As someone who has had premarital sex and GOT PREGNANT, as a religious woman, THANK YOU. It took me YEARS to forgive myself. I had public ridicule because I was a Christian. Today- Thank God for my baby. She gave me a reason to keep going when I felt no purpose. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Sadie and your momma for speaking truth on this. I am made new under the blood of Jesus Christ. 🙌🏼♥️✨
I’m very grateful for you Sadie and your beautiful mama. I was raised in an atheistic environment and was taught that believing in god was pointless and laughable. I knew I had this spirituality within me I wanted to explore but when I turned to my family to talk about it I was always ridiculed. now I’m 20 years old and finding my path to god with really no one to talk openly about my thoughts with other than my journal lol but your videos are helping me so much everyday. thank you so much ♥️
I’m so sorry that you were always turned away when you went to your family about it. Christ Jesus has so much love for you, more than we could ever know!!!!! Something that helps me is my community that have the same beliefs as me. Church groups, small groups, or even big groups associated with Christianity. I encourage you to ask God/pray that in his perfect timing he will give you friends and community and support that are so in love with Jesus. Pray this prayer with me: Dear Father, Thank you for your gracious love. You show me how much you love me through your word you give me in the Bible!! I pray you will reveal to me the fruits and friendships that are in your plan for me in your perfect, faithful timing. I pray they will draw me closer to you, Lord and show me your love/light. Thank you for sending your son to die for me on the cross and showing me your enduring love that is so pure everyday. God you are love!! You would leave the 99 to find the one. That’s how good you are. Thank you 🙂🙂 I love you. In Jesus name, Amen. He loves you so much!!! NEVER forget that!! Feel free to text me through this comment section/reply or add my Snapchat @carolineem5 . Love you Sister!!!!
I’m stunned that so many Christian parents don’t talk to their kids about sex. I’ve never understood that. I’m glad Sadie and her mom have an open relationship and can talk about this.
I think the misconception begins with Christian parents believing that if sex is not talked about, that it won’t happen. But the problem is that humans are naturally curious, especially around the ages when puberty begins and your body experiences all new feelings and emotions. So if you as the parent, will not educate your children, you better believe someone else will. And more likely than not, it’s going to be either misinformation or education that does not align with your viewpoint.
Yes! I have 6 kids, and all of my kids 0-12 have had “the talk” at whatever age is appropriate. It starts small at a very young age and builds and builds until you can paint this larger beautifully designed picture of God’s plan for His people. Sure, sometimes your kids get weirded out but THAT’S age appropriate. Take it in stride. When they ask, they’re ready.
This whole Robertson family is truly blessed by God. They have all taught me so much and blessed me so much in my walk. It was from the unashamed podcast that I really heard the gospel from Phil for the first time and shortly after found a church and was baptized. I'm now a member and have been walking with Jesus for a year and three months. Sadie I love these podcast with your mom so much. I'm 34 and a single mom and I think I've walked with my head down in shame for a long time, but God is redeeming me a little more each day and he will in this area of my life as well.
As someone who has been sexually assaulted, I really appreciate you guys taking the time to talk about that specifically around the mid-way point in the video. I feel like so many people forget that sometimes bad/dangerous/abusive sexual experiences happen out of the victim’s control and therefore they cannot control the relationship or experience they have had and continue to have with the topic of sex.
I cried watching this. This is an uncomfortable topic but something that really needs to be talked about. I have sexual trauma and still carry the fact that its my fault and that I'm unsure and it means so much with you standing against that and that I'm saved by the blood of Christ.
I love this video so much because my fiancé and I had a baby when we were young at 18 and it was such a blessing to have her. She is my best friend but now we are getting married on March 11 and we have been waiting for marriage because why continue to sin. Our relationship has grown so much since finding Jesus back in November 2022!
Thank you for talking about this! I was raised in a cult and was s/a when I was 4 yrs old, blamed for it, and beaten by my dad with a leather strap for it. I learned about sex from my friends and never had a conversation about it with my mom. I got married in the cult and had 4 kids in 6 yrs ,my son was s/a and my mom tried to get me to beat him for it, he was a preschooler 🤦♀️and the person who abused him was also doing it to other kids and my mom was trying to cover it up. We left the cult ,moved 2000 miles and I have gone no contactwith my parents, although I try to contact my siblings, most don't dare to cross my mom by talking to me while I'm no contact with her. Jesus has brought me so far, and I am determined to break generational curses, I have explained to my 7 yr old where babies come from, and it was the best day of my life. He was like, " Jesus has the best ideas." I have so much learning and healing to do in this area. Keep on sharing!
This testimony broke my heart! It is no wonder people in cultish/legalistic backgrounds reject all religion and want nothing to do with Christianity. But wow, you’re resilience is a blessing to me! It is amazing how nothing the enemy throws at us can stop Christ’s healing grace and love. I pray you grow in your love for Him and in your understanding of God’s intentions for sex. It only works best when two servants of the Lord serve each other in this intimacy. The abuse of it is heinous. The misuse of it is tragic. But there is ALWAYS healing in Jesus’ Name! ❤❤❤
This podcast is so humbling, I was abused as a teen and was hurt in the past and it created a cycle this talk is really humbling and I I needed to hear some of these words.
That was the best Christian discussion/lesson I have ever heard about sex! Thank you for bringing this subject out into the open with the real truth of Jesus and His love for us!
