3 UPDATES: Mom Who 'Forgot' I Exist Suddenly Sends me Big Messages After 12 Yrs When She Found Out
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- 3 UPDATES: Mom Who 'Forgot' I Exist Suddenly Sends me Big Messages After 12 Yrs When She Found Out Grandpa Only Named 1 Person in His Will & That's me
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So it was just me and my mom when I was growing up. My parents got a divorce when I was 8 and I was left to live with my mom. At the time Inwas too small to understand what's right or wrong and as long as my mum made me happy once in a day I was satisfied. Although I talked to dad over the phone once or twice a month, we didn't really meet that much. He rarely had any time for me and he made sure to send more than enough money every month to deal with the guilt of abandoning a child.
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First story brings me to mind, "She made her bed, now she can sleep in it."
Cat story. I was out and about and just walking alongside a local river, when I heard a kitten mewing. I found her on the riverbank, all tangled in fishing line. I cut her free, and she decided she was my new owner. I had never had a cat before, so I had to do some intensive Googling to find out how to look after one. Five years later and I still love the way she just comes up to me and flops across my legs for a belly rub and chin scratches. She also has one of the scariest Cat Death Stares ever!
Lovely story :))) Cats are very sweet, I have got one too.
Similar to how I got a cat, outside the door, dirty lost kitten.
You might try Churu as a treat. I watch Tiny Kittens videos and livestreams. Very educational stuff and people to ask questions to get great info on cats. Peace. 😊
Story one: OF COURSE all your estranged mother wants is money! She contacted your grandmother and asked what she was getting from your grandfather's estate before it even occurred to her to try to see you. Money always brings the cockroaches out of the woodwork.
Die Mutter probably thought that the grandmother was left most of the estate.
When elderly relatives die, you can see the vultures circling overhead.
"I respect you as an independent woman, and I would never think of insulting your independence by offering you any money."
Its always about money .
As the saying goes - Follow the money.
Yup
@@weltonvillegal6258 Common Sense dictates that when family a member is no contact for over 12 years , and then you all of a sudden come into a major windfall , and that family member just pops up out of nowhere , THEY WANT THE MONEY .
It's a no-brainer !
The only thing parents like this love is money.
both story 1 and story 2.
Story #1, if she's a single woman she ought to make a will too because if something happens to her then her mother will inherit as next of kin. Something to think about.
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First story. At least the dad cared enough to pay for her tuition et al, even if he didn't want to be involved in her life. The mother? Yeah quite a piece of work.
You need cameras inside and out because a restraining order won't stop her.
Sounds like a good idea.
Story 1- As it is right now, the mother is the legal next of kin. 😦OP really needs to see an estate lawyer ASAP to make sure no matter what happens to her that the mother can never inherit anything. She also needs to make sure that her medical power of attorney is her grandmother and then two other trusted people, and put down that her mother will NEVER be POA. It goes almost without saying that her credit AND grandma's credit needs to be secured.
Grandpa left a will so the courts should follow the will. OP does need a lawyer though. Some people think lawyers are expensive, but it can be more expensive to not have one when legal stuff goes down.
Grandma is the one telling the mom where she lives I wouldn't trust her either.
I would have thought the grandmother was next of kin considering she was his wife plus they haven't seen the daughter for years and maybe the grandparents made the granddaughter the legal next of kin
In story 1 opie's grandfather knew that opie's mother was a crackhead that's why she didn't get any inheritance
First story: I actually think her leaving was the best thing for OP.
They just wanted you to pay for what the cat needed for them.
Exactly.
Story 1: Seriously, get the stay away order; however, realize that it’s just a piece of paper and if someone wishes you harm it doesn’t make much of a shield, so take proper precautions. A stay-away order is only useful after the fact. If someone wishes you harm “after the fact” doesn’t provide much protection.
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Last story- all the commenters area focused on the guy being racist. The rest of his personality is far more concerning. His tone deaf questioning, his lying, him interrogating her as if she is less than human. He seems like one of those guys who ends up on the evening news and the mother is all pikachu face, "I didn't know he thought or did those things".
Yea, my eyes went wide when he started questioning her about the guys she has previously dated and races of said guys! Dude, we just met and you want to interrogate me? Nope, I am outta here!
