To the woman with the toxic mom who moved in 5 houses down. Get a restraining order. She has plans. Shes already harassed you and moved closer to do so. Be safe Edit: I've seen some people saying it's not real or that we're all gullible. It's easy to believe when your parents have done crazier shit. Just sayin'
100% - PLANS. She needs to get the police involved and a restraining order. This woman is dangerous. And shame on the father for indulging the whims of his wife in this way. Shame.
1st story: that bride has some amazing friends. They must have been so aggravated and stressed, but they went out of their way to protect her from the drama so she could enjoy the wedding.
My bridesmaids did the same thing. Apparently one of my friends on my Bach trip kept ordering drinks and food but not helping pay any of the checks. My MoH handled it and had a tough convo with the person and they straightened up. But no one bothered me about it and I didn’t know until later.
Making someone ASK for the money you OWE them is tacky and rude. I've paid people back a couple times and had them be surprised like "Oh nice! I actually forgot I lent you this." And that's a great feeling. It makes them feel respected and shows that you're trustworthy.
Respect to the bridesmaids .. True friends didn't want to upset the bride and the bride showed the same respect to her nice bridesmaids 😊😊...thank you for cheering me up charlotte ❤
It really was a welcomed change to the entitled videos we’ve seen recently. Miss Charlotte and team doing it right by varying the content. Yet another reason I follow.
@@jacklow9611 they did actually. That was in the video and she didn’t show up to court so the judge ruled in their favor and against the thief while holding her in contempt. Karmic justice and we like to see it.
I think the bridesmaid was in huge debt and stuck her head in the sand. A lot of people, instead of facing reality, just avoid uncomfortable conversations. And obviously got to the point where she would have been too embarrassed to show her face (after the wedding, of course she disappeared because she was embarrassed). I am not saying any of this justifies what she did but I think that's exactly what happened. She wasn't cackling to herself about how much money she embezzled.
For the siblings with psychotic parents: RESTRAINING ORDER No other way. No boundaries will ever be acknowledged, respected, observed, or adhered to, even though they would definitely agree to them.
RO and a ring camera system (outside all over and a few pointed at access points) as well as a unified front amongst your family members: neither mom or dad will be allowed on the property!
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast there’s no making crazy scared my guy these people are unhinged and would set themselves on fire just to watch you burn safety is priority number 1 with people like this
The birthday dinner thing, I disagree with. Don't expect people to pay for you just because it's your birthday. Is it a kind gesture? Absolutely. But if they didn't tell me they were paying for me, I'd not be expecting them to pay. And I wouldn't be going "It'S mY bIrThDaY" to get someone to pay for me either. That's just tacky... Just having them there with me on my birthday is priority...
See here the thing, if you can't pay, just don't go. Idk how things are done in that group of friends but in mine, the bday girl never pays. In the vid that one of the girls said "we are covering for her" I assume it was for the bday girl
@@justshanie101 zyeah to me it looked like just that one girl refused to contribute to paying the birthday girls meal. In my friend groups we pay for the birthday girl or boys meal.
Don’t agree, Charlotte. Boys were rude. If cops were there I would ask that they be identified and cited for public disturbance or at least spoken with. Current generation is producing rude and disrespectful boys. Frankly, I am frightened by groups of rowdy threatening undisciplined boys. Also…FYI. Raise your camera a little so we don’t keep getting the up the nostril screen shots. Not flattering.
Evil bridesmaid story: My dad was a very smart man. One of the best pieces of advice he gave me was this: “Never loan what you can’t afford to give away.” If you loan something to someone, you will probably never get it back, and if you do, it will not be in the same condition that it was when you loaned it out. I have “loaned” several people books I had, and I haven’t seen them since. All of these were books that I needed / used for teaching. I should have said “No.” I should have listened to my Dad.
I have bipolar disorder and go to therapy and are on meds. I LOVE how my meds make me feel normal and like I can actually function as a normal human being. The feeling I had off meds was so awful like I was in the driver's seat but couldn't drive my own body. Sad that people still have such a negative stigma about therapy, medication, and mental health as a whole. I try my best to advocate for it as often as I can.
I don't believe negative stigma is an excuse to not get treatment. It's her fault for ruining everyones lives because she doesn't want to admit she needs help. No different than an addict refusing to get clean. Very sad but how did her mom even know where she lives? Why would she even let them know so thats on her. She KNOWS her mom is loco. My mom is borderline and that's why she doesn't know where I live and never will. So I feel it's basically everyone's fault including the dads for allowing this.
@@WhitneyDahlin it's still viewed very negatively by a lot of the older generations that doesn't make it right to not get treatment buttt the mentality as a whole is different that's all I was trying to say. I'm pretty sure my father has bipolar as well, but he will not go to therapy...it is his choice but overall, his generation doesn't think very positively of therapy or meds because they were taught it wasn't real or isn't valid. Its sad but true none the less.
I'm bipolar as well and I'm so happy for you that you have found a medication regimen that works for you but not everybody does and there is a big negative and pushing these drugs on people I get told to take medz constantly I have not taken a single Med for 15 years and I've had three what I would call major incidents in the last fifteen years we are all different that's part of what bipolar is and people are treated badly you just happen to be extremely lucky thank God you've been blessed
As someone who had to go NC with their abusive narcissistic unmedicated anti-therapy for sure BPD sociopath of a mother and my father as he does nothing but enable her abuse, THANK YOU for recognizing that you needed help and seeking it out. I’ve been in and out of therapy for childhood trauma and recently had to start it back up cuz my niece (one of the few family members I have contact with) warned me that my parents randomly told her they knew my new address in case she wanted it to send me a graduation invite. I’ve been living in fear for months now that they’re going to show up and terrorize me. I’m making plans to move out of the country asap cuz I don’t feel safe even after moving across the country. I hope that gal was able to get a restraining order and security system at least. Can’t imagine how scary that would be if my parents moved in next door.
As someone who had to cut her mother out of her life, I really feel for those sisters. That’s really fucked up that they bought that house 5 doors down. So manipulative. I don’t think I could stay.
I'm going to go out on a limb. I have a family member who has gone INTO debt, borrowing from everyone! The problem was her husband controlled all the money. She was too embarrassed to say anything to her friends. He was a straight up bully. I was so happy i found out. Not from her, but I heard him. I was so shocked I told everyone. He hates me. I DO NOT CARE 💅😘
For the birthday one, if she invited them to an expensive restaurant it is on her to pay imo. If they invited her out as a "present" then they should pay. If uncertain, everyone should pay for themselves.
The video with the girls in the birthday party is SUCH a culture shock for me!!! I'm from Spain and here, when it's your birthday, you're the one who's paying the bill. Here it's rude AF to organize your own birthday party and expect the other people to pay for you so watching the video I was thinking the rude one was the birthday girl HAHAHA
So it depends in America. So if the birthday person planned and invited it’s either everyone pays for themselves or bday person picks up tab. But it’s usually everyone pays for themselves If a friend organizing it, everyone pays for themselves and then either puts in money for birthday person or the organizer picks up birthday persons tab. And then if it’s a family member who plans it usually they pick up the tab. But I also know there are fights over people paying tab in a way that my dad invited our family for his bday dinner and was gonna pay for all of it but everyone picked up their own before he had a chance and pitched in for his food so when he went to pay bill it was done😊
If the b-day person was the one who planned and invited the friend, I feel like it’s the b-day person is responsible for the bill unless it was agreed upon before hand that everyone pays for themselves.
The phone booth photos - the last time I was in London I saw *lines* of people waiting to take pictures with those damn booths. The woman taking her sweet time taking a ton of pictures was in the wrong here, monopolizing the booth while there was probably a long line of people waiting to take their shot, too.
Are you talking about the ballet photographer? If so, you need to read what she says in her text. She was there first, and as she approached the booth to start taking pics, the other people run over and got in the booth so she could not get her pics. They said they would just be taking 1 picture and would be finished, and apparently they took a really long time to take that one photo, so it seems clear that they were deliberately blocking the dancer from using the booth. Then, when they got their 1 picture, and the dancer came to get photos, the people decided they needed ANOTHER picture, and were trying to block the dancer again, for another 10 minutes no doubt, and the dancer just had had enough and started getting her pictures, and that's the other people complaining about not getting their other 10-min picture.
SAME. Bipolar runs in my family. Childhood trauma leads to adulthood stress leads to bipolar diagnosis leads to denial and childhood trauma on the next generation... IT ENDS WITH ME!
Good for you. My mother doesn't have bipolar disorder, but there's something going on that ain't right. She won't go to therapy or take meds. In her old age she's gotten a little bit better, but wow--to be on this earth for 62 years and not understand that your mind ain't right....
I feel you OP! My relationship with my mom is very toxic, and I promised myself that my relationship with my twin daughters will NOT become like that! Sounds bad, but I wished I could get away from my mom sometimes, but I mean she's my mom, where can I really go?? 🤨 Edit: My twin daughters are 15yrs old, and I'm a single mom. So it's always just been me&them, and We're really close. I cherish the relationship we have🥰 🫶
As a bipolar Mom that wasn't medicated until my children were older( middle schoolish), I truly apologize for the trauma y'all have been through. I didn't even know I wasn't "normal'. Thank God we have a wonderful relationship now but it took a lot of uncomfortable talks and a whole lot of love! It's possible y'all. God is so good but so is modern medicine ❤❤❤
When you invite someone out, make sure everyone else knows they have to pay for themselves. If the plan is for someone to pay as a gift to you which I find ridiculous unless you and the person are very close friends, sort that out beforehand. Don’t be that person who just springs it on someone out of nowhere that you expect them to pay, and then expect them to take it well because your friends. Also especially do not expect someone to pay for all your guests, unless they offer to do so. Lastly, if you can’t afford to go out, then don’t.
It was my friend’s birthday and she wanted to take a bunch of us in a limo an hour away to a very nice restaurant and I told her that my boyfriend and I couldn’t afford it at the time, but she said we should come anyway. We barely ate and didn’t drink at all and just wanted to be there for her day and then a few days later she sent me a Venmo request splitting the bill with everyone else. I just paid because I felt so embarrassed (we are no longer friends but this wasn’t the reason)
@@Idontknowlasagna It really should have ended there. They clearly had no respect for you. You made it clear what your finances were and they sprung extra costs on you when THEY wanted to go out and THEY wanted a limo? Ridiculous, childish, selfish behaviour. I am not at all surprised something else came up that ended the friendship anyways, because that just screams selfish narcissist. You really need to get into their head when people do something weird like that. What on Earth would make you do that? Nothing but complete disregard for the people around you and nothing but complete narcissism because you want a limo and it's your specialest of days that comes around every year without fail...
