Curly hair was looked down upon too. Like imagine jewish people,many have poofy curly hair and people call their hair a jew fro with a negative connotation.
Natural hair is absolutely beautiful! Healthy hair is good hair. Don't let anyone shame you for what you are naturally. If you are a curly girl like me, feel blessed and rock those locs!! =.)
Wonderfully said! I have curly/wavy hair, and years ago I use relax and straighten my hair constantly because it was the "norm." Long story short, I had done so much damage to my hair, that my curly/wavy hair was a hot mess. So I can advocate that no matter what hair texture you have Healthy Hair is Good Hair!!! Thankfully with a lot of patience, and deep conditioners, I was able to revive my curls. There is nothing more beautiful than seeing healthy hair, no matter the texture, length or color!
Usually when people refer to beautiful curly hair , they have in mind looser curls like on Tamera or Adrienne, tighter curls are still frowned upon. Also Tamar and Loni would never be caught on and off the show with their natural hair texture so their message is a bit insincere.
Yes! That's what I was trying to say. I couldn't quite put it into words. I was slightly cringing on the inside when Tamar was talking, because I was like…I've never seen your hair, Mrs. Herbert. :( No shade, because I love Tamar.
i agree with that statement as well I think people see Tamera and Adriennes hair as "good hair" (which it is beautiful but we need to watch how we express ourselves in front of kids.....
***** yes and no, the most popular natural hair bloggers tend to have a loose curl pattern , most of the products targeted to natural haired ladies have on their packaging people with loose curls as the ultimate to achieve "turn kinks into curls". The most popular styles are how to mimic curly hair.
I did that for my daughter she is natural and my hair at the time was permed she asked me why do my hair not looks like hers. She then told me that the kids at school call her ugly because her hair is kinky. I told her to embrace her curls and I realized I needed to take my own advice so I cut off my permanent end and when I showed her she was shocked and so happy she then said mom your hair is like mine then gave me a hug. I needed to show her to embrace her beauty. Ain't nothing wrong with being natural my natural is beautiful. Loving yourself and being happy with yourself starts with you first. I love this show, the ladies have a positive view on life.
Wow what a contradiction. The funny thing is they are celebrating "curly" hair (loose curls). However "kinky" hair is not in the conversation or seen as beautiful.
10byrdie You peeped that too, huh? Yeah most people put kinky and curly in different conversations and there are different perceptions. I was really waiting for that to come up but then again why would it? Neither Tamar or Loni wears their kinky hair so not sure why I thought that would even come up. lol But glad you pointed that out 'cause I was thinking the same thing.
I have curly/wavy hair, and I enjoyed watching the video. However, as the video was nearing the end, I found myself thinking about the beautiful kinky haired sisters, and other hair textures that were not being recognized . I was a little disappointed...I love natural hair, and we are all in this together!
***** Yea I was stunned that neither Tamar nor Loni even acknowledged that their hair does not grow out of their head straight. No mention of the perming process or nothing. They had a chance to really educate the audience outside the black community on what we do to our hair and the stigma with kinky hair. So dissapointing
exactly. i was a bit annoyed by tamera's comment about how she will wear her hair natural once it gets longer. Her hair looks very coily when it's short, but when it gets long, it starts to look way more loose. What is wrong with wearing it the way it looks right now?
Most of you don't understand that weaves and wigs are forms of protective styling. Black women cant wake up in the morning, brush their hair and go. It takes time to style our hair because of the many curl patterns we have. It's especially difficult for the kinky curly ladies because you can't just get up and go. Weaves require you to braid the hair underneath (which is a protective style) and you don't have to do much to it. Wigs also require no effort at all, just slap it on there like Loni does. Most of you also have to understand that the African hair isn't accepted in society, it's not considered beautiful, Tamera has the acceptable type of curls because she is mixed... if Loni and Tamar actually did come on the show with their natural hair most of you in the comments would be picking at them anyways so please take many seats...
Adrieana Nicole Yes, i know that. The point is, that shouldn't be used as an excuse for why straight weave is the norm, especially for black celebrities now that more and more weaves are being made for us, that resembles our hair (many textures), because of this movement. Hell, wearing a wig wasn't even consider "protective styling" until this movement came about, so what were their excuses than?
Tamera has the acceptable kind of curl because she's mixed? Really? Her being mixed has nothing to do with it. If a non mixed black person has Tamera's texture, is their hair acceptable because they're black?
She Loves Nope, though a black person with Tamera's texture would be seen as having good hair, they would still be encouraged to straighten their hair as well.Even MahoganyCurls on youtube, who has a very loose texture, her husband said he still "preferred" it straight. So, by society's standards, if u are "just" BLACK, no matter the texture, your hair is not as acceptable as biracial pp, and other races. And u will constantly be asked if u are "mixed with something" because apparently there's no way that a person who is "just black", can be beautiful. It sucks but that's how it is.
***** That makes no sense. So you're saying, if a black and biracial person has the same hair, the biracial person would be more accepted because she's biracial?
My point is the level of sigma around curly hair isn't as high as kinky hair...not many people go around calling people with curly hair nappy headed unless they are in a racist area. Curly hair tends to be favoured in the black community. I don't see what there is to love. When hardly anyone tells u to do otherwise.
+Antonia La Negra you're so right. I thought you were comparing the two to downplay kinky hair. But you are right. Curly hair and kinky hair aren't the same thing. With three African American woman on the panel, they should have advocated for loving your kinks.
+Antonia La Negra I was going to say the same thing ! So glad you did. BTW white people have curly hair too naturally and Jeanie Mai, you permed you hair so you could have curly hair not kinky hair. Most Asians perm their hair to get a different look, but its still curly not kinky perms. Most black people with curly hair love it and don't change it, but kinky hair is bad hair.
If you're natural fine. If you're not that's fine too. If you're not confident with your natural hair that's fine. If you are that's fine too. Do what makes you feel confident. When I started wearing my natural hair it gave me confidence. But weave also gives me confidence. If you're more comfortable wearing weave don't let someone make you feel bad if that's what you think makes you look good. Everyone is insecure about something.
Preach girl yes. I am a bw and I dont have a relaxer or put chemicals in my hair but I mix it up. Somedays I go straight via bumpers or somedays I go natural it depends on my mood. I'll even throw on a wig if I feel like it. No one has a right to tell anyone what to do with their person do what makes you feel happy.
Christal J No. My real last name is Griffin but I love Naomi Campbell so I had to represent for we dark-skinned sisters so my online last name is Campbell.
Love the Dove campaign for Curly hair! I did a case report on it for one of my classes & the message is just awesome! Embracing everything natural about yourself is beautiful and it's something parents should be teaching their kids. I'm glad The Real covered this topic!
I love this !!! I never thought I would embrace my curls, much less having a TH-cam channel dedicated to hair. I used to get bullied so bad when I was transitioning from relaxed to natural (a perm broke my hair off so bad, I wanted to just grow my hair out). I vividly remember a girl coming up to me asking me if I owned a comb or if my mom ever did my hair. I used to go home and cry because I could never go through the day without someone commenting on my hair. If any younger people are seeing this, I want you to know it gets easier once you get older. In 11th grade I decided to wear my curls and ever since then I've been embracing my hair. I'm a sophomore is college and I'm trying to get rid of heat damage so I've been cutting a lot of my hair. I'm at this point where I love my curls and never want to put heat to them again. We have to teach our girls to embrace themselves. If you look at successful people, a lot of them say they got bullied for things they couldn't change. Now look at them, it's important to embrace everything about yourself, that you cannot change and love yourself !!! If you can't accept your hair right now, I want you to know that you are beautiful and I hope everybody has a fabulous day !!!
I had a perm from the time I was 4 and recently went natural 2 years ago. It was tough but it was probably the most liberating thing I have ever done. For me natural hair is not a trend, I'm just embracing what God gave me!
Misssophisticated 1 My mom. Lol. I must say, I still kind of resent her for it, too. Especially when she didn't perm my younger sister's until way later (like pre-teen/teen years).
You gotta understand that back in those days.. (Im 27 btw) there wasnt nearly as many natural hair care products as there are now. And my hair was so coarse my mom was convinced by my grandmother that the only way to manage it was a "Just For Me" kiddie perm. I have a 7 year old and I will never perm her hair. I'm always teaching her the importance of her loving her own texture. If she wants to straighten or perm it later when she gets older, thats fine too.
I love that there talking about a curly hair struggle meanwhile they refuse to discuss lovin afro kinky hair. it's easy to love curly hair and wear a curly wig but it's hard to love afro kinky hair because its never shown on the media
I feel a lot of people calling them hypocrites don't understand that embracing your natural hair is just now becoming "socially acceptable." Many people grew up during a time when you were expected to have your hair straight. I've had older women criticize my natural hair before but I didn't get offended because I understand that it's not really their fault that they don't view curly hair as beautiful.
Its very interesting to me how these women can speak about embracing natural hair and sit there with their weaves and wigs. Especially Tamar with that blonde wig on her head. A message to Loni: wearing curly wigs doesn't make you a naturalista all of a sudden. The only one who can get a pass is Tamera. Out of the three black women on the panel, she is the only one who has come on set with her natural curls embraced. The hypocrisy is "REAL" and since this show claims to keep it real. I "Twitter Dare" ALL the host: INCLUDING JEANNIE AND ADRIENNE to come and do an entire episode with their REAL (untexturied, unstraightened, unprocessed unmanipulated) hair. Meaning. No clipins no extensions no crochet braids no flat irons. And I hope the hosts see this comment and if they choose to refuse this dare, acknowledge why.
C Fas well basic common sense; if it's already relaxed that's something they can't change in an instant. my point was for them to all come out embracing their own hair straight from their head in the state that it's in.
C Fas by untexturized unstraightened etc. I was implying that if it's natural don't change it for the show. (Like don't run and get a perm then day it's natural) But clearly it didn't come through... I was typing fast Lol.
