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Honestly the worst part about getting into trouble in school is how they never let you properly speak. You weren’t a person to them, you were a problem to be dealt with or passed on to someone else
Its pretty annoying that people dont take you seriously just because you’re a child. Like a voice is just as valid and necessary in a conversation as a adult’s is but for some reason they refuse to put a child in a equal status during a conversation compared to a adult.
Their are few things that make me from Happy bubbly sunshine To I will rip your heart out and show it to you In an instant, and that is absolutely one of those things.
HAAHAHAHA im one of the biggest victims to schools bullshit, i swear, i have the baddest taste in my mouth when it comes to issues like this lmaooo racist school i went to apparently
Yeah and if ur parents did that a lot to u growing up u end blaming yourself for everything bad that ever happens even if it wasn't ur fault and constantly feeling like ur a horrible person 😀
To the people in this comment section, spoilers: while ofc it happens it isn't as bad as many stories you'd find on the internet. Regardless, what I said is true. Being blamed for something I didn't do is the most frustrating feeling ever, topping everything.
I absolutely HATED when teachers and parents say this. I wouldn't even let them get the win from that. I don't care how damn mad they are about whatever I did, if theyre going to punish me more for "talking back" when I'm just trying to explain what happened, I'll run my mouth more.
true, this is what a conversation looks like: Person 1: Talks Person 2: Talks back/replies This is what a conversation looks like to parents or authority figures: Person 1: Talks Person 2's Mind: IF THIS GUY TALKS, HE IS IN DETENTION. Person 2: Talks Person 1: Yeah so- Person 2: DETENTION!
See the funny thing is that “talking back” originally meant being snarky or rude in your remarks, but a lot of people lost the memo along the way of using it…
nothing compared to the living hell called homeschool how it it even still legal at this point its just a way for parents to abuse their child without giving their child any moments of safety
As someone who was bullied all through elementary school, I can tell you that even back in the early 90s, schools were completely incompetent when it came to handling bullying. I never had anyone on my side as a victim. So my parents taught me to defend myself. Never make the first move, but if they hit me, I have every right to hit back to get away or stop the abuse. I got suspended a lot, but my parents were proud of me for not letting those bullies have the last laugh.
As they should, I remember telling my parents I was being bullied in school and had never seen as much fire in their eyes as when they said, "SO. HIT. THEM. BACK. Needless to say I wasn't bullied anymore. Its awful what people go through as a victim being made out to seem just as bad as the bully.
That dont hit back stuff is common knowledge. Now it's verbal abuse until you snap and hit first. It's a trap I see coming, but I don't have the patience to just ignore it, and I tend to fall for it. Every single damn time.
Schools are there to teach you things to help you in "the real world" So wtf is calculus gonna teach me when I'm getting robbed in the middle if the street? Should I go get a teacher then? Is the principal gonna come out of the alley and scold me for defending myself and my property? Let kids fight back. Punish the student who started it. Wtf is the use of cameras everywhere if we don't use them? Also, Bullying is started because of the precedence that one student won't fight back against someone else. Once you break that precedence, i.e. show that they don't have all the power, they back off. They *need* all the power for it to work.
It kind of reminds me of that post floating around lately from an Autistic person asking what the difference is between explaining yourself and making excuses. From what I can tell, the most common answer is "explaining your actions is when the other person likes what they hear, and making excuses is when the other person doesn't like what they hear". You can't not "talk back" to an authority figure because they almost always hate the thought of someone "beneath them" actually being justified or that they themselves are in the wrong.
In many people's minds, children are property - they are supposed to be good little robots that do what they are told, do not question anything they are told or told to do and ideally, are not heard and seen even less. think of all the parents who are really shit to kids because 'I brought you into this world' - bad attitude, bad people.
I will never forget the time where my teacher gave the ENTIRE class after school detention for like two students goofing off but REFUSED to let me call my mom and let her know 'Hey I'm going to be late coming home'. Mind you, I was in 6th grade, had to walk home, cell phones were expensive (early 2000s), and lived in a less than ideal neighborhood. She held us back by roughly an hour or two after school, long enough for the front office to be completely closed so I couldn't call my mom. By the time I got home, I found out my mom had called all my relatives and began a search for me because she was genuinely worried (to be fair, bad neighborhood). When I told my mom what happened, she was LIVID. Marched to school the next day and gave and earful to the teacher that if she was going to do that, she better let me call home.
W MOM also the giving detention for like 2 students goofing off is SO ACCURATE. Why did *all* of us get detention when it was like 2 people?? there's literally fucking nothing we can do to stop them 😭
The part where you cried over speaking to an authority figure is something I can deeply relate to. I get so stressed if I do something mildly against the rules or something that isn't against the rules yet not stated that we can do. Even when I play video games, stealing and stealth missions actually make my hands sweat and tremble because I get so scared of getting in trouble. Yet, I've never met a single person who shares the issue, so it's nice to know I am not the only one who is afraid of that stuff.
If I do anything morally wrong, not just breaking rules, I get an INSANE feeling of guilt and it doesn’t go away for weeks. Even if it was an accident.
I had that too in my school, I think that the idea is that people are more likely to stop others from doing bad stuff if they know they will be punished as well Mild problem, the UN prohibited collective punishment for a reason and that only led to further rough housing
You don't have to care about the kids or learn their names if you punish them all equally. It builds teamwork. By making everyone responsible for the collective, it means it is everyone's responsibility to keep everyone else out of trouble. If one person screws up, it is the responsibility of the collective to cover it up so nobody finds out. Or for everyone to commit the same crime. I mean, you're all going to be punished anyway, might as well have the fun of doing something illegal to justify the punishment.
I had a scenario where in elementary, everyone in my class had to do an assignment on their mobile device, and part of the assignment had to do with an app. The school was pretty strict about playing video games on your phone, so the teachers were walking around making sure no one was fooling about. Low and behold, when the teacher reached my desk, an ad of solitare started to play on the app we had to use. The teacher told me to go outside the class and when I tried to explain it was an ad, she threatened to send me to the principle's office. Will never forget how bs the school system can be.
Honestly at that point I'd let them send me to the principle, then show them the ad. Explain the situation, show the evidence, make a huge deal out of how horribly uncomfortable you are with that teacher now for singling you out over something *she* demanded you use. Get some retribution in.
@@cyqryyes but that was in elementary. Kids at that point don’t have that kind of rationale. If it was late middle school or high school then yeah totally but it wasn’t.
I remember in 7th grade where we had to review a previous test we took and fix the questions we got wrong on another paper. Unfortunately I didn’t really understand that I had to put my new answers on another piece of paper and not on the test itself, (thanks ADHD, very cool) and I finished pretty early. The teacher, (who was a complete asshole) saw me sitting there and warned me that if I didn’t get started she would call my mom. Note that she DID NOT tell what I’m doing wrong. I was confused because I already did everything so I continued to sit there. She saw me and took me into the hall and called my mom and, because the teacher twisted the story to seem like I was PURPOSELY wasn’t doing anything, my mom yelled at me for it. Screw you, Ms.Meadows.
I love how sometimes schools be like, "if your experiencing mental health problems, or need someone to help you, you can always talk to an adult or teacher in the school," but it's like, I'm pretty sure I'd rather not go to a person who flips out on people for eating, and defending themselves.
they zerg the teachers and school staff with students. the lack of quality was obvious from the fact that the number of interactions that any sane teacher can juggle mentally without losing track is about the same as the number of items that a professional juggler can juggle yet they force their teachers to handle more than double that amount of potential individual concerns because of monetary constraints and the hope that the chance of the number of students needing individual teacher-to-student attention at any given point in time won't exceed the teacher's mental juggling capacity. Don't think to yourself that the trick is easy nor repeatable on a five-days-a-week basis that the teachers have to meet you for. No one should have to be overwhelmed by 17 or so individual student concerns on a day-to-day basis. Plus, the fact that the teachers have to leave you after a year makes trying to solve your problems really difficult, especially when they have to solve another 40 people's problems after their year with you ends. Plus, how easy can our most critical problems be for them to solve if they still go through their own problems that they had as a child that their school systems couldn't solve when they were school students themselves? Adults are usually children who survived, not children who got to thrive. We learn as we learn, but it seems we never learn fast enough to obsolesce our damnably useless hindsight, so we spurn our teachers in a situation that we don't understand but a situation that hurts us nonetheless.
@@_Rampart_ Don't know what teacher did that to you, but that's not normal. Teachers, in general, strive to be good listeners, understand their students, and safeguard their physical, mental, and emotional health. We are not perfect, and we have a million other things on our plate, so we do struggle to be as good at our jobs as we'd like to be, but we also are, once again generally speaking, committed to our students and anxious to be a safe and trusted adult in their lives. We all know they need that.
I just told them "no" and didn't comply and they couldn't do anything about it. If I did not listen they couldn't punish me. If they tried to enforce it I would still refuse. I wouldn't let them ruin my childhood memories because of their BS. If it truly is unfair, just don't listen. My parents trusted me when I was telling the truth and the publoc school system got their lies shoved up their ass. lmao they really took an L there
I would rather just homeschool. I was homeschooled, and from all of the stuff I hear about the modern american education system, I feel bad for anyone having to go through it.
