Don’t let your SITUATIONSHIP keep you from your HUSBAND!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ก.พ. 2025
- Hi Beauties, Welcome Back! In today’s vlog, we’re diving into why staying in a situationship could be keeping you from the love and commitment you deserve. Are you ignoring red flags or wasting precious time? Let’s talk about how to recognize the signs, stop settling, and make space for the real relationship you’ve been waiting for. Don’t let your situationship stop you from meeting your husband! 💍
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The fact I just stepped out my situationship.! I’m taking myself seriously
Shay, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I appreciate you so much. A married woman always giving gems to singles… you’re so relatable even if we aren’t in the same season. A real girls, girl. Also, love this entire fit.❤
And yes to a series!
S/O to the accountability! We need to have these type of conversations more often amongst women🧡
We do!❤️
Actions speak louder than words period….. keep your head on a swivel at all times 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Keeping my standards high but still failing miserably with dating 🧡😭
Lmaoooooo same!!!!!! Its nasty out here
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You need to expand your dating pool to men who grew up seeing the standards you are looking for being practiced. There are communities where marriage & provider men are the norm. Date those men. You also need to be able to show that you hold yourself to high standard within your life and also from your looks and behavior. From a distance or at a glance can people see that your standards are high? Are you in spaces where men with high standards and good values would be?
I really needed to see this video, you did it just in time with my current situation. I’m tired of men not wanting to commit to me. I want to be married and loved so I’m going to set my standards and boundaries. Thank you for this sis! ❤
Heavy on the Self Awareness!! Heavy on the Discernment! I’ve learned to trust myself so much more in past 2yrs being single, it don’t take long to know if we’re not aligned. Love this 🧡🧡🧡
THIS!! I was so proud of myself (actually relieved) when I finally let go of my last situationship. It’s a blessing to be able to walk away boldly knowing what my standards are and just focus on myself as I prepare for what the future holds!! 🙌🏽🧡
This hit HOMEEEEE!! don’t let him block your blessings sis! #lessonlearned 🧡
Good morning, I prayed for clarity and understanding about my situationship about an hour ago. The next hour I opened YT and this video popped up which was posted an hour ago
YESSSSSSS!!!!!!! Sounds very familiar to me but I call it a "FLIRTATIONSHIP"!!!! And yes I was in one last year (for about 3 months). I finally decided to cut ties because he was not serious and I realize he was blocking my blessing. I have a bad habit of creating a fantasy idea image of the man that I am dating and that is who I fall in love with . . . the fantasy. SMH.
GIRLLL… you did it with this one! What are the steps to take to leave a situationship?! I been praying about it and soon as I was about to allow myself to just go ahead be with him. The Lord showed me why I shouldn’t. Now I wanna leave but it’s hard. I’ve been back and forth for 6years 🙃 I’m embarrassed to say that
You're not alone
I was in one for almost 3 years and cut it off. I fasted for a week and after that, God connected me with my better half the following week. Soon to be fiancé this year. So in a nutshell, you will just know when it is time to cut ties. I knew my worth and knew all the things that I desired in a husband and he did not fit the bill at all. For example, I desired a man with intention and that guy wasn’t intentional at all. After that realization amongst other things..I was out! Love does not cause confusion. If it is confusing rather than clear..LEAVE! You deserve your king and he is blocking that.
Awesome, awesome, awesome video! Thank you! Please do a video on walking away, waiting, what you did in your singleness, how you prepared for marriage and how you KEEP your marriage strong. I am intentional about being married so it’ll be nice to hear from experienced wives ❤
Oooh sis this one hit home. I was in a four year relationship am prayed to God for answers because this man made it clear I wasn’t going to be his wife. Letting go was the answer (wasn’t easy) but God letting go of your boyfriend to make room for my future husband. Only God knew.
this spoke to my situation so bad !!! thank you so much for being obedient in sharing your advice ! it definitely gave big sis 🥹🫶🏽
Self- awareness is sooo important when it come to relationships. A lot of people lack self awareness. 🧡
You set the captives free with this one! It’s about having faith and trusting that God has someone out here for you and not operating in scarcity and desperation. That’s a dangerous place to be in because you will hold on to just about anything. 🧡
You betta preach! Self awareness will check you EVERYTIME‼️As soon as I peep it ain't what I'm what I'm out. Any relationship. Friends and family too‼️Thank you for this🧡
Listen... the way I'm waiting on GOD right now and sipping my coffee. I'm staying focused and paying attention. 🧡🧡🧡
As a married woman, I think you hit the nail right on the head. 🧡 A lot of my friends call me for advice, I’m just going to send them this link like “ watch this “
Agreed! What is disheartening though is that there are plenty of us who have high standards, know our worth, & set boundaries. A lot of us are open to dating & trying to get to know people, but the men “appear” to want the same thing & express such, but do the complete opposite. When that happens, disappointment happens especially when it’s continuous in practice which leaves us feeling heartbroken, mad, & defeated which leads to wanting to give up and/or resentment 🧡
This!
