Such an amazing and timely message! My wife has always out earned me significantly and I have no bones about it, neither does she. She works hard in a specialized field and deserves every penny. We laid all our financials out in year one from income, to debt and credit score and navigated accordingly. We continue to talk about our finances on a bi weekly basis and our 2 kids sit in on every discussion. Team work makes the dream work and "happy wife happy life" is cool but "happy spouse happy house" is better 😏
@@LynnRichardson I highly respect your advice and the facts in this video was just as abundant as the rest. Keep the financial literacy conversation going because the world needs it! 💯🏁
@@byhisgrace2853 thank you so much Mary, I felt called to add my perspective. In today's age it is not uncommon for women to out earn men and it shouldn't be shameful. Conversations like these are necessary and I'm always open for a civilized discussion. God bless you as well 🙏🏽
You’ve been blessed my friend. Many women today let their spouses know loud and clear that they outearn them which I never understood if you knew that before you married and had cubs. Why is it a problem after the fact? You married a unicorn. Hopefully there are more out there.
Iam not intimidated by any woman who makes more money than myself. I make a great living too. However I also know as a man that it is NOT her responsibility to support me as a man. If she decides to quit her high paying job, I still have to support her and take on a second job if necessary to make ends meet. It is not the woman's job to support the household even if she make more money
I can relate to this. I think back to the days when I was a single mom and divorcing. I was starting over and the people I met were always gracious and willing to be generous. I didnt accept extra help $$$ because I wanted to do it on my own. But it was nice to be treated with consideration. So now, 15 years later my circumstances are different and I think," People weer willing to be generous to me. Why not be generous to those you are spending some time with as well?." That doesnt mean live under blind stupidity. Have the convo. AND execute YOUR due dilligence. I dont hudge men on their net worth. I prefer to focus on character, shared interests and the effort in their grind. Thank you Lynn for this convo opener.
Wow just wow…..I’m sorry but I’m living this nightmare and it’s hell. My husband constantly throws it in my face and does the bear minimum for me. He’s a good father but not a great husband. He’s 9 years older and quick to say when we started neither of us had anything. I remind him yes but I applied myself, study, worked hard and achieved what I wanted. He has had the SAME opportunities. I WILL NOT let him guilt trip me into growing and being successful.
Your husband is very insecure as a man because his manhood is measured by how much he makes in comparison to you. Me, as a man, I've never been intimidated by a woman who makes more money than myself. Because if she decides to quit her job and stay home, I as a man have to continue to support her even if it means taking on a second job. She is not responsible to support the household, I am as head of the house.
@@Ma1nguy Women these days believe they are the head of the household. A lot of men are also whipped by their woman and don't stand up for themselves because if she decides to go the man will be destroyed. If kids involved...even worse for the guy.
@@TheSunshinefee Not if she keeps telling her guy to make more money because she doesn't want to spend hers. I don't think I said a woman couldn't make more money. But don't be harping at your guy if he makes less. Do men harp at women if they make less? Men don't care.
I remember my father had told me one time, he said "Son, do what works for you because no one is going to live your life for you." And I have applied that even in my love life. In other words, some advice I take in and some I don't. If it works for me then I will take it in and apply it.
My own experience.. I knew what was getting into. I have known my husband for 10 years. Most ppl know what they are getting into, but always believe there could be something more, more growing together in the future.. That is not always the case. I have been in charge of my families finances, all bills, working, cleaning, etc for 10 years now. He contributes financially, but not enough. His is 20% to my 80% and probably will be like that for as long as i am with him. I made my peace with it. I get the rest of his contributions from him through his mental, emotional, etc. support that cannot be measured in money. Is this hard? Yes. Do i get frustrated that everything is on my shoulders? Yes. This is my choice and i am comfortable with being in charge of finances.
Yeah i cant be with a lady who makes triple than me. I just cant. I want to be the one to protect and provide for her. Not saying she cant have a career but me personally, i wouldnt feel like a man. I would feel like her child.
Somebody sure messed you up in your thinking. You are so insecure as a man and you use money to measure your manhood? Not me. I'm secure as a man with any woman who makes more money than myself. First of all I was independent before I met her. I will support her endeavors and it in no way diminishes who I am as a man. I will make sure that she invests her money wisely so it pays off in later years.