Go for it! My sis was being bothered by a boy in high school to the point that finally one day in class he was bugging her yet AGAIN and she jabbed him in the leg with a pencil (not enough to draw blood, btw). Of course SHE got sent to the principal's office, and then my dad showed up he lost his fucking marbles on the principal. The mom of the boy eventually stopped by our house and when my dad told her what happened she was like "Oh really??" and made her son apologize. My dad gave that kid a stern father look and gave him like this whole dad speech about respecting women and growing up to be a good man and stuff. I hope that kid took that to heart and actually grew up to be a better person.
if you have a kid and you ever get called to school for it being "in trouble", give the director and teacher responsible a 30 minute lecture on responsibility
you’ll generally find that teachers are very quick to make assumptions. I was put into the student help program at my school and every single time I went to the teachers with a problem they’d come up with a “quick and easy solution” to my problems that did absolutely nothing and was there to fix a problem that I didn’t have.
Bro seriously. One time in 2nd grade, a classmate accused me of stealing her breakfast muffin and the only reason she came to that conclusion was because she lost hers and saw that I happened to have one that was the same kind that she had lost, so she told a teacher that I stole it, the teacher asked me if I did and I said no, of course, but he still made me give it "back" to her even though it was mine. I know it is a silly thing to hold onto because it is just a muffin, but I think the reason I still remember that is because I did absolutely nothing wrong and got punished for something nobody had any proof that I did.
Once when i was little i got a *detention* because some other random kid was being noisy and jumping about in the library while i was quietly reading *instant detention for being in the library* and doing *library things*
This video unlocked a *_great deal_* of anger and bitterness I had from my days as a schoolkid surrounded by this sort of petty and incompetent authority figures. I graduated _17_ years ago. I'm still pissed.
Over two decades ago, my grade school math teacher performed a problem on the board for the class, and got the answer wrong. I raised my hand and waited to be called on to tell her the correct answer. She told me that she wasn't wrong and asked how I did the problem. I explained the method I easily did in my head and was not the one we were taught to use. She told me that was why I got it wrong and didn't understand the correct solution, and I should always use the method they taught, even if it meant having to write it down. So she re-did the problem, discovering in the process that she was, in fact, wrong. When she got the same answer I did, without another word from me, she sent me to the principal's office "for arguing with [her]." I am still angry and bitter. But also, as an adult, greatly disappointed in her and the systems that led her to that moment.
this video brought back some very unpleasant memories for me too LOL. i also remember all of the times where the teacher just started lashing out at us and punished the entire class when we either did nothing wrong or only 1 student did smthn wrong. fun times.
Dude ok the whole "talking back" thing messed me up so badly growing up. So many times I'd try to explain what happened, why someone else was the one who did it, or how I didn't do what I was being accused of. It made me so scared to explain myself to this day, 16 years later, that I'm prone to shaking and going completely silent from anxiety if someone thinks I did something And then the honesty thing, I kept telling the truth and was still punished. It got to the point that I, the annoying weird ADHD autistic kid, was constantly used as the scapegoat to the point that even my family started believing the teachers and students over me because my honesty was "lies"?????
I still don't get why the teacher or any other person higher than you don't leave you explain what happened. Like why I can't give my vision of what happened, why am I forbidden of doing so ? For me it's absolutely non-sense. It feels like : Oh this happened, then I don't care it's your fault, you clearly told me what happened, proved me that I'm wrong but it's you anyway 'cause it's not my problem it's yours
I love how the more his animation improves, the more chaos is introduced. Edit: My replies are full of people arguing who commented before me and the quality of his animation, what is my life
Probably the thing I hated most was when the entire class would be in trouble because of one person or a select few. For a system that's supposed to prepare youth for the real world, they often do a horrible job at it.
I don’t know about you but at my old elementary school all of 5th grade HAD to be in chorus. So the entire 5th grade is in the gym and the music teacher is doing her thing and some of the people in my class where messing around and because of that when the rest of the 5th grade got to have recess my entire class had to just stand outside and redo chorus for the entire recess WHEN HALF OF THE CLASS DIDN’T DO ANYTHING my self included
Who is the couple kids in my class that I never like we never got to do anything because they what they had a rule if one person did something bad or a copy the whole class we get in trouble of the kids will never stop talking And we never got to do much because then to do much
I mean, that is a good representation of the real world: Authorities don't care about you, they will abuse their power as long they can get away with it and justice doesn't exist.
Fun fact: The whole "discipline the entire class because of the action of one member" has a name. It's called Collective Punishment. Bonus fun fact! It's considered a war crime.
I still remember my 4rth grade class was doing clay sculpting for a geography lesson and I was too excited to stay quiet about it. I kept whispering under my breath how I knew what they were talking about and agreeing with the teacher. Teacher got beyond pissed at me for being noisy and banned me from the project and sent me to the hall the rest of the lesson. I cried the rest of the day. I literally couldn't help myself I was just so excited to do the project, and then got swifty punished for being excited. What a great lesson to teach a child.
Or maybe the teacher is not a mind reader and has to teach a lesson to 15+ other students who are not excited while staying on schedule and is trying to get out what they got to say, so all the teacher heard was whispering and responded accordingly. Maybe, just maybe, the adults in your life are people too, and have been wronged before, and just maybe make mistakes
@@WalnutAnimationshave you ever had someone whisper constantly while you're trying to say something? Then multiply that happening daily. Plus you don't know what is happening to that teacher in their personal life too. The lack of empathy for teachers is real and is why there'd a teacher shortage
The punching incident made me remember something similar that happened to me in the fourth grade. The teacher had stepped out of the classroom and we were all supposed to be working quietly at our tables. This kid, who always used to tease and make fun of me, started tapping me on the shoulder and I ignored him. He kept on tapping me and I, finally having had enough, brushed his hand away. Barely touching him, like brushing off lint from my clothes, that's how quick and gentle it was. Two minutes later, the kid gets up, walks over to me and literally pushes me out of my chair onto the ground. I had the entire class on my side, trying to tell the teacher what had happened, how I was innocent and just trying to work. But because I "made contact first", we both got suspended. 20 years later and it still pisses me off thinking about it.
Ahh yes; the "you didn't fight back but still got in trouble as if you did" and the resulting emotional turmoil it all. I was that kid in a similar story to that recorder one. One teacher, a day before holiday break, decided to not wheel out the TV and put on a movie. I remember him warning us not to question it but my dumb potato brain still decided to ask why (because he didn't give a reason). - it was the only time I got full-blown detention and it's the only thing I remember from that class.
I was bullied relentlessly as a kid. I did everything the teachers said I should do. I ignored them, I told the teachers about it, I reported abuse through our student council office and to the teacher in charge of our year. Every time it was ignored and the bullies kept going. A few times I got in trouble for something I didn’t do because of them. Take my advice, the teachers won’t do anything because they don’t care. If you get into trouble for something your bullies did and you didn’t do, you might as well beat the shit out them and get in trouble for something you’re proud of. The bullies will leave you alone and you’ll be in no greater trouble than you would have been for doing nothing in retaliation anyway.
Yep, i can vouch. The best part Is when they Then have psychologists or whoever else come in to Say "bullying Is a real problem guys!" And they talk about the "proper" way to deal with It. In reality, you have two options: -suck It all up and persevere, possibly/likely for years on End, like i Did -take matters into your own hands. Its a sad state of affairs, but school Is a Dog-Eat-Dog kind of Enviroment.
Good advice for school CANNOT think of worse advice once you are an adult in society. In school, you will just get scolded. In real life, you can and will go to jail for that kind of behavior, and if you thought school was horrible, then your ass will be UNBELIEVABLY grass.
@@warefamily2559 agreed. Best not go dishing out knuckle sandwiches to co-workers no matter how much you want to. But keep in mind an adult would have more sense than to spit their disgusting chewed up tuna sandwiches at you (like my bullies did to me on the bus rides home). Rearranging their dental structure was the single most cathartic moment in my teenage years.
When I was in middle school a teacher got mad at me for literally just answering her question. During our recess period, people were going inside to use the water fountains occasionally, but they were using the one that was at the end of the hall instead of the one closer to the door. bc of this i investigated to see why people were only wanting water from the further water fountain and it was just bc the water was colder down the hall. eventually a teacher came outside and she asked everyone why people were drinking water from the further water fountain instead of the closer one, and since i knew why, i told her, but she scolded me and said i was talking back to her?? like girl you asked a question and i gave an answer how is that bad
It sounds like it may have been a rhetorical question. Not actually intended to receive an answer, but more to inform you all that you were doing something she didn't want you to do.
@@KingRidley doesn't mean answering should be punished, I would've done the exact same thing. It can be hard to tell when questions are meant to be answered or not when you're a kid. Then again, I grew up autistic, so maybe it's different for me
@@fennelcomeaux9663I would have too. Sometimes explanations are needed for trivial things like that. But obviously this teacher doesn't listen to anyone
In elementary school I got in trouble for not holding the door open for a teacher. According to her I looked back and intentionally did not hold the door open. I remember being about 10 ft away from her and judging, pretty reasonably, that she’s not near me, I’m holding a big metal door that’s obviously heavy for an elementary schooler, and she’s an adult woman who can open doors herself.