Wow. I really needed to hear this. I have been thinking about this a lot. I am a single mother & decided to follow Gods ways & wait for marriage. The enemy sure has gotten in my head, I started to question whether I was worthy of a Christian man. I AM! thank you sm for your wisdom. I will be rewatching this & taking notes! 🥹🤍
I think it’s awesome that you were following God and waiting for the man that he brings you. I can tell you that I didn’t get this right from the start, but once I committed myself to the Lord and waiting for who he had for me he changed my situation and what he had for me was more wonderful than I could’ve imagined
Soooooo good. Thank you for choosing to talk about something that isn’t talked about enough! My husband and I both had sex before marriage, but went through pre-marital counseling with our pastor and we learned what God truly meant for sex and we stopped until our wedding night. Waiting those 6 or so months made it SO much better and more meaningful for our wedding night.
Sadie, I wish so badly that I had this video sharing biblical truths when I was hurt and shamed by the church as a Christian in college surrounded by purity culture. It has skewed my view of God, of myself, and of sex and left lingering shame and a lack of relationship with God. Hearing you and your mom share these truths while being thoughtful and inclusive of many people’s traumas has brought a new wave of healing.
It's tough because sin, by the nature of it, brings shame. Shame was the first consequence of sin in Genesis 3. I don't think this is at all avoidable. Where the church is lacking, I think, is in pointing toward the glory of His design and promoting a culture of grace...that there is grace to cover all of our shortcomings. I think going for this fantasy where there is no shame or guilt is Tower of Babel stuff. The shame will come... it's a matter of how quickly we can move into guilt, repentance and freedom from sin.
I know I am a man and most of your following is made up of woman, but you really do offer so much wisdom in your podcast that all can hear and learn from. My wife and I listen to your podcasts every week. Keep doing what you are doing I love seeing the outreach you have to grown, and how grounded your and and christian are in your marriage, beliefs, and teachings.
this helped me so much....my boyfriend and I are pursuing purity in our relationship. I've never had sex with anyone, but he has and I didn't realize how much it has bothered me till you said that last part. thank you for bringing that to my attention so I can give that to God and forgive him
Sadie- I'm seriously SO thankful for your ministry. I didn't get to learn these things until later in life, but I'm so happy to be able to have these truthful conversations with my daughters! Love you both!
7:23 It is so refreshing to hear Mama Rob talk with such openness & confidence. Hearing these things from a woman at her station of life, given she has raised several girls herself and imparted her values on them & lived them out… it just hits different y’all ❤
SADIE. This was so good. I was cleaning while listening and when you said you went from seeing Christian as your bf to God’s son it stopped me in my tracks.
as a Christian wrestling with asexuality and confusion about whether or not God wants romance for me, it helps to go back to the text and remember what God says about romance and marriage and sex. I have an opposite kind of insecurity (or even shame) than many others have when it comes to this topic, but it helps me even in my circumstance to recognize the truths of the matter and define my experience accordingly. It can feel lonely sometimes to be excluded from something so universal, and it’s incredibly confusing and blurry when that thing is simultaneously everywhere and avoided. hope that makes sense. anyway all that to say thank you for talking about this and for all the resources you provide about faith
Ive been carrying around shame for having meaningless relations with people (& outside of marriage) but hearing what you had to say made me feel confident in my journey to becoming pure
So grateful for you and your mom for bring light to a much need conversation. God still wants the damaged rose..brought tears from eyes. Ndvsr pursued marriage because of this teaching.
I love these conversations with your mom! It reminds me of conversations with my own mom. It's so cool to have both of your perspectives and insight on different topics! 🙌🏻
Yeah, if you flirt with temptation, more than likely you will succumb to it. Speaking from experience. If you question an action, thats probably a sign you shouldnt do it.
Just so beautiful!❤ God bless you both!! Keep listening to the Holy Spirit and spreading the Good News! We are Saved through Jesus Christ, covered by His Precious blood💕 No one has ever said this to me and now I’ve heard! I feel so relieved and at peace. God is soooo GOOD! And He is using you two so wonderfully!💕💕 Keep up the good work! 💕
I am forever grateful for your families faithfulness in following God's will in your life to share his truth!! This is so needed in the world today. I have struggled in this area and this word is straight from God and so encouraging!! Thank you! :)
I thankfully have been open and honest with age appropriate conversations about sex and the body as my children have grown up. I built that open conversation and platform for my children to be comfortable to come to me about any quetions and have an open conversation. I want them to have the education and responsibility of sex. My parents never talked to me about anything about puberty, period, or sex. I learned that through sex ed and responsibility of contraceptives and personal responsibility. Religion never was part of anything about it. Sometimes the conversations with teenagers is difficult and can be uncomfortable for them. It is about information and being open and honest. This was a great video to share with my teenagers.
LOVED this episode! I'm about to have a baby girl and I hope we'll be able to have the kind of mother/daughter relationship y'all have. So thankful to be going through all of this together ❤
Oh my gosh, thank you so much, Korie and Sadie! The information that you shared will be so helpful for talking to my own kids and in mentoring my peers!
This is incredible! I am so grateful other girls and guys are hearing this! Being a young adult, looking back I didn't hear about sex from my parents or the church but from tv and friends. And to be honest I have had to repent of holding unforgiveness for never getting that, but rejoicing and learn that, even though I never got that I am so glad young girls, young men and women are hearing this now! And what can we do now so other people hear about sex the way God sees it. So, praise God for that! And thank you Sadie and Korie for having this open, raw and God-filled conversation.
