I know how I left my abusive relationship. I waited till he was in the bathroom and dipped out I didn't bother taking any of my stuff just grabbed my phone and left without nothing but the clothing on my back I was happy starting over😊🎉 single life is great
There are men who will try to hurt and destroy you for no reason. I have dealt with guys like this. You can be good to them and never cheat on them etc., and they will treat you badly and cheat on you. I was with this one guy and we had been living together. One morning I was fixing my lunch to take to work and he comes in the kitchen and says don't take any lunch today. I will bring you lunch and we can have lunch together. I was thinking to myself just make your lunch and take it just in case. I started to and he insisted he would bring me lunch. So reluctantly I didn't take it. He never showed up with any lunch and I went all day with nothing to eat. I got home that afternoon and asked him why he didn't show up. He said he forgot. He never apologized and he just acted like he could have cared less. He didn't forget. He would pick fights for no reason. He would put me down. If a man starts putting you down he is getting ready to leave you and he is likely cheating on you. He did a lot of really cruel things like that. Real slime ball. He ended up running off and leaving me for a married woman. I was so glad he left. The first time a man disrespects you like this he is not in love with you..run. Always have a backup plan ladies 👍
Please don't leave the abuser while he is there. Plan, plan, plan. Save money. You may have to go to a women's shelter and leave all your belongings. Remember you can get material things back but not your life. Start keeping a diary of each incident that happens, hide it or keep it at work. Save money and delete right away any text that has to do with your escape.
This is life saving advise and I wish I had realized earlier what he was up to before he cleaned everything out of our lifetime savings etc then bolted. He actually expected me to stay behind and hold down the fort and when it became obvious I was moving out as well he became very dangerous. Don't ignore the red flags ladies even if you were raised to. They will potentially save your life!
I watched a video a few days ago I think it was posted by Shar Henley or BurbnBougie in response to a Reddit post about a woman who freed herself from an abuser. She moved her clothing in a laptop bag for weeks and replaced them with clothes she bought from a secondhand store, saved up money and left her old phone behind before she finally left. That level of planning is just astonishing and I’m so happy for her
@@debralondon2402 Thats it! Thats why many get so upset..when a female wants to bounce. When my ex started getting shady...out till all hours...etc ....i stopped doing his laundry. This was yr one...and when he halfway straightened up...for the next 15 yrs...i still was not doing his laundry. I cooked if I felt like it..etc. I finally had enough...once I realized exsisting like roommates was not for me. The discard had happened long before this. I was given just enough breadcrumbs...to allow the nonsense to last that long. Ladies try not to waste time like that..TIME cannot be replaced....
I didn't know about boundaries when I was young. I'm married over 40 years. Early in my marriage my husband woke me up to make him something to eat after 11 PM. I made a boundary. Don't ask me to fix you food after 11. If your hungry at night fix your own food. New things come up. I definitely developed boundaries as we went. Still do.
I absolutely cannot believe that he woke you up do you have a make you food which is absolutely ridiculous It sounds like you need a lot of boundaries and that marriage. That’s just common sense to not wake me up for a stupid reason like that
That switch up game is fierce. The relationship always starts out great and then crashes and burns. Men always prioritize their own needs and put themselves first and I will be doing the same.
Sounds lovely. Watch Faye’s video on never go Dutch with a man. Never pay for him, make sure he always pays. Is this the equality I keep hearing about these days. Men don’t want an entitled spoiled brat.
stop having all these babies, letting these ninjas move in YOUR home , driving your car with NO jobs and no committment !! when they show you the first time they cant be faithful, or they are physically or emotionally abusive RUN!!
Once a cheater always a cheater.... They don't get somebody better they get somebody that DOESN'T KNOW ANY BETTER. So don't get down on yourself 💕 it's them not you. Rejection is a blessing.
LYING is my LEAST tolerated behaivior: I don't care if you are just a casual acquaintance, if I catch you in a lie or some other deception, you are DONE.
To the lady in an abusive relationship check to see if there are shelters in your city for this type of problem. There usually are. Call them when u are alone & it's safe. They set up a safe time & place to meet u & ur children. They pick u up & take u to the shelter where u are safe & with other women in same situation. They provide counseling. They find u a place to live & help u get back on ur feet. Don't delay. Best wishes.
Growing up my grandmother always said to have your own money and to be independent which was the opposite of what she was, so I didn't understand but now I do. She would say those men are just out there to try to slow you down. That was back in the seventies and nothing has changed and there's nothing new Under the Sun. That last letter made my stomach turn at the thought that her mother was living with her and she wasn't listening to her mother. My mother kept me out of a lot of hot water and dodging a lot of toxic men. Listen to your mother and listen to Miss Faye and you will be way ahead of the games men play.
Hello: I thought the same thing. Did her mother try to talk to her and did a sister/friend etc? She was so much in love, I think that nothing could have stopped her. Loves takes over some of us and we lose our "what if" thinking of caution, etc. The job and home were secure (mostly), and any relationship is always uncertain. I will continue to pray for her, AND she will get out of this, Dear Lord.
I definitely had to leave an abusive partner after finding out he cheated. He tried to hurt me, so I got a restraining order, moved, and got a new car. It was alot; however, I think its best to not tell them what your plans are when leaving.
right, it's best to just leave and don't say anything, when he leaves for work, it's time to pack up and get out of there. If possible, move to another state.
There are certain behaviors that are expected. Like your employer doesn't need to tell you to show up for work clean and sober. I get making your boundaries clear from the beginning, but if respect is something you have to ask for. The person you're dealing with is not worth it.
