My wife and I have 12 years of marriage. I knew since the beggining she had been sexually abused, assaulted, humiliated in the worst of ways you could imagine since she was 4 years up to 12. The worst part is that the abuser was her own father.... i know... its shocking. If you asked how she overcame all this.... I would be lying, she hasnt. Nevertheless, we have a great sex life, I could affirm she lives a happy life and values the family we have together, she is a wonderful wife and even better mother. She does have though very sad days,where I lay by her side and say nothing if she doesnt want to speak.... tell her what I honestly think if she asks me or just listen if she wants to let it out. Ive heard the same story over a 100 times and still discover new things she hasnt told. I can only remind her how valuable her life really is and how much she means to us. I also feel frustrated at times because i have my own troubles, but never, let her feel her feelings are not important. I try to show her that forgiveness is the most liberating sensation one can have, its really hard but its all worth it. Never force her to face her fear or forgive if she doesnt feel ready, its ok not to be ready.... but at least try... thats what I tell her. I hope u all find ur ways to help ur wives heal these terrible wounds.... there is no manual since every individual is completely different and situations are different...at least try and dont give up... under these victims there are beautiful women trying to break free of these haunting memories...
deceiver me wow it sounds like you have been an amazing husband !!! So supportive and compassionate and mature when it comes to dealing with these serious issues! You are so inspirational to so many! 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m 24 and have shut out every guy that ever attempted to know me. I isolate myself severely. But I dream about my future husband every day. I often wonder if it’s just a sad dilution I have, mostly because I believe it won’t happen for me. I’m too complicated, who would want me. Who would want to put in the years of work it would take for me to even feel safe. Years of friendship, years of not entering my bubble, years of not even holding my hand. I don’t think I’m worth that trouble, so my future husband is more of a fantasy I’ll always have. I was sexually abused by my step father starting when I was just a toddler. Kept going on and on. I want to believe I have the right to a gentle and soft soul mate, but it seems far fetched. That’s why your comment meant a lot to me, you’ve helped me see that maybe there’s someone in the world who would work for me. Gentle enough to have me at ease. Who won’t mind the wait, the patience it takes to win my trust. God I’m complicated..... Thank you again.
Your wife found her champion. What a blessing. I truly believe that some day HE will send me mine. Until then I will keep working on myself and healing those wounds of stolen innocence. I can turn my pain into purpose as I live my life.
Thank you Chris. My wife divorced me 6 months ago and finally she is getting the help needed. She hated me and I wish I have listened to you before. I believed at the beginning that she had another man but was not the case, just very confused and little communication from her. She never wanted to talk about it. I hope that she will continue receiving the help needed. I leave it to God to help us.
Thank you Sir! You are the first person who does not compromise, despise or neglect the love of a person for another without thinking that is codependent and so on. You see it as a quest or as a good deed for our human fellows. A deed that is based on empathy and generosity!! Thank you Jason. Love should prevail...
This literally have me in tears, when i told my boyfriend that i was struggling and got major depressed he cheated on me, told me i wasnt good enough and try to hurt me worst because i told him i wanted to leave the relationship..... Sorry of my life
Grace to you sister, and Peace from the Lord Yeshua. Do not put any confidence in a boyfriend and if you were married to this man, would you have told him you wanted to divorce him because of your struggles? Most women do. The best thing to do for yourself is to come back to Christ, your creator. He will heal you and make you whole again. He can also give you a loving "husband" who will be with you forever in peace and harmony. There is nothing as hurting as a woman rejecting or treating her man like he don't matter. Which is why they cheat, not that they are right but just imagine the pain of your child as a mother, rejecting you. Men feel the same pain when you reject them, regardless of what you are going through. God bless you
Sorry to hear that Iesha , God will bless you . As a man when I found out that my girl was abused , I stared thinking that there was something wrong with me , As time went on she started to do some hurtful things ( and I wanted to run but I love her and I need to be God's vessel for her ). Then I realized the hurtful things she was doing, had to do with her past & I believe God is healing her & it is ok. Now I learned when she acts out I do NOT go to her BUT I go to God. I want to be the man God created me to be so I chose to love her
thx Nipomita , your words are God sent of encouragement to me...... it has been a rough road & there is plenty of times I question God " is she from You ? I am tired . Will it ever change ? " BUT SEE GOD IS HEALING MY HEART IN THIS TIME ALSO ...... I KNOW ONE THING YOU CAN NOT FIGURE OUT GOD'S WAYS . in the natural it looks impossible BUT GOD IS THE GOD OF IMPOSSIBLES .....
Loved this! I was sexually abused from 10-14 & half of it was repressed while the other half just purposely didn't want to think about. I thought I would be fine but after dating for my bf 3 years into relationship all that started to show up but i wasn't fully aware why i was struggling sexually. not until i started healing other issues had this not occurred or actually realized that i was abused. i carried shame with what had not been repressed. the last 3yrs have been very tough sexually for us and even tho I haven't been able to open up to him about it, he's been very heroic in general about my struggles, this is helpful for me to feel ok to tell him & know that he might not view me differently and in fact fill a lot more questions he may been wondering & help me as I finally begin to heal
hey, not sure of you're still even on here or if you're comfortable saying, but I've been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 4, and we haven't had sex consistently for about 8 years. I knew she had been abused but she is also Christian so so she said she wanted to wait for marriage so I waited, now we have been married for 3 going on 4 years and have sex only twice....I don't know how to help and I'm having a hard time waiting anymore and I don't know what to do, I got her to do therapy and it's not helping still...I woke up one day and realized it's been 10 years of almost no sex and I have no idea where the time went, I just didn't want to be pushy and now I feel like I made it unimportant even though it is and I'm afraid it is too late 😥
Tom Lewis it’s sad to say sometimes they can’t heal. Just get divorced. I was with a woman that made me out to be a monster for desiring her. Her past CSA trauma she could never get over it. 14 years and nearly all of it sexless. It doesn’t get better. Just leave.
