You know Uso Ron, when I was younger, my dad will not let us go anywhere. Growing up in Samoa, he wouldn't even let us go to our own uncles aunts houses during the daytime much less night time. My dad passed away and I've always hated him as a kid for it. But I'm thankful because he knew something that I was oblivious to as a kid and now Im thankful he did what he did
Did you apologize to your Dad for hating him all of those years, that he was protecting you the abused that he suffered from his family? You had a great dad man, may your dad Rest In Peace.
@@daygodemolitionunit5873 carrying on his legacy is the best apology. You were a kid, you made mistakes. He died knowing that your anger did not really come from a place of hate.
As a Hawaiian, many of my uncles were molested in the 60’s and 70’s, all lived fucked up lives. One recently went to jail for molesting my child cousin. And I was molested as a child and deal with trauma silently as a married man. I can’t remember it all. I’m also a convicted felon myself, and the doctors say I’m bipolar. I hope we can all find peace and break this cycle *update* Thanks for all the kind reply’s, but I have yet to seek out therapy or find peace. My marriage suffered and now I’m going through a divorce…
I so understand and thank you for your story. I'm a 57 yr old black woman who was molested for many years as a child by an uncle. This behavior is in every culture. It had a profound affect on my life. I built up walls that I'm still trying to tear down. Please believe and watch your children.
Me too . . . and my mother now 80 years old knew full well, and when he died last year fully expected me to console her. She took his side to the grave . . . “I'm still going thru it, he was 70 year old and ain't had nobody in the world” Really? Yeah ok, stay a better sister than a mother -- I stay the hell away.
@@livefromtheground7274 I’m so sorry you went through that and you still haven’t received your justice, trust I believe you and it wasn’t your fault. Shame on him!!!
@Asmr Straw what kind of rock do you stay under? You need to come to the outside world. I have friends who have been SA'd and yes we are all black. It's in every culture.
Unfortunately as Polynesian people our cultures are so based on children staying in their place even when we’re adults. As a Polynesian woman I’m really proud of you for doing this and sharing your story❤️🙏🏽. So many of us stay silent for life and we implode and let it effect our lives. We have to be different for the next generation! For those who are bashing him: he’s not putting down Samoan culture. This happens in all cultures but WE NEVER talk about it. There could be kids who are going through it right now watching this video. Be better!!
Thank you for sharing what All cultures need to address. When we don't address it the cycle continues! We survivors must heal and not stay stuck or it can keep us from thriving in our communities or villages as a (whole)❤
This happen in homes...school...church...etc why??? They groom there innocents on the silent ones...the ones who is innocents can not speak..the silent of the pack who is threaten..the vulnerable ones...men and woman...are hidden..cover up are still doing there abuses so right even in my culture to swept under the carpet told to stay hush hush..yet our kids are hurting in silent...it is time they come out and face there maker..the law of honesty or go to jail..how can uses ( abuser ) sleep at night..yeah..how sick uses are get help While it not to late to own up face your innocent ones and stop get help.. The innocent are threaten..groom with ???? Yet abuses is out to get the innocent while there sick way is carrying on behind close doors...why act on the vulnerable...causes uses are not caught yet but uses will...watch your kids...youth etc dont trust nooooo one...catch themm you know who uses are..stop while you can!!!!. Or face the consequent of begin caught ( men / women ) out..they won't be kids..they won't be silent..soon uses will be caught...uses go to church to face your maker with lies than come home and do the unforgiving shit...dont trust noooo one even in families..etc ware ever you are..
I'm speaking only of our samoan culture. It is based on your position but it was never meant to silent any member no matter the age. This falls directly on the leadership of each family! 💯agree with you that we have to change the bad habits to better the future generations! 🙏
No one wants to talk about these issue within our culture. I’m Polynesian man and I was molested by a family member and I went through a lot as far as my sexuality and being “confused” and how that link to being touched on as a kid. I also wen through drug abuse and all sort of bullshit because of it. Now being sober I confronted my family and no one wants to talk about it and almost blamed me for bringing it up. If it’s kooh I would like to talk about it on your platform uso. Hope this help. Malo 🤙🏾
I had to confront my Dad in our family meeting because my sister almost lost her life on what happened. Then I started to speak the truth on what my uncle did my extended family still turned a blind eye and wanted to keep interacting with the man who took my childhood. So i teach my kids to speak the truth even if others want to cover traumas and they know I am that Momma who will stand by them and rip any farkers are new one. Thank you for doing this so many kids will watch and know that they aren't alone
I often wondered why id get so mad crazy and violent. It wasn't until i was admitted to a mental health institution that i realised where all my rage stemmed from. Now 30yrs on from the SA i experienced in my adolescence to now being a survivor, i now understand why i was drunk, drugged up or fighting strangers all the time. Im alot more peaceful these days and though i am able to control my intrusive thoughts, my body never forgets. You are brave for talking about your experience brother, maybe one day i can be brave enough to speak openly about mine.❤🇨🇰🇳🇺🏴
@JustSayNoToTV its pretty rude to make an assumption about someone else's experience. I was ok with silence, im not ok with strangers telling me what im experiencing or where it comes from.
A lot of times, it is parents not realizing or just not wanting to accept that their brothers or sisters or stepdads are capable or have their dark sexual predatory side expressed on their children.
well it happens. i come from a two parent home and my abuser was my oldest brother. when my parents were told nothing was done. i've suffered for decades.
My man. Never, ever be embarrassed for telling the truth. The shame comes from lying. Any group, race, ethinicity, is 1 generation away from being healthy and strong if there is a commitment to truth.
Thanks for sharing this. I'm Pakistani and we have a lot of chomos in our community that get away with it because we come from a very conservative culture and sex is a taboo as well as "respecting your elders" type of culture. Us Pakistani kids felt so lonely until we saw that the Black and White and other communities also deal with their share of chomos. Thanks for being so brave and being able to give criticism to your own community. I tried doing that at our Muslim spiritual camp over Memorial day weekend and a lot of older men hushed me down and said only "Catholic priests molest boys, our Muslim scholars would never" but being a victim of it myself and knowing my cousins got molested too, I know they are in denial covering up our community's dark secret.
Keep speaking and building community with folks in your Pakistani Muslim community who do want to talk about it and do something about it. Help change things for now and in the future.
I'm not from Samoa, but unfortunately this problem is worldwide and I think it's so great that you talk about it and for me you're one of the few who have the courage to talk about abuse that makes you a special person and a hero. I wish that your wounds heal."LET THE BEAUTY OG WHAT YOU LOVE BE WHAT YOU DO" Peace Love & Light🙏🏽🩷😇
Thank you for your kind words and support. You're right, the issue of abuse extends far beyond Samoa, reaching communities worldwide. I appreciate your acknowledgement of the courage it takes to address this difficult topic. Healing is a journey, and I'm grateful for your well wishes. We can all make a difference by shedding light on these issues and promoting peace, love, and healing. May your path be filled with peace, love, and light as well. 🙏
I really respect your transparency. Was molested by my mom's boyfriend who was old enough to be her father, so he was practically old enough to be my grandfather. Many black women are speaking up about these things because there is this "keep it in the family" "hush" mentality in Black American culture too, which would be fine if the family actually dealt with it. However many times they don't. Wish you the best and healing in your journey.
That's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. Dave Chappelle had a theory about abused against black women. He said white women report abusive boyfriends and husbands to the police. Asian women report them to police. But when a black woman is abused by a black man, she doesn't call the police because she knows the police will likely have a disproportionate reaction towards him since he is a black man. He could literally be murdered via police brutality. So I think the statistics of how many black people are raped, abused, molested (whether the victims be women, men, or children)... I think all of your stats are wayyyy below the TRUE stats because your hurt goes unreported moreso than other races. It's very sad.
@@Lee-fw9mr yeah I'm sure that's the case. Also, there is a reality that many women in this situation are relying on financial help from the abuser so they are more inclined to turn a blind eye. Some pedophiles may even "hook" up with single moms to have access to their children. The whole situation is sad, but it gets better when more people begin to speak out. Be blessed
I dated a Polynesian girl recently and the stories she told me of her past, along with the ongoing family problems she had, they shook me. She tried to separate herself from the culture as a defense mechanism. As much as I believe in family, sometimes you have to cut off the toxic parts to keep on growing.
“I’m not loose with my kids running around unsupervised”. As a victim this statement is the reason I’m fully committed in my child’s upbringing to avoid any fked up scenario’s that she may fall in
It's so upsetting to see so many have gone through this. I had best friends since the 5th grade who were sisters. I never knew while we were young they were being touched my their step dad. I only learned later in our teen years. It hurt my heart so badly. I almost have survivors guilt feeling like I'm one of the few who made it out. But I also knowing all of this feel the same as him about not letting my kids have sleep overs and stuff and it scares me when it comes to dating. Like how do I make sure the man I entrust to produce offspring with doesn't carry this dark desire. I know to pray for discernment and all and I am a believe in Jesus Christ for sure but men can be so deceiving it's not even funny. I also wouldn't want my kids around their family and I know that may upset whoever they end up being but oh well. I will protect my future kids at all costs don't care who don't like me for it. I can say the one thing I remember from my childhood is my mom always always always told me to be vocal and communicate with her if anyone ever made me feel uncomfortable and as a kid I used to think she was annoying always asking me that but now I am so thankful she did. If anything it instilled in me that no one is allowed to make me feel uncomfortable and to speak up. I will make sure to do the same. Protect our babies at all costs! Quit normalizing pedos!
@chenanigans I don't have kids either. I have neices and nephews. They are all grown now. My brother was very protective of them. They could not do sleep overs and I was glad. He also took them to school and picked them up. Their mom was a little more trusting of people but he wasn't. I always worry about my nieces and nephews because it is a cruel world we live in.
