Was anyone else disturbed in story #2 that the husband wouldn't listen to his wife, dismiss the opinions of women and only sort of admitted he was wrong when men told him so? This is a huge red flag. He doesn't respect or see her and women as human.
YES! I just went to the comments to see if anyone caught that. Like does she not see the problem with him not listening until MEN said it. Then, and only then, is when he felt bad and inconsiderate. That means the behavior was probably not unintentional in the first place. He sees that as a woman’s place, and he comes home and plays daddy when he’s not out working or socializing. If the menz of Reddit are saying your hubby is trash then girl… She’s already the breadwinner so maybe that’s his way of still feeling masculine?? Idk but this is so ass backwards. Even if the women agreed with him, this is your wife, she just gave birth…why do you need to be persuaded to support her by anyone?!
They’ll respect a man they can’t see over the woman standing in front of them expressing her needs or saying, ‘no’. Not all, obviously, but it’s way too widespread
We need to stop 🛑 dating and having kids with men like this. He is going to run her into the ground and shave years off her life while he lives it up. Absolutely reprehensible how she DEFENDS him.
The first woman stood on business. Her boyfriend wasn't expecting her to leave the relationship after investing a few years into. She made a boss move and I'm happy for her. He was only fetishizing the trad wife life.
They're literally turned on by women being knocked up, isolated, and emotionally and financially dependent on them. For this type, it's the only thing outside of violence that makes them feel "powerful." And once we're locked into this disempowerd position, their need to resent us (in order to offload their own self-loathing) is then fully justified because of the burden they see us as. A burden they created. Then... destructive behaviors incoming to implode the relationship. It's the antithesis of love.
@@NonyaSmith there's also a corruption fetish i.e. going after virgins, we just refuse to tell people eventually so they claim we don't exist.... we have to hide. They think we're stupid, child-like (ew) and sexually suggestible to do ANYTHING they want. Quite the opposite and as I've pointed out to them, all animals know the difference between pleasure and pain but they think they can gaslight or 'train her up' (like a dog) to think their deviancy is normal? It's a myth of sexual tabula rasa from guys claiming they don't believe in blank slates. They are like Marquis de Sade, read about him. It's sexual sadism. The breeding fetish is picturing us in agony giving birth on our backs. The fairytale Bluebeard is literally about them. Read about that fairytale on wikipedia.
@@NonyaSmith They want to isolate women so we don't know what's normal sexually, even from brothers and other male relatives who'd rescue us from them. The number of random men who were ANGRY when I said I ran everything in my life past my brother was crazy. They actually felt entitled to tell me what to do (coercive control) despite how I wasn't even dating them. We weren't even friends, they were friends OF friends. They hate women with social media because we can spot abuse.
Cause had roles been flipped men would be calling her "for the streets" telling that man to leave and "not raise another man baby" ....yet they want women to raise a side piece baby
So, it’s obvious he knew about this child bc how are you getting sued for child support if you didn’t sign a birth certificate? Like you thought you could shun this mother and child. Then have the audacity later on to mention it to your wife when you are getting sued?? How long ago did he cheat 🤦🏿♀️?
@stoneyhighhigh3677 I would never even trust a woman , who has been in denial and playing the victim role to a cheating husband or forever boyfriend , around an innocent baby anyway. These adult women knows what’s up with these men they are living with, they snoop- they compete- etc etc etc. Bottom line is, a man wouldn’t accept being cheated on and a man MOST DEFINITELY wouldn’t allow any woman to put down other MEN , by saying ish like “ it was just s3x, he didn’t mean anything to me”, no they are going to swear you loved him and wanted him! Only women get off on evil men bragging about not caring about other women, literally seeing them as non human- and stay with him to show that he really “”loves her”. Women who internalize misogyny are funny to me. They accept that men hate all women but somehow think they’re the exception???? LOL yeah ok
Most of these men don’t even realize the absolutely massive amount of responsibility a “traditional husband” has on his shoulders, nor do they acknowledge today’s economy is vastly different from the economy of the time they idolize, so unless they make a large amount of money, both spouses will need to work to live comfortably. A lot of these dudes have unrealistic goals and are selfish.
Contribute financially + the overwhelming majority of the domestic labor ? Why, oh why, would any woman not just be *thrilled* to PAY for the privilege of her own indentured servitude? /s
even in the 50s and 60s, with my grandfathers both working 2-3 jobs, my grandmothers still had to work, even part time. These men don't bother to check. 1/3 of women worked outside in the 50s, aka THE WORKING CLASS. it was only possible for the middle class and up, the working class could NEVER EVER do it
The most disturbing thing in story 1 is the baby video. He will sabotage their BC so she gets pregnant to trap her. Story 2 you 1000% need a divorce ASAP. Dragging you to a stupid wedding 6 weeks post partum with a C section. Wanting 42 people in the house to disrupt your children's sleep and HE won't deal with the consequences. And you're the bread winner? He's literally bringing nothing here but stress and problems
#1 If he is so comfortable making unilateral decisions about her entire life while she has her own money, how controlling would he be if she was financially dependent on him? I’m glad she left.
1. Glad he showed who he was before she married/had a child with him 2. Current married single mother. If you left him, your life would be easier esp given you’re the breadwinner
@@flpser_ppwer I know but aren't men the ones who say women should've chosen better. He should've stayed faithful and OP should've left the moment she found out but, again, he stepped out to find whatever he used to justify his cheating now look what that got him.
@@gabriellemeche992 I'm not from the United States, so I was very surprised when I found out that in general American men blame the woman if her relationship with her romantic partner becomes dysfunctional. I am from an Eastern European country, and here, the person who made mistakes in the relationship is blamed.
@@flpser_ppwer I'm not American as well but from an East African country. Here it's commonly... Women don't know what they want, if your man makes money don't be surprised if they date younger women and neglect your children and it's your fault if he steps out with a younger woman. You're probably crazy and if a man treats his girlfriend well he's a simp and they see dust. I wish I lived where you do, I'm already done with our men.
"He's never said anything stupid" Until that day He hoped that she was okay with the change of plans? She was not and ended the relationship as she should've
He planned to baby trap her to control her. Her saving grace is what was modelled during her childhood which he must have known. Must have been listening to these podcasters.
The days of women parenting children of affairs are on their way out. I see so much chatter online from men who talk endlessly about raising another man's child without knowing it. But a lot of these guys think that a betrayed wife should parent the child of an affair without complaint . And in my experience, men who remarry expect their new wives to do an awful lot more child care for their new stepchildren than they do of their own kids.
My stepdad said that the only reason he remarried my Mom was because he wanted her to mother his kids. This is why you don't marry a man after only 3 months of knowing them.🙄
I'm really impressed with woman from story 1. I hope she won't let her pick me friends convince her to take the man back. He would probably try to baby trap her by messing with birth control 🤮🤮🤮
‘Hé knew he was wrong after the women but wanted men’s opinions too’ so he knew he was wrong but he wanted to see if men would somehow validate his choice so he could be like, “see? this is normal! You just have to live with it!” They don’t care how we feel and if they are wrong as long as other men will validate their actions.
Usually when I see men doing that I shut myself down and I keep my eyes and ears open the other lady sitting away from me felt bad when a group of guys came towards me so she stood next to me so they wouldn't walk up to me sometimes if you team up like that or sit near other women this is a good tactic to prevent men from approaching you cause people can see you and you won't be isolated with them.
1st OP is who I aspire to be. 2nd story - her husband is leaving all the work to her. He's like an overgrown child. She should pull the rug from under him. 3rd story - These men will wage wars and the victims will always be women and children. Recently the media has been muting what has been happening to Irani women and Afghani women. They are playing in our faces. 4th story The audacity... He better take responsibility and leave his wife out of it.
When I was in afghan the women don't say anything about man luv Wednesdays(hump day) and one man tried to beat myass cause they house collapse on his family so I took them to the British hospital well I tried to he didn't want me to until this trucker told him(تو قراره بابای مجرد بشی)in farsi then his eyes got big n accepted the help he grabbed the youngest least heaviest kid but I guess it's the thought that counts lol while other kids and wife got help from us
If my partner ever asked me to be a traditional wife, I'd leave him faster than the blink of an eye. First, I do not want to get married legally, second I will not be having biological kids (I even had my tubes removed about six months ago), and third I will never be financially dependent on a man, no way in hell.
