I can't really express how would I have felt if I was in your shoes.I'm so sorry love.Hang in there a lil bit more.Don't give up on yourself or your younger brother,Soon you'll be safe and sound.
Don't push too hard! When you feel like you need to pause: PAUSE!!! I pushed through my masters thesis and had to accomplish 6 months of workload in 2,5 months. I barely slept for weeks,12 hours in the lab, eat in between, writing during the night. I finished in time and headed straight home into my bed. I had severe fever for days and slept 20 hours per day, I was dehydrated for the fever and sleeping so much and ended up at the hospital. I needed several weeks to recover and was only fully healed after a few months. Would never do it again! I really recommend to pay attention to your health, it's *THE MOST VALUABLE ASSET YOU HAVE!!!!!* I would recommend another version of the cookie jar: When you feel down, think back to happier moments and relive them. Thinking about them and feeling the feelings agains automatically lifts your mood. (Only applies to feelings that have no bad connotation. Don't think about the loving start of your relationship after breaking up. Rather think about positive childhood memories, your pet, grannys cookies, cuddling your mom, a nice holiday with friends...)
Yes, why physically ruin your health for a goal that's not life or health. This idea is good for smaller things, not for things that can ruin your life or kill you.
The least thing you did defnetly is you made somone smile. That is somthing, but i m sure therr is much more than that. Beleive in the hero inside you and he will come to life ❤
I have been scrolling and waste my life on tiktok and arguing with people about the dumbest things, but ever since I found this channel. I been thinking about life and how I can be a better person. So thank you
Same here arguing about different matters especially in politics. Now that I've found this channel, this gives me hope to change my mentality to be a better person to value my precious time.
replace tiktok with youtube and remove the part after the arguing thing. then yo got me. argue 24/7 with ppl on internet. watch youtube and get bored. still planning on fixing this problem, but i dont got shit to do on my free time. Im mid at drawing, i am extremely bored most of the time and social anxiety hits hard so i dont got irl friends to really talk to. Planning on fixing this big time.
this might not work for other people but as a person who binge watches and reads a lot, then gets far too attached to the characters (as if i knew them personally), what i do when i feel like giving up is think "that character wouldn't give up in this situation". it reminds me of the things i admire in others and who i want to become. then i can push at least a little bit further.
I do the same and find it highly effectively. I am drawn to these vulnerable but deep and strong characters and when I face an obstacle, think how they could take it, they wouldn't give up.
What’s hard is when you don’t have an achievement for the same field you’re currently working on and you gotta push without knowing if it’s gonna be wasted time
The greatest accomplishment of my life was winning a court case against a psychopath who had a lawyer. I couldn't afford one and represented myself. I kept custody of my son and he is now a healthy, happy grown man!
Dana Campbell Now that’s what I’m interested in.......I’m so mentally exhausted from fighting to protect my children from my abusive spouse.....he’s got the high powered attorney and I don’t have one. It’s been 10 years of going to court and my kids are a mess. He keeps getting his way. I’m hanging on to the hope that I can raise our 10 year old in a healthy loving environment so he can have some normalcy.
@@arianareeves3042 Thank you! He designs computer programs for deaf and blind people, sings like a bird, plays guitar, has good friends, is capable of seeing his own mistakes and correcting them. He's a great person!
Video summary: draw on past successes to fuel your future ones. You can do the impossible Saved you 8 minutes Edit: Thank you guys, I'm just glad I could help:)
This doesn't apply to all people. If you're tired, take a rest. In reality, life is not like a marathon where you need to compete with others. Run at your own pace. It's okay to work and push to your limits but don't forget about your health.
This is really relevant. 12 years ago my husband and soulmate died. I never realized it but I have been digging into my cookie jar since then. Bad managers at work bad living situations I have persevered and at this point I feel I can handle anything. Thank you. You have put into words what I have been doing for the last 12 years.
@Snow Crystal I don't care. His was the one I saw first. Also you are in top comment mode where the posts are not in date order. I was looking in date order. One comment says it is 10 months old. The other one is a year old. But that can mean all the way up to 2 years minus one day. I'm glad I didn't have to go any farther to see the comment
@Snow Crystal he never claimed that he was the only one that said it. Most people do not comment because they are trying to boost their channel or get people to like their comment. Most people that make a comment don't even upload videos. I would think if that was the reason he made the comment, he would have said something about come and see my channel I have said similar things a lot of times on posts or videos. I don't do it to get people to like my comment or watch videos. I do it to help people
thats the reason why i am so motivated to change my life. i was almost at the end, had depression and therapy for 2 years. i learned so much about myself. i overcame some of my anxieties and find a girlfriend. i went from nothing to everything imo. i always try to think how much work i put in this to change my life. and now i have to go on and find a job, get my driving license, a car, move out from my parents house. i have goals and i am excited to achieve them.i want to work for it. wish me luck i wish you luck on your journey and stay strong 😘
@@jlina ...it's funny how luck of the draw life experiences make people come up with life philosophies. It's really based. Just think if he collapsed at like 70 and had to have both legs amputated and had slurred speach the rest of his life he would be giving a TED talk on the importance of knowing your limits.
What I find trouble in figuring out is when to let go and when to keep pushing? I don't want to lose myself in the process of getting something that'll never be mine or isn't really worth it. I also don't want to give up too early when a little more effort could solve things completely and bring clarity. So I find it hard to make this decision as I can't know the future so.
In case you may find this helpful I saw a post that said.. "When do you let go? - When it feels heavy on your soul. When you feel more trapped than emancipated. When it tastes less sweet and more like poison. When you feel yourself sinking instead of floating. When freedom becomes a battle. Open your heart to intuition; you'll always know. When do you hold on? - When hope exists. When it fills your lungs with air, no matter how deep the struggle is. When joy overweighs sadness. When flowers grow from hard spaces in your heart. If you don't feel friction, it's worth holding on to. If it flows, it's worth swimming in."
i think you're on the right track if you are aware about what's troubling you. When to stop - when you feel like you haven't had an exhale, like you have been holding your breath but can't seem to let it out, you should rest and regenerate and push yourself in the things that will actually help you become better, be it anything. You can only do as much as you are capable to at that said moment. You must also stop when you feel like what you're doing and has no outcome and that you're not gaining or learning anything by going through it. When to keep pushing - when you know that you want something and that something is going to help you to achieve a better version of yourself and make this world and yourself a tad bit better. When you feel discomfort in going through that but you know that this does not feel good right now but it will help me feel better over the course of it. Also, you should have faith in yourself and believe yourself and listen to your instincts. Write down the pros and cons, and find what is right for you. It might not seem easy but you got this. And finally don't pressurize yourself too much, it's gonna be alright, you don't need to feel like an anvil has fallen onto you, try to calm down and take it easy. Good Luck :)
Today is my 3rd degree black belt test and unknowingly I have had to use this method at several points in this journey. We do a 12 hour meditation with short breaks every hour and during one of the hours I decided to sit on my knees in what is “proper meditation stance.” Around the 45 minute mark it was extremely challenging, legs are numb and any slight movement causes your legs to go into electric shock from your nerves being cut off. Once that hour was over I felt so triumphant and now it was added to my cookie jar. Another requirement is doing a 3 day fast. I am currently on day 3 (test day!!) and I had to use the cookie jar last night. I was running a fever and endured hours of acid reflux. Waking up this morning I sat and talked to myself mentally, showing myself gratitude for how hard I worked for this moment. There have been literally blood, sweat, and tears. Soon it will all come to fruition today and I can add this entire process to the cookie jar. Keep fighting, because you all are SO much stronger than you even know!