I had something like this happen in my high school Jazz Band class. Every month we’d have professional Jazz musicians come in and hear us play and they’d give tips and pointers to the different sections on how everyone is supposed to play off of one another to build up the bands sound. I play guitar and was in the rhythm section by their definition so, guitars, bass, and drums. One time while the Jazz musicians were there I was practicing something my buddy had shown me earlier in the day while they were talking to another section. I was muting the strings so at most you’d hear a little buzz from the string. I was having trouble remembering something he’d shown me so I leaned over to him and whispered a question about a certain part in his ear to get a yes or no response. We weren’t even loud enough to be heard by someone 3 feet from us but there were some people talking a bit louder in the section that was being talked to that the Jazz musicians told to pay attention. My music teacher looked up after this and saw me leaning over asking my question and assumed they were referring to me, even though they were pointing at a different section of the band. After class my teacher called me into his office and just went off on me about how disrespectful I was being to these musicians who were trying to teach us how to improve and just layed into me for a good 15 minutes about how I should be paying attention since I don’t have years of experience like they do and how I’m not a good musician and if I didn’t want to learn then maybe I should look into transferring out of band. I felt so hurt from that because to me it came out of nowhere since I knew they hadn’t been referring to me so I didn’t understand why he was yelling at me. He gave me a late slip for my next class and I walked to my class on the verge of tears. As I walked out, the jazz musicians were waiting to talk with my teacher and I guess they took notice of how I looked or they’d overheard the yelling because the topic came up in their conversation with my teacher. I guess they straighten out the situation because the next day my teacher called me into his office again. Since I had no knowledge of what had played out at this point I’d assumed he was going to scold me again or worse give me the slip I needed to sign to transfer me out of band. So I was shocked when he apologized for laying into me and explained that the Jazz musicians had explained that they were talking to someone in the trumpet section who was talking not to me. He apologized for what he’d said and actually shed some tears for, in his mind, having almost broken a kids love of music over a misunderstanding that could have been cleared up instantly by getting both sides of the story. Truth be told he was right, it was the closest I’ve ever come to quitting guitar but I wasn’t going to tell him that since he seemed genuinely sorry. All these years later I still play guitar and I still remember him as an amazing music teacher. If you somehow read this Mr. Graham, you’re still one of my favorite teachers from high school.
I think way too many adults get a little too excited about being the authority and forget that a response to a question isn't necessarily talking back. I got into more trouble than I should have in school because of how many times teachers tried to give me detention and such for stupid things to which I always just said "no, cause I haven't done anything wrong you are just having a power trip." They didn't usually like that but they also couldn't really do anything outside of calling security on me
It's called Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it's rampant amongst people with any modicum of authority. I'm glad you called them out on it, it must have really curled their nosehairs. XD
Plesse be put in charge of other people's children while habing to teach a curriculum and follow specific guidelines made by people who have no idea what kids are like while always being pushed by students who don't have boundaries, and see how perfect and right you get it at every instance. I, as a teacher, have made mistakes and do apologize to my students and admit wrongs, but rest assured that not all students are innocent victims and truly are rude
@@Xenkatze I think it's more that those type of people explicitly go after jobs that give them a modicum of authority, not that the job itself makes them that way.
@@Missingmycallie no one said students are innocent I am a proud believe in how truly awful they are I mean the other day a couple of kids brought a dead cat up to me, it was cute in a way ya know with the team work and all that I mean look at they tiny little hand each holding on to each paw of a decomposing cat who more than likely died of starvation! (A cruel and grueling way to die) I have met teenagers too and they try to act like their adult in the most annoying way possible they try to act mature but it makes them seem far younger than what they actually are just take their first grade picture make the background smaller, yellow the teeth take the smell completely off and make them look as annoyed and annoying and aggressive as possible and there you have it at least for most of em the thing is though they act like adults so they expect to be treated like adults but when you do it's a whole mess and they act like you're in the wrong which is also proof of their immaturity I've seen them cuss up a storm in a classroom before but when the teacher cusses suddenly they act like that's the most shocking thing out there then they act like there the victim moral of the story I've never seen so many people so confidently wrong in my entire life And don't even get me started on how overwhelming it is to take care of so many little people especially when they won't sit down or calm down and think they can do whatever they want to with no respect for you and I'm not talking about you as a authority but I mean you was a person I get it I get it especially trying to get them to do what you need them to do cuz ultimately when they don't do it it's on you So yeah I get it BUT the point is no one every wants to listen and that exactly why they act the way that they do that's why the try to act like adults because they want to be treated as such not because they actually want to be an adult but because they know that being an adult means that at least your opinions get heard But little do they know that's not actually the case most of the time but at least their chances are higher There's much more going into it and I know it's not your job as a teacher but at least try to look into things more that's often what puts teachers into a lot of students good books is when they actually care about their students And I don't mean letting them do whatever they want to do that just makes you seem like you're trying too hard and then they just kind of walk all over you But be more along the lines of- will technically there's a lot to it and I would have to give a in-depth explanation on each part But literally it's just listen, and look out for them and there healthy and safety and I don't just mean physical health I also mean emotional and mental health as well if they seem like they're having a hard time give the class some time to breath And ta be honest it's not that simple and as much as I hate when someone doesn't explain anything fully to me and just expect me to get it I generally do not think that I can cover it all in just one comment if you want you can do a little bit more research about it though it's really just how to healthy treat another human being but treat them like a kid just don't let them know Think of it like taking care of a drunk person! You'll get it in no time But I know it's not that easy honestly you should probably forget what I just said All I'm gonna say is most adults are not mentally aware enough to take care of a child mentally and emotionally wise and don't know how to properly communicate and because of how they were raised treat children less like their another human being and more like a servent because and I quote "Your feelings do not matter, I am your mother" "You listen to me I am the adult, you are the child" "Life isn't fair, suck it up" These are things I hear adults say to children among other things now these things may seem completely normal and make since but given the instances I've heard these being used it's quite frankly sad What was the point of this again? Sorry went on a tangent thank you for listening? Or well reading and just ignore it thanks oh and sorry for any grammar issues this is a comment section not my English class- It's too late for this-
There is nothing quite like the righteous fury of a child punished unfairly. Right Mr. Wagner?! I DIDN'T HIT HIM I WAS PUSHING HIS HANDS AWAY FROM MY KEYBOARD THAT HE WAS SLAMMING HIS MEATY PAWS ON WHILE I WAS TRYING TO TYPE MY ASSIGNMENT.
Sometimes it amazes me what you can get in trouble for in school. I think my favorite incident from when I was in school was when I was in kindergarten. Basically, whenever we did an activity, the teacher usually said to not worry if we didn't finish in the allotted time, not turn in the work, and you'd have time to finish it later. This one time, though, the teacher said to turn it in anyway, even if you didn't finish it. This so shocked my 5-6 year old brain that I shouted "what!?" without even thinking about it. I had to mark down that day as a yellow day instead of a green day, which made me especially salty since it was the only yellow day I had in kindergarten. So... apparently, I'm not allowed to be surprised.
In 2nd grade we were in the middle of doing centers. I was in the crafting area gluing Christmas trees onto something else. After some amount of time I no longer remember, we would have to switch to a different area. I had also always been taught to clean up after myself before going onto something else. So when the time came to move, I didn't because I was trying to finish and clean at the same time. The substitute was getting increasingly annoyed and pulling my tickets (we had green, yellow, blue, and red). I don't think I ever got below a yellow and even that was rare, so I was also freaked out about that while trying to explain, and maybe crying a little? I don't exactly remember if I told my mom who then told my regular teacher, but I was assured it wouldn't count against me. It's just so maddening that when you're doing a not-actually-bad-thing and get punished for it. And if you have a student going at their own pace, but still being productive, what's the harm in letting them finish something or heck, reassuring them they can work on it later (maybe offering to help get them to the next task)?
The stop light chart thing? We had that too. One of my earliest stress memories is getting moved straight to red in first grade when the kid next to me asked me an important question and I got in trouble for answering it, and then bonus trouble for trying to explain to the teacher why it happened. I was a real goody-two-shoes, too, so it did a fair amount of damage to my little psyche.
Dude, that happened to me too... except it was my landlord and I was in my early 20s. I mentioned once that I was worried about getting rent in on time because I was having more and more migraines. She said, oh, there's a five day grace period, so if you're a couple days late it's okay. Go figure, when quite some time later I did end up paying rent a couple days late, she freaked out and said I can't pay my rent late... then blinked at me like a deer in the headlights when I told her what she'd said before. Sometimes, people are just dumb.
@@Jurassic_E-zilla My logic at the time was that injustice could be lessened by causing damage to the school in equal proportion and getting away with it. In other words: vandalism.
I remember one time my teacher gave me a bad grade because according to her my art project was too good and I clearly didn't do it myself. That sure is one way to teach kids to not try ever at anything in life.
I remember hearing about one of the students in my university (was doing programming) who got flagged for plagiarism because his code was found on an online repository... a repository *he* owned and was uploading his work to as a form of backup in case his computer failed. My own computer has failed more than once and using backups was a hard-learned lesson, but nah apparently doing so can cause you to fail your unit now.
My friend told me his English teacher saw him write the majority of his essay and then he got in trouble for “using AI” because AI detectors aren’t perfect and got his wrong just cause he did a really good job
The sad part is that some things like these (psychological/emotional scars) could be carried into adulthood, which could affect how they deal with other people and life-changing situations, while offenders won't even remember the wrongdoings they made from far back. This is one of the aspects that most schools need to address and fix.
Yep!!! There were two times in school where I was humiliated by teachers for something I didn’t do. To this day (decades later), being accused of lying makes me so intensely upset that I feel just like 3th grade me being forced to write an apology letter to my parents for using a swear in class that I didn’t even know.
"The tree remembers, but the Axe forgets." And even worse is if you try to bring it up later they'll try to gaslight you saying that that's not what really happened.
Yes, exactly! It's hard to prevent sometimes, but stuff like this are like drops in a bucket that add up to bigger issues, especially if a kid already has some mental health issues going on.
Getting in trouble for things that were not your fault is incredibly damaging, because if doing nothing results in punishment, and doing the right and wrong thing also results in punishment - then there's no right answer. It's like thanks guys; now my childhood development was filled with fear, mistrust and doubt, and now I have anxiety.
