I really love how respectful she is when speaking of these things. She still honors the dignity of the person even after they're deceased by not being crass. Well done.
As an EMT who has seen what dead bodies can leave behind I always wondered how you stop the natural occurrence of the purge. Thank you for the sensitive topics video :)
I am 43 and have to wear nappies aka adult diapers here in the US. I have radiation enteritis from cancer treatments as a child in the '80's. So it won't be embarrassing when I die as I have had to use diapers for 35 year's. I Love Your channel, it is refreshing and helps me still cope with the loss of My Mom & Dad just a month apart. (It has been 7 year's ago, but feels like Yesterday). I am disabled and alone.
Very respectfully handled video ladies. Not the easiest of topics but informative. I remember watching a video by Kari the mortician about when plastic undergarments are used for deceased. Open coffins and viewing times prior to funeral are unheard of where I live in Scotland, though Tracy many know if this happens elsewhere in the UK? I've had alot of health problems inc being as near to death, without dying, from heart failure, in my late 30s, and surviving. I've had therapy for various issues and therapist believes I have ptsd from the heart failure issue and I'm waiting for an appointment to get assessment for diagnosis confirmation. Due to this event and the experiences with my mental health since I've decided to plan/pay for my funeral incase if it happens again and I don't survive. My therapist and family all think this is a sensible idea. Do to many health issues since childhood I have always been more aware of my mortality and thought of my funeral plans etc. Seeing a channel like yours and others gives me information and has helped me make the right choices for me. Thank you. BTW I'm 43 yrs old now.
Oh Kim we both send you our best wishes and big hugs 🙏🙏💚💚 you have been through the mill and do young, stay positive lovely and seek out all that help you need 🙏 lots of people are moving to organising they own funeral these days and your right I think it's because we have more access to information like these and other video on what goes on, knowledge is power right 👍 We send you all our best and hope you take good care of yourself and have lots of support around you 💚💚
Hello ladies, I've just now found your channel and will subscribe. This is an interesting subject to me as my brother was a mortician and he loved his job! I miss discussing things with him (cancer took him in 2004). I'll be checking out the posts here. Thank you for such a sensitive discussion of this particular topic. Cheers
Hi Anne, thank you for joining us 💚 We are very sad to hear you lost your brother to cancer, so very sorry, sending you all our best and hope you are doing well 🙏 take good care 💚💚
Omg while I'm grieving my daughter. I heard "Nappy" they are "diapers" here in the USA. Now I'm british living in the USA. Great job girls, because this will and can happen to us all when we pass So thankful to see the compassion for our loved ones, that we all fall fate to
Hi Again Elizabeth, we hope you are doing ok 🙏🥰 Yes it is diapers in the USA a few people from the USA messaged to ask what a nappy was, just totally for got that the team in the US, but like Briton here in Australia it's nappy. Take good care 😚💚💚
At my brothers viewing I noticed a "pink" stain on the satin cloth near his left side of his neck in the casket..I was horrified. I immediately let the funeral director know because I didn't want any of the other guests to see this. He apologized profusely and proceeded to do something but I didn't see what he did..I was in tears. My brother died suddenly of a massive heart attack and this was all so shocking to all of us let along this. I had absolutely no clue as to what this could have been but now after watching these videos, I now know more. But how could this happen?
Hi Nancy, first please accept or deepest condolences on the loss of your brother 🙏 we send you our Very best 💚 This was possibly some fluid that escape from his ear, sometimes even after great care on the preparation of a body fluid can be trapped deep inside the ear canal and move out when the body is placed into the coffin/casket and when moved from the hearse to the place of service. Sorry you had to see that and the funeral director would be upset that this happened and totally accidental I am sure of it. You take good care 😊💚 💚
When my husband suddenly passed away l went to the funeral home to cut his hair trim his beard and dress him I seen my husband from the side of his mouth dribbling pink like fluid and they did tell me it was embalming fluid and they needed to put more cotton in his mouth he began dribbling again from his mouth and nose at the viewing so put cotton as far as l could up his nose and in his mouth before anyone can see it we had my husbands viewing at home
Trace you are so empathetic. I Lov the fact that I can tell a lot of questions you are very honest about but it does seem as tho it is hard for you Kinda like you feel you are invading privacy. You treat every single person as if they were your best friend. Thank you for sharing. It is so educational as I am older and curious what will happen to me and again I know a lot of the conversations are hard for you but thank you. It really does answer the questions we don’t know who to or want to ask. I have so much respect for both of you. Thank you for the privacy you do try to show. Remember the questions are not about a certain person it’s just about “what if”. If that makes sense. Xoxo. You both are amazing. I Lov u channell.
Hi Tracey and Trish! I’m in my 8th month as an embalming intern. I’ve also never heard of the purse suture method for closure. Sounds like it would be difficult without a way to stabilize the lower extremities. I’m trying to picture myself trying to do that on my own and it’s not graceful! Thanks for the information, love your channel!
Hi Jeran, that's great hope it's all going well for you. The purse suture is very easy maybe I will film it on a piece of fruit in a video soon to to show you. Keep up the great work and let's us know how you are going 😊💚💚
Once again Tracey you are on target with your care of the deceased. I would think the risk of perforation is high utilizing plugs. Sadly, I have had patients begin a purge prior to death and it is very distressing to their loved ones. Education is so important at the end of life even if it is a potential.
Hi Diane, thank you 😙 Oh how hard that is for you in situation like that, we can only imagine the upset a family goes through when seeing that. But thank goodness for people like you to help and take care of the family in these time, that's a hard job 🙏 thank you for the work you do. Take good care 😊💚
Looking at the 2 of you is so delightful! One would think a mortician...a stuffy, no expression, straight laced "man" with ice cold clammy hands and no sense of humor at all. You, my sweet Tracy, are a breath of fresh air❤...love your style...so down to earth...I could do lunch with you gals!!! Wish I could visit!!!
Good combo duo here.... one is very polite and one is very blunt 👌...very gently introduction to people wanting to learn or about to go mortuary college.... thank you 😊 wonderful questions and great answers answered respectful 🙏 👍
Aaaaaarghhhh (..apologies for my screams...I'd be horrified at the thought of that being done to me.😳 ) yes I agree.. it's important to know what options there are.. I'd never want that for me or my loved ones!