***** I hear what you're saying and I know they won't do it but it would be nice for them to acknowledge natural beauty in truth. You can't take someone seriously who is saying embrace your natural hair while they sit with the farthest thing from it on their head. I want speaking about makeup wardrobe etc. Just hair. Television and media only like natural hair on a "softer" scale (for lack of words) meaning typically when you see a black woman with her natural hair she is usually half black or mixed with something so her skin is light and curls are loose and coily. Rarely to never to you see someone on television with kinky hair embraced in positivity...
***** I see many black women with natural hair in commercials but they are all light skinned or mixed race and therefore have curls or loose coils I have yet to see a dark skin woman or a woman with kinks or tight coils displayed on television in a positive setting. I've seen the same trend in various television shows and movies.
My niece is half black, and she has super tight curly hair. She is so incredibly gorgeous last week she went to school without it "tamed" and all the kids laughed at her. When she came home she just couldn't understand why. She loves her hair and though I have heard her say on several occasions "I wish I had hair like you" (pin straight hair..) we all truly do love her wild curly hair. It makes her her. And I love what they are saying here. Celebrate what you do have, don't wish for something different.
Just cus u see a black girl with a straight haired wig, doesn't mean she is self hating. I'm east african with naturally long straight hair, and people must learn that african hair is in-fact extremly diverse!! There are naturally born blonde and gingers among us..
I think saying this does nothing for little girl's who have kinky hair... Pointing this out is only perpetuating the notion that straighter hair of various colour is better... Fact is little girls and boys with kinky hair and darker skin feels less attractive because of society and the people around that that enforce this belief... We are all beautiful regardless... Do you feel less because you're African with straight hair and people constantly asking if it's real? If you do, you've placed that feeling upon yourself... A simple no, this is natural and you can go about your business... The real problem is a certain type of people feels unattractive because someone else says it's not... Love yourself and encourage others (all of mankind) to love themselves
Dvalin Ayamus True, blacks are extremely diverse but those features (blonde or straight hair) are not common to blacks. As Shakera Mess mentioned, kinky hair and darker skin is unique to blacks, but the appreciation and love is lacking within our own community.
Not everyones life or truth is about validating something for someone else. This woman is saying her hair is hers and just because she doesn't have kinky hair doesn't make her fake or any less black. That there is no such thing as black hair. She shouldn't need to feel bad about speaking her truth or grievances because it somehow effects kinky hair... You are under the notion that teaching kids straight hair is ugly and not real so that girls with kinky hair can feel beautiful... How about teaching that all types of hair can be natural and can be beautiful....
Hi honey babie! All life is beautiful... It is wonderful when we KNOW that... There IS such a thing as black hair and YES that includes kinky, straight and everything in between... We live in a society that glorifies certain aspects and discard others as worthless... We tend to minimize the feelings of the discarded as being too sensitive not realizing the toll it has on a person's entire being... I'm judging only from you pic I could be wrong that you are of European decent(nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about) but if you were to go to a predominantly Black Country you will find people staring at you and as the same happens if a black person goes to a place where they stand out... But the reaction is different based on a history of enslavement and oppression of self love and worth... Even now with so much progress... Now, while you'd feel adored and fawned over, a black person tend to get the opposite reaction and are regarded as less beautiful and worth less....Now, could you handle that feeling of disdain and isolation? That very thing will change the way you perceive yourself and even change the chemistry in your brain, forming complexes and and ultimately feelings worthless... And that's what many feel... We have different tools of oppression not and the unfortunate thing is many of us do not realize them... There are issues wishing our community that many don't understand... And that is, kinky hair is still seen as inferior WITHIN our community, there's a struggle here that I believe you need to completely understand and what we're striving for is for us all to realize the beauty in our kinks because it is the ONLY hair that is deemed as ugly in its healthy state... So why are we here standing up and out for our kinky communities? Because we are still healing not only regarding skin colour, not only poverty and not only hair.... But we all are broken in different ways and those of us who are healed from self hate need to uplift those who ARE still feeling broken... Would you put a sling and an arm that's not broken?? No... The same way black women with straighter hair do not suffer as much regarding their hair texture... But maybe they struggle with acceptance of their darker skin or other things... So I say all this to make it clear that teaching that this is better than that is never encouraged, but that we need to attend to the broken. And no one understands that more than those of us who had to cultivate our own acceptance because the moment we step foot on a playground, we get bombarded by those that say and treat us as inferiors. I hope this shed some light... This young lady should love her straight hair but pointing out the straight hairs and blue eyes in our community is counterproductive because there is still the vast majority of our blackness is still being laughed at. This is not a theory by the way, this is experience... Conduct your own personal survey, find the kinky of the kinkiest and ask them how they feel, what's their experiences are. We are in the process of healing ourselves, not through putting down others but uplifting those that don't KNOW how beautiful they are.
I think that what adrienne said was so true . There is not only 1 hairstyle that is beautiful . You have so many ways to look beautiful , whether you are wearing your weave , kinky , curly natural . I see hair as an accessory but I love my natural hair as well
this was a great segment. i went natural a few years back because relaxers just werent doing it for me anymore. when my mum saw how happy and different i was with my natural curls she too stopped relaxing her hair. its alright to relax your hair but its not okay for you to see yourself as less than just because your hair texture isnt the way you want it to be
I’m a young biracial girl with 3a/3b curls and I understand the comments and thoughts other people would have about my hair, saying how I would look amazing with straight hair, etc. I used to straighten my hair to “keep it in control” and a year and a half ago I decided to get a hair cut and start fresh and I LOVE MY NATURAL CURLS. I haven’t used heat on it once and I’m now embracing it and I’m never going back❤️❤️
Love my hair too. Took me a while but I am happy I finally got here. Wear your hair anyway that you want...just make sure that you love yourself no matter what.
I'm 11, and I am even rolling my hair now. I love my naturally straight hair, and I can have variety without heat. I am always curling my hair, but NEVER with heat. I am even right now using my flexi rods.
Dear The Real, I used to my hair because it was curly and short and all the girls and boys kept making fun of me cause of it but now looking back at that moment I'm like who cares about what they said I love my hair exactly the way it is and I would never want to change that thank you for making this video for me and other girls who don't like there hair thank you for inspiring women every day with your videos and keep up the good work Keep inspiring, Darla
I love my natural hair! Happy that they decided to talk about this topic today. Yeah, it would have been better for them all to come out with their natural curly/kinky hair but hey at least they are speaking about it
Amen Tamar; its very important what you say (re: body image and hair and everything) around kids. But I also believe its important to do as you say around kids too. That's why I'm with Tamera and Adrienne (re: spending yrs straightening hair and deciding to grow out my curls). I am not trying to sound like an uppity natural but I feel that the reason a lot of girls have issues with their hair is because they have nobody else in their family wearing their natural hair. Imagine growing up as the only girl/female in your family with natural hair. You have to ask why nobody else has curly hair. There is strength in numbers, especially as a kid, and every parent has an obligation to teach their kid/niece to love themselves as they are. Its important (especially as a person of colour) because the media is certainly telling us the opposite. Telling your daughter or your niece that her curly hair is beautiful and having weave in is not leading by example. In my case, I was the only Black girl in my class and it was not easy. Imagine if, when someone made fun of my hair, I was able to say "well my mom has curly hair too so eat it." I could not. The chemicals people put in relaxer are used for highly corrosive cleaning products. Its dangerous to use, and yet women are putting them in their toddlers. They dress and feed their babies but don't teach them how to accept and love themselves (because they haven't done the work on themselves). If you love yourself, and take the time to care/groom yourself, that's leading by example. Women who aren't at peace with themselves are having kids and their kids are picking up on their insecurities and adopting them as their own. Its extremely dangerous. Its a systemic system of racism that has reduced the recognition of worth and beauty in Black women/women of colour, and its something I think about and try to fight everyday (because I was there myself). By the grace of God I accept and appreciate everything about me, I hope to encourage any other woman out there to do the same.
Everything you said was spot on! It took me a long time to finally embrace my natural hair, but it was based on my female relatives having "desirable" natural hair. In my household, my sisters had long, naturally thin, loose, shiny curls and I always thought my kinkier texture was unfortunate. lol. For years I'd manipulate my hair and the only outcome was damaged and dry strands. I always thought I'd look ugly if I did the big chop and started over with a twa, but I took the plunge and now my hair is SO much healthier! It's finally growing and maintaining length. The best part is that I actually love the texture! I didn't even realise how nice my kinky hair texture is, because I was so afraid of not having "pretty" hair. I feel there are a lot of girls/women out there who don't even remember how their natural tresses look. I too hope that more females with curly/coiled/kinky hair that feel how I used to, will learn to embrace it and wear it with pride.
Sally Riposte This is beautiful. The problem with society is not the different hair textures existing, its the lack of respect/recognition of the beauty of them. All Black hair is beautiful and its important for women to celebrate that in their children and themselves. I'm so glad you have come to love your hair. xx
I wore my hair natural for 21 years and then I decided to get a relaxer. I loved my natural hair because it was soft and wavy and I did so many different hairstyles with it. Now that I have a perm in my hair I still like my hair and I'm able to do different updo styles, finger wave hairstyles, and donut bun styles. I think women should be able to wear their hair however they want to as long as they're happy. I do agree with loving your natural hair and don't worry what negative things people say about it because they don't matter and the are irrelevant.
Afro hair is simply tighter curly hair, and actually some black people across the globe do not have it. Indigenous austrailians are mostly straight haired, many east africans have much looser curls
interesting how Dove has that commercial about curly but I don't think Loni understands they are not talking about "natural" hair as in African American hair. I saw the commercial and it did not move me at all as a Black woman with natural hair. Who else understands where I am coming from?
