0:25 "Don't tickle me." GF tickles anyways. Then she does it while OP is driving. She made 2 errors and he made 1. Her first error was breaking a clearly communicated boundary. Her second error was doing it while he is driving. OP's error was not breaking up the first time. Good on OP for doing it after the crash. That lady is about as dense as a neutron star.
I mean, there _is_ such thing as forgiveness. So, yeah it ended up being a mistake in hindsight, but I certainly wouldn't blame OP for giving the girlfriend a second chance. No one can be expected to think _anyone_ is stupid enough to tickle a driver who explicitly has PTSD regarding tickling.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa OK but the girlfriend should know that distracting someone on the wheel (especially tickling) can lead to a fatal accident. And that's also taking in the fact that OP literally said his boundary was no tickling and the girlfriend brazenly ignores the boundary.
And I guess others know how filtered minded the ex is because even her parents sided with OP. Hopefully others will help teach her down the road, since she refuses to learn herself, that “I’m sorry” isn’t a cop out no matter how cute you think you are.
@@miniman649 The attempted manslaughter was the _second_ time, though. @IsYitzach implied he made a mistake by not dumping her the _first_ time she tickled him. I can see, him forgiving her, but also explaining; "Maybe you thought I was joking, but I was serious about the tickling thing. Don't ever do it again." and expecting that to be enough, because, you never expect anyone to be _that_ delusional. I'm not defending the girlfriend, _at all._
OP having that final talk with his ex is a prime example as to why you can’t argue with idiots. They’ll pull you down to their level and beat you with experience.
I’m thinking the ex would thought OP would relent but didn’t listen at all when he made it clear that they’re over. Lady you ain’t cute enough to get away with your crazy!
Ah, I remember the first story... OP's definitely NTA. *Never tickle someone that's driving.* It's so unnecessarily dangerous and can result in multiple ended lives. And, for those curious, the car was an BMW of the E39 generation. A gorgeous car and two lives nearly lost because someone decided to tickle the driver after being EXPLICITLY told not to.
Hello there :3 I also remember the first story, it feels really stupid as to why she though it would be a good idea to do that when someone's DRIVING, actual child behavior
@@partypantz7546 Hey! Superb pfp choice, definitely not biased. :D Wholly agreed, too. I can't fathom doing anything to deliberately distract a driver when I'm in the passenger seat. I prefer getting to my destination alive, so OP's ex is clueless at best... Like, in what way did she think that she'd be going home with OP? "Can we go home now?" _Excuse me? Who is WE? You speakin' French?!_ lmao
The tickling story makes me think of when my husband tried to tickle me, when we were first married. I told him I hated it, I react badly. Once he tried to tickle me and I threw him over our king-size bed ... he never did it again 😂
The cackle I let out when you said “the mistress is upset her husband is spending time and money on another woman? That must be so hard!” Wonderful point, Rslash
My ex always used to tickle me. I hate being tickled and I would tell him that I didn't enjoy that and he told me that I was lying. Because if I didn't like it, I wouldn't laugh. He couldn't understand that the laughter was a response that I couldn't control. If someone says that they don't like something, fucking believe them.
Ex can’t play the “let’s try and make this work” when OP has been trying and communicating this issue for years. OP is only an AH to himself for not bailing sooner.
No kidding. When she said he should take back what he did, my thoughts were that he should have told her, "You should take back what you did multiple times the past three years." he may be divorcing her, but she killed the marriage.
What irritates me the most about the first story is that OP established a boundary and the girlfriend ignored him. Now she wants him to “hear her out” because she’s facing the consequences of her actions and she’s upset about that. She almost killed them both. Story 4: Man. That kid’s more mature than I would have been. I would have said, “I’m not telling my dad to stop giving my mom child support so his w** can have more money for her spawn. Get a job, loser.”.
Story 3: yeah pretty much what R/ said. No one’s entitled to sex, but your ex seem to get some sick joy out of getting your hopes up just to reject you then laugh about it. No one should have to deal with that, and it’s on her for only wanting to work on it after you’re done. Which by the way, I doubt she’s going to work on anything, she’ll explain why she doesn’t wanna have sex and you’re just gonna have to be OK with that. Counseling is for when you and SO need help communicating the problem and how to fix it. But you don’t need help communicating, she knows what the problem is and how to fix it. She chose not to until it was too late.
I strongly feel like she only views OP as a servant who pampers her. I’m also with other commenters who believe she’s been cheating on OP and has withheld intimacy and teases him to trap him into cheating and she just so happens to witness it so she can divorce OP and take him to the cleaners
I do not agree with the no one is entitled to sex, since that is a big reason to get married. However, I am not surprised some would think like this, since marriage is not considered a commitment anyways, in 2024.
@josephnorris4095 No one is entitled to sex at all. It is not a "big reason" to get married. Marriage is about commitment and building a bond that will last the rest of your lifetime, sex or no sex. HOWEVER, if someone enters a marriage without telling their partner that they aren't interested in that *expected* (not a requirement, just expected) aspect of marriage when that partner expects to have sex...well, they either didn't know that and found out later (rare, but it happens) or they are looking at marriage like some sort of locked down bank roll and just needed the sex during the dating/engaged phase to help reel in their catch. This is why communication is necessary and people need to take time to really vet their partner before they tie the knot. In this case though, I would have to agree with the with the others. She is likely cheating...or maybe a sadist. Probably both.
@mosskat7842 Sex is and always has been a big reason for marriage even though its been astroturfed to not be in previous years. It's completely irrational and dishonest to say that one shouldn't anticipate an increase in sex after marriage in a healthy relationship.
I was about say for the first story that she OBVIOUSLY didn't tell her friend the full story, because it would make her look bad. And she knows that, that's why she got so mad and acted oblivious about fixing her story.
Story 1: I remember this story, I believe that this girl was tickling OP whenever he showed interest in something that wasn't her. Notice how she intentionally did it when OP started bragging about the new paint job, I suspect she did it to control her partners. She's a Narcissist and possibly a psychopath with what she did. Story 3: The Wife is either cheating, or let a 'certain type' of person in her head and began to torment OP. She intentionally turns OP on then denies him. It's been 3 years without her listening or communicating, now the time to try and fix things are over, she managed to make OP resent her. And when I mean 'certain type' I'm talking about the manipulative AH's who find pleasure in other people suffering, and would laugh at the wife destroying her marriage.
for the teasing wife story, I think she was trying to manipulate him into cheating on her so she could divorce him and get a bigger payout. That would explain why she was going out of her way to keep him sexually frustrated, all she needed to do was have him spend time with a female friend to complete the plan.
If it’s not that I’m curious what would have happened if OP ever told the wife that he wasn’t in the mood while being teased? Idk why but I feel like she’d be the type to make it a big deal even though she never intended on having anything happen
I would believe that story. To be constantly tempted for passionate hugging and then denied it is really messing with a partner's emotions, and may make the partner seek elsewhere for satisfaction.
Teasing story: she was absolutely cheating on OP, and no one can convince me otherwise. There's no way she's teasing him about s-x and not satisfying her own needs with someone else.
She might be asexual which means that she doesn’t have any sexual desires at all but was going through the motions in the beginning. Funny how you people immediately jump to cheating instead of something else that’s more logical.