And this is what awaits us all 🤦🏻♀️. I’m glad that there are people who can do this job of taking care of the dead , special people . I certainly couldn’t ….
Hi, you know it's very rear this has to happen. Most of the bodies I do I don't need to do this process it's just the odd one or two. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
Hey ladies, how are you ? Aww such a delicate matter but handled with respect as always, thankyou tracey for going out of your comfort zone to talk about this, not somthing id ever thought of but of course it happens, i love how tracey handles these situations, using less invasive procedures, hope your both safe and well, take care xx :)
I'm sure Trish asks deliberate questions to make Tracy squirm😊 but it does add a lighthearted dimension to anotherwise distasteful subject. I saw a post by Kari the USA based mortician where she showed the plastic screwin plugs I have to admit they do look brutal. But if course the 'recipient' is dead and would feel nothing. Whatever is necessary to alllow family to say a final goodbye with no additional distress or trauma from unwanted leaks! 😊
Hi Steve, I refuse to use them plastic screws plugs I find them to invasive, soft cotton wool ☺️ thankfully it's very rare I need to do it. And yes Trish loves to ask me them questions 😜 Take care 😊💚💚
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Thank you for your information. And we are sure you still take good care of your residents at them very last moment of life 🌹 thank you for what you do, take care 💚
I'm from the UK but live in the US. I completed Mortuary Science School. In the US, funerals happen within a week, yet I've noticed in the UK that when someone dies, it literally takes WEEKS before they have a funeral. Even for a regular death. I would love to know why it takes so long to have the funeral...
Hi, I think it's to do with mainly red tape, trying to register the death as soon as possible because funeral homes can not do anything till this happens. The fact the UK has a population of over 65milllion on such a small island, lots of death and not enough funeral home to cover particularly times family want. Think it's a combination of lots of thing. I went back home to the UK just before COVID asy dad died 😞 and the dates some family members wanted were not available for 3 weeks so we just changed it and we could have the funeral 5 days after dad had died. So I think if your willing to take dates and times that are not popular you can have your service pretty quickly. Thank you for your question and hope you love you job out in the USA ☺️💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow It's a cute accent! :P and I think the most respectful way to refer to...a person's bum in terms of (post-mortem) care! It's not graphically medical, very human.
Awww thank you so much so kind. Yes we try and keep it more relatable than given a lecture on anatomy of the body. We feel like we are just having a chat to our friends out in TH-cam world ☺️❤️
This is why I’m going straight to the crematorium lol ! No poking and aspirating my bum and other parts ! Also no funeral no hassle for family to come see me off ! Remember me the way I was happy 😃 ! Just my opinion! Peace ✌️
Ladies I love that I found you and your videos. I have always been fascinated with this stuff and so curious. Thank you for taking your time and sharing your knowledge with us. You’ve answered so many of my questions. I have a question for you. My husband passed away almost five years ago from liver disease. He was orange when he died. At his funeral he looked great. He wasn’t orange anymore. How did they get his color back to normal? Also when I put my hand on his stomach/ chest area there was a crinkly sound. The mortician said that when they drained his body of fluids he was very thin and so they put some padding on him. I thought that very strange but… what is your thoughts on this? Thank you again for informing all of us that are curious. I love you ladies!
Hello and glad you like the channel 🤗 So very sorry to hear you have lost your husband 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹 Sounds like your husband had severe jaundice, this is normal with a death due to liver problems. Jaundice colour can be a very light yellow to a dark orange. The only way I know how to clear the colour is through embalming (was your husband embalmed). Or maybe your husband was not embalmed and the mortician did only a cavity aspiration, this can clear colour a little bit not as good as embalming. As for the crinkly sound, that would have definitely been a hospital grade bluey covering torso, it may have had padding underneath but I would imagine it was also to protect and seal his cavity area from any fluid leakage. Because where we have jaundice there is nearly always oedema (similar to water retention ) oedema leads to skin slip (little tears to the skin, leading to fluid leakage) The mortician did exactly what we all mortician do wrap the body with blueys (these are absorbent pads) to protect the body of the deceased and the clothes and the family who will be viewing and touching. Blueys have the white absorbent pad on one side and on the other side, the one you could feel has a plastic backing this is a blue colour, hence the name it has 'Blueys' 😊 Sounds like your husband was well cared for. I do hope this helps you and you understand what I have written. Because I am dyslexic and have appalling grammar because of this. We have done videos on the subject of the liver this will give the answer too. Thank you for your question take care 🤗🩷💜
I know of someone recently who was held for a month before burial. Also the funeral was open casket. I can’t imagine what the funeral home did to keep the person good until then, I figured they’d at least have odor ?
Hi, the person would have mostly likely been embalmed, this slows down decomposition long enough to stop any smells or break down of the body, so a viewing can take place. ❤️❤️
Hi why would it be embarrassing. Just think about a mortician as a carer like in a hospital or nursing home, we do the same take good care of the person and give them a nice wash and all clean again. Think because we are called Morticians people think of us differently when all we are doing is caring for people 💚 I have been called evil Nasty names but if I were a nurse or nursing home carer I would be treat so differently. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
I loved how she considered one option better than the others because it’s soft or fluffy. It does seem more kind . It shows her heart. Very kind. One question. There was no mention of how they would stop the leakage of a male. I assume the cotton wouldn’t work with the male anatomy.
Hi thank you for your kind words. Like I say in the video it very rear I need to use cotton but I always use a nappy or diaper (depends where in the world you are as to the term used🙂) this will catch any little leaks from the male area. Thank you for your question take care ❤️❤️
I never want to be embalmed! Esp. with this information! But it is very good to know all the options. Tracy ~ does it work the same to plug the male bits? (I.E. using some cream & cotton) Do you have to stretch out the tip to get the cotton in? Just wondering. Trish ~ Love your hair! So bright! 🌞
Oh, that must be tough for you Jonathan, but it seems you have a pretty robust sense of humor so that's gotta be a good thing. We hope you are doing ok. Sending love 💜
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you. Humor is a good way to help deal with such things, and there's evidence it also aids in healing processes. For me, it's made some pretty rough patches much more bearable.
