xx
Sending ALL my LOVE and condolences to you Georgina. From Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷 How dare anyone judging your grief? It’s unacceptable. You’re strong! I admire you so much.
people have no right to judge you , grief is a journey that takes different times and different routes , only when you have suffered a pain like yours will they ever get any comprehension of your pain. please dont waste your energy with these people just take care and we are there for you xxx
People can be horrible, you got to hope that they dont mean to be. That they just dont know any better. Whatever the case, dont let anyone tell you how to process your grief. They share none of that, they have no say. Take your time to find the healing you need and do all that you need to deal with the loss. And, yes, that includes taking time off and looking after your mental and physical health. Love and support from Italy ❤️🇮🇹
Your grief is yours in the same way your relationship with your beautiful daughter was unique to the 2 of you. Some people don't have the depth and sensitivity to understand.
Do whatever feels natural to you. Everyone is different and every loss is different. Sometimes escapism is a brilliant way to get through it, nothing wrong with escaping from every day life. Much love to you ❤️
Hi Georgina, everything you said was on point. Educating people never really ends and someone has to do it. Always be yourself and as far as I've seen so far, you've never let people steer you like a car wheel. Love from Poland 🇵🇱 ❤️
Says a ton more about that person, than anyone else - and ignorance comes to mind...🤷♀️😳🙄 You do you, and your grief is - of course - yours to handle, how it's right for you...💞💞💞💞
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. You shouldn't have to explain yourself, there is no rule how people should grieve - that person has no right to judge you.
Exactly! Nobody should judge our grief. It depends on how we handle the grief. What we are only doing is just keep going as a normal person even the pain is still there. It shows that you are a very strong person. Sorry for your loss, stay strong ❤️
The journey you take through this grief is yours and yours alone. Only you know the good and bad days, and you take the laughter when it comes along. No one should ever judge, especially when it comes to grief. I thoroughly admire you and your strength. Stay strong ❤️
This video is necessary cause some people truly needs to be educated. And I always found very brave from you that you're still working and doing what do you best cause, you don't have to be really smart to guess that work helps your mind and heart to be absent sometimes and it helps to get through the pain
Grief hits people differently and no one has the right to say how someone is grieving is wrong. When my Grandmother passed away last year I carried on with work and met friends and carried on as normal until about 5 months later it hit me as if it had happened the day before and had to take time away. Grief never fully leaves you. You accept what has happened but grief is like an emotional roller coaster. Wishing you all the best 💐
You have every right to enjoy life the way you feel is best for you. In grief I've learned, having lost my father in March, that my emotions are all over the map. I have really great day then next thing I get moments where my brain just feels heavy and I can't think about anything. Like, literally, anything! I saw a counselor just after his passing and she explained to me that it will come and go for a long time and to just experience the emotions. People on the internet hide behind their avatars and some literally don't care about anyone else, but themselves. You are a beautiful person and I send you all my love ❤
Bless you, Georgina! You are so very right that grieving is such a unique and individualized process. No one should pass judgment on someone’s grief process. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter. I have also lost a little girl, and there are so many days I go through several or all the different stages of grief. I’d like to share a quote from author Ann Hood: “Grief is not linear. People kept telling me that once this happened or that passed, everything would be better. Some people gave me one year to grieve. They saw grief as a straight line, with a beginning, middle, and end. But it is not linear. It is disjointed. One day you are acting almost like a normal person. You maybe even manage to take a shower. Your clothes match. You think the autumn leaves look pretty, or enjoy the sound of snow crunching under your feet. Then a song, a glimpse of something, or maybe even nothing sends you back into the hole of grief. It is not one step forward, two steps back. It is a jumble. It is hours that are all right, and weeks that aren't. Or it is good days and bad days. Or it is the weight of sadness making you look different to others and nothing helps.” I absolutely love your videos. You are such a joy! Sending you hugs. ❤
I am so sorry this person felt they could judge your grief . No one should begrudge you a little sniper of happiness wherever you can . my wife lost her daughter 45 years ago and she still goes through all the stages of grief , but she also has good times and good memories. You are doing everything you need to do for yourself , and whatever you do your daughter will always be with you , and NOBODY has the right to tell you how to grieve . I hope the person who made that comment feels thoroughly ashamed .