Wow. That was encouraging. Wish I heard this sooner. We are in the middle of the healing. It’s been months. We’re both through the worst of it. But we’re not there yet... but I’m seeing God working a miracle in my wife. And yes, God is teaching me new things about sexuality too. God bless. thanks again
Thank You..Thank You for reminding me that it will pass.. Me and my boyfriend of 2 in a half years are finally enjoying ourselves intimately.. It took me so long to get there.. I just found this video looking up how to cope and heal from Sexual Abuse. if we ever go though an episode again, ill show him your video. you've really made my night, and put a huge smile on my face.. Im so happy for your wife, and so Grateful to know there are Men out there like You. thank you for reminding me that Struggled Women, bring life and make Men, Men. Just to show that a Strong Man, has a much Stronger Woman
thank you so much for this video, its good to see strong and conscious men out there. yes my partner ran out on me in the darkest moment. he said im too "heavy" too much "drama" too much tears" its not fun anymore". i had a double blow. dealing w rape n child abuse n love of my life who for the first time in my life i felt safe next to a man, turned out to be a coward and ran out 3 years into our relationship just when things started to resurface in me. Never felt so alone and unwanted. guess God planned it this way? But im upset with God for this.
Hey. I know this is a year old but here, I wanna say something for you. As Fr. Mike Schmitz once said, that wasn’t God’s plan A for that guy (really, *boy*) to run out on you. God’s plan A was for him to man up and be there for you, just as it was His plan A that you lived a happy and safe childhood free from abuse and rape. Something that’s helped me through my own history is realizing that God did send people to help me, even if so many of them refused or failed - that wasn’t my or His fault, it’s theirs. It’s THEIR fault. That’s something I have to remember every day. I hope you’re doing better in life, and that this new year is kind to you. I hope you met some people who didn’t run out on you, as I have; we just can’t give up on people. A dear friend would tell me, “People do love you, sweetie. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but they do.” Best wishes...
I was sexually abused multiple times when I was 5. Recently, I found out my partner was watching porn and it opened up old wounds. Specially the ones that involved something I was made to do to a man while he watched porn. My relationship is now over and I feel more lost than ever. Thank you for this video.
I've been leading a celibate life with my partner as she heals. It's been a few years now. At first I freaked out, but today... It's a breeze. We've never been closer, believe it or not.
Any help or advice for a struggling partner dealing with lack of intimacy due to S.A that my partner was subjected to from her brother at a young age? How did you get through it? Is there hope? Is our relationship doomed to fail?
@@ryangarcia1029- Well, we're still going through it. It may never change. You have to prepare yourself for the possibility of never engaging physically with your partner ever again. That being said, we have infrequent "engagements", but it's not like it was earlier in our relationship, where it was whenever, whenever. It was after an accidental pregnancy things changed back in 2013. It's been dwindling down ever since. A three pack of condoms can last a year. You have to ask yourself it YOU can endure. Is this the life you want? The answers to thise questions should dictate your plan of action, or plan of coping.
I am a 40 year old woman and victim of slight child abuse, I have never met a guy who cares... Men's high sexual expectations are extreme pressure on me, two men have told me that I will never find a man who will take me bc I refuse to give blow jobs...when you are young and find a heroic man who cares, you are lucky....by my age, we have all been through so much shit that no one trusts anyone and no one cares to deal with another person's past...
I can't thank you enough for this video. I'm crying as I type this because this is everything I have felt and struggled with in my marriage. I think I just needed to hear it from another man to really feel like I was understood and lived and that it was OK to feel the way I do. Thank you.
This is beautiful. I really wish my ex-husband would have been like that with me. He concentrated on himself knowing exactly what I had gone through all my teenage years. We were together since I was 18 and now turned 35. We were young when we got together but we thought we tried to make it work. I wish someone could have given us this advise back then....Unfortunatrly, his abusive mother mistreated me and would always try to convince him to leave me. We eventually separated a few months ago. He and I still talk now but nothing beats growing old with the one you first fell in love with. Thank you for putting this message out there for other couples that are trying to overcome that hurdle. Kudos to those couples too.
After reading some of the comments, I just want to say that before I married my husband I had begun a journey with God of emotional and spiritual healing from the effects of sexual abuse from my childhood. I agree that it is critical for the victim to be open to healing. I actually pray with women over the phone who are seeking wholeness from Jesus and am freely passing on what God has so generously given to me. Jesus never fails. My website is emotionalrenovation.com if you want check it out.
In this case I am the wife and my husband is the one healing and it has been hard waiting for him to be there for me in that way but I am happy that I have the opportunity to heal some other aspects in my life while waiting for him . Prayers welcome
I felt this video, and this will make me a better man to my girlfriend in the future. I believe that i might rewatch this video just so that i dont forget what to do and remember that i fell inlove with her not for the sex or her body, but for her heart of gold. I love her!
thank you. though my husband has been awesome it's still hard. I was 4 years old. abused by the pastors 18 year old son and found out this past July about the abuse.
Thank you so much for this video on the man in the woman's life who was raped. I am sending this on to my husband right now. Hopefully this will also give him encouragement and guidance. Again thank you.
Thank you so much brother, I love you. I appreciate this so much, my marriage is now over and it was a very rough one but still I will send this tom my husband so he can hear this from someone who went through it like he did. I never stopped apologizing and feeling guilty and still I do and I told him that he didn´t deserve it, I took a lot of responsibility for this but I want something and someone great in my life, to love me to bots and pieces and Iḿ gonna show this to my future man of God because he is coming into the picture and this video came to me right on time. I thank God for you and I hope God continues to bless you. You are truly a hero. Thank you SO so so so much. I hope to heal from this I really really hope to, I need to. Thank you xoxoxoxoxo
Chris - right on ! be heroic is being Christ like . God has given us His Son and gives us grace. I am going through this with my girlfriend . I wanted to walk away but I heard God told me give her grace, love her with My love . Pray for her . There is days I am tired but God has been faithful . Yes you are correct while God is healing my girlfriend's heart , God is working on my heart. After all the bible say we are made in God's imagine . GRACE , PRAYER & LOVE OF CHRIST . GOD IS FAITHFUL . What keeps me going is I keep a prayer journal , yes when I pray ( and I pray a lot because of this ) I sit and wait to hear God's voice. and I hear I am I am God of miracles , I will restore hat was taken from her and healing her heart and yours. Your video is God sent . I was getting weary but I know this is the Had of God telling me that it is will for my life and it is much bigger than I can see. You see I can upon your video by accident ( lol - no I know better than that it was God ), Thanks God Bless
I know my wife was abused by someone in her family as a youngster, and maybe also in the military. We have been married for 10 years and have 4 kids. She served me with papers in March. Her justification is I have been sexually abusive and committing martial rape her the entire marriage. She has refused to goto therapy since we had our first child, stating me and the therapist will gang up on her... If your wife is willing to admit she was abused, or even just that she is struggling sexually and realizes she is part of the problem, please be heroic and help her. Be grateful she trusts you enough to open up, be vulnerable, and invite you to walk with her. Not all women are willing to do that.
