Blythe Baird - Girl Code 101

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  • @PingTheAwesome
    @PingTheAwesome 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5307

    "You're so funny"
    "Please don't touch me."

    • @leynalouise5329
      @leynalouise5329 8 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      +Glacia not at all. it's survival for the guys, gals and non binary pals who live in this fucked up generation

    • @alixclarke2645
      @alixclarke2645 6 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      +Leyna Louise thanks for adding non binary pals

    • @ck-im3vu
      @ck-im3vu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@leynalouise5329 Ooooooo Thomas Sanders!!!!!!!!!!

    • @Melcatsite
      @Melcatsite 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What you say v. How you feel

    • @purpledenied
      @purpledenied 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is me every day at school. And now I have to worry about being surrounded because PTSD has finally kicked in, so I suppose I can say goodbye to the feeling of being safe..

  • @jesmens
    @jesmens 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4193

    "I feel pretty in a dress but powerful in a suit."

    • @jamiwami7280
      @jamiwami7280 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      but mate if you make a dress would you feel empowered

    • @trinityt7708
      @trinityt7708 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes I love that line and hey Killjoy.

    • @dabhowlter4781
      @dabhowlter4781 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      i love that line.

    • @randomtickoffs
      @randomtickoffs 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It hit so hard

    • @drkim4077
      @drkim4077 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This hit home

  • @Bitesizeninjapandaz
    @Bitesizeninjapandaz 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3956

    "Give me a city where my body is not public property." perfect

    • @DeadpoolUniverse
      @DeadpoolUniverse 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lodon, new york, los angels, Atlanta, Richmond, Houston, Dallas, Panama city i can keep going?

    • @HI-bw2gt
      @HI-bw2gt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Arthur Morgan in most if not all them city’s a women has been raped or assaulted, most men (not all) assume because a girl is wearing a smaller skirt or has some cleavage showing they have a right to her body, sometimes even when she is fully covered, and if she doesn’t willing give it to him he will take it, he will rape or assault her Leaving a trail sadness, distraught and sometimes death ruining her and her loved ones life, and if she does speak up, which most don’t, what she was wearing will be blamed, “oh you was in your school uniform which is mandatory to wear in order for you to get an education, that’s the problem. ITS YOUR FAULT” women should not have to leave the house terrified every day they might get cat-called, assaulted or raped. I can keep going.

    • @HI-bw2gt
      @HI-bw2gt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Arthur Morgan oh so you not even gonna answer now... come on you said you can keep going so do

    • @DeadpoolUniverse
      @DeadpoolUniverse 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@HI-bw2gt omfg so I don't respond in a day so you complain, but men can and have been raped TOO by men and WEMON so both have this problem, also proper functioning or sane man or woman should think that are initialed to anybody's body for any reason. With this these city's big law don't say or justify rape at all so understand the context first, Also men are more likely to be victims of violent crimes and nobody cares nor says anything and men are the number suicide victims and again nobody cares or says anything but I'm sorry I care to be equal and not have one over the other my bad

    • @DeadpoolUniverse
      @DeadpoolUniverse 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@HI-bw2gt why haven't you responded yet it's only been a minute, it's only like you could be doing something in your personal life and not paying attention to a TH-cam comment section or something.

  • @keyralites
    @keyralites 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4172

    "we convinced ourselves there is protection in being polite." Girl, this is so true.

    • @AloysiusWaffle
      @AloysiusWaffle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Mr Big WHAT THE FUCK

    • @-hamilton-9151
      @-hamilton-9151 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      she said that exactly when I read it-

    • @purpledenied
      @purpledenied 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is true until you meet someone who doesn’t care how you treat them cause they have one goal.

    • @dvb5670
      @dvb5670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Mr Big coming from the asshole who calls them rug munchers.

    • @goodolmeplant5809
      @goodolmeplant5809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Mr Big how are women rug muchers? And why are you so annoying?

  • @NathalieAmazan17
    @NathalieAmazan17 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8347

    "This is not female privilege, this is survival of the prettiest" Damn.

    • @mae__1810
      @mae__1810 8 ปีที่แล้ว +91

      Also watch "When the fat girl gets skinny"

    • @elizabethrose3703
      @elizabethrose3703 8 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      +JelMae Sama I loved that one

    • @vandyke4775
      @vandyke4775 8 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Well then...... looks like I'm the first one to die then.....

    • @arachnidsinmyguts1899
      @arachnidsinmyguts1899 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah that line was pretty cool

    • @user-sb9mv3yn4p
      @user-sb9mv3yn4p 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I looked at this the second she said it

  • @kennedymitchell2754
    @kennedymitchell2754 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4737

    "Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it's seduction every time."
    This is so true

    • @HeleenaZenna
      @HeleenaZenna 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      this was my favorite line

    • @lauchhochneun
      @lauchhochneun 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Kennedy Mitchell And that is so damn sad!