When you’re going through something like this, you want ANY kind of respite that you can get… then when you actually achieve that, it’s still tainted because you can think of nothing else or a lot of the times you actually feel guilty. The ONLY thing that you can tell yourself is the truth: “they aren’t here anymore and I am and I’ve got to survive”. And that slogan is WHY you’re going to Wales and making vlogs and pouring into your channel. You have to have something that anchors you to your life. And as you said, it does get easier. And as you know, you’ll never forget. Eventually you will learn how exactly she fits into your life now, still, and that is when it starts to get better. Lots of prayers for you! (First time commenter, you’re AMAZING in so many ways and by posting through this you are showing others they aren’t alone or doing it wrong. Wish I had had an example.)
There was a comment that I heard from a famous medium from america that I thought was sweet. "Everyday that you wake up in the morning, your one day closer to the loved ones that you loved and lost". Live everyday for them, so they can see life through your eyes and remember that they never really left you, you just cant see them through human eyes and they will always be by your side until you meet again on the other side.
When I was young I lost my brother as he ended his life. My mom could not get out of bed for most of my childhood. Sadly as she started to get better she too passed away. The best moments of my childhood was when my parents were able to genuinely smile even through the pain. Sending you a huge hug from Across the pond as they say 😜💙. It makes me sad that person showed such cruelty in your comments, however this was a beautiful video and I hope it let a touch of pain off your shoulder regarding rude comments. 💙🙏💙. Sending you positive energy and very sorry for your loss.
I am a fellow bereaved mother. There is no such thing as a way to behave. You have to keep going with your child in heart. That person who wrote that should be ashamed. You have nothing to explain at all! Love to you and your family xxxx
That Was Extremely Insensitive! Grief Isn’t Something That Can Even Be Described! We Have To Educate Ourselves Before Open Our Mouths! You’re An Amazing Person And You Have My Full Support! I’m Still Grieving Both My Brother & Father Who Died In 2018. We Have To Learn Compassion
This comment is from someone who has never experienced grief or has spent their life as a devout mourner and didn’t warrant any response! The week after my mum died suddenly I was dragged to a wedding by friends and my sister had what would have been our mum’s first grandchild. Celebrating these occasions didn’t mean we were mourning any less, there are moments of light in the darkness. Grieving is a long journey and there is no textbook process, you just have to do what’s right for you and whatever gets you though. After 7 years I still have the occasional 20-30 seconds of overwhelming sadness that comes out of nowhere but you learn to cope. Sending love and positivity ❤️
how sad is it actually that someone put you into a situation where you feel you have apologise for something this personal. you have every right to grieve however it suits you, however you can deal with this kind of loss (if even possible). Don’t let this kind of ignorance poison your healing. Love from austria, M.
I don't know how you manage to even deal with it, loosing a child is the worst thing to ever, I can't imagine loosing my child. I'm glad that you managed to even go on a trip and Ellie wouldn't want you to hate your life now, she wants you to be happy and remember her and think of her. My husband just lost his dad, I can tell he grieves but its in different stages too and he has a laugh and wants to go out and then is down and constantly feels heartbroken. Keep it up!
Georgina what a mature response.. you have a right to live your life free of judgement... i think showing people that life can go on despite the trauma of losing a loved one will give others hope and what a beautiful gift. Sending you love ❤️
You don't owe an explanation to even those people close to you Georgina - your grief is personal and nobody can walk a day in your shoes. Just know that you are not on your own - reach out when and if you feel the need..... no one can put a timeframe on grief... yours will hopefully ease with time but it won't ever totally leave you. This is your child and you have the right to grieve in your own way, for as long as you need to. You have a lot of support... that is because you are a genuinely nice person - Take strength from the positive people around you and stay safe. With love and hope to you and your family from Australia. 💝
Wonderfully and articulately spoken about, I'm sorry that someone ignorant said such a horrible thing via the comment section. It shows the type of person you are that you made it into a teachable moment.