I was sexually abused by an older woman when I was 9 years old. I was also beat up pretty bad by my father. It took me years to understand that my anger and my violence were rooted in these evils. Today, I make sure to be there to protect my children. Thank you for sharing brother, your courage is admirable.
💯... it's the same sh!t in Black culture. I agree with every word you spoke. I used to feel like I was born into a family of monsters and decided not to have children of my own. Now my family is completely spread out and the perpetrators are old and dying. I don't feel bad for them and am thankful that my youngest sister has done a good job of protecting her kids. -Respect
That's a damn lie!!! Black men in America are the least likely to be arrested for chomo activity. That's white America and BW hatred towards BM promoting lies on us constantly. Why don't u say anything about the women messing with underage boys? Which happens way more than BM but BW get a pass? NOBODY SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT THAT
2 major issues in disenfranchised cultures (I'm a black man married to a Polynesian (native Hawaiian) woman. 1. Our children are sexualized early. 2. We tend to hide our problems like child molestation and other heinous crimes because we suffer from untrue stereotypes as it us. But I appreciate you fam, for putting this front and center. Both my wife and myself have relatives guilty of this.
I was thinking this as well. I'm Black American. While this is an issue in most cultures, for communities of color there are added stigmas that make discussing these things more complicated.
Quit buttin in trying to take attention away from the subject, No one cares what race you are, nothing to do with you lol its not shocking just weird at this point
I’m grateful my father was a real one. I grew up getting ass whoppings all the time. He really made protecting my sisters virtues his priority. They weren’t allowed to have sleepovers anywhere but home. I thought he was mad and so did my sisters. Maybe he went through SA when he was young but you’ll never hear him talk about it. My sisters are grown and married and love that my father protected them till marriage.
I'm the same way with my daughters. I was never touched but I had heard enough stories from people to know not to trust people alone with my kids except my Mom, sister and brother. I don't even trust my Dad, not because he ever did anything but because he has other problems and if I can't 100% trust you then I'm not giving you authority over my kids.
So true. I remember seeking advice from a respected older woman in our community, we’re both Samoan, about confronting an SA molester. She said but it’s just how men are. I was like, no young girls have a right not to be abused. I saw the veil fall from her eyes as it hit her. I think she was also a victim and carried that around that for years, that somehow she was to blame. But you know what, God never forgets what’s done in the dark to His little ones. My abuser died of prostate cancer.
Respect! Thank you for your integrity and courage. African American culture experiences the same problem with passed down traumas from the abuses from our enslavers. People who don’t heal or don’t feel empowered often victimize others. It is hard to watch our loved ones try to process and transcend all the traumas they have endured. All we can do is do all we can to make sure this wickedness is not visited upon the next generation and help those who have experienced this abuse along their journey to healing. God bless you!
@David Goodlett it must be so nice to blame all the evil of your community on an experience none alive has ever had. The appropriation of your ancestors’ suffering is shameful.
I feel you, bro! Much respect for speaking your truth. Im sorr that African American culture deals with those deep-rooted traumas from back in the days of enslavement. When people don't find healing or get that sense of power, they end up passing on that hurt to others. It's painful to see those who struggle to overcome all that mess they've been through. We gotta break that cycle, bro. We can't let that wickedness keep on going. We gotta protect the next generation, make sure they dont have to go through the same pain. Your are inspiring and courageous as well my brother. God bless you 🙏
I'm mexican but have the same problem, I just dont get why guys do that to children, like what do you get out of it :(, im gonna do everything to protect my kids if i ever have them. edit: you're a strong dude for admitting that, im very sorry that happened to you. You are one of my favorite prison channels because you seem like a reformed person and a genuinely good person. Ill keep you in my prayers.
Thank you brother I really appreciate your words and your continuous support. I will pray that together we can all heal and bring light to all cultures. Much love.🙏
Yea man generally speaking each culture or ethnicity goes thru the same problems. It's just that some are more obvious with it while others are more quiet, reserved.
I was molested too. I really didn’t know how bad it affected me. I’ve never told my family, not even my wife about it and the guy been dead for decades now. It still affects still this. day. My lack of confidence and self-apathy has always been a struggle and I never knew where it came from. But it comes from what happened to me. I’m starting to accept what happened to me more. It doesn’t mean I’m not still angry, sad, disgusted and ashamed of it but it becoming more bearable. You got to keep moving forward and be as positive as you can. I hope for all those who been through these similarly situation can find away to move forward and find sometype of Joy with in themselves
"I want to take a moment to thank all of you who have shared your own stories and struggles in the comments. Your courage and vulnerability are truly inspiring. Please know that you are not alone, and that together we can create a better future. Keep fighting, my brothers and sisters 👊🏽 Uso Ron
@30 to Life I grew up from poor Greek immigrants but my 2nd Families were Uso’s & Tokos (& Cook Islanders & Māoris). This also happens in my culture & this happened to me & my best friend Toko in Primary School & it messed us up 😔. My generation Samoans & Tongans were only family I could talk to about this-because our elders wouldn’t listen & just swept under the rug 😢. It made us super volatile, run in gangs, in & out of prison etc. I’m still trying to heal. Thank you 🙏 brother Ron for bringing this up, God Bless
Man, hearing you and other men like you speak on your SA experience really helps men like myself open up and talk about when it happened to me. Growing up in the Black community, it was looked down apon and shamed to talk about things like this as a man. We're told to "suck it up" and "just be a man about it" but the trauma never goes away. Thank you for sharing bro, I believe it's time I do the same. ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
I grew up in Samoa and all my life I thought depression, panic attacks, anxiety was a weakness/excuse that other people would use cause they were scared or lazy. After 12 years of being an Army Vet and now working as a first responder, I learned it all later in life. I wish I seeked help when I was younger. It probably would’ve helped with some of the shit I go through mentally. It’s tough hearing about problems especially about our own culture and our own home, but ignoring will not help. I appreciate your honesty. I pray you continue to find peace and know that you’re not alone.
Thank you for your service brother 🙏 and thank you for your comment. Because of your background, I would like to invite you to speak with me on my podcast more in depth about this subject. If you are interested, please reach out to me at. official30tolife@gmail.com Thank you and God bless 🙏
@@roarorrelax9830 Well, that’s a blessing that it hasn’t but it has in many other cases. No bad things should be swept under the rug, ever! Blood does not make you family!
I hate the saying "let the past stay in the past". They don't realize that past plays over and over when you're traumatized. In that, the past is the present. Love this realness! 🙌🏾🖤🙌🏾
When I hear that quote, I automatically know that they had a dysfunctional past and whatever happened it was really bad and I always find a way for them to open up to me and yep, it was really bad 😔
@@kitkakitteh "forgot the past" quote is foolish, and it's impossible to do bcuz all your issues are from the past that wasn't addressed and bound to repeat it
This is painful, pitiful, and universal among all races. It's usually your own as well. Keep doing your thing Uso. Great "Taboo" topic. People never fully recover from this type of Bullshit!!! That's the main reason me and my wife always make sure we're always around our kids as much as possible. Prayers for internal healing for you and everyone going through this trauma. Including myself. 😣 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 ✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼
@@RebelZoe1804 it does start young with unchecked hormones, I know I was the same way as a kid. Praying God gives you the strength to raise your son's as best you can. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. I was blamed for what my sister's husband was doing to me... It made me an overprotective mother. Thank God He watched over me my whole life... They need this to heal
Thank you for sharing your courageous comment. It breaks my heart to hear what you went through and the pain you endured. It's truly unjust when victims are blamed instead of being supported. I'm glad that you've found strength in becoming an overprotective mother and that God watched over you throughout your life. By shining a light on these dark realities, we can create a space for healing and empower others who have faced similar experiences. Your words resonate deeply, and I hope this video brings solace and support to those who need it. Remember, you are not alone, and together, we can work towards healing and creating a safer world. Sending you love and healing vibes. 🙏❤
Use Ron, I'm so glad to hear you bring this up. I'm fijian, but it happens in our culture as well. I know of a family where the dad was sleeping with his daughter. He was caught, but the daughter nor the mother pressed charges against him & he is stiiled allowed in the home. He is a registered sex offender but still lives in the home. My head can't wrap around that. If no one speaks up for these innocent children, who will. I love the polynesian culture but this old bs has to stop. Love you Uso Ron. Thanks for all you do.
Sometimes it just takes 10 minutes and 10 seconds to change someone's life. It is the same in the Filipino culture as well. I wish more people would be as transparent as you to help create change. God bless you and your family Uso Ron. You are an inspiration my brotha.
There’s no shame in the truth… shame lies in the dark… it hides with secrets. This could help a LOT of people, young and old finally deal with this hard topic. You’re doing God’s work
Alot of times I feel that one of our greatest character flaws in our Polynesian culture is that we tend to turn a blind eye and mentally block out certain events in our lives as a coping mechanism. We need to acknowledge these painful negative events, even at the risk of making family members angry or possibly distancing from each other permanently.
I'm an East African of Samoan descent, and unfortunately this is how it's handled among many families in Tanzania, where many of my family live. I'm so grateful my Aiga, though, because they don't play that shit AT ALL. Sadly, that's a rare reaction.
@@bigislander72 Is that really so hard to understand? It’s just like saying you’re a Canadian of African descent or even an African of European descent or African of Asian descent, etc.
It’s a lot of different cultures that share the same traumas and it’s sad. Thank you for speaking up! It’s crazy the level of protection that a ChoMo gets. The people that rally around and protect the broken but neglect the innocent. I pray for the sake of the children that people wake up and turn a new leaf and ALWAYS CHOOSE TO PROTECT THE INNOCENT 😇 (they didn’t ask to be here)!
