your WEAK AF boundaries protect everyone’s peace but your own…let's dissect that
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- Lately you hear everyone talking about the importance of having boundaries, but I rarely see anyone explaining how to actually implement them and the reality of setting boundaries. Today I’m sharing my experience with boundaries and what has been helpful!
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your weak af boundaries protect everyone’s peace but your own…let's dissect that
If you want to get rid of narcissistic friends, set and stick to ONE boundary. They scatter like roaches with jet packs
in the blink of an eye- they GONE
😂😂😂 you ain't lying
My husband and I are in the process of a divorce because I started setting boundaries and he did nooooot like it. Temper tantrums, silent treatment, threats of divorce, etc. My health and finances were severely impacted by trying to keep the peace and please him for so long without reciprocation. I’m over it. Moving on!
If no one else says it, I’m proud of you for choosing yourself. That’s incredibly difficult for a lot of people! May you continue to grow. ❤
Good job 🎉
Proud of you!
Congrats. Ditch the loser.
As you should bc the REAL love of your life AND REAL HUSBAND WOULD NEVER😅CHEERS TO GETTING CLOSER TO THE REAL🎉❤
Yo protecting your peace is truly priceless! Through changing my preferred name and pronouns, I learned a lot of folks love referring to you and treating in a way that makes them comfortable, rather than you treating you in the way you deserve. Having boundaries without exceptions really provides you with an incredible sense of pride. Simply put your peace comes first and if someone sees that to be a problem, they’re typically the problem. And we deserve to have love and peace in our lives friends! - Love ya all, Maha.🤍
Amen!!
Great video. Babies are naturally born with the instinct to set boundaries. Psychologically abusive parents extinguish this self protection mechanism between the ages of 0 to 5 by punishing the child for protesting abusive behavior. We have an epidemic of narcissistic abusive parenting and this is what creates co-dependency. Unfortunately, child abuse is politically incorrect to talk about so people rarely address the root cause of codependency.
Very well stated.
I totally feel this!!! I moved to a new city at 23 and I am 26 now and STILL struggling to meet more authentic friends that are more farmers market saturday energy instead of sunday morning hungover energy... :) This year I really started saying NO a lot more, and I am genuinely feeling good! Yet, trying to get over the FOMO of being left out a bit from my party friends. I just love this video so much!!
Yes😂 fruit and veggies over beer and alcohol. We so love farmers market over musty bars. 👍🏽
I cut off two friends in 2022 and I feel so much lighter. I was able to accomplish so much since then cause I have so much energy left for myself. They drained my life force out of me. One was calling me 7 times a day with depression and drama with the same story line for years. Won’t let go of a guy that she feels is not treating her right and the other one just seemed to be mad all the time. She kept yelling at me, could not take any joke, hypersensitive, super defensive and bossy, I literally felt like her punching bag. I am a single mom, don’t get any help from the government, all by myself in a foreign country and yet I let them steal so much time from me cause I was too polite. I realized this is not fair too my son cause I have noticed how short and inpatient I became with him cause I was drained mentally by these 2 women. So I had to say goodbye and I never felt better. God will bring new people into my life I have no fear of being alone.
"ppl will be mad if you have standards only if they can't meet them, and ppl will be mad that you have boundaries only if they wanted to cross them."
One thing that I didn’t expect when I started communicating my boundaries is that I noticed everybody else’s lack of boundaries so much more. I felt something akin to survivor’s guilt, like I healed and became well when everyone else around me was unwell. I had work life balance when my coworkers were exhausted. But I realized I can only lead by example and model the healthy boundaries I want for everyone 🤍.
Totally feel this! I’m the oldest of a group of young women in my office and I see how much they struggle with being assertive - I’m
Here if they need me but I will not push my advice on them (cause that’s another ppl pleaser issue I’m overcoming) lol
Bria is like the older sister we do not have 🥺.thank you soooooooooo much for these sit-down sessions.
Kindness and assertiveness can co exist!
Yes, people are so ridiculous sometimes. And I am a people pleaser! I have been burnt out for over a month man... I was doing SO much on top of a full time job and it was mentally and physically draining. Now I've been putting a lot of t hings off because I'm just TIRED every day.
With age comes wisdom, and you are ahead of the curve! When I got in my 40s I really started setting boundaries and asking “is this loving TO ME?” The genuine people who love and respect you will not feel slighted by your “no”. Those who are users and narcissists will fall away and what a blessing it is when that happens 😂. Now that I’m in my 50s I no longer have space for anyone who doesn’t respect that I have to do (or not do) what’s best for me. And I know that I can always show up as the best version of myself and give freely without resentment.
Great video! 👏🏻❤️
I really needed this ❤
Guilt trip from parents really does mess with your brain
I was beating myself down because i m incapable to show up for people because i m so burnt out
Thank you for sharing this
It really helped me 😅
I'm setting boundaries with my friends and family. Letting them know what makes me feel hurt or exhausted. I understand that I need time to rest
I have such a hard time setting my boundaries. I feel so afraid of hurting other people feelings. It makes me so unhappy and makes me want to quit my job. Working on it and feeling safer about saying no after watching this video.
