Fulfilling Your Spouses Needs

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  • @janayalaude4722
    @janayalaude4722 2 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    Y’all are my comfort podcast. You both have soothing demeanors. It’s a privilege to have such authentic, wise, soul soothing content. Thank you.

  • @tijania
    @tijania 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Episodes like this... allowing us to feel your vulnerabilities, feelings, and honest reflections on your experiences... is pure gold. THIS is helpful. THIS is priceless. THIS is what makes your content stand out and above the rest.
    Thank you for your ministry! God's greatest blessings to you

  • @onewilmore
    @onewilmore 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    You are both clearly imperfect! But your level of vulnerability has you light years ahead of any marriage I've ever seen or heard of. You guys are motivating and I appreciate finding this video!

  • @awardtour93
    @awardtour93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    The conversation towards the end about intimacy was a great and important one. I'm beginning to find the phrase "make me feel..." to be one to discuss in and of itself. As a man with a bald head, if I was unwilling or unable to accept that I'm bald and find beauty in it, I don't think anyone else would be able to "make me feel" any differently. That change requires me to be open to viewing myself differently, and sometimes we just aren't there (and may not know how to get there), no matter what another person attempts to do. So others can participate (and we can give them feedback on HOW to participate), but I believe that we have to retain a sense of ownership of how we ultimately feel.

    • @HowMarriedAreYouPodcast
      @HowMarriedAreYouPodcast  2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I appreciate this comment so much. Ownership is something I could do better with in this area. Thank you!

    • @onewilmore
      @onewilmore 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      You are both clearly imperfect! But your level of vulnerability has you light years ahead of any marriage I've ever seen or heard of. You guys are motivating and I appreciate finding this video!

  • @jemima2748
    @jemima2748 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I could hear you two talk about your kids all day 😂😂 I’m cracking up at the chocolate baby story times

  • @sd8150
    @sd8150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I had issues surrounding sex, took a hugh toll on my marriage. Other responsibilities within our marriage only heightened our lack of intimacy. There was nothing my husband could do to fix that. Affirming me all the time didn't help, because, I already had thought poorly of myself, my body and sexual intimacy. I would just say he was not being honest. Projecting my feelings onto him. I had to work on me. I realized that no one can love you more than yourself. With your cup full, you can share yourself with others.

  • @natashabrazil4171
    @natashabrazil4171 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I’M a single parent and I’m not married but your channel reaches out to me in a way that makes me feel at peace and understand the importance of singleness. I thank God for what He’s doing in me but also for your openness of what it looks like to communicate and fight through the hard parts. I am learning in relationships, in work, and in parenthood, that the tough times breathe new life. I’ve always been the person to run from it, but the fight and spiritual change is worth it.

  • @Tiacocoa
    @Tiacocoa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I literally just read in proverbs "where there is hope for your child, discipline your child or you will ruin their lives". The road will be tough but it is necessary. just what I read in proverbs 17-18 !!!

    • @queennanna5595
      @queennanna5595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So true. All the kids need discipline including her daughter or she is going to have huge problems going forward,

  • @aureecee3781
    @aureecee3781 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    As soon as Glenn said how do men do that i literally yelled at my screen “Affirm her’” it goes a long way

  • @shkase398
    @shkase398 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This hits so hard. My husband and I have four kids as well. I was 30 when we married, and we basically had kids every other year. I was pregnant every 15 months for like 8 years.

  • @Great01Dane
    @Great01Dane 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I dont leave messages but Yo!! This IS the podcast!!! Rocking with yall for so long this IS IT. SO so so much good advice in there from the women after pregnancy conversation to the husband service v self care. THiS is the outline of the conversation that spouses need to have especially when children are present. It is not a factor of if but when....yall are so dope keep it up #hmay #hmaywatcher #dmv

  • @LexWithThaLocs
    @LexWithThaLocs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Currently raising 3 girls 14, 12, and 3. I’m praying for you both but Yvette I’m sending some extra up for you. Tween and teenage stages are definitely character building times for parents. The relational changes that happen between a mother and daughter can be indescribable, like where did my mini go🥺. Anywho, I Love what you all are doing Thank You for creating and sharing with the world God Bless🖤.

    • @nicoles4257
      @nicoles4257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I got two little girls and you scaring me!! 😨 but thanks for the heads up.

