Hey, super video once again! I've always felt like Mainstream Motivation was just too superficial for me... and the "hustle / grind" stuff were already things I was doing even up to a point of burning out. May be exactly because I don't have the energy to be constatly working. For me "work smarter" is a bigger motivation than "work harder". All of the things you mentioned were super relatable!
Great video - resonates deeply with me! Mainstream motivation for me always pushes forward a narrative that you screw up your entire incarnation if you don't achieve x, y, or z. Incarnation failed. How delusional.... That's really very naive...
My motivation is that one day I'm going to live alone, can travel alone and do whatever I want. So I need to work to earn money. The problem is I want also to be happy while working and that's kinda hard.
Boyyy, don't we? Don't tell how why, where, when, what, and how. I am mostly agreeable, but let you strike a chord of bossiness...my mind will wander and I will be somewhere else automatically before I can blink. Before I can realize it.😂
Boyyy, don't we? Don't tell how why, where, when, what, and how. I am mostly agreeable, but let you strike a chord of bossiness...my mind will wander and I will be somewhere else automatically before I can blink. Before I can realize it.😂
People tend to falsely attribute my strong effort to my boss’ ability to motivate me. I’m also falsely pinned as being a pushover sometimes. What people fail to realize is that in both scenarios, I only behave that way to get what I want. I care more about my outcome than what others think about me.
Same here, I am convinced I am INFJ, some or many so called successful people and how they get where they are if not through hard work are social climbers gold diggers and crooks to me .
I lost count on how many times people gave me the deadbeat mainstream advice. And I had to keep telling them, it doesn't work like that for me. Which is where they usually think we're just being difficult, for the sake of it. Those time were so frustrating, I nearly started to think it was just me, making excuses. The very thing, they start accusing us of. Just because they don't know nor understand.
I tried to explain to a friend that knowing I'm a "Scorpio" means nothing. I am the opposite of what I'm supposed to be. Knowing I'm an INFJ explains everything. She doesn't want to hear it. My alleged astrological sign is a hard-charging leader, aggressive, vengeful, very sexually motivated. Couldn't be farther from who I am. I've had her and others try to point out how I fit the mold. They really have to stretch to find any examples of me behaving that way. If that fails, they just say that my something else (moon, Saturn, whatever) is in something else and that explains why I'm the opposite of what I'm supposed to be.
I enjoy my alone time a lot. I don't mind socializing at work or at open mic nights, but at the end of the work day or after the open mic show is over, I love to just go home to my cat, my music, exercise routine and my books and writing materials. I'm an introvert, so I need lots of time to recharge my batteries.
A lot of the motivational advice out there is basically a call for action and that's exactly what an INFJ needs. They need a push. Honestly this is an area where a sensor can help an INFJ because it's something obvious yet something an INFJ is slow to do anyways. Also an extraverted sensor doesn't have many barriers to just doing something (a curse and a blessing), while an INFJ can think of a hundred excuses not to do something they know that they need to do to get what they want.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm 30 years old, still living with my folks, and have been fighting life hell to move to Japan. After 11 failed interviews, i've been feeling like a complete loser and like i'm meant to keep failing at everything I do. I'll keep pushing as best I can knowing that this is just a natural progression :)
Yes! Doing what makes sense to US! It took a long time to be comfortable with how things work best, and you know what? Life is much better accepting being an INFJ instead of trying to fight it.
Hi Wenzes...This is so true...but i hope you make a video on our "Why"..because the reason the motivation do not work on us is because we have a different "why"...and that is the hard thing for an infj to find ...because if our why is correect the motivation come easy...please do a video on infj why or tell me if you already did..thanks..Jean
As an INFJ, that’s why I created a music channel. I love music and music is safe zone for me. It takes my over thinking mind off of stuff that’s bothering me and truly be at peace and present with myself while maintaining a good work flow and motivation or bring calmness into my space. Through my videos, I’m hoping to help other like minded people find that same peace and serenity I strive for every single day.
Wow! I'm a musician, too - and I also do some composing. And while I enjoy having people's approval, it still has to be my kind of music. By the way I would love to find your music channel. Is it here on TH-cam!
@@lindateuling7862 Hey Linda! That’s amazing! What instruments do you play? I myself am a musician, I’ve played Clarinet my whole life. From Elementary to high school until the end of my high school years. Don’t play anymore unfortunately! Of course, my channel is youtube.com/@allbeatsinc Hope you enjoy!
@@sebastianwapniarski2077 In my experience Se inferior makes it more difficult to get started. Once started Ni hero combined with Ti child can make us so persistent in following our goal that we can surpass what people expect is the standard. For us is more difficult and takes more effort, but we can reach places others cant imagine 😉
This notion of how we interact with motivation and, by extension, the Self-Help field in it's entirety is why I was initially repelled when your channel was being recommended. I see "life coach" and immediately think there is no value for me based on experience. I am exceptionally glad to be proven wrong.