Come back to this video a million times if you have to. You deserve to have a quality life and setting boundaries is a must!
I’ve been giving to everyone else for years. It has depleted me and I haven’t recovered yet.
The is the season of recovery and rejuvenation 🙏🏾❤️
I k ow the feeling
Im going to keep rewatching this video until i have better boundaries because lack of boundaries is actually affecting my physical health.
I saw the title and rolled my eyes. But I definitely need to hear this lol
😂😂 me making this video rolling my eyes at myself
all I can say is wow - just when I needed it the most. everything I needed to hear rn is in this video. thank you for the reminder 🤍
I needed to hear this - I am a classical singer and recently stopped creating reaction videos and unlisted my past reactions in order to just focus my content on my performances and vlogs. I realised I was doing a kind of content I just did not enjoy and did not set out to do just in order to feel approval and gain subscribers easily. Some of my watchers are now asking about what has happened to these videos but I think this is a boundary I needed in order for me to grow and for my channel to grow.
Thank you!:)
Great video! I have one addition. I think for some of us we feel like to be there we have to “fix” people’s problems. That can feel extra overwhelming. Sometimes the reframe of just “seeing” and sitting with someone as being enough- can feel freeing as well. Of course some people will demand you to be pulled into their situation, but that’s the ideal time to set a hard boundary and reframe how they see your involvement and capability in their life. And that’s on healed codependency lol
Girl. This is a great video. ❤❤❤❤. You are spot on here. We can say No and we need to more. Thank you for this validation video. Love you
love you bestie!!
If ur parents are bad at understanding boundaries I really need to move out !
This video is honestly opening mental doors for me in an impactful way. You’re so real. I love your energy and mindset
I've only just found your channel a month ago and since then I've been obsessed, I love how real and genuine you are with these topics like you generally are like our bestie. Thank you for these comforting videos where you give us great advice, it really helps ❤
So happy to hear this!!
Thank you for this, I’m having to learn to set boundaries in my current relationship cause if I don’t, I know I’m going burn out and explode which is not good or effect my mental health. If they don’t accept then that’s not my problem, I’m throwing that negative energy right back at them. I have to accept if they don’t like it and bounce then 👋🏾
Perfect timing I’m 25 but only learning about boundaries now. Better late than never
Can I just say how much I love you? Your videos are exactly what I needed to hear and it's reminding me that I'm not the crazy one 😂
This video is everything Bria! I get gaslighted all the time for saying no and protecting my piece. And my girlfriend is trying to learn how to set these up and thinking it's easy, but it's not. The xyz from your family and such is so hard and even with a good heart it can hurt us to set the boundaries.
I feel like rehearsing boundaries with a friend is helpful. It’s also a good way to practice how you’ll say things so that it’s direct, clear but also kind so it’s received. Ya dig? Thanks Bria! I just watched the burnout video. All a dis ish, makes a sense. Lol thank you for the reminder.
This is SPOT ON💯! This is exactly what I've been doing my whole life. I was always making sure everyone was alright. Meanwhile most people didn't care to protect my peace when I needed it.
And last year I switched when I became a mother for the First time🥰. Because it was affecting my bond with my baby.
And since then Life has been pretty awesome☺️. I just feel elevated for some reason😅🤷🏾♀️. I'm still kind and will do my best to give positive energy to everyone around me. BUT it will NOT cost me my peace🙅🏾♀️.
Thnx for this video❤.
i really enjoyed this video Bria! thank you for sharing. i’m going through this too.
i try to make my boundaries about speaking up or leaving and changing my behavior rather than expecting others to change to protect my peace. it’s too frustrating on any side to set rules for each other imo. ❤
I always had a hard time setting boundaries which has truly affected my mental health. You are speaking the truth! Been working on not being a people pleaser and learning to say no.
this is giving ultimate scorpio energy
Thank you for this loving perspective on boundaries girl. I seriously appreciate it!
I love thisss, I’d love more updates o your boundaries settingg
I came across your channel looking for tips to launch my channel. I stayed in your channel because you speak it real. I appreciate your message and the time you give to share your lessons learned. About today's message? You're on fire, girl. 🔥 the message is gold!!!!
SIS I WANT THE SMOKEEEEE!!!
Exactly. I think I just ditched an entire "friend" circle of 10 years. Remains to be seen what happens and if they an adapt as well. Good riddance otherwise (for now). In the end, we're all one. :)
Whewww girl! This was on time. This week, I'm totally burned out. Haven't done anything with content in 4 days and it's killing me. My kids, my puppy, my job, are all being energy vampires right now. I've snapped (yelled, broke down) like 4x in the last 48 hours. It makes me feel like crap, and unmotivated all that. I know how to set boundaries but getting caught up in the daily and frustrating situations puts you on edge.