@@Idontknowlasagna Your ex friend wanted a limo and an expensive restaurant, yet couldn't afford it, and made everyone pay for all the expenses. If the idea was to split the bill, she should have made that clear to everybody, not spring a venmo request out of nowhere practically forcing people to pay. If you can't afford an expensive outing, then don't have one. No one is obligated to pay your expenses. If someone offers to pay, that's different, that is their choice. You told her you couldn't afford it, and she still asked you to go, but you couldn't enjoy anything because you could not afford to, and she couldn't be bothered to offer to pay for you since she asked you to go regardless of your financial situation. Yet in the end, she couldn't afford anything she provided.
Agreed. Everyone I know usually pays their own when we go out, and on birthdays we would split the birthday person's bill between everyone so that it's only a tiny bit extra each. Never put it all on one person unless they offer to do it beforehand.
Therapy and Zoloft were a full-on game changer for me. It makes me so sad when people would rather pretend they're "fine" or too good for help, when literally the whole point is that it could very well help them have a better quality of life and healthier relationships.
Zoloft + Rexulti + Therapy has been my blessing medication cocktail. Took 5 years to find the right mix of meds but now that I have found it I will never stop it. Generational trauma ends with me!
@@flowerpower3618see if you can find someone that takes sliding scale to do self-pay. If you have limited means try Open Path Collective for affordable therapy
Y'know... My mother always taught me "Don't lend money you actually want back". We all know that a good friend will pay you back.... But most people won't 😬
The absolute audacity of the evil bridesmaid in the first story to use a friend's wedding as a way to scam some money out of people! I'm so curious to hear the outcome of the court case
I know I’m late to this but I’m like 90% that’s some shit I read on Reddit years and years ago. Another one in the column for folks on TikTok straight up cribbing stories from Reddit for their own gain
The fact that I watch Charlotte's videos while doing absolutely everything 😭 tryna sleep? Charlotte. Cooking? Charlotte. Playing video games? Charlotte. She just makes me happy!
The story about the mom...I literally have experienced something very similar. I married my bf of 5 years to escape my crazy family (specifically my psycho, alcoholic mother who abused me for years). I told her to get help or she would have no contact with me or any of my kids, she agreed. Initially got better but then took a MAJOR turn for the worse. My husband, now knowing how psychotic my family really was, and I packed up and moved out of state in 3 days. We just left to be close to his parents. I'm almost 100% nc with my family but constantly fear they will show up on my doorstep...they're those kind of people...I hope this girl gets away from her mom or her mom gets help, we just want peace!
I live in the same fear. My mom somehow got my address and sends packages all the time. I fear that I will one day come home to her car in my drive and I had to coach my MIL on what to do if this woman shows up. Call the police. Call my husband. Call me. Don't answer the door.
I guarantee her husband don't know ANYTHING about this, and if he does, she's telling him a completely different story. Glad you took this girl to civil court!
I have bipolar disorder and it’s impacted me and the people around me so significantly. I have to be very strict about my medications. Even one missed dose can alter your behaviour. It’s traumatizing for me to go through life unmedicated tbh, and I can’t imagine what the people around me who have had to endure me when I’m in the throes of it have felt. Bipolar is one of those things that needs to be managed through therapy and medication. I haven’t met or seen anyone with bipolar who’s been stable without at least one of those things. I’m so grateful I’m stable now.
Wow! The first lady has some absolutely wonderful friends/family (and evidently an absolutely evil ex-friend). And she's an absolute gem, as well. I'm tearing up at how they all kept the nastiness of the villainess under wraps in order to allow her to enjoy her wedding day. And her reaction in stepping up to help the other bridesmaid file a small claims suit was also wonderful. Her husband chose well; she's beautiful inside and out.
So I watch only a few regular things on YT and rarely comment (except here 😊), and I never miss Charlotte...but I had no idea how amazing this group and comments section is until last week I dipped into the comments section elsewhere and DAMN, people are awful to folks in ways I couldn't have imagined. Thanks everyone and especially Charlotte for fostering a genuine and kind community, it is so needed ❤❤
The girl who was taking photos at the telephone booth is one of my favorite dance photographers. Her reason for getting frustrated was completely reasonable and I feel bad she had to deal with the annoying woman and her husband
@@AndyK8623which ones the photographer or the tourist? Cause the photographer would have been done in 15 minutes. Eve cares about her dancers and Amber was freaking freezing out there. And yet those tourists would rather take half an hour to take the pictures they want despite coming after them.
45 minutes away is not far enough. I moved across the country to get away from my mom. She's definitely not as crazy but still caused a lot of trauma. Also that's awful that a bridesmaid and friend would do that. I hope that situation gets settled.
I bought a home and moved in with my boyfriend (now husband). HIS family was upset that the house was over 30 miles away from mommy dearest. I reminded them that I was the one buying there house and I am thousands of miles away from my family. Now, I feel like I'm too close to them. I want to leave the State.
Honestly everyone could use a therapist to talk to at times. They help you get your thoughts straight. Too many think you have to be a complete mess or have a diagnosis to go to a therapist. It's great to have an unbiased person in your life to talk to
Y3sh but when younhadn2 times q week snd lost 40 000d in few years just to see it doesn't do anything unless iq is low or the know what they do WHICH costs Fortune to see "well it might take 20 times(20x 120d aka 2400d)
My company offers 5 free counseling sessions per year, and I took them up on it last year because I'm going through a lot with my mom and her dementia diagnosis right now. It really helped, and my counselor just put me on hold because I'm doing so much better. I'll schedule again when I need more help/someone to talk to.
10:35 speaking from experience it’s probably mainly the stigma, recently my depression was getting out of control and that’s when I finally realized that maybe therapy alone won’t fix it so I tried meds for the third time (first two times was for anxiety and I didn’t take the medication long enough to take effect) and despite my earlier fears I feel like most of the depression has gone away and that I’ve been given another chance at life, not saying it works for everyone but it did for me and I regret it took me four years to finally get that help I desperately needed.
The 3rd last story about the time Karen calling the police on that boy who was cursing at the skate park, it reminded me of something . When I was a teacher I went to the mall to meet someone. Found a bunch of my students near the food court who were occupying a big table and being your average hooligan! I heard everything most of what they were saying to passers by would not be tolerated. I went about my day. On Monday after school I get called to the principals office. The principal was trying to chew me out for not reprimanding the students at the mall for their behaviour. I fought back and that I was not on the clock by the school, it was my time. Also the parents were there so why didn’t do their job? I reminded the principal that every time a parent wants to discipline their child and can’t should we as teachers go and do their jobs? And if so is the school going to be paying us more? The principal was so livid she devised ways to get me fired! 😂 I didn’t even give her that I quit before she could. And I talked about the school and their politics with the local community that principal has a bad name now!
Bro, how could she concievably think its okay to reprimand a teacher for not reprimanding students OUT of school while their parents WERE THERE. What, did she expect you to go up, ruin your reputation with parents, and scream at the kids in a setting where you aren't the authority as youd be in your classroom?
Is that principal mentally stable? How is it your job to reprimand students in your time? Especially with their parents there. If the parents turned around and sue you for interfering and disturbing them, or had you being assaulted for meddling was the school going to take care of you?
The people taunting the road rager was kind of scary. There’s been too many road ragers in my area that have pull a gun on people that didn’t even do anything. I don’t know how often that happens in California though.
Yeahhhh, I don’t recommend that people interact with road ragers. Too many tragic stories have come out from people nowadays. And even when they don’t point the gun directly at you, they might “shoot to scare you” where they’ve (unknowingly) shot/killed children/people in the back seats before . I really wouldn’t ever recommend interacting with someone like that. Better safe than sorry.
Years ago I had this man get out of his car with a baseball bat to break my windshield. I had kids in the car and we were at a light. I had done nothing to him but he thought I had. Very scary.
13:56 Oh I’ve seen this clip before, it goes on for a couple more minutes, I think. They tell her repeatedly to go get the cop so he can do something about her complaint. She does not talk to the police. But she does get more and more shouty and MAYBE even pushes a kid or takes someone’s board, I’m not sure about that bit at the end it’s been a long time.🤷🏻♂️😅
I don’t need therapy at 5pm UK time daily because I get this notification and it gives me the serotonin and dopamine I need to make it through! ❤🎉❤🎉 Love you Charlotte!! Keep being our petty potato queen!! ❤
As much as we love Charlotte, her videos are just as much of a distraction as watching tv, eating comfort food, having comfort sex, getting our nails done, going shopping, or listening to music or a comedy show. Those things are healing but nothing is more healing than making sure we think healthy thoughts and no one is better at that than a therapist. 🥰
for the birthday one, i can understand the frustration if it wasn’t discussed before hand and she just said “ok and now you’re paying my bill” when they got the bill. i’m not sure if that’s what happened but if that’s the case then i get why the lady was so mad
Therapy is great! After years of therapy. I went misdiagnosed. Last year I finally found the right help. I was diagnosed Bipolar 2. I am on the correct medications. My new psychiatrist actually listen to me. My therapist is amazing. My life has changed and improved so much. I should have spoken up more in the past. But, my world was so chaotic. Thankfully I finally found the right care.
I learned/realized during the pandemic that I had a panic disorder. I had not been in therapy or on medication because up until then I was able to cope. The pandemic pushed me over the edge. Still, I resisted going on medication (couldn't find a therapist during the worst part of this). After about 4 months of daily, severe panic attacks I finally went on meds. Best thing I ever did. After being on the meds for about a year, I recognized that I felt better than I had in years. The medication is basically an anti-depressant so I apparently had that going on too. I will not go off this medication unless it starts causing problems. Better living through chemistry. Sometimes it IS necessary.
You are so lucky that you didn’t get hooked. Yes, meds ARE necessary sometimes and I’m glad you are using them responsibly. I have a very addictive personality and I abuse Xanax when I have it, so I just grin and bear it and don’t take it.
@@wickedwonka9155 I'm sorry you have such a hard time with this. I hope you can find some other sorts of tools to help you cope (therapy, meditation, journaling, craftting, etc.). I'm on a super low dose of Paxil so it's nothing powerful and I don't think it's considered an addictive sort of medication.
The first story is why I NEVER lend anyone money that I can't let go of. I know myself and that I won't sleep well if I owe someone. I'd rather eat noodles for days or weeks just to be sure I'm not owing anyone or I'm not overdue for any debt. It drives me absolute bananas to be owed. I have been known to unceremoniously quit a job just because they didn't pay in good time. I hate being owed!!
As someone (I’m 71) with bipolar disorder I know it can’t be cured just treated. It’s a life long disorder. Most meds are prescribed “off brand” and are not designed for bipolar. They also have terrible side effects. I have found EMDR therapy has worked the best at calming down bipolar and I have more control. I hope this mother realizes and accepts her diagnosis. It’s the first step to getting better.
@@kallaen what kind of training from what institution do you get to do this type of therapy? Also if you're in a country with socialized medicine is it covered?
