Gaslighting is awful and when your co-friends know but Don't tell you even though they may have been there during a arguement where you are confronting suspicious behavior and they are present really fucks you up. You basically Lose your partner, all those people you thoughy were your friends and sometimes you formed strong bonds with their family and they are lost too.
It was him convincing everyone I was crazy and because he was giving them money nobody really believed how miserable I was , they all would say “she must be crazy , I wish a man was taking care of me “.
Just found out my boyfriend has been talking to other women on Facebook. So I'm making moves in silence to move out at the end of the month. No fighting, no screaming or yelling...I know my worth and am moving on in a healthy way for me.
Agreed. ............................. Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero.
I haven't cheated in almost 10 years. And I will continue to have awareness of my actions and intentions. Stay faithful, transparent, honest, and loving
@@protect_provide8031 or they switch you to a different therapist everyone year so you end up having to start from the beginning every time. I went through that. Psychiatrist too
My ex used to say 'you're crazy he's my friend from long ago' and ' you must have been cheated on before that's why you feel this way' then it became ' you're cheating on me and saying I'm cheating on you'. Needless to say but I kicked her out on the street in the winter two days from our one year anniversary.
I used to think checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? At the time my ex was acting funny so I contacted CYBERLOGICS_ and got full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life
Yeah my girl cheated on me and pretty much followed all of these. Lied at first but once confronted with the proof she broke down and cried all of the ones at the end. Won't do it again, blamed it on me and lack of attention etc... Gaslighting basically. It's rough man.
It shouldn't be rough. You wouldn't become sad if a turkey sandwich gets old in the fridge,right? You simply get rid of it because eating it might make you sick or even kill you. A love partner should be looked at in a similar manner.
I told cheater /player boyfriends family politely about how he used me & cheated on me & openly admitted he cheated! But he thinks it’s called harassment! Lol 😂 he will take action against me for telling his family!
The worse part of being cheated on is that the person don't accept he/she was cheating. They say hundred kinda words and phrases to make you fool even when you have many proofs.
The continual lying is worse than the cheating itself, it shows a complete lack of respect and doesn’t give you anything to work with, they treat you like an idiot.
The worse part is the realization, repetition and knowing they won't change after another time. They sneak around. Lord knows what they tell the partner in crime! My dad told his paramour he was in love with her or gave the impression, but told my mom, as I sat there listening to the phone call , "Don't divorce me, Willy(her nickname.).I knew them that things would never be the same. The same had called first, then dad. She was 19 and he was 34. She a waitress, he an army enlisted man.1950. I never forgot! The decades pass, but adultery scenarios aren't that different. Mom never remarried. She always worked. Dad was the loser, but he left a permanent dent in my Mom's mind. She never wanted him after that. She went right down to an attorney that very day. She had told that girl she could have him.
I have been around a while and I can tell you the best thing to do if you've been cheated on is to leave. Just leave. You will waste far too much time with these types and they will do it again if given the chance. Have some respect for yourself and LEAVE. You don't owe an explanation.
Wonderful!! This is my first time listening to you. I am a trained professional, and you are right on all counts! The most important thing you said is that the relationship will NEVER be the same! Truer words have never been spoken!!
Back in the day when I was stationed in Germany, my wife cheated on me and lied to my face that break my heart, and I had to send her back to the States. Little that she knew, one of her friends told me everything and when I confronted her she couldn't look me in my eyes to my eyes. After sending her back to the states she cheated again, when I was in Desert Storm, After the war I divorced her; the same day we go a divorced finalized we had a cop of coffee and she asked me if can try restarting over our relationship; I ve told her no I'm moving on with out you, she walked away in tears and I walked away with my head up with no more stress.
"Ive not been with anyone but you, i did not, youre crazy, youre making sh* up, if you accuse then you must be the cheater, youre so insecure"...ive heard it all and boom, he was cheating
I heard the exact same thing from my soon to be ex wife. I even have it recorded that she admitted it. Of course now she denies it even though I have the recording of her admitting it
When asked to answer details about someone ie "when did you meet him? What is his name? Where did you see him?" The answer is "you're crazy, I don't remember". So heart breaking after six years because I know her so well and answering something as simple as this would never be an issue. On that alone besides all the other factors my love sick gut tells me she cheated.
@@bethchumley1052what did you discover? All signs point to my wife cheating but I don't have hard evidence. I am workimg on it. Meanwhile, my gut feeling is she did. And everyone tells me based on the stories to assume she did.
If you're watching this, chances are you're being cheated on. It's never good being cheated on by the love of your life, especially for the reasons in my specific story lol, but it really feels good when you know what the right thing is and you follow through. Peaceful ending.
Because there may have been early warning signs. Plus there may have been faults on both sides that weakened the relationship, or issues of compatibility and communication that made cheating a greater possibility, though not justified. It's better to know all of the facts than it is to live in ignorance and risk going into very similar relationships in the future.
Because of clarity, and if you don't have evidence but have a very strong intuition and all signs point to them cheating, you want to know. Especially if you've been with them for years and love them deeply.
What makes it worse is by the time you find out you have been cheated on you realize that everyone in your circle of friends already knew. And that leads to more anger and hurt. When you confront them they say they didn't want to get involved.
Unfortunately in my experience, you are the always the last to know, also it seems, so then you start doubting your friends, it really does cause a world of pain.
Yeah, im the "friend" of the cheater. I caught her before she told me anything and confronted her, before she told me anything. After I did she gave me some details and I confronted her again. Now she says I used her sharing against her. Nope. Fckng crazy how their mind works. I'm 5 minutes away from telling her husband. I'm gonna give her one more chance to just tell me the truth. I can take the worst truths, but I'll seek vengeance on a liar. Don't take my reality.
If you suspect your partner may be cheating or having trust issues, you shouldn't be in the relationship. Trust should be number 1 in any healthy relationship.
Oh, so youd be able to simply walk away from say.. a 12 or 15 year relationship with no hesitation? YOU can do something that MOST people are unable to do?
I stayed with him when he lost his job. He was so difficult to be with. I stayed. Yet he cheated on me and blamed it on me. It hurts and I hope one day I can get over this.
You have to find a way to heal and forgiveness is the only way. Please take care of your mental health and don’t let it control your life like I did. It’s a long road.
Most DIE hard cheaters never settle down ,all the trauma broken families estranged children relations, not letting go, big mess for people that were hurt, later cheaters get hold and don't have anyone to turn to! Bad Karma, very sad, youth think it's a game to play with other people's feelings! I have seen it, once a cheater always a cheater, man or woman period!
In time, we become more aware of our self worth, love yourself, there are jerks both male and female that look for weak people that they use and manipulate , narcissistic is the word, beware they are around, they lead double lives, no feelings for anyone except for themselves, keep your guard, cheaters are like drug addicts, they go on to their next victim! Best thing to do to them is to outpsyche them ! Karma
Cheating cannot happen without 4 characters: 1. SELFISHNESS 2. lack of connection 3. lack of empathy. 4. Not caring about the hurt you feel. This drives the cheating, not the faults of the partner. Whatever their excuse/reason? These 4 things exist before the cheating and are NOT good relationship material. Avoid. Seriously? Run, it will save you a world of self torture why you are not lovable.
I'm only on number 2 and all this proves is, if your partner cheats just leave. Don't even bother confronting them. If they ask you can tell them you know they were cheating, but otherwise ghost their a$$. Cheaters don't care. They risk your health. They betray your trust. And if given the chance they'll manipulate you into staying iwth them or even worse blame you for their actions.
Don't be motivated by punishment and revenge. It's never healthy to want to inflict pain, no matter the circumstances, and it doesn't help you to heal and become a better person.Your advice is correct, but just shouldn't be sold as a means of punishment.
