@@sidharthballavmohanty3340 I only can tell about my own situation, and I think many men can not be straight about how they feel and struggle about it.. I'm blund asf 😅
Sealz, You talk with gentleness and understanding of both sides. But look around, how many other videos are there telling men and women how to play games, how to be alpha male or female, how not to be your real self but pretend so you get more attention from the other gender, and how toxic the other gender is. It is very sad these influencers are doing an irrevocable damage to many of their followers. I really think your advice and views come from a good clean place. I am looking forward to more of your videos to remind again and again the goodness we have within us, and not to get way laid with toxic influencers. Thank you!
I love what you said and it is messed up that people with great influence aren't spreading the positivity we actually need. No way im doing that! I appreciate every single one of ya'll and want nothing more to be that positive influence for ya. Thank you Marian
Wow! I havent seen videos like that, but there are some very questionable "influencers" on TH-cam... sigh... you got it right though, Sealz nails it 👏💯
And Another One Sealz! My girls and I discuss this all the time, and you’re right, it is A LOT of work! Especially if the man is not ready to be open and honest with himself. When he’s open, he will come to you, just be ready when he does.
I came here for number 3. This one may sound crazy but it’s very real. My parents separated when I was 3 and my mother and step father to this day never once told me they love me. They also entirety isolated me from family outside of my house and friends. They say you can’t miss something you never had but this isn’t the case. It wasn’t until last year that I realized I’ve never told my son I love him. He’s 16…. What’s worse is now, even after realizing I’ve been wrong, I still can’t say it. I’ve also never said it to my wife of 18 years. God help me 🙏🏾 Seriously.
I'm curious to know how did you get that far in the relationship with someone that doesn't open up? And my next question was going to be How do you stay? Isn't it lonely? but I suppose because you have your son.
Spot on truth right here!! Thank you for explaining I pray for all who had tough childhoods who were never taught how to love the right way! Gotta break that cycle in order to succeed in finding true love and be able to express yourself to the one ur with. ❤🙏✌️
I love when somebody is ready to express himself,it makes things easier.When you are able to express yourself it shows how confident you're and you're willing to open up your life to another person,that's what love want.But this idea of hiding your emotions,letting the other person try harder to know you,it causes a lot of anxiety and somebody who is not patient will just let go and that's how you lose the right one and land into the fake one.
Exactly my situation. I tried for too long expressing myself while he held back even tho I KNOW his feelings ran deeper he would admit. To draining so I had to Block him unfortunately
Me now! Except he opened up halfway about his feelings I will never know his deep ones,but I’m at the point in stepping back we already had this conversation it’s soo annoying it sucks cause he a good man but I’m not about to make myself boo boo the fool and hurt my own feelings in the process what makes it worse is that he not ready for a relationship right now his reasons given is understandable but I been single for a few years so I’m ready he got out of a relationship not too long ago but I’m not about to wait forever either .. me being 22 I know i can’t let go and not unless it turns into forever 😫.
@@brittanybrown5899 why is this me now 🥺 we only known each other for 2 months and a few weeks I’m trying to give it time and not rush it what do I do ? I hate myself for being very expressive he’s the only man that ever brought me out of expressing myself when it comes to ❤and that says a lot and I have had my first love already and everything . I’m finally trendy to accept someone in my life before I wasn’t needed to heal a lot and it’s not like “I’m young and don’t know what I want .” I definitely know what I want and ready for it while still growing as a person just want him to be open all the way I’ve seen progress though , just I’m not a patient person but I’m holding on cause it just became a few months .
This was interesting. My ex taught me how to communicate. I didn't realize how bad I was. Lol. This same person also said men can never really love. We did have a great relationship while it lasted, but with truly getting to know him I understand why, and that he has a lot to heal from. That only he can do.
Sealz, this same attitude or emotional disposition makes us ladies feel shut out, drained, not emotionally catered for and a slight feeling of disrespect and rejection. Hurts tbh. Seems a lot of us have been jacked up right from birth. Both men and women. We all need some amount of healing. But guys should at least make more effort with their partners cuz sometimes we (i) really love hard but have to walk away with the hope of meeting someone who ticks some of your boxes and can still protect and provide emotionally. Love the sun kissed skin tho😍
Beautifully said! Anytime we can connect with someone and we can mutually understand that we both need healing and can provide a safe space for each other to do that, it is a blessing. When we can’t, it’s fussing and stressing.
This what hapenned to me sis . Beware of men that supress their emotion those ones are weak . I ended up not feeling well mentaly and exclued Empathy acceptance of your own emotions in a man is fricking sexy. When you grow with a non communicative family you dont want to start a family with a man or women with the same dynamic. You want to feel love understanding vulnerability from both side.
