do we regret having kids young, my nose job & more q&a!

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  • @itsmamawolf
    @itsmamawolf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +479

    As someone who worked as an early childhood educator I would recommend putting Cove in at 3! Even if it’s 2-3 days a week. The socialization, and everything they learn will be so beneficial. I now work with kindergarten and it is very obvious which children did not get an early childhood education. (Not all of course) If not at 3, definitely a full time Pre-K!

  • @marylin1011
    @marylin1011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +338

    I’m 24 and would freak out if I got pregnant now 😂 crazy how age doesn’t really matter and it’s your mindset haha

  • @ab-jf2re
    @ab-jf2re 2 ปีที่แล้ว +559

    That is wild that you felt 22 was getting to be old to start having kids lol!!! I’m 29 and pregnant with my first right now

    • @cventura2573
      @cventura2573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      32 with my first 😂

    • @ynerome28
      @ynerome28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      im 26 and feel too young for kids lol

    • @shaisa11
      @shaisa11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Same here 🙋🏽‍♀️ 29 and expecting my first baby 🥰

  • @nya184
    @nya184 2 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    me being 24 with no kids watching you talk about how 22 is getting old LOL :)

  • @jessicalynn4611
    @jessicalynn4611 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Aspyn I’m DYING at your edits you are so funny I love when you leave in like the bloopers or put your sense of humor in the videos!! The brown hair clip took me out 💀💀💀

  • @nurafifahj
    @nurafifahj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    the ending was so chaotic and funny to me idk why HAHAHA

  • @annarocha3254
    @annarocha3254 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    My parents were 18 when they had my oldest brother so I always have to remind myself that having kids when you're in your early 20's is still young. I had my first at 25 and felt SO old. All about perspective. 🤣

  • @shivorneesx2972
    @shivorneesx2972 2 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    Can you do a “what I eat in a day as a breast feeding mom” please!! Currently up doing my first feed for the day and need inspiration for food ideas 🤍🤍🤍

  • @Nbmyt24
    @Nbmyt24 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    as someone who’s studying preschool education i def think it’s beneficial for kids to go to school young but only if they’re ready for it :) some of the younger kids will thrive and others are just better off to stay at home or in daycare for a little longer!! you guys will know cove the best so i’m sure you’ll make the ‘right’ decision

  • @sophieoddling
    @sophieoddling 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This is random but it is SO satisfying that Aspyn's hair tie in the q&a portion perfectly matches the pink vase and pink tumbler in the background. :D

  • @sivaanys3741
    @sivaanys3741 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    LOLA + COVE = LOVE!!! That is super cuteeeee ❤️❤️

  • @TheAwesomePegicorn
    @TheAwesomePegicorn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Omg I forget how young you were with Cove! I’m 23 now and can’t imagine having kids anytime soon - just shows you how different people’s lives can be in their 20s. You guys are amazing parents and that’s always irrespective of age :)

  • @shelbymcphearson5472
    @shelbymcphearson5472 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    The big stretch when you undo your baby's swaddle is my favorite. It's so cute everytime 😍 I miss mine being that little, my youngest is the same age as Cove...

  • @victoriamartin7610
    @victoriamartin7610 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    omg im 22 and im shockeddd that you thinks it was too late to have a child 😬i haven’t even graduated college or started grad school! i won’t start thinking about marriage or kids til 26 or so!! i love you guys tho wish it could’ve worked like that for me but not practical for real life 😭

  • @jackichaplain9370
    @jackichaplain9370 2 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    I def don't mind when you set down the camera to film. Last video when you were holding it, you seemed shakier than usually and it almost made me a lil nauseoua haha (i still watch though so no worries!)

  • @yesli...879
    @yesli...879 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I'm 22 and my husband is 23 we just had our 2nd baby, we don't have family or friends here so we struggle a lot to find us time so we wished we waited 1 more yr before becoming pregnant with our first kid

  • @chloeschultz5140
    @chloeschultz5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    If Cove went to kindergarten when she is 5, she would be the youngest, especially since she is born in August. So enrolling her in preschool at 3 is a great idea, plus it gets them more used to school, so they don't have many freakouts as well. Love y'all!

