SARTRE ON: Bad Faith
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- Jean-Paul Sartre’s concept of ‘mauvaise foi’ or ‘bad faith’ is central to his philosophy. It’s a phenomenon of not being honest with ourselves and therefore, of undermining our chances of fulfilment.
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This is my greatest fear - that I'll die with a lifetimes worth of regrets that I lived an unfulfilled life... because I was too afraid to ever act.
+Davin B there will be no 'was' for you when you die. your lifetime of regrets would mean nothing to you from the moment you die. you know why.
chill.
+Quantum Axe
I don't fear death. In fact I think in death we become the same thing we were before birth.
I think you misunderstood my comment: it can be summarized by this fact:
The most common regrets of dying people are:
1) I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
2) I wish I hadn't worked so hard
3) I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
5) I wish that I had let myself be happier
So I'm a fairly depressed human being. And being so, the worst thing I can imagine is to be dying, 50 years from now, an unfulfilled, regretful, depressed person. So I appreciate your advice for me to "chill", but I'd rather not: I have a lot of living to do first.
***** i did not misunderstand you at all. i was just showing you the futility of worries and regrets.
wants make us miserable in this life.
in short i can say, hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
+Davin B "Don't you want to take a leap of faith? Or become an old man, filled with regret, waiting to die alone?" - Saito, Inception
+Davin B So act... tomorrow is not promised.
This is so hard to listen to because it's so true
bad faith
So you are stating that you, and you alone, chose poverty, struggle and a unfulfilled life? That there wasn't a few circumstances and machinations that are beyond your control, and that you can step away from this life you feel trapped in, at a moments notice? That you just need to buck up your ideas?
You might want to consider that you are being too hard on yourself. It won't resolve all your problems. But it will give you clarity of thought, and get rid of all the false guilt and responsibility that was never really there in the first place.
Richard Boldbrooker
So, where'd you hide the dictionary?
Its very invalidating
Man I had the same, this is hundred percent truth
Funny how paradoxically, the knowledge of the great potential and freedom of the individual in modern western lifestyle is the source of great anxiety and depression to so many people.
Augusto Severini Just a stage towards freedom.
this shit aint funny
@@kennethgermosen8551 Many philosophers would disagree.
That is exactly Sartre's theory, that the problem of the human condition is that we are essentially free individuals who will never be able to escape our freedom. This causes anxiety because it means that we have to take responsibility for our own actions instead of blaming it on a lack of options or circumstances when in fact there are always other options and we always have a choice. This makes things harder because it means we have to face up to the fact that we are the source of our own and other's pain, when it would be much easier to believe that the pain in this world is caused by external factors. This leads to Sartre's definition of anguish: the emotion that overwhelms us when we become aware of the fact that all our actions are determined by our own choices that we can never predict which will have the best outcome, and therefore, we can never make the 'right' choice. This is where spirituality comes in. In my opinion the only entity that can accurately predict the outcome of a choice is Yahweh, or whatever form of god an individual chooses to worship; essentially a higher being that is not you can provide insight into which choice might have the best outcome for you and others.
It's funny to me how many people criticise the West for problems which are far bigger outside the West. It was like in 1995 when Canada became the first nation on Earth to study violence against women, and upon this groundbreaking publication, numerous critics from places from Saudi Arabia to Japan to Russia and Brazil all stood up and said "look how bad Canada is to women!!!" ... and then years later we found out that each of those countries was far worse, and it was actually a mark of Canada's good gender relationships that allowed the problem to be studied in the first place.
A couple realise early on, after a few dates, they are incompatible and unhappy, however, they both have read Sartre, and decide to persist in their relationship as they do not want essence to precede being. - "We are at present not right for each other, but it's bad faith to tell ourselves, the way we are at the moment is the only way we can be, limiting the possibility that we one day might fall in love with the people that we will become."
nice one :D
Blown 😂
okay,you win
The comment sections of SoL's videos are one of the most decent ones on youtube. People are actually engaging in thought.