PLEASE DO NOT ADD ANY MORE TRAUMATIC PAIN to your wife From lying about women in your lives and your interactions with them,... deleting messages and history, smiling and staring at other women, making other women laugh and get exited around you, saying hi to every woman around you, giving too much focus or compliments to a girl, too many gifts to a girl, smiling about a girl when you remember her, checking women up and down who know her at church or her friends or neighbors (or your coworkers), not telling her she’s beautiful or sexy, to not touching her, not checking her out, not touching her or acting like you desire her, watching R rated or movies or movies where women are showing off their bodies, having an IG account with women showing off their bodies, you hugging women tightly on the chest, you wearing cologne, Talking to other men about hot women, allowing yourself to listen to other men about hot women, adding women on Fb showing off their bodies or making lustful faces, walking away from or breaking up with her or leaving her (especially over other women), To yelling angrily at her, criticizing her emotions or reactions, insulting her names or using sarcasm to put her down, telling other people what she doesn’t want other people to know about her personal problems (not protecting her reputation, but causing her more embarrassment and shame), ignoring or avoiding her
It’s encouraging to hear a man of God speak for his wife’s healing. All praise to our one and only hero, Jesus. He is able to help every man to live heroically. Christ lives in and through every believer to touch and heal others through the perfect bond of his love he’s poured out into our hearts❤ Is there suffering in this? For sure. Look at how much he suffered for us. We are to emulate him. What an honor to suffer for good, for love, for his sake and for others. To those sisters in Christ who are alone or don’t have a heroic husband, God is so ever present.
Thank you so much and ima try my best for my beautiful gf I feel so mad and just terrible for her. And your video truly did inspire me to think less with anger and wanting to beat the guy up repeatedly but to listen to my gf speak and understand her and show I will forever be by her side, thank you so much
Im actually in pain right now, my wife just recently confessed to me she was a victim of raped by his cousin when she was about 7/8yrs old.. confessing to me gives her relief, but I don't know why im feeling in pain, we already have 2 kids.. her cousin was already dead, but I can't help but feel angry to the bastard.. at the same time feeling so emotional..after all my wife had gone through .. it's hard for me..
Because he bases most of his points on Theistic principles, which isn't a bad thing. It's likely because he's a strong believer in his religion, and he uses it as a jumping-off point to dispense information. It's good information regardless of whether or not it contains a Theistic theme.
How do you know the right timing to even tell a partner of your past abuse? I was seeing someone for quite some time but would not let him get close to me...and he moved on thinking I wasn't interested. I have huge regrets but just couldn't tell him why I was so cautious. I find the more I like some one the harder it is to risk possible rejection I think even great guys would avoid someone who is, well...damaged in this way
Hey, I know months later but I thought maybe an answer can still help. When you notice it's getting serious. I dated my boyfriend for quite a while and he kissed me at a party and it was our first kiss and I just knew I need to tell him what he's getting himself into. Tell your partner it when you feel it's getting serious and when you feel he could understand and he will not mock you. Maybe he will tell you he doesn't want a relationship like that but I think that's the perfect time before anyone gets to attached but it's at a level we're you trust him enough to talk to him about it. I actually just asked him to meet me because I need to explain something to him and I was sitting like two hours with him almost silent or talking about other stuff before I was ready
I think when your ready. Maybe there was a reason you didn't feel like you could tell them. Maybe they weren't the one for you. Don't be to hard on yourself that can be a really hard conversation to have with anyone especially some your romantic with. I've heard some people take a long time and some don't. I hope you figure it out and wish you the best.
Dreams do come true.. Im a Survivor of horrible sexual abuse by my own father, mother and older sister. I finally left home at 16 and lived on my own, trying to move on from everything. (I finally put my father away in prison for 42 years January 2019. Took me 10 years to do that. My mother and sister ran away from the country and they are living a pretty sweet F life. But while i was living on my own. I dated So many guys. Who of course i didn't tell them anything. They all took advantage of me in their own way. I never had real respect for myself, and so did they.. I never thought anyone could love me, and I had no real friends. My life was full of cocaine, alcohol, misery, sad songs, and one night stands.. Finally, October 31, Halloween Night 2017. I see this Man, dressed up in a Jewish Costume. (I'm jewish so it made me laugh). Anyway, after 10 minutes of talking to him (with no intentions AT ALL), I noticed he only had one hand. And that for some strange reason attracted me very much. Anyway, we exchanged numbers and started dating. Within a week, I was the first one to tell him I Loved him. And he Confirmed my Love :) 3 months later, we were intimate. And he did something that literally fucked up my entire life, and took me back to my Sexual Abuse memory (not like it wasn't coming to my mind those entire 3 months) but what he did, honestly was a mistake.. It slipped. let me put it that way. and I reacted obviously in a traumatic panic. I started crying and holding the place where the trauma came in mind. Then he finally said "Im tired of being the Elephant in the room. Did something happen to you? Did someone hurt you in the past?" and for the first time, I felt in my life - that he was a person, who genuinely cared, and was concerned for me. We ended up chain smoking cigarets and talking about my childhood and sexual abuse for the next 4 hours. Ever since that night, I had issues and Hate towards us even having sex. I was disgusted. Wanted nothing to do with it. BuT i loved him so much, and he loved me, That i KNEW That some day, we can get past it. Learn each other, and have a Great life together once we learn more about each other. its been 2 years and we are now finally more intimate that ever. He's been patient. Learning, understanding. Yes. its been awefully difficult for both of us. But true love Does Exist. And that person that TRULY cares for you, WILL be there, and stick around for ALL your pain and misery my darling. Life sends us all gifts when we are ready to receive them. 2017 was the last year I stopped fucking around, and started respecting myself, and learning to Love myself. I truly believe my Boyfriend was given to me, because I was finally ready to have him, and heal.. I can't tell you how much pain i still go through every day. Even being on this comment section. I hope my story can Inspire you, to be patient with Your True Love and Hero
If someone does not want to be in your life no matter what the reason is don't be afraid of loosing them. Move on and find those who do want to be in your life.
@@BatelSkater snd everyone, A belated thank you for your posts. I didn't see any of the replies and my original was over a year ago! I am in a pretty healthy place of late and what a huge difference in the people I am attracting into my life. I'm not speaking of romantic. Just of people in general. But it's building my confidence in that potential romantic attraction that I will happily walk slowly with. He will be a patient, well adjusted person, as this is now who "I AM"
Thank you so much. My girlfriend who I’m deeply in love with just told me that he ex sexually abused her and did things to her without her consent. I’m enraged and have feeling of wanting to find and hurt him. I also feel like this process though is a healing process for me and the greatest cross I have yet barred. Any advice you would give me about trying to not think about the things that were done to her?
