One of the biggest things I have learned from you is to be aware of my space and have given me the power to protect it. Thank you! The trait I was most afraid of maybe oddly, was the desire to "be alone" to recharge. You have helped me change mu life.
My several mind blowing talents. I have to suppress myself because ppl get immediately intimidated by my skills. Badly. It's nigh impossible for other ppl to wish to stick around once they see what I can really do. I wish I could find ppl who I could work with again, but haven't been able to find competent trust worthy secure creatives in a very long time. So I work alone.
This video is quite accurate. I've been called extreme and mysterious so much in my life, and at this point I couldn't care less what typical, shallow people think of me. I'm glad to not be like everyone else, and thanks for the advice, I agree.
We are only dangerous when someone deliberately attacks our personality or our credibility. We are extremely observant people and can strike back quickly and precisely.
@@nimuyreemu3723 one day you'll say just the right thing and you'll shut that f***** down. That's how it happens with me I always stay quiet until I get the right opportunity and then boom 💥. They
There is a German Proverb/Saykng/Qoute: gegen Dummheit ist halt kein Kraut gewachsen. English Meaning:Against stupidity still hasn't grown any Healing Herb(Plant) Have a nice Day^^.
Absolutely! The selfless giving without expectation,gives the impression that, the one receiving somehow is in control,that is until, (for a proper reason) ,the INFJ just walks away, and it’s over.
It's hard when you don't have no where. And if so. But can feel that they really they don't want you there by the little sayings that come out there mouth.
In the past I have been accused of hiding parts of me, having an ulterior motif, especially if I disappear to have peace or alone time. These people really did not like that I had my own world.
It’s quite amazing to think that the ability to change their reality is just an INFJ ability. My entire life I thought everyone was capable of doing this. ❤️
I want to talk about the part where you said we don't really need a closure. This happened with me recently. I was seeing an ENTJ and realised that I do not really like his ways and tried to give him a closure... although in my mind I was already done I still decided to go ahead out of mutual respect. It did not go well because I didn't want to tell him that I knew his insecurities and fears and I knew he just won't take constructive criticism positively. In the end I just said ended it bluntly without explaining much. Explaining our opinions and the changes that we notice is really not easy, maybe that is why we INFJs avoid closures. Others simply won't understand. They even say that we are "overthinking."
It’s a narcissist sign ,they deserve a closure at least tell them why you left… while we can be perfectly alright without getting one ourselves coz we have strong willpower ,others are not.we are quite famous for our door slam I am not saying we shouldn’t do that but more like after door slamming open it and say “I am sorry but you deserved it..”
@@rishabharya1072 seems like you did not read my comment properly, i said i tried and he just couldn't understand. btw do you know what infjs hate the most? being called a 'narcissist' so mind your words dude. i would rather stay quiet and out of reach for life than to contact someone again after years and saying that they deserved it.. once i am done i am done, and gone for good. if you're a true infj you'd understand.
@@hxbaaf oh yeah sry I didn’t read it properly and I definitely understand you would’ve given your all before doing that.. if it has been years then there is no sense doing it.. again as I have seen most of the time we infj avoid conflicts and give our 100% before throwing the towel but that doesn’t work in relationships we have to address their problems in order for them to correct and stop being a sponge..
Whow.. an ENTJ.. they are dominant, they don't understand Fe. While our creative juices are Fe. There can actually be a lot of common ground but ENTJ want to dominate and INFJs are just not wired for that. I had someone close to me, a female ENTJ, if they are healthy they can be great, except no emotional feeling stuff.. Closure for who?
I think I understand what you mean. There has been a time or two I have literally not known how to adequately convey the full picture of why I needed to end a relationship. Yes, there were behaviors that were unacceptable to my INFJ sensibilities, but it's really more than just that. It was a recognition of a pattern in that person....A pattern or "viewpoint" that seems to have led them to feel these behaviors were acceptable. Basically, it's as if their behavior gave away their level of emotional development and I may make one attempt to "test" whether I'm correct in my assessment or if there is room for "repair", but if I get any response that seems to suggest an unwillingness to take me seriously, I'm gone. To me, coming right out and saying exactly what I suspect (about their level of emotional development) just seems like a waste of time...would tend to put anyone on the defensive, and may cause unnecessary pain. Better to provide the circumstances for them to "show" their level of emotional development...and then fully accept the truth of it...and not even bother pointing it out to them, because doing so might sound like a request for them to "fix" it...but no- one can be more emotionally mature than they are. We can't miraculously "become" emotionally mature in order to save our relationship. It would almost seem cruel to even pin-point the issue.
It's a blessing and a curse really, infj pov is like: I can hit you where it hurts and it'll be the worst pain you'll ever feel but I hate that I have to hit you in the first place though I have to because you gave me no other option.
1. People can get addicted to the INFJ 2. INFJs are unpredictable 3. INFJ is very strategic, even on the interpersonal level 4. They can hit you where it hurts - show you your weakness by being a mirror to your insecurities 5. INFJs can leave without a fight or closure
#1 don't know about that #2 we value predictability too #3 not out of bad intent or personal agendas, but yes I notice it in myself especially when I'm on a "mission" perhaps the logical side of INFJs #4 I find myself mirroring all the time even when I really didn't want to #5 permanent door slam to bullies or persons of dubious character I think INFJs can also be dangerous in the sense that we can uphold justice and moral obligations almost to a fault
I often thought all people were like this and I could not figure out why folks had so many misunderstandings and unmet needs. Once I understood most people go through life basically "blind" to what we see naturally, it helped greatly.
I, as infj will never go to my “guns “ in first glance of trouble with anyone. But if someone keeps pushing me around for long enough, I can get a quiet unpleasant individual. I never engage in screaming match but through my intuition I know that person and I let them “ soak up “ in their words and I can see that frustration of the other person, who would like for me to lose my temper and engage in arguments and insults. I let them drawing in their words and even feel pressure how I made the other person defeat themselves. I will stay calm and talk facts!