Lol. That is African American hair. Considering the fact that African Americans have multiple hair textures, one type should only be represented. All of them should.
blakebymharris I felt the same way you did as well. I just find it comical that big companies including Dove want to claim the "Natural Hair Movement" without proper representation but I did enjoy the overall message of the video.
i used to hate my hair when i was younger cuz here in Singapore, curly hair people (and by that I really meant curly kinda hair that twist and coils and turns into a ringlet to grow) not those with waves in their hair. Having curly hair and wavy hair is a total different thing. that is also the reason why i was bullied in school just because my hair looks "different" then everbody else's. it was not until i turned 21 going into my adulthood that I slowly accepted and loved my hair for what it is. the thing with curly hair is that -it has a life of its own, you love and embrace it, they will do the same thing to u. they'd curl beautifully as thou u had it permed. now, whenever i walked into the salon, people would just be mesmerised by it -and I love that feeling!
Over the holidays, my boyfriends 10 Yr old niece was feeling so insecure about her natural hair since she hangs around predominantly white little girls with fine, straight hair. Me and my boyfriends sister hooked her up with some just for me, kinky curly, a deep conditioner, and all that good stuff and let her know how beautiful she was. They are all correct.... Watch what you do and say around these babies because they will follow your lead. I started straightening my hair when I was 14 and didn't lay off of it until I was 20! I'm so grateful for the natural hair movement :)
u girls I love ur show its totaly blissfullness when I was a baby I had curly im 25 til this day Im blessed with my natural curly hair just got let it be wild and free
Growing up, I didn't like my afro hair texture because I hated the blow dryer. I was so tender headed and dreaded hair washes because of it. Whenever my mom braided my hair, she always said I should love my hair for its thickness and volume (her's is thin and straight). But I saw it as more than a hassle than anything. In my family, my sister, great grandmother and I were the only ones with thick afro curls. My mom, aunts and grandmother had thin hair and wore wigs to and pieces to give their's more fullness. Going to school, straight hair seemed so easily manageable that I wanted it too. Throughout my teens, I switched between relaxers and extensions and slowly started to appreciate the fullness my mom talked about it when I was younger. Yet it wasn't until I went to college and saw other women embracing their afro curly hair that I considered wearing mine natural. I still used relaxers and extensions and eventually moved onto weaves. After not much liking weaves and seeing the breakage from relaxers, I decided to try my natural hair. I'm very early in the process only having started just a few weeks ago. But I love learning my natural texture and finally understand why my hair is the way it is. There is nothing wrong with relaxers, weaves, extensions, etc and I will probably use them again at some point. But if I could tell my childhood self anything about my hair, I would tell her that one day you will finally love your curls for what they are. On the one hand, I'm sad it took me 22 years to fully love my hair, but on the other I'm happy my mom saw it and told me to embrace it when I was little. Thank you mommy for embracing my curls when I couldn't :)
I never used to like my natural hair, like I hated it. (You see it my icon I have a big ginger bush growing outta my head) but honestly it only took one person my best friend actually, to tell me that she liked my hair that way. And ever since I've been able to embrace it. And now I can't imagine my hair any other way cos I love it for what it is. Love your kinky curly hair or whatever it is or go and tell your friends next time you see them how great you think their hair looks. I'm telling you, they will thank you.
That s what I don t understand. There s nothing wrong about wearings wigs but don t talk about embracing something that you don't do. Message not well done sorry!!
i completely understand how adults can really shape a kids perspective. when i was younger, growing up black and white. i always saw my moms beautiful straight hair and once i got to a certain age i began to straighten my hair so i can be like my mom. now at 19, i really really REALLY wish i had the curls i used to have when i was younger because now my hair is so damaged from the years of straightening it.
I recently decided to go natural. I have been getting relaxers since the age of 5 (I'm 21 now). My mother is a licensed cosmetologist so until a certain age, I had never dealt with damaged hair while getting a relaxer. Then she told me at the age of 11 that I was free to do my own hair. I would do small braids, Too much flat ironing, constant combing, and at that time I was still getting relaxers and that's when my hair began to break off and by the time I was in the 7th grade my hair was just below my jaw line (my hair had never been that short before). It remained that way up until 12th grade. And from the age of 18 til 20 I wore sew-ins. I would relax my hair every 3 months along with a new sew-in, and within those 2 years my hair grew to armpit length. I was still unhappy though my length was progressing. I haven't had a relaxer since September and a sew-in since November. I cut a lot of my hair off again so it's just at the end of my neck and super thick. There's still relaxed hair left but I felt like relaxers for me were routined and I hated how I started to hate my natural waves. I've been doing this relaxer thing since the age of 5 and I can honestly say I don't remember being natural at all. I also remember back in 9th grade someone trying to teasing my new growth and sounding even more stupid saying "aren't boys only supposed to have waves?" I've grown to appreciate my hair in its natural state. It's super healthy and I am so excited to be 100% natural as time goes on. It really disgusts me when I think back on the years in high school when I would say I thought natural hair was ugly. TH-cam and the natural hair movement really convinced me to do this and I absolutely love it so far.
I've got the 4c hair texture myself and it's a struggle to maintain but it's worth it. And just like Tamera I use protective styles like box braids/marley twists to protect and grow my hair out until I'm comfortable wearing it out all the time. However, what I don't get are the people who claim that protective styles like weaves, wigs, etc are considered self-hate. Yes there are women out there that hate their God-given hair ,but don't generalize me into the same category based off that small group of people. Change in hairstyles ≠ self-hatred. A white women can go from naturally straight, to curly, wavy, and all of the above. But anytime a black women does so, we are automatically seen as women who hate the skin their in. And it always never seems to amaze me that these same comments typically come from black men. The same BM who will praise white women for their mock curls but will tear us to part on any social media outlet, failing to appreciate our kinky, coily, hair. You want us real but when we get too real with you, you start to retreat from us smh.
Danielle A. I think the difference is whites wear weaves, wigs etc that are similar to their hair types. Like you said, a change in hair style does not equal self hatred but the problem with majority of black people is that their own natural hair is more foreign to them than straight hair. The problem is not the fake accessories but the mindset of some people that they are never seen outside without their weaves/ wigs.
Chimiri88 Very true. And I get that when it comes to black women, people associate our hair with curly or kinky. But it's not impossible for our hair to be straight, silky, and easy to run our hands through lol..and that's even without a perm. Everyone needs to be comfortable with their God given hair. And I think more people in the black community would be if they knew how to properly take care of it whether relaxed, natural, etc. But thank God for people like uluvmegz and mynaturalsistas who are just some of the few youtubers that are educating people on proper hair care.
Danielle A. Yup, it's not impossible for black people to have straight and silky hair naturally. It's just uncommon just like lighter colored hair/eyes for black folks. That's why I believe people associate our hair with kinky/ curly than straight hair. The exposure of natural hair on TH-cam really did help with hair care because idk what I would have done to care for my natural hair.
i have tight long curly hair and i love it. as a teenager in this time and age, we are finally learning to appreciate our hair whether its kinky, or curly and thats beautiful.
I embrace by natural hair and my daughter's hair is natural and I am going to encourage her to love the skin and hair that she is in because it's beautiful.
But wait didn't Tamar shade Blue Ivy's hair? If you are going tell someone to embrace their natural hair you should be speaking on all hair textures not just the loose curly hair textures.
I have naturally curly hair and when I was in grade 7 I got a straight perm because I hated my natural hair. However, I didn't realize how much damage it can cause and My hair became so unhealthy. So I had to wait a couple of years for my curls to grow back and now they're full and bouncy. :) Now I get more compliments than ever before. Embrace your natural hair, ladies!
I am a 13 year old and in 6 grade a started to straighten my hair even though I had mostly straight and little frizzy hair but then I started to do it everyday and it made my hair frizzy and burned at the tips.So I decided to use no heat on my hair for the entire summer and my hair didn't come back to normal but it is way better and healthier.So now I only curl it every 3 times a week for school.Now I love and appreciate my hair.
I am 18 and I have naturally curly hair. Well... at 13-16 I straightened and dyed my hair so much that my hair doesn't curl as much anymore. At 17 I regretted so much what I had done to my hair and started to appreciate what I had and the curls, so the last 2 years I have tried to just do all in my power to keep the curls I have now as well as I can.
If they wanna embrace the natural look, then on the next aired segment they all should be natural. No weave, no make up, just natural beauty. Cause they all beautiful!
How you gon teach your kids to love their hair if you wear weave all the time?! Hiding behind these "protective styles" is a lie. Because if you really love your texture you'd get braids, twists, kinky wigs and weaves.
I am natural with kinky textured hair and I can tell you that there is definitely a difference in conversation with my textured hair and a curly texture. My Afro is just now being celebrated, curly texture has always been acceptable. Women and men with my hair texture had to have laws passed to say it was acceptable to be worn in a professional work place. I wish they would have talked about that. Also just because they wear wigs, weaves, or extensions does not mean they don’t like their natural hair. I don’t wear any of that but they are really good for protective styling.
I know it can be hard for girls with curly hair to embrace their natural hair, but you gotta imagine how hard it is for girls with kinky or coily curls. I mean, 4b or 4c. I have yet to see that on the Dove campaign. But, I loved when Adrienne said that there is not one way to be beautiful. Its so true.
I applaud them for touching the subject of embracing your natural hair but I feel like they just as many other public figures still miss the point. It's the "Do as I say not as I do mentality." Kids are smart and women especially mothers have to be a living example for their little girls. You cant say love your curls and your hair is beautiful when you have the exact same hair as these little girls but they never see it because its always under a weave or wig. Kids only feel the way they do because they don't see enough people with their hair in its natural curly state in the media.
I have thick coily hair and its only a lot of hair and its only a lot if work when I try to make it operate the way looser textures operate. When I do what my hair likes to do, its the easiest to work with. Natural for Life.
