20:20 To answer Yoni’s question on why you don’t feel a certain type of way about watering down your opinion, I think is because you don’t necessarily have to prove to the world your truth, and because you respect and value someone else’s opinion just as much as yours. You believe that both your opinions can survive alongside each other. At least I am like that and I think you might also be trying to say that. BUT, I salute people like Alia who can establish themselves and their opinions with so much conviction. Enjoying this episode a lot!
The fact that Alia has been told to police her tone is the problem! There are men out here with podcasts who don’t even worry about that, they say what they wanna say, and they say it loud. It’s indicative on how our society views women with opinions who aren’t afraid to share them. Alia you are NOT the problem, am I hope ppl who love you can support you in that. You are not the problem.
Girl you do NOT need to explain yourself and your opinions! Misogyny is so, so real. Men continue to say whatever they want 24/7 and don’t worry about the repercussions because society doesn’t tell them that they’re being too loud and opinionated. This is a societal issue- not yours at all! THANK YOU for continuing to use your voice on such a public platform. This is why I follow you and love your content!!!
Alia, I recently read a book called "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" and I think it would help you a lot. Especially with the taking comments too personally and caring too much about opinions. It was sooo good to me (:
I think all points and opinions should be heard. Honestly I give the attention to a person with their opinion but it bugs me when they choose NOT TO HEAR MINE and they decide instead to give me the brush off. Ughhhhhhhh
I enjoyed this episode. Thank you Alia for explaining everything and how your mind works. I have a few people who say things how you say them and now I see it in a new light.
I think this episode was very interesting. While I was listening to it, I recognized myself in Alia’s words. I mean, for a long time, I used to blame myself for the way I expressed myself and the things I said to others, even though these things were just my own opinion! I have always considered myself a good listener, but I didn’t feel that others treated me the same way. Because of this, I sometimes thought the problem was me and my intense personality. After a long process in therapy, I understood that my way could be softer and calmer, hahaha. I also learned that I don’t need to express my opinions all the time. Sometimes, the listener doesn’t care about different opinions, and it can be very stressful and exhausting, so it’s better not to share. Furthermore, I’m on a journey to accept that most of the time, people don’t care too much. Your friends aren’t analyzing every word and behavior; they are just letting it flow. The feeling of being wrong or the fear of their opinions about your opinions is often just in your head, trying to be accepted and to control the situations. So, it’s an exercise not to care too much, too
we have the same thought process, alia! i would formulate my opinion as if someone is trying to counter what ive said bc there might be rooms for misinterpretation
First of all, I have to say that my husband and I love listening to this podcast while driving together during the weekends. But the last two episodes have been tough to listen. 🥴 Alia, you should always share your opinion because it is YOUR opinion. But you have to realize not everyone will agree with you and that is okay. Keep an open-mind.
Alia, for some how I feel You. I’m A bit matured lady 48y from Finland. I have a career that is rare, male dominant. You sound like me when I was 19, in a good way. But in the long run You have to come down - respect other people and listen what they have to say. I made my way as A teenager, only now I have learned the art of listening and respecting any others opinons. I respect You, but too much is too much,
I think you can share your opinion without being condescending or insulting but also should be a limit especially these days with politics unless it’s a true friend I don’t really wanna share or even hear their opinions 😂 lol btw Wednesday’s are my fav day because it’s WTJ pod 🤩🤩
I think Alia is not the problem. Believe me it's good to have a strong opinion about something and it's not like you are not mindful of others because you are. I think it's a two sides situation where people should perceive you or answer you with a different approach. In my life experience I do think the negative side of strong opinion people is that it makes people look at you with caution like they are walking on eggs, but as long as you are always mindful of others, of their emotions & overall boundaries it's very important. But other than that, if it's your truth, it's your truth and we can learn something with each other. But I do think you Alia are a very good person and it's bad that you don't read the comments of your own podcast. this should be a community. people should be mindful and respectful.