Dear Georgina, everyone has his/her own way of dealing with things they're going through. Nobody - literally nobody - has the right to judge. That says alot about themselves. Wish you lots of strength and just do what you feel you need to do. Hugs x
Oooooh, sweety, never forget we adore you, and love your warm attribution for such an amazing and beautiful loved one... We send you love from Belgium. Xxx
Everyone’s grief is personally different to another’s. I couldn’t imagine ever losing any of my daughters especially so sudden. You deal with it how you can. We have so much respect for you and still loving seeing you smile. People are just uneducated. We appreciate this video.
Your daughter had an amazing mother when she was here in the form that we're in. She still had an amazing mother in the form she's in. I am in deep grief and what you've said resonates. I'm finding it hard to accept also. Bless you, love Marc x
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You don’t owe anyone an explanation! Everyone deals with these things in their own way & no one has the right to judge you for doing it you’re way! Sending you & your family lots of love x
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100% agree. You do what you need to do . This is your life and your moment Georgina! 💕
Exactly!
Oh dear, dear Georgina! you owe NO ONE an explanation for what you’re going through. It pains me to the core that someone is hurting you even more with an insensitive comment to say the least! You are going through so much right now and maybe this person isn’t following you with sincerity and is just a grump! (to put it mildly.) you are handing and balancing so many activities and feelings with grace and dignity. God bless you! I love you for being such a beautiful person, wishing you the best. ❤️.
very well said. the person who posted that comment is just IGNORANT beyond belief. I think you are a very strong and inspiring woman. you have my full support. ❤
The worst thing about grief (I have found) is that it just randomly hits you just as you think you are OK. I hope you’re alright
So true. X
Yep. I used to get hit in the shower with it. My ex-husband took his own life and I was left to sort out his affairs and household stuff etc. I was judged by his workmates as cold cow etc bc I just got on with it but I cried and cried each night for months! It took years to be in a comfortable place to deal with it.. he died 8 years ago! Nobody knows what somebody else is going through when it comes to grief. I can't even imagine losing a child. She might have been 23 but she was her baby! How can people be mean?
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My mother died 10 years ago. I dived into my work and after several months I had no energy left. I sat on my sofa for 2,5 years before I got up and was able to say: it’s ok now. Sending you love.
Wow. This is exactly how I handle things and exactly how I feel stuck on the couch and in the house most days (whenever I don't HAVE to be somewhere else). This comment just smacked me in the face! Wow wow wow. Thank you for sharing thus, I know it's over a year old but still.. hope you are doing well!
I have personally found your strength and ability to move forward as best you can absolutely mind blowingly inspirational.
To get yourself out of bed every day at this time when the pain must be unreal is a giant achievement in itself, but to then be able to do things for yourself, to smile when you can and to continue to serve the community that enjoys your work is beyond incredible.
You have shown to me that it is possible to live even after such a terribly sad loss and I will remember you and your beautiful strength should unfortunate times of grief face me.
