Preparing babies in the mortuary
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- It's a sad fact of life that from time to time, Tracy will need to prepare a baby for a viewing. In this video she explains the procedure and we hope that by knowing what takes place, this video may bring some parents peace.
Take care beautiful people,
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Everytime I have to pick up a baby, I hold them our entire transportation. I may not be their mum, but atleast they get a mummy's touch on their way to the funeral home
That's wonderful 🌹💚💚
Thank you ❤❤
❤ what a beautiful thing you do❤❤❤ God bless you
I think you are wonderful to put the babies with an adult and a teddy while they are with you. I imagine the adult appreciates it, too, to have a friend with them for their journey. You are so compassionate.
A few months ago there was a terrible house fire in our town. The mom and her 1 year old daughter and 3 year old son perished. Both the babies were held and rocked all the way to the funeral home and placed in the arms of the folks there. 😢
I made funeral garments for newborns and premies for years after my daughter was murdered. It brought me a lot of peace.
Oh my goodness we are so very sorry 😔 how unbearably sad for you and your family 🙏🌹
What a wonderful thing you did to give to others in their loss, thank you for that, beautiful 💚💚
I prefer to think that your daughter's spirit meets those babies to help them cross over. God bless you.
I am very sorry hope you are doing okay
I look at parents like you and wonder how you get through such a tragedy. I'd have to work to my bones for the rest of my life to get through something like that. You must have angels with you carrying you through it all. God bless you. ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss 🕊❣️
I’m in the process of having my wedding dress cleaned as I’m donating it to a charity who makes funeral garments, dresses etc for premature and infant babies for their final journey.
I couldn’t think of a better cause for it to go to xxx
Bless you ❣️❣️❣️
I'm a student midwife, I helped a woman deliver her 18 week baby who passed in utero. She didn't want to see the baby, or anything, which I respect, everyone handles grief different. But me and my mentor prepared the baby regardless, dressed it in the smallest clothing we could find, took photos. If that mum ever wants the photos or mementos the hospital keeps them for years. It was a beautiful thing, to respect that tiny life.
Thank you for sharing your story. So wonderful of you to care for that little baby, thank you 🙏💚💚
We lost our daughter at 23 weeks 40 years ago.We asked to see her and was told no.We have nothing of her.Thankfully times have changed and for the better.much respect to you.
I had a lot of trouble with my second pregnancy and was at risk of losing the baby at around 18 week the social worker told me if I did they would take prints of hands and feet and photographs and keep them at the hospital for around 10 years incase I ever wanted them.
My cousins baby passed away 4 years ago in utero at 38 weeks. She was 33 years old at the time. She had to be induced and delivered him. She couldn’t look at him either. None of us know what he looked like and no pictures were ever taken of him. Once she had him she asked them to take him away as she bawled her eyes out. She wouldn’t take the keepsake box either. After that she fell into a deep depression and ended up on pills really bad. She blamed herself for her son’s passing and said she would never have another child again and she hasn’t. She’s better now but every year on his birthday she likes to celebrate him.
That was beautiful to do. I’m sure she will eventually want to see her baby
I lost my son when I was eight months pregnant. My Father was in the military, so I was at a military hospital. I was only 17 years old. They took him from me (with my Mom’s permission) and took him to Andrew’s AFB for an autopsy. Well that’s what my Mom told me, I didn’t believe her. The sad thing was I never got to see him or hold him😢 I always wanted to know what they did with his little body? As I am writing this, I am still very messed up over this and this happened in June 1985. My question is what did they do with my little boy’s body? This is the first time I have talked about this because it freaking HURTS!!!! After this happened, I wasn’t able to ever conceive a baby again. I am 55 years old with no children. I think about what would he have looked like today? I probably would be a grandmother now too. Thank you for letting me share my story and my son’s story too. His name would have been Dustin Lee.
Oh no we are so very sorry to hear 😔 we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Sure Dustin Lee would have be well cared for by the pathologist and Mortuary staff during that time. Dustin Lee a beautiful name and we are sure you always hold him close in your heart and he will know that. Please always be kind to yourself sending you our very best wishes 🙏 ❤️❤️
Reading this the day before the New Year turns... and wanted you to know that you and your beloved boy Dustin Lee are in my thoughts and in my heart and that his memory and your love for him and his lovelight burns bright upon this world now and always... ❤
😢I’m so sorry
❤ I am so sorry you had to go through that. Wasn't it ever talked about with your mother? I don't understand how a child can be taken and the mother not being able to know anything I understand you were 17 but still. I would still be doing digging to try to find out. God bless you and baby Dustin ❤
my mum had a similar experience... also in 1985.few hours after delivery the baby died, but the doctors took her away without my mum ever seeing or holding her. she never got to know what happened to the baby. Obviously as i write "mum" she did conceive again in the 90s, me and my brother and we are well now. But that handling of grief in that time period still saddens me. when i lost my pregnancy and had to have an abrasion a month ago they were very sensitive and empathetic.
I have been a mortician for thirty years. Babies do tend to dehydrate quickly. I always embalm unless the baby is premature and then I would use a topical gel preservative. Also, I am not sure if other homes do this, but we don't put little children in the back of the hearse, on house removals. We always have a funeral director carry the deceased child in their arms from their home and hold them until we get back to the funeral home. We always request a favorite stuffed toy to go with them. Nice video.
Hi, thank you so much for sharing your information. You will have so much knowledge after 30 years in the industry always happy to learn from others. We do a similar ting with our transfers of babies from the home, seems so much more caring that placing a small baby in the back of the vehicle on their own, glad to hear others do this. Take good care 💚💚
That's sweet and sad at the same time :( makes me cry.