You know what. I need more. I have proven to myself countless number of times that I'm the person who keep up promises to myself and make things happen. I am true INFJ but I developed so many qualities to handle life in order to be independent, effective and disciplined, I self analyzed my self to the point of throwing off all psychological garbage that was piled on me during growing up. I am optimized. I like my self. I'm the kind of person I respect. But I have hard time motivating myself to advance professionally and to realize my potential in that domain. And later get more money. But I'm not going to talk to my self in that critical way like: "You are not the kind of person who keeps promises to herself, who stick to things" if I can't get my self to do it. I won't do it for two reasons: 1. I AM that person and 2. I am practicing kindness toward myself. I am trying not to be harsh and critical as I have tendency to be (to my self and others). So, I need more. How to get me to do something that would be good for me, but which is not something that I want THAT much (like I want it cause it would be good for me and my kids), and all that when there is nothing I need to prove to myself?
Got to tell this This is how stoopid I am Coming back from company trip to ATL I’m booking through the airport exhausted and there is a concierge? To assist at a corner It’s Atl everyone is polite and talks in passing He’s says “How are u doing” typically nicely I quip “I hate walking” And get ten steps past before I realize he was in a wheelchair like he has never walked ever I go back and apologize but this is my hilarious life
You are right with mainstream motivation it’s like some part of me feels the need to have to work hard and then I pressure myself and I quickly realize that I am dissociating because I am pushing myself tooo hard and making the things that I love harder than what they need to be. Tranquility is key 🔑
Wenze's I'm against mainstream motivation I don't like "bullshit,baggage,drama,games/lies,excuses,stories,whatever/time,energy,motion,vampirism" of my Entirety if occurs I give a strategic strike because I'm a being of logic,reason,time.People don't like that but it's needed to make my heart,mind,soul happy!!!
Your observation is correct. Mainstream motivational videos may not work as the goals are different for an INFJ. Fame, position in society, money - all are important, but INFJ may not aspire for those things at one point in time as a part of a journey in search of deeper meaning. However, the routes followed by honest achievers may be interesting and provide a clue about the next step. Deep rooted positive vibes, funny acts in popular films and cartoons, and songs have universal appeal for all, including INFJs.
This is interesting I never thought about this. I look at motivational speakers or videos and they’re almost too basic for me and two simple, and really don’t drive me, I get my motivation from actually videos like this or any other video that’s geared towards a self-help or about who I am. I feel more motivated when I learn more about myself than having somebody tell me to go out in the world and do something
INFJ here and I do agree with these points. Its no wonder how the motivations they used for careers like insurance agents or sales agents (i.e. more money, more downliners, or having x million of sales) don't seem to give that motivation push when I was in that line
Hey Wenzes, how many steps are there to the mailbox? Why 5 of course; you can get anywhere you want in 5 steps, provided you have good directions and proper motivation. Love the channel. It makes life as an INFJ sooooo much easier!! Keep up the great work!!!
Being rather in the background … But there are some interesting points. There is intrinsic motivation, and extrinsic motivation. Rewards could come from inside, or it could come from outside. If it comes from inside, it gives some independence. Being rather indifferent to social hierarchies, sharing thoughts could challenge the status quo. In some groups, there could be a reaction like "who are you to challenge our beliefs", pulling you into status struggle instead of joining the exchange of thoughts.
Looking at the 'bigger picture' is what 'some' are into. Day to day tasks can seem tedious and you question the reason 'why' we are actually 'doing these things'. More money is not everything and 'promoting' yourself 'all the time is a very 'shallow' existence and does not give 'fulfillment'. What exactly are we 'hustling' for? You get to the top of the 'greasy pole' and there is still more things you 'need' to do in order to 'get to the top'. Who are the 'role models' in society now. Being happy and content with 'who you are' is not apparently 'acceptable' for status worshippers in society. May we all 'be content' with who we are and not let others 'bully' us into being the people 'they' want us to be.
Whenever someone tries to use motivation on me, I try to see why they are trying to motivate me. What's in it for them? Also, it's unwise to let people, especially at the top, know which strings to pull to make the puppet dance. Plus, the usual rewards come with way too many strings attached. Even after you've gotten the reward, people will hold the fact that you've gotten the reward over your head to get you to do more things.
The truth! Especially in the corporate world. That is all it is. Its an onion. Peel away the layers and its all just naked greed from those at the top. The whole thing is set up to make the most lowly employee be motivated to climb, climb, climb. The managers will try every motivating string in the book to squeeze every once of energy out of you for their goals. And they are on the same treadmill. And its all so some CEO or owner can make 1000 to 2000 times your salary. No thank you. I have done my time in this universe!
Or someone trying to "help" it's usually some potential we have they want to exploit. I like to help people out of sincere kindness with absolutely no return necessary except appreciation
Yeah, one of my goals is to not get advice, and dye my hair any color I feel like. If it is a group project then please dear lord have people do their part without me teaching them. I find that the things I do that I am really good at (soft skills) take energy, but that feels like people take that for granted. Then they want me to expend a lot of energy to improve my life. I eat really tasty food, have friends, have purple hair and feel good about my work. Now if there is a job opening for witchy forest lady who collects shiny rocks I will apply.
