Inside the Brain of a Psychopath
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Inside the Brain of a Psychopath
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In this video, Justin from the Institute of Human Anatomy discusses the physical differences in the nervous systems of those that suffer from Antisocial Personality Disorder.
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Video Timeline
00:00 - 00:47 Intro
00:48 - 01:59 Cluster B Personality Disorders
02:00 - 03:07 Psychopath vs Sociopath
03:08 - 04:55 Serotonin Creation/Action
04:56 - 06:16 MAOA and Genetics
06:17 - 06:36 Genetics and Psychopathy
06:37 - 08:39 Function of Serotonin
08:40 - 09:51 Serotonin and the Fetal Brain
09:52 - 11:25 Why Men Are More Commonly Psychopathic
11:26 - 12:22 The Contributing Factors of Psychopathy
12:23 - 13:04 The Struggle of Studying Psychopaths
13:05 - 15:13 The Empathy Center of the Brain
15:14 - 17:54 The Rational Center of the Brain
17:55 - 18:47 Childhood Trauma and the Brain
18:48 - 19:43 Sociopathy and Childhood Trauma
19:44 - 22:04 The Common Behaviors of Psychopaths and Sociopaths
22:05 - 24:16 Unique Behaviors of Psychopaths
24:17 - 25:37 Unique Behaviors of Sociopaths
25:38 - 26:56 Treating Antisocial Personality Disorder
26:57 - 28:16 Justin's Opinion on a Solution
28:17 - 28:53 Why You Can't Diagnose Children
28:54 - 29:34 The Impossible Task Ahead of Us
29:35 - 33:50 The Importance of Logic
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I think this video is flawed. Using PET is an old way of scanning psychopaths. You are referring to PET studies conducted by a scientist scanning himself. The moao theory is old news. Real psychopaths are born, and this is shown through massive amount of studies. You can be antisocial, but rarely do you have both factors shown by Hare's psychopathy checklist.
Current studies use fMRI, and show much more accurate pictures of low activation. One researcher in this field is Kent Kiehl, and he has done thousands of scans of psychopaths.
did you removed that brain from a psychopath?
I know many psychos, this seems to fit
Justin, very interesting video. Can you please do an episode about autism?
New studies show the serotonin is not the cause of depression and now we found it’s the same in healthy brains and now we haven’t a clue how the drugs work. Never knew how they worked in the first place.
My child (16 yo) was murdered by an individual with ASPD. I wrote a heart wrenching victims impact statement, but when I faced him in court, I decided instead to tell him he did not deserve to know the devastation he has delivered upon me and my family. Though his demeanor expressed little more than disinterest, I like to think that I didn’t give him the pleasure of knowing his actions have caused long reaching, Devastating pain. This video affirmed my decision. Thank you for posting it.
That is so unbelievable and sad to know that they dont feel remorse for anyone.
No parent deserves to go through that. I really hope you are able to find peace with yourself and that ur ok now!! (Though idk how long ago that was, but still :)
My best wishes :D ❤️🫂
My sincerest condolences to you and your family for your tragic loss. I admire your strength to confront that evil thing, and the wise decision you made in not sharing your pain with him.
I'm not good with words but I'm so very sorry for the loss of your child.
You might want to know they hand this diagnosis out like candy in prison. I got mine as an adolescent entering adulthood in a violence and head trauma study... that was obviously looking for psychopathy 1.. dead give away question is always the theater smelling smoke..some warn, some leave and lock the door.. sexual sadism and other paraphilias run rampant in such a community.. I can only speak for myself its not really about the offense... its as I understand it its about you.... and informing the sentence for the offense. As long as it's in the jacket.. most prosecuters don't take the time to explain this.. I see 90 percent of relationships as strategic alliances...there the 10% which are the result of curiosity. I had to be socially self aware in a concretized sense ..i tended to fall into internal abstraction without stimuli.
I'm so sorry; indeed they do seem to be entertained by the misery they cause. My therapist and I decided it was best for me to go into hiding over the years that my parents were failing and passing, in case my brother (a senior airline captain and instructor) decided to take a contract out on me. I wasn't an emotional decision, my therapist served 20 years in the prison system, just common sense: " Phycopaths; they kiss and kill without a thought."
Today I'm living out of my car as a result of poverty caused by PTSD and I'm free and happy. My inheritance was a small price to pay for the peace of mind of finally being rid of him.
"Psychopaths have a different brain than you or I...unless you're a psychopath. But not me, I'm definitely not a psychopath", said the man holding the human brain.
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Love your video's. Thank You for your time and effort.
Haha, with the difference the he can switch his emotions on/off due to the exposure and the nature of his work, while a psychopath would never be able to show empathy.
😂😅 game changer
I was diagnosed with ASPD in early adulthood. I wanted to say a few things:
I can understand other peoples emotions, but I cannot feel them. Imagine not understanding a math problem, that’s what it’s like in my brain regarding emotions. I know people feel them and what they look like, but I don’t feel them.
The connection between right and wrong exists, I can see which is “right” and “wrong” but it really comes down to which benefits me more.
I think the biggest take away is that what normal people feel, the consequences for other people they hurt, it doesn’t compute for me. It almost doesn’t make sense, it’s literally something I cannot understand, like reading a foreign language.
Thank you.
When I faced my 77 year old Brother whom I took in because he was "homeless", I confronted him about "consequences" of his actions. He, an English Major, gave me a blank look as if the word never existed, not in the dictionary, not in his consciousness. The same reaction with "responsibility".
He had a moral compass for me, or could give me a five minute diatribe on why I was dishonest for attempting to "look at", not touch, take, damage... just open the case and look at his five year old granddaughters tiny violin. But he had no problem locking me out of my shop, deliberately ruining my tools and machinery...the list is very long, stealing money and goods from me, staying rent free and finally walking away with absolutely no remorse.
I knew there was a mental problem. That's why I am researching this. Your testament is helping me understand.
His toxicity has prompted me to go no contact. I am suffering financial loss, life setback, PTSD and other consequences of permitting him to invade my home, where I became his slave. Obviously I had no boundaries and neither did he. That gave him the advantage.
Question. Does this condition cause you any kind of suffering? My brother seems to go from supply to supply leaving nothing but ashes in his wake... broken lives of broken wives, hook ups that are soon forgotten, a great number of children who had no father and whose memories of him are anger producing. They DONT want him around.
I feel so sad for him. But I know there is no fix for him. I pray for a day when he can find healing. Yesterday was his BD. I couldn't give him the wedge to drive into me again by even wishing him a happy one. On top of this condition is extreme narcissism.
My heart aches for him. But he seems to have no heart.
How do you deal with your situation?
Can a personal "moral compass" be developed within a psychopath so society can enjoy the gifts and talents of a person like yourself?
Very similar to narcissistic personality disorder
@@donnahalsted7718 I hope I can give you so answers.
He doesn’t sound similar to me, as I have a level of respect and love for my family. Although I have been told it is cognitive empathy.
The stealing of tools and destruction of property can be for a few reasons. When I get bored I get destructive and look for trouble. When you took him in you gave him a gateway to see weakness within you.
Consequences are something we know about but don’t think of them or care about them.
I don’t know why or what he was thinking, I can only give anecdotes regarding what I’ve done and have been through.
I think he is a low functioning psychopath, potentially a sociopath has he cannot fit into society and have a productive life.
I am in sales for a living, and have no issue getting people to sign away savings or get them into terrible financial situations because it benefits my bank account.
We are not all monsters. Cutting him off was the right thing to do for you, but from my own experience he will come back wanting something and will spin a story as to why he made a mistake. I’ve done this numerous times.
I hope this is something that makes sense to you, like I said I am not you or your brother so I cannot say unequivocally why he did what he did, but knowing myself and learning my behaviour through numerous, expensive, stupid sessions with a therapist, I can relate to his behaviour.
@@donnahalsted7718 I didn’t see the last part of the question.
This condition doesn’t necessarily cause ME suffering, but others.
He does sound similar to me. I’ve been unfaithful in relationships and I’ve ruined marriages because i desired the woman I saw.
My impulse control is really not there. Someone hit my car on the way home from work so I followed him home and threatened his family. Later talking with my therapist, she told me that that’s not normal, there is a barrier in people called impulse control which stops them from doing stupid things. To me this made no sense, and if still doesn’t.
My moral compass is something I have had help creating. I was not born with one and I was not born with a conscience. I believe some of the key parts of those can be learned and taught but not felt.
I am extremely good at hiding myself behind the mask I wear in public and at work. My family knows me, but my mum truly knows who I am and the damage I have done to her is terrible. I genuinely am displeased with my past actions regarding her.
I do believe that therapy has helped. My therapist has me understand why I am and who I am. While I don’t feel remorse for the things I’ve done, I can now process pain I’ve caused and have learned not to do them again. I don’t feel bad for the suffering I’ve caused, but I do regret it.
If you want to give me your email I am happy to explore this more with you.
@@BeastM140i thanks for sharing, oddly interesting to read this while It may have zero impact on my life. Do you feel any form of excitement? I see BMW, so does driving at high rates of speed whether it be on a track or highway create anything for you?
Thanks in advance
As someone who had a drunken psychopathic father with a brain tumor I went thru enough trauma that almost made me insane, beside that the bullying in school by teachers and rich kids, still however by some miracle I have not developed APD. Instead it made me introverted, withdrawn kind of shy and suspicious of the intentions of others.
That means you must be really smart and you may not aware of it, Good for you!
I'm sorry to hear that, I can relate to being introverted, shy and suspicious
Know you have worth
Stoic philosopher Epictetus said "Some things are in our control, while others are not. We control our opinion, choice, desire, aversion, and in a word, everything of our own doing. We don't control our body, property, reputation, position, and in a word, everything not of our own doing"
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You have done well with your challenges, I am proud of you!❤️
Somewhat same with me..!
Seeing that having "little to no anxiety" is a symptom of psychopathy was very relieving, I have very high anxiety perpetually. This is the first time I've been happy about it 😬👍
If it makes you feel any better as well, people with APD more likely than not don’t ponder the idea that they might have APD in the first place
Same here
Yup, same. I have clinical anxiety and depression (for which I'm medicated) combined with a tendency to hide my own feelings to the point that sometimes they seem distant even to me. It's a great combination for worrying about whether you actually feel things at all. But... I do. I really, really do. My most vivid childhood memories are linked to guilty feelings.
So, yeah. No APD here.
I feel you
I know what you mean 😏
The fact that a group of humans have figured this out is probably more amazing than the pathological development of psychopathy itself. My mind is blown.
I have aspd and I think this stuff is propaganda. It’s like saying a depressed guy killed his family. Watch out for those depressed people they’re dangerous. It’s a survival mechanism developed from trauma. You meet them all the time Doctor, Lawyer, CEO. It’s not that dangerous and you get super powers like being smart and able to read people instantly.
86 billion brain cells, each of which is connected with thousands of brain cells. Our brains have trillions of connections- It really is amazong
@@beavergaming2015 amazong
They have no clue but have too act like they do for the court and justice systems, for the medicine industry, and for the ones that actually are in power not giving a fuck about anybody. Are we capitalist or communist ?? 😂 no, we are human.
So go get fucked with ya BS science lol
@@OnePieceSS23 theyre a beaver who games. dont mock this incredible creature for their typo. XD
Small correction: antisocial personality disorder is more commonly abbreviated as ASPD, and APD is commonly used for auditory processing disorder.
As well as autism spectrum disorder
@@williamlongjon9649that's ASD
Even more importantly only 5 or 6% of people diagnosed with ASPD would qualify for a diagnosis of psychopathy (>30 PCL-R), the correlation between the 2 is very low
I appreciated that small correction.
I’ve seen it used for both.
I took medication that I believe altered and somewhat damaged parts of my brain temporarily. I experienced how I would imagine people with ASPD experience life on a daily basis. I used to be a very sensitive person, and I could feel emotions so deeply. After I took the medication for some time I suddenly began to not feel anything, I couldn’t feel empathy, I couldn’t feel any emotions, I couldn’t even sense fear. Imagine what you love the most in this world and then suddenly your brain literally loses connections and you no longer feel anything negative or positive towards that thing, you have no control over this you can not force your brain to feel something if the connection isn’t there. I just felt empty for months, like a body without a soul. Prior to this, I could not have even fathomed what someone with ASPD experiences and now I completely understand. I personally didn’t feel any drive to do anything horrible during this time, but now I even understand why some psychopaths do horrible things, it doesn’t affect them the way it would someone with a more typical brain. just remember people with this are truly missing out on the things that we get to experience and take for granted. No one chooses if their brain will work properly or not. No one chooses to be a psychopath, just as you (if you are not someone who suffers from ASPD) didn’t choose to be normal.