That's actually pretty cool to read. You were probably one of those kids who would have passed the "marshmallow willpower test." The one where the adult puts a marshmallow in front of a child, and tells them they can eat it now, or if they can wait until the adult comes back, the child will get two marshmallows. I wish someone had done that test on me as a kid. I have no idea what I would have done.
I was expecting this to be dumb optimistic self help nonsense but this was actually very nice and grounded. "Fill your cookie jar with any achievements you can think of, no matter how small!" and "know how to listen to your body and take a break when you actually need it" I'm so glad you also included these
A method that works for me consistently is the '10 minute rule' in which I get myself to spend 'only 10 min' on whatever it is that needs doing and then stop (washing, ironing, running, gardening, writing, etc). Strangely, once I start to see the results, the 10 min often turns into 20 or 30 or even reach the end. I recommend it.
Am I the only genuinely concerned when he got to the part about bloody urine and diarrhea? I feel like that's a LINE that shouldn't be crossed and yeah, you should just pack it up.
This is a fascinating idea, but for depressed and/or low self-esteem people it can be difficult to fill up the jar with tasty cookies. Especially when your mind is in a negative state, it's so much easier to remember bad experiences or failures rather than successes. Especially people who have known lots of failures for most of their life, you really have to dig deep within the jar, as just reaching in lightly you might find a worm instead of a cookie. I think this is a subject worthy of its own video - advice on how to fill up the jar with cookies and positive things that you want to take out and consume.
I remember it was 4am and I had college the next day, I had been powering through and was going to give up the final hurdle but I didn’t! I finished the last 3 episodes of breaking bad and then couldn’t wake up for college. I succeeded with my aim
4:09 This thing also helped him: "Okay i'm exhausted,but if i could just go 1 mile more,it would be monstruous" Then another one,etc. He tricked his mind
The reason any person would wanna give up is because they feel like they can't do things, and it doesn't matter what you tell them, they have to see for themselves what they're capable of. And one thing I feel is important is not having a fear of failure, and to see what you can do and try your hardest when you feel like you achieved nothing cause you have nothing to lose, but atleast your trying and if you failed, you know you tried your best, and sometimes we didn't try at all, I think we're gonna have to be willing to face ourselves and work hard in our problem areas in life, struggle through our own personal challenges until we defeat it.
And even if your not as smart, or don't have money, or this and that, whatever you think limits you, it just makes you yourself, and you have to work with yourself, cause once you know what your weaknesses are, you can improve them. I didn't mean to say anyone wasn't smart or compare people, but truth is we all have our own capabilities and level and it's up to someone if they wanna grow themselves. I've had lots of struggles with myself, and I really don't want other young people to feel the same way. Life is fragile, so i'm trying to make the best of it and believe in my dreams, it's really hard for someone like me, I have so many insecurities and problems that always hold me back, but now i'm not gonna be scared to do whatever it takes to grow even if I am afraid and have insecurities. You live and you learn right, I'm not a perfect person, but I know I am a good person and I try to leave the world a better place.
I do it all the time. I live in a toxic environment that I'm reminded constantly of every tiny failure I made. Great achievements are ignored, it's always "it doesn't matter" or "but you still failed to do something else", or "so what? do you have money NOW?!". Yep. A family thing. I'm not even mad at them. They were raised that way and it must go this way for hundreds years. That's why it's a typical "poor family". Taught from the earliest childhood that you have to do what they tell you, and if you have any goal of your own you will fail no matter what, and they are always "helpful" to remind you in case you forget it for a while. Yet my life is a chain of "missions impossible". It is my specialty to complete impossible tasks. I do it over and over again. But too often I quit just before the finish line. BTW, every mission is impossible when you are in an environment, where they constantly keep repeating you will fail. And if you succeed, they will find something else that you didn't do. When I think of my greatest achievements in life - I always remember someone saying "but yada yada yada" - how all I've done is shit and literally everything else is more important. BTW, that's also why I don't have money. You never get big money earned "NOW". You build on top of achievements and successes. Every success on the way is nagging intensified. "But you don't have money NOW!!!!!". Then I get even more tired. Then I need to drink or do drugs. Until reset. And start over. But I'm stubborn. I switched to alcohol free beer. I quit drugs. And I have the last few miles ahead.
You've done the impossible more times than they ever could. It may not mean much, cause' you don't know me, but anyone who is so determined to outgrow their environment and pursue a patient and long term happiness and peace is someone who has my pride and respect. Good luck. Keep fighting, you are better.
I think it depends. It's not okay to destroy your body or mind to push through something. I can't imagine how long and painful the recovery process was. It's perfectly fine to take a break and get help when you need it.
I think that this works when we're doing performance tasks- like a marathon, and stuff like public speaking, the last day of a final deadline, or idk a food eating contest- basically I mean when there's a high pressure to complete something and where one might feel more compelled to get it over with than to stop or go back. I say this because it's super hard to constancy be in this mindset- we're not anime characters and our energy and willpower are both expendable, most things can be better if we work on them without pushing our limit
I agree. I would add that this cookie jar trick works better when you have a task with a clear end point in the near future. For a task that has no clear objective, or a task that can drag on for years and years, you might be wasting valuable time and energy trying to use the cookie jar trick. Sometimes it's actually better to quit completely or drastically rethink your strategy for getting the job done. As they say, "work smarter, not harder."
@@emilyx8377 yes! I agree completely with you on that! That's something I find productivity vids lacking is the concept of quitting something that does not work for you- it's one thing to feel compelled to go on a for something that's goal oriented and has that achievement in one's relative line of sight, but most personal goals are intuitive and blindly pushing through with the might not yield people the happiness and rewards that they might really want in later life
This video has inspired me to create a list of impossible. Specifically a list of people who have said the words "that's impossible" at me. I may not have any victories but I have PLENTY of people who need to be shown that "impossible" is not real.
Dang I would always think like this then I stopped and gave up during my junior year of high school. But during the end of the summer I felt like trying once again because my purpose in life is to make life easier for the others entering the world. But also for my family because I’ve seen my mother fail school and give up on school and just work. My stepbrother being raised by a lazy father(my stepfather) and is now living from friend to friend and my sister threw her future away for a guy and is now being evicted every 6 months. I still have a younger brother and sister in which I want to show them how to be successful in life. I don’t want them to grow up and view the world based on my families past. I think this video just really reminded why I tried so hard in the past and I don’t want to give up.
Job Gonzales good luck. You are obviously a good person, and I wish you every success. Just remember if the outcome isn't what you want don't blame yourself, you can't control the lives of other people, but I sure hope you can inspire them. All the best.
I think there is a benefit to this mentality for sure, but only in moderation. Otherwise, you’ll run yourself into the ground by invalidating your mind asking for a break. It’s important to listen to your body just as it is beneficial to push yourself to make it stronger.