You don’t embalm a Jewish baby.
Yes they did that with my grandbaby. I thought that was so sweet.
Thank you very informative
I'm in tears reading all the comments. In 1968, we lost our 2nd baby when he was 4 wks old. When he was buried his coffin was put in a grave with four elderly adults. My mum said, he's being looked after by them. I found it comforting, and when you said you put the babies in with adults, I started crying. Thankyou for being so caring 💞
So very sorry to hear you lost your baby so young 😔 sending you our very best🌹🌹
It just seems the right thing to do, thank you for your kind words 💚💚
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Not to worry, as soon as the baby quits breathing our dear father in heaven takes the babies sole to heaven. Your baby will never be alone.
Former hospital infant bereavement nurse here in the US. We considered ourselves very fortunate in what we were able to do for the family of our neonatal losses. We had a funeral home willing to do a free cremation for any loss, at any stage/age of the loss. We washed and dressed those of a size to do so. We also kept the body with the family as much as they wanted, whenever they wanted, until the mother was discharged from the hospital. A bassinet was available at bedside for those who wished to use it. As I explained it to nursing students, I couldn't do anything to 'make it better', that perinatal loss was one of the hardest parts of our jobs. My job was to give the family the start to a healthy grief and grieving time. I hope I was successful in that.
Oh wow thank you so much for sharing your story 🙏 what an amazing person and job you did, thank you for all you cared for in your time nursing 💚 People like you are saints and in that capacity lots of mothers and fathers would have need your support 🙏 thank you please take good care 💚💚
My 1 daughter passed at 22 week gestation & another daughter from SIDS at 3 1/2 months full term.The pain is still there at my age of 60..My children are waiting for me & I can't wait to see them again.
Sending hugs, that's so sad 😔
I miscarried over 35 years ago and still think of it even now. My husband reminds me we will see her in Heaven ❤
Oh dear one, I 'm at a loss for words. May the sun shine on you and warm your heart❤.
God's Blessings to you.
When I was 7 1/2 months pregnant, my baby died. I had to be induced to deliver his little body. We had him cremated and my husband went out and bought me a precious moments figurine with a baby sleeping on a could that says “safe in the arms of Jesus”. I will see my son again. 😊
I donated my wedding dress to a lady who makes gowns for babies who have died.
Oh thank you so much for doing that 🙏 it's so very special I have lots of the angel gowns for our babies and children. We think people like you and the ones who make the gowns are angles themselves, thank you so very much 🤗💚💚
What a wonderful idea to do with the wedding dress. Do you have a address to send it to? Thanks
My daughter was married in a royal blue dress and she donated it to make little boy outfits for premmie baby boys.
Excellent idea !
I did, too.
I prepped my own baby for burial - 20 weeks gestation. I washed her, patted her dry, dressed her, and surrounded her with flowers. It was a very hard thing to do but was glad to have been able to do something for her myself. She came home from hospital with us and we buried her at dawn next morning.
Oh lovely we are so sorry to hear of you loss 😔 but that is so very special you did the preparation for your babies last journey 🙏 thank you for sharing your story 🌹💚💚
RIP Beautiful one😔❤️
Sarah, you are a strong loving woman and mother. My heart goes out to you.
So sorry for your loss and prayers to you and your family. May you know have people. Who care what you are going through.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost two of my babies and I know how hard it is. You really showed how strong your love is for you little one to be able to find the strength to prepare her yourself. May God bless you with all his love . Some day we will all be with our little angels 😇🙏❤️🙏
I love the fact that you put babies by an adult in cold storage. That’s just a touching thing to know that babies aren’t alone❤
Hi Kim, thank you for your kind comments 🙏💚💚
Do you tell the adult person's family that they were protecting this baby in their death? I think most would love this information.
I prepped my first newborn last week and I was amazed at how peaceful he looked. It was a very emotional day to say the least!
Hi Mandy, Yes it's usually emotional while doing baby preps. Just make sure you always chat to your work colleagues and others to help if at any time it becomes to much. Because you can do quite a few preps on babies and think you are all ok then one day you do one and it's just so bloody hard 🤷♀️
Great work Mandy sounds like you are really doing well, take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thanks ladies. I am so grateful for your content and the way you interact with your viewers.
Sending you lots of love from me in Dublin Ireland 🇮🇪 ❤️
God Bless
Lost my son 19th May 2023 40weeks stillborn and the mortuary ladies at the hospital looked after my son before funeral directors got him. They danced with him, sang to him and read him stories and he was in his moses basket while they worked iswell x
Oh Sarah we are both so very sorry to hear 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Please take good care of yourself 🙏❤️❤️
Oh I’m so terribly sorry for your loss 😔but how beautiful ❤ that would have been so comforting in that extremely difficult time god bless your family and son
My beautiful niece passed away at 6 weeks old and our local funeral home were wonderful, they told us she had lullabyes played to her and that she was never alone.
It was very comforting. Thank you for everything you do Tracy.
We are so very sorry to hear you lost your niece so very young 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹
That's so lovely to hear the funeral home did a lovely job in the care of her. Hope you are ok take good care 💚💚
All baby go to heaven and be one of God angels. God need another angels. My grand son up in heaven with our maker.❤
It brought tears to my eyes hearing how you take such special care of the babies and put them with someone else so they are never alone. So thoughtful
Thank you so much 🙏 they to small to buy themselves 😔 take care 💚💚
My son Liam was stillborn at 28 weeks and I bathed him in the hospital but then he went to autopsy and once the funeral home had him they wouldn’t allow me to see him. I had to just leave his clothes and stuffed bear with the front desk. It broke my heart and I’ve always wondered if he got thrown away by the hospital and maybe we had just spent a small fortune on an empty casket and cemetery plot. I really really really hope I’m wrong. It was back in 2003 and it still bothers me.