I hate when people who have soft curly hair talk about this subject, we have twitter and instagram accounts to remind us everyday how beautiful our natural hair is but i aint never seen anything like that specificly for girls with nappy hair. Infact i have never gotten a compliment for my hair that does not include how unnappy and mixed it looks. We all are privileged when it comes to our hair except girls with kinky hair. Sorry for my english btw
It would have been better if they did this segment with all of their natural hair out! How exactly does this come across when they preach one thing and do another? I'm not trying to compare but when the ladies of The Talk did a segment like this, they were au naturel!
For the past 1 1/2 I've been wearing my hair natural and my hair was also damaged from straightening. My mother still says to me "What's wrong with yo head?!" or "I wish you would flat iron your hair so it can be pretty". It drives me insane because her hair is TOTALLY different from mine and she has a very old fashioned view of beauty. It doesn't hurt my feelings because I LOVE my hair. I think it's very important to teach our young girls that they are beautiful no matter what.
I *LOVE* my hair! I do. Just long, full, curly, wavy and manageable. I was a simple child. Wash, condition and keep it moving. I rarely used gels or greases. I keep the same ritual. Tamar and Loni can't do anything without wigs or weaves which is why they feel left out of the conversation. All that pressing, dying and frying has taken it's toll. #teamnoweave #mommyidontwantaweave #embraceyournaps
I was embarrassed to have curly hair when i was younger as i thought it looked messy. So i would straighten it. Now im older i realised all i needed was a little curl cream and my curls are beautiful x
My daddy always told me that my hair was beautiful. He had curly hair with green eyes. I learned as a little girl that my hair was beautiful regardless of what others would say. I always heard, "tienes pelo feo."
I agree I had very beautiful curls and when i got to middle and high school and I saw my peers with straight hair, that influenced me to straighten it and now that Im 22 years old I wish I had never touched my hair and left it as it was because yes i still have wave/curly hair but it doesn't grow back the same... ughhh
My mom has naturally straight hair, but I have naturally wavy hair. I don't mean like cute beach waves, but tight wavy, almost curly hair. For me, I always hate having to wear my natural hair, ever since I was a little girl. I think it stems from my mom not being able to do it so it was easier to leave it straight. It's hard to comb through, you have to wash it the night before and comb it then or it'll be frizzy and unmanageable the next day. All the women in my family never wear their natural hair, they always straighten it, so I always believed straight hair is beautiful. I'm 18 now, 19 in May, and I've been straightening my hair since I was 8 and getting relaxers since I was about 10/11. Everybody tells me that they love my natural hair, I just wish I could love it too. Like to this day, my mom still talks about my hair when its natural and tells me we need to straighten it immediately so I don't have to wear it natural.
i know im late with this comment but tamar and tamera are so right about us as parents watching the things we say and the things we do in front of our kids. i myself use to straighten my hair constantly and i have natural 3b/3c curly hair but i use to always have it straight cause i thought it was easier to manage. my 4year old daughter also has 3b/3c curly hair and she would often cry and tell me she hated her hair until the day i asked her why she hated her hair and she told me MOMMY i wanna have straight hair like yours i hate curly hair. that broke my heart . i kept telling her her hair was beautiful but i never showed her with my own example . so i cut off all my hair . did the big chop that was 3years ago and i have never straightern my hair ever again! i wear my curls happy and my daughter now loves her hair and doesnt want to have it straight any longer. point is kids do pay attention to what we say and what we do as parents.
You can't tell me nothing about these coils in my head. I remember I had taken out a sew in and my hair was Afro up and I was taken aback at how pretty I looked. Now I hate getting my hair did. Leave me and Afro Delilah alone
I love the whole embracing your curls idea. However Its often related to loose curls rather than tight corse coils. My little sister is 4 and has really tight coils. For this reason I ensure to wear my afro whenever I'm with her in order to set an example. You can not always rely on others to make a difference. Charity begins at home
My hair gets way to poofy some days and it's dry and it's ugh! That's why I am normally putting my hair in a ponytail or something. But when my hair's not dry, poofy, getting everywhere, I rock it! My hair now is like "normal" hair and it's growing into that. Sure some days you are going to have bad hair days. So what everybody gets at least one bad hair day! But rock what you got! Put your hair in any way you want! Ponytail, braid, fishtail, pigtails, bun, loose, ect. You just gotta be you, love yourself, listen to your inner self. Look in the mirror and say you are pretty, you rock, you can make a difference! Peace, love, hope, joy, corn dogs, kittens, pig, music, life, meow, ruff, dog, gummy bears! 😊
I started to transition then went completely natural because my hair was not healthy anymore with relaxers. I love my natural curls but I also love my weaves and wigs. Sometimes I need to do a protective style and take a break from doing my hair so they definitely come in handy. I really can't wait for my hair to get longer. Still struggling on doing other styles. I only know how to do a wash and go. lol
The small criticism I have for this segment was that they never actually said that the girls themselves are beautiful just that their hair is beautiful. There's a difference between "you are beautiful" and "your hair is beautiful". In my opinion, there's too much value out on physical appearance - when those young girls become proud of who they are and value themselves as people, the rest will naturally. Love The Real cast and crew for all they are doing and how they are influencing media in such a positive way. THANK YOU 👏👏👏
everyone wants what they don't have...straight hair they want curls, curlies they want straight....dark hair want red or blonde, blondes want red or black....I don't think this is ever gonna change....especially if one who comes from straight hair knew the real struggles of curly hair they would think twice. JEANIE YOU ARE GORGEOUS! I am a curly and I wish I had your hair...wanna switch :)
I have a natural fro, but its a lot of work so i use a sew in for protective styling while im working two jobs and am a full time student. But in a year im graduating and since i'll have more time to actually maintain it myself the weave goes, but i understand what tamera is saying.
I had straight hair my whole life at the age of 8 I wanted curly and since then I still want curly hair But I learned to love my hair just the way it is
Tamar, it is not just about what you SAY, it's about what you DO. Don't think for a second that little girls are not looking at you put that blonde wig on everyday and not internalizing that you must like that blonde wig more than your natural hair. Loni, you are not celebrating a darn thing except self-hate. If you have naturally curly hair, why would you need to put a fake curly wig on your head? Oh, that's right, because your hair is probably permed...because you HATE YOUR NATURAL HAIR. I love that Tia and Tamera wore their natural hair on their show, but they proved Loni's comment right about people thinking natural hair is for kids, because as soon as they "grew up" and started acting more mature on the show, they straightened their hair for every episode. In conclusion, a discussion about self-love and natural hair on The Real is as deep as a kiddie pool. Coming from a show on the Fox network, this is expected.
miss m I could, but this video was specifically about natural hair, so that's why I commented on it. If beyonce ever said anything about loving your natural beauty, I would call her out, too.
Curly hair isn't the issue. It's tight coily and kinky hair that is just now being celebrated. And only just now being brought mainstream
That's what I thought till I saw the Dove video...
Curly hair was looked down upon too. Like imagine jewish people,many have poofy curly hair and people call their hair a jew fro with a negative connotation.
That's because they have frizzy hair, similar to a kinky texture but its still a loose curl type.
It’s been “mainstream” in the 60s and 70s.:
XOZo there’s no such thing as a Jew fro , no Jew has kinky type 4 hair
Natural hair is absolutely beautiful! Healthy hair is good hair. Don't let anyone shame you for what you are naturally. If you are a curly girl like me, feel blessed and rock those locs!! =.)
Wonderfully said! I have curly/wavy hair, and years ago I use relax and straighten my hair constantly because it was the "norm." Long story short, I had done so much damage to my hair, that my curly/wavy hair was a hot mess. So I can advocate that no matter what hair texture you have Healthy Hair is Good Hair!!! Thankfully with a lot of patience, and deep conditioners, I was able to revive my curls. There is nothing more beautiful than seeing healthy hair, no matter the texture, length or color!
I've always loved Adrienne's curly hair.
Keith P. Her hair is damaged asf
Malaisah Trophy yea it ain’t curly no more 🥴
Wavy***
back in the day tho she had sherly temple's curls like ringlets and springs.
Me too and Corbin Bleu's hair
I LOVE my Natural Hair..!!
Me too! Natural curly/coily/kinky girls rock! Lol
ButterGirlsCurls Ink Yaaasss
me to even tho its a twa lol
Love mine too!
and I love you for that ❤❤❤
Usually when people refer to beautiful curly hair , they have in mind looser curls like on Tamera or Adrienne, tighter curls are still frowned upon. Also Tamar and Loni would never be caught on and off the show with their natural hair texture so their message is a bit insincere.
Yes! That's what I was trying to say. I couldn't quite put it into words. I was slightly cringing on the inside when Tamar was talking, because I was like…I've never seen your hair, Mrs. Herbert. :( No shade, because I love Tamar.
i agree with that statement as well I think people see Tamera and Adriennes hair as "good hair" (which it is beautiful but we need to watch how we express ourselves in front of kids.....
Grace Lands And I mean no shade in this response but do you ever think we'll maybe she really doesn't have much hair to show?
***** yes and no, the most popular natural hair bloggers tend to have a loose curl pattern , most of the products targeted to natural haired ladies have on their packaging people with loose curls as the ultimate to achieve "turn kinks into curls". The most popular styles are how to mimic curly hair.
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Loni showed a photo of her natural curls once on the show
I did that for my daughter she is natural and my hair at the time was permed she asked me why do my hair not looks like hers. She then told me that the kids at school call her ugly because her hair is kinky. I told her to embrace her curls and I realized I needed to take my own advice so I cut off my permanent end and when I showed her she was shocked and so happy she then said mom your hair is like mine then gave me a hug. I needed to show her to embrace her beauty. Ain't nothing wrong with being natural my natural is beautiful. Loving yourself and being happy with yourself starts with you first. I love this show, the ladies have a positive view on life.
If your hair is natural, I like your hair too.
