Existentialism and Dating
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- At first glance, nothing immediately seems to connect the business of dating with the European philosophical movement of Existentialism. However, on closer inspection, the thoughts of Existential philosophers contain a number of insights that serve to illuminate aspects of the dating world.
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“Dating brings us close to a particular strand of philosophy that, the rest of the time, might not seem particularly relevant to our lives: existentialism. One of the movement’s major proponents - Jean-Paul Sartre - developed a set of ideas that help explain, and give dignity to, the anxiety, excitement and at points vertigo we may experience as we go through the dating ritual.
A key concept of Existentialism is expressed in Sartre’s somewhat obscure but useful phrase: “Being precedes essence”. What Sartre meant by ‘being’ are the bits of our life that we are free to choose for ourselves: how we live, what job we do, how we conceive of what happens to us. And by ‘essence’, he refers to things that lie outside our command: our biological nature, the flow of history, the position of the stars…”
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Dear Mr. De Botton,
Though I respect and enjoy your videos about/dating, relationships and self-esteem. I miss your video series about Philosophy, Art, Sociology, History, and Politics. I may have bought almost all of your books (believe me it's rather tough to get books about sex into Saudi Arabia !! :-P) but I hope to see new videos about more academic subjects. I thoroughly enjoyed this video because it blends the two. I will try to translate it into Arabic with your permission, but I really long for the sort of quick 10 minute summaries of complex ideas you used to post.
Thank you for all your work
Thamer.
I like how you’re suggesting that people can change whenever they want... I agree. Sadly, I feel most people are “locked in” to the persona they have spent years creating...
Moses Emmet people can change but it's not as easy as just saying I feel like changing especially when you've made significant decisions already
Sometimes people like being that way you know?
What’s wrong with them being that persona
Well, some don't like the way they are themselves, and some, like me, don't even know who are themselves, so they end up having to try and force some personality out, hoping they end up liking and being that way naturally.
well it's not surprising. before you are old enough to assess who you are and what you're doing, you've spent years developing that identity and lifestyle. it's an incredibly strenuous effort to disassemble yourself and your life and start anew. the majority of people have their life structured for them to a major extent and are content within that structure.
Am I the only single person who watches these kind of videos just so I could prep myself for possible future relationship?
No.
Nope
Stop with the "I am the only one doing this?" comments. The world is large and we're nothing but part of him and there's always people doing the same stuff.
@@Carcosahead okay okay. But are you mad though? HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA
@@irishsapalicio8358 Only a little ;)
Existentialism and Dating sounds like it should be the name of a webcomic.
mappyhappychappy Sex and the City, but make it dark academia
this is the nature of textuality. any text can not complete it's meaning only by itself. It has to refer to other texts, in order to come up with a meaning. ( intertextuality) so every text is relevant to one another. for instance you can set a correlation between pencil and carpet. go ahead.
@@muhammedakifkara7262 You must be fun at parties.
@@BlueSkyBS I couldn't relate it :)
This reminds me the famous Kafka's phrase: *"I'm free and that's why I'm lost".*
With so many paths to go and decisions to make, commonly we'll just feel the agony about the paths we couldn't choose, the false idea of if we had choose the 'Door number 2' instead the 'Door Number 1' our lives would be completely different.
Fernando Sabino, an brazilian writer, says in one of his books: '
*"The great devil of life is between 100 possible ways we must choose one and feel the nostalgy of the others 99."*
Thus, contents like this help us to know that living is about choices and unfortunately we'll just deal with the decisions we made feeling day by day the nausea of our existences.
Congratulations for School of life for such a beautifull video! Alain, I'm your fan! o/ \o
Hey there,@Michael Flores . Thank you! It's really nice of you and I'm praised to know this comment was useful.
Once we finally understand we just feel the anguish of the path we choose, while we insist to paint all the others as lost paradises - and also start to be realistic about the same feeling would happen if we had choosen any of them - we just accept this inquietude is something inherit in our lives, and there is nothing to do but deal with that.
What if we split into parallel realities to experience every possible option, and then upon death, all of those parallel versions of us merge back into a single being again, and we just go "whoa" before we vanish out of existence...
What book did he say it in?
@@MrLivingsworth the Fernando Sabinos' book name in portuguese is 'O Encontro Marcado', but I made a search and checked there's also a translated english version named 'A Time to meet'.