I had to pay for half of the bill at my best friends stag party. Everyone was buying him drinks, and had food on the bill, but never paid their portion. The best man was too drunk to do anything, so I did. The bill was over $500. So I can relate. Oh, ya I never got re-imbursed from the others who didn't pay.
Ah. Getting married to distance yourself from a toxic family life.. the complicated damage to her mental health over just that small snippet of her story is going to take a while to heal. I'm right there with you, sis. 15 years with lots of buts.
She never said she got married to get away you do know it's normal to want a family right and I myself come from a trauma filled childhood and I wanted nothing more than to create a family and be better than what I recieved.
She definitely did call it a "one way ticket out" that is the experience I'm referring to. That insinuates she rushed the process. It doesn't mean she doesn't want a family or didn't love him.
When you invite someone for a dinner, at least make sure everyone knows they're paying for themselves. I've been to enough birthday outings to know you can't expect everyone to know who things are being paid.
Holy moly, the first story is insane!! 😱 How could she go to the wedding after stealing money from two of the other bridesmaids?! I hope that they get their money back as soon as possible!
Charlotte is asking how can she not pay back? The answer is simple : she doesn't have the money anymore. Could be a lot of reason : she just stole & spend it or she has an over controlling husband (just telling this cause there is a mention that he doesn't want her to use the credit card... but it might be cause she has some spending issue)... But yeah, at this point : she need to get in therapy or jail or both
She spent that money as soon as she had it. There’s no way that she had the other two bridesmaids money just sitting there and refused to give it. In her eyes they were dumb to give it to her. Typical narc move.
“I typed this with a carrot” is just beyond ingenious, god bless her 🙏🏻😂😂❤️ being able to have a sense of humour in that situation just shows what he missed out on 😂😂😂 I can’t stop laughing even though what she went through isn’t funny - those whole 3 paragraphs are just ridiculous code for “I’m with someone else behind your back.” To say “you’re not enough” to any human being is just not a sentence that anyone normal would ever utter to anyone, never mind while cancelling their wedding now he knows he’s secured his side piece. I hope someone tells his new girlfriend he secretly likes a large carrot up his 🍩 and that it will drive him wild if she tries it 😅🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
As a New Yorkah, that Parisian singer was light work. This is also common in Mexico. Ppl literally only get on board to perform, collect change and move on. No big deal, enjoy Paris! 🎉
These happens all the times in my city. Singers, sales people, people who just got out from jail and need money, beggars, people who recite poems, people who screams of injustice for 2 minutes... My 20 minutes bus travels from home to school had entertainment (ads included) lol.
12:04 WAIT... while I normally would side with the girl that is having the birthday, IF SHE is the one that invited everyone out, then nobody else should have to pay for her... IF someone ELSE (like they got together and decided to do this) then the birthday girl shouldn't have to pay for herself... when others are doing it FOR you, you don't have to pay, BUT when YOU decide that they NEED to do it FOR you, that don't fly....
Congrats, honey - 110 points (out of a possible 100, and these are chocolate espresso brownie points: we grown-ups now...) Did you also grab hold of "some people don't *want* to be fixed, regardless of what they say" - that was my personal favourite...❤❤❤❤
14:22 was lowkey hilarious. I live in london and there are literally phonebooths everywhere. Looking at the area they were in, they were probably less than a two minute walk from a phonebooth 😂😂. I AM A TOURIST I REFUSE TO QUEUE FOR A PHOTOBOOTH girl do you not know you are in britain, the land of queues??
"Neither a borrower, nor a lender be. For loan oft loses both itself and friend. And borrower dulls the edge of husbandry.” Hamlet Act 1 Scene 3 ~ Shakespeare Wise words from the great bard!
I cannot go a day without my daily dose of Charlotte! You crack me up girl! You inspire me. You are one of my favorite Content Creators. I absolutely love you. Thank you for being you.
As the daughter of a narcissistic Karen, who cut her mom out of her life almost 2 years ago, I can proudly say that I've changed for the healthier and mom is still her toxic self and "doesn't know why I'm so mad." Lol, I'm not mad anymore, I'm happy.
I feel you, that line about being feed trauma for breakfast. I keep trying to go no contact with my mom but she still uses other family members to get to me/hear about my life. Calls me from random numbers that aren't blocked and if all that fails will send police to my home for "wellness checks". 🤦
Omg!! Triggered! I had a fake friend who was very abusive to me until I saw it and shut it down. I remember my husband and I have a close birthday and she wanted to “take us out” to the melting pot for our birthdays. Then she sat silent when the bill came and we ended up getting the bill. I was astonished then and my husband was pissed but it was a while yet before we got wise enough to cut her out. Lol.
There’s so many parents that pass on their trauma to their kids and I think the newer generations are noticing and trying to heal before they have kids to stop generational trauma & abuse but we not ready to talk about that yet.
I actually had a woman steal my coat from my own wedding reception. Was at a party at her and her sister's place months later and saw it, I said "I used to have a coat just like that". Coat magically disappears again. Awhile later I'm looking through photos of the reception and there she is, in my coat!
@@AmethystEyes It was a parka. I went to take it back but had already told her that I used to have a coat just like that before it hit me, it was gone. Just rude. I doubt she brought a wedding gift 😅
5:06 FOR REAL. i also haaaaate when the people you lent to make YOU go look for them, or say well come pick it up then 🙄🙄 YOU DROP IT OFF! i did YOU the favour of lending you money you can come and drop off the damn money 😂 when ppl don’t pay back i always think of it as paying them to never bother you again lmaoo
regarding the telephone box - i actually think that this spot is quite common and popular with tourists. In the background you can see the Elizabeth Tower which holds the Big Ben - and with the red telephone boxes being SO iconic for London/UK this makes a perfect holiday picture. I guess that's why the ballerina chose this place at all.
We all need therapy. Me, especially since I’ve had horrible news come to me last night. I don’t know if she will read this, but Charlotte, you brought me so much joy and laughter even after the horrible news I received. I’m super glad to be following you from day one. Much love to you, my potato empress.
In my country, if you have to celebrate ANYTHING about yourself (not just birthdays but anniversaries, job, promotion, etc) you have to arrange it yourself and then pay for it yourself and the guests just have to bring gifts and have fun 🎉 Most of the older guests (if any) just give enveloped cash directly and the younger ones put some effort to buy a gift..
The women with Bi-polar disorder needs more than therapy. She has a chemical imbalance that causes her highs and lows. She would do better with medicine and therapy. As a licensed therapist, people do better with both Charlotte, I appreciate your candor and openness. More people need therapy!
I want to second this, as a trauma survivor. A lot of people don't like the idea of meds because they worry it will change them. It won't! It will bring out your personality, minus the toxicity. Meds saved my life and helped me conquer my fear. I'm living a healthy, normal life today because of them (along with therapy, of course)❤❤❤
I found the birthday bill one funny, as this is the norm in my culture. The celebrant pays for everything. Then on the other friends birthday, that person pays for everything. It's a cycle of treating everyone else.
Something similar to the first villainous bridesmaid story happened to me. But instead of a bridesmaid, it's a roommate from hell, and instead of a bachelorette party, it's a utility bill. But everything else happened the same way.
@@emmanlss Oh that sucks! Mine was a roommate that was in your position (collecting money from roommates to pay for the internet bill), but spent it on other shit that is not the internet bill. Not as bad as dealing with 4 irresponsible roommates who won't pay their share, but still very upsetting.
7:06 ugh. I can feel his pain lmao. Best move woulda been to find a good response song. N get out n dance to ur own jam at them. Lol. Only way to squeeze a win 😂
Typing this is painful (physically) as I've done some damage to my arms after pushing my body too far but any ache/pain is immediately given a slight lift when I watch our potato queen. Thank you for brightening up my day when my body feels like giving up lol - love your videos, love your humour Charlotte - you're awesome xx ❤
As much as we love Charlotte, her videos are just as much of a distraction as watching tv, eating comfort food, having comfort sex, getting our nails done, going shopping, or listening to music or a comedy show. Those things are healing but nothing is more healing than making sure we think healthy thoughts and no one is better at that than a therapist. 🥰
My mom always said don’t give money if you expect to get it back! A good person would make good on it but in any case always draw up a agreement for small claims just in case.
15:40 I'm glad there was added more context, because just from the video alone, it sounded more like it was the poster and Amber who were Karens that didn't want to let others take photos even though there was maybe limited time to take photos and they'd been there for quite a while already. But with the context, it becomes abundantly clear that was not the case, at all, and that the poster and Amber had even been polite enough to let others take pictures mid-photoshoot session, only to be treated unfairly.
Could never be on this part of tiktok. I'd go down a rabbit hole and never leave it. Going down a Charlotte rabbit hole with these videos however, is an exception ❤
I had an emergency and paid them back in installments. it was a huge amount and i did not have it at the time. I made sure to pay everything I could each paycheck. My friend was so kind and so happy that I was paying them back they did not get upset it took me 3 paychecks to fully pay them. I am so grateful for them. It never crossed my mind to not pay.. how do you go through life not paying back when someone is so kind to help you
Totally in support of the idea of getting a restraining order and putting some distance between the girl and her mom. That being said, there are some people who have anosognosia (the inability to acknowledge/be aware of their psychiatric condition) as a part of their illness. It doesn't cancel out the need for boundaries because obviously, the daughter needs to protect herself, but it's a really sad reality for some people. I mostly wanted to post this because sometimes people don't know about this condition and can't understand that there are those with a mental health condition who truly don't think they are ill and, as a result, won't go to therapy/seek treatment. It's a sucky situation and my heart goes out to everyone in it :( Although, it does make me wonder why the dad would condone this behavior to the point of agreeing to move...
Grew up with a narcissistic bipolar maternal figure that literally drove my dad to an early grave. She refuses to acknowledge her mental problems. Now my siblings, my kids, and i are no contact with her and live over 3 hours away from her. We are all including my oldest son still working through trauma.
Hey Charlotte, I just want to congratulate you for speaking out about mental health. It’s been such a long time of mental health being spoken about in whispered tones, like you should be ashamed that you sometimes need help with processing the BS that people put you thru or what affects your life. From one of your fans in Australia.
The stigma surrounding therapy is still so unnerving. Medications and therapy help as a team and helps balance someone's moods n such. People don't want to be wrong or face consequences because they don't care about others and deal with deep denial. Mental health conditions may be part of one's personality but it doesn't have to rule your life either. I have BP2 and it answered a lot of questions. I still have issues but I've been balanced and confident in myself to continue to just be a better me. Also like, I've been the generous friend in the past and if I had the ability I wouldn't have them owe me. However now that I'm more restricted- I can't help and then notice the people who ask but never give or connect. Friends be texting me for money but not about how I am. That's the BS. Also like, thar bridesmaid gonna owe waaaaay more than she stole at this point
The story about the toxic mom… I feel you. I refer to my mom as Mother Gothel from Rapunzel, and yup you guessed it I was Rapunzel for many years. It is so freeing moving away and having boundaries. You need to either deal with her head on, move again or get a restraining order. Stay sane and safe!