Ah yes, but think about the cleanliness of those dishes and how delicately you washed them. The scalding water wasn't enough to stop you. Even when you felt like giving up and leaving some of the dishes unclean, you kept going. And in the end, those dishes gleamed like sparkling gemstones, reflecting your tremendous accomplishment. 😎😎😎
I think it just feels nice. It makes you think ”hey, at least the sink isn’t messy and I did something productive today.“ It’s really comforting and can really help when you feel like you’re not doing anything right. It totally leads to bigger things when you keep doing this. The goal of it is just to see the little wins you have daily which add up. Being in the right state of mind and having confidence/faith in yourself is what sustains someone‘s drive. These little victories help you get there.
Not really, no. The achievement of cleaning dishes wont help me run a marathon. But it will help me clean dishes (or other things) when I dont feel like it. Because I'll remember how I good I felt to have clean dishes.
A lot of times I dont clean cause I enjoy cleaning. I clean because I remember how good I feel when it's over. Being in a clean home feels good. You hardly come across people "comfortable" in filth. It declutters MY MIND. It's not a "to do" list floating in my head. It's doesnt distract me in the corner of my eye when I'm working an a More Important Task. It doesnt block my sink when I need it. It doesn't stop me from cooking. It doesn't attract bugs or flies. It doesn't stop me from having friends over. It doesn't drive me to go eat out (wasting money or unhealthy). It doesnt make me feel embarrassed (like I'm a dirty or disorganized person.) All of this is just useless "chatter" in my head, Clean dishes does MORE for me than just "provide something to put my food on."
My mental health greatly improved when I started expecting less from myself. I'm still a workaholic and perfectionist, but I don't beat myself up too hard anymore. When I do need to do something difficult, I think about how proud I would be if I did it well. I also think about the regret I would experience if I only gave something 95% instead of 100%. I've also learned that consistency and frequency is ideal rather than sporadic activity for long-term goals and skills.
Tim Ferriss calls this the Jar of Awesome. When you feel low, pull out one of your past achievements. This reminds you of the good times. This gives you motivation to go further.
I always figured I never did anything that was successful. This video forced me to recall all the obstacles and walls I had to overcome. My perception of my life is different than the life I have lived, and the life before me PS - I love cookies ❤️
I watched a video just mentioning, not explaining the cookie jar method, and then TH-cam recommends me this video! I made my list and I cried a bit, because it was inspirational!
Coming from someone with low self esteem, sometimes you just don't value yourself enough, leading to a point where even if you want to use the cookie jar, you don't feel anything you've ever done deserves to be called "a cookie" and instead of gaining energy, you'll lose whatever you had left by thinking of all the things you've never achieved, all the things you done wrong, and wish yoi hadn't. You'll give yourself a lecture of what you've done wrong, finally tearing apart any actual energy left.
about to take the exam of my life (board exam) and I watched this video multiple times to remind myself whenever I feel like procrastinating. I gain 3-5 cookies every time. Thank you.
Instead of cookies I would choose fruits or healthy treats, since I've given up on sugar to help me get clearer skin for some years now 😁 Thanks for your videos! They really inspire me to be more productive.
So cookie jar is a mental collection of your achievements and success? And you can remember it to motivate yourself to keep going and add another cookie to that collection? Wow what a concept 😄😁😁 Thank you op for making this video 💕
My dad told me I was a winner the moment his sperm made it to the egg, all the other sperm didn't make it, that's actually a huge win. Next time you can't pick a cookie 👻
Goals are really difficult for me because I always get distracted by new interests. I love practicing persistence in small things every day and cheering myself on at the end. Today I kept going during my run when I was tired. On days when I'm tired, I pick running exercises that are a little easier. On days when I'm not, I pick ones that are a little harder. This is helping me get better at persistence.
This reminds me of when I was middle school. I joined the soccer team and was horrible, but we were forced to run a mile to warm up every day. Normally I can’t run far or fast, but during practice I was forced to keep up. When we had to run a mile in gym I just thought, “I’m part of the soccer team, this will be easy” I completed the mile in about 7:00 min. which is really good for me.
At least I'm not the only one who was thinking that! Jesus, most people can't run a marathon without training ffs. 70 miles with no training before having to stop is NUTS.
I got my achievements tattooed on my arm in a timeline. Underneath are the words "You are stronger than you believe" So every time I am struggling with something, all I need to do is look at my are and it reminds me of how much I have achieved!!
Looking back in my life I see the many many things you've done for me, that's what you do when you're waiting on the Lord. It renews your strength. It gives you hope waiting and being patient with God, because you look back and remember all that He's done for you, and He's never failed us yet, no sir, not even once. Praise His name.
Thank you for making these videos! This one was particularly inspiring to me because when I'm dealing with the day to day, anxiety in my head is constantly telling me I always give up or how inept I am after every social interaction. I like the idea of pulling out my past victories as proof of my tenacity. I'm going to make a cookie jar in my journal! Thank you again for all these wonderful videos and dedicating your time to making people better than yesterday! positive vibes ✌🏽
All of these types of videos are ignoring people that have chronic health problems. I can't push myself. I used to listen to thus kind if advice and I pushed myself way beyond what I thought was possible, but im paying for it with my health now. This was the worst thing I could have done to myself.
What chronically ill people like us need is community, specifically community care. I learned this from the writer and disability activist, Alice Wong.
I second this. The chronically ill have to take ideas of those with good health (and a pretty full fuel tank) with a grain of salt. Often can't apply these ideas to the context of being ill and weak. Health truly is THE most important asset in life. Imagine you have a car but the fuel tank is empty.. how you gonna get from a to b? You won't. You'll sit right there. And stew about being stuck. Mindset shift is super necessary in that spot. Must be willing to change the way most people see things, cause you're not most people. And that's okay. Life can still be good and prosperous for you, if you're willing to do things your own way and learn the tools needed to make YOUR story thrive. As a chronically ill person who is weak and fairly incapable of propelling myself forward, I can vouch that growth is still possible when changing and expanding the mind is applied. Good luck and best wishes to all in this boat. ❤️
These videos are what I need to find ways to motivate myself and try to do new things even I'm lazy or don't want to and would much rather be playing games or watching youtube. I hope anyone else who watches these videos or sees this comment also gets that same motivation.
Best channel ever. Videos are crisp and full of content. I'm watching this video on loop so that it'll get stuck in my mind. Thank you 😊. All good things to you mate.
This video should be called 'A tutorial for emotional burnout' OR 'How to be a stubborn ass and keep doing things out of principle and never stop to think whether it is ACTUALLY something you want and need'.
thank you, i needed this, i had a bad day today because i didnt get to swim to the goal my professor set, i just made it half way, and im sad because i was aiming for a higher grade for my scholarship, but i remembered when i barely know how to swim and even though i didnt made it earlier i was kinda happy because i got to overcome my aquaphobia when i just started learning swimming, that is one of my cookies. Though i think it is still rewarding, and im not giving up until i get my scholarship again :>
The COOKIE JAR METHOD is similar as FOCUSING on REWARDS WHICH is what you're supposed to do and THE COOKIE JAR METHOD is focusing on PAST rewards which is good and apply that with focusing on future rewards to multiply success.