@@codyjohnson6427Asexual or not who the hell teases their partner for sex then says no for years and expects the marriage to survive especially when they refuse to communicate It's just dumb and cruel
I say the ex in the first story deserves at least 4/5 cause she almost killed op and herself and then she accuses him of cheating on her as the reason he broke up with her? Very delusional
When I was a child a friend tickled me after I repeatedly told her not to. It almost ended our friendship. She did stop after I stop hanging out with her for a while. This was pre-teen age. An adult should get it.
Teasing Story: OP's been setting that boundary of "Don't tease me over s3x" and she just ignores it. Someone in the comments did suggest that she was trying to frustrate OP to the point that he cheats so she could be the victim and win big in the divorce, and I hate how plausible that sounds. She needs to grow up and stop playing these games
@@lahlybird895 He interprets it as teasing, but in the end what does it matter what she did? He asked her to stop if she is not interested in taking it further. If someone says no to something you should respect that, no means no.
Story 2: I know this is unrelated to the veredict itself, but OMG! OP's wife backstory made my stomach turn. I'm glad she was able to pull through all of that and even marry and become a mother. Sending mudh love to the 3 of you - OP, his wife and their kid.
Last story: Kid was smart and it was lucky that dad cared about OP's opinion of him enough to shell out cash for his ex-wife. Miss golddigger can go pound sand.
honestly, it sounds like the kids are better off. all those extracurriculars on top of school? when do they have the time to have fun or just relax? christ.
Yeah i thought he overreacted a bit at first but then seeing how she just resfused to accept how big a problem she actually caused? Yeah, she's gotta go
Last story: someone explain to me how OP has to care about “his siblings” (ie, his dad’s mistress’s children that he never agreed to in the first place) but the siblings don’t have to care about him? How does that make any amount of sense??
also, listening to that list of activities they had the kids in, i think OP is looking out for their siblings. after all, how do those kids have time to relax with all that stuff they have to do?
The girlfriend DOES NOT SOUND like a good girlfriend. She accuses OP of being more in love with a car than with her, while she is more in love with trampling over OP's boundaries than with him. OP is right, her actions could have caused something much more serious than a paint scratch. Don't feel any shame in dumping her, there's better women on the horizon. OP is NTA.
1st story: Girl not only violated your boundaries, but SHE ALMOST KILLED YOU. Glad you dumped her 2nd story: Your sister lied about infertility for vanity's sake 3rd story: Why did you marry her? She is clearly incompatible with you 4th story: Technically, the whole thing is the dad's fault since he decided to cheat. The mistress needs to quit complaining and get a job if she's that desperate for money
The basic golden rule in driving is don't distract the driver, as anyones life can end all because the passenger is doing something distracting like tickling the driver.
Story 1: back when i was in the DUI hotel there was a girl who was in there for grabbing the steering wheel from the passanger seat because she was pissed at her boyfriend. They crashed and she got an OVI.
Look, if the lady wants to have a surrogate because she wants to stay thin and not risk her body/life, that's fine, but her and her husband should pay for that luxury. OP's wife has major trauma and that's why they did it. I'd agree if the sister helped pay for hers, but I highly doubt it.
The last story is funny to me 😂. The mistress really wants everything her way. But did she even think about oh I don’t know how everyone else feels? Probably not she is only thinking about herself like a true narcissist.
In other sites about this story, OPs dad and wife tried to talk to OPs mom about ending the funding which she refused. They had a mound of audacity to expect OP to request his mom end the funding when it was HIS RULE to begin with. The money is the only reason why OP even bothers to see them.
@@Maria_Miciano_5I see OP cutting contact once he turns 18. The “dad” and the do over family can’t be shocked since OP made it clear his involvement is only transactional
Last story: Oh no! Not only is it that the mistress is upset that the money is going to another woman, but it's not even as though they're hard up. Each of those extra curriculars costs a *lot* of extra money a year. I dunno... I'd feel pretty shitty expecting my husband -who isn't the father of my other kids- to pay all of that out of his pocket. That's what my job is for, and what their biological father's job is for.
For the last story, the money is supporting OP and not just his mom. So new step mom is complaining that OP has a roof over his head and food on the table vs her kids getting to only do 4 activities vs 6.
Story 2: OP's sister should adopt! I seriously don't get people who would rather pay for a surrogate than adopt a child that needs a home. I get the IVF thing a little more because some people want the experience of carrying and birthing a child, but OP's sister doesn't even want that!
Story 1: “ you calling me a liar”, no one‘s calling her a liar, but she sure as hell did not tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And I don’t think she’s so selfish she doesn’t realize why she’s in the wrong, because someone like that usually doesn’t bother lying or hiding facts in the story, they’ll tell the truth and expect everyone to be on their side forgive them instantly. Your ex on some level knew what she did was wrong and doesn’t want to suffer the consequences or judgment. Which is why she was very quick to gaslight you before the word came out your mouth. Also, wow, the friend didn’t know the real troop that doesn’t change the fact that she’s an entitle idiot for running to your house demanding you talk to her. at least her mom had the decency to ask you what happened.
"Youre more in love with a car than your girlfriend" I totally agree. That reminds me of this time my boyfriend broke up with me because I punched him in the face. He cared more about his glasses being broken than our relationship. Im starting to wonder if he ever loved me at all.
not having sex won't kill you bro, omg. a better answer is "fun isn't everything but its important" because not having fun everyday or every week won't kill you but it will stress you out and lower your quality of life, but also being obsessed with having fun (sex) all the time will ruin your life too. further, masturbation. we live in the wonderful time of a shit ton of different kinds of sex toys existing. if you can't find someone to play bedroom games with, go find a toy to play with on your own. there are so many out there, you should find at least one you like.
The statement "sex isn't everything" is absolutely true, but it's also incomplete. When a couples sex life is good, it's 20% of the relationship. When their sex life is bad, it's 80% of the relationship. I don't know what happened with this woman, but there seems to be something she decided to keep from her husband, and not even try to work on herself that killed their bedroom, then their marriage. It isn't his fault for being a sex fiend, and it isn't his fault for never showing her nonsexual affection or appreciation of her. It's all on her!
Story 3: I’m asexual (also sex repulsed) and that is always something I tell any potential dates before the first date. Because sex is important for some people in a relationship, and unlike OP’s wife I’m not going to force someone to be with me if sex is something they want or need in a relationship. What OP’s wife does with her body is her choice but shouldn’t lord sex over him like she does.
Story 1: NTA, I'd give the gf 4/5 AH score. Not only is she murderous and/or dangerously incompetent, but she's also emotionally manipulative and a liar. The update really confirmed that to me with her actions. She lied to her friend about what happened, and she tried to manipulate OP when they met up. That's not dodging a bullet, that's dodging an entire trainwreck.
4th Story: that has to be some sort of control thing. Like, teasing him to get him in the mood, and then blocking him when she is done. Almost like she was trying to get him to be down on his knees begging for it, which is when she could sink her claws in and gain control.
Story 3. Yeah op was allowing the dead bedroom and still showed affection when she didn't. In fact she is sadistic, probably to control the relationship. That type of sheet shouldn't fly even one time.
Yeah, I am not fond of teasing for this obvious reason. It's honestly shown as a bait more than anything else, but when some women use teasing as showing signs of interest, someone like me can't tell if they're being serious or not so I either make my embarrassed reply to it or just stay oblivious. But whenever I act oblivious, I'm somehow the asshole for not taking the hints, like what? This is why I'm in the belief of, "Just be forwarded and not make your love interest constantly second guess themselves. They're already going through life. They don't need these added complications on top of it!"