For that horrible, horrible mother, that’s torturing her daughters, and her daughter husband, they should get a restraining order on the mother. And then the mother will literally have to go to jail if she breaks the restraining order.
Make sure the restraining order keeps them 1,000ft. away, that way they can't park their car in front of the daughters and SILs house to watch them. Because they sound 💩y enough to do that.
I had to completely move to another town primarily to get away from my twisted father. I tried moving within the city and he always found me and caused trouble for me. But he recently went to a place where he can never bother me again. If I wasn't forced to move I would never have met my partner so it all worked out good for me in the end.
Most people who haven't dealt with a dangerously mentally ill relative don't understand that they can and do hurt or kill their own kin. My ex MIL and I both had to move far from our home state of Texas to be safe from her son, my first husband. He murdered my dad in 1996, and threatened his own mother with death because she had testified against him in court prior to the murder, so that we could all get protective orders after he made many threats and committed felonies. We both testified to the Grand Jury in regards to my dad's murder, but the charge was no-billed anyway, even after his own mother provided them with the very threatening letters he sent her, WHILE he was on the run! Because the cops bungled the murder investigation and lost evidence, he was never indicted, so never convicted. His felonies were considered "non-violent", so he's still allowed to carry a gun in Texas, legally! I'm sad that I can never go home again, but most everyone I love there have died, or they hate me because I don't agree with their politics. Sometimes going no-contact with some relatives is the only way to protect one's life and sanity.
@@LazyIRanch I'm so sorry for your and your Mother's loss. What a horrific way to lose your father and a devastating way to lose your husband too. I pray that everything settles down for you and your Mum and exMIL and that your ex hubby either; leaves you all alone, or he gets therapy that actually works and apologies are forth coming, or he ☠💀
The first story definitely happened to me in different contexts. The friend agreed on the non-refundable amount, said she was coming, no showed, said she was still paying it, and in the end she let her boyfriend convince her she didn't have to because she choose not to go. Luckily it was a farless amount than the bachelorette party but it was the principal for me. She lost a six year friendship because of her actions.❤❤
My sister used the word Caca to teach her sons when something was dirty when they were little. Fast forward to when I have my son and she tries the same thing. Unfortunately for her, my son associated Caca with her, not dirt. She has now officially been Aunt Caca since my son learned how to talk. 😂
@My Creative HeART Yup. Doesn't help that her name is Jessica, so to a Toddler, I can see the confusion, but he's now 7 and even though he knows her actual name, still refers to her and introduces her to people as Caca.
If I was known as "Aunt Caca", I would be so proud I'd have it put on a t-shirt, with a poop emoji wearing pearls and catseye glasses! There's a 1948 movie called "Jungle Jim", starring Johnny Weissmuller of "Tarzan" fame. He plays a more low-key jungle dude; wears a safari suit instead of loincloth, and has a pet crow instead of a chimp. The crow's name is "Caw-Caw". My brother and I lost our caca as kids when we heard that!
@@LazyIRanch It is her favorite thing in the world. This is also the same person who's known as Aunt Spanky to her friend's kids because her nickname from that friend is Spanky Tank.
I spent 12 years in pretty intense therapy with a very well respected psychiatrist in Victoria BC. My mother was bipolar, and spent most of that time undiagnosed. And like many other people who suffer with undiagnosed mental health issues, my mum self medicated, and she chose alcohol to dull her pain. Those years were horrible for both of us, and mum was institutionalized twice. It was during this time that mum was diagnosed as bipolar and appropriately medicated. It took a little while before she felt better, but it happened. After a few months she no longer felt she needed to self-medicate and she started going to AA. Please don't think that it was a quick and easy, because it wasn't, but our relationship became much, much better, and we became friends, while still enjoying our mother daughter bond. It was great, and I have some wonderful memories. My mum passed away 7 and 1/2 years after she became sober, at the age of 57. I've now lived 4 years longer than my mother did, and that's both weird, and painful. I sure hope that OP's mum can get help and perhaps they can at least begin to heal their relationship, before it's too late. We never know what will happen next, I lost both of my parents within 13 months of each other. If you have something that you want or need to say to someone, don't dawdle, the regret isn't worth it.
I give myself forgiveness and grace now but i can confidently say i was a TERROR to myself and everyone around me growing up and therapy and medications was SO NECESSARY and i would either not be alive or have absolutely NO ONE in my life. Get therapy. Its not embarrassing, its not weird. If you can afford it, its very needed and honestly encouraged 😅
Friends not paying you back and then acting like you're the problem are the worst. As soon as you don't pay me back when you promised I'm done. I completely cut you off out of my life. Plain and simple. I can't tell you the amount of "friends" I have lost over a simple promise. See, to me, it's not about the money it's about that promise. Do not make a promise you can not keep. Easy
Coachella guy was likely a Las Vegas resident just trying to get home. I knew many people that live in that general area and they were stuck in the crossfire of Coachella awful traffic.
I wish everyone an amazing day 😊 Thank you Charlotte for your hard work and dedication to this Channel. Your amazing sense of humour helps me feel better everyday. God bless you. 🤗
I don't know what is customary in other countries but in Eastern Europe if it's your birthday and you invite your friends out, you have to pay for the whole party. Your guests bring you gifts instead.
I hate crowds so I can't imagine attending Coachella festival. I live off-grid on Mt. San Jacinto, on the North side of the mountain that overlooks the 10 fwy between Riverside and Indio, so every year I look down and see that FWY packed, looking like miles of parking lot. It stresses me out just looking at it! I would lose my mind if I was stuck in that mess!
@@LazyIRanch Coachella sounds like an absolute nightmare. Wayyy overpriced, crowded, dusty, hot. That's a lotta drama just to say you've "been there". A fool and their money...
CACA
We never stopped Caca, caca, Caca, you need to be more on Latin tick tock 😂
Oh, I didn't know it's "kaka" in Polish. It's also "kaka" in Estonian!
That girls face face gave me life!
@BM K In Swedish Kaka means cake :-D :-D :-D
CaCa sounds like a chocolate pie or something hahah😂
To the woman with the toxic mom who moved in 5 houses down. Get a restraining order. She has plans. Shes already harassed you and moved closer to do so. Be safe
Edit: I've seen some people saying it's not real or that we're all gullible. It's easy to believe when your parents have done crazier shit. Just sayin'
She needs to move much farther away and give zero hints as to where.
@@missylou725 Hard not to leave hints there days. Half the time you can literally google search and find someone no matter what.
Move cross crounty 😅😅😅
100% - PLANS. She needs to get the police involved and a restraining order. This woman is dangerous. And shame on the father for indulging the whims of his wife in this way. Shame.
@@Emily-ck9jiFr like how can her husband just allow this😂
1st story: that bride has some amazing friends. They must have been so aggravated and stressed, but they went out of their way to protect her from the drama so she could enjoy the wedding.
Those friends definitely need to take her to court.
#1 friends for sure!!!
I had a thieving bridesmaid too...
@@ringoorchid3724hope you got your things or money back
My bridesmaids did the same thing. Apparently one of my friends on my Bach trip kept ordering drinks and food but not helping pay any of the checks. My MoH handled it and had a tough convo with the person and they straightened up. But no one bothered me about it and I didn’t know until later.
Making someone ASK for the money you OWE them is tacky and rude.
I've paid people back a couple times and had them be surprised like "Oh nice! I actually forgot I lent you this." And that's a great feeling. It makes them feel respected and shows that you're trustworthy.
Respect to the bridesmaids .. True friends didn't want to upset the bride and the bride showed the same respect to her nice bridesmaids 😊😊...thank you for cheering me up charlotte ❤
It really was a welcomed change to the entitled videos we’ve seen recently. Miss Charlotte and team doing it right by varying the content. Yet another reason I follow.
The bride, along with the bridesmaids, should have sued the thief bridesmaid.
@@jacklow9611 they did actually. That was in the video and she didn’t show up to court so the judge ruled in their favor and against the thief while holding her in contempt. Karmic justice and we like to see it.
I would so want to know as the bride tho! I wouldn’t want that chick in my wedding! I’d have her photoshopped out of all the pictures 😡
I think the bridesmaid was in huge debt and stuck her head in the sand. A lot of people, instead of facing reality, just avoid uncomfortable conversations. And obviously got to the point where she would have been too embarrassed to show her face (after the wedding, of course she disappeared because she was embarrassed). I am not saying any of this justifies what she did but I think that's exactly what happened. She wasn't cackling to herself about how much money she embezzled.
For the siblings with psychotic parents:
RESTRAINING ORDER
No other way. No boundaries will ever be acknowledged, respected, observed, or adhered to, even though they would definitely agree to them.
RO and a ring camera system (outside all over and a few pointed at access points) as well as a unified front amongst your family members: neither mom or dad will be allowed on the property!
@d but the whole point of the story was the fact she refused to use her meds.
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast If they are that delusional they will not be afraid.
Agreed, RO is sometimes the only option.
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast there’s no making crazy scared my guy these people are unhinged and would set themselves on fire just to watch you burn safety is priority number 1 with people like this
13:46 " Bc YOU have been SERVED my man!" 😂😂 Karen really thought she did something! 🤣😂
The birthday dinner thing, I disagree with. Don't expect people to pay for you just because it's your birthday. Is it a kind gesture? Absolutely. But if they didn't tell me they were paying for me, I'd not be expecting them to pay. And I wouldn't be going "It'S mY bIrThDaY" to get someone to pay for me either. That's just tacky... Just having them there with me on my birthday is priority...
Agree! That’s something that should have talked about before hand
Exactly- the bday girl invited the friend out. Not the other way around.
See here the thing, if you can't pay, just don't go. Idk how things are done in that group of friends but in mine, the bday girl never pays. In the vid that one of the girls said "we are covering for her" I assume it was for the bday girl
Yes
@@justshanie101 zyeah to me it looked like just that one girl refused to contribute to paying the birthday girls meal. In my friend groups we pay for the birthday girl or boys meal.
The dad is also an enabler for allowing the mom to do this crazy ish than helping her seek treatment. 👏Restraining order 👏
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who thought that
@bre6961 Dang, I hope you're doing OK.
Don’t agree, Charlotte. Boys were rude. If cops were there I would ask that they be identified and cited for public disturbance or at least spoken with. Current generation is producing rude and disrespectful boys. Frankly, I am frightened by groups of rowdy threatening undisciplined boys. Also…FYI. Raise your camera a little so we don’t keep getting the up the nostril screen shots. Not flattering.
