I always say when I'm experiencing my ROCD at it's worst, that it feels like I'm looking at my partner through a strangers eyes...i came to realize my brain is distorting my perception and I tell myself "that's not real" it's funny bc when I'm feeling that "unattraction" and not just physical.. its about things that normally I like or things that made me fall in love in the first place so that helps put it into perspective...
Jennifer Clarke this comment really helped because I never saw it in that way because I’m currently suffering from OCD and it’s targeted my relationship and the things that are important to me.. Thank you for this comment ❤️
Please may I ask how you are doing now and if you have found any particular therapy or techniques effective? Are you now at relative peace and happiness in your relationship?
Thank you so much for this. I just came from another video that was twice as long and half as clear, and on the verge of tears. Figured I'd try one more video, and I am so thankful it was yours. A weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Please keep doing what you do, and saying things the way you say them. It's extremely helpful.
Thank you for this video Sheryl. I feel it connects to my wisdom and it resonates. Not long ago I was triggered by a video on TH-cam where someone said that women only search for attractive partners so they can procreate and have beautiful babies, meaning that they would not choose an "ugly" person to be with because following nature it would not make sense to have less beautiful babies. This message felt so wrong and still it triggered me a lot.
What she says is the case sometimes but she’s completely ignoring that people grow and change and it can have nothing to do with fear. Shes also forgeting some people’s attraction is purely based on the physical.
yeah that project stuff seems a lot of baloney and probably designed to make women's self worth feel more solid. She is not addressing the situation when you are genuinely attracted to a variety of new beautiful women but not your own partner who you have lost attraction for - that has nothing to do with some insecurity.....how do you fix those situations?
This is for people experiencing OCD. If you have never experienced it then you will not understand this concept. It’s not that you actually aren’t attracted to your partner, it’s that the fear and anxiety you feel due to you OCD is directly impacting your perception of your partner and the world around you and making you truly believe you are not attracted
Is it possible for ROCD to cause you to completely lose all attraction and feelings of "being in love" for LONG periods, with no moments of clarity? Can this still be remedied?
Yes. I don't think there are any limits to OCD, especially if you're not getting treatment. And yes, I believe OCD can be remedied at ANY severity. There are great sources dedicated to helping those with ROCD, I personally love Awaken into Love here on TH-cam.
@@Claudia-sk1ls thanks so much for your reply. I'm really feeling hopeless. I've felt visually no attraction or "in love" feelings for over a year and a half... most people with ROCD talk about fluxing in and out of good feelings.
@@Nicole-yx8ms yes it can shut you down and stay that way. You might catch a glimpse of the truth through just little breaks in the clouds every so often that clue you into the idea that you’re experiencing a distorted reality.
I really needed to hear this I do see clearly sometimes but a lot of the time it’s clouded and I obsess and obsess it’s just so difficult but I love my partner more then anything and I do find her beautiful but it really just focuses on the bad or if I’m with someone else would I still have these thoughts but I try my to remind myself that it doesn’t matter I love my partner and the thoughts of attraction I have are created by my ocd and not letting me see clearly
Absolute garbage advice, physical attraction is essential for a healthy relationship. Physical attraction actually fades over time so if it not there to begin with it will only get worse and someone will get hurt eventually. Ugh such bad advice.
I think she is saying that you start to convince yourself of flaws in your partner that you didn't see before. If they are your partner you must have obviously started out with an attraction that brought you together.
I always say when I'm experiencing my ROCD at it's worst, that it feels like I'm looking at my partner through a strangers eyes...i came to realize my brain is distorting my perception and I tell myself "that's not real" it's funny bc when I'm feeling that "unattraction" and not just physical.. its about things that normally I like or things that made me fall in love in the first place so that helps put it into perspective...
Jennifer Clarke this comment really helped because I never saw it in that way because I’m currently suffering from OCD and it’s targeted my relationship and the things that are important to me.. Thank you for this comment ❤️
Please may I ask how you are doing now and if you have found any particular therapy or techniques effective? Are you now at relative peace and happiness in your relationship?
Thank you so much for this. I just came from another video that was twice as long and half as clear, and on the verge of tears. Figured I'd try one more video, and I am so thankful it was yours. A weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Please keep doing what you do, and saying things the way you say them. It's extremely helpful.
I’m struggling with this
Thanks very much for this, it's a perspective I haven't seen anywhere else
Thank you for this video Sheryl. I feel it connects to my wisdom and it resonates. Not long ago I was triggered by a video on TH-cam where someone said that women only search for attractive partners so they can procreate and have beautiful babies, meaning that they would not choose an "ugly" person to be with because following nature it would not make sense to have less beautiful babies. This message felt so wrong and still it triggered me a lot.
She says all this but I bet her partner is good looking
😂😭😭😭 fact's
Thank you so much. This helps more than you know
I'm so glad!
What if you’ve never been attracted to your spouse? I think attraction should be natural and you’re over complicating it
Wow that is so true!!
Also if you dont like their personality they may start to look less attractive.
What she says is the case sometimes but she’s completely ignoring that people grow and change and it can have nothing to do with fear. Shes also forgeting some people’s attraction is purely based on the physical.
yeah that project stuff seems a lot of baloney and probably designed to make women's self worth feel more solid. She is not addressing the situation when you are genuinely attracted to a variety of new beautiful women but not your own partner who you have lost attraction for - that has nothing to do with some insecurity.....how do you fix those situations?
This is for people experiencing OCD. If you have never experienced it then you will not understand this concept. It’s not that you actually aren’t attracted to your partner, it’s that the fear and anxiety you feel due to you OCD is directly impacting your perception of your partner and the world around you and making you truly believe you are not attracted
@@emilypatterson7579 As someone with OCD, I respect your beliefs on that but none the less very much disagree. No offense.
Is it possible for ROCD to cause you to completely lose all attraction and feelings of "being in love" for LONG periods, with no moments of clarity? Can this still be remedied?
Yes. I don't think there are any limits to OCD, especially if you're not getting treatment. And yes, I believe OCD can be remedied at ANY severity. There are great sources dedicated to helping those with ROCD, I personally love Awaken into Love here on TH-cam.
@@Claudia-sk1ls thanks so much for your reply. I'm really feeling hopeless. I've felt visually no attraction or "in love" feelings for over a year and a half... most people with ROCD talk about fluxing in and out of good feelings.
@@Nicole-yx8ms yes it can shut you down and stay that way. You might catch a glimpse of the truth through just little breaks in the clouds every so often that clue you into the idea that you’re experiencing a distorted reality.
I really needed to hear this I do see clearly sometimes but a lot of the time it’s clouded and I obsess and obsess it’s just so difficult but I love my partner more then anything and I do find her beautiful but it really just focuses on the bad or if I’m with someone else would I still have these thoughts but I try my to remind myself that it doesn’t matter I love my partner and the thoughts of attraction I have are created by my ocd and not letting me see clearly
Don’t marry someone ugly it’s that simple
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I don’t agree with this. I think being attracted to your partner is important. I don’t think not being attracted to someone is fear of love.
Totally agree 👍
Absolute garbage advice, physical attraction is essential for a healthy relationship. Physical attraction actually fades over time so if it not there to begin with it will only get worse and someone will get hurt eventually. Ugh such bad advice.
I think she is saying that you start to convince yourself of flaws in your partner that you didn't see before. If they are your partner you must have obviously started out with an attraction that brought you together.
This is for anxiety and OCD, not general life advice.
Bollock-talk. Waste of time.