Girl, are we living the same life? 👀 lol
@@DUH.NAY_ rigghhhtt??!! We got this boo 🤩🤩🙏🏽💗🙌🏽💪🏾💪🏾
I literally just went through the same thing. Boundaries are definitely necessary!! We are here for you! Be strong!
i needed to hear this !! no one reached you to set boundaries, school/parents even teach young women not to !!!! this the second video i’ve watched of yours and i’m deff subscribed ! ✨✨
Bria you are truly like the older slay sister I wish I had because I have had these worries for so long but couldn’t articulate why until watching this video. I set boundaries with a coworker this year who, although we are the same title, wanted to off load her work on me. She continues to test me on the daily but it has been such an uncomfortable, but liberating, learning opportunity for me to keep my peace and sanity. Love these videos and your channel wishing you days of peace and love ❤
I have only recently found your TH-cam and i actually really love this. I have been trying to work on myself so much, since i got out of a long term relationship and it's hard but i am trying. Learning how to set my boundaries and knowing i can do that in a nice way and not having to feel like i will make the other person upset. As much i thought that self talks like this don't work, i think i was just looking at it the wrong way, i felt like "oh my gosh why do i need to know this, i know these things already," but as much as i would hear them, i didn't apply it to my life. As i grow older i start to see, how little things like "setting boundaries" make a huge difference in my life. I learned a lot from this video, thank you, i love your editing style btw ;)
I absolutely love and needed this video ! Right on time ! God is literally giving me signs ❤
I Love You / I Love This Video! I’ve seen many of your videos but I’m going back way back and I’m going to watch them all! You are so wise You are now one of My Besties❤
Thank You…
We are designed to be more agreeable, not conditioned.
i literally needed this video at the perfect time !
So, setting boundaries is basically saying, "I'm gonna take the speck out my eye before I help you with yours."
this is something I’ve been struggling with heavy lately. I definitely needed this one! ❤
For every yes, you're saying no to something else.
Can’t wait to see what B is teaching me today❤
🫶🏾🫶🏾
It's very useful, Bria. Thank you for that.
And people will let you go so quickly once you stop serving them. It goes to show that they were in it for themselves.
Fuck ! This video is speaking to me right now. I’m feeling the exact same lately. I’m extremely irritable actually and have been wondering why that might be. It’s definitely about setting better boundaries, because I currently have a dwindling friendship because I was upfront about ‘hey, I’m here for you for xyz but you don’t seem to give a fuck about what’s going on with me’. She ignored that message and just kept talking about her. So, I stopped investing in that friendship. She comes a week after addressing my message, saying she loves me and all, but I’ve already checked out.
Actions - Words = Actions. Period.
I so needed this at this very moment
yes.
Amazing video bri! Your content will ALWAYS hit even if its talking about just being YOU. We love you and everything you do. Feel better and continue to focus on you it will only get better and better ❤
I needed this, love ya girl
Wait I wasn’t ready for the freestyle🤣🤣🙌🏾
Thank You Bria, this is exactly what I needed today 💜✨
Thank you thank you thank you bria❤❤❤ needed this
Once again you hit home with this one too! Thank you Bria !!
This came at the perfect time!🙌🏾
Fantastic video! Boundaries are important and we can be kind and stern when setting them with people.
I love it and I love you, keep up the great content and take care of yourself!
Thank you Bria. Love you ❤
Ahh perfectly said so many gems in here love it! ✨ not me blasting this video in my house so everyone can hear it lol
I love this. I'd also love a video where your followers tell you about specific situationships where they can't put their boundaries first and you tell em how to because its hard sometimes🥲🫶🏼
I really looooove your content B, thank u so much 💜
These things are always empowering to listen to but unfortunately acting this way results in being fired with many companies. A lot of employment contracts have disclaimers that additional things not listed in the job description apply to your role.
Just went through this issue over the last month
WOW so on point!!!!! Loooooove this video ❤ ty
Thank you so much Bria ❤
Thank You Bria!!!
This is MAJOR, love it! I hope you get better soon💯💫
I love this. Thank you!
The title is enough triggering 😂😂😂😂I've ignored now I'm back to watch
Loved & needed to hear this - I'm listening to it again today
So FAR THANK YOU!!!
Hey Bria ... This is really helpful... Thanks
I needed to hear this
Love you Bria! ❤
Wise wise wise words thank you 😚🙏🏽
Thank you!! 🙌👏🙌👏 Needed. To. Hear. This! 🤍🤍🤍
Great advice!!!!
thank you!
The title alone attacked me and I don’t….. welll I guess I appreciate it a little bit🙄
This advice was a must🤞🏽
I loved this video, thank you. I want all the smoke!!! Lol
thank you for this video💝i really needed to hear this
Take care of yourself, Brie. 🌸🌸
„I love you,but fuck your feelings“ I love it 😂😂😂❤
Extra bunions on your feet 🤣🤣 I’m so dead 😂
love all of your videos! thank you bria, xoxo from brazil
On time !!!! Thank you so much
Hey, thank you so much for sharing. Do you have any tips for PPD I have been struggling lately? It can be draining and overwhelming.
Amazing message. I needed this ❤.
Always on point Bestie Bri
I never felt so attack by a title before 😭🤣
I love your videos ❤