"Hes just a friend", " i was a sleep"," she starts fights over nothing", , stops any physical contact with you. E.g kissing touching or sex, girls nights out or trips away!. "Having showers as soon as she returns home". Taking phone calls away from you and putting their phone upside down and on silent when they are around you. Frequently drinks alcohol or does drugs. Has many guy friends.
I'm in that situation right now, I broke up with my girlfriend two days ago due to suspicions. I realise I could have been overthinking, it's tough man.
I cheated because I felt unworthy, unwanted and unloved in the relationship when I should've just ended it right there. I recieved the karma for it and tried fixing it but it's not repairable. I stopped cheating because it's wrong and I don't want to be that kind of person who hurts other people. I know in my next relationship to always be honest and communicate about everything. For me it was a lesson learned but a person can only take so much of the gaslighting and manipulation until action arises. Not making an excuse for my behavior. I fully acknowledge it and working to change the toxicity in me but a relationship is a team i cannot force anyone to change their own toxic traits as well. I apologized, change my behavior but sadly it's not enough. I know to never cheat or lie no matter how bad it gets it's never worth it. Wish you all healing. Sincerely, a cheater who learned this lesson
Thanks for sharing your story. I appauld you for changing your ways. In hindsight, cheating was a waste of time. Working on goals and becoming a better me is the way.
You talk about receiving karma, but chances are you were on the receiving end of bad karma before the cheating occurred. You had good reason for feeling unworthy etc and when you feel that way you are automatically more susceptible to bad relationships without realising, and trapped by the same negative emotions and lack of belief that you will be alright if you leave a relationship and that there is someone better out there. Negatives breed negatives until the moment of awareness and enlightenment (and no I don't mean Jesus).
Yes but so do non cheaters when they are constantly having there character compared to a piece of shit cheater. It's inraging to be accused of something you have never done and never would do day in and day out.
A lot of cheaters gaslight their partners, the cheated partner does not know how to get out of the relationship because he or she is not mentally strong enough to leave, the cheater has the upper hand, also if the one that is cheated on is bringing home the bacon, they will be unmercifally used, trapped, vicious cycle, and the cheater wins the game Period! The truth hurts!
Yes!!! I found out my ex had gotten someone pregnant when he was angry. He just said it like it was no big deal and laughed when I didn’t have a response.
@@frankcorrea9702 I have cheated in the past and I am telling you now, cheaters DO NOT win at all. If anything they lose and receive years of karma. Bad karma at that. The only way to truly change is to not blame your partner or other people, go to the creator GOD and ask for guidance, healing, discipline, and discernment. Once you truly admit you were wrong and confess your own sinful ways god will help. Only if you are TRULY WILLING TO CHANGE. not blame your parents, friends, job, relationship. You must take accountability for your own actions. That's the only way. God does forgive and will give you a second chance but only if you are truly sorry and are serious about spiritual growth. The devil is the one who deceives. The devil is the one who sends demons out to attempt to ruin people's lives especially when it's gods chosen ones and a godly relationship. A lot of people cheat, lie, kill, steal and hate because they are demonic. Ever heard of the jezebel spirit? I'm so thankful I woke up and went to God because the road I was going down was going to lead me into destruction, darkness, and emptiness full of demonic doorways. Once you figure out Satan's tricks, and put on the armor of God, you will be stronger, wiser and vigilant than before. The devil HATES love. Genuine love. Why do you think just before you're about to level up, temptation arises? To bring you back down. Please stop spreading false information. Satan only has 3 plans for this world. To steal. To kill. And to destroy. Cheaters don't ever win.
What trips me up is my ex was completely convinced I was cheating! I have never, and will never, cheat! My ex-wife cheated (repeatedly) and it ruined our marriage ending in divorce. I know what that feels like and I would never do that! So, it’s funny that I eventually ended up innocently refuting her claims using these exact methods as cheaters do. These are the same reactions an innocent person would have! Not an all inclusive way to tell if you are being cheated on!
FBI Pro tip:: When a guilty person is confronted about crimes or cheating, instead of saying "No. I didn't do that", they will often try to convey the message "I'm not the kind of person who would do that". They're afraid their lie will be easily seen so Instead, they say things like, "Why would I cheat on someone I love?" "When would I even have time to cheat?" "I'm a Christian so I don't believe in that" "What kind of person would do that?" This is almost always followed by then accusing the questioner of being a bad person. "You're really insecure! How can you live like that?" "You really need to take a good look at yourself (Roll eyes)" "Are you really stupid enough to believe this?"
I broke up with my girlfriend the other day, I've been seeing small red flags that she could be cheating. Subtle tilting the phone screen away when texting, and app notifications turned off. Some details if her stories didn't add up. Though other times, she will hand me her unlocked phone to order takeaway, etc. So I'm second guessing my decision, perhaps I was wrong. She did use these statements you mentioned about denying it though. She also accused me of being suspicious with my phone and that she thinks I cheat, classic deflecting. My gut tells me I'm right, but when I look at it logically I could be wrong. What do you think, are my suspicions likely to be true?
She claims that the reason why she gets so defensive and upset whenever I try and call her out on being unfaithful, is because she can't believe that I could ever think that way about her.
Their perceived image is their most prized treasure and no one better challenge it. They would never pause a second to consider that they might be in the wrong, even when cheating. Everything they do to you is justified to themselves and that is the only opinion that matters. The only way to get them to admit is indisputable proof, and even that will be challenged.
Healthiest thing to do is leave the cheater no matter what, it's the only way you get your dignity back and let the cheating person know that you will not allow someone to do that to you if they truly love you they wont do it period ! No excuses no bullshit just straight up healthy boundaries, no matter how much crying or pleading you need to remain strong because if the cheater can do it once and be forgiven they will continue to do so or be thinking about it better safe than sorry plus once your single again you'll be open for someone worthy of a relationship that doesn't involve 3 people or in some worse cases even more why be tied to someone who doesn't respect or value the relationship. Relationships are for two people who love each other not one person committed while the other uses their body like a depository.With any luck the cheating person's reputation will follow them and people wont want to date them then they can be the whores they've always wanted to be and once they realize noone will marry them because they're unfaithful and or a whore maybe then and only then they'll change but dont count on it .
This is very accurate. As someone who lived through 20 year of cheating girlfriends, fiancée's, and wives, before finding a faithful spouse, I can tell you this exactly what cheaters do to you.
Cheaters like a different jelly bean from the candy store every week, now days it is all international flavors ,especially hot ones, yea once s cheeeeer, ALWAYS a cheater, never will change, an ingrain trait in humans, till the day they die !
You forgot when she's at work and you text her what time she's getting home and she texts back 'Im off in half an hour'. Problem is your at her work and her car isn't in the parking lot.
@@Jeff-uq7iu The yoga mat was the cover for her visiting the BF. She used it for months until I caught her red handed, suddenly yoga mat is gathering dust in the closet. Never was a yoga class, what woman uses the same dirty work out gear day after day without washing it? Yep.
Well, what i cannot wrap my mind aroun is..... why do they fight and argue to keep you if they have somebody else? Why do they gotta stick around and hurt you more when they have someone else to go be with? Are they just evil heartless sadists?
@@lunibombom4551 people that want to be in a poly or open , should date somebody that is poly instead of hurting and lying to people that dont have the same preference. What cheating really comes down to is a betrayal of trust, and if you agree to be mono with someone you shouldnt go back on it in secret. If someone were to leave a poly relationship to become mono, thatd also be in a sense cheating, they broke their promise to be in an open relationship and hurt their partners. Relationships require communication, and if you dont communicate that you want to be poly then you hurt people and thats wrong.