Wow what a contradiction. The funny thing is they are celebrating "curly" hair (loose curls). However "kinky" hair is not in the conversation or seen as beautiful.
10byrdie You peeped that too, huh? Yeah most people put kinky and curly in different conversations and there are different perceptions. I was really waiting for that to come up but then again why would it? Neither Tamar or Loni wears their kinky hair so not sure why I thought that would even come up. lol But glad you pointed that out 'cause I was thinking the same thing.
I agree it was *crickets* from Loni and Tamar....they really didnt want to touch on the subject.
I have curly/wavy hair, and I enjoyed watching the video. However, as the video was nearing the end, I found myself thinking about the beautiful kinky haired sisters, and other hair textures that were not being recognized . I was a little disappointed...I love natural hair, and we are all in this together!
***** Yea I was stunned that neither Tamar nor Loni even acknowledged that their hair does not grow out of their head straight. No mention of the perming process or nothing. They had a chance to really educate the audience outside the black community on what we do to our hair and the stigma with kinky hair. So dissapointing
exactly. i was a bit annoyed by tamera's comment about how she will wear her hair natural once it gets longer. Her hair looks very coily when it's short, but when it gets long, it starts to look way more loose. What is wrong with wearing it the way it looks right now?
Most of you don't understand that weaves and wigs are forms of protective styling. Black women cant wake up in the morning, brush their hair and go. It takes time to style our hair because of the many curl patterns we have. It's especially difficult for the kinky curly ladies because you can't just get up and go. Weaves require you to braid the hair underneath (which is a protective style) and you don't have to do much to it. Wigs also require no effort at all, just slap it on there like Loni does. Most of you also have to understand that the African hair isn't accepted in society, it's not considered beautiful, Tamera has the acceptable type of curls because she is mixed... if Loni and Tamar actually did come on the show with their natural hair most of you in the comments would be picking at them anyways so please take many seats...
Wearing a more natural looking weave is protective styling and it won't kill them to do so
Adrieana Nicole
Yes, i know that. The point is, that shouldn't be used as an excuse for why straight weave is the norm, especially for black celebrities now that more and more weaves are being made for us, that resembles our hair (many textures), because of this movement. Hell, wearing a wig wasn't even consider "protective styling" until this movement came about, so what were their excuses than?
Tamera has the acceptable kind of curl because she's mixed? Really? Her being mixed has nothing to do with it. If a non mixed black person has Tamera's texture, is their hair acceptable because they're black?
She Loves
Nope, though a black person with Tamera's texture would be seen as having good hair, they would still be encouraged to straighten their hair as well.Even MahoganyCurls on youtube, who has a very loose texture, her husband said he still "preferred" it straight. So, by society's standards, if u are "just" BLACK, no matter the texture, your hair is not as acceptable as biracial pp, and other races. And u will constantly be asked if u are "mixed with something" because apparently there's no way that a person who is "just black", can be beautiful. It sucks but that's how it is.
***** That makes no sense. So you're saying, if a black and biracial person has the same hair, the biracial person would be more accepted because she's biracial?
Curly hair and kinky hair isn't that same
Your point?
My point is the level of sigma around curly hair isn't as high as kinky hair...not many people go around calling people with curly hair nappy headed unless they are in a racist area. Curly hair tends to be favoured in the black community.
I don't see what there is to love. When hardly anyone tells u to do otherwise.
+Antonia La Negra you're so right. I thought you were comparing the two to downplay kinky hair. But you are right. Curly hair and kinky hair aren't the same thing. With three African American woman on the panel, they should have advocated for loving your kinks.
+Antonia La Negra I was going to say the same thing ! So glad you did. BTW white people have curly hair too naturally and Jeanie Mai, you permed you hair so you could have curly hair not kinky hair. Most Asians perm their hair to get a different look, but its still curly not kinky perms. Most black people with curly hair love it and don't change it, but kinky hair is bad hair.
Not the same
If you're natural fine. If you're not that's fine too. If you're not confident with your natural hair that's fine. If you are that's fine too. Do what makes you feel confident. When I started wearing my natural hair it gave me confidence. But weave also gives me confidence. If you're more comfortable wearing weave don't let someone make you feel bad if that's what you think makes you look good. Everyone is insecure about something.
Preach girl yes. I am a bw and I dont have a relaxer or put chemicals in my hair but I mix it up. Somedays I go straight via bumpers or somedays I go natural it depends on my mood. I'll even throw on a wig if I feel like it. No one has a right to tell anyone what to do with their person do what makes you feel happy.
iman campbell you have a muslim name, are you a muslim? Btw My sister's name is Iman
Nizar AS LOL No you are right it's a muslim name but Im not muslim Im Evagngelical. My parents named me after the Somalian supermodel, Iman.
Is your real last name Campbell like Naomi? I figured your name was just a supermodel reference lol iman campbell
Christal J No. My real last name is Griffin but I love Naomi Campbell so I had to represent for we dark-skinned sisters so my online last name is Campbell.
I can relate to jeanie, I have straight hair and I've always loved curly hair. I think its beautiful!
Love the Dove campaign for Curly hair! I did a case report on it for one of my classes & the message is just awesome! Embracing everything natural about yourself is beautiful and it's something parents should be teaching their kids. I'm glad The Real covered this topic!
I love this !!! I never thought I would embrace my curls, much less having a TH-cam channel dedicated to hair. I used to get bullied so bad when I was transitioning from relaxed to natural (a perm broke my hair off so bad, I wanted to just grow my hair out). I vividly remember a girl coming up to me asking me if I owned a comb or if my mom ever did my hair. I used to go home and cry because I could never go through the day without someone commenting on my hair. If any younger people are seeing this, I want you to know it gets easier once you get older. In 11th grade I decided to wear my curls and ever since then I've been embracing my hair. I'm a sophomore is college and I'm trying to get rid of heat damage so I've been cutting a lot of my hair. I'm at this point where I love my curls and never want to put heat to them again. We have to teach our girls to embrace themselves. If you look at successful people, a lot of them say they got bullied for things they couldn't change. Now look at them, it's important to embrace everything about yourself, that you cannot change and love yourself !!! If you can't accept your hair right now, I want you to know that you are beautiful and I hope everybody has a fabulous day !!!
I had a perm from the time I was 4 and recently went natural 2 years ago. It was tough but it was probably the most liberating thing I have ever done. For me natural hair is not a trend, I'm just embracing what God gave me!
Misssophisticated 1 My mom. Lol. I must say, I still kind of resent her for it, too. Especially when she didn't perm my younger sister's until way later (like pre-teen/teen years).
You gotta understand that back in those days.. (Im 27 btw) there wasnt nearly as many natural hair care products as there are now. And my hair was so coarse my mom was convinced by my grandmother that the only way to manage it was a "Just For Me" kiddie perm. I have a 7 year old and I will never perm her hair. I'm always teaching her the importance of her loving her own texture. If she wants to straighten or perm it later when she gets older, thats fine too.
Good for you
Yes! We were born this way. We " woke up like this " for real
Getyourlife1 Congrats! Welcome to the club!
I love that there talking about a curly hair struggle meanwhile they refuse to discuss lovin afro kinky hair. it's easy to love curly hair and wear a curly wig but it's hard to love afro kinky hair because its never shown on the media
I feel a lot of people calling them hypocrites don't understand that embracing your natural hair is just now becoming "socially acceptable." Many people grew up during a time when you were expected to have your hair straight. I've had older women criticize my natural hair before but I didn't get offended because I understand that it's not really their fault that they don't view curly hair as beautiful.
Its very interesting to me how these women can speak about embracing natural hair and sit there with their weaves and wigs. Especially Tamar with that blonde wig on her head. A message to Loni: wearing curly wigs doesn't make you a naturalista all of a sudden. The only one who can get a pass is Tamera. Out of the three black women on the panel, she is the only one who has come on set with her natural curls embraced. The hypocrisy is "REAL" and since this show claims to keep it real. I "Twitter Dare" ALL the host: INCLUDING JEANNIE AND ADRIENNE to come and do an entire episode with their REAL (untexturied, unstraightened, unprocessed unmanipulated) hair. Meaning. No clipins no extensions no crochet braids no flat irons. And I hope the hosts see this comment and if they choose to refuse this dare, acknowledge why.
Lmao C Fas
C Fas well basic common sense; if it's already relaxed that's something they can't change in an instant. my point was for them to all come out embracing their own hair straight from their head in the state that it's in.
C Fas by untexturized unstraightened etc. I was implying that if it's natural don't change it for the show. (Like don't run and get a perm then day it's natural) But clearly it didn't come through... I was typing fast Lol.
***** I hear what you're saying and I know they won't do it but it would be nice for them to acknowledge natural beauty in truth. You can't take someone seriously who is saying embrace your natural hair while they sit with the farthest thing from it on their head. I want speaking about makeup wardrobe etc. Just hair. Television and media only like natural hair on a "softer" scale (for lack of words) meaning typically when you see a black woman with her natural hair she is usually half black or mixed with something so her skin is light and curls are loose and coily. Rarely to never to you see someone on television with kinky hair embraced in positivity...
***** I see many black women with natural hair in commercials but they are all light skinned or mixed race and therefore have curls or loose coils I have yet to see a dark skin woman or a woman with kinks or tight coils displayed on television in a positive setting. I've seen the same trend in various television shows and movies.
I loved this conversation about hair, protective styling, curls, straight hair, self-esteem, and bonding. Great words ladies!
My niece is half black, and she has super tight curly hair. She is so incredibly gorgeous last week she went to school without it "tamed" and all the kids laughed at her. When she came home she just couldn't understand why. She loves her hair and though I have heard her say on several occasions "I wish I had hair like you" (pin straight hair..) we all truly do love her wild curly hair. It makes her her. And I love what they are saying here. Celebrate what you do have, don't wish for something different.