Hi Andrew, I am so sorry to hear about her past, but the solution is not for you to not think about it. The solution is to learn how to think about it. I know that sounds strange, but this isn't something to be repressed. It's something to process and to heal alongside her. How do you do that? Here's an article I wrote on healing from your partner's past. Granted, this focuses more on consensual acts, but many of the same principles apply. I hope it helps both of you work through this difficult situation. My wife went through the same. chastity.com/qa/im-a-virgin-but-am-dating-a-woman-who-had-a-bad-past-but-is-really-pure-now-the-idea-of-her-past-haunts-me-how-can-i-get-beyond-this/
There has to be a balance in a relationship in order for healing to take place. And yes there are time when it needs to be time when it is all about you.
Please check out a Reformed-Baptist church. Your mind will be blown away. They have lots of solid marriage conferences and tools, etc. Your advice was strong. I hope you make more videos.
My wife just confined in me that she was sexually abused as a child and I triggered that trauma. How do I get through this my wife refuses to see me and I can careless about having sex just the fact she blames me for her trauma cause something I did triggered that trauma but I had no idea till today when she finally opened up and told me
It gave me lots of hope to see there r others like me your words comforted me every thing is ok with me but if a man confess to me my heart keeps saying he lying, he lying
I would love to send this TH-cam video to my husband, but he won't watch it. He told me that he won't read our marriage books because he's afraid he will be judged by God. Ignorance is bliss. He enjoys bliss while I suffer for his ignorance.
. Is there a way to get through this in your own, I relive the nightmare enough in my head, rather than having to describe it to another person in details that they cut me short of. They can cut me off, and I can't blame them..but I can't cut it off.
Hi Jayden. I am very sorry to hear about his insensitive and terribly hurtful response to what you experienced. You may be interested in my wife's book "Made New" where she shares her story of how she healed from childhood sexual abuse. chastity.com/products/made-new/ In the meantime, be assured of our prayers!
aside from all the pushy god stuff, this was really helpful! I would just like to point out that non-christians are also good people. we don't need the Bible or the idea of god telling us to be heroic. we're also trying to be the best people we can for ourselves and for those we care about. thank you for the video!
Kennedy Covers I stopped at two mins Bc of the god stuff. And this comment has me considering to watch the video in hopes I can help my husband understand. But he tends to be more impressionable than me and I need him to lay that cross burden down for good and find enlightenment in a better way.
Honestly tho, how is it “pushy?” People can say whatever they want on their YT and it’s your right not to listen. This was one of the least pushy things I’ve ever heard. Nevertheless, I’m glad you were touched and I hope you continue to open up our heart and mind to hear all perspectives.
He didn't say you were. I love how people take something and twist it. If you replace God with anything higher than yourself it has the same meaning. There's so much more important information in the video than the "God talk".
I've been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 4, and we haven't had sex consistently for about 8 years. I knew she had been abused but she is also Christian so so she said she wanted to wait for marriage so I waited, now we have been married for 3 going on 4 years and have sex only twice....I don't know how to help and I'm having a hard time waiting anymore and I don't know what to do, I got her to do therapy and it's not helping still...I woke up one day and realized it's been 10 years of almost no sex and I have no idea where the time went, I just didn't want to be pushy and now I feel like I made it unimportant even though it is and I'm afraid it is too late 😥
I agree with you but this crossed my mind. Why can men make babies in their 80's and women are more in their 40's?? That's half a life difference. I've been in some serious dry spells but I've never stepped out. So just a question
My wife and I have 12 years of marriage. I knew since the beggining she had been sexually abused, assaulted, humiliated in the worst of ways you could imagine since she was 4 years up to 12. The worst part is that the abuser was her own father.... i know... its shocking. If you asked how she overcame all this.... I would be lying, she hasnt. Nevertheless, we have a great sex life, I could affirm she lives a happy life and values the family we have together, she is a wonderful wife and even better mother. She does have though very sad days,where I lay by her side and say nothing if she doesnt want to speak.... tell her what I honestly think if she asks me or just listen if she wants to let it out. Ive heard the same story over a 100 times and still discover new things she hasnt told. I can only remind her how valuable her life really is and how much she means to us. I also feel frustrated at times because i have my own troubles, but never, let her feel her feelings are not important. I try to show her that forgiveness is the most liberating sensation one can have, its really hard but its all worth it. Never force her to face her fear or forgive if she doesnt feel ready, its ok not to be ready.... but at least try... thats what I tell her. I hope u all find ur ways to help ur wives heal these terrible wounds.... there is no manual since every individual is completely different and situations are different...at least try and dont give up... under these victims there are beautiful women trying to break free of these haunting memories...
deceiver me wow it sounds like you have been an amazing husband !!! So supportive and compassionate and mature when it comes to dealing with these serious issues! You are so inspirational to so many! 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m 24 and have shut out every guy that ever attempted to know me. I isolate myself severely. But I dream about my future husband every day. I often wonder if it’s just a sad dilution I have, mostly because I believe it won’t happen for me. I’m too complicated, who would want me. Who would want to put in the years of work it would take for me to even feel safe. Years of friendship, years of not entering my bubble, years of not even holding my hand. I don’t think I’m worth that trouble, so my future husband is more of a fantasy I’ll always have. I was sexually abused by my step father starting when I was just a toddler. Kept going on and on. I want to believe I have the right to a gentle and soft soul mate, but it seems far fetched. That’s why your comment meant a lot to me, you’ve helped me see that maybe there’s someone in the world who would work for me. Gentle enough to have me at ease. Who won’t mind the wait, the patience it takes to win my trust. God I’m complicated..... Thank you again.
Rumpelstiltskin H. Thank you for writing this. ♥️
m e r m a i d Blessings and healing to you!! I am grieved by what you have gone through. I pray that you will experience true love from a man.
petran papas that’s your opinion not his. How you feel isn’t how everyone else feels
Your wife found her champion. What a blessing. I truly believe that some day HE will send me mine. Until then I will keep working on myself and healing those wounds of stolen innocence. I can turn my pain into purpose as I live my life.