What medication was it?
@@poot-pootZoloft and Lexapro. Although some people are seemingly unaffected by these medications others can experience lasting effects on the brain. There are a lot of reports of people dealing with the same issue as me even years after being off the medication.
Do you feel back to your usual self now?
@@gracez593 Thank you for asking! After almost a year of feeling like an absolutely soulless being on autopilot, I have just recently began to feel again! I cannot describe how unbearable it is to feel absolutely nothing. I think anhedonia needs to be taken more seriously because looking back I was a completely different person during this time. You know when you almost get into a car accident and how scary it is? Not even that made me feel anything. I truly believe someone could have pointed a gun at me and I wouldn't have felt it. (I read these medications can change the architecture of your brain as well shrink your amygdala so that would explain the absolute lack of flight or fight response.) I now have a bit of an understanding of what life may be like from the perspective of someone and what its like to not be myself because I wasn't "me" for a year.
@@little.pixiedoll Let me guess, you took an SSRI like Citalopram. I am pretty much a psychopath already without it, but it somehow made me so numb that I looked at gruesome war footage to get any emotion at all.
I was in a relationship with a Narcissistic Psychopath. The craziest thing I noticed is that he couldn't cry. He learned how to make himself cry. He was so good at faking emotions. They learn by observation of non-psychopathic people and they learn young. They observe others and mimic emotions and get really good at it. It's so crazy.
Well isn't that scary?
One way to trick em is to act like a happy situation is supposed to be sad and that'll get them thinking wether or not to be happy or sad since they see 2 differences in which they don't know how to react to.
That's a thought btw I'm not sure if it even works
You sure you ain't the narcissist?
@@RandomPerson28337 yep
Responses to emotions are usually learned from others.
Emotions may be well ingrained into most people, but the response to those emotions usually forms part of cultural norms.
I'm always sceptical when people make claims about others internal experiences. "He couldn't cry" but then you immediately follow that with "he learned how to make himself cry". So he _could_ cry. You say he was good at faking emotions, but how can you know that they were fake? Nobody can know that about someone else. Though I am sure you have reasons to believe that and I don't intend to diminish any negative experiences you had in that relationship.
Crazy that we know the brain doesn’t fully develop, specifically the part in our brains responsible for logical/rational decision making, until we’re about 25 years old yet we’re expected to decide what we want to do with our lives while we’re still in high school. Arguably one of the biggest decisions we’ll ever make which requires a lot of planning and logical thinking.
But let me ask you this, who actually decides what they want to do in high school? Most people that age either follow there parents wishes or change there mind once they leave.
actually no matter how old you are you can't decide...to start with something..fall down and then change your path is the only way...so it's better to start young because you got less time
there is also better brain plasticity at that age, so that the quality of the learning during the educational period is better. i mean, it's a sacrifice of the individual for the overall outcome of society
25? I didn't mature until 35 to 40, or even 45
@@fa-pm5dr the stereotypical asian parents doing the right thing I suppose
This is an excellent video.
I am currently divorcing my husband of 26 years. I left him 7 years ago after finding out about his love of prostitutes, beginning to drain our bank accounts, etc. We went to marriage counseling at my demand. It was during this time that he admitted he has never loved anyone. That he doesn’t know how to feel love. When asked how long he knew this about himself, he said at least since high school (55 at the time he said this). I was his second wife and he had three children and to hear he never loved anyone was a smack in the face.
For 19 years, I saw my husband as perfect. In hindsight, I remember his financial control over me. I remember his humiliation of me, thinking he was so much smarter than me, denigrating me, gaslighting and manipulating me. I remember the smirking when he’d say something that hurt me. I remembered how he’d sometimes look at me like I was prey. He’d literally zone in and look at me like a predator looking at its prey. I called him on it once and he said that was the look of “adoration”.
I honestly could not see it the ASPD. I know some of my family find it hard to believe but it was almost as if I was brainwashed. Our marriage counselor said I was probably the first person to see his mask off.
All five of our kids were out the door ASAP after graduation. My two kids want nothing to do with him. One of his feels the same. Another of his kids keeps in contact for, I believe, inheritance reasons. His youngest… she has said he’s the only one that pays attention to her. Sadly, she is the child most like him.
My daughter in law insists he is a sociopath. She’s a psychiatrist and has observed him for 13 years. I see it could go either way…. I’ve seen him methodically plan but also do things just for excitement with no planning.
What’s embarrassing for me is I minored in psychology. I studied abnormal psych. I could not see any of this in him while it was happening. It took me catching him with the prostitutes to start looking back at things.
Why you are still have contact with him and kids?
@@SuperElwira I don’t have any contact with him. I haven’t spoken to him in three years and only because the courts make us file taxes together until the divorce is final. The past two years, I take my taxes in, drop them off and let the CPA handle him.
I haven’t spoken to his kids since 2017 just after I left him.
@EmbeeSpeaks I survived something similar. My family forced me to marry my husband on Valentine's Day 1993 when I was 19. He is now on wife #3. I discovered the prostitute issues while living on a strict financial diet that he placed me on. We had 3 children together and became he is wealthy & I am in poverty, he won custody 😭 I am almost 50. I have survived. I miss my kids. But these people who have damaged brains do a lot of damage.
@@ronniliddell3244 I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Hugs.
You wrote what could be an accurate description of my Ex husband. It’s amazing how people think he’s so charming and charismatic but after living with him for 18 years I couldn’t believe anything he said or did.
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16:03 environmental morality
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Excellent video. Writing about the subject and this breaks it down perfectly. Thank you.
Thanks for the breakdown. Very helpful and considerate of you!
@@wolfbenson Turn to bible and allow CHRIST to be your therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist. No man nor women fits to be one. All are sinners and without glory, all are tempted and suffer the same.
All are expected to REPENT AND BORN AGAIN, to LIVE HOLY AND GO AND SIN NO MORE.
All are weak in the daily fight between their spirit and flesh.
All these therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist, this world provides, can do is:
to deceive and steal.
They deceived you through all these “diagnoses” and they steal your money, through all the pills which you “need”.
In short: they poison your mind and your overall health, leaving you with neither one.
Therapist, Psychologist and Psychiatrist = Field where no human soul, never ever going to fit of being an help, no matter the among of years spend in “medical schools” or the decree gotten from there.
ALL of us are daily deceived, no matter the walks of life.
Do not trust one nor to try to be one.
1 John 4:1 KJV
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.
Turn to the BIBLE yourself and advice it to others also.
I was diagnosed with psychopathy (ASPD/psychopathic traits) and I agree in most part with this video, although I have to say I think more should have been made of the fact that we hav emotions AROUND empathy. We may not experience "empathy" but we DO experience disgust, sadness, fear, etc. and a good, loving upbringing is VITAL to keep those with psychopathy on track. TEACHING your children good morals and good lifestyles is vital. For eg. people laughed and scoffed when Ted Bundy talked about "pornography" luring him, but I can honestly say that (for people WITH a predisposition) that stuff really is a blackhole for us to fall into. NOT for most people, but for those with a pre-disposition. But THE most important factor imo is a good, loving upbringing where parents teach their goods good, solid morals and worldviews. Don't just let your kids "figure it out for themselves". If you don't FEEL something, you CAN be taught it.
The fact is that a real psychopath doesn't experience anything. It is not sentient.
@@stigludwigsen that’s factually incorrect that they don’t feel “ANYTHING”. That’s 100% proven wrong. They feel things DIFFERENTLY and some emotions they feel more strongly or less intensely. But your statement is proven to be wrong. That’s just facts.
@@MamaBear_2629 They have "floating" emotions, i.e shallow emotions. Emotions can be measured physically, but is not a physical phenomenon in it's essence. A psychopath have a physical body. The reason their emotions become shallow is because there's no consciousness behind them - it's simply a physical sensation that wears off quickly.
For a normal human emotions run deep because we are sentient. If we are worried for instance, it doesn't go away quickly because the nature of being sentient means we are capable of love, which in turn means we think about how something would affect not only our selves but those around us. A psychopath, being non-sentient and therefore not capable of love, is only worried in a purely egotistical sense, and even then it's much less intense and like an on and off switch.
@@stigludwigsen omg, either pay attention or shut up, this is a science channel.
if you just want to make statements , go off to some other soapbox.
Fantastic comment! I am wondering if you have any tips or suggestions for getting tested/ diagnosed for Antisocial Personality Disorder? I experience symptoms very similar to APD and am wanting to look into getting it checked out but am not sure where to start
As a person with an Antisocial Personality, I appreciate you going through this! I never knew that my CNS could change due to trauma. One thing I would like to say though is that most people with this disorder usually do have a moral compass, but it's more skewed. Personally, it's not about hurting people. It's like, my mind is so logical that it only works in that way without emotional empathy. I can reason why it's not a good reason to do something, but there's no emotional attachment to the decision.
Fascinating! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for your explanation about "logical" decisions, that makes sense.
Years of suppressing trauma can also contribute to or trigger autoimmune diseases. May God bless you and bring you peace.
One question though. Are you an atheist?
When I learned one thing out of my Relationship with one. Their decision are based on pseudo rationality and power.
Think they are smart and yet not able to think longterm. It wouldn't be a disorder If it were working for you.
Try to be as egoistic as possible.
But please think it throught for gods sake
One of the closest people to me in my life has BPD and is a sociopath. I have "less spicy" mental health issues myself, but let me say that somebody with these conditions is still worthy of love, attention, and basic dignity. They try so hard every day to step right and be as good as they can be, and they often succeed. There's moments where I try to relate why I feel certain things or why others feel certain things, but if you take it in stride and do your best to explain rather than judging them right off the bat, they respond much better.
This isn't meant to apologize for anybody who's been abused by such a person, all I mean to say is that these people are not write-offs. We're all simply products of the cards fate deals us.
thank you for saying this. I have a huge fear of being alone. I live in the past a lot and I fear also moving on to a new thing that is uncomfortable for me because of BPD being so immensly difficult to adapt to new environments. So, I do "splitting". It is a form of sociopathy. I do have complete empathy and guilt from hurting people. Oddly enough, when I see them hurting it makes me fight even harder to not do this. I have made good progress so far. I HATE HATE hurting people. I just am so confused. I know, but then it's like I don't.
However, I respond so good when I'm told I am loved by the person and they help me in the way of understanding me. I feel this person is safe to trust and I thrive/flourish. They say nothing wrong with me. I wish I was normal person😕🫤
the lies of psychopaths and their victims. my oh my.
psychopaths are commonly refered as predatory parasites, which is the best description of such a human being.
They absolutely are a write off. Run, don't walk away from them.
Sorry but if they do “try their best” is not because they want to be better for others but to avoid negative impacts in their lives (for instance they wouldnt mind beating up someone but they could get to prison which would make them uncomfortable what they want to avoid). A diagnosed person told me that. He also said they like to manipulate people and make them think they care or so and they enjoy watching their reactions. Highly likely that you are manipulated too. Its possible to live with psychopaths but getting emotionally involved with them anyhow is a very stupid idea.
Until they decide you aren't beneficial to them and they don't fear the consequences to themselves of hurting you. You should avoid them at all cost.
Trauma is not only a traumatic unfortunate event or direct abuse.
Trauma for a child is also an emotionally detached environment. Thats why so many psychopatic CEOs have children that follow their footsteps.
Emotional connection should be mentioned in the picture, because not having any will be more traumatic than even the traumatic events themselves.
If everyone is emotionally detached from the child, they will develop the perception of "I am alone", "I am alone against the world", "Everyone is out for their own needs". In other words, they will start to perceive themselves as separate from other beings, because they are completely alone with themselves emotionally. Therefore emotions will shut down.
When a trauma has resolve (adults help you deal with it, you are empathically understood) - it eventually heals.
A situation where a child is surrounded by detached adult figures, is a trauma in itself. And even worse is - this type of trauma has no resolve. Therefore it impacts the development and leads to the fragmenting of consciousness, which psychopaty is the complete fragmentation from the aspect who feels.
I can relate to this comment though we don't all become psychopaths, no one shoe fits all. Individual drive for improvement and personal growth will help to overcome challenges.
