Exactly she isn’t responsible for his dick. And he consented to having oral sex. That’s the end of the story. Maybe be more careful if you want cheat so bad. She isn’t responsible for his cheating. so she doesn’t have to wash her mouth so his other girl doesn’t get an allergic reaction.
Exactly! He KNEW he was cheating with someone who had a peanut allergy, yet did nothing to clean himself off before being with her. He’s the one responsible! She should definitely create a group chat and explain the situation-he’s lied to the group.
One thing about the first story- the dad mentioned he had to be held back from hurting his son. Sounds like attacking out of anger may be a learned thing.
Yes and no I think the mom and siblings definitely emotionally abuse him in some way but u don’t think he learned attack from anger from his dad based on the story. I think if your married to someone and they are the love of your life and you walk in to a male that attacked your wife to the point where she’s bruised and bleeding. Dads don’t have the same connection to a child as a mother and I can see how he was seeing red in that moment and didn’t see him as a son. But he clearly felt pain for his son after the anger cleared from his mind. Honestly if he wanted to beat his son he definitely could have bc the 16 yo boy and 18 yo girl are not holding back a fully grown man.
@@priscillaharris3416yes, my dad said something similar about my cousin after an incident in which he ended up attacking some family members (luckily no one was more than a little bruised). Had he been present and seen that I was somewhat involved, I was holding back my other cousin and trying to get him into our car to take him home, he said would not have held back from hurting his nephew for putting me in direct danger. I myself had to an incident with my sister, but women tend to lean towards deescalation and I managed not to put her in a chokehold, but I was ready to. In that moment, his 14 year old son was no longer a child, he was a threat, and you respond differently when you must protect your family. But yes, I doubt that if he were anyone other than his son, his teenaged children could properly hold him back. I don’t think most people can fully realize the way you would react if a loved one attacked another loved one, it is not a pleasant situation to be in.
@priscillaharris3416 yeah i wanted to comment this. At that point he didn't see his son as his son he saw him as a man who tried to kill his wife and it was only after his other 2 kids held him back that his reason came back and he realized it was his son and not some intruder/stranger. Its easy to call him a bad dad and angry person when you ignore the fact that its a completely justifiable reaction to seeing your wife having been assaulted and unresponsive.
@priscillaharris341 this sounds like a lot of gendered BS. "Oh, the dad doesn't have the same connection to the kids as the mom." "Oh as a man, if you see you wife being beaten by a man, you would blow up" 1. THE SON IS A CHILD 2. THE FATHER CAME IN *AFTER* HE ATTACKED THE MOM. He didn't walk in on some random man beating his wife. 3. The father also seems neglectful. He probably, like you, follows the train of thought that the father cares less about the children. If that is the house they are raised in then th abuse from his mum will feel much worse.
I agree on this, when a person express their anger with aggression only means that that’s the only way they learned how to react, and it’s pretty sad it’s a lot of people who would react like this
The peanut butter story, I think legally the man would be the one responsible since he had all the information and chose to have sex with a girl with a peanut allergy. He basically poisoned her. The girlfriend didn’t have any control over him not washing or having sex with someone with a peanut allergy, so no one could really hold her legally responsible for any of it. Manslaughter just would not apply here at all. It’s just karma.
i’m sorry but story 3 would never hold up as a manslaughter charge. she went down on HER man who then in turn HOURS later decided to cheat with a woman he knows has a peanut allergy and never washed himself. gross for all parties involved. she did not buy a peanut butter sandwich and directly give it to the ex friend for revenge.
If they can find the post and prove she wrote it, it could be used to charge her. It is the equivalent of setting up a shotgun behind your door when you suspect a robbery might happen. You are a victim and you didn't make them rob you, but it's still not legal.
the malicious intent behind it can make it manslaughter. she did it to both find out if her boyfriend was cheating and also to hurt the friend if it was true. however, she did not intend to *kill* the friend, so yes, it would be manslaughter if she died from the allergic reaction. just because she didn't directly give something to her, doesn't mean she can't be charged with it. it's like if you hire someone to hurt/kill another person. technically, you didn't hurt them, but you were the mastermind behind it and you're still going to jail for it.
This exactly! The mom and child need to do therapy together. Have a professional navigate that. If you're aware your child is left out and has brought it up, how could you not adjust your behavior?
@@bethanyschoech577the mother needs to move out until she can work through whatever it is that makes her emotionally abuse her child like that. It wasn’t an accident.
I'm sorry but, I'm here for the peanut butter story! She got her answer and if they weren't doing the deed it would have never happened. She was fine... Don't think she was the bad guy in this story... It was actually genius 😂
totally agree!! plus it’s not an innocent girl he was cheating with. It was one of her friends, so she betrayed also. there should be NO problem going down on your man with left over peanut butter in your mouth if he’s not cheating. fucked around and found out 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, the fact that the whole group kicked her out means they all knew about it, especially if they're still friends with her. They all lied to the girl. And the inside jokes were about her being clueless.
Also didn't he know about the girls peanut allergy as well? Why is it solely her fault and not his for not cleaning his dick if he also knew about her allergy??
Story 3, hell no she’s not the asshole and she’s not in the wrong, what she did was genius, she doesn’t even suck. She was being cheated on and lied to by her closest people. The friend and boyfriend are the only ones in the wrong.
She should still erase her internet history because it is possible that charges get pressed against her. It's a legal gray area, but she (and the bf) could be charged with assault with a deadly weapon.
Am I the only one who thinks the girl in story #3 did nothing wrong? Like if the ex friend were to die how would OP be responsible? Isn't the bf more responsible for the peanut butter exposure since he knew about it? And also didn't clean it off prior to getting oral and knew the ex friend was allergic?
I kind of agree. It was wrong because she had the suspicion and intended harm to get to the bottom of it but at the same time she’s the loyal one in the friendship and relationship. It’s always those who get caught in embarrassing ways that get the angriest.
There is plausible malicious intent that caused by the gf to the lover which caused her to be hospitalized. Aka she knew her friend was allergic to peanuts. That means she knew there was a chance she could die from this. And I’d she didn’t lawyers would argue common knowledge. What she did was a crime. She could be charged right now. If the post was found, a judge could order a warrant injunction to find out if this was her account. Then the prosecution would have admission of guilt.THIS is how much of a crime this is. Easy to prosecute. I understand her sentiment, she wanted to find out, she was mad…but she could have killed that girl. She doesn’t truly know how allergic she is. This could be charged as manslaughter 100000%
I agree, for all she knew they weren't involved and it was just a suspicion of her, but we don't always take our suspicions as facts do we? So she wouldn't know if he went or not to f*ck with her best friend on that particular day, because that would just be crazy. I think aldo it wasn't the most rational decision it wasn't smth directly malicious in intent. The real freaking assholery is these two fuckers cheating behind her back and in such a way
@@lampanatunka8971 I absolutely disagree as OP didn't have the knowledge that they were sleeping together and only acted on suspicion, that her boyfriend even claimed was incorrect, moreover she just ate peanut butter and gave him head, what he then did with his peanut dick then is his responsibility not hers, for all she knew he could wash it... Or you know not put it into another women like he led her believe he wouldn't.
Story 1: something more serious is going on OP has been oblivious to. For his son to pull him aside and say that his mom clearly favorites his siblings and that she never asks him to do anything and that he's FORGOTTEN about a lot. How hard was it for the mom to call upstairs or send one of the siblings to get him to help with the tree. The child is being ignored to the point of mental and emotional abuse. And for her to flat out tell him to his face that she just forgot about him... as a parent myself, WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL. There's no excuse for violence, AND there's no excuse for acting like your 3rd child doesn't exist... it really makes me wonder, how often has this kid not been called down to meals? How often has she put breakfast and lunches together for the others and "forgot" about him. How often has he come downstairs to find the house empty and his mother and siblings gone without a word to him? How often has she brought something home for them and not him? ... this goes deeper than what OP has been blind to, and he needs to speak to his children privately on what they see. They all need therapy, and it's a good thing he's with his grandparents. Also, with how fast and accepting they were about him staying with them, it makes me curious with how much favoritism they have witnessed from the mom towards the other kids.
YES!!! Omg all of this!! I used to teach kids and teens and I *know* nothing comes from zero. Things build up and kids don’t forget when they talk to you and you don’t answer or push them out. It breaks them and it’s so hard to make them believe in themselves afterwards. And I can’t believe the mom says she “forgets” her child!! While doing something that’s a tradition in their house?! No f-ing way.
I heard that story and was reminded of myself in boarding school. The amount of times they 'forgot' I existed was just part of them bullying me. It started with forgetting and ended up with physical violence. Mom is the AH here. She does that on purpose.
@@queengoliath we're 35 years later and still haven't gotten over it. Never found time to process that and the longer it took, the harder it seemed. Only now have I began to allow myself to feel these feelings. Therapy does wonders.
This exactly the grandparents had no issue taking him in because they probably have seen how he’s been treated hitting and beating his mom was wrong but he’s a 14 year old going through puberty who has tried to express show he feels. He’s hurt and it’s the parents neglect that’s caused this whole situation they all need therapy separately and as a family to heal from this.
Story 2: If he is not willing to financially help with NOT having a baby. He will NOT financially help with a baby if you have one. Leave him. He sounds like a jerk.
@@stephocean If I were her, I would have been done after his response when she asked for financial support, that was so callous who are dating Ebenezer Scrooge WTF?!
For story 4 the daughter was definitely trying to make a point. I don't believe she would actually put a dog down let alone believe that this would "make them even". The way I see it her parents are ridiculously entitled borderline narcissistic to just expect their daughter to forgive murder after she trusted them. This relationship won't ever be mended and the op is better off without them. The brother needs to mind his business too
But what point did she try to make? You sent off my dog to die for your convenience, now send this new dog to die (she is making them think it would die) and I will find you worthy of meeting your grandchild what are they learning from this that disregarding the life of a dog is a positive thing?
@@asnalem4391the point is that they obviously value their dog (wouldn't go so far as to claim they love it, they don't seem capable of it) so why was her dog worth so little it justified them killing it?
@@asnalem4391I can imagine she said it out of pure frustration in the moment to make them understand how badly they've hurt her. I've said some useless but spiteful things to family members who I've cut contact with just to make a point I don't want them anywhere near me. OPs comment wasn't constructive, but neither is her parent's approach to the situation. They don't believe they've done anything wrong, they just feel entitled to seeing their grandchildren.
I don’t think “weaponizing sex” makes sense because no one owes you sex. the girl in the story just doesn’t want to have sex with him and him crying saying she’s weaponizing sex bs is so manipulative
You definitely can weaponize sex, but this is not at all applicable to this situation. Neither is his use of the phrase “lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part“. He is definitely trying to manipulate her into thinking she is in the wrong.
Am I the only one that’s here for the peanut butter story??? Well deserved. If anything the boyfriend is at fault here because he knew he got sucked by his girlfriend’s peanut butter mouth. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly, and if anyone is to blame it’s him, he was technically the one responsible bc he KNEW she was allergic, he could have easily taken a 5 min shower but cared more abt getting his d wet than her health..
Story 1 As a therapist: The child and the wife need therapy, individually If bringing him home is the goal, then the child, the father and the mother need family therapy.
@@stirlingarcher7972you are doing the most. The eventos describe in this story dont Fit the word abuse. And the kid definetly does not Fit the word victim either. Stop with the BS.
Ya but the whole family should be a part of the family therapy, not just the one kid and parents, bc the dynamic of a family includes and is affected by everyone
100%, hiding stuff from his wife, he definitely cheated 🙄. I'll also never believe "it just happens", bruh no one befriends someone from the opposite sex without being conscious of that difference. He chose to let it play out and get so close to her
Yeah and talking about easy it is to cheat is such bullshit lmao it’s just as easy to NOT. I had a crush on a coworker and as soon I realized I distanced myself because I actually love and respect my boyfriend. Didn’t keeping hanging out with the guy to see “how far I can get away without sleeping” so fucking dumb cutting that cheating POS slack
I agree, even if he didn’t sleep with her. That was an emotional affair/start of an affair. Like what if his wife finds out and we all know he would’ve tried to come up with excuse or justify it. The fact that he has to keep it secret already shows it’s not supposed to happen.
Yeah, it’s called establishing boundaries. Yes, crushes can sometimes just happen when there is natural chemistry or someone is very charismatic naturally - but that’s why you establish boundaries before that’s an issue. Like not hanging out outside of work or only if it’s a group, not texting/calling unless it is work related/not following coworker’s social media/ whatever it is that you know could lead you to possibly get a little too personal with someone. And it’s also about ensuring you are putting more energy into your relationship with your partner than these other relationships, going on dates, flirting, communicating needs & wants. The grass usually isn’t actually greener on the other side, you just haven’t been tending to your own lawn well.
55:04 She said in her disclaimer at the beginning of the story that she has no intention on harming her parents' dog. So clearly, she only said that to make a point, which obviously the parents did not get
Story 4 - I’m so annoyed by people taking things SO SERIOUSLY. She’s clearly not going to kill their dog. Unbelievable. She’s not the asshole. They didn’t feel bad for their HORRID CHOICE and everyone has such an entitlement to other people’s children. This was hard to listen to. She’s lucky that’s all she said. I wouldn’t have been that nice - plain and simple. People make my brain hurt.
The whole purpose of her comment was for them to react with disbelief so she could say "See?", kinda like the "let me dad watch your colonoscopy" story. "See how it feels?" I agree it was never meant seriously.
exactly. she even said she doesn’t want their dog to die and why would she ever want someone to kill their dog after what she’s been through. she clearly has no want to ever see her parents again and she KNOWS they’re not going to do it. she’s just showing them the other side.