On the less viewed videos, that is. but yes
Joan Didion once famously stated, "We tell ourselves stories in order to live," and while most people take this to mean that she's singing the praises of storytelling and how vital it is to human existence, what she's really saying, if you read the rest of the quote, is that we often attempt to impose narrative structure, cause and effect, where none exist, and that the stories we tell ourselves are often justifications and rationalizations that have no basis in fact. We tell ourselves these "stories" to avoid facing unpleasant realities (such as that often, things just don't make sense). Sartre would say that only by facing these unpleasant realities are we able to become fully free.
"You are not your job." Well said.
This video is really insightful. All my life, I thought I had to live in a particular place, do a particular job, and make excessive (and unnecessary) amounts of money. But deep down I always had the feeling something was not right. This video explains that feeling perfectly. All these "truths" I thought I had to follow are really just baseless assumptions. So many other life choices are equally plausible. We all need to choose the life we actually want, not the life we think we're supposed to lead.
I want to live freely and authentically but the problem is that I don't know what I really want or what I truly believe.
SAME
With time you will.. most of us don't have any idea about what we want. It's ok. Perfectly Human.
confusion is good. It represents a conflict and an opportunity. Conflict between feedback of ourselves we receive when we interact with reality and our perception of ourselves. Opportunity because we are now aware of the mismatch and hence it can be corrected.
I've been in your predicament for so long, friend. What I have learned might help you too. I still haven't fully figured things out, but I have learned to find a bit of comfort in the confusion. I stick to a 3 rule list when I am my most confused.
1. Stay healthy (diet & exercise)
2. Learn something new every day and diversify your education(educate yourself)
3. Chase your curiosity. Anything that sparks your curiosity research it and let it pull you as far as your curiosity takes you)
Also just give yourself some credit every now and then. Life can be tough but nothing is as serious as it seems.
Hope this helps a bit. Cheers
Those are awesome tips, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I envy people who know what they want. I think the first step to finding what one wants is to first know oneself. That requires introspection and some experience of life. I guess sometimes we are too afraid to follow our curiosities, as you pointed out. That deprives us of valuable experience which might help us figure out ourselves and what our values and beliefs are. I think one needn't take huge drastic life decisions but getting out of the comfort zone in small steps would be one way of doing it.
Thanks for the tips!
One of my favorites! I have been having a bit of 'mauvaise foi' about my low-paying work for the past four years, but trying to constantly change it. It's tough, but worth it in the long run.
Thanks, spiralling dome. I'm trying to keep in the game like the rest of us.
+Kerry Luckett 'Trying' Kerry? What would Satre say about 'trying' I wonder? Creating a 'mauvaise foi' worldview that success is ever so hard to attain I'd wager. -Choices are the resisted part but actions are easy. Ever seen someone trying to open a fridge door? They either go for it or they don't. There's no 'trying' is there? Do you want to resist or not? There's no right or wrong answer just be clear about whether you really really want the options available to you or not. 'Yes' is OK as is 'No'. 'Maybe' isn't. Saying 'maybe' is denying your freedom to embrace another option. Essence precedes essence: all the things we are not, but could be if we genuinely wanted to so do you - or would you prefer to have some really superb excuses why you haven't attained what you know you want? The choice is yours. Choose whatever you may but own that choice 100% be it safe OR wild.
Its really lovely whenever i see a person living by positive ideas and philosophies brought into the world by others. It's badly phrased, i hope you know what I mean. I know your comment is already old now, but i hope your combat against mauvaise-foi ended up being fruitful!
Officialy struck off
Summary: Basically the comfort zone leads to many problems.
Baz 32
Well, it should not matter to existentialists. If you do not believe in God or a higher purpose, and the grave is the last stop, it does not matter how you get there. Dancing or crawling to the grave, if you believe that in the end there is only nothingness, it does not matter how you get there.
Baz 32
If you think about it, looking for a comfort zone makes more sense if you are a believer/supporter of this philosophy. Why bother with unnecessary risks that might lead to suffering if in the end we are all equal in death and it was for nothing?