@@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf I consider myself blessed that I have a small circle of men I would trust my life to, but that’s after years of them being stand up people. They and the reasonable commenters are the only exception to what I am going to just call ‘the bear rule’ lol
"I'm not interested in raising some other man's kids." Suuuper common for men to say this!!! But when a woman says it, people are SHOoOK! That should be a lesson to men about what they need to do. Oh, y'all want selfless, unconditional support & love from women? Ya squandered that when ya had it. It's your turn now... Be the change!
Some men try to justify their extramarital affairs by saying that "it's in men's nature to want variety, so there's nothing wrong with a man doing such things from time to time" Such men are out of touch with reality if they believe that their wives will tolerate such things and will not divorce them.
@@flpser_ppwer Agreed, women have tragically been fed this bullsht patriarchal propaganda for all of modern history, and it's time we quit playing along just to coddle their egos. As the source of life and the portal to the future, it is our birthright to raise the bar on these mere candidates. They've been underperforming and have forgotten that the keys they hold are only borrowed from us. In 2024 they are getting the reminder they need of what women's nature truly looks like under the veil.
When I was dating I always made sure the men didn’t have kids. As a woman I’m not doing that either. The people that had an issue with me got that WORK!🗣️ I don’t care ♒️
1st opp:Yes soo I notice men do suddenly change for the worse . She's very strong for stepping away even I'm not sure if I would be so strong. But fast forward 10 years this would def be a shii show 2nd opp: very triggering as a birth worker it saddens me Last Op :::: your are not wrong for not allowing his child of an affair benefit off of your stability you built for yourself.
Omg I read number 4 last night. So many men saying she was TA was enraging. I feel so bad for her. She was getting so dragged for not wanting that child in HER home (and it is her home, she inherited it from her grandparents), that she needed to stop being "bitter"and" selfish"for the sake of the child. IT'S NOT HER CHILD SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT!
Great that the first woman FLAT OUT LEFT the man when he started acting crazy. Good for her. Everyone should do this. And yes the warning from the Iranian woman is right. Don't take anything for granted. I feel like women put up with too much. How they get into these horrible situations. Never put up with a cheater. Never put up with disrespect of ANY KIND. Easy cheat code for life!!!
Yup. Never take women's rights for granted. I remember arguing with some GOP woman after Amy Coney Barefoot was appointed in a pinch. I said, "welp, there goes Roe" and she said "no, they'd never do that." 🫠
First one, find new friends, I’m proud of her! Two, she has no need to be married to him, he offers nothing for her…she’s already a single mom so make it official, the stress lifted will be amazing I have seen it for my friend and she’s thriving and glowing since her divorce from the deadweight her spouse was. 3. Yes, absolutely. That was his choice to cheat and now he can deal with it on his own.
Any partner who would unilaterally decide that you need to give up your own financial security to soothe their ego does NOT love or care about you. Good on her for walking away immediately - she was not being "harsh", she was being smart.
Story one did the right thing. The most alarming part is he didn’t even give her an option, and fully expected her to feel like she did not have a choice. He really didn’t think she would walk away from him. If he is acting like she can’t leave now, just imagine what he would put her through if she was dependent on him.
For the lady with the cheating husband with the outside child. Please divorce him and don’t have any kids with him. That child and his mother will continue to exist and negatively impact your life. Don’t waste your youth or your life. You deserve better.
1. Instant dumping she did exactly what she was supposed to do! Good for her! He’s mad and molded! He thought she was desperate and she’s not! Go girl! 4. It would have been over once he mentioned the cheating years ago. Nothing, but audacity, and had the nerve to ask again like her answer was going to change. She needs to file for divorce, the baby momma will violate probation or parole. He will try to again ask her to let that child move in. She needs to watch Kramer v Kramer.
1st Op was so wise. She saw who he was and shut him down the first time. Not the second or third time. Men like this will pop the condom or wait till they were married to shift up his stance.
You have to stop thinking there is such a thing as soulmates, love at first sight, thinking things like this makes you think you have to hold on to that particular man.
Story 3: She shouldn't give up. Story 4: She should've left a long time ago because the child situation would've come up sooner or later. I hope she leaves.
I agree. How is the husband forgiven for creating the child, yet the child is rejected for existing? That man needs to step up as a father bc that’s his consequence. She shouldn’t convince him not to, she should LEAVE.
Respect to that young woman who wasted no time politely ditching the man who disrespected her hard work and free will. That's impressive clarity. The younger generation gives me hope for humanity.
Off topic, but if you have the time / run out of topics, could you talk about medical SA so more ppl are aware? Apparently it is very common that medical professionals a..ault patients while they are under. (I saw the vids about a...e in elderly care homes, however i think this would deserve a vid too.)
Whoever she is, she’s a SHERO! The 1st Story..👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿excellent👑 the last story, the cheater husband got over anyway because he avoided child support for 2 kids…yeah this parasitic marriage should’ve been OVER!
The way my jaw dropped when the second woman said she makes more than three times what the husband makes! Why is she holding on to dead weight? What an utter loser of a partner and father. If he isn't already having an affair, he will in the future.
Story #3 is a very real warning to us Americans. Our rights are so fragile and some women who side with men against their own interests in order to be seen as different don't know that they are not. Men use the pick-mes to mule for them to get their way but there is no gratitude or reciprocity.
Story #1: Great!! Keep it pushing.😂 Story #2: She's risking her mental health for his childish behaviors. Give him an ultimatum to get it together or he can hit the road. Story #3 The insanity continues. My former neighbor (Iranian) cried all the time because she couldn't help her family, who still live in Iran, mainly women. The stories she told were horrible. Anyone can accuse you of treason. Story #4: Good, that she stuck to her words. She meant what she said.
Story 2 is the biggest red flag. He might have pulled back now. But these issues will keep coming up. There is something wrong with his way of thinking. Plus I don’t think it is as unintentional as he claims to be. He is beyond inconsiderate. There is also the possibility that he could be cheating.
Story #4 - good for her, telling him to find his own place to raise his affair child. Because you know if she were the one that had an affair and another man's baby, he wouldn't be so forgiving. And once that child is in the house, the wife's workload "magically" starts to double. I hope she does divorce him and he's gets to fully experience the consequences of his actions.
1st story: EPIC!!!! That girl is my SHERO! That’s so boss. 2nd story: that husband sounds awful. I hope she ends up leaving. 3rd: Iran used to be quite progressive in the ‘70s but England wanted access to oil or something and they sponsored a coup. That’s why it’s so awful now. I hate that the so called “leaders” are so horrendous and women and girls are so unsafe. If women ran things we’d all be exchanging dessert recipes and visiting each other overseas. 4th: Good for her! Better late than never.
That guy was ridiculous. Ain't nobody going to school that long to be a trad wife. I did 6 years of college with a kid, I had child care, and my ex-husband. By the time I graduated, I was ready to rip my hair out and flee to the forest. I worked my 3rd season in the parks the year after and had to quit due to disability. That hurt more than my divorce. I poured my everything into my career. I couldn't get out of bed for weeks other than to do the basics for my kid. My kid was worth it, but if I knew that my dream career was going go down in flames along with my marriage. I wouldn't have lost the work credits and I have student loans. I loved going to college. I am the first to graduate in my family. I felt ashamed and angry beyond belief. I pushed myself to the breaking point
It's so heartbreaking. I was reading a bbc article about how they aren't all owed to use their own name outside the home. Just like the Handmaid's Tale. They are X's wife or Ys mother. Not even individual people in their own right.. It's unimaginably scary
Story #1: I am so so so proud of this woman. I wish I had her strength and conviction at that age. It's a dang shame that everybody discouraged her. Just goes to show you, sometimes you only have dumbazz ppl around you who will give bad advice and send you down an awful path. Particularly when it's your family, who you may love very much - - but you never chose them. Don't just take ppl advice because they're close to you especially family, look inside first. Even if you respect them and think they usually make good decisions, never detach from your own inner compass. You can love people in your family and whatnot, but you GOTTA insist on being you and doing you, without apology. If you don't, you will end up like a paper bag being tossed around in the breeze. If you cannot do what this woman did, it'll be much more likely that you will suffer unimaginable misery in a life you never actually wanted. When she said "I didn't even try to argue" that's a life saving skill right there. Don't get dragged into a negotiation!!! GO WITH YOUR GUT, LOOK INWARDS, ONLY **YOU** KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU!!!!!