YES!!! Tongan here and I’m so relieved to see another Poly talk about this. What really infuriates me is when the old heads tell their kids not to talk about their abuse, say “It’s a curse”… so the babies don’t even get to heal-forget the pedos being brought to justice for destroying their innocence. Good thing is that there is a new generation reaching middle age and most of us would catch a case before we sit in shame and let them hurt our babies. Thank you for sharing, Uso ❤️ 🙏 EDIT: I just wanted to say, same here about how we raise our babies. My kids do not go to outsiders’ homes and only vetted kids that I also raised can be around mine or take them anywhere. It’s disgusting-the stories I could tell you of what I heard and saw and experienced growing up-it’s like it was normal. I’m glad that we are learning as a people how to heal because a LOT of us live in violence and substance abuse, depression for so long under that unhealed trauma… and the best part is that now, we know how to protect our children-our treasures. We’re moving in the right direction because we can speak of it now. Malo ❤️
it's interesting that it was considered a curse to speak about it but apparently not a curse to do it. Pedophiles say things like this to scare the children out of exposing them. I wish you well
Mayne! This is a whole blessing! Cause my whole family and the next generation is still experiencing this! We do need healing…… all my life I didn’t know why I was so crazy. It was the shame! I didn’t stop using people and drugs until I forgave myself. I was only seven but that thing haunted me as a grown women!
I just found your channel. You are saving lives by speaking out. I'm West Indian American and was raised in a cult. A lot of the trauma you spoke on is prevalent in my culture as well. Speaking out is breaking the chain of generational curses.
No. No it is not. Tf are you talking about? You're not even black!! Statistically speaking, it's very rare. Been around black people my ENTIRE life. Stop the cap. "Rampant"🤣 You dirty MFs always have to talk about us even when we have nothing to do with the topic.
@@KamalasNotLikeUs dang, do you realize you're probably talking to a black person affected by SA? It doesn't matter the race or culture, it's always the same! SA is the #1 global problem destroying children and adult victims of CSA and CSA victims are always silenced and shamed, just like you are doing now!
I'm not Samoan but I can tell you right now this is every culture thing. This happens in every single culture! It happened to me and I'm not Samoan. I have family and friends and who also went thru this as well. This is a demonic pandemic going on everywhere sadly.
Thank you for your transparency and bringing light to this. I’m a midwestern white girl who was abused by my older brother and experienced the same denial and disregard from my Christian family as well. I’m a stranger to them now far away with a family of my own & you better believe I hardly let my children go anywhere without myself or their dad present because I fear them being abused too. I know they hate me for it now but I hope when they grow up the understand I’m just doing what I can to protect them from the disgusting predators out there.
So true Uso. Elders were so worried about shame, instead of handling the situation and reporting these pedophiles. It's still happening to this day. Really not fair to our children. Thank you, Uso for talking about this subject. Pray that you and everyone that has been violated find help and be healed from the inside out. Alofa tele atu!!
Its Ironic they are so worried about shame but are willing to do shameful things to protect those who do the indefensible. Many are cowards and bullies who like to attack the defenseless then stride around like they are a big man, very satisfying to disabuse them of that notion in front of witnesses, and expose them for what they are. All their victims are women, children and the younger men of the family group who are not allowed to fight back.
Sad that it still happens today and hopefully we can continue to shed some light on it and get the healing and change that’s needed in our community. Thank you for your continued support! Much appreciated! Alofas 🤙
@30 to Life Uso Ron thanks for speaking on this issue. It happens in EVERY culture! I'm Liberian Lebanese and I was beaten and called a liar too! Sadly it was later confirmed that my rapist did the same thing to others in my family-his death was brutal and I'm happy for that! I've learned that many victims also turn to promiscuity, lesbian/gay amongst/including all you stated. I know of offenders that get a pass because they're big people (town elders, religious leaders, doctors, etc...) in communities or they provide financial assistance to poor families and friends no one talks about it; so the cycle continues... 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 For healing for all victims.
This is a real man right here. Uso Ron, its me Danny - I had you on my podcast One Island a few years back and we had a great chat bro. What you've talked about takes courage my uso. Because this shit happens in New Zealand, Australia and where ever our people are. And worse - it happens in our goddamn villages. I respect you and appreciate you for this bro. This has happened in my family also, and we do wear it as a cape of shame just because of village rules and church shit. All that stuff is bogus as fuck. Sending love and light my uso. You should read the Super Samoan Mark Hunt's book (former UFC fighter) he goes into detail about how he and his sister were abused by their father and I love that he presented it withoyt fear. Cos no motherfkin Samoan gonna step to that uso haha. Takes real men like y'all to bring us back to what really matters in our souls. Respect uso!
Thank you for sharing. This was powerful and courageous. In Dominican culture, the abusers basically get killed. Generally the authorities do not get involved and allow the jungle justice. If they go to jail, they’ll get dealt with too
Thank you 🙏🏽 brother for sharing. I’m half Samoan and half Tongan. I grew up strong on my Tongan side and this was a big problem in my Tongan family and culture. A movie comes to mind “Once were Warriors” the scene where uncle Pule gets his A$$ kicked ahahahaha!
You are a light in the nastiest darkness. My sister friend wrote a book about her sons being molested by the youth pastor in their church. Her and her children's courage put that animal in prison for 500 life sentences. He had been doing this in multiple churches from Ohio to Arizona, where his evil was brought to an end. Thank you for sharing this, and I pray that your heart, mind, soul, and spirit heal in the deepest place where the hurt dwells. Shalom 🙏🏽
"mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent". thank you for speaking my friend, this is nothing short of courageous. may ALLAH bless you and guide you and your family. this only increased my respect for you. And I wish i could be there to give you a big hug my brother. You are a great man. in sha ALLAH you continue helping others and guiding the youth, and I hope ALLAH heals your heart and helps you to help others heal too.
You’re brave and I appreciate your transparency. Secrecy is why these demons are able to continue abuse children. This happens in every culture. Abusers need to be shamed not the victims.
I can't imagine how it feels to be violated, to have something this insidious and traumatic happen to u and somehow find the courage to tell someone and the ppl that are supposed to protect u instead shame u, punish u, and blame u for being violated. I can't imagine how confusing that must be and how deep that hurt goes. 💔 I'm sorry this happened to u. I'm sorry this happens to ANYONE. 🥺🥺🥺
Faafetai tele lava Uso; you are very brave for talking about this. I have been married to my Teine Samoa for 30 years, and have learned a lot of about the wonderful Samoan Culture (but also some of the dark sides); like Moetotolos, physical abuse, and about the subject you are speaking about today in this video. I hope the elders watch your video, but more so, the middle age people now, so they can help to prevent this from happening to future generations. We have 3 daughters, and they have never had baby sitters, or have been left alone with any family members (no matter how much we might love and trust them), because of these facts you are speaking of. As a Palagi, I know this happens in many cultures, but I appreciate your honesty in speaking about this sad but true topic. Many Alofas Uso; Alofa Atu Always! 🙏🏼💙❤
Bro, I feel you! , I appreciate your support and recognizing the importance of addressing this issue. Sadly, you're right-it's not limited to one culture. This chomo spirit can be found far and wide. But together, we can raise awareness, challenge the status quo, and work towards creating a safer world for all. Let's keep pushing for change, my friend. Honored to have you on this journey with me. 🙌✊
It happens in every culture but the rates of this abuse in native cultures is horrific. Most people would be shocked, One study of one native group showed over 90% of girls were molested before 10 years old.
I think you are very brave to discuss this. I am a survivor of this in my early childhood myself. My parents handled it very poorly and I only got therapy when I went to College.And even after therapy your relationships are forever altered and you have major trust issues. It's not just a violation of your body, but also your soul. I've seen this now too in both the Samoan and Hawaiian Cultures, a lot. I would hazard a guess that at least 80% of inmates had been sexually coerced, groomed, or assaulted as children, and about that many had an absentee parent. I had massive problems learning as a little kid because my childhood was filled with anxiety, fear, shame and guilt. So I can relate. I wish for you only the best, and don't be afraid to be a truth teller. The truth is long over due. Aloha
Thank you for speaking on this cause!!! It goes unresolved and its like forbidden to be spoken on. Leaving! if not a lot but all of the victims mentally messed up! I am a victim to this too... And it's hard. Stay strong uce, all love! ❤
I'm sending you so much love. You are so strong. There is a big push in the empire's culture to normalize child abuse. Just the other night I found out the lead singer of Rd Hot Chili Peppers graped a 14 yr old girl and then wrote a song about it called "Catholic School Girls Rule" also wrote about it in his autobiography. Totally normal. It's so important for us to speak up instead of succumbing to the shame. ❤
I just read somewhere that 98% of childhood SA know their attacker and that it usually occurred in the home. This is a universal problem that need to be dragged into the light. Blessings to you and all survivors.❣️❣️🙏🙏
It was great to have someone to talk to about the things that happened For me, it was my uncle😢 He was always there to protect me, I just paid it forward and protected other family members True words Big up little Brother
I'm happy to hear that you had someone you could talk to about the things that happened. Having support is important in healing and moving forward. It's great to know that you, in turn, paid it forward by protecting other family members. Your actions speak volumes, and they demonstrate the strength and resilience within you. Keep spreading that love and protection, my brother🙌💪
Thank you for sharing this. It really helped me realize that I am not alone. I have been sexually assaulted by somebody on my Dad's side since I was 11. Nobody believed me until I was 19 years old. It developed trust issues with my dad's family. And just last year when I was 24, my dad wanted me to go see his family with him for vacation....but I didn't want to go without my sister. But I am so sorry you went through that. Lofa ea te oe uso.
I give you props for dealing with this head on in this very fashion. I agree that this is not something to keep in the dark. I hope this brings healing to those that need it. 💪🏿
Wow. Very deep conversation. I’m a mother of 4. I’ve been SA as well as a child. We need more people to be open like you and we need to start healing ourselves first before we can help the youth. ❤❤❤ facts. Good job. Ran into this channel by coincidence and I loved the topic. Got a new subscriber here.