I appreciate how you mentioned healing in this for the men who need it in order to attract a healthy relationship with a woman who’s done or doing the same. Because we are a reflection of our partners we choose. 🙏🏼
Currently taking to this guy, Conversation has been great but lately I’ve noticed that he’s been a bit off chatting less etc. I normally would have written him off as uninterested but there’s just a feeling in my gut that there’s something he’s going through that he wouldn’t share with me. I asked and he responded vaguely about ‘life not being stable’. He still responds to me with such kindness but seems distracted. You’re video just gave me better understanding and he’s probably in the first category cause everything you said aligns with his character. From Nigeria
So true, and this is why I do what I do. This mindset can and must be broken - hopefully before their intimate relationship. To start healing is a choice, they must be uncomfortable in their hurt. Change Your Mind, Change Your Life.
I have been trying to get him to open up and talk for 4 months now and he consistently avoids it. He always says he'll talk soon. So the last time he said this was in May. Then I didn't hear from him by text until 3 days ago. He sent a bs text about nothing at 2am. I just can't handle any of the lack of communication, being ignored, lack of time and energy, etc. I told him so a couple of days ago. I shouldn't have to try to drag anything out of him. If he cares about losing me, he will either step up or just needs to stay away. I've been moving on anyway...meeting other people. That's a problem only God and he can fix.
My exact same situation I feel they are Emotionally unavailable. I tried 5 months an finally threw up my hands dispute my feelings for him BLOCKED 🤷🏽♀️
Many men understand that love is only expressed through physical intimacy or through materialism. The Ego and pride can destroy a beautiful relationship. Lack of spiritual growth and emotionally connection is very common. One doesn't have to be religious, there are other ways to find an understanding if only people put in the work... Suggest to get self-help books for tools if not interested in seeking councilling.
Good luck you think giving me gift and sex is going to keep me you gotta be outta your rabbit a** monkey a** mind. Men need to start looking at life for what it is stop living in ego and illusion.
Once again Sealz thank you so much for providing me with the ability to really understand the man that I love and value more than my own life, I thought his silence was a lack of trust in me and in time he would come around, or maybe he was married, I didn’t know what to think. He did tell me he has an illness and I told him it didn’t change the way I felt about him and I thought he would be ok now about communicating with me, Your explanation of how difficult it is for men to show their feelings brought tears to my eyes,, for how often I must have hurt his feelings through my lack of understanding. Thank you again Sealz, I don’t want to lose this lovely man. 🙏🏻
Sealz thank you for speaking the truth in all your videos and especially on this topic about men’s feelings. I wish I had understood this early in my life. It would have helped me to understand my father and every other man better. For the record, as a woman, I will never think men are weak, etc. for expressing their feelings to their wife &/or loved ones. I have the utmost respect for you telling the truth, because it will set everyone free & bring people closer together in understanding, empathy, and compassion. Thank you. You are a good man.
The people you described who were emotionally abandoned as children (many ppl) usually end up with an insecure attachment style, which shows itself in romantic relationships later. Yes it's a thing.
Let us know below if you've ever come across these types or currently dealing with them? What was your solution to helping them with communicating their feelings and being comfortable doing it?
It's important to learn a person's communication style. We do not send and receive messages the same way. I think quizzes like the 5 Love Language quiz and the personality test created by Carl Jung are great places to start. A lot of men tend to have Act of Service as a love language and to your point of being a perfectionist, as long as they are providing and working hard they are expressing their love. However, I feel I understanding the traits that are dominant in a man allows you to know how to better communicate with him. I feel being honest and consistent is also important in establishing trust and a strong friendship. This takes time and patience.
Thank you for this video. I like the way you clear things up. I could tell your the type you don't beat around the bush when it comes to the truth. God bless you. #New subcriber
I’m going through it with a man that identifies with the first scenario… I know he loves me and cares for me but he is so into not letting me see the failures and insecurities he has by not being in the position he feels like he should be in.He has became distant and it hurts but I try my best to be supportive of his situation our love is real and he feels I deserve the best I don’t feel he is just out messing around with girls I genuinely feel the determination and he has just been going really hard… I really appreciate you making this plain and simple for me this helped me be more cool and just let him do him … it’s personal for him. I understand now a whole lot better God Bless!!!
I am currently dealing with this now. I found your channel BECAUSE I am trying to find a solution. I know how he feels about me, and his actions have shown it. However, as of lately there have been some new stressors to arise in his life and he is not opening up to me about it completely. I can feel that he isn't regardless of what he tells me. I literally just called my uncle that lives MILES away to get some insight from him. And he was able to give me the same advice you just did here, but more personalized due to the information I provided to him about my situation. I don't want to push him away for good because I am trying to get him to understand that I am really here for him no matter what. What I conclude, there really is not much else we can do as women except to give it time. But not ignore him.
I'm going through this has a older mature relationship and it's hard but time and understanding he's open up bit by bit which gives me the glimpse of a future with this man... It helps to be transparent so he can see your not the enemy and your there for the future with him that allows him to feel assured. .. Please always put God first so he can guide you and open up ways when you can't see away pray pray pray is the key tek it to God. .. Blessings my brother for your advice and guidance
Bro how the fuck you don't have millions of subscribers? You say shit that makes a lot more sense that is a lot more knowledgeable than a lot of these other vatoswow that was a great way to put it to help me understand myself better so much that resonates with me from this video I appreciate the video bro for real!