You could complete that thought with the dream by Alan Watts :
"If you awaken from this illusion and you understand that black implies white, self implies other, life implies death (or shall I say death implies life?), you can feel yourself - not as a stranger in the world, not as something here on probation, not as something that has arrived here by fluke - but you can begin to feel your own existence as absolutely fundamental.
I am not trying to sell you on this idea in the sense of converting you to it, I want you to play with it. I want you to think of its possibilities, I am not trying to prove it. I am just putting it forward as a possibility of life to think about. So then, let’s suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream you wanted to dream, and that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time, or any length of time you wanted to have.
And you would, naturally, as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each you would say “Well that was pretty great. But now let’s have a surprise, let’s have a dream which isn’t under control, where something is gonna happen to me that I don’t know what it's gonna be."
And you would dig that and would come out of that and you would say “Wow that was a close shave, wasn’t it?”. Then you would get more and more adventurous and you would make further- and further-out gambles what you would dream. And finally, you would dream where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today.
That would be within the infinite multiplicity of choices you would have. Of playing that you weren't God, because the whole nature of the godhead, according to this idea, is to play that he is not. So in this idea then, everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality, not God in a politically kingly sense, but god in the sense of being the self, the deep-down basic whatever there is. And you are all that, only you are pretending you are not."
*A day without sunshine is like, you know, night.*
Good one Unicorny😄😄😋
@@deanwinchest3906 Thanks! ;)
That's deep man...
I imagined Morgan Freeman saying that...
@@TylerSolvestri Steve Martin.
Listening to this, I've become more interested in existentialism than dating 😂
Living in all in now did you think about being in the world they have bots who are algorithmic only with your girlfriend?
I think School of Life just got Tinder:
Girl: heyyy x
School of Life: *Dating brings us close to a particular strand of philosophy that, the rest of the time, might not seem particularly relevant to our lives: existentialism. One of the movement’s major proponents - Jean-Paul Sartre - developed a set of ideas that help explain, and give dignity to, the anxiety, excitement and at points vertigo we may experience as we go through the dating ritual. A key concept of Existentialism is expressed in Sartre’s somewhat obscure but useful phrase: “Being precedes essence”. What Sartre meant by ‘being’ are the bits of our life that we are free to choose for ourselves: how we live, what job we do, how we conceive of what happens to us. And by ‘essence’, he refers to things that lie outside our command: our biological nature, the flow of history, the position of the stars*
hahahahaha
Sartre dating theme: hell is other people 😂
Varun Mehra ☝️this guy gets it!!!
expand please
Danielle Zedomi read NO EXIT by Jean Paul Sartre
Haha 😂 Funny but that quote is super misunderstood.
Dating provides a window for us to see ourselves from the perspective of others and to access some insight in our interpersonal strenghts or weaknesses.
It allows and triggers motivation for growth and developpment of personnality and interest.
As with all things, the easiest way to learn is by trial and error. In a way, dating is like the fast lane of the school of life.
My last relationship almost cost me my life. It uncovered a huge amount of damage that I have been valiantly repressing as I have been limping through life and taking the blame for any apparent deficiencies. I realize now I didn’t even stand a chance and that I need to stop trying to be normal and ok and heal the deep damage from my childhood. The damage was never given any real validity because it hurt my parents’ egos too much for them to admit what they did to their own kids. It even seemed to work for a while; my sisters and I were polite, academically successful, and well liked by others. I had no idea I was so fucked up until this last girlfriend. I tried to use PUA training to eliminate my neediness, but it was just an act, and blew away in the first stiff wind.
That is what we often forget when dating, that we, basically, our whole future life depends on it. And when we settle just for the sake of not being alone on Valentine's day by pretending we are something we are not or by picking the first person who shows interest in us, well, we are possibly condemning ourselves to an average life.
We can see this theory as very frightening (our future depends on it) or as a chance to design the best life we can think of :)
Speak for yourself
It is not that easy or symmetric ... at times by default you select someone who you should be with for a lifetime and not for just a Valentine's day ... you might dislike the person at the first go then you might fall deeply in love with him as days go by ... don't just look for love ... let love look for you
Having the perspective that our entire future depends on whom we date is one of the grand illusions of modern society.