Damn bruh. As a Brother it happens in my culture also. My Mexican and White potnas say the same also. Its sad. Instead of protecting our kids we be focus on our family "image." But just by folks speaking on it now means is not accepted anymore. Much love Uso Ron. You a strong homie 💯
Thank you, brother! Unfortunately, yes I do have friends in different cultures who have expressed this type of issue as well. I appreciate you and the support on this subject much love.
I really appreciate you for being open about this subject! It's something we all need to talk about with our elders! This exact same passed down trauma unfortunately happens in the black community as well! What makes it worst is the fact that our elders are comfortable playing the victim role. Nobody wants to "EVER" talk about past family traumas, and if they do, its never to discuss it and move on and heal from it. Its to play the blame game and gossip. However, that's the only way we'll be able to heal. We can't keep it bottled up forever! Much love to you brotha!!
My culture is Irish Catholic and I think there might be a similar thing. I wonder if it has to do with a subjugated people. But, regardless, I applaud your willingness to speak to your people about something like this. I feel that only good things can come from your addressing this. God bless you and yours.
Wanted to drop you this comment: I'm not Polynesian myself, but have ended up spending a lot of time with Polys and learning a lot about Polynesian cultures, and I have some idea of the courage that it takes to speak up about this in a public forum. Congrats to you for being strong enough to do this. Speaking about it takes the power of it away. I hope you continue down this road, both for yourself and for other people who may not have the strength to do what you are doing.
Appreciate you speaking on this topic uso. This has affected so many people in my family and people around me. Samoans tend to turn a blind eye and it makes me so angry. Blessing to all those who’ve gone through this or are still going through this. Please speak up and if they don’t listen, find someone who will coz this shit ain’t right.
Im a new subscriber and This happens a lot in the black community too. PLEASE dont stop talking about it and exposing the harm because there are others who will join you. Thank you for sharing. Prayers 🙏🏽 for the Samoan communities
As a fellow RarotonganAlot of my boys I grew up with in Australia are Samoan the ones I grew up with since day one have some stories within their family was sad to hear and how they had to cover it up to avoid shame and disrespect within the church and disgracing the family name. They had no one to turn to so they turned to their boys and ran a muck on the streets..it's sad to hear but things like this need to come to light and exposed. Shot Uso for bringing this out I know you'll have alot of Tokos n Usos who are suffering alone come out. Malo uce.
@@amandarecoveryjones8216 yeah I stop going church because i see no changes because most samoan i see they put churches first but they dont live the life style and god knows why i stay
I'm not Polynesian, but I thank you for speaking about this. This disgusting activity needs to be called out any and everywhere, preferably from those within the culture.
As a Black man, this honestly goes on a lot in my community as well. I respect your courage for going public about this. Our children deserved and deserve better. They deserve our protection over there innocence. Not for that to be violated due to someone sick and perverted fetish. I pray for all victims to receive healing and help for the after effects of those experiences. Amen 🙏🏿
I don’t know much about Samoan culture, but I randomly came across this video, and I really do feel like you’re gonna make a big positive impact in your community, with having these serious conversations, that get to the root of the problem 💯👌🏾
Continue to speak your truth Uce, in this case, our Cultures truth. This is one of many things our people need to address. Alofa aku, keep speaking up.
Thank you for sharing your story. This affects so many, myself included. It was a long hard road to healing and I still have so much more to work through. 🙏🙏🙏
God bless you Uso Ron for using your platform and your image to fight this. Through ministry, I've learned about just how rampant this occurs in traditional cultures. Whatever flack you get from people enabling this is nothing in comparison to what the perpetrators do. Judging by the comments, you've activated a generation who are fed up with it and ready to help heal.
Much respect for taking it upon yourself to speak out. Change is on the more seasoned members of a community to take a stand and not turn a blind eye to these things. Much love for you and your family 👊🌊🤲
I was reading 2 Corinthians 11, and what Paul went through helped me to remember that so many other people have gone through worse than I have..then i listen to this (first time seeing you) and it truly shows how strong man is. Regardless of lashing out in younger years, you're here with us. You may be feeling pain but you're one of the strongest people I now know.....
This ain't no shade towards Samoan culture. I'm from Turkey, and child/women abuse also happens way too frequently in my country too. Truth is, where there are men, there is abuse. Thank you for sharing your side of the story brother.
I commend you for being brave “courageous” enough to tell your truth! Your story will help others heal from the shame of abuse. “It” happens in ALL races & cultures! May you continue to be blessed throughout the duration of your life journey. Peace!
This is not at all what I was expecting when I read your title. I'm blown away and so deeply sorry you violated and harmed so sadistically by those who were supposed to protect you.
It’s sad how common this is across all communities. I come from a family where these things happened. I keep my daughters. So close they don’t ever really wanna be away from me! 😩😩😩 But the things I experienced as a kid makes it hard to just let them go with people, especially when they don’t want to.
It's crazy how widespread this is in all communities. I've personally experienced it in my own family, which makes it difficult for me to let my daughters be away from me. I keep them close because of the things I went through as a child. 😩 Their safety and happiness are my top priorities, and I'll always listen to their feelings and do everything I can to protect them.
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You know Uso Ron, when I was younger, my dad will not let us go anywhere. Growing up in Samoa, he wouldn't even let us go to our own uncles aunts houses during the daytime much less night time. My dad passed away and I've always hated him as a kid for it. But I'm thankful because he knew something that I was oblivious to as a kid and now Im thankful he did what he did
Shoutout to your pops! May he rest in love!! Thank you for sharing 🙏
Did you apologize to your Dad for hating him all of those years, that he was protecting you the abused that he suffered from his family? You had a great dad man, may your dad Rest In Peace.
I did not...One of my many regrets...he passed while I was still young. Now as a man, I can only hope to live up to his teachings and many lessons.
Bless your father, I have a 5 years old daughter and I’m on that shit…..
@@daygodemolitionunit5873 carrying on his legacy is the best apology. You were a kid, you made mistakes. He died knowing that your anger did not really come from a place of hate.
As a Hawaiian, many of my uncles were molested in the 60’s and 70’s, all lived fucked up lives. One recently went to jail for molesting my child cousin. And I was molested as a child and deal with trauma silently as a married man. I can’t remember it all. I’m also a convicted felon myself, and the doctors say I’m bipolar. I hope we can all find peace and break this cycle
*update*
Thanks for all the kind reply’s, but I have yet to seek out therapy or find peace. My marriage suffered and now I’m going through a divorce…
the psychological trauma is ongoing and tiring. seek therapy if you haven't because it really can be helpful.
@@LynnHarris-zq2or stfu! the hell's wrong wit u?
peace to u brother
Hoping for healing for you
Brain forgetting that specific incident is probably for the best.
I so understand and thank you for your story. I'm a 57 yr old black woman who was molested for many years as a child by an uncle. This behavior is in every culture. It had a profound affect on my life. I built up walls that I'm still trying to tear down. Please believe and watch your children.
Me too . . . and my mother now 80 years old knew full well, and when he died last year fully expected me to console her. She took his side to the grave . . . “I'm still going thru it, he was 70 year old and ain't had nobody in the world” Really? Yeah ok, stay a better sister than a mother -- I stay the hell away.
@@livefromtheground7274 I’m so sorry you went through that and you still haven’t received your justice, trust I believe you and it wasn’t your fault. Shame on him!!!
Yes, you are absolutely correct. Its a hidden fact.
@Asmr Straw that's cap.
@Asmr Straw what kind of rock do you stay under? You need to come to the outside world. I have friends who have been SA'd and yes we are all black. It's in every culture.
The shame should NEVER be on the victims! It's SOLELY on the shoulders of the perpetrators! KEEP GETTING THE MESSAGE OUT THERE!
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THANK YOU!
Bro this is seriously a large problem actually that is more ambiguous than you would think molesters should NEVER get away with abusing
Sounds like the church for some reason 🤔🤐
Absolutely 100%
Unfortunately as Polynesian people our cultures are so based on children staying in their place even when we’re adults. As a Polynesian woman I’m really proud of you for doing this and sharing your story❤️🙏🏽. So many of us stay silent for life and we implode and let it effect our lives. We have to be different for the next generation!
For those who are bashing him: he’s not putting down Samoan culture. This happens in all cultures but WE NEVER talk about it. There could be kids who are going through it right now watching this video. Be better!!
Thank you for sharing what All cultures need to address. When we don't address it the cycle continues! We survivors must heal
and not stay stuck or it can keep us from thriving in our communities or villages as a (whole)❤
As a black man I totally agree with you. This happens in all cultures.
This happen in homes...school...church...etc why??? They groom there innocents on the silent ones...the ones who is innocents can not speak..the silent of the pack who is threaten..the vulnerable ones...men and woman...are hidden..cover up are still doing there abuses so right even in my culture to swept under the carpet told to stay hush hush..yet our kids are hurting in silent...it is time they come out and face there maker..the law of honesty or go to jail..how can uses ( abuser ) sleep at night..yeah..how sick uses are get help
While it not to late to own up face your innocent ones and stop get help..
The innocent are threaten..groom with ???? Yet abuses is out to get the innocent while there sick way is carrying on behind close doors...why act on the vulnerable...causes uses are not caught yet but uses will...watch your kids...youth etc dont trust nooooo one...catch themm you know who uses are..stop while you can!!!!. Or face the consequent of begin caught ( men / women ) out..they won't be kids..they won't be silent..soon uses will be caught...uses go to church to face your maker with lies than come home and do the unforgiving shit...dont trust noooo one even in families..etc ware ever you are..
Castration is in order!