Hold up, so I don’t want my body interfered with whatsoever when I die, now I just thought I needed to say I don’t want to be embalmed or “hygienically cleaned”… stick a pad on me and a shroud and send me on my way…. But aspirating I now need to ensure that won’t be done either?
It's ok. You just need to make your wishes known to your family and if you don't trust them to be firm enough at the time of your death, find a funeral home you like, tell them and prepay and your wishes should be followed. 💜
These are things that I never thought to ask about. But she brings up a very good point. Kind of like using a cork. I’m never knew they used uneducated people to help prepare bodies. But it makes good sense. You’d think they’d use a silicone caulking in the ants vagina and other. She did an excellent job explaining.
Once the human body dies.... after that nothing matters. The soul lives on. Dust to dust...... the best is yet to come in the next eternal life. No complicated leakage etc.....
Hi, yes I am only left with the vehicle that carried us throughout our lives 💚 buts it's a special vehicle to take care of even when empty. Thank you for your comments take care 💚💚
Are most of the people u prepare embalmed or unembalmed? Im wondering if leakage is worse when unembalmed? Thanks for the video! I learned something new 😁
Hi Kim, most are un-embalmed. Leakages does not happen on every body. Leakages (if there is any) will be presented before a body is prepared either for a normal prep or prepping to embalm. But sometimes embalming can bring on leaking (purging from the mouth or bottom) but would be cleared with aspirating after the embalm is complete. Hope that made sense 😳 take care 😊💚
Sorry ladies another question, as I'm in the UK I don't really know how things are done here, I would hate that plastic plug up me, so how would I approach the situation for my family in regards to my prep when I die. As you say its a very difficult subject let alone speaking to my daughter about it.
Hi Lorraine, You can just say you would like the leased invasive procedure done but I just wanted to say it's does not happen often when bottoms need this and not all funeral home have or use the AV plastic plugs. Hope that helps, take care 😊💚
Neither do we but unfortunately we have to. You do know that you can request no procedure to take place in the mortuary after your death. I have lots of people that have instructions not to touch the body at all in any way just place straight into the coffin or casket and I will always honour this request. Take care 💚
Hi this is why we care and prepare the body before viewing, once we have cared for the body it won't leak or sell. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
I'm a Canadian funeral director. I'd lose my license if I made a video like this. Funeral directors in Ontario Canada are treated bad. Funeral homes are somehow exempt from WSIB
Good morning ladies iv been watching your play lists all night and loved every video you have done so far :) Please tell kal its all most Halloween and we hope he's fighting fit to scare some kids :) what diet is kal on cos he looks much healthier than me :)
Oh wow 😳 that's a lot of video to get through. Amazing and thank you so much 🙏 🤣☠️ Kal never reveals his healthy eating habits to us 😜 Have a lovely weekend 🤗💚💚
6.26 the facial expressions of the woman on the left 😂😂😂yeah echoes how most of us are feeling at the prospect of a large pair of tweezers full of cotton wool being plunged up one's jaxi! Lol
Hi there, unless you specify you don't want this, it may still happen regardless of if you are cremated or buried. It's about keeping the body sanitary for a viewing or funeral. Some morticians use plastic plugs. I choose a gentler approach. 💜Thanks for watching.
Also i have a question about the ✨physics✨of it. Ive seen a few autopsies before, but havent really seen the purge part. I have a hard time imagining #2 just coming out non stop, because poo usually takes some effort to get out when ur alive, like it wont come out if you simply relax 😅 so how? Does it like... Liquify? Or does the other fluid like blood and gas build up so much pressure that it pushes out? Like a death laxative?
Hi, when a body is autopsied the organs are removed, this includes the intestine where most of the faces is stored and it won't come our unless it's squeezed out and that doesn't happen during autopsy. We have done a video on the viscera this explains everything. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Can you do any chores helpiung to prepare a body for funeral without any special school, i.e. as a side job , or do you need a specific course for this? Of course the entire embalming procedure surely requires much knowledge so a school is required, but , I don't know , as assistant or help or something? Surely it differs between the countries, bu - what is your approach? Or is it like a one-person job, so the skilled pro does not use any helpers?
Hi Tracy been watching all your videos love them by the way, but I'm not clear on what aspirating means ? and see that long rode you showed. Can you clarify please thanks xx
Hi Lauraine, we have done videos on aspirating you may stumbled across that one sometime as I can't remember the one it was 😳 sorry. But basically the rod is a trocar a bit like the large needle cosmetic surgeon use to do liposuction (sucking out fat) the trocar removes excess gases and liquids from the cavity area. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Hi CCF, I also have plastic pants and sometimes use them, but you still need to stop and seal the leakage before you place plastic pants or a nappy (diaper) otherwise fluid would fill the plastic pants up and start to rot and decompose giving off a terrible smell. Take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow wow! Since watching you guys I have learned so many questionable things about when my mother died. I helped dress her due to her religious preference (Mormon). She was on this very narrow wooden table. Very swollen. Plastic knee pants with nothing under because we put her “temple undergarments on her over those plastic pants. I noticed what I thought was a feminine order. It was very disturbing. She also had the leaky eye at her showing I mentioned before. These are things I always felt were “off”.