  • @jac2615
    @jac2615 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    The brown hair clip inserted KILLED MEE 🤣🤣

  • @lindseysoderberg1347
    @lindseysoderberg1347 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I've been married over a year and haven't changed my name either! Sounds like such a big project haha

  • @sauce5323
    @sauce5323 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Warm water and dawn gets everything out, it’s never let me down

  • @tamarxaquarius
    @tamarxaquarius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    In line picking my kid up from school watching Aspyn and Parker videos lol

    • @shelbymcphearson5472
      @shelbymcphearson5472 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes! The pick up line is where I catch up on TH-cam and eat food that I don't want to share 😂

  • @MadelineGee
    @MadelineGee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Our daughter is a year (almost to the day) older than Cove and we just started her in a 3 day preschool! She is THRIVING and loves learning and socializing! But also you know your babes best! Our daughter is the youngest in her grade but hasn’t skipped a beat and is at the same level as those almost a whole year older than her.

  • @Kiwimarauder
    @Kiwimarauder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Teacher here. Obviously the parents know their kid best and have to make a decision, I know a few kids that started school too early and really struggled. I dont know any kid that started school "too late". So my advice is, when in doubt send them later rather than early. Only when in doubt - if you're sure then thats awesome.

  • @TotallyCarmen
    @TotallyCarmen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My daughter is 2 and is in a Montessori school two days a week. Tuesday/Thursday 8:50-11:50. At first she would cry when I left but now all she talks abt is playing with friends! She LOVES it. And it’s unreal the new stuff she comes home with that she has learned. I know you like the Montessori style toys you should def check into seeing if there is a school near you!

  • @scatherinelynch
    @scatherinelynch 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Do you guys ever do holidays with Parker’s fam? Cove is at such a fun age for holidays this year 😍 xoxo

  • @clairewest7627
    @clairewest7627 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I’m a July baby so I was always one of the youngest in my grade and it was honestly annoying always being the last one to get my license, turn 21, etc. but both have their pros and cons!

    • @xxnxx6692
      @xxnxx6692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      THIS Is what I was saying , cove would be ahead and have more freedom, I’m a may baby and I’m high school it was so annoying having to wait to drive or having the last birthday etc but like u said it’s the pros and cons

    • @adrienneward4382
      @adrienneward4382 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes girl I feel your pain I’m a July baby and all my friends are getting their license and I don’t get mine for another few months

    • @flutee712
      @flutee712 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s so interesting because I have a July bday too but I was always one of the oldest in my class!

  • @Lexijernibag
    @Lexijernibag 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love that you brought up how you felt like getting “old”. I turned 20 two months after having my first. Had my second at 21. And I’m currently pregnant with my third at 23, I’ll have them at 24 and that feels so late for me!! Glad someone can relate to that feeling.

  • @allytargosky5711
    @allytargosky5711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My comfort people💗💗 thanks for always being there love you guys!! Hope you guys still have a great thanksgiving at home

  • @elizabethlewis3623
    @elizabethlewis3623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    We are missing our thanksgiving too! We’ve got a stomach bug! Thankfully not covid. But still not fun. :(

  • @janessamellroy9565
    @janessamellroy9565 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Definatly have never once thought “wow this person has the camera set down to often” hahah your so sweet that you just want the best for us tho! But just do you 🥰

  • @sarahks
    @sarahks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I’m 24 and have 2 under 2, a 20 month old and a 7 week old. It is soo hard and I definitely want the rest of my kids further apart! We did not force any new changes on my toddler either, having a little sister was enough! Potty training is going good but on HIS lead, and he gets to keep his binky until he’s 2, and then we’ll start weaning. Following your child’s lead on these things are key 💗

  • @jeannette-emily
    @jeannette-emily 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love how realistic you are in your videos, happy thanksgiving ❤️

  • @pinklovecharms347
    @pinklovecharms347 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Remember to always cut at least an inch off the flower stems before putting them in a vase!!!! Much love to you and your fam !

  • @delaneyhalmrast4627
    @delaneyhalmrast4627 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Parker’s outfit is so cute I need the details for my boyfriend!!!