We are so very sorry to hear 😔 you lost Liam 💔 we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹 hope you are doing ok🙏
I would truly believe your son was definitely in his casket, the reason I think they said no viewing, is because babies do tend to break down so much faster than an adult. I personally would advise the family of the condition of baby then leave the decision to view or not to them. However I think the funeral home was only trying to do what they thought was the right thing to do for you and would have cared for Liam and placed him to rest in his casket with care and respect. Please take good care of yourself 🙏💚💚
I am 74 now. In 1976 I was pregnant with triplets. At the end of my 6th month they were born. 2 identical girls and a single girl. The twins did not make it. 3 lbs 9 Oz each. The hospital was cold about " what do you want us to do with them". 3 choices, incinerate them, let them be used for medical research or a funeral. I chose a funeral. The US Army provided for the funeral, caskets and all expenses. It still hurts me too. I never got to hold them or see them. It was an unplanned natural childbirth that was not pleasant. Thankfully medical advancements have improved in great measures. Sorry for your painful loss. The one surviving girl was 5 lbs 4 ozs. I think of them often. 😢
Knowing they aren't put alone in the cold room is heart warming. That is always a heart breaking thought.
Thank you for your kind words🙏 yes it's very heartbreaking 😔
take good care 💚💚
I loved that the babies are treated so gently and being held like a normal living baby
Thanks Teresa, it is an awful thing but we try to ease the burden a little by taking loving care of the little ones 😘
I lost my son at 2 months 15 days and I have so many questions. Thank you for helping with that.
Hi Courtney, we are so very sorry to hear such sad news on the loss of your son. If we can help you in any way with questions you may have we are here to ask. Please take good care and be kind to yourself 🙏💚💚 xx
Praying for you
Hi Sweethearts !! I gotta tell ya Tracy, you put me in tears describing how you place a baby with another body while in cold storage. What a wonderful sweet thing to do. Where i had worked at didn't have a cold storage unit. But prepping children in general as you know can be very mentally and emotionally draining. The first child i assisted was a 15 month little girl. She was a child of a friend of mine. I was an emt. at the time of her death. She was hit by a big vehicle. I was on the call with the ambulance. She died instantly. I held her all the way to the hospital. I also assisted in the prepping of her. You see, her daddy would bring her to my home to play with my toddler son. Tough all around. Take care and God bless.👍🏻🙏💚
Oh my goodness Michael that's such a heart breaking story 🥺😢 how on earth did you cope with all the trauma you have seen and help with, you are one very special person indeed 🙏
I think you would have helped dad knowing you were the one looking after her 💚 such a tragic loss.
Me putting babies with adults in cold storage just seems the right thing to do, I would hate going home on a night thinking the baby was lying alone on that big stainless steel tray with no one to cuddle up to, sounds crazy but it makes me feel better. Take good care 😊💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Tracy, that isn't crazy at all. Very admirable. I also forgot to say thank you for sharing that with us. 💚🙏
Thank you Michael 🌹💚💚
I was a porter on nightshift and everytime a baby passed l would take her or him to the morgue but l could never put the baby in the fridge l used to call security to do it,but l always held them while l walked to the morgue........so very very sad .
My God. Such heart ache. So sorry.
I would be honored to spend my last moments before cremation with a baby one last time. I think that is beautiful that they dont leave them alone.
Thank you 🙏💚💚
I worked in hospital transport for 39 years .Transporting the deceased from their patient rooms to the morgue was one duty .Happily not often - but there would be babies ,children and young people .Special care was always tried to be taken .
Thank you for sharing. What a wonderful job you did caring for our deceased 💚💚
I worked in healthcare for years & was amazed at all transporters did/do. The general public, and most other healthcare workers, have no idea. They are all too often overlooked heroes for many.
Thankyou ❤
One of our sons lost their first born son at 21 weeks due to a congenital defect with bis urethra and his kidney’s had shut down so no in utero surgery could be be done. I was at his birth and he passed right after it. The nurse asked my son if he wanted to see his son right after the birth or when he was cleaned up and my son said when he was cleaned up. They came back into the room with his son wrapped up in a blanket with a blue bonnet and he had a white gown on as all babies do in the hospital and there was a blue teddy bear in the bassinet. It was just like he was alive in his bassinet and he was treated with the utmost respect and care. My son said to me “would you like to meet our son” and to this day (it’s been 15 years) it still brings tears to my eyes. He was so proud to show off his beautiful little boy and I can still see Jack in my mind today and who’s features he had. He was cremated and their son and daughter take turns having his urn in their room each week. They choose not to let the situation stop them from having more kids. The kids bake little “Jack” a birthday cake on his special day and they celebrate him. It is such a healthy way to keep Jack’s memory alive today and not having it as a big secret. My son had his tiny hand prints tattooed on his fore arm with his name and his wife had his foot prints tattooed on the back of her neck with his name. The tattoo artist was given the hand and foot prints and he said “oh let me blow them up to size” and they said “they are the actual size” and he fell silent. It was his first time tattooing such small hand and foot prints. Thank you for sharing.
