Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils
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In this video, etiquette expert Nancy R. Mitchell, The Etiquette Advocate,
guides viewers through established rules and nuances of dining etiquette.
Segments presented cover responding to an invitation; do's and taboos at
table; navigating a place setting; use of utensils, including American vs.
European styles of dining; eating various courses; toasting; and mastering
challenging foods. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
I have the best son-n-law in the world. He was raised to dine this way and at home this is what and how he does , but he still can sit down on a curb and eat a burger. He can converse with over the top type people and he can get down on any level of conversation with us commoners and he is always a true gentleman . My daughter did well !
Oh, this is so important. It was 20 years ago and I still remember the time when we were dining at the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas and waiter cleared my plate while I went to used a bathroom. I was left sooo disappointed.....and hungry ☹️
Thank you explaining proper manners 😊❤️
Remember, many of these "signals" and rules are also created to help the staff make servings and removals as smooth as possible. Etiquette and manners are all about being considerate and polite of other people, and it helps cast oneself in the best light.
Ahhhh so the rules only apply if there are light ? 😂😂😂🧐🧐
kati grace cox As society today chooses more & more to take the “low” tide, it is refreshing to see a tutorial on making sure we attempt to appear to have some sort of manners....🤓🤩
😂 Like talking is going to complicate things than placing your spon and fork at 10-15 degrees angle
I just think it's pompous... But I like it... It's makes you seem sophisticated
that applies to societies that think having conversations with people is "fraternizing with the help"
Some societies don't mind having conversations, bonding with the community around you.
I was first taught table manners by a snobby sorority dame and used American style. then a charming, Dutch grandfather taught me European style and I switched straight away. so easy and elegant. it's nice to have good manners to put everyone at ease and enjoy the occasion. thanks for these videos!
Aisha Nisar baloney
Most easy and healthiest way to eat is using your hands.
1) Wash your hands properly and do not use towel or napkin to dry to let digestive fluids come in action.
2) Eat using Index Finger,, Middle Finger and Thumb.
3) Wash your hands after eating and use towel or napkin to dry them immediately so digestive fluids stop.
Rest everything is fency, unnatural and less healthy. Good Luck.
@@AbdulHameed-bw4cg...And How do you get rid of the Curry smell that permeates in your fingers?
@@luixesco3276 Guess you did not read the comment that you should wash your hands after the meal and dry as well.
@@AbdulHameed-bw4cg Eating with your barehands doesn't make your food healthy and it's so messy to eat, why would i eat with my barehanda when there's utensils, i don't wanna wash my hand everytime i eat. And eating using your barehands are disgusting especially people with long fingernails lol, literally there's a lot of bacteria in our hands, you need to use anti-bacterial soap and alcohol as if people who eat with their barehands afford to buy those since they can't even afford utensils at the first place. 😂
Nice video, I have one thing to add if eating at a reastaurant and need to leave the table. If you are not finished, you place your napkin on the chair as a signal to the staff not to remove the plate. However, if you want the staff to remove the plate, you place the napkin on the table. This is in addition to the placement of the utensils.
My culture says wash ur hands, eat with ur right hand, chew the meal 25-40 times before u swallow. While eating make space for 3 things...1/3 food, 1/3 water and 1/3 air. U just had a healthy meal. Thank u for ur insight of ur culture but we have different lessons from our cultures and teachings.
U r right bro
It's our culture because
We are muslims
Ew
Sandra Hansson
It’s called culture man , atleast they washed their hands?
@@samisam717 yes, we are muslims....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@ MD tasin
Allahmdullilah
You're the only one that is able to explain it well.
It's times like this I'm glad I'm working class!
Simon All “classes” should have manners. It makes for a more complete life. 🍃🎀🍃🕶
Maureen Ramsden
Having manners does not mean being slave to mannerisms , as long one doesn’t grab a fork like a gardening fork or the knife like a shovel or a spade .Enjoy your chicken or your asparagus with your fingers . Don’t cut your bread roll with a knife . Red wine , one can take the glass with the palm of the one’ hand , same with a cognac “ brandy “ glass . White wine glass use only 3 fingers thumb , index and middle . Other than that ....... do you want be slave to silly rules ? made by silly people ? Other than that enjoy you meal 🧐😂😂
I feel ready to dine with the queen of england
msabri1 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Don't we all - but I don't think I am about to receive an invitation to the Palace!
Ann TwoShoes you never know..often everyday people get invites to both the palace and embassy events.