I really love that you share insights about guys. It's so important that women understand why and how men thinks and acts. Thank you so much. You are doing a fantastic job here.
Thank you for explaining. 😉This makes sense but you’d think a grown man would figure it out at some point and learn to communicate. My ex didn’t tell me he loved me. He also lied and cheated and never apologized. Too much Ego and not a single “I’m sorry”… Guess who’s been chasing me after I ghosted him 7 years ago… Getting me back was always on his mind, even after years, he recently said. Still no sorry. 🤯 Meanwhile I found a great guy and married him- kind, faithful, expressive and the best father of our kids I could ever ask for…🙏 Setting higher standards worked. ❤️
I love this video thank you Sealz ❤️ I have gone through challenges in life but, I push through it. When you awaken spiritually you have to let go of the fear and ego. I am a very supportive person. If I can do it a Man can because, I have been very dominant in the Masculine energy and I didn't have a "Mother" essentially, more raised by my Father who to this day still doesn't want to hear anything negative, shuts emotion straight down so, I have not had anyone I can be vulnerable with growing up.
Very interesting and definitely information to consider. Never really thought about the struggle men may have in expressing their feelings verbally. Good job!👍
Sealz... wow... just wow. I feel like I say that on all of your videos but honestly, this one was seriously amazing and honestly insight that I personally needed right now. Just so so so very good and insightful. Thanks so much for this Sealz. You are such a gem and a true gift.
This is real. I have been meeting guys like this. It's so sad to me that they will sabotage a healthy, happy relationship with a good woman because of these issues and fears.
Sealz!! as always thanks the dude in life carries some of these tendencies and its hard getting close, but not giving up because he really is a good man, his divorce hit him harder than he wants to let on
Hello Sir I'm from Ghana and as a young man all that you say is true very tru 😂😂. Anyway can u also help men know the mind of a woman . I'm so impressed with your presentations and I would realllllllyyy wish u teach men about the mind of women. Thank yiu so much Sir 😁😁
One of the things I did was listen as he told me he tried a job he hated and quit. I laughed told him my own story. We both agreed we cannot put energy into something we dont feel is purposeful and even though we quit we are still successful! It help tremendously knowing that he doesn’t have to be perfect made him more relaxed! -He was raised not to speak but to just do!
Oh Sealz, a massive thank you for this video, it explains and now at last I understand and have the answers to all the “Why’s? I have with the man I love so very much. Thank you❤️, After my first question ( Why?) his answer was I”I don’t want to look a fool” now I understand what he meant.
This gives me some understood lessons of the man in their world knowning they do struggle within themselves also now i can have a better approach towards mine thx for this viedo it really helped!!!
Hi Sealz the Man I thank you for this clarity. I send LOVE Peace and Abundance to you and your viewers. Be blessed and take care of yourself KING and be safe
I'm experiencing all this now... I've tried everything and he's still not convinced!!!! So guess what, I'M DONE!!!! GONE!!!!! He would just get mad, couldn't believe I was serious.....OH WELL.....HIS LOSS...
Thank you...I appreciate that...I LOVE ME!!! THEREFORE I WILL NEVER GIVE UP...SOMEWHERE THERE'S A LOVE JUST FOR ME.... HE WILL FIND ME❤❤❤. Keep SHARING, I LOVE YOUR INSIGHT❤❤❤
Me too, sis. At some point, we have to recognize when enough is enough and that the person we're trying to love has to heal and get themselves together first before anyone can love them. ❤
I went from an abusive ex husband who was a good communicater . To dating someone afterwards who wasn't abusive at all and was horrible at communication. I just can't get it right. I just wanna say damn all y'all "KISS MY GRITS" 😆🤣
@@ingridc.68 no sweetie you can't give up..... He WILL find you, the right one, we MUST HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE THAT. HE'S OUT THERE. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP QUEEN👑!!!
I didn't know how much i needed to hear this, this helped me a lot, u have no idea. Thank you so much i really appreciate it, now im one step closer to understand him
Good evening Sealz, I would like to know how I can break start softening a man's hard shell. He shares little and doesn't want to talk or become vulnerable or opening up as you do. I thing he was raised that way and no be soft
I just love the way you are able to come out straight up with man issues that women need to understand..thanks for sharing your life..God Bless you Seals♥️🙏
I would add the one thing that I have struggled most with. As a man, we get punished if we over react or under react emotionally. For example, if I am too angry for a given situation I will be perceived as having an anger problem. At the same time, if I cry a little too much, I will be perceived as too sensitive or week. And, if I don't express how I feel at all, a robot. Women can go a bit crazy and most men will still listen to them and try to understand. For men, we have to always react emotionally in proportion to the situation, if we don't we are punished for the reaction and the reason why we had an emotion is lost. This emotional balancing act is something I don't feel many women realise and why so many men just don't share how they feel because they don't want to potentially rock the boat.
You should be able to be authentic. I love expressive men. If a woman can't handle your emotions, she either has her own issues or isn't in love with you. I would hold a man if he cried or support them in reasonable anger. No one likes an angry volcano or blubbering baby. Men and women should strive to control their emotions. If you are punching walls there is a problem. These issues must be worked on before pursuing a relationship.