I identify a lot with Alia. How she says that she sometimes comes across as too much, and she is just trying to kind of be funny or demonstrate that she is comfortable- that’s me lol. I sometimes feel very misunderstood because, as Alia was mentioning, I’m not trying to be rude or anything. It just comes out a bit too intense. I also enjoy a lot sharing opinions with people, but then sometimes regret it when it comes across in the wrong way.
24:50 My dear Alia, I understand that Yoni's advice might be correct. Still, he does talk to you in a condescending tone which makes you flared up.. he disrespects you and your points on certain occasions and then gaslights you into believing you are tacky. You are not tacky my dear. You need to trigger him the way he does to you and you would probably see a similar reaction. Also at 40:00 , I have seen yoni so many times straight up calling out alia, I am saying this after watching 9 episodes. He is not as gentle as he claims to be. Infact it's just the opposite. And omg he has got you questioning yourself wayyy to much. Why does it always feel like Alia is accepting her mistakes and yoni is being too preachy and dominating? Also yoni coming back home and telling alia about all the things she said and did wrong... but can alia actually confirm with her friends if they actually felt the same way? or is it just yoni? All I know is that these are they ways how men tend to control manipulate and break down their gf/wives. In a few more years you will be left with no confidence and constantly questioning yourself.
@@ayeeeannieee we sure are haha... you can watch other podcasts as well, he is always trying to get her to accept her mistake or somehow he will use the podcast as an opportunity to put her down or victimise himself. watch the happy wife happy life where he constantly says he doesn't care about where they go but then complains the entire time about not getting the opportunity to decide where they go. And it's not just the podcast, you can watch her vlogs as well, I have heard him say so many times " Who's fault is that? " and then he will put alia in a position where she has to explain what she did wrong and how she was at the fault. It's just an observation, we don't have to agree.
Hey, I appreciate you looking out for me however I have to correct you - Yoni is the most respectful person I know and he in no way triggers me or gaslights me. Since we are so open with each other it might come across as “disrespect or questioning” when it’s simply our openness and love for each other that makes our relationship so strong and our conversations so real. He is very gentle, not at all dominating and in the cases when he brings up something I said once we get home - it’s more funny than anything as it’s not about what I said it’s more about how the person I said that to felt. I am not always very receptive on how my way of lovingly mocking someone might not land well with someone and once we get home Yoni might let me know that this friend might not have received my joke well. I am a very confident person and Yoni is constantly building up my confidence in ways we don’t specifically show on camera. Also last thing - in my vlogs when he says “whose fault is that?”, it’s actually an inside joke and funny to us, not at all serious.
@@aliazaita I am glad that you guys are happy and doing well. I have been watching you for over a year and ig I have developed a soft corner for you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. But as long as you guys are sorted it's fine. Apologies if this comment hurt you or Yoni in any way. Stay happy. Best of luck for your upcoming podcasts.
Dear Alia i don't know why u should change anything about how u present ur opinion ? I believe that the way you express your opinions havve a lot to do with ur character which is very logical! Some friends of mine are not even interested to give an opinion while some others are less passionate about defending/developing their own opinions. So good for u . You have this flame in you . As long as you are very open to hear people out when they want RESPECTFULLY to debate on some points . Love you Alia ❤
Yoni? Thats interesting. Noone in India is named Yoni ( they could be as its a pretty sounding name) . The thing is Yoni means vagina basically. Although its respected and has temples dedicated to the 'yoni' , I havent heard anyone called Yoni in my country. Good on you !!
Lol while that’s true and I’ve heard that soooo many times. My name is actually in Hebrew and it means “gift of god”.. my parents didn’t name me vagina that would be so wild 😭 but people in the US specifically always think that because they obviously don’t know the Hebrew meaning so I don’t blame them lol this never happened in Belgium though. Some close family members call me “Yonatan” which is the English translation for Yoni. Maybe I should go by Yonatan now to avoid awkward/confusing looks when I meet new people? lol
20:20 To answer Yoni’s question on why you don’t feel a certain type of way about watering down your opinion, I think is because you don’t necessarily have to prove to the world your truth, and because you respect and value someone else’s opinion just as much as yours. You believe that both your opinions can survive alongside each other. At least I am like that and I think you might also be trying to say that. BUT, I salute people like Alia who can establish themselves and their opinions with so much conviction. Enjoying this episode a lot!