It sounds like the mortician was very inexperience or just cutting corners 😟 but it is good that you did the dressing and took good care of your mum in the end 🧡💛 sending our best wishes to you and your family 💚💚
Hi ladies, when my mum was in a coma, passing of lung cancer, she lunged forward and purged this awful bright green stuff, it was awful I was so frightened, do you know what would have caused this, god bless everyone ❤
Hi, so very sorry to hear this 😔 Yes it would have been a build up of bile and other fluids from the stomach, it often happens when a person dies with lung issues. Hope you are doing ok sending big hugs 🤗❤️❤️
Yes we agree, I definitely do not use the plastic plug. It's not often I have to do this procedure with the cotton so most people won't have this done. Thank you for your kind words 🙏 take care 😊💚
Hi, thanks for you comments. Yes I say that to cotton is the preferred way I do it if ever needed. However it's not a process that's needed often. Take care 😊💚
Hi, I am a mortician and Embalmer and we do not perform autopsy. A medical pathologist (doctor) are the people that do autopsies, I received them into care at the funeral home after this medical procedure has been done and the doctor has done all the reports. Sorry I cannot answer your question ❤️❤️
Hi, like I say in the video it's very rear we need to do this process. Infact I can remember the last time I did it. But it's also part of the preparation, it needed for a cremation. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
Hi, tampon are not a usually pice of equipment used in a mortuary. I definitely prefer soft cotton and cream. But it's very rear we need to do this. The internal organs are only removed at autopsy. I work in a funeral home and I am not a pathologist that would perform this procedure. Thank you for your question 😊💚
Question, What happens if you go to embalm and dress a body for a viewing and find out though medical records hidden from the family or hidden surgeries or tattoos that the person was transgender? Do you still present the body as the gender that the family thinks they are or what the person was trying to achieve before death? Would love to know more about how fellow LGBTQ+ are treated after death. Thanks again for these great educational videos
Hi Cas, thank you ☺️ I have looked after many transgender people and as always treat with respect and care for each person equally. When preparing a body for the funeral I can only go on instructions and clothes given to me by the family. And to be honest the family usually respect the wishes of they deceased loved ones. Thank you for your question. Take care 😊💚
Also you could find someone's had a surgery, but the family is asking the person to be presented as their biological sex, and that might not because the family doesn't approve of the person transitioning, rather that the person has detransitioned after having surgery.
Hi, sure it would but it's not a product I have in the mortuary. If I do need to do this (it's very rear I need to do this) cotton is by far the best as it's softer and more manageable. Thank you for your question take care 💚
I really love how respectful she is when speaking of these things. She still honors the dignity of the person even after they're deceased by not being crass. Well done.
Hi, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚💚
I wish all morticians were this humane and respectful.
Thank you for your very kind words 🤗 💚.
I do hope they are 🙏 xx
@@AreyoudyingtoknowI really hope so .
Accidents happen, dead or alive. Thank you for making this topic comfortable.
Hi Tania, thank you for your comments, take care 💚💚
I love how you respect the deceased person’s dignity. Thank you
Thank you for your kind words 🙏❤️❤️
It takes a very special person to do this work
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As an EMT who has seen what dead bodies can leave behind
I always wondered how you stop the natural occurrence of the purge. Thank you for the sensitive topics video :)
Hi, thank you for your kind words 🙏💚💚
I am starting my new job as an assistant mortician in two days time and finding your channel has been invaluable! Thank you
Hi Mandy, that is so exciting 😁 let us know how you go. Take care 😊💚
Good luck in your new job 🤗
Ul never be made redundant haha 😂 Good Luck in ur new job !
@@Areyoudyingtoknow I’m
Update on how the jobs going
Trish’s face when you were talking about the “butt screw”!! 😂
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I am 43 and have to wear nappies aka adult diapers here in the US. I have radiation enteritis from cancer treatments as a child in the '80's. So it won't be embarrassing when I die as I have had to use diapers for 35 year's. I Love Your channel, it is refreshing and helps me still cope with the loss of My Mom & Dad just a month apart. (It has been 7 year's ago, but feels like Yesterday). I am disabled and alone.
Hello ❤️ beautiful. We are happy that you are doing ok and have found some interest in our channel.😁 Thanks so much for reaching out.🙂
Very respectfully handled video ladies. Not the easiest of topics but informative. I remember watching a video by Kari the mortician about when plastic undergarments are used for deceased. Open coffins and viewing times prior to funeral are unheard of where I live in Scotland, though Tracy many know if this happens elsewhere in the UK? I've had alot of health problems inc being as near to death, without dying, from heart failure, in my late 30s, and surviving. I've had therapy for various issues and therapist believes I have ptsd from the heart failure issue and I'm waiting for an appointment to get assessment for diagnosis confirmation. Due to this event and the experiences with my mental health since I've decided to plan/pay for my funeral incase if it happens again and I don't survive. My therapist and family all think this is a sensible idea. Do to many health issues since childhood I have always been more aware of my mortality and thought of my funeral plans etc. Seeing a channel like yours and others gives me information and has helped me make the right choices for me. Thank you. BTW I'm 43 yrs old now.
Oh Kim we both send you our best wishes and big hugs 🙏🙏💚💚 you have been through the mill and do young, stay positive lovely and seek out all that help you need 🙏 lots of people are moving to organising they own funeral these days and your right I think it's because we have more access to information like these and other video on what goes on, knowledge is power right 👍
We send you all our best and hope you take good care of yourself and have lots of support around you 💚💚
I LOVE Tracy's Britishness, it really is a thing for us, isn't it? Love you both xx
It sure is, Cazzie, cracks me up 🤣🤣you guys are adorable.
The skeleton in the back is horrified by what he's hearing 😂😂😂
Haha he usually is pretty bored by what we talk about - he's seen it all before!
Thanks for watching 🙂
Nice catch very funny
Hello ladies, I've just now found your channel and will subscribe. This is an interesting subject to me as my brother was a mortician and he loved his job! I miss discussing things with him (cancer took him in 2004). I'll be checking out the posts here. Thank you for such a sensitive discussion of this particular topic. Cheers
Hi Anne, thank you for joining us 💚
We are very sad to hear you lost your brother to cancer, so very sorry, sending you all our best and hope you are doing well 🙏 take good care 💚💚
Glad your brother loved his job but heck I can't understand how anyone can. Then again I'm squeamish at anything.
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It’s such a great thing that you’re doing keeping it real and educating us all on what happens. Thank You 🙏. Xx.
Thanks for your kindness. Lovely comment. 💜
Omg while I'm grieving my daughter.
I heard "Nappy" they are "diapers" here in the USA. Now I'm british living in the USA.
Great job girls, because this will and can happen to us all when we pass
So thankful to see the compassion for our loved ones, that we all fall fate to
Hi Again Elizabeth, we hope you are doing ok 🙏🥰
Yes it is diapers in the USA a few people from the USA messaged to ask what a nappy was, just totally for got that the team in the US, but like Briton here in Australia it's nappy.
Take good care 😚💚💚
Sorry for your loss.
Thank you girls, you have opened my eyes to finding out what happens when someone passes.