    • @Cyterious
      @Cyterious 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This is the line that hits the hardest

    • @Lavenderia554
      @Lavenderia554 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ***** You are really lucky. :)

    • @michelangelothedumb4653
      @michelangelothedumb4653 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ***** Nice and kind are different, completely. But I do agree with you.

  • @HeartlandFan28
    @HeartlandFan28 10 ปีที่แล้ว +12006

    "Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction every time."
    It's depressing how truthful this statement is.

    • @glitteringtrash6310
      @glitteringtrash6310 10 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Ik

    • @johnyliltoe
      @johnyliltoe 10 ปีที่แล้ว +157

      I've become afraid to be overly kind in fear of giving the wrong impression and breaking a girl's heart. Even in reserved kindness I find myself assuring a girl that I'm just commenting, not hitting on her. Not to say I have it hard, but it saddens me that I live in a world where a simple smile, my default expression, can be considered suspect and not without reason.

    • @IWTBFOY
      @IWTBFOY 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      nice guys finish last :(

    • @NinaNeko4
      @NinaNeko4 10 ปีที่แล้ว +461

      Victor Nguyen Nice guys will always "finish last" if they keep seeing women as finish lines.

    • @johnyliltoe
      @johnyliltoe 10 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      Nina Vincent Thank you for putting into words that mysterious something I've felt uncomfortable about with that phrase.

  • @Intrinsic.creations
    @Intrinsic.creations 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2062

    Her last sentence was so powerful it gave me chills, "one my friend and I got cat called, she said fuck you and I said thank you, like I was trained too". That is so true though it just says how we are objectified and not human beings

    • @embersofficial9567
      @embersofficial9567 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Titi Marquez It's terrifyingly honest.

    • @purpledenied
      @purpledenied 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I’d have the second response since we are told since birth to be polite.

  • @Upprorr
    @Upprorr 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1184

    "I wonder what it says about me that I feel pretty in a dress, but powerful in a suit."
    holy mother of god that is the best thing I've ever heard.

  • @fauna575
    @fauna575 10 ปีที่แล้ว +608

    "We are the girls taught to survive by using our bodies as Swiss Army knives" holy heck I love this poem

  • @harrietmilton8397
    @harrietmilton8397 8 ปีที่แล้ว +425

    "One time, my friend and I were cat-called on Michigan avenue and she said 'Fuck you' while I said 'thank you.' Like I was trained to."

  • @dieforglitter
    @dieforglitter 9 ปีที่แล้ว +671

    "We are easily startled... who wouldn't be?" That's sadly and painfully true.

  • @geesevongoose
    @geesevongoose 10 ปีที่แล้ว +430

    "Give me a city where my body is not public property"
    I...I don't even have the words. Just, thank you. Spot on.

    • @DeadpoolUniverse
      @DeadpoolUniverse 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Mr Big lodon, new york, los angels, Atlanta, i can keep going?

    • @storm_ace6410
      @storm_ace6410 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Arthur Morgan stop

    • @goodolmeplant5809
      @goodolmeplant5809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Mr Big and why are their so few cities where women are respected and not treated as objects?

  • @raffistewartx3
    @raffistewartx3 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2303

    I am so in love with this. I actually teared up because of how truthful and intense some of it was.
    "This is not female privilege, this is survival of the prettiest."
    Button Poetry, your videos are beautiful and your comment section is positive. I think you are my new favorite channel.

    • @lyka57
      @lyka57 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      EXACTLY, I LOVE THIS CHANNEL

    • @jayperez5239
      @jayperez5239 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      O i believe you a lot because my friend and rand a book and ti said that all you said

    • @supernova1411
      @supernova1411 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I actually teared up at, "And I wonder what it say's about me that I feel pretty in a dress, but powerful in a suit"
      And I actually sarted to bawl my eyes out when I read a comment of a female that said
      "I don't know because I'm not ALLOWED to wear one"

  • @caprice5491
    @caprice5491 9 ปีที่แล้ว +733

    This is not female privilege this is survival of the prettiest.

    • @leynalouise5329
      @leynalouise5329 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you always here survival of the fittest. not survival of the prettiest or richest.

    • @frycalamari7870
      @frycalamari7870 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      "fittest" in this case does not necessarily mean muscles, or physical strength. It means those most/best suited to survive. If you're rich, you're better suited to survive. If you're pretty, you're better suited to survive. If you're strong, you're better suited to survive. It's Darwin's Theory of Natural Selection which falls under his Theory of Evolution. A good example of good looks making you better off is birds. A bird will often compete for a mate based off looks. This is because female birds believe those that are prettiest will help birth better offspring. It has to do with the fact that looks get transmuted through bloodline. So a good looking mate, will produce good looking offspring, which in turn will grow up and continue to be good looking and easily find a mate. The whole game of life is to continue your species by producing offspring, and that's what it means to survive. A girl who is pretty has a better chance of being courted than a girl who is not. Obviously evolution and natural selection gets thrown through a loop when the concept of society is involved, but the principle is still the same.