The fact that Alia has been told to police her tone is the problem! There are men out here with podcasts who don’t even worry about that, they say what they wanna say, and they say it loud.
It’s indicative on how our society views women with opinions who aren’t afraid to share them. Alia you are NOT the problem, am I hope ppl who love you can support you in that. You are not the problem.
Girl you do NOT need to explain yourself and your opinions! Misogyny is so, so real. Men continue to say whatever they want 24/7 and don’t worry about the repercussions because society doesn’t tell them that they’re being too loud and opinionated. This is a societal issue- not yours at all! THANK YOU for continuing to use your voice on such a public platform. This is why I follow you and love your content!!!
Alia, I recently read a book called "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" and I think it would help you a lot. Especially with the taking comments too personally and caring too much about opinions. It was sooo good to me (:
Alia! continue speaking your unfiltered truth sis! i’m a supporter who appreciates how you communicate your opinion on this podcast, Yoni’s as well :)
I think all points and opinions should be heard. Honestly I give the attention to a person with their opinion but it bugs me when they choose NOT TO HEAR MINE and they decide instead to give me the brush off.
Ughhhhhhhh
I enjoyed this episode. Thank you Alia for explaining everything and how your mind works. I have a few people who say things how you say them and now I see it in a new light.
I think this episode was very interesting. While I was listening to it, I recognized myself in Alia’s words. I mean, for a long time, I used to blame myself for the way I expressed myself and the things I said to others, even though these things were just my own opinion! I have always considered myself a good listener, but I didn’t feel that others treated me the same way. Because of this, I sometimes thought the problem was me and my intense personality. After a long process in therapy, I understood that my way could be softer and calmer, hahaha. I also learned that I don’t need to express my opinions all the time. Sometimes, the listener doesn’t care about different opinions, and it can be very stressful and exhausting, so it’s better not to share. Furthermore, I’m on a journey to accept that most of the time, people don’t care too much. Your friends aren’t analyzing every word and behavior; they are just letting it flow. The feeling of being wrong or the fear of their opinions about your opinions is often just in your head, trying to be accepted and to control the situations. So, it’s an exercise not to care too much, too
we have the same thought process, alia! i would formulate my opinion as if someone is trying to counter what ive said bc there might be rooms for misinterpretation
your podcast is really good. I love it!
First of all, I have to say that my husband and I love listening to this podcast while driving together during the weekends. But the last two episodes have been tough to listen. 🥴 Alia, you should always share your opinion because it is YOUR opinion. But you have to realize not everyone will agree with you and that is okay. Keep an open-mind.
Alia, for some how I feel You. I’m A bit matured lady 48y from Finland. I have a career that is rare, male dominant. You sound like me when I was 19, in a good way. But in the long run You have to come down - respect other people and listen what they have to say. I made my way as A teenager, only now I have learned the art of listening and respecting any others opinons. I respect You, but too much is too much,
I think you can share your opinion without being condescending or insulting but also should be a limit especially these days with politics unless it’s a true friend I don’t really wanna share or even hear their opinions 😂 lol btw Wednesday’s are my fav day because it’s WTJ pod 🤩🤩
Alia should be a sociologist. I love how thoughtful and profound she is.🧡
I think Alia is not the problem. Believe me it's good to have a strong opinion about something and it's not like you are not mindful of others because you are. I think it's a two sides situation where people should perceive you or answer you with a different approach. In my life experience I do think the negative side of strong opinion people is that it makes people look at you with caution like they are walking on eggs, but as long as you are always mindful of others, of their emotions & overall boundaries it's very important. But other than that, if it's your truth, it's your truth and we can learn something with each other. But I do think you Alia are a very good person and it's bad that you don't read the comments of your own podcast. this should be a community. people should be mindful and respectful.
I hope you read this Alia ❤
New apartment YAYYY! Question: is New York City overrated or meets everyones expectations?