Story 1, of course the egg donor is going to NOW contact op because she finds out that she's not going to get anything from her dad. Thank God op had someone taking care of her, her friends parents were probably horrified by how she was being treated. The grandparents probably wonder where they went wrong with their daughter for her to treat her own daughter the way she did. Yeah, the fact that the egg donner now is contacting op is a red flag, the witch was up to something. She was only after her inheritance. But not surprising that she didn't get anything, as if just trying to "bond" with op before grandpa passes away is going to get her anything. She can pissed all she wants, she made her bed now she gets to lie in it. Good for op that she knew what the egg donner was after or giving anything to her. Hell no, don't give the egg donner a chance or anything. Op, your not being harsh at all. The b*tch decided that she didn't want to be family so now she can deal with the aftermath of that. Definitely get a restraining order against her, she's going to refuse to stop harassing you op. I hope op gets the restraining order against the egg donor.
Story 1. OP should probably get a will and inform mother that she is explicitly excluded from any inheritance. No need to tempt her to arrange an accident.
Incidentally, I don't know how big the inheritance was but it may have been foolish to make OP the sole heir, particularly if it is large or much of the assets were in IRA(s) (and we're talking U.S. tax laws). Half now, and half to Grandma which will pass to OP eventually may be smarter. That would spread out the tax burden, including spreading out how long she has to fully distribute IRA(s) into cash.
Car Story - Some really good advice here, with thoughtfulness towards the benefit of the helpless animal. I feel a little bad for the children as well but the poor cat cannot help him/herself. To find a new catetaker that the cat loves to snuggle and purr with is fantastic. I am happy that you plan to keep the cat and allow it to keep his new attentive humans.
I think it's the shelters responsibility to give OP back the money if he was to give the cat back. I mean they messed up & need to be accountable as a business. But Personally I Think OP should keep the cat. The other owners aren't Responsible owners!
first ... NTA ... cosying up to you after her initial 'mothering' and subsequent 12 years absence? make sure your and grandma's finances, power of attorney, medical authority, etcetera are secured
As for the cat story. This was not their cat. This was a stray they may have occasionally fed. This cat was not safe or cared for until you came Op.
OP tried their best to find the owner...BUT I was kind of horrified at the amount of money they had to pay to adopt the kitten from the shelter! All I could think is you should have just kept it and paid nothing.
* I do realize some of the cost was for spaying/neuter/shots/chip before anyone goes off on me ;) But dang $425 for a kitty you found on the street!!
Last if he didn't want her to involve his mother then he shouldn't be asking his mother to set him up on dates. Frankly a mom arranged date is an instant fail to me.
First story- the mum must be getting the address from someone close to OP, she needs to speak to her grandmother and tell her not to give the address to anyone she doesn't trust, to keep it secret from OPs mother. Hopefully if grandmother is the one giving the address to her daughter she will realise that it is harmful to granddaughter and keep it secret.
Last story - the question that came to my mind was is he gay and didn't want to come out to his mum and all the racist talk was to put the girls off, so when his mum asked he could blame not having a girlfriend on the girls
I hadn't thought about him being gay, but I did think he might have been on the spectrum. Also he might just be a creep.
you homophobes always attribute abusive heterosexual male behavior as them being closeted homosexuals. Hate to break it to you but gay men don't care one way or the other about women. Even more bizarre, your type blows a gasket if a man calls an abusive woman a "man hating lesbian".
I would get a lawyer and get a restraining order
Cat story. Op does not need to feel or be guilty! As a commentator said "Irresponsable cat owner's problem!" that op had the cat in the first place. Ethical shelter's will place the animal with the "best" possible owner, even if the previous "owner" filled in the paperwork for a lost pet. They may have looked at no chip, no de sexing etc. and thought op/gf would probably be better "adoptee's" for the cat.
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Last story - The would-be date's mother should call back her friends who cut her off to apologize to them. That she now knows the reasons and she agree with them.
Good advice
That man would creep me out to no wonder his mother was losing friends
Oh man ---what a hell of a mom.. It would be best to go NC because, {who needs the head ache }...
First story tell your mom as a fellow woman she should respect your choices
I would have suggested OP inform her EGG DONOR that, while she respects she is an independent woman who made her own choices, they still have NO relationship with each other & haven't for decades. As an independent woman, they have been fine living their own lives & OP sees no reason for that to change just because of the societal norm of letting genetics determine who you call family, so it would be best if she not try to contact OP again as she has no interest in cultivating a relationship with a total stranger who now clearly has the inheritance motive.