Thank you for watching take care 😊💚
At my brothers viewing I noticed a "pink" stain on the satin cloth near his left side of his neck in the casket..I was horrified. I immediately let the funeral director know because I didn't want any of the other guests to see this. He apologized profusely and proceeded to do something but I didn't see what he did..I was in tears. My brother died suddenly of a massive heart attack and this was all so shocking to all of us let along this. I had absolutely no clue as to what this could have been but now after watching these videos, I now know more. But how could this happen?
Hi Nancy, first please accept or deepest condolences on the loss of your brother 🙏 we send you our Very best 💚
This was possibly some fluid that escape from his ear, sometimes even after great care on the preparation of a body fluid can be trapped deep inside the ear canal and move out when the body is placed into the coffin/casket and when moved from the hearse to the place of service. Sorry you had to see that and the funeral director would be upset that this happened and totally accidental I am sure of it.
You take good care 😊💚 💚
When my husband suddenly passed away l went to the funeral home to cut his hair trim his beard and dress him I seen my husband from the side of his mouth dribbling pink like fluid and they did tell me it was embalming fluid and they needed to put more cotton in his mouth he began dribbling again from his mouth and nose at the viewing so put cotton as far as l could up his nose and in his mouth before anyone can see it we had my husbands viewing at home
Trace you are so empathetic. I Lov the fact that I can tell a lot of questions you are very honest about but it does seem as tho it is hard for you Kinda like you feel you are invading privacy. You treat every single person as if they were your best friend. Thank you for sharing. It is so educational as I am older and curious what will happen to me and again I know a lot of the conversations are hard for you but thank you. It really does answer the questions we don’t know who to or want to ask. I have so much respect for both of you. Thank you for the privacy you do try to show. Remember the questions are not about a certain person it’s just about “what if”. If that makes sense. Xoxo. You both are amazing. I Lov u channell.
Oh wow thank you so much 🙏
I love how you put that I will remember that when I answered questions in the future, thank you 🥰❤️❤️
Hi Tracey and Trish! I’m in my 8th month as an embalming intern. I’ve also never heard of the purse suture method for closure. Sounds like it would be difficult without a way to stabilize the lower extremities. I’m trying to picture myself trying to do that on my own and it’s not graceful! Thanks for the information, love your channel!
Hi Jeran, that's great hope it's all going well for you. The purse suture is very easy maybe I will film it on a piece of fruit in a video soon to to show you. Keep up the great work and let's us know how you are going 😊💚💚
Once again Tracey you are on target with your care of the deceased. I would think the risk of perforation is high utilizing plugs. Sadly, I have had patients begin a purge prior to death and it is very distressing to their loved ones. Education is so important at the end of life even if it is a potential.
Hi Diane, thank you 😙
Oh how hard that is for you in situation like that, we can only imagine the upset a family goes through when seeing that. But thank goodness for people like you to help and take care of the family in these time, that's a hard job 🙏 thank you for the work you do. Take good care 😊💚
Thank you Trish, That was a question i wanted to know about menstruation but did not really know how to ask lol,, Epic vid as always ladies, Thank you
Thank you 🥰 take care 😊💚
Looking at the 2 of you is so delightful! One would think a mortician...a stuffy, no expression, straight laced "man" with ice cold clammy hands and no sense of humor at all. You, my sweet Tracy, are a breath of fresh air❤...love your style...so down to earth...I could do lunch with you gals!!! Wish I could visit!!!
Hi Nancy, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏 if you are ever in Brisbane let's us know, take care 😊💚
Okay.... An answer to a question I never knew I needed to ask.
You're very respectful of the deceased.
Thanks girl's.
Thank you ❤️❤️
Oooh and so now I can withrdwam my question on where you guys are from :)
Very delicate, profesional and respectful approach, love it.
Good combo duo here.... one is very polite and one is very blunt 👌...very gently introduction to people wanting to learn or about to go mortuary college.... thank you 😊 wonderful questions and great answers answered respectful 🙏 👍
So nice of you, thank you 💚
Aaaaaarghhhh
(..apologies for my screams...I'd be horrified at the thought of that being done to me.😳 )
yes I agree.. it's important to know what options there are.. I'd never want that for me or my loved ones!
Hi Amanda, it doesn't happen often. Take care 😊💚
Love Tracy how you look after the dead you are a beautiful lady
Hi Briety, thank you so much 🙏 take care 😊💚
And this is what awaits us all 🤦🏻♀️. I’m glad that there are people who can do this job of taking care of the dead , special people . I certainly couldn’t ….
Hi, you know it's very rear this has to happen. Most of the bodies I do I don't need to do this process it's just the odd one or two. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
Hey ladies, how are you ? Aww such a delicate matter but handled with respect as always, thankyou tracey for going out of your comfort zone to talk about this, not somthing id ever thought of but of course it happens, i love how tracey handles these situations, using less invasive procedures, hope your both safe and well, take care xx :)
Hi Lucy, thank you 😙 yes we are both well and we hope you are too, take good care 😊💚
Hi ladies, im good thankyou, glad your both well too, take care, ps loving the more frequent uploads :) xx
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I'm sure Trish asks deliberate questions to make Tracy squirm😊 but it does add a lighthearted dimension to anotherwise distasteful subject.
I saw a post by Kari the USA based mortician where she showed the plastic screwin plugs I have to admit they do look brutal. But if course the 'recipient' is dead and would feel nothing.
Whatever is necessary to alllow family to say a final goodbye with no additional distress or trauma from unwanted leaks!
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Hi Steve, I refuse to use them plastic screws plugs I find them to invasive, soft cotton wool ☺️ thankfully it's very rare I need to do it. And yes Trish loves to ask me them questions 😜
Take care 😊💚💚
I wish you would be the lady taking care of me when I die. I'm a woman.
❤️😘 As I await 36 inches of snow , a blizzard, I’m quite anxious about maneuvering around Boston post storm, I see my favorite gals. Learning new things keeps this ole girl off the streets 🤦♀️🥶😂😘🌹🌹
Oh my goodness see you he news about the he snow in Boston 😳😱 stay safe if and when you go out and about 🥶🥶😘💚💚
I truly enjoy hearing your discussions. I wonder about these things so appreciate your willingness to share.