She's just saying "You're not meeting my child, because you killed my best friend, period." Aside from that, i'm worried about their new puppy, they should not be near any animal if they could kill another one so easily.
Yep! She just showed how hypocritical they’ve been in telling her she put her dog above family, although my concern would be that they’d go put the dog down themselves given their track record of psychopathy.
Long story short, the events of story one is what happens when you don't take your kids seriously. For the love of God, *_parents, take your kids seriously!_* If one of your children is telling you that they are being forgotten, you need to nip that shit in the bud right away! OP, you seriously dropped the ball on that one
A feeling of being left out is never going to be a valid reason for a severe violent outburst. Kid needs not just a therapist but probably a psychologist too :(
Story 3- I have a fatal allergy to peanut butter. When I heard the title my initial reaction was that what OP did was wrong. But after hearing the whole story and hearing how the PB was transferred I’d have to say…. NTA 😅
Yeah but I’ve never beat the shit out my mom. Especially in Latino households men are always excused when they show signs of extreme anger and violence. I hope therapy helps bc if not he’s already crossed this line once and WILL do it again to his partners/ own children.
Im sorry if he was able to lash out like this no wonder she "forgot" him wth that’s seriously messed up. The kid probably has some underlying mental issues because I can relate to being forgotten but NEVER would I EVER do THAT to my mom WHAT
@@atsooba Now I don't mean to be too snarky here, but it's _almost_ like he has mental issues from parental neglect. When it got so much for him to handle that he confessed to his dad, his dad casually said "hey now" to his mom and watched the neglect continue. It seems like these parents spent 0 hours in his life teaching him how to process emotions and cope with stress in a healthy way. His mom happily did an important family activity "with all her kids" and told him she'd forgotten him when they were done. That's the things cruel stepmothers do. I truly believe he needs no other issues than the neglect to end up with that retaliation. That neither of us have done this specific thing doesn't mean it's less of a legitimate response. Not good or condoned, just a real thing that happens in some neglected kids.
Do you have comprehension issues? He lashed out due to build-up anger, which is caused by his mother neglecting him and shunning him away from family activities. @@atsooba
Story 7: service dogs need to meet the ADA criteria to be legally considered a service dog. Most training programs for service dogs are a minimum of 2 years, and their task training usually doesn’t start till 6 months. So at most this dog is a service dog *prospect* that definitely still has training to go. He’s not ready
This!!!! Additionally some prospects might not be “perfect” and have slip ups (dogs aren’t machines). This heavy level of scrutiny on service dogs in training can be incredibly stressful for actual SD handlers
The conversation after story one hit home. Morgan talked about how it’s a misconception to let babies “cry it out” On thanksgiving I was talking to my mom over the phone. She decided to talk about nostalgic memories for her of when I was a baby. She told me she loved the sound of me crying. She said she would intentionally startle me while sleeping so that I would wake up crying. I’ve been thinking about how that could have affected me and my relationship with her. We have never had a strong emotional bond or closeness.
My husband and I were and are still at odds because i flat out refused ferber/the cry it out method. Sleep training is a complete LIE. It was created by corporate America to keep people working at peak capacity. They sold it as “great for parents and the kids” except there is no evidence that it is beneficial except for parents getting enough sleep to function at work. We didn’t sleep train and by two years old our son regulated himself
😳 what?!? Okay I understand that it's only one fact about your mom.. BUT as a mom of 2 who had my first at 19 the sound of my baby crying was physically painful for me. I can't imagine someone LIKING the sound of a baby crying. That sounds like... A possible unhealthy mental state.
So your mother loved the sound of her baby being upset?! WTAF? That's weird and very concerning. If you ever decide to have children it might be a good idea to supervise any contact they have with your mother.
Story 2: I’m so disgusted by how many times the OP had to defend herself for not wanting to have sex if her personal requirements to feel safe were not met she shouldn’t even have to give a reason. Sex is a shared activity between consenting adults. Both have to consent. It’s ridiculous how often women are pressured into having sex when they don’t want to.
Story 3: I don’t think op is the AH. I’d tell the whole story about what happened to the friend group. There’s no telling what story is being given now. She did try to talk to him and he gaslit her. He is disgusting and couldn’t even wash himself between.
Agree. If he hadn't been cheating if the friend hadn't been a skank then there never would've been an allergic reaction. Good luck if they try to press charges, her simple defense is he should've showered.
This and on top of the fact that he saw her eat the peanut butter toast and he let her go down on him and then he knowingly f***** somebody with a peanut butter allergy. If anything he's liable for her hospitalization
@@Shortypants403 I hate when people say stuff like this. It’s like “why not break up if you have any feelings that they’re cheating”, because they may NOT be. It makes it easier to leave KNOWING that someone is cheating rather than just suspecting. That’s why. Living with the thought of “what if I left a good relationship just over a feeling”, and constantly thinking about that is going to make you second guess yourself, then possibly make you regret your decision/go back to someone who may have VERY WELL been cheating, all because they didn’t pick up that phone or eat that peanut butter sandwich. The point of searching is confirming your suspicions, knowing your not crazy, not letting that person make you feel crazy for having suspicions because you have the proof, and being able to walk away with no regrets.
@@destinyrain222 Is it that healthy or good of a relationship if you have to check on them to see if they're cheating or set traps to find out if they're cheating? Couldn't be me, I choose being single over spending my time doing free private investigator work because I don't trust my partner. the trust is gone and so is the relationship at that point.
for the people calling peanut butter girl the AH…. is she never supposed to eat PB again because maybe her bf is cheating on her with someone with a nut allergy ?? that’s so absurd. we’ve all been in a relationship where we had a nervous inkling something might be going on when there wasn’t … i’m not gonna stop eating PB bc of it.
“Hey babe don’t eat any peanut butter rn.. don’t worry about it just don’t eat any” like wtf ? 😭 how is she the villain when he’s the one that won’t wash his 🐓
Its different becaue OP did it specifically to catch them because of her suspicion. She did it with Malice doesn't matter if she was right or even justified.
@@ToastKnight_ OP shouldnt be making a habit of triggering allergies to test if she's being cheated on. She should learn to see the signs, and know her worth and leave
Story 1- 11:29 what the f*ck is wrong with these parents? No wonder that child lashed out. He has asked, he has told you how he feels, he’s tried to include himself and she STILL ignores him and doesn’t include him?! This whole family needs help.
PB Girl is not the AH. She did nothing wrong. If the boyfriend and best friend would have kept their hands to themselves, no one would have an issue. And HE in fact knew she ate PB toast and then didn't wash himself and screwed around with a girl he KNEW had a PB allergy. She didn't KNOW he was cheating, she just had a suspician and she did confront him about him. He lied to her. Then to say she needs to be the mature one to talk to him about it, SHE DID. He should have been the mature one and been honest when confronted. PERIOD.
Story 1 - social worker here, so this is always my worldview, but no individual, child included, lives in a vacuum. Children learn from and take cues from the family system they live in, and a blow up of that proportion did not come out of nowhere. I hope that they find a good, intuitive family therapist who will look beyond the child's behavior problems and try to get the family to find the roots of the dynamics going on. The mom should also be in individual therapy because consistently leaving out one child even if she "doesn't mean to" is also coming from somewhere, and she needs to work on that. Therapy for a child, no matter how good, doesn't fix issues if they go right back to a dysfunctional environment where everyone sees that child as the problem and ignores their own.
Story 1: I’m a young mother to an almost two year old and a 2 month old. My BIGGEST fear in my mothering is that I might ever do something to make them believe I have a favorite child. I personally have a hard time believing that any mother is naive to her playing of favorites among her children. I genuinely believe she knew what she was doing, especially after it was brought to her attention. It bothers me that she’s not being held more accountable for her actions. Kids don’t snap like that unless you’ve pushed them to snap…
@@lexapeaches it didn’t sit right he with me that she only agreed to therapy for herself if the son’s therapist suggested it. Like lady, you need it either way. All of them do. I’m sure the therapist will suggest it if they’re worth their penny. But it’s obvious she still is downplaying her role and side to it all.
Kid needs to be held accountable and have legal consequences. Domestic battery is not okay no matter how much you feel you’re being left out. Mom is not in the clear. She didn’t batter her son. THAT is the issue. For him to even cross that line he was unwell to begin with. Dad should’ve forced him to go to therapy. They all need it.
Story 6: if you have to justify your actions by telling yourself “It’s innocent; I haven’t done anything wrong”, then you’re definitely on the slope to cheat. .
For story one: a year is too long. It will do more damage and he will grow even more resentful. I think being separated for a week, maybe two is plenty. Then, once he comes back, mom and son need to attend therapy together WEEKLY. They need to find a way to repair their relationship and begin as soon as possible.
@@stirlingarcher7972we obviously don’t know anything but i’d be scared if my sibling showed they were capable of such damage. no matter how angry someone is that’s not a safe response. it’s so unpredictable
Whole family needs at least 3 therapy sessions- individual and together. This was a traumatic event and when it comes to favoring kids- it affects all of them no matter what- even the favored ones. The siblings need to be screened for how they feel about what their brother did, and if there is possibly an abusive and/or neglectful household due to the mother (and I’d argue even dad since he failed to do something before it got so severe) - get the full picture. If they’re dealing with intense enough things as well- it would help. Of course that should be the adult daughter’s own decision- she likely will start doing it on her own soon anyway. But having them all go individually and as a family- makes it not as much singling out the youngest even more as the problem. Then I would suggest parental counseling for the parents/alternating therapy with both their kid and each parent for the next year at least. This is a conduct disorder waiting to be formed if they don’t properly address with professional help.
Just kind of an off shoot story about a service dog: I had a boss that had diabetes so he brought his German Shepard into work with him every single day who was his trained service dog and one day he had to go to a meeting the entire way across our warehouse and up some steps without his dog and the dog FROM ALL THE WAY ACROSS HALF A FOOTBALL FIELD sensed he was in danger and had collapsed and ran to alert someone to check on him. THATS a service dog. Service dogs don’t ignore their owners flare ups they DO something about it
The "service dog" is not a service dog. She adopted a puppy with intention to make him a service dog and is failing because she's not a dog trainer. Every single detail made me say, "Oh, that's not how that works!" Like, she got a poodle because she likes that breed. But orgs use dogs that are best suited to specific tasks, so beyond knowing which breeds groups work with, there isn't much, if any, breed selection being made by the service dog user.
It's not a pet. You don't get one you like. You get one that does the job right. That's incredibly stupid sounding. most service dogs don't actually start working until 2/3... Unfortunately there's no registration for service dogs. The only ones you'll see are scams. Just taking your money to give you a paper.
@@FukaiKokoroexactly, just like all these ads I’m seeing for emotional support registration so you can bring your pet everywhere with you. Like no, that’s not how that works. It’s literally just a piece of paper you paid for. Your pet has not been trained. It is not a service animal.
Service dogs are trained by professional trainers who are educated and trained themselves in that specific area. Service dogs are also put into specific training classes according to what services they will be needed for. Obviously a K9 will have different skills than a guide for the blind. My uncle has 2 service dogs in his home because my aunt and he each have one and they are trained for different tasks. The poodle is not a service dog unless you need a Swiffer or something that alerts you that a fly flew by .... Everytime it flies by..... At your neighbors house .... All of them ... 😶
@@jas67angelso you're telling me that my sisters cockatoo Flyboy , who curses profusely in 3 languages can't be a support animal??? Oh no that's just going to piss him off. Thank God he hasn't learned the word discrimination yet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Story 3: Definitely nta, yeah it sucks that her ex best friend was hospitalized but I mean okay, and? I just looovvve how the boyfriend got mad at OP for getting her ex best friend hospitalized but doesn't seem to care that he could have fucked up OPs life, STDs exist people!!!!! Also the friend got what she deserves I mean how are you going to sleep with your literal best friends partner and not feel guilty or disgusted? I honestly hope OP doesn't allow the boyfriend off the hook and she fucks his life up
to me this story reminded me of when ppl break and enter into someones home and they get injured and try to sue the home owner as though they did nothing wrong. its the EPITOME of you fuck around you find out
@@wandering6252 BUT if you think someone is going to break into your house that night and you set up potentially deadly traps for them I'm pretty sure they might have some kind of legit lawsuit.
@@ToastKnight_ legally yes. in the USA you cannot boobytrap your home. but personally if ur breaking into someones house and you fall into a boobytrap thats ur own fault. if you werent also breaking the law by breaking and entering you wouldnt have triggered a trap. its a stupid law we have here
About the service dog story; I have one. I trained him myself. (Allowed according to the Ada. And there is no true age for a service dog) he was fully trained AT a year old. And even before that, he wasn’t easily distracted. He is a German Sheppard and the best boy ever. He has been attacked in Walmart where I live by fake “service dogs” and they wouldn’t do anything. It is the worst feeling in the world knowing people take advantage.
I find story 6 really interesting actually. I’m 23 and married my husband back in August. We’ve been together for 8 years now. It’s made me realize that once we were in a committed relationship, I always kept other men a certain arms length away. Now don’t get me wrong, my husband has never stopped me from making any friends and I’m the same with him, but I think there’s an unspoken rule between us that we don’t get extremely close with anyone we could become attracted to. It keeps things stable. No crushes are able to form and we focus on each other
I'm pretty similar in age and relationship length as you and I agree. I keep most men at arms length. If I notice any feelings of attraction I immediately take a step back, stop looking or whatever I need to do. Because my husband would do that for me and we agreed to be faithful.