Our futures do not depend on whom we date - choosing to date just opens up a number of possible futures, which would not be available to us, should we choose not to date and vice versa.
There is no inherent value in finding a mate and producing offspring other than what we as individuals choose to put into it. For some people, procreating and having a family is (or becomes) their purpose in life (either by choice or circumstance), while for others a life free of that commitment holds greater value.
Those are some of the key points of Existentialism - there is no universal point to existence which everyone must subscribe to and nothing holds inherent value other than the value we as individuals attribute to it.
There are only choices and the consequences thereof.
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You dont have that problem if you understand that life is full of inevitable suffering. You will be unhappy no matter what. Might as well pick a half-way decent relationship that somewhat works and be happy with it.
“Forced to make decisions we would rather leave to the gods” brilliant!
I would honestly love to go to a wine bar that has existentialism on the menu. Sounds like a fun evening to me ;)
If that bar would belong to Alain de Botton then definitely it would be on the menu, Or maybe something more unimaginable.
I like your attitude. For my wife Survivor or Greece's next top model is the height of intellectual achievement.
Damn, what a drink that would be !
the bartender starts drinking and yells his existential theory at you
order any drink at any wine bar and you'll get existential in a bit.
if your date on Thursday goes right , you'll live in the east of Detroit , develop an interest in Mafia history and meth chemistry , and have a child named Marcus who will work as a stopboy
damn dude
A date on Wednesday and another on Friday? While i'm studying for an exam? Where should I sign for this? Do you accept souls as payment?
i wanna know too
happens only in anime
Easily achievable with likes of Tinder. I'm a short guy (kinda handsome) still get enough matches to date different girls on different days. Just lower your standards a bit.
More than doable with disciplined time management and prioritization (academics and romance above all else). It might not be fun but it can and has been done by thousands of people.
This might be the best TH-cam comment I've ever seen
M/26/Los Angeles. Into School of Life videos, and testing the probability of serendipity *lets see if it works*
Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom. Kierkegaard sure got that right 🤓😶
The essential philosophical question is why we choice the way we do. We certainly experience free will and choice, but this freedom is ultimately an illusion. It's a mirage. There are always underlying conditions that effects our choice in one direction or another, which we are generally not aware of. The only freedom there is is the final surrender to reality as it is. You are then free from the illusory burden of directing the course of life. Then you are also free to experience the flow and adventure of life, which will always surprise us once we let go of all control.
That is profound!
@@gogo311 Yes! Thanks for the feedback.
This is so true an deep, go with the stream that is the true freedom.
Read “Free will” by Sam Harris
He’s a neuroscientist and he argues that free will is an illusion.
be your own actor and director of life. Create your life and dating life
Dating advice from my dearest 2 philosophers, right before a date. What a time to be alive!
Georgiana Bere how’d it go?
@@george_3264 I think it went quite well. Then again my idea of a successful date is to not be horrified by the idea of getting intimate with that person.
What were the long term effects of this date?
Is actually insane how well timed I came across this video and how applicable it is to my life.. The School of Life never fails to impress me
To be honest I just have choices for dating yet I don’t have any attraction towards anyone
Same but aroace
Love is different from attraction love is when that person can hold you from breaking down by showing true compassion and care maybe those u know don’t really touch u that deep because I don’t feel sexual love just because I’m new at this
You could be on the asexual spectrum.
The same happens to me, I never fall in love, I feel that gives me an irrational disappointment.
and when I do get attracted (like every 3 years) I always get my heart broken, so fuck love
I hate that they speak of 'the dating years'. It's sounds like they mean mid 20s or something, but I think people can date when they are older too... I think this might make some people anxious and hopeless...
A patient of mine asked if I ever tried online dating I am 26 and she is in the 70s giving me advice on dating she met her favorite husband online in her 70s! . No age doesn't matter you can date and love at any time in your life
@@Kimacho I have an 8 year old daughter. Can she date?
@@mvoronenko sure why not, if you're okay with it
I swear that these videos always come at a time that I need them regarding a topic that is relevant to my life
I just need to meet that nice, Scottish girl in Ohio and everything will be fantastic.