@@Momperino My aunt was a teacher for a charter school and she's got a lot of awful students about how the school was run. There are some teachers I feel bad for because they're just trying their hardest but some of the stories I've heard about staff at that school just remind me of the kind of people I grew up having as teachers.
i had a similar experience to the last story. when i was in kindergarten we were lining up to go outside for recess. i was in the middle of the line. then someone threw an eraser across the room. the problem was that it came from the middle of the line so everyone was accusing me. eventually i got overwhelmed so i “admitted” to doing it even tho i didn’t. i ended up having to sit out for recess. i know it was a stupid move but i felt pressured and i was like 5 and didn’t know how to advocate for myself.
_Taking notes for parenting_ - Assume my children are being honest (I’d rather believe them when they’re lying than disbelieve them when they’re telling the truth) - Take time to hear all sides of the story - Let the children participate in solving problems rather than just imposing uninformed solutions - Be a person my kids can turn to when they do face injustice, ideally not inside the home
Make sure to not be a yes-man for your child either though. Children will pick up bad behaviors from other kids, it's just another par for the course of them growing up (curiosity and learning). If you let them get away with anything, it will 100% spiral out of control. There's a definite need for discipline and supervision, but, as with all things in life, in moderation.
I also strongly recommend asking them 'why' a lot so they think about things. "Okay, you put your toy in the toilet. Why? What does that mean for the poor toy? How does it make people feel?" "why did you hit that kid? were there any other ways to solve the problem?" because if they start wondering 'why', for everything, they can start to want to learn about things and understand them early. Expect to be asked why right back though lmao.
I think if you let kids ask why under certain circumstances (and teach them how to do it respectfully) and actually give them reasonable answers, that just helps them know they can trust you 🤷🏾♀️
Teachers suck so bad sometimes- not all teachers- but when they mishandle situations it can be so unbelievably frustrating and make you wanna drop kick yourself into the sun. I related so much with this video- and have a small story time of my own. Two teachers and a handful of my peers were flown across the country for 3 days for a long field trip. Since we went from a very cold place to down south, the weather change was unbearably hot for us. Not only that, we never stopped at our hotel, or any place we could have bought food or water. We left the air port at 2am, arrived at 10am, and wouldn’t eat (at a restaurant) until 4pm, and all in between was touring the towns by foot and various tourist attractions. I, being hungry, dehydrated, exhausted, and not used to the hot weather, within a few hours already began experiencing heat exhaustion. My friends who were with me told the teachers over and over again that I wasn’t feeling good and needed help (first time at 11am), but the teachers would give me a pat on the back and do nothing. I got so dangerously into heat exhaustion that I have literal gaps in my memory of that day and couldn’t walk straight, this went on for several hours with the teachers in the know. Finally once we got to the restaurant I literally was so sick I couldn’t eat and ended up vomiting- and only then did the teachers acknowledge I was sick… but then proceeded to wait another hour to call me and Uber to the hotel. And the next day the teachers held a PSA for the whole group. They said “if you’re feeling sick, you’ve got to tell us right away, don’t just wait until the last minute!” I was fuming. If they had just listened to me the first time none of that would’ve happened (skipping many details) but instead they ignored me for 6 hours, watched me vomit, almost go into heat stroke, and then told the whole class that I was in the wrong, and that they “didn’t know.” TL:DR Teachers did nothing let me almost go into heat stroke and then blamed me for the trip going wrong
I have a similar story. I'm 5th grade normally the whole 5th grade would go to a trip to Boston, but because of budget cuts instead they took us to a baseball game in the state we live in. But we went on the hottest day of the year, they didn't supply food or drinks (my family couldn't afford to get extra food and drinks for me just for the trip), and we were stuck sitting on metal benches for the game. I told a couple of teachers throughout the game that I'm really not feeling well and they all just told me to sit back down and watch the game. I ended up getting a heat stroke and had tunnel vision and passed out for a short moment so my chaperone (a parent of one of the students) bought me an ice cream and a water and took me somewhere inside where it was cooler so I could get better. After the game was over I heard the principal scolding my chaperone for buying me ice cream and water because he didn't buy some for the entire 5th grade so it "wasn't fair". I'm thankful for the chaperone, he went OFF on the teachers AND principal and believed every word I said about them shrugging me off when I was asking for help, and he did not appreciate being lectured about now paying for about 200 ice creams because it was "unfair" that a child that he was responsible for for the day was unwell and passed out because of their terrible choice of a field trip. (The entire 5th grade agreed that baseball was HELLA boring and we all collectively hated the metal benches we were forced to sit on for a couple hours)
I have a school story. Nothing to do with yours. Just wanted to tell the tale. There was a teacher.Mrs Chassagne. One day i was with friends on the grass on an afternoon. So that one teacher spotted us and told us: GET OFF THAT GRASS NOW!!! I got off the grass with my Friends, and she told us: I ALWAYS SPOT YOU HERE!!!! And i answered : no you don't it's the first time in the whole year. And she responded by staring at me for like five secs. She thought i was like: well sh*T But insted i was like: does she think im scared? HAHAHAHAHHAAHHA thats it.
I spent SO much time in the principals office for these same dumb reasons, I finally punched my bully and the principal played Jenga with me and essentially went "Nah, you did what you needed to, just don't do that again"
The main takeaway is that most teachers and authority figures do not, infact, have your back and those that do are genuinely few and far between. The rest are petty tyrants at worst, apathetic at best.
I had a sub that gave the whole class about 50+ laps in a single day. One girl that had to reorganize her desk was given 1 lap for every single sec that she spent to organize it. We were in like 3rd grade so we couldn't stand up for ourselves and report the guy so we all just had to take it.
@@TriflingToad It sucks that happened. But in some cases reporting these people doesn't even do anything. I work as a TA and reported a sub I worked with for telling misbehaving children to fix their actions in the eyes of the christian god which I don't think you are allowed to preach to kids in public school. Also, we have a pretty sizable Muslim population so that's a yikes. I told my principal everything yet I worked him 3 other times that year because we had a sub shortage. And he had a shitty attitude towards me the whole time.
I would often get in trouble in elementary school for things I didnt do, as I was the loud ADHD kid. So I attracted attention, and if anything went wrong it was instantly 'YOU, OFFICE!' even if I wasnt THERE. ...so, I realised if i was gonna get in trouble if I broke the rules or not, I might as well do WHATEVER the hell i wanted. Life got better from there. Don't be part of the problem. That's selling yourself short. Embrace change, strive for greatness. Be the whole problem.
I remember witnessing this happen to a kid when I was in elementary school. Except it was a kid who did get in trouble sometimes, but then one time someone else did something bad, and the teacher thought it was that other kid. This kid yelled and said he didn't do it, and got in trouble again for yelling. Then he just put his head down on his desk in defeat. I regret not speaking up. I had selective mutism and some undiagnosed stuff, so I wasn't talking even on a good day, but still, this is a weight I carry with me.
@zoyadulzura7490 I hope you’ve forgiven yourself for what you did as a kid haha. We all did things like that and learned from them. But if it would help you move on to get some form of punishment, then here you go: « I can’t believe you did that! You’re a horrible person! »
I had almost the EXACT SAME experience with the recorder. I frigging LOVED music class. Picking up the recorder was easy and always wanted to learn new songs, weather we needed to or not. I was probably the only one paying attention there. It was last day of the school year for music class and we were coming down to taking the photo for the class. The kids were goofing off and playing notes when they shouldn't have, REALLY getting to the teacher. She also did the "next person who plays a note gets their recorder taken away". But here some other kid played a note and because no one would speak up, ENTIRE CLASS HAD THEIR RECORDERS TAKEN AWAY. She couldn't get a single person to smile for the class photo, but she took it anyways. (Looked a little awkward in the school year book). She also NEVER GAVE THEM BACK. Which started a slow growing hatred for music in me until when I was a teen any music that I heard IMMEDIATELY put me in a sour mood. I grew out of it and I'm back into loving music again. Trying to get into singing. At least it's a BIT harder for some mean teacher to take away your vocal chords.
One time, I was at lunch, and I had grabbed a biscuit. The biscuits were so hard to get out of the plastic packaging that if you could get it open you were basically a saint. One time, I used all my strength and got it open, but little biscuit pieces sprayed all over the table. This was a complete accident. Of course, one of the teachers saw it, and one of my friends snitched on me. I was so overcome with emotions that I couldn't form words. I was known for being mischevious and a bad kid, so they just assumed the worst.
I was a kid who never got in trouble so the times I did really stuck with me. Particularly once during an ASL test where a group of other kids in the class would pick 15 or so signs and the rest of us had to write down what they meant in English. Well my teacher decided that I was looking off of my neighbors paper and failed me. After the test she said that anyone who cheated could admit it and still get partial credit, but I didn't cheat, so I just left. When we got our tests back I tried to explain to her that I didn't cheat but she just would not listen, and made me retake the test. The worst part was that I got a 100% on the original test and like a 75 on the retake. I didn't like her after that.
It’s crazy how these “teachers” can just enforce their ideals onto us, as long as they aren’t caught. I once had a teacher that would shut anyone up with a citation if the student’s opinion/thoughts didn’t seem to agree with the teacher. I hated her so much. Never knew what happened to them after I left, but I couldn’t more more glad about leaving that place.
God yeah. Once in high school we had a sub for Anatomy and she just spent the whole time talking about how women were too weak and emotional to hold positions in government and we should never have one as president. It was fucking awful.