  • @faithgadson
    @faithgadson 8 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    "the year dad says wearing short skirts in the city is like driving without a seatbelt." wow. deep. 👏

  • @rjwoer
    @rjwoer 10 ปีที่แล้ว +861

    Brilliant. I'm a high school teacher and during our poetry unit I play a poem at the start of each class. This will be one of them. Thank you.

    • @shaneyawlover
      @shaneyawlover 10 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      When you do, I would love to hear about the reaction from the students

    • @phildowd5106
      @phildowd5106 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Aren't teachers supposed to be, you know, non opinionated in the classroom?

    • @pattysmith1379
      @pattysmith1379 10 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      Phil Dowd no. they are supposed to have opinions, and allow students to develop their own opinions (even if they are different) as well. no one is opinion-less.

    • @rjwoer
      @rjwoer 10 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      ***** yes, thank you. Exactly right. I will let them come up with their own thoughts. It's a well done, provocative piece which I think will resonate with them.

    • @rjwoer
      @rjwoer 10 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Keep in mind also, this can be analyzed from the standpoint of craft, not just content. It's far more important that I bring them quality content which is thought-provoking, than I worry about somehow letting my "opinion" leak out. My students are free thinkers; they can handle my opinion if it enters the conversation.

  • @HeyItsIrish1013
    @HeyItsIrish1013 10 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    This poem is amazing and I can't ignore the "Yeah!" male shout of approval at "This is not female privilege, this is survival of the prettiest." It made me smile, lol.

  • @SamHackenson
    @SamHackenson 10 ปีที่แล้ว +572

    I was fearing the comment section because they're usually awful on poems like this and I was delighted to find only 1 misogynistic comment.
    Beautiful poem! Very powerful and to the point.

    • @raffistewartx3
      @raffistewartx3 10 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      I was as well. I get attacked on TH-cam all the time for expressing feminist views. But I, too, found the poem amazing and am super happy to see likeminded people in the comments section.

    • @ThisIsBrooklyn03
      @ThisIsBrooklyn03 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sam Hackenson I was too but I think the reason there really aren’t none is bc of how true this poem really is

    • @aileenzhao7951
      @aileenzhao7951 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Comment sections on videos from this channel are usually really nice, I love it.

    • @ifcoltransg2
      @ifcoltransg2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Mr Big We're just trying to support the art we love here. I'm sure you think your hurtful (and often nonsensical) comments are funny, but wouldn't you rather tell jokes that uplift everyone who reads them, rather than disgust everyone but you?

    • @ifcoltransg2
      @ifcoltransg2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@Mr Big I don't believe that who we are has any effect on whether we can brighten people's day.

  • @darkdramon2000
    @darkdramon2000 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1260

    I'm going to quote from Louis C.K on this:
    "I don't think women are better than men, but I think men are worse than women"
    I'm a guy and I couldn't agree more.

    • @darkdramon2000
      @darkdramon2000 8 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Looking back on this comment, I kinda did...I feel incredibly stupid now.

    • @poppyb7720
      @poppyb7720 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      lmao you need to come back again hahaha

    • @anushreemishra2878
      @anushreemishra2878 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      thats kinda true..im not afraid of random women I see on the street but I try not to make eye contact with older men

    • @selineromero27
      @selineromero27 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I've never heard this before but I like it

    • @Kaiisdreaming
      @Kaiisdreaming 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yeah I think I easily say I agree

  • @tlizspear
    @tlizspear 9 ปีที่แล้ว +446

    "Boys who made welcome mats out of our yoga pants"
    Holy shit

  • @nmp3
    @nmp3 9 ปีที่แล้ว +454

    "Give me one accomplishment of Mary's that did not involve her vagina"
    I quoted this for my mom today and she got up and said "Preach baby!" while my step-dad rolled his eyes. If that doesn't say anything to you, I don't know what would.

    • @jennamarshall993
      @jennamarshall993 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well she was “virgin Mary” so she just raised Jesus. She didn’t conceive him

    • @greenapple1470
      @greenapple1470 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Jenna Marshall yeah but she did give birth to him.

    • @aomich
      @aomich 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well that's not exactly the point. Mary's purpose was to give birth to our Lord and Saviour. She might have done other stuff that are worth mentioning but the focus of the Bible is JESUS. Its not abt Him being a man but about Him being God and saving us from death.
      I do like this poem and the way she says it but Mary isn't an ideal example because what she was able to do is a great privilege. She was chosen by God and that is so important.