My daughter is taking HS philosophy and these bites I used for myself before now help me make sense of all this long forgotten stuff. Plus loved the illustrations and animation. The bot and Sartre bobbling around made me 😂
I recently told someone, "Everything is tentative." Yes, everything - including that statement. And that... ad infinitum.
I'm totally feeling this. I daydream about possibilities and I'm open to certain to them so I continue. However, there are certain circumstances or characteristics that stop me in my tracks with that route.
It's an amazing time. You throw yourself into things and learn hard but you start to figure out what you really want in a partner and most importantly... In you.
I don't think you ever figure that out. Simply because you change and so does your partner, either within days or months, to years down the line. At some point you simply say "this is it".
@@MrMegaTubs , I think there's some foundation in your partner, after seeing them change. Granted, I think I'm too young to have experienced such a thing yet. But I can see it.
I parted ways with someone some time ago and realize that I think I could have said "this is it". It also dawned on me that I still have time. I guess it just depends on the benchmark of when you can no longer invest the energy into these type of things or just can tolerate and accept the changes.
Hahaha look at him, thinks that I even get the chance to date hahaha
Seriously that's what i thought 😂
They have underestimated your power.
if youre ugly then get a makeover, people that are too ugly to help are kind of rare. and if youre a fucking weirdo then find another one or just quit being a fuckwit weirdo. if youre part of some religion or culture that doesnt allow you to, then fuck those pieces of shit, they can burn in the hells of their own invention. Incels only exist because they are sick in the head.
@@SobeCrunkMonster He is joking
Sartre dated an actress too if I'm not mistaken
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Wow, who would have thought existentialism could be so interestingly described through the topic of dating. A fresh take on the dating years as a time of simply being and developing a appreciation for the randomness of it all, using that as a reminder that we are not fixed points.
" The Look". Perfect analysis to assess attraction between subjects in the for itself context.
Gosh you are reading my thoughts !! I'm currently reading The Unbearable Lightness Of Being (Milan Kundera, loved the movie adaptation too), watching the tv series Outlander and loving the movie I Know Where I'm Going (1945) and this is the exact missing piece I needed on my puzzle ! Thank you The School of Life !!! ;)
This channel gives real insights into human lives and relationships
Great video, I've always thought about this, hence why I have trouble dating and making my mind up who to settle for. Choose one and I could end up miserable or heartbroken in the end, choose no one and end up miserable and alone. If you take a risk and choose one, either of those eventualities could happen anyway! No wonder the stakes are so high, so for those of us who are indecisive end up alone 🤦♀️
i had so little choice during the dating period with my kids father. i actually tried to prevent it from happening. there was definitely a stubborn chunk of essence there, forcing its way into my life (and my uterus)
This channel teaches a lot of interesting and plausible content, it’s very wonderful
Thanks for the awesome videos. The complex philosophical concepts are explained beautifully and as straight forward as possible. I'm a recent subscriber and i would gladly recommend your videos.
"We don't give this open-ended aspect of identities, enough space in our minds."
Definitely true
The robot driving blind in the pink car was... Pretty adorable
The School of Life you are invited to my wedding
Bailey Ryan Rios Weddings and the construct of monogamy are too overrated
Well
Bailey Ryan Rios just tired of having romance and monogamy overly valued in our society.
No
Bailey Ryan Rios Yes. Society is incredibly pushy with romance, and narrow minded towards non-monogamous relationships
Hi!! I’m a huge fan of the school of life!! Could you do a video on “the step” between friends and more than friends? It would be an interesting topic, when you met someone but not with the intention to have a relationship but become friends and then with time suddenly you feel like want to be more than friends...
Outstanding videos. I’ve found these videos have prompted more in depth investigation of aspects of my life that I never gave much thought! 😀🙏👍
Sartre?! Pffff, I only would take dating advice from Kierkegaard or Nietzsche....
turbostewi love me some sarte only cause his work is Kierkegaarden.
Camus the old charmeur
All the existentialists seemed to suck at dating. Probably because most people don't want to hear you question existence itself day in and out. Probably why Camus was the successful one. He knew how to just let loose and live in the positive end of hedonism.
@@TheSpecialJ11 existentialism= anxiety. Its not sexy
Thanks for this. You re-affirmed my confidence in making decisions
I like these kinds of animation, i notice some videos now have like a standard type of video.. keep the art up! Just putting it out there
Dating is almost the as waiting for someone to love you
If you’re a goofy.