It’s actually a nice thing that the husband in story 2 asked for men’s thoughts. Every time another man calls these dudes out, it makes it harder for men on general to claim that their nonsense is “just how men are.”
Asking for other men's opinions/thoughts after the 1 set (primarily women's) is invalidation of his wife's as well as women's thoughts/opinions in general. Granted, he doesnt respect her in the 1st place, but the 2d male poll is just blatant invalidation.
Her friends are fake AF. She wasn't harsh at all. She has plans for her life and boundaries and she doesn't have to compromise for anyone. End of story. She's not living for him. Idk how people don't realise how unfair it is to expect a woman to give up living the life they want for someone else's fantasies.
That first woman is iconic. I hope everyone is able to get to that point of not giving an f. And she hit the nail on the head; why would anyone waste their years on these "men" when you can live for yourself today? ❤❤
Story 4: Ma'am pack your bag and leave. You have not or never will forgive that man. Unfortunately, the child, who is not responsible for his degenerate parents behaviors will be affected by the pettiness.
Loved the reaction of the first chick! 30 isn't old! They just wanna trap young women forever early on! He would've left by 30 probably seeing her changed after having his multiple kids with them crying and running around! So I'm glad she didn't let him do this to her especially if he was as entitled as she claimed! Byeeee
*THANL GOD IM NOT DATING OR ENTERTAINING MEN* FUNNY HOW PODCAST MEN LOVE SCREAMING "single mom" "traditional wife" BUT THEY NEVER SPEAK ON THE REALITY OF HOW SOME OF THESE WOMEN BECAME SINGLE MOMS OR HOW MOST TRADITIONAL WOMEN ARE STUCK AND CANT LEAVE CAUSE THEY SAT HAD ALL THESE KIDS BACK TO BACK AND HAVE NO TYPE OF WORK EXPERIENCE OR MONEY
The letter from the Iranian woman.. I feel for her & Iranian women/children so much.. Afghanistan is also a black hole due to the monsters they have over there. I cant stress this enough, it’s time to fight back & unite.. I truly have hope that someday Iranian women & women on a global scale will be liberated. Let’s never take our rights for granted.
I have questions about the father of two young children going on a "bachelor's four-day party in Jamaica" with a bunch of guys. What the heck is that all about??
Women in Iceland have organized/held 2 "do-nothing" strikes - well-publisized beforehand & they did continue working in *essential* services. Both times, even w/the advance notice, it basically shutdown their country.
First story: Good for her. I don't believe in wasting my time. When I set my boundaries that's it. Asking for me to change them will cause immediate termination of the friendship/relationship. And he sounds like he definitely ran into a Red Pill Bandit and now he looks like a entire fool!!!
That's why I can't digest the fact about "islamist feminists" ..even other religion too especially abrhamic ones "...because both feminism and abrahmic religion are two fundamentally opposite ideology ...on one hand you worship that God that mysogynyist and racist at best and on other hand you think you are feminist, thats absurd ..and I think in recent times feminism has been hurt because of these contradiction ...feminism can be varied ..it should not be one narrow definition but one core principle of feminism that's EQUALITY and EQUITY between genders cannot be negated otherwise it will not longer the feminism ...now I am not saying women can no longer be religious offcourse they can (faith is also very personal ) , but I am really opposed those women who preach and practice mysogynyist messages of their religion and call themselves feminist
I dont truely trust western feminism 100% because it supports men in women bathroom, it dont truely support minority women (black + poc) , only states support for oppressed women in muslim dicator countries but refuse to support the women in Gaza who delivering babies without proper medical care. I feel like feminist only really supports taking off hijab but not really gain powerful positions for women since that seems to be sole focus - what she can and can wear. Most muslim women hate misogyny from men. Misogyny and Religion are 2 different things however living in a male power dominant society they will use religion to fuel an agenda for personal benefit.
When it comes to the dynamics of husband-wife relationships mentioned in the Bible, some men alter the true message of those passages, either by giving them a different interpretation or by omitting certain parts.
Did you know that the Jewish Faith wasn't always so sexist? Miriam was a prophet. They book of Micah said she and Aaron and Moses were sent to rescue Israel. Deborah was a chief judge and rules Israel. Moses married a black woman. When he was criticized God punished them for it. They weren't supposed to marry anyone not covenanted to God but she had joined so it didn't matter her race. The priests took the oath to Onah to treat his wife with respect and to satisfy her sexually to the best of his ability or she could divorce him. In the ancient world yes. Also the Bible says that husband and wife should submit themselves to each other but men leave that part out. Also there was a female apostle named junia that worked with Paul. But scribes changed her name to a male name and altered lines so later Paul said women shouldn't even speak at church? God brings equality but men like to back track and then they weaponized it. This is what happened when Rome co-opted religion. Islam though is terrible. Their 'prophet' was a child molester.
The Bible actually prophesied all this. See in the Garden of Eden Adam and Eve were equals. But they wanted knowledge. God said no because they would die but it was their choice to decide. Eaten said they wouldn't die but would be like Gods learning what good and evil meant. So they took the fruit. God said he would send his son to take away their transgressions but the real world would be tough. Men would rule over women and women would have a tough time with children and would chase after men excessively. But once they were saved they would be redeemed from the fall. These people are not saved. The same thing happened with Noah and his son ham. Noah was the prophet and his son despite his teachings thought the priesthood power was with his fathers clothes. Noah said his son was an idiot and that they would end up being servants of man. Guess what while slavery and bondage happened everywhere Africa were Hams kids settled ended up the worst off. They still practice slavery openly in Africa to this day. This is all a consequence of their own actions and choices not Gods. People use the Bible to justify it not understanding that it was prophesy. That if they were born again into good conduct and a remission of their sins they and their people were blessed and protected out of bandage. In this world we are all facing a test and learning the difference between good and evil. God said don't do it because it would be hard and he didn't want us to suffer but he said its are choice to come to this world to learn and obtain knowledge. Satan though wants to take away choice. So we are either on his side or Gods. That is good and evil.
The woman in the 2nd stiry is very defensive of a man (her husband) for doing basic stuff,,, she is not gold digger but a Doodoo digger,, and her husband is living or going to live his best life off her back after using her body,,,, soon he us going yo meet his dream girl x
Story 2 kinda sounds like ambivalent sexism. It’s clear he has some problematic beliefs about gender. I do wonder if he’s also resentful or jealous of her, and this is how he exerts some kind of dominance? It sounds like _he_ perceived it as a power struggle, and thought the men would back him up about his “nagging wife.” This isn’t a “let’s see what guys think” scenario. Thats for silly stuff like “wife says it’s time to retire my ‘mandles’. What do you guys think?” It isn’t for serious issues like this that chip away at a marriage over time. Smh. I wonder if couple’s counseling would work
@@seabreeze4559 could be, since triangulation is usually to make you doubt yourself or fight for their approval. Especially with him allowing all these outsiders in, from the work colleagues to internet opinions.
the smile of delight at the 1st story!! the courage and steadfastness of this young woman is OUTSTANDING!! yes maam!! put your foot down and ALWAYS do WHAT IT BEST FOR YOU!!
The 1st story & the last story- I applaud both ladies for meaning what they say & standing on business! 1st story- a good thing that she left at the 1st red flag because he probably would've poke holes in the condom & tried to baby trap her. I love the way she ended it too like that was real savage of her to end it cut & dry w/o giving him a chance to make you feel guilty so you can change your mind. Last story- he got some nerve to think she will stay if the kid to move in. He would've expect her to do motherly duties for the side chick kid. That was the universe way of saying to end the marriage that shouldn't have happened anyway since he stepped out on you.