@@J.DaviesArt The level of emotional detachment psychopaths are exposed to since being in the womb, is the level that none of us have experienced or could even comprehend. Like, think Ted Bundy, his mother tried to abort him with pills and didnt succeed. Etc.
@@J.DaviesArtso thats why some psychopaths are CEOs. But they are still psychopaths
Studies of orphanages that barely touched or held infants had higher rates of damaged children.
The psychological impact starts very early and if continued usually results with damaged emotional development.
Obviously some children are born this way, having loving homes and turning out to be cruel destructive people.
I believe my middle sister incurred brain damage at the age of 5 after discovering a brain tumor and its removal during the 1970’s.
She’s a toxic narcissist, diagnosed by a few Dr’s who’ve encountered her during my parent’s check ups.
Loud, physically violent and lacking control; she actually makes me nauseous to be around.
I don’t actively seek contact with her but unfortunately have to be around her for my mother now.
When my father was passing, I was holding his hand and talking with him.
Suddenly she started repeating my words to him, which were between me and my father and I got the chills.
She basically ran me out of there but I was able to have a beautiful connection with him when she was not in the room.
@@AimeeAimee444 Her prefrontal cortex couldve been damaged, thats where empathy comes from. F.e. most serial killers have that area of the brain completely inactive and unresponsive. Richard ramirez had it damaged through direct head trauma and his father beating him. Jeffree dahmer - cause his mom took a load of pills while he was in the womb. Ted bundy - cause his mom tried to abort him unsuccessfully with pills. For most sociopaths and psychopaths generally when scanned, that part of the brain wont show any activity. So it could be biological. But I still dont believe that its the only reason. There could be something in ancestry, could be that shes expressing the repressed side of the family, could be some trauma youre not aware about, etc. I dont know your situation, but theres always something hiding deeper. Like jeffreys and bundys parents claim their families were "fine", "nothing that unusual". For people with any type of damaged brain, any amount of trauma will have 10 times stronger effects. F.e. Does your family eat meat? - If so, theres no true connection in the family, by definition, even if the members think there is, by societys standards. Damaged people reflect what the people around them dont want to see in themselves - the toxic patterns, the suppressed sides of everyone etc. But this is something that humanity will have to evolve to understand for hundreds, if not thousands of years. Most have such low levels of awareness, that they couldnt even begin to dig deep enough to find the burried blind spots, or ask questions that threaten their self concepts.
My mom worked with someone she now believes to have been psychopathic. Her name was Lynn, and she and my mom had to interview candidates for positions at the company. Lynn loved to torment the interviewees. She would always make the person cry, and when they left in tears, she’d turn to Mom and say, “Isn’t this fun?” Mom said that she’s never seen anyone else get so much genuine joy out of mentally torturing others.
According to the video this would be more sociopathic behaviour.
Why would anyone cry at an interview?
That was a sadist
Don't think that constitutes a psychopath. Psychopaths are absent of empathy, but that doesn't inherently make them pathological. I've seen non-psychopaths take pleasure in the misery of others, and that can just be serious psychological issues, or sociopaths.
Would have loved to come across her for five…
my dad once told me "Somewhere along the way adults forget what its like to be kids. They forget what its like to be be new here, to not know how anything in the world works and that basic things has to be explained to kids." and hes right. I was a kid when he told me that and I remember feeling so relieved that this adult understood that I didn't understand why the rules were the way they were. It was stressful donig something and not knowing why i was being yelled at. Worse was when no one would explain what I did wrong so I had no idea if i'd do it again or not.
Some things just made no sense. Why do I have to stop and wait before running across the street? what are we waiting for? The park is RIGHT THERE!" "Why can't we just flush things we don't want (like annoying brothers...) down the toilet? its a magic hole that makes things disappear!" And he would take the time to explain "Cars are on roads. Cars are big and heavy and move fast. Come sit here and look out. From here, the adult can't see little kids as well because the front of the car is in the way. They may not stop for you because roads are meant for cars, so kids shouldn't be in the street and they cant see you." Oh. Ok. that makes sense (and I could apply that to other situations. If I run across this park can that adult with a baby carriage see me? Maybe not. I'll wait). "We can't flush things we don't want down the toilet because the hole is this big. theres pipes that take everything away and it can only handle potty stuff. And also, you may not like your brothers but I'm a little invested in them so please don't flush your brothers." Ok. that makes sense I guess. Its not a magic hole that makes things go away. There's limits to what the magic tube can take away and my brothers cant fit. Also, my dad would be sad for some stupid reason if i flushed and I don't want my dad sad so I won't."
Parenting is really hard but taking the time to remember that kids don't know how anything works and then taking the time to explain it not only helps them learn quicker and apply that knowledge to other situations (instead of just guessing while being yelled at), but it builds trust with the parent. I always knew I could ask my dad any question, no matter how stupid, and he would explain it. This helped out a lot when i look back at situations where, (now) I can see that an adult was being inappropriate towards my siblings and I but as a kids, they were just acting weird and much like most of the world, I didn't understand why. Asked my dad "hey dad, XYZ said/did this weird thing. i dont understand why he was being so weird." and he was like "Yeah kiddo. thats pretty strange alright. I dont know why they would act like that either but I'm gald you told me. You kids stay here, I'm going to go find out." And then XYZ never talked to us ever again.
take the time to explain things. take the time to let them ask question. take the time to ask them how they think something works so you can correct it. Building that trust goes a long way.
I need to take more time to explain why we do or don't do certain things!
Your dad was soooo insightful! Big love to him.❤❤❤❤ You really hit the jackpot. I remember so many things from my childhood where I would stop and say to myself, "Remember this when you're big. Don't be like them." I tell people to treat children like foreigners from another continent who don't speak the language or know the culture. Explain, explain, explain. Then take a deep breath and explain some more. Just ask yourself: how would I want to be treated if I woke up in Outer Mongolia and my life depended on endearing myself and not offending anyone?
Beautiful, thank you! Explaining should be at the heart of parenting. Kids give you a gift when they say "Why?". If you don't understand why, admit it, and research it when you have time, so you can have a dialog about Why. Parents who just say "Because I said so" just shut down the whole logical process, and teach their children that might makes right. It's ok to hurt someone else if you are bigger or more important than them. In fact, if you are "more important" you are automatically right in all circumstances.
He sounds fantastic!
@@jesss7302 'If you don't understand why, admit it and research it-' That is an EXCELLENT point because you're still teaching the kid a very important lesson. 'you don't have to always know the answer. its ok to not know. i can find out though.' and then, depending on the situation you teach them *how* to find out. Valuable lessons that go beyond "just stick to your guns and never admit you don't know."
I've been a licensed therapist for 20 years now and have worked in many different settings. This is the best explanation I've come across. Thank you.
I’m a Cluster B Fustercluck. Mind you, I’ve had two TBI’s; the first was when I was 9, I fell backwards ice skating & cracked the back of my head. The second was at 15, 60mph face meets dashboard. Cracked an orbital & maxilla. Dunno how that affected me, but .. Diagnosed with Borderline & Histrionic in my 30’s. I’m 52 now. No meds ever helped me over 20 years. Because of the brain injuries? Nobody will ever know. I’m happier without people around me. I have cats. Lol Thank god for medical weed in WV!! Ty for this video!!
Meds can’t treat cluster B diagnoses. They can treat other MH conditions such as depression or anxiety. BPD often settles down as a person ages.
This is very interesting to me, because my father was the narcissistic type of psychopath, and now I understand better why psychiatrists sounded so desperate when they had to repeat to my mom that no matter how hard she would try to "change" him, she could actually never fix him.
Thank you so much for these explanations!
Children not being traumatized is the unnatural thing. And how do we know it's only detected in boys . In fact normal people take pleasurebin suffering of those they consider evil or told authoritive source's on who's evil .n
Most of what he described is the human norm
@@smartass0124 LOL how many children have you traumatized?
@@smartass0124 I think you need to watch the video again. He did NOT say it's only detected in boys! He did however explain very clearly why it is more prevalent in males. Also it would be ideal if children were never traumatised and saying these traits are normal in everyone? You either need to change those around you or seek therapy for yourself.
@@smartass0124 nah bro, I'm female and have both variants for MAOA messed up. Never enjoyed punishment or suffering of anybody or anything. Am too much empath even. Am autistic though. Might fail the the human norm you describe because of that, not because of the MAOA.
@@smartass0124 No one said it's "only in boys". It's just more likely in boys because they have XY, and if the X has the psychopathy gear, there's nothing to counter or mitigate it's expression.
For a woman to have psychopathy, Both X chromosomes would have to have the gene, and if only one does, the other cancels it out.
There are plenty of female psychopaths. Watch The Behavioral Panel as they analyze some psychopaths being interrogated (They are human behavior and neuroscience experts, and interrogation experts).
I was put on a APD watchlist when I was younger and later diagnosed but I went through severe brain-damage and idk how else to put it but it was like waking up with a soul. Like I learned from when I woke up all emotions a whole second time. Now that I’m 15 years beyond that point I feel I’m a much nicer person. I hope. I try to be.
Sounds like it worked to me ✌😃🇦🇺 ps, great name 😉😃🕊🌻.
That’s so interesting! An ex-boyfriend of mine fell off of the back of a truck when he was 18, had a brain aneurism as a result, and after a week in a coma, woke up without being able to feel much - if any - anger. It wasn’t a spiritual transformation; he had damage to the part of the brain specifically in charge of emotions. It didn’t affect him negatively, and may have ultimately been of benefit: he works as a Nurse’s Aid at a psychiatric hospital for troubled adults, and he can physically and psychologically manage patient outbursts and assaults without being reactionary.
@@Ms_Nightshade that makes a lot of sense I would like to see the change in personality disorders following brain damage or serious tragedy. It can re-wire you for sure.
good i think all people can be good people even psychopaths
@@Ms_Nightshade that is so freaking fascinating
As a person who is highly disconnected from emotions to the point of almost not feeling them at all on top of having had to teach myself empathy, morality has nothing to do with empathy for me. For me, morality is a rational ideal, not an emotion response. Interestingly, I learned how to start to feel emotions and empathy from my sense of morality.
Exactly! Morality is already established, and I believe that having full knowledge of it gives rise to make rational decisions and force yourself to have empathy and be a functional person in society.
(Sidenote: media has fucked up people with these conditions. Not everyone has to be a serial murder or a "bad" person.
{Sidenote to the sidenote: I think morality is something established by society itself, if you look at the past it was very different and has changed over the centuries.})
@@alet1934sidenote to your sidnote to the sidenote: I think moral precursors (in our species) are inherent and that morality is logically determined, and that focusing solely on logic is a resolve to the issue of morality continually changing in massive ways overtime
Sidenote to sidenote to your sidenote to sidenote: I just wanted to type this out. Nothing of value to add lol
this video is so informative on so many different levels.. not just from pov of psychopathy.
I've suffered from manic depression & other mental health issues... & it clarified a lot.
easily the most informative video I've seen. Thank you
My coworker and her child psychologist husband raised 3 amazing kids. One thing I remember well is that they always had dinner together. During dinner no matter who asked questions, there was no immediate answer. It’s always a round table of “what do you think?” and “what is the logic behind or what would be the logical conclusion?”. Her kids learned to process thoughts and explore possibilities from early on. My old supervisor and his wife also raised 3 great kids. They listened to them and not confined them mentally. Kids trust them and talk to them freely. They practice their belief without preaching, in essence showing their kids how to live a responsible life. They also do certain things together like Friday night movie premiere (they know every comic book, superhero movie, and tv shows), comic con yearly, and scifi channel watching nightly.
Sounds like a wonderful life in the People's Democratic Republic of Perfectistan! Alas, my parents and I were/are a bunch of retardeds.
@@PoM-MoM i know all 6 kids (now adults) in real life because I work with their parents in the same office for 25 years (they had been my supervisors). They came to brings your kids to work day, annual office picnic, and year end party every year until they went to college. I went to their high school graduation (except one who went to a boarding school in Santa Barbara) and their family gatherings. I love both of my old supervisors and considered them life long friends.
This would have no effect on a true paychopath, in terms of them caring for anyone or having a capacity for empathy.
In other words, that family, if they give birth to a psychopath, can't prevent a child from growing up to be a serial killer.
@@frankG335 psychopaths aren't all killers psychopaths are born but also have to go through a seriously bad upbringing and witness horrible stuff growing up which triggers it properly unofficial term is fighting gene I believe and if you go through a very abusive upbringing then you'll like be a killer. And socalpaths are made not born like psychopaths.