@@chasna4546 You're interpreting existentialism in a way that I think Sartre would disagree with greatly. Existentialists point out the meaninglessness of progress, and the endlessness of history only to place greater importance on immediate experience. The way you have understood this meaninglessness of man-made facades and identities makes it seems as if there is not life elsewhere, when life is far more abundant elsewhere. For example, students who come to value the learning they receive out of the classroom rather than in the classroom. Many children naturally are existentialists from a certain perspective, they live in the world of the immediate, and may not understand that they are so, but still see school as a certain abstraction from life, apart of a system which funnels into well functioning society, before accepting it into their daily lives and depending on a future that has been guaranteed to them by said system. Your perspective here is more nihilistic than existentialist, however then even a nihilist would think that suffering is all life is, and it is impossible to avoid so it is best to learn to embrace it in some form or another. But yea in the end it's all washed away, but we can remember and do things now. And you can create your own comfort zone when you know yourself outside of a system. I mean what if it wasn't all washed away? That would suck just as well.
@@chasna4546 Stupidly believing in fictional gods doesn't improve anything.
I like the silence at the end. It really gives you time to analyze and relate your life to the teachings of each video. Great editing and thanks.
amazing video , my regards from Brazil
+Rubens Rodrigo é nois
hue hue Br. Kkkkkkkkk
Tamo junto sá PORRA!
até que enfim apareceram os BRs huehue
+gabriel barnalt sempre estivemos aqui :)
I feel so good about myself for actually having thought about all of these things and having realized them on my own before having watched this video! Really, this has just made my day.
School of Life tend to digest philosophical ideas into self-help quickies. I dont have any problems with that, but it misled you from the actual point made by Sartre. Bad faith doesnt mean overtly deceiving yourself from reaching some kind of success. Its that you cannot identify a person with any of his actions
or attitudes, and that consciousness exists in the act of choice. The fact that people acted and limit their existence requires the realization that they can CONSCIOUSLY choose an9ther kind of limit, or none at all. The prerequisite of being a slave over bad faith is having the insight towards it, and thats the paradox that interest sartre so much. I'm glad that you feel so good about yourself you need to write a comment about it, but its such a big shame if it made you stop your exploration on sartre.
So is Sartre the reason french wait-staff are so rude to customers?
Are they really?
+2cents Whenever I've been in France and eaten in restaurants, the waiters and staff have been kind, but then I attempt to speak some French and I don't order a diet Coke with the coq au vin.
+2cents Often in Paris...
Slightly ironic, since Sartre's theories came from the vision of a French waiter working himself to death.... being so overly attentive that he wondered if the man himself saw himself as ONLY a waiter, and not a human...
You know what? He might be!
Yes, i also feel fear of living. I don't know what to do, sometimes i don't even know what i want.
Reading brings to me a little of paz, a little of happiness and a lot of questions.
I have 20 years old and i don't have any idea of what i'm gonna do with my life, with myself, and the things that i love.
Thank's for the videos, i really love the explanations, and the way that you help a lot of people. Sartre is one of my favorits philosophers, and you bring it here like a great gift for all of us.
Sorry for the bad English
How are you now? How is life? You must be 25 or 26 now. I hope you’re at peace and I hope you have an idea of what u want in life
What I find strange about life is how my feelings and views change with the wind. I mean, one-day i feel this way and another day i feel the compete opposite, so I'm never really certain that I'm making the right decision or that I know what i want! Recently I inherited some money and went traveling to NYC believing I'd be so happy and stimulated there, which I was at times, but then I began to miss home and convinced myself it was better place, which it is in some ways. Now I'm back i regret i didn't stay longer in NYC and recognise it was great in ways that my home isn't. But I know if I went back there I would find all sorts of holes to pick about the place, too expensive, too busy, populated, etc. See, this shows nothing is certain and feelings and moods change your outlook on life and circumstances. The grass is ALWAYS greener and NOTHING is ever perfect!
Love the simplicity of the way you put this important observation of Sartre’s.
I have always believed in freedom.
And for it, I also experience frequent anxiety, pressure, indecision, then immobility, and then regret for "my choice" to not being strong enough to overcome or rid myself of that anxiety, pressure, and paralysis induced by my own lack of mauvaise foi.