I just want to know why the birthday girl is nearly topless. She's about one millimeter away from a nip slip.
Yup. The enabling spouse is never a victim. They are often more covert than the malignant one, but are equally evil.
Evil bridesmaid story: My dad was a very smart man. One of the best pieces of advice he gave me was this: “Never loan what you can’t afford to give away.” If you loan something to someone, you will probably never get it back, and if you do, it will not be in the same condition that it was when you loaned it out.
I have “loaned” several people books I had, and I haven’t seen them since. All of these were books that I needed / used for teaching. I should have said “No.” I should have listened to my Dad.
Books, (DVDs & CDs - Back in the day!) Your Dad’s statement is 100% True!!!
I started to have people sign like a library book. I got my books back.
I have bipolar disorder and go to therapy and are on meds. I LOVE how my meds make me feel normal and like I can actually function as a normal human being. The feeling I had off meds was so awful like I was in the driver's seat but couldn't drive my own body. Sad that people still have such a negative stigma about therapy, medication, and mental health as a whole. I try my best to advocate for it as often as I can.
I don't believe negative stigma is an excuse to not get treatment. It's her fault for ruining everyones lives because she doesn't want to admit she needs help. No different than an addict refusing to get clean. Very sad but how did her mom even know where she lives? Why would she even let them know so thats on her. She KNOWS her mom is loco. My mom is borderline and that's why she doesn't know where I live and never will. So I feel it's basically everyone's fault including the dads for allowing this.
@@WhitneyDahlin it's still viewed very negatively by a lot of the older generations that doesn't make it right to not get treatment buttt the mentality as a whole is different that's all I was trying to say. I'm pretty sure my father has bipolar as well, but he will not go to therapy...it is his choice but overall, his generation doesn't think very positively of therapy or meds because they were taught it wasn't real or isn't valid. Its sad but true none the less.
@Whitney Dahlin umm ever heard of Google? You can get ANYONE'S address within 30 secs just knowing their first & last names.
I'm bipolar as well and I'm so happy for you that you have found a medication regimen that works for you but not everybody does and there is a big negative and pushing these drugs on people I get told to take medz constantly I have not taken a single Med for 15 years and I've had three what I would call major incidents in the last fifteen years we are all different that's part of what bipolar is and people are treated badly you just happen to be extremely lucky thank God you've been blessed
As someone who had to go NC with their abusive narcissistic unmedicated anti-therapy for sure BPD sociopath of a mother and my father as he does nothing but enable her abuse, THANK YOU for recognizing that you needed help and seeking it out. I’ve been in and out of therapy for childhood trauma and recently had to start it back up cuz my niece (one of the few family members I have contact with) warned me that my parents randomly told her they knew my new address in case she wanted it to send me a graduation invite. I’ve been living in fear for months now that they’re going to show up and terrorize me. I’m making plans to move out of the country asap cuz I don’t feel safe even after moving across the country. I hope that gal was able to get a restraining order and security system at least. Can’t imagine how scary that would be if my parents moved in next door.
As someone who had to cut her mother out of her life, I really feel for those sisters. That’s really fucked up that they bought that house 5 doors down. So manipulative. I don’t think I could stay.
sounds like a restraining order is due
I couldn't agree more
Time for the restraining order
I did, too, and I would move across the world if she ever moved in five houses down.
I'm going to go out on a limb. I have a family member who has gone INTO debt, borrowing from everyone! The problem was her husband controlled all the money. She was too embarrassed to say anything to her friends. He was a straight up bully. I was so happy i found out. Not from her, but I heard him. I was so shocked I told everyone. He hates me. I DO NOT CARE 💅😘
For the birthday one, if she invited them to an expensive restaurant it is on her to pay imo. If they invited her out as a "present" then they should pay. If uncertain, everyone should pay for themselves.
THIS. and the fact it went like it did shows they're all unstable lol
@@alisab4811 what do you mean "went like it did"? All the other friends said "no, were covering her, it's her birthday"....
@@jasonellis4330 I must've missed that?
@@jasonellis4330 what were they fighting about then if they were covering for the bday girl?
@@cindypicadomolina7814 I think one girl was not fine with that. She discussed against the rest of them.
The video with the girls in the birthday party is SUCH a culture shock for me!!! I'm from Spain and here, when it's your birthday, you're the one who's paying the bill. Here it's rude AF to organize your own birthday party and expect the other people to pay for you so watching the video I was thinking the rude one was the birthday girl HAHAHA
Same for people from the Philippines. In fact over here, people even treat their office mates to merienda on the day of their birthday.
So it depends in America.
So if the birthday person planned and invited it’s either everyone pays for themselves or bday person picks up tab. But it’s usually everyone pays for themselves
If a friend organizing it, everyone pays for themselves and then either puts in money for birthday person or the organizer picks up birthday persons tab.
And then if it’s a family member who plans it usually they pick up the tab.
But I also know there are fights over people paying tab in a way that my dad invited our family for his bday dinner and was gonna pay for all of it but everyone picked up their own before he had a chance and pitched in for his food so when he went to pay bill it was done😊
Is it me or was the birthday girl topless?
@@diggermd1 Thank you, I'm glad I wasn't alone on that. I was thinking, "How far down is her goddamn top? Her nips are hanging on for dear life here!"
If the b-day person was the one who planned and invited the friend, I feel like it’s the b-day person is responsible for the bill unless it was agreed upon before hand that everyone pays for themselves.
The phone booth photos - the last time I was in London I saw *lines* of people waiting to take pictures with those damn booths. The woman taking her sweet time taking a ton of pictures was in the wrong here, monopolizing the booth while there was probably a long line of people waiting to take their shot, too.
Are you talking about the ballet photographer? If so, you need to read what she says in her text. She was there first, and as she approached the booth to start taking pics, the other people run over and got in the booth so she could not get her pics. They said they would just be taking 1 picture and would be finished, and apparently they took a really long time to take that one photo, so it seems clear that they were deliberately blocking the dancer from using the booth. Then, when they got their 1 picture, and the dancer came to get photos, the people decided they needed ANOTHER picture, and were trying to block the dancer again, for another 10 minutes no doubt, and the dancer just had had enough and started getting her pictures, and that's the other people complaining about not getting their other 10-min picture.
As a mom with bipolar... Screw that mom. I will do everything I can to ensure my mental health isn't my baby's future trauma.
SAME. God bless whoever invented my meds.
SAME. Bipolar runs in my family. Childhood trauma leads to adulthood stress leads to bipolar diagnosis leads to denial and childhood trauma on the next generation... IT ENDS WITH ME!
Not a mom yet, but I’m a teacher and I will never ever do such a thing. Absolutely horrid. That mom should be ashamed.
Good for you. My mother doesn't have bipolar disorder, but there's something going on that ain't right. She won't go to therapy or take meds. In her old age she's gotten a little bit better, but wow--to be on this earth for 62 years and not understand that your mind ain't right....
I feel you OP! My relationship with my mom is very toxic, and I promised myself that my relationship with my twin daughters will NOT become like that! Sounds bad, but I wished I could get away from my mom sometimes, but I mean she's my mom, where can I really go?? 🤨
Edit: My twin daughters are 15yrs old, and I'm a single mom. So it's always just been me&them, and We're really close. I cherish the relationship we have🥰 🫶
As a person with a bipolar mom, it’s not just therapy that they need. They have to take the medication. Or their moods are too unpredictable. 😞
Same w the bipolar mom. Meds are non negotiable for bipolar ppl
As a bipolar Mom that wasn't medicated until my children were older( middle schoolish), I truly apologize for the trauma y'all have been through. I didn't even know I wasn't "normal'. Thank God we have a wonderful relationship now but it took a lot of uncomfortable talks and a whole lot of love! It's possible y'all. God is so good but so is modern medicine ❤❤❤
When you invite someone out, make sure everyone else knows they have to pay for themselves. If the plan is for someone to pay as a gift to you which I find ridiculous unless you and the person are very close friends, sort that out beforehand. Don’t be that person who just springs it on someone out of nowhere that you expect them to pay, and then expect them to take it well because your friends. Also especially do not expect someone to pay for all your guests, unless they offer to do so. Lastly, if you can’t afford to go out, then don’t.
It was my friend’s birthday and she wanted to take a bunch of us in a limo an hour away to a very nice restaurant and I told her that my boyfriend and I couldn’t afford it at the time, but she said we should come anyway. We barely ate and didn’t drink at all and just wanted to be there for her day and then a few days later she sent me a Venmo request splitting the bill with everyone else. I just paid because I felt so embarrassed (we are no longer friends but this wasn’t the reason)
@@Idontknowlasagna It really should have ended there. They clearly had no respect for you. You made it clear what your finances were and they sprung extra costs on you when THEY wanted to go out and THEY wanted a limo? Ridiculous, childish, selfish behaviour. I am not at all surprised something else came up that ended the friendship anyways, because that just screams selfish narcissist. You really need to get into their head when people do something weird like that. What on Earth would make you do that? Nothing but complete disregard for the people around you and nothing but complete narcissism because you want a limo and it's your specialest of days that comes around every year without fail...
@@Idontknowlasagna Your ex friend wanted a limo and an expensive restaurant, yet couldn't afford it, and made everyone pay for all the expenses. If the idea was to split the bill, she should have made that clear to everybody, not spring a venmo request out of nowhere practically forcing people to pay.
If you can't afford an expensive outing, then don't have one. No one is obligated to pay your expenses. If someone offers to pay, that's different, that is their choice. You told her you couldn't afford it, and she still asked you to go, but you couldn't enjoy anything because you could not afford to, and she couldn't be bothered to offer to pay for you since she asked you to go regardless of your financial situation. Yet in the end, she couldn't afford anything she provided.
Agreed. Everyone I know usually pays their own when we go out, and on birthdays we would split the birthday person's bill between everyone so that it's only a tiny bit extra each. Never put it all on one person unless they offer to do it beforehand.
This is why i don't go to birthday parties and i never invite anyone out or at my place.
Charlotte is giving “daphne vibes” with this outfit and I’m here for it 💜
PETITION FOR CHARLOTTE AND MIKE TO BE DAPHNE AND FRED FOR HALLOWEEN AND FOR MURPHY TO BE SCOOBY!
Therapy and Zoloft were a full-on game changer for me. It makes me so sad when people would rather pretend they're "fine" or too good for help, when literally the whole point is that it could very well help them have a better quality of life and healthier relationships.
Yep! Zoloft and Depakote were my magic combination. Without it I'd be a hot mess on toast.
Zoloft + Rexulti + Therapy has been my blessing medication cocktail. Took 5 years to find the right mix of meds but now that I have found it I will never stop it. Generational trauma ends with me!
I'm on a cocktail myself and life is much better on them than off them.
Insurance only pays for 4 visits.