(4 primary/core UNHEALTHY reasons relationships break down: 1. Contempt 2. Criticism 3. Stonewalling 4. Defensiveness) Over four months of this horrific terror. The PTSD is severe and intense. The man whom I called my best friend, ended up raping my soul... PANIC AND TERROR ALMOST CONSTANTLY FLOOD ME. I am paralyzed and traumatized and debilitated and breathless, with almost-constant panic attacks. I desperately pray for healing. In February of this year (2023), the man who I thought was my best friend... Discarded me like garbage. Replaced me for another. In doing so... He gave me SEVERE PTSD. We're in June, now... It's been over 4 months... I MUST GET OVER THIS and MOVE ON... Please, help me, God! God, you have has blessed me to be a writer...🙌🏾 I humbly thank you and bow before you. I pray to make use of this talent/blessing/gift! Perhaps I write my way to healing? I also want/pray to make myself ready, with your miraculous help, oh God... I want to be healed and purified, that I may finally meet and spend my life with, my twin-flame. Here's what my trust is in: I don’t have to date. I don't have to do those God-forsaken dating apps! My kingdom spouse will locate me, he will come for me! 💍👰♀ Him, my twin-flame and I, are ordained to be together. We are magnetized to one another: NOW, ALWAYS, ALL WAYS. Maktub. It is written. It is God's will. Praise be to God! Let me remind myself of how loving sex/intimacy can actually be. (Because up until now, it's only been trauma for me...) 14 GENTLE URGENT REMINDERS, REAL/HEALTHY LOVE/SEX MEANS: 1) He also always (all ways) says he loves you outside the bedroom... 2) He looks DEEP into your eyes, into your soul, during sex/intimacy... 3) During sex: he wants full body contact... Hugs, caressing, hands all over your body 4) Spending quality intimate time together, both: before and after sex 5) Being intimate afterwards: cuddling, pillow-talk, playing, sleeping together closely 6) He prioritizes your pleasure, and attends to your needs and the things that you like 7) He pulls you in, super close and super intimate during sex 8) He compliments your personality, your character, your soul etc... 9) He kisses you with love and intimacy and passion 10) Slow seductive sensual lovemaking 11) He's open/vulnerable, he shows you his body, his insecurities, his fantasies (without fear of judgement from you...) 12) He wants to meet your needs and he wants you to be satisfied 13) He understands when you don’t want sex and he doesn’t push or pressure 14) It’s not just about sex, he's interested in conversation and outings and connecting: outside the bedroom AND PLEASE, GOD, LET ME ALSO ALWAYS REMEMBER: The gift of rejection positions me for MY purpose! The gift of rejection reveals what his role was/is: in my healing/destiny (THIS IS ALCHEMY)! The gift of rejection draws me nearer to you, oh God! (As well as to my own soul!) Rejection is redirection!🎉
Your videos are so helpful and 99% on-spot for me. Your viewers replies are so helpful too. I feel like I could respond to each and every one of them with total understanding. Great group here Wenzes! You are a blessing to many!
I have to say though that I seem to skip hitting where it hurts. I come to new understanding/light/perspective and I know who I am and I know where I’m at and I know this situation is not good for me. It changes me. Then I leave. I’m not talking about ghosting or anything like that, my priorities and alignment just change completely. I draw the line, state my case - even if only to myself if the other person is just not open to the truth, and I move on. Kind of like an instant reset, it’s like I become a new person and this other situation/person/thing, this parasite just loses its grip on me and falls off because it can’t keep up with/adjust to me.
100% correct! I have good aim - and have used it/door slam. I rarely miss the target and it hurts. But it hurts me too *because I love the other person and did not want to hurt them.
Just like a light switch , on or off. So true. I just walk away no word's, drives my exes crazy, 😂 all my exes are better people now. I showed them I could be mad without all the drama. They were a lot of drama. I hate drama. They are calmer now too. Thank God.
Actually I am right now in no contact with a narcissistic family member after hitting them hard where it hurts, but strangely, even we're living under the same roof I can't feel them alive anymore. The only sign of life they give is when they try to bark their trash behind closed doors or when they hide their faces like rats when I go down the stairs or open the front door. I never felt so much relief. Am I really an INFJ?
Because you are strong and taking your power back. This is very scary to narcissists. I have dealt with a family of narcissists and never understood what was going on. I was forever devalued (BTW, they do it to each other too). Through these helpful videos and others like this, I have learned so much. I did the "cruel words" of insight to an older brother a week ago. I do not like to get to that point where I can literally CUT and hurt so deeply when I am fed up with being wounded. We are in our 60s, so this has been a lifetime of abuse. I'm learning to set boundaries regarding poor behavior with all types of relationship before I explode with venom. This has always been their goal. "Now I know what triggers you. HaHa." Seriously, I have heard that. Just mean. I still don't understand it. CRAZY stuff!!!! Take care and good job!!!
I can relate. When I get angry and upset with people avoid me like a plague. The problem with me is that I eventually forgive which makes me question if I'm INFJ. A therapist gave me the Myers Briggs test. But I have my limits. It can be complicated when things happen in the household or with family living nearby.
Very interesting video. When younger I wasted a lot of energy trying to analyze why people behave against their own best interests. I was wondering why I was always "wrong" no matter what I did. When I was about 30 I realized I thought differently, but not wrongly, than most people. I learned not to fight it. I just refuse to participate in the drama they create. I learned one of my best skills was being under estimated. The more I learned about toxic friends, family, and other associates, the more red flags I saw accurately early on. I have no problem admitting when I am wrong, but my intuition (when I listen to it) is spot on. So these 5 things are actually our best attributes and self defense. It is lonely out here but there is a lot less anxiety, trauma, hurt when you trust your self and the gift of being an INFJ. I dont consider being an analytical, loyal friend, strategic thinker, etc dangerous to any one but a toxic manipulator. ❤️
My door-slam person approached me to give me a hug after having behaved underhandedly for several years (during which she received my acceptance and "understanding" -- yeah, I know, I was being kind to a scorpion). Her hug was supposed to be a coming back together after she'd given me the silent treatment for 4 months. I simply held up my hand and said, "No, thank you. I have nothing to say to you." The look on her face is permanently fixed in my memory! She was stunned and stood there with her arms raised for a hug for a rather long time. She actually sputtered! Another friend was present and took her away as she was muttering something about "some people". It actually gives me joy to recall -- she was a bully who had me eggshell-walking for at least a decade.
@@zoraidita2022 I am a big old geek and I do lots of research and threw some of my research I found out that we not only have angels that will work for us but we also have demons and if you did not get your demons under control then they will control you. So I've had to learn to tame both my Angels Among demons LOL my angels think I'm part demon anyway LOL
Maybe dangerous without knowing it or intending it. We are one of the most forward looking types...I think this is what allows us to so easily "shed" past difficulties and move on as if they never existed. This probably reads as quite cold to anyone who's been door-slammed by us. I don't know if this is "an INFJ thing" or just me, but in many ways I can't see the point of the multiple conflicts and arguments that take place in many relationships. I feel like everyone should be naturally striving to find a good balance between the needs and desires of each/all in the relationship. If this isn't happening...and we've attempted, without fighting, to address it, and it's still not happening, what's the point of any additional messing around? This is door-slam time for this INFJ, and the sooner it happens, the less painful (or "dangerous") it will be for all involved.