It's not hurt that they intend to impose on you, rather the opposite actually. The partner sticking to you usually wants things to work out in the relationship, so they put in efforts for redemption rather than running away from the sticky situation. What else will they get when the cheated partner gives them such a hard time with regaining their trust... 😅
I have gone through a rough patch a few times with my husband and it is with the same person. He claims that they are “just friends.” He would call her late at night on his way home from work and rush to get off the phone with me. This last time he told her not to respond to any of my messages if I tried to contact her. One of the messages he sent her began with “All I told her(Me) was that…” Is is still pretty guarded when it comes to his phone. If I am ever on his phone he watches me like a hawk.
I met my exes " best friend" about a year after we moved in together....looking back he should have been kicked out asap but I put up with her for a few more years. I always knew they had a thing but he would get extremely mad when I brought it up.now that he's out of my life he's back with his bff and I feel like a fool. At least I know the signs to look out for now. Unfortunately I can't trust male female friendships any more...it's just too risky if your partner is close with someone of the opposite sex.
Every relationship I have been in, I have been cheated on. No matter how many times I've been through it, it is painful as ever. It's more painful when your in love.
@@djr3008 is this a coincidence....Krazy but I always wanted to write a book about my life of all the experiences I have been through. I even have a title already but being a single mother all of my life, I have to work two jobs to make ends meet. I would love to talk to you.
My ex didn't say a damn thing, she never got mad never said sorry didn't say a word and it's true because the next day she asked me who told you about everything? I said I don't need to tell you anything.
I caught my ex girlfriend cheating on me by talking to this guy about how much she missed being intimate with him on the Facebook comments of this post. And now she’s denying everything saying that it was her sister using her Facebook talking under her name to one of her secret boyfriend. I block her. I don’t believe anything she’s saying. Did I did the right thing?
Suspicion meter: 1 = isolated incident, 2 = coincidence, 3 = pattern, 4 = highly suspicious 16. "I was sleeping."/"I was tired." 17. "I was working." (It's Saturday and they don't normally work weekends) 18. "I was busy."/"I'm busy right now." 19. "I don't feel like doing anything." 20. "I'm sick." *fake cough, fake sneezing and fake sniffles (usually on phone when you don't live with partner) 21. "I got hurt at *insert place here" (usually back, legs, feet, arms or hands also usually on phone) 22. "Your friends are lying."/"That wasn't me."/"It wasn't me." (If your friends catch cheating partner) 23. "I was drunk." (Bullshit justification even they were drunk. Some people are still self-aware) 24. "I've gotten over him/her." (When they really haven't) 25. "It's the TV/radio." (If they're in a crowded area and they're in the bathroom trying to lower the amount of background noise)
" What? No. She is just a friend.." " You are doubting? Again?! Why don't you trust me? Why?! " " You mean her? Why would I like her? She is ugly af. " " No!! Please trust me!! Please!! I'm sorry! I'll be honest!! Pleasee!! " These are things my bf said to me when he was confronted. He cheated 4 times..
Everyone cheats these days everyone has selfish narcissistic tendencies because we live in a world without meaningful consequences and lacking in any people with a backbone who stand up for themselves or people who have personal accountability.
Some of these can only exist when someone has cheated but there’s also quite a few, especially in the denial section, that would be present when falsely accused as well.
@@TrueMedallionehhhh🤷🏻♂️, unfortunately It happens ta even the best of us.🙂 thank you very much for your consideration & empathy !!!! Also on behalf of everyone Thank you for your time , work, & insight!!! ⬇️👇⤵️🙃 Btw subbed & thumbed 👍
If your boyfriend or girlfriend hides another person then they are cheating. They should let you know all their friends and never hide anyone. Just say a long paragraph of how many great things you like about them then completely ignore them. Let them be confused and never message back for days. If you do message again they’ll respect you and may never cheat again. Don’t accuse them again. They’ll take the hint from last conversations
Truth be told! Caveat, (its an addiction) the cheater will be a cheater, to their partner, to themselves and everyone and everything in their life. This is when "Karma" takes over and the consequences and repercussions of their kiniving, deceitful, greedy, SELFISH ways catch up to them and it comes back on them 10 times worse...why?... because...whats that infamous saying?... "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!" Be safe✌😇💜
*First off, why tf would even honor a cheater with a conversation?* It’s meaningless and it’s only an ego stroke to them. Best practice is to never let them know that you found out and then abruptly divorce/dump them shortly after discovery with a vague reason blaming yourself. In reality, you’d think they’d be grateful that you’re ending the relationship, that way they no longer have the burden of sneaking around.
Cheaters like to say 1. Say' no " even not let sentences finished 2."why are you insecure?" 3."You don't trust me " 4.when you ask about cheaters' contacts they will say "we are only friends " 5."You are making this such a big deal." 6."You are crazy." 7."You are being paranoid." 8."It's not what it looks like." 9."It didn't mean anything." 10.They blame you at faults.... 11.more excuses...to find ways to cheat. 12."It was one mistake." 13."I didn't mean to hurt you." 14."I am going to change." ..... .... .. .
Sooooooo…saying No is shady behavior? Sounds like we’re just supposed to say yes. I myself haven’t done this., but those who are suspected have very few options to defend themselves.
This is in regards to HARD evidence that the person cheated on you. My husband said NO for a while. He called her all kind of names! He only wanted me to be mad at her by saying she was a crazy B! A trouble maker, a liar! I threw it up in his face that it was awful funny he cheated on me with someone like that! lol...But she supposedly left him got busted getting out of some other dudes car at work, and my old man dumped her and called her every name in the book. Now, that may not be true....but they didn't make it, and she started dating that same guy. It broke my hubby's heart, and to this day....we're in counseling because we love each other, but are NOT in love any longer. I think I have a decision to make.. .A very hard decision. 🙏😔💞
My ex-wife suddenly hit me with " I feel like I'm getting f**ked around on! " Brief silence. I said, " I have not cheated on you, I have never cheated on you... but if you think I am..follow me. Call the show Cheaters and have them follow me for you. Then you'll know so follow me. I dare you. Follow me. " She dropped it but was pissed off for a while. Turns out that she was cheating at the time. She even started accusing me of flirting with every woman she saw me talking to, it didn't matter if she was 19 or 70 and I was exhausted from all the accusations. Trust your gut.
I need advice on my situation. My now husband and I met on Facebook and it was a long distance relationship. We decided to make it real and I planned on moving in with him on January of 2019. I learned after we got married he was talking to another girl while he was talking to me before I moved. It was sexual in nature. This was like a week before I moved. We got married on May 29th 2020. I found out in February of 2021 that there were other women he would comment flirty gifs on their profile pics or tell them they have a beautiful smile. One of them he was flirting with on messenger sending inappropriate memes to. Mind you this was after we got married. He said they were only joking 🙄 I don't know how to get over all of it. The one female friend he said had a beautiful smile is still on his friend's list and I've noticed he has to react or comment on almost everyone oh her posts. I don't know how to trust him again. It's become a real problem for me.
What about when she gets and keeps all of her “ STEP BROTHERS” notifications on fb! They like in the same town come to find out. She’s pretty much okay with fucking her “STEP BROTHER” sick now the wife’s a bit curious.