I’ve always go back to my mental cookie 🍪 jar. And I remember I’ve lost so much in my life time. If your reading this don’t give up. Death like a domino effect since May 11,2019 up to now. Keep going! God Bless You. Stay safe out there.
I do this methodically without even knowing it. On long-distance bike rides, I compare tough experiences with previous tough experiences, and mentally count the miles I've ridden thus far, and how far along I've come. I've used that to push my limits. I also apply this to other challenges like resistance training goals, laps in the pool, finishing engineering tasks, and so forth. The mental endurance challenges are much tougher than the physical endurance challenges, because there are set times to stop with physical challenges. It's tough to decide when you've hit the mental endurance limit. PS: The closest I ever got to bloody urine was being so dehydrated it hurt to pee. Well, there was also the time I passed out while riding the bike and broke my knee. That was well after reaching the euphoric state.
Isn't this double edged? There are people who fall from grace and can't let go of their previous success and go crazy. Sometimes you just gotta empty the jar, and start fresh, maybe?
Yeah I agree with you. This method require people to work for your goal and use the cookie for your fuel but if you only use the cookie but not act by it well its nothing. We can't just pondering our past cookie and not be present on our goal
Yes! Especially as you age. I used to be beautiful now people tell me how good I look for my age. It's kind of horrifying. I mostly operate by scheduling. "This" is getting done before I go to bed no matter what works well for me.
He should mention all the people who tried to climb Everest and died as a result because their identity was so attached to the accomplishment they tried to push through despite best judgement instead of having enough mental strength and discipline to let go and try again. Accepting defeat is an accomplishment in itself as well.
@@sashamotovylets1753 there are differences between a race and scaling the top mountain,but you are so right. Trying to be the toughest man on Earth isnt something everybody wants to do,u can try that hard but knowing there is no death risk,David Goggins choice was very risky and probably even more the ones from that mountain
Became your fan post listening your videos.... Each ine better than last one. Wish I could have discovered this channel earlier... However as said it's never too late to begin new journey... Keep creating such masterpiece. ❤️🎉
Andromeda Kai he Didn’t want to go to the ER because he knew they would give him painkillers, and that would stop him from feeling the pain of one of the greatest moments in his life
@@floremy5013 it's called mental drive , whatever it takes mentality + the funny thing is that he ran 3.08 miles marathon after he broke himself in the badwater
It's not just accomplishments it could be the hell you went through and survived, could be the health issue that you overcame, could be any kind of suffering that you endured. Suffering in the past that makes the obstacle to accomplishing your goal seen easy.
Pretty helpful stuff. At first, I wasn't sold because I thought it was saying to just push no matter what, even if your body's screaming at you to stop but then you quickly rebutted that idea.
You can get David's book here:
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And if I not from these countries
@@priyansubhagabati8157 Make an effort and find the book yourself?
It’s a great book. What he’s been able to accomplish and his journey to get there are truly inspiring.
O.k., got the message!
Eat enough cookies and you can finish a marathon! 💪
I will start my training immediately! 🍪🍪🍪
As Mel robins says , “if it’s worth doing , don’t wait for inspiration , it may never come , use dedication .”
Your right , I love her advice
In my situation, everything is worth doing
@milesdoyle holy hell 🙄
Action breeds inspiration not the other way around as most people think.
Watching my baby brother right now while my parents are passed drunk (its only 5:30pm) I really needed this thank you. I need to keep going.
I can't really express how would I have felt if I was in your shoes.I'm so sorry love.Hang in there a lil bit more.Don't give up on yourself or your younger brother,Soon you'll be safe and sound.
I think what you need is CPS
Sending you hugs 🫂🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️
Sending lots of love.! Bless you for being there for your brother
Are you OK?
Who else thought that this was video was about taking a cookie after you finished a task.
Lolll
I thought it was about taking a cookie every day and feeling one cookie closer to your future success.
Tau nga. Barbie
Rever Sleve it is
I thought it would be about the guy who invented cookie jars as a deterrent to eating too many cookies.
Don't push too hard! When you feel like you need to pause: PAUSE!!! I pushed through my masters thesis and had to accomplish 6 months of workload in 2,5 months. I barely slept for weeks,12 hours in the lab, eat in between, writing during the night. I finished in time and headed straight home into my bed. I had severe fever for days and slept 20 hours per day, I was dehydrated for the fever and sleeping so much and ended up at the hospital. I needed several weeks to recover and was only fully healed after a few months. Would never do it again! I really recommend to pay attention to your health, it's *THE MOST VALUABLE ASSET YOU HAVE!!!!!* I would recommend another version of the cookie jar: When you feel down, think back to happier moments and relive them. Thinking about them and feeling the feelings agains automatically lifts your mood. (Only applies to feelings that have no bad connotation. Don't think about the loving start of your relationship after breaking up. Rather think about positive childhood memories, your pet, grannys cookies, cuddling your mom, a nice holiday with friends...)
Yes, why physically ruin your health for a goal that's not life or health. This idea is good for smaller things, not for things that can ruin your life or kill you.
Bold of you to assume that i have past victories
Thanks for a chuckle 😀
The least thing you did defnetly is you made somone smile. That is somthing, but i m sure therr is much more than that. Beleive in the hero inside you and he will come to life ❤
You are alive.
Is it bold of me to assume that you survived your birth
You learned to read and write. You just proved that. And that's a past victory.
I have been scrolling and waste my life on tiktok and arguing with people about the dumbest things, but ever since I found this channel. I been thinking about life and how I can be a better person. So thank you
hope you're okay now. keep up the good work.
Same here arguing about different matters especially in politics. Now that I've found this channel, this gives me hope to change my mentality to be a better person to value my precious time.
Hope your doing better than yesterday
I know 😬
replace tiktok with youtube and remove the part after the arguing thing. then yo got me. argue 24/7 with ppl on internet. watch youtube and get bored.
still planning on fixing this problem, but i dont got shit to do on my free time. Im mid at drawing, i am extremely bored most of the time and social anxiety hits hard so i dont got irl friends to really talk to.
Planning on fixing this big time.
@@TheFakePlayerGame Don't give up, thank you for everything you do ^^
this might not work for other people but as a person who binge watches and reads a lot, then gets far too attached to the characters (as if i knew them personally), what i do when i feel like giving up is think "that character wouldn't give up in this situation". it reminds me of the things i admire in others and who i want to become. then i can push at least a little bit further.
I Don't Have A Name no I feel the same!!
So sweet!
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I do the same and find it highly effectively. I am drawn to these vulnerable but deep and strong characters and when I face an obstacle, think how they could take it, they wouldn't give up.
Yea I used this method all the time when I was younger it really worked!!
“Bloody urine and diarrhea dripping down your leg is usually your body telling you it’s time to stop.” I should hope so!!!
That's my body telling me I'm awake😂
@@CrowSpirit1977 Oh man! That's pretty sad! 😹
so my body is telling me to stop school🤨... cause I only get those at school
Yeah… addiction to self harm at a certain point. Not a way to be encouraging more people to aspire to as well.
Knowing when to pull back is just as important as knowing to push through, cuz poor management will destroy your health
I agree. 👍🏽
1000% agree
So true.