Wow never thought I’d see the day where rslash would side with the men who done nothing wrong in every story. I’m going to get my mind to picture this day forever
Driving is operating a 1-2 ton moving potential death machine, I think even them asking their passenger not to mess with the radio because it’s distracting is reasonable
Most ppl know not to mess with a driver (especially as a passenger), so either this was premeditated or she has reaaaaaally bad control over her intrusive thoughts. Which doesnt even begin to cover "purposefully ignoring boundaries for personal entertainment."
Story 4: OP is dad's kid as much as any of the other ones. Dad has a moral responsibility to support his son. Daddy's whooah who is functionally unemployed has no say in this.
Last story: it's hilarious to see a homewrecker get upset because the man she stole is still giving money to the ex-wife... as for the father, he's lucky OP is too young and doesn't have a scholarship yet, because I'm pretty sure that, if he did, he'd probably be supporting the mother himself and telling the father to f- off.
And how she only sobbed when OP confronted her about her actions after the accident. She didn’t care about possibly dying but that OP confronted her. And she sobbed in the update only after all the times OP explained to her that they’re over. She’s trying to weaponize sobbing like she’s preparing for WWIII
1st: don't distract someone while they are operating heavy machinery. Kids are taught this in shop class, because accidents can happen. Logical adults would know better
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re. the tickle story, OP would have been OK to dump the GF long before then. As my therapist taught me, no one gets more than three chances. 1) the first disagreement over a behaviour could just be a difference of opinion of what is appropriate -e.g. here, the GF thought tickling was OK, but OP hated it 2) the second time the behaviour happens could be a coincidence or genuine slip up 3) the third time the behaviour happens, it is a pattern. The person is either unwilling or unable to change. After the first and second incidents speak to the other person, explain the problem, and note what changes are needed. if the person is apologetic and willing to change, continue on. But, after the third time, understand that no amount of talking is going to change the problematic behaviour and be done with that person. Some behaviours are so egregious that the relationship is over after chance one or two. Sometimes the person indicates right off they think their behaviour is OK and they are unwilling to chance, so it's OK to end things at that stage. So, people can get fewer than three chances. But no one gets more than that.
The lady from the first story seems to be... uh? Developmentaly behind? Either that or she treats the boyfriend dismissively completely ignroing his boundaries and feelings at every step from tickling to the "yep, can we go home now?".
Yeah I dealt with an ex where our bedroom life fell apart but she still liked to tease, after about of year of nothing but frustration I was just done. I don't know how this guy put up with it for 3 years.
A friend had a particularly psycho GF. She once tried to kill him by grabbing the steering wheel and crashing his car. We were getting drunk once, and I basically asked if she'd tried something like that before. He said yes, she has. Could I count the number of times she's tried that on the fingers of one hand. No, he said, you couldn't. And she seemed so nice when I met/talked to her.
1st story: OP should make sure the friend knows the full story. Because I am betting the girlfriend sold her some BS version that makes her look better. Nobody would side with someone dumb enough to tickle someone while they're driving. Edit: I just got to the update, and, well... Called it.
Story 2: there is no conceivable way to be entitled to you paying for a surrogate. Even if she was having fertility issues, you don’t owe her your money. But the fact that she only wants one because she doesn’t look fat compared to your wife, might be the absolute reason anyone could possibly have to get a surrogate, let alone demanding someone else pay for it.
If she wants a baby without getting pregnant, she could adopt. Sis is shallow and those whining to OP can either pay up or shut up. OP is only financially responsible for himself, spouse, and son.
@@lorilancaster5917I was looking for this comment! Aren’t there enough kids in the system that are looking for a loving family? Then again… looking at how superficial the sister is, I’m not sure she’d qualify as loving parent anyway…
To be fair, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to pay for a surrogate so you don’t have to go through all the medical complications and stuff that comes with pregnancy, but it’s the attitude of the sister and the way she made it sound like she just wanted to be hot and have a kid is so 😬😬 Yeah it’s weird that she has this attitude when it wasn’t necessary at all
Story1 I broke up with a boyfriend in high school because he wouldn't stop trying to tickle me, and he didn't even do it while I was driving. It's so damned annoying, it doesn't feel good, in fact it often hurts, I never laughed and asked him to stop repeatedly and he just wouldn't. The final straw was when he said he liked "getting a rise" out of me... In that, he knew tickling me would piss me off, and he thought it was funny.... I broke up with him that instant and left him standing there with his shocked face. Fk those people...
Secomd story: Yeah her body her choice- but that doesn’t make her entitled to OP’s money. OP would gladly help pay for a surrogate if she couldn’t get pregnant, but she can and just doesn’t want to. That’s her choice. But it’s also his choice to not pay for it 🤷🏼
The only time you should touch a driver: medical emergency for the driver or if they offer to hold hands. Also, I felt like banging my head against the wall just listening to that conversation.
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Story 3: NTA, since i can only think of 1 *sorta* good possibility for the wife's actions... There's a group of people with a certain kink call consensual non-consent. Basically, they want their partner to force themselves on them... This could explain all the teasing, hoping OP would just finally go for it regardless. But if so then the wife is still an AH because she missed the first part of the kink: "consensual". They have to actually tell their partner that they want this, usually in writing. Obviously she didn't, so she'd be the jerk by incompetence rather than malice, which is the sorta good option. But the bad options run the gamut from cheating to adult entertainment addiction to just enjoys emotional abuse. I can't hold it against OP to not want to actually try to find out which it is. He gets a 0/5 AHs, and the wife gets 2-4/5 AHs.
If I recall correctly, con non-con is a form of bdsm, and the number 1 rule of bdsm is that everyone has to know and consent. And I also can't see that being the case, because it's not like she gets upset when he doesn't do anything after being rejected, ya know?
Story 1. I actually had something very similar, although not intentional happen to me when I was first learning to drive at 19. I was driving on the highway with my elderly aunt sitting next to me. Well she saw possibly a bug or some dirt or whatever I'm the side of my neck and without warning me at all she used her fingernail to gently scrape it off. My neck has always been extremely sensitive, and I yelped and put my ear to my shoulder and began swerving. Thankfully I got it back under control real quickly. People, don't touch drivers!
Story 2: My friend has said that she would be a surrogate for me if I ever wanted to become a parent. The reason why is that I'm deathly scared of the idea of being pregnant. Even seeing my friend be pregnant made me uncomfortable. I rather adopt than have a child biological. Op's sister reasoning to not go through pregnancy is selfish to me. Why put a woman to go through nine months of pregnancy and she has to give her baby away? The idea of carrying a baby for nine months makes me very uncomfortable. But Op's sister's reasoning is that she doesn't want to lose her figure and she wants Op to pay her money? So disgusting and entitled.
First story: You're ex gf could have killed you, she tickled you while you were driving. She doesn't seem to realize that she could have caused an accident or worse. She is either really dumb or just choosing to ignore you. Second story: Wow your wife's family are effing monsters and doesn't seem to care. Your sister just wanted free money and we know she would have had blown the money on crap and not a kid. Third story: Why did she marry you if she didn't want to make a family with, it really does feel like she enjoys or gets pleasure in teasing you. I feel sorry for anyone who ends up with guys ex. Final story: You're dad only came back into your life in order just to look good and of course he tries of getting out of paying child support in order to pay for his new family.
my narcissistic sister also pulled similar stunt around ten years ago. i was trying to switch lanes while speeding and couldnt listen to my mom and my sister's conversation. apparently she was asking me a question and i didnt respond, so she felt ignored and were upset. then she took her phone, turned on the flashlight, and flashed it directly in front of my eyes!! thankfully whenever i got surprised, my body tensed and freezed, so i didnt swerve. then my mom 'softly' berated my sister as it was dangerous to do so. but of course, she didnt think she was in the wrong and still blames me for ignoring her.