You’re doing amazing ❤️
Thank you ♥️
Some people are just horrid. Grief is different for everyone. And we all deal in different ways. Sounds like this person wanted attention! We know how heartbroken and upset you are. But you are choosing to live! And honor Ellie's memory. More power to you! Sending love and positive vibes. X
Nobody knows what you're going through..You don't owe anyone any explanation...we love you
Normally I would say don’t bother wasting energy on people like this. They just don’t have empathy which too many are lacking. However you’re using your platform to bring awareness to a huge issue and you’re helping soo many other people just by being your honest and vulnerable self. It’s also good to let out frustration in any way. It will get easier and all you can do is take it day by day , hour by hour and sometimes minute by minute. Which is how we all should be living anyhow in the moment as much as we can. ❤️
That’s what I thought. Grief is rarely talked about and we all we have to go through it at some time in our lives. If my video shows people they are not alone then I’ve done a good job x
Wow, I can’t believe someone had the audacity to say that. Grief is not linear, it hits you at different times in different ways and you don’t owe anyone an explanation but we all appreciate you sharing this loss with us. You have no obligation to share but it’s nice letting us know what’s going on and for making us more aware of epilepsy because it is a condition I feel not a lot know about well. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and do whatever is you need to do to deal with the grief. Best wishes!❤️
I was upset listening to this , how dare a horrible person choose to impose on your grief , what was their intention? That’s the only trouble with being in the public domain I suppose, keep making these lovely videos , I love watching you’re bubbly personality you are a lovely lady xx
Grief is a very strange thing. My partner died 3 years ago and I almost don't remember the year after, but apparently I was a bit all over the place. You do things as best you can and muddle through as best you're able. For whatever it's worth, in my (limited and egocentric) experience, it's better to try to enjoy what you can. Being miserable doesn't achieve anything. If you are miserable at any one time, fair play and it's good to let yourself feel, but if you're not, then don't force misery. Anyway, that's a long winded way of saying that just keep muddling through and doing the best you can under the circumstances, even if that's just having a shower.
How dare anyone judge! Of course you are heartbroken and I’m so glad you got to experience happiness again! You will go through the grief cycle in so many ways! Sending so much love to you! You are so strong and brave for sharing your story 💚
Georgina, you do not have to justify your life and what you have to do to cope, grief is terrifying, 1 day you can face life, another day you can't, you are a fantastic lady and very genuous with your time talking about Ellie, you were fantastic together, you will never forget her and you are still alive and Ellie would want you to carry on, the best thing for you is the fact you have a lot of Ellie you can see, she is singing, you are together doing your vocal coaching, so she will never be out of your sight, and you will be together again, God obviously really wanted Ellie for a reason and you will find out when you also go to Heaven, God Bless you Geogina always.
So sorry you have received negative comments during this difficult time. You are not required to justify your grief process to anyone. Do whatever you need to. Sending you support.
Well said! You have all our support!
Grief is such a personal experience. I cannot believe that someone would even stoop so low. Shame on them!!! Sending you lots of love and hugs and keep shining your beautiful light with us all Georgina xXx
You are inspirational and I hope you blocked this horrible person. Sending you love 💗
Your description of the grief fog and the cyclic nature of the stages of grief and how completely overwhelming it can be is the best description I have heard and can relate to, by far, ever. My prayers and sympathy for your great loss. Much love ❤️
I'm so sorry ya had to go through this, sweet. That comment was bang out of order! People can honestly be unbelievably rude at times!
When my dad committed suicide, I was 18 years old. I had lost my mum 10 years earlier. When I found my dad in the bathroom, I calmly called the services and waited in the other room for them to arrive. I was shortly before my university exams, after the funeral I threw myself into my studies and didn't have time to process it. Every grief is experienced differently. People have asked me why I didn't cry at the funeral. If they only knew how many therapy sessions I cried through a few years after the incident, they wouldn't ask stupid questions. Georgina, you are entitled to grieve and whatever form it takes, it is your personal business. Know that your community and audience supports and cheers you on. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. Take care! ❤️
You grieve how you feel is best for you.
You grieve for as long as it takes.
You do not ever owe anyone an explanation.
13 years I still grieve a loss.
6 months I still grieve a loss.
Sometimes I'm ok, sometimes I vocally grieve, sometimes I silently grieve.
You're an amazing strong lady!
Love from the Netherlands ❤❤❤
We all grief in different ways and no matter which one it is, the goal is to be happy again. A warm hug from here! 🧡
Georgina, thank you for this video. I lost my mum suddenly in February and as much as my heart is breaking every day and I can't go a second without thinking about her, ironically I've been living life to the fullest this year. I think that has something to do with COVID lifting this year too, but on my social media you would've seen me enjoying life more.
My mom passed in 2019. I still go through all of these too!
So very well said. Only you know how you feel and you needed to find your own way to grieve. Your strength is inspiring.
