I was an organized person who raised 3 kids, built businesses, volunteered, taught Sunday School, counseled other mothers, and helped everyone that asked. My home was the home that my children’s friends went to for fun. I cooked meals for 30 days worth meals in 1 day monthly. I was pleased with my capabilities to accomplish a lot. Fast forward 38 years and I have discovered total burnout. I have been retired for 2 years and I’m still trying to find the energy to get my act together. Ladies, be careful and don’t schedule every minute of your life.
i HEAR YA! I'M RIGHT THERE WITH YOU AND DR GABOR (LOOK HIM UP ON TH-cam) CHANGED MY ENTIRE OUTLOOK...IT'S IMPORTANT TO PUT OUR SELF CARE FIRST AND YES, I'TS A MATTE OF LIFE AND DEATH. I'M A HYPNOTHERAPIST AND SHOULD KNOW BETTER....HOWEVER, THE BODY DOESN'T LIE.......
Conversely, maybe it's that HUGE shift in your life of freeing up 9-10 hours per day while also having a really short train. As far as burnout -- that can indicate a lack of focusing on your personal needs. Maybe find a guided journal or brainstorm on your own about your current values and what you'd like to see out of a day to be fulfilled rather than simply so busy you don't notice the neglect.
That’s what happened to me too. Was so proud of how I could accomplish something every minute of the day. Got very burned out. Now I try to keep my time free!
I want to say that if someone has a very hard job that requires long hours in very loud environment or long hours in something very physically demanding, they may have hardly any energy after work. Not all jobs are interesting. Some are backbreaking.
The whole point of trying to get everything set up through automation and systems is so that you aren’t overwhelmed after you work your ass off all day, so you can have a functional home to count on
Just a warning from experience. Many organising creators mention starting that dishwasher before bed. So, our house almost burned down because I did that one night, and about 30 minutes later, I just happened to come back downstairs to grab a water, and the dishwasher was smoking. I was terrified thinking what could of happened if I hadn't come downstairs. No way out for us since everyone was upstairs. I do have new smoke alarms, but it didn't go off for some reason. Please don't ever leave a dishwasher, washing machine or dryer running and then go to bed.🥰
Thank you!! This happened to us.. flames and everything. I was in the next room thank God and it was during the day but now I refuse to run my dishwasher at night. So scary.
Oh wow! I had no idea. I run the dishwasher at night a lot. It’s actually going now as I’m in bed. I will definitely be mindful and run it earlier. Thank you!
There is a big difference w/ dealing w/sm babies in diapers, nursing, etc, then when your kids are a little older & not so needy & repetitive in requests & needing constant supervision = big drama & messes happen so very quickly. Stay @home moms get exhausted from fighting, whining, neediness, drama, constant supervision & constant interruptions. .. yes, it can be done = as a mom of 6 kids, i did it, but it is alot easier as they get older. Mom w/ sm kids shouldn't feel disappointed in themselves if feeling like they are 'behind'. Embracing minimalism will help.
I have 6 children and when they were little I micromanaged my whole life and theirs. My houses were awesome. I cooked and baked and decorated. They went to private Christian School. I now live alone in a gigantic farmhouse alone on acreage and I haven't the same level of organization at all. What happened? Get that PhD and please let me know why I went from highly efficient to bum. Please
@@Vulture-88part of it has got to be that you had little live in, built in alarms that wouldn’t let you go too long without doing certain things because you were getting up every day, you were making meals and moving things through your life because you had that oomph behind you. I suspect this and I also suspect that you may be the type that needs to feel justified in the things you do so that you don’t think you’re being “selfish” and so the kids were good justification for baking and doing all of these things that maybe now, having spent so much of your life maybe where you personally weren’t as important as the kids, you don’t have a reason compelling enough to motivate you. I have a couple cheats for that, the first one is the easiest and fastest one, but it doesn’t fix your issue- and that’s Swedish death cleaning. You are thinking about the experience that you’ll be leaning for your kids to experience while they are mourning you. You don’t want them to have a million things to sort through, a ton of crap they have to come and deal with- you want to leave them the least painful situation possible. That’s not ideal bc I think ultimately you still need to value yourself and your own space and time in such a way that it’s worth being as on top of your game now and you were then. Cass always says stuff like, when you’re trying to get rid of stuff but can’t, she’s like, that stuff is costing you. Would you rather hang on to stuff or would you rather make room for your own chance to thrive without being buried under all this guilt and shame for having it in the first place I recommend looking into organize 365 bc Lisa takes you one at a time, room by room, and legit walks you through every step of the way
Thank you so much for saying this!!! I've got 5 kids and the youngest just turned 1. I'm working on implementing a train system but I need to give myself grace too. Thanks!!!
@@heatherdembkowski4782Definitely give yourself grace When my kids were little they could make a mess in 10 minutes that took at least 30 to clean up and I was usually too tired to do it. Now they are older, I can clean somewhere and it stays clean for days if not weeks.
For the most part, this is how my mom modeled life for me, though I only got to see it work on summer vacation and weekends. But I knew that I needed to do the housework first thing, be done by a certain time, and then PLAY with my child, go for walks, whatever. I had a big learning curve, but with such wonderful examples of at home moms from church, I knew it was possible to do. Then I discovered Cas who helped me, and then Dawn who finally convinced me to cut my kitchen items in half and clear my counter. I've always done what Dana preaches (put it away now) and now thanks to everyone for sharing their path, I started my own channel to help pass on what I know, too, now that my son is 18 and homeschooling is coming to an end. I've also joined DAR and am active in church. Just like this lady said, I can do so much because my house is now streamlined and I have specific times when things get done. Today I'm going to lunch with a friend because I don't have to go to the grocery store this week, because I planned for 2 weeks last week! Etc. Great video, thank you!!!
Hi! 30+ year DAR member here. I can recommend Lisa Woodruff, Organize365, and especially her Sunday Basket and Friday Workbox. You may find those useful too.
At 53 years old, I started my organizing business. Just prior to that, our son passed away. Talk about trains stopping - although it felt like, and still feels like more of a train derailment! Some comments about how hectic this sounds - yes, i agree, however; when something happens in your life - death of a loved one, health issues etc, when you have a plan in place, a system, its easier to jump back in or have others help you because the systen is there. Decision fatigue/grief and depression get in the way of you being able to do the stuff that you think is so easy right now. When that train falls off its rails, will you be ready? I sure wasn't. I could barely get out of bed or take a shower or brush my teeth.
I wasn't prepared for all the health challenges I deal with daily. I also wasn't prepared for the fact that if you develop one chronic health challenge and don't take care of yourself, your body will continue to build up new symptoms and eventually you end up unable to do anything. Your body tries to warn you by creating symptoms like feeling tired, brain fog, overwhelm, aching like you have the flu, having an upset tummy, headaches, anxiety, depression, etc If you are ignoring your needs for rest and recovery because you are still trying to do everything, then you are likely to develop further symptoms and trigger physical and mental breakdown. I think my biggest lesson for others is that if you get injured or sick you need a "bare minimum" plan for how to do the tasks you need to do for each of your roles and responsibilities. Spread your energy between doing active work, doing admin tasks and doing things that you enjoy and that relax you. This is both how you get better and how you prevent further problems. The things you enjoy doing become the fuel, energy and power for you to get moving again so don't cut out or compromise on having time for fun, hobbies and being social. I think one of my problems is that because I didn't have a good plan for how I did stuff I ended up keeping busy with everything that I thought really mattered and wore myself out even more. I was made to feel guilty for being unable to work and needing help to get anything done. I eventually ended up bed bound by a list of health challenges in my 30's and only started to get better when I was put on very strong medications, tried other treatment options like meditation and mindfulness, and when I stopped trying to meet the unrealistic expectations. I am slowly recovering and rebuilding my life in my 40's. I'm mostly house bound and get out to do errands and go to doctor's appointments. 20 years after my first symptoms appeared I look back at those years and feel like they were wasted. Then I realise those hard years of being unable to do anything have been my greatest teacher. They taught me to value my time, energy, abilities and attention. I look at tasks now and make decisions very differently. I try not to rush into starting something. I've realised that most things (systems, roles, responsibilities) need to be maintained. Alot of the tasks need to be repeatedly done. First step is to recognise the harmful patterns you repeat (get stuck doing), and the helpful patterns, as they are right now. I learnt to make the tiniest change I could. Learn about the choice gap so you can pause in between the thought of "I need to..." and starting the task. Use the pause to check your decisions. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot
Whew! I'm so glad I'm retired and don't have to use every moment productively. Just listening to this discussion is exhausting. I'm quitting at 12 minutes and finding something more relaxing to watch!
Any other Charlotte Mason mamas enjoying seeing the mainstreaming of this idea?? “This relation of habit to human life--as the rails on which it runs to a locomotive--is perhaps the most suggestive and helpful to the educator; for just as it is on the whole easier for the locomotive to pursue its way on the rails than to take a disastrous run off them, so it is easier for the child to follow lines of habit carefully laid down than to run off these lines at his peril.” -Charlotte Mason 1842-1923
As a fellow Charlotte Mason Mama, I l 25:32 oved your comment and quote. The whole time Lisa was explaining about trains and rails, I was thinking of that wonderful book by Sonya Shafer, "Laying Down the Rails, A Charlotte Mason Habits Handbook." A great handbook for teaching both our children and ourselves the valuable tools of habits and routines. Love the discussion! Thx for having Lisa as your guest!
When I was younger , I never understood why my mother wanted me to dry the dishes. I explained to her they will dry in an hour and then I would put them away. I was always looking for efficiency even as a child.
Great podcast. I have ADHD and just always feel like I can't get it together. Seeing how well your house functions, while running a successful business is so inspiring to me!!!! Thanks Cass ❤❤❤❤
This was so timely for me to hear. I am very nearly clutter free after years (at least a decade) of letting go of stuff. In the last few months it has been the final, emotional stuff--deceased mother's belongings, my childhood artwork and instruments, fantasy and younger self items, multiple sizes of clothing. I'm finding myself not only with more time, but also more money. The money gives relief and a sense of freedom after years of scrimping and scarcity thinking. Which is good but has been somewhat unnerving. But the time I've gained because I'm not spending time thinking about what I should be doing or was avoiding doing is truly unnerving. For now I'm just sitting with this discomfort of not knowing what I want to do next. I'm grateful for this "problem" and I have faith answers will come to me as I stay the course of decluttering, maintaining, not over-shopping or over-eating to avoid uncomfortable feelings, and continuing to listen to Cas, Dana, Dawn and all of us who are figuring this out.