Story 6: Is NOT easy… he actively decided to break MULTIPLE boundaries and allowed himself to develop feelings. “These things just happen..” is not a real thing.. it happened because you were weak and you allowed yourself to stray in your thoughts and break boundaries. He was emotionally cheating.
This. This story made me so sad and really pessimistic if I am honest. He has 100 percent cheated. It’s like, what I do not to cheat? Don’t ever put myself in a position when ‘these things just happen’. What a big load of bs from OP
Story 1 I don’t think she “forgot him” I think it was deliberate and he was in the wrong for how he acted but his parents neglected him he asked for help and got ignored
@@Reverse_Cowgirl-catHe attacked his wife, I think it’s understandable when a 14 year old that strong could have killed her and attacked his own siblings.
Story 1: Mother needs therapy immediately. She is actively treating her youngest son bad. No one forgets their kid. No one favors over other kids on accident. The son needs therapy as well to control his anger.
Story 6: While his perspective is interesting and somewhat realistic, cheating is only "easy" because people lie to themselves. I have had to explain this to so many guys in my life and i'll probably have to many more times, but cheating isn't just physical intimacy .....obviously. It seems like a lot of people think if they don't flirt or touch they haven't crossed a boundary, as if the whole point of cheating isn't having feels for another person. The externalization of those feelings is just 4k proof of the cheating. You don't innocently not notice you like someone when you go out of your way to hang out or reply to messages. If the realization comes after seeing her in a bikini then you clearly had plenty of thoughts before that were not faithful and you should probably sit down in the shower or take up journaling because you don't process your thoughts a lot....🙃
Love this! Yes. That story was interesting because exactly seems like it was very focused on physical intimacy. Seems like he was already emotionally cheating.
It’s crazy how I recognize the red flags immediately while he kept saying “I promise I didn’t notice.” It’s like yea, you may not have ‘noticed’ but that’s what you need to fix and let you get so far before feeling what you needed to and set boundaries. It’s easy - picture your wife going and doing those same things. Picture your wife sitting right beside you as you check out that woman in a bikini. As a fellow human, thinking of my bf right beside me doing a tempting thought is the ONLY thing I need to do to remind me I have no interest in that activity
Exactly. The husband still doesn't think he cheated; yes, he admits he did inappropriate things but he's not recognizing that he full on cheated on his wife regardless if they had sex or not
Story 4 made me so sad & angry, i really hope the OP was able to find peace with losing her best friend in such a disgusting & unjust way. My dogs are my children in my eyes, I would never even consider talking to my parents again if they had done this to me. If she does forgive them they are incredibly blessed to have such a gracious daughter, she was too easy on them.
1st story: The mother needs to accept accountability for her role in this. Very dismissive of her child. He shouldn’t have lashed out like that clearly, but as a mother, I can’t understand her attitude. If someone pointed out that I was making my child feel left out, I would whatever I could to rectify that.
story 3: you couldn’t pay for me to care about op’s ex best friend. “she could’ve died” okay and…? they didn’t care about her when they were cheating and having unprotected sex, putting op at risk. the only silver lining is that she now knows who her friends really are, it’ll be sad being alone for a while but hopefully she’ll be able to find new people to surround herself with who don’t excuse disgusting behaviour like this
Lauren, the phrase "you are not entitled to my body" is SO true, and holds a lot of weight for me. At 16, this is what I told the man who abused me for 2 years, and saying those words freed me. I was young, naive, and a bit socially inept, and at 14, I just wanted to love and be loved. And I had no idea that was happening was so wrong. He put the idea in my head that since he was my boyfriend, I had to allow him access to my body at all times. Not only my physical body, but my whole person. This mindset of entitlement to sex is a flag made out of fire. We have to all have the courage and self respect to have autonomy over ourselves. We can't let people treat us like that, trust me, the years of trauma are not worth it. NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO YOUR BODY ❤
There are different laws for service animals verses ESAs because they serve different functions but it’s so nuanced emotionally. Thanks for talking about this. As someone who’s visually impaired, I get frustrated when people say their dogs are service dogs when they’re not and the dog isn’t well trained or socialized.
For the first story that mom was being shitty and the dad should have stepped in more then just saying it one time, now the mom is gonna use this to further keep that child away from the family and it’s not fair
I just heard the update and I’m happy the mom is trying, I genuinely thought she would give up on Josh so good for her and their family and I hope everyone recovers emotionally and for the mom physically and emotionally
@@tatianap-a8683the mother is an abuser, she abused that child for years. She didn’t ‘fOrGeT’ him. She purposely left him out to hurt him because she’s an emotionally abusive monster
@@tatianap-a8683 it didn't sound like the son was using violence as an answer, it sounded like the abuse got too much for him and he did not know how to deal with it.
Story 1 is really frustrating because the dad wants to protect the family but they are all neglecting the inciting problem. The mom has basically abandoned the son and the father doesnt seem to be present enough to make that much of an effort. Because their first solution was to throw the son into therapy and not the mom who was the one being neglectful. So yeah it makes sense that those events became the end result. The son's only options were to just give up on his family showing him love or to lash out.
Wow that first story is so awful. The whole family is aware of the dynamic so they all need therapy. Keeping him away for a year isn’t the answer. Maybe a few months. It’s not fair to treat a child so differently him snapping like this- he has seen violence. This family has hurt him and. They are the root of the problem. I don’t think they deserve to be in his life. They brought him to such a low point. He cannot hold the responsibility of healing and therapy for the family.
Excuse me but absolutely none of that excuses a violent attack on a woman, his own mother... Sure the parents caused this in him but there's no excuse for this type of reaction.
You should NEVER lay hands on someone unless it's to protect yourself. Josh could've ruined his own life that day,I'm glad that they didn't call the cops on him.
@@GaiaTheNatureWitch Exactly, I'm so shocked that no one talked about that more. He BEAT her!! She's better than me because if my son beat me to the ground like that, he would never see me again in his life
1st story the mom was emotionally abusing and neglecting her son The physical way he lashed out is awful but what the mom was doing was way worse And now she wins He's gone
Story 2: He said I was being 'financially controlling' How can she control him with money when she DOESN'T HAVE MONEY!? She's been taking care of her mother for 3 WEEKS! All her money has gone towards that! What a sad little man.
You can be finically controlling by demanding money from people even if you’re broke. Not saying she was in the wrong at all but finical abuse doesn’t always have to come in the form of the person with more money controlling the “poorer” party
@@M2161 that's not what was happening.that have come and gone and now they were talking at a later date when she didn't ask for anything other than him not using her body
Therapist here!! Story one- family therapy and individual therapy needs to happen for everyone in the story. I’d recommend a more intensive level of care- most agencies can offer intensive in-home therapy short-term following a crisis situation like this. That could help immensely in this situation. And if that 14 year old is in so much pain, always always keep an eye out for SI. I hope they can heal. ❤
I believe in situations where one child is demonised, the siblings can often be brought into the demonization. It feels good to be the child that's getting love and being seen as unproblematic.
The peanut butter story is the type of petty I love lol, she’s insane but I get it. she just saved herself from a pos bf and that group of friends that are assholes she’s not missing out on any good friendships. Also she could of been transmitted a dangerous std from them so let’s not go that hard on the OP. I wish she would of gotten revenge on him tho not the shitty friend.
I Don’t even think it’s petty, she had a suspicion but couldn’t confirm her man was cheating with her friend so she tried an experiment . In my opinion it would be his fault that the friend had the allergy attack and the friends fault for being a cheater, perioddddd
Story 3: I’m gonna be honest I wouldn’t have cared if she died or not. To do that to a friend is messed up. You screw your friend over don’t be surprised how you get screwed over
For story one i am a mom of four kids and even though they are younger than the kids in the story I cannot imagine "forgetting" one of them and blatantly showing so mucj favoritism that it has to be brought to my attention. The fact that anyone noticed in the first place tells me that it was extremely obvious and must've been hurting the boy on a regular basis. I honestly just don't believe the mom when she denying that she has any issues with him because you just don't do that. Maybe she thinks she can fool people if she keeps pretending (not even well I might add) but I don't believe for a second she doesn't know that she feels differently towards him
1:32:28 tysm, Morgan for stepping in and spreading awareness about the difference between ESAs and SDs. I was really worried this was going to turn into misinformation just because it’s so common on this subject.
For story 1, it makes me wonder what more was going on under the father’s nose. As others mentioned, the attack didn’t just fall from the sky. Absolutely horrible? YES! I can’t imagine the absolute hurt and emptiness this poor boy felt for god knows how long. Makes me wonder, what happened when he was a baby? Would she neglect him then too because he was “too much work” and the older ones were easier? LOTS too unpack here. I have 2 of my own. I don’t do anything without the 2 of them. This year is the first time dad participated with decorating the tree while I was out. I was so happy they did it the three of them together and were so excited to show me. I couldn’t fathom purposefully leaving out my youngest. There’s definitely more that meets the eye when it comes to this mom. My own motherly instincts are tingling. I just want to give this poor boy a hug!
I’m here for laying down the facts in story 7. People claiming that their dog is a service dog when they’re the most horribly behaved anxious wild animal is enraging.
@@janessaluciano9887 it definitely is every Thursday! But the time they release it is always different lol sometimes it's at the stroke of midnight and sometimes it's like 5pm lol
My friend has a service dog. She's only a little over a year and still in training right now. But his older service animal was getting into retirement age unfortunately. He told me that there are a few programs that essentially "donate" a service animal that is partially trained, meaning you have to keep up with the rest of their training yourself and obviously pay for their upkeep. Real service animals will also be under contracts as well. So for him if his dog doesn't pass her OFAs she can potentially be taken back and given to a person who doesn't need an OFA qualified animal (OFAs are needed for mobility aid dogs. Also they're under contract because they're actually real specifically bred dogs with pedigrees) His dog is really really well trained and they keep up with the training all the time. Unfortunately there are things called "High value distractions" which can really test their training. Me for example. I am this dog's favorite person in the entire universe. For no obvious reason I can figure out.... but that also means I've done my best not to react if she's not doing her job when she's on the clock. It's hard sometimes but she's getting better all the time. Sounds like her dog needs more training. Or possibly that someone could have fooled her into thinking they got her a service dog. That would be really sad.
Story 6: that's exactly why you shouldn't put yourself in a position where a crush can develop. And that's why a lot of people have a problem with their boyfriend or girlfriend having deep friendship with people of the opposite sex... but sure let's just call those people insecure and have an affair a month later
Yes! 'A lack of planning on your part doesn't constitute and emergency on mine' is a phrase used by a popular tiktoker who helps people translate 'normal' talk into corporate talk. The context of that phrase in the tiktok was to help someone politely tell their boss to piss off because he messed up work schedules. It's NOT for your long-term partner.
Story #1: the mother knew exactly what she was doing. As a parent you DO NOT FORGET YOUR CHILD‼️ the mother honestly might needs therapy the most out of everybody as to why she’s treating her own child (the youngest) the way she is
Story 1 hits me hard. I have two girls. One day when my youngest was still a baby, I went to the bathroom and heard her cry, followed by scream. I rushed out to see my older (special needs) daughter putting a pillow over the baby's face, stone faced. I don't remember what I did (blacked out), but it led to both me and my oldest in therapy. We're all safe now. "Golden retriever" story: my man and I have been together for 10 years now. We have a family. I and our girls have ALWAYS been his number one priority, even when we had relationship problems. We've spent ten years chasing each other (in a good way), and we'll never stop ❤
Did anyone else bust out laughing at 41:11 when Lauren said, “everyone definitely sucks here!”?The stupid school kid in me couldn’t help but think that was a pun intended
I'm a little suspicious of Story 3: Peanut Butter BJ. Peanut butter is a pantry staple to many households, at least in the US, and is it really so suspicious that OP bought it. Would the peanut oil even stay for that long and how would John figure out that it was OP's doing and not something he ate, so many things have peanut oil as an ingredient. Also why would the WHOLE friend group condone cheating, and be perfectly ok with it? Unless John and Izzy spun it to the group chat that OP gave contaminated food to Izzy. OP should create a new group chat or IG post and play dumb that Izzy having an allergic reaction was how she happened to find out.
I know ^ they said they don’t but EVERYONE I know has peanut butter as a staple in their home and I’m Mexican 😂 peanut butter is literally such a basic thing like how is it her fault. Shit the other girl should be happy that’s all that happened in consequence to her being a disgusting friend and human.
I’m sorry but WHYYY oh why he was not responsible for washing his Peen?!! So quick to blame her when he could’ve avoided this shit by a 2 mins lil peen washin. Haha. But in all seriousness I get what y’all are saying and I agree! as for catching a charge… I agree but in this case prob wouldn’t be able to hold up on court in all reality. There’s really no hard proof/trail that she found to confirm they are cheating such as a text message or picture or whatever! If she had proceeded to come up with a plan after finding such things and they could prove she likely had found, knowing he wasn’t going to wash himself or something.I don’t see it making it to court to actually convict her without reasonable doubt…… I may or may not have been watching too much true crime and court.😂 ❤ the work y’all do!
I don't have any peanut butter or anything similar... it's not that weird so households just don't like peanut butter. It's not like butter or cooking oil that you need peanut butter in the house to cook or eat
@@alexandramilito nah I disagree with catchin a charge. Besides the fact that even you said it likely wouldn't hold in court (which honestly is a 50/50 someone got fired for doing something similar but I don't recall it going to court and some judges are dicks) I imagine poisoning in adultery land on two different parts of the moral scale depending on the person. To me it all comes down to both parties (bf & bf) directly lying. If she had jumped straight to the nuclear option then okay something might be wrong. but she double triple checked and was Gaslight and lied to. So she acted out of suspicion yes but under the pretext that he created and swore was true.