I’ll never forget my second grade teacher, Mrs. Kendrick. She was mean to me because she had my brother in her class a few years before (I didn’t learn this until I was in like middle school!) and he had been a “cut up” according to her. My brother was just extroverted with trauma from home so not the best combo. Anyway, I was VERY different- introverted, shy, middle child but also trauma from the same home😂 she not only bullied me - refused to let me use the bathroom anytime I asked until one time I peed myself in class bc I could hold it and she LIED to my parents when they came to change my clothes and said she told me I could go and I didn’t go🙄 stuff like that - but she also refused to teach me. She wouldn’t help me with things I was struggling to learn (my mom even had to teach me cursive over the summer so I could be ready for 3rd grade bc she refused to teach it to me during the school year). She was THE WORST and I carried a lot of trauma from the second grade for a long time. It reinforced the injustice I was facing at home (same treatment from my grandma we lived with when my sister would bully me - she favored my sister and actively bullied me herself). By the end of the school year, Mrs. Kendrick had broken her neck somehow and had to have surgery which she spent the last few weeks of school recovering from. Her sub, Ms. Leverette (SHOUT OUT TO THIS AMAZING WOMAN - WHEREVER YOU ARE NOW) was AWESOME and I could tell she loved kids even at that young age. She actually helped us, listened to us, and answered our questions. On the last day she let us bring cards and play Crazy 8s all day. She was the break I needed and helped me finish off the school year right. I said all that to say - it’s honestly shameful how many bitter, hateful people are in the education system doing years of damage and trauma to children who are just being kids. It’s awful that we all have the core memories and didn’t even have the same teachers! It’s kinda like healthcare - where you end up with the only ones staying in the job being the ones who hate it and are there for a check and take it out on whoever they come across. While good people can’t handle the mistreatment or lack of resources so they quit.
@@theunknownpixels6484 Good thing they left, eh? I once had a teacher who gave the kid sitting next to me both a behaviour point and a detention for putting his hand up- she was fired a few weeks/month later tho-
I once got in trouble at school for trying to learn. We were reading The Canterbury Tales in class, but the teacher told us we were skipping the bard's section of the story. I wanted to know why, so I did a quick internet search for a plot synopsis of that section. I told the teacher it didn't seem like such a big deal. I was then forbidden from looking up information that was not directly fed to me by the teacher ever again. This was not, in any way an enforceable rule.
For me it was when our class read Fahrenheit 451. Our teacher had us go home and read specific chapters. I was one of if not THE only student who read the whole thing. Thankfully, the teacher actually praised me for having such curiosity. Honestly, it seems like the best ones are usually either Literature teachers or History teachers (and no, I don't think it's a coincidence).
In middle school I used to use composition notebooks as sketchbooks, the one I'm talking about here had a lot of drawings I was very proud of at the time, they were basically my diaries. One day my 7th grade teacher scolded me for drawing in class and confiscated it, telling me to come back at THE END OF THE YEAR for it. I go back to get it at the end of the school year - the fact that my little undiagnosed ADHD brain even remembered to do that says something - and she just flatly tells me she threw it out. I walked home from school crying.
That's just theft... I hate top-down authority structures like most schools. The students need a union or something to have more leverage on their side.
As a person who is also been scolded heavily for drawimg in class I completely get you. I am also utterly disappointed with such a heartless teacher. Sure, they want us to pay attention (even though we can perfectly well listen as we are drawing) but to throw it out ????? That's just damn unnecessary and brutal... Im so sorry that happened to you
@@inkonmyhandsSo many teachers are seriously delusional in thinking that just because a kid is staring at them i guess that means they must then be listening and *taking in every word* lol (I remember one time I was sitting in class and apparently I had the nerve to glance at one of those stupid "classroom posters" or whatever, that the teachers tape up all over the walls, and the teacher sees me and literally stops what they're talking about to instruct me that I have to be *looking directly at them* or I guess I'm not paying them enough attention apparently.. smdh. I thought to myself, well how about you just leave all the walls freakin blank then dumb@ss?!??? I wasn't good at standing up to people back then bc I'd definitely handle it differently now 😡)
Every single student can agree that the “no ‘Talking back’” rule is the dumbest thing, and teachers only use it once they realize they have made poor judgment but want to win the kerfuffle.
I hated the false sense of authority some teachers and staff had over students, and even some of our parents hated it because they'd get notes home or called out of work for the most benign things or 'talking back'. Staff only took kids seriously when their parents got involved and that was seriously dehumanising sometimes. Shoutout to the teachers that listened to both sides of the story and decided it wasn't worth the paperwork and screw the "good has to suffer for the bad" types because even the 'bad' agreed you were the literal worst.
This still happens to me, only with my parents. Usually regarding when you want to explain the situation of how you didn't do anything wrong, but they count it as 'talking back' and you're punished even further for trying to explain because apparently its just an 'excuse.' They just never let me speak.
I feel like this use to happen to me, but it doesn't anymore. You wanna know why? U gotta be mature and tell them sometimes (not in the heat of the moment when your already in trouble for something, but just a time where everybody can talk and calmly) that counting things as "talking back' like that upsets you. I'm sure if you have a discussion about it they will change their behavior. The parents are not always right!!
I will never stop talking about this: I was in school in music class hitting the plastic music sticks (or whatever they’re called) when two people in front of me decided to begin hitting me with them in the middle of the class trying to beat to a song and I got in trouble, no matter how many years pass I will always remember
i was a fresh-faced middle school assistant teacher over the last school year. seeing things from the other side was an *experience*... for what it's worth, 4/5 teachers agree with the students that dumb rules are dumb, however are still expected to enforce them. the trouble (heh) comes in the fact that teachers have way too much to keep track of at any given moment and stuff falls through the cracks almost as often as not. it sucks. it's unfair. i hated it. i'm not a teacher anymore.
Also, I feel like it would encourage children to fight because if they know that they’ll get in trouble whether they fight back or not, they’ll probably just fight back.
Honestly a lot of these stories that people have described are sort of micro-traumas. I mean they're impactful enough that we remember them even years or *decades* later, which really speaks to how much of an effect they must've had on our social development. The way in which US public schools foster this idea of the authority figure always being correct and to entirely disregard the experience of the child, to the point where *trying to even state your case* is considered "talking back," is really appalling.
I also remember one time I chugged a milkshake as a 6 yo because I couldn't take it on the metro with me, but I wouldn't consider that a traumatic experience. Just something dumb that happened.
then when the person in power blows a fuse, the students just sit back and laugh. unless the teacher is a good teacher and actually helps the students, then the student who was the asshole gets their ass served to them on a silver platter.
As an American, the lessons I learned from school are as follows: If you're smart, but not as dedicated to grinding yourself into oblivion to scout yourself to some college, you get literally nothing from school. You learn that the world isn't unfair because of forces of nature, but because people are stupid, incompetent, and because they just don't care to understand anything. I was constantly grounded for getting Cs and Ds in classes that I only had Cs and Ds in because I didn't give a shit, and yet, by the end of the year, I'd get my grade back up to a B like it was nothing - because it WAS nothing to me. It was easy and pointless. "WhY DoN't YoU jUsT tAkE aP oR aDvAnCeD cOuRsEs?" Because school is POINTLESS, and I knew that from the FOURTH GRADE. You get a report card. Okay. You are told how well you did according to their grading system. Okay. This grading system has nothing to do with what you know, or how well you can apply yourself to learn new things or to demonstrate that you can actually do anything - it just demonstrates how well you can temporarily memorize things... okay, so school is pointless to a smart person. Got it. AP and Advanced classes? Just more work for literally no reward - other than my father calling up his siblings and other people to brag about me... so I purposefully started doing worse so he'd stop. I WAS SO GOOD AT SCHOOL THAT I COULD GET THE GRADE I WANTED. Oh, I need a B to satisfy my father? I guess I'll just stop doing homework for the next 3 months, then start again, because the way this teacher grades, the percentage curve will even out, assuming I do fine on the quizzes and tests oh look I was right. Dang. Oh, and someone stole my drawing book once, so I picked them up and put them on the ground (literally, it was kinda scary, I don't know where that came from, fight-or-flight I guess... I'm not bragging. It wasn't fun. I was sore for the next week), and they STABBED ME in the LEG with a pencil... so of course I also got in trouble. By which I mean they called my father, who said, "Are they hurt? Is the other kid hurt? No? Good," and then we got pizza that night because fuck the system, and fuck the idea that school matters. GRADUATING matters. You need that HS diploma to get the jobs that matter. That's it... just graduate. If anyone tells you to apply yourself more or work harder to study harder or try more or blah blah blah, just tell them to fuck off.
I had a similar revelation, though it didn't happen until high school. Before that, I only ever got A's in classes I had an inherent proclivity for-usually Science and Math. My teachers over the years always told my mom: "he's smart enough to do the work, he just doesn't want to apply himself". It wasn't until high school that I realized I didn't want to apply myself because school was boring as hell. I dropped out and got my GED. Unfortunately, I want to get into STEM, so I've no choice but to go back to college which is just more of the same. That's another thing; you hear all the time how the high school won't be the same as middle school and college won't be the same as high school. That's a damn lie. College in particular was only different in that everyone's trying to take notes at mach 1 while the teacher talks with barely any pauses. The only time I enjoyed myself in college is when a friend and I went to the library after class to do homework and study together. In the end, the main thing I learned is that if I want to actually succeed in college the next time around, I need to teach myself and take things slower so I can actually learn the material. Indeed, the world is unfair because of the people that run it. To be honest, we as citizens need to start calling out our leaders; they're not the only problem.