@@flowerpower3618see if you can find someone that takes sliding scale to do self-pay. If you have limited means try Open Path Collective for affordable therapy
Y'know... My mother always taught me "Don't lend money you actually want back". We all know that a good friend will pay you back.... But most people won't 😬
The absolute audacity of the evil bridesmaid in the first story to use a friend's wedding as a way to scam some money out of people! I'm so curious to hear the outcome of the court case
I know I’m late to this but I’m like 90% that’s some shit I read on Reddit years and years ago. Another one in the column for folks on TikTok straight up cribbing stories from Reddit for their own gain
The fact that I watch Charlotte's videos while doing absolutely everything 😭 tryna sleep? Charlotte. Cooking? Charlotte. Playing video games? Charlotte. She just makes me happy!
The story about the mom...I literally have experienced something very similar. I married my bf of 5 years to escape my crazy family (specifically my psycho, alcoholic mother who abused me for years). I told her to get help or she would have no contact with me or any of my kids, she agreed. Initially got better but then took a MAJOR turn for the worse. My husband, now knowing how psychotic my family really was, and I packed up and moved out of state in 3 days. We just left to be close to his parents. I'm almost 100% nc with my family but constantly fear they will show up on my doorstep...they're those kind of people...I hope this girl gets away from her mom or her mom gets help, we just want peace!
So sorry you went through that. Just get a restraining order if she shows up...
I live in the same fear. My mom somehow got my address and sends packages all the time. I fear that I will one day come home to her car in my drive and I had to coach my MIL on what to do if this woman shows up.
Call the police.
Call my husband.
Call me.
Don't answer the door.
Yeah she has to move much further away...like across country or a different continent.
@@janmcclure551 a country, this person won't be able to get a residence permit for
I guarantee her husband don't know ANYTHING about this, and if he does, she's telling him a completely different story. Glad you took this girl to civil court!
Ah yes, because men are innocent 🤢
He could've dropped out of the wedding party and it would have been a non issue.
She*
see, i got the vibe he was pulling her strings
I have bipolar disorder and it’s impacted me and the people around me so significantly. I have to be very strict about my medications. Even one missed dose can alter your behaviour. It’s traumatizing for me to go through life unmedicated tbh, and I can’t imagine what the people around me who have had to endure me when I’m in the throes of it have felt. Bipolar is one of those things that needs to be managed through therapy and medication. I haven’t met or seen anyone with bipolar who’s been stable without at least one of those things. I’m so grateful I’m stable now.
Wow! The first lady has some absolutely wonderful friends/family (and evidently an absolutely evil ex-friend). And she's an absolute gem, as well. I'm tearing up at how they all kept the nastiness of the villainess under wraps in order to allow her to enjoy her wedding day. And her reaction in stepping up to help the other bridesmaid file a small claims suit was also wonderful. Her husband chose well; she's beautiful inside and out.
So I watch only a few regular things on YT and rarely comment (except here 😊), and I never miss Charlotte...but I had no idea how amazing this group and comments section is until last week I dipped into the comments section elsewhere and DAMN, people are awful to folks in ways I couldn't have imagined. Thanks everyone and especially Charlotte for fostering a genuine and kind community, it is so needed ❤❤
The girl who was taking photos at the telephone booth is one of my favorite dance photographers. Her reason for getting frustrated was completely reasonable and I feel bad she had to deal with the annoying woman and her husband
I feel annoyed that they feel it's OK to hog the point of interest for over 9 minutes. Such a sense of entitlement is mind-boggling.
@@AndyK8623it's a phone booth...
@@AndyK8623which ones the photographer or the tourist? Cause the photographer would have been done in 15 minutes. Eve cares about her dancers and Amber was freaking freezing out there. And yet those tourists would rather take half an hour to take the pictures they want despite coming after them.
45 minutes away is not far enough. I moved across the country to get away from my mom. She's definitely not as crazy but still caused a lot of trauma.
Also that's awful that a bridesmaid and friend would do that. I hope that situation gets settled.
Yah... 45 min not far enough. I moved 3 hours away... was far enough for me. I see her twice a year.
@@mycreativeheart4159 I maybe see my mom once a year. Sometimes once every other year.
I bought a home and moved in with my boyfriend (now husband). HIS family was upset that the house was over 30 miles away from mommy dearest. I reminded them that I was the one buying there house and I am thousands of miles away from my family. Now, I feel like I'm too close to them. I want to leave the State.
frfr im blessed i got to move very far away from my mom
Why not a restraining order, seems easier then moving that far, unless there were other reasons you had to move as well.
Honestly everyone could use a therapist to talk to at times. They help you get your thoughts straight. Too many think you have to be a complete mess or have a diagnosis to go to a therapist. It's great to have an unbiased person in your life to talk to
Yeah but a ton of them just want you to pay obscene amounts of money and don't care what you have to say.
But It’s so expensive !
Y3sh but when younhadn2 times q week snd lost 40 000d in few years just to see it doesn't do anything unless iq is low or the know what they do WHICH costs Fortune to see "well it might take 20 times(20x 120d aka 2400d)
My company offers 5 free counseling sessions per year, and I took them up on it last year because I'm going through a lot with my mom and her dementia diagnosis right now. It really helped, and my counselor just put me on hold because I'm doing so much better. I'll schedule again when I need more help/someone to talk to.
@@Supersoccerchic so?? paying the obscene amount is worth it if you actually want to better yourself
But it sounds like you dont
10:35 speaking from experience it’s probably mainly the stigma, recently my depression was getting out of control and that’s when I finally realized that maybe therapy alone won’t fix it so I tried meds for the third time (first two times was for anxiety and I didn’t take the medication long enough to take effect) and despite my earlier fears I feel like most of the depression has gone away and that I’ve been given another chance at life, not saying it works for everyone but it did for me and I regret it took me four years to finally get that help I desperately needed.
The 3rd last story about the time Karen calling the police on that boy who was cursing at the skate park, it reminded me of something . When I was a teacher I went to the mall to meet someone. Found a bunch of my students near the food court who were occupying a big table and being your average hooligan! I heard everything most of what they were saying to passers by would not be tolerated. I went about my day. On Monday after school I get called to the principals office. The principal was trying to chew me out for not reprimanding the students at the mall for their behaviour. I fought back and that I was not on the clock by the school, it was my time. Also the parents were there so why didn’t do their job? I reminded the principal that every time a parent wants to discipline their child and can’t should we as teachers go and do their jobs? And if so is the school going to be paying us more? The principal was so livid she devised ways to get me fired! 😂 I didn’t even give her that I quit before she could. And I talked about the school and their politics with the local community that principal has a bad name now!
That's insane! Good for you for leaving 👏
Bro, how could she concievably think its okay to reprimand a teacher for not reprimanding students OUT of school while their parents WERE THERE.
What, did she expect you to go up, ruin your reputation with parents, and scream at the kids in a setting where you aren't the authority as youd be in your classroom?
As a LSU fan, we do not claim that Karen!
Yeah, don't talk to my child, especially if I'm there. You did right.
Is that principal mentally stable? How is it your job to reprimand students in your time? Especially with their parents there. If the parents turned around and sue you for interfering and disturbing them, or had you being assaulted for meddling was the school going to take care of you?
The people taunting the road rager was kind of scary. There’s been too many road ragers in my area that have pull a gun on people that didn’t even do anything. I don’t know how often that happens in California though.
Yeahhhh, I don’t recommend that people interact with road ragers. Too many tragic stories have come out from people nowadays. And even when they don’t point the gun directly at you, they might “shoot to scare you” where they’ve (unknowingly) shot/killed children/people in the back seats before . I really wouldn’t ever recommend interacting with someone like that. Better safe than sorry.
Years ago I had this man get out of his car with a baseball bat to break my windshield. I had kids in the car and we were at a light. I had done nothing to him but he thought I had. Very scary.
This... exactly this, people are too crazy
13:56 Oh I’ve seen this clip before, it goes on for a couple more minutes, I think. They tell her repeatedly to go get the cop so he can do something about her complaint. She does not talk to the police. But she does get more and more shouty and MAYBE even pushes a kid or takes someone’s board, I’m not sure about that bit at the end it’s been a long time.🤷🏻♂️😅
I don’t need therapy at 5pm UK time daily because I get this notification and it gives me the serotonin and dopamine I need to make it through! ❤🎉❤🎉
Love you Charlotte!! Keep being our petty potato queen!! ❤
Hey another UK hey mate!!!🎉🎉🎉
I’m not alone.🎉🎉❤
Fellow UK viewer here!
And another !!!! 🙂
As much as we love Charlotte, her videos are just as much of a distraction as watching tv, eating comfort food, having comfort sex, getting our nails done, going shopping, or listening to music or a comedy show. Those things are healing but nothing is more healing than making sure we think healthy thoughts and no one is better at that than a therapist. 🥰
for the birthday one, i can understand the frustration if it wasn’t discussed before hand and she just said “ok and now you’re paying my bill” when they got the bill. i’m not sure if that’s what happened but if that’s the case then i get why the lady was so mad
Therapy is great! After years of therapy. I went misdiagnosed. Last year I finally found the right help. I was diagnosed Bipolar 2. I am on the correct medications. My new psychiatrist actually listen to me. My therapist is amazing. My life has changed and improved so much. I should have spoken up more in the past. But, my world was so chaotic. Thankfully I finally found the right care.
I'm so happy for you, i hope you have all the joy the world can give
I learned/realized during the pandemic that I had a panic disorder. I had not been in therapy or on medication because up until then I was able to cope. The pandemic pushed me over the edge. Still, I resisted going on medication (couldn't find a therapist during the worst part of this). After about 4 months of daily, severe panic attacks I finally went on meds. Best thing I ever did. After being on the meds for about a year, I recognized that I felt better than I had in years. The medication is basically an anti-depressant so I apparently had that going on too. I will not go off this medication unless it starts causing problems. Better living through chemistry. Sometimes it IS necessary.
You are so lucky that you didn’t get hooked. Yes, meds ARE necessary sometimes and I’m glad you are using them responsibly. I have a very addictive personality and I abuse Xanax when I have it, so I just grin and bear it and don’t take it.
@@wickedwonka9155 I'm sorry you have such a hard time with this. I hope you can find some other sorts of tools to help you cope (therapy, meditation, journaling, craftting, etc.).
I'm on a super low dose of Paxil so it's nothing powerful and I don't think it's considered an addictive sort of medication.
@@fairygoth-mother7341 thank you! No, Paxil is a good medication. I’m glad it’s worked for you, God bless!
Yep - the meds work! Good for you - keep up the good work 🙌🏻
I feel ya!
I loves when Charlotte makes herself laugh as hysterically as she makes all of us do every day!
The first story is why I NEVER lend anyone money that I can't let go of.
I know myself and that I won't sleep well if I owe someone. I'd rather eat noodles for days or weeks just to be sure I'm not owing anyone or I'm not overdue for any debt. It drives me absolute bananas to be owed.