2:23 I value someone opinion even its negative or not by not sharing those sensitive information about them self they often open up with in the conversation.
This video was right on target! It made me take a new fresh look at myself. I really caught on to item #2 - being unpredictable. People often think they know us like a book, but then they find a whole chapter they didn't count on! It can be shocking to them.😯 I'll bet that one of the unpredictable things they learn about us is that we can hit where it hurts. And it's a big surprise. As for leaving without a fight or closure - well, I wonder if this is where our famous "door slam" comes in. In leaving what I knew would become an abusive relationship, I didn't argue or fight. I also left two religious groups - one was already abusive and the other was showing possible signals that way. I left without a "fight or closure," because I knew it would be useless to explain. To them, I left - but to me, it was a slammed door. We've gotta do what we've gotta do.
I completely agree to point 5. I am amazed, because it is like you was talking about myself directly, although you only mentioned features of the personality type. But it's good, because this assures me, that you are very honest in things you say about us, the INFJ people.
Wow. You Hit a home run Wenzes This is being played out in my life right now. I have a strong sense of integrity. When bad things are said about my Character full out lies. I have to retreat and plan. They will be getting my warrior self next appointment. Lol. Such power to know thyself. 💜⭐️💜
I am silent as I observe and decipher all that is going on around me. I am cold and calculating and NEVER react. I respond in a calm, cool, controlled, manner heavy on the dry yet subliminal sarcasm. Undressing them mentally and emotionally with logic and intuition as I can read them like a book and know where they are weakest. I know their next move in advance and have a plan to invalidate their position. I then drop them like a bag of grain and walk away. Woe be to the woman who tries to manipulate or use me. I leave devastation in my wake.
Me gustó este video, y me gustaría que puedas hacer un vídeo interiorizado más los puntos 4 y 5 , porque yo me encuentro en un momento en mi vida en que estoy viviendo esos puntos
el punto es que somos amantes y visionarios de la honestidad y la verdad, atesoramos estos valores por encima de otros valores sociales, etc... cuando a las personas se les recuerda que lo que aman es algo secundario, se enojan con nosotros y cuando señalan contra nuestro amor. de verdad no estamos enojados porque sabemos bien que lo que amamos está verdaderamente por encima de cualquier otro valor de la tierra
This happens at work. People who need to feel smarter than me find out. My boss rn - spent years ignoring my professional advice (we’re tech writers but I’ve worked in IT as a systems designer - bc I have an autistic aptitude for it.) - never seeing that I was trying to help him, the team, and the company be successful. He’s too immature and competitive and simply doesn’t understand what a real team player is all about. Well, he crossed the rubicon 2 years ago when he rejected systems design advice - first from me (a certified expert at this - I beat the machine in speed and accuracy at IBM in drawing up an optimized database design - this after the men in the room suggested “the girl” should go get them coffee), then from the business analysts I looped in to talk reason to this vain fellow, then when I got him to test his design with UX and it bombed with a 0% passing rate (my piece, that was added to make it look fair, passed). At this point, he kicked me off the project, threw me into a chaotic project, refused to back me up, ran interference on all my work so that I’d not meet my goals - a total meltdown, basically. I just learned yesterday from one of the business managers that they had said at the time that I was being set up to fail. (Felt so nice to learn that people had noticed.) Instead, I redesigned the workflows on the new team, got the PM on my side so I could hit my goals (my boss was shocked to learn I’d delivered 100%. I asked my new team to help me and they loaded my calendar with meetings so he couldn’t see I was really building out training and getting my team trained without his interference), and won us $850k in concessions from a vendor who had misrepresented their software’s capabilities. Year 2 on this project and I’ve established a successful team and we’re delivering on 2 of the CEOs 4 company goals for the year. Meanwhile, my boss is still struggling to design that project he booted me off of. Their failed designs don’t work, they slip delivery year after year - 2 weeks ago he was informed he had until year end (his original date was last Dec, then he slipped to this Dec, then next Dec - well, 3 weeks ago he has until this Dec, and they’re no further along than 2 years ago. He’s got 4 months to wrap it up and they’re about 10% done. He tried putting me on the migration work this year - like “us big brains will design it and you peons will build it.” (He put two of my colleagues to lead the project - they’re English majors who have even less computer experience snd aptitude than he does. This makes him the 1-eyed man in the land of the blind. Knowing nothing, they spent my 18 months in the project talking down to me like I’m a bonehead - classic Dunning-Kruger effect. Not understanding me, he thought I’d jump at the chance to be part of the cool kids team again. I don’t care for being part of the cool kids - I’d rather listen to the people I serve and build a system they need, not stand proudly like s know it all boasting about myself. So - nope! I was busy all year working on this disaster project he threw me under, thank you very much. It’s going great and I’m expanding my network like crazy. Those business leaders he ignored are working with me in this, they’ve said they have my back, and suggested I let him own his disaster. He’s trying to go around them to tell their teams that they have to migrate all their work on their own and help him design the system - this year. The business leaders told me over coffee that they confronted him at a leadership event Wednesday to say he’d better stop going around channels and btw their staff had no time to work in his project. He’s sunk. And when it becomes clearer he had a systems designer on his team who handed him a blueprint for the design, confirmed by the business leaders, and a migration/training plan that he rejected bc ? His vanity ? - when it becomes clear he tried to get me fired or quit - the guy is toast. He’s done this to other women before me who transferred to other departments. He’s made enemies and I’m through defending him. But this whole video about being dangerous - I’ve been supportive of him, handing him solutions to problems without seeking praise or acknowledgment for years. He’s too dumb to understand how smart I am - bc he’s an English major who thinks he’s impressing people with big words, while I’m an autistic science geek who doesn’t think in words. I think in kinetic 4-D transparent images that I then translate into words (so I can appear slow at times - but MIT applied to me when I was 16, sending me a $25k check for 4-yrs tuition, just because of my STEM scores. West Point did the same - no need to apply, you’re admitted, full scholarship, bc they’d just opened to women and were trying to increase their female enrollment. People always mistake me for a dumb girl, when they need to feel smart. My boss really doesn’t get me at all) I pivoted and moved on, my crazy team manager actually found out I was INFJ and reorganized our working relationship around that -so that we’re now clocking big wins, starting with that $850k last year, and I’m enjoying some well-earned schadenfreude as I watch my boss getting called out. He’s feeling it. Next week I already know he’s going to try to pull me off my project to help him and his fan-girl club out, and I’m already prepared with a kick-tight case for why I just can’t do that this year, but I’m sure his A-team there’s got this. 😘
The ability to switch things up and switch off toward someone is more of an INFJ-A trait. INFJ-T agonizes a lot about change and hates it. They may do what needs to be done, but it is not so effortless as described in this video.