I think the guy in story 1 will end up regretting this. Even if he finds his trad wife. Odds are he’ll meet someone also in their 20s that also _thinks_ they have it figured out. Then reality is going to backhand them both. It’s not the 50s, we certainly aren’t dealing with 50s prices *cries in gen z and only ever knowing inflation* Idk if he will regret losing her specifically. But I do think he will regret turning his life upside down, for a dream some Bitter Bobby on the internet sold him. Im 26 and there’s so much I want to do before 30, that doesn’t include kids or marriage. But it will ensure I am ready for big decisions like that, should I decide to go down that path. He’s 26, he doesn’t know about being a sole provider for a HOUSEHOLD. I don’t understand whyyy men listen to random men on the internet, or barbershop, or basketball court, etc for serious advice. Especially when most of the advice has the opposite effect of what they want. At most they should ask for hair, style, or gaming recommendations from each other.
Women always worked. The reason this worked in the 50s and 60s is because the rest of the world was in rubble post WWII. Well today other countries compete with the US.
The highest rate was 92 or3% on income over $100/K per yr, for only a couple of yrs, 90% was more common thru the 50s. & only on those in really high income bracket.
24:48 I think this woman is not the asshole for not wanting to take care of the affair child however this ultimatum is ridiculous. She shouldnt have stayed to begin with. Leave that man. He has an obligiation to take care of his child but to position this as child or me is crazy as hell. Girl go. You should’ve left before but you REALLY should now.
Fourth story: So many XYs demand a paternity test to make sure a child is his. Those dusties need to come with some type of documentation showing how many children THEY have fathered, with whom, and what their relationship is with those children and the baby mamas.
Story 4, also, in situations like this ppl whine about how "affair child is the other kids' sibling". So what?! Only somewhat biologically. It doesn't mean they want anything to do with that child. Some don't care but others HATE that an affair child is related to them. They don't have to accept that child either. I hope ALL the children end up understanding what affairs do to families and that kids from the marriage AND the ones from the affairs are the ones to truly pay. Ppl act like if they can just get everyone to accept the situation, then they can pretend like they didn't really do anything wrong. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 Having any children from an affair, even unplanned, is cheating on the kids you already have. At least that's exactly how it feels.
Story 2: Have the nanny on a night shift, double pay. Stop attending events, c-section is dangerous, so why risk the money-maker for some lame-ass parties?
Part 1: There have been a few stories like this one where a wife/girlfriend has this trad wife bombshell dropped on them. I wonder if becoming a trad husband is become a currency among men? This might explain why some men have been dropping the trad wife bombshell. And, that also means his status amongst other men is far more important than his wife/girlfriend and kids he may have. No family deserves to play second fiddle to a man’s ego. Part 3: This woman spoke volumes. Men have made being a woman a curse and they seem hell bent on keeping it that way. We keep fighting and stop treating patriarchy as if it is a rational position. Men want what they want and couldn’t care less how it affects women.
🎉🎉🎉 story #1 gives me so much hope for women. Omg I LOVE this!!! She taught him 😂 Story #2: he does NOT respect women. The fact he needs men to tell him he's a jerk makes him even more of a jerk. I also doubt the "he's a wonderful dad on the weekends." Sounds like he needs extreme praise for bare minimum effort. I'd dump him and keep it moving
2:48 Those are not friends. They’re brainwashed to think that trad wife life is expected and still feasible in this day and age. Ladies, please never set aside your future for anything or anyone. There is a high probability that your marital commitment may not be life long. I know more divorced single mothers and single widows, than I know trad wives. My Grand and Great Grandmother on my mothers side are the only Trad Wives I grew up knowing in my BC. They regretted it and told me so. When my Great Grandfather passed away, my Great Grandmother had to go back to work and she wasn’t happy about it. My Grandmother told me to get an education and career before marriage and children. She regretted not having a career. She was very intelligent and regretted not doing more with her life since children eventually grow up and leave. She did not have to work after my Step Grandfather passed but she had to move in with my Aunt to make it and she was in her late 50’s. She did not like losing her home and independence. On my Dad’s side my Grand and Great Grandmothers worked FT through to retirement. My Great Grandmother worked into her 70’s and also taught me that working was the expectation period. I should never be fully dependent on a husband as it simply wasn’t reliable. It was imperative that I be self sufficient. She had 3 husbands, 2 divorces and her 3rd she had to nurse as he passed away when she was in her early 60’s. They were actually on the way to divorce but he got sick and moved back in with her until he passed away.
Was anyone else disturbed in story #2 that the husband wouldn't listen to his wife, dismiss the opinions of women and only sort of admitted he was wrong when men told him so? This is a huge red flag. He doesn't respect or see her and women as human.
YES! I just went to the comments to see if anyone caught that. Like does she not see the problem with him not listening until MEN said it. Then, and only then, is when he felt bad and inconsiderate. That means the behavior was probably not unintentional in the first place. He sees that as a woman’s place, and he comes home and plays daddy when he’s not out working or socializing. If the menz of Reddit are saying your hubby is trash then girl…
She’s already the breadwinner so maybe that’s his way of still feeling masculine?? Idk but this is so ass backwards. Even if the women agreed with him, this is your wife, she just gave birth…why do you need to be persuaded to support her by anyone?!
They’ll respect a man they can’t see over the woman standing in front of them expressing her needs or saying, ‘no’. Not all, obviously, but it’s way too widespread
They only respect other men.
We need to stop 🛑 dating and having kids with men like this. He is going to run her into the ground and shave years off her life while he lives it up. Absolutely reprehensible how she DEFENDS him.
Yes, and she said he's a good person!😟
The first woman stood on business. Her boyfriend wasn't expecting her to leave the relationship after investing a few years into. She made a boss move and I'm happy for her. He was only fetishizing the trad wife life.
They're literally turned on by women being knocked up, isolated, and emotionally and financially dependent on them. For this type, it's the only thing outside of violence that makes them feel "powerful." And once we're locked into this disempowerd position, their need to resent us (in order to offload their own self-loathing) is then fully justified because of the burden they see us as. A burden they created. Then... destructive behaviors incoming to implode the relationship. It's the antithesis of love.
no sunk cost fallacy for her, so proud
@@NonyaSmith it's a breeding fetish they don't LIKE the kid once it's actually here or they'd change nappies
@@NonyaSmith there's also a corruption fetish i.e. going after virgins, we just refuse to tell people eventually so they claim we don't exist.... we have to hide. They think we're stupid, child-like (ew) and sexually suggestible to do ANYTHING they want. Quite the opposite and as I've pointed out to them, all animals know the difference between pleasure and pain but they think they can gaslight or 'train her up' (like a dog) to think their deviancy is normal? It's a myth of sexual tabula rasa from guys claiming they don't believe in blank slates. They are like Marquis de Sade, read about him. It's sexual sadism. The breeding fetish is picturing us in agony giving birth on our backs. The fairytale Bluebeard is literally about them. Read about that fairytale on wikipedia.
@@NonyaSmith They want to isolate women so we don't know what's normal sexually, even from brothers and other male relatives who'd rescue us from them. The number of random men who were ANGRY when I said I ran everything in my life past my brother was crazy. They actually felt entitled to tell me what to do (coercive control) despite how I wasn't even dating them. We weren't even friends, they were friends OF friends. They hate women with social media because we can spot abuse.
No wife should be expected to take care of a child from an affair. She's not the asshole. She needs to leave him because he isn't trustworthy.
Cause had roles been flipped men would be calling her "for the streets" telling that man to leave and "not raise another man baby" ....yet they want women to raise a side piece baby
He thought she was Kathleen Stark maybe 🤦🏾♀️
No wife shouldn't still be with her husband if he had an affair. Sounds like to me she'd doing this out of revenge, by trying to hurt the child.
So, it’s obvious he knew about this child bc how are you getting sued for child support if you didn’t sign a birth certificate? Like you thought you could shun this mother and child. Then have the audacity later on to mention it to your wife when you are getting sued?? How long ago did he cheat 🤦🏿♀️?
@stoneyhighhigh3677 I would never even trust a woman , who has been in denial and playing the victim role to a cheating husband or forever boyfriend , around an innocent baby anyway. These adult women knows what’s up with these men they are living with, they snoop- they compete- etc etc etc.