Could y’all talk about how to handle relationships with family who aren’t saved? It’s been real hard for me since being saved of walking in that newness of Jesus because my family knew me when I wasn’t that way and it’s just hard
@@anniedalton1686 I respectfully disagree unless they are a Christian based psychologist. She needs guidance from someone in the church or of her faith, that have been there and someone who can point out scripture that teaches us how to deal with this. The answers are all in the Bible though not all have the eyes to see or ears to hear
I’ve been going through the same thing since becoming a Christian. I was raised in a religious household but not a Godly household. My sisters now have nothing to do with God and one actively says he’s not real. A real God thing happened after continuously praying and a patient I was taking care of started opening up to me that she is going through the same thing. My only advice to her was that she needs to keep praying for them but accept that they have to come to the realization on their own and be overall at peace. One of God’s many gifts to us is the gift of peace. Even when we don’t like a situation and wish for change, God is there and sees us right where we are and gives us the ultimate comfort and peace.
My biggest thing that’s wrong is putting certain woman or men on a social pedestal as worthy of waiting and others not based in looks or class ranking. The hierarchy is unreal in church.
I believe God believes that His way is the correct way. All people are worth the wait in His eyes. His Word illustrates this throughout. He died for all, even us that have felt less than others
This is great! Sadie, I think you would love Theology of the Body. Such a wonderful, although hefty, work on God’s design for our body and sex. Keep doing God’s work!
This is such an important topic. In my opinion this video was not balanced. It included: sex is good, sex is physical, emotional, and spiritual, God is forgiving, God values us, abuse can happen, and purity culture is harmful. I completely agree with all of those ideas. My concern is the things not mentioned: sexual immorality is sin and needs to be repented biblically before God can forgive us. Purity culture happened 30 yrs ago and we are still apologizing for it. The pendulum has swung the other way and now Christians are scared to say sex outside marriage is sin. Sexual immorality is the only sin that we sin against God AND ourselves (our own bodies). It is quite unique. I think sometimes people use “all have fallen short” to make them feel less of their sin but God is actually saying this to show how sinful man is. I do believe sexual sin also includes the sin of unbelief. It is a lack of trust. When we sin, sorrow is the appropriate response. Not worldly sorrow that I am bad, I have no value but godly sorrow , what can I do to make it right. And lastly, there was no mention of porn (watching sex). Which I know could be its own show. Just some of things I thought was missing. But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1Cor.6.17-20 Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it-I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while- yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter. 2Cor.7:8-11
Interesting you discussed “the rose” analogy since I recently heard it as a cake analogy. How this teacher brought 12 cupcakes to class and asked the class who would want the cupcake untouched and everyone raised their hand, the teacher takes a bite of the cupcake and asks again who wants it now, some kids being silly still raised their hands, the teacher then pours dirt all over and asks one last time now who wants the cupcake and no one raises their hand. I thought it was a very brutal way of talking about Chasity. But I loved how you said Jesus would still want this rose. In essence we’ve all sinned, made mistakes, but I believe it’s what you do next to redeem yourself and ask forgiveness.
These object lessons in my opinion do far more harm than good. Fact of the matter is that of the generation that was subjected to abstinence education less than 12 % abstained from premarital sex and those stats could apply to individuals who couldn’t get any anyway. The fact is that there is a near zero chance that you will find a person post 30 who has not had multiple sexual partners Christian or not. We were not designed to marry pushing middle age.
You ladies are fantastic on explaining this. Im going to pass this on to my daughter in law and any one else I think may want to hear. She is excited to listen to this. Thank you thank you for speaking truth! 💗🙏🏻🥰
Amazing what the church says about sex. I never get sick of that view. God always blesses those who want to wait for their husband, no matter what happens with their mistakes in Bible reading. Such a cool video to represent that. Very important. Awesome and so worth it. Amen to this happily :)
Thank you. This was sent to me by God right now, I know it. Your wise words help so much and I'm listening! Just know that you're very appreciated, looked up to and helpful!
I had a REALLY messed up view of sex, because I learned about sex at the age of 6 or 7 by watching porn videos. Then I didn't get ANY good teaching about sex until I read the Bible at the age of 25. I'm praying for the youth to get this type of good teaching about sex at a much younger age than I did. God, please bless this video and get it out to millions of people who need to know the truth about what sex is all about.
I got the talk before I started kindergarten. My parents were expecting my baby sister I wanted to know where babies come from. I gave my cousin the talk with Barbies later 😂 and when we got found out, I said “it’s ok mommy, they’re married!”
At my church they used the analogy of velcro for having more than one sexual partner 😅 saying things like that takes away from the power of God to be able to cleanse and change people who want to do things His way regardless of their past.
I heard this too. But they glued a salt and pepper shaker together and used that analogy of what happens if you try to rip it apart. I think they were just trying to teach against divorce but.....kind of dumb analogy
It is so important to speak the truth of asking for forgiveness, repenting, and being washed by God so that we are as pure as fresh, sparkling, white snow. When I was young I thought that I wasn’t being a “good enough “ Christian because I couldn’t stop doing things I was doing. As an adult I knew He forgave me every time I asked, but I still didn’t recognize that I was fully covered by His blood when I would sin time and time again. Now that I have seen the truth after being confused for decades, I am walking a much better path with the Lord. I am not sinning as often or giving into temptation as often. Mine was to do with alcohol consumption. But now that I live like I am free - because I am- it is somehow easier to make the right choices He wants me to choose.