My son is half Hispanic and he have long beautiful hair
Just cus u see a black girl with a straight haired wig, doesn't mean she is self hating. I'm east african with naturally long straight hair, and people must learn that african hair is in-fact extremly diverse!! There are naturally born blonde and gingers among us..
I think saying this does nothing for little girl's who have kinky hair... Pointing this out is only perpetuating the notion that straighter hair of various colour is better... Fact is little girls and boys with kinky hair and darker skin feels less attractive because of society and the people around that that enforce this belief... We are all beautiful regardless... Do you feel less because you're African with straight hair and people constantly asking if it's real? If you do, you've placed that feeling upon yourself... A simple no, this is natural and you can go about your business... The real problem is a certain type of people feels unattractive because someone else says it's not... Love yourself and encourage others (all of mankind) to love themselves
Dvalin Ayamus True, blacks are extremely diverse but those features (blonde or straight hair) are not common to blacks. As Shakera Mess mentioned, kinky hair and darker skin is unique to blacks, but the appreciation and love is lacking within our own community.
Aww thank you :) Your hair is gorgeous as well. Kinky hair is so unique and diverse. I have been natural since 2012 and never look back ^.^
Not everyones life or truth is about validating something for someone else. This woman is saying her hair is hers and just because she doesn't have kinky hair doesn't make her fake or any less black. That there is no such thing as black hair. She shouldn't need to feel bad about speaking her truth or grievances because it somehow effects kinky hair... You are under the notion that teaching kids straight hair is ugly and not real so that girls with kinky hair can feel beautiful... How about teaching that all types of hair can be natural and can be beautiful....
Hi honey babie! All life is beautiful... It is wonderful when we KNOW that... There IS such a thing as black hair and YES that includes kinky, straight and everything in between... We live in a society that glorifies certain aspects and discard others as worthless... We tend to minimize the feelings of the discarded as being too sensitive not realizing the toll it has on a person's entire being... I'm judging only from you pic I could be wrong that you are of European decent(nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about) but if you were to go to a predominantly Black Country you will find people staring at you and as the same happens if a black person goes to a place where they stand out... But the reaction is different based on a history of enslavement and oppression of self love and worth... Even now with so much progress... Now, while you'd feel adored and fawned over, a black person tend to get the opposite reaction and are regarded as less beautiful and worth less....Now, could you handle that feeling of disdain and isolation? That very thing will change the way you perceive yourself and even change the chemistry in your brain, forming complexes and and ultimately feelings worthless... And that's what many feel... We have different tools of oppression not and the unfortunate thing is many of us do not realize them... There are issues wishing our community that many don't understand... And that is, kinky hair is still seen as inferior WITHIN our community, there's a struggle here that I believe you need to completely understand and what we're striving for is for us all to realize the beauty in our kinks because it is the ONLY hair that is deemed as ugly in its healthy state... So why are we here standing up and out for our kinky communities? Because we are still healing not only regarding skin colour, not only poverty and not only hair.... But we all are broken in different ways and those of us who are healed from self hate need to uplift those who ARE still feeling broken... Would you put a sling and an arm that's not broken?? No... The same way black women with straighter hair do not suffer as much regarding their hair texture... But maybe they struggle with acceptance of their darker skin or other things... So I say all this to make it clear that teaching that this is better than that is never encouraged, but that we need to attend to the broken. And no one understands that more than those of us who had to cultivate our own acceptance because the moment we step foot on a playground, we get bombarded by those that say and treat us as inferiors. I hope this shed some light... This young lady should love her straight hair but pointing out the straight hairs and blue eyes in our community is counterproductive because there is still the vast majority of our blackness is still being laughed at. This is not a theory by the way, this is experience... Conduct your own personal survey, find the kinky of the kinkiest and ask them how they feel, what's their experiences are. We are in the process of healing ourselves, not through putting down others but uplifting those that don't KNOW how beautiful they are.
I think that what adrienne said was so true . There is not only 1 hairstyle that is beautiful . You have so many ways to look beautiful , whether you are wearing your weave , kinky , curly natural . I see hair as an accessory but I love my natural hair as well
this was a great segment. i went natural a few years back because relaxers just werent doing it for me anymore. when my mum saw how happy and different i was with my natural curls she too stopped relaxing her hair. its alright to relax your hair but its not okay for you to see yourself as less than just because your hair texture isnt the way you want it to be
I’m a young biracial girl with 3a/3b curls and I understand the comments and thoughts other people would have about my hair, saying how I would look amazing with straight hair, etc. I used to straighten my hair to “keep it in control” and a year and a half ago I decided to get a hair cut and start fresh and I LOVE MY NATURAL CURLS. I haven’t used heat on it once and I’m now embracing it and I’m never going back❤️❤️
Love my hair too. Took me a while but I am happy I finally got here. Wear your hair anyway that you want...just make sure that you love yourself no matter what.
I love my natural hair! Embracing it started me on a journey that changed my life!
I'm 11, and I am even rolling my hair now. I love my naturally straight hair, and I can have variety without heat. I am always curling my hair, but NEVER with heat. I am even right now using my flexi rods.
Dear The Real,
I used to my hair because it was curly and short and all the girls and boys kept making fun of me cause of it but now looking back at that moment I'm like who cares about what they said I love my hair exactly the way it is and I would never want to change that thank you for making this video for me and other girls who don't like there hair thank you for inspiring women every day with your videos and keep up the good work
Keep inspiring, Darla
Adrienne is preaching!!!! Love your hair ❤️
I love my natural hair! Happy that they decided to talk about this topic today. Yeah, it would have been better for them all to come out with their natural curly/kinky hair but hey at least they are speaking about it
Amen Tamar; its very important what you say (re: body image and hair and everything) around kids. But I also believe its important to do as you say around kids too. That's why I'm with Tamera and Adrienne (re: spending yrs straightening hair and deciding to grow out my curls). I am not trying to sound like an uppity natural but I feel that the reason a lot of girls have issues with their hair is because they have nobody else in their family wearing their natural hair. Imagine growing up as the only girl/female in your family with natural hair. You have to ask why nobody else has curly hair. There is strength in numbers, especially as a kid, and every parent has an obligation to teach their kid/niece to love themselves as they are. Its important (especially as a person of colour) because the media is certainly telling us the opposite. Telling your daughter or your niece that her curly hair is beautiful and having weave in is not leading by example. In my case, I was the only Black girl in my class and it was not easy. Imagine if, when someone made fun of my hair, I was able to say "well my mom has curly hair too so eat it." I could not. The chemicals people put in relaxer are used for highly corrosive cleaning products. Its dangerous to use, and yet women are putting them in their toddlers. They dress and feed their babies but don't teach them how to accept and love themselves (because they haven't done the work on themselves). If you love yourself, and take the time to care/groom yourself, that's leading by example. Women who aren't at peace with themselves are having kids and their kids are picking up on their insecurities and adopting them as their own. Its extremely dangerous. Its a systemic system of racism that has reduced the recognition of worth and beauty in Black women/women of colour, and its something I think about and try to fight everyday (because I was there myself). By the grace of God I accept and appreciate everything about me, I hope to encourage any other woman out there to do the same.
***** Thank you dear :)
Everything you said was spot on! It took me a long time to finally embrace my natural hair, but it was based on my female relatives having "desirable" natural hair. In my household, my sisters had long, naturally thin, loose, shiny curls and I always thought my kinkier texture was unfortunate. lol. For years I'd manipulate my hair and the only outcome was damaged and dry strands. I always thought I'd look ugly if I did the big chop and started over with a twa, but I took the plunge and now my hair is SO much healthier! It's finally growing and maintaining length. The best part is that I actually love the texture! I didn't even realise how nice my kinky hair texture is, because I was so afraid of not having "pretty" hair. I feel there are a lot of girls/women out there who don't even remember how their natural tresses look. I too hope that more females with curly/coiled/kinky hair that feel how I used to, will learn to embrace it and wear it with pride.
Sally Riposte This is beautiful. The problem with society is not the different hair textures existing, its the lack of respect/recognition of the beauty of them. All Black hair is beautiful and its important for women to celebrate that in their children and themselves. I'm so glad you have come to love your hair. xx
I, Adaora So true and thank you.
Sally Riposte Thank you for sharing :)
I wore my hair natural for 21 years and then I decided to get a relaxer. I loved my natural hair because it was soft and wavy and I did so many different hairstyles with it. Now that I have a perm in my hair I still like my hair and I'm able to do different updo styles, finger wave hairstyles, and donut bun styles. I think women should be able to wear their hair however they want to as long as they're happy. I do agree with loving your natural hair and don't worry what negative things people say about it because they don't matter and the are irrelevant.
I'm obsessed with curly wavy hair and have been since before the natural trend
I aint NEVER seen Tamar's natural hair
+coollikebeans Google her baby pictures. That's the closest you're going to get. lol
+Santricia Jones you TRIED IT!
Madwalka Lmao!
She has it on the show one time I believe I can't remember what but ik she did
Just google Tamar natural hair. It's short and she wore it on the show. I think it's beautiful
I love curly hair . especially African American hair .. slay ladies 👏👏👏
Black people all over the world have afro textured hair
Afro hair is simply tighter curly hair, and actually some black people across the globe do not have it. Indigenous austrailians are mostly straight haired, many east africans have much looser curls
Pure Meditations i didnt say all black people.
interesting how Dove has that commercial about curly but I don't think Loni understands they are not talking about "natural" hair as in African American hair. I saw the commercial and it did not move me at all as a Black woman with natural hair. Who else understands where I am coming from?
Preach!!!!
I saw a black girl on the commercial.
My thoughts exactly.