Agreed. Bloody urine and diarrhea are way past the quitting point
nah imma keep going with the cookie jar and basically kill myself trying to not feel bad like the navy seal did at mile 70 :-)
What’s hard is when you don’t have an achievement for the same field you’re currently working on and you gotta push without knowing if it’s gonna be wasted time
this is exactly how I feel
I too
I am looking for my cookies but I couldn't find haven't tasted that success that is just mind blowing to remember
I'm on the same boat
But don't you see.... it's never wasted time. The journey is the destination, truly.
“When you feel like giving up think of the reason why you held on so long” Natsu Dragneel
Natsu 💓
Natsu all about friendship it's great but man there's a limit
i never had one to begin with.
Thanks for firing me up.
what if that reason is no longer here
I felt like giving up on watching this video but I powered through it and rewarded myself with a jar of cookies
Does it taste nice, precious?
Even took the time to comment...wow
😃
Lol
We deserve more than cookies to get through this crock.
I came here for a justification to eat a cookie. There was none. I'm heading to the gym.
good luck then
No cookies allowed!
Lol
😂😂
The gym doesn’t have cookies...but the dollar store does...be right back
The greatest accomplishment of my life was winning a court case against a psychopath who had a lawyer. I couldn't afford one and represented myself. I kept custody of my son and he is now a healthy, happy grown man!
I'm so proud of you
@@loributterflying Thank you! Have a lovely day!
Dana Campbell Now that’s what I’m interested in.......I’m so mentally exhausted from fighting to protect my children from my abusive spouse.....he’s got the high powered attorney and I don’t have one. It’s been 10 years of going to court and my kids are a mess. He keeps getting his way. I’m hanging on to the hope that I can raise our 10 year old in a healthy loving environment so he can have some normalcy.
God. That's incredible, Dana. Has me tearing up. Good for you and your son!
@@arianareeves3042 Thank you! He designs computer programs for deaf and blind people, sings like a bird, plays guitar, has good friends, is capable of seeing his own mistakes and correcting them. He's a great person!
Video summary: draw on past successes to fuel your future ones.
You can do the impossible
Saved you 8 minutes
Edit: Thank you guys, I'm just glad I could help:)
Thank you
thanks
THANK YOUU
Good lad , ta.
But what about the cookie jar?
This doesn't apply to all people. If you're tired, take a rest. In reality, life is not like a marathon where you need to compete with others. Run at your own pace. It's okay to work and push to your limits but don't forget about your health.
This is really relevant. 12 years ago my husband and soulmate died. I never realized it but I have been digging into my cookie jar since then. Bad managers at work bad living situations I have persevered and at this point I feel I can handle anything. Thank you. You have put into words what I have been doing for the last 12 years.
May he rest in peace
So sorry for your loss ,hope you are doing fine and never give up♥️
I’m so sorry for your loss🥺🤍
Video summary: draw on past successes to fuel your future ones....thanks for video
Should have read comments before watching
@Snow Crystal I don't care. His was the one I saw first. Also you are in top comment mode where the posts are not in date order. I was looking in date order. One comment says it is 10 months old. The other one is a year old. But that can mean all the way up to 2 years minus one day. I'm glad I didn't have to go any farther to see the comment
@Snow Crystal he never claimed that he was the only one that said it. Most people do not comment because they are trying to boost their channel or get people to like their comment. Most people that make a comment don't even upload videos. I would think if that was the reason he made the comment, he would have said something about come and see my channel
I have said similar things a lot of times on posts or videos. I don't do it to get people to like my comment or watch videos. I do it to help people
Thanks
Saved my 8 minutes ✌
Sir aap
thats the reason why i am so motivated to change my life. i was almost at the end, had depression and therapy for 2 years. i learned so much about myself. i overcame some of my anxieties and find a girlfriend. i went from nothing to everything imo. i always try to think how much work i put in this to change my life. and now i have to go on and find a job, get my driving license, a car, move out from my parents house. i have goals and i am excited to achieve them.i want to work for it. wish me luck
i wish you luck on your journey and stay strong 😘
I wish you the best
Eins. Wanderer gl
if you run so much that you have bloody urine and diarrhoea dripping down your legs, i'm not sure that carrying on is the best idea
It's definitely not a good idea. However if you want to keep going, the cookie jar will help you push through 😉
...he could have made diarrhoea and blood cookies
Yeah he could've stride out. Waaay too macho for his own good, why couldn't he just I dunno.... train for a month?
@@jlina ...it's funny how luck of the draw life experiences make people come up with life philosophies. It's really based. Just think if he collapsed at like 70 and had to have both legs amputated and had slurred speach the rest of his life he would be giving a TED talk on the importance of knowing your limits.
@@AndrewHorezga yes! Exactly. Good analogy!
life hack: always watch vids on 1.25 or 1.5 x speed. Really saves you time in the long run!
Check👌🏽 and now I'm watching twice as much videos 🤣
I'm actually on x2
Thank you
Also, podcasts!
I listen at 1.1 and use the 'remove silence' option.
It helps a lot!
Shut up 😑 just watch the videos.
What I find trouble in figuring out is when to let go and when to keep pushing? I don't want to lose myself in the process of getting something that'll never be mine or isn't really worth it. I also don't want to give up too early when a little more effort could solve things completely and bring clarity. So I find it hard to make this decision as I can't know the future so.
In case you may find this helpful I saw a post that said..
"When do you let go? - When it feels heavy on your soul. When you feel more trapped than emancipated. When it tastes less sweet and more like poison. When you feel yourself sinking instead of floating. When freedom becomes a battle. Open your heart to intuition; you'll always know.
When do you hold on? - When hope exists. When it fills your lungs with air, no matter how deep the struggle is. When joy overweighs sadness. When flowers grow from hard spaces in your heart. If you don't feel friction, it's worth holding on to. If it flows, it's worth swimming in."
@@user-bk1ee6kh3w thank you. And thank you asstha for asking the question.
that is exactly my question!!!
same question that I never thought of asking
i think you're on the right track if you are aware about what's troubling you.
When to stop - when you feel like you haven't had an exhale, like you have been holding your breath but can't seem to let it out, you should rest and regenerate and push yourself in the things that will actually help you become better, be it anything. You can only do as much as you are capable to at that said moment. You must also stop when you feel like what you're doing and has no outcome and that you're not gaining or learning anything by going through it.
When to keep pushing - when you know that you want something and that something is going to help you to achieve a better version of yourself and make this world and yourself a tad bit better. When you feel discomfort in going through that but you know that this does not feel good right now but it will help me feel better over the course of it. Also, you should have faith in yourself and believe yourself and listen to your instincts. Write down the pros and cons, and find what is right for you. It might not seem easy but you got this. And finally don't pressurize yourself too much, it's gonna be alright, you don't need to feel like an anvil has fallen onto you, try to calm down and take it easy. Good Luck :)
Today is my 3rd degree black belt test and unknowingly I have had to use this method at several points in this journey. We do a 12 hour meditation with short breaks every hour and during one of the hours I decided to sit on my knees in what is “proper meditation stance.” Around the 45 minute mark it was extremely challenging, legs are numb and any slight movement causes your legs to go into electric shock from your nerves being cut off. Once that hour was over I felt so triumphant and now it was added to my cookie jar. Another requirement is doing a 3 day fast. I am currently on day 3 (test day!!) and I had to use the cookie jar last night. I was running a fever and endured hours of acid reflux. Waking up this morning I sat and talked to myself mentally, showing myself gratitude for how hard I worked for this moment. There have been literally blood, sweat, and tears. Soon it will all come to fruition today and I can add this entire process to the cookie jar. Keep fighting, because you all are SO much stronger than you even know!