Totally, I found once I've de-cluttered and have started some non-negotiable habbits I now have the ability to be creative again. I'm kinder and more patient with my children too 💞
This is such a good point. I tend to lose steam for decluttering until I remember the things I'm passionate to do and THEN I have the energy and motivation to clear all the other things out of the way
That is exactly the same reason I got my PhD, I wanted it. I had the time even though I was working full time. I had a clean home and I was getting organized. Later, I found Cas and she changed my systems. Blessings. This was good.
That’s so much relief, hearing the whole restaurant concept. Because that’s permission for me to be like no, no if you want something that’s not on my menu, you can go somewhere else. I don’t have to make meatloaf. I don’t have to make Chinese food. I don’t have to put that time and effort and energy into those things I’m barely mediocre at. Hey if you want meatloaf, let’s go see your mom. If you want Chinese food, the Chinese food place we love is open. If you want soup and homemade bread, my parents offered to make us some this weekend. But for the daily things, those can be the things I’m comfortable cooking instead of fast food. The daily things can be meals at home in moms daily diner. Bacon and eggs, sandwiches, tacos. and the adventurous ones can be elsewhere, and I don’t have to buy all those extra ingredients and that is such a freeing concept that I don’t have to have that decision fatigue getting ingredients and meals that are such a reach for me. I don’t need to be the variety. Going somewhere else is the variety. Because fast food is burger, chicken, taco, burger, chicken, taco. I can do those things. I can do them for better and cheaper.
Love this podcast! People said to me “why do you have a whole system, it seems a lot of work” but it is not work, it works for itself and I could finish a fulltime study next to my family and job! I feel so recognized by you, thank you so much❤ never thought of it as a train, but yeah I ride on tracks🤩
I love Lisa and subscribed to her channel. When I got to my 50’s a light turned on in my head and I suddenly needed some structure again. Tracks and train cars are magnificent
A huge breakthrough for me was to just take responsibility for the chores I wanted done instead of waiting for other people to do what I thought was important or "fair". None of them actually take more than a few minutes, and is worth it-to me!
I’m curious about this because I’m being told I need to delegate some household chores to the kids because it’s good for them and helps me lol . I agree but you know I find that giving them chores for the purpose of teaching them ( rather than focusing on helping me or considering fairness ) and choosing which chores to give them so that , if they don’t get done , it won’t derail everything else or bug the mess out of me lol . I haven’t watched anything but this video so far but now I’m curious.
I have been following you, Dana, and Dawn for years, and all along I've been saying, if only I had this info when my kids were babies and I was a SAHM. Well, my kids are now 14 and 17 and I feel they need me more than ever. This podcast and the idea of the train is speaking in MEGAPHONE to me lol! I'm sad for my babies and my disorganized brain, but hopeful for my teens and showing them how to adult. Thank you ladies. 💕
I found your show at just the perfect time! I have been praying & searching for Help in Organizing my house & thus Organizing my life! I just need that expert to get me started! So happy I found you!!
This is so interesting. I struggled like crazy. People did not know because I worked like crazy behind the scenes. I always tried to accomplish more than my energy allowed. I wanted to give my children so much attention and every experience, which took so much energy. It made all the regular chores difficult. I exhausted myself trying to be perfect in every area. I prefer a slower life with fewer activities because I actually connect better emotionally with my people.
I don't know if it's the same thing, but I have "systems" in place which I ask my family to implement too so that when things go to pot in life, everything doesn't fall apart. A few examples: a squeegee lives in the shower and all who use shower are expected to spend 2 mins scraping down the glass and drying the taps at the end. Those 2 extra mins save me spending time scrubbing on my cleaning days. I value washing up dishes in the evening so that I can just quickly put it all away in the morning. That makes me feel like I can get going easily in the morning. I get so overwhelmed seeing the previous days plates etc still lingering around dirty. Also food is only eaten in the kitchen, that way dirty plates aren't found around the house! Everything having a home means that it's very easy to whizz around with a duster, vacuum and mop without needing to pick things up and put away, taking you away from the task. If I can't clean a room without stopping and oucking things up, then that room doesn't get done. The rule is whoevers "stuff" was in my way, they have to ckean the room! I tell you, that rule soon gets that stuff picked up in a timely manner, because they don't like the extra job! Not having so much "stuff" to deal with is the game changer imo!
Reframing: as a stay at home mom, my job is not housekeeping while keeping my kids alive. My job is childcare, and respecting the home I’m in. So maybe if I operate as if I’m caring for someone else’s kids in someone else’s home, then I’ll treat it with more respect and structure? Maybe if I operate like a business I can enjoy playing with my kids and teaching them to pickup rather than momming them “because I just cleaned that”
This podcast episode is so good. Probably the third time I listened to this. The others were in Spotify. And I really think it's the combination of both of you because I feel like you are less detail oriented than Lisa is and that made this more accessible to my butterfly brain. I actually went and was trying to find her episode on it and I did and I started to listen to it and it was a lot for me to digest I still need to go back and finish it. I had to rewind a lot. but I also was scattered that day. And I think the reason why it felt so hard to digest was because she had talked about like future cars she had added to her train tracks and whenever you have to build the systems you aren't there yet. I also am very much in that car stage of life like when she was describing being able to take her car places in case the school nurse calls to come pick up her kid like that's me every day. I'm afraid to even go far away from my house in case one of the kids needs picked up. Because believe me they do. My brain is so much like yours cast I don't know if it's because of my ADHD or the fact that chaos follows me around like a puppy... as you know life never goes to plan, like it really doesn't and I'm always amazed at the stuff that you get done because I feel like you do have these train tracks in place or you can build them back quickly. But I also have seen how you beautifully pivot between chaotic moments. I mean sure you might have a meltdown or life might get to be too much but you bounce back quickly. And I really admire that quality about you and I definitely think that that's been the key to all your success. Because you are constantly getting back on track. Even if you are derailed. I feel like you have a crane operator that is driving behind your train and picking it back up and setting it back on the tracks. 😊 I need a crane operator too. 😂
I grew up in a household with 10 different cars, I would never know who was driving, which car was in the garage, on the driveway, broken down, in the repair shop, had been lent to someone or towed away or stolen!!! Utter chaos 24/7, my Mother particularly loved the drama of it all, the busy label, still does. If there's no drama she'll create it. I'm the proud owner and conductor of a beautiful, shiny efficient train ..I pop on carts as needed and take them off when they no longer serve me. I'm a minimalist who has time for that which or whom makes my heart happy. I have a deep passion for charity work too.
I love you cass! You and dawn have transformed my home. 5 years ago, I started watching your videos. Didnt act, but was obsessed for a few months. I have a 4000 sq. Ft house. Major adhd my entire life. Prefer not to take medication ( support others making that choice though). EVERY drawer, cupboard, closet, extra garage ....TOTALLY PACKED with junk, garbage, and what i call " useless crap". I bought your book and workbook, im a tyhb member ( great support system, highly recommend, totally worth the small cost) All I have left to declutter is my " Monica Closet Room". Saving til last. Had baskets etc.... but orderred really nice matching canvas baskets from Temu - saved about 60percent. ( don't judge me. Some people shop at target that sells tucking girls swimsuits for baby boys...not at all against community, but that is sick) my money, my business) I am in the beautiful organization phase now and it is ALL thanks to you and Dawn ( like Dana, but your homes are more my style) My beautiful home is actually becoming beautiful. My goal has always been to have a home beautiful enough to be on TH-cam. ( Dont want to be on TH-cam, just want it to look that way, and Im almost there!!!!) Thank you Cass!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have ADHD also. I do meds, but feel the same in support of your choice to not take them. Just an aside about Temu: there are actual class action lawsuits against them, so just be wary. I avoid them and Target (for the same reason you do) like the plague. Lastly, I have also learned so much from Cas, Dawn & Dana. I take what I need from each one. We all need to do what we need to do to cope and move forward!
@erinespinosa9739 EDIT 2/22/24: 1) Diapers negate the need to tuck, so that alone should be the clue the story is FAKE even for people who don't believe in the mainstream news outlets who've debunked it (Associated Press, Reuters, USA TODAY, etc.). 2) These kind of fake stories are used to manipulate people into outrage that pressures institutions to STOP inclusivity for minority groups. That IS political and it's harmful to real people. 3) I'd never heard of this story before your post and fact-checked it for myself because it seemed both unlikely (diapers!) AND harmful, and that's what we have to do these days with all the misinformation out there. 4) The trans community is facing major backlash culturally and politically, including horrific physical violence. Whatever one's personal beliefs, I believe bigotry and violence are wrong and that it's important to speak up to stop it, whatever the venue. *If it's really true that you're "not at all against [the] community," you still have the option to edit your comment (or repost it as a new one) to prevent a lie that harms a minority group from being seen by more people.* - ORIGINAL POST: Can we keep politics out of this forum, please? No one deserves to be surprise-slapped with implied criticism of their identity while reading comments on an organizing channel (or anytime). *The information you cited is also FALSE (see below).* Please edit it out so your otherwise encouraging comment isn't removed by TH-cam. From the AP: CLAIM: Target’s Pride collection features a bathing suit for kids that is labeled “tuck-friendly.” AP’S ASSESSMENT: False. The “tuck-friendly” swimsuits are only offered in adult sizes, according to a spokesperson for the company and Target’s website. Kids’ swimsuits in the collection do not feature this label. THE FACTS: Target’s seasonal collection of clothes for Pride month collection has been the subject of several misleading videos in recent weeks, with social media users claiming the retailer is selling “tuck-friendly” bathing suits designed for kids or in kids’ sizes.
@@bellaluce7088I really wasn't trying to be political! I wanted to let people know, if they wanted to buy supplies, that Temu is a good economical choice in this economy! I have seen so many people shamed for shopping at Temu. And I stopped shopping at Target last May, when I saw those bathing suits for baby boys 3-6 months old with my own eyes. I have a gay daughter. Totally supportive from day 1 when she came out to us at 14. Wonderful girl, so proud! But tucking a 3 month old boys penises is abusive! Sorry if I offended your beliefs!
I didn't think her statement was political at all. I too have been put in the position of making a personal choice of where to spend my money and have had really woke people flip out on me. She was obviously just trying to justify her Temu shopping before the craziness ensued!!!! She is obviously in total support of LGBTQAI+ , but against child abuse. Hope she doesn't change her post, people should not be forced to only support your views Also, awesome job putting in 5 years and transforming your entire home!!!! Congratulations!!!
I agree she was not being political at all - you made it into something political! Shocking! She is against abusive practices against children! She has a gay child. But far left, ultra woke people lose their crap if any opinion that is not pushing your agenda is expressed. Maybe you should edit your post seeing as she saw these in person. It's always the most woke agenda pushing people who can't handle any opinion they don't agree with. There was nothing political in what she said, only in what YOU said!