"I never meant to hurt you" then why didn't you bring up after it was done like it was normal conversation because you knew it would hurt them. If something I knew wouldn't hurt my partner there would be no reason for me to try to hide it, you knew it would hurt them but you did it anyway
Simple n straight...if tey really ❤ u..tey won't do tat...tis is te biggest clue tey don't...it's up to u to carry on tis mess..i lost my bestie tat way😔 he took hs own life coz he ws cheated horribly 😢
Yeah I'm paranoid, because I'm currently with my 10th girlfriend, 7 out of the 9 previous ones have cheated on me, and now the 10th one is being suspicious so of course I'm going to think this way, she does get mad she does deny it she tries to make me feel bad for assuming, like whenever we're on a call (we're currently long distance) I can see reflecting through her glasses that she has my camera shrunken and she's doing other things and she'll start texting other people and tilt her phone so that I can't see or turn her camera off and mute herself sometimes she'll do both and then when I ask her what she's doing she'll just say it's a secret or she won't answer me whenever I try to ask questions she won't answer and she'll try to change the subject, just now she said that she's in the car and she won't be able to text me in a couple minutes cuz she's going somewhere and I asked where and she just said "I don't know", classic excuse right for me whenever a girl says that yes there is a chance they're telling the truth but there's also a chance that they're just bad at lying and can't figure out what to say so they just say I don't know I'll ask her again tonight and if she says "I don't remember" well then there you go.. once she had her phone on her bed and then she left her room to do something and then ran back in her room and hung up on me and then like 30 seconds later she called back and tried to say it was an accident... I really do hope I'm just being paranoid and overthinking everything but considering all the times I've been cheated on I just can't help it but feel this way... I really hope I could just find somebody who's gonna be loyal..😔 Edit: she's actually 11th not 10th, also she dumped me and said she just needed some space, that she's not in the mindset to date, then like the next day I ended up running into one of her friends online and she confirmed for me after we talked for a little that you was cheating on me the whole time and I can conclude based off something she did that the only reason she dumped me was to keep the other guy around, she deleted me from Snapchat after one of her friends took her phone and was trying to talk to me and then she told me I can't have the pictures of her anymore, what is she was just taking a break and was going to be back why would I need to do those things why would those things need to happen..😔, I'm done with online dating I wont stop getting cheated on and it's getting very irritating
Thank you, 5 elements you mentioned, my best I just heard was it is not a big deal..but thank you just broke up with a serial cheater/pathological liar..didn't know these elements I had to go the full extent of find out first hand wow that hurts but at least I know and min time wasted..thank you
People are trying to minimize the cheating saying that everybody are doing it and it is very common. A sin will always be a sin no matter the century, the culture or anything.
I'm not sure if my partner is cheating on me but most times, I find him acting really sweet towards most of his female friends. However, he immediately says sorry to me, but admittedly says he can't change his behavior.
If he knows his behavior makes you feel insecure and he’s not willing to change then he doesn’t love you babes. Men who care about a woman will do anything to keep them
When my girlfriend came back from visiting family and when I told her I loved her and was cuddling her and she started crying. It happened on multiple occasions. She told me it was family matters but didn't go into details. After about 3 month I took a look at her discord and found evidence of her cheating on me.
I used to think checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? At the time my ex was acting funny so I contacted CYBERLOGICS_ and got full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life
My wife shows up to our bedroom at 4 a.m. It didn't take long to prove what she was doing after that. Noticed she was shaving her legs and pits a lot. Started really taking care of her appearance as well. Look up the term "Limerence". Woman was completely out of control.
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@@TrueMedallion ahw thank you 😊
me too
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The worst part is making you feel like your the crazy one
I feel you.
Gaslighting is awful and when your co-friends know but Don't tell you even though they may have been there during a arguement where you are confronting suspicious behavior and they are present really fucks you up. You basically Lose your partner, all those people you thoughy were your friends and sometimes you formed strong bonds with their family and they are lost too.
Yessss frfr
Yes!! Its horrible!
It was him convincing everyone I was crazy and because he was giving them money nobody really believed how miserable I was , they all would say “she must be crazy , I wish a man was taking care of me “.
The true narcissists never admit and will always deny and gaslight, even in the face of physical proof.
We ain’t getting caught lol
@@howdyfucker443 interesting quality to take pride in.
@@craig_d just doing things that all men do but don’t say lol
God help you if you end up with a sociopath ! 100 x worse
Then victimize themselves and call you abusive for questioning their suspicious behavior.
Just found out my boyfriend has been talking to other women on Facebook. So I'm making moves in silence to move out at the end of the month. No fighting, no screaming or yelling...I know my worth and am moving on in a healthy way for me.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Did you move out? 😢
If u really loved him you would have a mature conversation instead of moving in silence like he is your enemy
So wild when you know but just keep it to yourself. You get to watch all of the lies unravel as they dig their grave deeper.
@@1Yhadatmisehif he really loved her he would be cheating on her in the first place.
@@1Yhadatmisehwhat the hell kind of take is this? She doesn’t owe him a conversation - he owes her not to cheat. Good for her!
If your partner became emotionally or physically involved with someone other than you romantically, it’s cheating.
Yep
Yep
Facto
Yes! No one hides friendships. It's the deceit and lies, not if it's even sexual or not. If you aren't doing anything wrong, you have nothing to hide.
Agreed.
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero.
I haven't cheated in almost 10 years. And I will continue to have awareness of my actions and intentions. Stay faithful, transparent, honest, and loving
Good to hear, 5 years after i was cheated on, still agonizing,,cry daily, sex is gross, i can't feel orgasm,, i love the person, i just can't heal
@@protect_provide8031 You need therapy.
@@loualbino5536 been in therapy for 4 year, truth people hate to admit is sometimes therapy doesn't work or takes decades
Communication is a must.
@@protect_provide8031 or they switch you to a different therapist everyone year so you end up having to start from the beginning every time. I went through that. Psychiatrist too
My ex used to say 'you're crazy he's my friend from long ago' and ' you must have been cheated on before that's why you feel this way' then it became ' you're cheating on me and saying I'm cheating on you'. Needless to say but I kicked her out on the street in the winter two days from our one year anniversary.
I would have done it on the exact day!
All I want is someone that loves me for me and doesn’t cheat on me. I feel like that’s not a lot to ask for.
Same man, been wishing that for years. And here i am again being cheated on and feeling hurt. Seems like all my relationships end like this.
It is. Good luck though
I used to think checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? At the time my ex was acting funny so I contacted CYBERLOGICS_ and got full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life
You have that someone GOD AND YOU 💪🏾💋
Makes two of us
Yeah my girl cheated on me and pretty much followed all of these. Lied at first but once confronted with the proof she broke down and cried all of the ones at the end. Won't do it again, blamed it on me and lack of attention etc... Gaslighting basically. It's rough man.
Finally I can now run my mans phone from my phone. I can't stop singing praises to *WILL_IAM_STONE* on IG I can now tell if she's lying to me or not.
It shouldn't be rough. You wouldn't become sad if a turkey sandwich gets old in the fridge,right? You simply get rid of it because eating it might make you sick or even kill you. A love partner should be looked at in a similar manner.
Same thing going on w me man
I told cheater /player boyfriends family politely about how he used me & cheated on me & openly admitted he cheated! But he thinks it’s called harassment! Lol 😂 he will take action against me for telling his family!
Women cheat for very different reasons than men do
Cheaters will be cheaters until someone cheat on them.😂
True that !!
It kinda made me worse😩
@@richiedoe8576 No. You're a good man so you will stop cheating cause you now know it isn't right.😃
Yup and its coming
Leah Divergent did it come yet
The worse part of being cheated on is that the person don't accept he/she was cheating. They say hundred kinda words and phrases to make you fool even when you have many proofs.
Yep
That's true. I begged him, even though she was in his house and I saw her purse and jacket, I begged him to just tell me the truth and he refused.
Exactly
The continual lying is worse than the cheating itself, it shows a complete lack of respect and doesn’t give you anything to work with, they treat you like an idiot.
The worse part is the realization, repetition and knowing they won't change after another time. They sneak around. Lord knows what they tell the partner in crime!
My dad told his paramour he was in love with her or gave the impression, but told my mom, as I sat there listening to the phone call , "Don't divorce me, Willy(her nickname.).I knew them that things would never be the same. The same had called first, then dad. She was 19 and he was 34. She a waitress, he an army enlisted man.1950. I never forgot!
The decades pass, but adultery scenarios aren't that different. Mom never remarried. She always worked. Dad was the loser, but he left a permanent dent in my Mom's mind. She never wanted him after that. She went right down to an attorney that very day. She had told that girl she could have him.