@@danielkerr4100 You have no idea what ur talking about, stop pretending to know something you don't.
Tips for parenting: The softer you speak, the more the child will lean in to listen. If you always show them respect, they will learn respect. Use words like unacceptable behavior. Keep your voice calm. Be patient. Don’t ever tell a child they are bad or they will become what you tell them they are, bad. If you yell they will learn how to yell. As a parent you will repeat the same lessons for years before the lightbulb comes on. I had a tendency to teach earlier than the child could grasp. I was never disappointed they hadn’t learned. Every one has a different pace in which they learn. Consistency is key. This was preparing them to possibly succeed earlier at “getting” or understanding than their peers. Good luck parents! It’s the hardest job on the planet.
I know this sounds weird, I have a fear of hurting people and I am uncomfortable with speaking in a hostile way. I always spoke this way with my niece and nephew and they always respected me and listened to me more than others.
This comment should be pinned.
Tips for parenting: don't make kids
my mom just scream at me whenever she feel like it's fun (for her)
now she wonder why I have a habit of raising my voice to her
that explains a whole fucking lot about me...
Your children will teach you who you are. You are the only one in control of your responses and emotions reactions. Children at times don’t have words to express what they are experiencing. Just hug them really tight until it passes. Validating there feelings and help them find the words.
I totally agree with you. I was abused physically emotionally and sexually. I am 63 and can think back on how I was raised. I was a lot of what you explained. Thank God for healing Consolers. I learned about who I am and have still working on myself. I did learn a lot. Thank you.more please.
At age 14 I began testing for ASPD, with a diagnosis at 20. Specifically for standard psychopathy. However, mine was a strange case as I have never been abused or mistreated by others. Echoing/adding onto another comment, we do feel emotions just like everyone else. What makes us different from people like you is that we don’t feel bad for anyone, we don’t care when someone is hurting, we have no ability to feel these things because we don’t become attached. A great example of this would be the death of my mother. She died my junior year of college, I remember after I got the call I thought “oh, that sucks” and went back to my homework. All of her effort & love was wasted on me, as my condition prevents me from feeling appreciation for these things. One of the funniest things I’ve seen on the internet is people tagging “psychopath” in their biographies on social platforms. What they don’t understand is this condition prevents morality & social development, so is contradictory to actually being psychopathic. This is not to say these things are impossible, just that we see them differently. For instance, I was popular in High School & College, i joined a fraternity. The difference is that I did these things not for social enjoyment, but because I felt like it. I would apologize for the disjointed comment, but I hope this helps shed a small light on what living with ASPD is like.
oh? im a little similar to you, but i actually create social attachments and have the same reaction as you when the thing or person dies
Thank you
@@oldschoolmuzzey thanks. I mean I would consider my biology an advantage, because I don’t get tangled up in relationships/forced into emotional contracts, it makes me an ultra pragmatic person, + I am lucky enough to be intelligent. Despite this, I’m not going to act like on of those tiktok sob stories where “you don’t understand” or “woe is me”, my social skills all had to be learned and I was literally the most awkward loser until I started reading behavior patterns and learning how to be funny. Ego is also a huge problem for me, as may appear apparent, and I’ve often ruined some of the most beneficial relationships in my career through my own selfishness. There’s also a nihilistic paradigm that comes with it, realizing that everything is temporary, I was never able to understand religion. So take risks because why not, life is far too short. At least I don’t get self esteem issues lmao
@@LunaRealized damn i'm really starting to think i should get myself checked for apd.
thanks🙏🏽
You're correct.
My mom was a PhD in early childhood development. She'd always say, "...just cuz ya can poop 'em out, doesn't mean you know how to raise 'em".
Was that the title of her PhD? 😊
100% accuracy! 😂😂
Clearly, your Mom was a deep thinker😂
Your mother never had a PhD in early childhood development unless she stole a Man's Identity and Education!
*pop
From someone who has a lot of these illnesses in their family and takes SSRI's now and see's a substansial difference in emotional regulation, thank you so much for taking the time to explain this to the general public myself included. I didn't understand it as well until you explained it and it makes me so much more interested in healing it and healing myself. I have BPD and am rather antisocial but see what that's done to people and don't want that to happen to me. I love you on a human level, thank you so much.
Maybe you just developed social anxiety to a high degree after so much trauma.
@@Lyrielonwind my father has ASPD and my grandpa on my moms side as well. Both committed heinous crimes so I grew up pretty scared of the world and even more scared of becoming them. I’m healing so much now! Thank you for taking the time to say this ❤️☺️
My stepdaughter's bio mother was a sociopath. When I was introduced into her life she was 13yrs old. She was already programed into a personality of lies, playing mental games, master manipulator, throwing blame of everything wrong in her world was everyone else's fault from her own bad behavior. She would do spiteful things just to hurt others. She never felt anything or remorse. This video explains a lot. She was so good at lying that therapist could never properly diagnose her. I've tried to be understanding, I've tried to help her for years. She continued to hurt me, lie to me and use me. Never feeling anything. I finally had to cut all ties with her to get the evil out of my life. She was driving me crazy (and her father). We want to be there for her but sometimes you can't. She could care less about the situation. It's a horrible battle to help the unwilling and of course, she didn't need help, others are the problem.
This video is so important. As a child of a parent who suffered child abuse, the trauma can easily become generational. This is why I pay so much attention to neuroscience, psychology, mindfulness, and these kinds of topics to educate myself so that when I do become a parent one day hopefully, that trauma doesn’t pass on.
I believe that it's not just generational, but cultural too. That, makes me think of people in middle eastern cultures, who seem to be just as the way he stated in this video. It's why some, let's say in the islamic sector, seem to have no remorse when they murder the way they do, such as beheading. The blank expressions and lack of emotions, no remorse.
@@hoozerob Racist !
You can change that just remember that you don't have to be like your parents eve. Though if you've done research we inherent character genes as well but the good thing is we can change that in real time by mindfulness studying neuroscience reading a lot. It's also nature vs nurture.
@@darkmatter503 I know we can change. I've tried hard when I was young not to be like my father. We butted heads a lot. He annoyed me with every mannerism and annoying traits and quirks I saw in him. I tried hard to be totally different. I did pretty well in doing so. I know a lot of other people who found him repulsive as well. I molded myself the best way that I thought I could be, for me and for others around me. I had a lot of quirks that caused me a lot of bullying, but I acknowledge what others saw in me too at the time, and changed that as well at that time, because I started picking up some of my fathers quirks. I tried to see myself from another point of view and angle and set forth to fix it.
It does become a vicious cycle. My kids were abused by their mother. And she was abused by her mother. And she was neglected by her mother and abused by other family members, who in turn had all been abused. This abuse cycle has spanned across at least 4 generations. I’m trying to stop it here and now. No more vicious cycle.
My Mother was a sociopath/psychopath/ASPD. It was kind of a blessing. I can spot people with ill will toward me or others in minutes of meeting them. I have a manipulative behavior meter basically.
and you're paranoid
@@ThePitchblue there’s so many out there, one would be foolish not to have some sort of eye out.
@@CoolTrainerYoyo so many? Arent they a minority, hence the fascination?
One of the gifts of the Spirit from the Bible is the ability to discern.
@@ThePitchblue There's a lot of them, but remember that most don't ever get diagnosed. My father-in-law is a typical psychopath, absolutely a vile old man. Fake cries and manipulates. Loved beating up women and children, when he had the strength. Was ridiculously spoiled as a child. But he has never been diagnosed.
I’m in my 3rd year of a psychology degree and we study this All The Time!! Lol I love the way you explain it and IMO better than others on TH-cam 😊
I worked in a state prison briefly as a librarian.
One day a guard told me, an inmate had asked him, why do people when they're about to be killed always talk about their kids?
Still gives me shudders.
I have a graduate degree and have been a psychiatric social worker for 20 years. I learned more in the last 30 minutes about brain function in chemistry than I did in any of my grad school classes. I cannot believe there’s so much more updated information from recent research.
The internet is beautiful isn’t it
I love this channel!! Dang that says a lot,
I'm an undergrad taking a Neuroscience class and i found this to be super helpful and very informative
@heha4383 that’s because you’re a social worker and not educated like other professionals in psychiatry. Not your fault. As a psychiatric nurse for over 35 years I have been exposed to these patients and educated regarding brain functions and the behavior associated with these abhorrent behaviors.
That's very scary that a psychiatric worker is allowed to do his/her job not knowing what they're actually doing...
@@user-bf6gz8ej4o social workers are there for the administrative and financial aspect, they are not health professionals (doctors, nurse, etc).
As a teacher (elementary), you are spot on. There is a huge issue with various things. Students (not all, but a majority of them) have little to 0 coping skills. They have a huge problem with self-regulation, showing/understanding empathy/sympathy. Parents no longer teach that at home, and it falls to the teachers to do. There isn't enough time in the day to teach them "people skills" when so many are already behind academically.
I have noticed that many children show these psychopathic tendencies, where they do not care or understand to care about others. Doing something to someone else is almost like a game to them. To see what kind of reaction they can get. And many parents either don't understand or don't care about the social-emotional aspect that they need to teach their child. The lack of consistency makes starting each day like it was never discussed. I agree that parents need to step up. We never had anything of this level when I was in elementary school (90s). The behavior issues weren't nearly to the level they are now. A physical response was usually not the first reaction a student had, from what I remember.
I am wondering if there is a correlation between the lack of parental involvement and a possible increase in psychopathic behaviors. It would be interesting to read.
Sorry about my rant.
I do love this channel and I use it a lot in my science class. Please keep making them!
Great observation. I had I guy work with me offshore and we were talking about our kids (his kid was lazy, wasted money, wouldn’t work or help around house etc etc) and he said “the teachers really didn’t do their job” with his kid. I told him it was his and his wife’s job to raise that kid not the teacher’s. The teachers job is to teach school stuff not raise “your” kid. Needless to say he got mad at me but later said I was right.
there is definitely a correlation. humans start learning empathy, social skills, communication skills from infancy. how parents teach their children these skills and perspective taking can definitely impact how a growing person’s brain develops. especially because the brain’s plasticity is particularly heightened during the first 2 years of a child’s life and then spikes again during puberty.
Tech does not teach empathy so parents letting tech babysit, I so understand ur words. I thank u for being a teacher bc we so need to be taught. Knowledge is power! U shouldnt have to be a parent & be able to teach hormones & testosterones. I heard of alot of parents aborting their gay baby. Bonobos r bi. Seems gov wants to teach hate also. Children dont see color etc but r taught. I believe kids learn what they see more than what they r told. Hence cig smoking. We used to have villages raise children. Thx for ur LOVE! God Bless & Stay Safe & Healthy🙏💜✌️
I work with kids and agree. Many parents aren't as involved and by the time they notice their kids are having behavioral issues, it's an uphill battle. It's also hard to fight against widespread early, unregulated access to technology. Kids are exposed to new behaviors, language and situations they don't understand and end up bringing that into real life.
Wonder no more > the parents don’t teach the children the skills because they don’t have them in their tool box AND it’s all by design > elites try to make the masses crazy through various means in order to control them
Your channel has changed my world as a student. Thank you SO MUCH.
I agree with you on the rationality approach, the “if this, then that”.
We have a variety of the Cluster B PDs in my and my husband’s family, and additionally, both our sons sustained head injuries/concussions in early childhood coupled watching us deal with marital crisis. And yet, I’ve always taught them the rational approach: “if this, then that”. Thankfully, this has helped them understand their genetic and environmental challenges and they have been able to navigate successfully thus far, even while in the military.
It is unfortunate that we are born with deficiencies and that life piles into that. But we are intelligent beings and we are assigned the task of overcoming it.
You have a very honest and understanding way of speaking. Thank you
"React less and respond more," is perhaps the most important thought in this presentation. A reaction requires no knowledge or forethought, while a response is measured and typically reliable because it is based on knowledge and forethought, which when combined become wisdom.
Thanks for your digestible presentation. It made a lot of sense to this layman.
42nd 👍
Well written explanation. ✌️
might as well say "be diplomatic and lie more often, and dont respond automatically and naively like a child would"
I find it humorous that so many are loving that advice, react less and respond more, as that is how psychopaths are wired.
@@rogerkey6795 Fight fire with fire, then?