People think it’s ok to tell people how they should feel, their parents should be ashamed of themselves.
❤️❤️ no rules at all, I happen to think your way is fantastic ❤️❤️
I've just watched. No one should tell you how to feel, how to behave ... I can't even imagine the pain ... All the best wishes for you Georgina ❤️
Your daughter would be proud of you. She would love you to keep smiling and wanting to get better and better despite the pain. You are a strong and sweet woman, your integrity is admirable. Lots of love from France, we'll always be here to watch your videos.
You shared a ten minute snippet of 72hrs.
Well done on keeping it together for a ten minute vlog to keep you distracted and working and sharing a nice time you had with your internet family xxxx
You have been such a source of strength to me, my ex partner died the week before your Ellie and her daughter wouldn't allow me to attend her funeral. There was no closure . She was still my best friend. But I've closed it off.
And I send you so much love xxx
(Guilt feels like a stage of grief that is missing)
Everyone deals with grief their own way - warm hugs to you, Georgina.
Ever since you lost your daughter I have followed your channel quite closely I suppose just to make sure you're ok. It's crazy I don't even know you but this breaks my heart. And I often think about you. I'm so glad you have been able to still love and enjoy life. Do you have any other children? Its great to know you have a partner . That's a good support X
Each person deals with grief the best they can, nobody has the right to judge you. You are going through a veeeeery hard situation nobody should have to live, and no one that hasn't experience something like that can even begin to understand what it is like (I myself haven't lost a daughter, so I include myself). You're such a strong person, do whatever feels right and ignore comments like those. Sending all my strength from Spain ❤️
So what that comment basically said was when you are grieving you are not allowed to smile or be happy, when those things are so important when going through it. Stay strong ❤
There's no right way to grieve. You just have to ignore the strange people in the world : )
You're an amazing woman ❤️ my brother died in 2020.. his birthday is on Tuesday.. the pain never goes away, you can only learn to live with it x
Sending my love to you and your family x
hope your ok
Its so horrific. I lost my brother too. Recently. Cant imagine a life without him. And i know what you say is True. I wont stop grieving. I'll learn how to life with the pain😢
It sounds like that person has never had any major loss in their lives. Lucky for them. Those 5 stages of grief will be all over the place. People go through the stages multiple times and not always in order. It's been almost 20 years since I lost my Mom, and those stages sometimes come out of nowhere. Now that I have my own children, I relive those stages because I miss her not being here and sharing in all the ways she never got to be a grandmother and there for me as a new Mom etc. You grieve however it comes to you and apologize to no one!! We are here to support you, Georgina! Try and ignore the unsympathetic people. In my opinion, that means that they are not very happy people in their own lives. How sad for them.
We love you very much. Your response to this shows what a big person you are. Most people rightfully so would be raging and putting the commentator on blast. But you took the high road and turned it into an educating moment. Really appreciate this outlook and you are incredibly strong that you can compartmentalize in as healthy of a way possible and still try and enjoy your life and work, you know that’s what Ellie would want. Much love Georgina 💕
So sorry that you are grieving and have to put up with negative comments. I'm coming to yUK soon. I miss England and hope to take singing lessons with yourself, face to face, if possible. Perhaps we could arrange a Blended Learning program later. Lots of Love martin xxx.
How dare ANYBODY judge or even have the gall to comment on how someone else is grieving!!! Infuriating. Good for you for speaking out against this abuse. And it is an abusive comment. You, or anybody else, should not have to justify how you're handling the loss of a loved one, nevermind one of their children, to anybody.
Grief is squiggly. Honestly those who comment things like that are beyond me. Keep on keeping on!
Squiggly? I haven’t heard it described like that before.
@@georginavlog I thought the writer’s intention was to suggest that grief can cause the sufferer to be all over the place, and that there is not a strict or predictable pattern that everyone follows.
This is what is meant by squiggly: “Grief rarely (if ever!) follows a linear path. It is more like a squiggly line that goes up and down, backwards and forwards, runs straight and gets tangled up again - sometimes many times over. There are ups and downs. In the midst of emotional times, remind yourself that there is not a ‘correct way’ of how you should be feeling or reacting.”