That's actually pretty cool to read. You were probably one of those kids who would have passed the "marshmallow willpower test." The one where the adult puts a marshmallow in front of a child, and tells them they can eat it now, or if they can wait until the adult comes back, the child will get two marshmallows. I wish someone had done that test on me as a kid. I have no idea what I would have done.
I was expecting this to be dumb optimistic self help nonsense but this was actually very nice and grounded. "Fill your cookie jar with any achievements you can think of, no matter how small!" and "know how to listen to your body and take a break when you actually need it" I'm so glad you also included these
A method that works for me consistently is the '10 minute rule' in which I get myself to spend 'only 10 min' on whatever it is that needs doing and then stop (washing, ironing, running, gardening, writing, etc). Strangely, once I start to see the results, the 10 min often turns into 20 or 30 or even reach the end.
I recommend it.
Am I the only genuinely concerned when he got to the part about bloody urine and diarrhea? I feel like that's a LINE that shouldn't be crossed and yeah, you should just pack it up.
I was thinking the same thing..... He could have went into kidney failure
Galaxy Lucia same, he’s insane i would never be inspired by someone like this
He crossed that path, so he is what he is now.
Haha wow, you guys almost fel angry because how tough he is
Definitely not safe and definitely not something you should be idolizing and praising. this guy is a nutcase and a liability to himself and others
I literally just came to YT to give up on studying and that was the first video.. it's a sight
Same
This is a fascinating idea, but for depressed and/or low self-esteem people it can be difficult to fill up the jar with tasty cookies. Especially when your mind is in a negative state, it's so much easier to remember bad experiences or failures rather than successes. Especially people who have known lots of failures for most of their life, you really have to dig deep within the jar, as just reaching in lightly you might find a worm instead of a cookie. I think this is a subject worthy of its own video - advice on how to fill up the jar with cookies and positive things that you want to take out and consume.
I remember it was 4am and I had college the next day, I had been powering through and was going to give up the final hurdle but I didn’t! I finished the last 3 episodes of breaking bad and then couldn’t wake up for college. I succeeded with my aim
hahahah
Proud of you!
You deserve ALL the cookies 😉
Now reward yourself with the cookies
Lol
😂😂😂😂
4:09 This thing also helped him: "Okay i'm exhausted,but if i could just go 1 mile more,it would be monstruous" Then another one,etc. He tricked his mind
The reason any person would wanna give up is because they feel like they can't do things, and it doesn't matter what you tell them, they have to see for themselves what they're capable of. And one thing I feel is important is not having a fear of failure, and to see what you can do and try your hardest when you feel like you achieved nothing cause you have nothing to lose, but atleast your trying and if you failed, you know you tried your best, and sometimes we didn't try at all, I think we're gonna have to be willing to face ourselves and work hard in our problem areas in life, struggle through our own personal challenges until we defeat it.
And even if your not as smart, or don't have money, or this and that, whatever you think limits you, it just makes you yourself, and you have to work with yourself, cause once you know what your weaknesses are, you can improve them. I didn't mean to say anyone wasn't smart or compare people, but truth is we all have our own capabilities and level and it's up to someone if they wanna grow themselves. I've had lots of struggles with myself, and I really don't want other young people to feel the same way. Life is fragile, so i'm trying to make the best of it and believe in my dreams, it's really hard for someone like me, I have so many insecurities and problems that always hold me back, but now i'm not gonna be scared to do whatever it takes to grow even if I am afraid and have insecurities. You live and you learn right, I'm not a perfect person, but I know I am a good person and I try to leave the world a better place.
I do it all the time. I live in a toxic environment that I'm reminded constantly of every tiny failure I made. Great achievements are ignored, it's always "it doesn't matter" or "but you still failed to do something else", or "so what? do you have money NOW?!". Yep. A family thing. I'm not even mad at them. They were raised that way and it must go this way for hundreds years. That's why it's a typical "poor family". Taught from the earliest childhood that you have to do what they tell you, and if you have any goal of your own you will fail no matter what, and they are always "helpful" to remind you in case you forget it for a while. Yet my life is a chain of "missions impossible". It is my specialty to complete impossible tasks. I do it over and over again. But too often I quit just before the finish line. BTW, every mission is impossible when you are in an environment, where they constantly keep repeating you will fail. And if you succeed, they will find something else that you didn't do. When I think of my greatest achievements in life - I always remember someone saying "but yada yada yada" - how all I've done is shit and literally everything else is more important. BTW, that's also why I don't have money. You never get big money earned "NOW". You build on top of achievements and successes. Every success on the way is nagging intensified. "But you don't have money NOW!!!!!". Then I get even more tired. Then I need to drink or do drugs. Until reset. And start over. But I'm stubborn. I switched to alcohol free beer. I quit drugs. And I have the last few miles ahead.
You've done the impossible more times than they ever could. It may not mean much, cause' you don't know me, but anyone who is so determined to outgrow their environment and pursue a patient and long term happiness and peace is someone who has my pride and respect. Good luck. Keep fighting, you are better.
I think it depends. It's not okay to destroy your body or mind to push through something. I can't imagine how long and painful the recovery process was. It's perfectly fine to take a break and get help when you need it.
I think that this works when we're doing performance tasks- like a marathon, and stuff like public speaking, the last day of a final deadline, or idk a food eating contest- basically I mean when there's a high pressure to complete something and where one might feel more compelled to get it over with than to stop or go back.
I say this because it's super hard to constancy be in this mindset- we're not anime characters and our energy and willpower are both expendable, most things can be better if we work on them without pushing our limit
I agree. I would add that this cookie jar trick works better when you have a task with a clear end point in the near future. For a task that has no clear objective, or a task that can drag on for years and years, you might be wasting valuable time and energy trying to use the cookie jar trick. Sometimes it's actually better to quit completely or drastically rethink your strategy for getting the job done. As they say, "work smarter, not harder."
@@emilyx8377 yes! I agree completely with you on that! That's something I find productivity vids lacking is the concept of quitting something that does not work for you- it's one thing to feel compelled to go on a for something that's goal oriented and has that achievement in one's relative line of sight, but most personal goals are intuitive and blindly pushing through with the might not yield people the happiness and rewards that they might really want in later life
I personally never depend on motivation i depend on dedication no matter what i feel
If you get tired, try to rest, not to quit🕊️
I bought a bag of cookies while watching this video. All I need is the Jar and I’m set for success!
This video has inspired me to create a list of impossible. Specifically a list of people who have said the words "that's impossible" at me. I may not have any victories but I have PLENTY of people who need to be shown that "impossible" is not real.
I'm here after watching Improvement Pill 😂
Same
Yep
Same lol
Me too. Let’s improve!