If your husband is a good guy and he doesn't have the money to take the couples out, either let him pay with the joint account card or give him cash before yall leave home. Never embarrass him or make him feel less than.
If she makes more than him own why would he be embarrassed that she pays? It’s her money. Why should she pretend it’s not?? If he was making more he would just pay at the outing. What is the difference??
It doesn't really matter if she makes ten times more than you. To get the best out of marriage both parties should be independent. Decide beforehand what each is responsible for. What's yours is your's and what's mine is mine is the best way to go. You've got your car and I've got mine. As an independent strong man don't expect any special favours if you women earns more. That's the way you are going to get her respect and keep your self respect.
Im single but you gave some good informstion for the future. I also like the 5 account situation to but not sure where that idea came from I heard steve Harvey talk about it.
This is happening to me right now. I could never bring more money than him without him, he helps me and courges me. I was afraid that my salary is more than his, but after watching this video my mind cleaned with these thought and now i feel free and confident. I am more proud of myself. Thank you soooo much 😭❤❤❤
Are there other variables being left out of your scenario? How long have both of you been in the relationship?Was he always like this since the beginning of the relationship? If yes, did anything else change during that time?
@@SolitudeofaTiger no variables. This guy has not held a job longer than the probation period. Belived that everyone has bad moments, which is true but 20 years of not working for evena full year. that is bad. We can say health is an issue but diabetes has ever stopped someone from working neither has weight. Each time I ask why he does not go in the field he is trained for i get an excuse. I have fibroid tumors and still work. Does not want to obtain training in a new field. He meet me while in high school and I only didn't work while my babies were under 2 years cause I choose to breast feed. After that I work in the factory, in the tax field now in retail. But I cannot make out what he is up . During the time off we got welfare but I was determined to get off it. We are off it. But seems he wants us to go back on it.
@@rosej5029 yes he was always like this but everyone has bad days. Weep for a month a year ok but 20 years with no change, thatt is not a red flag that is dangerous. Ok i said if j work he helps wit the children but the school still call me cause he refuses to be involved when it concerns the children that they now hate him.
# 2. I want to know where my man money is going? Don't give him no loan, that he ask for, you just maybe taking care of him and a outside women, not saying that's the case, but you will never know if you give him the loan he ask for, find out were his money going first, its your right to know , you his wife
If i get married am comming to a marriege with a paidoff house. And a structure for a possible bussiness. All i want from a man is for him to pay all the bills and food. Even of i stay home i provide a men stability. And he provide me stability back. I want a debt free life. And i want a simple life. I dont want a workaholic. I already have the lifestyle i want. Simple meaningfull life. But if a guy wanna come to my life with a materialistic mentallity all he do is work to buy bullshit brand stuff and wanna fight with me and tell me his too tire for me.... thats not for me.
Amen! Always run a background check on a man FIRST. This will save you a lot of time, and reveal a lot of "hidden unfinished business" he forgot to tell you. (Criminal history, baby mamas, bad credit, etc) No more "Build a Bob" men. He must come to the table, "able & stable". (Have his own everything without asking you for anything. Car, job, money, credit, business, etc). If not, he will either resent you & your success, or use you & take all you got and go marry Becky. Always protect yourself and your assets. Seek a lawyer for legal advice BEFORE you get involved.
That works for you, but there are way too many pitfalls for female breadwinners. It's a terrible deal for them. I don't mind being friends but won't be marry into that situation. You be the fools not me!
Do not give him the money for the date. let him get another job for entertainment. its very complicated and frustrating dating a man who does have his own money. u have to genuflect do tricks and all foolishness not to bruise his broke manhood.
This is a woman with common sense but is not normal in the female world to use intelligence the way this lady does. For the majority of females around the world they behave dictated by culture or natural biological behavior. That is the reason why women practice the so call hypergamy. 😊😊 you are really helping the young generation of female, god bless you🙏
When he can't afford to pay and we're in public like that I always slid my card over to him and he was always the one that paid even though it was with my money I sled the card over to him and he paid it appeared that he paid
He should feel very uncomfortable letting you do this! Not good! I’ve done this in my earlier years please stop it now. Know your self worth, don’t be a fixer.