Many if not most young women don't feel the courage to set boundaries and goes by assumptions bcuz that's easier to do. To proceed with unspoken expectancies. And as you said Miss Faye, fear of the man walking away. Not realizing yet that that's what you want. For him to walk away if he doesn't respect you and your boundaries. To weed them out. The immature males. And when women do try to set boundaries, a man is looking at her emotions. If she feels uncomfortable saying it. Saying it apologetically instead of straightforwardly. Her nervousness while she's talking. He'll take that into account and assume that he can ignore what she's saying, bcuz she's unassertive and controllable. That all he has to do is reveal his bad attitude to her or temper and he'll have her like putty in his hand and walking and talking on eggshells around him. He's looking for fear and weakness in her and nothing else. Which is how immature males, whether young or old operates, bcuz they're not ready to be with a woman. And not ready to be an adult either. But they do have a d*ck, feelings of lust, and want gratification and an ongoing supply of it. Which isn't a real relationship by any definition of the word real. So, when setting your boundaries ladies, always be assertive with confidence radiating from you. No worries about his feelings, fear or apologies. Just say it and mean it. And if he refuses and walks away, so be it. Which is weeding them out. You want a grown man, not a boy in a man's body.
Also if.they ever tell you that they refuse to grow up....listen and tell em its been fun and run...no post card no see ya later no forwarding address no face book nothin....cuz they mean it. They aint being cute and silly.
Im so glad that I never ever dated a former neighbor whenever he asked me to. He didnt live with anybody as far as I knew. I found out he was married the whole time. He was paying her rent for a place an hour or so away. I saw red flags so I didn't go for it. He refers to his lovers as friends I found out. So glad I didn't fall for it. Hes a nice looking man but hes full of it. Also, he was bullying me and any man who showed me kindness outside. I also caught the joker trying to break into my residence and also caught him following me before parking way over in another building watching me Casually outside talking to a guy Id just met. Good thing I never went out with him
Hey I have experience it my ex wanted me to move back Texas no way I have apartment car good job he was broke mean I got away quickly I never looked back praise God ladies becarul who you let in your circle stay safe and strong blessings ❤️
Hi Miss Faye, I'm 61 tomorrow I love your channel, I divested almost 45 yrs ago because to me the male just required TOO MUCH WORK. I do alot of work with DM survivors and I use your points as well as The High Powered podcasts during my weekly groups, wanted to thank you for all the good advice❤❤😊
Some, many women are incapable of letting others be uncomfortable with them. How I finally overcame it? How would I want my own daughter/son be treated. Want nothing less than you want for others. A wise person told me, “Without some discomfort, those other people will never learn to grow and become better.” Be clear, kind, and done. I love your content, Ms. Faye! Thank you. ❤
I love you Miss Faye!! You are doing God's work for so many women who have been outwardly or silently abused and have no idea how or what resources are available to get out. In short my Ex kept moving us further away from all my family and good friends and he capitolized on the fact my mother had early onset dementia and started engaging in behaviors and dialogs to make me believe I was succumbing to it as well-theres too many examples to list here but I ended up seeing a Neurologist in Tucson at age 46 believing I was losing my mental faculties. After several tests and a long conversation she had her receptionist refer me to the local resources for Domestic Violence support and help. I sat in the parking lot afterwards trying to sort out how I had been so blind and stupid for over 23 years. It got very dangerous after that but I finally got out after losing almost everything but I escaped with my life and now a new purpose. Please keep reading these letters and giving your advice and love Miss Faye! There are so many that arent even sure they're in trouble and when they realize they are they're not sure where to look for help or start healing. God bless you 🙏 😊❤
To leave a dangerous or toxic man, you can call a domestic shelter to get good advice. It’s usually free and they can help you navigate and take exit steps. God bless you! Yes, never tell them your plans.
Hey Miss Faye, I’m ❤️ your content, we’re very similar in our spirituality. I like how you try to give wisdom to those that need it. Monogamy is a deal breaker for me too I’m not about playing games. 🌺💐🌻🌼😀
To the lady who is trying to get out of a toxic relationship. IT'S DEFINITELY NOT EASY! I don't know if this information is helpful to you or not but I left my husband in 2014 after he took me on a mental psychological and emotional roller coaster ride. After separating from him for a few months I allowed him to talk me into letting him move back in with me. He promised me things that he never intended on following through with. In 2016 my mother passed away and instead of him helping me cope with my pain and grief he inturn used this to his advantage (while I was in a vulnerable state in my life). That same year I mustered up enough strength to leave him again! Afterwards I went back and forth with him listening to his broken promises and lies until I finally decided to go NO CONTACT! For me that was the best thing that I could have done because it allowed me to heal a whole lot sooner! I said all that to say this....... If you really want to get out of a toxic relationship GO NO CONTACT ‼️‼️‼️ It will literally save your life ❣️🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Great podcast. One of the lessons I learned about men is they don't do friends with a woman if they fancy you. They may pretend they do, however, he has other things on his mind.
That is so interesting that we didn't really have "boundaries", I am in my 60s and I agree, we really didn't set up "rules" in terms of relationships back then
Miss Faye that last letter married to a narcissistic dog and she gave up everything she had for him ???? I think she has some level of fear to stand up against him!! The more I watched you the more you impressed me with your assertiveness when you need to be!! Men are a lot of headaches and work I love my solitude!! Before Covid I used to take my dog ran in the golf course near where I live!! One day a guy said hi to me from behind I didn’t know he was practicing his golf! He was very friendly and he didn’t take long to ask me to go out to dinner I declined I wasn’t available! He didn’t give up he would wait in the golf course he knew I ran my dog there daily and he asked me for my ph number I gave it to him and he shared his life stories full of red flags! He was married 3 times and twice to the same ex wife and have kids in college he texted me too much and one day he said I had great body and all the bs and he finally said I turned him on but again I appreciated the compliment but No was the answer! He had the audacity to say he wanted to sleep with me openly and verbally! I couldn’t believe what I heard I don’t play around with men and the best thing he was transferred to San Joaquin in central Calif!! I don’t trust men and now I don’t want any my life is where I want to be! I realize how some women are intimidated and scared of men and of course boundaries are critical in relationships! Everything always romantic and perfect and you live to love him !! You should live to love yourself first and honestly and be true to yourself are keys! It’s great to listen to you who has resources and experience and you teach women to say NO!! ❤❤
He wants to go......let him GO.........BYE🙋🏾 1) He can buy her out 2) She Can Put Renters In OR AirBInB It 3) You Do Not Have To Be Apart Of His Hell 🔥 My Thoughts 👍🏾
Sometimes boundries need to be set after being in a relationship and emotional boundries can change. But hard and fast boundries do need to be set in the beginning. She right about boundries.