I have been around a while and I can tell you the best thing to do if you've been cheated on is to leave. Just leave. You will waste far too much time with these types and they will do it again if given the chance. Have some respect for yourself and LEAVE. You don't owe an explanation.
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Not eazy.... but facts... killer advise
100%
Absolutely correct Just leave big chance they’ll cheat again
Easy to do when kids are not involved.
Wonderful!! This is my first time listening to you. I am a trained professional, and you are right on all counts! The most important thing you said is that the relationship will NEVER be the same! Truer words have never been spoken!!
Thanks!
Back in the day when I was stationed in Germany, my wife cheated on me and lied to my face that break my heart, and I had to send her back to the States. Little that she knew, one of her friends told me everything and when I confronted her she couldn't look me in my eyes to my eyes. After sending her back to the states she cheated again, when I was in Desert Storm, After the war I divorced her; the same day we go a divorced finalized we had a cop of coffee and she asked me if can try restarting over our relationship; I ve told her no I'm moving on with out you, she walked away in tears and I walked away with my head up with no more stress.
its sad that people who cheat ,think that they are going to hide it forever,
well , nothing is meant to be hidden forever no matter what
"Ive not been with anyone but you, i did not, youre crazy, youre making sh* up, if you accuse then you must be the cheater, youre so insecure"...ive heard it all and boom, he was cheating
I heard the exact same thing from my soon to be ex wife. I even have it recorded that she admitted it. Of course now she denies it even though I have the recording of her admitting it
When asked to answer details about someone ie "when did you meet him? What is his name? Where did you see him?" The answer is "you're crazy, I don't remember". So heart breaking after six years because I know her so well and answering something as simple as this would never be an issue. On that alone besides all the other factors my love sick gut tells me she cheated.
Replace "he" with "she" and you have my experience. lol
Sounds like cheaters have more confidence than sense. Going down in a blaze of glory, not recognizing the fact they're collapsing.
I never cheated in my life
"Don't do onto others what you don't want to be done onto yourself"
Is a strong sentence i live by
True. :)
If you have the feeling you’re being cheated, you are.
I have that feeling that been cheated. I'm getting jealous thinking he did cheated on me but I don't have no proof. I don't know why I felt this way.
@@bethchumley1052what did you discover?
All signs point to my wife cheating but I don't have hard evidence. I am workimg on it.
Meanwhile, my gut feeling is she did. And everyone tells me based on the stories to assume she did.
Nah. Being cheated on makes people suspicious of it in future relationships unless they really take time to address the issue.
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@@bethchumley1052 This is why dating and marriage is dying 😢
If you're watching this, chances are you're being cheated on. It's never good being cheated on by the love of your life, especially for the reasons in my specific story lol, but it really feels good when you know what the right thing is and you follow through. Peaceful ending.
Why waste your time confronting someone who went behind your back? Why not just WALK AWAY and never look back?
Because there may have been early warning signs. Plus there may have been faults on both sides that weakened the relationship, or issues of compatibility and communication that made cheating a greater possibility, though not justified. It's better to know all of the facts than it is to live in ignorance and risk going into very similar relationships in the future.
Maybe they didnt. Weve all been wrong before. Walk away from someone you love not knowing dor sure if they are a scanky whore?
Its not always that easy.... unfortunately. You may think it is but you obviously dont get it
Because love is addiction 😹
Because of clarity, and if you don't have evidence but have a very strong intuition and all signs point to them cheating, you want to know. Especially if you've been with them for years and love them deeply.
Realizing cheaters are the crazy ones is very liberating. Anyone that needs outside, excitement shows deep problems inside the cheater.
Never blame yourselves, it’s there upbringing and lack of communication in there household. Be blessed!!♥️
What makes it worse is by the time you find out you have been cheated on you realize that everyone in your circle of friends already knew. And that leads to more anger and hurt. When you confront them they say they didn't want to get involved.
Unfortunately in my experience, you are the always the last to know, also it seems, so then you start doubting your friends, it really does cause a world of pain.
same fuckin situation unreal
Well I told a friend about cheating and she was never close to me after that. So it's a loss loss situation.
Yes!!!
Yeah, im the "friend" of the cheater. I caught her before she told me anything and confronted her, before she told me anything. After I did she gave me some details and I confronted her again. Now she says I used her sharing against her. Nope. Fckng crazy how their mind works. I'm 5 minutes away from telling her husband. I'm gonna give her one more chance to just tell me the truth. I can take the worst truths, but I'll seek vengeance on a liar. Don't take my reality.
If you suspect your partner may be cheating or having trust issues, you shouldn't be in the relationship. Trust should be number 1 in any healthy relationship.
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Finally I can now run my mans phone from my phone. I can't stop singing praises to *WILL_IAM_STONE* on IG I can now tell if she's lying to me or not.
wow Trust untill u pointed it out it hadn't occurred too me
💥 bam you hit the nail on the head
Oh, so youd be able to simply walk away from say.. a 12 or 15 year relationship with no hesitation?
YOU can do something that MOST people are unable to do?
The first thing they say is I would never cheat on you 😂
XD
Another thing they'll say is "Trust me" 🤣
Super painfully true
Super painfully true
Literally.
I stayed with him when he lost his job. He was so difficult to be with. I stayed. Yet he cheated on me and blamed it on me. It hurts and I hope one day I can get over this.
I’m sorry to hear that. I know it’s tough.
My heart goes out to you Namaste💓🙏🏽☯️
You have to find a way to heal and forgiveness is the only way. Please take care of your mental health and don’t let it control your life like I did. It’s a long road.
Most DIE hard cheaters never settle down ,all the trauma broken families estranged children relations, not letting go, big mess for people that were hurt, later cheaters get hold and don't have anyone to turn to! Bad Karma, very sad, youth think it's a game to play with other people's feelings! I have seen it, once a cheater always a cheater, man or woman period!
In time, we become more aware of our self worth, love yourself, there are jerks both male and female that look for weak people that they use and manipulate , narcissistic is the word, beware they are around, they lead double lives, no feelings for anyone except for themselves, keep your guard, cheaters are like drug addicts, they go on to their next victim! Best thing to do to them is to outpsyche them ! Karma
Cheating cannot happen without 4 characters: 1. SELFISHNESS 2. lack of connection 3. lack of empathy. 4. Not caring about the hurt you feel. This drives the cheating, not the faults of the partner.
Whatever their excuse/reason? These 4 things exist before the cheating and are NOT good relationship material. Avoid. Seriously? Run, it will save you a world of self torture why you are not lovable.
Some people cheat Just toncheat
Its mind blowing how dedicated some cheaters are to the craft. Stay strong people.
Yep stay strong
I'm only on number 2 and all this proves is, if your partner cheats just leave. Don't even bother confronting them. If they ask you can tell them you know they were cheating, but otherwise ghost their a$$. Cheaters don't care. They risk your health. They betray your trust. And if given the chance they'll manipulate you into staying iwth them or even worse blame you for their actions.
Best punishment against a Cheater is completely ghosting her. Confronting is just a pleasure to them and a waste of Energie for you
@Dr Onose I dont care about my ex anymore. She was a Full sociopath and im glad i dont have to see her anymore.
@Dr Onose And im already in a Happy relationship since march 2018.
Yeah but I still want to know the truth. I want to know the story. But I guess it doesn't matter.
Yep they’re narcs. They love supply in any form positivé or negative
Don't be motivated by punishment and revenge. It's never healthy to want to inflict pain, no matter the circumstances, and it doesn't help you to heal and become a better person.Your advice is correct, but just shouldn't be sold as a means of punishment.
"Hes just a friend", " i was a sleep"," she starts fights over nothing", , stops any physical contact with you. E.g kissing touching or sex, girls nights out or trips away!. "Having showers as soon as she returns home". Taking phone calls away from you and putting their phone upside down and on silent when they are around you. Frequently drinks alcohol or does drugs. Has many guy friends.