Yeahhh
Dang I would always think like this then I stopped and gave up during my junior year of high school. But during the end of the summer I felt like trying once again because my purpose in life is to make life easier for the others entering the world. But also for my family because I’ve seen my mother fail school and give up on school and just work. My stepbrother being raised by a lazy father(my stepfather) and is now living from friend to friend and my sister threw her future away for a guy and is now being evicted every 6 months. I still have a younger brother and sister in which I want to show them how to be successful in life. I don’t want them to grow up and view the world based on my families past. I think this video just really reminded why I tried so hard in the past and I don’t want to give up.
Job Gonzales good luck. You are obviously a good person, and I wish you every success. Just remember if the outcome isn't what you want don't blame yourself, you can't control the lives of other people, but I sure hope you can inspire them. All the best.
Nice thinking. I wish you luck with your brother and sister.
Whatever you do, NEVER give up.
That's really brave of you! Good luck for your future!
I think there is a benefit to this mentality for sure, but only in moderation. Otherwise, you’ll run yourself into the ground by invalidating your mind asking for a break. It’s important to listen to your body just as it is beneficial to push yourself to make it stronger.
Insane how this man just considered the "first few miles" as the first fifth of 100 miles, an entire marathon 😭
I feel like “I washed my dishes today” can’t really sustain someone’s drive.
Ah yes, but think about the cleanliness of those dishes and how delicately you washed them. The scalding water wasn't enough to stop you. Even when you felt like giving up and leaving some of the dishes unclean, you kept going. And in the end, those dishes gleamed like sparkling gemstones, reflecting your tremendous accomplishment. 😎😎😎
This is true no matter how hot the dam water was!
I think it just feels nice. It makes you think ”hey, at least the sink isn’t messy and I did something productive today.“
It’s really comforting and can really help when you feel like you’re not doing anything right. It totally leads to bigger things when you keep doing this. The goal of it is just to see the little wins you have daily which add up.
Being in the right state of mind and having confidence/faith in yourself is what sustains someone‘s drive. These little victories help you get there.
Not really, no. The achievement of cleaning dishes wont help me run a marathon.
But it will help me clean dishes (or other things) when I dont feel like it. Because I'll remember how I good I felt to have clean dishes.
A lot of times I dont clean cause I enjoy cleaning. I clean because I remember how good I feel when it's over. Being in a clean home feels good. You hardly come across people "comfortable" in filth.
It declutters MY MIND. It's not a "to do" list floating in my head. It's doesnt distract me in the corner of my eye when I'm working an a More Important Task. It doesnt block my sink when I need it. It doesn't stop me from cooking. It doesn't attract bugs or flies. It doesn't stop me from having friends over. It doesn't drive me to go eat out (wasting money or unhealthy). It doesnt make me feel embarrassed (like I'm a dirty or disorganized person.) All of this is just useless "chatter" in my head,
Clean dishes does MORE for me than just "provide something to put my food on."
My mental health greatly improved when I started expecting less from myself. I'm still a workaholic and perfectionist, but I don't beat myself up too hard anymore. When I do need to do something difficult, I think about how proud I would be if I did it well. I also think about the regret I would experience if I only gave something 95% instead of 100%. I've also learned that consistency and frequency is ideal rather than sporadic activity for long-term goals and skills.
Tim Ferriss calls this the Jar of Awesome.
When you feel low, pull out one of your past achievements.
This reminds you of the good times. This gives you motivation to go further.
I didn't know Tim talked about it before. Was it in any of his books or anywhere else?
@@BetterThanYesterday Tim mentions it in this video th-cam.com/video/LWCv0zAnqW0/w-d-xo.html
So in summary what is this about?
I always figured I never did anything that was successful.
This video forced me to recall all the obstacles and walls I had to overcome.
My perception of my life is different than the life I have lived, and the life before me
PS - I love cookies ❤️
Thanks for the love ❤️
I did the dishes that one time, I can climb Everest!
And don’t forget to eat the cookie afterwards!
Dont bother... it's too cold lol
I watched a video just mentioning, not explaining the cookie jar method, and then TH-cam recommends me this video! I made my list and I cried a bit, because it was inspirational!
My family and i are going through a tough time right now but hopefully we'll get through this.
Thank you for the video!
Wish you all the best!
Coming from someone with low self esteem, sometimes you just don't value yourself enough, leading to a point where even if you want to use the cookie jar, you don't feel anything you've ever done deserves to be called "a cookie" and instead of gaining energy, you'll lose whatever you had left by thinking of all the things you've never achieved, all the things you done wrong, and wish yoi hadn't. You'll give yourself a lecture of what you've done wrong, finally tearing apart any actual energy left.
This is actually good. I'm struggling with my connection between Allah and myself. This method might help me push myself harder. Thank you Mr.
4:26: "that's what the cookie jar method is..."
*My brain:* masochism?
Yes. If you're not pissing blood are you even trying?
Love this video. Everybody should learn more about David Goggins. He is the real deal.
about to take the exam of my life (board exam) and I watched this video multiple times to remind myself whenever I feel like procrastinating. I gain 3-5 cookies every time. Thank you.
Instead of cookies I would choose fruits or healthy treats, since I've given up on sugar to help me get clearer skin for some years now 😁 Thanks for your videos! They really inspire me to be more productive.
I really like this chap's accent. Very calming! Blessings and peace to him Thank you
Basically anime, when the protagonist remember past to get a overkill boost
So cookie jar is a mental collection of your achievements and success? And you can remember it to motivate yourself to keep going and add another cookie to that collection?
Wow what a concept 😄😁😁 Thank you op for making this video 💕
^ Reddit user
Indzy Agreed
Thanks!
My dad told me I was a winner the moment his sperm made it to the egg, all the other sperm didn't make it, that's actually a huge win. Next time you can't pick a cookie 👻
No excuses!
Subscribed 😋
You are cute ! Thats all :p
sherrysynthesis lol my friend tried to tell me that too...... I’m a twin , I didn’t even get 1st place .... bruh
@@leahj1613 LOL hahahaahahahahaha that reply !
Goals are really difficult for me because I always get distracted by new interests.
I love practicing persistence in small things every day and cheering myself on at the end. Today I kept going during my run when I was tired. On days when I'm tired, I pick running exercises that are a little easier. On days when I'm not, I pick ones that are a little harder. This is helping me get better at persistence.
Anyone who had conquered depression will understand this concept the most
This reminds me of when I was middle school. I joined the soccer team and was horrible, but we were forced to run a mile to warm up every day. Normally I can’t run far or fast, but during practice I was forced to keep up. When we had to run a mile in gym I just thought, “I’m part of the soccer team, this will be easy” I completed the mile in about 7:00 min. which is really good for me.
imagine running 70 miles in one go and that being your lowest point in life.
At least I'm not the only one who was thinking that! Jesus, most people can't run a marathon without training ffs. 70 miles with no training before having to stop is NUTS.
I got my achievements tattooed on my arm in a timeline. Underneath are the words "You are stronger than you believe" So every time I am struggling with something, all I need to do is look at my are and it reminds me of how much I have achieved!!
Looking back in my life I see the many many things you've done for me, that's what you do when you're waiting on the Lord. It renews your strength. It gives you hope waiting and being patient with God, because you look back and remember all that He's done for you, and He's never failed us yet, no sir, not even once. Praise His name.