I love what you are saying about shopping and meal planning. I changed to meal planning and shopping every four days. I look at what we have and make a list to make meals with them. I now have a short list that costs less than $50.00 which includes toilet paper, medicines, cleaning stuff. We went from $1000 a month to a $400 a month grocery budget.
I’ve always been an organized person about most things but I’m also artsy and messy and a let’s do this! person. I managed to get a nursing degree at 45 with a house a husband and 3 kids then a bachelors degree working full time with my dad who had dementia living with us for 5 years. Now I’m sort of retired with a fun part time job running a food pantry. I have put a few organizing processes in place that I wished I had done much earlier. Bed sheets get washed Thursday on payday weekend. Before I couldn’t remember when I washed the sheets! Other clothes washed on Friday early am. Costco Thursday evening on payday week. I said this to a very chaotic and disorganized person who thought this was so rigid. No it’s easy this way I have a couple of weeks to add to my list and I’m not running there pissed off on a Saturday. We also get gas at the same time in one car. On the way home I take two minutes to send a payment to Costco so I never get an email bill from them saying I owe 400.00!!!! Here’s one thing you ladies did not mention! My husband and I plan our together time ( ya know what I mean). It happens specific days. 😮. Years ago in my 30’s I heard some couple say they do this. I thought it was the weirdest most unromantic idea ever! Nope. I was wrong. Each of us is always ready and in the mood because we know this ahead of time. There is no “I’m tired, no I forgot, no I’m not in the mood”. We get ourselves and our mind in the mood. Before we would forget when the last time we were intimate because we were “busy”. We have been together 34 years and have never been closer. I dare you all to talk about this subject. 😊
I write it down in my planner. 🤣 With my working opposite schedule to him, I have to wake him up when I get home. Now, I personally would want to hit someone for waking me up for that, but he insists it's a perfectly good reason for an interruption in sleep. 🤣
I’m a sahm, so mine is like a little zoo train that just stops in the same three stations all the time, multiple times a day ❤😂 so much easier than trying to dive a crazy little car around the zoo
So inspiring! I actually listened to the podcast 3 times. My favorite of your podcasts so far. Thank you so much for the work you are doing in this space.
I’m looking to create time to do things that have been on the back burner for me.Encouraged by this episode. I know that I need to organize my train to get going. I love automation, so I’m excited to see how I can build a functional system that works for my home. The planning part of the brain 🧠 is in the prefrontal cortex. People will under developed prefrontal cortex, especially have difficulty with planning aspects of life. This dropped just when I needed it. Thank you!
No disrespect intended, but I kept waiting for the details of this system. I must be missing something. Is there another podcast with the steps explained?
This was giving me so much life but now I want to cry 😂 I am a full time single mom and my child’s only parent. I work a full time job, a part time job and go to school. I have four cats who basically do not get along and a three bedroom 1400 square foot house that I am sooo thankful for and is my sanctuary but that I also manage on my own. I commute 17 miles to and then from work and school and wow … thinking about having time to even blow dry my hair nevertheless do a puzzle feels impossible. I am working on decluttering and then will get organized. But dang
Give yourself credit for doing all this you deserve it and you'll get to a better place! Joanne read my mind, get rid of extra cats and look at all the places to cut out wasted time
OMGOSH! I’ve been on a train for years. Every day I have the daily things, anchors as you call it … and on Sundays I plan for the week and beyond. I’m on a track!
This is such a great episode -- I really like the focus on self-automation. That's brilliant! I hadn't even considered that decision fatigue was why I'm so drained at the end of a day, but it's absolutely true.
I've been following both Clutterbug and Organize 365 for years already! I love the collaborative podcast! I'm in a huge life transition due to going from being intensely employed (Exec Assist to a CEO), to disabled and unable to care for my home. I'm re-implementing processes from you both to reinvent my home to make it much simpler to care for, more full of things that make me smile (hubby gets to stay then), and streamlined to being almost self-cleaning. Once again, you guys are critical to my transition!! Thank you!
Hey Kath just so you know while you guys were talking; I got 3 loads of clothes washed, dried + folded; in btwn I had my dinner. So it is now 11:30pm + I'm done!!! So therefore you guys gave me the impulse to just start/start anywhere, doing anything which it's good because I don't have to do it tomorrow; Yayyy !!! 😅😂🤣😆😄😁😁😁👍👄 Thanks. Nite-nite...😴😴😴🙏👀♥️🙋♀️😍😴😴😴
Amazing, amazing!! Years of therapy in an episode!! Oh and ‘maybe your mom was organized but not warm and fun’ nailed it!! All these unknown blockers to push through. So appreciate the detailed examples!! Need the details
This sounds just like me in old times and my work in school! I have been a teacher just retired and I was always super well planned. I knew the whole year and exactly when to do what and for how long time. That meant for me that I had a lot of flexebility if something happened and I could easily know when we had to run the train past or if we could stop and be spontanius! Loove this! 🥰 I have struggled, as I retired and we moved and lots of changes happened, with my habits. I realize I have no tracks!! 😳 But this was the spark I needed to get my engin going! I am going to lay tracks and run that train on them!! Just an old rusty lokomotiv that is what I want. Not fast but steady, old fashioned and really quaint! (The train in Harry Potter) Thank You Cas I will keep this picture in my head for the rest of my life…❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
Love your comments! I'm delaying my retirement because I know I need a "plan" before I leave. The only structure I have is with my WFH job & it's easier for me to do "work" than deal with with the house, etc.. I need a huge train to get me on track & to reconnect with those hobbies & activities that I gave up after having children. ❤
@@MyOver50Thank You! Well I do not want to back to work at all! Think I just have to stop feeling like I have a holiday 😬 I have no routines and loove sleeping half the day, reading the newspaper for an hour and just do nothing. Maybe I should get more productive like I used to be. I just feel bad when my husband comes home and best case senario is that I have planned a dinner so he can cook it 🙃🤪 We are both quite minimalistic so not much clutter and everything has its place and you will find it there. But I would like to have a plan with exercising, healthy foods, grocery shopping and other things that I easily procrastinate. I feel like I have all the time in the world but actually I don’t! I have less as I get older and need to rest more and everything takes longer time to do…. No I need to build those tracks again and hop on that old lokomotiv and get going 😊 Well that have to be next week as Tuesday I am going to Athens, Greece for a real vacation! 🥰😂 But when I get home…
@@MyOver50 Well take your time to figure out what you want! I know what I want I just have not understod that I needed to make new tracks. The old ones is gone as I moved and we made so much changes. So I need to figure out how to lay the tracks I want! Good Luck!
This podcast is very interesting and does make me realize why I hated my job in a big corporation right out of college .... all those corporate rails were built to benefit others! It's important that the homemaker or small business owner is working for herself, striking the right balance between automatic, habit-based work, and impulsive choices. The perfect balance might be achieved when synergy is achieved -- the routines (the tracks) free the mind and create the time for artistic pursuits, laking TH-cam videos, engaging in crafts, studying a foreign language, whatever!
@@latulipenoire3759 yes! Exactly! I had ”old tracks” that doesn’t work and to figure out everything using up my energy on ”basic” things have draned me so I have no energy left for things I love doing. Like designing and building my new garden. The creativ side of me sort of dissapered after our move. Now I realize why and have started to create ”new tracks”. And when they start to work I will have more time over for my creativ side of life. 😊 Love this pod and the synergy of these two ladies! 👌
The train and tracks...this perfectly articulates how I teach my ASD kiddo life skills. We spend years laying the tracks in order to get the cars running on autopilot. As soon as we're on autopilot, we add a row of seats or a whole new train car.
I am a retired teacher. My children are grown. I see my friends for lunch most weeks. I am planning home remodeling and repairs. I am emptying and selling mom’s home. I volunteer. I still cook and clean for my husband and have homemaking responsibilities. I want to see more about women my age who seek to be more organized.
This was great Confirmation for me, I have always said that I'm the CEO and COO of our family husband is CFO and CTO, (Finace/Technology) and we make a great team and have always run our household like a business. I was able to coach 18 soccer teams in 10 years, chaperone/liaison middle/hs choir trips to Italy/Canada and domestic travel. Became a Girl Scout leader; chess coordinator. Our 3 kids are young adults grown and doing very well and I believe Lisa shed some light on my empty nesting-->I need to write my memoir. Thanks Cas, excellent podcast! 😊
Please take time to do the fun stuff like hobbies or something you enjoy doing. Make the time like it's an appointment. These things will provide the fuel/energy/power/motivation you need to start doing the things that you need to. Decide what is the bare minimum that needs to be done in each of your roles/responsibilities. Write the things down in detail so you can see them and create a pattern of how you want to get them done (a habit or routine). Start with doing the bare minimum and as you recover slowly add into what you have started doing. When you are stuck in the thought of everything that needs to be done. Make a list. Then stop and give yourself a half hour to do something you enjoy. Distract yourself long enough to calm yourself down. The time will help when you come back to the list. Pick one thing to start with. Maybe you pick the thing you think will take the smallest amount of time and energy OR the thing that will make the biggest difference to how you feel 2moro when you wake up OR the urgent/important task you have procrastinated about. Alot of times we procrastinate because we have a general idea like "finish project by..." or "tidy my room" rather than breaking the idea down into the actions we need to do. Looking around the room you might need to: collect rubbish(trash) and recycling into a basket/bin take it out to where it is disposed of Change the sheets and pillowcases Put dirty washing in the basket or one big pile. ... The more detailed information helps you to see the tasks as separate rather than the big lump of "tidy my room".
I asked my philosophy professor whether training my mind to be logical would make me less creative and he told me that it would actually free me up to be more creative. You're saying the same thing. Being organized gives you time to relax.
WOW! Less decision fatigue & chaos and more time for FUN? Sign me up! 😄 This gave me the same excitement about developing routines that Cas & Dawn have given me for getting rid of things. 🤩 That's HUGE for someone with ADHD and a lifetime of internalized shame about time management. I actually find it reassuring to hear it can take a while to become automatic. Worth it! ❤ *THANK YOU BOTH!* ❤
As a recently diagnosed adhd person, I realized that having systems in place is probably what got me stable for most of my life... Only with recent changes in hormones did it become crazy stupid for me... The overwhelmed was a constant feeling. I caught Cas's clutter ugh, then a friend recently shared about Dana K whites...her "contain" er concept mind blowing. I have a business degree...and I've always felt the relationships are like contracts between two companies merging...so running your home like a business ..with roles responsibilities defined, assignment given and agreed too with deadlines...LOVE.