9:47 So that why after months of interaction with them and know all there secrets they're carefully engaging in my conversations. I think its a defense mechanism so i can protect there secrets with out offending me.
some of what you have said is true and i am very aware of it if some rubs me up the wrong way but i am not into people pleasing empathy trying to fix others advise others some do not appreciate any help i offer but the ones that i allowed to get addicted to me drained the life out of me. i allowed many things to affect me and found impossible to bring them to closure. i took flower essences for rsentment and hurt but the memory and experiunce is still there
I got a personality test nd i got (infj a/t) in it, but i don't think im imfj, as i do help people like hell when something unjustice happens to em, but other than that im seriously not that helping, first i think of myself then only for other,so probably i have some different personality but not this good boy helping hand one,but yes that do happen that coz i can read people so easily so i know whats there most healing point nd what's hurt em the most, so i can we both healing nd destroying one, but mostly healin😈 🧿
They want to be center of attention so bad, that we just take a step back for them to shine. And then when it is our turn to show up and show out, they either are surprised or get hella mad like we were the fake ones but we're like "no, you wanted to be seen by everyone else so damn bad, that we weren't going to compete with you; so we just let you have the spot light and waited patiently for our turn to step in or until someone else gets curious about us"
Ok but maybe “extremely dangerous” is a little exagerated or too much to say. We are not psychos and we don’t want to hurt people. That would be extremely dangerous.
Door slam is an obvious solution for us but lack of closure completely fks most people's heads up - as Wenzes say's it's extremely painful 4 others but u know...fk em, they usually deserve it 👍
@@gideonscheepers4340 I don’t find any of these traits that infj’s have as being extremely dangerous. People not expecting us to be this way, yes…them having a big problem with us, yes…us being extremely dangerous, no, I don’t think so.
@@toneloc-cz2xi I agree, it’s painful, but not something they didn’t deserve. And usually, we try for a long time to make things work. We don’t just dissapear for no reason. We just get tired of it and we had enough. And they do know why we dissapeared. No closure is us giving ourselves a present and not fight with that person becouse we know there’s no point.
@@luciatat4084 Exactly. Good rule of thumb is 95% of everything is absolutely worthless sht: pop music, food, TV shows and.... 95%+ of people! Knowing this and setting your expectations accordingly saves empathic people a world of trouble (and effort) : )
Wenzes, dudes most likely are downloading any pink poster.. call me stupid I wouldn't download just for that reason alone. Come on woman Know better than that God bless 🙏💚
You already have this video why are you doing it again ? INFJ's do not want to hurt any person INFJ'S are caring people healthy ones unhealthy INFJ'S would think this way you really need to learn from an INFJ' that are healthy to put out content .
What are some of the traits you are afraid to bring out because of the consequences (to others and yourself)?
SMH. Poor Bastards. 😔
You have become my life coach Wenzes. Thank you!!
One of the biggest things I have learned from you is to be aware of my space and have given me the power to protect it. Thank you! The trait I was most afraid of maybe oddly, was the desire to "be alone" to recharge. You have helped me change mu life.
My several mind blowing talents. I have to suppress myself because ppl get immediately intimidated by my skills. Badly. It's nigh impossible for other ppl to wish to stick around once they see what I can really do. I wish I could find ppl who I could work with again, but haven't been able to find competent trust worthy secure creatives in a very long time. So I work alone.
This video is quite accurate. I've been called extreme and mysterious so much in my life, and at this point I couldn't care less what typical, shallow people think of me. I'm glad to not be like everyone else, and thanks for the advice, I agree.
We are only dangerous when someone deliberately attacks our personality or our credibility. We are extremely observant people and can strike back quickly and precisely.
I have s colleague who is constantly mocking my personality.😢😢
@@nimuyreemu3723 one day you'll say just the right thing and you'll shut that f***** down. That's how it happens with me I always stay quiet until I get the right opportunity and then boom 💥. They
Likewise. Wait to strike. Then they don't know what the fuck just happened because they were not expecting it.
Sorry about the co-worker situation. One day you will know how to strategically shut her down.
Just did that with my gaslighting, narcissistic boss. She got terminated via my resignation effective immediately 😂
It really gets under people skin when you refuse to argue with them, unreasonably angry and surprised, I don’t understand it🤷🏾♀️
Misery loves company.
There is a German Proverb/Saykng/Qoute: gegen Dummheit ist halt kein Kraut gewachsen.
English Meaning:Against stupidity still hasn't grown any Healing Herb(Plant)
Have a nice Day^^.
It's better for us if we don't try😮
INFJ door slam .... That's my extreme. But you I've been giving them more than one chance to not repeat their pattern or bad behavior.
Absolutely! The selfless giving without expectation,gives the impression that, the one receiving somehow is in control,that is until, (for a proper reason) ,the INFJ just walks away, and it’s over.
It's hard when you don't have no where. And if so. But can feel that they really they don't want you there by the little sayings that come out there mouth.
In the past I have been accused of hiding parts of me, having an ulterior motif, especially if I disappear to have peace or alone time. These people really did not like that I had my own world.
It’s quite amazing to think that the ability to change their reality is just an INFJ ability. My entire life I thought everyone was capable of doing this. ❤️
I want to talk about the part where you said we don't really need a closure. This happened with me recently. I was seeing an ENTJ and realised that I do not really like his ways and tried to give him a closure... although in my mind I was already done I still decided to go ahead out of mutual respect. It did not go well because I didn't want to tell him that I knew his insecurities and fears and I knew he just won't take constructive criticism positively. In the end I just said ended it bluntly without explaining much. Explaining our opinions and the changes that we notice is really not easy, maybe that is why we INFJs avoid closures. Others simply won't understand. They even say that we are "overthinking."