  • @Beth15678
    @Beth15678 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great vlog, hope you all fell better soon. The ending was so chaotic 😂

  • @somuchsavv
    @somuchsavv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    For easy stain removal, get a fels naptha bar they’re like $1 at Walmart! My grandma showed me this bar! It get stains out of everything. It took pen out of a dress my niece took a pen to 🥴

  • @Addison.Philp25
    @Addison.Philp25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I personally don’t live in regret and I feel so much happier and grateful for things in life

  • @MadisonNoelBieber
    @MadisonNoelBieber 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Aw thanks for responding to my nose job Q! I think the main reason I say that about mine right now is because I’m still in the early stages of healing. And I’m having trouble finding the patience to wait for the final result. Because right now, it’s not looking like the picture he showed me. It’s more sloped at the tip & I just wanted a straight nose. But I hope that’s just the swelling😬 I’ve been watching people’s experience videos & they all say it will eventually look like it’s supposed to!🙌🏻 So I’m crossing my fingers & trying to be patient in the mean time😇🤞🏻

    • @xod0llfacex3
      @xod0llfacex3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I heard some surgeons calculate how much your tip will drop, so for the first few months, you might look a little piggy. But over time, the tip will drop, the swelling will go down and the bridge of your nose (if you got work done there) will get closer to your face.

  • @katiehart7700
    @katiehart7700 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m a September birthday and my parents waited so I’m on the older side for my class. I liked it so then I was able to drive as a sophomore. I always felt a bit more mature/smarter than a lot of my class, which honestly helped my confidence. If I was younger I think I would’ve felt behind!

  • @totalH20
    @totalH20 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That ending was so funny! I feel like you always have it together or present your life to us like that in your vlogs so it was nice to see that sort of ending 😂

  • @relaxedrelaxed
    @relaxedrelaxed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    AAAhahaa Best ending ever! You're All Adored! TY for all u guys do! xoxo

  • @H-fd4wc
    @H-fd4wc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Lol Aspyn at the end just saying fuck it I’m done with this camera

  • @amesram
    @amesram 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    love how honest you are!

  • @kendallg709
    @kendallg709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm a September baby (my bday is 1 day before Lola!) and I am the oldest of my grade. I definitely feel like it was the best decision for me! It gave me time to prepare for school so once I was enrolled, I felt pretty prepared. I'm pretty much the oldest friend but I don't mind that much.

  • @dustyhirsch7948
    @dustyhirsch7948 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My mom sent my September 1st sister to school on the earlier side so she was the youngest in the class. She says she wishes she would have waited because she could tell the other kids were somewhat ahead of her mentally & emotionally. My sister has never cared either way.

  • @user-jv9dc2iu8b
    @user-jv9dc2iu8b 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    im going to be 30 next month and im single. you make me feel so behind omg

  • @bluebells02
    @bluebells02 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Make sure you cut 2 c/m off the stem at least so the flowers can suck the water! Otherwise they don’t last as long

  • @hannahleigh9878
    @hannahleigh9878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Financial status definitely comes into play too.. at 22 I was fresh out of college completely broke and in no way could support a child. Still at 24 I’m not anywhere near financially ready or mentally ready don’t even want to think about kids until I’m at least 28. But Everyone’s mindset and situations are different!

  • @allahnijefferson3695
    @allahnijefferson3695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Please let us know when Sacha is back and feeling better 💙

  • @ASH13Y2012
    @ASH13Y2012 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    wow I’ve never been so early!

  • @katiedid60
    @katiedid60 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love the chill vibes 💓

  • @keegannicole5343
    @keegannicole5343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was born in august and my mom started me early, so I turned 5 and then just the next month started kindergarten. We both think in certain times that it would have been better waiting or being held back

  • @kinleyduty4950
    @kinleyduty4950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful Family!❤️ y’all have a great thanksgiving! Love y’all!❤️

  • @mayadoane660
    @mayadoane660 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The end was hilarious 😂 we get the point aspen haha

  • @taylore27
    @taylore27 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good morning, have a happy thanksgiving!!

  • @nataliek1566
    @nataliek1566 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My twins are at that stage. They are 2. Everything has to be done through me and they are full blown anti daddy lol. I am praying it will change soon.

  • @sachiniwijesekara7312
    @sachiniwijesekara7312 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aspyn looks gorgeous in this vlog!