She Basically just told me I can't be sweet to her that's too much of a women thing smh. I swear wen I treated women like crap life was so much better.
@@johnnycalderon9951and how did that go for you?. Great them like crap, you will only get a low value woman. That's the most you can get attracting women that way. A good, stable woman will run a mile and you will have to pick from the single mom's, the hoes and the ones desperate they will settle for anything.
I think a guy I spoke to was like this he kept on saying it's hard for him to express himself... And also ain't ready for a relationship however he still hails me and wants to go to lunch , its real confusing. Now I only hail him from time to time cuz I don't want him to block my blessings.
The lack of emotional stability and emotional intelligence is my biggest turn off. Perfect in every department then 0 here beyond infuriating. I end up feeling like their only friend and therapist. Argh.
Can you make a video on how to be a supportive female with men of these circumstances...what do men like these may need...I'm battling on how to be supportive in a loving manner without feeling useless and invaluable in simular circumstances with my spouse.
Some guys be having deeply rooted dark within issues, being willing to open a closed door take pure caution , open anything and everything may come trembling out...Ex, babies, freaky Friday’s night, paying for 🐱, cheap hotels, witches, black cats🐈 , 🤣😂spiders and haunted houses. I listen but dang I know you’re worn out. 💯
Here's the problem I have with women and their opinions of mens feelings. They think that when we do, they explain it like a man cries all day non stop. But in reality we have to be there for them through their emotional roller coaster of expressions.
@naesospiritual1050 100%..he forgot that point when writing his nonesense. He also forgot the fact that because men do their bs 24/7 us women explain it 'like a man cries all day'.
I think if a man really cares about you, he will try his best to communicate, maybe in weird ways, but he will put the effort to do so..
Yes!
Exactly!! It’s the effort for me!!!
Why always man have to put effort duh?🤦
@@sidharthballavmohanty3340 I only can tell about my own situation, and I think many men can not be straight about how they feel and struggle about it.. I'm blund asf 😅
If a man "Cares" about YOU??its not about you
Sealz, You talk with gentleness and understanding of both sides. But look around, how many other videos are there telling men and women how to play games, how to be alpha male or female, how not to be your real self but pretend so you get more attention from the other gender, and how toxic the other gender is. It is very sad these influencers are doing an irrevocable damage to many of their followers. I really think your advice and views come from a good clean place. I am looking forward to more of your videos to remind again and again the goodness we have within us, and not to get way laid with toxic influencers. Thank you!
I love what you said and it is messed up that people with great influence aren't spreading the positivity we actually need. No way im doing that! I appreciate every single one of ya'll and want nothing more to be that positive influence for ya. Thank you Marian
Yeah he's sucking us in he's probably related to Derrick Jackson 😆🤣😆. I'm just kidding he's awesome and genuine .
@@SealztheMan it's sooooo true!
@Marian D you are exactly rrrrrright!
Wow! I havent seen videos like that, but there are some very questionable "influencers" on TH-cam... sigh... you got it right though, Sealz nails it 👏💯
And Another One Sealz! My girls and I discuss this all the time, and you’re right, it is A LOT of work! Especially if the man is not ready to be open and honest with himself. When he’s open, he will come to you, just be ready when he does.
Haha I appreciate you!! And true words you speak
Absolutely factual!!!!!!!!!!
Its hard to open to woman but can't open up to woman I'm just done nothing matters anymore
@@youngjoshhiechicagoporter2452🙄
Just be ready? It's not right. She already was. Ships in the night I guess.
I came here for number 3. This one may sound crazy but it’s very real. My parents separated when I was 3 and my mother and step father to this day never once told me they love me. They also entirety isolated me from family outside of my house and friends. They say you can’t miss something you never had but this isn’t the case. It wasn’t until last year that I realized I’ve never told my son I love him. He’s 16…. What’s worse is now, even after realizing I’ve been wrong, I still can’t say it. I’ve also never said it to my wife of 18 years. God help me 🙏🏾 Seriously.
I’m teaching my son to speak up because his dad is like a walnut so hard to break. I talk to my boy daily, we sit and I teach him to open up.
that’s very good parenting, always make sure your child feels comfortable talking about things.
How do you find someone like that attractive?
@@amazinggrace313 attraction is subjective. people are attracted to different things.
@@bigmonkeyshaha I didn’t ask you what you answered I asked you how do you find yourself attracted to that?
I'm curious to know how did you get that far in the relationship with someone that doesn't open up? And my next question was going to be How do you stay? Isn't it lonely? but I suppose because you have your son.
Spot on truth right here!! Thank you for explaining I pray for all who had tough childhoods who were never taught how to love the right way! Gotta break that cycle in order to succeed in finding true love and be able to express yourself to the one ur with. ❤🙏✌️
I love when somebody is ready to express himself,it makes things easier.When you are able to express yourself it shows how confident you're and you're willing to open up your life to another person,that's what love want.But this idea of hiding your emotions,letting the other person try harder to know you,it causes a lot of anxiety and somebody who is not patient will just let go and that's how you lose the right one and land into the fake one.