Dude I had this epiphany in 8th grade and I felt so betrayed. I’ve been saying the same thing. I do almost none of my homework but still pass. That’s all that matters to me lol.
The worst part about realizing this for me, is that later it was used as ammunition against me. I'm AFAB, and was getting screened for ADHD and the first psychiatrist I talked to said "You said you struggled with motivation and focus in school, but I see here that for one year you got honor roll the whole year? That wouldn't be possible with ADHD" and brushed me off ENTIRELY, despite ALL the symptoms lining up. The only reason I did well that year was because if you stayed on honor roll all year, you got to skip finals and go to Six Flags, and that sounded dope enough to bother for. Literally *every other year* past fourth grade, I scraped by with as little effort as possible, and even got sent to Adult Ed in high school for math because I had convinced myself it would be better if I went to an art school (spoiler alert, it was not). But no, the single year out of 12 that I gave half an ass about the assignments, means I *couldn't possibly* be dealing with a chemically imbalanced brain.
To further prove that the school system is trash at fair punishment: As a kid, I hardly ever got in trouble. I was like the little "angel" of the classroom. But then 3rd grade rolled around and I started to get a bit aggressive (still don't know what caused it). The school took notice and DID give me proper punishment some of the time, but I can still remember plenty of times where I very much DESERVED punishment, but got away with it meanwhile the poor kid I just yelled at or punched is the one getting in trouble. But of course, I was a child, so I didn't want to defend the kid because then I'd get in trouble (kids, amiright) so I kept quiet. I got detention and suspention a few times but so did the poor victims of my behavior. I have never been proud of my actions, and I started seeing a counselor around 6th or 7th grade, and have since improved my behavior, but I still feel bad for those poor kids who were punished for my own doing and weren't at fault.
Good to hear you’re working on yourself and trying to be better. Many don’t change their ways or realize their actions are incorrect and/or unfair. While you made mistakes, sure, a many few whoopsies, you’re getting better. Proud of you, random stranger on the internet.
@@poupiefeer3919 Thank you. It's very difficult and I have had a few slip ups but I am looking for a proper therapist now as I am no longer in school (I start college soon so I may visit the counselor during my time there as well) and I have been doing some reading to try and improve. I was raised by good people who taught me well, so I'm not sure what caused my behavior to change like this, but the support I've been getting from people around me is making it easier for me to keep trying to improve. Thank you, random stranger on the internet!
@@pain002 Well I wouldn't call myself a bully, I on,y ever acted out when someone instigated or was making a noise I didn't like. Still mostly my fault of course, and while I did often apologize, some of those people never gave me the chance to, and even when I did apologize, I still felt guilty for it. Though there was one time where I definitely was a bully, but the poor girl left the state because of it and I can't apologize now. That's my biggest regret I think.
My core takeaway from these kind of experiences is that teachers, principals and educators have weird power trips on kids to compensate their miserable life
You're not wrong. Twice now I've had a supervisor and a quality control technician who were a former preschool teacher and a high school math teacher, respectively. If they ever end up in a profession outside their area of study, and they still refer to themselves as an "educator," something went very wrong before and they left their last job so it could be swept under the rug. Trust the teachers who keep trying, but never the ones who failed themselves.
@dolfinsbizou - Their goal is to make a statement that is so obvious and inoffensively sterile that it literally adds nothing yet acts as a passive aggressive virtue signal to make the commenter seem more reasonable than anyone who would dare notice any kind of patterns in human behavior. It can also be a defensive reaction from people who think they need to address every criticism as if it is a personal attack, most likely because they had an educator in mind and expect an internet stranger to take their personal exceptions into account as if it somehow cancels out the original point. It is like a commenting equivalent of a person who hangs a poster that says "don't be a bully" in a school hallway or interrupts a comedian to tell them "racism is bad" and thinks they actually did something.
Fun Fact - there is no such thing as "talking back", its just an excuse used by abusive adults to prevent others from proving them wrong in order to keep their sense of superiority. In the real world "talking back" is called defending yourself - and you should always be encouraged to do so :)
Talking back is two things: not listening to what you're being told and speaking before thinking. Just think about it. How can you defend yourself if you begin to talk without knowing what is beimg told to you?
@@arodvaz1955 That makes no sense, and is just a way to shut down someone talking because you are too lazy to care about what they would say. A mature person doesn't resort to such tactics. Whether they are right or wrong, it's not "guilty until proven innocent", and you have no way of knowing until you let them speak. Notice how "talking back" only applies to people who are in positions of authority, such as bosses or teachers, it's because they belittle your opinion because they don't even want to try and head it because they always assume they are right. If someone said that to me now, as an adult, they would lose their ear for being such a narcissistic child.
Gotta love the “if the person who did this doesn’t fess up, the entire class gets punished” strategy. I know the intent is to make everyone in the class dislike the person who did it and potentially make them squeal, but it comes out to being “Either i’m punished and humiliated in front of the class, or i deal with this one short-term punishment and stay anonymous.” It also presents the culprit with an opportunity to make the rest of the classroom miserable. It’s like blowing up a whole hotel because there’s one criminal in it who refuses to leave
Thanks for bringing back some school memories. People who say being an adult is worse are so high off their mind on nostalgia they'd happily reminisce on being in prison. Don't mind me, I'm just gonna go do whatever the hell I want, with the money I earned for myself, in an institution that doesn't have a medieval approach to authority and discipline and where I'm treated as an actual human person, at my free time that isn't occupied by doing homework as if spending most of my time in soul-crushing school experience wasn't enough.
What feels worse than getting in trouble is having NO IDEA WHY you're in trouble. I have vivid memories of sobbing as a child because I was being punished and no one told me what I did wrong. I would just suddenly be told by a teacher, "You stay inside today, no recess." "Why?" "Sit down, no talking." "What did I do?" "You're in trouble, no recess."
I’m just glad to know that I’m not the only person who immediately cries when speaking 1v1 to authoritative figures. Love your videos, bb. Keep on postin at your own schedule; don’t let no one pressure you to change your routine.
i immediately cry whenever i have to explain anything or talk with anyone who’s not on my side in a debate lol and it sucks because like i’m not ACTUALLY that sensitive my tear ducts just hate me lol
An incident at science camp comes to mind. Our camp counselor was giving a lecture while we huddled around her. I’ve always been bad at remembering things so I took out my little notebook to start writing down all the new words I was learning. She stops the lecture to tell me to put it away and before I had a chance to say anything she ripped my notebook out of my hands and confiscated it. I was in middle school. Looking back she obviously was having a hard time handling us kids and was always on edge. I really hope she didn’t continue being a camp counselor.
It's surprising that the teacher didn't do a little snooping, and saw you were actually taking notes later on. She missed a perfect opportunity to atone for her mistake.
the weird rules in schools are honestly so stupid it's almost funny. in middle school, there was a rule that said we weren't allowed to have backpacks... like AT ALL. it was so stupid, but everyone got around it by using huge binders and really big purses😅 (i was one of the huge binder kids lol)
As a teacher, this is why it's so important to me to listen to each kid when something happens. Stressful as all get out when you have to contact parents too
I once got in trouble for not bringing a towel to a swimming field trip (2nd grade). My mom forgot to pack one, being a single mom no big deal she was busy, maybe I could just stand in the sun and get dry. But no, I wasn't allowed to swim because I didn't have a towel. Any argument I tried to make was brushed off because I was just a dumb kid to them. The teacher got mad at me more and more because I was "talking back." She wrote a note home about how I made a scene or something. For "talking back" and for something I didn't do, I got punished more, and didn't get to swim with everyone else. Because of a towel. I still remember it because yeah - all it did was teach me that your teachers wont listen, and what you said didnt matter.
Anyone who has a problem with "talking back" has a problem with "being wrong." If you can't explain yourself, then they can't be wrong. Just know that you are for sure smarter than they are.
Omg I used to get in trouble sm for forgetting white socks for PE class. I usually forgot because when I'm coming to school I'm already wearing socks. But they're not white sooo...detention for me🤷
I went to a water park once and we all brought money for icecream, I miss interpreted what the lady said the time for icecream was and she made me sit at the table next to her for the rest of the trip, purely for buying icecream, this was a summer rec thing done by the school btw, also the news came and was interviewing kids about what they liked to do at the park and I wanted to be interviewed so badly but the lady wouldn’t even let me up to be interviewed she didn’t let me talk to her either and she didn’t let me stim (Idk some of that ‘quiet hands and still legs’ stuff that targets nd people) this led to me being overstimulated and in the hot sun. I wasn’t even aloud to go on the slides after everyone else got icecream and are it. Almost had a meltdown, old women in the school system hate nd kids for some reason idk. There were multiple instances like this and still are and instances of me getting harassed by other kids for being nd and the teachers siding with the nt kid every time I tried to get them in trouble. The only time when somone got in trouble was when I was literally s/a like??? (Won’t go into detail but the kid’s only punishment was getting kicked off of the bus for 9 months and a restraining order saying he can’t come onto our property. He’s aloud to walk up and down our road, but since it’s the middle of the woods Maine I chase him off with a hatchet or a gun because get the f*ck off of our road you creep [he has not improved as a person and is an incel] I wish that more of the kids got in trouble because of bullying I had no friends and was bullied severely to a point where a kid who literally harassed me (he kicked me in the legs really hard all the time) wouldn’t get in trouble (he somehow always got away with an excuse of it being an ‘accident’ and later brought it up in middle school as like a nostalgic funny memory and got annoyed when I told him flat out that it wasn’t funny and that he was an ass who wouldn’t listen when I told him to stop kicking me.) (Edit: I am about to be a senior in highschool and still these kids harass me even when they sympathize with my remarks about how nd people [more specifically autistic people] are treated and bullied and yet they don’t change their behavior, are they ignorant or are they consciously choosing to not be self aware enough to realize that they are literally doing the thing they agreed was wrong and awful for someone to go through?? This one kid still does this stupid dopey voice and says ‘Duhhh, Daisy likes dinosaurs’ every time he sees me in the hallway [at least I have friends in highschool now? Mostly other queer and/or nd people who are also sometimes secretly furries] :/ )
I hated it when teachers (or anyone) said I was "talking back". Like BRUH, just want me to stand there in silence and say nothing. I'm trying to explain the situation. so stupid
ADHDers tend to have a strong sense of justice! Back in school you were faced with so much injustice it was infuriating, didn't even matter who got wronged it just felt bad.