  • @katiethompsonn
    @katiethompsonn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love you guys!! ❤️

  • @laurenrobson46
    @laurenrobson46 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can give you a teacher's perspective about when to put your child in school, if their birthday falls in the summer months. For clarity, where I'm from in the U.S., we traditionally start preK around age 4-5, and we graduate at age 18. Some people choose to put their children in daycare, and some wait and put their children in preK. The things I say may or may not apply to you, but I feel like the same general logic can be applied when deciding at what age to put your child in preschool as well.
    If you time it so that your child is one of the oldest in the grade (birthday in June, July, or August, and starting preK at age 5), something to keep in mind is that your child might get frustrated being more emotionally mature than many of their peers as the years go on. Sometimes kids who are a bit older feel more developed, in some ways, than their peers (after all, we do SO much maturing and growing throughout our formative 14 years in school, and it usually happens rapidly).
    On the flipside, if you time it so that your child is younger than many of the peers in their grade (birthday in June, July, or August, and starting preK at age 4), your child could be the one who struggles to match the maturity level of their peers. Also, something to remember is that kids who are young for their grade level are more likely to be misdiagnosed with ADHD because they just need a bit more development but they're being compared to their almost-year-older peers.
    There are benefits are drawbacks to each scenario. I was a bit young for my grade with a May 31st birthday, and I had an ok time, but it definitely was strange having a classmate whose birthday was June 26th and was 18 a month after our junior year and I didn't turn 18 until the day after our graduation ceremony. We had a bit of a disconnect there. (And for the record, I do have ADHD, but I wasn't diagnosed until I was 24 hahaha).
    There are other factors affecting your decision as well, no doubt. Just wanted to give a lil teacher insight when it comes to emotional maturity and such 💛

  • @raw8565
    @raw8565 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ur vlogs r so therapeutic

  • @Reqreationalife
    @Reqreationalife 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So I ended up getting one of the phone cases. I left my phone on top of my car and drove down the road. My phone fell in a busy intersection, was RAN OVER, and my phone is still 100% in tact. I went back for it and there was 1 tiny little dent on the corner of the case. 😂👏🏼

  • @mackenzieim2469
    @mackenzieim2469 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m 22 and want a baby! Im hoping to get pregnant at 22 and have the baby at 23 as well! Im glad I’m not alone in this thinking!

  • @katiea4906
    @katiea4906 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My casetify order just shipped. I knew this would happen!!! Lol

  • @michellealder69
    @michellealder69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Luv u guys, People need to mind there own business, if Cove has a Dummy so what it's up to u guys, shes not harming anyone, same for Potty Training, every Child is different luv to u all 🇬🇧💓x

  • @andreabrown9784
    @andreabrown9784 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey there! I got rid of my daughters binky at her first dentist visit! She left the binky for babies and went to the treasure box! Secondly, you have a lot of transition right now! My daughter kept hers til 3!!

  • @MarciaDeniseGunningforSuccess
    @MarciaDeniseGunningforSuccess 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Resolve upholstery and carpet spray is amazing for the white couch with any stains

  • @missdamzlroost
    @missdamzlroost 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was 18 my senior year of high school and it was awesome. I was able to do thing after I graduated that some of my other friends couldn’t. And with college the following fall I didn’t have to worry about being underage so the process was easier for me

  • @melindadupuis
    @melindadupuis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The brown hair insert I am dying 😂😂😂😂

  • @heatherlynsey3092
    @heatherlynsey3092 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am an August baby, I started kindergarten at 4 since my birthday was before the Sep 31st deadline. So I turned 5 around a month after school started. I was *always* the youngest in my classes!

  • @coreychatman6332
    @coreychatman6332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love your outfit and your questions. Thanks for sharing this sweetie.

  • @ceilidhdelve8554
    @ceilidhdelve8554 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Montessori school begins at 3! Cove would have so much fun there!

  • @Vanessa-hn8ow
    @Vanessa-hn8ow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Try using hydrogen peroxide!! That takes period stains and most stains I’ve encountered!

  • @patpran-in-love9589
    @patpran-in-love9589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The ending was hilarious 😂 so relatable

  • @amypriest8857
    @amypriest8857 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    My birthday is October 7th....I genuinely enjoy being older. Being older is definitely better than being the youngest.

  • @whimsical_lyddie
    @whimsical_lyddie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I found it funny when you were talking about putting the camera down because I prefer when vloggers put the camera down to talk. The movement of the camera sometimes bothers me 😂. I don't mind that much, but I don't think it makes a vlog any less of a vlog to have the camera set down.

  • @norahfrev2112
    @norahfrev2112 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    on a new casetify case you could get colo or cove and lola!!