But I would not give up my perception of my own freedom, I do not want any of that thing, bad faith, and despite the sleepless nights I (choose to) suffer in self-doubt and anxiety-- I am glad to be condemned to freedom.
Thank you for this video!
The school of life have always the right advice that I need each time I'm down...thanks SOL !!!
Been studying Sartre for the past week, this video came at the perfect time!
I think everyone needs to watch this.
Bueatiful just beautiful. I'm really glad there are people who still care about peoples feelings and society. Thank you School of Life
I am so so so so glad I found this channel
Every video, you just hit a home run on. Thanks again.
So many people define themselves by what they do instead of who they really are. Great video.
Been waiting for this; thanks for the video. Sartre is probably my favorite philosopher. Definitely my most quoted. I love existentialism despite being a determinist. Very empowering stuff.
this is one of the best channels on youtube...great video
This dude kicks ass. School of life dude....
Love this! Essential for happiness.
Sometimes i look at myself in the mirror.
And i stare into my own eyes.
I only look away once i have lost hope that there is something beyond them.
I dream that I will wake up.
That somehow everything i have ever experienced was just some sick delusion. That the depressing world i live in only exists in the corner of my consciousness, a day dream that got a little too carried away.
I dream that the body standing in front of me is a stranger and that one day I will meet him with love and passion.
I dream that I will dive into truth, that my greater being will jump out of the mirror and slap me awake. I dream that he will show me some place that he is happy to call home, and a life he is glad to call his own.
I dream that the me in front of me, the me that I see all too often and know all too well is a memory.
The kind of memory that you’re not really sure actually happened, but other people tell you it happened and you trust others more than yourself.
For the me that I see in front of me knows that this world is far too calculated and far too deceptive to be real. For there is exactly enough good to keep one sane, to keep one alive. And there are exactly enough good enough people to give hope for the evil. There is exactly enough hope to drive anyone insane. But All anyone can do, is to hope and dream. And I hope that the me that i see hasn’t given up on his hopes or his dreams.
I've observed this a lot in myself recently. For example, right now it's late, 33 minutes past 12 and for this along with various reasons I tell myself that I shouldn't go for a run, because it's dangerous, because it would displease and worry family members I'm living with. But really I know I want to and can, but as I'm apparently too scared and lazy to face the fact that I can I remain stuck, small, limited.
I am really glad I found this channel! Keep up your great work! :D
Dude, you guys have been on a roll! These are the kind of things that people today need to be reminded of, things that force them to look inwards. Unfortunately most people are probably looking at the popular section or stating at their social feeds trying to find meaning in meaningless things.
This is one of my favorite videos you've done. Well done. 👌👌
What a beautiful view on human potential. Love it. Thank you for sharing his views with us :)
Mind refreshing . Thnx for the great work
Great video. I did notice people lying to themselves to feel comfortable and as well rationalising something wrong or what they didn't like to convince themselves that they 'want' it in the first place. I just couldn't point my finger on it. Thank you!
Man I love philosophy! So many beautiful contradictions! One man fears that facing "reality" will rob him of his freedom and yet another says that not doing so causes all the distress of an optimistic outlook. And again I am forced to return to the principle of moderation! :D
+Fishers of Men Ministries, well Philosophy isn't necessarily mere opinion/taste. Philosophy involves a rational method where people give Reasons/Arguments for thinking their belief or idea is true. There are have been answers to philosophical questions. There are usually answers out there, but it's a matter of knowing what the answer is that's the problem.
+Ninjo X Enlightened Philosophy in a nutshell, I love this statement. Even when you get a genuine answer out of all of your contemplation, it still ultimately suggests moderation as the best option for living. And for a philosopher there' nothing worse then being told that things aren't as neat ,clean and most of all logical as we'd like them to be....Well that and being told "Don't think so much"
Trippy shit.