Thanks you Wenzes, you have been such a light for me these past 6 months or so. This was a great distillation of so much of what you have been teaching me. I have been looking in the wrong mirror all my life and ended up burned out, over weight, and depressed because of it. Now that I am looking at the right mirror (what I am and what I really like and want) I am no longer burned out and am transforming into myself and an epic life!
I follow my own lead and some people think it’s very off. They think I’m weird because I don’t watch Yellowstone and form opinions they can’t seem to understand. Lemmings.
@Stephen Besley, I felt that way also, but then realized I could be in sales if it were the best route for me to help more people. I am not a salesman, but I enjoy working alongside my internal and external customers to make their lives better. If you were really passionate about a solution you knew would make your customers' lives so much better (especially if you both designed it together in order to meet their specific needs), wouldn't you be proud and happy for the opportunity? I doubt most salesmen feel the product they are promoting is rubbish. It is a stereotype much like all lawyers are leaches, or all politicians are just in it for the money. One door in your career which is closed due to prejudice leaves fewer opportunities for success. Speaking as another person who emphatically stated and knew I could never be a salesman. That route is still on my plate, especially as I hope to move to consulting. If you own your own business then you need to be a salesman or hire someone who is but likely not as passionate about the product or service you provide. Just food for thought. 😃
Very relatable.. all the time I tried the main-stream motivation, all I felt was more TIRED! Then I would ask myself, what is wrong with me? Do I have no '"goals", and no "drive" like others?? Will I end up as a Failure in life... cos everybody is so ahead? But now, the more mature me, knows, I am just wired differently!
We can't do the rat race as well as sensors can. We just can't. But we have that perspective that it IS a rat race afterall so why should we get so down on ourselves for not running it as well? Yes we are definitely wired much differently!
Wenzes hit the nail on the head here! This is exactly what I've been experiencing lately. The people around me (who do care about me very much) keep telling me to do certain things to improve my life, but those things are mostly focused on the material world. I know that these things do need to get addressed (i.e. new car, home improvement) but I also know that deep down they aren't going to make me that much happier. I know I need to start doing the "inner work" which for me is a spiritual approach, but I don't talk to loved ones about it, b/c I know they won't understand.
Yes there is no guarantee that any loved one in our sphere is going to understand any of this. Most people are sensors and what motivates them and their overall view of the world is vastly different from ours. And in the end it doesn't matter that that is so. It just matters that we who are intuitives and INFJs specifically learn what makes us motivated and learn how to make ourselves happy. Then we can be happy and content with the senors that we are surrounded by.
@@YAMISOOLD2009 Very well said! Personally, I just recently learned that statistically most people are sensors, which explains so much. You are absolutely right, INFJ's should do what works for us, and if we are happy in the end, that's what matters! And we can still have good relationships with the sensors in our lives!
@@stevenkinscherf6642 I love the biggest sensor in my life...my wife. I didn't love myself very much for a long time and am still working on that. I think understanding the sensor/intuitive divide is more important than understanding the Extrovert/introvert divide to be honest.
@@YAMISOOLD2009 I get it, I've been working at self acceptance for a long time. Not easy. And that's a great point, the sensor/intuitive difference is more significant. In MBTI, the terms introvert and extrovert are really vague. I also follow a channel called "dear kristin" and she talks about that a lot. Like how an ISFJ and INTJ are both "introverts" but they are very different types because one has dominant Si, while the other has dominant Ni. Plus other differences.
@@stevenkinscherf6642 thanks Steven for the reply. I may check the other channel out too. As I sit here with my coffee I think it's just one of those unfair realities that us intuitive types are made to feel bad about ourselves since we are wired to ruminate and compare ourselves to the sensors who make up so much of the population. The sensors obviously have all the human trials an travails but they are generally unburdened by our specific mental ruminating and self judging.
1. Infj is not a sensor 2. We have deeper issues and deeper wishes. 3. The Infj wants to be left alone. 4. We don't have the energy to hustle hard. 5. We can't identify with most role models.
I don't know what kind of "mainstream motivation" you're talking about, but almost all serious self-development books these days are about exactly what you're talking about- big picture, work smarter not harder success with the goal of personal independence. Maybe some fluff-type books are about more shallow, unsustainable motivation rather than true wealth building? Or maybe I just figured out what to look for and I ignore everything that's not "in the Tao" now haha.