  • @adriennepena1628
    @adriennepena1628 9 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    the guy who shouted at 1:40 THANKS FOR UNDERSTANDING BRO

  • @ZoeAlexa11
    @ZoeAlexa11 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4208

    This is the feminism I support

  • @maddiep777
    @maddiep777 9 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    just showed this to my cousin who makes fun of me for not shaving and she was so fucking speechless. she goes, "that was good" , changed the subject, then walked away to go get her phone. BYLTHE BAIRD, I WILL NEVER STOP SHOWING YOUR POEMS TO ANTI-FEMINISTS. YOU ARE SO TALENTED AND SO GREAT. THANK YOU!!!!!!

  • @1Dfangirl97
    @1Dfangirl97 10 ปีที่แล้ว +722

    This is so intense and so beautifully truthful. The way she sincerely acknowledges her own internalized misogyny completely blew me away. Great job.

    • @kori2169
      @kori2169 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I totally agree.

  • @annalotus9648
    @annalotus9648 7 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    the yell in the background after she says "this is survival of the prettiest" is actually me. that line made me rise to my feet and applaud. i've replayed this so many times i can pretty much recite it with her

  • @lpswerido688
    @lpswerido688 8 ปีที่แล้ว +329

    I remember the first time I got cat called. I was in 5th grade and I thought he had a crush on me. When I replied him and his friends would laugh and I didn't get why. Now I know and looking back at that memory I feel like an idiot. They thought I was funny, a clown. He would keep doing it, 2 times a week I think for a month. I never got the joke. Now I do. It's not funny.

    • @leynalouise5329
      @leynalouise5329 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      mine was back in fourth. I'm still mad. and if I meet them again, I'm going up.

    • @minnimouse1423
      @minnimouse1423 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      im not sure what age but the first time i was cat called a guy spit out at me "hey baby girl what does that mouth do?"

    • @minnimouse1423
      @minnimouse1423 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Bishop Vidal getting made fun of and getting cat called is 2 different things.

    • @leynalouise5329
      @leynalouise5329 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Bishop Vidal cat calling is in no way a compliment. That's how the people who cat call think. To anybody who isn't that horrible like that, it's offensive and terrifying. And it's become too common.

    • @leynalouise5329
      @leynalouise5329 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      ***** same

  • @bluehypothermicreality6759
    @bluehypothermicreality6759 10 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    "your so funny! please dont touch me!" i feel like i know this feeling too well

  • @NaniTaysha06
    @NaniTaysha06 10 ปีที่แล้ว +497

    Women are standing up.

    • @wildflower095
      @wildflower095 9 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      Women have always been standing, just more and more people are aknowledging their stand

    • @AllDefPoetry
      @AllDefPoetry 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nani Taysha it's a great thing to see

    • @LogarAcc
      @LogarAcc 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nani Taysha Finally!! It took millenniums, but it happens. Things will never be the same once women acknowledge how misogynistic this worldwide culture is and how it kept them separated. Education and willingness are the key.

    • @caite.6423
      @caite.6423 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Mr Big To society and everyone who has always tried to keep us silent. To the people trying to lock us behind doors and in closets. We are standing because we have to, just to be heard or even acknowledged. Standing to demand we are treated with respect and that our bodies are not treated like another's property. So that we are not the ones blamed when we are the ones attacked. We have tried time and time again to make people listen, only to be ignored. So now we will make them listen. So no - it is not to "our paranoid delusions" like you said. Because it is fact.

    • @HI-bw2gt
      @HI-bw2gt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Cait E. I love how they comment stuff and then don’t reply, like come on you started to argue against us don’t just say one thing and walk away, we want to prove you wrong

  • @ADreamerWithAPen
    @ADreamerWithAPen 8 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    I keep coming back to Blythe Baird. Her poems are always so powerful, and laced with incredible imagery and unforgettable lines that can't help but imprint on your brain. She's an astounding poet and I look forward to hearing more from her, and hopefully reading her book soon!

  • @romagnolisofiavictoria5079
    @romagnolisofiavictoria5079 8 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    The quotes "this is not female privilege, this is survival of the prettiest" and "give me a god i can relate to" are so powerful. i've been watching her poems and i love her!

  • @a_real_one2000
    @a_real_one2000 10 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "What does it says about me when I feel pretty in dress but powerful in a suit". This is a powerful line about our society & the unfortunate decision women should not have to make, (you can be a powerful women & looking good, you shouldn't have to forfeit one for the other) Great poem...

  • @Catsmeow8017
    @Catsmeow8017 10 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Every line of this poem was on point and perfect. Loved it. When I told my mom that two men in a car followed me when I was out running, her response was that maybe I should run inside on a treadmill. It's so completely effed up that even other women think that we bring this terrible behavior down on our own heads just by *being outside.*

  • @tarragon9400
    @tarragon9400 8 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Give me a God I can relate to.
    Commandments from a voice both soft and powerful.