Homeostasis rules all
ive been Thinking™ a lot and i didnt know there was a name and an entire concept to my beliefs until i discovered sartre. god bless that man. i absolutely adore him
Sarte, what a wonderful, and considerable philosopher! So wise and free, all Parisians loved him. I love him!!!!!!! It's like his spirit touched my soul many years ago. Right from the grave. I have yet to meet or learn from someone who has impacted my life in such a tremendous way. I thank the universe and him for all of his insight. He and Simmone are my archetype. I hope to achieve scholarly success as they achieved.
Loved this!
As amazing as it is , few of us dare to unchain ourselves , it takes a tremendous amount of courage , one needs to have big .....
omg thank you so much for making this video! I'm trying to write an EPQ and this is seriously helpful :D:D IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW
A nice change. I watch a lot of your video's and think they're great, even if I don't agree with a lot of them, but this is a message I can get behind.
Keep up the great work.
me and sartre have same views, i never knew anyone had same view as me or how to put it into words. awesome. love sartre and school of life :)
well this is reassuring thanks
Thank you for such a nice video. I will mull it over
Thank you for this
well done, regards from Texas
I love this!
brilliant video, guys.
guilty...
wonderfully explained!! Thank you!
His books are amazing!!!!!
I love the videos on specific ideas of philosophy. Keep it up :-)
Omg this is exactly what i was always thinking about people around me and about myself when i often realised that most of the time i am fuc king lying to myself, this guy Jean Paul Sartre is a genius, only people often detecting their own lies and therefor live free can understand this.
I needed to hear this
Heeding the call to be entirely free often ends with diminishing returns as a result of alienation from one's family, friends, careers, etc. Sartre's argument would suggest that there is little reward in thinking practically about one's present situation in an effort to preserve those things that might be lost (money aside), and that personal freedom has a primarily temporal definition. I love your channel by the way. Thank you for the excellent work you are doing!
Nice one Jean-Paul. You nailedit!
this is amazing!
I miss these kinds of videos from School of Life
I like Jean-Paul Sartre, because we have very similar thoughts. He gives these thoughts name and structure and attempts a system and a doctrine, of sorts, whereas I simply feel these things, and occasionally articulate them. His work is like a conversation with myself on a day when my mind is in a state of poetic clarity. My usual condition is negative ecstasy, dionysian nihilism, tranquil vigor in the face of nothingness. Although in the beginning this freedom felt a lot like death, now it is the impetus behind all of my actions, my conatus, I suppose. There is a lightness to my being, a lightness to all being, a lightness arising out of emptiness, and it is, in its way, quite beautiful.
This. is. amazing.
My favorite philosophical concept ever.
Great video.
It's seems right, but...
I sense that no matter what path in life we choose, we have always a sentiment of agony, because we tend to idealize better versions of it or better ways that we got.
Someone with very low bad faith could not stop swirling in the life, always trying to escape the heavy weight of reality.
Am I so wrong to think like that?
+Eduardo Felipe "what path in life we choose, we have always a sentiment of agony, because we tend to idealize better versions of it or better ways that we got." Yes, so true. For me, I always tell myself not to regret anything after doing something (especially when it doesn't go as I plan) because either way, there's always something bothering me. In an easier way, just accept that shit happens
+Eduardo Felipe yes, but bad faith is not realizing that one *is* free. What you suggest is agony in the decision you choose, not the ability to choose a decision.
+Max C You could have agony knowing that every decision will have just a little bit of happiness that won't last for a long time. This is not agony a posteriori, but a priori type.
I for one agree. It seems a lot of times you just from one permutation of agony to another as you move from one circumstance to the next.
+Eduardo Felipe Your first idea is completely correct. This was diagnosed by Kierkegaard, an important influence on Sartre, who wrote that no matter what we choose, we will regret it later. Of course, not choosing is also a choice, and you will regret that too. In existentialism, angst is the price you pay for freedom.
Your second idea I don't quite understand. I suspect there's a language barrier.
Awesome video! I loved the part of "negative ecstasy", for I experience it almost every night but have never seen someone who had said something about that.
Now, what I really hate is that, in the next day, everything I thought about during the night simply vanishes and I don't have the urge to do different anymore. How can we keep this flame inside to change ourselves in the next day?