I loved this video. It really changed my perspective of sex. I have had a bad past when I was young and just watching this and studying it is seriously a game changer
I find this conversation hard to have these days. We have to warn our kids about their bodies, and what's appropriate and not appropriate, that if any one ever says "don't tell your mom" that's a indication they need to. Good touching bad touching their private areas etc for the data we receive on sexual abuse and molestation and then we have to tell them about appropriateness with their bodies when they are adults/married.
This was really nice - the only thing that concerns me is that if 'the blood of christ can cure all' then that lets men who are the demand for filmed sexual exploitation of ANY genre and trafficking off the hook (I realize that women and girls can consume porn less often, which is unfortunate, but the messages that men get in pornography - which is a reflection of their fantasies - terrify me). It's very telling that men are the source of trafficking yet they look at women who have been exploited with such distain.
33:00 Jesus can take the rose, and restore it, and make it even more beautiful than it was before because Jesus restores us. The analogy was good in the sense of what it does to you. However, we can become new again by submission to Jesus, and He will restore us if we become fully committed to Him allowing Him to renew us. To the woman who was caught in adultery, and brought before Jesus by the pharisees, Jesus forgave her and told he to sin no more. Likewise, those who have slept around should repent and sin no more as Jesus commanded.
9:00 That’s a real word. Because think about when our grandparents were growing up in the 50s (lol clearly I am vibing with Miss Sadie) premarital sex was considered not okay by the standards of the secular culture. 60-70 years later the script has totally flipped. So I love you said God’s perspective hasn’t changed… because the worlds is just too hard to keep up with.
I think I would disagree and say that, yes, premarital sex with other people is a mistreatment of the person you end up marrying if you end up marrying. Sin is not just individualistic. But God forgives that too, and whoever you end up marrying needs to understand that God has forgiven the way you sinned against them if you have repented of it. It's not something for either person to carry once it's been repented of and forgiven.
Anyone out there struggling with the topic of uncomfortable or painful intercourse? That intercourse sex is not anything to look forward to because there's no pleasure in it? Is this a very rare thing ?
I just saw this topic. Please go get an exam. I was struggling with this to the point that hubs felt unwanted somewhat & it was causing wedge in our marriage. I went to the Dr. & it can be a lot of things, pcos, endometriosis polys (I had both), cervical cancer etc. God designed our bodies to perfectly become one. So if anything is that painful you’re having a medical issue that Dr. Can help you with! Our bodies are temples, we have to take care of them. Hugs!
Sadie, I would invite you to read The Great Sex Rescue book. It has helped free me from all the purity culture crap I was fed during the purity culture era.
The conversation with every single child about sex begins at birth with how parents relate to their offspring to encourage an environment where children FEEL that they can come to their parents anytime any which way to ask questions and make requests about ANYTHING.
That analogy you shared that you heard from the one guy was disgusting I hate that people are made out to be used worthless objects just because you sinned and I hope that guy gets a major revelation because there’s no sin to big for God and we all can be renewed
As someone who has had premarital sex and GOT PREGNANT, as a religious woman, THANK YOU. It took me YEARS to forgive myself. I had public ridicule because I was a Christian. Today- Thank God for my baby. She gave me a reason to keep going when I felt no purpose. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Sadie and your momma for speaking truth on this. I am made new under the blood of Jesus Christ. 🙌🏼♥️✨
Thank you For sharing 🥰
Thank you for choosing life 🤍
Amen sister 🤍
I’m very grateful for you Sadie and your beautiful mama. I was raised in an atheistic environment and was taught that believing in god was pointless and laughable. I knew I had this spirituality within me I wanted to explore but when I turned to my family to talk about it I was always ridiculed. now I’m 20 years old and finding my path to god with really no one to talk openly about my thoughts with other than my journal lol but your videos are helping me so much everyday. thank you so much ♥️
Jesus Cherishes you! He loves you Sister
Feel free to talk to me anytime as well. You are loved😍
I’m so sorry that you were always turned away when you went to your family about it. Christ Jesus has so much love for you, more than we could ever know!!!!! Something that helps me is my community that have the same beliefs as me. Church groups, small groups, or even big groups associated with Christianity. I encourage you to ask God/pray that in his perfect timing he will give you friends and community and support that are so in love with Jesus. Pray this prayer with me:
Dear Father,
Thank you for your gracious love. You show me how much you love me through your word you give me in the Bible!! I pray you will reveal to me the fruits and friendships that are in your plan for me in your perfect, faithful timing. I pray they will draw me closer to you, Lord and show me your love/light. Thank you for sending your son to die for me on the cross and showing me your enduring love that is so pure everyday. God you are love!! You would leave the 99 to find the one. That’s how good you are. Thank you 🙂🙂 I love you.
In Jesus name, Amen.
He loves you so much!!! NEVER forget that!! Feel free to text me through this comment section/reply or add my Snapchat @carolineem5 . Love you Sister!!!!
Read the nlt new testament, proverbs and psalms first and pray in the name of Jesus, if you seek Him, you will find Him. ❤
So good! You can listen also to Apostle Kathryn Krick.
She is really helping people buy mentoring them each week online.
I’m stunned that so many Christian parents don’t talk to their kids about sex. I’ve never understood that. I’m glad Sadie and her mom have an open relationship and can talk about this.