    • @Cocoamama03
      @Cocoamama03 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Whew yes, the mother daughter relationship is so temperamental. There is a thin line, in keeping the respect but letting the daughter express herself too. My daughter is able to share her feelings but definitely have to leg little mama know I’m momma and so things just not going to fly. Keep the lines off communication open.

    • @LexWithThaLocs
      @LexWithThaLocs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@nicoles4257 No need to fear you got this😉. What I’ve found most helpful in this season is prayer, deep breathing, and the art of pausing🖤.

  • @areawestrealty
    @areawestrealty 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    OMH!! 😢 I have one of those brave little souls, my mini me… now 19😢😢😢 it was very hard - there was no fear, I had to always out smart her, it was mentally challenging and emotionally hard. I am praying for you..
    The good thing- No one will get over on her and she will be a dynamic woman. 🎉

  • @chandabwsandidge0430
    @chandabwsandidge0430 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The last few minutes gives for an interesting conversation when Yvette mentions “making me feel…” or pushing past the pushback because some things are def unique to your marriage in hindsight.
    It reminded me of the podcast: “30 min with the Perrys” that in marriage, Jackie specifically, needed to have autonomy with her body (history of abuse) and pushing past her “not tonight Babe” would have sent her to a different mental space.
    I agree with partners affirming their partners, but postpartum is real and takes a lot of patience, unconditional love, Holy Spirit & therapy to navigate.
    Great episode!!

  • @elainablunt613
    @elainablunt613 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yess! Affirmation from your partner is such an important factor when you're trying to feel like yourself again! My hubby was good about that 😊

  • @LekeshaL
    @LekeshaL 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I always love your episodes, but this one is hitting so many personal points. Shout out to the two of you for the level of transparency and honesty

  • @deidreej
    @deidreej 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don’t have kids but growing up my parents were NOT my friends! I always felt and still do that if your parents are your friends then they can’t discipline you because friends don’t discipline friends. I’m very close to my mom but she didn’t become my friend until I was grown! As a kid I knew my mom didn’t play and met business.
    Anyway awesome talk very valuable and vulnerable! Thanks for sharing 🌹🦋🌺

  • @LindaLinda-mf5ug
    @LindaLinda-mf5ug 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You guys are just taking us thru the real deal mehn.... Dis wat we call authentic... Yeah... Even if it's not food but...... Courage fam.... I really need dis... Still single though but... It's worth it. 🙏🙏💖🌎

  • @miaserenavega
    @miaserenavega 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i’m a teacher so I feeeeeel yvette. being a teacher is a whole thing. wow. y’all are amazing & im so thankful that we all get to benefit & learn from your experiences

  • @sonyansiiro6741
    @sonyansiiro6741 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is my absolute favorite podcast. I did a happy dance when I saw it posted. I'm so glad you guys are back.

  • @LRain-jf5hr
    @LRain-jf5hr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Such an amazing conversation. You both have developed an art where I think your audience really feels part of the conversation beyond being a listener. Praying for your continued growth for this podcast ❤

  • @theknights3025
    @theknights3025 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Y'all are doing the Lord's work STRAIGHT UP

  • @1SilentRiver
    @1SilentRiver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Watching this episode and many others has caused me to sympathize a great deal with men who love and desire to be faithful to their women. The complexities of a woman's mind and emotional states are exhausting and I applaud Glen for his emotional intelligence. 55:42 shows this especially. From the outside it seems to me that intimacy has always been the wedge between the two. When Glen is too honest it seems to be an affront to Yvette. Glen was honest when he said that sex was always a problem and it shattered Yvette's illusion of children, pregnancy and body consciousness being the real issue. When Yvette said "you ain't getting none of this".. she was also being honest. It seems that the withholding of sex is a form of control and tempering of some sorts masqueraded behind some emotional jigsaw puzzle that he must decipher to earn the right to her body. Wives, the truth is that your body is not your own and sex IS (a portion of) your duty to your husband. His need and desire for sex with you is the key to the emotional security you crave if you would just yield and not allow your feelings to navigate reality. Anyhow, I love that it seems that they are growing and in a much better place. Praying it continues.