I'm speaking only of our samoan culture. It is based on your position but it was never meant to silent any member no matter the age. This falls directly on the leadership of each family! 💯agree with you that we have to change the bad habits to better the future generations! 🙏
No one wants to talk about these issue within our culture. I’m Polynesian man and I was molested by a family member and I went through a lot as far as my sexuality and being “confused” and how that link to being touched on as a kid. I also wen through drug abuse and all sort of bullshit because of it. Now being sober I confronted my family and no one wants to talk about it and almost blamed me for bringing it up. If it’s kooh I would like to talk about it on your platform uso. Hope this help. Malo 🤙🏾
Your not alone! Stay strong ❤
Thank you for your support and thank you for sharing. Email me @ official30tolife@gmail.com
@@kayyfono1466 you as well 🙏🏾
Dam toko sorry this happened to you and it's even more fucked up for the family not backing you up.
God Bless you.
I had to confront my Dad in our family meeting because my sister almost lost her life on what happened. Then I started to speak the truth on what my uncle did my extended family still turned a blind eye and wanted to keep interacting with the man who took my childhood. So i teach my kids to speak the truth even if others want to cover traumas and they know I am that Momma who will stand by them and rip any farkers are new one. Thank you for doing this so many kids will watch and know that they aren't alone
Amen! Protect them always.
When I was growing up in the 70s, you never told on Uncle so n so because he could lose his job. They literally protected the predator.
@@armywife2248 so sorry about that. You deserved protection and he deserved consequences for his actions.
It saddens my heart to hear this! Yes we have to try our best to be strong for our children!
Turning that blind eye, that's the biggest form of betrayal
I often wondered why id get so mad crazy and violent. It wasn't until i was admitted to a mental health institution that i realised where all my rage stemmed from. Now 30yrs on from the SA i experienced in my adolescence to now being a survivor, i now understand why i was drunk, drugged up or fighting strangers all the time. Im alot more peaceful these days and though i am able to control my intrusive thoughts, my body never forgets. You are brave for talking about your experience brother, maybe one day i can be brave enough to speak openly about mine.❤🇨🇰🇳🇺🏴
It's not your body Lana, it's your unconscious mind where it lives constantly. We are who we say we are. "As you think so shall you be."
@JustSayNoToTV its pretty rude to make an assumption about someone else's experience. I was ok with silence, im not ok with strangers telling me what im experiencing or where it comes from.
@Eli Zee thank you for your understanding, it means alot to me🙏🩷💞
Yes,old school beat down and maybe they think twice next time!
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As a father, I don't know how this could get a pass from a parent. Blessings to all the victims and bless you for attempting to break the cycle.
A lot of times, it is parents not realizing or just not wanting to accept that their brothers or sisters or stepdads are capable or have their dark sexual predatory side expressed on their children.
well it happens. i come from a two parent home and my abuser was my oldest brother. when my parents were told nothing was done. i've suffered for decades.
It can happen when both parents are separated and irresponsible. When I was young my mother left us with family members who took full advantage.
@@ericac.4316 that Sux. 😡😡😡🤬😭
My man. Never, ever be embarrassed for telling the truth. The shame comes from lying. Any group, race, ethinicity, is 1 generation away from being healthy and strong if there is a commitment to truth.
100%
Thanks for sharing this. I'm Pakistani and we have a lot of chomos in our community that get away with it because we come from a very conservative culture and sex is a taboo as well as "respecting your elders" type of culture. Us Pakistani kids felt so lonely until we saw that the Black and White and other communities also deal with their share of chomos.
Thanks for being so brave and being able to give criticism to your own community.
I tried doing that at our Muslim spiritual camp over Memorial day weekend and a lot of older men hushed me down and said only "Catholic priests molest boys, our Muslim scholars would never" but being a victim of it myself and knowing my cousins got molested too, I know they are in denial covering up our community's dark secret.
So disgusting!
May Allah send them to the lake of fire on the day of judgment..inshallah!
Keep speaking and building community with folks in your Pakistani Muslim community who do want to talk about it and do something about it. Help change things for now and in the future.
Dang bruv. I'm sorry to hear that ....
@thomasboyce4589 I appreciate that brother! 🙏
I'm not from Samoa, but unfortunately this problem is worldwide and I think it's so great that you talk about it and for me you're one of the few who have the courage to talk about abuse that makes you a special person and a hero. I wish that your wounds heal."LET THE BEAUTY OG WHAT YOU LOVE BE WHAT YOU DO"
Peace Love & Light🙏🏽🩷😇
Thank you for your kind words and support. You're right, the issue of abuse extends far beyond Samoa, reaching communities worldwide. I appreciate your acknowledgement of the courage it takes to address this difficult topic. Healing is a journey, and I'm grateful for your well wishes. We can all make a difference by shedding light on these issues and promoting peace, love, and healing. May your path be filled with peace, love, and light as well. 🙏
It is worldwide but some cultures admit 37% have rped someone. I expect the worse in people and that is surprisingly high.
Man I haven't ever had that kind of mind frame to do something so awful to my love ones or any human being I was blessed with a good soul.
I really respect your transparency. Was molested by my mom's boyfriend who was old enough to be her father, so he was practically old enough to be my grandfather. Many black women are speaking up about these things because there is this "keep it in the family" "hush" mentality in Black American culture too, which would be fine if the family actually dealt with it. However many times they don't. Wish you the best and healing in your journey.
That's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. Dave Chappelle had a theory about abused against black women. He said white women report abusive boyfriends and husbands to the police. Asian women report them to police. But when a black woman is abused by a black man, she doesn't call the police because she knows the police will likely have a disproportionate reaction towards him since he is a black man. He could literally be murdered via police brutality. So I think the statistics of how many black people are raped, abused, molested (whether the victims be women, men, or children)... I think all of your stats are wayyyy below the TRUE stats because your hurt goes unreported moreso than other races. It's very sad.
It happens in a similar way in all cultures
@@poinky8 I'm sure it does. It's twisted. It's like it's some kind of humiliation rite or something.
@@naturallyhoneybrown yeah, this familial abuse is complex compared to perpetrators in institutions.
@@Lee-fw9mr yeah I'm sure that's the case. Also, there is a reality that many women in this situation are relying on financial help from the abuser so they are more inclined to turn a blind eye. Some pedophiles may even "hook" up with single moms to have access to their children. The whole situation is sad, but it gets better when more people begin to speak out. Be blessed
I dated a Polynesian girl recently and the stories she told me of her past, along with the ongoing family problems she had, they shook me. She tried to separate herself from the culture as a defense mechanism.
As much as I believe in family, sometimes you have to cut off the toxic parts to keep on growing.
“I’m not loose with my kids running around unsupervised”. As a victim this statement is the reason I’m fully committed in my child’s upbringing to avoid any fked up scenario’s that she may fall in
And you are 💯percent right to be concerned!!! Much love
It's so upsetting to see so many have gone through this. I had best friends since the 5th grade who were sisters. I never knew while we were young they were being touched my their step dad. I only learned later in our teen years. It hurt my heart so badly. I almost have survivors guilt feeling like I'm one of the few who made it out. But I also knowing all of this feel the same as him about not letting my kids have sleep overs and stuff and it scares me when it comes to dating. Like how do I make sure the man I entrust to produce offspring with doesn't carry this dark desire. I know to pray for discernment and all and I am a believe in Jesus Christ for sure but men can be so deceiving it's not even funny. I also wouldn't want my kids around their family and I know that may upset whoever they end up being but oh well. I will protect my future kids at all costs don't care who don't like me for it. I can say the one thing I remember from my childhood is my mom always always always told me to be vocal and communicate with her if anyone ever made me feel uncomfortable and as a kid I used to think she was annoying always asking me that but now I am so thankful she did. If anything it instilled in me that no one is allowed to make me feel uncomfortable and to speak up. I will make sure to do the same. Protect our babies at all costs! Quit normalizing pedos!
@chenanigans I don't have kids either. I have neices and nephews. They are all grown now. My brother was very protective of them. They could not do sleep overs and I was glad. He also took them to school and picked them up. Their mom was a little more trusting of people but he wasn't. I always worry about my nieces and nephews because it is a cruel world we live in.
I was sexually abused by an older woman when I was 9 years old. I was also beat up pretty bad by my father. It took me years to understand that my anger and my violence were rooted in these evils. Today, I make sure to be there to protect my children. Thank you for sharing brother, your courage is admirable.
I pray that your life today is filled with love and peace !
@@30toLife Same to you my brother, God bless you for your work.
💯... it's the same sh!t in Black culture. I agree with every word you spoke. I used to feel like I was born into a family of monsters and decided not to have children of my own. Now my family is completely spread out and the perpetrators are old and dying. I don't feel bad for them and am thankful that my youngest sister has done a good job of protecting her kids. -Respect
That's a damn lie!!! Black men in America are the least likely to be arrested for chomo activity. That's white America and BW hatred towards BM promoting lies on us constantly. Why don't u say anything about the women messing with underage boys? Which happens way more than BM but BW get a pass? NOBODY SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT THAT
And let them rot in sh*t!
2 major issues in disenfranchised cultures (I'm a black man married to a Polynesian (native Hawaiian) woman. 1. Our children are sexualized early. 2. We tend to hide our problems like child molestation and other heinous crimes because we suffer from untrue stereotypes as it us. But I appreciate you fam, for putting this front and center. Both my wife and myself have relatives guilty of this.
I was thinking this as well. I'm Black American. While this is an issue in most cultures, for communities of color there are added stigmas that make discussing these things more complicated.
True. Our infrastructure broken and image used to exploit us to their convenience
Has nothing to do with color, guys. Come on!
@@pjbpianoits crazy lol just came out of nowhere for no reason its kind of odd
Quit buttin in trying to take attention away from the subject, No one cares what race you are, nothing to do with you lol its not shocking just weird at this point
I am married to a samoan man and its true! Heard 1 too many stories! Im glad you are shedding light on this topic.
So glad more and more are speaking out about this.