I am a victim of child abuse, I completely agree with you that childhood trauma changes synaptic connections. As a child I was under so much heightened stress response that now I desperately seek stress. I love stress, I thrive under stress and if I do not have stress I will actively seek a stressful situation. Its like an addiction. Stress gives me so much kick that I feel fearless sometimes 🤔.
I hope you're ok. Are you getting help
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@Lizard Tortilla hold up we have a youtube psychiatrist and psychology expert here
That's bcoz you are in control of a depression spirit which makes you feel depressed and without depressing you feel disoriented or ubnormal... I did have all these type of prblm which now i am out of it... It's like a bondage of depression ..‼️ only treatable via meditation ‼️
@Dancing to my own beat I am actually thankful that my mother used to beat the shit out of me 🤣. I actually get aroused literally when I am challenged or in a extreme difficult situation 🤣. It's like while trying to destroy me she has turned me into a superhuman 🤣. Now I punish her ( Not physically) and let her have a taste of her own medicine 🤣. I am a strong believer of Karma ❤️.
@@millig8980 wtf
Off topic but I absolutely love how you have detailed chapters in your videos, it makes it significantly easier to find stuff especially when I’m trying to study areas I’m weak in
My ex was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, which later diagnosed as schizophrenia. He was on several different medications over the years.
He's now facing murder charge.
It's so sad when mental illness strikes. I don't even know "who he is" anymore.
Were there many indications of his antisocial personality disorder early on, or did he manage to keep them well concealed?
I love your parenting advice. As a father of 4, it’s absolutely critical to strive to be a better parent everyday. This is not a matter of opinion, it’s fact. Kids are suffering today because of the lack of parenting. Many parents today are more concerned about their own WANTS (not always needs) instead of their children’s NEEDS. Being a good parent requires sacrifice, and many parents don’t want to do that. Well done sir.
*every day
This is so true. I’m not a parent, but my best friend is a psychologist and she has stopped taking on new patients that are under 18. Not because of any reason other than their parents. It’s impossible to really help children who’s parents refuse to stop being people filled with denial about their parenting and are more obsessed with social media than their own kids. As soon as any progress is made it’s erased by their continued horrendous parenting, of which they refuse to change or acknowledge. Therapy cannot compete with daily life in a never ending toxic situation a child can’t escape from. It’s really sad and it’s genuinely so many kids these days. Parents are either weirdos (in a bad way), completely disconnected, or narcissistic moms who want to be 16 again. Anyway, props to you for trying to be present and aware and doing your best, that’s the best thing any parent can do for their kid.
@@deeee4663 thanks. It’s definitely not easy, but it makes you a better person and you end up enjoying life more.
@@andrewkoster8895 and your kids will appreciate you even more once they’re older. My dad was hard on us as kids with certain things such as grades and activities, etc. but I see now how much it came from a place of caring. We’re all super close with him now that we’re adults, he’s my hero! Good dads are the best 🤍
@@SJTJ Yeah but it’s your duty, before birthing a child into the world, to actively seek to do better, to deal a better deck to your child than you were given. You have to do better, you must try to learn, there are so many books, classes, so many ressources to not pass onto others trauma they don’t deserve. There’s no excuse for choosing to be a parent and them not going through the efforts to be prepared for it; you don’t get to practice law without passing the Bar, your shouldn’t be a parent if you didn’t think or didn’t care to take the utter first steps to do it well.
Brilliant
My late husband's mother definitely has a disorder like the ones you are describing, I think she's a sociopath at this point, raised by one from what I've heard. She's against therapy, psychotherapy, medicine in general tbh.
She's very manipulative and cruel and she tells you "I did this to see what your reaction was" or "I said it to push you to do what I wanted"
When my husband died his dad was obviously distraught and he said "I had my son for 29 years and now he's gone and I can't do anything about it". She made a face and said "I had him longer because he was in MY womb"... That's the worst thing I've heard her say and I've heard her say a lot of cruel things.
My father in law is a loving person, he's the compassionate parent that thankfully was always there to keep my husband and my sister in law with a beating heart. They both turned out to be extremely empathic, sensitive young people.
I'm sorry for your loss! Hope you can be with you father in law with a long long time and with any individual in your family that you love. And I hope that your mother in law can get better and accept medicine at some point! Lots of love!!!
My dads mom is like this. Same exact story you told, cold mother. My grandmother never came to visit my dad let alone his children when they were born or anything, and to this day she only has called once 4 days after my dads birthday to tell us shes getting rid of some birds she doesnt want and if we wanted.
@@arcosprey4811 At least she asked you if you want the birds, lol! But outsides jokes, poor people! It's a shame there isn't a cheap, one-shot cure for this.
@@arcosprey4811 Is she German or have direct German ancestry?
Thank God for that and I’m working on that with 2 kids and my ex is extreme sick! I was gaslight and so many messed up things and he turned my friends family agaismy me and had no idea what was going on. I had ptsd when met him so didn’t trust many people! Worst person I could trust was him now I have complex PTSD but I’m healing and trying to drag one of my kids out of tremendous amounts of trauma from it and she’s very confused as he manipulates her. Said I’m the problem. She is very sick mentally. Thank God she’s getting better and talking to me now because she wasn’t talking to me and pushing me away.
This truly helps with understanding these types of disorders while researching cognitive behavioral psychology❤
This video opened my eyes! I’ve lived for the past 20+ years knowing my Ex husband was a psychopath but your explanation of why he didn’t and still doesn’t feel bad about the things he did to me AND to our kids has really helped me to understand. Thank you for this video!
I had a dad with ASPD, so my siblings and I suffered a tremendous amount of abuse. Even with all that I turned out to be compassionate and very concerned about the suffering of others. One of my siblings turned out to have ASPD. So, it takes more than abuse to cause it. I ended up with depression and other problems, but not ASPD.There are plenty of kids that have been severely traumatized that don’t have antisocial personality disorder.
I have a mom with ASPD. I have CPTSD and AfDD.
I too had a father with something like ASPD. One thing about him was that there was no such thing as being a child, and he had 5 of them. We were expected to behave like fully grown adults. We were supposed to be able to function like an adult, be as smart as he was, and he was very smart, and not to express emotion. Our mother OTOH, was our saving grace but she died when we were all mostly teenagers. Enter major trauma. As a result I think we all ended up with various neuroses.
Ah yeah, this. I had a really rough childhood/adolescence, i was mentally and physically abused in horrendous ways, but still I have always been a very sensitive person to the feelings of others, I try to understand others and i care about how i make them feel, so i think so yeah, ASPD goes beyond being just abused. Some people just likes to use their tragic backstory as an excuse for their poor behavior, some ppl are just bad because they choose to.
Both of my siblings aspd, I have no personality disorder. They're male and I'm not. That makes a difference.
That's basically what he said in the clip. It isn't just one thing.
I truly can't imagine not having empathy or anxiety. These experiences are such a fundamental part of how I experience life that it's harder to comprehend that even blindness. My existence must be just as foriegn to people who lack these.
As someone with this disorder I thought it was just normal and everyone was masking to fit in. Once I got diagnosed I realized that I in fact was different and have to actually think about right and wrong a lot more than “normal people” and the way the anxiety thing was explained to me is I do have anxiety but it shows up differently on me than how other’s experience it
@@1amSam everyone “masks” to a certain extent.
Especially the empathetic, masking empathy prevents borders being purposely crossed to manipulate an empathic.
@@1amSam You are not a psychopath, not even close. 🤣 Nice try though, you got 9 gullible people to like your comment so far.
@@tupakkaonhyvaa 1.2% of men and .3-.7% of women are psychopaths so idk why you think it is impossible that this person is a psychopath.
I’m continually amazed over how much information this man can retain. I did psychology in university fifteen years ago and find the subject of brain chemistry fascinating. Still, I had to watch this documentary about four times before I was able to grasp this perfectly and be able to explain it with some competence to another.
Omg I was thinking the same thing.. I am amazed.
An interesting video. I am fascinated with true crime and learning about why serial killers commit their crimes. It was also interesting learning the difference’s between psychopaths and sociopaths, and how neurological and environmental factors can affect the workings of the brain. As an introvert, I have always felt empathy and remorse for my actions and don’t see myself as a particularly aggressive person. I have psychological tests performed by a psychologist and it revealed I am not a sociopath. I am also a parent of a 21 year old daughter and yes you’re right parenting is a terribly difficult but rewarding experience. I was one of the lucky ones in that my daughter survived her teen years relatively unscathed. She has had her moments of course, but an angel compared with other girls her age and she has a maturity beyond her years. She is doing very well and I am enormously proud of her. Even after 21 years of parenting, I ‘m still learning but the love doesn’t stop once they’re grown up.
You are a good Mother and you should feel really good about that. My Mom is too
As someone with ADHD I'd really love for you guys to do a breakdown of the current understanding of the ADHD Brain based off of real studies
I second this proposal.
Check out Alie Ward's podcast Ologies, she did an episode with Russell Barkley, the world's foremost expert on ADHD. It's really, informative!
Yes 🥰
Listen to the Huberman Lab podcast on ADHD
Petition signed
This described my sister, no empathy, no problem hurting someone, no problem using people for her ends, no problem lying & making up stories, enjoyed public shaming others for giggles, extremely smart and well educated, happy to damage property, would sed**uce the boyfriends & fiancé’s of her friends for fun, not a drop of remorse for anything.
I also know of a female such as this, who has caused a great deal of pain: I would go further and observe a touch of sadism in her. After all, since psychopathy and grandiose narcissism is on a spectrum, so is sadism and other evil traits. Very much learned, since they see others getting away with so much (And "family culture".)
Wow - my sister is similar. Reactive attachment disorder (environmental in her case) No empathy and she will do anything for money or bully people with lawsuits.
Sounds like my sister in law to a t.
This is just normal women behavior
@@Lyachos sorry that you've always had psychopathic women in your life
Exceptionally well-rounded video harnessing his own wealth of experience and combining this with the current evidence from psychology-genetics-morality-research to convey “distilled potions of wisdom”. A brilliant video; highly informative and worth recommending. 5 Star rating.
My mother had severe childhood trauma and shes a very difficult person but she does have a conscience. Childhood trauma breeds bad things.
I experienced a lot of trauma as a kid. I have never had my brain scanned for these hardwire defects that you describe, but I have no reason to believe I have a different than normal brain. However, due to the trauma I endured, I absolutely had no empathy, no conception of right or wrong, and little to no remorse or guilt as a young child. My mother definitely had to instill these values into me. I had to learn empathy and guilt, etc. Now I think most people would describe me as a good person and I don't believe I portray traits of sociopathy. But even to this day, my first inclination to certain situations is not empathy, I may not be drawn to the 'right' choice naturally. I have to take a second to remind myself to do the right thing or to feel a certain way. I definitely agree with another commenter that empathy, moral values, remorse, and so forth can be learned.
So do you really "feel" (like rage or orgasm) bad when you hurt someone you care about? Or you pretend?
Glad to hear that you still work to do the right thing even though you don't feel like it. Also as was pointed out in the video psycopaths believe that there this nothing wrong with them, so even though you believe your brain is normal that doesn't account for much
@Brandy Balloon *[ just going off your comment ]*
I can understand why you might think the way you do about empathy...
- However, empathy has multiple forms _(with the two most basic forms being: cognitive empathy, and emotional empathy)._
- Unlike emotional empathy, cognitive empathy isn't something people are just handed at birth. That means we all have to actually put in the effort to learn about things like: society, moral philosophy, and humanity.
*Fact Check Me* ✅
_...because random people online tend to hold intellectually narrow and emotionally shallow views on human psychology (including myself)_
@Brandy Balloon
- *Cognitive empathy* - is the ability to understand where someone else is coming from, which gives people a perspective sense of what something *could* be like for them.
- *Emotional empathy* - is the experiential mirroring of the emotional states being displayed by others; potentially extending into physical sensations.
- *Compassionate empathy* - is when both cognitive and emotional empathy are equally expressed.
When someone experiences compassionate empathy they aren't intellectually distant observers (purely affective empathy), nor are they overcome with emotions (purely somatic empathy).
Working in the hospital has taught me a hard life lesson about maintaining healthy emotional boundaries with people. We can keep our empathy for others -- without actually _feeling emotional_ for them. 🙂
@@NeonCicada Thank you for this explanation, it makes a lot of sense.