I’m so sorry you got that judgemental comment that you talk about in the video, it was so insensitive of them. You’re completely right in saying that it’s a personal experience… I don’t know how anyone could judge what another person is going through. I’m very sorry for your loss.
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The emotions of grief come in so many waves including undeserved guilt. I’m proud Georgina you speaking up for yourself , we won’t tolerate that nasty anonymous insensitive behaviour here. They come for you they have to go through all of us first
No one has a right to judge someone else's grief. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I wish you peace.
My grief for my father has not disappeared even after 16 years I still grieve, but it has gotten less. I will always love my dad. Hugs from the USA.
Mine passed 17 years ago , n I'm same as you , Australia xx alanna
Everyone has a different way of dealing with grief! I think you are amazing how you have dealt with losing your daughter and the way you have been able to go on holiday and carry on and still remember that you have to live your life and laugh. Your daughter would want you to! Keep doing what ure doing you are wonderful xx
Ignore them there's no rules to grief ❤️❤️
Sending ALL my LOVE and condolences to you Georgina. From Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷 How dare anyone judging your grief? It’s unacceptable. You’re strong! I admire you so much.
people have no right to judge you , grief is a journey that takes different times and different routes , only when you have suffered a pain like yours will they ever get any comprehension of your pain. please dont waste your energy with these people just take care and we are there for you xxx
Sending love❤️❤️❤️
People can be horrible, you got to hope that they dont mean to be. That they just dont know any better. Whatever the case, dont let anyone tell you how to process your grief. They share none of that, they have no say. Take your time to find the healing you need and do all that you need to deal with the loss. And, yes, that includes taking time off and looking after your mental and physical health. Love and support from Italy ❤️🇮🇹
❤❤❤❤❤ do what makes you happy and to cope. Thinking of you ❤❤❤
Much love to you.
Your grief is yours in the same way your relationship with your beautiful daughter was unique to the 2 of you. Some people don't have the depth and sensitivity to understand.
Do whatever feels natural to you. Everyone is different and every loss is different.
Sometimes escapism is a brilliant way to get through it, nothing wrong with escaping from every day life.
Much love to you ❤️
I totally agree
Amen
You owe no one an explanation, you do what you need to to be able to get out of bed each day. Ignore such ignorance. Sending massive hugs xxx
What a compassionate response to a very misjudged comment. Sending you love.
Hi Georgina, everything you said was on point. Educating people never really ends and someone has to do it. Always be yourself and as far as I've seen so far, you've never let people steer you like a car wheel. Love from Poland 🇵🇱 ❤️
Sending all the love xxx
Says a ton more about that person, than anyone else - and ignorance comes to mind...🤷♀️😳🙄 You do you, and your grief is - of course - yours to handle, how it's right for you...💞💞💞💞
Well said! Let it go now. Not worth the wasted energy. We love you x
Sending much love. 💖
"I live on another Planet " . That's right. You have not explain to anybody your Grief. I suffer by Depression . And i smile.
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. You shouldn't have to explain yourself, there is no rule how people should grieve - that person has no right to judge you.
Exactly! Nobody should judge our grief. It depends on how we handle the grief. What we are only doing is just keep going as a normal person even the pain is still there. It shows that you are a very strong person. Sorry for your loss, stay strong ❤️
I am so sorry Georgina, you shouldn't have to see those disrespectful & ignorant comments. Biggest hugs. ❤️
The journey you take through this grief is yours and yours alone. Only you know the good and bad days, and you take the laughter when it comes along. No one should ever judge, especially when it comes to grief. I thoroughly admire you and your strength. Stay strong ❤️
I 100% support you Georgina! And getting back to work is important. Life does have to go on, no matter how hard it is. Sending love your way!