@@reneechristensenpillow8373 Congratulations on your diagnosis! 😄❤ It helped me so much! I found Dana's books on Dawn's Amazon page (have Cas's too) and am looking forward to reading them! When I heard Dana say she sweeps the kitchen floor daily to help her "see" anything accumulating on the floor that needs to be put away I thought "now this is a brain that gets my kind of challenges!" ; - D Cas's ADHD videos and the How to ADHD channel have helped me so much! So grateful that we live in this era of easy accessibility to life changing information! Best wishes to you! 😀
You've taken the words right out of my mouth. I'm so relieved and re-assured that it will most likely take 3 years to get my house / train up and running. But that doesn't matter because after 40 years I now know how!!! Hallelujah 🖐️
I have my groceries delivered. You are not tempted by 'sales' and impulse items. Every item needed for a recipe is included and not "forgotten". You don't spend time wandering a supermarket and/or gas going to and from. Easy peasy.
Both of you ladies are extremely awesome and a great encouragement to all. I'm an older woman and it's never too late to learn productive things. I was born curious and learn things every day.
When you said this podcast was going to blow my mind, I didn’t believe you. I should have, because it did! I can’t wait to learn more! I’m a little trepidatious at the “3 years to get there” but I hope some of the work I’ve already been doing with you, Dana and Dawn will help me get off with a little “time served” 😂. I’m actually excited and saying “let’s do this!”
Love it all but I’m going to refrain from comparison my train to Lisa Woodruff. She “seems” like she has lots of energy. I love energetic people! But I’m not one of those people at this stage of my life. I need naps sometimes, I get tired, & that’s ok. So, I can tailor my production train to my life & needs.
I buy the meat for the freezer, then meal plan with that. It is possible! I'm also in a family of hunters, so occasionally get a call to come help process a deer. That means bringing venison home for the freezer. We use it all, but it's an intentional decision that works for us. I switch up my meal plan when I run across half price salmon!
I like the idea for meal planning. Thinking of my home as a restaurant and not over buying things. I shop this way without thinking about it. But I will buy meat on sale if it's meat we normally eat and freeze it. I've always separated the meat in portions to freeze so I can just grab what I want and go.
I’m so sorry to hear that your mom isn’t well. You must be straight out with everything going on in your life. As they say, you need to take care of you to be able to take care of others. I can relate to your daughter with the dust allergies. Mine are so bad (amongst other allergies). They settle in my chest and I had pneumonia twice this winter. I need to have an organized house as it calms me. Unfortunately, not all my family understands. 😫
I started this on Spotify, chose to repeat here. What a perfect metaphor. I wanted to add that every new life season leads to needing to tracks. In our marriage we moved often due to work, and your experience moving requiring new tracks is so true. I also did my PhD because I wanted to--go Lisa! Now I'm transitioning to retirement in 4.5 months and need to rethink my tracks. Now I am making notes of what I hope to do --sew more--before other things drift in to take up my time. BTW, I clean to Spotify and knit to TH-cam, love having both options!
I have been trying to "FLY" for years. Her no excuse rule never worked for me. Dana was realistic and I have come to really get to love Cass, Lisa and Dawn. All four of these women are amazing. My problem is that an issue I'm having isn't really addressed much. I work 12 hours, 5 days a week, 7 on Saturday and also do paperwork at home for work. My job is fast-paced and im flat out exhausted. I hear Dana also say do the dishes, and i do always but some days, that's all i get done. I would love some expert advice. Im not getting any younger (58) and im tired of the overwhelm. I understand that a stay at home mom or a work from home parent might find a routine that works for them based upon some of these women, but i haven't gotten there yet. Thanks for any thoughts.
I’m not an expert so I will leave the 4 experts to give you the advice you’re looking for, but I think you just have too much on your plate. If you work 6 days a week at your job/s it’s going to be hard to get everything at home done without taking something off your plate- either working less or delegating home responsibilities. But if you can add one load of laundry a day (start to finish) to your daily dishes it will help.
Uhg I have such a hard time meal planning! Home life is crazy, I have 3 under 6 years old. We eat so simple anyway. How do you wrap your mind around all this planning with the chaos in my brain? When you’ve got so much going on the next step is planning but I’m intimidated to start!
Write out family favorites. Keep ingredients on hand for those. We are an Hispanic family so tacos, beans and rice are staples. :) I keep rice, beans, ground beef and tortillas on hand. We also like various pasta dishes. So I keep penne pasta, sauces and chicken on hand. That way I have all the ingredients, on hand, ready to use. I can't meal plan because I don't like being boxed in 😂. But I also am not adventurous so we eat a lot of the same family favorites. I usually try out a new recipe maybe once every month or so.
Thanks Cass! I have a Sunday basket but I've never actually heard Lisa before... and my Sunday basket functions more like a time will tell basket! 😅 I need train tracks!! And an engine! And some cars!
My sister is a Tarus and ruled her life like this with planning her day far far in advance. She taught her son, my nephew, to write his next days task the day before, and plan his outfit for school (when he was a youngin). ❤
This is so good! I need help with those tracks! I make plans - load dishes every night, unload every morning, one load of towels, one load of clothes every single day, etc- but then someone needs something, I get a bad headache, get messed up somehow, or let myself off the hook. How do I make it stick? Anybody got any ideas besides just building my muscles over time?
Ok. I wrote and posted(inside my kitchen cabinet) a daily tasks list. There are every day tasks and by days of the week. I have felt so great today working through the list. Serotonin rewards are real! I think it also helps to try to think of things with a better attitude. I don't want to call them chores.
I have made a tight schedule for 15 minutes activities. Including phone time. Snack time. Exercise. Nap. Dance. Music. Things that matter to ME/YOU. Like dishes,15 minutes. Listen to a song and sing along 5 minutes and make a pot of tea also five minutes. Now brush my hair and put it in a ponytail to be ready for the next 15 minutes activity. I’m motivated just sharing this.
There are times in our lives when we are super-busy, and we have to get more productive in order to make it through those times. I think the train concept is very useful for those who commute by car- can we buy gas on the way, pick up dog food on our same route? How do we organize our route better so it is more in a straight path? And maybe we can learn ways to save time that really don't cost that much more, such as maybe after Covid the grocery store has a pickup area for free, maybe we can order our dog food online and have it delivered once a month, maybe we have a way of doing laundry that is more productive. Alll these things individually might not be much, but collectively they can save a lot of time and get the super-busy times of our lives more manageable, and once those times are over, we can still do them to create leisure time for our lives.
Love this podcast, it has covered so many things I've been trying to improve and just not getting it right. You could have been talking directly to me. Thank you
Thank you so much for this! I have been struggling to figure out how to manage our household efficiently with two young children while decluttering and getting organized and getting very frustrated because there's no time left for me...this is so inspiring! I will definitely going to Lisa's channel. BTW, my husband had the exact same idea about milk lol and I was a tad annoyed but I'm glad to see you girls think the same way.
Love this! So helpful to be reminded to run home like a business. I have started and stopped so many times. Maybe the train track system will help it finally stick! Thank you Cas and Lisa!
This just clicks. It is my natural rythm. People often ask me how I combine so many activities. Do I have time to sleep? Yes! It is because I don’t have to think about my train tracks. They come naturally to me.
I’m a clutter mover !🥺😢 I hope this helps me. Not much room and things need to go! Now I’m also having chronic pain. But I know this can be done. Can’t wait to hear this system
I would much rather be a family conductor than the family servant ... I feel like I'm the housekeeper, cook, scullery maid, nanny, chauffeur and project manager : something has to change 😢
Binge watched all 6 series of Breaking Bad a few years ago when I discovered it. Absolutely loved it. My favourite tv series by a mile. So glad you’re enjoying it.
Oh my gosh Cas it actually blew my mind this is incredible! I actually needed this so bad, it's like a key to the next level. Honestly now I can make a track so I can sit on my ass guilt free if I fancy it (I probably won't I'll find a project) but these tracks will give me the freedom to choose. Wow, wow, wow! THANK YOU!! ❤
@Clutterbugpod do you have a routine for maintaining yourself or is it just me? I've just written a timetable/laid train tracks to help me take care of myself as I used to put myself at the bottom of the list I was the to do that was just too much. Would love to hear your thoughts on self care. ❤
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I was an organized person who raised 3 kids, built businesses, volunteered, taught Sunday School, counseled other mothers, and helped everyone that asked. My home was the home that my children’s friends went to for fun. I cooked meals for 30 days worth meals in 1 day monthly. I was pleased with my capabilities to accomplish a lot. Fast forward 38 years and I have discovered total burnout. I have been retired for 2 years and I’m still trying to find the energy to get my act together. Ladies, be careful and don’t schedule every minute of your life.
i HEAR YA! I'M RIGHT THERE WITH YOU AND DR GABOR (LOOK HIM UP ON TH-cam) CHANGED MY ENTIRE OUTLOOK...IT'S IMPORTANT TO PUT OUR SELF CARE FIRST AND YES, I'TS A MATTE OF LIFE AND DEATH. I'M A HYPNOTHERAPIST AND SHOULD KNOW BETTER....HOWEVER, THE BODY DOESN'T LIE.......
Me too!!!! What happened to us?!?!?!
@@Vulture-88years of decision fatigue?
Conversely, maybe it's that HUGE shift in your life of freeing up 9-10 hours per day while also having a really short train.
As far as burnout -- that can indicate a lack of focusing on your personal needs. Maybe find a guided journal or brainstorm on your own about your current values and what you'd like to see out of a day to be fulfilled rather than simply so busy you don't notice the neglect.
That’s what happened to me too. Was so proud of how I could accomplish something every minute of the day. Got very burned out. Now I try to keep my time free!
I want to say that if someone has a very hard job that requires long hours in very loud environment or long hours in something very physically demanding, they may have hardly any energy after work. Not all jobs are interesting. Some are backbreaking.
The whole point of trying to get everything set up through automation and systems is so that you aren’t overwhelmed after you work your ass off all day, so you can have a functional home to count on
Yes!
Just a warning from experience. Many organising creators mention starting that dishwasher before bed. So, our house almost burned down because I did that one night, and about 30 minutes later, I just happened to come back downstairs to grab a water, and the dishwasher was smoking. I was terrified thinking what could of happened if I hadn't come downstairs. No way out for us since everyone was upstairs. I do have new smoke alarms, but it didn't go off for some reason. Please don't ever leave a dishwasher, washing machine or dryer running and then go to bed.🥰
Thank you!! This happened to us.. flames and everything. I was in the next room thank God and it was during the day but now I refuse to run my dishwasher at night. So scary.
Oh wow! I had no idea. I run the dishwasher at night a lot. It’s actually going now as I’m in bed. I will definitely be mindful and run it earlier. Thank you!
Yes, I had the same experience
Don't leave your blow dryer plugged in, either. A co-worker's house burned down because she left her blow dryer plugged in & went off to work.