Whew Chile!!!! You are preaching!!!
Exactly my situation. I tried for too long expressing myself while he held back even tho I KNOW his feelings ran deeper he would admit. To draining so I had to Block him unfortunately
Me now! Except he opened up halfway about his feelings I will never know his deep ones,but I’m at the point in stepping back we already had this conversation it’s soo annoying it sucks cause he a good man but I’m not about to make myself boo boo the fool and hurt my own feelings in the process what makes it worse is that he not ready for a relationship right now his reasons given is understandable but I been single for a few years so I’m ready he got out of a relationship not too long ago but I’m not about to wait forever either .. me being 22 I know i can’t let go and not unless it turns into forever 😫.
@@brittanybrown5899 why is this me now 🥺 we only known each other for 2 months and a few weeks I’m trying to give it time and not rush it what do I do ? I hate myself for being very expressive he’s the only man that ever brought me out of expressing myself when it comes to ❤and that says a lot and I have had my first love already and everything . I’m finally trendy to accept someone in my life before I wasn’t needed to heal a lot and it’s not like “I’m young and don’t know what I want .” I definitely know what I want and ready for it while still growing as a person just want him to be open all the way I’ve seen progress though , just I’m not a patient person but I’m holding on cause it just became a few months .
Going thru too much I wish a woman would see a man is going thru step in and heal from trauma and past from folks did a man weird help to move forward
This was interesting. My ex taught me how to communicate. I didn't realize how bad I was. Lol. This same person also said men can never really love. We did have a great relationship while it lasted, but with truly getting to know him I understand why, and that he has a lot to heal from. That only he can do.
Sealz, this same attitude or emotional disposition makes us ladies feel shut out, drained, not emotionally catered for and a slight feeling of disrespect and rejection. Hurts tbh. Seems a lot of us have been jacked up right from birth. Both men and women. We all need some amount of healing. But guys should at least make more effort with their partners cuz sometimes we (i) really love hard but have to walk away with the hope of meeting someone who ticks some of your boxes and can still protect and provide emotionally.
Love the sun kissed skin tho😍
You said all truths right here, thank you Jennifer!
Beautifully said! Anytime we can connect with someone and we can mutually understand that we both need healing and can provide a safe space for each other to do that, it is a blessing. When we can’t, it’s fussing and stressing.
This what hapenned to me sis .
Beware of men that supress their emotion those ones are weak .
I ended up not feeling well mentaly and exclued
Empathy acceptance of your own emotions in a man is fricking sexy.
When you grow with a non communicative family you dont want to start a family with a man or women with the same dynamic.
You want to feel love understanding vulnerability from both side.
I appreciate how you mentioned healing in this for the men who need it in order to attract a healthy relationship with a woman who’s done or doing the same. Because we are a reflection of our partners we choose. 🙏🏼
Currently taking to this guy, Conversation has been great but lately I’ve noticed that he’s been a bit off chatting less etc. I normally would have written him off as uninterested but there’s just a feeling in my gut that there’s something he’s going through that he wouldn’t share with me. I asked and he responded vaguely about ‘life not being stable’. He still responds to me with such kindness but seems distracted.
You’re video just gave me better understanding and he’s probably in the first category cause everything you said aligns with his character. From Nigeria
I believe there's a reason for everything and every action has a consequence. It would be best if he opens up and tells you his reason
Some times they need to stay away alone, just to see how will life be with you or without you!
So true, and this is why I do what I do. This mindset can and must be broken - hopefully before their intimate relationship. To start healing is a choice, they must be uncomfortable in their hurt. Change Your Mind, Change Your Life.
I have been trying to get him to open up and talk for 4 months now and he consistently avoids it. He always says he'll talk soon. So the last time he said this was in May. Then I didn't hear from him by text until 3 days ago. He sent a bs text about nothing at 2am. I just can't handle any of the lack of communication, being ignored, lack of time and energy, etc. I told him so a couple of days ago. I shouldn't have to try to drag anything out of him. If he cares about losing me, he will either step up or just needs to stay away. I've been moving on anyway...meeting other people. That's a problem only God and he can fix.
My exact same situation I feel they are Emotionally unavailable. I tried 5 months an finally threw up my hands dispute my feelings for him BLOCKED 🤷🏽♀️
I’m up at almost 3am listening to Sealz. His entire demeanor is so soothing and relaxing🙂
Many men understand that love is only expressed through physical intimacy or through materialism.
The Ego and pride can destroy a beautiful relationship. Lack of spiritual growth and emotionally connection is very common. One doesn't have to be religious, there are other ways to find an understanding if only people put in the work... Suggest to get self-help books for tools if not interested in seeking councilling.
Good luck you think giving me gift and sex is going to keep me you gotta be outta your rabbit a** monkey a** mind. Men need to start looking at life for what it is stop living in ego and illusion.