This video is necessary cause some people truly needs to be educated. And I always found very brave from you that you're still working and doing what do you best cause, you don't have to be really smart to guess that work helps your mind and heart to be absent sometimes and it helps to get through the pain
Grief hits people differently and no one has the right to say how someone is grieving is wrong. When my Grandmother passed away last year I carried on with work and met friends and carried on as normal until about 5 months later it hit me as if it had happened the day before and had to take time away. Grief never fully leaves you. You accept what has happened but grief is like an emotional roller coaster. Wishing you all the best 💐
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😞💔
That person will regret their comment and learn a valuable lesson.
You have every right to enjoy life the way you feel is best for you.
In grief I've learned, having lost my father in March, that my emotions are all over the map. I have really great day then next thing I get moments where my brain just feels heavy and I can't think about anything. Like, literally, anything!
I saw a counselor just after his passing and she explained to me that it will come and go for a long time and to just experience the emotions.
People on the internet hide behind their avatars and some literally don't care about anyone else, but themselves.
You are a beautiful person and I send you all my love ❤
Bless you, Georgina! You are so very right that grieving is such a unique and individualized process. No one should pass judgment on someone’s grief process. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter. I have also lost a little girl, and there are so many days I go through several or all the different stages of grief. I’d like to share a quote from author Ann Hood:
“Grief is not linear. People kept telling me that once this happened or that passed, everything would be better. Some people gave me one year to grieve. They saw grief as a straight line, with a beginning, middle, and end. But it is not linear. It is disjointed. One day you are acting almost like a normal person. You maybe even manage to take a shower. Your clothes match. You think the autumn leaves look pretty, or enjoy the sound of snow crunching under your feet. Then a song, a glimpse of something, or maybe even nothing sends you back into the hole of grief. It is not one step forward, two steps back. It is a jumble. It is hours that are all right, and weeks that aren't. Or it is good days and bad days. Or it is the weight of sadness making you look different to others and nothing helps.”
I absolutely love your videos. You are such a joy! Sending you hugs. ❤
I am so sorry this person felt they could judge your grief . No one should begrudge you a little sniper of happiness wherever you can . my wife lost her daughter 45 years ago and she still goes through all the stages of grief , but she also has good times and good memories. You are doing everything you need to do for yourself , and whatever you do your daughter will always be with you , and NOBODY has the right to tell you how to grieve . I hope the person who made that comment feels thoroughly ashamed .
When you’re going through something like this, you want ANY kind of respite that you can get… then when you actually achieve that, it’s still tainted because you can think of nothing else or a lot of the times you actually feel guilty. The ONLY thing that you can tell yourself is the truth: “they aren’t here anymore and I am and I’ve got to survive”. And that slogan is WHY you’re going to Wales and making vlogs and pouring into your channel. You have to have something that anchors you to your life. And as you said, it does get easier. And as you know, you’ll never forget. Eventually you will learn how exactly she fits into your life now, still, and that is when it starts to get better. Lots of prayers for you! (First time commenter, you’re AMAZING in so many ways and by posting through this you are showing others they aren’t alone or doing it wrong. Wish I had had an example.)
There was a comment that I heard from a famous medium from america that I thought was sweet. "Everyday that you wake up in the morning, your one day closer to the loved ones that you loved and lost". Live everyday for them, so they can see life through your eyes and remember that they never really left you, you just cant see them through human eyes and they will always be by your side until you meet again on the other side.
I love you I can’t tell you how awful I feel for you I’m still in grief and it comes in waves everything you said makes sense love from myself xxxxx
When I was young I lost my brother as he ended his life. My mom could not get out of bed for most of my childhood. Sadly as she started to get better she too passed away. The best moments of my childhood was when my parents were able to genuinely smile even through the pain. Sending you a huge hug from Across the pond as they say 😜💙. It makes me sad that person showed such cruelty in your comments, however this was a beautiful video and I hope it let a touch of pain off your shoulder regarding rude comments. 💙🙏💙. Sending you positive energy and very sorry for your loss.
I am a fellow bereaved mother. There is no such thing as a way to behave. You have to keep going with your child in heart. That person who wrote that should be ashamed.