ADHDers AKA the people who were always told in school that they were "so gifted" but "needed to apply themselves more" so they grew up thinking of their condition as a moral failing.
@@ArchibaldClumpyfor some reason, I didn't really exhibit many symptoms until I got to middle and high school, but I feel like I'm getting really close to someone telling me that lol
Also, I didn't know that a lot things the teachers were doing were bad unless it was saying "don't talk back" or whatever.. like how they yell at the class or how they grade you super strict over stupid stuff just 'cause.. I just knew it mad me mad, until I got over hating myself for messing up any miniscule thing on assignments, and then I realized a lot of teachers are jerks
@@elvinwispCrazy how somebody will be perfectly functional until they are placed in an environment that is innately hostile to them. Almost as if trying to use the same cookie cutter on everyone with no room to exceed outside of it is a bad idea.
That "YOU'RE TALKING BACK." part is so relatable. I had this teacher who always used 'talking back' as a way to get their way. One time, a group of me and my friends were working on a project that we had a choice to do. The teacher said that we COULD TALK during it, if we chose to do it. Me and my group were just working and whispering, yknow. Then the teacher just said, "Girls, stop talking.". I was screaming inside, but I tried to stay calm. I told them that we are doing the research for the project that they said we could talk for, AND THEY INTERRUPTED ME HALFWAY AND JUST SAID, "Don't back talk me!". I was absolutely fuming inside. But, they were the teacher, so I couldn't say much more. I still hate that teacher. Also, she got 2 strikes already for getting fired 👁👄👁 1 for hitting a student and 2 for unfairly deducting points for tests. (Ex; if someone's 6 looked like a b.)
I still feel an unending grudge over getting in trouble, and berated, because my iPod got stolen. A classmate went through my bag while I was out of the classroom, stole it, and somehow *I* was in the wrong. Admin wouldn't do anything bc I "shouldn't have had it in the first place". Completely ignored my breach of privacy. Did nothing. I only got it back because a teacher found the thief with like 6 stolen iPods and the teacher made the kid return every one of them with a personal apology. Cue me getting a stink eye from admin again because when he handed back mine (screen cracked) and "apologized" I told him I didn't accept his apology and hoped he'd get held back from the upcoming sports tournament (he was an athlete).
I was always got in trouble in Elementary school for things that everyone else was doing. Everyone having a snowball fight, I was in the general vicinity, just watching, and teacher screamed at me for causing the snowball fight because I was the closest one she saw and I was sent to the principal who said "I should know better because I'm the smart kid in the class." No one would listen to my side of the story for anything, anytime I got in trouble for doing something that every other kid is doing because I was supposed to be the "responsible smart kid". I'm was just a kid who wants to be a kid and do the stuff everyone else is doing, but no, I was wrong for having fun.
@@Mythmasyer4728 It was a huge no-no at my school because kids could potentially get hurt. I always thought it was a stupid rule. Snowball fights are a kids staple. If you don't want to get hurt, don't join in!
This video unlocked some core memories that I try to forget. One of my greatest fears in life now is to be blamed for a crime I didn't commit. It's second to pain and torture.
4:26-4:37 I liked the facial expressions and the inner monolog 5:34-5:44 How the kids pop up in and out of frame and the teacher's facial expression is hysterical "I laid my SOUL BARE"
I was held in trouble for saying the Pledge of Allegiance in German, despite this being my 1st amendment right to speak any language I please. I was lectured by THREE adults on how I had the right to speak German but was "making the other students uncomfortable". One even tried to guilt me with the "social and political climate we're in". But, in fact, none of the students cared. Heck, half the class was sitting or on their devices during the Pledge.
@@LDogSmiles adults have to pretend to care because they know they're being watched by other adults who double pretend to care . What ??? Someone said and you didn't care ? Clearly that means you support him ! Burn ! Nobody's allowed to say .
Dude, I relate. One school I went to under the bush admin, would force us to watch a video of George W Bush talking every morning and then say the pledge of allegence and even though it is our right to refuse, it was not in this school. They would force you. You could get in trouble for not participating. Psycho authoritarianism in that school. Was only there for a year before switching, probably because of a few incidences that happened there...
I remember this one time, back when I used to work at Walmart, when my department manager yelled at me in front of customers because he thought I used his first name on the radio when I was actually calling for him and another associate who happened to have his last name as his first name to help move a heavy pallet with a forklift. I explained what happened, but I don't think he ever apologized. It was embarrassing as Hell, and I remember holding back tears in front of the customers afterwards.
I have supervisors right now who tear you a new one in front of everyone if someone else does something wrong. You set foot in the fucking place and they rip you a new one because others have screwed up before you. Or you’re hauling rear trying to get orders out (it’s grocery delivery), and they rip you a new one because everyone is slow or you’re the only one there that day because of short staffing and you had to deal with being an hour behind with customers screaming at you. At one point an employee who doesn’t give a crap about how he does and doesn’t do his job correctly yelled at me for checking his work before sending it out saying he’d be blamed. I snapped back at him that three supervisors have yelled at me for his work and I didn’t want to be blamed for his behavior again. That finally stopped him from speaking up about me checking him. I am so happy that I found a new job next week.
All I learned from middle school was that no matter how honest and logical you are, some authority figures won’t believe or listen to you. I also learned that adults aren’t as smart as they seem.
Used happen to me constantly all throughout K-12. Somehow I was almost always singled out in class for things I didn’t do. It led to me have zero trust or respect for teachers and school administration as a whole. Despite being a good student in AP classes, I would get yelled at for having the gall to ask a question or ask for help if I was being treated unfairly. I learned very early on to just shut up, be invisible and figure things out myself, yet somehow trouble would always find me while somehow other students would get away with other blatant classroom offenses. I grew up with no one I could trust or turn to, which has helped in the sense of learning to fend for myself but has caused immensely more damage personally and emotionally. I used to be numb to everything growing up, and over the past six months or so I notice I’m beginning to act out due to a lifetime of repressed anger and trauma. I just notice I have a very short fuse for bullshit lately- while the past 20 years I’ve always been the calm and level head to turn to no matter what the situation. It’s beginning to scare me, and I don’t even know where to begin to start to get help. I can’t afford therapy, and even if I could I don’t trust them due to school faculty spilling the beans on conversations I had begged to be in confidence. I just feel like a pot that’s constantly boiling over at this point.
It depends on how much faith you have in it, but prayer is, at least, free, and God is always eager to help us if we but ask Him. Can't hurt to try. Ask for help controlling your temper, and ask for guidance on what to do to get to a better place. Then watch for opportunities; they may surprise you. The worst thing that can happen is you waste a few minutes in private, right?
You could also talk to strangers on the great wide web. There’s places like discord and other chat apps where it’s not very difficult to find random people to talk to anonymously. You can try to engage in communities you’re apart of, such as TH-cam comment sections. It may take some time to find the right person/people but once you do, in my experience it’s so much easier to tell an anonymous stranger personal things than a therapist or friend. There isn’t much trust required because they don’t know you and it’s unlikely they ever really will. Of course be safe about it and don’t use any real names and all that if you do this. Shut down weirdos right away. Obviously. But you know, it’s free, and it can be mutually beneficial. And it seems like something you can do, since you commented all of that.
tbh the only time i started to turn to being more social was in middle school when i was in a kind of gifted and talented program and there were finally more kids who were like me
A program I know about is called WIZe. I can’t remember off the top of my head what it stands for, and I’m not positive that there is a version for adults, but I think that would be something you could at least look into a little. It has definitely helped me in the past
I'm sorry about all the hardships that have happened. I also suggest praying. And looking for opportunities. But another suggestion is, if you have anyone, even one person, that you trust, speak to them. They might be able to help. Another another suggestion I have is get in touch with your local missionaries from the Church of Jesus Christ of later day saints. They are young men and women who dedicate a couple years to serving people. They can help you get in touch with local church leaders. Even if you have no interest in going to church, the church does offer free counseling services. I hope this helps. 💜
As an also late adhd diagnosis, I discovered Rejection Sensitivity Disorder (RSD) and it explained why getting in trouble and receiving criticism felt so much worse than what others experienced. I also had a lot of these kinds of situations and I still get mad about a lot of them so you’re not alone 😂
not quite ADHD diagnosed yet, but i definitely have RSD and have cried when in trouble by teachers and others since i was little. Didnt help that my mum was the "let her cry it out" type.