Haha
msabri1 lol no you're not...if you spelled England with 'e'
She speaks so effortlessly and clearly! Great job! :)
Greetings from the former Australian Territory of Papua New Guinea. As a former British/Australian colony, we follow the “European" method of dining on formal occasions. Thanks for the tip.
Australia is a civilised country whereas the USA is not.
An interesting difference when dining out is that in the UK the waiter will only collect the plates when everyone has finished, whereas in the US the waiter clears the table as each person finishes. I don't like the US way at all because it puts pressure on those who eat slowly like myself.
As a former banquet waiter in the US, different establishments set their own standard. At places that required the entire table to finish a course before clearing, many times I would be asked to remove one person's plate. That always started the 'Mine-too's, which we did. The other extreme when we cleared as each guest finished made it look and feel rushed. The happy medium was the 50-75% rule. That was when at the head waiter's call, the place settings were removed when either 50 or 75% of the guests at the table were finished. This way worked, in my opinion, because it gave everyone the time to finish eating before the next course. Again, I worked banquets. A full table was anywhere from 8-12 per table. The host would give us the time-line for the dinner service. It was not a random call made by the waiter. If the host told us to stop service at 7:30, then we stopped. If people were not served their entre or dessert, it was not our decision. By clearing more place settings early, it helped to try to ensure all guests received all the courses. We did not follow the rules on flatware placement since very many did not use the rules. It was more efficient to ask the guest, "May I remove the plate?"
Appreciate your observant insights on the CPS earnings this week Tom. That helps us all make sense of it. Top notch coverage as always. PS: love the timestamps on the Spotify podcast.
As long as you chew with your mouth closed I don’t mind how you use your utensils.
II went on a cruise a few weeks ago , my friend and I we were assigned a specific dinner table , there was 7 of us on that table , being a French descent I was taught the European way by my parents , i felt like everybody were staring at my plate for some reason , i could not comprehend why they were switching the knives and the forks back and forth ( i mean that s a lot of work loooooooolllll ) I was the only person dining the European way on that table . when i crisscrossed my utensils to go speak to another childhood friend that haven t seen for more than years . one of the lady that was siting on my left side her eyes went wide open like i just committed a sin . I laughed so hard . I wish i could send that video to all of them .
I love Indian style of food eating etiquette #justbyhand of course cleaned🔥🔥🔥
Sushant Kudalkar 😂why complicate your style eh?
Eating with hands also develops a connection with the food we eat and helps us get in tune with our tummies.
Only use the right hand
Thank you for a clear explanation of table etiquette. :)
I learned all this in my teens.
Taught my children the same.
Everyone is casual these days.
We teach our kids from the get go, so it’s natural for them.
This woman has the best ASMR voice
I am learning it even if I may not have the chance to apply it ! Interesting!
going to a lovely italian restaurant here in San Francisco for my 2 year anniversary i know it’s not many years but i highly respect and love my partner. So i want to treat them and so i need to learn to eat with manners although i already eat somewhat how you taught European, thank you much needed.
thanks for these videos,its so easy &elegant way to learn God bless u
I do think these rules are important. The most important thing is that we should always eat healthy food, we should avoid overeating and eat only when hungry, and share food with others.
Agree. Unfortunately that is not taught or emphasized on in Europe or America. I hope I am proved wrong😂
You are so right,Salman khan
@@lucillewong3721 thank you
Salman, I certainly believe in good table manners, try sitting across from someone who eats like a wild animal, with the food half in and out of their mouths, ....!!!
@@charlotteb7433 you are very right but the point is one thing is considered nice in one country however same is taken bad in other country or part of world for example eating with left hand is not something good in my country
I’ve always eaten European style. I don’t know where I learned it. I always did. Drove my mother silly. “You eat like a lumberjack!” It seemed more efficient to me. Still does.
How come it took you 8 years to show up? Thank you very much, every minute, time well spent.
Now I know why the waiter threw away my dinner when I went to get a drink😂🤣🤢🤮
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Thank you so much for this information .
In my culture
Washing hands
Before starting saying BismiAlllah
drink a glass of water eat slowly and chew properly after you finish say jazakumuallah again wash your hands.... Simple ❤️❤️
So good! Thank you.
Brilliant! Thank you! 💕
Thank you so much for sharing this video
*Thanks for this video. This is helpful 😊 thanks again.*
yh
Clear. Thank you elegant lady.
I didn't know this but one thing i do in every restaurant that first i finish the whole food in the plate and then i pick up those utensils & take them to the dishwasher. Even at my home, forget about my mom, i won't let the maid to touch my utensils.. Its my duty and i m not ashamed of it..