Glad you like them! Thank you 💚💚
Thank you so much for the explanation of this process. I've always wondered about this. Keep up the great work
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏 take good care 💚
Sometimes literally everything let's loose as you're doing post mortem care right after the person passes in the nursing home
Thank you for your information. And we are sure you still take good care of your residents at them very last moment of life 🌹 thank you for what you do, take care 💚
I'm from the UK but live in the US. I completed Mortuary Science School. In the US, funerals happen within a week, yet I've noticed in the UK that when someone dies, it literally takes WEEKS before they have a funeral. Even for a regular death. I would love to know why it takes so long to have the funeral...
Hi, I think it's to do with mainly red tape, trying to register the death as soon as possible because funeral homes can not do anything till this happens. The fact the UK has a population of over 65milllion on such a small island, lots of death and not enough funeral home to cover particularly times family want. Think it's a combination of lots of thing. I went back home to the UK just before COVID asy dad died 😞 and the dates some family members wanted were not available for 3 weeks so we just changed it and we could have the funeral 5 days after dad had died. So I think if your willing to take dates and times that are not popular you can have your service pretty quickly.
Thank you for your question and hope you love you job out in the USA ☺️💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow,plus in UK they tend to have only one crematorium per town.Here in the USA they have more as some funeral homes have their own.
I knew a mortician when I was a kid. I asked these questions. He pretty much said this. He also talked about plugs that get put in your holes.
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Thank you for explaining the process that's clearly a delicate matter to address xx Take care of your selves and stay safe 🙏 ❤
Hi Lorraine, thank you 🙏 you take care too 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow I'm wishing you all the best for your final exams that are pending Trish xx I know you will pass them with flying colours ❤ 🤞🤞xx
😘 thank you xx
I love the way Tracy says "bottom."
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@@Areyoudyingtoknow It's a cute accent! :P and I think the most respectful way to refer to...a person's bum in terms of (post-mortem) care! It's not graphically medical, very human.
Awww thank you so much so kind. Yes we try and keep it more relatable than given a lecture on anatomy of the body. We feel like we are just having a chat to our friends out in TH-cam world ☺️❤️
Great job guys! Thanks for sharing!
Hi Susan, thank you 😊💚
This is why I’m going straight to the crematorium lol ! No poking and aspirating my bum and other parts ! Also no funeral no hassle for family to come see me off ! Remember me the way I was happy 😃 ! Just my opinion! Peace ✌️
And peace to you too ✌️🤗💚💚
Im so happy i found your channel! You both are so awesome!
Yay! Thank you! Welcome 🤗💚💚
Love the respect of our loved ones .and very informative. Thank you.
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Ladies I love that I found you and your videos. I have always been fascinated with this stuff and so curious. Thank you for taking your time and sharing your knowledge with us. You’ve answered so many of my questions. I have a question for you. My husband passed away almost five years ago from liver disease. He was orange when he died. At his funeral he looked great. He wasn’t orange anymore. How did they get his color back to normal? Also when I put my hand on his stomach/ chest area there was a crinkly sound. The mortician said that when they drained his body of fluids he was very thin and so they put some padding on him. I thought that very strange but… what is your thoughts on this? Thank you again for informing all of us that are curious. I love you ladies!
Hello and glad you like the channel 🤗
So very sorry to hear you have lost your husband 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹
Sounds like your husband had severe jaundice, this is normal with a death due to liver problems. Jaundice colour can be a very light yellow to a dark orange. The only way I know how to clear the colour is through embalming (was your husband embalmed). Or maybe your husband was not embalmed and the mortician did only a cavity aspiration, this can clear colour a little bit not as good as embalming. As for the crinkly sound, that would have definitely been a hospital grade bluey covering torso, it may have had padding underneath but I would imagine it was also to protect and seal his cavity area from any fluid leakage. Because where we have jaundice there is nearly always oedema (similar to water retention ) oedema leads to skin slip (little tears to the skin, leading to fluid leakage) The mortician did exactly what we all mortician do wrap the body with blueys (these are absorbent pads) to protect the body of the deceased and the clothes and the family who will be viewing and touching. Blueys have the white absorbent pad on one side and on the other side, the one you could feel has a plastic backing this is a blue colour, hence the name it has 'Blueys' 😊
Sounds like your husband was well cared for. I do hope this helps you and you understand what I have written. Because I am dyslexic and have appalling grammar because of this.
We have done videos on the subject of the liver this will give the answer too.
Thank you for your question take care 🤗🩷💜
I absolutely love your channel. You are such a lovely lady, and do a wonderful job. Xxx😘💕💕
Hi Donna, Thank you so much for your kind words and support 🙏💚😘
Love yall, good idea of a vlog such as this
Thank you!! 🤗❤️❤️
I've never heard of this before. So interesting.
It's amazing what you find out 😉 thanks again x💚💚
Again informative sensitive and engaging.. I could tell Tracy was a little awkward with this as I know she doesn’t like poop.. neither do I 😂😂
🤣🤣 you know me we James 😉 thank you, take care 😊💚
I know of someone recently who was held for a month before burial. Also the funeral was open casket. I can’t imagine what the funeral home did to keep the person good until then, I figured they’d at least have odor ?
Hi, the person would have mostly likely been embalmed, this slows down decomposition long enough to stop any smells or break down of the body, so a viewing can take place. ❤️❤️
Thinking how embarrassing it would be leaking out of your bits but you will never no 😮
Hi why would it be embarrassing. Just think about a mortician as a carer like in a hospital or nursing home, we do the same take good care of the person and give them a nice wash and all clean again. Think because we are called Morticians people think of us differently when all we are doing is caring for people 💚
I have been called evil Nasty names but if I were a nurse or nursing home carer I would be treat so differently. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
I loved how she considered one option better than the others because it’s soft or fluffy. It does seem more kind . It shows her heart. Very kind. One question. There was no mention of how they would stop the leakage of a male. I assume the cotton wouldn’t work with the male anatomy.
Hi thank you for your kind words. Like I say in the video it very rear I need to use cotton but I always use a nappy or diaper (depends where in the world you are as to the term used🙂) this will catch any little leaks from the male area. Thank you for your question take care ❤️❤️
No i dont talk about bottoms or disgusting things. I just talk about decomposing bodies and leakage. All is good
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We use plastic under garment. Along with a A V plug.