It’s a narcissist sign ,they deserve a closure at least tell them why you left… while we can be perfectly alright without getting one ourselves coz we have strong willpower ,others are not.we are quite famous for our door slam I am not saying we shouldn’t do that but more like after door slamming open it and say “I am sorry but you deserved it..”
@@rishabharya1072 seems like you did not read my comment properly, i said i tried and he just couldn't understand. btw do you know what infjs hate the most? being called a 'narcissist' so mind your words dude. i would rather stay quiet and out of reach for life than to contact someone again after years and saying that they deserved it.. once i am done i am done, and gone for good. if you're a true infj you'd understand.
@@hxbaaf oh yeah sry I didn’t read it properly and I definitely understand you would’ve given your all before doing that.. if it has been years then there is no sense doing it.. again as I have seen most of the time we infj avoid conflicts and give our 100% before throwing the towel but that doesn’t work in relationships we have to address their problems in order for them to correct and stop being a sponge..
Whow.. an ENTJ.. they are dominant, they don't understand Fe. While our creative juices are Fe. There can actually be a lot of common ground but ENTJ want to dominate and INFJs are just not wired for that. I had someone close to me, a female ENTJ, if they are healthy they can be great, except no emotional feeling stuff.. Closure for who?
I think I understand what you mean. There has been a time or two I have literally not known how to adequately convey the full picture of why I needed to end a relationship. Yes, there were behaviors that were unacceptable to my INFJ sensibilities, but it's really more than just that. It was a recognition of a pattern in that person....A pattern or "viewpoint" that seems to have led them to feel these behaviors were acceptable. Basically, it's as if their behavior gave away their level of emotional development and I may make one attempt to "test" whether I'm correct in my assessment or if there is room for "repair", but if I get any response that seems to suggest an unwillingness to take me seriously, I'm gone.
To me, coming right out and saying exactly what I suspect (about their level of emotional development) just seems like a waste of time...would tend to put anyone on the defensive, and may cause unnecessary pain. Better to provide the circumstances for them to "show" their level of emotional development...and then fully accept the truth of it...and not even bother pointing it out to them, because doing so might sound like a request for them to "fix" it...but no- one can be more emotionally mature than they are. We can't miraculously "become" emotionally mature in order to save our relationship. It would almost seem cruel to even pin-point the issue.
It's a blessing and a curse really, infj pov is like: I can hit you where it hurts and it'll be the worst pain you'll ever feel but I hate that I have to hit you in the first place though I have to because you gave me no other option.
1. People can get addicted to the INFJ
2. INFJs are unpredictable
3. INFJ is very strategic, even on the interpersonal level
4. They can hit you where it hurts - show you your weakness by being a mirror to your insecurities
5. INFJs can leave without a fight or closure
#5 oh its intentional.... But this statement is true I'm not going to fight or seek closure. The closure is the silence coming from me.
#1 don't know about that
#2 we value predictability too
#3 not out of bad intent or personal agendas, but yes I notice it in myself especially when I'm on a "mission" perhaps the logical side of INFJs
#4 I find myself mirroring all the time even when I really didn't want to
#5 permanent door slam to bullies or persons of dubious character
I think INFJs can also be dangerous in the sense that we can uphold justice and moral obligations almost to a fault
#2 we are just too different to predict
#5 for sure. Once my eyes are open I go from ride-or-die to indifferent in a heartbeat
I often thought all people were like this and I could not figure out why folks had so many misunderstandings and unmet needs. Once I understood most people go through life basically "blind" to what we see naturally, it helped greatly.
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'blind to what we see naturally'--Those words nailed what I've become more and more aware of as I've aged.
Both points are spot-on
I, as infj will never go to my “guns “ in first glance of trouble with anyone. But if someone keeps pushing me around for long enough, I can get a quiet unpleasant individual. I never engage in screaming match but through my intuition I know that person and I let them “ soak up “ in their words and I can see that frustration of the other person, who would like for me to lose my temper and engage in arguments and insults. I let them drawing in their words and even feel pressure how I made the other person defeat themselves. I will stay calm and talk facts!
(4 primary/core UNHEALTHY reasons relationships break down:
1. Contempt
2. Criticism
3. Stonewalling
4. Defensiveness)
Over four months of this horrific terror.
The PTSD is severe and intense.
The man whom I called my best friend,
ended up raping my soul...
PANIC AND TERROR
ALMOST CONSTANTLY FLOOD ME.
I am paralyzed and traumatized
and debilitated and breathless,
with almost-constant panic attacks.
I desperately pray for healing.
In February of this year (2023),
the man who I thought was my best friend...
Discarded me like garbage.
Replaced me for another.
In doing so...
He gave me SEVERE PTSD.
We're in June, now...
It's been over 4 months...
I MUST GET OVER THIS and MOVE ON...
Please, help me, God!
God, you have has blessed me to be a writer...🙌🏾
I humbly thank you and bow before you.
I pray to make use of this talent/blessing/gift!
Perhaps I write my way to healing?
I also want/pray to make myself ready,
with your miraculous help, oh God...
I want to be healed and purified,
that I may finally meet and spend my life with,
my twin-flame.
Here's what my trust is in: I don’t have to date.
I don't have to do those God-forsaken dating apps!
My kingdom spouse will locate me, he will come for me! 💍👰♀
Him, my twin-flame and I, are ordained to be together.
We are magnetized to one another: NOW, ALWAYS, ALL WAYS.
Maktub. It is written. It is God's will. Praise be to God!
Let me remind myself of how loving sex/intimacy can actually be.
(Because up until now, it's only been trauma for me...)
14 GENTLE URGENT REMINDERS, REAL/HEALTHY LOVE/SEX MEANS:
1) He also always (all ways) says he loves you outside the bedroom...
2) He looks DEEP into your eyes, into your soul, during sex/intimacy...
3) During sex: he wants full body contact... Hugs, caressing, hands all over your body
4) Spending quality intimate time together, both: before and after sex
5) Being intimate afterwards: cuddling, pillow-talk, playing, sleeping together closely
6) He prioritizes your pleasure, and attends to your needs and the things that you like
7) He pulls you in, super close and super intimate during sex
8) He compliments your personality, your character, your soul etc...
9) He kisses you with love and intimacy and passion
10) Slow seductive sensual lovemaking
11) He's open/vulnerable, he shows you his body, his insecurities, his fantasies
(without fear of judgement from you...)