Hi, what's a beautiful but very sad story 😞 your son saying do you want to meet our son 🙏 give me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes. We send you and your family our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Yes yes always keep him alive he is part of the family and how lovely the other children shared his ashes ❤️ words are just not enough when you go through a loss like this. The grieving journey is so very different for everyone. We do hope you are all well and looking after each other 😘
Again thank you for sharing please take good care 💚💚
Tears streaming reading this 😢
I had the privilege to watch my granddaughter being born and dress her. Seeing my daughter go through that was the worst experience of my life because I couldn’t help her and couldn’t save her beautiful little girl who was born sleeping but just so perfect. It still breaks my heart to this day, as a mother you want do take that pain away but I couldn’t. She had already a little boy and he got us through it because it was the 19th of December and we had to keep going for him. New year we had a private funeral and then she fell pregnant later in the year and I had another beautiful grandson and feel so privileged to have been in on the birth of all 3 of them. She will always be my first granddaughter and never will be forgotten. I now have 4 grandsons 2 with my other daughter & one born just weighing 1lb 9ozs emergency c section and a healthy 20 month old and his baby brother born in January this year weighing 5lb by c section and is a healthy 14 wk old happy little boy 💙❤️💙💙💙
Oh Sandra 😔 we are both so sorry to hear such sad news. Your daughter was lucky to have such amazing support by her side even though it would have be so hard for you too, what a strong mother you are when your daughter needed you so much 🙏 we both send you our deepest condolences to you and your family 🌹🌹
Thank you for sharing and so happy you have more beautiful grandchildren in your life, it's sounds like a rollercoaster time for you all. Sending you our best, take good care 💚💚
In January 2023, I lost my daughter Idalia at 36 weeks and 4 days to stillbirth... I always hoped and prayed she would be treated with the utmost respect. Thank you for the video.
We are so very sorry to hear you have just recently lossed your daughter 😔 please except our deepest condolences to you and your family 🙏🌹 please take good care and be kind to yourself 💚💚
That's a lovely name.
I bet they were kind to sweet Idalia. She knew nothing but your love and comfort for her whole life. I hope you're holding up okay. 😢
Thinking of you and your beloved Idalia❤ as her first anniversary approaches.. Her lovelight burns bright upon this world and may it guide you always (((❤)))
Bless you, popping babies with an adult in the cold store. The final act of care. That has really touched me.
Hi Sarah, just feels the right thing to do. I have always done it 💚 take care 💚💚
That's really sweet....I honestly never thought of that....your a kind soul
Just reading preparing babies in the mortuary makes me ill. It shouldn’t even exist but as a mom who’s lost 4 babies, I know that unfortunately it does exist. You can tell how much mom is in you by the way you hold the baby despite them being dead, it’s so loving and supportive of the head.
We are so sorry for your unimaginable loss. 💜Thank you for sharing your story with us. Xx
If you feel that it's not right, it isn't macarbe it is real life why shouldn't babies be given special treatment when they die. They're all human after all.
I lost a baby girl at 22 weeks - it was the way the funeral home and beautiful people like u who gave me her little pink urn and the funeral home director personally came to give her ashes to me - this inspired my degree for a funeral home director here in the US
Oh, that's so sad. We are so sorry for your loss. What a tragedy. Xx sending love.
I requested no embalming for my 1 month old preemie. He had been through so much in his short life, I didn't want anything else done. Bathed, onesie, socks, soft blanket wrap. 💔
We send our love to you and hope you are supported in your loss. So sorry to hear this happened to you and your baby. 💚
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Aww
I just found your channel. My grandson passed at 11 weeks. I helped my daughter dress him and he received an angel gown. The care he was given while at the funeral home was very comforting. Thank you for these videos. They’re great educational tools for people who haven’t experienced death and the process of dying. I will be showing these videos to people I help with the process. Bless you ladies!!
Oh my goodness Nancy 😞 please accept our deepest condolences to you and your family 🌹 so very sorry to hear, words are just not enough in times like these. The beautiful angel gowns are so very special and the people who donate their wedding gowns and the people that make the gowns are just angels themselves. Thank you for sharing and please take good care 🤗💚💚
Decades ago my ten year old was killed in a car crash. The mortuary helped us so much. They did a closed casket due to the massive head trauma she suffered. Once the funeral was over and everyone was outside, i insisted that they open the casket. I wasn't prepared for what i saw. They had put so much filler and heavy makeup on her face that i almost didn't know she was my child. So there are valid reasons that they have the casket closed.
Hi, we are so very sorry to hear you lots your daughter in such tragic accident 😔 sending you our very best 🙏 thank you for sharing take care 💚💚
Oh my goodness . . How sweet of her to keep the babies with adult. Never left alone that is the sweetest thing to kno that your baby is with SOMEONE while they're waiting for the final process. Omg. How precious
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚💚
Oh mum...I'm sorry
I'm getting comfort from this, my son was born asleep at full term 16 years ago x
Oh, we are so sorry. That's the hardest, saddest thing. 😔 The babies I have in my care get the very best treatment. I can't even begin to imagine, although I speak with the parents often. Thanks for sharing.💜sending love. Xc
I live in the US, and I'm donating my body. Maybe the congenital issues I suffer from could help others in the future.
Hi, that's is an amazing gift to give 🙏 thank you for sharing, we both hope you are doing well, take good care 💚💚
The most tragic funeral I've been to was a father and 2 kids died. It was back in the 90s. I don't remember what happened now its been so long. But I have never seen this before or since. Maybe you could discuss it on a video. All 3 were in the same casket. The Father was holding the baby and the younger one was laying against his side on their tummy. It really looked like they were all just laying down for a nap. I remember the wife was just inconsolable. I've never forgotten that one.