OP should have unleashed all the hatred at her mother instead of letting the mother continue to harass her and try to mooch off of her wealth, she should have called her out for everything she did to OP, at least the father did pay her tuition and owned up to his lack of interest to the OP
That sweet money is why she keeps trying. She’s desperate and wants that $$$.security cameras are needed.
No one thought to call cps?
Great video. I knew the mom of the title story just wanted the money. Typical stupid behavior by greedy people.
Story 2- if they contacted the pound about the cat, they wouldn’t have given it back until all the requirements were completed. Meaning they owe them money…… No mistake from the pound, they couldn’t pay, they didn’t get it back!
The still lied to OP to get money. That is fraud.
It's all about the money, OP your mother is a crazy, disrespectful, unkind human being, she never really behaves like a mother. So you owed her nothing at all, in my book any woman can birth a child, but it's takes a special woman to be called mother. OP please get yourself some camera, both inside and outside of your home. Because you shouldn't put anything past her.
Cat story: that 9ld owner did more wrong than just not chip it, he left it so sick you took it to get help. He's irresponsible, and if there's plenty of free kittens on the narket place he can go get one himself, though he shouldn't be allowed any
Besides, he would have had to pay the chipping and medical fees to the shelter to hlget it back
Story 1: how does her mom keep finding where she lives?
Grandma.
Keep the cat and call the police on these kids hanging outside you window.
Story 2: keep the cat. The previous owners failed to do what they are legally required to do. It is obvious that while the kids may love the cat, the parent(s) consider it a cheap disposable toy. This is really POOR, POOR cat parenting as it is dangerous to let your cat go outside. Cats should be full-time indoor animals, regardless of what the cat wants to do. Letting your cat roam free exposes them to cat diseases, becoming prey or being injured by outside dangers, including being hit by a car. Plus, cats live longer, healthier lives and are more affectionate when kept full-time indoors. Just remember to keep its litter box clean, play with your cat and remove any toxic plants and cat-proof your home.
He would have had to pay all that to get the cat back anyway. Maybe he could be charged for having an unchipped unneutered cat!
Mom forgot her daughter and then wanted her inheritance from grandpa
When someone does like this, a simple reply will suffice : "I ain't giving you shit, nor any part of my body." you'll know everything there's necessary in the upcoming rant and name calling. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Story 2: If the previous owner was that concerned about wanting his cat back he would have signed a contract to pay OP back like $100. 00 a month until he has paid him back.
Do you really think that these kids happen to accidentally show up outside your house today after day. Is this the only guy that knows how to manipulate you?
Not only not getting the cat chipped but not spay either. I would not give the cat back. And I would tell the guy I do not want his children on my property either. If he has a problem bring me up in court. I will count sue too. For everything.
Story 1 - NTA - Obviously she was only interested in the inheritance. Restraining order was required, unless you move to a gated community she will probably continue, please install security cameras, people who abuse drugs are usually desperate! Also, you may want to confide in your work supervisor just in case.
This guy has issues
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On the cat story. Playing devil's advocate. Microchips very often do wonder and can be difficult to find/read even if the cat is chipped. And cats do sometimes just sneak out from any opening. Yes, the previous owners should be more careful but that doesn't mean you should never open a window to make sure your cat doesn't get out
As OP didn't state if the previous owner claimed it was chipped or not but still. Just because they couldn't find the microchip doesn't mean it wasn't chipped.
Cat one dud you speak to the shelter to clarify if they did in fact fill out the forms. They may well be pulling a fast one over you
I don't think he wanted the cat but now that it's healthy and all of the requirements have been meet he wants the cat back of course he doesn't want to pay and try to guilt tripping into giving it back
1)Mother found her by hiring a private detective. No mention of country. If she has not done so, she should have a card naming who is to be notified in an emergency. Did the father stay away because of permanent restraining orders? Lost of all parental rights?
Last story - I wonder if I ran into this very same guy, because I was joined to a few dating sites a few years ago and I got someone who asked me “did you ever date a black guy” and I while I thought the question was odd especially since we literally only started messaging each other via the dating app messenger, I answered it truthfully “no, I haven’t” which the guy then proceeded to say “good, I’m sick of those n-word getting our women” and I had never blocked a person so fast.