My god it hits , every word , its really not easy
I have been though all these but glad I have a man who can talk to me about anything and I can talk to him as well! Thank God
I just absolutely love your vibe! ☺️
I really appreciate that 👑
Once again Sealz thank you so much for providing me with the ability to really understand the man that I love and value more than my own life, I thought his silence was a lack of trust in me and in time he would come around, or maybe he was married, I didn’t know what to think. He did tell me he has an illness and I told him it didn’t change the way I felt about him and I thought he would be ok now about communicating with me, Your explanation of how difficult it is for men to show their feelings brought tears to my eyes,, for how often I must have hurt his feelings through my lack of understanding. Thank you again Sealz, I don’t want to lose this lovely man. 🙏🏻
Hey I’m going through the same thing right now with the man in my life are you guys still together?
It’s always best to be open with each other and be patience
Whoever is in charge at the man production factory- please make more men like Sealz. Thanks 😉
😂😂 this made my day, thank you 👑
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Lol.
Sealz thank you for speaking the truth in all your videos and especially on this topic about men’s feelings. I wish I had understood this early in my life. It would have helped me to understand my father and every other man better. For the record, as a woman, I will never think men are weak, etc. for expressing their feelings to their wife &/or loved ones. I have the utmost respect for you telling the truth, because it will set everyone free & bring people closer together in understanding, empathy, and compassion. Thank you. You are a good man.
The people you described who were emotionally abandoned as children (many ppl) usually end up with an insecure attachment style, which shows itself in romantic relationships later. Yes it's a thing.
Yessss agreed
Let us know below if you've ever come across these types or currently dealing with them? What was your solution to helping them with communicating their feelings and being comfortable doing it?
It's important to learn a person's communication style. We do not send and receive messages the same way.
I think quizzes like the 5 Love Language quiz and the personality test created by Carl Jung are great places to start. A lot of men tend to have Act of Service as a love language and to your point of being a perfectionist, as long as they are providing and working hard they are expressing their love. However, I feel I understanding the traits that are dominant in a man allows you to know how to better communicate with him.
I feel being honest and consistent is also important in establishing trust and a strong friendship. This takes time and patience.
Thank you for this video. I like the way you clear things up. I could tell your the type you don't beat around the bush when it comes to the truth. God bless you. #New subcriber
I’m going through it with a man that identifies with the first scenario… I know he loves me and cares for me but he is so into not letting me see the failures and insecurities he has by not being in the position he feels like he should be in.He has became distant and it hurts but I try my best to be supportive of his situation our love is real and he feels I deserve the best I don’t feel he is just out messing around with girls I genuinely feel the determination and he has just been going really hard… I really appreciate you making this plain and simple for me this helped me be more cool and just let him do him … it’s personal for him. I understand now a whole lot better God Bless!!!
Thank you so much 😊 🙏🏾
I am currently dealing with this now. I found your channel BECAUSE I am trying to find a solution. I know how he feels about me, and his actions have shown it. However, as of lately there have been some new stressors to arise in his life and he is not opening up to me about it completely. I can feel that he isn't regardless of what he tells me. I literally just called my uncle that lives MILES away to get some insight from him. And he was able to give me the same advice you just did here, but more personalized due to the information I provided to him about my situation. I don't want to push him away for good because I am trying to get him to understand that I am really here for him no matter what. What I conclude, there really is not much else we can do as women except to give it time. But not ignore him.
I'm going through this has a older mature relationship and it's hard but time and understanding he's open up bit by bit which gives me the glimpse of a future with this man...
It helps to be transparent so he can see your not the enemy and your there for the future with him that allows him to feel assured. ..
Please always put God first so he can guide you and open up ways when you can't see away pray pray pray is the key tek it to God. ..
Blessings my brother for your advice and guidance
Yes prayer is the key,the lord said try let me help you,so we put our trust on God,we do our part and leave the rest to God.
Bro how the fuck you don't have millions of subscribers? You say shit that makes a lot more sense that is a lot more knowledgeable than a lot of these other vatoswow that was a great way to put it to help me understand myself better so much that resonates with me from this video I appreciate the video bro for real!
MJ I truly appreciate you fam, so glad I was able to help you in some way, keep being great and greater, you got this 💪🏾
Expression keeping feelings emotions bottled up inside causes premature death as well...releasing is cathartic
I really love that you share insights about guys. It's so important that women understand why and how men thinks and acts. Thank you so much. You are doing a fantastic job here.
Wow totally insightful....what ive been fasting to hear...thank you Sealz
Wow. Thank you! I'm gonna show this to my man.
You seem like an amazing soul. I hope you have an amazing life.
Thank you for explaining. 😉This makes sense but you’d think a grown man would figure it out at some point and learn to communicate.