12) He wants to meet your needs and he wants you to be satisfied
13) He understands when you don’t want sex and he doesn’t push or pressure
14) It’s not just about sex,
he's interested in conversation and outings and connecting:
outside the bedroom
AND PLEASE, GOD, LET ME ALSO ALWAYS REMEMBER:
The gift of rejection positions me for MY purpose!
The gift of rejection reveals what his role was/is: in my healing/destiny (THIS IS ALCHEMY)!
The gift of rejection draws me nearer to you, oh God! (As well as to my own soul!)
Rejection is redirection!🎉
Indeed, no closure. You got dropped like third period french. I'm already emotionally checked out and am protecting myself and the other person.
"...dropped like 3rd period French." 😂💀
What's the story on "third period French"? 😂 Please share 🙏
@@Z1nny It is a movie reference and a school reference.
@@MsDDutch thanks 🫶
Same here! 👵🏽✌🏾🦅☀️🦅💚
Your videos are so helpful and 99% on-spot for me. Your viewers replies are so helpful too. I feel like I could respond to each and every one of them with total understanding. Great group here Wenzes! You are a blessing to many!
REAL❤
So crazy how accurate your videos are 👌
No, we are not that evil as you described. we have high moral standard!
Wentzes did not say that we are evil.
I have to say though that I seem to skip hitting where it hurts. I come to new understanding/light/perspective and I know who I am and I know where I’m at and I know this situation is not good for me. It changes me. Then I leave. I’m not talking about ghosting or anything like that, my priorities and alignment just change completely. I draw the line, state my case - even if only to myself if the other person is just not open to the truth, and I move on. Kind of like an instant reset, it’s like I become a new person and this other situation/person/thing, this parasite just loses its grip on me and falls off because it can’t keep up with/adjust to me.
100% correct! I have good aim - and have used it/door slam. I rarely miss the target and it hurts. But it hurts me too *because I love the other person and did not want to hurt them.
Just like a light switch , on or off. So true.
I just walk away no word's, drives my exes crazy, 😂 all my exes are better people now. I showed them I could be mad without all the drama. They were a lot of drama. I hate drama. They are calmer now too. Thank God.
Number two is so true, I play dumb just to know how the other will act. I never ask a direct question that I don’t already know the answer 😅
Actually I am right now in no contact with a narcissistic family member after hitting them hard where it hurts, but strangely, even we're living under the same roof I can't feel them alive anymore. The only sign of life they give is when they try to bark their trash behind closed doors or when they hide their faces like rats when I go down the stairs or open the front door. I never felt so much relief. Am I really an INFJ?
Because you are strong and taking your power back. This is very scary to narcissists. I have dealt with a family of narcissists and never understood what was going on. I was forever devalued (BTW, they do it to each other too). Through these helpful videos and others like this, I have learned so much. I did the "cruel words" of insight to an older brother a week ago. I do not like to get to that point where I can literally CUT and hurt so deeply when I am fed up with being wounded. We are in our 60s, so this has been a lifetime of abuse. I'm learning to set boundaries regarding poor behavior with all types of relationship before I explode with venom. This has always been their goal. "Now I know what triggers you. HaHa." Seriously, I have heard that. Just mean. I still don't understand it. CRAZY stuff!!!! Take care and good job!!!
Maybe because people devalue kindness and politeness and consider them fear and weakness. Crazy world isn't it!
A walking paradox...
Wow. Your description hit hard. I feel the same thing with my family member, same roof situation.
I can relate. When I get angry and upset with people avoid me like a plague. The problem with me is that I eventually forgive which makes me question if I'm INFJ. A therapist gave me the Myers Briggs test. But I have my limits. It can be complicated when things happen in the household or with family living nearby.
8:07 This is accurate i dont engage in gossiping others i maintain my own bubble to protect others information about themselves.
Very interesting video. When younger I wasted a lot of energy trying to analyze why people behave against their own best interests. I was wondering why I was always "wrong" no matter what I did. When I was about 30 I realized I thought differently, but not wrongly, than most people. I learned not to fight it. I just refuse to participate in the drama they create. I learned one of my best skills was being under estimated. The more I learned about toxic friends, family, and other associates, the more red flags I saw accurately early on. I have no problem admitting when I am wrong, but my intuition (when I listen to it) is spot on. So these 5 things are actually our best attributes and self defense. It is lonely out here but there is a lot less anxiety, trauma, hurt when you trust your self and the gift of being an INFJ. I dont consider being an analytical, loyal friend, strategic thinker, etc dangerous to any one
but a toxic manipulator. ❤️
AMEN!
We Love your videos Wenzes!!!
My door-slam person approached me to give me a hug after having behaved underhandedly for several years (during which she received my acceptance and "understanding" -- yeah, I know, I was being kind to a scorpion). Her hug was supposed to be a coming back together after she'd given me the silent treatment for 4 months.
I simply held up my hand and said, "No, thank you. I have nothing to say to you."
The look on her face is permanently fixed in my memory! She was stunned and stood there with her arms raised for a hug for a rather long time. She actually sputtered! Another friend was present and took her away as she was muttering something about "some people".
It actually gives me joy to recall -- she was a bully who had me eggshell-walking for at least a decade.
Then we are the bad guys if we become a dark empath.
#shadowwork = " evolution" . Only liveing out the shadow = being stuck. Only liveing life with rose colored glasses = being stuck 😊
I think the key is balance. Balance your angels in your demons and you will be fine❤
TY Shannon
@@zoraidita2022 I am a big old geek and I do lots of research and threw some of my research I found out that we not only have angels that will work for us but we also have demons and if you did not get your demons under control then they will control you. So I've had to learn to tame both my Angels Among demons LOL my angels think I'm part demon anyway LOL
@@zoraidita2022 th-cam.com/video/5NZMqLpQPo4/w-d-xo.html
Maybe dangerous without knowing it or intending it.
We are one of the most forward looking types...I think this is what allows us to so easily "shed" past difficulties and move on as if they never existed. This probably reads as quite cold to anyone who's been door-slammed by us.
I don't know if this is "an INFJ thing" or just me, but in many ways I can't see the point of the multiple conflicts and arguments that take place in many relationships. I feel like everyone should be naturally striving to find a good balance between the needs and desires of each/all in the relationship. If this isn't happening...and we've attempted, without fighting, to address it, and it's still not happening, what's the point of any additional messing around? This is door-slam time for this INFJ, and the sooner it happens, the less painful (or "dangerous") it will be for all involved.
Thanks!