    • @takmaps
      @takmaps 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesonmack5867 tell me one of Joseph?

    • @jamesonmack5867
      @jamesonmack5867 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      takmaps I was quoting the poem my guy and this comment was from literally two years ago

    • @takmaps
      @takmaps 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesonmack5867 My bad didnt mean to wake you from your slumber man didnt check dates I just saw the video today.

    • @jamesonmack5867
      @jamesonmack5867 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      takmaps you DARE to wake me from my tomb, pUnY mOrTaL

    • @takmaps
      @takmaps 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesonmack5867 😅

  • @thenameispuc
    @thenameispuc 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    when she dropped that line " we are the girls petrified of the business school boys...." man that hit me. I'm a guy in that business I never thought of that concept. Crazy. Blythe Baird amazing piece I love it well done.

  • @valentino1646
    @valentino1646 8 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it's seductive every time🙏

    • @cloutfisher7714
      @cloutfisher7714 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That quote is living proof that feminists hate men

    • @valentino1646
      @valentino1646 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      cheeseburgerkid your statement is unfairly generalized

    • @cloutfisher7714
      @cloutfisher7714 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Angelique Umutesi The quote you used is unfairly generalizing as well...

    • @briannalynn4539
      @briannalynn4539 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      cheeseburgerkid Your comment is exactly why this poem was written. A woman says that men are rarely kind without having other intentions, so she has to be weary about male kindness, a bunch of women relate to the quote, and all you have to say is that women who admit they're scared are just male-haters.

    • @Chaotic2413
      @Chaotic2413 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Its so sad that its true, We grow up and learn that men are kind to us and expect something in return, if we end up thinking that these men are generally nice and decide to friend them they get upset and think we owe them anything for their kindness, it then goes back to us assuming all men have some underlining reasoning for being kind because its what we have been taught.

  • @Backpackfiles
    @Backpackfiles 10 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    She rocked that room so hard. Great to be there.

  • @AkemiLiyanage
    @AkemiLiyanage 10 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    "Give me a god I can relate to" is my favourite line.

  • @Forceprincess
    @Forceprincess 9 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I've listened to this one several times and it gives me chills! Wow! Her life has been harder than mine.

    • @mafiaboss9970
      @mafiaboss9970 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mr Big did we ask

    • @goodolmeplant5809
      @goodolmeplant5809 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Mr Big you don't know what a psychopath is. But I know what a bastard is.

  • @awinslow21
    @awinslow21 8 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    "Male kindness is so alien to us we assume it is seduction every time."

  • @missrosesolo2437
    @missrosesolo2437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hearing this poem made me realize how lucky I am. I am a female who has male friends who I've never assumed liked me, but are kind to me nonetheless. I met one when we were in 7th grade. He was the one person in my history class who I could walk up to and ask to be my partner for group work without feeling anxious. He gave me a binder and lined paper once because he saw I brought a scetchbook with me to lunch and liked to draw. He didn't expect anything from me in return and even said, "I could never date a friend," on a separate occasion. Two others are in Marching Band with me. One let me hang on his arm on a trip because the crowds made me anxious and constantly checked on me to make sure I was doing okay. His concern made me feel seen and safe, and it felt so genuine and friendly because we're band kids and we look after each other. I've had casual conversations about Legos with the others, and we both immidiately said no when two of his other friends insinuated that we were dating. Girls, there are men out there who will look out for you without expecting anything because they genuinely care. They are, sadly, fewer in numbers than those who are nice just because they want sex, but they still exist.

  • @lizziemae9596
    @lizziemae9596 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the last line gave me chills. it’s sad that i don’t even know when i’m being catcalled; i always say thank you and assume i’m supposed to act polite for them “complementing” me

  • @hildecouperus1741
    @hildecouperus1741 10 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    being catcalled is not male kindness! It's rape culture and making fun of our privacy and sexuality! what this girl says isn't just to create a powerfull poem but to let the world know that we need feminism!! And then I'm not talking about female supriority but about equality of the sexes! Being called girly is an insult to guys... So this means there is something wrong about being a girl! There is something wrong with me? Guys losing from a girl is waaayyy worse then when you lose from a guy because we are seen asnot as smart as guys or not as strong or powerful as guys! WTF does this say about our community? We live in a world where we think that equality is accomplished and yet I'm still expected to go less far in life because one day I will birth a child! This girl says something so goddamn beautiful and she gives girls a voice in a powerfull way! I admire and respect women like that! This is what a good role model looks like! She will probably get a lot of hate for what she said but she still does it and I can't thank her enough for that! (this maybe sounds a bit dramatic but rape culture is real and is in the world! we should not take that so lightly. I'm so fucking glad that a lot of people in the comment section ectually agree with this girl btw)

  • @emilyburich3219
    @emilyburich3219 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I had a teacher touch me in an uncomfortable way many times and I told the office and all he said was “well some teachers are just a little more comfortable with their students” and this made me realize how wrong he was and I want to cry

  • @MrsMathsGeek123
    @MrsMathsGeek123 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    the first time I got cat called I was in my primary (elementary) school uniform - tell me how that is not fucked up. that's why I love this poem so much, it's so honest and truthful and powerful and just ugh. perfect.