The first story disgusted me. I grew up in a similar situation. The culprit was my evil grandmother (they’ve been doing this for generations). Our parents never stepped in and forced us to spend the majority of our time over there so they can party and God knows what else. I left the state, have a beautiful family of my own and a disdain for my family they are all very aware of. My brother (who I say got the worst of it) became an alcoholic and died last year. He was 31. We all thought he was okay. He had a home and a wife and then BOOM. He was constantly going on about our childhood before he passed. This family needs to get help and do everything in their power to make it up to their son. I feel so strongly about this. You never know when / how trauma can manifest and it’s YOUR job to make sure your son is okay. I thought I had accepted our experiences for what they were but after losing my brother I might never forgive my family. The price of their impact was way too high.
About the first story, the mom "assured" the dad that she loved all of her kids equally, but she never said that she was going to work on not making the poor kid feel left out. I bet she never tried. What he did is not okay, he needs immediate help bcs it could built up into a very scary thing (a very dangerous adult), but I do agree with the top comment: that family broke that poor child.
I really relate to the first story. I was a victim of emotional abuse by my nanny. My Dad was a single parent and was gaslit into thinking her treatment of us was okay. She clearly favorited my brother and it was no secret. He has 7 months younger than me (I'm adopted). She would talk shit about me to my brother and ignore his bad behavior towards me. (I dont resent him for that, he was a kid who was encouraged by an adult to do this). If my Nanny and brother decorated the Christmas tree without me, I might have snapped too. I did snap after one incident i remember. This was after our dad remarried and the Nanny was fired. But i still felt like my parents cared more about things my brother was doing over me. I went to a baking class and decorated a cake. I was really proud of it and wanted to make sure it got home safe. But my mom had to go to my brothers game and wouldn't let me drop it off at home. The cake got smashed and i was mad. My brother took priority over me again and something I was proud of got ruined. My mom tried to fix the cake but used a different color frosting. I remember seeing it and smashing the cake and leaving it out for my mom to find. It wasnt right for me to do it but I snapped. I dealt with this for over a decade. I feel that kids anger. Instead of punishing the kid alone it needs to be nipped in the bud where is began: the favoritism. Because if not then hes gonna go away, grow resentment, come home, be ignored and now the favoritism is justified by his initial reaction to the favoritism, he gets mad and lashes out. Then the cycle starts again until one party goes no contact
Story 5- OOF. We’ve all been there. Mine broke up with me so he could go to the movies with his girl coworker alone. I wasn’t allowed to meet her in the three months they were hanging out before it happened. He’s been living with her 75% of the time since our breakup two months ago. As for OP, he’s emotionally cheating and he thinks because he shows her the messages that it absolves him of crossing the line. He’s flirting with her and likes the attention and he’s going to blame his gf for the demise of their relationship by saying she was paranoid and insecure when he was just getting his foot in the door with a new girl. He may even believe that it’s innocent but he doesn’t care about how it hurts his partner. I would NEVER be that familiar with a guy who has a gf. Basic girl code is making sure the gf feels secure. But some girls thrive off the attention and feel special being chosen over someone else. Either way, her partner is ignoring their relationship and putting some random girl’s needs above his own gf. He’s moving on and she should too.
10:59 OMG Morgan! Thanks for the shoutout 😄 This is such a hard story to hear. This happens more often than it should. Something has happened to Josh that we aren't privy to that has led to these feelings of emotional neglect and trauma, and therapy is going to be a necessity. But you called it; this WHOLE family needs therapy. The mother may have something going on that is subconsciously causing her to neglect Josh emotionally, the siblings are now going to have this trauma of witnessing their brother assaulting their mom that could cause PTSD, the OP is traumatized by this event too and is now having trusting issues with Josh and his wife/the mom. They are all going to have to go on a journey to work through these events and the feelings coming from them. Sounds like by the end of the story they all made healthy choices towards recovering from this incident, I just hope the siblings will also get some therapy to work through their own exposure of the event.
(Story 1) Mom ignoring the one child reminds me of a child called It. Not the severity, but in the way that abusive parents will sometimes pick one child to other while they treat the siblings lovingly. (She pretended not to notice, played stupid, denied It, and then continued the behavior blatantly.)
The “a lack of planing on your part doest constitute an emergency on mine” line applies to things like your boss asking you to work on your vacation time because they forgot to schedule someone to fill your shifts not your girlfriend needing her medication.
story 1: children are a product of their environments, and neglecting the youngest son has created an environment that is so hostile (in his perception) that he probably thought that lashing out physically would be the only way to make his mum understand how hurt he is. yes, he needs therapy. but everybody else is an accomplice in their own right - both parents, at least, knew how he felt and the only attempt to save the relationship was "i hope you include him more". minimal effort. do i think hitting your own mother is the correct way to go about fixing the dynamic? absolutely not. do i think the poor kid had just had enough of being neglected and didn't know what else to do? yeah, i really do. keeping him away for a whole year is entirely too long - this happened because he felt left out and now he is being left out of the family home. i get keeping him away while time heals, but keeping him away for too long feels completely counterproductive.
First story may be an unpopular opinion. That kid HAD it. Family tree decoration that is supposedly “traditional” and she just forgot to include her son? Lol not saying she deserved it…but she is definitely the cause. I feel bad for the kid because that was his last straw. He felt safe enough to go to his dad. And even after their talk…she still resenting her kid. It’s not the kids fault in all honesty.
Story 1 update: I'm very happy to see that you are wising up to your wife's bullshit, in terms of her favoritism. But I still can't help but wonder if she will even bother to change her behavior after this.
Hey Morgan, great job redirecting the service dog convo and correcting some common misconceptions, respectfully, I feel you may have overlooked the fact that not all legitimate service dogs come from programs. Program trained dogs are what most people are familiar with but there are a significant number of service dogs that are trained via a process called owner guided training or just owner training. Due to the assumption the service dog in the story was a program dog there were (imo) some incorrect assumptions regarding its age etc. If you don't mind I'd love to explain... Anyway, yes there are program trained dogs where handlers get the dogs once they are a bit older and nearly done with their training but that is only 1 way of training/creating service dogs, many service dogs are trained via training that is guided by the owner and the owner will often bring in any professionals they feel are necessary to assist and guide them. Some owners are very experienced in training and its a hobby or pasion project for them and they may not need much or any outside assistance. Owner trained service dogs end up equally skilled,well trained and professional and the process allows for a lot more flexibility in all aspects, the training, the cost as the cost is often a bit less and it's spread out over time rather than all at once and provides flexibility in various other ways. For many people owner training is the only viable option due to cost, time, waiting list, and most importantly, their medical condition. Some conditions that require or benefit from service dogs are very hard to train the dogs for (blood sugar alert dogs, seizure alert etc) and many programs simply cannot cater to the needs of people with these conditions and there may be less demand for them to they comcentrate their efforts else where, into areas they feel will give the larges return (benefit wise) on investment. Even more complex are situations like mine, for example, where the handler has more than 1 major disability or a disability + a mobility issue. Most program dogs are trained in specific and rigid ways, but owner training allows you to tailor a dogs training to better suit your needs. Also many programs will look at someone in a situation like mine as a less desirable candidate due to the complexity and would rather invest their limited resources into someone with 1 condition who's situation they feel has the highest likleyhood of success. It's all very rigid (which is understandable) but it means many people either fall through the cracks or aren't well served by programs and their dogs. The dog in the story is 18 months old so it's likley an owner trained dog who is still in the long process of training and is probably mostly working on public access skills and smaller tasking jobs or the precursors to larger tasking jobs. Additionally, there are psychiatric service dogs that are full-fledged service dogs and not emotional support dogs. Legally What makes a dog a service dog is the dogs ability to perform tasks that help mitigate the handlers disability, the law does not require a vest that says service dog and the law does not have any special registry or special papers you can provide as proof your dog is legit. An emotional support dog does not have any specialized training whatsoever, they are simply a pet that, by virtue of its presence, calms or comforts the owner. Emotional support dogs do not have any public access rights, whereas service dogs have very vast and protected public access rights. Morgan you did a pretty great job correcting a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings that are very common and I very much appreciate that. I just wanted to add this extra bit of info here for anyone who is curious. Thanks:):)
First story: OP deleted the account and post. He's a coward who doesn't like all the backlash him and his wife are getting. He was looking for sympathy but that's not at all what he got. Story 2: leave him. Your partner should want to help with birth control. Sex is a privilege, not a right. Story 3: iconic, ESH but iconic Story 4: nta. No contact with the parents, f them
The first story made me cry for that kid, that mom knows what she’s doing. I am the scapegoat in my family and I know what micro aggression and passive aggressive comments can do to you. It messes with your head, you start thinking that you might be crazy because others don’t notice it or say that is not happening and then it becomes like a game between you and the parent doing it and then you snap. I personally will never hurt my parents no matter what they do to me and I also believe that getting physical with someone who’s older or your parent is horrible and should never happen but I am not gonna lie that when it gets so bad you do think of punching that persons face so they can stop pretending. I feel for that kid you have to go through a lot for you to get at the physical level and he was actively seeking help from the dad and voiced how he was feeling. I wish him peace and mental stability hopefully he won’t do that again and will strengthen his mental health and leave that house when he’s 18. Ps: I love Lauren, her episodes are my favorite 😊❤
Story 3- I think she went to the hospital because she experienced allergic reactive symptoms in her vag, so she was more nervous/ new experience and got it checked out right away
Story 3 : isn’t HE the one at fault since he KNEW she ate peanut butter ? He was the one with the control!
Yup! It's not like she knew he was going to do a peanut butter smack on that other girl right after. He sucks. Didn't even wash 😩.
Exactly she isn’t responsible for his dick. And he consented to having oral sex. That’s the end of the story. Maybe be more careful if you want cheat so bad. She isn’t responsible for his cheating. so she doesn’t have to wash her mouth so his other girl doesn’t get an allergic reaction.
Exactly! He KNEW he was cheating with someone who had a peanut allergy, yet did nothing to clean himself off before being with her. He’s the one responsible! She should definitely create a group chat and explain the situation-he’s lied to the group.
@@srkh8966 I bet his dumb butt thought "oh since it's not her mouth it's fine" too.
I tent is everything in court and she admits her intent was to poison her. She would 100% be sentenced with this
One thing about the first story- the dad mentioned he had to be held back from hurting his son. Sounds like attacking out of anger may be a learned thing.
Yes and no I think the mom and siblings definitely emotionally abuse him in some way but u don’t think he learned attack from anger from his dad based on the story. I think if your married to someone and they are the love of your life and you walk in to a male that attacked your wife to the point where she’s bruised and bleeding. Dads don’t have the same connection to a child as a mother and I can see how he was seeing red in that moment and didn’t see him as a son. But he clearly felt pain for his son after the anger cleared from his mind. Honestly if he wanted to beat his son he definitely could have bc the 16 yo boy and 18 yo girl are not holding back a fully grown man.
@@priscillaharris3416yes, my dad said something similar about my cousin after an incident in which he ended up attacking some family members (luckily no one was more than a little bruised). Had he been present and seen that I was somewhat involved, I was holding back my other cousin and trying to get him into our car to take him home, he said would not have held back from hurting his nephew for putting me in direct danger. I myself had to an incident with my sister, but women tend to lean towards deescalation and I managed not to put her in a chokehold, but I was ready to.
In that moment, his 14 year old son was no longer a child, he was a threat, and you respond differently when you must protect your family. But yes, I doubt that if he were anyone other than his son, his teenaged children could properly hold him back. I don’t think most people can fully realize the way you would react if a loved one attacked another loved one, it is not a pleasant situation to be in.
@priscillaharris3416 yeah i wanted to comment this. At that point he didn't see his son as his son he saw him as a man who tried to kill his wife and it was only after his other 2 kids held him back that his reason came back and he realized it was his son and not some intruder/stranger. Its easy to call him a bad dad and angry person when you ignore the fact that its a completely justifiable reaction to seeing your wife having been assaulted and unresponsive.
@priscillaharris341 this sounds like a lot of gendered BS. "Oh, the dad doesn't have the same connection to the kids as the mom." "Oh as a man, if you see you wife being beaten by a man, you would blow up"
1. THE SON IS A CHILD
2. THE FATHER CAME IN *AFTER* HE ATTACKED THE MOM. He didn't walk in on some random man beating his wife.
3. The father also seems neglectful. He probably, like you, follows the train of thought that the father cares less about the children. If that is the house they are raised in then th abuse from his mum will feel much worse.
I agree on this, when a person express their anger with aggression only means that that’s the only way they learned how to react, and it’s pretty sad it’s a lot of people who would react like this
The peanut butter story, I think legally the man would be the one responsible since he had all the information and chose to have sex with a girl with a peanut allergy. He basically poisoned her. The girlfriend didn’t have any control over him not washing or having sex with someone with a peanut allergy, so no one could really hold her legally responsible for any of it.
Manslaughter just would not apply here at all. It’s just karma.
literwlly he’s the idiot lol
he saw her eat peanut butter and didn’t even wash himself??? he was aware i also think he is at fault…
People be blaming the woman for the man cheating.
i’m sorry but story 3 would never hold up as a manslaughter charge. she went down on HER man who then in turn HOURS later decided to cheat with a woman he knows has a peanut allergy and never washed himself. gross for all parties involved.
she did not buy a peanut butter sandwich and directly give it to the ex friend for revenge.
