Pathology is profoundly unhelpful perspective when we know how big of a part biology and physiology are at play, especially in regards to developmental and complex trauma. Authoritarianism is rampant in the field of psychology, sadly, and it violates first principles of do no harm with near impunity. My lived experiences and the effects of trauma that I've lived with are neither anecdotal nor pathological. We can still do this vital work without those unhelpful frameworks. I'm alive today, due to the degree with which I've been able to find meaning in my lived experience with trauma - this has been hampered at every turn by shame, judgement, and the spurious notion of pathology that crept into my healing work. I hear the truth of my lived experience in the stories of other survivors and then an "almost there" "almost got it" perspective by all the professionals and "experts" - we, with the lived experiences are the true experts, and the job of the helping professions should be to help us to manifest that, not to install narratives in our heads or set us against ourselves in so many subtle self-aggressive and injurious ways. Words matter, folks, and we all good and well know it - they can cause such harm as to bring us to suicide or therapy or they can come from an empathetic awareness that make the need for therapy unnecessary in the first place. We need to learn as a society to have uncomfortable conversations about uncomfortable thoughts/feelings/experiences because we currently have too few venues other than the therapy setting to do so, and not having a public one creates and perpetuates historical patterns of isolation and relational disconnection. Saying how you really feel or exhibiting behavior out of social norms while distressed will get you locked up and forced drugged - a dissociative societal response that keeps us in the trauma loop perpetually - great for business, but shite for humanity. We can do better - many of us are, but we're doing it form in between the dirty cracks with little resources and even less recognition.
very well explained. i'm a 59-year-old woman with a history dating back to my teens of chronic, clinical depression with suicidal compulsions. I've always struggled with maintaining close relationships and haven't known how to be in them which of course further exacerbated my feelings of aloneness and worthlessness. I was voluntarily abandoned into foster care as a baby and stayed there until age six with caretakers who were hostile, inattentive, neglectful and generally mean. At age six I returned to my biological parents at which time physical abuse commenced along verbal and emotional assaults as well as various forms of neglect. While I've finally been depression free for three wonderful years for the first time in my life, I'm writing a book about neuroplasticity and depression and how I finally effectively cured mine. I've been learning about attachment disorders and have a greater understanding now of what began the brain wiring that created my depression. The good news is there's a way out of the darkness. Excellent job, Dr. Schore. Debra Holz, Pittsburgh, PA
I can so resonate with all your history and symptoms and now on the road to recovery. However I have lost 3 siblings along the way who couldn't handle their upbringing and sadly passed away at an early age (41, 44, 56). I would love to know how you overcame your life's adversities and all about the book you have written.
Dr Allan Schore excellent explains early damage to the right brain in the first year to second year of life when an infant is abused neglected and how this then goes on to impact a person's stress regulation ability throughout the life span - these early relationships with 'the caregiver' or 'significant attachment figure' are so fundamental in the development of the right brain if not as in cases of severe chronic trauma then this effects regulation of stress and body causing untold damage - this is a must hear talk on this point.
WHAT? It ends w/o meanings n society norm ties not to relations of any idea i have whatta this comment..but triggered annoyance i held in over certain other issues ...i now go look for some recolLection humbugh methods
My mom would always tell me when I was growing up “I wish could have done my life over again I only would have had ur older brother ur lucky I don’t throw u in the trash , abort u , or give u up for adoption….. she has paranoid schizophrenia it effected me and my brothers luckily God saved me but trauma is hard to escape
A secondary caregiver’s interference with the child’s relationship with her primary caregiver can also cause attachment trauma. It’s not fair to blame the PCG in all cases of attachment trauma. The alienation of a primary caregiver by a secondary caregiver is extremely traumatizing to both the child and the PCG.
@@Punicia well for starters your self awareness is a good indicator you’re not like him. But some people are so toxic that they do infect the people around them. You’ll fully recover if you stay clear of him and surround yourself with healthy people. I don’t advise no contact with a parent because that’s really really hard to do. We need our parents, like it or not, good or bad. But as an adult, you can limit your exposure. Sending you a virtual hug.