  • @Zoe-mg2vh
    @Zoe-mg2vh 10 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Sam Kat, even if a girl is flirting with a guy that does not give him the right to rape her. And more time than not guys mistake "flirting" with being friendly. And when I'm running down the street trust me i am not welcoming any of those car honks or catcalls at lights.

    • @phant0m0th_
      @phant0m0th_ 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true! I love this poem! It's amazing! Everything about this was on point. I couldn't have said it better myself.
      I always get cat called when walking home from school. Whether I'm wearing a skirt and a short sleeved top or covered from head to toe. It really doesn't matter what I wear, it still happens. My school told girls at my school not to wear revealing clothes, fearing that the boys might be distracted. I'm always afraid to leave my home; worrying that someone might come by and kidnap me. Always afraid to walk on the same sidewalk when a group of guys are walking several feet in front of me.
      It's a shame that this is what women have to deal with STILL. Maybe what our future daughters might deal with if it doesn't stop.

    • @adollfordolls
      @adollfordolls 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is so true. I got cat called when I was 11 years old while walking down the street with my best friend. People need to stop saying that women ask for it. Does anyone really think that an 11 year old wore her favorite shirt because she wanted to get called out by guys driving by in a car? Well that's bullshit.

  • @Taliavana
    @Taliavana 9 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    Wow just found this channel and I am binging on all the videos. This one is one of my favourites. Amazing

  • @567jesscat
    @567jesscat 10 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "Male kindness is so alien we assume it is seduction every time"
    LOVED THIS. Such a good delivery

  • @michigo_xo
    @michigo_xo 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So many quotable lines in this poem, its so so well structured and the flow of it is just phenomenal. She KILLED IT

  • @jenniferscheurle2847
    @jenniferscheurle2847 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction every time."
    This is so so good.

  • @elizaschwartz6695
    @elizaschwartz6695 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    1:17 exactly what my guidance counselor asked me. “What were you wearing” -counselor “I was wearing a hoodie and some sweatpants”-me “well maybe you shouldn’t have worn that”- counselor or maybe SOME boys should be raised how to treat a girl. Why do we have to live in fear every morning of what we are putting on may put us at risk.

  • @retro8games974
    @retro8games974 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    1:55 "The business school boys..."
    BAM! Powerful stuff! Right on the money. This is awesome!

  • @katmcake
    @katmcake 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This poem is so incredibly honest and puts into words what so many girls feel their entire lives.

  • @siiiriously3226
    @siiiriously3226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    this is my favorite talk of all times. what a brilliant mind Blythe Baird.

  • @Risodair
    @Risodair 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "She said Fuck You
    while I said Thank You, like I was trained to."
    This is so sad. I love this poem. Just wow.

  • @paulaplazas6932
    @paulaplazas6932 5 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    Girl code 101
    We are the finaglers
    We are the exceptions
    The girls who have not run the mile in 4 years
    Who layer deep V necks with excuses
    Eyelashes bat wiffle balls at the male gym teachers
    We are the girls taught to survive by using our bodies as swiss army knives
    Calculated scrunch nose giggles and friendly forearm lingers
    Your-so-funny-please-dont-touch-me
    We convince oursleves there is protection in being polite
    No, you can go first
    Girls: we have to be nice
    Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction, every time.
    We remember age 9, the first time we got catcalled
    12, fradulent bodies calling us woman before we have the chance to
    13, the year dad says wearing short skirts in the city is like driving without a seatbelt.
    15, we are the unmarked tardies, waived detentions and honorable mentions in lush floral dresses
    16, we are the public school mannequins.
    17, we know the answer but do not raise our hands.
    Instead, we are answering to guidance counselors who asks us, well what were you wearing?
    Their voices clink-less toasts
    We are let off the hook from hall monitors, retired football coaches who blow kisses and whisper Little Miss Lipstick into our ears in the highschool cafeteria
    We shiver but hey- atleast we still get away without wearing our student ID's
    This is not female privilige, this is the survival of the prettiest.
    We are playing the first game we learned how to
    We are the asses smacked by boys who made welcome mats of our yoga pants.
    We are easily startled.
    Who wouldn't be?
    We are barked at from the street
    We are the girls petrified of the business school boys who were taught to manifest success by refusing to take no for an answer
    And I wonder what it says about me that I feel pretty in a dress but powerful in a suit.
    If misogyny has been coiled inside of me for so long
    I forget I will not stand before an impatient judge with an Adam's apple, hand grasping gavel, ready to pound a wooden mark
    Give a God I can relate to
    Commandments from a voice both soft and powerful.
    Give me one accomplishment of Mary's that did not involve her vagina.
    Give me decissions, a wordless wardrobe, an opinion-less dress
    Give me a city were my body is not public property.
    Once, my friend and I got catcalled on Michigan avenue and she said Fuck you, while I said Thank you, like I was trained to.