2:23 I value someone opinion even its negative or not by not sharing those sensitive information about them self they often open up with in the conversation.
This is so spot on. Thank you so much.
Love them! ❤ you look so gorgeous 😊 thank you for all the information
This video was right on target! It made me take a new fresh look at myself.
I really caught on to item #2 - being unpredictable. People often think they know us like a book, but then they find a whole chapter they didn't count on! It can be shocking to them.😯 I'll bet that one of the unpredictable things they learn about us is that we can hit where it hurts. And it's a big surprise.
As for leaving without a fight or closure - well, I wonder if this is where our famous "door slam" comes in. In leaving what I knew would become an abusive relationship, I didn't argue or fight. I also left two religious groups - one was already abusive and the other was showing possible signals that way. I left without a "fight or closure," because I knew it would be useless to explain. To them, I left - but to me, it was a slammed door.
We've gotta do what we've gotta do.
Thank you so much for that. Really made my day , watching this video. thank you 🙏
Excellent! Especially the part about leaving without a fight or a need for closure. Thank you!
4:30 Maybe your right I often strategies before I engage in the conversation so i cant hurt there feelings.
I completely agree to point 5. I am amazed, because it is like you was talking about myself directly, although you only mentioned features of the personality type. But it's good, because this assures me, that you are very honest in things you say about us, the INFJ people.
Wow. You Hit a home run Wenzes This is being played out in my life right now. I have a strong sense of integrity. When bad things are said about my Character full out lies. I have to retreat and plan.
They will be getting my warrior self next appointment. Lol.
Such power to know thyself.
💜⭐️💜
Thank you miss 😁 I'm gonna listen to more of you. You're super helpful you have no idea.
I believe you are very good at this and I appreciate your time and insight. Thank you 🎉
I am silent as I observe and decipher all that is going on around me. I am cold and calculating and NEVER react. I respond in a calm, cool, controlled, manner heavy on the dry yet subliminal sarcasm. Undressing them mentally and emotionally with logic and intuition as I can read them like a book and know where they are weakest. I know their next move in advance and have a plan to invalidate their position. I then drop them like a bag of grain and walk away. Woe be to the woman who tries to manipulate or use me. I leave devastation in my wake.
So true, and so exciting to hear it from someone else! It's also nice to know that the little mamzer in me is AOK.
Wenze's what you've said is true!!!Jerome likes the explanations for understanding me.Thank you Wenze's ❤❤❤
Epic video. ❤
Amazing video! ❤
Outstanding video thank you
Very insightful and adds clarity -Thank You! 🦅☀️🦅💚
Totally pumped after listening to this 😁
We want a video that Talk more about the "Ti" child and how develop it 🙏💚🧡
Me gustó este video, y me gustaría que puedas hacer un vídeo interiorizado más los puntos 4 y 5 , porque yo me encuentro en un momento en mi vida en que estoy viviendo esos puntos
el punto es que somos amantes y visionarios de la honestidad y la verdad, atesoramos estos valores por encima de otros valores sociales, etc... cuando a las personas se les recuerda que lo que aman es algo secundario, se enojan con nosotros y cuando señalan contra nuestro amor. de verdad no estamos enojados porque sabemos bien que lo que amamos está verdaderamente por encima de cualquier otro valor de la tierra
I hadn't thought about how the door-slam doesn't give them the opportunity to fight or to have any closure. Thank you for bringing that up.😊
I always look forward to your vlogs. I become more ME. 🤩
Agreed and well put.
So helpful as always, thank you 💫✨
Please don't call me a Narcissist
Thank you
9:05 "... the real reality is actually F..."
how poignant.
It's simply tells the both sides why I can be harmless and sometimes it's very dangerous because of my unpredictable nature
infj - gets mad ...everyone - call in the troops 😂😂😂
1:14 Maybe they crave for my flattery and make them feel heard and I value the conversation as the topic that they provide.
Number five is extremely accurate
10:30 I make them happy in my side so the detachment is dangerous towards them.
Thank you for correcting few things, I have started thinking I suffer from NPD maybe
This happens at work.
People who need to feel smarter than me find out. My boss rn - spent years ignoring my professional advice (we’re tech writers but I’ve worked in IT as a systems designer - bc I have an autistic aptitude for it.) - never seeing that I was trying to help him, the team, and the company be successful. He’s too immature and competitive and simply doesn’t understand what a real team player is all about.
Well, he crossed the rubicon 2 years ago when he rejected systems design advice - first from me (a certified expert at this - I beat the machine in speed and accuracy at IBM in drawing up an optimized database design - this after the men in the room suggested “the girl” should go get them coffee), then from the business analysts I looped in to talk reason to this vain fellow, then when I got him to test his design with UX and it bombed with a 0% passing rate (my piece, that was added to make it look fair, passed). At this point, he kicked me off the project, threw me into a chaotic project, refused to back me up, ran interference on all my work so that I’d not meet my goals - a total meltdown, basically. I just learned yesterday from one of the business managers that they had said at the time that I was being set up to fail. (Felt so nice to learn that people had noticed.)
Instead, I redesigned the workflows on the new team, got the PM on my side so I could hit my goals (my boss was shocked to learn I’d delivered 100%. I asked my new team to help me and they loaded my calendar with meetings so he couldn’t see I was really building out training and getting my team trained without his interference), and won us $850k in concessions from a vendor who had misrepresented their software’s capabilities. Year 2 on this project and I’ve established a successful team and we’re delivering on 2 of the CEOs 4 company goals for the year.
Meanwhile, my boss is still struggling to design that project he booted me off of. Their failed designs don’t work, they slip delivery year after year - 2 weeks ago he was informed he had until year end (his original date was last Dec, then he slipped to this Dec, then next Dec - well, 3 weeks ago he has until this Dec, and they’re no further along than 2 years ago. He’s got 4 months to wrap it up and they’re about 10% done. He tried putting me on the migration work this year - like “us big brains will design it and you peons will build it.” (He put two of my colleagues to lead the project - they’re English majors who have even less computer experience snd aptitude than he does. This makes him the 1-eyed man in the land of the blind. Knowing nothing, they spent my 18 months in the project talking down to me like I’m a bonehead - classic Dunning-Kruger effect.
Not understanding me, he thought I’d jump at the chance to be part of the cool kids team again. I don’t care for being part of the cool kids - I’d rather listen to the people I serve and build a system they need, not stand proudly like s know it all boasting about myself. So - nope! I was busy all year working on this disaster project he threw me under, thank you very much. It’s going great and I’m expanding my network like crazy.