Hi Miss Faye, I require monogamy with my mate too. Unfortunately, I have not come in contact with men who are monogamous. As a result, I have been abstinent for many years now by choice. Maybe there are men out there who are monogamous with their partners 🤔 but again I haven't been in a relationship with any who was. All of the men I know have cheated at some point if not on a regular basis. Even my father who was a great father, loving, protective, & a great provider, he was an easy going person, loved to make you laugh & crack jokes, & would wash his work clothes to protect us; for safety purposes, cook his breakfast, not treat my mom like she was his maid,etc. I loved both my mother & father. He & my mother were solid in their relationship; they provided me with a mature stable & loving home life. I never heard them being disrespectful towards each other & my father was good to my mother but he also had an outside relationship with another woman. He probably had multiple sexual relationships outside his marriage but none of them came to our home with any nonsense. My mother said she wasn't going to break up her home for some other women and she made it clear to me that she worked & helped to buy our home. But, I am not the same as she had been (thank God she had because I had a good childhood with them both) My x husbands to me were 10x times worse than my father. Both of my x husbands cheated but we didn't discuss boundaries beforehand but I would do so now if I ever found myself interested in another man. I am stronger at peace & was able to advance in life being alone withoutall of the drama. I prefer being alone only because if not all men certainly MOST men cheat & that will not do for me. I understand no one is perfect but I can't accept anything less than a monogamous relationship. It has been a deal breaker for me and Unfortunately I have been alone for many many years 💔 😔 😕 because of it.
Thanks again. Monogamous is at the top of my boundaries list. It is very important to set boundaries while getting to know someone know your worth! People 😊
Yes, teaching others the (tough/painful) lessons that she has endured. A God Send for so many women. Ms Faye may be spiritual but the Lord is blessing her for her giving/caring heart. 💓💞💕
🧡 that, Miss Faye-many women don’t feel as though they deserve monogamy because many men don’t offer monogamy. However, we still do have to be that “ 1 more” that commands it, or otherwise, be willing to keep moving past the nonsense & unsafety.💪
Good morning, Miss Faye, I appreciate your snippet on how to safely leave men, however, I would ask that you please devote a whole video to it. It is needed…Thank you so much.
That last letter that you shared, about a woman that sold her house and moved states for this man, narcissist. didn't she say that he was not divorced from his wife? Was he divorced before he married her? Because if he wasn't there cannot be a marriage. Maybe this is her way out.
At 28:00 minutes: Breaks my heart. Ms. Lady lost her beautiful home and good job by following the WRONG PERSOn. I will keep you in my prayers that everything will be better for you. It is wonderful that you still hve your mother and son who love you deeply. God Bless you and family.
Some people say there are at least seven types of boundaries. Are there more ? What boundaries do you need? 1) Physical Boundaries. ... 2) Sexual Boundaries. ... 3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries. ... 4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries. ... 5) Financial and Material Boundaries. ... 6) Time Boundaries. ... 7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries
I agree. No boundaries. You shouldn't tell or discuss your boundaries. Just date and see if he is the man who you like. If he is not what you want..then let him go.
Miss Faye, I didn't know about my boundaries until I realized I needed them with my ex, but I didn't know I would need them until I did. Once I set my boundaries hr walked. I'm ok with that, now I know to tell the next person at the beginning of the relationship.
I love your channel as it reminds me of how I’ve always was a ahead of my time when it comes to dating. I’m 33 and I’ve always gave my friends since we were in our twenties the same advice in nearly all your videos. I love you Miss Faye, you’re the Nana I never had 💖🥹💖
I've got to set way more boundaries. I used to date an abusive man but now I have noticed that even other people can be abusive even some church people. Now this next part is not on the dating subject but it's along the same lines about abuse. A woman from church emotionally abuses me. She wanted to be my friend. (Bullying and stuff like that) She started saying I had tiny crows feet around my eyes. The insults just progressed. Finally, another woman called her out on it saying she thought I was not a bad looking person like the woman keeps saying. Now the woman goes into this thing calling me a dumb blonde (After hugging me and talking) I'm done with her nonsense. I feel like telling her my boundaries is no emotional abuse. I'm so done with abuse. She also was freaking out saying she thinks her husband might Hot after me. I'm celibate and she's ridiculous I don't know why she doesn't just stay away from me if she's that jealous and ridiculous I try avoiding her but she keeps trying to come around me ignoring my casual hints by me just sitting further away. She does everybody this way. I don't understand if she has such a problem with my tiny crows feet etc why does she even come around me. I'm thinking what's best to do from this point, Abusers are everywhere. But I guess there's always a way out
Why are you entertaining those little comments anyway. And who cares about crows feet who cares about all that stuff it’s ridiculous. Be very direct with her tell her to stop that she’s annoying you that you do not want anything to do with her and then if she keeps bothering you talk to your pastor
No one taught me to have boundaries either- if anything I was taught not to have them. My family hated it when I discovered boundaries during therapy and began to develop a few I needed for my mental health. In the end it came to a parting of ways. They refused to allow me any boundaries at all no matter how I cajoled, kicked, screamed or fought.
I made the mistake of telling him and then we had to wait out a 3 month lease to expire. Big mistake! It was a living hell and he was more dangerous than ever. My saving grace was the affair he was having and that kept him away a lot of the time. That girl is my angel, lol. I would recommend not telling them!