So very sad 😢 thank you for sharing.
We just did a video on this s only a matter of weeks ago check it out. Take good care 💚💚
Ty. Somehow, I missed that one. Went back and watched it. Ty for covering all that information. 🙏❤️
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@@Areyoudyingtoknow how do I find the video?
My sweet baby was born at 24 weeks. My husband worked for the funeral home. I was so lucky to be able transport her to the funeral home, my husband was able to dress her. It was nice and comforting.
We are both so very sorry to hear you have lost your baby 😔
We send you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 please take good care and be kind to yourself 🙏💚💚
Imagine being the departed soul who is tasked with watching over the baby for the moments they are in cold storage
I think all my loved one watch over each other in the cold room 💚 as there all close together. Thank you for your comments take care 💚
I doubt the wee ones are any trouble.
If I were the departed soul, I would consider it an honor.
My late mother lost and prepared her 7children for their final rest at different intervals and every time i face challenges in life i come down and keep her courage in mind. Much respect and RIP sweet mother💚💚
How very sad 😢
It's good to use her courage to get you through tough times 🙏 thank you for sharing. Take good care 💚
My preemie baby who died, we had cremated because we didn’t know if we would always live where we lived (that was 28 years ago) and we have moved out of state twice. So… his ashes are with us 😊
So very sorry to hear about the loss of your baby 😞
Sending you are very best, big hugs and take good care. 💚💚
We have done the same thing with our doggies for the same reason.
I crochet blankets and Angel gowns for my hospital’s NICU. It’s my way to honor one of my older sisters who was stillborn.
So sorry you lost a sister 😔
What a beautiful way to honour her 💚💚
We buried our 2.5 yr old over 40 years ago. The mortician did a wonderful job. You all do great work. ❤
So sorry you lost your child so very young 😔 sending our best 🌹💚💚
Great video, Tracy, you are a special kind of person, when you said you put the baby with another person so it would be alone brought tears to my eyes. what a caring person you are
Take care both of you, best wishes from NZ
Thank you Fran, it just seems the right thing to do, placing babies with others (it makes me feel they been protected) hope you are ok and we did upset you to much 🙏 take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Hi there, no it did not upset me, I had tears of joy that you are a special person that really cares. Take care
Thank you Fran 🙏💚💚
i lost a little girl at 21 weeks. hardest thing i ever went through. i like that you lay them with another so they aren't alone. that's a soothing thought. that's to me is respect to the tiny human they are.
We are so sorry for your loss. 💜😞
This subject breaks my heart. I lost a child through miscarriage. You guys do an amazing job that I don’t think I could do.
We are so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your comment 💜
My younger brother was missing for 4 months, until I saw a news report that someone found human remains .In my gut I knew it was him and I was right. He was in his 40’s this was last year and it is still so hard. I was asked to attend a baby’s funeral 10 days ago but it really hit me hard and I just couldn’t attend. I pray that things will get easier maybe I expect too much of myself and just need time 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻😢
We are so very sorry to hear 😔 such tragic and sad news. Sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 yes don't be hard on yourself 🙏 it will take time sending hugs 💚💚
Oh, I hope I get a baby to hold after I pass!
Let me be of use at every phase of my time on Earth, beginning to end. Let my body regenerate the soil after some student learns what they can from my remains.
What a beautiful giving spirit you have, thank you for sharing with us xx
This is something I could never do I’d be a mess
I am a mess often 😔 thank you for your comments take care 💚
So sad little babies ! Thats lovley that you put them in care with an adult and teddy . ❤️
Hi Andrew, it just seems like the right thing to do 💚 done it for years 🙏 💚
I don't remember when I've been so touched. Small mercies mean a lot.
Hi, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚
I like the way you held the baby 🐥 when u were getting her ready for preparation looks like you were telling the child that everything gonna be alright because mama loves you. I never saw anything like that I almost Teared this 65 years old man up. You both are Excellent 👌.
Oh that's so lovely of you to say 🙏 Thank you for such kind words 💚 it's can be very challenging caring for babies and children but of course the loss and pain the parents must feel is so very heartbreaking.
Thank you again take good care 💚💚
I just found your channel.
My best friend’s 34 day grand baby died. It’s been just horribly tragic.
We are in USA.
Some funeral homes allow the family to assist with preparation, but we were too traumatised to do this.
The funeral directors were all so kind and lovely.
Here, in USA, we are just this last decade or so, have many more female funeral directors.
This experience really showed me that you care for the body of the deceased, but for the hearts and souls of the family left grieving.
I have already subscribed and will watch more of your videos.
Your sweet manner and soft beauty must be a comfort to the grief stricken.
Hello, and welcome to the channel all the way from the USA 💚
We are both so very sorry to hear such a sad story on your best friends grand baby 😞 please accept our deepest condolences 🌹 it's just never easy it such a difficult loss to have to deal with, please give your friend our very best wishes 🙏 so glad to here the funeral home took good care of the baby. Yes your right the funeral industry does have a lot more female work then it used to. It's the same here in Australia more and more women doing this kind of work.
Thank you too for your very kind words. Please take good care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow on first video I watched, I felt a sense of comfort in your open and gentle manner.
Reading your replies to two-of my comments (one was a question,) I find you even more open and gentle.
I am certain you are a profound comfort to the families you serve.
Your kind words mean much right now.
It has been this experience, a baby, as opposed to death of elderly relatives, that really showed how compassionate funeral directors help make this hell a little-less intolerable.
Wow you are such a beautiful kind person 🙏 thank you for you beautiful words 💚
wow..so sweet of you, and what a nice thought..about laying the baby with another body so its not on his own...