I think the misconception begins with Christian parents believing that if sex is not talked about, that it won’t happen. But the problem is that humans are naturally curious, especially around the ages when puberty begins and your body experiences all new feelings and emotions. So if you as the parent, will not educate your children, you better believe someone else will. And more likely than not, it’s going to be either misinformation or education that does not align with your viewpoint.
Yes! I have 6 kids, and all of my kids 0-12 have had “the talk” at whatever age is appropriate. It starts small at a very young age and builds and builds until you can paint this larger beautifully designed picture of God’s plan for His people. Sure, sometimes your kids get weirded out but THAT’S age appropriate. Take it in stride. When they ask, they’re ready.
The message is “don’t do it!” But if you get married then anything’s game.
This whole Robertson family is truly blessed by God. They have all taught me so much and blessed me so much in my walk. It was from the unashamed podcast that I really heard the gospel from Phil for the first time and shortly after found a church and was baptized. I'm now a member and have been walking with Jesus for a year and three months. Sadie I love these podcast with your mom so much. I'm 34 and a single mom and I think I've walked with my head down in shame for a long time, but God is redeeming me a little more each day and he will in this area of my life as well.
That’s so amazing! That goes to show that peoples’ faithfulness TRULY counts!✝️😊
As someone who has been sexually assaulted, I really appreciate you guys taking the time to talk about that specifically around the mid-way point in the video. I feel like so many people forget that sometimes bad/dangerous/abusive sexual experiences happen out of the victim’s control and therefore they cannot control the relationship or experience they have had and continue to have with the topic of sex.
I cried watching this. This is an uncomfortable topic but something that really needs to be talked about. I have sexual trauma and still carry the fact that its my fault and that I'm unsure and it means so much with you standing against that and that I'm saved by the blood of Christ.
It wasn't your fault. May God's love and peace continue to surround you. God bless you! ❤
I love this video so much because my fiancé and I had a baby when we were young at 18 and it was such a blessing to have her. She is my best friend but now we are getting married on March 11 and we have been waiting for marriage because why continue to sin. Our relationship has grown so much since finding Jesus back in November 2022!
Thank you for talking about this! I was raised in a cult and was s/a when I was 4 yrs old, blamed for it, and beaten by my dad with a leather strap for it. I learned about sex from my friends and never had a conversation about it with my mom. I got married in the cult and had 4 kids in 6 yrs ,my son was s/a and my mom tried to get me to beat him for it, he was a preschooler 🤦♀️and the person who abused him was also doing it to other kids and my mom was trying to cover it up. We left the cult ,moved 2000 miles and I have gone no contactwith my parents, although I try to contact my siblings, most don't dare to cross my mom by talking to me while I'm no contact with her. Jesus has brought me so far, and I am determined to break generational curses, I have explained to my 7 yr old where babies come from, and it was the best day of my life. He was like, " Jesus has the best ideas." I have so much learning and healing to do in this area. Keep on sharing!
@tarynadams7817 thank you 🥹
This testimony broke my heart! It is no wonder people in cultish/legalistic backgrounds reject all religion and want nothing to do with Christianity. But wow, you’re resilience is a blessing to me! It is amazing how nothing the enemy throws at us can stop Christ’s healing grace and love. I pray you grow in your love for Him and in your understanding of God’s intentions for sex. It only works best when two servants of the Lord serve each other in this intimacy. The abuse of it is heinous. The misuse of it is tragic. But there is ALWAYS healing in Jesus’ Name! ❤❤❤
@melindamercier6811 ❤️❤️❤️ thank you,blessings to you too 🤗
Keep the faith. God bless.
This podcast is so humbling, I was abused as a teen and was hurt in the past and it created a cycle this talk is really humbling and I I needed to hear some of these words.
You are so strong sister! Keep pushing forward ❤️
That was the best Christian discussion/lesson I have ever heard about sex! Thank you for bringing this subject out into the open with the real truth of Jesus and His love for us!
Wow. I really needed to hear this. I have been thinking about this a lot.
I am a single mother & decided to follow Gods ways & wait for marriage. The enemy sure has gotten in my head, I started to question whether I was worthy of a Christian man. I AM! thank you sm for your wisdom. I will be rewatching this & taking notes! 🥹🤍
I think it’s awesome that you were following God and waiting for the man that he brings you. I can tell you that I didn’t get this right from the start, but once I committed myself to the Lord and waiting for who he had for me he changed my situation and what he had for me was more wonderful than I could’ve imagined
@@amandan943 I can’t wait but I can also wait. if that makes sense. I love that for you! 🤍
@@lupita9804 It makes total sense. Praying for you and who God is bringing you!
Soooooo good. Thank you for choosing to talk about something that isn’t talked about enough! My husband and I both had sex before marriage, but went through pre-marital counseling with our pastor and we learned what God truly meant for sex and we stopped until our wedding night. Waiting those 6 or so months made it SO much better and more meaningful for our wedding night.
Sadie, I wish so badly that I had this video sharing biblical truths when I was hurt and shamed by the church as a Christian in college surrounded by purity culture. It has skewed my view of God, of myself, and of sex and left lingering shame and a lack of relationship with God. Hearing you and your mom share these truths while being thoughtful and inclusive of many people’s traumas has brought a new wave of healing.
It's tough because sin, by the nature of it, brings shame. Shame was the first consequence of sin in Genesis 3. I don't think this is at all avoidable. Where the church is lacking, I think, is in pointing toward the glory of His design and promoting a culture of grace...that there is grace to cover all of our shortcomings. I think going for this fantasy where there is no shame or guilt is Tower of Babel stuff. The shame will come... it's a matter of how quickly we can move into guilt, repentance and freedom from sin.
