I cannot thank you enough. AUDHD here. Diagnosed 2 years ago at 55 years. I had to self diagnose both, and it took the 4 hour tests, the research into how ADHD and ASD are different in women, especially the super smart ones- to convince the Phds and Psyds. The irony is I’m working through the gas lighting so many therapists imposed on me, that it’s just trauma and my unwillingness to conform and put in the effort to change, push myself through the workday. Despite years of chronic burnout and a ruined career, I’m dedicated to finding the path to heal, to get back to my old self (my childhood was a relatively happier one), and do everything in my power to not let this happen to my child.
Thank you so much for your videos, Elizabeth! 💕 I would like to know, if your ADHD ever interfered with converting your thoughts to words in these videos, and if so how did you get around it? You speak so fluently and coherently in your videos, with no umms and pauses and tangents and getting stuck into loops - I feel like those things would happen to me if I tried expressing myself in a video (or even audio recording) spontaneously. Writing is somewhat better because I realize when I am deviating and can go back and delete stuff.
You just described what I went through. You literally described my thoughts. I am just glad I am not alone. Even I was have recently been put on ADHD meds and it’s literally life changing. Thank you for this ! Thank you for coming out and helping ppls like us . You are a bold woman and kudos to you
I struggled so much at school, especially during the shitty Greek public high school years, I was always stressed, exhausted, struggling to keep up, trying to suck it up and make it a little longer, another day, another week, another year. I was constantly angry for not been allowed to sleep, to rest, to just experience life and process my fucking teenage emotions and state of mind, always having to study or focus on something external, but supposedly necessary for my education and development. For years I was overriding my needs and postponing my wants for some vague point in the future, and none of the adults around me seemed to notice my -as well as other kids'- struggle. I am still angry for the time that feels as if it was stolen from me by an abstract higher authority, the public education system and the social and family structures around it. This is only one point that stood out for me from your video, but many points that you made also resonate. Thank you for sharing!
Im autistic and a blk woman, my husband is adhd and yt...our experiences are soooo different. He had someone to advocate for him, his mother. But i grew up on foster care. Either way we both can relate to what youre saying. Youve got hs late 30s adults crying like babies. Thank you for speaking your truth. You are valued 🥹
I struggled mightily in school. I had decent grades, but it took a herculean effort to accomplish that. Homework took me hours and hours to finish. Assigned reading was torture. Being forced to read books for AR points felt like a punishment. My home life was chaotic so I always associated my struggles with that. Well after I finished school I began to question if it was possible I could have ADD/ADHD. About a year ago I was diagnosed by my therapist as having ADHD. I wanted to try out meds. For various reasons that didn't happen. I can't help but think I would be functioning better right now if I had been able to get the meds.
Welcome back and Congratulations!! I feel like you are telling my story. I am an LCSW who was diagnosed at 45 years old. Struggled, suffered, shamed. I’ve learned a lot by working with others who are Neurodiverse🙏🏼There are areas where I still struggle greatly especially when taking on new projects.I feel very stuck.(working on self compassion helps) Thank you for being so open and relatable!
Thank you. I was watching a video of you explaining somatic therapy and it resonated with me. Then I questioned how a therapist would understand how to work with me because of my adhd. And then I see that you have adhd too! I think it’s so important to be understood in this way. So many things in life are different for me (and others with adhd) and many programs, guides and therapies would not resonate or benefit. But I can see that others may. I will always try to align with people who do “get it” otherwise a lot of time and effort is essentially wasted. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability which is helping others!
Elizabeth, your content always makes me feel so seen/heard. I have CPTSD, PMDD, and most likely ADHD too. I have an appointment with my PCP later this month and will be asking about ADHD. Would you be willing to share what medication has worked for you? No pressure to reply, I just don't know anyone personally with all three of these diagnoses! I currently take 20mg Fluoxentine daily which helps some of my symptoms related to CPTSD/PMDD. Thanks so much for your vulnerability.
4:15 🎉 congrats! Burden lifted to force yourself into the structure. Now this sort of freedom contains the task to unlearn all of this behaviour again 😂 Who are we, if not living external lies we've tried so hard to fulfill until this point?
Elizabeth, I love your content -- I was wondering if you had any books you fould really pivotal / helpful with CPTSD & rebuilding self-esteem. I watched you on the recording of your partner's podcast and you were the first person who talked about CPTSD in a way that made me feel heard. No pressure to reply, Hope you're well, thanks for all your work. - Kate
This is so weird. I remember watching her when my psychologist speculated that I might have C-PTSD and when my Dr suspected I could have PMDD. 1 year later I get diagnosed with ADHD. I looking up on TH-cam “people who have adhd and PMDD” and this pops up. You’ve now also been diagnosed with ADHD. So interesting. I wonder if CPTSD is not what we have, idk. It’s interesting.
Having c-ptsd & adhd sucks. I hope you write a book on somatic healing after I watched your show with your partner. It was top-drawer. A swathe of therapists in the UK are just a bag-o-knackers and self-entitled, monotone, cranks. Sorry like, they just come across as half-dead.