If you're searching for these types of videos in the first place, your partner is likely cheating, or you are overthinking.
Both
This is the worst. Not having proof, but your gut is telling you it happened. Second guessing yourself because you have no proof really sucks.
@@spyritwind2540 bruhhhh what if she says she doesn’t know if she did or she can’t remember
I'm in that situation right now, I broke up with my girlfriend two days ago due to suspicions.
I realise I could have been overthinking, it's tough man.
Your intuition is your religion.
I cheated because I felt unworthy, unwanted and unloved in the relationship when I should've just ended it right there. I recieved the karma for it and tried fixing it but it's not repairable. I stopped cheating because it's wrong and I don't want to be that kind of person who hurts other people. I know in my next relationship to always be honest and communicate about everything. For me it was a lesson learned but a person can only take so much of the gaslighting and manipulation until action arises. Not making an excuse for my behavior. I fully acknowledge it and working to change the toxicity in me but a relationship is a team i cannot force anyone to change their own toxic traits as well. I apologized, change my behavior but sadly it's not enough. I know to never cheat or lie no matter how bad it gets it's never worth it. Wish you all healing.
Sincerely, a cheater who learned this lesson
I hope you learned well
Thanks for sharing your story. I appauld you for changing your ways. In hindsight, cheating was a waste of time. Working on goals and becoming a better me is the way.
Yeah right
@@Mystic.kristy Anything else your doubtful negative self got to say??
You talk about receiving karma, but chances are you were on the receiving end of bad karma before the cheating occurred. You had good reason for feeling unworthy etc and when you feel that way you are automatically more susceptible to bad relationships without realising, and trapped by the same negative emotions and lack of belief that you will be alright if you leave a relationship and that there is someone better out there. Negatives breed negatives until the moment of awareness and enlightenment (and no I don't mean Jesus).
These signs have been a part of my past. I am ashamed that I have ever given my affection to another. At the same time.
"it's not what it looks like"😭🧐
"It didn't mean anything"
"I never meant to hurt you"
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Or you made me!
Cheaters tell with anger when they are confronted
This!!
Yes but so do non cheaters when they are constantly having there character compared to a piece of shit cheater. It's inraging to be accused of something you have never done and never would do day in and day out.
A lot of cheaters gaslight their partners, the cheated partner does not know how to get out of the relationship because he or she is not mentally strong enough to leave, the cheater has the upper hand, also if the one that is cheated on is bringing home the bacon, they will be unmercifally used, trapped, vicious cycle, and the cheater wins the game Period! The truth hurts!
Yes!!! I found out my ex had gotten someone pregnant when he was angry. He just said it like it was no big deal and laughed when I didn’t have a response.
@@frankcorrea9702 I have cheated in the past and I am telling you now, cheaters DO NOT win at all. If anything they lose and receive years of karma. Bad karma at that. The only way to truly change is to not blame your partner or other people, go to the creator GOD and ask for guidance, healing, discipline, and discernment. Once you truly admit you were wrong and confess your own sinful ways god will help. Only if you are TRULY WILLING TO CHANGE. not blame your parents, friends, job, relationship. You must take accountability for your own actions. That's the only way. God does forgive and will give you a second chance but only if you are truly sorry and are serious about spiritual growth. The devil is the one who deceives. The devil is the one who sends demons out to attempt to ruin people's lives especially when it's gods chosen ones and a godly relationship. A lot of people cheat, lie, kill, steal and hate because they are demonic. Ever heard of the jezebel spirit? I'm so thankful I woke up and went to God because the road I was going down was going to lead me into destruction, darkness, and emptiness full of demonic doorways. Once you figure out Satan's tricks, and put on the armor of God, you will be stronger, wiser and vigilant than before. The devil HATES love. Genuine love. Why do you think just before you're about to level up, temptation arises? To bring you back down. Please stop spreading false information. Satan only has 3 plans for this world. To steal. To kill. And to destroy. Cheaters don't ever win.
What trips me up is my ex was completely convinced I was cheating! I have never, and will never, cheat! My ex-wife cheated (repeatedly) and it ruined our marriage ending in divorce. I know what that feels like and I would never do that! So, it’s funny that I eventually ended up innocently refuting her claims using these exact methods as cheaters do. These are the same reactions an innocent person would have! Not an all inclusive way to tell if you are being cheated on!
what did you do to make her feel this way?
@@starrysloth8018 🙂💀
Exactly!! That video is fueling paranoia for insecure people and is in no way proof
FBI Pro tip:: When a guilty person is confronted about crimes or cheating, instead of saying "No. I didn't do that", they will often try to convey the message "I'm not the kind of person who would do that". They're afraid their lie will be easily seen so Instead, they say things like,
"Why would I cheat on someone I love?"
"When would I even have time to cheat?"
"I'm a Christian so I don't believe in that"
"What kind of person would do that?"
This is almost always followed by then accusing the questioner of being a bad person.
"You're really insecure! How can you live like that?"
"You really need to take a good look at yourself (Roll eyes)"
"Are you really stupid enough to believe this?"
All of the above
I broke up with my girlfriend the other day, I've been seeing small red flags that she could be cheating.
Subtle tilting the phone screen away when texting, and app notifications turned off.
Some details if her stories didn't add up.
Though other times, she will hand me her unlocked phone to order takeaway, etc.
So I'm second guessing my decision, perhaps I was wrong.
She did use these statements you mentioned about denying it though. She also accused me of being suspicious with my phone and that she thinks I cheat, classic deflecting.
My gut tells me I'm right, but when I look at it logically I could be wrong.
What do you think, are my suspicions likely to be true?
She claims that the reason why she gets so defensive and upset whenever I try and call her out on being unfaithful, is because she can't believe that I could ever think that way about her.
If they cheat, cut them off. No need for sloppy tech surveillance that chokes.
@@philyeary8809 the "tech surveillance" is to confirm with evidence. Try to focus.
Cheaters show anger when confronted they may feel guilt
Their perceived image is their most prized treasure and no one better challenge it. They would never pause a second to consider that they might be in the wrong, even when cheating. Everything they do to you is justified to themselves and that is the only opinion that matters. The only way to get them to admit is indisputable proof, and even that will be challenged.
Maybe she's all about herself, as I suspect most cheaters are.
Imagine a cheater watching this and specifically tries to show none of these signs 💀
Omg, sounds exactly like my husband. My advice: never get Married. Deny deny deny and blame me.
Same , my wife cheated and then divorced me really ! I worked too hard ,, after 21 years after I bought her a new home
@@ibzzzzkr935 am sorry to hear that! Brush yourself off and try again
Marriage is tough for sure
Healthiest thing to do is leave the cheater no matter what, it's the only way you get your dignity back and let the cheating person know that you will not allow someone to do that to you if they truly love you they wont do it period ! No excuses no bullshit just straight up healthy boundaries, no matter how much crying or pleading you need to remain strong because if the cheater can do it once and be forgiven they will continue to do so or be thinking about it better safe than sorry plus once your single again you'll be open for someone worthy of a relationship that doesn't involve 3 people or in some worse cases even more why be tied to someone who doesn't respect or value the relationship. Relationships are for two people who love each other not one person committed while the other uses their body like a depository.With any luck the cheating person's reputation will follow them and people wont want to date them then they can be the whores they've always wanted to be and once they realize noone will marry them because they're unfaithful and or a whore maybe then and only then they'll change but dont count on it .
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It is so true... There is nothing to cut out any of these points. I'm so proud that i found these videos
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This is very accurate. As someone who lived through 20 year of cheating girlfriends, fiancée's, and wives, before finding a faithful spouse, I can tell you this exactly what cheaters do to you.