Me=Yoni
My Partner= Alia
Its fun to be together... not everybody can be same. So don't you worry Alia ❤
Love you guys
Same I'm Yoni 😂
I identify a lot with Alia. How she says that she sometimes comes across as too much, and she is just trying to kind of be funny or demonstrate that she is comfortable- that’s me lol. I sometimes feel very misunderstood because, as Alia was mentioning, I’m not trying to be rude or anything. It just comes out a bit too intense. I also enjoy a lot sharing opinions with people, but then sometimes regret it when it comes across in the wrong way.
24:50 My dear Alia, I understand that Yoni's advice might be correct. Still, he does talk to you in a condescending tone which makes you flared up.. he disrespects you and your points on certain occasions and then gaslights you into believing you are tacky. You are not tacky my dear. You need to trigger him the way he does to you and you would probably see a similar reaction. Also at 40:00 , I have seen yoni so many times straight up calling out alia, I am saying this after watching 9 episodes. He is not as gentle as he claims to be. Infact it's just the opposite. And omg he has got you questioning yourself wayyy to much. Why does it always feel like Alia is accepting her mistakes and yoni is being too preachy and dominating? Also yoni coming back home and telling alia about all the things she said and did wrong... but can alia actually confirm with her friends if they actually felt the same way? or is it just yoni? All I know is that these are they ways how men tend to control manipulate and break down their gf/wives. In a few more years you will be left with no confidence and constantly questioning yourself.
I’m not getting those vibes from Yoni at all. Are we listening to the same podcast?!?! 😂
@@ayeeeannieee we sure are haha... you can watch other podcasts as well, he is always trying to get her to accept her mistake or somehow he will use the podcast as an opportunity to put her down or victimise himself. watch the happy wife happy life where he constantly says he doesn't care about where they go but then complains the entire time about not getting the opportunity to decide where they go. And it's not just the podcast, you can watch her vlogs as well, I have heard him say so many times " Who's fault is that? " and then he will put alia in a position where she has to explain what she did wrong and how she was at the fault. It's just an observation, we don't have to agree.
Hey, I appreciate you looking out for me however I have to correct you - Yoni is the most respectful person I know and he in no way triggers me or gaslights me. Since we are so open with each other it might come across as “disrespect or questioning” when it’s simply our openness and love for each other that makes our relationship so strong and our conversations so real. He is very gentle, not at all dominating and in the cases when he brings up something I said once we get home - it’s more funny than anything as it’s not about what I said it’s more about how the person I said that to felt. I am not always very receptive on how my way of lovingly mocking someone might not land well with someone and once we get home Yoni might let me know that this friend might not have received my joke well. I am a very confident person and Yoni is constantly building up my confidence in ways we don’t specifically show on camera. Also last thing - in my vlogs when he says “whose fault is that?”, it’s actually an inside joke and funny to us, not at all serious.
@@aliazaita I am glad that you guys are happy and doing well. I have been watching you for over a year and ig I have developed a soft corner for you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. But as long as you guys are sorted it's fine. Apologies if this comment hurt you or Yoni in any way. Stay happy. Best of luck for your upcoming podcasts.
Dear Alia i don't know why u should change anything about how u present ur opinion ? I believe that the way you express your opinions havve a lot to do with ur character which is very logical! Some friends of mine are not even interested to give an opinion while some others are less passionate about defending/developing their own opinions. So good for u . You have this flame in you . As long as you are very open to hear people out when they want RESPECTFULLY to debate on some points . Love you Alia ❤
Yoni? Thats interesting. Noone in India is named Yoni ( they could be as its a pretty sounding name) . The thing is Yoni means vagina basically. Although its respected and has temples dedicated to the 'yoni' , I havent heard anyone called Yoni in my country. Good on you !!
Lol while that’s true and I’ve heard that soooo many times. My name is actually in Hebrew and it means “gift of god”.. my parents didn’t name me vagina that would be so wild 😭 but people in the US specifically always think that because they obviously don’t know the Hebrew meaning so I don’t blame them lol this never happened in Belgium though. Some close family members call me “Yonatan” which is the English translation for Yoni. Maybe I should go by Yonatan now to avoid awkward/confusing looks when I meet new people? lol
Yoni is a good listener.