Hi Annette, thank you 🙏💚💚
Such a difficult topic. You handle with such Grace. Thank you ♥️
Thank you 🙏💚💚
I cried about babies not being alone
Oh Courtney hope you are ok 💚💚
I worked in L and D and Newborn nursery. The hardest thing was taking one of the little angels downstairs and handing them off.
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I lost my son 15 years ago he was born at 24 weeks he was a twin i feel grateful he passed away at royal Brisbane Hospital because they seem so kind there they did photos for me as I couldn’t go see him myself I wanted to remember him alive
We are so very sorry to hear of your son's loss 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹
The Royal Brisbane Hospital is a great hospital. Thank you for sharing please take good care 💚💚
How sweet that they’re not alone.❤ What a thoughtful gesture.
Thank you for your kind comments 🙏💚💚
I just wanted to thank the comment section for sharing their experiences so openly. My deepest condolences. I also wanted to contribute my care through the funeral industry because it called me to it but unfortunately it never came to fruition. My utmost respect to you for being in this profession. Rest In Paradise Sweet Little Angels.
Thank you so much for your very kind words 🙏❤️
I worked in labour ward and caught the NICU babies. Some parents did not want to see or name their deformed or dead babies. If the babies lived for a short time and parents wanted nothing to do with them, we used to Christen/ Baptise them with Holy Water before death, only believers could perform this.
Babies were treated with so much respect after death, they were bathed and dressed, swaddled and carried to the Mortuary where they were also treated very gently and respectfully.
Oh, that's so sad, but a beautiful thing to do. Thank you for your work xx
When my wee babe died at 5 weeks, I happened to know the person working . He told me they wept the whole embalming process.
So very sorry to hear you lost your baby 😞 yes it's sometimes very difficult for the Embalmer, glad your baby was cared for by someone you knew 💚💚
It's nice to know how both my stillborn babies were looked after I delivered them .,...thanx
Sending hugs. So sorry for the loss of your babies. Very sad.😢
Prayers for any parent who lost a child. May God wrap you in his loving grace and mercy. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Its always so sad.
This is a really beautiful post and I am so moved that you would be so kind and respectful to keep a baby with another person despite them dying alone 😞 this had never occurred to me and frankly I think this is an incredible gesture 😞💙 one of the hardest things I ever had to do as a trainee nurse (we are talking 30 years ago) was being taken down to the morgue by a senior nurse and dressing a baby to be viewed by a family, it was heartbreaking and I remember to this day the physical things we had to hide (in the end though I think she looked beautiful 😞☺️💙) I was 18
Thank you for sharing your story 💚 how brave you were back then been so young. Yes babies and children are the hardest to care for in the emotional fact. I always even after 10 years in the job find family dressing with babies so very hard and traumatic seeing the overwhelming grief of the family 💔 breaks my heart every time.
Thank you for your kind words too take good care 💚💚
Putting them snuggled up to someone else, although a stranger seems such a lovely touch. I'd want my baby with someone else too and not alone in a fridge 😢 ❤ xx
Thank you for your kind words 🙏❤️❤️
One of my co-teachers her foster son passed away due to complications of being a micro-preemie…he was 16 months old & constantly in & out of the hospital. His funeral was yesterday & I just couldn’t go & see a baby that I had cared for at work…seeing him smile whenever I walked into his classroom & hearing his little voice saying hi to me. It’s so heartbreaking!!
We are so very sorry to hear such sad news 😞 we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Please take good care and look after yourself 🙏💚💚
I think that this demonstrates how special people have to be to do this.
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚 💚
Thankyou ladies. Our little girl passed at 2 weeks old in the NICU. We were given an angel gown and she was dressed in it shorty before she passed - had some lovely photos taken by Heartfelt. I never knew what happened to her little body after we said goodbye in the private room and before we got her ashes back. Even 9 years on, it is a comfort to now that she was likely not left 'alone' - depending on if Flinders Hospital does that or not.. It was such a whilrwind of a time and we were told very very little of what was going on.😢 Thankyou again for filling in some of the blanks. ❤🩹
We are so very sorry to hear you lost your little girl 😞 both sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
I am sure your little girl was looked after and cared for with dignity and respect. Take good care of yourself 💚💚
I think it’s absolutely beautiful that you place the baby next to an adult so they are not alone. I use to find it sad to see a small baby alone on a big tray
Yes little ones look so lonely and loss in them large open spaces😔💚💚
Traci your so sweet not to let the little one be alone. Love you both
Thanks Michael 😊 I can not bear the thought of baby's laying alone in the cold room. An adult and teddy bear 🧸 is a must to cuddle alongside 😚 love to you Michael, hope your well 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow your just the best of the best thats all I can say you totally are bless your heart
Thank you 💚💚
❤🙏 that's sweet putting babies with an adult so they aren't alone. Something I never thought about.
Thank you Kim 💚💚
WOW, I just happened across you lovely ladies. I live in the US and watch Coffee with Kari. Kari the Mortician. I just love her to pieces and you may too!!
I lost my first baby girl right about 8 hrs after fullterm birth. I didn't even get to see her. My husband and in-laws kept the casket closed. My family nor myself couldn't see her nor could anyone hold her but them. He was controlling, he is dead now!!!!! I have 2 girls now🥰🥰. This was 43 yrs ago.
Hi Sharon, welcome to the channel, lovely to have you 💚
We are so very sorry to hear such a heart wrenching story on the loss of your child all them years ago 😞🌹🌹 we both send you lots of love and hugs 💚
We know of Kari seen a few of her videos lovely lady 😁
You take good care out in the USA 💚💚
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter and for the awful way you were treated by your husband. Sending love from the UK 💜
If I was a mortician children and babies would be hard to prepare for burial.