Thank you Chris. My wife divorced me 6 months ago and finally she is getting the help needed. She hated me and I wish I have listened to you before. I believed at the beginning that she had another man but was not the case, just very confused and little communication from her. She never wanted to talk about it. I hope that she will continue receiving the help needed. I leave it to God to help us.
As a woman and victim of child abuse I still suggest you take the red pill and Google mgtow
Maybe you should have left it to yourself to help her... Maybe god isn't your clean up lady.
May God strengthen you in your situation. I pray that things have improved.
I hope you guys are okay now!
Ignore the dude commenters. I hope things are better now
Thank you Sir! You are the first person who does not compromise, despise or neglect the love of a person for another without thinking that is codependent and so on. You see it as a quest or as a good deed for our human fellows. A deed that is based on empathy and generosity!! Thank you Jason. Love should prevail...
thanks I am so overwhelmed by your words, I truly feel that God sent me to this video
me too Bryan . GOD IS FAITHFUL ,
Sure, god.... or algorithms.
@@valhalla1240 True, but God works in mysterious ways 😉
This literally have me in tears, when i told my boyfriend that i was struggling and got major depressed he cheated on me, told me i wasnt good enough and try to hurt me worst because i told him i wanted to leave the relationship..... Sorry of my life
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Grace to you sister, and Peace from the Lord Yeshua. Do not put any confidence in a boyfriend and if you were married to this man, would you have told him you wanted to divorce him because of your struggles? Most women do. The best thing to do for yourself is to come back to Christ, your creator. He will heal you and make you whole again. He can also give you a loving "husband" who will be with you forever in peace and harmony. There is nothing as hurting as a woman rejecting or treating her man like he don't matter. Which is why they cheat, not that they are right but just imagine the pain of your child as a mother, rejecting you. Men feel the same pain when you reject them, regardless of what you are going through. God bless you
Sorry to hear that Iesha , God will bless you . As a man when I found out that my girl was abused , I stared thinking that there was something wrong with me , As time went on she started to do some hurtful things ( and I wanted to run but I love her and I need to be God's vessel for her ). Then I realized the hurtful things she was doing, had to do with her past & I believe God is healing her & it is ok. Now I learned when she acts out I do NOT go to her BUT I go to God. I want to be the man God created me to be so I chose to love her
alfed E. Newman Seriously ur gf is lucky to have u. MAY GOD BLESS BOTH OF U.
thx Nipomita , your words are God sent of encouragement to me...... it has been a rough road & there is plenty of times I question God " is she from You ? I am tired . Will it ever change ? " BUT SEE GOD IS HEALING MY HEART IN THIS TIME ALSO ...... I KNOW ONE THING YOU CAN NOT FIGURE OUT GOD'S WAYS . in the natural it looks impossible BUT GOD IS THE GOD OF IMPOSSIBLES .....
Loved this! I was sexually abused from 10-14 & half of it was repressed while the other half just purposely didn't want to think about. I thought I would be fine but after dating for my bf 3 years into relationship all that started to show up but i wasn't fully aware why i was struggling sexually. not until i started healing other issues had this not occurred or actually realized that i was abused. i carried shame with what had not been repressed. the last 3yrs have been very tough sexually for us and even tho I haven't been able to open up to him about it, he's been very heroic in general about my struggles, this is helpful for me to feel ok to tell him & know that he might not view me differently and in fact fill a lot more questions he may been wondering & help me as I finally begin to heal
hey, not sure of you're still even on here or if you're comfortable saying, but I've been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 4, and we haven't had sex consistently for about 8 years. I knew she had been abused but she is also Christian so so she said she wanted to wait for marriage so I waited, now we have been married for 3 going on 4 years and have sex only twice....I don't know how to help and I'm having a hard time waiting anymore and I don't know what to do, I got her to do therapy and it's not helping still...I woke up one day and realized it's been 10 years of almost no sex and I have no idea where the time went, I just didn't want to be pushy and now I feel like I made it unimportant even though it is and I'm afraid it is too late 😥
Tom Lewis it’s sad to say sometimes they can’t heal. Just get divorced. I was with a woman that made me out to be a monster for desiring her. Her past CSA trauma she could never get over it. 14 years and nearly all of it sexless. It doesn’t get better. Just leave.
Wow. That was encouraging. Wish I heard this sooner. We are in the middle of the healing. It’s been months. We’re both through the worst of it. But we’re not there yet... but I’m seeing God working a miracle in my wife. And yes, God is teaching me new things about sexuality too. God bless. thanks again
Thank You..Thank You for reminding me that it will pass.. Me and my boyfriend of 2 in a half years are finally enjoying ourselves intimately.. It took me so long to get there.. I just found this video looking up how to cope and heal from Sexual Abuse. if we ever go though an episode again, ill show him your video. you've really made my night, and put a huge smile on my face.. Im so happy for your wife, and so Grateful to know there are Men out there like You. thank you for reminding me that Struggled Women, bring life and make Men, Men. Just to show that a Strong Man, has a much Stronger Woman
I'm not religious personally but I really appreciated this talk. It gave me a new perspective! Thank you.
Nice to see a man so caring. I'm not religious, but I think this is really lovely.
thank you so much for this video, its good to see strong and conscious men out there. yes my partner ran out on me in the darkest moment. he said im too "heavy" too much "drama" too much tears" its not fun anymore". i had a double blow. dealing w rape n child abuse n love of my life who for the first time in my life i felt safe next to a man, turned out to be a coward and ran out 3 years into our relationship just when things started to resurface in me. Never felt so alone and unwanted. guess God planned it this way? But im upset with God for this.
I'm very sorry about that. I truly hope that you will heal and find the love you need.
Hey. I know this is a year old but here, I wanna say something for you. As Fr. Mike Schmitz once said, that wasn’t God’s plan A for that guy (really, *boy*) to run out on you. God’s plan A was for him to man up and be there for you, just as it was His plan A that you lived a happy and safe childhood free from abuse and rape. Something that’s helped me through my own history is realizing that God did send people to help me, even if so many of them refused or failed - that wasn’t my or His fault, it’s theirs. It’s THEIR fault. That’s something I have to remember every day.
I hope you’re doing better in life, and that this new year is kind to you. I hope you met some people who didn’t run out on you, as I have; we just can’t give up on people. A dear friend would tell me, “People do love you, sweetie. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but they do.” Best wishes...
He left?
GOOD FOR YOU!
You got to play the victim one more time
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I was sexually abused multiple times when I was 5. Recently, I found out my partner was watching porn and it opened up old wounds. Specially the ones that involved something I was made to do to a man while he watched porn. My relationship is now over and I feel more lost than ever. Thank you for this video.