Stop telling men what you want or are looking for right away. Let him show/tell you what he wants before you reveal your hand. Men are just telling you what you want to hear to get in your pants. But a man’s life & behavior shows you what he’s actually about. Keep him guessing long enough about what your intentions are and he’ll slip up and be honest about what his are. I’ve had this happen in practice many times. Stop letting men sell you dreams and actually look at his lifestyle and actions before getting invested. If he actually wanted to be a husband you’d be able to see that.
Whew!! So real! Left my situationship in 2019. Spent a few years single & working on me. 2022 the love of my life made her appearance. ✨🧡
Letting go is always easier said than done 🧡🧡
This video was so real! I love how we are all trying to be more intentional. We are here for a short time not a long time and we have to be happy and control things we can🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
I needed this video!!!!!
God knew I needed to hear this
Listen to their words but watch their actions ! Love this video 🧡
Discernment, alignment, equally yoked!! Yessss
These conversations are necessary and very empowering for women in limbo of what they truly deserve 🧡🧡🧡🧡
This was right on time! I just ended a situationship. After a year with no clear intentions enough was enough. Thank you for these videos.❤️
Uffff you hit the nail on the head!!!! Accountability!!! Being more self aware!!! 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Knowing your worth and having self awareness is key!!!!! 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
You hit everything on the mark baby!!!! I say this all the time. Y’all have to be in alignment. Moving towards a common or similar vision. You cannot trick yourself into thinking someone will eventually get there if they are telling you straight up what it is. DELUSION. You let them know up front what you are looking for and vise versa. If it matches then go ahead. Now there will have to be some compromise! Once you know what you want it’s so easy based on conversation to not get too far. Intuition always lets you know what’s up but we ignore it for potential.
Heard and felt sis! Don’t let the situationship block your blessings! 🧡🧡🧡
Yes!! I love the piece on discernment…have standards but not unattainable standards. Yes I’d love to continue these mini series/ talking about these areas. 🧡
I love how you effortlessly drop gems and let the gworls know accountability is so important when it comes to relationships bc the ladies really need to hear it. No matter what the relationship status is, it def is all in your power if someone is going to play in your face or take you serious. So well said.🧡🧡🧡
OMG! SIS! You hit the nail on the head with this one! This was right on time! You spoke directly to me! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! ❤️
So many gems dropped! I’m taking a break from dating for a minute but my mindset is definitely shifting 🧡🧡🧡
These are the type of conversation we have to have as women! 🧡
Getting aligned on finances prior to marriage is SO needed & it’s not talked about often. We didn’t have enough convos prior to marriage so we are navigating that throughout marriage. Great advice!! 🎉
Thank you for keeping us accountable, Shay. These types of conversations are so necessary. 🧡
Something i have learned throughout my dating journey. Especially with my child’s father i poured so much in that relationship and nothing in myself. I’m not married yet but my current partner may be the person… but yet i don’t allow myself to settle if he’s not fully ready to marry..im ready doh and im continuously pouring into myself 🧡🧡🧡
🧡 Your Ted Talk was 🔥🔥👏🏾 As a married woman you gave me insight on how to give better advice to my single friends!
I loved hearing this because I have a few friends that I want to share some of these gems with. As the married woman in the group I always want to be encouraging and I like you analysis! 🧡
I will be dating deliciously starting now! 🧡 Not compromising my standards or anything or anyone. Thanks for keeping us empowered Shay!
We have the power. That's a word in so many areas 🧡
This is sooooo good! These situationships are crazy! 🧡🧡
Preach Sis!!! A lot of women needed this 🧡🧡🧡
Shay not you coming for us but we need it 😅 whew she said forget the clothes, let me get them all the way together first for 2025! 🎉thank you
You hit everything! Don’t let him know any of your blessings 🧡
Gems On top of Gemss! I'm sending this video to all my friends who need to hear this! ITS A BLESSING to have watched you and Jeremiah to now, like God discernment is realllly all over y'all whole life! i APPRECIATE y'all for every video y'all
Post, every update every gem! Looking forward to y'all both being full time content creators and God continue to bless you while Gigi sit back and live the best life ever!!
Shay honestly you are absolutely right I just allowed a man to be a man smh it took me awhile but I deserved more !! Your advice is truly appreciated ❤❤❤. Love you girl!! My sag sis in my head
Sis you always speaking life. Im one of the ones in your inbox!!