I’m grateful my father was a real one. I grew up getting ass whoppings all the time. He really made protecting my sisters virtues his priority. They weren’t allowed to have sleepovers anywhere but home. I thought he was mad and so did my sisters. Maybe he went through SA when he was young but you’ll never hear him talk about it. My sisters are grown and married and love that my father protected them till marriage.
I would have loved to have a father like yours! You and your sisters were blessed. ❤
I'm the same way with my daughters. I was never touched but I had heard enough stories from people to know not to trust people alone with my kids except my Mom, sister and brother. I don't even trust my Dad, not because he ever did anything but because he has other problems and if I can't 100% trust you then I'm not giving you authority over my kids.
This happens to boys as well
That's a GREAT DAD!!
Sounds like a Well Rounded Man. Don’t have to be SA as a Kid to be aware of the possible dangers
So true. I remember seeking advice from a respected older woman in our community, we’re both Samoan, about confronting an SA molester.
She said but it’s just how men are. I was like, no young girls have a right not to be abused. I saw the veil fall from her eyes as it hit her. I think she was also a victim and carried that around that for years, that somehow she was to blame.
But you know what, God never forgets what’s done in the dark to His little ones. My abuser died of prostate cancer.
Live by the sword die by the sword 🗡️ 😊
You are an amazing person speaking truth. Be strong in your truth and know God is on your side! Mahalo for your truth telling ❤
Respect! Thank you for your integrity and courage. African American culture experiences the same problem with passed down traumas from the abuses from our enslavers. People who don’t heal or don’t feel empowered often victimize others. It is hard to watch our loved ones try to process and transcend all the traumas they have endured. All we can do is do all we can to make sure this wickedness is not visited upon the next generation and help those who have experienced this abuse along their journey to healing. God bless you!
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Absolutely!
@David Goodlett it must be so nice to blame all the evil of your community on an experience none alive has ever had. The appropriation of your ancestors’ suffering is shameful.
I feel you, bro! Much respect for speaking your truth. Im sorr that African American culture deals with those deep-rooted traumas from back in the days of enslavement. When people don't find healing or get that sense of power, they end up passing on that hurt to others. It's painful to see those who struggle to overcome all that mess they've been through.
We gotta break that cycle, bro. We can't let that wickedness keep on going. We gotta protect the next generation, make sure they dont have to go through the same pain.
Your are inspiring and courageous as well my brother. God bless you 🙏
@@iamjustsaying4787white guilt won't stand before the Lord unclaimed.
I'm mexican but have the same problem, I just dont get why guys do that to children, like what do you get out of it :(, im gonna do everything to protect my kids if i ever have them.
edit: you're a strong dude for admitting that, im very sorry that happened to you. You are one of my favorite prison channels because you seem like a reformed person and a genuinely good person. Ill keep you in my prayers.
Ur wierd af, r u NOT a guy? N for saying mexican, maybe in ur neck of the woods bud
Thank you brother I really appreciate your words and your continuous support. I will pray that together we can all heal and bring light to all cultures. Much love.🙏
Yea man generally speaking each culture or ethnicity goes thru the same problems. It's just that some are more obvious with it while others are more quiet, reserved.
It's called sexaulity. Sad but true
@@MrBlackPositiveandInteresting Tf you talking about?
I was molested too. I really didn’t know how bad it affected me. I’ve never told my family, not even my wife about it and the guy been dead for decades now. It still affects still this. day. My lack of confidence and self-apathy has always been a struggle and I never knew where it came from. But it comes from what happened to me. I’m starting to accept what happened to me more. It doesn’t mean I’m not still angry, sad, disgusted and ashamed of it but it becoming more bearable. You got to keep moving forward and be as positive as you can. I hope for all those who been through these similarly situation can find away to move forward and find sometype of Joy with in themselves
The best way to heal is to speak on it. Tell your wife and watch the healing begins. May God bless you man.
"I want to take a moment to thank all of you who have shared your own stories and struggles in the comments. Your courage and vulnerability are truly inspiring. Please know that you are not alone, and that together we can create a better future. Keep fighting, my brothers and sisters 👊🏽
Uso Ron
Ofa’s and Alofa’s to you and yours, Uso!
@@etonitonga6300 thank you Toko Ofaz 🤙
Your bravery is inspiring!!! Let’s stop this madness!!! The cycle stops NOW!!! Thank you for sharing 🙏. Love and respect ❤️✊
Lao ppl too. I know 3 guys from my old city got pop for rape and child molesting
@30 to Life I grew up from poor Greek immigrants but my 2nd Families were Uso’s & Tokos (& Cook Islanders & Māoris). This also happens in my culture & this happened to me & my best friend Toko in Primary School & it messed us up 😔.
My generation Samoans & Tongans were only family I could talk to about this-because our elders wouldn’t listen & just swept under the rug 😢. It made us super volatile, run in gangs, in & out of prison etc. I’m still trying to heal.
Thank you 🙏 brother Ron for bringing this up, God Bless
Man, hearing you and other men like you speak on your SA experience really helps men like myself open up and talk about when it happened to me. Growing up in the Black community, it was looked down apon and shamed to talk about things like this as a man. We're told to "suck it up" and "just be a man about it" but the trauma never goes away. Thank you for sharing bro, I believe it's time I do the same. ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
I grew up in Samoa and all my life I thought depression, panic attacks, anxiety was a weakness/excuse that other people would use cause they were scared or lazy. After 12 years of being an Army Vet and now working as a first responder, I learned it all later in life. I wish I seeked help when I was younger. It probably would’ve helped with some of the shit I go through mentally. It’s tough hearing about problems especially about our own culture and our own home, but ignoring will not help. I appreciate your honesty. I pray you continue to find peace and know that you’re not alone.
Thank you for your service brother 🙏 and thank you for your comment. Because of your background, I would like to invite you to speak with me on my podcast more in depth about this subject. If you are interested, please reach out to me at. official30tolife@gmail.com
Thank you and God bless 🙏
As a black American I would never have known this. I am so sorry to hear this happened to you
That’s odd since the same thing happens in the black community. 🤔
Tongan and Filipino culture too! I’m so humbled but grateful you shared this. Alofas USO!!
😔 ❤️🩹 love you fam!
@@30toLife Love you, fam bam! Thank you!
I'm Tongan and this never happened in our family and I don't know anyone personally that this happened to.
@@roarorrelax9830 Well, that’s a blessing that it hasn’t but it has in many other cases. No bad things should be swept under the rug, ever! Blood does not make you family!
Says the guy married to white lady 😂😂😂
I hate the saying "let the past stay in the past". They don't realize that past plays over and over when you're traumatized. In that, the past is the present. Love this realness! 🙌🏾🖤🙌🏾
If the past STAYED in the past, we could forget it. But it doesn’t. Like a stream of filth it flows into the future
When I hear that quote, I automatically know that they had a dysfunctional past and whatever happened it was really bad and I always find a way for them to open up to me and yep, it was really bad 😔
@@kitkakitteh "forgot the past" quote is foolish, and it's impossible to do bcuz all your issues are from the past that wasn't addressed and bound to repeat it
This is painful, pitiful, and universal among all races. It's usually your own as well. Keep doing your thing Uso. Great "Taboo" topic. People never fully recover from this type of Bullshit!!! That's the main reason me and my wife always make sure we're always around our kids as much as possible. Prayers for internal healing for you and everyone going through this trauma. Including myself. 😣 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 ✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼
Facts every race culture deal with this the same way, I talk to my sons about any weird activities
@@RebelZoe1804 it does start young with unchecked hormones, I know I was the same way as a kid. Praying God gives you the strength to raise your son's as best you can. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Only 3 races .
They see the kids as less valuable.
@MeaslesPlease boys just don't talk about being molested or raped.
Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. I was blamed for what my sister's husband was doing to me... It made me an overprotective mother. Thank God He watched over me my whole life... They need this to heal
Thank you for sharing your courageous comment. It breaks my heart to hear what you went through and the pain you endured. It's truly unjust when victims are blamed instead of being supported. I'm glad that you've found strength in becoming an overprotective mother and that God watched over you throughout your life.
By shining a light on these dark realities, we can create a space for healing and empower others who have faced similar experiences. Your words resonate deeply, and I hope this video brings solace and support to those who need it. Remember, you are not alone, and together, we can work towards healing and creating a safer world. Sending you love and healing vibes. 🙏❤
Use Ron, I'm so glad to hear you bring this up. I'm fijian, but it happens in our culture as well. I know of a family where the dad was sleeping with his daughter. He was caught, but the daughter nor the mother pressed charges against him & he is stiiled allowed in the home. He is a registered sex offender but still lives in the home. My head can't wrap around that. If no one speaks up for these innocent children, who will. I love the polynesian culture but this old bs has to stop. Love you Uso Ron. Thanks for all you do.
Sometimes it just takes 10 minutes and 10 seconds to change someone's life. It is the same in the Filipino culture as well. I wish more people would be as transparent as you to help create change. God bless you and your family Uso Ron. You are an inspiration my brotha.
Thank you 🙏 many blessings to you and yours pare.
There’s no shame in the truth… shame lies in the dark… it hides with secrets. This could help a LOT of people, young and old finally deal with this hard topic. You’re doing God’s work
Alot of times I feel that one of our greatest character flaws in our Polynesian culture is that we tend to turn a blind eye and mentally block out certain events in our lives as a coping mechanism. We need to acknowledge these painful negative events, even at the risk of making family members angry or possibly distancing from each other permanently.
Same in the African American culture. Some people are forced to live in the home alongside their abusers.
I'm an East African of Samoan descent, and unfortunately this is how it's handled among many families in Tanzania, where many of my family live. I'm so grateful my Aiga, though, because they don't play that shit AT ALL. Sadly, that's a rare reaction.
@@nayahri not to go off topic, but please elaborate on the "East African of Samoan descent" part.