Bottom line is, a man wouldn’t accept being cheated on and a man MOST DEFINITELY wouldn’t allow any woman to put down other MEN , by saying ish like “ it was just s3x, he didn’t mean anything to me”, no they are going to swear you loved him and wanted him! Only women get off on evil men bragging about not caring about other women, literally seeing them as non human- and stay with him to show that he really “”loves her”. Women who internalize misogyny are funny to me. They accept that men hate all women but somehow think they’re the exception???? LOL yeah ok
Most of these men don’t even realize the absolutely massive amount of responsibility a “traditional husband” has on his shoulders, nor do they acknowledge today’s economy is vastly different from the economy of the time they idolize, so unless they make a large amount of money, both spouses will need to work to live comfortably. A lot of these dudes have unrealistic goals and are selfish.
Contribute financially + the overwhelming majority of the domestic labor ?
Why, oh why, would any woman not just be *thrilled* to PAY for the privilege of her own indentured servitude? /s
@@AdityaJape did you even watch the video she's referring to ? The point flew right over your head.
Are you lost 🤦♀🤦♀🤦♀
@AdityaJape All of the women in my world pay half of everything, and many pay more.
even in the 50s and 60s, with my grandfathers both working 2-3 jobs, my grandmothers still had to work, even part time. These men don't bother to check. 1/3 of women worked outside in the 50s, aka THE WORKING CLASS.
it was only possible for the middle class and up, the working class could NEVER EVER do it
@@AdityaJape didn't the 50s tax men at like 97%? so the men never contributed financially either, the houses and cars were on DEBT-
The most disturbing thing in story 1 is the baby video. He will sabotage their BC so she gets pregnant to trap her.
Story 2 you 1000% need a divorce ASAP. Dragging you to a stupid wedding 6 weeks post partum with a C section. Wanting 42 people in the house to disrupt your children's sleep and HE won't deal with the consequences. And you're the bread winner? He's literally bringing nothing here but stress and problems
Yeah, he sounds very inconsiderate, which probably is just now really manifesting now that he has way more responsibilities he is shirking.
He doesn't like her or love her but she allowed him to use her body and abuse it,, also she silly to do all that bring money on top of it,, nah
This!!!!!!!!!
1 is coercion followed by reproductive abuse yes
@@catcoffee7958 she is paying to be pimped for him
MKOMS - Men Keeping Other Men Single
Well hopefully that becomes true so they can stop ruining real women lives and bringing up kids
Ooh, that's a good one
@@MayDay-yn3bw thank you, miz Burb said it, I take credit only for typing it out. It's so accurate
#1 If he is so comfortable making unilateral decisions about her entire life while she has her own money, how controlling would he be if she was financially dependent on him? I’m glad she left.
That part!
He would have gotten her pregnant before she was ready on purpose.
The “reconciliation” he wants, is one final attempt at emotionally manipulating her. I’m glad she’s wise enough to know to not even give him *that*
The " reconciliation "probably ends up with op involuntarily pregnant.
So wise. We all must take note.
1. Glad he showed who he was before she married/had a child with him
2. Current married single mother. If you left him, your life would be easier esp given you’re the breadwinner
"He's been trying to meet for closure". You didn't ghost him you told him you were done and why he has closure. He just wants to change your mind.
drinking spiking and a turkey baster later.... babytrapped!
I am glad the woman did not accept raising a suprise child.😌
Same. He should've chosen a better AP to be a mother 🤷🏽♀️
@@gabriellemeche992The best thing he could do was stay faithful.
@@flpser_ppwer I know but aren't men the ones who say women should've chosen better. He should've stayed faithful and OP should've left the moment she found out but, again, he stepped out to find whatever he used to justify his cheating now look what that got him.
@@gabriellemeche992 I'm not from the United States, so I was very surprised when I found out that in general American men blame the woman if her relationship with her romantic partner becomes dysfunctional.
I am from an Eastern European country, and here, the person who made mistakes in the relationship is blamed.
@@flpser_ppwer I'm not American as well but from an East African country. Here it's commonly... Women don't know what they want, if your man makes money don't be surprised if they date younger women and neglect your children and it's your fault if he steps out with a younger woman. You're probably crazy and if a man treats his girlfriend well he's a simp and they see dust. I wish I lived where you do, I'm already done with our men.
"He's never said anything stupid"
Until that day
He hoped that she was okay with the change of plans? She was not and ended the relationship as she should've
I applaud her.
meaning he was plotting and trying to soften or fatten her up (coercive control)
He planned to baby trap her to control her. Her saving grace is what was modelled during her childhood which he must have known. Must have been listening to these podcasters.
Happy that she stood on what she wants instead of dragging her good yrs hoping that he'll change.
The days of women parenting children of affairs are on their way out. I see so much chatter online from men who talk endlessly about raising another man's child without knowing it. But a lot of these guys think that a betrayed wife should parent the child of an affair without complaint .
And in my experience, men who remarry expect their new wives to do an awful lot more child care for their new stepchildren than they do of their own kids.
My stepdad said that the only reason he remarried my Mom was because he wanted her to mother his kids. This is why you don't marry a man after only 3 months of knowing them.🙄
@@kellharris2491 apparently that was the back story to Cinderella
I'm really impressed with woman from story 1. I hope she won't let her pick me friends convince her to take the man back. He would probably try to baby trap her by messing with birth control 🤮🤮🤮
‘Hé knew he was wrong after the women but wanted men’s opinions too’ so he knew he was wrong but he wanted to see if men would somehow validate his choice so he could be like, “see? this is normal! You just have to live with it!”
They don’t care how we feel and if they are wrong as long as other men will validate their actions.
Usually when I see men doing that I shut myself down and I keep my eyes and ears open the other lady sitting away from me felt bad when a group of guys came towards me so she stood next to me so they wouldn't walk up to me sometimes if you team up like that or sit near other women this is a good tactic to prevent men from approaching you cause people can see you and you won't be isolated with them.
They don't respect our opinions. Men they don't know are more important than their wives.
1st OP is who I aspire to be.
2nd story - her husband is leaving all the work to her. He's like an overgrown child. She should pull the rug from under him.
3rd story - These men will wage wars and the victims will always be women and children. Recently the media has been muting what has been happening to Irani women and Afghani women. They are playing in our faces.
4th story The audacity... He better take responsibility and leave his wife out of it.
When I was in afghan the women don't say anything about man luv Wednesdays(hump day) and one man tried to beat myass cause they house collapse on his family so I took them to the British hospital well I tried to he didn't want me to until this trucker told him(تو قراره بابای مجرد بشی)in farsi then his eyes got big n accepted the help he grabbed the youngest least heaviest kid but I guess it's the thought that counts lol while other kids and wife got help from us
If my partner ever asked me to be a traditional wife, I'd leave him faster than the blink of an eye. First, I do not want to get married legally, second I will not be having biological kids (I even had my tubes removed about six months ago), and third I will never be financially dependent on a man, no way in hell.
Beautiful comment
@@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf thank you! 💞
BLESS YOU!!!
they view us as chameleons to men
Yep, getting legally married benefits if you have children, but never when you are child free. Especially if you earn more than the husband.
The reasonable men in the comments are the ones I’d rather find in the woods over bears. Just these specific men lol.
Same, their comments give me a bit of hope tbh
There's gotta be reasonable men out there!!! I hope. If not, we need to walk away.
@@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf I consider myself blessed that I have a small circle of men I would trust my life to, but that’s after years of them being stand up people. They and the reasonable commenters are the only exception to what I am going to just call ‘the bear rule’ lol
No. None of them. Just cause they are reasonable here doesn’t mean they are on everything else.
@@nothereyetlost exactly.
Story 2: ''I have a newborn...''' Enough said, not the a hole.
That affair partner/child story is why you NEVER take back a cheating man. let alone one who had an outside baby
You could take him back then find out the affair partner is pregnant. What a mess. Don't take back a cheater.
"I'm not interested in raising some other man's kids." Suuuper common for men to say this!!! But when a woman says it, people are SHOoOK! That should be a lesson to men about what they need to do. Oh, y'all want selfless, unconditional support & love from women? Ya squandered that when ya had it. It's your turn now... Be the change!
Some men try to justify their extramarital affairs by saying that "it's in men's nature to want variety, so there's nothing wrong with a man doing such things from time to time" Such men are out of touch with reality if they believe that their wives will tolerate such things and will not divorce them.