I never knew you could do that ladies for the bottoms very clever
Thanks Natalie ☺️💚
I never want to be embalmed! Esp. with this information! But it is very good to know all the options.
Tracy ~ does it work the same to plug the male bits? (I.E. using some cream & cotton) Do you have to stretch out the tip to get the cotton in? Just wondering.
Trish ~ Love your hair! So bright! 🌞
Hi Tee Bee, thank you 😙
Only the bottoms on male's. Hope you are well, take care 😊💚
Yipes, thank you for the education.
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Mine leaks and I'm not even dead yet! (Colostomy last Saturday).
Oh, that must be tough for you Jonathan, but it seems you have a pretty robust sense of humor so that's gotta be a good thing. We hope you are doing ok. Sending love 💜
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you. Humor is a good way to help deal with such things, and there's evidence it also aids in healing processes. For me, it's made some pretty rough patches much more bearable.
Love your positive attitude 💪 💚💚
Good day beautiful ladies. Have a wonderful weekend.
Hi George, and you too. Hope the weather has improved for you 🙏🥶 take care 😊💚
Hold up, so I don’t want my body interfered with whatsoever when I die, now I just thought I needed to say I don’t want to be embalmed or “hygienically cleaned”… stick a pad on me and a shroud and send me on my way…. But aspirating I now need to ensure that won’t be done either?
It's ok. You just need to make your wishes known to your family and if you don't trust them to be firm enough at the time of your death, find a funeral home you like, tell them and prepay and your wishes should be followed. 💜
These are things that I never thought to ask about. But she brings up a very good point. Kind of like using a cork. I’m never knew they used uneducated people to help prepare bodies. But it makes good sense. You’d think they’d use a silicone caulking in the ants vagina and other. She did an excellent job explaining.
Thank you ❤️❤️
Once the human body dies.... after that nothing matters. The soul lives on. Dust to dust...... the best is yet to come in the next eternal life. No complicated leakage etc.....
Hi, yes I am only left with the vehicle that carried us throughout our lives 💚 buts it's a special vehicle to take care of even when empty. Thank you for your comments take care 💚💚
I would love to see you do a live prep once.. But I'm sure that's not allowed. :-)
Hi Liv, no plans for that. We would need permission from families to do this.
Take care 😊💚
Are most of the people u prepare embalmed or unembalmed?
Im wondering if leakage is worse when unembalmed? Thanks for
the video! I learned something new 😁
Hi Kim, most are un-embalmed. Leakages does not happen on every body. Leakages (if there is any) will be presented before a body is prepared either for a normal prep or prepping to embalm. But sometimes embalming can bring on leaking (purging from the mouth or bottom) but would be cleared with aspirating after the embalm is complete. Hope that made sense 😳 take care 😊💚
I wish someone like you looked after my baby niece cos there was black green stuff running out her little nose I’ll never forget that sight 😢
Oh no so very sorry to hear 😔 wish I could have helped 🙏 take good care ❤️❤️
Sorry ladies another question, as I'm in the UK I don't really know how things are done here, I would hate that plastic plug up me, so how would I approach the situation for my family in regards to my prep when I die. As you say its a very difficult subject let alone speaking to my daughter about it.
Hi Lorraine, You can just say you would like the leased invasive procedure done but I just wanted to say it's does not happen often when bottoms need this and not all funeral home have or use the AV plastic plugs. Hope that helps, take care 😊💚
I subbed to your channel
this is interesting to know
what goes on behind the scenes
thanks for sharing your videos.
Thanks for joining us 😁
Now I know what the Trocar can not clean all the organs completely now that's embalming 1 01 thanks ladies.
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Very interesting video. Lots of information.
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Man i dont want to die
Neither do we but unfortunately we have to. You do know that you can request no procedure to take place in the mortuary after your death. I have lots of people that have instructions not to touch the body at all in any way just place straight into the coffin or casket and I will always honour this request. Take care 💚
But if a body leaks, doesn't it smell? What if it happens during a viewing, wouldn't people smell it?
Hi this is why we care and prepare the body before viewing, once we have cared for the body it won't leak or sell. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
I'm a Canadian funeral director. I'd lose my license if I made a video like this. Funeral directors in Ontario Canada are treated bad. Funeral homes are somehow exempt from WSIB
Hi, thats not very good why on earth would you guys be treat bad that's sad. Thank you for your comments, my employer is very supportive, take care 💚
Having lost .....this is most interesting..thank you
Thank you 🙏 take good care 💚💚
Thank you, you actually answered a question that I have been curious about. Very informative.
Glad it was helpful! 😊💚💚
Good morning ladies iv been watching your play lists all night and loved every video you have done so far :) Please tell kal its all most Halloween and we hope he's fighting fit to scare some kids :) what diet is kal on cos he looks much healthier than me :)
Oh wow 😳 that's a lot of video to get through. Amazing and thank you so much 🙏
🤣☠️ Kal never reveals his healthy eating habits to us 😜
Have a lovely weekend 🤗💚💚
6.26 the facial expressions of the woman on the left 😂😂😂yeah echoes how most of us are feeling at the prospect of a large pair of tweezers full of cotton wool being plunged up one's jaxi! Lol
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@@Areyoudyingtoknow Hehe ..I have Crohns disease..I might try out your technique next time I have a flare up 😂😂😂..x
I'm watching this while I'm about to sleep in the truck. Parked at a gas station in the middle of Germany. Am I wacky? 😁
Yes you are! 😉 Stay safe on your journey 🚛 ☺️❤️
Another reason I’ll choose cremation.
Hi there, unless you specify you don't want this, it may still happen regardless of if you are cremated or buried. It's about keeping the body sanitary for a viewing or funeral.
Some morticians use plastic plugs. I choose a gentler approach. 💜Thanks for watching.
Also i have a question about the ✨physics✨of it. Ive seen a few autopsies before, but havent really seen the purge part. I have a hard time imagining #2 just coming out non stop, because poo usually takes some effort to get out when ur alive, like it wont come out if you simply relax 😅 so how? Does it like... Liquify? Or does the other fluid like blood and gas build up so much pressure that it pushes out? Like a death laxative?