Dr. Lynn: you are in your feelings. I am just agreeing with Big mama. I was not talking about your man and your situation. You don't have to make a video because I dont agree with you. It is just my opinion, like the advice you are giving. Why is your skin so thin? This is TH-cam
Lynn's advice is for matured minds. You have to be matured mentally to be able to process her advice. Money is just a paper, you share your body with your man and find it difficult to share ordinary notes.🤦♀️
Such an amazing and timely message! My wife has always out earned me significantly and I have no bones about it, neither does she. She works hard in a specialized field and deserves every penny. We laid all our financials out in year one from income, to debt and credit score and navigated accordingly. We continue to talk about our finances on a bi weekly basis and our 2 kids sit in on every discussion. Team work makes the dream work and "happy wife happy life" is cool but "happy spouse happy house" is better 😏
Agreed completely!!!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏽
@@LynnRichardson I highly respect your advice and the facts in this video was just as abundant as the rest. Keep the financial literacy conversation going because the world needs it! 💯🏁
Love this! God bless you, your wife and your family 🙏🏾💜
@@byhisgrace2853 thank you so much Mary, I felt called to add my perspective. In today's age it is not uncommon for women to out earn men and it shouldn't be shameful. Conversations like these are necessary and I'm always open for a civilized discussion. God bless you as well 🙏🏽
You’ve been blessed my friend. Many women today let their spouses know loud and clear that they outearn them which I never understood if you knew that before you married and had cubs. Why is it a problem after the fact? You married a unicorn. Hopefully there are more out there.
Iam not intimidated by any woman who makes more money than myself. I make a great living too. However I also know as a man that it is NOT her responsibility to support me as a man. If she decides to quit her high paying job, I still have to support her and take on a second job if necessary to make ends meet. It is not the woman's job to support the household even if she make more money
I like that statement happy wife, happy life. But really we both need to be happy so we should say happy spouse, happy house.
Awesome advice, every couple should hear this message.
Wise beyond your years ,thank you Lynn.
I can relate to this. I think back to the days when I was a single mom and divorcing. I was starting over and the people I met were always gracious and willing to be generous. I didnt accept extra help $$$ because I wanted to do it on my own. But it was nice to be treated with consideration. So now, 15 years later my circumstances are different and I think," People weer willing to be generous to me. Why not be generous to those you are spending some time with as well?." That doesnt mean live under blind stupidity. Have the convo. AND execute YOUR due dilligence. I dont hudge men on their net worth. I prefer to focus on character, shared interests and the effort in their grind. Thank you Lynn for this convo opener.
Wow just wow…..I’m sorry but I’m living this nightmare and it’s hell. My husband constantly throws it in my face and does the bear minimum for me. He’s a good father but not a great husband. He’s 9 years older and quick to say when we started neither of us had anything. I remind him yes but I applied myself, study, worked hard and achieved what I wanted. He has had the SAME opportunities. I WILL NOT let him guilt trip me into growing and being successful.
Its character over everything. He should never want his woman to not be successful and you should keep doing you. I pray he gets the help he needs
Your husband is very insecure as a man because his manhood is measured by how much he makes in comparison to you. Me, as a man, I've never been intimidated by a woman who makes more money than myself. Because if she decides to quit her job and stay home, I as a man have to continue to support her even if it means taking on a second job. She is not responsible to support the household, I am as head of the house.
@@Ma1nguy Women these days believe they are the head of the household. A lot of men are also whipped by their woman and don't stand up for themselves because if she decides to go the man will be destroyed. If kids involved...even worse for the guy.
@@aralsea1 she is allowe to make more money. if you feel that makes a man not the head of the house the problem is with you
@@TheSunshinefee Not if she keeps telling her guy to make more money because she doesn't want to spend hers. I don't think I said a woman couldn't make more money. But don't be harping at your guy if he makes less. Do men harp at women if they make less? Men don't care.
I remember my father had told me one time, he said "Son, do what works for you because no one is going to live your life for you." And I have applied that even in my love life. In other words, some advice I take in and some I don't. If it works for me then I will take it in and apply it.