This sounds so difficult Brandy. :( I hope you're doing okay :(
I've been leading a celibate life with my partner as she heals.
It's been a few years now. At first I freaked out, but today... It's a breeze. We've never been closer, believe it or not.
@Darth Nihilus - Why do you assume I'm suffering?
Not every life is gauged by the edict of your perception.
Any help or advice for a struggling partner dealing with lack of intimacy due to S.A that my partner was subjected to from her brother at a young age? How did you get through it? Is there hope? Is our relationship doomed to fail?
@@ryangarcia1029- Well, we're still going through it.
It may never change. You have to prepare yourself for the possibility of never engaging physically with your partner ever again.
That being said, we have infrequent "engagements", but it's not like it was earlier in our relationship, where it was whenever, whenever.
It was after an accidental pregnancy things changed back in 2013. It's been dwindling down ever since. A three pack of condoms can last a year.
You have to ask yourself it YOU can endure. Is this the life you want? The answers to thise questions should dictate your plan of action, or plan of coping.
Thank God for you, I have been trying to help him understand what he needs to do
Thank Christ there are men like you upon this plant.I want to cry for beauty of you and deepest sorrow for myself
I am a 40 year old woman and victim of slight child abuse, I have never met a guy who cares... Men's high sexual expectations are extreme pressure on me, two men have told me that I will never find a man who will take me bc I refuse to give blow jobs...when you are young and find a heroic man who cares, you are lucky....by my age, we have all been through so much shit that no one trusts anyone and no one cares to deal with another person's past...
Powerful & as a wife struggling, THANK YOU
I hope your healing Journey continues!!! You got this!! -As another fellow survivor!!
I can't thank you enough for this video. I'm crying as I type this because this is everything I have felt and struggled with in my marriage. I think I just needed to hear it from another man to really feel like I was understood and lived and that it was OK to feel the way I do. Thank you.
This is beautiful. I really wish my ex-husband would have been like that with me. He concentrated on himself knowing exactly what I had gone through all my teenage years. We were together since I was 18 and now turned 35. We were young when we got together but we thought we tried to make it work. I wish someone could have given us this advise back then....Unfortunatrly, his abusive mother mistreated me and would always try to convince him to leave me. We eventually separated a few months ago. He and I still talk now but nothing beats growing old with the one you first fell in love with.
Thank you for putting this message out there for other couples that are trying to overcome that hurdle. Kudos to those couples too.
Thank you for making this video. I'm super grateful for my heroic man. We did get to the other side, and it's great. God is so faithful.
After reading some of the comments, I just want to say that before I married my husband I had begun a journey with God of emotional and spiritual healing from the effects of sexual abuse from my childhood. I agree that it is critical for the victim to be open to healing. I actually pray with women over the phone who are seeking wholeness from Jesus and am freely passing on what God has so generously given to me. Jesus never fails. My website is emotionalrenovation.com if you want check it out.
In this case I am the wife and my husband is the one healing and it has been hard waiting for him to be there for me in that way but I am happy that I have the opportunity to heal some other aspects in my life while waiting for him . Prayers welcome
I felt this video, and this will make me a better man to my girlfriend in the future.
I believe that i might rewatch this video just so that i dont forget what to do and remember that i fell inlove with her not for the sex or her body, but for her heart of gold. I love her!
This is good. Hubby has said many of these things for me.
Bro....thank you. I don't know how else to say how God used this but thank you.
thank you. though my husband has been awesome it's still hard. I was 4 years old. abused by the pastors 18 year old son and found out this past July about the abuse.
LORD I needed this bc I was so confused and hurt bc I was trying to love her so much in that I was doing it bc I wanted it. Thank u so much!
Thank you so much for this video on the man in the woman's life who was raped. I am sending this on to my husband right now. Hopefully this will also give him encouragement and guidance. Again thank you.
Thank you so much brother, I love you. I appreciate this so much, my marriage is now over and it was a very rough one but still I will send this tom my husband so he can hear this from someone who went through it like he did. I never stopped apologizing and feeling guilty and still I do and I told him that he didn´t deserve it, I took a lot of responsibility for this but I want something and someone great in my life, to love me to bots and pieces and Iḿ gonna show this to my future man of God because he is coming into the picture and this video came to me right on time. I thank God for you and I hope God continues to bless you. You are truly a hero. Thank you SO so so so much. I hope to heal from this I really really hope to, I need to. Thank you xoxoxoxoxo
I’ve watched many videos...this was one THE MOST POWERFUL video I’ve ever viewed! Thank you my brother!
A very insightful video that guys from all over the world should watch & be reflective. God bless.
Chris - right on ! be heroic is being Christ like . God has given us His Son and gives us grace. I am going through this with my girlfriend . I wanted to walk away but I heard God told me give her grace, love her with My love . Pray for her . There is days I am tired but God has been faithful . Yes you are correct while God is healing my girlfriend's heart , God is working on my heart. After all the bible say we are made in God's imagine . GRACE , PRAYER & LOVE OF CHRIST . GOD IS FAITHFUL . What keeps me going is I keep a prayer journal , yes when I pray ( and I pray a lot because of this ) I sit and wait to hear God's voice. and I hear I am I am God of miracles , I will restore hat was taken from her and healing her heart and yours. Your video is God sent . I was getting weary but I know this is the Had of God telling me that it is will for my life and it is much bigger than I can see. You see I can upon your video by accident ( lol - no I know better than that it was God ), Thanks God Bless
Chris, thank you so much!!! May God continue to bless you and your wife, I wish you so much Joy!!!
Every man should watch this video.
Big thanks Chris...simple but really encouraging and wise counsel...
I know my wife was abused by someone in her family as a youngster, and maybe also in the military. We have been married for 10 years and have 4 kids. She served me with papers in March. Her justification is I have been sexually abusive and committing martial rape her the entire marriage. She has refused to goto therapy since we had our first child, stating me and the therapist will gang up on her... If your wife is willing to admit she was abused, or even just that she is struggling sexually and realizes she is part of the problem, please be heroic and help her. Be grateful she trusts you enough to open up, be vulnerable, and invite you to walk with her. Not all women are willing to do that.
