Weekly Vlog: Day One, Again and Again
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ธ.ค. 2023
- As we head toward a new year, when people often work toward new beginnings, I want to share with you a message I received from a woman named Kim. Kim writes: I have read, and thought I have digested, Bright Line Eating. But how do I commit? I feel like I’ve had 100 “day ones,” literally. I know what to do. BLE teaches me what to do. But I can’t make it stick. What are some suggestions for getting it done?
I’ve had hundreds of day ones. I started my food journey when I was 21 years old, a year clean and sober. I began a twelve-step program to address all the food I was eating, and that started eight and half years of repeated day ones. Later, there were more twelve-step programs and more day ones.
And then I got Bright. I’ve been immaculately Bright for a year and a half now. (My longest consecutive stretch in the past was many more years than that.) What I have now is priceless: a healthy strong body and a peaceful mind. Extremely low levels of food chatter or scale chatter, and tons of happiness and well-being. My food recovery is a blessing in every area of my life. But all that came at a cost. It’s taken me a lot of research, and a lot of suffering, to get here.
We each have our own journey. Everyone in Bright Line Eating has come to it knowing that they give up something to get Bright. I don’t have to tell you that-especially at this time of year, when it means giving up holiday food and alcohol. But the trade is SO worth it.
Not everyone has gotten through all the pain by the time they get here. They may come to Bright Line Eating and still have a painful journey ahead of them, to get them to the place where they are convinced that it is worth it to put their food addiction in remission.
So I have some suggestions for Kim.
First, realize that nothing may be out of place. You may be on your path, doing your research and work while you’re in the program. Some people get here, and they’re ready to go. Others need to work at it before they’re convinced it’s the right path.
Look at each of your Day Ones as getting you closer to your goal. There’s a study that was done that showed that the average smoker tried to quit thirty times before it stuck. You can think of the first 29 times as failures-or you can say those failures brought them closer to the place where they could quit. Each of your “day ones” may be getting you closer to where you need to be.
Next, when I was in Australia, I did something different that “stuck.” My life was out of whack because I was bingeing my brains out and having day one after day one and I hired a life coach. At our first session, he gave me some homework and I said I couldn’t do it because I was doing pretty much nothing but binging and recovering from binging. He told me that my first assignment, then, was to get my food sorted out. Something about him holding me accountable, in addition to my sponsor, that extra layer of accountability, worked. So I would ask you: what extra support or accountability can you give yourself?
Another thing that strikes me is that your behavior seems to indicate a diet mentality. Have you truly admitted that it’s a food addiction issue or are you denying that in some way?
Addiction doesn’t like being treated. So my question is: have you just been doing a diet, rather than committing to the program? Maybe these are not really “day ones.” In other words, perhaps you need to redefine what it means to try Bright Line Eating. Have you truly committed? Did you back off of other commitments, so you could focus on the Boot Camp? Did you get a buddy? Did you call in for coaching? Perhaps you need to admit that you have a food addiction that is stronger than your attempts to handle it.
And here’s another thing I’m curious about: are there parts of you that haven’t wanted this? That are pushing back on it? If so, that’s okay. In Boot Camp 2.0, we make available to you the Break Through Your Resistance Roadmap, which gives you tools to address the parts of you that are resistant to treatment.
This is not a diet, Kim. It’s a program of recovery. It’s a new way of life. So have you really tried? How many true day ones have you really had?
May every day one be put to good use. And every break turn into a breakthrough. I would love to offer to you what I have now, which is so precious. But before you accept it, know that it comes with a lot of pain, a lot of research, and a lot of day ones before you surrender to what works. You’re not alone. This is just what the path looks like.
On January 1, Boot Camp starts. Carve out space for it. Come on in. I promise it will be worth it.
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As someone who has tried to find ways around multiple addictions, I would not wish anyone trial and error or pain. I am thankful you shared your tips and stories to help us all get through this journey. I have learned the hard way that half measures simply do not work.
I was introduced to BLE in January 2023 and found a wonderful new phase of life in so many ways. I have been able to come off All blood pressure medication, due to start on sleep apnea machine- totally resolved, so many months happy, healthy and confident.I started on the slippery slope in November ‘23 and into a full food dive all December right up to last night. In 6 to 8 weeks I’ve put back on half of the weight I’ve lost (21 Lbs - 1 stone 7 pounds) I feel so horrible, heavy, unhealthy, snoring started up again (badly - unfortunately for my husband)So grateful to be watching this , to refocus and to remember to call on God to guide me on my abstinence journey. Thank you 🙏
Sending you so much love right now. Susan will be going LIVE in about an hour, join us! ble.life/KO1AI3 🥰🥰
Just wondering how are you doing on your journey. I too, have the apnea return. 24 lbs gained back, of the 70 lost. Though I feel like I gained it all back. People say I still look great but I wonder how could that be? Anyway, as one like you, just checking in to see how it’s going. I’m having a day 1 every day. 🙃
God bless you Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson, thank you for sharing this. That helped me today so much and lifted my mood!