My ex didn’t tell me he loved me. He also lied and cheated and never apologized. Too much Ego and not a single “I’m sorry”… Guess who’s been chasing me after I ghosted him 7 years ago… Getting me back was always on his mind, even after years, he recently said. Still no sorry. 🤯
Meanwhile I found a great guy and married him- kind, faithful, expressive and the best father of our kids I could ever ask for…🙏 Setting higher standards worked. ❤️
I love this video thank you Sealz ❤️ I have gone through challenges in life but, I push through it. When you awaken spiritually you have to let go of the fear and ego. I am a very supportive person. If I can do it a Man can because, I have been very dominant in the Masculine energy and I didn't have a "Mother" essentially, more raised by my Father who to this day still doesn't want to hear anything negative, shuts emotion straight down so, I have not had anyone I can be vulnerable with growing up.
Very interesting and definitely information to consider. Never really thought about the struggle men may have in expressing their feelings verbally. Good job!👍
I appreciate your wisdom Sealz. Thanks for sharing 😇
I just recently started watching your videos and I love'em.....
That means everything, thank you!
I really like how you explain your points of view… thank you for sharing this information and for your insight… you are a great man and blessing!
Thank you that was helpful, it's rare to find a video talking honestly about this topic!
Sealz... wow... just wow. I feel like I say that on all of your videos but honestly, this one was seriously amazing and honestly insight that I personally needed right now. Just so so so very good and insightful. Thanks so much for this Sealz. You are such a gem and a true gift.
This means everything, thank you Nae 👑 supporters like you make it worthwhile!
This is real. I have been meeting guys like this. It's so sad to me that they will sabotage a healthy, happy relationship with a good woman because of these issues and fears.
Very true.
Cuz those women who lose attraction to those guys and end up dumping him if he’s does
@JAETOWN no they lose attraction because they are not communicating. No woman will dump a man because he opens up.
First time finding you.
I’m glad your addressing this matter.
Sealz!! as always thanks the dude in life carries some of these tendencies and its hard getting close, but not giving up because he really is a good man, his divorce hit him harder than he wants to let on
Wow now thats a big factor. Healing after a divorce can take a very long time especially if their love was deep. Wishing the best for him and you both
Hello Sir I'm from Ghana and as a young man all that you say is true very tru 😂😂. Anyway can u also help men know the mind of a woman . I'm so impressed with your presentations and I would realllllllyyy wish u teach men about the mind of women. Thank yiu so much Sir 😁😁
I appreciate that! And that sounds like a good idea maybe one day 🤔
Hello....I'm from Indonesia. Do you live in Accra city?
@@mamoraputri2157 Yes pls I do
One of the things I did was listen as he told me he tried a job he hated and quit. I laughed told him my own story. We both agreed we cannot put energy into something we dont feel is purposeful and even though we quit we are still successful! It help tremendously knowing that he doesn’t have to be perfect made him more relaxed! -He was raised not to speak but to just do!
You are so young and very knowledgeable and I love your video.
That's very true I was raised from a father figure not to cry so I just try my best not too see anyone see me cry
Oh Sealz, a massive thank you for this video, it explains and now at last I understand and have the answers to all the “Why’s? I have with the man I love so very much. Thank you❤️, After my first question ( Why?) his answer was I”I don’t want to look a fool” now I understand what he meant.
Wow look at that, im glad I was able to make things clearer, blessings to you two
This gives me some understood lessons of the man in their world knowning they do struggle within themselves also now i can have a better approach towards mine thx for this viedo it really helped!!!
Awesome video,I appreciate you brother.Using your video to teach my 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲culture our men are in trouble.Thank u
Hi Sealz the Man I thank you for this clarity. I send LOVE Peace and Abundance to you and your viewers. Be blessed and take care of yourself KING and be safe
I'm experiencing all this now... I've tried everything and he's still not convinced!!!! So guess what, I'M DONE!!!! GONE!!!!! He would just get mad, couldn't believe I was serious.....OH WELL.....HIS LOSS...
I'm sorry you had to go through that smh but don't give up on yourself love
Thank you...I appreciate that...I LOVE ME!!! THEREFORE I WILL NEVER GIVE UP...SOMEWHERE THERE'S A LOVE JUST FOR ME.... HE WILL FIND ME❤❤❤. Keep SHARING, I LOVE YOUR INSIGHT❤❤❤
Me too, sis. At some point, we have to recognize when enough is enough and that the person we're trying to love has to heal and get themselves together first before anyone can love them. ❤
I went from an abusive ex husband who was a good communicater . To dating someone afterwards who wasn't abusive at all and was horrible at communication. I just can't get it right. I just wanna say damn all y'all "KISS MY GRITS" 😆🤣
@@ingridc.68 no sweetie you can't give up..... He WILL find you, the right one, we MUST HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE THAT. HE'S OUT THERE. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP QUEEN👑!!!
I didn't know how much i needed to hear this, this helped me a lot, u have no idea. Thank you so much i really appreciate it, now im one step closer to understand him
Good evening Sealz, I would like to know how I can break start softening a man's hard shell. He shares little and doesn't want to talk or become vulnerable or opening up as you do. I thing he was raised that way and no be soft
I just love the way you are able to come out straight up with man issues that women need to understand..thanks for sharing your life..God Bless you Seals♥️🙏
Sympathetic nervous system....PTSD is physiological amen. We need to relax. To heal. So much cortisol release in relationships men to women and men...