I know I am a man and most of your following is made up of woman, but you really do offer so much wisdom in your podcast that all can hear and learn from. My wife and I listen to your podcasts every week. Keep doing what you are doing I love seeing the outreach you have to grown, and how grounded your and and christian are in your marriage, beliefs, and teachings.
this helped me so much....my boyfriend and I are pursuing purity in our relationship. I've never had sex with anyone, but he has and I didn't realize how much it has bothered me till you said that last part. thank you for bringing that to my attention so I can give that to God and forgive him
Sadie- I'm seriously SO thankful for your ministry. I didn't get to learn these things until later in life, but I'm so happy to be able to have these truthful conversations with my daughters!
Love you both!
7:23 It is so refreshing to hear Mama Rob talk with such openness & confidence. Hearing these things from a woman at her station of life, given she has raised several girls herself and imparted her values on them & lived them out… it just hits different y’all ❤
SADIE. This was so good. I was cleaning while listening and when you said you went from seeing Christian as your bf to God’s son it stopped me in my tracks.
It’s sad how purity culture makes us shame talking about sex in general. It SHOULDNT be awkward or necessarily make us blush. Shouldn’t be so taboo.
Then talk about it! In a positive way. This is how we counter Gods truth!
as a Christian wrestling with asexuality and confusion about whether or not God wants romance for me, it helps to go back to the text and remember what God says about romance and marriage and sex. I have an opposite kind of insecurity (or even shame) than many others have when it comes to this topic, but it helps me even in my circumstance to recognize the truths of the matter and define my experience accordingly. It can feel lonely sometimes to be excluded from something so universal, and it’s incredibly confusing and blurry when that thing is simultaneously everywhere and avoided. hope that makes sense. anyway all that to say thank you for talking about this and for all the resources you provide about faith
Ive been carrying around shame for having meaningless relations with people (& outside of marriage) but hearing what you had to say made me feel confident in my journey to becoming pure
So grateful for you and your mom for bring light to a much need conversation. God still wants the damaged rose..brought tears from eyes. Ndvsr pursued marriage because of this teaching.
Whoa sexual brokenness
I love these conversations with your mom! It reminds me of conversations with my own mom. It's so cool to have both of your perspectives and insight on different topics! 🙌🏻
It’d be really cool if you could do an episode about purity and how far is too far in dating. I’d love to hear your opinion on that.
Yeah, if you flirt with temptation, more than likely you will succumb to it. Speaking from experience. If you question an action, thats probably a sign you shouldnt do it.
I love this. I love when you have your Mom on. Y’all are both so knowledgeable about the Bible. Your Mom is such an elegant sweet lady.
This should be shown in every school!
Not everyone believes the same as you and you have no right to enforce that on others.
Just so beautiful!❤ God bless you both!! Keep listening to the Holy Spirit and spreading the Good News! We are Saved through Jesus Christ, covered by His Precious blood💕
No one has ever said this to me and now I’ve heard! I feel so relieved and at peace. God is soooo GOOD! And He is using you two so wonderfully!💕💕 Keep up the good work! 💕
Thank you both for pouring out your wisdom and love through speaking His truth!
God answers prayers!! i have been praying about this topic and for answers and here we are! Thank you so so so much!
I am forever grateful for your families faithfulness in following God's will in your life to share his truth!! This is so needed in the world today. I have struggled in this area and this word is straight from God and so encouraging!! Thank you! :)
I thankfully have been open and honest with age appropriate conversations about sex and the body as my children have grown up. I built that open conversation and platform for my children to be comfortable to come to me about any quetions and have an open conversation. I want them to have the education and responsibility of sex. My parents never talked to me about anything about puberty, period, or sex. I learned that through sex ed and responsibility of contraceptives and personal responsibility. Religion never was part of anything about it. Sometimes the conversations with teenagers is difficult and can be uncomfortable for them. It is about information and being open and honest. This was a great video to share with my teenagers.
LOVED this episode! I'm about to have a baby girl and I hope we'll be able to have the kind of mother/daughter relationship y'all have. So thankful to be going through all of this together ❤
The Holy Spirit was all over this conversation. so good.
Oh my gosh, thank you so much, Korie and Sadie! The information that you shared will be so helpful for talking to my own kids and in mentoring my peers!
This is incredible! I am so grateful other girls and guys are hearing this! Being a young adult, looking back I didn't hear about sex from my parents or the church but from tv and friends. And to be honest I have had to repent of holding unforgiveness for never getting that, but rejoicing and learn that, even though I never got that I am so glad young girls, young men and women are hearing this now! And what can we do now so other people hear about sex the way God sees it. So, praise God for that! And thank you Sadie and Korie for having this open, raw and God-filled conversation.
Could y’all talk about how to handle relationships with family who aren’t saved? It’s been real hard for me since being saved of walking in that newness of Jesus because my family knew me when I wasn’t that way and it’s just hard
Sounds like you should talk to a psychologist ♥️♥️♥️
look at milena ciciottis new podcast from today!!
@@anniedalton1686 I respectfully disagree unless they are a Christian based psychologist. She needs guidance from someone in the church or of her faith, that have been there and someone who can point out scripture that teaches us how to deal with this. The answers are all in the Bible though not all have the eyes to see or ears to hear
@@Primseygirl101 oh.