Last story: it's actually better that the kids aren't doing all those extra circular activities. That is way too much and would cause burn out. Even if the kids enjoy them all, that's a lot
I said it when I 1st read the last story and I’ll say it again: a household that can still afford 6+ extracurriculars/hobbies and all the equipment needed for them is not “struggling“. And OP‘s dad has WAY more obligation towards his own kid than the kids of his mistress with some other dude…
Story one..... OP isn't "in love with his car", he's in love with being ALIVE! She seriously needs to be made an EX. Stupid of this level cannot be tolerated. 😮 Story two.... OP's "roommate" is refusing to do her wifely duty. And she uses OP as a walking ATM. OP is well within his rights to divorce her. Hope he finds a new girl who is compatible with him. 🙄
Story ending @ 5:52: that ending where op stated the friend thought she was the MC of the story, got me laughing. I was like, "yep, this dude's a real one"😂.
Messing with the driver is the "cardinal sin" of being a passenger in a car. Tickling or not, you should never put your hands on the driver, especially not in a way that could cause their arms to move. She put both their lives on the line for no reason. If she'd make a mistake like that now, who's to say she won't do something similar in the future with your kids in the car? No excuse for that kind of thoughtlessness. And yeah, you can't be in a relationship with somebody who does not respect your boundaries. I bet you anything if OP used that reasoning on her to let him do something she didn't want, she'd flip out.
As soon as he said “I swerved off the road”, I instantly went “What the fuck, he was driving?!”. That girlfriend was so stupid. He literally had told her many times according to the story NOT to do that and she caused the car to nearly crash, thanks to her being awful at listening. I would’ve just broken up with her on the spot.
Story 1: NTA. OP's girlfriend is so dense she couldn't see what she did as a deadly mistake. A "small mistake"? This ISN'T s small matter. Plus, she even accused you of cheating and "using" the accident as an excuse. The fact you can see her rotating between crying and apologizing, and then getting mad and constantly deflecting the blame off of herself spoke volumes here. This girl is insane, someone's life is NOT to be made out as something you can toy with. Break up with her, you deserve better.
Teased- nta. Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. Hes been more than patient, its not fair for him to be stuck in a dead bedroom relationship.
I feel for the wife dealing with fear of pregnancy. I was only molested for two months, but that stemmed the fear of pregnancy and sex, specifically with men. I got my tubes removed at 28. I will never naturally bear a child.
Man, the mistress in that last story takes the cake. Oh no! Her kids have to drop two extra curriculars?! How will they ever go on?!! Like, if the family was struggling to put food on the table then you might have a case but her complaint basically boils down to, "my family can't live as luxuriously as we want to!" What a spoiled woman
Teased story, 100% its her kink, she gets off on that power and gets off on making him think he will get some, she gets off on his frustration. If she genuinely had no "sex" drive, she wouldnt do that. OP has no right to sex, sure, but he does have a right to feel wanted and to feel intimacy, if she wont provide that, divorse is the respectable option, least OP didnt use it as an excuse for affairs.
Teased story, my god, this happened to me, but fortunately, it was only a gf and not my wife. Come to find out that she was asexual and not demisexual. I feel for this guy. All the teasing, and it's just a dead-end.
0:25 "Don't tickle me." GF tickles anyways. Then she does it while OP is driving. She made 2 errors and he made 1. Her first error was breaking a clearly communicated boundary. Her second error was doing it while he is driving. OP's error was not breaking up the first time. Good on OP for doing it after the crash. That lady is about as dense as a neutron star.
I mean, there _is_ such thing as forgiveness. So, yeah it ended up being a mistake in hindsight, but I certainly wouldn't blame OP for giving the girlfriend a second chance. No one can be expected to think _anyone_ is stupid enough to tickle a driver who explicitly has PTSD regarding tickling.
@@Wendy_O._Koopaforgiveness is for tiny things like breaking a promise or such.
Not attempted manslaughter
@@Wendy_O._Koopa OK but the girlfriend should know that distracting someone on the wheel (especially tickling) can lead to a fatal accident. And that's also taking in the fact that OP literally said his boundary was no tickling and the girlfriend brazenly ignores the boundary.
And I guess others know how filtered minded the ex is because even her parents sided with OP. Hopefully others will help teach her down the road, since she refuses to learn herself, that “I’m sorry” isn’t a cop out no matter how cute you think you are.
@@miniman649 The attempted manslaughter was the _second_ time, though. @IsYitzach implied he made a mistake by not dumping her the _first_ time she tickled him. I can see, him forgiving her, but also explaining; "Maybe you thought I was joking, but I was serious about the tickling thing. Don't ever do it again." and expecting that to be enough, because, you never expect anyone to be _that_ delusional.
I'm not defending the girlfriend, _at all._
OP having that final talk with his ex is a prime example as to why you can’t argue with idiots. They’ll pull you down to their level and beat you with experience.
I’m thinking the ex would thought OP would relent but didn’t listen at all when he made it clear that they’re over. Lady you ain’t cute enough to get away with your crazy!
Ah, I remember the first story... OP's definitely NTA. *Never tickle someone that's driving.* It's so unnecessarily dangerous and can result in multiple ended lives.
And, for those curious, the car was an BMW of the E39 generation. A gorgeous car and two lives nearly lost because someone decided to tickle the driver after being EXPLICITLY told not to.
Hello there :3 I also remember the first story, it feels really stupid as to why she though it would be a good idea to do that when someone's DRIVING, actual child behavior
@@partypantz7546 its right up there with don't hold your hands over their eyes and don't yank on the wheel
@@partypantz7546 Hey! Superb pfp choice, definitely not biased. :D Wholly agreed, too. I can't fathom doing anything to deliberately distract a driver when I'm in the passenger seat. I prefer getting to my destination alive, so OP's ex is clueless at best... Like, in what way did she think that she'd be going home with OP?
"Can we go home now?" _Excuse me? Who is WE? You speakin' French?!_ lmao
The tickling story makes me think of when my husband tried to tickle me, when we were first married. I told him I hated it, I react badly. Once he tried to tickle me and I threw him over our king-size bed ... he never did it again 😂
I bet she was jealous and wanted to bang up the body or mess up the paint job. Shrew.
The cackle I let out when you said “the mistress is upset her husband is spending time and money on another woman? That must be so hard!” Wonderful point, Rslash
Yeah I’ve learned not to eat nor drink anything while reading these stories or I’ll do a spit take.
It's funny how she didn't think about it then, when she was the woman breaking up a marriage.
1st story: it's not even don't tickle someone driving a car. It's don't tickle someone who tells you they don't want to be tickled.
And we all know the ex would have a stink if someone violated her boundaries and tried to distract her when she is driving.
Right?! It's just a basic boundary issue. Glad she's an ex. What a self-absorbed person.