Exactly. Not like the reddit post will be used in court
You would be right if she herself didn't write the post. She confessed right in the post.
If they can find the post and prove she wrote it, it could be used to charge her. It is the equivalent of setting up a shotgun behind your door when you suspect a robbery might happen. You are a victim and you didn't make them rob you, but it's still not legal.
the malicious intent behind it can make it manslaughter. she did it to both find out if her boyfriend was cheating and also to hurt the friend if it was true. however, she did not intend to *kill* the friend, so yes, it would be manslaughter if she died from the allergic reaction. just because she didn't directly give something to her, doesn't mean she can't be charged with it. it's like if you hire someone to hurt/kill another person. technically, you didn't hurt them, but you were the mastermind behind it and you're still going to jail for it.
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How in the world do you forget one of your kids while decorating for Christmas?!??
This exactly! The mom and child need to do therapy together. Have a professional navigate that. If you're aware your child is left out and has brought it up, how could you not adjust your behavior?
@@bethanyschoech577the mother needs to move out until she can work through whatever it is that makes her emotionally abuse her child like that. It wasn’t an accident.
And to forget the youngest at that, like bring me that child so I can be sure he’s never forgotten again 😭
@@katiemachiz2088he wasn’t forgotten, she purposely does things like that to him all the time
That, and also how do you ask only 2 of your 3 children to go out shopping with you? That right there should’ve been the biggest clue something is up.
Story 7- I’m SO glad Morgan was well educated about Service dogs!! As a service dog handler myself, I was clapping along! Great job!
I'm sorry but, I'm here for the peanut butter story! She got her answer and if they weren't doing the deed it would have never happened. She was fine... Don't think she was the bad guy in this story... It was actually genius 😂
Yup, even if they pressed charges it would not hold up in a court of law.
I agree. Karma for doing your friends boyfriend… hope karma gets him too
totally agree!! plus it’s not an innocent girl he was cheating with. It was one of her friends, so she betrayed also. there should be NO problem going down on your man with left over peanut butter in your mouth if he’s not cheating. fucked around and found out 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, the fact that the whole group kicked her out means they all knew about it, especially if they're still friends with her. They all lied to the girl.
And the inside jokes were about her being clueless.
Also didn't he know about the girls peanut allergy as well? Why is it solely her fault and not his for not cleaning his dick if he also knew about her allergy??
Story 3, hell no she’s not the asshole and she’s not in the wrong, what she did was genius, she doesn’t even suck. She was being cheated on and lied to by her closest people.
The friend and boyfriend are the only ones in the wrong.
She definitely did suck…just not how you meant it.
She should still erase her internet history because it is possible that charges get pressed against her. It's a legal gray area, but she (and the bf) could be charged with assault with a deadly weapon.
@@hereforthespooks178 I was here just to say this 🤷😬
@@beccaedgar9556 ha!
Am I the only one who thinks the girl in story #3 did nothing wrong? Like if the ex friend were to die how would OP be responsible? Isn't the bf more responsible for the peanut butter exposure since he knew about it? And also didn't clean it off prior to getting oral and knew the ex friend was allergic?
I kind of agree. It was wrong because she had the suspicion and intended harm to get to the bottom of it but at the same time she’s the loyal one in the friendship and relationship. It’s always those who get caught in embarrassing ways that get the angriest.
There is plausible malicious intent that caused by the gf to the lover which caused her to be hospitalized. Aka she knew her friend was allergic to peanuts. That means she knew there was a chance she could die from this. And I’d she didn’t lawyers would argue common knowledge. What she did was a crime. She could be charged right now. If the post was found, a judge could order a warrant injunction to find out if this was her account. Then the prosecution would have admission of guilt.THIS is how much of a crime this is. Easy to prosecute.
I understand her sentiment, she wanted to find out, she was mad…but she could have killed that girl. She doesn’t truly know how allergic she is. This could be charged as manslaughter 100000%
I would do it if I was smart enough to think of it 😂
I agree, for all she knew they weren't involved and it was just a suspicion of her, but we don't always take our suspicions as facts do we? So she wouldn't know if he went or not to f*ck with her best friend on that particular day, because that would just be crazy. I think aldo it wasn't the most rational decision it wasn't smth directly malicious in intent. The real freaking assholery is these two fuckers cheating behind her back and in such a way
@@lampanatunka8971 I absolutely disagree as OP didn't have the knowledge that they were sleeping together and only acted on suspicion, that her boyfriend even claimed was incorrect, moreover she just ate peanut butter and gave him head, what he then did with his peanut dick then is his responsibility not hers, for all she knew he could wash it... Or you know not put it into another women like he led her believe he wouldn't.
Story 1: something more serious is going on OP has been oblivious to. For his son to pull him aside and say that his mom clearly favorites his siblings and that she never asks him to do anything and that he's FORGOTTEN about a lot. How hard was it for the mom to call upstairs or send one of the siblings to get him to help with the tree. The child is being ignored to the point of mental and emotional abuse. And for her to flat out tell him to his face that she just forgot about him... as a parent myself, WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL. There's no excuse for violence, AND there's no excuse for acting like your 3rd child doesn't exist... it really makes me wonder, how often has this kid not been called down to meals? How often has she put breakfast and lunches together for the others and "forgot" about him. How often has he come downstairs to find the house empty and his mother and siblings gone without a word to him? How often has she brought something home for them and not him? ... this goes deeper than what OP has been blind to, and he needs to speak to his children privately on what they see. They all need therapy, and it's a good thing he's with his grandparents. Also, with how fast and accepting they were about him staying with them, it makes me curious with how much favoritism they have witnessed from the mom towards the other kids.
YES!!! Omg all of this!!
I used to teach kids and teens and I *know* nothing comes from zero. Things build up and kids don’t forget when they talk to you and you don’t answer or push them out. It breaks them and it’s so hard to make them believe in themselves afterwards.
And I can’t believe the mom says she “forgets” her child!! While doing something that’s a tradition in their house?! No f-ing way.
I heard that story and was reminded of myself in boarding school. The amount of times they 'forgot' I existed was just part of them bullying me. It started with forgetting and ended up with physical violence.
Mom is the AH here. She does that on purpose.
@MsDrientje I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. :'(
@@queengoliath we're 35 years later and still haven't gotten over it. Never found time to process that and the longer it took, the harder it seemed. Only now have I began to allow myself to feel these feelings.
Therapy does wonders.
This exactly the grandparents had no issue taking him in because they probably have seen how he’s been treated hitting and beating his mom was wrong but he’s a 14 year old going through puberty who has tried to express show he feels. He’s hurt and it’s the parents neglect that’s caused this whole situation they all need therapy separately and as a family to heal from this.
Story 2: If he is not willing to financially help with NOT having a baby. He will NOT financially help with a baby if you have one. Leave him. He sounds like a jerk.
@marissanicole5658 Exactly don't give that guy another minute let alone a whole month🤣
“this may not be breakup worthy but…” got me shook… LEAVE NOW. The red flags are FLASHING
@@stephocean If I were her, I would have been done after his response when she asked for financial support, that was so callous who are dating Ebenezer Scrooge WTF?!
For story 4 the daughter was definitely trying to make a point. I don't believe she would actually put a dog down let alone believe that this would "make them even". The way I see it her parents are ridiculously entitled borderline narcissistic to just expect their daughter to forgive murder after she trusted them. This relationship won't ever be mended and the op is better off without them. The brother needs to mind his business too
But what point did she try to make? You sent off my dog to die for your convenience, now send this new dog to die (she is making them think it would die) and I will find you worthy of meeting your grandchild what are they learning from this that disregarding the life of a dog is a positive thing?
@@asnalem4391the point is that they obviously value their dog (wouldn't go so far as to claim they love it, they don't seem capable of it) so why was her dog worth so little it justified them killing it?
@@asnalem4391I can imagine she said it out of pure frustration in the moment to make them understand how badly they've hurt her. I've said some useless but spiteful things to family members who I've cut contact with just to make a point I don't want them anywhere near me. OPs comment wasn't constructive, but neither is her parent's approach to the situation. They don't believe they've done anything wrong, they just feel entitled to seeing their grandchildren.
I don’t think “weaponizing sex” makes sense because no one owes you sex. the girl in the story just doesn’t want to have sex with him and him crying saying she’s weaponizing sex bs is so manipulative
The only way I could see it being weaponised is in abusive situations not when a woman wants safe sex...
And she shouldnt for 3 months really. That is how long it takes to make sure you wont get pregnant
I mean she could just take it up the butt if she if nothing else
He seriously tried to gaslight her into thinking she was in the wrong. Shame on him.
You definitely can weaponize sex, but this is not at all applicable to this situation. Neither is his use of the phrase “lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part“. He is definitely trying to manipulate her into thinking she is in the wrong.
Am I the only one that’s here for the peanut butter story??? Well deserved. If anything the boyfriend is at fault here because he knew he got sucked by his girlfriend’s peanut butter mouth. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly, and if anyone is to blame it’s him, he was technically the one responsible bc he KNEW she was allergic, he could have easily taken a 5 min shower but cared more abt getting his d wet than her health..
100% F the boyfriend, gross, and F the awful friend, screw around and find out.
Story 1
As a therapist:
The child and the wife need therapy, individually
If bringing him home is the goal, then the child, the father and the mother need family therapy.
The mother should be the one leaving the house, not her abuse victim. She should be the one working her way back into the family not her abuse victim.
@@stirlingarcher7972yes the mother is so terrible! She was mentally abusing him. Like she truly was doing this for years and didn’t even care.
@@stirlingarcher7972you are doing the most. The eventos describe in this story dont Fit the word abuse. And the kid definetly does not Fit the word victim either. Stop with the BS.
@@diego_fethe events described in the story are emotional abuse full stop.
Ya but the whole family should be a part of the family therapy, not just the one kid and parents, bc the dynamic of a family includes and is affected by everyone
Story 6: Sorry not sorry, but he was cheating. He was dating that woman. He can call it what he wants, but if that happened to me? I'd be devastated.
100%, hiding stuff from his wife, he definitely cheated 🙄. I'll also never believe "it just happens", bruh no one befriends someone from the opposite sex without being conscious of that difference. He chose to let it play out and get so close to her
Yeah and talking about easy it is to cheat is such bullshit lmao it’s just as easy to NOT. I had a crush on a coworker and as soon I realized I distanced myself because I actually love and respect my boyfriend. Didn’t keeping hanging out with the guy to see “how far I can get away without sleeping” so fucking dumb cutting that cheating POS slack
I agree, even if he didn’t sleep with her. That was an emotional affair/start of an affair. Like what if his wife finds out and we all know he would’ve tried to come up with excuse or justify it. The fact that he has to keep it secret already shows it’s not supposed to happen.
Yeah, it’s called establishing boundaries. Yes, crushes can sometimes just happen when there is natural chemistry or someone is very charismatic naturally - but that’s why you establish boundaries before that’s an issue. Like not hanging out outside of work or only if it’s a group, not texting/calling unless it is work related/not following coworker’s social media/ whatever it is that you know could lead you to possibly get a little too personal with someone. And it’s also about ensuring you are putting more energy into your relationship with your partner than these other relationships, going on dates, flirting, communicating needs & wants. The grass usually isn’t actually greener on the other side, you just haven’t been tending to your own lawn well.
literally 100% cheating. emotionally if it was never physical
55:04 She said in her disclaimer at the beginning of the story that she has no intention on harming her parents' dog. So clearly, she only said that to make a point, which obviously the parents did not get
In story 3, the bf KNEW his gf just went down on him after eating peanut butter, so if anything HE should be the one charged.
Story 4 - I’m so annoyed by people taking things SO SERIOUSLY. She’s clearly not going to kill their dog. Unbelievable. She’s not the asshole. They didn’t feel bad for their HORRID CHOICE and everyone has such an entitlement to other people’s children. This was hard to listen to. She’s lucky that’s all she said. I wouldn’t have been that nice - plain and simple. People make my brain hurt.
The whole purpose of her comment was for them to react with disbelief so she could say "See?", kinda like the "let me dad watch your colonoscopy" story. "See how it feels?" I agree it was never meant seriously.
exactly. she even said she doesn’t want their dog to die and why would she ever want someone to kill their dog after what she’s been through. she clearly has no want to ever see her parents again and she KNOWS they’re not going to do it. she’s just showing them the other side.
I would react like the boy in story 1 ,if my parents woul have killed my dog...
She's just saying "You're not meeting my child, because you killed my best friend, period."
Aside from that, i'm worried about their new puppy, they should not be near any animal if they could kill another one so easily.
Yep! She just showed how hypocritical they’ve been in telling her she put her dog above family, although my concern would be that they’d go put the dog down themselves given their track record of psychopathy.
Story 7: if the dog only "does tasks when he feels like it" then he's not a service dog.
Long story short, the events of story one is what happens when you don't take your kids seriously. For the love of God, *_parents, take your kids seriously!_* If one of your children is telling you that they are being forgotten, you need to nip that shit in the bud right away! OP, you seriously dropped the ball on that one
And yet that’s no excuse for the absolute assault she got.