I would add the one thing that I have struggled most with. As a man, we get punished if we over react or under react emotionally. For example, if I am too angry for a given situation I will be perceived as having an anger problem. At the same time, if I cry a little too much, I will be perceived as too sensitive or week. And, if I don't express how I feel at all, a robot. Women can go a bit crazy and most men will still listen to them and try to understand. For men, we have to always react emotionally in proportion to the situation, if we don't we are punished for the reaction and the reason why we had an emotion is lost. This emotional balancing act is something I don't feel many women realise and why so many men just don't share how they feel because they don't want to potentially rock the boat.
You should be able to be authentic. I love expressive men. If a woman can't handle your emotions, she either has her own issues or isn't in love with you. I would hold a man if he cried or support them in reasonable anger. No one likes an angry volcano or blubbering baby. Men and women should strive to control their emotions. If you are punching walls there is a problem. These issues must be worked on before pursuing a relationship.
She Basically just told me I can't be sweet to her that's too much of a women thing smh. I swear wen I treated women like crap life was so much better.
@@johnnycalderon9951and how did that go for you?. Great them like crap, you will only get a low value woman. That's the most you can get attracting women that way. A good, stable woman will run a mile and you will have to pick from the single mom's, the hoes and the ones desperate they will settle for anything.
I think a guy I spoke to was like this he kept on saying it's hard for him to express himself... And also ain't ready for a relationship however he still hails me and wants to go to lunch , its real confusing. Now I only hail him from time to time cuz I don't want him to block my blessings.
Thank you so much. Learned a lot in this video. So enlightening.
Its my honor!
I appreciate this video it’s something that is on my mind
Finally someone telling the truth!
Thank you very much for sharing this. It's very interesting🤔👑📖🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this. It’s so refreshing to know emotionally observant & expressive men exist lol
Thank you very much for explaining what's going on with my husband. I know now why he can't find the words to express him self.
Mr. Sealz great video.
I always try to get my male friends to open up. Because i am not a mind reader.
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Wooooow thank you seals am learning alot
Thank goodness my man tells me his feelings
your videos are great. ever since i came to this channel it has taught me alot
I really appreciate that, thank you
I'm a newbie,I'm loving your videos.A UK subscriber😁
Nothing like The Sunshine❤.
Good stuff... Thank you!
Always Enlightening Content! Yew da Man Seals... Plain & Simple !
You the woman! I appreciate you
The lack of emotional stability and emotional intelligence is my biggest turn off. Perfect in every department then 0 here beyond infuriating. I end up feeling like their only friend and therapist. Argh.
You got me with that blooper 😆🌞
I watched all your videos.. More videos pls.. I like ur Voice I ur advices, and i like u.. Love from Philippines
I appreciate that, thank you. Sending love to the 🇵🇭
Can you make a video on how to be a supportive female with men of these circumstances...what do men like these may need...I'm battling on how to be supportive in a loving manner without feeling useless and invaluable in simular circumstances with my spouse.
Very true!!!! Agreed , thank you for talking about
Good Afternoon SealztheMan! Thank you for another great discussion topic.
I appreciate you!
Im the 1st one and I’m now just learning this
Thanks so much for the information you share. God bless you!
That so true brother thank you for your love bless 🙏
Thank you for sharing this!! 🙌🏾🙏🏽
#2 that's Most men!
Great content,much love from kenya
Sending love to Kenya 🇰🇪
Open, honest communication only works when it goes both ways…
you rock my world Sealz! kudos good job! watching from From Africa Kenya
You are awesome. I was laughing because you are 100% correct! LOL
Thnks for your input it is so helpful!!!
Great job bro I am learning plenty stuffs
Very interesting and deep
Wow you are God sent. This is exactly the condition of the man I love
Hey Sealz..... Invaluable Share Sir...⭐
Maya...I really appreciate that 👑
@@SealztheMan No problem it's a pleasure being apart of your community ⭐💎
Man, o man, youare gooood! 👍🏻🥇🏆🙏🏻
Some guys be having deeply rooted dark within issues, being willing to open a closed door take pure caution , open anything and everything may come trembling out...Ex, babies, freaky Friday’s night, paying for 🐱, cheap hotels, witches, black cats🐈 , 🤣😂spiders and haunted houses. I listen but dang I know you’re worn out. 💯
Thank you for your words, truth and help.
Appreciate you Sealz🥰
Appreciate you more!
Indeed definitely so
So how does one work it to soften the block.
A new subscriber here ... 🙌🏾
Make my day why don't ya!
Here's the problem I have with women and their opinions of mens feelings. They think that when we do, they explain it like a man cries all day non stop. But in reality we have to be there for them through their emotional roller coaster of expressions.
Y’all are never there though. Y’all cant even validate yall emotions so how in the hell is possible to be there for ours ?
@naesospiritual1050 100%..he forgot that point when writing his nonesense.
He also forgot the fact that because men do their bs 24/7 us women explain it 'like a man cries all day'.
Thank you Seal 🦭 you amazing ❤️
Thank you for them 💎’s