Reason #4, for sure. As much as I enjoy working hard in an area I enjoy, I can't seem to aim that gun at anything related to "hustle culture" Oh you want me to grind? You mean delicious ass, single origin coffee from Aldi? OK.
warriors heart. thoughts and emotion that takes orders from the heart. In the playgrounds creating spider webs of Ideas. Collecting the seconds of time Habit creating genius genie wish machine. heart like a warrior. With that love for within. Stacking the seconds of time. With no distractions Mastering the inner game In the thunder storm start cloud skipping though the universe collecting stars to shot Sagittarius bow off the midnight moon. Raining abundance of imagination People pleasing like it's an artist painting Heart smiles. Sagittarius shooting stars from cupids bow Leaving trail to follow Heart trail of dreams With imagination comes reality With just one drop of thought Sagittarius abundance of fire Spreads so contagiously It be raining abundance. Across all the lands. It's true. Common sense tells me so Your awesome Collect the seconds of time with no distractions and gain momentum from reputation Of amagination.
Started laughing 😂 with joy at #4 don’t like to hustle hard…..thk u for this info I have learned so much about myself b/c of your videos. I am validated, I am at peace…I know whats right for me …NO BODY else does!!!!!!!!!!!
Give us something we are passionate about and really lights us up and we will work tirelessly on it. What most people mean by "hustle" nowadays is working two jobs or doing a lot of extra to try to earn brownie points and move up the ladder. This doesn't motivate me or most INFJs!
I'm sorry but I put your videos on and within a minute it's just noise in the background, and it's like this with every video. I've tried I really have to listen but.... I don't know there is something about the tone that I just turn off. Is this the INFJ no body listens too, and the INFJ not connecting.... I don't know, and now I'm curious as to the why as I am interested in the topics you discuss.
Wow!!!!!!! You are so right. I went to Bill Walsh wealth empowerment camp and was extremely underwhelmed outside of listening to Les Brown. I just said this yesterday, many coaches can’t coach me. Only a few coaches can.
Thank you! The relief I felt watching this was because it's very relatable. Honestly, it made a few pennies drop and gifted me a little hope. In my current state, I'm stuck in a place of wondering what the purpose of anything is; I have lost sight of the bigger picture and fantasize about some higher power wiping away everyone's memories of me, followed by the exile of my existence in this place. I’m in a dark place. It's becoming detrimental to my lifestyle. I have several books on psychology and motivation. I tried revisiting them but find I can't get past the first chapter because (in the end) they’re basically all the same with similar insights and meanings. The simple fact that this video is relatable and there are others in the same boat has made me feel like I might be fixable.
Maybe it's my Aries nature or maybe it's my ability to see things in other things, but this one here always gets me cause i feel this character on several different levels: th-cam.com/video/KdmMLjxnCuY/w-d-xo.html Probably not the motivation for you though.
It's not like i'm the most INFJ-like INFJ out there. Other INFJs often tell me how weird i am. Not that i give a shit. I'll keep walking my own path. Don't march to their drums. Never have and never will.
In previous life I told my brother in law that our other paraplegic bil was lucky because he had something to strive for he had adversity and hardship While we had it made so there was nothing to do and that sucks
What is your experience with mainstream motivation?
I've come to realise as an INFJ without a system to put things in place,motivation makes no difference.
It simply doesn't work.
It doesn't work, simply as that. It does only work, if i am interested about some specific thing or topic.
Hey, super video once again! I've always felt like Mainstream Motivation was just too superficial for me...
and the "hustle / grind" stuff were already things I was doing even up to a point of burning out. May be exactly because I don't have the energy to be constatly working. For me "work smarter" is a bigger motivation than "work harder". All of the things you mentioned were super relatable!
Great video - resonates deeply with me! Mainstream motivation for me always pushes forward a narrative that you screw up your entire incarnation if you don't achieve x, y, or z. Incarnation failed. How delusional.... That's really very naive...
My motivation is that one day I'm going to live alone, can travel alone and do whatever I want. So I need to work to earn money. The problem is I want also to be happy while working and that's kinda hard.
That was funniest...real statement ever...my sentiments exactly!
We don’t like others telling us how, why, where, who and when. For good reason. You are wired to be you.
Boyyy, don't we? Don't tell how why, where, when, what, and how. I am mostly agreeable, but let you strike a chord of bossiness...my mind will wander and I will be somewhere else automatically before I can blink. Before I can realize it.😂
Boyyy, don't we? Don't tell how why, where, when, what, and how. I am mostly agreeable, but let you strike a chord of bossiness...my mind will wander and I will be somewhere else automatically before I can blink. Before I can realize it.😂
People tend to falsely attribute my strong effort to my boss’ ability to motivate me. I’m also falsely pinned as being a pushover sometimes.
What people fail to realize is that in both scenarios, I only behave that way to get what I want. I care more about my outcome than what others think about me.
This video is about me watching Ted Talks and questioning myself why i'm not motivated 😭
My motivation - just being me. Money and success means nothing to me. People are everything - but my alone time is so very precious
Same
Same here, I am convinced I am INFJ, some or many so called successful people and how they get where they are if not through hard work are social climbers gold diggers and crooks to me .
I lost count on how many times people gave me the deadbeat mainstream advice.
And I had to keep telling them, it doesn't work like that for me.
Which is where they usually think we're just being difficult, for the sake of it.
Those time were so frustrating, I nearly started to think it was just me, making excuses. The very thing, they start accusing us of.