Hi, when a body is autopsied the organs are removed, this includes the intestine where most of the faces is stored and it won't come our unless it's squeezed out and that doesn't happen during autopsy. We have done a video on the viscera this explains everything. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Can you do any chores helpiung to prepare a body for funeral without any special school, i.e. as a side job , or do you need a specific course for this? Of course the entire embalming procedure surely requires much knowledge so a school is required, but , I don't know , as assistant or help or something? Surely it differs between the countries, bu - what is your approach? Or is it like a one-person job, so the skilled pro does not use any helpers?
We will answer this in an upcoming vid. Great question!!
I never knew all that. Interesting. Thank you for all that information..♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for your kind words 🙏💚💚
Do menstrual hormones/where a person was in their cycle when they died have any effect on how well a body 'takes' the embalming fluid?
Hi, makes no difference at all. We would never know if someone was in the middle of there cycle. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Great question Trish I was wondering about if women continue to have a period after death. Enjoy you all's channel.
Hi Patricia, thank you for your support and kind words, take care 😊💚
Is this done on every body? The diaper?
Yes I place a adult nappy or diaper on everyone just incase any leaks may happen. Take care 😊💚
Weird question, but you guys are just so open!
Do you take out a tampon or diva cup??
Hi Kristi, I would remove a tampon if I noticed one was present but would not go looking for one. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
having cared for a lot of aged and sick cats i've seen and smelled all the gunk that comes out of a deceased being.
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Hi Tracy been watching all your videos love them by the way, but I'm not clear on what aspirating means ? and see that long rode you showed. Can you clarify please thanks xx
Hi Lauraine, we have done videos on aspirating you may stumbled across that one sometime as I can't remember the one it was 😳 sorry. But basically the rod is a trocar a bit like the large needle cosmetic surgeon use to do liposuction (sucking out fat) the trocar removes excess gases and liquids from the cavity area.
Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
My butt cheeks clamped shut listening 2 this one 😂
🤣🤣 sorry Bobbie 😉💚
Here in the US they put on plastic pants apparently
Hi CCF, I also have plastic pants and sometimes use them, but you still need to stop and seal the leakage before you place plastic pants or a nappy (diaper) otherwise fluid would fill the plastic pants up and start to rot and decompose giving off a terrible smell.
Take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow wow! Since watching you guys I have learned so many questionable things about when my mother died. I helped dress her due to her religious preference (Mormon). She was on this very narrow wooden table. Very swollen. Plastic knee pants with nothing under because we put her “temple undergarments on her over those plastic pants. I noticed what I thought was a feminine order. It was very disturbing. She also had the leaky eye at her showing I mentioned before. These are things I always felt were “off”.
It sounds like the mortician was very inexperience or just cutting corners 😟 but it is good that you did the dressing and took good care of your mum in the end 🧡💛 sending our best wishes to you and your family 💚💚
Hi ladies, when my mum was in a coma, passing of lung cancer, she lunged forward and purged this awful bright green stuff, it was awful I was so frightened, do you know what would have caused this, god bless everyone ❤
Hi, so very sorry to hear this 😔
Yes it would have been a build up of bile and other fluids from the stomach, it often happens when a person dies with lung issues. Hope you are doing ok sending big hugs 🤗❤️❤️
@@Areyoudyingtoknow awww thank you sending love back from Wales Uk 😘
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Thank you for being so respectful, deffinatly would not like the plastic thing sounds very uhhhh😂😂😂😂
Yes we agree, I definitely do not use the plastic plug. It's not often I have to do this procedure with the cotton so most people won't have this done. Thank you for your kind words 🙏 take care 😊💚
They normally plug those areas with cotton wool,
Hi, thanks for you comments. Yes I say that to cotton is the preferred way I do it if ever needed. However it's not a process that's needed often. Take care 😊💚
Love the accent and nappy.
Yay, thank you! ❤️❤️
Very informative 👍🏼
Thank you 😊💚
Do you all use plastic undergarments? They do over here.. very informative video my friend's..
Hi David, thank you and yes I do use plastic undergarments when needed. Take care 😊💚
how would you do an autopsy on a patient that died with a J tube in their stomach . 11 year old patient
Hi, I am a mortician and Embalmer and we do not perform autopsy. A medical pathologist (doctor) are the people that do autopsies, I received them into care at the funeral home after this medical procedure has been done and the doctor has done all the reports. Sorry I cannot answer your question ❤️❤️
And that’s why I’m being cremated…..
Hi, like I say in the video it's very rear we need to do this process. Infact I can remember the last time I did it. But it's also part of the preparation, it needed for a cremation. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚
Re the comment made : do muscles still contract when one is deceased?
Not generally. It's like the face muscles going lax. The only pseudo contracting is when there is rigor but that doesnt last.
If they are embalmed will they continue to leak?
Hi, no this will stop after embalming. ❤️❤️
Wouldnt someting like a tampon work better with less worries ? I thought those organs were removed from most ....
Hi, tampon are not a usually pice of equipment used in a mortuary. I definitely prefer soft cotton and cream. But it's very rear we need to do this. The internal organs are only removed at autopsy. I work in a funeral home and I am not a pathologist that would perform this procedure. Thank you for your question 😊💚
Question, What happens if you go to embalm and dress a body for a viewing and find out though medical records hidden from the family or hidden surgeries or tattoos that the person was transgender? Do you still present the body as the gender that the family thinks they are or what the person was trying to achieve before death? Would love to know more about how fellow LGBTQ+ are treated after death. Thanks again for these great educational videos
Hi Cas, thank you ☺️
I have looked after many transgender people and as always treat with respect and care for each person equally. When preparing a body for the funeral I can only go on instructions and clothes given to me by the family. And to be honest the family usually respect the wishes of they deceased loved ones. Thank you for your question. Take care 😊💚
Also you could find someone's had a surgery, but the family is asking the person to be presented as their biological sex, and that might not because the family doesn't approve of the person transitioning, rather that the person has detransitioned after having surgery.
Would a tampon not do the job ??
Hi, sure it would but it's not a product I have in the mortuary. If I do need to do this (it's very rear I need to do this) cotton is by far the best as it's softer and more manageable. Thank you for your question take care 💚
I find it all very interesting... thank you
Your welcome 😊