Thank you for all the gems per usual. 🧡🧡🧡
🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡 I love this video and definitely feel like I need to know more because it’s definitely hard out here…. Men are getting more creative with wasting time knowing they are not going to marry you but making progress to keep you in the mean time.
The message hit per usual but the look was everything!!!! 🧡
This vlog hit!!!! This used to be me many moons ago but thank God I snapped out of it and got my life together 🧡
Accountability is key! 🙌🏽I so needed to hear this! 🧡
YOU PREACHHHHHHHHED ON THIS SHAY 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
God is faithful... when focusing on yourself, the trajectory of your changes. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Thank God for delivering me from thst season and realizing my worth!!!
🧡 This was a very good blog. Very passionate & informative with just the right “big auntie “ feel. Continued Blessings 🙏💜
You are just a walking and talking gem dropper! 💎🙌🏾🧡🧡
This was all good advice and yes like you said don’t let the drama free situation ship fool you into thinking that it’s good enough. 2025 is the year I’m not wasting anymore of my precious time and getting what I deserve in this life. No more wasting time!!!!
100%. You have to be aligned. Married for 26 years to my best friend!🙌🏾🧡
This!! Cuz I’m standing on BUSINESS. Periodt. 🧡
Thankyou.
I’m new here and loving it❤.
Love this message! Set your standards and stick with them‼️🧡
Love the chit chats! I would love to hear more marriage advice for us ladies that are newly happily married!!
You better preach Shay! I’m married, and I approve this message 🧡
Thank you for this! I’m so glad I left my situationship! 🧡🧡
I love the process and the way God will lead you to the exact podcast man you got me together
Millennial here. All of this resonated with me! 💯 I do not waste my time dating at this big ol age and I am NOT bending the knee to non negotiables. What’s the point of wasting each others time and building bonds that will take even longer to move on from when it doesn’t work out? 🧡✌🏾
I am tired, so I am on a time-out right now.I am praying that God send me my person. Yes, do a video on what you did attractive your husband. Thank you for the video.
Yes to Alignment!!! 🧡🧡🧡
I’ve just accepted it’s not my time. Because it shouldn’t be this hard when liked minded people with similar goals meet! 🧡
Ooooooooopppppp! Preach to us and teach us Shay! 🧡💁🏽♀️
Thank you for dropping the gems for us single women losing the faith out here in these ghetto streets! Time and time again, you give us hope to keep waiting on Christ. 🧡
This was such a blessing to me and so reassuring to wait on God ❤💯
Thank you sis for sharing your insight on obtaining a healthy and prosperous relationship🧡
I’m not a fan of dating videos but girl this was good👏🏽👏🏽keep em coming!
I love this talk about dating! We deserve to be “Numero Uno” ✨🧡✨
Some classy mentor dating talks with tips would be greatly appreciated✨🥰✨ I would definitely check out that type of series on your channel. Fellow 89er here & I need these type reminders.
Much Gratitude ✨🧡🧡🧡✨
Conversations women need to have more often 🧡
Loved this so much!! Set the boundaries now girlies 🤍
Intentionality is the goal 🧡
All good stuff sis ! It’s tight but it’s right. If we’re honest, none of us want any of the foolery. We just have to up our standards & set boundaries. 🧡
Omg Shay, definitely needed the reminder to stay aware and find alignment! I’m not in a situationship but these key notes are needed in the next chapter of my life! 🧡
Great advice 🧡 btw I jumped on the gray piece as soon as you said it was back in stock. I’ve been wanting it since I first saw you in it
Thank you for this cause this hit home for me . Thank you cause I was having a hard time letting it go even when I know it’s not going a damn place . ❤
I throughly enjoyed this!!! Even though I am married lol but this can go for friendships as well 🧡🧡
Your information is always so informative. I thank you for bringing gi g me back to loving myself. 🧡
Gems were dropped 🙌🏼🙌🏼🧡🧡
Gems dropped for sure!! 🧡🧡
Our lives are to be taken Seriously as we only have limited time 🧡🧡
Thank you! Pulling out my sharpie! Wish I had this pep talk in my 20’s…but God is always on time.🧡
This hurt but in the way that I needed 🧡
😮💨 Not you reading us for filth in the first 20 seconds! Absolutely timely message! Thank you! 🧡🧡🧡
Thank you for this sis and here are my fav color 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Yes, do a series!
Great conversation as it relates to what I might be facing right now. New subscriber 🧡
Just watched another video on relationships on the school of life channel
Really loving this promotion of good healthy relationships
Thanks for this video❤Just shared it with my cousins
Okayyyy dropping some great advice!!! 🧡