  • @LynaeBarnett
    @LynaeBarnett 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Y’all are literally the mentors I need 😂 I see so much in y’all’s relationship that I can relate to my own ❤

  • @b4real2me
    @b4real2me 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The lives that y'all touch and help with y'all truth and being so transparent... WOW!!! I share y'all with all young (and not so young) people be them a couple, single, parent and even childless. Thank you for doing the hard work, being true and sharing. 💋

  • @reannarwhite2011
    @reannarwhite2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    A straight jacket!!! I’m dead lol

  • @damedoscondos
    @damedoscondos 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I completely agree it's necessary for couples to go on a trip after they get married, even if it's just for a few days and/or somewhere simple.
    Having that time to just be nothing more than Mr and Mrs before everyday life kicks in gives couples an opportunity to spend time doing nothing but solidifying their bond as married people before it has to be worked in around other things and people. Getting tight on that team level and intimacy level to start out can improve the ability to stay connected as life comes at you

  • @jt4953
    @jt4953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love this podcast! You all show the journey and the transparency is unprecedented. Some couples tend to maintain appearances at all costs so to see this season and the flirting and affection is absolutely amazing. You all put in the work 💕🥰💕 I felt Yvette on the body changes. Most women need to get there mentally before we can ever get there physically. The words of affirmation without sex is extremely powerful because if you have the mind everything else follows.

  • @reannarwhite2011
    @reannarwhite2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh how funny chocolate baby story time was today! I love it! I love love love your family! You guys give such great advice!

  • @katrinaporter08
    @katrinaporter08 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m binging on these episodes … it’s the favorite book I needed to read with my ears!!!

  • @chaosswa-ee-ty5911
    @chaosswa-ee-ty5911 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When she push through her emotion on the issue and says how she feeling i be here for it. I'm here for the growth sis.

  • @jt4953
    @jt4953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    “I did the sides…🤷🏽‍♀️” Is my favorite line from this podcast 😆😆😆

  • @kaylaross9977
    @kaylaross9977 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Connecting on so many things this episode. I am the teacher with a one year old, baby #2 on the way, only 3 years into my marriage, and my husband is a stay at home dad. So I’m having all the feelings listening to this now. Feels good to be validated that I’m not crazy… this is hard… but also walking away with a “live through it” message and realizing there isn’t necessarily a “solution”.

  • @ms.angiesworld8696
    @ms.angiesworld8696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Another great episode! ❤

  • @paigealexandriax
    @paigealexandriax 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Lmaoo 15:00 has me cracking up. These moments happen in every marriage. I think I’m in this moment now at 5 years in 😂🤎

  • @cvanny473
    @cvanny473 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoy watching you too. I often find myself on one side of the conversation however this episode proves that we learn from our mistakes.

  • @boluadebekun9370
    @boluadebekun9370 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So no ones gonna mention the “i lyk butt” 🤣🤣🤣.
    Love how y'all are always laughing through these deep convos it’s so funny and sweet. Love yall💚

  • @JustBeingMeika
    @JustBeingMeika 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the vulnerability you all share on this podcast. ❤

  • @dionnebevans2369
    @dionnebevans2369 ปีที่แล้ว

    I felt that when Glen said preparing for a kid is a production... so many moving parts

  • @M.A.R.V.
    @M.A.R.V. ปีที่แล้ว

    man this is such a real episode i appreciate what yall do so much

  • @coco698
    @coco698 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yvette dropped some major gems this episode! This episode speaks to my life right now. Awesome, awesome! Thank you both for sharing the way you do. Be blessed! 🧡

  • @ndnelson05
    @ndnelson05 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You two…..just makes me smile 😊❤!

  • @alyceanawilson2588
    @alyceanawilson2588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Do a story time with Glenn on TH-cam shorts 🙌🏾

  • @rilyb4033
    @rilyb4033 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ok waw this was really beneficial. I'm in the smack middle of that early motherhood phase and my partner and I are working through seing each other. It's some real work but I would not have it any other way.

  • @feyikemiige6274
    @feyikemiige6274 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate this so much! Thank you both for being vulnerable.