I think that if we had the ability to go in and "fix" the hardware that was "wrong" with a person's brain it would become a slippery slope of who to "fix". If a psychopath doesn't think there is anything wrong with their brain, do we have a moral obligation to do nothing because we don't have their permission to "fix" them? Or do we have a moral obligation to society to go ahead and "fix" their brain anyway?
I love the videos and learn a lot. Thank you.
The answer is - "we have a moral obligation to do nothing because we don't have their permission to "fix" them".
The reason is simple. He have been down the other road before. That's how we got eugenics. Hard pass, thanks.
they're psychopaths. not robots. i feel like someone who is aware that they suffer from some kind of psychopathy would prefer to have it changed.
@@boponthewee7585 with all the pain in the world why would anyone who doesn't empathize want to feel all that? Sounds great to at most think "huh that sucks for them" then move on knowing some crappy things are right and not having to be bothered by the emotional parts. Imo humanity as a whole would be better off if psychopathy was the norm...
Ya we should start with OP he sounds like his brain is programmed for gay and we can fix him.
@Danette Fehringer - Not without consent. Would that it were so easy as fiddling with the brain. It's not a structural problem, it's a biochemical problem. And the biochemistry of the brain is extremely complex.
The best thing to do for integrating sociopaths successfully its increased understanding like you've provided. If others see you as dangerous your options are to be dangerous, or normalize hiding who you are. We can be a part of society even if we're different. We can accept others feel things we don't. We can all understand others better even knowing they'll never be like us.
I agree with you 💯 regarding your POV about parenting and being a good role model. My mom was one of the kindest human being i know, she may have flaws but she taught me to be a good person and to have a good moral compass. I was molested by a relative and i know now that without my mom’s care, i would have lost my path. Life has been tough but thanks to my upbringing, I’m not full of bitterness and live a good life.
It’s just sad that more and more people now are becoming so selfish and are focused on one’s own happiness; deprioritizing their families/children. 😢
I had a conversation with a diagnosed psychopath who was sick of being lumped in with violent sociopaths. She had had therapy and , kudos to her therapist and parents, could rationalise the benefits of social behaviour., even kindness, without emotions. I have heard before that psychopaths behaviour can be greatly influenced by their upbringing. Their learned behaviour. It would be nice to see society value kindness more than things we used to see as vices, in the common people. Like narcissism, vanity, greed and materialism. The world's moral compass is not just broken, it has been smashed to pieces. We are allowing unchecked psychopaths and sociopaths to run things. We willingly make them rich and powerful, we even vote for them to define whole countries' ethics, And this, I believe, is why most of the world wonder at least once a day who has been putting crazy pills in the water. Kindness, compassion, community (tribal) spirit over constant self gratification. If these are not priorities for someone, or if they can't even comprehend these things, that person needs to be tested for an ASPD. If you're reading this and it rings true of you, get help. Be better.
You nailed it. Best commentary on the cause of this insanity. In the past, there were codes of conduct that were expected from people in positions of authority. Breaking that code revealed character flaws that rendered the person to be undeserving of that position. Today, vices not virtues, are glorified. The same traits that were once shunned are celebrated. And as you pointed out, this collective celebration, instead of rejection, has put the psychopath on top of the social pyramid. And their psychopathic values are rippling down into every sector of society - politics, entertainment, justice, medicine, etc. I advocate for a zero tolerance policy for narcissistic and psychopathic behavior. Setting boundaries and consequences is key to stopping these behaviors early on.
Agree! You nailed it.
@@Amadeus_2061 agree with you.
No amount of therapy will change them. They will just have a better understanding of what they can exploit to get what they want. Psychopaths shouldn’t be in society, let alone leading it. They’re animals feigning humanity. We should do with them what we do with other aggressive rabid animals
@@aidenknight6948 I agree with your sentiments 100%. I would argue the same for narcissists.
Dont ever call your child stupid ever, not once! Consider how much you program your child, its unavoidable as a parent, but if monitored it can be minimal and positively productive. Very insightful video, thank you.
I have ALWAYS been fascinated with human anatomy.
I have always thought of the whole body working as a perfectly synchronized symphony .Im so happy to finally hear someone describe the brain function perfectly..thank you for your videos❤🧠
Not a good person at all. And the girls sound extremely broken too. To be in that situation and now babies and the beat goes on
I work with children overcoming trauma, and it is SO hard undoing all of the messiness! Success rate is about 50/50 with the children I’ve seen 😬
Gotta keep trying though!
This video is so fascinating, thank you guys! ❤
I just have to say Thank you for the work you do. I wish I had had someone like you when I was growing up. I underwent profound trauma as a child over 15 years. We're talking physical, mental, and sexual, abuse at the hands of my brother and my family. I've undergone TMS, years upon years of therapy, EMDR, and recently started Ketamine Infusion Therapy - nothing quite has made me feel "normal" in any way, and because of years of suppressing emotions I've become incapable of feeling "positive" emotions like excitement, happiness, etc. I've had more than one therapist say that It is a miracle i'm not in prison or dead. If i had been able to work with someone like you, I think things would be a little different in a good way.
You should look into toxins exposure and inability to cope. We are all getting exposed to toxins and the effects are different. But look into changes in diet to lower inflammation and also check their environment for mold and other toxins like lead.
@@musuyanguba4226 ... what... does that have to do with either the OP or what i said? Profound physical and emotional trauma has nothing to do with mold exposure or the inability to cope, if it's responding to the OP about working with children. If it's in response to me? Kindly, Fuck Off, for minimizing the absolute hell and torture that was the first 15-20 years of my life. I doubt my eating meat has anything to do with the pain that i receive from the burn scar on my back from when my brother tied me down, poured gasoline and set me on fire. It has nothing to do with seeing my brother murder my cat when i was 7 and tell me if i don't do what he says he'll do the same to me. It has nothing to do with my mother keeping me in a basement for 8 years, or being beaten with crown royal bottles, or being gang raped by my brother and 7 of his friends when i was 9, or having 4 ribs broken alongside 5 fingers, my collar bone, and my femur broken when they got bored of raping me and started to hit me with a baseball bat. And that's BARELY scratching the surface of how my life began.
50/50 is a lot more than the 0/100 that it would be if it weren't for people in positions like yourself!
Do you ever work with children who do not have trauma but who still exhibit psychopathic traits?
I like the portion at the end about parents. To anyone who’s a parent, get help immediately if you’re struggling with anything such as depression, anxiety, anger, addiction, etc. You’ll make such a profound difference in your kid’s lives. We’re extremely fortunate to have resources available to us that prior generations never had. Stable family life + children = peaceful society
50% of children live with single mothers...its all going to plan hehehe
Exactly! Not everyone should be a parent or we see the results.
Those resources cost a significant amount of money.
People typically don't get help because of a huge lack of availability due to the ridiculous costs of seeking treatment. It's becoming even more rare for insurance to cover mental health services. A lot of people will still tell you it's a choice even though information like this video prove it's so much more complex than that.
@@Goldiibug yeah, and any time I search depression, it automatic points me to suicide prevention. Like wtf, just because I have depression doesn't mean I'm suicidal. Where the depression help? I guess I will buy a psychedelic mushroom grow kit.
Even without empathy, teaching people what is the right way to do things, can at least lead to a thought process regarding some sort of decency. As someone who could be described as a psychopath, the real reason why I am not a dangerous individual, despite being an extremely aggressive and violent child, is because the parents who adopted me at less than 5, even though due to my behavioural problems they later put me in a children's home at 11, they gave me great examples of what a human is supposed to be. This resulted in a mental paradigm shift for me after much thought until the age of 13, to the degree where I decided that acting in society as a "good person" was of significant value to me, regardless of how I felt personally. After years of volunteering and now working as a charity employee, I can say that the grandiose narcissist part of my superego seems to be fully satiated by those who know me saying that I am a decent person, so clearly, if people want psychopaths to do something useful other than being saviours in live fire military scenarios, teaching them what a good person is before the age of 6 and pushing them towards some sort of self sacrificial endeavour at a very young age through personal demonstration and then praising them directly for positive action is probably a good plan.
I think people have to change their wording when talking to someone with sociopathy or psychopathy
instead of saying “sharing your things is good for others!” I think we should say “if you share your things, you will get good boy points from society”
Yes.Even people without psycho trait can be violent if we dont teach them properly. So,good upbringing is very important.
@@tiramisu7544 I don't think we should be telling people with a disorder how to talk about their disorder. They were advocating for good upbringingd to counter the effects of their genetics.
@Rose Hirstius re-read their comment
You are not psychopath if you care if others call you a good person. The concept of "good" or "decent" doesn't exist for them. They can explain what it means, sure. But without moral compass it has no value. In ASPD an image is important only to be able to manipulate people. I think your problem rather is that you lacked attention as a child and got a label of an agressive and destructive, which made you believe that you are. And now you are trying to compensate for that.
27:09 "Be bttr parents. It's a tall order." "Every day is a lesson on my own insecurities & issues that I need to get over w/. "
Justin, So true & so well put!
Very interesting and comprehensive content on psychopaths. Congratulations on the birth of your 2nd child! Happy Father's Day Justin❣️
As for the parental aspect, this is one of the many reasons why it is SO IMPORTANT for a person to be MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY and FINANCIALLY prepared before raising a child. It is never going to be what you expect it to be, there will always be huge curveballs and the parent needs to have the resilience to push through anything, to make sure their child's wellbeing is at the forefront
THIS!!!
or have social systems and communities that can work together to ensure a child’s needs and development are being reached. placing it all on just a few people to be or quickly become better and well adjusted when fertility and generational trauma are already an established reality, would be impractical and irrational. building systems and communities that can cooperatively provide and ensure all children have adequate development would be more effective going forward.
especially now with established and looming abortion bans. idk what your knowledge is on it, but forced birthing (along with banning contraceptives) will guarantee rearing in unstable environments where generational trauma will continue to pass down through all inevitable birthing and rearing scenarios.
That's why it takes a village to raise a child. In the US we don't have government (the village) structures that support child-raising. Mothers are forced to go to work and dump their babies in low-quality day care at one or two months of age. And it costs more than many can even make if they have more than one young child. Women and mothers both need way more outside support to properly attend their families, including full education in parenting and child psychology. Fathers also need support in terms of parenting and child psychology education and workplace flexibility as well as time to be fathers. It's really more about parental support by society than mother/father or women/men separate support. It's about child support in the broader sense.
This truth is one more reason why I am pro choice: a child should be wanted by parents who are prepared to do the job adequately. And there simply aren’t enough adoptions occurring to cover the number of unwanted children that will be born should abortion be banned. Banning abortion will hurt children.
@@slopraglopra2590 Yes it will!
I really love the last part where you shared your opinions about parenting. React less, respond more, couldn't have said it any better. Our children deserve good parents.
Having children is immoral.
@Talen antinatalism is evolutionarily unfit, and cringe.
@@jlllx wym
if that's the case, then there should be robust laws in protecting people's right to access contraception, abortion services, and even full-on vasectomy/castration or tubal ligation/hysterectomy for those who WANT THEM and KNOW they will suck as parents. ALSO, mandate comprehensive sex education, parental education, and subsidize raising families so finances won't be a burden to the lot of them, which is where most of the trauma comes from.
i'd also go as far as mandating parental licenses, and sterilization as punishment for individuals who're most likely to be (if not reporduce) the next Hitler on our hands, but i know that's a slippery slope to tread on. i can't help but feel that way, though; they have cause so much pain and suffering throughout the world, and i'm sick of it to the point of ending the world and starting over again...
Congratulations on the new addition. This is a very informative video. Thank you!
I dated a guy who is a narcissist. If I told him a weakness or fear, he would use it against me in insidious ways. He would lie constantly and craved being seen as perfect by strangers. He would shower strangers he met with adoration on social media and go on about how great they are, but would revel in withholding any compliment from me. He would smirk if he made me cry. It was pure hell.
I'm a neuroscientist and what's interesting is recent discoveries in regards to regret in people with ASPD and "Psycopathy". We've been able to determine that they do, in fact, experience regret, which means that they HAVE to feel empathy because one is a prerequisite for the other. Where the breakdown lies is in the cingulate, because it seems to effectively "block" the ability for what activity does exist in the VMPFC to take into account feelings of regret in the moment. In short the proper connections between the VMPFC and the cingulate, and/or the cingulate to the limbic system is simply not there or functioning at such a low level the emotional intelligence doesn't get a say in decision making.