Omg thank you ❤
There is a big difference w/ dealing w/sm babies in diapers, nursing, etc, then when your kids are a little older & not so needy & repetitive in requests & needing constant supervision = big drama & messes happen so very quickly. Stay @home moms get exhausted from fighting, whining, neediness, drama, constant supervision & constant interruptions. .. yes, it can be done = as a mom of 6 kids, i did it, but it is alot easier as they get older. Mom w/ sm kids shouldn't feel disappointed in themselves if feeling like they are 'behind'. Embracing minimalism will help.
Amazing comment!
I have 6 children and when they were little I micromanaged my whole life and theirs. My houses were awesome. I cooked and baked and decorated. They went to private Christian School.
I now live alone in a gigantic farmhouse alone on acreage and I haven't the same level of organization at all. What happened? Get that PhD and please let me know why I went from highly efficient to bum. Please
@@Vulture-88part of it has got to be that you had little live in, built in alarms that wouldn’t let you go too long without doing certain things because you were getting up every day, you were making meals and moving things through your life because you had that oomph behind you. I suspect this and I also suspect that you may be the type that needs to feel justified in the things you do so that you don’t think you’re being “selfish” and so the kids were good justification for baking and doing all of these things that maybe now, having spent so much of your life maybe where you personally weren’t as important as the kids, you don’t have a reason compelling enough to motivate you. I have a couple cheats for that, the first one is the easiest and fastest one, but it doesn’t fix your issue- and that’s Swedish death cleaning. You are thinking about the experience that you’ll be leaning for your kids to experience while they are mourning you. You don’t want them to have a million things to sort through, a ton of crap they have to come and deal with- you want to leave them the least painful situation possible.
That’s not ideal bc I think ultimately you still need to value yourself and your own space and time in such a way that it’s worth being as on top of your game now and you were then. Cass always says stuff like, when you’re trying to get rid of stuff but can’t, she’s like, that stuff is costing you. Would you rather hang on to stuff or would you rather make room for your own chance to thrive without being buried under all this guilt and shame for having it in the first place
I recommend looking into organize 365 bc Lisa takes you one at a time, room by room, and legit walks you through every step of the way
Thank you so much for saying this!!! I've got 5 kids and the youngest just turned 1. I'm working on implementing a train system but I need to give myself grace too. Thanks!!!
@@heatherdembkowski4782Definitely give yourself grace When my kids were little they could make a mess in 10 minutes that took at least 30 to clean up and I was usually too tired to do it. Now they are older, I can clean somewhere and it stays clean for days if not weeks.
For the most part, this is how my mom modeled life for me, though I only got to see it work on summer vacation and weekends. But I knew that I needed to do the housework first thing, be done by a certain time, and then PLAY with my child, go for walks, whatever. I had a big learning curve, but with such wonderful examples of at home moms from church, I knew it was possible to do. Then I discovered Cas who helped me, and then Dawn who finally convinced me to cut my kitchen items in half and clear my counter. I've always done what Dana preaches (put it away now) and now thanks to everyone for sharing their path, I started my own channel to help pass on what I know, too, now that my son is 18 and homeschooling is coming to an end. I've also joined DAR and am active in church. Just like this lady said, I can do so much because my house is now streamlined and I have specific times when things get done. Today I'm going to lunch with a friend because I don't have to go to the grocery store this week, because I planned for 2 weeks last week! Etc. Great video, thank you!!!
Your channel sounds interesting 🤔 I just subscribed to ck it out later.😊
I also love your idea's and approach to our homes, sub'd to you.
@@AngellaRosetta Thank you! That's so sweet of you
I love being in DAR and several others! Just subscribed to your channel.
Hi! 30+ year DAR member here. I can recommend Lisa Woodruff, Organize365, and especially her Sunday Basket and Friday Workbox. You may find those useful too.
At 53 years old, I started my organizing business. Just prior to that, our son passed away. Talk about trains stopping - although it felt like, and still feels like more of a train derailment!
Some comments about how hectic this sounds - yes, i agree, however; when something happens in your life - death of a loved one, health issues etc, when you have a plan in place, a system, its easier to jump back in or have others help you because the systen is there. Decision fatigue/grief and depression get in the way of you being able to do the stuff that you think is so easy right now. When that train falls off its rails, will you be ready? I sure wasn't. I could barely get out of bed or take a shower or brush my teeth.
I wasn't prepared for all the health challenges I deal with daily.
I also wasn't prepared for the fact that if you develop one chronic health challenge and don't take care of yourself, your body will continue to build up new symptoms and eventually you end up unable to do anything.
Your body tries to warn you by creating symptoms like feeling tired, brain fog, overwhelm, aching like you have the flu, having an upset tummy, headaches, anxiety, depression, etc
If you are ignoring your needs for rest and recovery because you are still trying to do everything, then you are likely to develop further symptoms and trigger physical and mental breakdown.
I think my biggest lesson for others is that if you get injured or sick you need a "bare minimum" plan for how to do the tasks you need to do for each of your roles and responsibilities. Spread your energy between doing active work, doing admin tasks and doing things that you enjoy and that relax you. This is both how you get better and how you prevent further problems.
The things you enjoy doing become the fuel, energy and power for you to get moving again so don't cut out or compromise on having time for fun, hobbies and being social.
I think one of my problems is that because I didn't have a good plan for how I did stuff I ended up keeping busy with everything that I thought really mattered and wore myself out even more. I was made to feel guilty for being unable to work and needing help to get anything done.
I eventually ended up bed bound by a list of health challenges in my 30's and only started to get better when I was put on very strong medications, tried other treatment options like meditation and mindfulness, and when I stopped trying to meet the unrealistic expectations.
I am slowly recovering and rebuilding my life in my 40's. I'm mostly house bound and get out to do errands and go to doctor's appointments.
20 years after my first symptoms appeared I look back at those years and feel like they were wasted. Then I realise those hard years of being unable to do anything have been my greatest teacher. They taught me to value my time, energy, abilities and attention.
I look at tasks now and make decisions very differently. I try not to rush into starting something.
I've realised that most things (systems, roles, responsibilities) need to be maintained. Alot of the tasks need to be repeatedly done.
First step is to recognise the harmful patterns you repeat (get stuck doing), and the helpful patterns, as they are right now. I learnt to make the tiniest change I could.
Learn about the choice gap so you can pause in between the thought of "I need to..." and starting the task. Use the pause to check your decisions.
Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot
@@dotcassilles1488thanks so much for your explanatory comment, it means an awful lot to me currently and I think I'll re- visit it often.
@@dotcassilles1488 Thank you, Dot. I found your story very motivating and validating. I appreciate your sharing it here!
Whew! I'm so glad I'm retired and don't have to use every moment productively. Just listening to this discussion is exhausting. I'm quitting at 12 minutes and finding something more relaxing to watch!
Im with you! Sounds like really overthinking what needs to be done
It's a life-changing podcast. And listening to this is like an investment for my household-the most efficient way. I’m inspired!
You missed the point.
NatickJill- Congratulations on your next phase in life! 😊
I do wish the points were more clearly defined.
Any other Charlotte Mason mamas enjoying seeing the mainstreaming of this idea??
“This relation of habit to human life--as the rails on which it runs to a locomotive--is perhaps the most suggestive and helpful to the educator; for just as it is on the whole easier for the locomotive to pursue its way on the rails than to take a disastrous run off them, so it is easier for the child to follow lines of habit carefully laid down than to run off these lines at his peril.” -Charlotte Mason 1842-1923
Very interesting perspective. love it!
As a fellow Charlotte Mason Mama, I l 25:32 oved your comment and quote. The whole time Lisa was explaining about trains and rails, I was thinking of that wonderful book by Sonya Shafer, "Laying Down the Rails, A Charlotte Mason Habits Handbook." A great handbook for teaching both our children and ourselves the valuable tools of habits and routines. Love the discussion! Thx for having Lisa as your guest!
When I was younger , I never understood why my mother wanted me to dry the dishes. I explained to her they will dry in an hour and then I would put them away. I was always looking for efficiency even as a child.
Great podcast. I have ADHD and just always feel like I can't get it together. Seeing how well your house functions, while running a successful business is so inspiring to me!!!! Thanks Cass ❤❤❤❤
This was so timely for me to hear. I am very nearly clutter free after years (at least a decade) of letting go of stuff. In the last few months it has been the final, emotional stuff--deceased mother's belongings, my childhood artwork and instruments, fantasy and younger self items, multiple sizes of clothing. I'm finding myself not only with more time, but also more money. The money gives relief and a sense of freedom after years of scrimping and scarcity thinking. Which is good but has been somewhat unnerving. But the time I've gained because I'm not spending time thinking about what I should be doing or was avoiding doing is truly unnerving. For now I'm just sitting with this discomfort of not knowing what I want to do next. I'm grateful for this "problem" and I have faith answers will come to me as I stay the course of decluttering, maintaining, not over-shopping or over-eating to avoid uncomfortable feelings, and continuing to listen to Cas, Dana, Dawn and all of us who are figuring this out.
It's not just planning abd systems. It's also having things to do that you love/ have a passion about. That makes it sooooo much easier to do things.
💯 % this
Totally, I found once I've de-cluttered and have started some non-negotiable habbits I now have the ability to be creative again. I'm kinder and more patient with my children too 💞
@@ndoch9988ty for sharing it’s inspiring to see from people in the comments I hope I can have this some day soon
This is such a good point. I tend to lose steam for decluttering until I remember the things I'm passionate to do and THEN I have the energy and motivation to clear all the other things out of the way
That is exactly the same reason I got my PhD, I wanted it. I had the time even though I was working full time. I had a clean home and I was getting organized. Later, I found Cas and she changed my systems. Blessings. This was good.
good for you!
That’s so much relief, hearing the whole restaurant concept. Because that’s permission for me to be like no, no if you want something that’s not on my menu, you can go somewhere else. I don’t have to make meatloaf. I don’t have to make Chinese food. I don’t have to put that time and effort and energy into those things I’m barely mediocre at. Hey if you want meatloaf, let’s go see your mom. If you want Chinese food, the Chinese food place we love is open. If you want soup and homemade bread, my parents offered to make us some this weekend. But for the daily things, those can be the things I’m comfortable cooking instead of fast food. The daily things can be meals at home in moms daily diner. Bacon and eggs, sandwiches, tacos. and the adventurous ones can be elsewhere, and I don’t have to buy all those extra ingredients and that is such a freeing concept that I don’t have to have that decision fatigue getting ingredients and meals that are such a reach for me. I don’t need to be the variety. Going somewhere else is the variety. Because fast food is burger, chicken, taco, burger, chicken, taco. I can do those things. I can do them for better and cheaper.