Just because they don't know nor understand.
It gives me the yikes! Get a wide network? Make yourself known? Ahhh! Call a lot of people by phone? No!
I tried to explain to a friend that knowing I'm a "Scorpio" means nothing. I am the opposite of what I'm supposed to be. Knowing I'm an INFJ explains everything. She doesn't want to hear it.
My alleged astrological sign is a hard-charging leader, aggressive, vengeful, very sexually motivated. Couldn't be farther from who I am. I've had her and others try to point out how I fit the mold. They really have to stretch to find any examples of me behaving that way. If that fails, they just say that my something else (moon, Saturn, whatever) is in something else and that explains why I'm the opposite of what I'm supposed to be.
I enjoy my alone time a lot. I don't mind socializing at work or at open mic nights, but at the end of the work day or after the open mic show is over, I love to just go home to my cat, my music, exercise routine and my books and writing materials. I'm an introvert, so I need lots of time to recharge my batteries.
A lot of the motivational advice out there is basically a call for action and that's exactly what an INFJ needs. They need a push. Honestly this is an area where a sensor can help an INFJ because it's something obvious yet something an INFJ is slow to do anyways. Also an extraverted sensor doesn't have many barriers to just doing something (a curse and a blessing), while an INFJ can think of a hundred excuses not to do something they know that they need to do to get what they want.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm 30 years old, still living with my folks, and have been fighting life hell to move to Japan. After 11 failed interviews, i've been feeling like a complete loser and like i'm meant to keep failing at everything I do. I'll keep pushing as best I can knowing that this is just a natural progression :)
INFJs ate tenacious, that's 11 more times than most people would bother with. At least the ones i know
We are tenacious...EXACTLY
Yes! Doing what makes sense to US! It took a long time to be comfortable with how things work best, and you know what? Life is much better accepting being an INFJ instead of trying to fight it.
I agree, usually when people try to motivate me, they demotivate me instead. Always been self motivates for sure
thank God, someone is making sense.
Hi Wenzes...This is so true...but i hope you make a video on our "Why"..because the reason the motivation do not work on us is because we have a different "why"...and that is the hard thing for an infj to find ...because if our why is correect the motivation come easy...please do a video on infj why or tell me if you already did..thanks..Jean
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As an INFJ, that’s why I created a music channel. I love music and music is safe zone for me. It takes my over thinking mind off of stuff that’s bothering me and truly be at peace and present with myself while maintaining a good work flow and motivation or bring calmness into my space. Through my videos, I’m hoping to help other like minded people find that same peace and serenity I strive for every single day.
I subscribed! I really like your content m!
@@ileenb thanks so much! 🙂
Wow! I'm a musician, too - and I also do some composing. And while I enjoy having people's approval, it still has to be my kind of music. By the way I would love to find your music channel. Is it here on TH-cam!
@@lindateuling7862 Hey Linda! That’s amazing! What instruments do you play? I myself am a musician, I’ve played Clarinet my whole life. From Elementary to high school until the end of my high school years. Don’t play anymore unfortunately! Of course, my channel is youtube.com/@allbeatsinc
Hope you enjoy!
@@Inspiredphilosophy I also subscribed.
Thank you so much Wenzes. 😭🥺☺️
As an INFJ man I have to say that we need to do a lot of work and practice the most, otherwise we cannot suceed delivering the best.
@@sebastianwapniarski2077 practice, training and learning
@@sebastianwapniarski2077 In my experience Se inferior makes it more difficult to get started. Once started Ni hero combined with Ti child can make us so persistent in following our goal that we can surpass what people expect is the standard. For us is more difficult and takes more effort, but we can reach places others cant imagine 😉
This notion of how we interact with motivation and, by extension, the Self-Help field in it's entirety is why I was initially repelled when your channel was being recommended. I see "life coach" and immediately think there is no value for me based on experience. I am exceptionally glad to be proven wrong.
You know what. I need more. I have proven to myself countless number of times that I'm the person who keep up promises to myself and make things happen. I am true INFJ but I developed so many qualities to handle life in order to be independent, effective and disciplined, I self analyzed my self to the point of throwing off all psychological garbage that was piled on me during growing up. I am optimized. I like my self. I'm the kind of person I respect. But I have hard time motivating myself to advance professionally and to realize my potential in that domain. And later get more money. But I'm not going to talk to my self in that critical way like: "You are not the kind of person who keeps promises to herself, who stick to things" if I can't get my self to do it. I won't do it for two reasons: 1. I AM that person and 2. I am practicing kindness toward myself. I am trying not to be harsh and critical as I have tendency to be (to my self and others). So, I need more. How to get me to do something that would be good for me, but which is not something that I want THAT much (like I want it cause it would be good for me and my kids), and all that when there is nothing I need to prove to myself?