    • @odwancube9285
      @odwancube9285 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I literally love you!😍

  • @Laurenhannon99
    @Laurenhannon99 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can I just try explain how much I love this? Every time I feel like I have nothing creative to write I come here and listen to this. Every time I'm in a bad mood and need some motivation, I come here and listen to this. You have inspired me. I am so in love with this. I literally listen to it a few times every day.

  • @Princessbuttercupish
    @Princessbuttercupish 9 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    This was so fucking amazing.... the power and pain behind it. Just wow.

    • @storm_ace6410
      @storm_ace6410 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mr Big oh let me guess your a fucking idiot who doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong you’re a fucking idiot that thinks a women should be in the kitchen all day. Well guess what. Look at who the fuck is hiding behind the screen with a dumb ass name like mr.big like what the hell is big on you??? Your IQ?? Nope. Huh buddy. You think that your so smart with you little iPhone 4 cause you are not living in the kitchen but hey? If you think the women in the world are so useless remember. That the only reason why you were born is cause your mom wanted you. I can tell the she is sincerely regretting that decision. You fucking idiot. 🖕🏻

  • @onedirectioninfection5756
    @onedirectioninfection5756 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    this poem gives me shivers every time i hear it oh my god

  • @daniellebabos4502
    @daniellebabos4502 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is the most inspiring and truthful video I've ever seen... brought me to tears! She exactly captures what goes on in a young woman's life and what we do to survive. This video has nothing to do with bashing men or being ignorant towards men, she is just pointing out what a lot of women go through. "Male kindness becomes so alien we assume it is seduction every time " is what gets me the most. Thank you Blythe Baird for sharing this poem.

  • @ainoaguy
    @ainoaguy 10 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    This hit so close to home its scary.

  • @carolinagiraldo6183
    @carolinagiraldo6183 10 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I can't get tired of hearing this poem. Poignant stand on "female privilege" and so much more!

  • @gillianaguilera1267
    @gillianaguilera1267 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "Once my friend and I got cat called on Michigan Ave. she said "fuck you" while i said "thank you" like i was trained to."
    DAMN THIS HIT ME SO HARD OMFG

  • @Serenityrockstar
    @Serenityrockstar 10 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    "This is not female privilege; this is survival of the prettiest."
    YUP YUP

  • @izzywizzy389
    @izzywizzy389 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    AH THIS IS SO GOOD AND RELATABLE I LOVE HER SO MUCH

  • @ailinkawa
    @ailinkawa 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I knew more english so I could understand better every poem I listen. This channel is life, even when I don't undestand it all, I can feel everything she is saying. Before this, I never had listent someone reciting a poem, and it is amazing, trully amazing.

  • @XxMsMartinezxX
    @XxMsMartinezxX 10 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "We convince ourselves there is protection in being polite. No you can go first. Girls we have to be nice" this is so true!! It always bothered me in school that I could say certain things because I would be labeled as "bitchy". Real kicker once me and my guy friend both told our friend she needed to dump her bf because all he wants is sex. She called me a bitch and told him thank you for reminding her of her worth. I hate that I can't speak without fear of a label.

  • @Lynn_Clifton
    @Lynn_Clifton 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Miss Baired, you, Princess Warrior, are SO incredibly talented. Your words are your swords, your confidence your shield, and your talent is your tireless steed that will ride you fearlessly into battle. I am excited and proud of the future you fight for.

  • @sheslottie96
    @sheslottie96 10 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I have to force myself to not look at the comment section on poems like these because there's only so many "but if she does this then she was Asking for it" or "stop being sexist towards men" I can take.

    • @HI-bw2gt
      @HI-bw2gt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mr Big, on no how dare she stand up for Herself, she forget she is ment to be at home raising kids and cleaning and cooking, just for a big powerful superior man to come home to her

    • @goodolmeplant5809
      @goodolmeplant5809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Mr Big are you a psychopath? You sound crazy, what bad things are gonna happen if men stop cat calling women? What are you afraid of?