Hi Petula, Actually yes! The Dalai Lama’s monks were studied meditating. Turns out that the areas of the brain most wounded by trauma are capable of being developed/healed through mediation and other like methods. This is why monks are big on compassion, because that neurology (right brain) is benefited. In Interpersonal Neurobiology Dan Siegel, Alan Schore & Stephen Porges all write together on relative subjects that may answer the question for you in more depth.🙏
I think he’s referring to the Wernicke’s area and the Broca’s area of the brain because he’s referring to the formation of the left brain which is where speech is mostly formed if I’m not mistaken: “The ability to communicate is an essential part of our lives as human beings. Our nervous system has two dedicated areas that allow us to communicate. The production of speech takes place in Broca’s area located in the frontal lobe. However, the interpretation of speech happens elsewhere. Wernicke’s area - located in the temporal lobe - processes what is being spoken. Information from Wernicke’s area can then send information to Broca’s area, which allows us to reply by organizing words in grammatical sentences.”
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Pathology is profoundly unhelpful perspective when we know how big of a part biology and physiology are at play, especially in regards to developmental and complex trauma. Authoritarianism is rampant in the field of psychology, sadly, and it violates first principles of do no harm with near impunity. My lived experiences and the effects of trauma that I've lived with are neither anecdotal nor pathological. We can still do this vital work without those unhelpful frameworks. I'm alive today, due to the degree with which I've been able to find meaning in my lived experience with trauma - this has been hampered at every turn by shame, judgement, and the spurious notion of pathology that crept into my healing work.
I hear the truth of my lived experience in the stories of other survivors and then an "almost there" "almost got it" perspective by all the professionals and "experts" - we, with the lived experiences are the true experts, and the job of the helping professions should be to help us to manifest that, not to install narratives in our heads or set us against ourselves in so many subtle self-aggressive and injurious ways. Words matter, folks, and we all good and well know it - they can cause such harm as to bring us to suicide or therapy or they can come from an empathetic awareness that make the need for therapy unnecessary in the first place.
We need to learn as a society to have uncomfortable conversations about uncomfortable thoughts/feelings/experiences because we currently have too few venues other than the therapy setting to do so, and not having a public one creates and perpetuates historical patterns of isolation and relational disconnection. Saying how you really feel or exhibiting behavior out of social norms while distressed will get you locked up and forced drugged - a dissociative societal response that keeps us in the trauma loop perpetually - great for business, but shite for humanity. We can do better - many of us are, but we're doing it form in between the dirty cracks with little resources and even less recognition.
Yes
very well explained. i'm a 59-year-old woman with a history dating back to my teens of chronic, clinical depression with suicidal compulsions. I've always struggled with maintaining close relationships and haven't known how to be in them which of course further exacerbated my feelings of aloneness and worthlessness. I was voluntarily abandoned into foster care as a baby and stayed there until age six with caretakers who were hostile, inattentive, neglectful and generally mean. At age six I returned to my biological parents at which time physical abuse commenced along verbal and emotional assaults as well as various forms of neglect. While I've finally been depression free for three wonderful years for the first time in my life, I'm writing a book about neuroplasticity and depression and how I finally effectively cured mine. I've been learning about attachment disorders and have a greater understanding now of what began the brain wiring that created my depression. The good news is there's a way out of the darkness. Excellent job, Dr. Schore. Debra Holz, Pittsburgh, PA
Meditation has helped me.
Debra much love your way. So happy you are depression free.
Is the book published? I would love to check it out!
Thanks for your comment - can I ask did you write your book sounds very interesting -
I can so resonate with all your history and symptoms and now on the road to recovery. However I have lost 3 siblings along the way who couldn't handle their upbringing and sadly passed away at an early age (41, 44, 56). I would love to know how you overcame your life's adversities and all about the book you have written.
Dr Allan Schore excellent explains early damage to the right brain in the first year to second year of life when an infant is abused neglected and how this then goes on to impact a person's stress regulation ability throughout the life span - these early relationships with 'the caregiver' or 'significant attachment figure' are so fundamental in the development of the right brain if not as in cases of severe chronic trauma then this effects regulation of stress and body causing untold damage - this is a must hear talk on this point.
im exactly this statistic its very bad
So it all begins with the family.