I wonder what were Sartre's thoughts on asexuality and aromanticism
Read the Bad Faith chapter in Being and Nothingness and you might find out.
I suspect he might ask you, then, what are you passionate about?
I Love this kind of animation! Keep doing this, guys!
The School of Life is basically a self-help dating channel that went to Oxford
More Cambridge graduates in fact...
can you please make a video on existential loneliness and/or despair?
Interesting content. Its interesting that someones life can be hell until they meet a special someone and then it is heaven on earth again
That literally never happens what are you talking about?
And then turns into an even bigger hell a couple.months or years after they met.
The Life Formula
I wish this could happen for me
Side note: the art in this was beautiful 🥰
Hi! Can you tell me in which book did Sartre refer to this topic? Or is this video simply based on your conclusions? I really wish to read more stuff from Sartre.
Enlightenment and bliss go hand-in-hand. Wouldn’t settle for less.
i love this video so much, it resonated with me so well
Nowadays, datings impact from the butterfly effect is even more prominent. The intoxicated right swipe of a finger can perpetuate your future ex wife.
Thats deep, and very true
false. the butterfly effect has always existed, even in the absence of technology
Watching this while on a computer course lol makes it bearable 😂😂
Love is a lesson in courage;
it is closely linked to a meeting-
a passage from 1 to 2 in the experience of life.
Life is a dream comes true,
and every one knows:
Life is no joke.
This one works for many things in life.
If the aspect of dating is taken away, this video seems to be discussing: Reframing. That would be a terrific topic to examine in your videos.
I needed this, thank you.
Deciding for our dating lives and our careers will define much of our individuality in the western world. Existentialism won't help us decide on those, it only creates a consciousness of our decisions so that we can adjust our efforts, shortcomings, and sufferings!
This reminds me of visual novels. Although technically they are deterministic, VNs give the player a sense of agency, that they can somehow control the outcome of the story. In a sense, they can; while each route in the novel is deterministic, the branching decisions make for a combinatorial explosion of possibilities that cannot be all evaluated at once, therefore creating agency.
I felt it more deeply when I was choosing my future University than a partner.
This video misinterprets the meaning of "being precedes essence". By essence, Sartre is referring to the essence of a person. Before existentialism, many believed that you are a certain way by definition, and the best way to live was according to such essence. Existentialism says you exist and make choices that define your essence. It's not that 'being' is more important than essence, it's that being defines what your essence comes to be. Essentially it is saying that, in life, you choose your purpose and what makes you happy. The video takes a kind of narrow minded look at existentialism, discussing what possible futures you may have as determined by who you choose to have a relationship with. Existentialism is more accurately represented by saying, it doesn't matter who you choose to date, do what makes you happy. Not only do you have agency over your life, but saying choosing to date, say, a lawyer forces you into a certain lifestyle is asserting that your partner has an essence preceding your being. Neither of you are forced to live a certain lifestyle, you could just as soon choose to quit your jobs and live at sea if that made you happy. And because you don't have to live to your prescribed essence, that would be a totally legitimate choice to make.
Interesting
Thank you
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Oh God. I'm just about to go on a date this week. Wish me luck, and wish him luck, too!
How did it go?
I needed this and didn't even know it ❤
I would date the person speaking in this video, his voice is amazing
lolita he's married Lolita
same lmao
i wanna know who he is
sanju Alain de botton, he’s the creator
He would date you!
Alain de Botton is the swiss born author, philosopher, communicator and psychologists now resides in UK.
Thanks for the video. Why u don't put portuguese subtitles anymore?
This reminds me of the song "Le temps immobile" by Pierre Van Dormael.
Least favorite one of these so far.
1:34 i thought i had an episode of food wishes playing in the background
Choose wisely and intelligently .. most man never change coz u want him to change .. they will change if they want .. love urself first b4 others ..
With there was philosophy for autistics... I have no dating life therefore my being is mostly reflected negatively through my frustrations with my minds differences from others that go about the dating world with perceived ease.
How to feel like your dates are right for you?? Don’t go on too many of them, don’t go just for the sake of going. “We are responsible for those whom we tame,” - Saint-Exupery.