My ex always used to tickle me. I hate being tickled and I would tell him that I didn't enjoy that and he told me that I was lying. Because if I didn't like it, I wouldn't laugh. He couldn't understand that the laughter was a response that I couldn't control. If someone says that they don't like something, fucking believe them.
It's the added risk of life that really drives the point home.
In all fairness I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone on my 23 years on this planet that’s wanted to be tickled
Tickling Story: Darwin says hello. The ex nearly caused two deaths because she couldn't help herself tickling OP. She needs to learn how bad that was
Story 3:Dude,What is with this woman?
She's not in high school,She's in a real life marriage,NTA
Update:Optimal move,OP
Ex can’t play the “let’s try and make this work” when OP has been trying and communicating this issue for years. OP is only an AH to himself for not bailing sooner.
No kidding. When she said he should take back what he did, my thoughts were that he should have told her, "You should take back what you did multiple times the past three years." he may be divorcing her, but she killed the marriage.
Doing this to a high schooler would probably mean she supports school shootings lol
What irritates me the most about the first story is that OP established a boundary and the girlfriend ignored him. Now she wants him to “hear her out” because she’s facing the consequences of her actions and she’s upset about that. She almost killed them both.
Story 4: Man. That kid’s more mature than I would have been. I would have said, “I’m not telling my dad to stop giving my mom child support so his w** can have more money for her spawn. Get a job, loser.”.
It really sounded like OP’s girlfriend was really dumb
@@DianaWanMa Or more like she thinks the world is like a cartoon where she can do anything she wants and nothing bad can ever happen.
The women in both post 1 and 3 sound like their catchphrase is "why did nobody warn me that my actions would have consequences?"
Story 3: yeah pretty much what R/ said. No one’s entitled to sex, but your ex seem to get some sick joy out of getting your hopes up just to reject you then laugh about it. No one should have to deal with that, and it’s on her for only wanting to work on it after you’re done.
Which by the way, I doubt she’s going to work on anything, she’ll explain why she doesn’t wanna have sex and you’re just gonna have to be OK with that. Counseling is for when you and SO need help communicating the problem and how to fix it. But you don’t need help communicating, she knows what the problem is and how to fix it. She chose not to until it was too late.
I strongly feel like she only views OP as a servant who pampers her. I’m also with other commenters who believe she’s been cheating on OP and has withheld intimacy and teases him to trap him into cheating and she just so happens to witness it so she can divorce OP and take him to the cleaners
I do not agree with the no one is entitled to sex, since that is a big reason to get married. However, I am not surprised some would think like this, since marriage is not considered a commitment anyways, in 2024.
@@lorilancaster5917 This, since a woman is not going to go without, she is going to get it somewhere else, that is almost a given.
@josephnorris4095 No one is entitled to sex at all. It is not a "big reason" to get married. Marriage is about commitment and building a bond that will last the rest of your lifetime, sex or no sex.
HOWEVER, if someone enters a marriage without telling their partner that they aren't interested in that *expected* (not a requirement, just expected) aspect of marriage when that partner expects to have sex...well, they either didn't know that and found out later (rare, but it happens) or they are looking at marriage like some sort of locked down bank roll and just needed the sex during the dating/engaged phase to help reel in their catch.
This is why communication is necessary and people need to take time to really vet their partner before they tie the knot. In this case though, I would have to agree with the with the others.
She is likely cheating...or maybe a sadist. Probably both.
@mosskat7842 Sex is and always has been a big reason for marriage even though its been astroturfed to not be in previous years. It's completely irrational and dishonest to say that one shouldn't anticipate an increase in sex after marriage in a healthy relationship.
Story 3 - Man that sucks a lot. Not only is OP not getting his needs met, his wife is even messing with him about it. What a nasty woman.
He should have divorced years ago tbf, but glad he finally did.
I was about say for the first story that she OBVIOUSLY didn't tell her friend the full story, because it would make her look bad. And she knows that, that's why she got so mad and acted oblivious about fixing her story.
And also, intentionally omitting details *IS* lying.
I am grateful her mother contacted OP, so at least the truth is known.
Story 1: I remember this story, I believe that this girl was tickling OP whenever he showed interest in something that wasn't her. Notice how she intentionally did it when OP started bragging about the new paint job, I suspect she did it to control her partners. She's a Narcissist and possibly a psychopath with what she did.
Story 3: The Wife is either cheating, or let a 'certain type' of person in her head and began to torment OP. She intentionally turns OP on then denies him. It's been 3 years without her listening or communicating, now the time to try and fix things are over, she managed to make OP resent her. And when I mean 'certain type' I'm talking about the manipulative AH's who find pleasure in other people suffering, and would laugh at the wife destroying her marriage.
"I cant possibly be wrong. You must be cheating on me and only pretending that the car crash was a problem!"
for the teasing wife story, I think she was trying to manipulate him into cheating on her so she could divorce him and get a bigger payout. That would explain why she was going out of her way to keep him sexually frustrated, all she needed to do was have him spend time with a female friend to complete the plan.
Seems likely.
It's possible, but people are also just like that. I dated a girl who did the same shit damn near every day.
They live in America. America is in no fault divorce. She wouldn't get a bigger settlement if he cheated or not. It's not the 1940s anymore guys.
If it’s not that I’m curious what would have happened if OP ever told the wife that he wasn’t in the mood while being teased? Idk why but I feel like she’d be the type to make it a big deal even though she never intended on having anything happen
I would believe that story. To be constantly tempted for passionate hugging and then denied it is really messing with a partner's emotions, and may make the partner seek elsewhere for satisfaction.
Teasing story: she was absolutely cheating on OP, and no one can convince me otherwise. There's no way she's teasing him about s-x and not satisfying her own needs with someone else.
She might be asexual which means that she doesn’t have any sexual desires at all but was going through the motions in the beginning.
Funny how you people immediately jump to cheating instead of something else that’s more logical.
Or she is just asexual 🤷🏼♀️
Or satisfying her needs with herself
Asexual
@@codyjohnson6427Asexual or not who the hell teases their partner for sex then says no for years and expects the marriage to survive especially when they refuse to communicate It's just dumb and cruel
I say the ex in the first story deserves at least 4/5 cause she almost killed op and herself and then she accuses him of cheating on her as the reason he broke up with her? Very delusional
When I was a child a friend tickled me after I repeatedly told her not to. It almost ended our friendship. She did stop after I stop hanging out with her for a while. This was pre-teen age. An adult should get it.
Teasing Story: OP's been setting that boundary of "Don't tease me over s3x" and she just ignores it. Someone in the comments did suggest that she was trying to frustrate OP to the point that he cheats so she could be the victim and win big in the divorce, and I hate how plausible that sounds.
She needs to grow up and stop playing these games
In Maryland, not having s3x for I think at least 6 months is grounds for a divorce.
@@shadowcatfacereally? That seems kinda funny 😂
How do I know if she was teasing though she could have just been doing normal flirting and he could have been reading into it and frustrating himself
@@lahlybird895 He interprets it as teasing, but in the end what does it matter what she did? He asked her to stop if she is not interested in taking it further. If someone says no to something you should respect that, no means no.
@someghosthunter Yeah, some states take that stuff seriously 😆
“You’re more in love with your car than your gf”
My response: WE COULD’VE FUCKING DIED
Story 2: I know this is unrelated to the veredict itself, but OMG! OP's wife backstory made my stomach turn. I'm glad she was able to pull through all of that and even marry and become a mother. Sending mudh love to the 3 of you - OP, his wife and their kid.