@@G4ce01she and her husband are responsible for making sure their kid doesnt end up with internalized rage in the first place
A feeling of being left out is never going to be a valid reason for a severe violent outburst. Kid needs not just a therapist but probably a psychologist too :(
@@nickhinojosa5610and they probably would have noticed the signs sooner if they weren't too busy ignoring the kid
And the parents! What led to this in the first place needs to be addressed. It doesn't all fall on the neglected kid@@nickhinojosa5610
Story 3- I have a fatal allergy to peanut butter. When I heard the title my initial reaction was that what OP did was wrong. But after hearing the whole story and hearing how the PB was transferred I’d have to say…. NTA 😅
Story 1 as someone who has seen favoritism happen at home. Especially in a Hispanic household, you never forget even as a grown up, it does hurt.
Yeah but I’ve never beat the shit out my mom. Especially in Latino households men are always excused when they show signs of extreme anger and violence. I hope therapy helps bc if not he’s already crossed this line once and WILL do it again to his partners/ own children.
Im sorry if he was able to lash out like this no wonder she "forgot" him wth that’s seriously messed up. The kid probably has some underlying mental issues because I can relate to being forgotten but NEVER would I EVER do THAT to my mom WHAT
@@atsooba Now I don't mean to be too snarky here, but it's _almost_ like he has mental issues from parental neglect. When it got so much for him to handle that he confessed to his dad, his dad casually said "hey now" to his mom and watched the neglect continue. It seems like these parents spent 0 hours in his life teaching him how to process emotions and cope with stress in a healthy way.
His mom happily did an important family activity "with all her kids" and told him she'd forgotten him when they were done. That's the things cruel stepmothers do. I truly believe he needs no other issues than the neglect to end up with that retaliation. That neither of us have done this specific thing doesn't mean it's less of a legitimate response. Not good or condoned, just a real thing that happens in some neglected kids.
Do you have comprehension issues? He lashed out due to build-up anger, which is caused by his mother neglecting him and shunning him away from family activities. @@atsooba
yeah shes his mom its her fault for raising him wrongly and literally forgetting him. @@atsooba
The peanut story made me want a pb&j sandwich, cheers to the OP. Hope she gets better friends
The third story is wild and smart at the same time🤣 she just outsmartet them how could they be mad like??
You also forgot, fake as shit
Story 7: service dogs need to meet the ADA criteria to be legally considered a service dog. Most training programs for service dogs are a minimum of 2 years, and their task training usually doesn’t start till 6 months. So at most this dog is a service dog *prospect* that definitely still has training to go. He’s not ready
This!!!! Additionally some prospects might not be “perfect” and have slip ups (dogs aren’t machines). This heavy level of scrutiny on service dogs in training can be incredibly stressful for actual SD handlers
The conversation after story one hit home. Morgan talked about how it’s a misconception to let babies “cry it out”
On thanksgiving I was talking to my mom over the phone. She decided to talk about nostalgic memories for her of when I was a baby. She told me she loved the sound of me crying. She said she would intentionally startle me while sleeping so that I would wake up crying. I’ve been thinking about how that could have affected me and my relationship with her. We have never had a strong emotional bond or closeness.
Wow I am so sorry you went through that. Our little brains retain so much from when we're babies that we don't even realize.
My husband and I were and are still at odds because i flat out refused ferber/the cry it out method. Sleep training is a complete LIE. It was created by corporate America to keep people working at peak capacity. They sold it as “great for parents and the kids” except there is no evidence that it is beneficial except for parents getting enough sleep to function at work. We didn’t sleep train and by two years old our son regulated himself
Ive read studies about how when cry it out/sleep training was introduced the rates of pediatric anxiety disorders increased
😳 what?!? Okay I understand that it's only one fact about your mom.. BUT as a mom of 2 who had my first at 19 the sound of my baby crying was physically painful for me. I can't imagine someone LIKING the sound of a baby crying. That sounds like... A possible unhealthy mental state.
So your mother loved the sound of her baby being upset?! WTAF? That's weird and very concerning. If you ever decide to have children it might be a good idea to supervise any contact they have with your mother.
Story 2: I’m so disgusted by how many times the OP had to defend herself for not wanting to have sex if her personal requirements to feel safe were not met she shouldn’t even have to give a reason. Sex is a shared activity between consenting adults. Both have to consent. It’s ridiculous how often women are pressured into having sex when they don’t want to.
THANK YOU! THE NERVE PEOPLE HAVE. No offense but I bet they were all guys
Yeh the post got to the front page so many commenters aren't from the THT sub but it was so gross and upsetting.
Story 3: I don’t think op is the AH. I’d tell the whole story about what happened to the friend group. There’s no telling what story is being given now. She did try to talk to him and he gaslit her. He is disgusting and couldn’t even wash himself between.
Agree. If he hadn't been cheating if the friend hadn't been a skank then there never would've been an allergic reaction. Good luck if they try to press charges, her simple defense is he should've showered.
This and on top of the fact that he saw her eat the peanut butter toast and he let her go down on him and then he knowingly f***** somebody with a peanut butter allergy. If anything he's liable for her hospitalization
Why not just break up if it gets to the point of I’m going to eat a peanut butter sandwich and go down on him to make sure he’s not cheating?
@@Shortypants403 I hate when people say stuff like this. It’s like “why not break up if you have any feelings that they’re cheating”, because they may NOT be. It makes it easier to leave KNOWING that someone is cheating rather than just suspecting. That’s why. Living with the thought of “what if I left a good relationship just over a feeling”, and constantly thinking about that is going to make you second guess yourself, then possibly make you regret your decision/go back to someone who may have VERY WELL been cheating, all because they didn’t pick up that phone or eat that peanut butter sandwich. The point of searching is confirming your suspicions, knowing your not crazy, not letting that person make you feel crazy for having suspicions because you have the proof, and being able to walk away with no regrets.
@@destinyrain222 Is it that healthy or good of a relationship if you have to check on them to see if they're cheating or set traps to find out if they're cheating? Couldn't be me, I choose being single over spending my time doing free private investigator work because I don't trust my partner. the trust is gone and so is the relationship at that point.
for the people calling peanut butter girl the AH…. is she never supposed to eat PB again because maybe her bf is cheating on her with someone with a nut allergy ?? that’s so absurd. we’ve all been in a relationship where we had a nervous inkling something might be going on when there wasn’t … i’m not gonna stop eating PB bc of it.
“Hey babe don’t eat any peanut butter rn.. don’t worry about it just don’t eat any” like wtf ? 😭 how is she the villain when he’s the one that won’t wash his 🐓
Its different becaue OP did it specifically to catch them because of her suspicion. She did it with Malice doesn't matter if she was right or even justified.
Exactly
@@ToastKnight_ OP shouldnt be making a habit of triggering allergies to test if she's being cheated on. She should learn to see the signs, and know her worth and leave
Story 1- 11:29 what the f*ck is wrong with these parents? No wonder that child lashed out. He has asked, he has told you how he feels, he’s tried to include himself and she STILL ignores him and doesn’t include him?! This whole family needs help.
PB Girl is not the AH. She did nothing wrong. If the boyfriend and best friend would have kept their hands to themselves, no one would have an issue. And HE in fact knew she ate PB toast and then didn't wash himself and screwed around with a girl he KNEW had a PB allergy. She didn't KNOW he was cheating, she just had a suspician and she did confront him about him. He lied to her. Then to say she needs to be the mature one to talk to him about it, SHE DID. He should have been the mature one and been honest when confronted. PERIOD.
Story 1 - social worker here, so this is always my worldview, but no individual, child included, lives in a vacuum. Children learn from and take cues from the family system they live in, and a blow up of that proportion did not come out of nowhere. I hope that they find a good, intuitive family therapist who will look beyond the child's behavior problems and try to get the family to find the roots of the dynamics going on. The mom should also be in individual therapy because consistently leaving out one child even if she "doesn't mean to" is also coming from somewhere, and she needs to work on that. Therapy for a child, no matter how good, doesn't fix issues if they go right back to a dysfunctional environment where everyone sees that child as the problem and ignores their own.
It honestly sounds like he may have been physically abused as well.
The husband in Story 6 didn't almost cheat, he almost slept with the person that he was _already_ cheating on his wife with.
Story 1: I’m a young mother to an almost two year old and a 2 month old. My BIGGEST fear in my mothering is that I might ever do something to make them believe I have a favorite child.
I personally have a hard time believing that any mother is naive to her playing of favorites among her children. I genuinely believe she knew what she was doing, especially after it was brought to her attention. It bothers me that she’s not being held more accountable for her actions. Kids don’t snap like that unless you’ve pushed them to snap…
I agree, I think the mom is at fault and the lack of holding her accountable is really gross. She is emotionally neglecting her kid.
@@lexapeaches it didn’t sit right he with me that she only agreed to therapy for herself if the son’s therapist suggested it. Like lady, you need it either way. All of them do. I’m sure the therapist will suggest it if they’re worth their penny. But it’s obvious she still is downplaying her role and side to it all.
Kid needs to be held accountable and have legal consequences. Domestic battery is not okay no matter how much you feel you’re being left out.
Mom is not in the clear. She didn’t batter her son. THAT is the issue. For him to even cross that line he was unwell to begin with. Dad should’ve forced him to go to therapy. They all need it.
@@mrdavman13 And why do you think he’s unwell? All of them need therapy.
@@Cashhhhew cause he beat and choked his mom? That is literally attempted murder in most states.
Are you unwell?
Story 6: if you have to justify your actions by telling yourself “It’s innocent; I haven’t done anything wrong”, then you’re definitely on the slope to cheat.
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For story one: a year is too long. It will do more damage and he will grow even more resentful. I think being separated for a week, maybe two is plenty. Then, once he comes back, mom and son need to attend therapy together WEEKLY. They need to find a way to repair their relationship and begin as soon as possible.
Based on the update, it looks like that's exactly what's going to happen
If anything the mother should leave the house for a year
Yes I agree! Both mom & son need to go to therapy.
@@stirlingarcher7972we obviously don’t know anything but i’d be scared if my sibling showed they were capable of such damage. no matter how angry someone is that’s not a safe response. it’s so unpredictable
Whole family needs at least 3 therapy sessions- individual and together. This was a traumatic event and when it comes to favoring kids- it affects all of them no matter what- even the favored ones. The siblings need to be screened for how they feel about what their brother did, and if there is possibly an abusive and/or neglectful household due to the mother (and I’d argue even dad since he failed to do something before it got so severe) - get the full picture. If they’re dealing with intense enough things as well- it would help. Of course that should be the adult daughter’s own decision- she likely will start doing it on her own soon anyway. But having them all go individually and as a family- makes it not as much singling out the youngest even more as the problem. Then I would suggest parental counseling for the parents/alternating therapy with both their kid and each parent for the next year at least. This is a conduct disorder waiting to be formed if they don’t properly address with professional help.
Just kind of an off shoot story about a service dog: I had a boss that had diabetes so he brought his German Shepard into work with him every single day who was his trained service dog and one day he had to go to a meeting the entire way across our warehouse and up some steps without his dog and the dog FROM ALL THE WAY ACROSS HALF A FOOTBALL FIELD sensed he was in danger and had collapsed and ran to alert someone to check on him. THATS a service dog. Service dogs don’t ignore their owners flare ups they DO something about it
Story 1 it's hard to forget your children I have 3 and have had 6 in my home at once and not forgotten one of them for any activity
The "service dog" is not a service dog. She adopted a puppy with intention to make him a service dog and is failing because she's not a dog trainer. Every single detail made me say, "Oh, that's not how that works!"
Like, she got a poodle because she likes that breed. But orgs use dogs that are best suited to specific tasks, so beyond knowing which breeds groups work with, there isn't much, if any, breed selection being made by the service dog user.
It's not a pet. You don't get one you like. You get one that does the job right. That's incredibly stupid sounding. most service dogs don't actually start working until 2/3...
Unfortunately there's no registration for service dogs. The only ones you'll see are scams. Just taking your money to give you a paper.
@@FukaiKokoroexactly, just like all these ads I’m seeing for emotional support registration so you can bring your pet everywhere with you. Like no, that’s not how that works. It’s literally just a piece of paper you paid for. Your pet has not been trained. It is not a service animal.
Service dogs are trained by professional trainers who are educated and trained themselves in that specific area. Service dogs are also put into specific training classes according to what services they will be needed for. Obviously a K9 will have different skills than a guide for the blind. My uncle has 2 service dogs in his home because my aunt and he each have one and they are trained for different tasks. The poodle is not a service dog unless you need a Swiffer or something that alerts you that a fly flew by .... Everytime it flies by..... At your neighbors house .... All of them ... 😶
@@jas67angelso you're telling me that my sisters cockatoo Flyboy , who curses profusely in 3 languages can't be a support animal??? Oh no that's just going to piss him off. Thank God he hasn't learned the word discrimination yet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Story 3: Definitely nta, yeah it sucks that her ex best friend was hospitalized but I mean okay, and? I just looovvve how the boyfriend got mad at OP for getting her ex best friend hospitalized but doesn't seem to care that he could have fucked up OPs life, STDs exist people!!!!! Also the friend got what she deserves I mean how are you going to sleep with your literal best friends partner and not feel guilty or disgusted? I honestly hope OP doesn't allow the boyfriend off the hook and she fucks his life up
yessss i was thinking the same lol
to me this story reminded me of when ppl break and enter into someones home and they get injured and try to sue the home owner as though they did nothing wrong. its the EPITOME of you fuck around you find out
The audacity of him telling her “you should have talked to me”?! Home boy you were CHEATING! Maybe talk to your gf and end the relationship
@@wandering6252 BUT if you think someone is going to break into your house that night and you set up potentially deadly traps for them I'm pretty sure they might have some kind of legit lawsuit.