You have nothing to explain at all! Love to you and your family xxxx
That Was Extremely Insensitive! Grief Isn’t Something That Can Even Be Described! We Have To Educate Ourselves Before Open Our Mouths! You’re An Amazing Person And You Have My Full Support! I’m Still Grieving Both My Brother & Father Who Died In 2018. We Have To Learn Compassion
This comment is from someone who has never experienced grief or has spent their life as a devout mourner and didn’t warrant any response! The week after my mum died suddenly I was dragged to a wedding by friends and my sister had what would have been our mum’s first grandchild. Celebrating these occasions didn’t mean we were mourning any less, there are moments of light in the darkness. Grieving is a long journey and there is no textbook process, you just have to do what’s right for you and whatever gets you though. After 7 years I still have the occasional 20-30 seconds of overwhelming sadness that comes out of nowhere but you learn to cope. Sending love and positivity ❤️
Well said. Some people just don’t understand. Deep breaths and stay strong. Massive hugs
The best wishes from Brazil😘😘😘
You are wonderful and you don't need to apologize to anyone for dealing with things YOUR way. Stay strong
Everyone goes through things their own way and yours is as fine as anybody elses❤️
Grief is very different for everyone, please don’t explain yourself ❤️
Please just keep being you! Share what you want when you want. There is no right way or normal way to grieve. You are strong.
how sad is it actually that someone put you into a situation where you feel you have apologise for something this personal. you have every right to grieve however it suits you, however you can deal with this kind of loss (if even possible). Don’t let this kind of ignorance poison your healing.
Love from austria, M.
I don't know how you manage to even deal with it, loosing a child is the worst thing to ever, I can't imagine loosing my child. I'm glad that you managed to even go on a trip and Ellie wouldn't want you to hate your life now, she wants you to be happy and remember her and think of her.
My husband just lost his dad, I can tell he grieves but its in different stages too and he has a laugh and wants to go out and then is down and constantly feels heartbroken. Keep it up!
Georgina what a mature response.. you have a right to live your life free of judgement... i think showing people that life can go on despite the trauma of losing a loved one will give others hope and what a beautiful gift. Sending you love ❤️
You don't owe an explanation to even those people close to you Georgina - your grief is personal and nobody can walk a day in your shoes. Just know that you are not on your own - reach out when and if you feel the need..... no one can put a timeframe on grief... yours will hopefully ease with time but it won't ever totally leave you. This is your child and you have the right to grieve in your own way, for as long as you need to. You have a lot of support... that is because you are a genuinely nice person - Take strength from the positive people around you and stay safe. With love and hope to you and your family from Australia. 💝
Wonderfully and articulately spoken about, I'm sorry that someone ignorant said such a horrible thing via the comment section. It shows the type of person you are that you made it into a teachable moment.
Dear Georgina, everyone has his/her own way of dealing with things they're going through. Nobody - literally nobody - has the right to judge. That says alot about themselves. Wish you lots of strength and just do what you feel you need to do. Hugs x
I hope you’re ok.The worst thing about the internet is nasty comments from strangers.Sending you love from Glasgow x
Very well said, grief is unique as the person you have lost. Loss is the most tragic thing to go through. Love to you and the family xxxx
Oooooh, sweety, never forget we adore you, and love your warm attribution for such an amazing and beautiful loved one... We send you love from Belgium. Xxx
Everyone’s grief is personally different to another’s. I couldn’t imagine ever losing any of my daughters especially so sudden. You deal with it how you can. We have so much respect for you and still loving seeing you smile. People are just uneducated. We appreciate this video.
You should always do whats best for you , no hard or fast rules , always here x
Love you Georgina 💕
Your daughter had an amazing mother when she was here in the form that we're in. She still had an amazing mother in the form she's in. I am in deep grief and what you've said resonates. I'm finding it hard to accept also. Bless you, love Marc x
You are an awesome and wonderful person. That person is disgusting. This is why social media sucks!
People are miserable. Do not worry about it. You are an amazing, charming woman. Everyone has to go through these things the way they can best. XO