  • @cierra5778
    @cierra5778 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just want to honestly thank you guys for coming on here and being so vulnerable me and my fiance have 4 kids aswell and this rele gave me the outside looking in perspective I needed to see to understand what he has been trying to communicate to me I always get so defensive because I feel attacked I know he has needs I just like she explained go to work come home kids all over me cook dinner it's alot honestly sex hasn't even been on my mind at all lately I just wanna do right by him and my family it's just rele tough right now don't even get me started on the financial stress but rele THANK YOU SO MUCH THIS HELPS ME ALOT

  • @maijamatheus1156
    @maijamatheus1156 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It is also very satisfying to see your growth. There’s a lot of work going into it that we don’t see, but we see the fruit. It is beautiful ❤

  • @reannarwhite2011
    @reannarwhite2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It is my whole relationship has changed since having 2 babies

  • @arthan06
    @arthan06 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank y’all for transparency ❤🙌🏾and sharing stories on this podcast

  • @latoyebradford3335
    @latoyebradford3335 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love yall 💗 💓 💕 💛 God bless this marriage yall are sooo real I love this ministry

  • @spaciousbutterfly
    @spaciousbutterfly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you guys!! Love these podcasts about what real marriage and parenting is and is like. If I could request a topic, could you guys do the benefits of marriage/positives you've experienced and are experiencing? Even though I'm like 21 I really love learning about marriage/relationships but recently have seeing a lot of the work/hardships associated with it rather than the positives so I would love to see that, especially what its like when you really work through the hard times. Love you guys, peace n love

    • @HowMarriedAreYouPodcast
      @HowMarriedAreYouPodcast  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Check out this episode, and let us know if it's insightful or not. I would love to hear your feedback. th-cam.com/video/326NJvx1pDo/w-d-xo.html

    • @spaciousbutterfly
      @spaciousbutterfly 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @How Married Are You?! Podcast Thanks! will do

  • @jamiehigh924
    @jamiehigh924 ปีที่แล้ว

    MaMaa..Let me tell you, I pray that your time with teenage Anaya will be as harmonious as you say it will because I prayed for all boys when I got married. I was pregnant and the ultrasound showed a boy every time, when the baby popped out they said boy but when they cleaned her up they were like whoops she's a girl (her parts were swollen). I really should not have had that look of horror as I did in that hospital room when they said I actually have a girl but the flashback of the sass and headstrongness that I gave to my Mom flashed before my eyes and I realized that I might have to reap what I sowed. My daughter was the cutest kid and my new best friend and as an adult she is beautiful, strong and independent but them teen years gave me a run for my money and my husband and I look back on it now and laugh about how "We made it ova"Lol! My prayer game grew real strong when that girl was a teenager. Lord help you.

  • @GinaJ790
    @GinaJ790 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great podcast. This hits home for me. Thinking back to the years when I felt it was my duty to have sex with my spouse multiple times every day for years. I did it because he made me feel as if he desired me and only me. It wasn't until I went to counseling that I could express and find another way to make him feel "loved and appreciated".

  • @modernmommy1593
    @modernmommy1593 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the intro with the bloopers 😂😂

  • @chikineeter
    @chikineeter 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hello Glen and Yvette,
    Im putting this question everywhere in the hopes you'll pick it up!
    So... I'm a committed Christian and desire to be married with children one day.. However I know that this is a gift from the Lord and not a watertight promise given to me in scripture. Yes, the bible says delight yourself in the LORD and he'll give you the desires of your heart, but I don't think this necessarily means all of our desires will definitely be given to us in the exact way we want. I have a host of theological reasons for that which I won't go into..
    But ... My question is, if I never were to be married, but am in a faithful committed church family with good male role models in my life, would adoption as a single parent be okay biblically? Would you recommend it, or do you think having a single father figure whom the kids can call 'dad' is an irreplaceable role?
    Right now, I'm not in a position to adopt for financial reasons, but even if I were, it still feels like my kids would be missing out big time. But then again, I hear of kids in the fostering system struggling and it really breaks my heart. It seems better to offer a stable single parent home than none because God hasn't granted me a husband.
    I would appreciate your thoughts. Also, interested to know your thoughts on adoption more generally and whether youve considered it (I hope that's not too intrusive!) Much Love from a long time UK subscriber ❤️ xx

  • @Gwaycee
    @Gwaycee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Cooking after sex. 😁 How productive!

  • @dillonhall3344
    @dillonhall3344 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I did the sides 😂
    -Yvette

    • @ladiepink
      @ladiepink 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂

  • @reannarwhite2011
    @reannarwhite2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is no personal “relations” ever anymore and it’s really on me

  • @jossanda
    @jossanda 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love it

  • @aprilallen2601
    @aprilallen2601 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    LOL. Aniyah was testing you for real! She'll be your best-friend one day.