@@ToastKnight_ legally yes. in the USA you cannot boobytrap your home. but personally if ur breaking into someones house and you fall into a boobytrap thats ur own fault. if you werent also breaking the law by breaking and entering you wouldnt have triggered a trap. its a stupid law we have here
About the service dog story; I have one. I trained him myself. (Allowed according to the Ada. And there is no true age for a service dog) he was fully trained AT a year old. And even before that, he wasn’t easily distracted. He is a German Sheppard and the best boy ever. He has been attacked in Walmart where I live by fake “service dogs” and they wouldn’t do anything. It is the worst feeling in the world knowing people take advantage.
I find story 6 really interesting actually. I’m 23 and married my husband back in August. We’ve been together for 8 years now. It’s made me realize that once we were in a committed relationship, I always kept other men a certain arms length away. Now don’t get me wrong, my husband has never stopped me from making any friends and I’m the same with him, but I think there’s an unspoken rule between us that we don’t get extremely close with anyone we could become attracted to. It keeps things stable. No crushes are able to form and we focus on each other
I'm pretty similar in age and relationship length as you and I agree. I keep most men at arms length. If I notice any feelings of attraction I immediately take a step back, stop looking or whatever I need to do. Because my husband would do that for me and we agreed to be faithful.
I am 32 and I agree.
Story 6: Is NOT easy… he actively decided to break MULTIPLE boundaries and allowed himself to develop feelings. “These things just happen..” is not a real thing.. it happened because you were weak and you allowed yourself to stray in your thoughts and break boundaries. He was emotionally cheating.
This. This story made me so sad and really pessimistic if I am honest. He has 100 percent cheated. It’s like, what I do not to cheat? Don’t ever put myself in a position when ‘these things just happen’. What a big load of bs from OP
Story 1 I don’t think she “forgot him” I think it was deliberate and he was in the wrong for how he acted but his parents neglected him he asked for help and got ignored
And the fact that the dad wanted to savagely beat his 14yo.. that's disgusting.
@@Reverse_Cowgirl-catHe attacked his wife, I think it’s understandable when a 14 year old that strong could have killed her and attacked his own siblings.
@@unamed2516 and that anger came from being neglected for 14 years
Story 1: Mother needs therapy immediately. She is actively treating her youngest son bad. No one forgets their kid. No one favors over other kids on accident. The son needs therapy as well to control his anger.
Story 6: While his perspective is interesting and somewhat realistic, cheating is only "easy" because people lie to themselves. I have had to explain this to so many guys in my life and i'll probably have to many more times, but cheating isn't just physical intimacy .....obviously. It seems like a lot of people think if they don't flirt or touch they haven't crossed a boundary, as if the whole point of cheating isn't having feels for another person. The externalization of those feelings is just 4k proof of the cheating. You don't innocently not notice you like someone when you go out of your way to hang out or reply to messages. If the realization comes after seeing her in a bikini then you clearly had plenty of thoughts before that were not faithful and you should probably sit down in the shower or take up journaling because you don't process your thoughts a lot....🙃
Love this! Yes. That story was interesting because exactly seems like it was very focused on physical intimacy. Seems like he was already emotionally cheating.
Exactly. Be self aware, people
Amen
It’s crazy how I recognize the red flags immediately while he kept saying “I promise I didn’t notice.” It’s like yea, you may not have ‘noticed’ but that’s what you need to fix and let you get so far before feeling what you needed to and set boundaries. It’s easy - picture your wife going and doing those same things. Picture your wife sitting right beside you as you check out that woman in a bikini. As a fellow human, thinking of my bf right beside me doing a tempting thought is the ONLY thing I need to do to remind me I have no interest in that activity
Exactly. The husband still doesn't think he cheated; yes, he admits he did inappropriate things but he's not recognizing that he full on cheated on his wife regardless if they had sex or not
I’m definitely toxic because that peanut butter story had me HOWLING. Queen tbh
I am a Mental Health Practitioner and mind blown at story 1, sounds like family therapy & DBT for the child.
Story 4 made me so sad & angry, i really hope the OP was able to find peace with losing her best friend in such a disgusting & unjust way. My dogs are my children in my eyes, I would never even consider talking to my parents again if they had done this to me. If she does forgive them they are incredibly blessed to have such a gracious daughter, she was too easy on them.
1st story:
The mother needs to accept accountability for her role in this. Very dismissive of her child. He shouldn’t have lashed out like that clearly, but as a mother, I can’t understand her attitude. If someone pointed out that I was making my child feel left out, I would whatever I could to rectify that.
story 3: you couldn’t pay for me to care about op’s ex best friend. “she could’ve died” okay and…? they didn’t care about her when they were cheating and having unprotected sex, putting op at risk. the only silver lining is that she now knows who her friends really are, it’ll be sad being alone for a while but hopefully she’ll be able to find new people to surround herself with who don’t excuse disgusting behaviour like this
Lauren, the phrase "you are not entitled to my body" is SO true, and holds a lot of weight for me. At 16, this is what I told the man who abused me for 2 years, and saying those words freed me. I was young, naive, and a bit socially inept, and at 14, I just wanted to love and be loved. And I had no idea that was happening was so wrong. He put the idea in my head that since he was my boyfriend, I had to allow him access to my body at all times. Not only my physical body, but my whole person. This mindset of entitlement to sex is a flag made out of fire. We have to all have the courage and self respect to have autonomy over ourselves. We can't let people treat us like that, trust me, the years of trauma are not worth it. NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO YOUR BODY ❤
There are different laws for service animals verses ESAs because they serve different functions but it’s so nuanced emotionally. Thanks for talking about this. As someone who’s visually impaired, I get frustrated when people say their dogs are service dogs when they’re not and the dog isn’t well trained or socialized.
For the first story that mom was being shitty and the dad should have stepped in more then just saying it one time, now the mom is gonna use this to further keep that child away from the family and it’s not fair
I just heard the update and I’m happy the mom is trying, I genuinely thought she would give up on Josh so good for her and their family and I hope everyone recovers emotionally and for the mom physically and emotionally
@@tatianap-a8683the mother is an abuser, she abused that child for years. She didn’t ‘fOrGeT’ him. She purposely left him out to hurt him because she’s an emotionally abusive monster
@@stirlingarcher7972yes she was definitely emotionally abusive but didn’t deserve to be attacked either, violence was not the answer in this case
Heck, some commenters are doing that already
@@tatianap-a8683 it didn't sound like the son was using violence as an answer, it sounded like the abuse got too much for him and he did not know how to deal with it.
Story 1 is really frustrating because the dad wants to protect the family but they are all neglecting the inciting problem. The mom has basically abandoned the son and the father doesnt seem to be present enough to make that much of an effort. Because their first solution was to throw the son into therapy and not the mom who was the one being neglectful. So yeah it makes sense that those events became the end result. The son's only options were to just give up on his family showing him love or to lash out.
Wow that first story is so awful. The whole family is aware of the dynamic so they all need therapy. Keeping him away for a year isn’t the answer. Maybe a few months. It’s not fair to treat a child so differently him snapping like this- he has seen violence. This family has hurt him and. They are the root of the problem. I don’t think they deserve to be in his life. They brought him to such a low point. He cannot hold the responsibility of healing and therapy for the family.
yep how does a mother forget her youngest child even before this incident
Excuse me but absolutely none of that excuses a violent attack on a woman, his own mother... Sure the parents caused this in him but there's no excuse for this type of reaction.
He should’ve never attacked his mother that was uncalled for NO matter what, but she is terrible to this boy he shouldn’t be ignored
You should NEVER lay hands on someone unless it's to protect yourself. Josh could've ruined his own life that day,I'm glad that they didn't call the cops on him.
@@GaiaTheNatureWitch Exactly, I'm so shocked that no one talked about that more. He BEAT her!! She's better than me because if my son beat me to the ground like that, he would never see me again in his life
"her favoritism was barely noticeable".... THAT'S THE POINT OF MICROAGRESSIONS!
1st story the mom was emotionally abusing and neglecting her son
The physical way he lashed out is awful but what the mom was doing was way worse
And now she wins
He's gone
3rd story: the guy self reported so fast I actually cackled
Story 2: He said I was being 'financially controlling'
How can she control him with money when she DOESN'T HAVE MONEY!?
She's been taking care of her mother for 3 WEEKS! All her money has gone towards that! What a sad little man.
You can be finically controlling by demanding money from people even if you’re broke. Not saying she was in the wrong at all but finical abuse doesn’t always have to come in the form of the person with more money controlling the “poorer” party
@@M2161 that's not what was happening.that have come and gone and now they were talking at a later date when she didn't ask for anything other than him not using her body
Therapist here!! Story one- family therapy and individual therapy needs to happen for everyone in the story. I’d recommend a more intensive level of care- most agencies can offer intensive in-home therapy short-term following a crisis situation like this. That could help immensely in this situation. And if that 14 year old is in so much pain, always always keep an eye out for SI. I hope they can heal. ❤
I believe in situations where one child is demonised, the siblings can often be brought into the demonization. It feels good to be the child that's getting love and being seen as unproblematic.
Service dog story: that is not a service dog. There’s no way a trained service dog would be reacting like that.
The peanut butter story is the type of petty I love lol, she’s insane but I get it. she just saved herself from a pos bf and that group of friends that are assholes she’s not missing out on any good friendships. Also she could of been transmitted a dangerous std from them so let’s not go that hard on the OP. I wish she would of gotten revenge on him tho not the shitty friend.
Nah, the friend was a bigger POS
I Don’t even think it’s petty, she had a suspicion but couldn’t confirm her man was cheating with her friend so she tried an experiment . In my opinion it would be his fault that the friend had the allergy attack and the friends fault for being a cheater, perioddddd
Story 3: I’m gonna be honest I wouldn’t have cared if she died or not. To do that to a friend is messed up. You screw your friend over don’t be surprised how you get screwed over
Um. Wow.
For story one i am a mom of four kids and even though they are younger than the kids in the story I cannot imagine "forgetting" one of them and blatantly showing so mucj favoritism that it has to be brought to my attention. The fact that anyone noticed in the first place tells me that it was extremely obvious and must've been hurting the boy on a regular basis. I honestly just don't believe the mom when she denying that she has any issues with him because you just don't do that. Maybe she thinks she can fool people if she keeps pretending (not even well I might add) but I don't believe for a second she doesn't know that she feels differently towards him
1:32:28 tysm, Morgan for stepping in and spreading awareness about the difference between ESAs and SDs. I was really worried this was going to turn into misinformation just because it’s so common on this subject.
For story 1, it makes me wonder what more was going on under the father’s nose. As others mentioned, the attack didn’t just fall from the sky. Absolutely horrible? YES! I can’t imagine the absolute hurt and emptiness this poor boy felt for god knows how long. Makes me wonder, what happened when he was a baby? Would she neglect him then too because he was “too much work” and the older ones were easier? LOTS too unpack here. I have 2 of my own. I don’t do anything without the 2 of them. This year is the first time dad participated with decorating the tree while I was out. I was so happy they did it the three of them together and were so excited to show me. I couldn’t fathom purposefully leaving out my youngest. There’s definitely more that meets the eye when it comes to this mom. My own motherly instincts are tingling. I just want to give this poor boy a hug!
I’m here for laying down the facts in story 7. People claiming that their dog is a service dog when they’re the most horribly behaved anxious wild animal is enraging.
I just love that I never know when THT will be uploaded. Honestly, I'm here for it. 😂
Yes!! Like girly 5am? In time for me to listen while driving to work??! Such a win
@@thiccpersephone4783 lucky! I just got to work! So I have to wait a little bit to finish the episode 😭
I think it’s every Thursday because I religiously check for new episodes 😂
@@janessaluciano9887 it definitely is every Thursday! But the time they release it is always different lol sometimes it's at the stroke of midnight and sometimes it's like 5pm lol
My friend has a service dog. She's only a little over a year and still in training right now. But his older service animal was getting into retirement age unfortunately. He told me that there are a few programs that essentially "donate" a service animal that is partially trained, meaning you have to keep up with the rest of their training yourself and obviously pay for their upkeep. Real service animals will also be under contracts as well. So for him if his dog doesn't pass her OFAs she can potentially be taken back and given to a person who doesn't need an OFA qualified animal (OFAs are needed for mobility aid dogs. Also they're under contract because they're actually real specifically bred dogs with pedigrees) His dog is really really well trained and they keep up with the training all the time. Unfortunately there are things called "High value distractions" which can really test their training. Me for example. I am this dog's favorite person in the entire universe. For no obvious reason I can figure out.... but that also means I've done my best not to react if she's not doing her job when she's on the clock. It's hard sometimes but she's getting better all the time. Sounds like her dog needs more training. Or possibly that someone could have fooled her into thinking they got her a service dog. That would be really sad.
When Morgan says "I don't care for Gob" and doesn't pronounce it correctly...that's some Arrested Development humor lol
Story 6: that's exactly why you shouldn't put yourself in a position where a crush can develop. And that's why a lot of people have a problem with their boyfriend or girlfriend having deep friendship with people of the opposite sex... but sure let's just call those people insecure and have an affair a month later
Story 2: he is literally using Reddit therapy talk to manipulate her to get what he wants. So gross.
Yes! 'A lack of planning on your part doesn't constitute and emergency on mine' is a phrase used by a popular tiktoker who helps people translate 'normal' talk into corporate talk. The context of that phrase in the tiktok was to help someone politely tell their boss to piss off because he messed up work schedules. It's NOT for your long-term partner.