AMEN !GOD IS AWSOME . I WON'T TRADE THIS IN BECAUSE MY GIRL IS A BLESSING / GIFT FROM GOD AND I LOVE HER
PLEASE DO NOT ADD ANY MORE TRAUMATIC PAIN to your wife
From lying about women in your lives and your interactions with them,... deleting messages and history, smiling and staring at other women, making other women laugh and get exited around you, saying hi to every woman around you, giving too much focus or compliments to a girl, too many gifts to a girl, smiling about a girl when you remember her, checking women up and down who know her at church or her friends or neighbors (or your coworkers),
not telling her she’s beautiful or sexy, to not touching her, not checking her out, not touching her or acting like you desire her,
watching R rated or movies or movies where women are showing off their bodies, having an IG account with women showing off their bodies, you hugging women tightly on the chest, you wearing cologne,
Talking to other men about hot women, allowing yourself to listen to other men about hot women, adding women on Fb showing off their bodies or making lustful faces, walking away from or breaking up with her or leaving her (especially over other women),
To yelling angrily at her, criticizing her emotions or reactions, insulting her names or using sarcasm to put her down, telling other people what she doesn’t want other people to know about her personal problems (not protecting her reputation, but causing her more embarrassment and shame), ignoring or avoiding her
I. Needed. This. Message. Now. Before I made a bad decision. Thank you
Thank you for sharing this video. I feel less alone on this journey.
Thank you so much. God is an on time God.
yes He is Jeremi . He is never late or early and He doesn't own a timex or rolex . Plus He is faithful and never gives up on me
This is the best vedio on TH-cam
It’s encouraging to hear a man of God speak for his wife’s healing. All praise to our one and only hero, Jesus. He is able to help every man to live heroically. Christ lives in and through every believer to touch and heal others through the perfect bond of his love he’s poured out into our hearts❤ Is there suffering in this? For sure. Look at how much he suffered for us. We are to emulate him. What an honor to suffer for good, for love, for his sake and for others. To those sisters in Christ who are alone or don’t have a heroic husband, God is so ever present.
Thank you so much and ima try my best for my beautiful gf I feel so mad and just terrible for her. And your video truly did inspire me to think less with anger and wanting to beat the guy up repeatedly but to listen to my gf speak and understand her and show I will forever be by her side, thank you so much
Thank you so much. God is great!
Im actually in pain right now, my wife just recently confessed to me she was a victim of raped by his cousin when she was about 7/8yrs old.. confessing to me gives her relief, but I don't know why im feeling in pain, we already have 2 kids.. her cousin was already dead, but I can't help but feel angry to the bastard.. at the same time feeling so emotional..after all my wife had gone through .. it's hard for me..
This is incredible that you feel anger for her. You sound like an incredible husband.
Because he bases most of his points on Theistic principles, which isn't a bad thing. It's likely because he's a strong believer in his religion, and he uses it as a jumping-off point to dispense information. It's good information regardless of whether or not it contains a Theistic theme.
God sent me here.....this video...your advice saved my family....I was seriously about to separate for her later on today.
Thank you.
How do you know the right timing to even tell a partner of your past abuse?
I was seeing someone for quite some time but would not let him get close to me...and he moved on thinking I wasn't interested. I have huge regrets but just couldn't tell him why I was so cautious. I find the more I like some one the harder it is to risk possible rejection
I think even great guys would avoid someone who is, well...damaged in this way
Hey, I know months later but I thought maybe an answer can still help. When you notice it's getting serious. I dated my boyfriend for quite a while and he kissed me at a party and it was our first kiss and I just knew I need to tell him what he's getting himself into. Tell your partner it when you feel it's getting serious and when you feel he could understand and he will not mock you. Maybe he will tell you he doesn't want a relationship like that but I think that's the perfect time before anyone gets to attached but it's at a level we're you trust him enough to talk to him about it. I actually just asked him to meet me because I need to explain something to him and I was sitting like two hours with him almost silent or talking about other stuff before I was ready
I think when your ready. Maybe there was a reason you didn't feel like you could tell them. Maybe they weren't the one for you. Don't be to hard on yourself that can be a really hard conversation to have with anyone especially some your romantic with. I've heard some people take a long time and some don't. I hope you figure it out and wish you the best.
Dreams do come true.. Im a Survivor of horrible sexual abuse by my own father, mother and older sister. I finally left home at 16 and lived on my own, trying to move on from everything. (I finally put my father away in prison for 42 years January 2019. Took me 10 years to do that. My mother and sister ran away from the country and they are living a pretty sweet F life.
But while i was living on my own. I dated So many guys. Who of course i didn't tell them anything. They all took advantage of me in their own way. I never had real respect for myself, and so did they.. I never thought anyone could love me, and I had no real friends. My life was full of cocaine, alcohol, misery, sad songs, and one night stands..
Finally, October 31, Halloween Night 2017. I see this Man, dressed up in a Jewish Costume. (I'm jewish so it made me laugh). Anyway, after 10 minutes of talking to him (with no intentions AT ALL), I noticed he only had one hand. And that for some strange reason attracted me very much.
Anyway, we exchanged numbers and started dating.
Within a week, I was the first one to tell him I Loved him. And he Confirmed my Love :)
3 months later, we were intimate. And he did something that literally fucked up my entire life, and took me back to my Sexual Abuse memory (not like it wasn't coming to my mind those entire 3 months) but what he did, honestly was a mistake.. It slipped. let me put it that way. and I reacted obviously in a traumatic panic. I started crying and holding the place where the trauma came in mind. Then he finally said "Im tired of being the Elephant in the room. Did something happen to you? Did someone hurt you in the past?" and for the first time, I felt in my life - that he was a person, who genuinely cared, and was concerned for me. We ended up chain smoking cigarets and talking about my childhood and sexual abuse for the next 4 hours.
Ever since that night, I had issues and Hate towards us even having sex. I was disgusted. Wanted nothing to do with it. BuT i loved him so much, and he loved me, That i KNEW That some day, we can get past it. Learn each other, and have a Great life together once we learn more about each other.
its been 2 years and we are now finally more intimate that ever. He's been patient. Learning, understanding.
Yes. its been awefully difficult for both of us. But true love Does Exist. And that person that TRULY cares for you, WILL be there, and stick around for ALL your pain and misery my darling. Life sends us all gifts when we are ready to receive them.
2017 was the last year I stopped fucking around, and started respecting myself, and learning to Love myself.
I truly believe my Boyfriend was given to me, because I was finally ready to have him, and heal.. I can't tell you how much pain i still go through every day. Even being on this comment section. I hope my story can Inspire you, to be patient with Your True Love and Hero
If someone does not want to be in your life no matter what the reason is don't be afraid of loosing them. Move on and find those who do want to be in your life.