I cannot thank you enough. AUDHD here. Diagnosed 2 years ago at 55 years. I had to self diagnose both, and it took the 4 hour tests, the research into how ADHD and ASD are different in women, especially the super smart ones- to convince the Phds and Psyds. The irony is I’m working through the gas lighting so many therapists imposed on me, that it’s just trauma and my unwillingness to conform and put in the effort to change, push myself through the workday. Despite years of chronic burnout and a ruined career, I’m dedicated to finding the path to heal, to get back to my old self (my childhood was a relatively happier one), and do everything in my power to not let this happen to my child.
You are my HERO! I have PMDD & ADHD. Thank you Elizabeth for your magic 🫶✨
Thank you so much for your videos, Elizabeth! 💕 I would like to know, if your ADHD ever interfered with converting your thoughts to words in these videos, and if so how did you get around it? You speak so fluently and coherently in your videos, with no umms and pauses and tangents and getting stuck into loops - I feel like those things would happen to me if I tried expressing myself in a video (or even audio recording) spontaneously. Writing is somewhat better because I realize when I am deviating and can go back and delete stuff.
You just described what I went through.
You literally described my thoughts. I am just glad I am not alone. Even I was have recently been put on ADHD meds and it’s literally life changing.
Thank you for this !
Thank you for coming out and helping ppls like us .
You are a bold woman and kudos to you
You are such a beautiful soul! Thank you for your videos and the courageous work that you do.
It is unbelievable but you are telling me one on one my own Learning experience...
Happy for you to see you so liberated joyful and light 🕯️
🙏🏾
I struggled so much at school, especially during the shitty Greek public high school years, I was always stressed, exhausted, struggling to keep up, trying to suck it up and make it a little longer, another day, another week, another year. I was constantly angry for not been allowed to sleep, to rest, to just experience life and process my fucking teenage emotions and state of mind, always having to study or focus on something external, but supposedly necessary for my education and development. For years I was overriding my needs and postponing my wants for some vague point in the future, and none of the adults around me seemed to notice my -as well as other kids'- struggle. I am still angry for the time that feels as if it was stolen from me by an abstract higher authority, the public education system and the social and family structures around it. This is only one point that stood out for me from your video, but many points that you made also resonate. Thank you for sharing!
Im autistic and a blk woman, my husband is adhd and yt...our experiences are soooo different. He had someone to advocate for him, his mother. But i grew up on foster care. Either way we both can relate to what youre saying. Youve got hs late 30s adults crying like babies. Thank you for speaking your truth. You are valued 🥹
I struggled mightily in school. I had decent grades, but it took a herculean effort to accomplish that. Homework took me hours and hours to finish. Assigned reading was torture. Being forced to read books for AR points felt like a punishment. My home life was chaotic so I always associated my struggles with that. Well after I finished school I began to question if it was possible I could have ADD/ADHD. About a year ago I was diagnosed by my therapist as having ADHD. I wanted to try out meds. For various reasons that didn't happen. I can't help but think I would be functioning better right now if I had been able to get the meds.
Glad to see you here in this space again :)
Welcome back and Congratulations!!
I feel like you are telling my story. I am an LCSW who was diagnosed at 45 years old. Struggled, suffered, shamed.
I’ve learned a lot by working with others who are Neurodiverse🙏🏼There are areas where I still struggle greatly especially when taking on new projects.I feel very stuck.(working on self compassion helps) Thank you for being so open and relatable!
Thank you.
I was watching a video of you explaining somatic therapy and it resonated with me. Then I questioned how a therapist would understand how to work with me because of my adhd. And then I see that you have adhd too!
I think it’s so important to be understood in this way.
So many things in life are different for me (and others with adhd) and many programs, guides and therapies would not resonate or benefit. But I can see that others may. I will always try to align with people who do “get it” otherwise a lot of time and effort is essentially wasted.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability which is helping others!
Elizabeth, your content always makes me feel so seen/heard. I have CPTSD, PMDD, and most likely ADHD too. I have an appointment with my PCP later this month and will be asking about ADHD. Would you be willing to share what medication has worked for you? No pressure to reply, I just don't know anyone personally with all three of these diagnoses! I currently take 20mg Fluoxentine daily which helps some of my symptoms related to CPTSD/PMDD. Thanks so much for your vulnerability.
I can relate to this so much, thank you
4:15 🎉 congrats! Burden lifted to force yourself into the structure. Now this sort of freedom contains the task to unlearn all of this behaviour again 😂 Who are we, if not living external lies we've tried so hard to fulfill until this point?
Elizabeth, I love your content -- I was wondering if you had any books you fould really pivotal / helpful with CPTSD & rebuilding self-esteem. I watched you on the recording of your partner's podcast and you were the first person who talked about CPTSD in a way that made me feel heard.
No pressure to reply,
Hope you're well, thanks for all your work.
- Kate
This is so weird. I remember watching her when my psychologist speculated that I might have C-PTSD and when my Dr suspected I could have PMDD. 1 year later I get diagnosed with ADHD. I looking up on TH-cam “people who have adhd and PMDD” and this pops up. You’ve now also been diagnosed with ADHD. So interesting. I wonder if CPTSD is not what we have, idk. It’s interesting.
I'm fucking sobbing, I've never related to someone so much
❤
I wish so badly we still lived in san Francisco 😢
Having c-ptsd & adhd sucks. I hope you write a book on somatic healing after I watched your show with your partner. It was top-drawer. A swathe of therapists in the UK are just a bag-o-knackers and self-entitled, monotone, cranks. Sorry like, they just come across as half-dead.