@@flpser_ppwer Agreed, women have tragically been fed this bullsht patriarchal propaganda for all of modern history, and it's time we quit playing along just to coddle their egos. As the source of life and the portal to the future, it is our birthright to raise the bar on these mere candidates. They've been underperforming and have forgotten that the keys they hold are only borrowed from us. In 2024 they are getting the reminder they need of what women's nature truly looks like under the veil.
When I was dating I always made sure the men didn’t have kids. As a woman I’m not doing that either. The people that had an issue with me got that WORK!🗣️ I don’t care ♒️
women are called cuckquean, something ike that
@@flpser_ppwer Ironically in bonobo society the women are more promiscuous. Humans are not bonobos anyway.
Story 4, absolutely not the butt 🕳️. Just divorce his sorry butt. Forgiving them never works, they always push boundaries and cheat again.
even jesus said to leave if there's adultery, JESUS!
I hope these guys stay single. It's probably best for women if they don't engage in relationships if they really believe in this red pill bs.
I’m so proud of the woman in the first story! Also proud of the woman is the last story
Me too. And she is in her 20’s too.
@@beepbopboop7727 right and spent 3 years with him.
1st opp:Yes soo I notice men do suddenly change for the worse . She's very strong for stepping away even I'm not sure if I would be so strong. But fast forward 10 years this would def be a shii show
2nd opp: very triggering as a birth worker it saddens me
Last Op :::: your are not wrong for not allowing his child of an affair benefit off of your stability you built for yourself.
1st story
This young lady is very smart
2nd story
Husband is having an affair.
And the wife is disrespecting her self
4th Story
Cheater has more baby mommas, more children, and more child support oozing out of the woodwork.
Affair is exactly what I was thinking also.
Honestly, live in NYC, he just sounds like a typical finance/tech bro. They like men more than women and money more than sex.
EXACTLY. Men who suddenly get involved in social events tend to have affairs.
First story - he stole 3. years of her life.
Omg I read number 4 last night. So many men saying she was TA was enraging. I feel so bad for her. She was getting so dragged for not wanting that child in HER home (and it is her home, she inherited it from her grandparents), that she needed to stop being "bitter"and" selfish"for the sake of the child.
IT'S NOT HER CHILD SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT!
What does it mean "TA"?
@@flpser_ppwer the a$$hole, like NTA (not the a$$hole), YTA (you're the a$$hole). It's shorthand on some reddit subs.
I wish I would take care of a bastard child that my soon to be x made. Who’s going to make me?♒️
@@flpser_ppwer the butt🕳️
@@flpser_ppwerit mean ‘the asshole’
My heart goes out to the women in Iran 😢
Great that the first woman FLAT OUT LEFT the man when he started acting crazy. Good for her. Everyone should do this. And yes the warning from the Iranian woman is right. Don't take anything for granted. I feel like women put up with too much. How they get into these horrible situations. Never put up with a cheater. Never put up with disrespect of ANY KIND. Easy cheat code for life!!!
Yup. Never take women's rights for granted. I remember arguing with some GOP woman after Amy Coney Barefoot was appointed in a pinch. I said, "welp, there goes Roe" and she said "no, they'd never do that." 🫠
#1 Lady is outstanding and has handled it perfectly! She sliced the cord of clean! She is an example to us all.
The shiny spine on story one is astounding. I wish more women were like her.
First one, find new friends, I’m proud of her! Two, she has no need to be married to him, he offers nothing for her…she’s already a single mom so make it official, the stress lifted will be amazing I have seen it for my friend and she’s thriving and glowing since her divorce from the deadweight her spouse was. 3. Yes, absolutely. That was his choice to cheat and now he can deal with it on his own.
First story lmao-he was looking at dumb podcast online and swore she was gonna change!! I would rather be single 🤣🤣🤣loveeee it
Any partner who would unilaterally decide that you need to give up your own financial security to soothe their ego does NOT love or care about you. Good on her for walking away immediately - she was not being "harsh", she was being smart.
Story one did the right thing. The most alarming part is he didn’t even give her an option, and fully expected her to feel like she did not have a choice. He really didn’t think she would walk away from him. If he is acting like she can’t leave now, just imagine what he would put her through if she was dependent on him.
You're right
For the lady with the cheating husband with the outside child. Please divorce him and don’t have any kids with him. That child and his mother will continue to exist and negatively impact your life. Don’t waste your youth or your life. You deserve better.
1. Instant dumping she did exactly what she was supposed to do! Good for her! He’s mad and molded! He thought she was desperate and she’s not! Go girl!
4. It would have been over once he mentioned the cheating years ago. Nothing, but audacity, and had the nerve to ask again like her answer was going to change. She needs to file for divorce, the baby momma will violate probation or parole. He will try to again ask her to let that child move in. She needs to watch Kramer v Kramer.
1st Op was so wise. She saw who he was and shut him down the first time. Not the second or third time. Men like this will pop the condom or wait till they were married to shift up his stance.
I wish I was this wise at 26. I am so happy hearing some young women get out at the first sign of BS ❤❤❤
I'm so proud of the women in Story 1 and 4 for having none of that bs and setting clear boundaries
Story #2- weaponized moodiness, weaponized competence- always busy conveniently.
These menz are so "alpha" they can't even penetrate a piece of paper 😂 particle physics has entered the chat
You have to stop thinking there is such a thing as soulmates, love at first sight, thinking things like this makes you think you have to hold on to that particular man.
blame disney for pushing trauma bonds and limerence
#4 (Ex) husband can move into babymamma's place with the child.
Story 3: She shouldn't give up. Story 4: She should've left a long time ago because the child situation would've come up sooner or later. I hope she leaves.
I agree. How is the husband forgiven for creating the child, yet the child is rejected for existing? That man needs to step up as a father bc that’s his consequence. She shouldn’t convince him not to, she should LEAVE.
Respect to that young woman who wasted no time politely ditching the man who disrespected her hard work and free will. That's impressive clarity. The younger generation gives me hope for humanity.
The number of men swayed by red pill podcast is odd. Any person who is easily swayed by some guy yelling about tradwives is too easily manipulated.
Off topic, but if you have the time / run out of topics, could you talk about medical SA so more ppl are aware? Apparently it is very common that medical professionals a..ault patients while they are under. (I saw the vids about a...e in elderly care homes, however i think this would deserve a vid too.)
Or that the main doctor let's interns "poke around" in the patient to gain experience if she is unconscious anyway.
Please continue to enjoy the professionals you support.
yeah I have them add it on the consent form expressly they can't use tools in the V either, some got angry I insisted it was on the form
@@ythelldoineedahandle students have been coerced into invasive ultraounds it was a scandal in the news
They even do it in the mortuary and to ancient mummies
The woman in story 1 is literally my hero. Thank you for posting, Burb. Great video ❤
Whoever she is, she’s a SHERO! The 1st Story..👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿excellent👑 the last story, the cheater husband got over anyway because he avoided child support for 2 kids…yeah this parasitic marriage should’ve been OVER!
The way my jaw dropped when the second woman said she makes more than three times what the husband makes! Why is she holding on to dead weight? What an utter loser of a partner and father. If he isn't already having an affair, he will in the future.
1st story, babeeeeee, that exit was epic, I stan a decisive queen 🎉
Story #3 is a very real warning to us Americans. Our rights are so fragile and some women who side with men against their own interests in order to be seen as different don't know that they are not. Men use the pick-mes to mule for them to get their way but there is no gratitude or reciprocity.
Story #1: Great!! Keep it pushing.😂
Story #2: She's risking her mental health for his childish behaviors. Give him an ultimatum to get it together or he can hit the road.
Story #3 The insanity continues. My former neighbor (Iranian) cried all the time because she couldn't help her family, who still live in Iran, mainly women. The stories she told were horrible. Anyone can accuse you of treason.
Story #4: Good, that she stuck to her words. She meant what she said.
Story 2 is the biggest red flag. He might have pulled back now. But these issues will keep coming up. There is something wrong with his way of thinking. Plus I don’t think it is as unintentional as he claims to be. He is beyond inconsiderate. There is also the possibility that he could be cheating.
pulling a Homer
Story #4 - good for her, telling him to find his own place to raise his affair child. Because you know if she were the one that had an affair and another man's baby, he wouldn't be so forgiving. And once that child is in the house, the wife's workload "magically" starts to double. I hope she does divorce him and he's gets to fully experience the consequences of his actions.