I have been known to unceremoniously quit a job just because they didn't pay in good time. I hate being owed!!
As someone (I’m 71) with bipolar disorder I know it can’t be cured just treated. It’s a life long disorder. Most meds are prescribed “off brand” and are not designed for bipolar. They also have terrible side effects. I have found EMDR therapy has worked the best at calming down bipolar and I have more control. I hope this mother realizes and accepts her diagnosis. It’s the first step to getting better.
I love EMDR!! It works for a variety of situations. I also love EMRES. (Emotional Resolution)❤
How does EMDR help
with bipolar? I am in EMDR therapy to help process my trauma, is bipolar also caused by trauma?
@@kallaen what kind of training from what institution do you get to do this type of therapy? Also if you're in a country with socialized medicine is it covered?
@@kallaen Bipolar is not caused by trauma. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain.
They can't be helped unless they WANT to be helped, and evidently she doesn't want to be helped.
I had to pay for half of the bill at my best friends stag party. Everyone was buying him drinks, and had food on the bill, but never paid their portion.
The best man was too drunk to do anything, so I did. The bill was over $500. So I can relate.
Oh, ya I never got re-imbursed from the others who didn't pay.
Lol the boys and the lady hilarious!! The dancing! You have been served!
Ah. Getting married to distance yourself from a toxic family life.. the complicated damage to her mental health over just that small snippet of her story is going to take a while to heal. I'm right there with you, sis. 15 years with lots of buts.
She never said she got married to get away you do know it's normal to want a family right and I myself come from a trauma filled childhood and I wanted nothing more than to create a family and be better than what I recieved.
She definitely did call it a "one way ticket out" that is the experience I'm referring to. That insinuates she rushed the process. It doesn't mean she doesn't want a family or didn't love him.
@@Stepharoni_and_Clean she absolutely did say it though
Girl 45 minutes away is too close, I WOULD HAVE MOVED STATES 💀💀
“If you owe someone money, pay them back” quote of the year
-Charlotte dobre❤
When you invite someone for a dinner, at least make sure everyone knows they're paying for themselves. I've been to enough birthday outings to know you can't expect everyone to know who things are being paid.
I don't feel like you should have to say it. You should be assuming you are paying for yourself unless otherwise stated.
Holy moly, the first story is insane!! 😱 How could she go to the wedding after stealing money from two of the other bridesmaids?!
I hope that they get their money back as soon as possible!
Charlotte is asking how can she not pay back? The answer is simple : she doesn't have the money anymore. Could be a lot of reason : she just stole & spend it or she has an over controlling husband (just telling this cause there is a mention that he doesn't want her to use the credit card... but it might be cause she has some spending issue)... But yeah, at this point : she need to get in therapy or jail or both
I kinda hope she goes to jail for at least a week or two 😅
And she's walking through the projects too! Wouldn't wanna mess with that chick, no way.
Some ppl have no shame. She probably already spent the money too and she wanted a free meal and makeover at the wedding 💸
She spent that money as soon as she had it. There’s no way that she had the other two bridesmaids money just sitting there and refused to give it. In her eyes they were dumb to give it to her. Typical narc move.
“I typed this with a carrot” is just beyond ingenious, god bless her 🙏🏻😂😂❤️ being able to have a sense of humour in that situation just shows what he missed out on 😂😂😂 I can’t stop laughing even though what she went through isn’t funny - those whole 3 paragraphs are just ridiculous code for “I’m with someone else behind your back.” To say “you’re not enough” to any human being is just not a sentence that anyone normal would ever utter to anyone, never mind while cancelling their wedding now he knows he’s secured his side piece. I hope someone tells his new girlfriend he secretly likes a large carrot up his 🍩 and that it will drive him wild if she tries it 😅🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
I am pretty sure it was an ex girlfriend who texted and was upset about the wedding not the soon to be spouse.
As a New Yorkah, that Parisian singer was light work. This is also common in Mexico. Ppl literally only get on board to perform, collect change and move on. No big deal, enjoy Paris! 🎉
Me too!!! It's the break dancers you have to worry about😂😂😂
These happens all the times in my city. Singers, sales people, people who just got out from jail and need money, beggars, people who recite poems, people who screams of injustice for 2 minutes... My 20 minutes bus travels from home to school had entertainment (ads included) lol.
12:04
WAIT... while I normally would side with the girl that is having the birthday, IF SHE is the one that invited everyone out, then nobody else should have to pay for her... IF someone ELSE (like they got together and decided to do this) then the birthday girl shouldn't have to pay for herself... when others are doing it FOR you, you don't have to pay, BUT when YOU decide that they NEED to do it FOR you, that don't fly....
11:46 that top is hanging on FOR DEAR LIFE 😭😭
I wish I had that much trust in people as that girl has trust in her top
After 2 years of therapy, I have finally learned that I can't fix everyone and I don't need to.
And therapy in turn doesn’t work for everyone.
@@unamed2516 so people are supposed to sit with their pent up trauma? Dumbbb
That is such a life changing epiphany! Freeing too!
Congrats, honey - 110 points (out of a possible 100, and these are chocolate espresso brownie points: we grown-ups now...) Did you also grab hold of "some people don't *want* to be fixed, regardless of what they say" - that was my personal favourite...❤❤❤❤
Im still learning
14:22 was lowkey hilarious. I live in london and there are literally phonebooths everywhere. Looking at the area they were in, they were probably less than a two minute walk from a phonebooth 😂😂.
I AM A TOURIST I REFUSE TO QUEUE FOR A PHOTOBOOTH
girl do you not know you are in britain, the land of queues??
I live by a rule I don't borrow money off of my friends and I don't lend money. It just eliminates a lot of drama
"Neither a borrower, nor a lender be. For loan oft loses both itself and friend. And borrower dulls the edge of husbandry.”
Hamlet Act 1 Scene 3 ~ Shakespeare
Wise words from the great bard!
I rather "give" a small amount, but never lend it.
How on earth does someone turn a wedding into a way to grift other bridesmaids? Just amazing on that first one.
Have you heard of donnie trump? Marjorie Taylor Greene? Lauren Boebert? This is something they would do as grifters.
I need a part 2 on that story. I crave justice.
Trashy person a pure opportunist & gross.
I cannot go a day without my daily dose of Charlotte! You crack me up girl! You inspire me. You are one of my favorite Content Creators. I absolutely love you. Thank you for being you.
As the daughter of a narcissistic Karen, who cut her mom out of her life almost 2 years ago, I can proudly say that I've changed for the healthier and mom is still her toxic self and "doesn't know why I'm so mad." Lol, I'm not mad anymore, I'm happy.
I honestly sympathize with you my dad is a male Karen or what I call a Jeremy he is a douchecanoe
The term Karen is racist.
I feel you, that line about being feed trauma for breakfast. I keep trying to go no contact with my mom but she still uses other family members to get to me/hear about my life. Calls me from random numbers that aren't blocked and if all that fails will send police to my home for "wellness checks". 🤦
@@T6706Kthe number 7 is a chicken
Omg!! Triggered! I had a fake friend who was very abusive to me until I saw it and shut it down. I remember my husband and I have a close birthday and she wanted to “take us out” to the melting pot for our birthdays. Then she sat silent when the bill came and we ended up getting the bill. I was astonished then and my husband was pissed but it was a while yet before we got wise enough to cut her out. Lol.
There’s so many parents that pass on their trauma to their kids and I think the newer generations are noticing and trying to heal before they have kids to stop generational trauma & abuse but we not ready to talk about that yet.
I actually had a woman steal my coat from my own wedding reception. Was at a party at her and her sister's place months later and saw it, I said "I used to have a coat just like that". Coat magically disappears again. Awhile later I'm looking through photos of the reception and there she is, in my coat!
Did you take it back? Was it a fur coat?
@@AmethystEyes It was a parka. I went to take it back but had already told her that I used to have a coat just like that before it hit me, it was gone. Just rude. I doubt she brought a wedding gift 😅
I am so glad they sued that bridesmaid! And the judge ordering contempt against her - chef's kiss!!
Love you, Potato Queen! 👸
5:06 FOR REAL. i also haaaaate when the people you lent to make YOU go look for them, or say well come pick it up then 🙄🙄 YOU DROP IT OFF! i did YOU the favour of lending you money you can come and drop off the damn money 😂 when ppl don’t pay back i always think of it as paying them to never bother you again lmaoo
regarding the telephone box - i actually think that this spot is quite common and popular with tourists. In the background you can see the Elizabeth Tower which holds the Big Ben - and with the red telephone boxes being SO iconic for London/UK this makes a perfect holiday picture. I guess that's why the ballerina chose this place at all.
We all need therapy. Me, especially since I’ve had horrible news come to me last night. I don’t know if she will read this, but Charlotte, you brought me so much joy and laughter even after the horrible news I received. I’m super glad to be following you from day one. Much love to you, my potato empress.
In my country, if you have to celebrate ANYTHING about yourself (not just birthdays but anniversaries, job, promotion, etc) you have to arrange it yourself and then pay for it yourself and the guests just have to bring gifts and have fun 🎉
Most of the older guests (if any) just give enveloped cash directly and the younger ones put some effort to buy a gift..
My therapist goes to therapy and I really don’t blame her.
Therapists are legally required to go to therapy. Makes sense
Understandable 😭💀 I can only imagine what they have to hear, emotionally supporting us lol.
Lmao Did you think therapists just sit with all the messed up stuff their clients said?? F*cking dumb 💀
It's called self care
I'm pretty sure I'm the reason my therapist would need therapy.
The women with Bi-polar disorder needs more than therapy. She has a chemical imbalance that causes her highs and lows. She would do better with medicine and therapy. As a licensed therapist, people do better with both Charlotte, I appreciate your candor and openness. More people need therapy!
I want to second this, as a trauma survivor. A lot of people don't like the idea of meds because they worry it will change them. It won't! It will bring out your personality, minus the toxicity.
Meds saved my life and helped me conquer my fear. I'm living a healthy, normal life today because of them (along with therapy, of course)❤❤❤
I found the birthday bill one funny, as this is the norm in my culture. The celebrant pays for everything. Then on the other friends birthday, that person pays for everything. It's a cycle of treating everyone else.
Charlotte is hilarious - "I'm batsh!t crazy, I love therapy" needs to be on a teeshirt. I'm going to be using that as a quote now. XD
Something similar to the first villainous bridesmaid story happened to me. But instead of a bridesmaid, it's a roommate from hell, and instead of a bachelorette party, it's a utility bill. But everything else happened the same way.
Me too! I had 4 roommates not pay me for the bill (10 years ago) and I'm still upset about it 😅
@@emmanlss Oh that sucks! Mine was a roommate that was in your position (collecting money from roommates to pay for the internet bill), but spent it on other shit that is not the internet bill. Not as bad as dealing with 4 irresponsible roommates who won't pay their share, but still very upsetting.