@@BatelSkater snd everyone, A belated thank you for your posts. I didn't see any of the replies and my original was over a year ago! I am in a pretty healthy place of late and what a huge difference in the people I am attracting into my life. I'm not speaking of romantic. Just of people in general. But it's building my confidence in that potential romantic attraction that I will happily walk slowly with. He will be a patient, well adjusted person, as this is now who "I AM"
Thank you so much. My girlfriend who I’m deeply in love with just told me that he ex sexually abused her and did things to her without her consent. I’m enraged and have feeling of wanting to find and hurt him. I also feel like this process though is a healing process for me and the greatest cross I have yet barred. Any advice you would give me about trying to not think about the things that were done to her?
Hi Andrew, I am so sorry to hear about her past, but the solution is not for you to not think about it. The solution is to learn how to think about it. I know that sounds strange, but this isn't something to be repressed. It's something to process and to heal alongside her. How do you do that? Here's an article I wrote on healing from your partner's past. Granted, this focuses more on consensual acts, but many of the same principles apply. I hope it helps both of you work through this difficult situation. My wife went through the same.
chastity.com/qa/im-a-virgin-but-am-dating-a-woman-who-had-a-bad-past-but-is-really-pure-now-the-idea-of-her-past-haunts-me-how-can-i-get-beyond-this/
There has to be a balance in a relationship in order for healing to take place. And yes there are time when it needs to be time when it is all about you.
Thank you for the great video I cant wait to share it with my other half
This is really such an important message. Thank you very much!
Outstanding video. Bless you for your courage and Christ-like love!
such a great message
Thank you so much for this video finally I am beginning the process
Still tough after 50 years married /he is a young pup & eager yet, Been a lot of battles
Thank you
Please check out a Reformed-Baptist church. Your mind will be blown away. They have lots of solid marriage conferences and tools, etc.
Your advice was strong. I hope you make more videos.
Really amazing video- totally amazing well done!
Thanks
My wife just confined in me that she was sexually abused as a child and I triggered that trauma. How do I get through this my wife refuses to see me and I can careless about having sex just the fact she blames me for her trauma cause something I did triggered that trauma but I had no idea till today when she finally opened up and told me
I’m happy you didn’t call her a liar you believe that my husband thinks I’m a liar I just want to kill myself
Thank you. This was very helpful and inspiring.
You guys are incredible.
It gave me lots of hope to see there r others like me your words comforted me every thing is ok with me but if a man confess to me my heart keeps saying he lying, he lying
Thank you, great video bro!
bless you. I feel this frustration.
I would love to send this TH-cam video to my husband, but he won't watch it. He told me that he won't read our marriage books because he's afraid he will be judged by God. Ignorance is bliss. He enjoys bliss while I suffer for his ignorance.
Sorry to hear this Melanie. Maybe ask him to watch it with you but set it up in a way that invites him in and shows your heart.
Great share.. thank you
You are great Jason! God bless you!
Thankyou man this really is gonna help me heal I think ❤
Thank you for this beautiful msg. You are Gods messenger and me and my partner felt so much love from You.Thank you so much
Thank you ,Your God sent
I told my husband he thinks I’m a liar because I’m making up a whole story
That is very shocking
thank you, Chris. God bless you
Thanks Bro I needed to hear this was about to give up on My relationship
Thank you Chris..Uhh
This video has helped so much
. Is there a way to get through this in your own, I relive the nightmare enough in my head, rather than having to describe it to another person in details that they cut me short of. They can cut me off, and I can't blame them..but I can't cut it off.
Having the same problem as well.
On your own you cannot do it. You need God for this, He is the greatest healer. He can do it in a way that no living man can ever be able to.
This is hard. My husband knows I’ve been sexually abused as a child and he has mocked me about it. It’s hurts
Hi Jayden. I am very sorry to hear about his insensitive and terribly hurtful response to what you experienced. You may be interested in my wife's book "Made New" where she shares her story of how she healed from childhood sexual abuse. chastity.com/products/made-new/ In the meantime, be assured of our prayers!
Jayden mocking you is abuse.
Thank you
God bless you and your family
Thank you so much for this video. your advice is right on point
aside from all the pushy god stuff, this was really helpful! I would just like to point out that non-christians are also good people. we don't need the Bible or the idea of god telling us to be heroic. we're also trying to be the best people we can for ourselves and for those we care about. thank you for the video!
Kennedy Covers I stopped at two mins Bc of the god stuff. And this comment has me considering to watch the video in hopes I can help my husband understand. But he tends to be more impressionable than me and I need him to lay that cross burden down for good and find enlightenment in a better way.
Honestly tho, how is it “pushy?” People can say whatever they want on their YT and it’s your right not to listen. This was one of the least pushy things I’ve ever heard. Nevertheless, I’m glad you were touched and I hope you continue to open up our heart and mind to hear all perspectives.
He didn't say you were. I love how people take something and twist it. If you replace God with anything higher than yourself it has the same meaning. There's so much more important information in the video than the "God talk".
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I want to thank you for this video! It helped me immensely!!!
I needed that, thank you
Please pray for Kaila.
Praying :(
Wow! So it wasnt n my head. I wasnt asking 4 2 much...thanx!
Thank you so much
Beautiful thank you so much
This video helped me so much, godbless you brother 🙏🏼
You're so amazing
Amazing 👏
I've been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 4, and we haven't had sex consistently for about 8 years. I knew she had been abused but she is also Christian so so she said she wanted to wait for marriage so I waited, now we have been married for 3 going on 4 years and have sex only twice....I don't know how to help and I'm having a hard time waiting anymore and I don't know what to do, I got her to do therapy and it's not helping still...I woke up one day and realized it's been 10 years of almost no sex and I have no idea where the time went, I just didn't want to be pushy and now I feel like I made it unimportant even though it is and I'm afraid it is too late 😥
What about the children constantly being affected by their mother's depression and anxiety. Bpd 4years of therapy and she's still not getting better
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hey man how can i contact you?
This only applies to someone who has decided to not reached out to their covenant relationship with their hunsband and/or wife.
I agree with you but this crossed my mind. Why can men make babies in their 80's and women are more in their 40's?? That's half a life difference. I've been in some serious dry spells but I've never stepped out. So just a question
I asking is a man meant for one woman? Is that void an natural instincts to move to a dif woman?
I wish my husband did this. But I did it alone
If more men thougght of this there wouldn't be so many problems.
This man loves like Jesus!