This woman knows my very soul. ✨
Got to tell this
This is how stoopid I am
Coming back from company trip to ATL I’m booking through the airport exhausted and there is a concierge? To assist at a corner
It’s Atl everyone is polite and talks in passing
He’s says “How are u doing” typically nicely
I quip “I hate walking”
And get ten steps past before I realize he was in a wheelchair like he has never walked ever
I go back and apologize but this is my hilarious life
Inspirations to take action resonate with me than action oriented motivations.
You are right with mainstream motivation it’s like some part of me feels the need to have to work hard and then I pressure myself and I quickly realize that I am dissociating because I am pushing myself tooo hard and making the things that I love harder than what they need to be. Tranquility is key 🔑
My motivation is what i learn today i practice tomorrow..
I am glad your there.
What motivates me to be the best at a job
competition
Has to be a arch enemy type of competition
Wenze's I'm against mainstream motivation I don't like "bullshit,baggage,drama,games/lies,excuses,stories,whatever/time,energy,motion,vampirism" of my Entirety if occurs I give a strategic strike because I'm a being of logic,reason,time.People don't like that but it's needed to make my heart,mind,soul happy!!!
Spot on video Wenzes 👏
You definitely are one of my role models, Wenzes.
Be in the moment and peace on earth is all we would like ♥️
So glad I found your channel! Thank you so very much! 😎
Your observation is correct. Mainstream motivational videos may not work as the goals are different for an INFJ. Fame, position in society, money - all are important, but INFJ may not aspire for those things at one point in time as a part of a journey in search of deeper meaning. However, the routes followed by honest achievers may be interesting and provide a clue about the next step. Deep rooted positive vibes, funny acts in popular films and cartoons, and songs have universal appeal for all, including INFJs.
This is interesting I never thought about this. I look at motivational speakers or videos and they’re almost too basic for me and two simple, and really don’t drive me, I get my motivation from actually videos like this or any other video that’s geared towards a self-help or about who I am. I feel more motivated when I learn more about myself than having somebody tell me to go out in the world and do something
Drop that tea, girl 💓😘. It's not like we haven't tried it, their way before. Their sensors are hella numbing and redundant for me personally 🤷🏾♀️
You are absolutely correct. Good job.
INFJ here and I do agree with these points. Its no wonder how the motivations they used for careers like insurance agents or sales agents (i.e. more money, more downliners, or having x million of sales) don't seem to give that motivation push when I was in that line
Hey Wenzes, how many steps are there to the mailbox?
Why 5 of course; you can get anywhere you want in 5 steps, provided you have good directions and proper motivation.
Love the channel. It makes life as an INFJ sooooo much easier!!
Keep up the great work!!!
Being rather in the background …
But there are some interesting points.
There is intrinsic motivation, and extrinsic motivation. Rewards could come from inside, or it could come from outside. If it comes from inside, it gives some independence.
Being rather indifferent to social hierarchies, sharing thoughts could challenge the status quo. In some groups, there could be a reaction like "who are you to challenge our beliefs", pulling you into status struggle instead of joining the exchange of thoughts.
They do take it as a challenge sometimes! It proves that their motivation is extrinsic
this is exactly what turns me off
thank you soooooo much for this one
The best teachers are the ones who don't impose their teachings onto others.
I learned #4 the hard way....
That would explain why I like the Riddick character.
We as INFJ's need alone time sometimes that should be a no brainer actually
Wow I never looked at it that way but she is so right
We are the definition of unconditional love 🙃
That action boss 😘
Thank you so much for this video. I find myself shutting down and feeling less motivated with “mainstream” tactics.
Thank you.
Looking at the 'bigger picture' is what 'some' are into. Day to day tasks can seem tedious and you question the reason 'why' we are actually 'doing these things'. More money is not everything and 'promoting' yourself 'all the time is a very 'shallow' existence and does not give 'fulfillment'. What exactly are we 'hustling' for? You get to the top of the 'greasy pole' and there is still more things you 'need' to do in order to 'get to the top'. Who are the 'role models' in society now. Being happy and content with 'who you are' is not apparently 'acceptable' for status worshippers in society. May we all 'be content' with who we are and not let others 'bully' us into being the people 'they' want us to be.
I never thought about this but it's true
We played “Follow the Leader “ as kids, it was fun 😂
This makes a lot of sense and so very true for the,thank you Wenzes for pointing it out so clearly! ❤❤
So true.
This is so spot on. Thanks for your insight!
This is so accurate ✨
Whenever someone tries to use motivation on me, I try to see why they are trying to motivate me. What's in it for them? Also, it's unwise to let people, especially at the top, know which strings to pull to make the puppet dance. Plus, the usual rewards come with way too many strings attached. Even after you've gotten the reward, people will hold the fact that you've gotten the reward over your head to get you to do more things.
The truth! Especially in the corporate world. That is all it is. Its an onion. Peel away the layers and its all just naked greed from those at the top. The whole thing is set up to make the most lowly employee be motivated to climb, climb, climb. The managers will try every motivating string in the book to squeeze every once of energy out of you for their goals. And they are on the same treadmill. And its all so some CEO or owner can make 1000 to 2000 times your salary. No thank you. I have done my time in this universe!