I appreciate this video. It's very important to understand this because this topic is seldom discussed and people are taken advantage of because they fail to set boundaries
It's sad when you are interested in someone who is an alcoholic drinker and I just don't drink. In addition they smoke cigarettes and my health issues make it impossible to be around smokers.I use to back in the 1970's but choose not to anymore. I put this boundary on the table right away.
I love ❤️ your channel! True good advice. 👍 Know your worth! That's the most important thing I have ever learned. Specially when it comes to men. Setting boundaries are very important too. I tell my daughter that allll the time!
To the lady with the house and errant husband with his own apartment You need to visit a lawyer and find out where you stand asap. You might benefit by getting proof that he is with someone else as I am sure he is because that can counteract community property or at least decrease it. It may even get you alimony. If you can’t follow him or get proof yourself maybe a private detective or old friend could help you getting pics. Getting recording or text messages where he is saying that is your house can be worth gold when you hit court. Start gathering information/ evidence on him asap. Proof of what he owned vs what you had might also be helpful. Good luck and watch your back since he might get ugly once he figures out you’re not going to just roll over for him.
My boundaries arechaving an affair, bringing a child into the relationship, and i hate lies,must have a job , a and a place to stay,no sex period, and he must have something to lose
The story at the 30 minute mark reminds me of another blk woman who picked up and left everything to just be kicked out. She needed 1600 to get home. It was sad. As women we have no business coming with nothing. And for the love of God stop involving your children in these situations. They are children and can't choose or defend themselves if things go bad. They always assume the kids need to be fixed bc of what the moms are telling these strange men.
Well, well, well , speaking about boundaries, if funny how this one guy want me to do things with him and I asked him can I do it to him and of cause the answer is a big NO!, so I asked if I don't do what you want, does this mean you are free to go out and get it else where? things that make you go Mmmmm! as always loving your insight and wisdom. You go girl 💯💯💞💞
Hey beautiful lady how are y'all doing I am well watching replay love your channel and spirit purple 🟣 looks good on you congratulations on 66k great topics thanks for sharing blessings ❤️
Ms Faye I have advice for you don't get a new husband or whatever because you are in power and well the way you are. Don't forget all unsuccessful relationships you have had. 💗
it surprises me how women give their stuff away so easily. How did they make it so long and so far without giving it up and then all of a sudden hand it all over? I had many guys try to take my stuff and never gave in, so I still have my stuff years later. Hopefully I'll get even more stuff soon, guy or no guy.
If your stuck in an abusive relationships with your boundaries being violated jeft and right, People be careful. There's People around our town who know somehow how to unlock doors . I've had People unlocking my deadbolt lock even at night. Also, People can clone your texts and calls to get personal information about you and where you are. If your fleeing an abusive relationship just be aware. But, first check him out before you get involved. Check out his dating history if he abused any ex So boundaries are something narcissistic abusers don't like . So if he or she doesn't like boundaries, let that bitd fly elsewhere
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I know how I left my abusive relationship. I waited till he was in the bathroom and dipped out I didn't bother taking any of my stuff just grabbed my phone and left without nothing but the clothing on my back I was happy starting over😊🎉 single life is great
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I waited to when they were out and put my cat in the carrier and a good friend helped me by driving me to a safe place.
Wow ! That’s a bold move ❣️ go Keke 👑
There are men who will try to hurt and destroy you for no reason. I have dealt with guys like this. You can be good to them and never cheat on them etc., and they will treat you badly and cheat on you. I was with this one guy and we had been living together. One morning I was fixing my lunch to take to work and he comes in the kitchen and says don't take any lunch today. I will bring you lunch and we can have lunch together. I was thinking to myself just make your lunch and take it just in case. I started to and he insisted he would bring me lunch. So reluctantly I didn't take it. He never showed up with any lunch and I went all day with nothing to eat. I got home that afternoon and asked him why he didn't show up. He said he forgot. He never apologized and he just acted like he could have cared less. He didn't forget. He would pick fights for no reason. He would put me down. If a man starts putting you down he is getting ready to leave you and he is likely cheating on you. He did a lot of really cruel things like that. Real slime ball. He ended up running off and leaving me for a married woman. I was so glad he left. The first time a man disrespects you like this he is not in love with you..run. Always have a backup plan ladies 👍
Sorry, Laurie. Hope you're doing much better. The trash definitely took itself out.
@@fruitypopwhickle6806 ❤Thankyou I am.
Yep, I tell people to get out at the first mean spirited insult. It's a sign of contempt, and contempt is dangerous!
Please don't leave the abuser while he is there. Plan, plan, plan. Save money. You may have to go to a women's shelter and leave all your belongings. Remember you can get material things back but not your life. Start keeping a diary of each incident that happens, hide it or keep it at work. Save money and delete right away any text that has to do with your escape.
This is life saving advise and I wish I had realized earlier what he was up to before he cleaned everything out of our lifetime savings etc then bolted. He actually expected me to stay behind and hold down the fort and when it became obvious I was moving out as well he became very dangerous. Don't ignore the red flags ladies even if you were raised to. They will potentially save your life!
Escape exactly!! Sad a person you loved might kill you???? Wow. Losing their free subservient cook, housekeeper and laundress. Ha ha
I watched a video a few days ago I think it was posted by Shar Henley or BurbnBougie in response to a Reddit post about a woman who freed herself from an abuser. She moved her clothing in a laptop bag for weeks and replaced them with clothes she bought from a secondhand store, saved up money and left her old phone behind before she finally left. That level of planning is just astonishing and I’m so happy for her
Yes, you have to be very careful and smart that they don't find out.....because they can either stop you or harm you...