  • @Encouraged_with_J
    @Encouraged_with_J 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂😂😂 I hit like in like the first 7 seconds. Evette cracked me up ..that look 😂😂😂😂

  • @lashawn369
    @lashawn369 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Checking in from the DMV.

  • @ladiepink
    @ladiepink 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lol Yvette u head up to baby girl made me think about how deer probably do lol like get yo behind out this house lol 😂 let me say a prayer for y’all. Parenting whew

  • @ipromisemusic
    @ipromisemusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The gift is what you pushed! Lol

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    22:06
    OK! Amen for glen

  • @gailjohnson8315
    @gailjohnson8315 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice vibes with the both of you. Please make sure the kids are learning a foreign language.

  • @ipromisemusic
    @ipromisemusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    We made it, I don't care lol

  • @Encouraged_with_J
    @Encouraged_with_J 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So true after pregnancy even a woman’s hormones are sometimes way out of wack! It takes time for us to come back to normal 😂😂😂 we need a minute.

  • @ipromisemusic
    @ipromisemusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Okkk let's goooooo

  • @viviharris2131
    @viviharris2131 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She is just so excellent. That's all.

  • @adriennecottrell387
    @adriennecottrell387 ปีที่แล้ว

    Family work raising children is the most amazing long lasting legacy they can ever be and the rewards are endless raising decent minded, productive human beings. That operate in love and wisdom is the most important job. I think that’s the problem today we’re not raising our children everyone else’s I don’t think that it takes a village to raise your children to take those parents and their right, God, moral ability to raise of children, and be a perfect example of what it is to operate in order of God, nothing compares

  • @ipromisemusic
    @ipromisemusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yesssssssssss

  • @AllThingsLoud_
    @AllThingsLoud_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a heavy episode… but u appreciate it

  • @92spice18
    @92spice18 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you guys know the name of the book she referred to when speaking about being shoulder to shoulder?

  • @adriennecottrell387
    @adriennecottrell387 ปีที่แล้ว

    That’s because the man goes to work, and the woman stays home and raises amazing children with the direction of our husband but the unnecessary pressure and the pleasing of other people that should not come before your family that means your husband or your children is what causes the problems in my opinion

  • @aoletsgo_
    @aoletsgo_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What marriage book did you all read that describes the different marriage working types?

  • @cierra5778
    @cierra5778 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's like I'm looking into a mirror except I still hold back alot because I dont want to be criticized Idk how to express myself and it's depressing

    • @katherineasimah
      @katherineasimah ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Take it one day at a time. Perhaps writing in a journal may help. Blessings,

    • @cierra5778
      @cierra5778 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@katherineasimah good idea it's just hard to sit still and do it I have 3 under 3 and they keep me running

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    o Lord let’s see what Glenn says

  • @VibinWithTiffy
    @VibinWithTiffy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Spare the rod and you spoil the child.... Not to compare but I am a mother of 4. My oldest is almost 11 and he would not dare disobey me like that .. I bended the tree from small so now I mostly talk to him and take away priveleges. We are extremely close and my son comes to me to talk about everything. I say all this to say that your kids are not going to hate you or resent you if you give them spankings. Its in kids nature to test us .. when they have discipline and order the family dynamic is so much better. My kids and I are super close. Beating them does not have negative effects. Now abusing them is completely different. Before I give a spanking a would have spoken to them and gave them warnings. So they know why they are getting spanked. I dont have to do it too ofen.

  • @Adeola_Fadipe
    @Adeola_Fadipe ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂

  • @ChristLike_Gen
    @ChristLike_Gen 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤️💜💙😊

  • @belindasaint-louis9170
    @belindasaint-louis9170 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where’s the outro?! 😢

  • @adriennecottrell387
    @adriennecottrell387 ปีที่แล้ว

    I still love you guys you’re amazing but I’m a little fashion and I feel that the depression or whatever it was you guys were talking about just from outside perspective not telling you about your marriage because it’s awesome but that job because your number one obligation was to your husband and your children and the job is what was causing the stress because it was the odd thing at that time

  • @cecilydavis9562
    @cecilydavis9562 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are not didley squat …. AND neither parent ever feels valued enough or puts the themselves above the kids.

  • @caregiver-69
    @caregiver-69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    As for me after delivery, I would crave and ate chocolate. Yes, after having a child(ren) the changes in the parents world is huge. Post Pardum (spelling) Depression is for real.
    You both come through it real well. The talk this morning was very important and can be informative for upcoming parents.