Yes it's always hard caring for young ones 😞💚💚
Well you do totally different than here in the states. Our son which passed at 2-1/2 years old, the funeral home did an entire embalming and they sealed his lips and eyes with glue. We paid a pretty penny for that and found out later that most if it did not have to be done. No refund but later on when we transferred his remains to another county, we found out they
dropped the vault and busted everything and never said they were sorry for anything.
Oh Joy, what a sad and disturbing experience.😢 Like every industry ours has different methods from place to place - we would like to think most funeral homes are staffed by good, caring people though, who treat the loved ones with respect. The funeral home may have had a reason for what happened, sometimes, the issue is more in the communication with the family, 🤷this may also have been the case. But yes, I would have taken care with your precious little boy. 💕 We are so sorry for the loss of your little one. Sending love and hugs your way. Thanks for sharing your story. 💜
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family. I wish I could hug you.
My baby was stillborn at 35.5weeks, she wasn’t embalmed however we did have an autopsy, we were able to spend a day and a half with her..her body was deteriorating pretty quickly sadly….I wasn’t able to have more time…I’m so grateful to have had that time with her. She would have been 13 at the end of January 2024.
So very sorry to hear 😞 sending you our very best wishes 🙏❤️❤️
So sad but beautiful that you store a baby w an adult. Brought a tear to my eyes. Kind that you tell the family, but do you tell the family of the adult that their loved one had a final special job too?
Hi, Donna, thank you for your kind words. Yes we have told the family of the adults that a baby was near by for comfort. Family are touch by it, ❤️ take care 💚💚
So caring and such compassion shown towards the babies..... am so happy to hear babies are carried out in someone's arms
Thank you 💚💚
Thank you for helping teach the world about death: you explain in such a caring and compassionate way 🤗
Awww thank you so much 🤗 for your kind words 🥰❤️
I’m learning so many things from you girls💕 thank you
Hey Alex!! Thanks for watching 😁
Thank you. I lost two daughters and have often wondered how they were treated by the funeral people.
Oh that's so very sad to hear we are so sorry for your loss of your 2 babies 😞 please accept our deepest condolences to you and your family 🌹🌹
Yes we are sure your daughter's would have be cared for with the utmost respect and dignity. We hope you are doing ok and seek help if you needed after such loss. Please look after yourself 🙏 sending our best 💚💚
I lost my oldest daughter at 5 months to SIDS in 1989. I didn't have any more children until 2001 (boy) and 2003 (boy girl twins). I couldn't bare the thought of losing another child. They are all grown and healthy and know they have a big sister watching over them.
Oh wow so sorry to hear that 😞
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️
Thank you for this. My grandbaby died at 29 days. I’m thankful for the respect
We are so very sorry to hear 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🙏🌹🌹
Take good care 💚💚
God bless everyone who has a special calling to do this type of work🙏
Thank you Mike 💚💚
We send all our patients who pass away with a flashlight turned on to the morgue.
Hi Kim, that's interesting never heard of that before 💚
I’m very much interested in changing my career path from surgical tech to work in mortuary science. Have attended autopsies and assisted. I’m actually a pretty morbid dude much like my surgeon boyfriend. However .. this is the one thing I find very very difficult to cope with . I just hate seeing anything innocent or small being harmed or not with us. I’ve stumbled upon these kind of autopsy videos by accident and it makes me very upset. Is this not the career for me or can I just get over it somehow? Much thanks lovelies! X
Hi, think you would do great in mortuary science from work experience your in now. Yes it can be very difficult caring for the very young but also in a strange way rewarding, as you are the person that's caring for that child and the family need to know that there deseased child is cared for with respect and dignity. I do have some days were I think of my this is to much but then I think to myself, I know this baby is receiving the best care I can give, then I go home knowing I did a good job today. Good luck in what ever you decide to do 🤗💚💚
God bless you for your service and support given to the families. I was a funeral director for three years, and I loved it.
Thank you Linda, and also for your work with grieving families, we thank you 💕
every parents worst nightmare losing a child so soon it must be so hard to do
Yes Natalie, it is horrific for them. There's only so much we can do to ease the burden.
Edinburgh Uni take body donations. My mum is donating her's but there are lots of circumstances where its not possible. I offered to give her a viking funeral but the local council weren't keen for me to use the boating pond!? I said i would keep pushing it back into the middle of the pond but it was a defo no. Lol 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂 you are to funny 🤣
And good for your mum for putting her hand up to donate.
Especially so you don't keep pushing her around the pond 😜
Thanks for the giggle 🤭💚💚
Back in 1973 we lost my little 1 month old nephew to SIDS. Unfortunately, because of living out of state I did not get to see him when he was alive. He was such a beautiful baby lying in his little coffin. He just looked like a sleeping doll. I have always wondered in that decade here in the states if they embalmed a baby or used something to preserve them to make them look so lifelike? I love the way you take care of these precious little ones.
So very sorry to hear 😞 that's so sad. Spending you love and hugs take good care 🤗💚💚
It takes a special person. And I do not have the heart to do it. Makes me cry just watching. I cried when I lost my parents & Im so thankful someone did that for us.