@@debralondon2402 Thats it! Thats why many get so upset..when a female wants to bounce. When my ex started getting shady...out till all hours...etc ....i stopped doing his laundry. This was yr one...and when he halfway straightened up...for the next 15 yrs...i still was not doing his laundry. I cooked if I felt like it..etc. I finally had enough...once I realized exsisting like roommates was not for me. The discard had happened long before this. I was given just enough breadcrumbs...to allow the nonsense to last that long. Ladies try not to waste time like that..TIME cannot be replaced....
I didn't know about boundaries when I was young. I'm married over 40 years. Early in my marriage my husband woke me up to make him something to eat after 11 PM. I made a boundary. Don't ask me to fix you food after 11. If your hungry at night fix your own food. New things come up. I definitely developed boundaries as we went. Still do.
I absolutely cannot believe that he woke you up do you have a make you food which is absolutely ridiculous It sounds like you need a lot of boundaries and that marriage. That’s just common sense to not wake me up for a stupid reason like that
@@Jane5720unfortunately, that might've been the way he was socialized/ what was common
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aka a more respectful hour. bc u ain't running no hotel w/24 hr restaurant service😌. nope🙅♀️! bye grown-boy.
@@Jane5720a lot of men think this way. They expect women to bend over backwards for them. It may not be about her.
@@SR77736 I wouldn’t last week with someone like that. I have no interest in serving anyone other than myself.
That switch up game is fierce. The relationship always starts out great and then crashes and burns. Men always prioritize their own needs and put themselves first and I will be doing the same.
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Would be fair to say that it is not just men
@@christinejolivette7886 I agree.
Sounds lovely.
Watch Faye’s video on never go Dutch with a man.
Never pay for him, make sure he always pays.
Is this the equality I keep hearing about these days.
Men don’t want an entitled spoiled brat.
Exactly. This channel is all about $hitting on men, and ladies take everything you can get from him, he’s bad ladies!
stop having all these babies, letting these ninjas move in YOUR home , driving your car with NO jobs and no committment !! when they show you the first time they cant be faithful, or they are physically or emotionally abusive RUN!!
Once a cheater always a cheater.... They don't get somebody better they get somebody that DOESN'T KNOW ANY BETTER. So don't get down on yourself 💕 it's them not you. Rejection is a blessing.
Cheating and lying are my deal breakers and this is said upfront and there is no coming back.
LYING is my LEAST tolerated behaivior: I don't care if you are just a casual acquaintance, if I catch you in a lie or some other deception, you are DONE.
To the lady in an abusive relationship check to see if there are shelters in your city for this type of problem. There usually are. Call them when u are alone & it's safe. They set up a safe time & place to meet u & ur children. They pick u up & take u to the shelter where u are safe & with other women in same situation. They provide counseling. They find u a place to live & help u get back on ur feet. Don't delay. Best wishes.
Growing up my grandmother always said to have your own money and to be independent which was the opposite of what she was, so I didn't understand but now I do. She would say those men are just out there to try to slow you down. That was back in the seventies and nothing has changed and there's nothing new Under the Sun. That last letter made my stomach turn at the thought that her mother was living with her and she wasn't listening to her mother. My mother kept me out of a lot of hot water and dodging a lot of toxic men. Listen to your mother and listen to Miss Faye and you will be way ahead of the games men play.
Hello: I thought the same thing. Did her mother try to talk to her and did a sister/friend etc? She was so much in love, I think that nothing could have stopped her. Loves takes over some of us and we lose our "what if" thinking of caution, etc. The job and home were secure (mostly), and any relationship is always uncertain. I will continue to pray for her, AND she will get out of this, Dear Lord.
I definitely had to leave an abusive partner after finding out he cheated. He tried to hurt me, so I got a restraining order, moved, and got a new car. It was alot; however, I think its best to not tell them what your plans are when leaving.
True i knew that from experience glad you got out sis ❤
right, it's best to just leave and don't say anything, when he leaves for work, it's time to pack up and get out of there. If possible, move to another state.
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Yes, setting boundaries and sticking to them is the best policy. Men do it all the time.
There are certain behaviors that are expected. Like your employer doesn't need to tell you to show up for work clean and sober.
I get making your boundaries clear from the beginning, but if respect is something you have to ask for. The person you're dealing with is not worth it.
Amen 🙏🏽
Yep
True
My HARD boundary is lying and dishonesty, which are typically coupled with some sort of manipulation, abuse or refusal to be accountable. HARD NO!
Many if not most young women don't feel the courage to set boundaries and goes by assumptions bcuz that's easier to do. To proceed with unspoken expectancies. And as you said Miss Faye, fear of the man walking away. Not realizing yet that that's what you want. For him to walk away if he doesn't respect you and your boundaries. To weed them out. The immature males.
And when women do try to set boundaries, a man is looking at her emotions. If she feels uncomfortable saying it. Saying it apologetically instead of straightforwardly. Her nervousness while she's talking. He'll take that into account and assume that he can ignore what she's saying, bcuz she's unassertive and controllable. That all he has to do is reveal his bad attitude to her or temper and he'll have her like putty in his hand and walking and talking on eggshells around him. He's looking for fear and weakness in her and nothing else.
Which is how immature males, whether young or old operates, bcuz they're not ready to be with a woman. And not ready to be an adult either. But they do have a d*ck, feelings of lust, and want gratification and an ongoing supply of it. Which isn't a real relationship by any definition of the word real. So, when setting your boundaries ladies, always be assertive with confidence radiating from you. No worries about his feelings, fear or apologies. Just say it and mean it. And if he refuses and walks away, so be it. Which is weeding them out. You want a grown man, not a boy in a man's body.
Also if.they ever tell you that they refuse to grow up....listen and tell em its been fun and run...no post card no see ya later no forwarding address no face book nothin....cuz they mean it. They aint being cute and silly.
Greetings all, thanks Miss Faye. Congrats on 66k & may you continue to walk in beauty. 🙏💃💕🌹💐
There's a book called " Learning to Leave" it was extremely helpful to help me plan my exit
Im so glad that I never ever dated a former neighbor whenever he asked me to.