  • @mj_9450
    @mj_9450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    August isn't even that bad, I'm a December baby and I managed just fine being "younger"

  • @kaitlynpake
    @kaitlynpake 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi! I have the same birthday as Cove and went to two years of pre-school (3 years old and 4 years old) and then started kindergarten at 5! I was younger for my grade but it was never an issue ☺️

  • @emmaw5491
    @emmaw5491 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hii Aspyn! I love your vlogs. Just wondering how it is with COVID in the US? Because it seems like it’s not a thing really? I’m from Austria and it’s Kind of crazy here😅 we are in a Lockdown currently so yeah

  • @sophievanderkallen5072
    @sophievanderkallen5072 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where is the rug from in the baby’s room? Or I think it’s the room Cove is moving into .. the colorful squiggly one

  • @swagasorous1
    @swagasorous1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Haven’t seen your videos since you were pregnant 🥺😍

  • @brittanyderiger5074
    @brittanyderiger5074 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t remember where I heard or read this. But apparently if you have two girls, the oldest is usually always a daddy’s girl and the younger one is usually a mommy’s girl. Idk if it’s true or not, but for my girls, both are mommy’s girls 😅 so I get both of them when they have freak outs

  • @andrielweir
    @andrielweir 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow I didn’t realize you were 22! I’ve been watching since you all moved into the first house. I’m 22 now and DO NOT want kids anytime soon. But you were married, well traveled, and set into your career so I don’t think it was a big deal

    • @storytimeeeee
      @storytimeeeee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She is 25 now :)

    • @sarah.7437
      @sarah.7437 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She was 22 when she got pregnant with Cove. She is 25 right now

  • @Pigmentplay
    @Pigmentplay 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m a September baby and held back. Pros, I was older so I got my license first, everything first lol. And sports it’s a perk. Cons. All my neighborhood friends were in the older grade. I was over 18 almost 19 when I graduated lol. I honestly would say I wish I was out ahead. But I also did honors and AP so I felt I was academically held back. I would be tested and then decide based on level

  • @amyf2230
    @amyf2230 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It’s funny how the age people have babies differs around the world. I’m in Toronto and I had my first baby at 26 and people see me with her and approach me and ask me how old I am and if I need help with groceries and diapers.
    It’s really offensive but I guess it’s common here for people to have babies around 35-40 which is NOT what I wanted, it just seems like way too long to wait for me, personally.

  • @jasmynsreality
    @jasmynsreality 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The camera set down is fine. It’s more stable

  • @nowandthennn
    @nowandthennn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You’ve just had a baby and Parker is sick , don’t push yourself too hard .

  • @carleybaker3611
    @carleybaker3611 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I went to pre k at 3, and started kindergarten at 4 then turned 5 shortly after school started. My birthday is the end of August. I ended up graduating high school a year early lol. We were always told start her and worst case hold her back in kindergarten!

  • @itsallaboutkim7283
    @itsallaboutkim7283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was watching your everyday vlog and hoping to have a baby girl , and now I’m pregnant with my no.2 and hoping that its a girl .

  • @leahg9215
    @leahg9215 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this so much

  • @samiwilliams9300
    @samiwilliams9300 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where are Parkers sweatpants from??? I need them lol

  • @gracechan8735
    @gracechan8735 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wooo new vlog

  • @miyahbrown4547
    @miyahbrown4547 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love coveee omggg I love u so much

  • @maclainenoxon4586
    @maclainenoxon4586 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    You had them accidentally swapped. 🙂 If you start her in preschool sooner, she’ll be the youngest. If you wait, she’ll be the oldest.

  • @brendachaves6375
    @brendachaves6375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey Aspyn and Parker

  • @lexxxxxxxxxxxxx
    @lexxxxxxxxxxxxx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    At least you don’t lie about the potty training and stuff like some other TH-camrs!!

  • @maylaarnold1700
    @maylaarnold1700 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where is your white shirt in the Q&A from??

  • @jellybean4350
    @jellybean4350 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just turned 23 and feel the same about kids, I feel like if I don’t do it now it’s just going to be too late lol

  • @alenab3904
    @alenab3904 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just noticed, why do you never wear your wedding ring?

  • @hannahmurphy5564
    @hannahmurphy5564 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    me being in my grade as the younger one in my grade, i would rather be the older one. it is totally up to you but from the child’s prospective she will be happier being the oldest in her grade.