Love this podcast! People said to me “why do you have a whole system, it seems a lot of work” but it is not work, it works for itself and I could finish a fulltime study next to my family and job! I feel so recognized by you, thank you so much❤ never thought of it as a train, but yeah I ride on tracks🤩
I love Lisa and subscribed to her channel. When I got to my 50’s a light turned on in my head and I suddenly needed some structure again. Tracks and train cars are magnificent
She is so inspiring. She says things that just click with me and get my mindset back on track!
A huge breakthrough for me was to just take responsibility for the chores I wanted done instead of waiting for other people to do what I thought was important or "fair". None of them actually take more than a few minutes, and is worth it-to me!
I know. Waiting for other people to do something just creates so much inner turmoil for ourselves.
I’m curious about this because I’m being told I need to delegate some household chores to the kids because it’s good for them and helps me lol . I agree but you know I find that giving them chores for the purpose of teaching them ( rather than focusing on helping me or considering fairness ) and choosing which chores to give them so that , if they don’t get done , it won’t derail everything else or bug the mess out of me lol . I haven’t watched anything but this video so far but now I’m curious.
This. Thank you for sharing. ❤
I have been following you, Dana, and Dawn for years, and all along I've been saying, if only I had this info when my kids were babies and I was a SAHM. Well, my kids are now 14 and 17 and I feel they need me more than ever. This podcast and the idea of the train is speaking in MEGAPHONE to me lol! I'm sad for my babies and my disorganized brain, but hopeful for my teens and showing them how to adult. Thank you ladies. 💕
Thanks for this Cass. Out of all these channels I watch, things you say give me the most lightbulb moments.
I found your show at just the perfect time! I have been praying & searching for Help in Organizing my house & thus Organizing my life! I just need that expert to get me started! So happy I found you!!
This is so interesting. I struggled like crazy. People did not know because I worked like crazy behind the scenes. I always tried to accomplish more than my energy allowed. I wanted to give my children so much attention and every experience, which took so much energy. It made all the regular chores difficult. I exhausted myself trying to be perfect in every area. I prefer a slower life with fewer activities because I actually connect better emotionally with my people.
I had a friend who had business cards made. They had her name and title: Domestic Engineer.
Love that idea!❤🤗
Like Rosanne Barr called it! 😁
I don't know if it's the same thing, but I have "systems" in place which I ask my family to implement too so that when things go to pot in life, everything doesn't fall apart.
A few examples: a squeegee lives in the shower and all who use shower are expected to spend 2 mins scraping down the glass and drying the taps at the end. Those 2 extra mins save me spending time scrubbing on my cleaning days.
I value washing up dishes in the evening so that I can just quickly put it all away in the morning. That makes me feel like I can get going easily in the morning. I get so overwhelmed seeing the previous days plates etc still lingering around dirty.
Also food is only eaten in the kitchen, that way dirty plates aren't found around the house!
Everything having a home means that it's very easy to whizz around with a duster, vacuum and mop without needing to pick things up and put away, taking you away from the task.
If I can't clean a room without stopping and oucking things up, then that room doesn't get done. The rule is whoevers "stuff" was in my way, they have to ckean the room! I tell you, that rule soon gets that stuff picked up in a timely manner, because they don't like the extra job!
Not having so much "stuff" to deal with is the game changer imo!
Reframing: as a stay at home mom, my job is not housekeeping while keeping my kids alive. My job is childcare, and respecting the home I’m in. So maybe if I operate as if I’m caring for someone else’s kids in someone else’s home, then I’ll treat it with more respect and structure? Maybe if I operate like a business I can enjoy playing with my kids and teaching them to pickup rather than momming them “because I just cleaned that”
This podcast episode is so good. Probably the third time I listened to this. The others were in Spotify. And I really think it's the combination of both of you because I feel like you are less detail oriented than Lisa is and that made this more accessible to my butterfly brain. I actually went and was trying to find her episode on it and I did and I started to listen to it and it was a lot for me to digest I still need to go back and finish it. I had to rewind a lot. but I also was scattered that day. And I think the reason why it felt so hard to digest was because she had talked about like future cars she had added to her train tracks and whenever you have to build the systems you aren't there yet. I also am very much in that car stage of life like when she was describing being able to take her car places in case the school nurse calls to come pick up her kid like that's me every day. I'm afraid to even go far away from my house in case one of the kids needs picked up. Because believe me they do. My brain is so much like yours cast I don't know if it's because of my ADHD or the fact that chaos follows me around like a puppy... as you know life never goes to plan, like it really doesn't and I'm always amazed at the stuff that you get done because I feel like you do have these train tracks in place or you can build them back quickly. But I also have seen how you beautifully pivot between chaotic moments. I mean sure you might have a meltdown or life might get to be too much but you bounce back quickly. And I really admire that quality about you and I definitely think that that's been the key to all your success. Because you are constantly getting back on track. Even if you are derailed. I feel like you have a crane operator that is driving behind your train and picking it back up and setting it back on the tracks. 😊 I need a crane operator too. 😂
I grew up in a household with 10 different cars, I would never know who was driving, which car was in the garage, on the driveway, broken down, in the repair shop, had been lent to someone or towed away or stolen!!! Utter chaos 24/7, my Mother particularly loved the drama of it all, the busy label, still does. If there's no drama she'll create it. I'm the proud owner and conductor of a beautiful, shiny efficient train ..I pop on carts as needed and take them off when they no longer serve me. I'm a minimalist who has time for that which or whom makes my heart happy. I have a deep passion for charity work too.
My mom was very organized but still created the drama. I think we humans often create drama instead of facing trauma. If that helps any.
@@tammyhavlik1015 exactly!!
Amazing guest, amazing talk, amazing amount of knowledge and perspective. Thank you two so much!
Organize myself first! Yes 🙌 I’m always 2 steps behind organizing everyone else leaving myself til last which never gets done. 😞 I like this one.
I love you cass! You and dawn have transformed my home. 5 years ago, I started watching your videos. Didnt act, but was obsessed for a few months.
I have a 4000 sq. Ft house. Major adhd my entire life. Prefer not to take medication ( support others making that choice though).
EVERY drawer, cupboard, closet, extra garage ....TOTALLY PACKED with junk, garbage, and what i call " useless crap".
I bought your book and workbook, im a tyhb member ( great support system, highly recommend, totally worth the small cost)
All I have left to declutter is my " Monica Closet Room". Saving til last. Had baskets etc.... but orderred really nice matching canvas baskets from Temu - saved about 60percent. ( don't judge me. Some people shop at target that sells tucking girls swimsuits for baby boys...not at all against community, but that is sick) my money, my business)
I am in the beautiful organization phase now and it is ALL thanks to you and Dawn ( like Dana, but your homes are more my style)
My beautiful home is actually becoming beautiful. My goal has always been to have a home beautiful enough to be on TH-cam. ( Dont want to be on TH-cam, just want it to look that way, and Im almost there!!!!)
Thank you Cass!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have ADHD also. I do meds, but feel the same in support of your choice to not take them.
Just an aside about Temu: there are actual class action lawsuits against them, so just be wary. I avoid them and Target (for the same reason you do) like the plague.
Lastly, I have also learned so much from Cas, Dawn & Dana. I take what I need from each one. We all need to do what we need to do to cope and move forward!
@erinespinosa9739 EDIT 2/22/24: 1) Diapers negate the need to tuck, so that alone should be the clue the story is FAKE even for people who don't believe in the mainstream news outlets who've debunked it (Associated Press, Reuters, USA TODAY, etc.). 2) These kind of fake stories are used to manipulate people into outrage that pressures institutions to STOP inclusivity for minority groups. That IS political and it's harmful to real people. 3) I'd never heard of this story before your post and fact-checked it for myself because it seemed both unlikely (diapers!) AND harmful, and that's what we have to do these days with all the misinformation out there. 4) The trans community is facing major backlash culturally and politically, including horrific physical violence. Whatever one's personal beliefs, I believe bigotry and violence are wrong and that it's important to speak up to stop it, whatever the venue.
*If it's really true that you're "not at all against [the] community," you still have the option to edit your comment (or repost it as a new one) to prevent a lie that harms a minority group from being seen by more people.*
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ORIGINAL POST:
Can we keep politics out of this forum, please? No one deserves to be surprise-slapped with implied criticism of their identity while reading comments on an organizing channel (or anytime). *The information you cited is also FALSE (see below).* Please edit it out so your otherwise encouraging comment isn't removed by TH-cam.
From the AP:
CLAIM: Target’s Pride collection features a bathing suit for kids that is labeled “tuck-friendly.”
AP’S ASSESSMENT: False. The “tuck-friendly” swimsuits are only offered in adult sizes, according to a spokesperson for the company and Target’s website. Kids’ swimsuits in the collection do not feature this label.
THE FACTS: Target’s seasonal collection of clothes for Pride month collection has been the subject of several misleading videos in recent weeks, with social media users claiming the retailer is selling “tuck-friendly” bathing suits designed for kids or in kids’ sizes.
@@bellaluce7088I really wasn't trying to be political! I wanted to let people know, if they wanted to buy supplies, that Temu is a good economical choice in this economy! I have seen so many people shamed for shopping at Temu. And I stopped shopping at Target last May, when I saw those bathing suits for baby boys 3-6 months old with my own eyes. I have a gay daughter. Totally supportive from day 1 when she came out to us at 14. Wonderful girl, so proud! But tucking a 3 month old boys penises is abusive! Sorry if I offended your beliefs!
I didn't think her statement was political at all. I too have been put in the position of making a personal choice of where to spend my money and have had really woke people flip out on me. She was obviously just trying to justify her Temu shopping before the craziness ensued!!!! She is obviously in total support of LGBTQAI+ , but against child abuse. Hope she doesn't change her post, people should not be forced to only support your views
Also, awesome job putting in 5 years and transforming your entire home!!!! Congratulations!!!
I agree she was not being political at all - you made it into something political!
Shocking!
She is against abusive practices against children! She has a gay child. But far left, ultra woke people lose their crap if any opinion that is not pushing your agenda is expressed.
Maybe you should edit your post seeing as she saw these in person.
It's always the most woke agenda pushing people who can't handle any opinion they don't agree with.
There was nothing political in what she said, only in what YOU said!
I love what you are saying about shopping and meal planning. I changed to meal planning and shopping every four days. I look at what we have and make a list to make meals with them. I now have a short list that costs less than $50.00 which includes toilet paper, medicines, cleaning stuff. We went from $1000 a month to a $400 a month grocery budget.
I'd love to hear more about that. I need to reduce my grocery spending.
Lisa is who got me turned to decluttering! Some of the other stuff was just too intense for me at the time. It was really good to hear this podcast.