What is so interesting about this is various nuclei in the cingulate are implicated heavily in conditions like ADHD where the aMCC, MCC, pACC, dPCC are all implicated in specific aspects of the derangement of attention, motor, and executive functioning network circuits. The cingulate is somewhat criminally understudied because for so long people have viewed it as sort of this interconnection space and looked for origins of problems either outside of it (PFC, all the surface corticies) or inside of it (the limbic system) and it's only recently that the idea of "the origin is in the interconnect" is becoming a serious topic of discussion.
As a neuroscientist how do you explain cases such as found in Dr. Hare's book, "Without Conscience", where two females, identical twins, raised in a non traumatic, supportive, and relatively well adjusted household, and one is clearly and strongly ASPD and the other is not? This crosses out both the genetic/chromosome/brain aspect, and the trauma aspect, which are the two most mentioned causes.
What is left? Science will not fully understand some things until it opens up its mind to the possibility of the nonphysical and that of consciousness being primary and matter being derived from consciousness and not the other way around. When one understands that this physical reality is but one dimension within a larger reality of many dimensions, and understands that quantum entanglement strongly/obviously implies data/info connection between everything, then one can account for every so called "woo woo", mystical, spiritual, etc type experience and belief system known to humanity. (Interestingly, most of the founding fathers of quantum physics actually held such so called "woo woo" beliefs and leanings of one kind or another, and some of them expected the "spooky" and so called irrational findings ahead of time).
Okey, but what if you give to a psychopath (I mean someone with an altered nervous system) a very happy childhood, with both his / her parents, full attention, and love?
@@vegetossgss1114 if you do this, then you get someone who was exposed to a rich emotional environment, but who simply can't experience the full range of what has been presented because their brains aren't wired for it.
regret is not the same as guilt or remorse. regret is feeling bad for choices that have a negative impact on oneself. for example, "I regret being honest with you".
Im planning to do my PhD in neuroscience as well
My father is a narcissistic psychopath. I got so used to his gaslighting and abuse that I didn't know that it wasn't normal. I had to cut him out of my life and am now in therapy to undo his damage.
Congrats on your baby!
@@diabolivirtusen-tavares-ea4645 🤢
@@diabolivirtusen-tavares-ea4645 omg your joke is so funny i just died of laughter
Good luck with your new life ❤️
@@diabolivirtusen-tavares-ea4645 👻
From my own personal experiences I deeply understand your comment. It's like expecting bad behavior from everyone and when it never 'shows up', because the other's aren't manipulating or degrading you it really does make you feel odd.
It's THEN when you realize that what's been happening isn't typical/normal and that you've been abused/neglected.
I wish you well 🙂 take care.
The bearded guy on the couch at 15:45 may be the deepest thinker I've ever seen in my life.
This is one of the most intriguing videos yall have made. I've always wanted answers to psychopath minds. So informing. Thank you.
As someone with depression I can, unfortunately, understand how someone could lack a psychological capacity to experience some state - Empathy for psychopaths and, in my case, happiness. I have never understood happiness, joy, elation. I have felt hedonic satisfaction such as food, music etc but the actual state of happiness is a mystery to me. I see ppl happy about slaving to a job, a house, a family and so on and I think what a nightmare. This applies to psychopaths but in their case empathy. Ppl think I choose to be depressed which is so nonsensical. No one would choose depression, at least not for a significant amount of time (some accuse depressives of taking on a victim personality) and I dont think psychopaths choose to lack empathy.
I know. People can be so ignorant.
Actually studies have shown psycopaths can feel empathy and use that part of the brain.
They "choose" not to. It's easier NOT to feel bad for other people. It's easier to live without a single care how your actions affect others.
The question is how can we treat this disorder by making someone feel empathy? How do you force someone to feel empathy?
Empathy naturally means feeling bad sometimes about other people's situations. How do you get someone to willing feel bad by being empathetic?
The answer is you don't. You can't cure a psycopath, period. Dangerous ones that enjoy killing or raping deserve life sentences at the minimum. Consequences like prison mean nothing. All you can do is protect the rest of society.
Those "good" psycopaths are the extremely toxic people that cause other people mental trauma.
Avoid them at all costs. Toxic work environments often have at least 1 psycopath. No job or money is worth the damage they cause.
"I see ppl happy about slaving to a job, a house, a family and so on and I think what a nightmare" i have the same problem and i dont even have depression anymore. In my case is because i am highly intelligent and have existential crisis, for people with average iq is easier to be happy because they dont question existence,where life came from, the universe, death, and live like robots
depression: find the best drug(s) that work for u. I can tell u a few that worked for me after testing a lot of antidepressants seroxat and wellbutrin
psychopaths: they don't choose to lack empathy (i lack empathy too but yet im one of the kindest people u will ever meet) but they choose to be horrible people and most psychopaths have below average iq and don't ever think theres something wrong with them and that's because the low iq brain has poor self awareness
@@amarketing8749 But still, they're able to choose not to feel bad, right? This is a defect quite likely related to the part of the brain illustrated in the video. I, likely you, dont have this capacity to choose not to feel remorse and that part of our brain is likely 'lighting up' when we do something bad. As with depression, I dont choose not to enjoy a sunset, a bike ride, a movie, a trip somewhere, I simply dont enjoy things anymore where I once did. Although the science is not exact, they are zeroing in on commonanilities in brain patterns and locations of ppl with depression that indicate deficiencies.
@@ShowMeYoBoob this comment is so laced with superiority. I often have existential thoughts but can appreciate the fact that we have to work and earn a living in the world we live in. In fact, to me, it’s idiotic to use existential crisis as an excuse to not do anything.
Props to the psychopath who handed his own brain for our knowledge.
Right
Not sure if that was specifically a psychopaths brain. He didn't really compare normal to psychopathic brains.
@@UHFStation1 woosh
@@UHFStation1He needs to do a video on the brain of somebody with autism. Mind handing your brain?
@@UHFStation1funny you have 7 upvotes and the others have 0
Thank you, this video moved me to tears.
I love the way you are able to compare how neurons work with real life scenarios! You are awesome!
You absolutely hit the nail on the head about parenting. We desperately need more education for current and future parents in child development and emotional self-regulation. I believe it would 100% change the world for the better. Great video.
he's playing with peoples brains again
@@chopholtz4950 here have a cookie and some porn
Too bad there are just as many parents who dont care how their children grows up or putting time and effort in being there for them
@@chopholtz4950people aren’t even learning the basics anymore (reading, writing, grammar, spelling, math) and you expect psychology to be offered? What about those parents who “home school” their kids? They have NO formal education with instruction let alone a strong grasp of specific subject matter, so how would those people teach that topic?
@@chopholtz4950Most wars are actually logical in that governments want resources and are willing to sacrifice their population to obtain those resources. Wars starting is almost always anything but emotional
I wrote an essay version of this video for those who find reading helpful. You can read it or add to it if you'd like, but I did this because I found it very helpful for me personally.
There is no official diagnosis of psychopathy and sociopathy. These are both just terms that communicate behavioral symptoms. Theses terms fall under the category of antisocial personality disorder (APD). APD itself is categorized by impulsive, irresponsible and often criminal behavior and is only one of four personality disorders that fall under the broader Cluster B category. This category includes borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorders. APD could be seen as the worst of these four disorders because it can involve some of the traits associated within the other disorders on top of its own unique characteristics.
Psychopathy can be seen as the end result of physical conditions (such as the nervous system) combined with environmental conditions, while sociopathy is almost purely a product of environmental conditions. It's important to note that experiences like childhood trauma can alter the nervous system to produce these more psychopathic traits.
To understand the brain of a psychopath we need to understand serotonin. Serotonin is a monoamine neurotransmitter or neuromodulator. When it’s released it causes, stops, or changes a signal or how it works. When serotonin is released at the synapse (the location where two or more neurons communicate), it leaves the pre synaptic neuron first (the first neuron) then enters into a space between the neurons called the synaptic cleft. Serotonin then leaves the presynaptic neuron and goes into synaptic cleft where it binds into receptors on the post synaptic neuron.
Depending on location, type of neuron and other factors, serotonin initiates something, inhibits something, or alters activity within that synapse. Now the serotonin is reabsorbed into the pre synaptic neuron (a process known as reuptake), but some remains in the synaptic cleft, so the body breaks that down with monoamine oxidase. This combination of reuptake and breakdown takes serotonin out of the synapse temporarily, once the synapse needs to fire again you get the proper response because you know how much serotonin is going to be present.
Activity of this enzyme (monoamine oxidase) is coded by the MAOA gene on an x chromosome. There can be different versions or alleles of this gene, MAOA-H or MAOA-L, the h stands for high activity and the l for low activity. Most psychopaths have the low functioning variant of MAOA gene, which is more associated with aggression and violence. Sometimes entire family lines have the gene knocked out so they don’t breakdown serotonin on the synapse at all. So as we discussed psychopaths tend to have the lower functioning version of the MAOA gene means less serotonin is being broken down or degraded after its reuptake.
Some may be confused because serotonin is seen as happy neurotransmitter. After all, SSRIs are the go to anti-depressants which limit how much serotonin is reabsorbed into presynaptic neuron. As we discussed, the low functioning MAOA produces less of the enzyme needed for serotonin to be broken down, so shouldn't the psychopath be happier? Biology isn't that simple, it's a complex system and no single neurotransmitter is solely responsible for anything. They simply play roles in different behaviors and emotions by working with other hormones and neurotransmitters.
Back to the MAOA gene: The MAOA gene is located on X chromosome. Females have two X chromosomes, and males have XY. You get one X from your mother, and either an X or Y from father. If you're following, you see that the father determines the sex of child because he can either give you an X or Y chromosome. Most psychopaths as you can imagine are male. If a female has the low activity variant (MAOA-L, the warrior gene) on one X chromosome and not the other, then they cancel each other out and aggressive behavior won’t display.
Because males only have one X chromosome if they have the warrior gene passed down from the mother there won't be another X chromosome to cancel it out, so females appear less likely to become psychopathic because both of their X chromosomes must have this variant. Although of course, simply having the MAOA-L gene doesn’t make you psychopathic and aggressive. The combination of environmental conditions along with brain alterations that are likely a product of serotonin alterations during brain development play very large factors.
The best data we have surrounding APD comes from pet scans which scan the "metabolism" of brain, displaying which areas are metabolically active while experiencing specific types of thoughts and emotions. When people with APD are given pet scans and asked questions about moral dilemmas, they found low activity in their prefrontal cortex and in the limbic system (containing the amygdala and hippocampus). When patients are asked about for example, a scenario involving a young child losing both parents, 99% of people would see areas responsible for morality and empathy light up in the anterior cingulate cortex and ventromedial prefrontal cortex which are strongly linked to morality and empathy, but with sociopaths and psychopaths these areas in the brain are underactive to the point where you can argue they may not feel any empathy at all.
The Dorsolateral prefrontal cortex (DLPFC) is the last region in brain to develop in a human being. This involves rational decision making and is our risk assessment center. Other regions in the brain give feedback to the DLPFC, helping us learn how to respond to ethical issues. When the brain is developing and serotonin is reduced, if these areas that relay information to the DLPFC aren’t active that is going to change how synapses are formed in this region. This means to a psychopath their behavior does not seem irrational. They don’t feel bad when they do something wrong like stealing or hurting someone because their brain is processing the information the way it would for a regular person.
But of course these are just specific factors that can contribute to psychopathy. You need something else on top of all these factors to be a psychopath. To crumble to the ground you need environmental conditions to cause that devastation. This can be caused through factors like childhood trauma which can shift the DLPFC to cause aberrations in other areas in the brain to where they become low functioning, so you can get the result of psychopathy based purely on environment.
Both psychopaths and sociopaths lack empathy but have little to no anxiety (resulting from a low functioning amygdala), although sociopaths may feel greater levels of anxiety or rage than psychopaths who typically feel none. Their lower fear of risk coupled with lowered ability to feel empathy and shame along with their ability to still experience the euphoric highs produced by dopamine and adrenaline and other neurotransmitters cause the sociopath or psychopath to be much more willing to engage in behaviors that harm others.
One major difference between psychopaths and sociopaths are that psychopaths are typically more calculating and less reactionary. They try to blend in with those around them. CEOs are often psychopathic. Sociopaths are more abrasive and reactionary, and are more willing to do things just to do them. They may not mind showing that they’re cruel or manipulating. There are also other genes that haven't been discussed that may play a role in sociopathy and psychopathy.