He didnt live with anybody as far as I knew. I found out he was married the whole time.
He was paying her rent for a place an hour or so away.
I saw red flags so I didn't go for it. He refers to his lovers as friends I found out.
So glad I didn't fall for it. Hes a nice looking man but hes full of it.
Also, he was bullying me and any man who showed me kindness outside.
I also caught the joker trying to break into my residence and also caught him
following me before parking way over in another building watching me
Casually outside talking to a guy Id just met.
Good thing I never went out with him
Hey I have experience it my ex wanted me to move back Texas no way I have apartment car good job he was broke mean I got away quickly I never looked back praise God ladies becarul who you let in your circle stay safe and strong blessings ❤️
Become a foster parent no judge will take your home you are helping the community with peace and blessings.
Cheating for me is a deal breaker.
This message came right on time because my friend Narc started texting me again and I am not up to his B.S.😊
The fact that he’ll always be on some BS …. stay N🚫 Contact.
Sis,run, run, run!
Hi Miss Faye, I'm 61 tomorrow I love your channel, I divested almost 45 yrs ago because to me the male just required TOO MUCH WORK. I do alot of work with DM survivors and I use your points as well as The High Powered podcasts during my weekly groups, wanted to thank you for all the good advice❤❤😊
Some, many women are incapable of letting others be uncomfortable with them. How I finally overcame it? How would I want my own daughter/son be treated. Want nothing less than you want for others. A wise person told me, “Without some discomfort, those other people will never learn to grow and become better.” Be clear, kind, and done. I love your content, Ms. Faye! Thank you. ❤
Women tend to be taught that they need to be nice to folks which sets them up to be taken advantage of
@@meshamybelle , I agree with you.
I love you Miss Faye!! You are doing God's work for so many women who have been outwardly or silently abused and have no idea how or what resources are available to get out.
In short my Ex kept moving us further away from all my family and good friends and he capitolized on the fact my mother had early onset dementia and started engaging in behaviors and dialogs to make me believe I was succumbing to it as well-theres too many examples to list here but I ended up seeing a Neurologist in Tucson at age 46 believing I was losing my mental faculties. After several tests and a long conversation she had her receptionist refer me to the local resources for Domestic Violence support and help. I sat in the parking lot afterwards trying to sort out how I had been so blind and stupid for over 23 years. It got very dangerous after that but I finally got out after losing almost everything but I escaped with my life and now a new purpose.
Please keep reading these letters and giving your advice and love Miss Faye! There are so many that arent even sure they're in trouble and when they realize they are they're not sure where to look for help or start healing.
God bless you 🙏 😊❤
To leave a dangerous or toxic man, you can call a domestic shelter to get good advice. It’s usually free and they can help you navigate and take exit steps. God bless you! Yes, never tell them your plans.
Hey Miss Faye, I’m ❤️ your content, we’re very similar in our spirituality. I like how you try to give wisdom to those that need it. Monogamy is a deal breaker for me too I’m not about playing games. 🌺💐🌻🌼😀
To the lady who is trying to get out of a toxic relationship. IT'S DEFINITELY NOT EASY!
I don't know if this information is helpful to you or not but I left my husband in 2014 after he took me on a mental psychological and emotional roller coaster ride. After separating from him for a few months I allowed him to talk me into letting him move back in with me. He promised me things that he never intended on following through with. In 2016 my mother passed away and instead of him helping me cope with my pain and grief he inturn used this to his advantage (while I was in a vulnerable state in my life). That same year I mustered up enough strength to leave him again! Afterwards I went back and forth with him listening to his broken promises and lies until I finally decided to go NO CONTACT! For me that was the best thing that I could have done because it allowed me to heal a whole lot sooner! I said all that to say this....... If you really want to get out of a toxic relationship GO NO CONTACT ‼️‼️‼️ It will literally save your life ❣️🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Great podcast. One of the lessons I learned about men is they don't do friends with a woman if they fancy you. They may pretend they do, however, he has other things on his mind.
That is so interesting that we didn't really have "boundaries", I am in my 60s and I agree, we really didn't set up "rules" in terms of relationships back then
Miss Faye that last letter married to a narcissistic dog and she gave up everything she had for him ???? I think she has some level of fear to stand up against him!! The more I watched you the more you impressed me with your assertiveness when you need to be!! Men are a lot of headaches and work I love my solitude!! Before Covid I used to take my dog ran in the golf course near where I live!! One day a guy said hi to me from behind I didn’t know he was practicing his golf! He was very friendly and he didn’t take long to ask me to go out to dinner I declined I wasn’t available! He didn’t give up he would wait in the golf course he knew I ran my dog there daily and he asked me for my ph number I gave it to him and he shared his life stories full of red flags! He was married 3 times and twice to the same ex wife and have kids in college he texted me too much and one day he said I had great body and all the bs and he finally said I turned him on but again I appreciated the compliment but No was the answer! He had the audacity to say he wanted to sleep with me openly and verbally! I couldn’t believe what I heard I don’t play around with men and the best thing he was transferred to San Joaquin in central Calif!! I don’t trust men and now I don’t want any my life is where I want to be! I realize how some women are intimidated and scared of men and of course boundaries are critical in relationships! Everything always romantic and perfect and you live to love him !! You should live to love yourself first and honestly and be true to yourself are keys! It’s great to listen to you who has resources and experience and you teach women to say NO!! ❤❤
He wants to go......let him GO.........BYE🙋🏾
1) He can buy her out
2) She Can Put Renters In OR AirBInB It
3) You Do Not Have To Be Apart Of His Hell 🔥
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Sometimes boundries need to be set after being in a relationship and emotional boundries can change. But hard and fast boundries do need to be set in the beginning. She right about boundries.