I’ve always been an organized person about most things but I’m also artsy and messy and a let’s do this! person. I managed to get a nursing degree at 45 with a house a husband and 3 kids then a bachelors degree working full time with my dad who had dementia living with us for 5 years. Now I’m sort of retired with a fun part time job running a food pantry. I have put a few organizing processes in place that I wished I had done much earlier. Bed sheets get washed Thursday on payday weekend. Before I couldn’t remember when I washed the sheets! Other clothes washed on Friday early am. Costco Thursday evening on payday week. I said this to a very chaotic and disorganized person who thought this was so rigid. No it’s easy this way I have a couple of weeks to add to my list and I’m not running there pissed off on a Saturday. We also get gas at the same time in one car. On the way home I take two minutes to send a payment to Costco so I never get an email bill from them saying I owe 400.00!!!! Here’s one thing you ladies did not mention! My husband and I plan our together time ( ya know what I mean). It happens specific days. 😮. Years ago in my 30’s I heard some couple say they do this. I thought it was the weirdest most unromantic idea ever! Nope. I was wrong. Each of us is always ready and in the mood because we know this ahead of time. There is no “I’m tired, no I forgot, no I’m not in the mood”. We get ourselves and our mind in the mood. Before we would forget when the last time we were intimate because we were “busy”. We have been together 34 years and have never been closer. I dare you all to talk about this subject. 😊
Love this
I write it down in my planner. 🤣 With my working opposite schedule to him, I have to wake him up when I get home. Now, I personally would want to hit someone for waking me up for that, but he insists it's a perfectly good reason for an interruption in sleep. 🤣
I’m a sahm, so mine is like a little zoo train that just stops in the same three stations all the time, multiple times a day ❤😂 so much easier than trying to dive a crazy little car around the zoo
So inspiring! I actually listened to the podcast 3 times. My favorite of your podcasts so far. Thank you so much for the work you are doing in this space.
I re-listened too! So much good stuff and inspiration! 😃
Me too
I’m looking to create time to do things that have been on the back burner for me.Encouraged by this episode. I know that I need to organize my train to get going. I love automation, so I’m excited to see how I can build a functional system that works for my home. The planning part of the brain 🧠 is in the prefrontal cortex. People will under developed prefrontal cortex, especially have difficulty with planning aspects of life. This dropped just when I needed it. Thank you!
No disrespect intended, but I kept waiting for the details of this system. I must be missing something. Is there another podcast with the steps explained?
I like the Minimal Mom and Dana K White. Cass has a lot of other videos that teach you.
Yes, the link to Lisa's tracks & train podcast in the description for this video.
Talking about the theory of being productive what a, waste!
I agree, I felt like this was word-salad without any real guidance. All I got from it is to pick your goals & habits and lazer-focus on doing them.
The system is practiced habits. It seems like many people just didn’t even listen past 10 minutes.
This was giving me so much life but now I want to cry 😂 I am a full time single mom and my child’s only parent. I work a full time job, a part time job and go to school. I have four cats who basically do not get along and a three bedroom 1400 square foot house that I am sooo thankful for and is my sanctuary but that I also manage on my own. I commute 17 miles to and then from work and school and wow … thinking about having time to even blow dry my hair nevertheless do a puzzle feels impossible. I am working on decluttering and then will get organized. But dang
Sending you a big hug, friend. You've got your hands full.
Might I suggest finding another home for at least two of those cats . . . .
Give yourself credit for doing all this you deserve it and you'll get to a better place!
Joanne read my mind, get rid of extra cats and look at all the places to cut out wasted time
OMGOSH! I’ve been on a train for years. Every day I have the daily things, anchors as you call it … and on Sundays I plan for the week and beyond. I’m on a track!
This is such a great episode -- I really like the focus on self-automation. That's brilliant! I hadn't even considered that decision fatigue was why I'm so drained at the end of a day, but it's absolutely true.
I've been following both Clutterbug and Organize 365 for years already! I love the collaborative podcast! I'm in a huge life transition due to going from being intensely employed (Exec Assist to a CEO), to disabled and unable to care for my home. I'm re-implementing processes from you both to reinvent my home to make it much simpler to care for, more full of things that make me smile (hubby gets to stay then), and streamlined to being almost self-cleaning. Once again, you guys are critical to my transition!! Thank you!
Hey Kath just so you know while you guys were talking; I got 3 loads of clothes washed, dried + folded; in btwn I had my dinner. So it is now 11:30pm + I'm done!!! So therefore you guys gave me the impulse to just start/start anywhere, doing anything which it's good because I don't have to do it tomorrow; Yayyy !!! 😅😂🤣😆😄😁😁😁👍👄 Thanks. Nite-nite...😴😴😴🙏👀♥️🙋♀️😍😴😴😴
You two are like sisters from different mothers! ❤
Amazing, amazing!! Years of therapy in an episode!!
Oh and ‘maybe your mom was organized but not warm and fun’ nailed it!! All these unknown blockers to push through.
So appreciate the detailed examples!! Need the details
That hit me pretty square also
This sounds just like me in old times and my work in school! I have been a teacher just retired and I was always super well planned. I knew the whole year and exactly when to do what and for how long time. That meant for me that I had a lot of flexebility if something happened and I could easily know when we had to run the train past or if we could stop and be spontanius! Loove this! 🥰 I have struggled, as I retired and we moved and lots of changes happened, with my habits. I realize I have no tracks!! 😳 But this was the spark I needed to get my engin going! I am going to lay tracks and run that train on them!! Just an old rusty lokomotiv that is what I want. Not fast but steady, old fashioned and really quaint! (The train in Harry Potter) Thank You Cas I will keep this picture in my head for the rest of my life…❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
Love your comments! I'm delaying my retirement because I know I need a "plan" before I leave. The only structure I have is with my WFH job & it's easier for me to do "work" than deal with with the house, etc.. I need a huge train to get me on track & to reconnect with those hobbies & activities that I gave up after having children. ❤
@@MyOver50Thank You! Well I do not want to back to work at all! Think I just have to stop feeling like I have a holiday 😬 I have no routines and loove sleeping half the day, reading the newspaper for an hour and just do nothing. Maybe I should get more productive like I used to be. I just feel bad when my husband comes home and best case senario is that I have planned a dinner so he can cook it 🙃🤪 We are both quite minimalistic so not much clutter and everything has its place and you will find it there. But I would like to have a plan with exercising, healthy foods, grocery shopping and other things that I easily procrastinate. I feel like I have all the time in the world but actually I don’t! I have less as I get older and need to rest more and everything takes longer time to do…. No I need to build those tracks again and hop on that old lokomotiv and get going 😊 Well that have to be next week as Tuesday I am going to Athens, Greece for a real vacation! 🥰😂 But when I get home…
@@MyOver50 Well take your time to figure out what you want! I know what I want I just have not understod that I needed to make new tracks. The old ones is gone as I moved and we made so much changes. So I need to figure out how to lay the tracks I want! Good Luck!
This podcast is very interesting and does make me realize why I hated my job in a big corporation right out of college .... all those corporate rails were built to benefit others! It's important that the homemaker or small business owner is working for herself, striking the right balance between automatic, habit-based work, and impulsive choices. The perfect balance might be achieved when synergy is achieved -- the routines (the tracks) free the mind and create the time for artistic pursuits, laking TH-cam videos, engaging in crafts, studying a foreign language, whatever!
@@latulipenoire3759 yes! Exactly! I had ”old tracks” that doesn’t work and to figure out everything using up my energy on ”basic” things have draned me so I have no energy left for things I love doing. Like designing and building my new garden. The creativ side of me sort of dissapered after our move. Now I realize why and have started to create ”new tracks”. And when they start to work I will have more time over for my creativ side of life. 😊 Love this pod and the synergy of these two ladies! 👌
The train and tracks...this perfectly articulates how I teach my ASD kiddo life skills. We spend years laying the tracks in order to get the cars running on autopilot. As soon as we're on autopilot, we add a row of seats or a whole new train car.
You two are adorbs! How can we all become best friends. You are my people!!!!
I am a retired teacher. My children are grown. I see my friends for lunch most weeks. I am planning home remodeling and repairs. I am emptying and selling mom’s home. I volunteer. I still cook and clean for my husband and have homemaking responsibilities. I want to see more about women my age who seek to be more organized.
This was great Confirmation for me, I have always said that I'm the CEO and COO of our family husband is CFO and CTO, (Finace/Technology) and we make a great team and have always run our household like a business. I was able to coach 18 soccer teams in 10 years, chaperone/liaison middle/hs choir trips to Italy/Canada and domestic travel. Became a Girl Scout leader; chess coordinator. Our 3 kids are young adults grown and doing very well and I believe Lisa shed some light on my empty nesting-->I need to write my memoir. Thanks Cas, excellent podcast! 😊
22:22! This is the holy grail of organizational angst with women! Brilliant and so timely for me! Thank you both so very much! ❤
Please take time to do the fun stuff like hobbies or something you enjoy doing. Make the time like it's an appointment.
These things will provide the fuel/energy/power/motivation you need to start doing the things that you need to.
Decide what is the bare minimum that needs to be done in each of your roles/responsibilities. Write the things down in detail so you can see them and create a pattern of how you want to get them done (a habit or routine). Start with doing the bare minimum and as you recover slowly add into what you have started doing.
When you are stuck in the thought of everything that needs to be done. Make a list. Then stop and give yourself a half hour to do something you enjoy. Distract yourself long enough to calm yourself down. The time will help when you come back to the list. Pick one thing to start with. Maybe you pick the thing you think will take the smallest amount of time and energy OR the thing that will make the biggest difference to how you feel 2moro when you wake up OR the urgent/important task you have procrastinated about.
Alot of times we procrastinate because we have a general idea like "finish project by..." or "tidy my room" rather than breaking the idea down into the actions we need to do.
Looking around the room you might need to:
collect rubbish(trash) and recycling into a basket/bin
take it out to where it is disposed of
Change the sheets and pillowcases
Put dirty washing in the basket or one big pile.
... The more detailed information helps you to see the tasks as separate rather than the big lump of "tidy my room".
I am overloaded with all the metaphors, cars, train, train track, baskets, etc...
I asked my philosophy professor whether training my mind to be logical would make me less creative and he told me that it would actually free me up to be more creative. You're saying the same thing. Being organized gives you time to relax.
WOW! Less decision fatigue & chaos and more time for FUN? Sign me up! 😄 This gave me the same excitement about developing routines that Cas & Dawn have given me for getting rid of things. 🤩 That's HUGE for someone with ADHD and a lifetime of internalized shame about time management. I actually find it reassuring to hear it can take a while to become automatic. Worth it! ❤ *THANK YOU BOTH!* ❤
As a recently diagnosed adhd person, I realized that having systems in place is probably what got me stable for most of my life... Only with recent changes in hormones did it become crazy stupid for me... The overwhelmed was a constant feeling. I caught Cas's clutter ugh, then a friend recently shared about Dana K whites...her "contain" er concept mind blowing. I have a business degree...and I've always felt the relationships are like contracts between two companies merging...so running your home like a business ..with roles responsibilities defined, assignment given and agreed too with deadlines...LOVE.