I’ve been going through the same thing since becoming a Christian. I was raised in a religious household but not a Godly household. My sisters now have nothing to do with God and one actively says he’s not real. A real God thing happened after continuously praying and a patient I was taking care of started opening up to me that she is going through the same thing. My only advice to her was that she needs to keep praying for them but accept that they have to come to the realization on their own and be overall at peace. One of God’s many gifts to us is the gift of peace. Even when we don’t like a situation and wish for change, God is there and sees us right where we are and gives us the ultimate comfort and peace.
My biggest thing that’s wrong is putting certain woman or men on a social pedestal as worthy of waiting and others not based in looks or class ranking. The hierarchy is unreal in church.
I dont completely understand your statement can you elaborate please?
Jesus is King!!!
I believe God believes that His way is the correct way. All people are worth the wait in His eyes. His Word illustrates this throughout. He died for all, even us that have felt less than others
Thank you so much for this podcast. I truly appreciate you talking about "shameful" things that many people aren't open about
I needed that- he is not mine, but Gods son. Thank you!
This is great! Sadie, I think you would love Theology of the Body. Such a wonderful, although hefty, work on God’s design for our body and sex.
Keep doing God’s work!
This is such an important topic. In my opinion this video was not balanced. It included: sex is good, sex is physical, emotional, and spiritual, God is forgiving, God values us, abuse can happen, and purity culture is harmful. I completely agree with all of those ideas. My concern is the things not mentioned: sexual immorality is sin and needs to be repented biblically before God can forgive us. Purity culture happened 30 yrs ago and we are still apologizing for it. The pendulum has swung the other way and now Christians are scared to say sex outside marriage is sin. Sexual immorality is the only sin that we sin against God AND ourselves (our own bodies). It is quite unique. I think sometimes people use “all have fallen short” to make them feel less of their sin but God is actually saying this to show how sinful man is. I do believe sexual sin also includes the sin of unbelief. It is a lack of trust. When we sin, sorrow is the appropriate response. Not worldly sorrow that I am bad, I have no value but godly sorrow , what can I do to make it right. And lastly, there was no mention of porn (watching sex). Which I know could be its own show. Just some of things I thought was missing.
But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
1Cor.6.17-20
Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it-I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while- yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
2Cor.7:8-11
She actually did mentioned this several times, specifically at 14 & 42 minutes!!
I'm so grateful for your podcast and this topic in particular! So needed! God bless you for making this world significantly better
I discovered it by Mike Fasano's initiation in 5th grade (I was in 4th) of looking up stuff on the internet. Morbid curiosity kept me latched
Thank you! This is the content I literally prayed for.
Interesting you discussed “the rose” analogy since I recently heard it as a cake analogy. How this teacher brought 12 cupcakes to class and asked the class who would want the cupcake untouched and everyone raised their hand, the teacher takes a bite of the cupcake and asks again who wants it now, some kids being silly still raised their hands, the teacher then pours dirt all over and asks one last time now who wants the cupcake and no one raises their hand. I thought it was a very brutal way of talking about Chasity. But I loved how you said Jesus would still want this rose. In essence we’ve all sinned, made mistakes, but I believe it’s what you do next to redeem yourself and ask forgiveness.
These object lessons in my opinion do far more harm than good. Fact of the matter is that of the generation that was subjected to abstinence education less than 12 % abstained from premarital sex and those stats could apply to individuals who couldn’t get any anyway. The fact is that there is a near zero chance that you will find a person post 30 who has not had multiple sexual partners Christian or not. We were not designed to marry pushing middle age.
Thank you for having this talk guys!!! Hope there is this kind of material for young men as well!!! ❤
The Song of Songs is awesome. Always been one of my favorite Books of the Bible.
You ladies are fantastic on explaining this. Im going to pass this on to my daughter in law and any one else I think may want to hear. She is excited to listen to this. Thank you thank you for speaking truth! 💗🙏🏻🥰
thanks for this episode! what a lovely conversation, and thanks for being Scripture-based
Amazing what the church says about sex. I never get sick of that view. God always blesses those who want to wait for their husband, no matter what happens with their mistakes in Bible reading. Such a cool video to represent that. Very important. Awesome and so worth it. Amen to this happily :)
What a great conversation ❤️ so much better with Mom & Daughter
Theology of the Body (Catholic) is the best explanation!
Thank you so much for this talk! It brought healing and forgiveness into my current mindset and relationship!
Thanks Sadie , “we are Gods first” !❤
Thank you for speaking what God laid on y’all’s heart. Definitely needed to hear this
Thank you. This was sent to me by God right now, I know it. Your wise words help so much and I'm listening! Just know that you're very appreciated, looked up to and helpful!
I had a REALLY messed up view of sex, because I learned about sex at the age of 6 or 7 by watching porn videos.
Then I didn't get ANY good teaching about sex until I read the Bible at the age of 25.
I'm praying for the youth to get this type of good teaching about sex at a much younger age than I did.
God, please bless this video and get it out to millions of people who need to know the truth about what sex is all about.
I got the talk before I started kindergarten. My parents were expecting my baby sister I wanted to know where babies come from. I gave my cousin the talk with Barbies later 😂 and when we got found out, I said “it’s ok mommy, they’re married!”
My mom and I did the preparing for adolescence series by Dr James Dobson ! That was amazing! I definitely learned a lot!
Yes! Michael Todd’s series on sex and marriage was soo beneficial for our premarital time
At my church they used the analogy of velcro for having more than one sexual partner 😅 saying things like that takes away from the power of God to be able to cleanse and change people who want to do things His way regardless of their past.