Or someone trying to "help" it's usually some potential we have they want to exploit. I like to help people out of sincere kindness with absolutely no return necessary except appreciation
great video again! thank you Wenzes
Spot on yet again!
The more I watch these videos, the more I understand who I am.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for this video! Helped me
So funny that main motivation is catered to other types but we are the ones seeking for it.
I’ve came to the conclusion that we’re just intps with undiagnosed adhd and that’s why we’re so rare
Very relatable. Thank you, Wenzes. 💛
Excellent. Thank you!
Amen sister😘
Yeah, one of my goals is to not get advice, and dye my hair any color I feel like. If it is a group project then please dear lord have people do their part without me teaching them. I find that the things I do that I am really good at (soft skills) take energy, but that feels like people take that for granted. Then they want me to expend a lot of energy to improve my life. I eat really tasty food, have friends, have purple hair and feel good about my work. Now if there is a job opening for witchy forest lady who collects shiny rocks I will apply.
Im punching the air because why is this so hard for people to understand about us?! I mean I get why but uugghhh! 😂😂
Thanks you Wenzes, you have been such a light for me these past 6 months or so. This was a great distillation of so much of what you have been teaching me. I have been looking in the wrong mirror all my life and ended up burned out, over weight, and depressed because of it. Now that I am looking at the right mirror (what I am and what I really like and want) I am no longer burned out and am transforming into myself and an epic life!
This content is so refreshing! Thank you for your counseling, Wenzes.
I follow my own lead and some people think it’s very off. They think I’m weird because I don’t watch Yellowstone and form opinions they can’t seem to understand. Lemmings.
Yellowstone is garbage.
Interesting. Something I saw in myself is that I could never be a salesman. If the product is rubbish my heart would never be in it.
@Stephen Besley, I felt that way also, but then realized I could be in sales if it were the best route for me to help more people.
I am not a salesman, but I enjoy working alongside my internal and external customers to make their lives better. If you were really passionate about a solution you knew would make your customers' lives so much better (especially if you both designed it together in order to meet their specific needs), wouldn't you be proud and happy for the opportunity?
I doubt most salesmen feel the product they are promoting is rubbish. It is a stereotype much like all lawyers are leaches, or all politicians are just in it for the money. One door in your career which is closed due to prejudice leaves fewer opportunities for success.
Speaking as another person who emphatically stated and knew I could never be a salesman. That route is still on my plate, especially as I hope to move to consulting. If you own your own business then you need to be a salesman or hire someone who is but likely not as passionate about the product or service you provide.
Just food for thought. 😃
We never sacrifice our dignity for ANYONE but our Father in heaven ❤️
You have given me good information I’m working construction on the road six days 10 hours a day
Intj and infj are very similar....😁🤩😄🤭🧐
Very relatable.. all the time I tried the main-stream motivation, all I felt was more TIRED! Then I would ask myself, what is wrong with me? Do I have no '"goals", and no "drive" like others?? Will I end up as a Failure in life... cos everybody is so ahead?
But now, the more mature me, knows, I am just wired differently!
We can't do the rat race as well as sensors can. We just can't. But we have that perspective that it IS a rat race afterall so why should we get so down on ourselves for not running it as well? Yes we are definitely wired much differently!
@@YAMISOOLD2009 true! I am just much more relieved to know that I'm not the only person who feels this way.
Wenzes hit the nail on the head here! This is exactly what I've been experiencing lately. The people around me (who do care about me very much) keep telling me to do certain things to improve my life, but those things are mostly focused on the material world.
I know that these things do need to get addressed (i.e. new car, home improvement) but I also know that deep down they aren't going to make me that much happier.
I know I need to start doing the "inner work" which for me is a spiritual approach, but I don't talk to loved ones about it, b/c I know they won't understand.
Yes there is no guarantee that any loved one in our sphere is going to understand any of this. Most people are sensors and what motivates them and their overall view of the world is vastly different from ours. And in the end it doesn't matter that that is so. It just matters that we who are intuitives and INFJs specifically learn what makes us motivated and learn how to make ourselves happy. Then we can be happy and content with the senors that we are surrounded by.
@@YAMISOOLD2009 Very well said! Personally, I just recently learned that statistically most people are sensors, which explains so much.
You are absolutely right, INFJ's should do what works for us, and if we are happy in the end, that's what matters! And we can still have good relationships with the sensors in our lives!
@@stevenkinscherf6642 I love the biggest sensor in my life...my wife. I didn't love myself very much for a long time and am still working on that. I think understanding the sensor/intuitive divide is more important than understanding the Extrovert/introvert divide to be honest.
@@YAMISOOLD2009 I get it, I've been working at self acceptance for a long time. Not easy.
And that's a great point, the sensor/intuitive difference is more significant. In MBTI, the terms introvert and extrovert are really vague. I also follow a channel called "dear kristin" and she talks about that a lot. Like how an ISFJ and INTJ are both "introverts" but they are very different types because one has dominant Si, while the other has dominant Ni. Plus other differences.