WHAT? It ends w/o meanings n society norm ties not to relations of any idea i have whatta this comment..but triggered annoyance i held in over certain other issues ...i now go look for some recolLection humbugh methods
+Katja Thesaurus I believe our personalities are shaped by the time we are 5-7 years old, Katja.
We never stop growing if we keep challenging ourselves.
@@klattalexis very true. I can remember my mother mistreating me from when I can first start to remember
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to point out, this also affects adopted infants
Thank you for making this video available!
Dr. Schore describes so clearly the central importance of attachment.
thank you... i think some parents don't understand neglect
Even if you tried to explain it to them they would negelect to listen, negelect to care, negelect to implement.
@@overimagination2812Narcissism. They can’t stand being told the truth even their delusions are destroying everything around them
very well explained...
My mom would always tell me when I was growing up “I wish could have done my life over again I only would have had ur older brother ur lucky I don’t throw u in the trash , abort u , or give u up for adoption….. she has paranoid schizophrenia it effected me and my brothers luckily God saved me but trauma is hard to escape
A secondary caregiver’s interference with the child’s relationship with her primary caregiver can also cause attachment trauma. It’s not fair to blame the PCG in all cases of attachment trauma. The alienation of a primary caregiver by a secondary caregiver is extremely traumatizing to both the child and the PCG.
I agree with you. My narcissist father definitely did more harm than good. I am becoming just like him now, a monster
@@Punicia well for starters your self awareness is a good indicator you’re not like him. But some people are so toxic that they do infect the people around them. You’ll fully recover if you stay clear of him and surround yourself with healthy people. I don’t advise no contact with a parent because that’s really really hard to do. We need our parents, like it or not, good or bad. But as an adult, you can limit your exposure.
Sending you a virtual hug.
Can this traumatic event start affecting you later on in life?
In my experience yes. Sometimes being in a relationship can trigger the early feeling of neglect and abandonment.
Definitely did for me. Arrested development everywhere. Attachment trauma is no small deal. It sets the stage for the rest of your life.
Why do psychologist call it attachment trauma when the problem was detachment? It seems to be confusing for a purpose?
Because it's trauma to the (potential and required) attachment bond with the primary caregiver
How do I heal?
look for an attachment based therapist www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/attachment-based
look into emotion-focused and mindfulness therapy - those are some skills that I used to get myself out of the miserable state for mind.
Any therapy has to have a component that works with the body. Talk therapies are useless. Looking to God's fro healing may help but not cure.
EFT (tapping) can help access repressed emotions and conditioning.
Both, with verbal emotional abuse
Can meditation help to repair the right side of the brain after prolonged mistreatment?
Hi Petula,
Actually yes!
The Dalai Lama’s monks were studied meditating. Turns out that the areas of the brain most wounded by trauma are capable of being developed/healed through mediation and other like methods.
This is why monks are big on compassion, because that neurology (right brain) is benefited. In Interpersonal Neurobiology Dan
Siegel, Alan Schore & Stephen Porges all write together on relative subjects that may answer the question for you in more depth.🙏
Those in power know this already. Why do you think things are the way they are?
What did he say at 3:22? "It's far before..........."
I think he’s referring to the Wernicke’s area and the Broca’s area of the brain because he’s referring to the formation of the left brain which is where speech is mostly formed if I’m not mistaken:
“The ability to communicate is an essential part of our lives as human beings. Our nervous system has two dedicated areas that allow us to communicate. The production of speech takes place in Broca’s area located in the frontal lobe. However, the interpretation of speech happens elsewhere. Wernicke’s area - located in the temporal lobe - processes what is being spoken. Information from Wernicke’s area can then send information to Broca’s area, which allows us to reply by organizing words in grammatical sentences.”
Explain a logic, screaming and crying arousal?
Mother or Daddy??
'The mother makes mistakes' hmm did you mean the parents Dr. 🤔
Primary caregiver are really mothers.