The same thing happens in your late teens after graduating, when you have to choose a job and consequently, how a large part of your life will look like
This is a good ad for whatever they are smoking
has anyone else pointed out the wrong use of "then" instead of "than" at 4:05 smh. Was it the mistake of Sarte or the person who wrote the quote down??
Something I wonder about (as an only child) is whether or not my future partner will have siblings. Because if they do it means I could have a brother or sister in law which would be cool since I’ve never experienced having siblings of any kind.
Ditto x
I see
I genuinely gasped when this appeared in my feed.
So how do you choose between one agent or persona over another? Like, what makes one a better choice than another? And if any choice is equally good, or if "good" is the wrong way to think about it, then what gives our freewill any more value than, say, the roll of dice, or the motions of unquestioned instinct?
Eurobeat BG music at the driving scene 😀
You can change what you are to an impressive extent for sure.. but you won't be able to change other peoples to the same extent
and if you could, maybe you wouldn't always be tempted to look for someone better
1:35 fifth avenue stroll. Great song!
Oh wow this is exactly my life right now! 🙈
The title intrigued me; the video amused me; the insight depressed me...
"Existence precedes Essence."
Finnally a philosophy videos we had yoo many dating and love videos
I’m in my late 20’s, and I still haven’t gone on a date 😂
I'm 24, same. Haven't asked anyone out, haven't been interested in people who asked. Also I've never used dating apps.
Did you go on any dates since posting the comment?
Being precedes essence can also be a counterargument to the Socratic view that everything has an ideal "form" that it is basically trying to live up to. Existentialist thought, by contrast, says that things exist not for any particular purpose, but that they exist and then they are assigned-or, in the case of humans, find-a purpose.
Excellent topic. Old ways were more rigid and fatalistic because it worked better for the uneducated masses. That paradigm is dying. Life is about choice. Always was and always will be.
Is there really a period of our life that can be tagged as "dating years" ?
Normally it's when you start dating in your teens until you get married or give up on relationships altogether. So teenage year until early 30's for most people
Today dating years tend to come back in our life around 40s when your previous relationship has failed.
Is it even worth dating and getting married anymore, knowing that the odds are against you? I mean, if it's very common nowadays for people to get divorced, and if it's almost certain that in your 40's you'll be going back into the dating world again, then is it even worth it? Should we even try? :\
@@silverblaize that's horrible logic anything you do you have a possibility of failure education, career, friendship, self-improvement, etc. But doesn't mean you don't try
@@silverblaize to increase chances that marriage succeeds you could look into what marriage means to you and if you're willing to put in work to reach your ideal, and on top of that knowing what you want, having a clear sense of self and stability. Marriage isnt inherent good or bad, but rather you have to put in effort to make it work the way you want therwise its just another label with extra paperwork. So asking if you should even bother is not really.the right question - that's a personal choice decided between two people, its thankfully less and less an obligation these days.
I READ THIS WORD JUST TODAY.
Plot twist:
There's no free will and you can't escape biological determinism :P
Fffffuuuuuu--
If you live a high stress lifestyle, barely getting most things done, in perpetual low mood never spending time on things that enrich your life or enhance your experience, then you can't expect your prospects in life to be just as low as someone whose way more biologically or socially unfortunate. Environment, belief system, and mindset can account for many more woes than biological limitations can.
facts dude. our intuitive nature will always trump perceivable logical frameworks
That's most certainly not what Sartre meant by "being precedes essence". What he intended to convey was the existentialist notion of the lack of a universal, all-encompassing human nature, as well as any form of pre-written destiny for individual humans. Thus, when a person is born, they are thrown into the abyss, they begin to EXIST in the world, without any specific purpose, or fate; free of essence. Thus, each person is simultaneously absolutely free to build their own character, to adscribe personal meaning to their life; in sum to create their own essence, through the exercise of being itself, and, as the inevitable consequence of the former, fully responsible for the person they become. Essence, therefore, is the result of life and not the other way around.
The phrase then, holds a lot more meaning than the one portrayed in the video, for it expressed existentialism's revolutionary outlook on freedom, human life, and its meaning
is this just for middle-class dating? I'm not in a position to travel any time in the next decade
1:30 ...no, that Food Wishes tab didn't start playing on its own.
Basically he's saying our choices not our circumstances define us and nothing exists in dating but decisions but most people don't know