@@bigislander72 I second this
@@bigislander72
Is that really so hard to understand? It’s just like saying you’re a Canadian of African descent or even an African of European descent or African of Asian descent, etc.
It’s a lot of different cultures that share the same traumas and it’s sad. Thank you for speaking up! It’s crazy the level of protection that a ChoMo gets. The people that rally around and protect the broken but neglect the innocent. I pray for the sake of the children that people wake up and turn a new leaf and ALWAYS CHOOSE TO PROTECT THE INNOCENT 😇 (they didn’t ask to be here)!
YES!!! Tongan here and I’m so relieved to see another Poly talk about this. What really infuriates me is when the old heads tell their kids not to talk about their abuse, say “It’s a curse”… so the babies don’t even get to heal-forget the pedos being brought to justice for destroying their innocence. Good thing is that there is a new generation reaching middle age and most of us would catch a case before we sit in shame and let them hurt our babies. Thank you for sharing, Uso ❤️ 🙏
EDIT: I just wanted to say, same here about how we raise our babies. My kids do not go to outsiders’ homes and only vetted kids that I also raised can be around mine or take them anywhere. It’s disgusting-the stories I could tell you of what I heard and saw and experienced growing up-it’s like it was normal. I’m glad that we are learning as a people how to heal because a LOT of us live in violence and substance abuse, depression for so long under that unhealed trauma… and the best part is that now, we know how to protect our children-our treasures. We’re moving in the right direction because we can speak of it now. Malo ❤️
it's interesting that it was considered a curse to speak about it but apparently not a curse to do it. Pedophiles say things like this to scare the children out of exposing them. I wish you well
Mayne! This is a whole blessing! Cause my whole family and the next generation is still experiencing this! We do need healing…… all my life I didn’t know why I was so crazy. It was the shame! I didn’t stop using people and drugs until I forgave myself. I was only seven but that thing haunted me as a grown women!
Sorry that your family is still experiencing this. I pray for healing for you and your family 🙏
Relatable.. Stay blessed thou❤️
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family is still experiencing it. I’m hoping for more healing for you and your fam. 🙏🏽
I just found your channel. You are saving lives by speaking out. I'm West Indian American and was raised in a cult. A lot of the trauma you spoke on is prevalent in my culture as well. Speaking out is breaking the chain of generational curses.
Thank you 🙏 I hope you are now living a peaceful and fulfilling life. I am grateful you are here and found my channel. Blessings to you!
From NZ - I agree with this 100%. I've distanced myself from most of my extended family because of this.
I am sorry that you have had to deal with that and it’s okay that you had to distance yourself from it.
Much Respect Bro! This type of stuff is rampant in the Black Community as well too...
No. No it is not. Tf are you talking about? You're not even black!! Statistically speaking, it's very rare. Been around black people my ENTIRE life. Stop the cap. "Rampant"🤣 You dirty MFs always have to talk about us even when we have nothing to do with the topic.
Why bring it up when it’s not about BP? Go take a seat. Have several!
@@KamalasNotLikeUs dang, do you realize you're probably talking to a black person affected by SA? It doesn't matter the race or culture, it's always the same! SA is the #1 global problem destroying children and adult victims of CSA and CSA victims are always silenced and shamed, just like you are doing now!
I'm not Samoan but I can tell you right now this is every culture thing. This happens in every single culture! It happened to me and I'm not Samoan. I have family and friends and who also went thru this as well. This is a demonic pandemic going on everywhere sadly.
Thank you for your transparency and bringing light to this. I’m a midwestern white girl who was abused by my older brother and experienced the same denial and disregard from my Christian family as well. I’m a stranger to them now far away with a family of my own & you better believe I hardly let my children go anywhere without myself or their dad present because I fear them being abused too. I know they hate me for it now but I hope when they grow up the understand I’m just doing what I can to protect them from the disgusting predators out there.
So true Uso. Elders were so worried about shame, instead of handling the situation and reporting these pedophiles. It's still happening to this day. Really not fair to our children. Thank you, Uso for talking about this subject. Pray that you and everyone that has been violated find help and be healed from the inside out. Alofa tele atu!!
Its Ironic they are so worried about shame but are willing to do shameful things to protect those who do the indefensible. Many are cowards and bullies who like to attack the defenseless then stride around like they are a big man, very satisfying to disabuse them of that notion in front of witnesses, and expose them for what they are. All their victims are women, children and the younger men of the family group who are not allowed to fight back.
Sad that it still happens today and hopefully we can continue to shed some light on it and get the healing and change that’s needed in our community.
Thank you for your continued support! Much appreciated! Alofas 🤙
@30 to Life Uso Ron thanks for speaking on this issue. It happens in EVERY culture! I'm Liberian Lebanese and I was beaten and called a liar too! Sadly it was later confirmed that my rapist did the same thing to others in my family-his death was brutal and I'm happy for that! I've learned that many victims also turn to promiscuity, lesbian/gay amongst/including all you stated. I know of offenders that get a pass because they're big people (town elders, religious leaders, doctors, etc...) in communities or they provide financial assistance to poor families and friends no one talks about it; so the cycle continues... 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 For healing for all victims.
This is a real man right here. Uso Ron, its me Danny - I had you on my podcast One Island a few years back and we had a great chat bro. What you've talked about takes courage my uso. Because this shit happens in New Zealand, Australia and where ever our people are. And worse - it happens in our goddamn villages. I respect you and appreciate you for this bro. This has happened in my family also, and we do wear it as a cape of shame just because of village rules and church shit. All that stuff is bogus as fuck. Sending love and light my uso. You should read the Super Samoan Mark Hunt's book (former UFC fighter) he goes into detail about how he and his sister were abused by their father and I love that he presented it withoyt fear. Cos no motherfkin Samoan gonna step to that uso haha. Takes real men like y'all to bring us back to what really matters in our souls. Respect uso!
Thank you for sharing. This was powerful and courageous. In Dominican culture, the abusers basically get killed. Generally the authorities do not get involved and allow the jungle justice. If they go to jail, they’ll get dealt with too
Interesting 🤔 thank you for your support
Thank you 🙏🏽 brother for sharing. I’m half Samoan and half Tongan. I grew up strong on my Tongan side and this was a big problem in my Tongan family and culture. A movie comes to mind “Once were Warriors” the scene where uncle Pule gets his A$$ kicked ahahahaha!
One of my favorite movies... As crazy as the father was, I was surprised he had the courage to to that....
You are a light in the nastiest darkness. My sister friend wrote a book about her sons being molested by the youth pastor in their church. Her and her children's courage put that animal in prison for 500 life sentences. He had been doing this in multiple churches from Ohio to Arizona, where his evil was brought to an end. Thank you for sharing this, and I pray that your heart, mind, soul, and spirit heal in the deepest place where the hurt dwells. Shalom 🙏🏽
Would you tell us the name of the book, please?
Take note viewers:. This is a real man. Much respect. Salaam Alaikum
"mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent". thank you for speaking my friend, this is nothing short of courageous. may ALLAH bless you and guide you and your family. this only increased my respect for you. And I wish i could be there to give you a big hug my brother. You are a great man. in sha ALLAH you continue helping others and guiding the youth, and I hope ALLAH heals your heart and helps you to help others heal too.
Thank you for the prayers and blessings 🙏 much love!
Thank you uso,
You’re brave and I appreciate your transparency. Secrecy is why these demons are able to continue abuse children. This happens in every culture. Abusers need to be shamed not the victims.
Good work Ron. Keep it up. Violence towards children needs addressing.
I can't imagine how it feels to be violated, to have something this insidious and traumatic happen to u and somehow find the courage to tell someone and the ppl that are supposed to protect u instead shame u, punish u, and blame u for being violated. I can't imagine how confusing that must be and how deep that hurt goes. 💔 I'm sorry this happened to u. I'm sorry this happens to ANYONE. 🥺🥺🥺
Faafetai tele lava Uso; you are very brave for talking about this. I have been married to my Teine Samoa for 30 years, and have learned a lot of about the wonderful Samoan Culture (but also some of the dark sides); like Moetotolos, physical abuse, and about the subject you are speaking about today in this video. I hope the elders watch your video, but more so, the middle age people now, so they can help to prevent this from happening to future generations. We have 3 daughters, and they have never had baby sitters, or have been left alone with any family members (no matter how much we might love and trust them), because of these facts you are speaking of.
As a Palagi, I know this happens in many cultures, but I appreciate your honesty in speaking about this sad but true topic.
Many Alofas Uso; Alofa Atu Always! 🙏🏼💙❤
Thank you Uso 🙏 and I can see how much you love and respect the culture. Your Toalua is proud and blessed! Talofa lava
Didn’t expect that bro. Glad you have the honor and integrity to speak out. This chomo spirit is rampant in a lot of cultures.
Bro, I feel you! , I appreciate your support and recognizing the importance of addressing this issue. Sadly, you're right-it's not limited to one culture. This chomo spirit can be found far and wide. But together, we can raise awareness, challenge the status quo, and work towards creating a safer world for all. Let's keep pushing for change, my friend. Honored to have you on this journey with me. 🙌✊
You totally right this happens and every culture. All of us needed to hear this it needs to be exposed and talk about.
It happens in every culture but the rates of this abuse in native cultures is horrific. Most people would be shocked, One study of one native group showed over 90% of girls were molested before 10 years old.
@@tubester4567 I dont know about this whole "every culture" In my culture Ive never heard of such things, People will die over this shit
@@geemup557what’s your culture?
@@geemup557 What culture is yours?