I heard this too. But they glued a salt and pepper shaker together and used that analogy of what happens if you try to rip it apart. I think they were just trying to teach against divorce but.....kind of dumb analogy
Hi Sadie, Blessings from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic! I loved this talk with your mother.
Thank you for this podcast and talking about a topic that the church doesn’t talk about enough. ❤️
It is so important to speak the truth of asking for forgiveness, repenting, and being washed by God so that we are as pure as fresh, sparkling, white snow. When I was young I thought that I wasn’t being a “good enough “ Christian because I couldn’t stop doing things I was doing. As an adult I knew He forgave me every time I asked, but I still didn’t recognize that I was fully covered by His blood when I would sin time and time again. Now that I have seen the truth after being confused for decades, I am walking a much better path with the Lord. I am not sinning as often or giving into temptation as often. Mine was to do with alcohol consumption. But now that I live like I am free - because I am- it is somehow easier to make the right choices He wants me to choose.
literal tears in my eyes...so good
I loved this video. It really changed my perspective of sex. I have had a bad past when I was young and just watching this and studying it is seriously a game changer
I find this conversation hard to have these days. We have to warn our kids about their bodies, and what's appropriate and not appropriate, that if any one ever says "don't tell your mom" that's a indication they need to. Good touching bad touching their private areas etc for the data we receive on sexual abuse and molestation and then we have to tell them about appropriateness with their bodies when they are adults/married.
Well done! I’m a mother of 3 grown daughters 🌸🌺🌸
Y'all should definitely visit Church of the Highlands, since we have several satellite campuses. Y'all will NOT be disappointed
Bawling! Powerful! 🙌🏼
This great! Thank y’all for talking about this ❤
Man! I wish I would’ve heard these words years ago.
Always look forward to listening to ur podcasts!❤❤
This was really nice - the only thing that concerns me is that if 'the blood of christ can cure all' then that lets men who are the demand for filmed sexual exploitation of ANY genre and trafficking off the hook (I realize that women and girls can consume porn less often, which is unfortunate, but the messages that men get in pornography - which is a reflection of their fantasies - terrify me). It's very telling that men are the source of trafficking yet they look at women who have been exploited with such distain.
Thank you Sadie and Sadies mummy x
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Jesus can take the rose, and restore it, and make it even more beautiful than it was before because Jesus restores us. The analogy was good in the sense of what it does to you. However, we can become new again by submission to Jesus, and He will restore us if we become fully committed to Him allowing Him to renew us.
To the woman who was caught in adultery, and brought before Jesus by the pharisees, Jesus forgave her and told he to sin no more. Likewise, those who have slept around should repent and sin no more as Jesus commanded.
We need a podcast about lustful sin please
I’m 30 and I’m still pure.
Beautifully explained!
This was fantastic, thank you Sadie and to your beautiful mother! 🙏♥️🙏
There is forgiveness in the Lord, but that doesn’t necessarily take away the consequences.
Thank you this for this message
9:00 That’s a real word. Because think about when our grandparents were growing up in the 50s (lol clearly I am vibing with Miss Sadie) premarital sex was considered not okay by the standards of the secular culture. 60-70 years later the script has totally flipped.
So I love you said God’s perspective hasn’t changed… because the worlds is just too hard to keep up with.
So good !! Needs to be talked about 🔥
Beautiful talk
You did a great job. It is so well thought through. So many good conections to the Bible. I can see how God leads you
Thank you sooo muchhh this was so Good!! 🙌🏼👏🏼
This is such a healing video
Needed this!!!❤
I think I would disagree and say that, yes, premarital sex with other people is a mistreatment of the person you end up marrying if you end up marrying. Sin is not just individualistic. But God forgives that too, and whoever you end up marrying needs to understand that God has forgiven the way you sinned against them if you have repented of it. It's not something for either person to carry once it's been repented of and forgiven.
Thanks Sadie for a fantastic episode!
I was wondering if you could cover the topic of divorce & remarriage?
Anyone out there struggling with the topic of uncomfortable or painful intercourse? That intercourse sex is not anything to look forward to because there's no pleasure in it? Is this a very rare thing ?
The podcast with Dr. Juli Slattery: “Java with Juli” addresses these topics
I just saw this topic. Please go get an exam. I was struggling with this to the point that hubs felt unwanted somewhat & it was causing wedge in our marriage. I went to the Dr. & it can be a lot of things, pcos, endometriosis polys (I had both), cervical cancer etc. God designed our bodies to perfectly become one. So if anything is that painful you’re having a medical issue that Dr. Can help you with! Our bodies are temples, we have to take care of them. Hugs!
You might have a pelvic floor issue
Jesus would want the Rose 🌹
Sadie, I would invite you to read The Great Sex Rescue book. It has helped free me from all the purity culture crap I was fed during the purity culture era.
I second that!!!
I want you to talk about what is the boundary line? How do we make that line and know what things about intimacy is allowed or not before marriage
The conversation with every single child about sex begins at birth with how parents relate to their offspring to encourage an environment where children FEEL that they can come to their parents anytime any which way to ask questions and make requests about ANYTHING.
That analogy you shared that you heard from the one guy was disgusting I hate that people are made out to be used worthless objects just because you sinned and I hope that guy gets a major revelation because there’s no sin to big for God and we all can be renewed
Thank you for sharing! : )
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Important video.