Hi Miss Faye, I require monogamy with my mate too. Unfortunately, I have not come in contact with men who are monogamous. As a result, I have been abstinent for many years now by choice. Maybe there are men out there who are monogamous with their partners 🤔 but again I haven't been in a relationship with any who was. All of the men I know have cheated at some point if not on a regular basis. Even my father who was a great father, loving, protective, & a great provider, he was an easy going person, loved to make you laugh & crack jokes, & would wash his work clothes to protect us; for safety purposes, cook his breakfast, not treat my mom like she was his maid,etc. I loved both my mother & father. He & my mother were solid in their relationship; they provided me with a mature stable & loving home life. I never heard them being disrespectful towards each other & my father was good to my mother but he also had an outside relationship with another woman. He probably had multiple sexual relationships outside his marriage but none of them came to our home with any nonsense. My mother said she wasn't going to break up her home for some other women and she made it clear to me that she worked & helped to buy our home. But, I am not the same as she had been (thank God she had because I had a good childhood with them both) My x husbands to me were 10x times worse than my father. Both of my x husbands cheated but we didn't discuss boundaries beforehand but I would do so now if I ever found myself interested in another man. I am stronger at peace & was able to advance in life being alone withoutall of the drama. I prefer being alone only because if not all men certainly MOST men cheat & that will not do for me. I understand no one is perfect but I can't accept anything less than a monogamous relationship. It has been a deal breaker for me and Unfortunately I have been alone for many many years 💔 😔 😕 because of it.
Set the boundaries for you. No compromise for the REQUIRED boundaries!! Period.
Thanks again. Monogamous is at the top of my boundaries list. It is very important to set boundaries while getting to know someone know your worth! People 😊
Good Morning Everyone! A Special Hello To Miss Faye!!
Good morning
Beautiful person so wise, because u have been through hell and came into a wonderful place and u do help others😘
Yes, teaching others the (tough/painful) lessons that she has endured. A God Send for so many women. Ms Faye may be spiritual but the Lord is blessing her for her giving/caring heart. 💓💞💕
🧡 that, Miss Faye-many women don’t feel as though they deserve monogamy because many men don’t offer monogamy. However, we still do have to be that “ 1 more” that commands it, or otherwise, be willing to keep moving past the nonsense & unsafety.💪
Protect yourself by all means
Your discussion and your caring suggestions are workable and encouraging even in a bad situation.
I did not set Boundaries now l definitely set Boundaries
Excellent advice. This is a great resource for women. All we need to do now is follow her advice and avoid backsliding.
Good morning, Miss Faye, I appreciate your snippet on how to safely leave men, however, I would ask that you please devote a whole video to it. It is needed…Thank you so much.
That last letter that you shared, about a woman that sold her house and moved states for this man, narcissist. didn't she say that he was not divorced from his wife? Was he divorced before he married her?
Because if he wasn't there cannot be a marriage. Maybe this is her way out.
That popped up in my mind as the letter was being read as well.
At 28:00 minutes: Breaks my heart. Ms. Lady lost her beautiful home and good job by following the WRONG PERSOn. I will keep you in my prayers that everything will be better for you. It is wonderful that you still hve your mother and son who love you deeply. God Bless you and family.
Random but I think she is as cute as a button! I love seeing her face on the timeline… feels like my grandma ❤
Some people say there are at least seven types of boundaries.
Are there more ?
What boundaries do you need?
1) Physical Boundaries. ...
2) Sexual Boundaries. ...
3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries. ...
4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries. ...
5) Financial and Material Boundaries. ...
6) Time Boundaries. ...
7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries
I agree. No boundaries. You shouldn't tell or discuss your boundaries. Just date and see if he is the man who you like. If he is not what you want..then let him go.
I've set mine and they will not be broken and instead of talking about it I'm fixing to press charges.
Monogamous is the #1 priority up front.
Wish someone could have helped my Mother in the fifties. You deserved so much better.
Mine are disrespected daily and I won't keep going on with it without pressing charges
Miss Faye, I didn't know about my boundaries until I realized I needed them with my ex, but I didn't know I would need them until I did. Once I set my boundaries hr walked. I'm ok with that, now I know to tell the next person at the beginning of the relationship.
Spot on Miss Faye! Love tuning in every day!! ❤❤ you look fabulous in purple💜💜
I love your channel as it reminds me of how I’ve always was a ahead of my time when it comes to dating. I’m 33 and I’ve always gave my friends since we were in our twenties the same advice in nearly all your videos.
I love you Miss Faye, you’re the Nana I never had 💖🥹💖
Miss Faye, you really are a treasure, truly.
I've got to set way more boundaries. I used to date an abusive man but now I have noticed that even other people can be abusive even some church people.
Now this next part is not on the dating subject but it's along the same lines about abuse.
A woman from church emotionally abuses me. She wanted to be my friend.
(Bullying and stuff like that)
She started saying I had tiny crows feet around my eyes. The insults just progressed.
Finally, another woman called her out on it saying she thought I was not a bad looking person like the woman keeps saying.
Now the woman goes into this thing calling me a dumb blonde
(After hugging me and talking) I'm done with her nonsense.
I feel like telling her my boundaries is no emotional abuse. I'm so done with abuse.
She also was freaking out saying she thinks her husband might
Hot after me.
I'm celibate and she's ridiculous
I don't know why she doesn't just stay away from me if she's that jealous and ridiculous
I try avoiding her but she keeps trying to come around me ignoring my casual hints by me just sitting further away.
She does everybody this way. I don't understand if she has such a problem with my tiny crows feet etc why does she even come around me.
I'm thinking what's best to do from this point,
Abusers are everywhere. But I guess there's always a way out
The DEEP technique by Dr Ramani: Don't Defend, Don't Explain, Don't Engage, Don't Personalize. And maybe do Grey Rock as well. She is Trouble.