I think you are very brave to discuss this. I am a survivor of this in my early childhood myself. My parents handled it very poorly and I only got therapy when I went to College.And even after therapy your relationships are forever altered and you have major trust issues. It's not just a violation of your body, but also your soul. I've seen this now too in both the Samoan and Hawaiian Cultures, a lot. I would hazard a guess that at least 80% of inmates had been sexually coerced, groomed, or assaulted as children, and about that many had an absentee parent. I had massive problems learning as a little kid because my childhood was filled with anxiety, fear, shame and guilt. So I can relate. I wish for you only the best, and don't be afraid to be a truth teller. The truth is long over due. Aloha
Thank you for speaking on this cause!!! It goes unresolved and its like forbidden to be spoken on. Leaving! if not a lot but all of the victims mentally messed up! I am a victim to this too... And it's hard. Stay strong uce, all love! ❤
Much love sis I pray for healing for you and your family 🙏
Heal up sis 🙏🏾
Heal up. Let's let this die here right now with our generation. Expose those sick people
@@Runitup84 THANK YOU!!
@@TzUuup MALO and you ain't lying. ❤️
People need to keep exposing and speaking out about abuse. Thank you for doing so!
I'm sending you so much love. You are so strong. There is a big push in the empire's culture to normalize child abuse. Just the other night I found out the lead singer of Rd Hot Chili Peppers graped a 14 yr old girl and then wrote a song about it called "Catholic School Girls Rule" also wrote about it in his autobiography. Totally normal.
It's so important for us to speak up instead of succumbing to the shame. ❤
Thank you for the love 🙏
You are opening the door to re-creating a culture of truth and healing and I truly respect your courage. Love + light on your journey 💗✨🫶🏾
I just read somewhere that 98% of childhood SA know their attacker and that it usually occurred in the home. This is a universal problem that need to be dragged into the light. Blessings to you and all survivors.❣️❣️🙏🙏
It was great to have someone to talk to about the things that happened
For me, it was my uncle😢
He was always there to protect me,
I just paid it forward and protected other family members
True words Big up little Brother
I'm happy to hear that you had someone you could talk to about the things that happened. Having support is important in healing and moving forward. It's great to know that you, in turn, paid it forward by protecting other family members. Your actions speak volumes, and they demonstrate the strength and resilience within you. Keep spreading that love and protection, my brother🙌💪
Thank you for sharing this. It really helped me realize that I am not alone. I have been sexually assaulted by somebody on my Dad's side since I was 11. Nobody believed me until I was 19 years old. It developed trust issues with my dad's family. And just last year when I was 24, my dad wanted me to go see his family with him for vacation....but I didn't want to go without my sister. But I am so sorry you went through that. Lofa ea te oe uso.
Whatever happens in the dark will be exposed in the light. God bless you for speaking against evil!
I give you props for dealing with this head on in this very fashion. I agree that this is not something to keep in the dark. I hope this brings healing to those that need it. 💪🏿
Me too brother! Much love.
Wow. Very deep conversation. I’m a mother of 4. I’ve been SA as well as a child. We need more people to be open like you and we need to start healing ourselves first before we can help the youth. ❤❤❤ facts. Good job. Ran into this channel by coincidence and I loved the topic. Got a new subscriber here.
Damn bruh. As a Brother it happens in my culture also. My Mexican and White potnas say the same also. Its sad. Instead of protecting our kids we be focus on our family "image." But just by folks speaking on it now means is not accepted anymore. Much love Uso Ron. You a strong homie 💯
Thank you, brother! Unfortunately, yes I do have friends in different cultures who have expressed this type of issue as well. I appreciate you and the support on this subject much love.
Shut up bro
I really appreciate you for being open about this subject! It's something we all need to talk about with our elders! This exact same passed down trauma unfortunately happens in the black community as well! What makes it worst is the fact that our elders are comfortable playing the victim role. Nobody wants to "EVER" talk about past family traumas, and if they do, its never to discuss it and move on and heal from it. Its to play the blame game and gossip. However, that's the only way we'll be able to heal. We can't keep it bottled up forever! Much love to you brotha!!
My culture is Irish Catholic and I think there might be a similar thing. I wonder if it has to do with a subjugated people. But, regardless, I applaud your willingness to speak to your people about something like this. I feel that only good things can come from your addressing this. God bless you and yours.
Wanted to drop you this comment: I'm not Polynesian myself, but have ended up spending a lot of time with Polys and learning a lot about Polynesian cultures, and I have some idea of the courage that it takes to speak up about this in a public forum. Congrats to you for being strong enough to do this. Speaking about it takes the power of it away. I hope you continue down this road, both for yourself and for other people who may not have the strength to do what you are doing.
Appreciate you speaking on this topic uso. This has affected so many people in my family and people around me. Samoans tend to turn a blind eye and it makes me so angry. Blessing to all those who’ve gone through this or are still going through this. Please speak up and if they don’t listen, find someone who will coz this shit ain’t right.
Sorry to hear that! Hopefully we can bring some light peace and healing. My prayers for you and your family. Love you.🙏
Im a new subscriber and This happens a lot in the black community too. PLEASE dont stop talking about it and exposing the harm because there are others who will join you. Thank you for sharing. Prayers 🙏🏽 for the Samoan communities
Thank you 🙏 and thank you for your support!
As a fellow RarotonganAlot of my boys I grew up with in Australia are Samoan the ones I grew up with since day one have some stories within their family was sad to hear and how they had to cover it up to avoid shame and disrespect within the church and disgracing the family name. They had no one to turn to so they turned to their boys and ran a muck on the streets..it's sad to hear but things like this need to come to light and exposed. Shot Uso for bringing this out I know you'll have alot of Tokos n Usos who are suffering alone come out. Malo uce.
Its messed up! Thank you for watching..
this very true for me as a samoan how u saids they had no one to look up too so we try it our own way
We seek validation on the streets when we have no one to turn to.
If true believers of God put the Lord first, none of this would continue in the churches. So sorry you experienced that...❤
@@amandarecoveryjones8216 yeah I stop going church because i see no changes because most samoan i see they put churches first but they dont live the life style and god knows why i stay
I'm not Polynesian, but I thank you for speaking about this. This disgusting activity needs to be called out any and everywhere, preferably from those within the culture.
Respect to you brother for hitting the issue directly in the heart
As a Black man, this honestly goes on a lot in my community as well. I respect your courage for going public about this. Our children deserved and deserve better. They deserve our protection over there innocence. Not for that to be violated due to someone sick and perverted fetish. I pray for all victims to receive healing and help for the after effects of those experiences. Amen 🙏🏿
I don’t know much about Samoan culture, but I randomly came across this video, and I really do feel like you’re gonna make a big positive impact in your community, with having these serious conversations, that get to the root of the problem 💯👌🏾
THANK YOU for doing your part in starting the conversation, it’s one of the real worlds biggest problems and no one wanna talk about it
Continue to speak your truth Uce, in this case, our Cultures truth. This is one of many things our people need to address. Alofa aku, keep speaking up.
Thank you for your support 🙏
This stuff needs to be spoken on, Respect 💯
Thanks for speaking on this topic. I am ready to unleash my story. I want these child abusers to go to hell.
Thank you for sharing your story. This affects so many, myself included. It was a long hard road to healing and I still have so much more to work through. 🙏🙏🙏
God bless you Uso Ron for using your platform and your image to fight this. Through ministry, I've learned about just how rampant this occurs in traditional cultures. Whatever flack you get from people enabling this is nothing in comparison to what the perpetrators do. Judging by the comments, you've activated a generation who are fed up with it and ready to help heal.
Thank you for this 🙏
We all have the chomos in our culture unfortunately and the victim blaming has to stop. Thank you for sharing.
Bro.. you’re now the elder and thanks for bringing it out on the open. 🤙🏼
I am humbled. I don’t know how to take that. Love you bro.
You a real one brother. Appreciate you bringing this topic up and even letting your testimony be known Ofa lahi atu toko
Much respect for taking it upon yourself to speak out. Change is on the more seasoned members of a community to take a stand and not turn a blind eye to these things. Much love for you and your family 👊🌊🤲
Thank you much love🙏
I was reading 2 Corinthians 11, and what Paul went through helped me to remember that so many other people have gone through worse than I have..then i listen to this (first time seeing you) and it truly shows how strong man is. Regardless of lashing out in younger years, you're here with us. You may be feeling pain but you're one of the strongest people I now know.....
This ain't no shade towards Samoan culture. I'm from Turkey, and child/women abuse also happens way too frequently in my country too. Truth is, where there are men, there is abuse. Thank you for sharing your side of the story brother.
No that definitly does not apply everywhere. Some cultures have moved on from that barbaric behavior. With the exception of a few ofcourse
What cultures?
@@90skid97 Lol name a single country where women and children are not abused at all.
@@patitolindo I said countries. Practically every country.
@@mazharcelaleddinkeskinocak9626 I was asking 90s kid bro 😭 I agree with u
these are types of videos that initiate some kind of healing process..The pain and truth of this man will help slow free some folks... Respect sir
I commend you for being brave “courageous” enough to tell your truth! Your story will help others heal from the shame of abuse. “It” happens in ALL races & cultures! May you continue to be blessed throughout the duration of your life journey. Peace!
I respect you for stepping up and speaking
This is not at all what I was expecting when I read your title. I'm blown away and so deeply sorry you violated and harmed so sadistically by those who were supposed to protect you.
I'm here for all of it. ⚘️
As a Filipino thanks 🙏 Pare been in the same situation smh it messed me up and brought me closer to my children made me overprotective over them!
You’re doing the right thing! 👏👏👏
It’s sad how common this is across all communities. I come from a family where these things happened. I keep my daughters. So close they don’t ever really wanna be away from me! 😩😩😩 But the things I experienced as a kid makes it hard to just let them go with people, especially when they don’t want to.
It's crazy how widespread this is in all communities. I've personally experienced it in my own family, which makes it difficult for me to let my daughters be away from me. I keep them close because of the things I went through as a child. 😩 Their safety and happiness are my top priorities, and I'll always listen to their feelings and do everything I can to protect them.