The woman in the first story, am so proud of her, she is walking the talk 👏🏿👏🏿
#1 didnt have good intentions. He was trying to sabotage her. I love how the woman handled things. Good for her!
Men who want trad wives dont care about their partner. They arent thinking of the potentisl consequences for HER if he ðecides to leave HER
1st story: EPIC!!!! That girl is my SHERO! That’s so boss.
2nd story: that husband sounds awful. I hope she ends up leaving.
3rd: Iran used to be quite progressive in the ‘70s but England wanted access to oil or something and they sponsored a coup. That’s why it’s so awful now. I hate that the so called “leaders” are so horrendous and women and girls are so unsafe. If women ran things we’d all be exchanging dessert recipes and visiting each other overseas.
4th: Good for her! Better late than never.
That guy was ridiculous. Ain't nobody going to school that long to be a trad wife. I did 6 years of college with a kid, I had child care, and my ex-husband. By the time I graduated, I was ready to rip my hair out and flee to the forest. I worked my 3rd season in the parks the year after and had to quit due to disability. That hurt more than my divorce. I poured my everything into my career. I couldn't get out of bed for weeks other than to do the basics for my kid. My kid was worth it, but if I knew that my dream career was going go down in flames along with my marriage. I wouldn't have lost the work credits and I have student loans. I loved going to college. I am the first to graduate in my family. I felt ashamed and angry beyond belief. I pushed myself to the breaking point
I’m also thinking about Iranian and Afghan women. They are always on my mind. I feel so bad for them and can’t imagine being in such situation.
It's so heartbreaking. I was reading a bbc article about how they aren't all owed to use their own name outside the home. Just like the Handmaid's Tale. They are X's wife or Ys mother. Not even individual people in their own right..
It's unimaginably scary
Lady in story #1 is my freaking hero
Sadly the second lady still thinks her husband is a good man. His actions say another thing.
"...turned her into the subject of his plans"
They view us "females" as Mystique, capable of shapeshifting into whatever they please.
Story #1: I am so so so proud of this woman. I wish I had her strength and conviction at that age. It's a dang shame that everybody discouraged her. Just goes to show you, sometimes you only have dumbazz ppl around you who will give bad advice and send you down an awful path. Particularly when it's your family, who you may love very much - - but you never chose them. Don't just take ppl advice because they're close to you especially family, look inside first. Even if you respect them and think they usually make good decisions, never detach from your own inner compass. You can love people in your family and whatnot, but you GOTTA insist on being you and doing you, without apology. If you don't, you will end up like a paper bag being tossed around in the breeze. If you cannot do what this woman did, it'll be much more likely that you will suffer unimaginable misery in a life you never actually wanted. When she said "I didn't even try to argue" that's a life saving skill right there. Don't get dragged into a negotiation!!! GO WITH YOUR GUT, LOOK INWARDS, ONLY **YOU** KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU!!!!!
tell them after not before or they'll be contrarian and play devils advocate against YOU
It’s actually a nice thing that the husband in story 2 asked for men’s thoughts. Every time another man calls these dudes out, it makes it harder for men on general to claim that their nonsense is “just how men are.”
🎯🎯🎯
Asking for other men's opinions/thoughts after the 1 set (primarily women's) is invalidation of his wife's as well as women's thoughts/opinions in general.
Granted, he doesnt respect her in the 1st place, but the 2d male poll is just blatant invalidation.
Her friends are fake AF. She wasn't harsh at all. She has plans for her life and boundaries and she doesn't have to compromise for anyone. End of story. She's not living for him. Idk how people don't realise how unfair it is to expect a woman to give up living the life they want for someone else's fantasies.
That first woman is iconic. I hope everyone is able to get to that point of not giving an f. And she hit the nail on the head; why would anyone waste their years on these "men" when you can live for yourself today? ❤❤
Story 4: Ma'am pack your bag and leave. You have not or never will forgive that man. Unfortunately, the child, who is not responsible for his degenerate parents behaviors will be affected by the pettiness.
It's *her* home - she inherited it. Pack *his* bags
Second guy is living his best single life!
Loved the reaction of the first chick! 30 isn't old! They just wanna trap young women forever early on! He would've left by 30 probably seeing her changed after having his multiple kids with them crying and running around! So I'm glad she didn't let him do this to her especially if he was as entitled as she claimed! Byeeee
*THANL GOD IM NOT DATING OR ENTERTAINING MEN*
FUNNY HOW PODCAST MEN LOVE SCREAMING "single mom" "traditional wife" BUT THEY NEVER SPEAK ON THE REALITY OF HOW SOME OF THESE WOMEN BECAME SINGLE MOMS OR HOW MOST TRADITIONAL WOMEN ARE STUCK AND CANT LEAVE CAUSE THEY SAT HAD ALL THESE KIDS BACK TO BACK AND HAVE NO TYPE OF WORK EXPERIENCE OR MONEY
The letter from the Iranian woman.. I feel for her & Iranian women/children so much..
Afghanistan is also a black hole due to the monsters they have over there. I cant stress this enough, it’s time to fight back & unite.. I truly have hope that someday Iranian women & women on a global scale will be liberated. Let’s never take our rights for granted.
🕊To the women of Iran🕊
They want us to revert to the Handmaid’s Tale era
I have questions about the father of two young children going on a "bachelor's four-day party in Jamaica" with a bunch of guys. What the heck is that all about??
That letter was so powerful. She's absolutely right on every point she made.
19:38 We should do a shopping strike. Nothing but essential items for a week would damn near break the economy.
This is it. Women control so much of the flow of money. Men would laugh and then everything would crash
Women in Iceland have organized/held 2 "do-nothing" strikes - well-publisized beforehand & they did continue working in *essential* services.
Both times, even w/the advance notice, it basically shutdown their country.
That last one, if he stays with her over his kid she might find him even more repulsive.
First story:
Good for her.
I don't believe in wasting my time.
When I set my boundaries that's it. Asking for me to change them will cause immediate termination of the friendship/relationship.
And he sounds like he definitely ran into a
Red Pill Bandit and now he looks like a entire fool!!!
That's why I can't digest the fact about "islamist feminists" ..even other religion too especially abrhamic ones "...because both feminism and abrahmic religion are two fundamentally opposite ideology ...on one hand you worship that God that mysogynyist and racist at best and on other hand you think you are feminist, thats absurd ..and I think in recent times feminism has been hurt because of these contradiction ...feminism can be varied ..it should not be one narrow definition but one core principle of feminism that's EQUALITY and EQUITY between genders cannot be negated otherwise it will not longer the feminism ...now I am not saying women can no longer be religious offcourse they can (faith is also very personal ) , but I am really opposed those women who preach and practice mysogynyist messages of their religion and call themselves feminist
I dont truely trust western feminism 100% because it supports men in women bathroom, it dont truely support minority women (black + poc) , only states support for oppressed women in muslim dicator countries but refuse to support the women in Gaza who delivering babies without proper medical care.
I feel like feminist only really supports taking off hijab but not really gain powerful positions for women since that seems to be sole focus - what she can and can wear.
Most muslim women hate misogyny from men. Misogyny and Religion are 2 different things however living in a male power dominant society they will use religion to fuel an agenda for personal benefit.
When it comes to the dynamics of husband-wife relationships mentioned in the Bible, some men alter the true message of those passages, either by giving them a different interpretation or by omitting certain parts.
Did you know that the Jewish Faith wasn't always so sexist? Miriam was a prophet. They book of Micah said she and Aaron and Moses were sent to rescue Israel. Deborah was a chief judge and rules Israel. Moses married a black woman. When he was criticized God punished them for it. They weren't supposed to marry anyone not covenanted to God but she had joined so it didn't matter her race.
The priests took the oath to Onah to treat his wife with respect and to satisfy her sexually to the best of his ability or she could divorce him. In the ancient world yes.