I truly appreciate stumbling onto this channel.Wished i learned all this from my guardians but i guess its not too late now.
This is God sent material
at 7:35... I feel like, I'm listening u, one to one personally and really start smiling while looking at the roof.
Thanks a lot man!
Thank you 😊
Thank you for making these videos!
This one was particularly inspiring to me because when I'm dealing with the day to day, anxiety in my head is constantly telling me I always give up or how inept I am after every social interaction. I like the idea of pulling out my past victories as proof of my tenacity.
I'm going to make a cookie jar in my journal! Thank you again for all these wonderful videos and dedicating your time to making people better than yesterday! positive vibes ✌🏽
Don’t know why this brought tears
All of these types of videos are ignoring people that have chronic health problems. I can't push myself. I used to listen to thus kind if advice and I pushed myself way beyond what I thought was possible, but im paying for it with my health now. This was the worst thing I could have done to myself.
What chronically ill people like us need is community, specifically community care. I learned this from the writer and disability activist, Alice Wong.
I second this. The chronically ill have to take ideas of those with good health (and a pretty full fuel tank) with a grain of salt. Often can't apply these ideas to the context of being ill and weak. Health truly is THE most important asset in life. Imagine you have a car but the fuel tank is empty.. how you gonna get from a to b? You won't. You'll sit right there. And stew about being stuck. Mindset shift is super necessary in that spot. Must be willing to change the way most people see things, cause you're not most people. And that's okay. Life can still be good and prosperous for you, if you're willing to do things your own way and learn the tools needed to make YOUR story thrive. As a chronically ill person who is weak and fairly incapable of propelling myself forward, I can vouch that growth is still possible when changing and expanding the mind is applied. Good luck and best wishes to all in this boat. ❤️
These videos are so much more motivating than actual motivation videos where a dude screams in the background
“i didn’t get this far to JUST get this far”
This came up at the right time. Watched this years ago. But I think TH-cam sensed I needed this again. ❤
I would probably just eat all the cookies while crying
HAHAHAHAHHA
If this isn't me, I don't know what is 😭
Haha
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These videos are what I need to find ways to motivate myself and try to do new things even I'm lazy or don't want to and would much rather be playing games or watching youtube. I hope anyone else who watches these videos or sees this comment also gets that same motivation.
Best channel ever. Videos are crisp and full of content. I'm watching this video on loop so that it'll get stuck in my mind. Thank you 😊. All good things to you mate.
Holy mackrel I tried it, this not only works but each note "cookie" actually makes me smile when I read it at work!!!!!
"I good General not only know how to achieve victory but also know when victory is impossible"- Sun Tzu
This video should be called 'A tutorial for emotional burnout' OR 'How to be a stubborn ass and keep doing things out of principle and never stop to think whether it is ACTUALLY something you want and need'.
Every time I got injured as a child, I'd tell myself that my favorite character (Ash from pokemon) wouldn't cry. He'd keep going, and so I kept going.
thank you, i needed this, i had a bad day today because i didnt get to swim to the goal my professor set, i just made it half way, and im sad because i was aiming for a higher grade for my scholarship, but i remembered when i barely know how to swim and even though i didnt made it earlier i was kinda happy because i got to overcome my aquaphobia when i just started learning swimming, that is one of my cookies. Though i think it is still rewarding, and im not giving up until i get my scholarship again :>
This guy really took 8 minutes to tell us to just not give up when we want to
👏
guess u really want to give up because u missed the entire point, hope u be a better version of yourself
Didn't know this was an actual method. Been using this "cookie jar method" for years, and believe me, it works.
The COOKIE JAR METHOD is similar as FOCUSING on REWARDS WHICH is what you're supposed to do and THE COOKIE JAR METHOD is focusing on PAST rewards which is good and apply that with focusing on future rewards to multiply success.
I’ve always go back to my mental cookie 🍪 jar. And I remember I’ve lost so much in my life time. If your reading this don’t give up. Death like a domino effect since May 11,2019 up to now. Keep going! God Bless You. Stay safe out there.
“The greatest wizards now started like us, just students, if they could make it, why wouldn’t we?” -Harry Potter
I do this methodically without even knowing it. On long-distance bike rides, I compare tough experiences with previous tough experiences, and mentally count the miles I've ridden thus far, and how far along I've come. I've used that to push my limits. I also apply this to other challenges like resistance training goals, laps in the pool, finishing engineering tasks, and so forth. The mental endurance challenges are much tougher than the physical endurance challenges, because there are set times to stop with physical challenges. It's tough to decide when you've hit the mental endurance limit.
PS: The closest I ever got to bloody urine was being so dehydrated it hurt to pee. Well, there was also the time I passed out while riding the bike and broke my knee. That was well after reaching the euphoric state.
Oof.
@@pavlova3310 I did not understand "Oof."
You are great I love your videos
Keep it up!!!
3 yrs later , rewatching it again !!
The way you delivered the content made me to remember this cookie jar method forever. Thank you very much!!!
Isn't this double edged? There are people who fall from grace and can't let go of their previous success and go crazy.
Sometimes you just gotta empty the jar, and start fresh, maybe?
Yeah I agree with you. This method require people to work for your goal and use the cookie for your fuel but if you only use the cookie but not act by it well its nothing. We can't just pondering our past cookie and not be present on our goal
What do u mean?
Yes! Especially as you age. I used to be beautiful now people tell me how good I look for my age. It's kind of horrifying. I mostly operate by scheduling. "This" is getting done before I go to bed no matter what works well for me.
He should mention all the people who tried to climb Everest and died as a result because their identity was so attached to the accomplishment they tried to push through despite best judgement instead of having enough mental strength and discipline to let go and try again. Accepting defeat is an accomplishment in itself as well.
@@sashamotovylets1753 there are differences between a race and scaling the top mountain,but you are so right.
Trying to be the toughest man on Earth isnt something everybody wants to do,u can try that hard but knowing there is no death risk,David Goggins choice was very risky and probably even more the ones from that mountain
Great advice thank you
Became your fan post listening your videos.... Each ine better than last one. Wish I could have discovered this channel earlier... However as said it's never too late to begin new journey... Keep creating such masterpiece. ❤️🎉
I started this youtube channel with 0 subscribers i thought about giving up many times.. it’s not motivation that brings me back but determination.
How long did he spend in the hospital after is all I want to know.
Andromeda Kai he Didn’t want to go to the ER because he knew they would give him painkillers, and that would stop him from feeling the pain of one of the greatest moments in his life
Ovidiu Andrei bruh that guy is either really courageous or just stupid
Afnan Alnajar or ambitious
Ovidiu Andrei ambition becomes dangerous if it nearly kills you
@@floremy5013 it's called mental drive , whatever it takes mentality + the funny thing is that he ran 3.08 miles marathon after he broke himself in the badwater
It's not just accomplishments it could be the hell you went through and survived, could be the health issue that you overcame, could be any kind of suffering that you endured. Suffering in the past that makes the obstacle to accomplishing your goal seen easy.
Pretty helpful stuff. At first, I wasn't sold because I thought it was saying to just push no matter what, even if your body's screaming at you to stop but then you quickly rebutted that idea.
Thank you very much for the time you spend making these videos to help others .
You are a Blessing.