Seriously, does anyone have an answer? This is like a big problem here for me right now :/
I'm going through the same. Maybe the horror of our reality of choice is too much to allow during daylight. I'm trying to find Sartre's mention of it in the book, but no luck
westerneagle87 ok, tell me if you find anything :)
will do, mate.
Our minds are always between positive and negative, that's normal, trying not to seek for perfection but self awareness is they key as Marcus Aurelius said on his writings.
I just picked up a book about Sartre from the library. Interesting views
Regards from Tunisia! Keep up the good work guys! ^^
+anoir trabelsi Watch out for any amoral Frenchman with guns on the beaches!
+mankytoes sick reference. But that's Algeria!
PSYche Nihil Dammit, and I only read it a couple of months ago... Apologies for the typical European ignorance of African nations.
ahla bel m3allem
omg this is so true. I keep lying to people and myself that I don't have enough money to take a break and go travel for a couple of months. The reality is I am scared to do it by myself, to change my situation, to tell the parents etc. Just waiting for the moment where I can't take it anymore and then I won't have a choice but to take a leap of faith.
concise and interesting
Thanks to "The School of live"
Please do a video on Émile Zola, naturalism-realism and the latter's values (or lack thereof). As usual, great video!
Life makes so much more sense with philosophy. Keep it going!
or life makes no sense with philosophy, which makes so much more sense!
I’ve always chosen to do mostly what I want to within certain constraints this is my positive ADHD it’s gave me no choice but to be free ✌️
I love this videos, good job and i'm waiting for a video of Peter Singer, if u can
Wow........beautiful.....
I had bad faith today. I'm good at making excuses not to do what I want: the risk of the pain if I fail, the "need" society puts on me to focus on other things and to ignore it, when it comes to the crunch where I have an obvious opportunity I even made myself think I'm better off not doing it. This is probably because it made me very uncomfortable, but after I am kicking myself even more.
I hope I find a way to be stronger than this soon.
I am having a philosophy class about exitencialism and humanism. It helped me understand so much about life and that I shoudnt do things that are bad faith. I should create my own definition of myself and that in extension makes the definition of life for me...
thanks for Portuguese captions
thank you!!!
It's refreshing to know that you have control over your life and that the decisions you make impact your life. Lying to yourself will keep you in a cage of misery, when in reality that cage is created due your own illusion of self doubt. We are responsible for actions.
I love love Satre
great video!
Freedom and reflection, including with the course Hope (Human Odyssey to Political Existentialism)
Would you consider doing an episode on Mindfulness? I feel like it's right up your alley.
Oh no. My occasional Existential angst. It's here tonight.
This is also one of the reasons why Sartre rejects the benefits of psychoanalysis...
Or just psychology in general, since it makes our being an 'en-soi', an object, something beyond our control
that's why the humanistic approach was developed
+Michelle I do declare, my brain not work good when around hot and smart womens.
Sartre talks about existential psychoanalysis towards the end of Being and Nothingness, actually. He doesn’t reject it outright, he just modifies is.
To be as free as we really are
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Was having a hard time. Could not actually named it myself and thought this must be existantialist crisis. Now I know that it is called "negative ecstasy" Thank you school of life :)
These are fantastic -- can someone please tell me the name of the narrator? Is it Alain de Botton?
I never believed i would get an philosophical answer to the "3 am motivation" phenomenon
Wonderful :)
Alain, a video on Existentialism please!
I've seen the whole philosophy series. This is one of the most concise and impactful philosophical concept. It's so obvious and applies to all. We've all met the "waiter" types. You just want to wake them up!
Ha! Also wrote a wonderful essay about bad breathe!
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Idk much about Sartre but i just gotta say one of the things I'm obsessed about is how this guy was, like so many other male philosophers, not "lucky" with women, and still didn't go into i cel mindset like macchiavelli and Nietzsche and such. I really love that little spring in his philosophy's step and the way he still can see the good in life and keep his lust for life, too.
I have the opposite problem. I've traveled around on my own my whole life, since an early age. For the first time in my life I am trying to have a career and partner even though every fiber of my being is telling me to quit my job, fill a backpack, and head off on the next adventure.