I m from India...🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳 and i m proud of my culture
Thank you for this very informative😊
Great tutorial👍🏾
thankyou i found this group of lessons good advice. god bless from catherine
Great video.
I like to pick up my steak with both hands and gnaw on it like a ravenous lion.
shazbot10 lol you are so classy lol
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Lol
shazbot10
As do i and dressed only in my boxer shorts
😂
It may seem amusing, but a lot of people show themselves up with their lack of dining skills.
It's something that a lot of candidates for officer training in the military have to be taught.
Thank you. Love from India.
I forgot the true origins of switching knife and fork - I have never done this myself. But later many people say that it is more polite because it makes people slow down and gives them more time to chew their food properly. Because no one wants to watch someone else shovel food down their throats. in a nonstop fashion. Putting your fork down between bites forces you to completely chew your food and eliminate it from your mouth before you take another bite. I have seen plenty of people who do not put their knife down and put food into their mouths before they have COMPLETELY swallowed the first batch and it truly is disgusting to see.
It also creates time so that people do not overeat. They say that when people slow down during a meal, they eat less. (Because there is a lag time between when you are full and actually REALIZE that you are full).
What utter rubbish you type. Get real.
I took etiquette classes and I was told by a diplomacy teacher that when you finish your meal you align by 12:30 not by 10:20...🧐🧐
That is quite right......the lady is wrong....
And some people will tell you it's just a matter of laying the utensils diagonally across the plate. It doesn't really matter, as long as the utensils are side by side. If you put them crossed over one another or on opposite rims of the plate, that's a signal you're not done yet.
That is an interesting comment regarding the cutlery position when finishing dinner. May I ask in which country you were told this by the (quotes) "diplomacy teacher"?
Wow....I love the style .....
thank you for the great lesson!
Slam May Allah granted you lots of Barkat in your good efforts amin...mam you teach us in so nice way ...May Allah choose you for His beloved people amin...stay blessed with happiness in both worlds amin...
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Brother is this a way our beloved S.A.W. eat ?
@@ayubmatadar1136 wa alaikum musalam sir may Allah granted you lots of Barkat in your Naik efforts amin...if we criticized to every person how non muslims identify the beauty of islam humdulillah!our beloved prophet was very kind to people Allah hu akbar! We should just follow it...hush rahen abaad rahen jizak'allah!
Lovely!
Sorry Nancy you're very wrong about the placement of the knife and fork when finished, as you call " European Style", knife on right, blade facing left, fork placed beside the knife, tines up ( never, ever down), and always at the 6-12 o'clock positions .
After I watched the video I thought I have been doing it wrong for 20years lol! Thank you Charlotte
Nice to hear YOU
Thanks
thank you mam for giving knowledge
I watched this because I just saw a video of British people eating rice. Of course they held the fork in their left hands with the tines pointed down. They then used the knife basically to force the rice into the tines of the fork. I thought this was very odd. I don't understand why they don't turn the fork tines up and use it as a scoop to eat their rice. Live and learn. Nice video. If only they had one on commenting etiquette.
I'm not British, but that sounds stupid to me. I always scoop it up :D
I'm British and I find that incredibly strange, rice, peas and mash etc. are foods that make perfect logical sense to scoop with a fork. What British 'tards have you been watching?
so excited
On the gentleman's gazette channel, leaving your knife n fork together, 12 to 6, straight up and down means you finish lol.
For some reason, I always knew the comments on this video would be way more informative and useful 😀
Thanks for sharing.
She took one thing as a given when it might not be: in European style, when you are eating something that does not require stabbing and cutting how do you bring it to your mouth? Although American style seems fussy and inefficient, at least the tines of the fork are positioned in such a way that small bits can be scooped and will naturally fall into the curve of the fork, not downward toward the plate. In the European style you *have* to keep your knife poised to protect your food from escaping the fork.
Teach what is good behaviour, good characters
To eat with fork and knife make you look respectful and people nearby will actually testify the difference between the educated and uneducated. We may eat that way outside-good-but I advise we should eat normal the way it pleases you! Learning is knowledge gaining!
Splendid!
I learned fr another dining etiquette, to never put ur fork and knife in a criss cross manner, bec it wld send a msg that u did not enjoy the meal.
great content
Cutting the food using knife with the right hand, and eating the food with the help of fork in the left hand. Is the person considered as left handed or right handed? And mainly on what basis- eating or cutting?