Those business leaders he ignored are working with me in this, they’ve said they have my back, and suggested I let him own his disaster. He’s trying to go around them to tell their teams that they have to migrate all their work on their own and help him design the system - this year. The business leaders told me over coffee that they confronted him at a leadership event Wednesday to say he’d better stop going around channels and btw their staff had no time to work in his project. He’s sunk. And when it becomes clearer he had a systems designer on his team who handed him a blueprint for the design, confirmed by the business leaders, and a migration/training plan that he rejected bc ? His vanity ? - when it becomes clear he tried to get me fired or quit - the guy is toast.
He’s done this to other women before me who transferred to other departments. He’s made enemies and I’m through defending him.
But this whole video about being dangerous - I’ve been supportive of him, handing him solutions to problems without seeking praise or acknowledgment for years. He’s too dumb to understand how smart I am - bc he’s an English major who thinks he’s impressing people with big words, while I’m an autistic science geek who doesn’t think in words. I think in kinetic 4-D transparent images that I then translate into words (so I can appear slow at times - but MIT applied to me when I was 16, sending me a $25k check for 4-yrs tuition, just because of my STEM scores. West Point did the same - no need to apply, you’re admitted, full scholarship, bc they’d just opened to women and were trying to increase their female enrollment. People always mistake me for a dumb girl, when they need to feel smart. My boss really doesn’t get me at all)
I pivoted and moved on, my crazy team manager actually found out I was INFJ and reorganized our working relationship around that -so that we’re now clocking big wins, starting with that $850k last year, and I’m enjoying some well-earned schadenfreude as I watch my boss getting called out.
He’s feeling it. Next week I already know he’s going to try to pull me off my project to help him and his fan-girl club out, and I’m already prepared with a kick-tight case for why I just can’t do that this year, but I’m sure his A-team there’s got this. 😘
Please can you create a comparison between male and female INFJ ?
6:39 They open up but i dont use it against them.
The ability to switch things up and switch off toward someone is more of an INFJ-A trait. INFJ-T agonizes a lot about change and hates it. They may do what needs to be done, but it is not so effortless as described in this video.
That is called the infj door slam
9:47 So that why after months of interaction with them and know all there secrets they're carefully engaging in my conversations. I think its a defense mechanism so i can protect there secrets with out offending me.
My confrontational side my raw rage
Jesi u pravu si, veoma veoma ste opasni, zato sto ste ludi.
OMG, the Spider and the Fly.
11:48 Maybe im manipulative in a good way.
some of what you have said is true and i am very aware of it if some rubs me up the wrong way but i am not into people pleasing empathy trying to fix others advise others some do not appreciate any help i offer but the ones that i allowed to get addicted to me drained the life out of me. i allowed many things to affect me and found impossible to bring them to closure. i took flower essences for rsentment and hurt but the memory and experiunce is still there
Door slam those MFers
I'm an INFJ and bf is an INTP. We balance each other out.
Oh yes I see things totally different about people. And others around me.
Others force us to become dangerous.
We did not have to develop this trait for nothing. It has been proven to be lifesaving
Ever see that video of a guy lighting his fart and he caught on fire? That’s real danger to me. Everyone else doesn’t scare nor hurt me.
no 1 can only be dangerous if people decide to use/play games with an infj
I got a personality test nd i got (infj a/t) in it, but i don't think im imfj, as i do help people like hell when something unjustice happens to em, but other than that im seriously not that helping, first i think of myself then only for other,so probably i have some different personality but not this good boy helping hand one,but yes that do happen that coz i can read people so easily so i know whats there most healing point nd what's hurt em the most, so i can we both healing nd destroying one, but mostly healin😈 🧿
I would advice someone not be addicted to me. I could flip out
We don't care enough to make other people's lives miserable
This about to be another backfire video lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They want to be center of attention so bad, that we just take a step back for them to shine. And then when it is our turn to show up and show out, they either are surprised or get hella mad like we were the fake ones but we're like "no, you wanted to be seen by everyone else so damn bad, that we weren't going to compete with you; so we just let you have the spot light and waited patiently for our turn to step in or until someone else gets curious about us"
Like why do we need to be seen so badly
Ok but maybe “extremely dangerous” is a little exagerated or too much to say. We are not psychos and we don’t want to hurt people. That would be extremely dangerous.
Dangerous =/= malicious. I think Wenzes explained this quite well.
Door slam is an obvious solution for us but lack of closure completely fks most people's heads up - as Wenzes say's it's extremely painful 4 others but u know...fk em, they usually deserve it 👍
@@gideonscheepers4340 I don’t find any of these traits that infj’s have as being extremely dangerous. People not expecting us to be this way, yes…them having a big problem with us, yes…us being extremely dangerous, no, I don’t think so.
@@toneloc-cz2xi I agree, it’s painful, but not something they didn’t deserve. And usually, we try for a long time to make things work. We don’t just dissapear for no reason. We just get tired of it and we had enough. And they do know why we dissapeared. No closure is us giving ourselves a present and not fight with that person becouse we know there’s no point.
@@luciatat4084 Exactly. Good rule of thumb is 95% of everything is absolutely worthless sht: pop music, food, TV shows and.... 95%+ of people!
Knowing this and setting your expectations accordingly saves empathic people a world of trouble (and effort) : )
I'll pass.
Ge I didn't know people can be addicted to me. I would advice them not to be
I’m really curious, what is your ethnicity?
I‘m Bulgarian 😊
My good Friend is an infj. Super insecure style.
Absolutely true.You provide the clearest possible explanation.
I don't play games with others I don't see why others get off on it. It's a child game in the play ground
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They might have whiplash backlash karma
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Wenzes, dudes most likely are downloading any pink poster.. call me stupid I wouldn't download just for that reason alone.
Come on woman
Know better than that
God bless 🙏💚
INFJ because of these types of videos? Hahahahaha 😂
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Is that true? People can get addicted to INFJ? REALLY?
SO HOW CAN I GET SWIFFER SWEEPER ADDICTED TO ME?
😂😂😂😂 LOL
GOD BLESS 🙏💚
Yes. A, B, c , d; W T F 😂😂😂😂😎
You already have this video why are you doing it again ? INFJ's do not want to hurt any person INFJ'S are caring people healthy ones unhealthy INFJ'S would think this way you really need to learn from an INFJ' that are healthy to put out content .