Lol. That is African American hair. Considering the fact that African Americans have multiple hair textures, one type should only be represented. All of them should.
blakebymharris I felt the same way you did as well. I just find it comical that big companies including Dove want to claim the "Natural Hair Movement" without proper representation but I did enjoy the overall message of the video.
i used to hate my hair when i was younger cuz here in Singapore, curly hair people (and by that I really meant curly kinda hair that twist and coils and turns into a ringlet to grow) not those with waves in their hair. Having curly hair and wavy hair is a total different thing. that is also the reason why i was bullied in school just because my hair looks "different" then everbody else's. it was not until i turned 21 going into my adulthood that I slowly accepted and loved my hair for what it is. the thing with curly hair is that -it has a life of its own, you love and embrace it, they will do the same thing to u. they'd curl beautifully as thou u had it permed. now, whenever i walked into the salon, people would just be mesmerised by it -and I love that feeling!
Over the holidays, my boyfriends 10 Yr old niece was feeling so insecure about her natural hair since she hangs around predominantly white little girls with fine, straight hair. Me and my boyfriends sister hooked her up with some just for me, kinky curly, a deep conditioner, and all that good stuff and let her know how beautiful she was. They are all correct.... Watch what you do and say around these babies because they will follow your lead. I started straightening my hair when I was 14 and didn't lay off of it until I was 20! I'm so grateful for the natural hair movement :)
One of the greatest quotes in my opinion is "Appreciate what you have because once it's gone it's gone"
u girls I love ur show its totaly blissfullness when I was a baby I had curly im 25 til this day Im blessed with my natural curly hair just got let it be wild and free
At least when Tyra Banks came on her show and had a discussion about embracing your natural hair..SHE WAS WEARING HER NATURAL HAIR!
It was braided.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I absolutely love this !! And this show is honestly inspiring, funny, and REAL!💕
Growing up, I didn't like my afro hair texture because I hated the blow dryer. I was so tender headed and dreaded hair washes because of it. Whenever my mom braided my hair, she always said I should love my hair for its thickness and volume (her's is thin and straight). But I saw it as more than a hassle than anything. In my family, my sister, great grandmother and I were the only ones with thick afro curls. My mom, aunts and grandmother had thin hair and wore wigs to and pieces to give their's more fullness. Going to school, straight hair seemed so easily manageable that I wanted it too. Throughout my teens, I switched between relaxers and extensions and slowly started to appreciate the fullness my mom talked about it when I was younger. Yet it wasn't until I went to college and saw other women embracing their afro curly hair that I considered wearing mine natural. I still used relaxers and extensions and eventually moved onto weaves. After not much liking weaves and seeing the breakage from relaxers, I decided to try my natural hair. I'm very early in the process only having started just a few weeks ago. But I love learning my natural texture and finally understand why my hair is the way it is. There is nothing wrong with relaxers, weaves, extensions, etc and I will probably use them again at some point. But if I could tell my childhood self anything about my hair, I would tell her that one day you will finally love your curls for what they are. On the one hand, I'm sad it took me 22 years to fully love my hair, but on the other I'm happy my mom saw it and told me to embrace it when I was little. Thank you mommy for embracing my curls when I couldn't :)
I never used to like my natural hair, like I hated it. (You see it my icon I have a big ginger bush growing outta my head) but honestly it only took one person my best friend actually, to tell me that she liked my hair that way. And ever since I've been able to embrace it. And now I can't imagine my hair any other way cos I love it for what it is. Love your kinky curly hair or whatever it is or go and tell your friends next time you see them how great you think their hair looks. I'm telling you, they will thank you.
It seems so weird to hear them talking about the importance of celebrating your natural hair yet they all rocking weaves! lol the irony!
That s what I don t understand. There s nothing wrong about wearings wigs but don t talk about embracing something that you don't do. Message not well done sorry!!
I was thinking the same thing LOL
probably because it’s a protective style? LMFAO
And the only "weave" that looks natural is Tamera's.
Zion- Lmao Tamera’s blonde wig doesn’t look “natural”
i completely understand how adults can really shape a kids perspective. when i was younger, growing up black and white. i always saw my moms beautiful straight hair and once i got to a certain age i began to straighten my hair so i can be like my mom. now at 19, i really really REALLY wish i had the curls i used to have when i was younger because now my hair is so damaged from the years of straightening it.
I recently decided to go natural. I have been getting relaxers since the age of 5 (I'm 21 now). My mother is a licensed cosmetologist so until a certain age, I had never dealt with damaged hair while getting a relaxer. Then she told me at the age of 11 that I was free to do my own hair. I would do small braids, Too much flat ironing, constant combing, and at that time I was still getting relaxers and that's when my hair began to break off and by the time I was in the 7th grade my hair was just below my jaw line (my hair had never been that short before). It remained that way up until 12th grade. And from the age of 18 til 20 I wore sew-ins. I would relax my hair every 3 months along with a new sew-in, and within those 2 years my hair grew to armpit length. I was still unhappy though my length was progressing. I haven't had a relaxer since September and a sew-in since November. I cut a lot of my hair off again so it's just at the end of my neck and super thick. There's still relaxed hair left but I felt like relaxers for me were routined and I hated how I started to hate my natural waves. I've been doing this relaxer thing since the age of 5 and I can honestly say I don't remember being natural at all. I also remember back in 9th grade someone trying to teasing my new growth and sounding even more stupid saying "aren't boys only supposed to have waves?" I've grown to appreciate my hair in its natural state. It's super healthy and I am so excited to be 100% natural as time goes on. It really disgusts me when I think back on the years in high school when I would say I thought natural hair was ugly. TH-cam and the natural hair movement really convinced me to do this and I absolutely love it so far.
I find it sooo fun to have natural hair, i love me hair now, and it's great when you can change up with a wig.
I've got the 4c hair texture myself and it's a struggle to maintain but it's worth it. And just like Tamera I use protective styles like box braids/marley twists to protect and grow my hair out until I'm comfortable wearing it out all the time. However, what I don't get are the people who claim that protective styles like weaves, wigs, etc are considered self-hate. Yes there are women out there that hate their God-given hair ,but don't generalize me into the same category based off that small group of people. Change in hairstyles ≠ self-hatred. A white women can go from naturally straight, to curly, wavy, and all of the above. But anytime a black women does so, we are automatically seen as women who hate the skin their in. And it always never seems to amaze me that these same comments typically come from black men. The same BM who will praise white women for their mock curls but will tear us to part on any social media outlet, failing to appreciate our kinky, coily, hair. You want us real but when we get too real with you, you start to retreat from us smh.
Danielle A. I think the difference is whites wear weaves, wigs etc that are similar to their hair types. Like you said, a change in hair style does not equal self hatred but the problem with majority of black people is that their own natural hair is more foreign to them than straight hair. The problem is not the fake accessories but the mindset of some people that they are never seen outside without their weaves/ wigs.
Chimiri88 Very true. And I get that when it comes to black women, people associate our hair with curly or kinky. But it's not impossible for our hair to be straight, silky, and easy to run our hands through lol..and that's even without a perm. Everyone needs to be comfortable with their God given hair. And I think more people in the black community would be if they knew how to properly take care of it whether relaxed, natural, etc. But thank God for people like uluvmegz and mynaturalsistas who are just some of the few youtubers that are educating people on proper hair care.
Danielle A. Yup, it's not impossible for black people to have straight and silky hair naturally. It's just uncommon just like lighter colored hair/eyes for black folks. That's why I believe people associate our hair with kinky/ curly than straight hair. The exposure of natural hair on TH-cam really did help with hair care because idk what I would have done to care for my natural hair.
ahhhh, I wish I had curly hair, I have straight/wavy hair but we are all blessed with something and should learn to love it.
the media needs to stop defining beauty as artificial and start realizing beauty is natural, everyone's born beautiful embrace it.
i have tight long curly hair and i love it. as a teenager in this time and age, we are finally learning to appreciate our hair whether its kinky, or curly and thats beautiful.
I embrace by natural hair and my daughter's hair is natural and I am going to encourage her to love the skin and hair that she is in because it's beautiful.
But wait didn't Tamar shade Blue Ivy's hair? If you are going tell someone to embrace their natural hair you should be speaking on all hair textures not just the loose curly hair textures.
I know right!!! ☕🐸
I just love the message and wish I had take care of my hair like my mom told me to when I was younger... Hopefully I'll be able to get back there !!
Love this episode! Had to share it with my subbies! Such a wonderful message!
I have naturally curly hair and when I was in grade 7 I got a straight perm because I hated my natural hair. However, I didn't realize how much damage it can cause and My hair became so unhealthy. So I had to wait a couple of years for my curls to grow back and now they're full and bouncy. :) Now I get more compliments than ever before. Embrace your natural hair, ladies!
I am a 13 year old and in 6 grade a started to straighten my hair even though I had mostly straight and little frizzy hair but then I started to do it everyday and it made my hair frizzy and burned at the tips.So I decided to use no heat on my hair for the entire summer and my hair didn't come back to normal but it is way better and healthier.So now I only curl it every 3 times a week for school.Now I love and appreciate my hair.
I am 18 and I have naturally curly hair. Well... at 13-16 I straightened and dyed my hair so much that my hair doesn't curl as much anymore. At 17 I regretted so much what I had done to my hair and started to appreciate what I had and the curls, so the last 2 years I have tried to just do all in my power to keep the curls I have now as well as I can.
If they wanna embrace the natural look, then on the next aired segment they all should be natural. No weave, no make up, just natural beauty. Cause they all beautiful!
How you gon teach your kids to love their hair if you wear weave all the time?! Hiding behind these "protective styles" is a lie. Because if you really love your texture you'd get braids, twists, kinky wigs and weaves.
👏👏👏👏👏...loni saying she's wearing curly weave to show the little girls that curly hair is ok....I was like really??
Covering your hair does not mean you don't love it.... so let's be clear.