Lord have mercy Lynn!!!! The truth will set us free!!! Thank you so much for walking us down the path to Freedom.
I respect this. I personally want it the other way around but respect when people do what’s best for them
My own experience.. I knew what was getting into. I have known my husband for 10 years. Most ppl know what they are getting into, but always believe there could be something more, more growing together in the future.. That is not always the case. I have been in charge of my families finances, all bills, working, cleaning, etc for 10 years now. He contributes financially, but not enough. His is 20% to my 80% and probably will be like that for as long as i am with him. I made my peace with it. I get the rest of his contributions from him through his mental, emotional, etc. support that cannot be measured in money. Is this hard? Yes. Do i get frustrated that everything is on my shoulders? Yes. This is my choice and i am comfortable with being in charge of finances.
Thanks Dr. Lynn. This has helped me to get over a fear I had.
Yeah i cant be with a lady who makes triple than me. I just cant. I want to be the one to protect and provide for her. Not saying she cant have a career but me personally, i wouldnt feel like a man. I would feel like her child.
Somebody sure messed you up in your thinking. You are so insecure as a man and you use money to measure your manhood? Not me. I'm secure as a man with any woman who makes more money than myself. First of all I was independent before I met her. I will support her endeavors and it in no way diminishes who I am as a man. I will make sure that she invests her money wisely so it pays off in later years.
This message right here! Yes Lord, it was much needed. Thank you for being so candid, transparent, and offering practical real world solutions!
You said she live a beautiful life but she wanted to protect you she is Beautiful Queen 👑 Rest In Peace
Wow Lynn thank you for your insight and especially about old school verses new school. You truly open my eyes
A lot of the things she going over takes maturity!
If your husband is a good guy and he doesn't have the money to take the couples out, either let him pay with the joint account card or give him cash before yall leave home. Never embarrass him or make him feel less than.
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If she makes more than him own why would he be embarrassed that she pays? It’s her money. Why should she pretend it’s not?? If he was making more he would just pay at the outing. What is the difference??
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This was good. Thank you.
I dont share bank accounts and i dont lend money for bussiness😂
Such wisdom and knowledge. God bless you and keep you in strength 🙏🏾🙏🏾
It doesn't really matter if she makes ten times more than you. To get the best out of marriage both parties should be independent. Decide beforehand what each is responsible for. What's yours is your's and what's mine is mine is the best way to go. You've got your car and I've got mine. As an independent strong man don't expect any special favours if you women earns more. That's the way you are going to get her respect and keep your self respect.
I totally agree. Good word.
Im single but you gave some good informstion for the future. I also like the 5 account situation to but not sure where that idea came from
I heard steve Harvey talk about it.
Wow what a much needed video!! Thank you so much
This is happening to me right now. I could never bring more money than him without him, he helps me and courges me. I was afraid that my salary is more than his, but after watching this video my mind cleaned with these thought and now i feel free and confident. I am more proud of myself. Thank you soooo much 😭❤❤❤
As long as you know that your money has no bearing in his leadership role as your husband.
@@OmniMale ...SHE is captain now! Lmao
@@vaughnwesley7860 whatever floats their boat.
He encourages you to be the MULE 😂😂 let him continue to ride
10% relationship 90% Business.
What do you do if your husband has refused to keep a stable job, you are
frustrated cause not only does he not have a job but he does no house work.
take a long vacation and never come back
@@ceemac304 As a man I agree. Unless there are other variables you’re not telling us and hes just plain lazy grab your chute and bail out.
Are there other variables being left out of your scenario? How long have both of you been in the relationship?Was he always like this since the beginning of the relationship? If yes, did anything else change during that time?
@@SolitudeofaTiger no variables. This guy has not held a job longer than the probation period. Belived that everyone has bad moments, which is true but 20 years of not working for evena full year. that is bad. We can say health is an issue but diabetes has ever stopped someone from working neither has weight. Each time I ask why he does not go in the field he is trained for i get an excuse. I have fibroid tumors and still work.