Thank you. Could you make a video on "How to eat a pastry with ice cream" at a dining table? For example, the server brings to the center of the table, a big piece of apple pie with ice cream on top to share with your date. Do you cut a piece of the pie and serve it on your plate? Do you eat the pie and ice cream with a fork or do you use the spoon to scoop the ice cream together with the pie and eat it with a fork?
Very educational thank you very much
thanku mam for this lovely video
I have always felt nervous when dining with VIPs. Thanks for this video.
Thank you i grew up in buenos Aires Argentina and i never switched my fork to my right hand.
That's because you employed the proper continental use of cutlery.
What's the term for picking dessert spoon and fork from table for eating?
Good video. Thanks.
Thank you
Mmmmm 🙄🙄🙄thankkkyyoouuu jokes apart and apology for that
BUT...
This is the most genuine etiquette THANK YOU TO HER 💙🙏👍
Sooo nice explanation
Excellent
I'm American and I eat European style. I find it more efficient. I also knit English style... not Continental, but we're not talking of knitting.
She kept referring to the American style 2xs and kept the fork in her left hand and feigned eating with it.
noticed that. I think she just forgot to switch hands.
Thank you so much
Well explained video ! I enjoyed it!
You are right màmá
So am I allowed to use my knife as a spoon and scoop up food with it?
in European dining, where do you put your knife if you want to eat veggies between the meat on the plate? just hold it? what if i'm right handed? this is backwards to me in euro style dining because i'm cutting with my right hand but eating with my left. can't I switch it? I suppose so, but I cant cut very good w/my left hand, so American it is!
Wow..Thank you
In true European style, you do not hold the fork like a pitchfork when placing the food in your mouth but rather dexteriously turn the fork, hold it after cutting, as a spoon, to bring the food to your mouth. This skill is necessary for eating veggies and other foods which cannot be speared. In this fashion the knife (in the right hand) can be used to load the fork. It is somewhat acceptable however, to pitchfork chunks of meat you have just cut but it lacks grace.The proper holding of the utensils is much more efficient, graceful and practical. This comes from the court of Emperor Franz Josef. Also clawing the fork or spoon, like a hammer is just not very grown up. I see this more and more.
Hello! I've been watching your series. I'm in need of some advice. One of my personal goals is to improve my manners, and this includes table etiquette.However, I have a handicap which makes it hard for me to achieve a "pencil - style" grip on utensils. When I attempt this, my hands are very shaky and I usually end up dropping the utensil. I typically hold my utensil in a fist. I know it is considered extremely rude, but I hate wearing my meal. Are there alternative grips for utensils that are considered acceptable?
That’s fine, not rude in your case! You can be comfortable as per your capacity!
She's correct, although in Paris, when you're done you leave the knife and fork together facing 12 midnight (on the vertical).
Is great spreading knowledge
Too good way to explain
That’s how human makes things complicated or how to kill urs time!
Deepak
I always appreciate etiquette and manner since they make me civilized and human. Because we are intellectual beings, not animals.
why do so many people in film eat with the forks pointing down instead of scooping up? which is correct or less pretentious?
The Sequence of a Seven-Course Menu
Here like the bones of Joseph Jones
Who are while he was able;
But once I've fed
He drops dead,
And fell beneath the Table.
When from the tomb
To meet his doom
He rises amidst sinners:
Since he must dwell
In dean's or hell
Take him which gives best dinners.
(Tombstone, Wolverhampton, England, c. 1900)
P. 416, The Art of the Table by Baroness Suzanne von Drachenfels, 2000
How to eat vegetable curry/ dal-sabzi with chapati in this manner???
Amazing
This is so important,amazing how many shows on TV have actors that dont know how to use/hold utensils,they may be millionaires but eat like ...%^%%#.
thanx for the video
Good info.
Wrong we BRITS when finished our meal will place the knife and fork in a 12/6 position straight up and down
It's an american style. Make your own channel. Every country has its won different table settings. Duh
That's what I thought. I was surprised at the crisscross thing she did. A tad gauche to my mind.
Can we put down the knives and grab the food with hands
babymandrake no just skip the middle man and bring your face to the plate with a gaping mouth.
Only in McDonalds!
babymandrake or toes?? oh hell just bite it from the plate using just your mouth!
chicken wings..😁
Seriously I enjoy eating food with my hands especially m very hungry.... I don't follow any etiquettes I just concentrate on enjoying my food...... 🍲 😉😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
nice video thnk you
I feel the European style is easier and more practical than the Colonial style.
Do Europeans also use a shovel upside down??
Thanks a lot