Last story: Kid was smart and it was lucky that dad cared about OP's opinion of him enough to shell out cash for his ex-wife. Miss golddigger can go pound sand.
And perhaps she should be bugging the fathers of her other kids to pay for all their extracurricular activities?
honestly, it sounds like the kids are better off. all those extracurriculars on top of school? when do they have the time to have fun or just relax? christ.
I kinda feel bad for her kids though. They are getting punished for the actions of their parents.
Story 1 : Cheesus Crust, the lack of accountability in some people.
Woah, 5:35, that anguish and frustration lmao.
Omg I'm stealing cheesus crust for my own vocabulary
Yeah i thought he overreacted a bit at first but then seeing how she just resfused to accept how big a problem she actually caused?
Yeah, she's gotta go
@@znerd3664 Yep, 100% can we go home now?
Omg I’d wanna put my head through a wall lol
she clearly doesn’t care about friendly-fire, or about being collateral damage either.
She's a menace to society.
It’s all about the tickle and I highly doubt OPs name is Elmo.
@@lorilancaster5917 He's more like Stop Touching Me Elmo.
Last story: someone explain to me how OP has to care about “his siblings” (ie, his dad’s mistress’s children that he never agreed to in the first place) but the siblings don’t have to care about him? How does that make any amount of sense??
It’s not about sense, it’s about guilting a child into feeling bad.
also, listening to that list of activities they had the kids in, i think OP is looking out for their siblings. after all, how do those kids have time to relax with all that stuff they have to do?
The girlfriend DOES NOT SOUND like a good girlfriend. She accuses OP of being more in love with a car than with her, while she is more in love with trampling over OP's boundaries than with him. OP is right, her actions could have caused something much more serious than a paint scratch. Don't feel any shame in dumping her, there's better women on the horizon. OP is NTA.
1st story: Girl not only violated your boundaries, but SHE ALMOST KILLED YOU. Glad you dumped her
2nd story: Your sister lied about infertility for vanity's sake
3rd story: Why did you marry her? She is clearly incompatible with you
4th story: Technically, the whole thing is the dad's fault since he decided to cheat. The mistress needs to quit complaining and get a job if she's that desperate for money
Tickling someone without their permission can be considered assault glad she's your ex because honestly she sounds nuts and borderline abusive.
*their
@@unclebozo9845 every time never been good with there/theirs thanks for correcting me
Correction, OP loves being alive than his
ex-girlfriend.
Can’t say it any better
@@lorilancaster5917I could: “Correction: OP loves being alive more than his ex-girlfriend.”
He doesn't love the car more than her, he does love being ALIVE tho
The basic golden rule in driving is don't distract the driver, as anyones life can end all because the passenger is doing something distracting like tickling the driver.
Story 1: back when i was in the DUI hotel there was a girl who was in there for grabbing the steering wheel from the passanger seat because she was pissed at her boyfriend. They crashed and she got an OVI.
Look, if the lady wants to have a surrogate because she wants to stay thin and not risk her body/life, that's fine, but her and her husband should pay for that luxury. OP's wife has major trauma and that's why they did it. I'd agree if the sister helped pay for hers, but I highly doubt it.
The absolute GAUL to tell him to stop thinking with his “head” when *she* keeps bringing it up!
The last story is funny to me 😂. The mistress really wants everything her way. But did she even think about oh I don’t know how everyone else feels? Probably not she is only thinking about herself like a true narcissist.
In other sites about this story, OPs dad and wife tried to talk to OPs mom about ending the funding which she refused. They had a mound of audacity to expect OP to request his mom end the funding when it was HIS RULE to begin with. The money is the only reason why OP even bothers to see them.
@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah if it gets bad, I hope OP doesn’t contact his dad anymore. The dad really needs to grow a backbone.
@@Maria_Miciano_5I see OP cutting contact once he turns 18. The “dad” and the do over family can’t be shocked since OP made it clear his involvement is only transactional
Story 3: NTA. This is abusive behavior and absolutely grounds for divorce.
Last story: Oh no! Not only is it that the mistress is upset that the money is going to another woman, but it's not even as though they're hard up. Each of those extra curriculars costs a *lot* of extra money a year. I dunno... I'd feel pretty shitty expecting my husband -who isn't the father of my other kids- to pay all of that out of his pocket. That's what my job is for, and what their biological father's job is for.
For the last story, the money is supporting OP and not just his mom. So new step mom is complaining that OP has a roof over his head and food on the table vs her kids getting to only do 4 activities vs 6.
Story 2: OP's sister should adopt! I seriously don't get people who would rather pay for a surrogate than adopt a child that needs a home. I get the IVF thing a little more because some people want the experience of carrying and birthing a child, but OP's sister doesn't even want that!
Story 1: “ you calling me a liar”, no one‘s calling her a liar, but she sure as hell did not tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And I don’t think she’s so selfish she doesn’t realize why she’s in the wrong, because someone like that usually doesn’t bother lying or hiding facts in the story, they’ll tell the truth and expect everyone to be on their side forgive them instantly. Your ex on some level knew what she did was wrong and doesn’t want to suffer the consequences or judgment. Which is why she was very quick to gaslight you before the word came out your mouth.
Also, wow, the friend didn’t know the real troop that doesn’t change the fact that she’s an entitle idiot for running to your house demanding you talk to her. at least her mom had the decency to ask you what happened.
"Youre more in love with a car than your girlfriend"
I totally agree. That reminds me of this time my boyfriend broke up with me because I punched him in the face. He cared more about his glasses being broken than our relationship. Im starting to wonder if he ever loved me at all.
Lmao, you had me in the first half ngl
You should probably add a /s at the end, because people like her would *not* get the sarcasm otherwise.
@RealCoolstriker64 but I'm being totally serious.
A quote from r/deadbedrooms: When people say "Sex isn't everything" answer "Breathing isn't everything either, but it's kinda important".
Let's hope an incel doesn't look at this comment...
I do not get allosexual people in the slightest, my word.
not having sex won't kill you bro, omg.
a better answer is "fun isn't everything but its important" because not having fun everyday or every week won't kill you but it will stress you out and lower your quality of life, but also being obsessed with having fun (sex) all the time will ruin your life too.
further, masturbation. we live in the wonderful time of a shit ton of different kinds of sex toys existing. if you can't find someone to play bedroom games with, go find a toy to play with on your own. there are so many out there, you should find at least one you like.
The statement "sex isn't everything" is absolutely true, but it's also incomplete. When a couples sex life is good, it's 20% of the relationship. When their sex life is bad, it's 80% of the relationship.
I don't know what happened with this woman, but there seems to be something she decided to keep from her husband, and not even try to work on herself that killed their bedroom, then their marriage. It isn't his fault for being a sex fiend, and it isn't his fault for never showing her nonsexual affection or appreciation of her. It's all on her!
@@abiean222 found the incel who needed to hear this, but refuses to listen
Story 4:Ahahahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂
That woman thinking she'll have a good life married to that cheater is absolutely nothing but peak comedy
NTA
'Are you accusing me of being a liar?!'
Well, I ain't calling you a *truth-er*
Story 3: I’m asexual (also sex repulsed) and that is always something I tell any potential dates before the first date. Because sex is important for some people in a relationship, and unlike OP’s wife I’m not going to force someone to be with me if sex is something they want or need in a relationship. What OP’s wife does with her body is her choice but shouldn’t lord sex over him like she does.