Story1, maybe the OP could give her mother enough cash to allow for an OD.
s2; The HS judged the previous owners as unfit owners. I wasn't a mess-up. That shelter didn't spend near that much money either. They got their operating funds out of OP and took part in fraudulent activity. I'd sue the shelter honestly, maybe along side of the previous owners.
he would have had to pay the shelter for those things anyway, they couldn't have given it back to him without neutering and chipping
Lol the cat is probably gonna adopt a dozen families before she's done🐈⬛😂💖
She only wants money does not give a care leave her alone
She walked out on you at 17 & be for that she told you she hates you & you all must fell for it. Wow just wow..
He is a man child racist. And if he didn’t like his mother to know about his actions and what he said. He needs to change his ways. Maybe even therapy will help if he willing to change. But those men never change
Story 1: OP egg donor is a perfect example of what we call a b***h.
Funny how op in story 1 says that her dad abandoned her and glossed over the fact that he didn’t have custody of her. He payed for her college yet she not once reached out to him as an adult and probably only went to his funeral to see if she inherited anything. To me she sounds a-lot like the mother she’s complaining about.
My cats are always outside eating the local wildlife. Even caught my cat Leatherface finishing off a squirrel he killed. Ate the tail and all! 😊
Okay first story is sad that the parents wasn't there for her. But I would of called the cops on her the first time she came. Red flag how did she know where you live. Second time she shoe up the words out of my mouth be really your 18 years late to say sorry now I not want you any where near me my mom and dad is gives grandma and grandpa name and you are going to jail again psychopath
When your father pass away did he left you anything.
Story 1: a great example of why reproduction should be a privilege.
S2: Considering the condition of the cat when OP found it, have told them to pound sand. But that's just me.
How about giving mom $ x every month towards a crxxpy aptt, rent, expenses AND "stay away"!
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Did you call or go to the shelter yourself & ask if he really did ask about the cat? You said he showed “proof” but proof can be faked if you know how &/or are shady. I’d also take the rental company to task for giving out your number/info to this person.
Suggest he go after the shelter since there was a (supposed) “miscommunication” on their part. The shelter could have lied to him because of the condition the cat was in when you brought it in to them or he gave off bad vibes.
Saying you will keep the cat but he needs to pay you almost $500 is wrong. If he pays you’d have give him the cat. Just tell him “No. & to stop bothering us.”
Though I would train the cat to use another window because I’m getting vibes the guy will pop the screen off & take the cat. The cat could pop it off too. Cats are tricky-- we had one who’d, partially, pop the screen off my sibling’s bedroom window. Almost got her in BIG trouble until the cat wanted back in one day after dad had let him in an hour earlier.
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However I think it would be nice to have an outro, as sometimes I don't realise that the stories have finished. Just a thought
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Spaying/neutering and microchipping a cat is a legal requirement? Since when? I know of no laws requiring either. Vaccinations may be required, but not the other two.
prob another country.
Hawaii passed a law requiring microchips for cats and dogs in 2021, the first state level requirement in the US. Some counties and cities have their own laws regarding microchips and spaying/neutering.
Microchipping is required for cats and dogs in Japan, and the United Kingdom seems to be moving towards a similar law.
@@rogerrabbit80 talk about overstepping boundaries especially the microchipping. Yet the government isn't the one paying the bill for all that stuff they like to require.
@@drl5002 But they do pay for Animal Control departments.
@@shells500tutubo not in us they dont. Charge you to adopt a pet and charge you to surrender one and then solicit people for donations.
independent men or women both men and women are depended on each other even if the man provides for the house unless he does everything on the house like caring for the children and housework while being the breadwinner and his wife is lazy and does nothing then he is dependent on his wife and the opposite is true if the women is working and does housework takes care of the childeren then she is indepdendent if not she is depended on her husband and he is dependent on her unless as i explained earlier in marriage their is shared resposibility if the housework burden and taking care of the childeren is too heavy for the childeren then the husband/wife should help unless the work is as hard and if one of them forgets that he is depended on the other in the marriage and acts upon it then it will always bring disaster
societies traditional bounds my ass taking and acting like this is what destroys both nations and society seems like someone never learned about the fall of Rome never lower your guard unless everyone does
Send 'mom' 'bout tree-fitty and the Loch Ness Monster's address.
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Last story is too funny. Thankfully the mom now knows who her son is and will hopefully stop setting him up and losing friends.