Juliaaa Robb kids don't know that
Melanin B. That's why you teach them. You spend time explaining things to them so they understand. It's part of this radical thing called parenting.
protective hairstyles such as wigs are easier...I'm natural and it takes me a super long time to do my hair I'm thinking about getting a wig
I am natural with kinky textured hair and I can tell you that there is definitely a difference in conversation with my textured hair and a curly texture. My Afro is just now being celebrated, curly texture has always been acceptable. Women and men with my hair texture had to have laws passed to say it was acceptable to be worn in a professional work place. I wish they would have talked about that. Also just because they wear wigs, weaves, or extensions does not mean they don’t like their natural hair. I don’t wear any of that but they are really good for protective styling.
I know it can be hard for girls with curly hair to embrace their natural hair, but you gotta imagine how hard it is for girls with kinky or coily curls. I mean, 4b or 4c. I have yet to see that on the Dove campaign. But, I loved when Adrienne said that there is not one way to be beautiful. Its so true.
"There isnt one way to be beautiful"! I
I applaud them for touching the subject of embracing your natural hair but I feel like they just as many other public figures still miss the point. It's the "Do as I say not as I do mentality." Kids are smart and women especially mothers have to be a living example for their little girls. You cant say love your curls and your hair is beautiful when you have the exact same hair as these little girls but they never see it because its always under a weave or wig. Kids only feel the way they do because they don't see enough people with their hair in its natural curly state in the media.
I agree is what you teach your kids and teach them in a young age so the media don't teach them otherwise.
I have thick coily hair and its only a lot of hair and its only a lot if work when I try to make it operate the way looser textures operate. When I do what my hair likes to do, its the easiest to work with. Natural for Life.
Get naptural85 on your show! :)
Yaaaasaassssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry lol but I would be too hype with her on the show
ButterGirlsCurls Ink youtubers need to start getting recognized!! And I would LOVE it if they did tooo.
Yasssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!
MyNaturalSistas would be great too!!
Yes Get Naptural 85 On The show,
I hate when people who have soft curly hair talk about this subject, we have twitter and instagram accounts to remind us everyday how beautiful our natural hair is but i aint never seen anything like that specificly for girls with nappy hair. Infact i have never gotten a compliment for my hair that does not include how unnappy and mixed it looks. We all are privileged when it comes to our hair except girls with kinky hair. Sorry for my english btw
It would have been better if they did this segment with all of their natural hair out! How exactly does this come across when they preach one thing and do another? I'm not trying to compare but when the ladies of The Talk did a segment like this, they were au naturel!
Well I don't have curly hair but I LOVE AND ADORE MY KINKY COILY NATURAL HAIR. #1YearStrong
For the past 1 1/2 I've been wearing my hair natural and my hair was also damaged from straightening. My mother still says to me "What's wrong with yo head?!" or "I wish you would flat iron your hair so it can be pretty". It drives me insane because her hair is TOTALLY different from mine and she has a very old fashioned view of beauty. It doesn't hurt my feelings because I LOVE my hair. I think it's very important to teach our young girls that they are beautiful no matter what.
I *LOVE* my hair! I do. Just long, full, curly, wavy and manageable. I was a simple child. Wash, condition and keep it moving. I rarely used gels or greases. I keep the same ritual. Tamar and Loni can't do anything without wigs or weaves which is why they feel left out of the conversation. All that pressing, dying and frying has taken it's toll. #teamnoweave #mommyidontwantaweave #embraceyournaps
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I was embarrassed to have curly hair when i was younger as i thought it looked messy. So i would straighten it. Now im older i realised all i needed was a little curl cream and my curls are beautiful x
My daddy always told me that my hair was beautiful. He had curly hair with green eyes. I learned as a little girl that my hair was beautiful regardless of what others would say. I always heard, "tienes pelo feo."
I agree I had very beautiful curls and when i got to middle and high school and I saw my peers with straight hair, that influenced me to straighten it and now that Im 22 years old I wish I had never touched my hair and left it as it was because yes i still have wave/curly hair but it doesn't grow back the same... ughhh
Mama Mai "We both go do the curly hair" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My mom has naturally straight hair, but I have naturally wavy hair. I don't mean like cute beach waves, but tight wavy, almost curly hair. For me, I always hate having to wear my natural hair, ever since I was a little girl. I think it stems from my mom not being able to do it so it was easier to leave it straight. It's hard to comb through, you have to wash it the night before and comb it then or it'll be frizzy and unmanageable the next day. All the women in my family never wear their natural hair, they always straighten it, so I always believed straight hair is beautiful. I'm 18 now, 19 in May, and I've been straightening my hair since I was 8 and getting relaxers since I was about 10/11. Everybody tells me that they love my natural hair, I just wish I could love it too. Like to this day, my mom still talks about my hair when its natural and tells me we need to straighten it immediately so I don't have to wear it natural.
They need some natural youtubers on here! to give these ladies some tips
hmmm Loni has impressed me in this video and a lot of the other recent ones. Good to see her being a nicer person
i know im late with this comment but tamar and tamera are so right about us as parents watching the things we say and the things we do in front of our kids. i myself use to straighten my hair constantly and i have natural 3b/3c curly hair but i use to always have it straight cause i thought it was easier to manage. my 4year old daughter also has 3b/3c curly hair and she would often cry and tell me she hated her hair until the day i asked her why she hated her hair and she told me MOMMY i wanna have straight hair like yours i hate curly hair. that broke my heart . i kept telling her her hair was beautiful but i never showed her with my own example . so i cut off all my hair . did the big chop that was 3years ago and i have never straightern my hair ever again! i wear my curls happy and my daughter now loves her hair and doesnt want to have it straight any longer. point is kids do pay attention to what we say and what we do as parents.
I have red hair and at 17 I'm just now starting to appreciate it.
Red hair is beautiful !!
I am always needing to encourage my 3 year old daughter to love her curls because she wants long straight hair.
my daughter and my son know that their hair is BEAUTIFUL!!
You can't tell me nothing about these coils in my head. I remember I had taken out a sew in and my hair was Afro up and I was taken aback at how pretty I looked. Now I hate getting my hair did. Leave me and Afro Delilah alone
I love the whole embracing your curls idea. However Its often related to loose curls rather than tight corse coils. My little sister is 4 and has really tight coils. For this reason I ensure to wear my afro whenever I'm with her in order to set an example. You can not always rely on others to make a difference. Charity begins at home
I love my natural skin and my long hair
My hair gets way to poofy some days and it's dry and it's ugh! That's why I am normally putting my hair in a ponytail or something. But when my hair's not dry, poofy, getting everywhere, I rock it! My hair now is like "normal" hair and it's growing into that. Sure some days you are going to have bad hair days. So what everybody gets at least one bad hair day! But rock what you got! Put your hair in any way you want! Ponytail, braid, fishtail, pigtails, bun, loose, ect. You just gotta be you, love yourself, listen to your inner self. Look in the mirror and say you are pretty, you rock, you can make a difference! Peace, love, hope, joy, corn dogs, kittens, pig, music, life, meow, ruff, dog, gummy bears! 😊
I have curly hair and it's natural too and I love my curls
I started to transition then went completely natural because my hair was not healthy anymore with relaxers. I love my natural curls but I also love my weaves and wigs. Sometimes I need to do a protective style and take a break from doing my hair so they definitely come in handy. I really can't wait for my hair to get longer. Still struggling on doing other styles. I only know how to do a wash and go. lol
Technically my hair is natural, there aren't any chemicals in it. But every now and again I run a flat iron through it so it looks relaxed.
The small criticism I have for this segment was that they never actually said that the girls themselves are beautiful just that their hair is beautiful. There's a difference between "you are beautiful" and "your hair is beautiful". In my opinion, there's too much value out on physical appearance - when those young girls become proud of who they are and value themselves as people, the rest will naturally. Love The Real cast and crew for all they are doing and how they are influencing media in such a positive way. THANK YOU 👏👏👏
everyone wants what they don't have...straight hair they want curls, curlies they want straight....dark hair want red or blonde, blondes want red or black....I don't think this is ever gonna change....especially if one who comes from straight hair knew the real struggles of curly hair they would think twice. JEANIE YOU ARE GORGEOUS! I am a curly and I wish I had your hair...wanna switch :)
I really like how Loni wore her hair in this segment. She looks so pretty.
isnt that a wig?
It's a wig
I have a natural fro, but its a lot of work so i use a sew in for protective styling while im working two jobs and am a full time student. But in a year im graduating and since i'll have more time to actually maintain it myself the weave goes, but i understand what tamera is saying.
I had straight hair my whole life at the age of 8 I wanted curly and since then I still want curly hair
But I learned to love my hair just the way it is
Relaxer free since 2008. I love this kinky hair. I need to treat her more delicately and let her get even bigger!
finally! a year too late but I was looking for this video. Loni looks good!
I'm 13 and my hair was ruined when I went the pool almost everyday one summer. But my hair has grown back a lot and I'm a natural curly hair girl
Been natural for 8 months now :) almost to that year
Tamar, it is not just about what you SAY, it's about what you DO. Don't think for a second that little girls are not looking at you put that blonde wig on everyday and not internalizing that you must like that blonde wig more than your natural hair.
Loni, you are not celebrating a darn thing except self-hate. If you have naturally curly hair, why would you need to put a fake curly wig on your head? Oh, that's right, because your hair is probably permed...because you HATE YOUR NATURAL HAIR.
I love that Tia and Tamera wore their natural hair on their show, but they proved Loni's comment right about people thinking natural hair is for kids, because as soon as they "grew up" and started acting more mature on the show, they straightened their hair for every episode.
In conclusion, a discussion about self-love and natural hair on The Real is as deep as a kiddie pool. Coming from a show on the Fox network, this is expected.
LOL! Truth!
***** That would have been too REAL for The Real.
*****
I think you're right, they didn't want to face their own insecurities.
So are u going to go on beyonce and every other singer who wears a wig and say the same thing
miss m
I could, but this video was specifically about natural hair, so that's why I commented on it. If beyonce ever said anything about loving your natural beauty, I would call her out, too.