  • @chevonnep.6545
    @chevonnep.6545 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it's seduction every time." Wow. I love this. Great poem.

  • @juliamckenna3105
    @juliamckenna3105 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is seriously an amazing poem. It gives me goosebumps every time I listen to it, and it is more truthful that anything I have ever heard. Thank you, and you are an amazing poet.

  • @cammiemartello8574
    @cammiemartello8574 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I almost cried at the end. I love how she delivers her last line

  • @dabrown100
    @dabrown100 10 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Go Blythe! What a powerful poem. Super impressed with you, girl

  • @tennieshashaw5905
    @tennieshashaw5905 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    These young adults are awesome. Words of encouragement.

  • @AshaCattette
    @AshaCattette 10 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This made me feel some kind of way. This is definitely the story of my life.

  • @Brownie63103
    @Brownie63103 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so beautiful, I almost cried.

  • @moe.4490
    @moe.4490 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This girl. She is the goddamned fucking queen when it comes to poetry and everything else in life.

  • @CountMeThySaint
    @CountMeThySaint 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for such a clear and meaningful perspective. With all the screaming and arguing, the message can get lost in the noise. This was as beautiful as it was informative.

  • @Riviwriter
    @Riviwriter 10 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    GODDAMMIT BLYTHE WHY ARE YOU SO PERFECT?!?! I love you so much you are such an inspiration

  • @6footgiant
    @6footgiant 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wonderful poem. It should be mandatory to have this played in schools worldwide.

  • @micdropmags
    @micdropmags 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    "She said Fuck You! I said thanks you..."
    Woah

  • @Carol10221
    @Carol10221 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This reminded me of the day I was walking down the street w/ my friend and some dudes catcalled us she got so angry and shout at them saying ''go say that to you mother!'' while I was quiet and told her stop, even thought I know she was right

  • @tessf3158
    @tessf3158 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    0:32 "You're so funny! Please dont touch me."

  • @kymberleeharbin3161
    @kymberleeharbin3161 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Watching this over and over again. So powerful!

  • @Faehiddeninthesound
    @Faehiddeninthesound 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    “Well what where you wearing” this made me start sobbing because I have been hurt by men and I tried to vent to my therapist and she said this. It hurts that this is the world women live in....

  • @tahirabaig3529
    @tahirabaig3529 9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was not expecting this, but I'm so glad I watched it.

  • @izzy7412
    @izzy7412 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've just recently found out about this channel but long before I knew about feminism and cat calls and many other things but this has brought out something powerful in me. I believe that this channel should keep expanding so that people all over the world everywhere will watch these videos. Thank you.

  • @acariciarj4132
    @acariciarj4132 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    You inspire me. Its like hearing my life from another's mouth without having to put the words in it. Thank you for this.

  • @MJayx
    @MJayx 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i have the chills after listening to it 3+ times. this is amazing, kudos to you.

  • @nadiamireyli7707
    @nadiamireyli7707 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've watched ten of these video. I'm in tears, sobbing, I can't believe I haven't seen this all my life 😭😭😭😭😘😘😘😘

  • @baileyanderson-kita3271
    @baileyanderson-kita3271 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This whole poem really hit home for me. I try to be nice especially when someone is making me uncomfortable. When people cat call me, I ignore it and move on. But I'm lucky. I refuse to draw attention to myself which makes it easier to feel safe, but im a coward. Idk what im trying to say, but this poem says it all.

  • @haleyblomstrand2836
    @haleyblomstrand2836 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    i really feel a connection to this poem

  • @biancabasiliosilva7451
    @biancabasiliosilva7451 9 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    "I feel pretty in a dress but powerful in a suit" :(

  • @IronCay
    @IronCay 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "Male kindness is so alien to us, we assume it is seduction every time"
    This is so true, I remember from growing up and even until now if I am kind to girls they assume I want to date them. I can't just call them adorable, or say that they look beautiful today and not have some sort of reason beyond believing it and wanting to make them smile..

  • @carranova2352
    @carranova2352 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I got goosebumps at the last line. So good

  • @WhAt-os8vw
    @WhAt-os8vw 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I live for the "YEAH!" guy at 1:38

  • @dailyartist1968
    @dailyartist1968 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've seen a lot of spoken word recently, yet this one is still my favorite. I've come back to it so many times, I think I'm starting to memorize it.

  • @calis.2411
    @calis.2411 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You can hear men in the crowds clapping and such those guys are actually good ones you can tell by the way they are supporting her

    • @angela-ul2dk
      @angela-ul2dk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      those men are decent people. by saying that they're the "good ones" your labeling those that do those things as "the norm"

  • @MsLilDarkAngel
    @MsLilDarkAngel 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Blythe Baird’s pieces a lot. I come back to this one and “pocket sized feminism” a lot. Very powerful