@@stevenkinscherf6642 thanks Steven for the reply. I may check the other channel out too. As I sit here with my coffee I think it's just one of those unfair realities that us intuitive types are made to feel bad about ourselves since we are wired to ruminate and compare ourselves to the sensors who make up so much of the population. The sensors obviously have all the human trials an travails but they are generally unburdened by our specific mental ruminating and self judging.
They have only one goal. Money. We don’t work that way. Tried a few times.. too independent and too easy to see how ridiculous their decisions are.
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1. Infj is not a sensor
2. We have deeper issues and deeper
wishes.
3. The Infj wants to be left alone.
4. We don't have the energy to hustle
hard.
5. We can't identify with most role
models.
I don't know what kind of "mainstream motivation" you're talking about, but almost all serious self-development books these days are about exactly what you're talking about- big picture, work smarter not harder success with the goal of personal independence. Maybe some fluff-type books are about more shallow, unsustainable motivation rather than true wealth building? Or maybe I just figured out what to look for and I ignore everything that's not "in the Tao" now haha.
It's because we don't suffer fools. ... Be part of the solution .. or get the hell out of my way. ✌️🙏🕊️
Reason #4, for sure. As much as I enjoy working hard in an area I enjoy, I can't seem to aim that gun at anything related to "hustle culture"
Oh you want me to grind? You mean delicious ass, single origin coffee from Aldi? OK.
🙏🏼💕🎶Gracious
warriors heart.
thoughts and emotion that takes orders from the heart.
In the playgrounds creating spider webs of Ideas.
Collecting the seconds of time
Habit creating genius
genie wish machine.
heart like a warrior.
With that love for within.
Stacking the seconds of time.
With no distractions
Mastering the inner game
In the thunder storm
start cloud skipping though the universe collecting stars to shot Sagittarius bow off the midnight moon.
Raining abundance of imagination
People pleasing like it's an artist painting
Heart smiles.
Sagittarius shooting stars from cupids bow
Leaving trail to follow
Heart trail of dreams
With imagination comes reality
With just one drop of thought
Sagittarius abundance of fire
Spreads so contagiously
It be raining abundance.
Across all the lands.
It's true. Common sense tells me so
Your awesome
Collect the seconds of time
with no distractions
and gain momentum
from reputation
Of amagination.
Can you make yt shorts, please?
most motivations are superficial and low valued
Started laughing 😂 with joy at #4 don’t like to hustle hard…..thk u for this info I have learned so much about myself b/c of your videos. I am validated, I am at peace…I know whats right for me …NO BODY else does!!!!!!!!!!!
Give us something we are passionate about and really lights us up and we will work tirelessly on it. What most people mean by "hustle" nowadays is working two jobs or doing a lot of extra to try to earn brownie points and move up the ladder. This doesn't motivate me or most INFJs!
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE can never be bought. How bad do you want it?
I'm sorry but I put your videos on and within a minute it's just noise in the background, and it's like this with every video. I've tried I really have to listen but.... I don't know there is something about the tone that I just turn off.
Is this the INFJ no body listens too, and the INFJ not connecting.... I don't know, and now I'm curious as to the why as I am interested in the topics you discuss.
I would suggest finding another INFJ guru to watch and listen to then.
Wow!!!!!!! You are so right. I went to Bill Walsh wealth empowerment camp and was extremely underwhelmed outside of listening to Les Brown. I just said this yesterday, many coaches can’t coach me. Only a few coaches can.
Thank you for the video - you are a great teacher!
Then, what can we do to motivate us? I feel like being a INFJ is such a disadvantage in life :'(
I am making playlists with most of your videos for motivation in different situations.
Thank you! The relief I felt watching this was because it's very relatable. Honestly, it made a few pennies drop and gifted me a little hope. In my current state, I'm stuck in a place of wondering what the purpose of anything is; I have lost sight of the bigger picture and fantasize about some higher power wiping away everyone's memories of me, followed by the exile of my existence in this place.
I’m in a dark place. It's becoming detrimental to my lifestyle. I have several books on psychology and motivation. I tried revisiting them but find I can't get past the first chapter because (in the end) they’re basically all the same with similar insights and meanings.
The simple fact that this video is relatable and there are others in the same boat has made me feel like I might be fixable.
Nothing motivates really.
Maybe it's my Aries nature or maybe it's my ability to see things in other things, but this one here always gets me cause i feel this character on several different levels:
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Probably not the motivation for you though.
It's not like i'm the most INFJ-like INFJ out there.
Other INFJs often tell me how weird i am. Not that i give a shit.
I'll keep walking my own path.
Don't march to their drums.
Never have and never will.
In previous life I told my brother in law that our other paraplegic bil was lucky because he had something to strive for he had adversity and hardship
While we had it made so there was nothing to do and that sucks
Wow you really are brilliant and truly understand what it is to be INFJ. Thanks so much for giving me courage to be myself!