As someone who isn’t: I’d appreciate the heck out of this! Very based and emptionally mature.
Story 1: NTA, I'd give the gf 4/5 AH score. Not only is she murderous and/or dangerously incompetent, but she's also emotionally manipulative and a liar. The update really confirmed that to me with her actions. She lied to her friend about what happened, and she tried to manipulate OP when they met up. That's not dodging a bullet, that's dodging an entire trainwreck.
4th Story: that has to be some sort of control thing. Like, teasing him to get him in the mood, and then blocking him when she is done. Almost like she was trying to get him to be down on his knees begging for it, which is when she could sink her claws in and gain control.
Story 3. Yeah op was allowing the dead bedroom and still showed affection when she didn't. In fact she is sadistic, probably to control the relationship.
That type of sheet shouldn't fly even one time.
Yeah, I am not fond of teasing for this obvious reason. It's honestly shown as a bait more than anything else, but when some women use teasing as showing signs of interest, someone like me can't tell if they're being serious or not so I either make my embarrassed reply to it or just stay oblivious. But whenever I act oblivious, I'm somehow the asshole for not taking the hints, like what?
This is why I'm in the belief of, "Just be forwarded and not make your love interest constantly second guess themselves. They're already going through life. They don't need these added complications on top of it!"
Wow never thought I’d see the day where rslash would side with the men who done nothing wrong in every story. I’m going to get my mind to picture this day forever
Driving is operating a 1-2 ton moving potential death machine, I think even them asking their passenger not to mess with the radio because it’s distracting is reasonable
Most ppl know not to mess with a driver (especially as a passenger), so either this was premeditated or she has reaaaaaally bad control over her intrusive thoughts.
Which doesnt even begin to cover "purposefully ignoring boundaries for personal entertainment."
Story 4: OP is dad's kid as much as any of the other ones. Dad has a moral responsibility to support his son. Daddy's whooah who is functionally unemployed has no say in this.
I guarantee that she first tried to get the dad to ditch OP altogether. She's only trying this approach because the first one failed.
Last story: it's hilarious to see a homewrecker get upset because the man she stole is still giving money to the ex-wife... as for the father, he's lucky OP is too young and doesn't have a scholarship yet, because I'm pretty sure that, if he did, he'd probably be supporting the mother himself and telling the father to f- off.
Story 1:She literally almost killed both of you because of her "little mistake",NTA at all
Update:Wow,This woman just sucks
And how she only sobbed when OP confronted her about her actions after the accident. She didn’t care about possibly dying but that OP confronted her. And she sobbed in the update only after all the times OP explained to her that they’re over. She’s trying to weaponize sobbing like she’s preparing for WWIII
1st: don't distract someone while they are operating heavy machinery. Kids are taught this in shop class, because accidents can happen. Logical adults would know better
RE Teased: I’m 98% sure OP’s STBX has a lover on the side.
Yeah, people suggest her being Ace, but that's statistically the other 2%, so highly unlikely.
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I've never seen a 50/50 custody arrangement where one parent didn't pay support when the households had different income levels.
re. the tickle story, OP would have been OK to dump the GF long before then. As my therapist taught me, no one gets more than three chances.
1) the first disagreement over a behaviour could just be a difference of opinion of what is appropriate
-e.g. here, the GF thought tickling was OK, but OP hated it
2) the second time the behaviour happens could be a coincidence or genuine slip up
3) the third time the behaviour happens, it is a pattern. The person is either unwilling or unable to change.
After the first and second incidents speak to the other person, explain the problem, and note what changes are needed. if the person is apologetic and willing to change, continue on. But, after the third time, understand that no amount of talking is going to change the problematic behaviour and be done with that person.
Some behaviours are so egregious that the relationship is over after chance one or two. Sometimes the person indicates right off they think their behaviour is OK and they are unwilling to chance, so it's OK to end things at that stage.
So, people can get fewer than three chances. But no one gets more than that.
The lady from the first story seems to be... uh? Developmentaly behind? Either that or she treats the boyfriend dismissively completely ignroing his boundaries and feelings at every step from tickling to the "yep, can we go home now?".
Maybe she's one of those young women who think playing stupid is somehow cute?
The second option is called "emotionally manipulative".
@@annika5893she isn’t pretending to be stupid. She’s just that stupid.
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Yeah I dealt with an ex where our bedroom life fell apart but she still liked to tease, after about of year of nothing but frustration I was just done. I don't know how this guy put up with it for 3 years.
A friend had a particularly psycho GF. She once tried to kill him by grabbing the steering wheel and crashing his car. We were getting drunk once, and I basically asked if she'd tried something like that before. He said yes, she has. Could I count the number of times she's tried that on the fingers of one hand. No, he said, you couldn't. And she seemed so nice when I met/talked to her.
_"Always tell your truth first, before somebody else can convince them of their lies"_
1st story: OP should make sure the friend knows the full story. Because I am betting the girlfriend sold her some BS version that makes her look better. Nobody would side with someone dumb enough to tickle someone while they're driving.
Edit: I just got to the update, and, well... Called it.
Story 2: there is no conceivable way to be entitled to you paying for a surrogate. Even if she was having fertility issues, you don’t owe her your money. But the fact that she only wants one because she doesn’t look fat compared to your wife, might be the absolute reason anyone could possibly have to get a surrogate, let alone demanding someone else pay for it.
If she wants a baby without getting pregnant, she could adopt. Sis is shallow and those whining to OP can either pay up or shut up. OP is only financially responsible for himself, spouse, and son.
If sister wants a baby without getting pregnant, she can adopt. OP is only financially responsible for his immediate family
@@lorilancaster5917I was looking for this comment! Aren’t there enough kids in the system that are looking for a loving family?
Then again… looking at how superficial the sister is, I’m not sure she’d qualify as loving parent anyway…
@@charlynnedust6252 I’m betting she thinks her genetics are Cartier and thinks she’ll get a baby with “Walmart” genes if she adopts.
To be fair, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to pay for a surrogate so you don’t have to go through all the medical complications and stuff that comes with pregnancy, but it’s the attitude of the sister and the way she made it sound like she just wanted to be hot and have a kid is so 😬😬
Yeah it’s weird that she has this attitude when it wasn’t necessary at all
Story1 I broke up with a boyfriend in high school because he wouldn't stop trying to tickle me, and he didn't even do it while I was driving. It's so damned annoying, it doesn't feel good, in fact it often hurts, I never laughed and asked him to stop repeatedly and he just wouldn't. The final straw was when he said he liked "getting a rise" out of me... In that, he knew tickling me would piss me off, and he thought it was funny.... I broke up with him that instant and left him standing there with his shocked face. Fk those people...
regardless of the driving, if someone says "don't tickle me" several times, DON'T TICKLE THEM!
Secomd story: Yeah her body her choice- but that doesn’t make her entitled to OP’s money.
OP would gladly help pay for a surrogate if she couldn’t get pregnant, but she can and just doesn’t want to. That’s her choice. But it’s also his choice to not pay for it 🤷🏼
The only time you should touch a driver: medical emergency for the driver or if they offer to hold hands.
Also, I felt like banging my head against the wall just listening to that conversation.