On my second time listening and tears are welling up. I guess you live inside my head. Boy was this raw, real and eye opening
After a year squeekie clean with my food I binged and just couldn’t get back .Thankyou for validating that I am not alone in the horrible juggling one day on one week off ,one day on ,two weeks off,2 days on ,4 days off ect.
You really hit the nail on the head over and over again. I feel you have solved addiction more than anyone I have ever seen. Thank you. I hope we get to meet someday, as I have a similar goal in life to help people overcome addiction. I'm getting my MSW at Michigan and making a mid-life career change. Thanks for all you do!
Wow! Congratulations on a midlife career change. Wish I had the courage.
I was same about 3 years ago. Then my daughter told me about fasting. I was insanely determined to make it to a 36 hour fast and it took a few months of intermittent fasting longer and longer windows to get my body used to it to make it to my first 36 hour fast 💨 and holy buckets did I drop weight quickly and my entire body chemistry changed and I no longer craved sugar or anything bread related! 😮 I didn’t binge eat anymore bcs I didn’t care about those foods anymore. Fasting is a miracle. I’m down and kept it off for about 2.5 years now with no problems. ❤ but I had definitely gotten to the I don’t care part and as happy being plus sized.
Yes I now realise that I have been kidding myself, lying to myself, that all those umpteen day ones were actually not day ones at all 😊
Yes, recovery is worth it.
So worth it 🧡🧡
Thank you so much for this vlog Susan, as a multiply addicted person in recovery from most addictions, food being the exception now, I appreciate the verities from AA, half measures do avail us nothing, I dont want to be half measures at any of this, anymore, and it does take what it takes. I have been aware of BLE since 2017, and get six to nine months, with multiple day 1"s in between. and then choosing to go into relapse, and similarly to alcohol, its only when IT released me, a Grace incoming, that I am/was able to come back up for air again and clean things up. I now know that I cannot eat what I eat compulsively successfully. It doesnt work. "Almost none us liked the self searching" but there is where the answer lies and thus the freedom and peace. Rigorous self honesty and willingness is all that is required to make a start. I'm in. :)
We're so glad you're here David. 🧡🧡
David ~ pulling for you out here in E.Oregon. Hope the New Year brings you many blessings.
This is what the path looks like. that's right!
Excellent vlog! Thank you SPT!!!
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Day 1 for me... again. 🥰
Thank you for this. So helpful and encouraging.
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I finally quit smoking many years ago. I was not a heavy smoker but I finally was so embarrassed to be a smoker. Kind of how I’m feeling with not taking care of myself
love love love this message!!!!
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Happy New Year Susan!
I’m grateful for Susan’s honesty in this vlog and what it means for me. I’m much better able to trust her.
We're so glad this resonated with you! 🧡
You are such a great soul
Lord help me I want to try again😂🙏🏻
Along with the BB on my bedside table for the past 37 years, your wonderful books are there too!
Thank you so much for your vlogs Susan. Wishing you a Happy New Year 🎉❤🙏
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Omg I was in Sydney HOW too
Though it was oa with a HOW sponsor
We probably had the same sponsors😂
This was 20 yrs ago though for me
I failed about 9 too
Wow did I need to hear this!
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You said “blahblahblah” lol!!!!!
(Hotel Transylvania 🥰😂♥️)
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Talk about timely! I've been struggling to get back on track since a slip on Thanksgiving that turned into a month of WTH. I needed to hear this. Thank you Susan!!!!!! Thank you so much for your example and your wise words. I will find my willingness again. Love you and the team at BLE so much! I'm going to really get through Boot Camp 2.0 all the way. I've done the old ones but haven't gotten all the way through the new ones. I will though!
I have several hundreds day ones. Fa works but is so aggressive and punitive. And I don’t want to spend money on a a program but I don’t want to be beat up and whole life stuffed with all kinds of rules.
Is it Some day....one day....or is it Day one?
Would you happen to have before pic of you at size 24? Hard to believe you were ever there...
Hi there, Susan's before's were pictured in in this article: www.popsugar.com/fitness/before-after-weight-loss-drug-addiction-43124998