Also the Bible says that husband and wife should submit themselves to each other but men leave that part out. Also there was a female apostle named junia that worked with Paul. But scribes changed her name to a male name and altered lines so later Paul said women shouldn't even speak at church? God brings equality but men like to back track and then they weaponized it. This is what happened when Rome co-opted religion. Islam though is terrible. Their 'prophet' was a child molester.
The Bible actually prophesied all this. See in the Garden of Eden Adam and Eve were equals. But they wanted knowledge. God said no because they would die but it was their choice to decide. Eaten said they wouldn't die but would be like Gods learning what good and evil meant. So they took the fruit. God said he would send his son to take away their transgressions but the real world would be tough. Men would rule over women and women would have a tough time with children and would chase after men excessively.
But once they were saved they would be redeemed from the fall.
These people are not saved.
The same thing happened with Noah and his son ham. Noah was the prophet and his son despite his teachings thought the priesthood power was with his fathers clothes. Noah said his son was an idiot and that they would end up being servants of man.
Guess what while slavery and bondage happened everywhere Africa were Hams kids settled ended up the worst off. They still practice slavery openly in Africa to this day. This is all a consequence of their own actions and choices not Gods. People use the Bible to justify it not understanding that it was prophesy. That if they were born again into good conduct and a remission of their sins they and their people were blessed and protected out of bandage.
In this world we are all facing a test and learning the difference between good and evil. God said don't do it because it would be hard and he didn't want us to suffer but he said its are choice to come to this world to learn and obtain knowledge. Satan though wants to take away choice. So we are either on his side or Gods. That is good and evil.
The woman in the 2nd stiry is very defensive of a man (her husband) for doing basic stuff,,, she is not gold digger but a Doodoo digger,, and her husband is living or going to live his best life off her back after using her body,,,, soon he us going yo meet his dream girl x
THE LAST STORY GAVE ME LIFE. FINALLY SOME WOMEN WITH BACKBONE. MILLENNIALS AND GEN ZI LOVE THIS FOR US. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ FAFO SEASON CONTINUES
Story 2 kinda sounds like ambivalent sexism. It’s clear he has some problematic beliefs about gender. I do wonder if he’s also resentful or jealous of her, and this is how he exerts some kind of dominance? It sounds like _he_ perceived it as a power struggle, and thought the men would back him up about his “nagging wife.”
This isn’t a “let’s see what guys think” scenario. Thats for silly stuff like “wife says it’s time to retire my ‘mandles’. What do you guys think?” It isn’t for serious issues like this that chip away at a marriage over time. Smh. I wonder if couple’s counseling would work
triangulation?
@@seabreeze4559 could be, since triangulation is usually to make you doubt yourself or fight for their approval. Especially with him allowing all these outsiders in, from the work colleagues to internet opinions.
I want to hear so many more stories like #1! Girl saw that red flag and said BYE!
the smile of delight at the 1st story!! the courage and steadfastness of this young woman is OUTSTANDING!! yes maam!! put your foot down and ALWAYS do WHAT IT BEST FOR YOU!!
Proud of these young women 🙂
The 1st story & the last story- I applaud both ladies for meaning what they say & standing on business!
1st story- a good thing that she left at the 1st red flag because he probably would've poke holes in the condom & tried to baby trap her. I love the way she ended it too like that was real savage of her to end it cut & dry w/o giving him a chance to make you feel guilty so you can change your mind.
Last story- he got some nerve to think she will stay if the kid to move in. He would've expect her to do motherly duties for the side chick kid. That was the universe way of saying to end the marriage that shouldn't have happened anyway since he stepped out on you.
Thank you for sharing the thread story on Iranian women. ❤
I think the guy in story 1 will end up regretting this. Even if he finds his trad wife. Odds are he’ll meet someone also in their 20s that also _thinks_ they have it figured out. Then reality is going to backhand them both. It’s not the 50s, we certainly aren’t dealing with 50s prices *cries in gen z and only ever knowing inflation*
Idk if he will regret losing her specifically. But I do think he will regret turning his life upside down, for a dream some Bitter Bobby on the internet sold him. Im 26 and there’s so much I want to do before 30, that doesn’t include kids or marriage. But it will ensure I am ready for big decisions like that, should I decide to go down that path.
He’s 26, he doesn’t know about being a sole provider for a HOUSEHOLD. I don’t understand whyyy men listen to random men on the internet, or barbershop, or basketball court, etc for serious advice. Especially when most of the advice has the opposite effect of what they want. At most they should ask for hair, style, or gaming recommendations from each other.
Women always worked. The reason this worked in the 50s and 60s is because the rest of the world was in rubble post WWII. Well today other countries compete with the US.
@@Galworld761 didn't america tax men at like 97%? so men didn't actually make the money. it was all debt.
The highest rate was 92 or3% on income over $100/K per yr, for only a couple of yrs, 90% was more common thru the 50s. & only on those in really high income bracket.
24:48 I think this woman is not the asshole for not wanting to take care of the affair child however this ultimatum is ridiculous. She shouldnt have stayed to begin with. Leave that man. He has an obligiation to take care of his child but to position this as child or me is crazy as hell. Girl go. You should’ve left before but you REALLY should now.
Fourth story: So many XYs demand a paternity test to make sure a child is his.
Those dusties need to come with some type of documentation showing how many children THEY have fathered, with whom, and what their relationship is with those children and the baby mamas.
Story 4, also, in situations like this ppl whine about how "affair child is the other kids' sibling". So what?! Only somewhat biologically. It doesn't mean they want anything to do with that child. Some don't care but others HATE that an affair child is related to them. They don't have to accept that child either. I hope ALL the children end up understanding what affairs do to families and that kids from the marriage AND the ones from the affairs are the ones to truly pay. Ppl act like if they can just get everyone to accept the situation, then they can pretend like they didn't really do anything wrong.
🙄🙄🙄🙄
Having any children from an affair, even unplanned, is cheating on the kids you already have. At least that's exactly how it feels.
Story 2: Have the nanny on a night shift, double pay. Stop attending events, c-section is dangerous, so why risk the money-maker for some lame-ass parties?
Part 1: There have been a few stories like this one where a wife/girlfriend has this trad wife bombshell dropped on them. I wonder if becoming a trad husband is become a currency among men? This might explain why some men have been dropping the trad wife bombshell. And, that also means his status amongst other men is far more important than his wife/girlfriend and kids he may have. No family deserves to play second fiddle to a man’s ego.
Part 3: This woman spoke volumes. Men have made being a woman a curse and they seem hell bent on keeping it that way. We keep fighting and stop treating patriarchy as if it is a rational position. Men want what they want and couldn’t care less how it affects women.
Love love love this first story! Go girl and live your best life 🎉
3rs story girl just divorce that man
That guy in #2 is checking out of the marriage and is contemplating an affair or is actually having an affair!
🎉🎉🎉 story #1 gives me so much hope for women. Omg I LOVE this!!! She taught him 😂
Story #2: he does NOT respect women. The fact he needs men to tell him he's a jerk makes him even more of a jerk. I also doubt the "he's a wonderful dad on the weekends." Sounds like he needs extreme praise for bare minimum effort. I'd dump him and keep it moving
2:48 Those are not friends. They’re brainwashed to think that trad wife life is expected and still feasible in this day and age. Ladies, please never set aside your future for anything or anyone. There is a high probability that your marital commitment may not be life long. I know more divorced single mothers and single widows, than I know trad wives. My Grand and Great Grandmother on my mothers side are the only Trad Wives I grew up knowing in my BC. They regretted it and told me so. When my Great Grandfather passed away, my Great Grandmother had to go back to work and she wasn’t happy about it. My Grandmother told me to get an education and career before marriage and children. She regretted not having a career. She was very intelligent and regretted not doing more with her life since children eventually grow up and leave. She did not have to work after my Step Grandfather passed but she had to move in with my Aunt to make it and she was in her late 50’s. She did not like losing her home and independence. On my Dad’s side my Grand and Great Grandmothers worked FT through to retirement. My Great Grandmother worked into her 70’s and also taught me that working was the expectation period. I should never be fully dependent on a husband as it simply wasn’t reliable. It was imperative that I be self sufficient. She had 3 husbands, 2 divorces and her 3rd she had to nurse as he passed away when she was in her early 60’s. They were actually on the way to divorce but he got sick and moved back in with her until he passed away.