Story #1: the mother knew exactly what she was doing. As a parent you DO NOT FORGET YOUR CHILD‼️ the mother honestly might needs therapy the most out of everybody as to why she’s treating her own child (the youngest) the way she is
Story 1 hits me hard. I have two girls. One day when my youngest was still a baby, I went to the bathroom and heard her cry, followed by scream. I rushed out to see my older (special needs) daughter putting a pillow over the baby's face, stone faced. I don't remember what I did (blacked out), but it led to both me and my oldest in therapy. We're all safe now.
"Golden retriever" story: my man and I have been together for 10 years now. We have a family. I and our girls have ALWAYS been his number one priority, even when we had relationship problems. We've spent ten years chasing each other (in a good way), and we'll never stop ❤
Did anyone else bust out laughing at 41:11 when Lauren said, “everyone definitely sucks here!”?The stupid school kid in me couldn’t help but think that was a pun intended
I'm a little suspicious of Story 3: Peanut Butter BJ. Peanut butter is a pantry staple to many households, at least in the US, and is it really so suspicious that OP bought it. Would the peanut oil even stay for that long and how would John figure out that it was OP's doing and not something he ate, so many things have peanut oil as an ingredient. Also why would the WHOLE friend group condone cheating, and be perfectly ok with it? Unless John and Izzy spun it to the group chat that OP gave contaminated food to Izzy. OP should create a new group chat or IG post and play dumb that Izzy having an allergic reaction was how she happened to find out.
We don't have peanut butter in our house only almond butter due to food allergies/sensitivities so idk
I know ^ they said they don’t but EVERYONE I know has peanut butter as a staple in their home and I’m Mexican 😂 peanut butter is literally such a basic thing like how is it her fault. Shit the other girl should be happy that’s all that happened in consequence to her being a disgusting friend and human.
I’m sorry but WHYYY oh why he was not responsible for washing his Peen?!! So quick to blame her when he could’ve avoided this shit by a 2 mins lil peen washin. Haha.
But in all seriousness I get what y’all are saying and I agree! as for catching a charge… I agree but in this case prob wouldn’t be able to hold up on court in all reality.
There’s really no hard proof/trail that she found to confirm they are cheating such as a text message or picture or whatever! If she had proceeded to come up with a plan after finding such things and they could prove she likely had found, knowing he wasn’t going to wash himself or something.I don’t see it making it to court to actually convict her without reasonable doubt……
I may or may not have been watching too much true crime and court.😂
❤ the work y’all do!
I don't have any peanut butter or anything similar... it's not that weird so households just don't like peanut butter. It's not like butter or cooking oil that you need peanut butter in the house to cook or eat
@@alexandramilito nah I disagree with catchin a charge. Besides the fact that even you said it likely wouldn't hold in court (which honestly is a 50/50 someone got fired for doing something similar but I don't recall it going to court and some judges are dicks) I imagine poisoning in adultery land on two different parts of the moral scale depending on the person. To me it all comes down to both parties (bf & bf) directly lying. If she had jumped straight to the nuclear option then okay something might be wrong. but she double triple checked and was Gaslight and lied to. So she acted out of suspicion yes but under the pretext that he created and swore was true.
Story 1 is 100% on the parents and ostracizing him from the family is avoiding the issue as opposed to helping the child.
The peanut butter story, idk. I feel like that’s pretty iconic
Story 3: well I might be crazy because I don’t think she’s the asshole for doing that peanut butter thing 🤷🏻♀️ they shouldn’t be cheating…
The first story disgusted me. I grew up in a similar situation. The culprit was my evil grandmother (they’ve been doing this for generations). Our parents never stepped in and forced us to spend the majority of our time over there so they can party and God knows what else.
I left the state, have a beautiful family of my own and a disdain for my family they are all very aware of. My brother (who I say got the worst of it) became an alcoholic and died last year. He was 31.
We all thought he was okay. He had a home and a wife and then BOOM. He was constantly going on about our childhood before he passed.
This family needs to get help and do everything in their power to make it up to their son. I feel so strongly about this. You never know when / how trauma can manifest and it’s YOUR job to make sure your son is okay.
I thought I had accepted our experiences for what they were but after losing my brother I might never forgive my family. The price of their impact was way too high.
About the first story, the mom "assured" the dad that she loved all of her kids equally, but she never said that she was going to work on not making the poor kid feel left out. I bet she never tried. What he did is not okay, he needs immediate help bcs it could built up into a very scary thing (a very dangerous adult), but I do agree with the top comment: that family broke that poor child.
I really relate to the first story.
I was a victim of emotional abuse by my nanny. My Dad was a single parent and was gaslit into thinking her treatment of us was okay. She clearly favorited my brother and it was no secret. He has 7 months younger than me (I'm adopted). She would talk shit about me to my brother and ignore his bad behavior towards me. (I dont resent him for that, he was a kid who was encouraged by an adult to do this). If my Nanny and brother decorated the Christmas tree without me, I might have snapped too.
I did snap after one incident i remember. This was after our dad remarried and the Nanny was fired. But i still felt like my parents cared more about things my brother was doing over me. I went to a baking class and decorated a cake. I was really proud of it and wanted to make sure it got home safe. But my mom had to go to my brothers game and wouldn't let me drop it off at home. The cake got smashed and i was mad. My brother took priority over me again and something I was proud of got ruined. My mom tried to fix the cake but used a different color frosting. I remember seeing it and smashing the cake and leaving it out for my mom to find.
It wasnt right for me to do it but I snapped. I dealt with this for over a decade. I feel that kids anger. Instead of punishing the kid alone it needs to be nipped in the bud where is began: the favoritism. Because if not then hes gonna go away, grow resentment, come home, be ignored and now the favoritism is justified by his initial reaction to the favoritism, he gets mad and lashes out. Then the cycle starts again until one party goes no contact
Story 5- OOF. We’ve all been there. Mine broke up with me so he could go to the movies with his girl coworker alone. I wasn’t allowed to meet her in the three months they were hanging out before it happened. He’s been living with her 75% of the time since our breakup two months ago. As for OP, he’s emotionally cheating and he thinks because he shows her the messages that it absolves him of crossing the line. He’s flirting with her and likes the attention and he’s going to blame his gf for the demise of their relationship by saying she was paranoid and insecure when he was just getting his foot in the door with a new girl. He may even believe that it’s innocent but he doesn’t care about how it hurts his partner. I would NEVER be that familiar with a guy who has a gf. Basic girl code is making sure the gf feels secure. But some girls thrive off the attention and feel special being chosen over someone else. Either way, her partner is ignoring their relationship and putting some random girl’s needs above his own gf. He’s moving on and she should too.
Story 1, no victim blaming but who's the victim? Therapy is a must, that kid didn't get there on his own.
Generally like these girls takes. but the kid was the victim in the story. he was being abused.
@@Shrekthegreatt my point exactly, they were saying to not victim blame the mother, but microagressions took that kid to that point -- in my opinion
10:59 OMG Morgan! Thanks for the shoutout 😄
This is such a hard story to hear. This happens more often than it should. Something has happened to Josh that we aren't privy to that has led to these feelings of emotional neglect and trauma, and therapy is going to be a necessity. But you called it; this WHOLE family needs therapy. The mother may have something going on that is subconsciously causing her to neglect Josh emotionally, the siblings are now going to have this trauma of witnessing their brother assaulting their mom that could cause PTSD, the OP is traumatized by this event too and is now having trusting issues with Josh and his wife/the mom. They are all going to have to go on a journey to work through these events and the feelings coming from them.
Sounds like by the end of the story they all made healthy choices towards recovering from this incident, I just hope the siblings will also get some therapy to work through their own exposure of the event.
(Story 1) Mom ignoring the one child reminds me of a child called It. Not the severity, but in the way that abusive parents will sometimes pick one child to other while they treat the siblings lovingly. (She pretended not to notice, played stupid, denied It, and then continued the behavior blatantly.)
The “a lack of planing on your part doest constitute an emergency on mine” line applies to things like your boss asking you to work on your vacation time because they forgot to schedule someone to fill your shifts not your girlfriend needing her medication.
story 1: children are a product of their environments, and neglecting the youngest son has created an environment that is so hostile (in his perception) that he probably thought that lashing out physically would be the only way to make his mum understand how hurt he is. yes, he needs therapy. but everybody else is an accomplice in their own right - both parents, at least, knew how he felt and the only attempt to save the relationship was "i hope you include him more". minimal effort. do i think hitting your own mother is the correct way to go about fixing the dynamic? absolutely not. do i think the poor kid had just had enough of being neglected and didn't know what else to do? yeah, i really do. keeping him away for a whole year is entirely too long - this happened because he felt left out and now he is being left out of the family home. i get keeping him away while time heals, but keeping him away for too long feels completely counterproductive.
I love the peanut butter story!! I feel like that's what you get!! Turning it around on her is messed up. If you play you pay!
First story may be an unpopular opinion. That kid HAD it. Family tree decoration that is supposedly “traditional” and she just forgot to include her son? Lol not saying she deserved it…but she is definitely the cause. I feel bad for the kid because that was his last straw. He felt safe enough to go to his dad. And even after their talk…she still resenting her kid. It’s not the kids fault in all honesty.
Agreed
The cheating husband story: she knew it wasnt a life threating allergy. She isn't in the wrong. She has a right to know.
Story 1 update: I'm very happy to see that you are wising up to your wife's bullshit, in terms of her favoritism. But I still can't help but wonder if she will even bother to change her behavior after this.
I don’t think she will, if anything she’ll hate the son even more for physically harming her
Hey Morgan, great job redirecting the service dog convo and correcting some common misconceptions, respectfully, I feel you may have overlooked the fact that not all legitimate service dogs come from programs. Program trained dogs are what most people are familiar with but there are a significant number of service dogs that are trained via a process called owner guided training or just owner training.
Due to the assumption the service dog in the story was a program dog there were (imo) some incorrect assumptions regarding its age etc.
If you don't mind I'd love to explain...
Anyway, yes there are program trained dogs where handlers get the dogs once they are a bit older and nearly done with their training but that is only 1 way of training/creating service dogs, many service dogs are trained via training that is guided by the owner and the owner will often bring in any professionals they feel are necessary to assist and guide them. Some owners are very experienced in training and its a hobby or pasion project for them and they may not need much or any outside assistance. Owner trained service dogs end up equally skilled,well trained and professional and the process allows for a lot more flexibility in all aspects, the training, the cost as the cost is often a bit less and it's spread out over time rather than all at once and provides flexibility in various other ways.
For many people owner training is the only viable option due to cost, time, waiting list, and most importantly, their medical condition. Some conditions that require or benefit from service dogs are very hard to train the dogs for (blood sugar alert dogs, seizure alert etc) and many programs simply cannot cater to the needs of people with these conditions and there may be less demand for them to they comcentrate their efforts else where, into areas they feel will give the larges return (benefit wise) on investment. Even more complex are situations like mine, for example, where the handler has more than 1 major disability or a disability + a mobility issue. Most program dogs are trained in specific and rigid ways, but owner training allows you to tailor a dogs training to better suit your needs. Also many programs will look at someone in a situation like mine as a less desirable candidate due to the complexity and would rather invest their limited resources into someone with 1 condition who's situation they feel has the highest likleyhood of success. It's all very rigid (which is understandable) but it means many people either fall through the cracks or aren't well served by programs and their dogs.
The dog in the story is 18 months old so it's likley an owner trained dog who is still in the long process of training and is probably mostly working on public access skills and smaller tasking jobs or the precursors to larger tasking jobs.
Additionally, there are psychiatric service dogs that are full-fledged service dogs and not emotional support dogs. Legally What makes a dog a service dog is the dogs ability to perform tasks that help mitigate the handlers disability, the law does not require a vest that says service dog and the law does not have any special registry or special papers you can provide as proof your dog is legit. An emotional support dog does not have any specialized training whatsoever, they are simply a pet that, by virtue of its presence, calms or comforts the owner. Emotional support dogs do not have any public access rights, whereas service dogs have very vast and protected public access rights.
Morgan you did a pretty great job correcting a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings that are very common and I very much appreciate that. I just wanted to add this extra bit of info here for anyone who is curious. Thanks:):)
First story: OP deleted the account and post. He's a coward who doesn't like all the backlash him and his wife are getting. He was looking for sympathy but that's not at all what he got.
Story 2: leave him. Your partner should want to help with birth control. Sex is a privilege, not a right.
Story 3: iconic, ESH but iconic
Story 4: nta. No contact with the parents, f them
Story 3: Smart. Good for her. I see no problem😂
Yeah I'm good with it. 😂😂 which probably says a lot about me. 😂😂
The first story made me cry for that kid, that mom knows what she’s doing. I am the scapegoat in my family and I know what micro aggression and passive aggressive comments can do to you. It messes with your head, you start thinking that you might be crazy because others don’t notice it or say that is not happening and then it becomes like a game between you and the parent doing it and then you snap. I personally will never hurt my parents no matter what they do to me and I also believe that getting physical with someone who’s older or your parent is horrible and should never happen but I am not gonna lie that when it gets so bad you do think of punching that persons face so they can stop pretending. I feel for that kid you have to go through a lot for you to get at the physical level and he was actively seeking help from the dad and voiced how he was feeling. I wish him peace and mental stability hopefully he won’t do that again and will strengthen his mental health and leave that house when he’s 18. Ps: I love Lauren, her episodes are my favorite 😊❤
Story 3- I think she went to the hospital because she experienced allergic reactive symptoms in her vag, so she was more nervous/ new experience and got it checked out right away