The actual AUDACITY of that first chick, almost killed OP then tried to play it off and got mad at OP when he didn’t.
i personally think that the dad in the last story really didn’t mind giving the money to OP’s mom, i think that only the mistress ITA
OP's dad gets a score for cheating and breaking up his family. 😅
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Story 3: NTA, since i can only think of 1 *sorta* good possibility for the wife's actions...
There's a group of people with a certain kink call consensual non-consent. Basically, they want their partner to force themselves on them... This could explain all the teasing, hoping OP would just finally go for it regardless. But if so then the wife is still an AH because she missed the first part of the kink: "consensual". They have to actually tell their partner that they want this, usually in writing. Obviously she didn't, so she'd be the jerk by incompetence rather than malice, which is the sorta good option.
But the bad options run the gamut from cheating to adult entertainment addiction to just enjoys emotional abuse. I can't hold it against OP to not want to actually try to find out which it is. He gets a 0/5 AHs, and the wife gets 2-4/5 AHs.
If I recall correctly, con non-con is a form of bdsm, and the number 1 rule of bdsm is that everyone has to know and consent.
And I also can't see that being the case, because it's not like she gets upset when he doesn't do anything after being rejected, ya know?
@@lillylovegood2300you’re absolutely right. NonCon (for short) requires pre talk and safe words.
Story 1. I actually had something very similar, although not intentional happen to me when I was first learning to drive at 19. I was driving on the highway with my elderly aunt sitting next to me. Well she saw possibly a bug or some dirt or whatever I'm the side of my neck and without warning me at all she used her fingernail to gently scrape it off. My neck has always been extremely sensitive, and I yelped and put my ear to my shoulder and began swerving. Thankfully I got it back under control real quickly.
People, don't touch drivers!
Surrogate story I hope the wife can heal eventually.
The bikini top guy really ghosted everyone lmfao😂😂😂
Story 2:
My friend has said that she would be a surrogate for me if I ever wanted to become a parent.
The reason why is that I'm deathly scared of the idea of being pregnant.
Even seeing my friend be pregnant made me uncomfortable.
I rather adopt than have a child biological.
Op's sister reasoning to not go through pregnancy is selfish to me.
Why put a woman to go through nine months of pregnancy and she has to give her baby away?
The idea of carrying a baby for nine months makes me very uncomfortable.
But Op's sister's reasoning is that she doesn't want to lose her figure and she wants Op to pay her money?
So disgusting and entitled.
OP: and extra curricular activities
Me: THOSE ARE EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES 😂
if the blue balling is really SO bad he immediately divorced her then then i don't think i could possibly blame him
He didn’t immediately divorce her. He did so after trying for years.
@@RealCoolstriker64 well the final stand truly broke him
First story: You're ex gf could have killed you, she tickled you while you were driving. She doesn't seem to realize that she could have caused an accident or worse. She is either really dumb or just choosing to ignore you. Second story: Wow your wife's family are effing monsters and doesn't seem to care. Your sister just wanted free money and we know she would have had blown the money on crap and not a kid. Third story: Why did she marry you if she didn't want to make a family with, it really does feel like she enjoys or gets pleasure in teasing you. I feel sorry for anyone who ends up with guys ex. Final story: You're dad only came back into your life in order just to look good and of course he tries of getting out of paying child support in order to pay for his new family.
my narcissistic sister also pulled similar stunt around ten years ago. i was trying to switch lanes while speeding and couldnt listen to my mom and my sister's conversation. apparently she was asking me a question and i didnt respond, so she felt ignored and were upset. then she took her phone, turned on the flashlight, and flashed it directly in front of my eyes!!
thankfully whenever i got surprised, my body tensed and freezed, so i didnt swerve. then my mom 'softly' berated my sister as it was dangerous to do so. but of course, she didnt think she was in the wrong and still blames me for ignoring her.
2:41 new favorite Rslash quote
Last story: it's actually better that the kids aren't doing all those extra circular activities. That is way too much and would cause burn out. Even if the kids enjoy them all, that's a lot
Sounds like the mistress just doesn't want to take care of her kids. As it is, extracurriculars are a luxury, not a necessity.
I said it when I 1st read the last story and I’ll say it again: a household that can still afford 6+ extracurriculars/hobbies and all the equipment needed for them is not “struggling“. And OP‘s dad has WAY more obligation towards his own kid than the kids of his mistress with some other dude…
Story one..... OP isn't "in love with his car", he's in love with being ALIVE! She seriously needs to be made an EX. Stupid of this level cannot be tolerated. 😮
Story two.... OP's "roommate" is refusing to do her wifely duty. And she uses OP as a walking ATM. OP is well within his rights to divorce her. Hope he finds a new girl who is compatible with him. 🙄
Story ending @ 5:52: that ending where op stated the friend thought she was the MC of the story, got me laughing. I was like, "yep, this dude's a real one"😂.
Messing with the driver is the "cardinal sin" of being a passenger in a car. Tickling or not, you should never put your hands on the driver, especially not in a way that could cause their arms to move. She put both their lives on the line for no reason. If she'd make a mistake like that now, who's to say she won't do something similar in the future with your kids in the car? No excuse for that kind of thoughtlessness.
And yeah, you can't be in a relationship with somebody who does not respect your boundaries. I bet you anything if OP used that reasoning on her to let him do something she didn't want, she'd flip out.
As soon as he said “I swerved off the road”, I instantly went “What the fuck, he was driving?!”. That girlfriend was so stupid. He literally had told her many times according to the story NOT to do that and she caused the car to nearly crash, thanks to her being awful at listening. I would’ve just broken up with her on the spot.
2:49 I must ask... how do you attempt murder WITHOUT violating someone's boundaries?!?!
Surrogacy story: SHE ALREADY HAD A BABY. Sure the sister doesn't know but that doesn't make her any less stupid
Story 1: NTA. OP's girlfriend is so dense she couldn't see what she did as a deadly mistake. A "small mistake"? This ISN'T s small matter. Plus, she even accused you of cheating and "using" the accident as an excuse. The fact you can see her rotating between crying and apologizing, and then getting mad and constantly deflecting the blame off of herself spoke volumes here. This girl is insane, someone's life is NOT to be made out as something you can toy with. Break up with her, you deserve better.
Teased- nta. Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. Hes been more than patient, its not fair for him to be stuck in a dead bedroom relationship.
Good ole r slash keeping my drive to work interesting for 4 years now
I feel for the wife dealing with fear of pregnancy. I was only molested for two months, but that stemmed the fear of pregnancy and sex, specifically with men. I got my tubes removed at 28. I will never naturally bear a child.
The first story is odd. Who would tickle someone who was driving?!?
Man, the mistress in that last story takes the cake. Oh no! Her kids have to drop two extra curriculars?! How will they ever go on?!!
Like, if the family was struggling to put food on the table then you might have a case but her complaint basically boils down to, "my family can't live as luxuriously as we want to!"
What a spoiled woman
Teased story, 100% its her kink, she gets off on that power and gets off on making him think he will get some, she gets off on his frustration. If she genuinely had no "sex" drive, she wouldnt do that. OP has no right to sex, sure, but he does have a right to feel wanted and to feel intimacy, if she wont provide that, divorse is the respectable option, least OP didnt use it as an excuse for affairs.
Last story, you are a SAINT for saying “take care of my mom”
Teased story, my god, this happened to me, but fortunately, it was only a gf and not my wife. Come to find out that she was asexual and not demisexual. I feel for this guy. All the teasing, and it's just a dead-end.