7:06 ugh. I can feel his pain lmao. Best move woulda been to find a good response song. N get out n dance to ur own jam at them. Lol. Only way to squeeze a win 😂
Typing this is painful (physically) as I've done some damage to my arms after pushing my body too far but any ache/pain is immediately given a slight lift when I watch our potato queen. Thank you for brightening up my day when my body feels like giving up lol - love your videos, love your humour Charlotte - you're awesome xx ❤
As much as we love Charlotte, her videos are just as much of a distraction as watching tv, eating comfort food, having comfort sex, getting our nails done, going shopping, or listening to music or a comedy show. Those things are healing but nothing is more healing than making sure we think healthy thoughts and no one is better at that than a therapist. 🥰
My mom always said don’t give money if you expect to get it back! A good person would make good on it but in any case always draw up a agreement for small claims just in case.
15:40 I'm glad there was added more context, because just from the video alone, it sounded more like it was the poster and Amber who were Karens that didn't want to let others take photos even though there was maybe limited time to take photos and they'd been there for quite a while already. But with the context, it becomes abundantly clear that was not the case, at all, and that the poster and Amber had even been polite enough to let others take pictures mid-photoshoot session, only to be treated unfairly.
Could never be on this part of tiktok. I'd go down a rabbit hole and never leave it. Going down a Charlotte rabbit hole with these videos however, is an exception ❤
I had an emergency and paid them back in installments. it was a huge amount and i did not have it at the time. I made sure to pay everything I could each paycheck. My friend was so kind and so happy that I was paying them back they did not get upset it took me 3 paychecks to fully pay them. I am so grateful for them.
It never crossed my mind to not pay.. how do you go through life not paying back when someone is so kind to help you
Totally in support of the idea of getting a restraining order and putting some distance between the girl and her mom. That being said, there are some people who have anosognosia (the inability to acknowledge/be aware of their psychiatric condition) as a part of their illness. It doesn't cancel out the need for boundaries because obviously, the daughter needs to protect herself, but it's a really sad reality for some people. I mostly wanted to post this because sometimes people don't know about this condition and can't understand that there are those with a mental health condition who truly don't think they are ill and, as a result, won't go to therapy/seek treatment. It's a sucky situation and my heart goes out to everyone in it :( Although, it does make me wonder why the dad would condone this behavior to the point of agreeing to move...
Grew up with a narcissistic bipolar maternal figure that literally drove my dad to an early grave. She refuses to acknowledge her mental problems. Now my siblings, my kids, and i are no contact with her and live over 3 hours away from her. We are all including my oldest son still working through trauma.
Hey Charlotte, I just want to congratulate you for speaking out about mental health. It’s been such a long time of mental health being spoken about in whispered tones, like you should be ashamed that you sometimes need help with processing the BS that people put you thru or what affects your life. From one of your fans in Australia.
The stigma surrounding therapy is still so unnerving. Medications and therapy help as a team and helps balance someone's moods n such.
People don't want to be wrong or face consequences because they don't care about others and deal with deep denial. Mental health conditions may be part of one's personality but it doesn't have to rule your life either. I have BP2 and it answered a lot of questions. I still have issues but I've been balanced and confident in myself to continue to just be a better me.
Also like, I've been the generous friend in the past and if I had the ability I wouldn't have them owe me. However now that I'm more restricted- I can't help and then notice the people who ask but never give or connect. Friends be texting me for money but not about how I am. That's the BS. Also like, thar bridesmaid gonna owe waaaaay more than she stole at this point
The story about the toxic mom… I feel you. I refer to my mom as Mother Gothel from Rapunzel, and yup you guessed it I was Rapunzel for many years. It is so freeing moving away and having boundaries. You need to either deal with her head on, move again or get a restraining order. Stay sane and safe!
For that horrible, horrible mother, that’s torturing her daughters, and her daughter husband, they should get a restraining order on the mother. And then the mother will literally have to go to jail if she breaks the restraining order.
and if it's determined that she's SUPER crazy when she inevitably gets arrested, they'll 51/50 her and potentially force treatment. Yeesssssss
Make sure the restraining order keeps them 1,000ft. away, that way they can't park their car in front of the daughters and SILs house to watch them. Because they sound 💩y enough to do that.
I had to completely move to another town primarily to get away from my twisted father. I tried moving within the city and he always found me and caused trouble for me. But he recently went to a place where he can never bother me again. If I wasn't forced to move I would never have met my partner so it all worked out good for me in the end.
Most people who haven't dealt with a dangerously mentally ill relative don't understand that they can and do hurt or kill their own kin.
My ex MIL and I both had to move far from our home state of Texas to be safe from her son, my first husband. He murdered my dad in 1996, and threatened his own mother with death because she had testified against him in court prior to the murder, so that we could all get protective orders after he made many threats and committed felonies. We both testified to the Grand Jury in regards to my dad's murder, but the charge was no-billed anyway, even after his own mother provided them with the very threatening letters he sent her, WHILE he was on the run!
Because the cops bungled the murder investigation and lost evidence, he was never indicted, so never convicted. His felonies were considered "non-violent", so he's still allowed to carry a gun in Texas, legally!
I'm sad that I can never go home again, but most everyone I love there have died, or they hate me because I don't agree with their politics.
Sometimes going no-contact with some relatives is the only way to protect one's life and sanity.
@@LazyIRanch I'm so sorry for your and your Mother's loss. What a horrific way to lose your father and a devastating way to lose your husband too. I pray that everything settles down for you and your Mum and exMIL and that your ex hubby either; leaves you all alone, or he gets therapy that actually works and apologies are forth coming, or he ☠💀
The first story definitely happened to me in different contexts.
The friend agreed on the non-refundable amount, said she was coming, no showed, said she was still paying it, and in the end she let her boyfriend convince her she didn't have to because she choose not to go. Luckily it was a farless amount than the bachelorette party but it was the principal for me. She lost a six year friendship because of her actions.❤❤
My sister used the word Caca to teach her sons when something was dirty when they were little. Fast forward to when I have my son and she tries the same thing. Unfortunately for her, my son associated Caca with her, not dirt. She has now officially been Aunt Caca since my son learned how to talk. 😂
OMG!! FANTASTIC!!!🤣🤣🤣❤❤❤
@My Creative HeART Yup. Doesn't help that her name is Jessica, so to a Toddler, I can see the confusion, but he's now 7 and even though he knows her actual name, still refers to her and introduces her to people as Caca.
If I was known as "Aunt Caca", I would be so proud I'd have it put on a t-shirt, with a poop emoji wearing pearls and catseye glasses!
There's a 1948 movie called "Jungle Jim", starring Johnny Weissmuller of "Tarzan" fame. He plays a more low-key jungle dude; wears a safari suit instead of loincloth, and has a pet crow instead of a chimp. The crow's name is "Caw-Caw". My brother and I lost our caca as kids when we heard that!
@@Michelle-DiPalo 🤣👍 I'm sorry Aunt Jessica... but it's just so funny!!
@@LazyIRanch It is her favorite thing in the world. This is also the same person who's known as Aunt Spanky to her friend's kids because her nickname from that friend is Spanky Tank.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes!
Good morning! I need this today
Good Morning!
Good morning / good noon lol
Good evening! 🇸🇪
Um MERCH IDEA. I would def wear a shirt that says I'm a Proud Petty Potato
Performing in a public transit is never fun, because they know you're just stuck there and have to listen. and sometimes it's so loud it hurts...
Yeah, I agree and think it's insanely inconsiderate and actually quite rude
I spent 12 years in pretty intense therapy with a very well respected psychiatrist in Victoria BC. My mother was bipolar, and spent most of that time undiagnosed. And like many other people who suffer with undiagnosed mental health issues, my mum self medicated, and she chose alcohol to dull her pain. Those years were horrible for both of us, and mum was institutionalized twice. It was during this time that mum was diagnosed as bipolar and appropriately medicated. It took a little while before she felt better, but it happened. After a few months she no longer felt she needed to self-medicate and she started going to AA. Please don't think that it was a quick and easy, because it wasn't, but our relationship became much, much better, and we became friends, while still enjoying our mother daughter bond. It was great, and I have some wonderful memories. My mum passed away 7 and 1/2 years after she became sober, at the age of 57. I've now lived 4 years longer than my mother did, and that's both weird, and painful. I sure hope that OP's mum can get help and perhaps they can at least begin to heal their relationship, before it's too late. We never know what will happen next, I lost both of my parents within 13 months of each other. If you have something that you want or need to say to someone, don't dawdle, the regret isn't worth it.
The boys just laughing at the Karen made my day.
There are a whole bunch of videos like that if you just type in skaters vs Karens. Saw that one a while back. It’s totally worth it.
She better not visit here, we make swearing a career choice 😂😂😂.
I give myself forgiveness and grace now but i can confidently say i was a TERROR to myself and everyone around me growing up and therapy and medications was SO NECESSARY and i would either not be alive or have absolutely NO ONE in my life. Get therapy. Its not embarrassing, its not weird. If you can afford it, its very needed and honestly encouraged 😅
It's the dad knowing his wife is nuts, but still putting his credit on the line to go along with it for me.
Friends not paying you back and then acting like you're the problem are the worst. As soon as you don't pay me back when you promised I'm done. I completely cut you off out of my life. Plain and simple. I can't tell you the amount of "friends" I have lost over a simple promise. See, to me, it's not about the money it's about that promise. Do not make a promise you can not keep. Easy
Coachella guy was likely a Las Vegas resident just trying to get home. I knew many people that live in that general area and they were stuck in the crossfire of Coachella awful traffic.
I wish everyone an amazing day 😊
Thank you Charlotte for your hard work and dedication to this Channel. Your amazing sense of humour helps me feel better everyday. God bless you. 🤗
I don't know what is customary in other countries but in Eastern Europe if it's your birthday and you invite your friends out, you have to pay for the whole party. Your guests bring you gifts instead.
10:49 'You are the mountain, Charlotte! YOU'RE THE MOUNTAIN!'
That road rage tiktok could've gone waaaaay badly. Thank god nothing happened
Right!
I hate crowds so I can't imagine attending Coachella festival. I live off-grid on Mt. San Jacinto, on the North side of the mountain that overlooks the 10 fwy between Riverside and Indio, so every year I look down and see that FWY packed, looking like miles of parking lot. It stresses me out just looking at it! I would lose my mind if I was stuck in that mess!
@@LazyIRanch Coachella sounds like an absolute nightmare. Wayyy overpriced, crowded, dusty, hot. That's a lotta drama just to say you've "been there". A fool and their money...
i would be hella mad too to be stuck in traffic on my way home coz of coachella. something i dont care about disrupting my life.