Why are you entertaining those little comments anyway. And who cares about crows feet who cares about all that stuff it’s ridiculous. Be very direct with her tell her to stop that she’s annoying you that you do not want anything to do with her and then if she keeps bothering you talk to your pastor
Wow. That's a lot that you have tolerated. You need to speak up along with your actions.
Speak up. You don't have to take her insults. Demand respect from her and anyone who disrespects you. People will do what you allow them to do 😊
You are setting boundaries for yourself, not the other person. The result is No bullsh*t and chaos
Thank you for your words of wisdom 🙏🏾 once again. I'm learning to set boundaries each day as I age, and it feels good to let folks where you stand.
Setting boundaries stating them up front is a really good plan.
I love this because it would put everything on the table up front.
That's how I did it before I got married. Worked well for me. We understood what we each expected from the other.
Hey Aunt Tea Faye!
I am so glade I fund your channel ❤.
Hiiii Ms. Faye! Thank you for making this video. 🫶🏽🙌🏾 Valid points I'm listening keen.
No one told me about that either. You are right about that Mrs. Faye.
You are so wise
No one taught me to have boundaries either- if anything I was taught not to have them. My family hated it when I discovered boundaries during therapy and began to develop a few I needed for my mental health. In the end it came to a parting of ways. They refused to allow me any boundaries at all no matter how I cajoled, kicked, screamed or fought.
Absolutely agree with you ❤100000000%.
I made the mistake of telling him and then we had to wait out a 3 month lease to expire. Big mistake! It was a living hell and he was more dangerous than ever. My saving grace was the affair he was having and that kept him away a lot of the time. That girl is my angel, lol. I would recommend not telling them!
I appreciate this video. It's very important to understand this because this topic is seldom discussed and people are taken advantage of because they fail to set boundaries
It's sad when you are interested in someone who is an alcoholic drinker and I just don't drink. In addition they smoke cigarettes and my health issues make it impossible to be around smokers.I use to back in the 1970's but choose not to anymore. I put this boundary on the table right away.
Good morning, Miss Faye!
Ms Faye's 💓 your hair look beautiful love purple hat sweat ❤️
Eloquently said!!!!!!❤😊 Peace , love & light
I love ❤️ your channel! True good advice. 👍 Know your worth! That's the most important thing I have ever learned. Specially when it comes to men. Setting boundaries are very important too. I tell my daughter that allll the time!
To the lady with the house and errant husband with his own apartment
You need to visit a lawyer and find out where you stand asap. You might benefit by getting proof that he is with someone else as I am sure he is because that can counteract community property or at least decrease it. It may even get you alimony. If you can’t follow him or get proof yourself maybe a private detective or old friend could help you getting pics. Getting recording or text messages where he is saying that is your house can be worth gold when you hit court. Start gathering information/ evidence on him asap. Proof of what he owned vs what you had might also be helpful. Good luck and watch your back since he might get ugly once he figures out you’re not going to just roll over for him.
Ladies it’s likely the boundary you left out will be the one he’ll cross …. you must then assert that boundary with intentional ASSERTIVENESS. 🧐
Love it 🌻
Miss Faye you’re FABULOUS “Continue Success !!!!
Hi Faye keep on teaching you have it going on when the student is ready the teacher arrives amen 😊❤❤❤
My boundaries arechaving an affair, bringing a child into the relationship, and i hate lies,must have a job , a and a place to stay,no sex period, and he must have something to lose
The story at the 30 minute mark reminds me of another blk woman who picked up and left everything to just be kicked out. She needed 1600 to get home. It was sad. As women we have no business coming with nothing. And for the love of God stop involving your children in these situations. They are children and can't choose or defend themselves if things go bad. They always assume the kids need to be fixed bc of what the moms are telling these strange men.
Well, well, well , speaking about boundaries, if funny how this one guy want me to do things with him and I asked him can I do it to him and of cause the answer is a big NO!, so I asked if I don't do what you want, does this mean you are free to go out and get it else where? things that make you go Mmmmm! as always loving your insight and wisdom. You go girl 💯💯💞💞
Hey beautiful lady how are y'all doing I am well watching replay love your channel and spirit purple 🟣 looks good on you congratulations on 66k great topics thanks for sharing blessings ❤️
Ms Faye I have advice for you don't get a new husband or whatever because you are in power and well the way you are. Don't forget all unsuccessful relationships you have had. 💗
it surprises me how women give their stuff away so easily. How did they make it so long and so far without giving it up and then all of a sudden hand it all over? I had many guys try to take my stuff and never gave in, so I still have my stuff years later. Hopefully I'll get even more stuff soon, guy or no guy.
Oh looook, the blondie!
If your stuck in an abusive relationships with your boundaries being violated jeft and right, People be careful. There's People around our town who know somehow how to unlock doors . I've had People unlocking my deadbolt lock even at night. Also, People can clone your texts and calls to get personal information about you and where you are. If your fleeing an abusive relationship just be aware. But, first check him out before you get involved. Check out his dating history if he abused any ex
So boundaries are something narcissistic abusers don't like . So if he or she doesn't like boundaries, let that bitd fly elsewhere
I have had many of my answers by watching more of these videos!
Respect, honesty and loyalty the end
Hello Miss Starseed,
You may be able to start subscriptions in time and then open live scheduled sessions advertised in advance for your subscribers that pay $7.99 per month and give them advice. You're a gift from God and I love it! 😇🥰🤣
Great work!
The Goddess of Fire & Ice
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-Gods Sidekick
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We love beeing here
Good morning Miss Faye Sunshine and everyone ❤
Good morning
Hello Miss Faye, how do you know when he’s not being monogamous though ?
Great topics indeed! Thank you Miss Faye, you are a beautiful spirit! Warm regards, namaste🙏💫💜
Time changes and relationship changes. Boundaries can be set at any time, they are not only set at the beginning of a relationship.
How to set bondaries when you coparent with a narc?i am in trouble...we have a daughter who is almost 7 Years old.
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