Sending you big hugs 🤗 look after yourself 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you🩶🩶🩶
My grandson was born in May and only lived for 5hrs, it's a heart wrenching situation 😢😢😢 he was such a beautiful baby ❤❤❤
We are so very sorry to hear 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 words are just not enough 💔
Please take good care and be kind to yourself 🙏💚💚
Back in the dark ages of EMS (1973) I was taking one of the first EMT classes in our state and we HAD to have a teacher (just a regular school teacher) and a RN teaching the classes. Doctors (who HATED us would come in and they were SUPPOSED to give us some basics, but MOST just said, If you want to be a doctor, go to med school) were not receptive to "lay people" trying to keep a patient alive and NOT cause more damage. On our ER rotation (small hospital) we were in one of the back rooms and a nurse came in with a stainless steel basin and said a young woman just had a spontanious abortion. She must have seen my face (I was young and dumb at the time, changed my outlook since then) and said miscarriage and she had the amniotic sac in the basin. She asked if any of us wanted to see what was inside (I was thinking of some grotesque monstrosity) and we all said, sure. The "tough guys" in the class pushed their way to the front and the nurse opened the sac and 3 guys fainted, 4 more ran from the room (so much for "tough guys") and 4 others of us stayed. Inside the basin was a BEAUTIFUL, PERFECTLY FORMED BABY BOY with the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck several times. I couldn't express my feelings of sorrow for what we just saw and don't know if the parents got to view him or if the unwrapped the umbilical cord first. I am sure it must have been traumatic as Hell for the parents. That was the first but sorry to say not the last that I saw something similar. It still is hard to see. I admire you for the extra care you give the infants, placing them with another body in the cooler.
Hi thank you for sharing. How very sad for the parents 😔 and confronting you all in those early days. You know the people who can make it your job and them that may struggle a bit. We have the same in the funeral industry. Thank you for your kind words too. Take care 💚💚
Hi both, I have just found your channel and am working my way through watching your videos, which are brilliant; especially for someone like me that has a fascination with this sort of thing. I have to say, I put off watching this video for a while, as I didn’t want to face that little babies come to you guys. But I am so glad I watched and you approached this subject. You really are a kind soul, having the little teddy and letting the babies rest with an adult while they are with you is just the most thoughtful thing, on so many levels - I have no doubt that the families of babies that are with you are so comforted by your actions that their little one isn’t alone when mummy and daddy can no longer be with them. Thank you for everything you do for the people you care for xxx
Hi Hannah, thanks for your lovely comment. It warms our hearts to know we can help people feel just a tiny bit better about what happens when we die. We really appreciate you reaching out. Take care xx
I was born premature. 4 months early. I almost died twice, lungs under developed. So i couldnt eat or breath on my own and was born with a heart murmur. I was in the hospital in a incubator for months. Doctors told my parents not to be surprised if i died because i had little to no chance of survival. Im 31 now.
It is so sad to know many babies die. Especially premature ones.
Hi, wow what a very special person you are 💕
Thank you so much for sharing your story, take good care 💚💚
The same thing happened to me. I was a “blue baby”, with serious heart defects. I was declared dead shortly after birth. They “jump-started” my heart, but I couldn’t take any milk. Doctors told my mother I wouldn’t live past 4. I’m 73 now.
I almost died when I was born. I was born a little early. I weighed 5lbs 1oz. They baptized me the day after I was born. I stopped breathing and turned blue. I think that was an omen for what my life would become. Abused in every way. Nearly died quite a few times. But I'm told I'm a fighter. So I keep on fighting. I have 2 grown children and 3 teenaged grand children. That's what I fight for.
That so sweet that you put them with people so they don’t lay alone ❤️❤️😓
Thanks James, it's just something I couldn't do, leave a baby on a big tray all on its own 🥰
I make angel gowns from wedding dresses. I have also held and dressed little ones 14 weeks (a pouch), 20 weeks and 18 weeks. It is such a sad time. In Canberra we have the Babies Rose Garden at the Mitchell cemetery for under 20 weekers which is so beautiful. I believe we now have cold cots so parents can have their babies for a few days at home or in the hospital. A few decades ago Losing Layla (documentary about Layla 41 weeks) was with her parents for around a week at home and in the hospital.
That's so very special 🤗 what a wonderful gift you do and give to others. Thank you for sharing 💚💚
So sad when talking about babies especially when the teddy bear was bigger than that little angel.
Great video though. I always learn something new which I really appreciate, so thank you
ladies. You always approach topics with such kindness and empathy. On a brighter note
though, Cal looks like he has some pearly white bottom chompers when hes up against that bright,
white wall behind him lol At first I thought it was a cigarette or something in his mouth and had to look
closer before I realized it was the wall shining through behind him lol Have a great week T&T 💗
Hi Kim thank you for all your kind words and support 🙏🥰
🤣🤣 Maybe Kal went and had some veneers fitted 😜 take care lovely, hope you are having a wonderful week too 💚💚
I love that you use baby products and diapers, and especially that you don’t put them by themselves!! Thank you!!
Thank you for your kind words 🤗💚💚
Omg it broke me seeing how extra loving and carefully they handled the baby.
Oh Jade, hope you are ok 🙏 thank you for your very kind words 💚💚
You ladies are doing something I could never do. Thank you both for all of it.
I personally may not like kids, and I won't have any of my own, but by the love of all existance, I wish children couldn't die.
Oh Tarnished, we wish they wouldn't die either. It's so sad 😔 and such a tough, horrific experience for the families.
Also thanks for your kind words, but Trish doesn't work in the industry. She does other amazing things though. 💐
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I donated my still born never did a ceremony or pictures. When we got his ash's back just small ceremony
We are so very sorry to hear you lost your baby 😞 we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹 hope you are doing ok take good care 🙏💚💚