Cheaters like a different jelly bean from the candy store every week, now days it is all international flavors ,especially hot ones, yea once s cheeeeer, ALWAYS a cheater, never will change, an ingrain trait in humans, till the day they die !
You forgot when she's at work and you text her what time she's getting home and she texts back 'Im off in half an hour'. Problem is your at her work and her car isn't in the parking lot.
Oof
Did the same. At work or at yoga and she's not there
@@Jeff-uq7iu The yoga mat was the cover for her visiting the BF. She used it for months until I caught her red handed, suddenly yoga mat is gathering dust in the closet. Never was a yoga class, what woman uses the same dirty work out gear day after day without washing it? Yep.
@@boriskarloff598interesting story.I never knew about yoga mats.
She did every single one of those things
You broke this man young lady :(
:/
Cheaters cut communication; they abuse the silent treatment!
yep
Oh Boy, I just went through this .
For me I was trying to be fair but The amount of disrespect on her end . No reason to keep her in my life
When they say " prove it." Time to leave.
Somebody who cheats the big loser is that person because they're cheating themselves out of it honest and true relationship
Well, what i cannot wrap my mind aroun is..... why do they fight and argue to keep you if they have somebody else? Why do they gotta stick around and hurt you more when they have someone else to go be with? Are they just evil heartless sadists?
Selfish and rotten to the core. There are successfully honest polygamous relationships out there.
@@lunibombom4551 people that want to be in a poly or open , should date somebody that is poly instead of hurting and lying to people that dont have the same preference. What cheating really comes down to is a betrayal of trust, and if you agree to be mono with someone you shouldnt go back on it in secret. If someone were to leave a poly relationship to become mono, thatd also be in a sense cheating, they broke their promise to be in an open relationship and hurt their partners. Relationships require communication, and if you dont communicate that you want to be poly then you hurt people and thats wrong.
They want you AND them !!!!!
It's not hurt that they intend to impose on you, rather the opposite actually. The partner sticking to you usually wants things to work out in the relationship, so they put in efforts for redemption rather than running away from the sticky situation. What else will they get when the cheated partner gives them such a hard time with regaining their trust... 😅
Frs
I have gone through a rough patch a few times with my husband and it is with the same person. He claims that they are “just friends.” He would call her late at night on his way home from work and rush to get off the phone with me. This last time he told her not to respond to any of my messages if I tried to contact her. One of the messages he sent her began with “All I told her(Me) was that…” Is is still pretty guarded when it comes to his phone. If I am ever on his phone he watches me like a hawk.
They tell you repeatedly that they aren't a cheater...if they have to say that they are a cheater
Not that I was cheated on, but when his friend became more of a partner to him than me, I no longer felt valued.
I met my exes " best friend" about a year after we moved in together....looking back he should have been kicked out asap but I put up with her for a few more years. I always knew they had a thing but he would get extremely mad when I brought it up.now that he's out of my life he's back with his bff and I feel like a fool. At least I know the signs to look out for now. Unfortunately I can't trust male female friendships any more...it's just too risky if your partner is close with someone of the opposite sex.
Yeah you was a real dummy please protect yourself better in the future 💪🏾💋
Every relationship I have been in, I have been cheated on. No matter how many times I've been through it, it is painful as ever. It's more painful when your in love.
I feel you. :(
@@TrueMedallion nothing is ever good enough for them
It’s because this world is narcissistic and you’ve been conditioned to view typical narc tendencies as love until they’ve disrespected your boundaries
@@heatherarmijo5007 it’s true
@@djr3008 is this a coincidence....Krazy but I always wanted to write a book about my life of all the experiences I have been through. I even have a title already but being a single mother all of my life, I have to work two jobs to make ends meet. I would love to talk to you.
My husband has the most ridiculous reasons/excuses why he wants nothing to do with the woman he works next to. Me thinks he doth protest too much.
My ex didn't say a damn thing, she never got mad never said sorry didn't say a word and it's true because the next day she asked me who told you about everything? I said I don't need to tell you anything.
then what happened dude tell me because I'm in same situation, please guide me before I shatter my world....
The worst part that the cheater is able to put the blame in reverse! How bad.
:(
I caught my ex girlfriend cheating on me by talking to this guy about how much she missed being intimate with him on the Facebook comments of this post. And now she’s denying everything saying that it was her sister using her Facebook talking under her name to one of her secret boyfriend. I block her. I don’t believe anything she’s saying. Did I did the right thing?
Yes She is a cheater
Or getting declined off fb groups for solicitation.
I call cheating, anything you have to hide from me.
Suspicion meter: 1 = isolated incident, 2 = coincidence, 3 = pattern, 4 = highly suspicious
16. "I was sleeping."/"I was tired."
17. "I was working." (It's Saturday and they don't normally work weekends)
18. "I was busy."/"I'm busy right now."
19. "I don't feel like doing anything."
20. "I'm sick." *fake cough, fake sneezing and fake sniffles (usually on phone when you don't live with partner)
21. "I got hurt at *insert place here" (usually back, legs, feet, arms or hands also usually on phone)
22. "Your friends are lying."/"That wasn't me."/"It wasn't me." (If your friends catch cheating partner)
23. "I was drunk." (Bullshit justification even they were drunk. Some people are still self-aware)
24. "I've gotten over him/her." (When they really haven't)
25. "It's the TV/radio." (If they're in a crowded area and they're in the bathroom trying to lower the amount of background noise)
Your right on all these things, eventually, she left me, and tried to come back 2 months later, thinking everything was ok,
Yep It’s the tv
Why the 21?
Too many coincidences. No physical evidence but many coincidences.
Cheaters will run and then say you are too old to ask them if they are cheating!!
"What are you talking about? " in front of compelling evidences of cheating.
Haha
The "you would like it to be about me wouldn't you"? line. All while not denying it has been going on is another attempt to throw you off.
This is true. The wow 👌 and the insecure. Plus the laughter
Thanks
The last time someone told me they weren't cheating I said who is it why is it on your mind guilty conscience
" What? No. She is just a friend.."
" You are doubting? Again?! Why don't you trust me? Why?! "
" You mean her? Why would I like her? She is ugly af. "
" No!! Please trust me!! Please!! I'm sorry! I'll be honest!! Pleasee!! "
These are things my bf said to me when he was confronted. He cheated 4 times..
Everyone cheats these days everyone has selfish narcissistic tendencies because we live in a world without meaningful consequences and lacking in any people with a backbone who stand up for themselves or people who have personal accountability.
Wrong wr don't cheat only idiots do pppl with high standards would never do that
@@georginikolov1141 you never get laid do you?
Some of these can only exist when someone has cheated but there’s also quite a few, especially in the denial section, that would be present when falsely accused as well.
This hurt, deep! But yet comforting and confirming
I know. :( Sorry to hear that.
@@TrueMedallionehhhh🤷🏻♂️, unfortunately It happens ta even the best of us.🙂 thank you very much for your consideration & empathy !!!!
Also on behalf of everyone Thank you for your time , work, & insight!!!
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Btw subbed & thumbed 👍
If your boyfriend or girlfriend hides another person then they are cheating. They should let you know all their friends and never hide anyone. Just say a long paragraph of how many great things you like about them then completely ignore them. Let them be confused and never message back for days. If you do message again they’ll respect you and may never cheat again. Don’t accuse them again. They’ll take the hint from last conversations
"The sound machines"😂😂😂
Truth be told!
Caveat, (its an addiction) the cheater will be a cheater, to their partner, to themselves and everyone and everything in their life.
This is when "Karma" takes over and the consequences and repercussions of their kiniving, deceitful, greedy, SELFISH ways catch up to them and it comes back on them 10 times worse...why?...
because...whats that infamous saying?...
"YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!"