@@reneechristensenpillow8373 Congratulations on your diagnosis! 😄❤ It helped me so much! I found Dana's books on Dawn's Amazon page (have Cas's too) and am looking forward to reading them! When I heard Dana say she sweeps the kitchen floor daily to help her "see" anything accumulating on the floor that needs to be put away I thought "now this is a brain that gets my kind of challenges!" ; - D
Cas's ADHD videos and the How to ADHD channel have helped me so much!
So grateful that we live in this era of easy accessibility to life changing information!
Best wishes to you! 😀
You've taken the words right out of my mouth. I'm so relieved and re-assured that it will most likely take 3 years to get my house / train up and running. But that doesn't matter because after 40 years I now know how!!! Hallelujah 🖐️
@@ndoch9988 Yes! 🤓
God bless this podcast!!! Brilliant ideas. Truly. Thank you thank you for improving my life
I’ve been waiting on you to find Lisa! She has helped me so much. I love her! I heard her on this additude podcast and it was amazing
I have my groceries delivered. You are not tempted by 'sales' and impulse items. Every item needed for a recipe is included and not "forgotten". You don't spend time wandering a supermarket and/or gas going to and from. Easy peasy.
Thank you making this idea for women. Thank u
I AM BLOWN AWAY by this video! This information is a GOLD MINE!
Both of you ladies are extremely awesome and a great encouragement to all. I'm an older woman and it's never too late to learn productive things. I was born curious and learn things every day.
When you said this podcast was going to blow my mind, I didn’t believe you. I should have, because it did! I can’t wait to learn more! I’m a little trepidatious at the “3 years to get there” but I hope some of the work I’ve already been doing with you, Dana and Dawn will help me get off with a little “time served” 😂. I’m actually excited and saying “let’s do this!”
Love it all but I’m going to refrain from comparison my train to Lisa Woodruff. She “seems” like she has lots of energy. I love energetic people! But I’m not one of those people at this stage of my life. I need naps sometimes, I get tired, & that’s ok. So, I can tailor my production train to my life & needs.
This really is brilliant! Wish I would have learned this before being a mother but glad I found it now!!! Thanks so much!
I love Lisa
She helped me start my journey in taking control of my life 😊
Good podcast. I think I am the only man on here though! Men are unorganized hoarders too!!!
My husband too! But he watches Cass with me and is helping.😊
Great to hear you find this of interest 😊.
My Mom was a school teacher and had a wonderful simple system in place for running our home. All meals, cleaning and laundry were done at home.
Thank you, thank you and thank you Lisa and Clutterbug podcast for sharing this wisdom. I needed this so so much. God bless you and your work.
I buy the meat for the freezer, then meal plan with that. It is possible! I'm also in a family of hunters, so occasionally get a call to come help process a deer. That means bringing venison home for the freezer. We use it all, but it's an intentional decision that works for us. I switch up my meal plan when I run across half price salmon!
We're the same- we use all the meat we freeze.
I like the idea for meal planning. Thinking of my home as a restaurant and not over buying things. I shop this way without thinking about it. But I will buy meat on sale if it's meat we normally eat and freeze it. I've always separated the meat in portions to freeze so I can just grab what I want and go.
I’m so sorry to hear that your mom isn’t well. You must be straight out with everything going on in your life. As they say, you need to take care of you to be able to take care of others.
I can relate to your daughter with the dust allergies. Mine are so bad (amongst other allergies). They settle in my chest and I had pneumonia twice this winter.
I need to have an organized house as it calms me. Unfortunately, not all my family understands. 😫
I started this on Spotify, chose to repeat here. What a perfect metaphor. I wanted to add that every new life season leads to needing to tracks. In our marriage we moved often due to work, and your experience moving requiring new tracks is so true. I also did my PhD because I wanted to--go Lisa! Now I'm transitioning to retirement in 4.5 months and need to rethink my tracks. Now I am making notes of what I hope to do --sew more--before other things drift in to take up my time. BTW, I clean to Spotify and knit to TH-cam, love having both options!
😂 I listened twice on Spotify and listening here as well. It is so good.
I have been trying to "FLY" for years. Her no excuse rule never worked for me. Dana was realistic and I have come to really get to love Cass, Lisa and Dawn. All four of these women are amazing. My problem is that an issue I'm having isn't really addressed much.
I work 12 hours, 5 days a week, 7 on Saturday and also do paperwork at home for work. My job is fast-paced and im flat out exhausted. I hear Dana also say do the dishes, and i do always but some days, that's all i get done. I would love some expert advice. Im not getting any younger (58) and im tired of the overwhelm. I understand that a stay at home mom or a work from home parent might find a routine that works for them based upon some of these women, but i haven't gotten there yet. Thanks for any thoughts.
I’m not an expert so I will leave the 4 experts to give you the advice you’re looking for, but I think you just have too much on your plate. If you work 6 days a week at your job/s it’s going to be hard to get everything at home done without taking something off your plate- either working less or delegating home responsibilities. But if you can add one load of laundry a day (start to finish) to your daily dishes it will help.
She reminds me so much of Marla Cilley : same drive, forward spirit, organization skilled. A really type 3,4 person
Uhg I have such a hard time meal planning! Home life is crazy, I have 3 under 6 years old. We eat so simple anyway. How do you wrap your mind around all this planning with the chaos in my brain? When you’ve got so much going on the next step is planning but I’m intimidated to start!
Plan one meal a week or plan for a whole day. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Start small.
Write out family favorites. Keep ingredients on hand for those. We are an Hispanic family so tacos, beans and rice are staples. :) I keep rice, beans, ground beef and tortillas on hand. We also like various pasta dishes. So I keep penne pasta, sauces and chicken on hand. That way I have all the ingredients, on hand, ready to use.
I can't meal plan because I don't like being boxed in 😂. But I also am not adventurous so we eat a lot of the same family favorites. I usually try out a new recipe maybe once every month or so.
Thanks Cass! I have a Sunday basket but I've never actually heard Lisa before... and my Sunday basket functions more like a time will tell basket! 😅 I need train tracks!! And an engine! And some cars!
Love how the kitchen is operated like a restaurant!
My sister is a Tarus and ruled her life like this with planning her day far far in advance. She taught her son, my nephew, to write his next days task the day before, and plan his outfit for school (when he was a youngin). ❤
This is so good! I need help with those tracks! I make plans - load dishes every night, unload every morning, one load of towels, one load of clothes every single day, etc- but then someone needs something, I get a bad headache, get messed up somehow, or let myself off the hook. How do I make it stick? Anybody got any ideas besides just building my muscles over time?
Ok. I wrote and posted(inside my kitchen cabinet) a daily tasks list. There are every day tasks and by days of the week. I have felt so great today working through the list. Serotonin rewards are real!
I think it also helps to try to think of things with a better attitude. I don't want to call them chores.
I have made a tight schedule for 15 minutes activities. Including phone time. Snack time. Exercise. Nap. Dance. Music. Things that matter to ME/YOU. Like dishes,15 minutes. Listen to a song and sing along 5 minutes and make a pot of tea also five minutes. Now brush my hair and put it in a ponytail to be ready for the next 15 minutes activity. I’m motivated just sharing this.
There are times in our lives when we are super-busy, and we have to get more productive in order to make it through those times. I think the train concept is very useful for those who commute by car- can we buy gas on the way, pick up dog food on our same route? How do we organize our route better so it is more in a straight path? And maybe we can learn ways to save time that really don't cost that much more, such as maybe after Covid the grocery store has a pickup area for free, maybe we can order our dog food online and have it delivered once a month, maybe we have a way of doing laundry that is more productive. Alll these things individually might not be much, but collectively they can save a lot of time and get the super-busy times of our lives more manageable, and once those times are over, we can still do them to create leisure time for our lives.
You two have so much in common! Even your backgrounds! Thanks for this inspiration!
Love this podcast, it has covered so many things I've been trying to improve and just not getting it right. You could have been talking directly to me.
Thank you
I'm downsizing my kitchen items, cleaning those out, washing items I'm keeping. Very freeing.
Thank you so much for this! I have been struggling to figure out how to manage our household efficiently with two young children while decluttering and getting organized and getting very frustrated because there's no time left for me...this is so inspiring! I will definitely going to Lisa's channel. BTW, my husband had the exact same idea about milk lol and I was a tad annoyed but I'm glad to see you girls think the same way.
Love this! So helpful to be reminded to run home like a business. I have started and stopped so many times. Maybe the train track system will help it finally stick! Thank you Cas and Lisa!
I couldn't find a perfect bag/purse. I bought a diaper bag that didn't have the fold out changing pad. It's perfect!
I let myself get derailed all the time. This podcast is exactly what I needed to hear. Will implement in my life!
This just clicks. It is my natural rythm. People often ask me how I combine so many activities. Do I have time to sleep? Yes! It is because I don’t have to think about my train tracks. They come naturally to me.
I used to do that when my kids were small. Got of track but I need to get back on track. Thanks ladies.
Thank you ❤
I love this!!! Chef’s plate and 1 grocery order online!
Thank You so much ❤
I adore Lisa and you too Cas♥️♥️
Oh wow. I needed this so much! Thank you Ladies ❤️🙏
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I’m a clutter mover !🥺😢 I hope this helps me. Not much room and things need to go! Now I’m also having chronic pain. But I know this can be done. Can’t wait to hear this system
I would much rather be a family conductor than the family servant ... I feel like I'm the housekeeper, cook, scullery maid, nanny, chauffeur and project manager : something has to change 😢
Reminds me of learning about what Lillian Gilbreth did for home management, organization, and design in the 1920s.
Found this video by accident, thank you! I needed this in my life right now, Love this!
Binge watched all 6 series of Breaking Bad a few years ago when I discovered it. Absolutely loved it. My favourite tv series by a mile. So glad you’re enjoying it.
I have been so curious to watch a conversation with my favorite adhd women . ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ you are wonderful and encouraging thank you both
You're both so amazing.
Oh my gosh Cas it actually blew my mind this is incredible! I actually needed this so bad, it's like a key to the next level. Honestly now I can make a track so I can sit on my ass guilt free if I fancy it (I probably won't I'll find a project) but these tracks will give me the freedom to choose. Wow, wow, wow! THANK YOU!! ❤
@Clutterbugpod do you have a routine for maintaining yourself or is it just me? I've just written a timetable/laid train tracks to help me take care of myself as I used to put myself at the bottom of the list I was the to do that was just too much. Would love to hear your thoughts on self care. ❤