Does not want to obtain training in a new field. He meet me while in high school and I only didn't work while my babies were under 2 years cause I choose to breast feed. After that I work in the factory, in the tax field now in retail. But I cannot make out what he is up . During the time off we got welfare but I was determined to get off it. We are off it. But seems he wants us to go back on it.
@@rosej5029 yes he was always like this but everyone has bad days. Weep for a month a year ok but 20 years with no change, thatt is not a red flag that is dangerous. Ok i said if j work he helps wit the children but the school still call me cause he refuses to be involved when it concerns the children that they now hate him.
# 2. I want to know where my man money is going?
Don't give him no loan, that he ask for, you just maybe taking care of him and a outside women, not saying that's the case, but you will never know if you give him the loan he ask for, find out were his money going first, its your right to know , you his wife
Good Evening Mrs. Lynn , Great Video
If i get married am comming to a marriege with a paidoff house. And a structure for a possible bussiness. All i want from a man is for him to pay all the bills and food. Even of i stay home i provide a men stability. And he provide me stability back. I want a debt free life. And i want a simple life. I dont want a workaholic.
I already have the lifestyle i want.
Simple meaningfull life. But if a guy wanna come to my life with a materialistic mentallity all he do is work to buy bullshit brand stuff and wanna fight with me and tell me his too tire for me.... thats not for me.
Amen! Always run a background check on a man FIRST. This will save you a lot of time, and reveal a lot of "hidden unfinished business" he forgot to tell you. (Criminal history, baby mamas, bad credit, etc) No more "Build a Bob" men. He must come to the table, "able & stable". (Have his own everything without asking you for anything. Car, job, money, credit, business, etc). If not, he will either resent you & your success, or use you & take all you got and go marry Becky. Always protect yourself and your assets. Seek a lawyer for legal advice BEFORE you get involved.
@@roses4me451 couldnt agree more. Thanks😄
Such an on time word.
Love the way you talk about your man .wow so nices ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thanks for going against the grain of modern society!
Amazing Advice
Does a biz loan matter if yall are married or boyfriend and girlfriend?
Such a huge advice
Thankyou ♥️🙏♥️
That works for you, but there are way too many pitfalls for female breadwinners. It's a terrible deal for them. I don't mind being friends but won't be marry into that situation. You be the fools not me!
So Dr. Lynn is on team Tab and not Wendy. But I’m distracted by the pool and these elephants.
Do not give him the money for the date. let him get another job for entertainment. its very complicated and frustrating dating a man who does have his own money. u have to genuflect do tricks and all foolishness not to bruise his broke manhood.
What?
It’s Pretty sad that money rules so many.
This is a woman with common sense but is not normal in the female world to use intelligence the way this lady does. For the majority of females around the world they behave dictated by culture or natural biological behavior. That is the reason why women practice the so call hypergamy. 😊😊 you are really helping the young generation of female, god bless you🙏
Some men just insecure afraid that they Woman make more embarrass that’s what happens when you don’t got the Holy Spirit
When you make more money and continue to the respect is gone. Sorry not sorry.
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When he can't afford to pay and we're in public like that I always slid my card over to him and he was always the one that paid even though it was with my money I sled the card over to him and he paid it appeared that he paid
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Dang.. it’s giving desperate. The man is taking you out with your money? It’s never too late to stop doing this please lady
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He should feel very uncomfortable letting you do this! Not good! I’ve done this in my earlier years please stop it now. Know your self worth, don’t be a fixer.
I used to do this too its fucking embarrassing 😅
Dr. Lynn: you are in your feelings. I am just agreeing with Big mama. I was not talking about your man and your situation. You don't have to make a video because I dont agree with you. It is just my opinion, like the advice you are giving. Why is your skin so thin? This is TH-cam
She lost weight so her skin will be thinner. She is still a beautiful woman though.
@@brklyn2922 😂😂😂 that’s not why they meant having tough skin is a metaphor it means to be able to take criticism ..thin skin would be the opposite
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Encouraging black women to take care of a man. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Lynn's advice is for matured minds. You have to be matured mentally to be able to process her advice.
Money is just a paper, you share your body with your man and find it difficult to share ordinary notes.🤦♀️
Um. No.. Women don't make more than men.
Ur grandma told you wrong
Lol good game