Be safe✌😇💜
Why did I think this was cheating like video game cheating
Haha that's another side of TH-cam. :)
It has happened. And IS happening. Everything you have said is spot on.
He still denies everything. To this day yet I know everything
I feel you.
You have gone viral bro :3
Haha Nahhh I'm still a small fish in the sea. XD
*First off, why tf would even honor a cheater with a conversation?* It’s meaningless and it’s only an ego stroke to them. Best practice is to never let them know that you found out and then abruptly divorce/dump them shortly after discovery with a vague reason blaming yourself. In reality, you’d think they’d be grateful that you’re ending the relationship, that way they no longer have the burden of sneaking around.
Hell aint gonna be empty
Cheaters like to say
1. Say' no " even not let sentences finished
2."why are you insecure?"
3."You don't trust me "
4.when you ask about cheaters' contacts they will say "we are only friends "
5."You are making this such a big deal."
6."You are crazy."
7."You are being paranoid."
8."It's not what it looks like."
9."It didn't mean anything."
10.They blame you at faults....
11.more excuses...to find ways to cheat.
12."It was one mistake."
13."I didn't mean to hurt you."
14."I am going to change."
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1st....support your video and lots of love
Hey I was first >:(
I’m #1
Thanks!! Yay! :D
Short ._. Pants quick question: who cares? Not hating bro but I’m just sayin
Indeed very truthful examples...
Thank You So Much
You’re welcome!
Sooooooo…saying No is shady behavior? Sounds like we’re just supposed to say yes. I myself haven’t done this., but those who are suspected have very few options to defend themselves.
This is in regards to HARD evidence that the person cheated on you. My husband said NO for a while. He called her all kind of names! He only wanted me to be mad at her by saying she was a crazy B! A trouble maker, a liar! I threw it up in his face that it was awful funny he cheated on me with someone like that! lol...But she supposedly left him got busted getting out of some other dudes car at work, and my old man dumped her and called her every name in the book. Now, that may not be true....but they didn't make it, and she started dating that same guy. It broke my hubby's heart, and to this day....we're in counseling because we love each other, but are NOT in love any longer. I think I have a decision to make.. .A very hard decision. 🙏😔💞
My ex-wife suddenly hit me with " I feel like I'm getting f**ked around on! " Brief silence. I said, " I have not cheated on you, I have never cheated on you... but if you think I am..follow me. Call the show Cheaters and have them follow me for you. Then you'll know so follow me. I dare you. Follow me. "
She dropped it but was pissed off for a while. Turns out that she was cheating at the time.
She even started accusing me of flirting with every woman she saw me talking to, it didn't matter if she was 19 or 70 and I was exhausted from all the accusations. Trust your gut.
I need advice on my situation. My now husband and I met on Facebook and it was a long distance relationship. We decided to make it real and I planned on moving in with him on January of 2019. I learned after we got married he was talking to another girl while he was talking to me before I moved. It was sexual in nature. This was like a week before I moved. We got married on May 29th 2020. I found out in February of 2021 that there were other women he would comment flirty gifs on their profile pics or tell them they have a beautiful smile. One of them he was flirting with on messenger sending inappropriate memes to. Mind you this was after we got married. He said they were only joking 🙄 I don't know how to get over all of it. The one female friend he said had a beautiful smile is still on his friend's list and I've noticed he has to react or comment on almost everyone oh her posts. I don't know how to trust him again. It's become a real problem for me.
What about when she gets and keeps all of her “ STEP BROTHERS” notifications on fb! They like in the same town come to find out. She’s pretty much okay with fucking her “STEP BROTHER” sick now the wife’s a bit curious.
Same girl, same...sad situation.
Yup caught mine on dating app ,when they are bossy and mean and go places without you knowing it there cheating run because it will lead to more lies
"I never meant to hurt you" then why didn't you bring up after it was done like it was normal conversation because you knew it would hurt them. If something I knew wouldn't hurt my partner there would be no reason for me to try to hide it, you knew it would hurt them but you did it anyway
Simple n straight...if tey really ❤ u..tey won't do tat...tis is te biggest clue tey don't...it's up to u to carry on tis mess..i lost my bestie tat way😔 he took hs own life coz he ws cheated horribly 😢
Cheaters are not grown-ups...for one reason.
GROWN-UPS don't cheat...because they know about concequences.
PERIOD.
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Yeah I'm paranoid, because I'm currently with my 10th girlfriend, 7 out of the 9 previous ones have cheated on me, and now the 10th one is being suspicious so of course I'm going to think this way, she does get mad she does deny it she tries to make me feel bad for assuming, like whenever we're on a call (we're currently long distance) I can see reflecting through her glasses that she has my camera shrunken and she's doing other things and she'll start texting other people and tilt her phone so that I can't see or turn her camera off and mute herself sometimes she'll do both and then when I ask her what she's doing she'll just say it's a secret or she won't answer me whenever I try to ask questions she won't answer and she'll try to change the subject, just now she said that she's in the car and she won't be able to text me in a couple minutes cuz she's going somewhere and I asked where and she just said "I don't know", classic excuse right for me whenever a girl says that yes there is a chance they're telling the truth but there's also a chance that they're just bad at lying and can't figure out what to say so they just say I don't know I'll ask her again tonight and if she says "I don't remember" well then there you go.. once she had her phone on her bed and then she left her room to do something and then ran back in her room and hung up on me and then like 30 seconds later she called back and tried to say it was an accident... I really do hope I'm just being paranoid and overthinking everything but considering all the times I've been cheated on I just can't help it but feel this way... I really hope I could just find somebody who's gonna be loyal..😔
Edit: she's actually 11th not 10th, also she dumped me and said she just needed some space, that she's not in the mindset to date, then like the next day I ended up running into one of her friends online and she confirmed for me after we talked for a little that you was cheating on me the whole time and I can conclude based off something she did that the only reason she dumped me was to keep the other guy around, she deleted me from Snapchat after one of her friends took her phone and was trying to talk to me and then she told me I can't have the pictures of her anymore, what is she was just taking a break and was going to be back why would I need to do those things why would those things need to happen..😔, I'm done with online dating I wont stop getting cheated on and it's getting very irritating
Thank you, 5 elements you mentioned, my best I just heard was it is not a big deal..but thank you just broke up with a serial cheater/pathological liar..didn't know these elements I had to go the full extent of find out first hand wow that hurts but at least I know and min time wasted..thank you
No problem. :)
#14 i never meant to hurt you. LOL. yeah ok pal. tell that to your lil boyfriend whom yelled and threatened me on the phone when you called me 🤣
Oof
People are trying to minimize the cheating saying that everybody are doing it and it is very common. A sin will always be a sin no matter the century, the culture or anything.
I'm not sure if my partner is cheating on me but most times, I find him acting really sweet towards most of his female friends. However, he immediately says sorry to me, but admittedly says he can't change his behavior.
Oof it’s the personality.
If he knows his behavior makes you feel insecure and he’s not willing to change then he doesn’t love you babes. Men who care about a woman will do anything to keep them
When my girlfriend came back from visiting family and when I told her I loved her and was cuddling her and she started crying. It happened on multiple occasions. She told me it was family matters but didn't go into details. After about 3 month I took a look at her discord and found evidence of her cheating on me.
I used to think checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? At the time my ex was acting funny so I contacted CYBERLOGICS_ and got full access to sms, video calls, social media accounts without any trace back to me and all I can say is it changed my life
I going through it, it's amazing how they deny even when they get busted, women are unbelievable lier
These all points are so true....
Thanks!
My wife shows up to our bedroom at 4 a.m. It didn't take long to prove what she was doing after that. Noticed she was shaving her legs and pits a lot. Started really taking care of her appearance as well. Look up the term "Limerence". Woman was completely out of control.
PJ did you finally divorce your wife?
A very good video with a lot of truth!
This is true. Every word.
Thanks!