Well.. they threaten society.
Thank you so much for this! :)
@@christensenkey7512 That would leave your mark on the world in a cool way for many to forever behold.
Great job!
Thank you for that, I think that I must re read and try to put all the information into the right boxes for me to assimilate all your insightful info a way for me to get to grips with that “spaghetti” bowl (I’m looking for the start of the spaghetti). Sorry, I’ve always had a problem with comprehension. Having said all that I’ll have to read again until I find the start of the spaghetti, a bit like getting a peek around the curtain of Normal. But I will try to get back to you when I’ve unscrambled my spaghetti, but thank you for that.
Totally agree with your reasoning on respond rather than react. 😊
This was actually very informative and had me glued. Definitely subscribing
Wow, I was diagnosed as APD (also PTSD) but I'm definitely empathetic, I just prefer being alone and work alone. I don't mind small interactions or working with others but I do shy away from friendships and relationships. I did grow up in a very violent environment and myself can act out violently if provoked w/ violence or threatened. That being said, I find joy in being kind/polite and helpful to others I just don't hold back when threatened and do have a certain amount of regret.
Yeah not all people with ASPD are bad evil american psycho people ive met a bunch and they can b pretty chill. Cluster B disorders are soo stigmatised, it annoys me a lot having BPD myself
@@jauume Who cares? Its much more profitable to stigmatise these things
This is a brilliant way of describing the dilemma. Nature vs nurture.
I have two adopted son (same biological mother).
There are many things that I'm having to teach them that just came "naturally" to my older children.
Being a well informed parent makes the why of behavior a bit easier to handle.
Early childhood trauma sure does suck.
I'm so glad you had a good outcome.
I have borderline personality disorder and I have empathy, I am kind/ polite to people but if a person comes at me a certain way I will match their same energy. With BPD I don't have alot of close friendships because I have a severe fear of being abandoned. I agree with you as well I do have a certain amount of regret too. My BPD is the result from Continued Complex PTSD. It is a survival instinct my brain developed to protect me as a child.
@@sonice9020 these are ppl
The first part was really interesting to me.
I’m not a psychopath, but I had unregulated type 1 diabetes for a good chunk of my life. My blood sugar was above 11.0 constantly, which boosted up my serotonin, making it unnaturally high. Not only that, but I was given SSRIs for my anxiety caused by my high serotonin levels, just making it worse.
I just remember feeling nothing for anyone. I always struggled in relationships since I never actually felt any care for the other person. My dad got colon cancer and I was only bummed because I’d have to spend more time with my mom. I tried to fake it, for myself too because I wanted to be someone who cried or felt strong emotions, I just wasn’t able to.
It’s only been recently that I’ve been fixing my blood sugars and taking Wellbutrin with Vyvance and trying to figure out how tf to deal with stress and genuine love and all this shit I never had. It’s kinda sick, I love bawling my eyes out to an even mildly sad movie now.
That's soo great!! Hope you get even better 🌈🌈🌈
Tambem.nao consigo chorar ou sentir emocoes desde meus 13 anos , com 15 desenvolvi desrealizaçao. Tenho 40 e uma vida muito infeliz
Wow thanks for sharing. Your explanation make so much sense.
Wow It’s crazy how other medical issues could affect how your brain secretes chemicals that influence your behavior
good for you! i hope you have many more tears of all kinds to come.
Thank you so much for this very evidence based and humanly approached video! We need to watch it several times for the information to sink in!
Beautiful way to deliver this lesson. Thank you
I had a boss once who in hindsight I think was a psycopath. He changed management jobs every two or three years. People were like throw-away lighters, to be use and tossed away. He also decided the way he wanted something to be and then would go to amazingly extreme lengths to make that so. Such as impregnating a subordinate and deciding he did not want to be the father so he investigated her life to find someone who could possibly be the father even though he knew with no doubt he was the father. When he called me years later and accused me of being the father -- of this coworker' child -- I said if that if I'm the father there is a new star in the east. Then DNA testing came along (and he was the father though it took eight years of legal work to get him tested. That proved it. The selfish bastard never saw the child, even when he was on his death bed with cancer.
That sounds more narcissistic than anything
That's a sad story. Personally I'm very paranoid and refused to sign the paternity paper until the DNA-test was done, but abandoning your own flesh and blood like that is just sickening.
He didn't deserve to be involved with a child. Guys like him truly don't care about their children.
There's a new more descriptive term for the disorder we call them "assholes"
Glad his child got spared of his abrasive personality, I don't think it would have benefitted in any way from getting to know this man.
It is interesting to note that nearly every serial killer had a traumatic brain injury - and many occured in their childhood. Also, research on CTE ( like in professional athletes) shows the link between brain abnormalities and violent behavior. I believe that in many instances if CT scans were done on the brains of people in maximum security prisons/ death row and regular citizens HUGE differences would be found.
Brian injury/damage is definitely not a prerequisite. I mean there's definitely an evolutionary advantages to psychopathy.
It's "technically a good thing" (for the tribe) to have a group of people that are ready and willing to go to other unrelated tribes and raid, kill, burn and pillage.
@@matthewclaridge8063 ANYONE can do that. It doesn't require a special brain injury. Psychopathy is purely a negative, it's a defect in perception, like autism.
@@Sheseasyouthere LoL. People do tend to switch off when the words "burn and pillage" pop up....
Let me try and rephrase.
Brutal individuals (and their groups) are at an evolutionary advantage in desperate circumstances where there is violent and bloody competition for survival and reproduction.
The guy who developed the list of psychopathic traits did do his research in prisons with a mobile scanner. His book is fascinating. I remember it as Psychopaths are born. Sociopaths are made.
Traumatic childhood most of them had , but not traumatic brain injury. That's 2 different ones ,, one is emotional, the other is physical injury.
Only channel that I will sit and watch a 30+ minute video and not skip stuff. I have always been fascinated by all of it and I have always wondered how some can think the way they do but the same time I am always trying to learn why I think the way I do. The environment definitely effects how you are or what you can or will become. I thought the end was a little interesting though, as a kid and teen I had friends and family claim I would become a Psychopath lol but I actually have a lot of empathy and more so in the last couple of years. I have always had traits from all and I used to be a lot more aggressive, angry etc. A couple of years ago I finally changed a lot of things including my environment, now I am happier, dont get angry as much, became successful and I am trying to be that parent who makes the change with mine. Raising kids is definitely tough, I want to scream and pull my hair out all the time.
I love how all of your content is tailored to different styles of learning (visual, auditory, and even being able to imagine I’m there and able to touch the cadaver). Keep it up!! ❤
What's scary is that we have very little control over what happens inside our brains. I think so much of what we tend to think is with in someones control is actually about how the brain was made and how it developed.
That's why I try not to judge anyone. You never know what people are struggling with.
@@raiden306 Very good point. I do try to keep that in mind. Sometimes its not easy.
I think the point near the end of this video is that you can control the environment. That affects the bran development.
Yeah so scary. Eek
We humans are complex configurations of matter. We have no more control over our biology than we do the stars in the night sky.
You're method of teaching is wonderful. Articulate, emotions, and delivery is spot on and so natural. Thanks much for the info.
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I absolutely agree
What do you mean when you say that he is a method of teaching?
I am not a method.
@@svendbentjensen5512
Are you joking? You’ve never been to school and noticed that teachers can have different styles of teaching and different success rates of students tuning in/paying close attention?
This is one of The Best videos I.ve seen on this subiect
WOW! 😮 That was absolutely fascinating! 😊 I Learned a LOT. I will probably go over it a few more times. I realize some of it was opinion, but it made a lot of sense to me. You did a great job explaining some difficult concepts. Thank you!!!👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😊
My kids and I have autism, I often hear people say that we don't feel emotions. We do feel an awful lot, we just process it differently. We also may react differently. I think that the people with autism that are more based within their own world may seem to not notice what's going on around them, but things do impact on them, they may just not show it in the same way. We certainly have a lot of anxiety. So we are not in any way like psychpaths. Love this video, really interesting and taught me a lot more about how psychopaths and sociopaths are created.
I think the analysis behind autism is starting to lean toward autistic people being overly empathetic/emotional to the point of shutting down. Which is probably where the “lack of emotion” came from.
@@lekiscool incredibly insightful, and correct. My Aspergers diagnosis, and the typical social problems that are so common in Spectrum disorders. I personally have auditory over stimulation problems, while also displaying what appears to be antisocial behavior. My retraction from social situations was not because I disliked all communication with people, it was more an inability to regulate my response to over stimulation, which manifested itself as antisocial behavior. With external overstimulation and the subsequent retraction into oneself, came an avalanche of emotions and feelings, contrary to the no emotion/feeling that psychopathy exudes. Same antisocial behavior, with two antithetical reasons for said behavior. Not all appearances of similar behavior, have the same root cause. Learn, don't stigmatize!
I've always called the lack of emotion bullshit as someone with Aspergers. Some of us have trouble displaying it but a few can properly show it. Some may have trouble understanding and relating sometimes but we know when someone is upset. I can recognize when someone is upset and my mind goes how can I help them or at least make sure they are alright. It's how I am with my good friends when I see them struggling. Although my ASD gives some barriers I am capable of feeling emotions and empathy like any neurotypical. However I don't have alexithymia so that helps me in the long run.
As a biopsychology student with ASD, I suggest you to look into the difference between cognitive and emotional empathy. While people with aspd lack emotional empathy and do have cognitive empathy, meaning they can't feel emotions but can understand them, it's the other way around for people like us. We do have emotions but struggle with understanding them.
@@lekiscool that is very accurate for me, this is how I always described it as.
As a child psychologist in my opinion it’s about creating logical thought but very honestly EMOTIONAL regulation is the way out of this. For most children, they KNOW the right thing to do, they are just too impulsive or angry to do them. Making a child conscious, and improving their MENTALIZATION is what will make a good emotionally and psychologically stable adult.
I think you are right. It seems like the biggest issue with narcissists is a lack of self awareness. The malignant kind seem like they can't/won't grasp/accept the concept that their ego creates a blindspot to their perception. They have the, "God complex". Like how a talented surgeon can fall into the, "Dunning Krueger effect" and just assume they have just as much psychological insight as say, someone like yourself. That is until someone like yourself sits them down, and points out what they are missing in no uncertain terms.
Hear, hear!
Its weather your mentalization help reaches thru the years of beatings and abuse....wish it was as simple as this.
Okay, now you say, "All they have to do is," but nobody can ever say HOW to do that
@@gimygaming8655all you have to do is get on your knees. I'LL show you how to do that.
THANK YOU for making a post on this subject. I should be starting my doctorate on the neurology of behavioral development; I gained the interest working on my psych minor as well as preparing for the MCAT.
I try to explain to people, especially parents, how things like intergenerational violence is passed down using the model of assimilation and accommodation from psychology.
I use this analogy. We make boxes to store information. We have a box for each category, and we create new boxes for new categories of information. These boxes build on top of each other like bricks in a wall; you can say that wall of all your experiences is the nurture aspect of psychology.
The problem in child behavioral development is children can store bad information in the wrong boxes. Here is a simple example... A 5 year old sees a cat for the first time and asks "what's that?", and we say cat. So the child makes a box for cats. Cats are furry, have 4 paws, and a tail. A week later they see a dog and call it a cat. We tell the child, no that is a dog; they are different, so the child makes a new box for dogs.
The problem is it's much easier to explain to a 5yo that cats and dogs are different than a 35yo that's never learned the difference because there is 30 years of boxes stacked on top. Now compare that to domestic violence in the house. It is easier to tell a 5yo that dad hitting mom is not normal behavior; it is wrong. Gender can play a major factor in this whether someone tolerates physical abuse or believes it is okay to cause physical abuse. This means that child development greatly influences adult behavior development.
In closing, I tell parents "do as I say, not as I do" does not work. Children model behavior long before they start school. It is easier to correct an error in what a child knows compared to an adult, usually. The best way (and practically the only way) to have children grow up with healthy behaviors is to model that behavior. Telling a child to eat their veggies when none are on your plate is not how this works.
P.S. make sure in situations like domestic violence or divorce, tell the child it is not their fault. A child before they develop abstract thought views the world only through their eyes (a bad analogy, but they are the sun and things revolve around them or they think they influence things that actually don't). Often problems like divorce, the child will often think they were a factor. When a sudden negative situation or major change is happening, talk with your child and explain to them using language appropriate for their age.