@@randomgeneration7781 i used to think it was that as well :') its possible your bad experiences still caused you at least minor ptsd, especially if you have RSD
Autism and ADHD, if theirs something the opposite of RSD I have that. For whatever reason criticism barely ever effected me in any way, not even in the normal “this is just a normal criticism” sort of way I would listen to these people, wonder why they’re bothering to say it, if it goes on too long I get bored and if theirs something I have any desire to work on that was mentioned then I’ll take it into consideration. It felt like a boring lecture to me. The only times I got upset was out of a sense of inconvenience rather than injustice or bullying (unless the bullying was also inconvenient)the bullying eventually stopped when I got older and morphed into some people being scared of me for some reason and a lot of girls hitting on me (which I never picked up on until someone pointed it out after the fact) It’s like my aura of apathy just blocked out the haters.
I still vividly remember when I unjustly got in trouble, at music class, when i was 10. During recess, the boys (which includes me) all went outside to play various games, while the girls stayed inside the classroom (Splitting boys and girls this way wasn't the default way of spending recess, just happened to be the case that time). When recess was over, the teacher lady send one of the girls to come tell us boys that class is starting again and come back inside. But we never heard or saw her do it. I think she just barely came around the corner and said to come back inside, nobody heard her over the sound of playing, and she just went back in without any confirmation from us. So then, 5 minutes later, teacher lady came get us, angrily we didn't listen to the girl and tried to extend recess. No matter how much we said we didn't hear or see anything, she believed the girl, who claimed she did called us 'properly', and all boys got some punishment to do before next class. i can honestly say that some boys in that group would do something like purposefully ignoring a call like that, but that was the minority of boys in that group. Most, including me, wouldn't not do such a thing. Unfair!
The amount of repressed rage and sadness I have built up over the years of taking hits for others has put me on a borderline. It’s a pin drop before I put hands on someone.
When I was in preschool, I was part of an after-school program for children whose parents couldn’t pick them up right away. One day, while I was using the bathroom, a group of rowdy kids came in and started kicking and banging on my stall door. A teacher came by to see what was going on, but since she was outside the bathroom and I was inside the stall, I couldn’t participate in the conversation. The group of kids immediately blamed me for kicking the door and left without any consequences. The teacher waited for me to exit the bathroom, and I got in trouble. I was sent to the preschool principal’s office and had to wait for my mom to pick me up. Despite my protests, no one believed that I wasn’t responsible for the damage. It was a terrible experience. 😔
@ingeaten I honestly couldn't remember since it was super long ago, but I don't think there was damage Besides the school was one of those schools that didn't have a dictatorial rule where everything gets monitored so it could've slipped by without anyone even caring (if it was broken)
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Honestly the worst part about getting into trouble in school is how they never let you properly speak. You weren’t a person to them, you were a problem to be dealt with or passed on to someone else
Couldn’t have said it better myself
Its pretty annoying that people dont take you seriously just because you’re a child. Like a voice is just as valid and necessary in a conversation as a adult’s is but for some reason they refuse to put a child in a equal status during a conversation compared to a adult.
Me: Explains the perfectly valid, justifiable reason for doing something/ that I actually didn't even do anything wrong
Teacher: Don't talk back
@@princess_mj4396even worse when they say “Why did you do that” they just want you to be guilty because it gives them a power trip to punish people
This would explain my tendency to never defend myself or speak up about literally anything.
Huh.
You can tell Andy was one of the “good” kids in school because he vividly remembers each one of these experiences, lol
@Oppenheimer797 Nobody asked
@Oppenheimer797no way…OPPENHEIMER?! THE REAL OPPENHEIMER?!
On god. It didn’t happen often, but I never forgot
@Oppenheimer797 hello father of the nuclear bomb how’re you doing
it’s also funny having oppenheimer under a video with a demon core reference
The most frustrating feeling I have ever had and will ever have, is the feeling of being blamed for something you didn't do.
Their are few things that make me from
Happy bubbly sunshine
To
I will rip your heart out and show it to you
In an instant, and that is absolutely one of those things.
HAAHAHAHA im one of the biggest victims to schools bullshit, i swear, i have the baddest taste in my mouth when it comes to issues like this lmaooo racist school i went to apparently
Yeah and if ur parents did that a lot to u growing up u end blaming yourself for everything bad that ever happens even if it wasn't ur fault and constantly feeling like ur a horrible person 😀
My aunt accused me of moving her face moisturizer. I didn’t move it.
To the people in this comment section, spoilers: while ofc it happens it isn't as bad as many stories you'd find on the internet. Regardless, what I said is true. Being blamed for something I didn't do is the most frustrating feeling ever, topping everything.
“You talked back to me” bro that’s what a conversation is
I absolutely HATED when teachers and parents say this. I wouldn't even let them get the win from that. I don't care how damn mad they are about whatever I did, if theyre going to punish me more for "talking back" when I'm just trying to explain what happened, I'll run my mouth more.
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All that shame, mixed with all that rage
It’s an intense feeling…
(Suddenly grows realistic hands)
*A terrible feeling*
@@CharzzTheAnimated you got unrealistic hands?
can’t wait for when authority figures realize that talking back is how a conversation works
true, this is what a conversation looks like:
Person 1: Talks
Person 2: Talks back/replies
This is what a conversation looks like to parents or authority figures:
Person 1: Talks
Person 2's Mind: IF THIS GUY TALKS, HE IS IN DETENTION.
Person 2: Talks
Person 1: Yeah so-
Person 2: DETENTION!
See the funny thing is that “talking back” originally meant being snarky or rude in your remarks, but a lot of people lost the memo along the way of using it…
God you just fucking triggered me lmao LAUGHING MUCH ANGRY OUT
Authority figures are TOO STUPID for Conversations...
Thant's the fun part! They won't!
As someone who almost never got in trouble as a kid, this video still managed to trigger me. School is such an institution of misery.
Yeah it triggered me too tbh lol
Same first in and I hear chaos lol
in some countries
nothing compared to the living hell called homeschool how it it even still legal at this point its just a way for parents to abuse their child without giving their child any moments of safety
bro sAME
It never ceases to amaze me how incompetent schools are when it comes to helping kids who are victims of bullying
Remember if ur being bullied ur getting suspended too.
I feel this kind of thing has happened to everyone, and it's not very based.
@Oppenheimer797yoo is that the REAL OPPENHEIMER?!
yup. zero tolerance policies are BS and punish victims
literally
“I wasn’t even talking back I was explaining”
The most relatable thing I’ve heard all day.
That's so relatable- when you just want to talk and explain the situation, but no- apparently you're arguing.
@@Rickastley-xh9nu I got so mad that I cried one time because the principal and staff refused to let me explain since I was "arguing" 😭
@@Blue-100 ripp I hate when that happens because you don't get the situation resolved in your perspective, and they don't understand the whole story
When I'm a mom, I'll never say "how dare you talk back to me", it's called explaining and conversation.
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As someone who was bullied all through elementary school, I can tell you that even back in the early 90s, schools were completely incompetent when it came to handling bullying. I never had anyone on my side as a victim. So my parents taught me to defend myself. Never make the first move, but if they hit me, I have every right to hit back to get away or stop the abuse. I got suspended a lot, but my parents were proud of me for not letting those bullies have the last laugh.
As they should, I remember telling my parents I was being bullied in school and had never seen as much fire in their eyes as when they said, "SO. HIT. THEM. BACK. Needless to say I wasn't bullied anymore. Its awful what people go through as a victim being made out to seem just as bad as the bully.
@Oppenheimer797ok I know this is probably a bot (maybe) BUT the clip I think pretty much summarized what happened in this persons story
That dont hit back stuff is common knowledge.
Now it's verbal abuse until you snap and hit first.
It's a trap I see coming, but I don't have the patience to just ignore it, and I tend to fall for it.
Every single damn time.
Schools are there to teach you things to help you in "the real world"
So wtf is calculus gonna teach me when I'm getting robbed in the middle if the street? Should I go get a teacher then? Is the principal gonna come out of the alley and scold me for defending myself and my property?
Let kids fight back. Punish the student who started it. Wtf is the use of cameras everywhere if we don't use them?
Also, Bullying is started because of the precedence that one student won't fight back against someone else. Once you break that precedence, i.e. show that they don't have all the power, they back off. They *need* all the power for it to work.
Wdym 'even'?
the "you talked back to me" actually sent shivers down my spine- like there's no defending yourself or questioning it, it's just "do what i say"
And then they got angry when you didn't respond
Some questions had to be answered and some didn't how is a child supposed to know what to answer?
That is the worst part about it imo
Usually I just responded with “I don’t care”
It kind of reminds me of that post floating around lately from an Autistic person asking what the difference is between explaining yourself and making excuses. From what I can tell, the most common answer is "explaining your actions is when the other person likes what they hear, and making excuses is when the other person doesn't like what they hear".
You can't not "talk back" to an authority figure because they almost always hate the thought of someone "beneath them" actually being justified or that they themselves are in the wrong.
In many people's minds, children are property - they are supposed to be good little robots that do what they are told, do not question anything they are told or told to do and ideally, are not heard and seen even less. think of all the parents who are really shit to kids because 'I brought you into this world' - bad attitude, bad people.
I will never forget the time where my teacher gave the ENTIRE class after school detention for like two students goofing off but REFUSED to let me call my mom and let her know 'Hey I'm going to be late coming home'. Mind you, I was in 6th grade, had to walk home, cell phones were expensive (early 2000s), and lived in a less than ideal neighborhood. She held us back by roughly an hour or two after school, long enough for the front office to be completely closed so I couldn't call my mom. By the time I got home, I found out my mom had called all my relatives and began a search for me because she was genuinely worried (to be fair, bad neighborhood). When I told my mom what happened, she was LIVID. Marched to school the next day and gave and earful to the teacher that if she was going to do that, she better let me call home.
W Mom, thanks to all the great parents who have their kids’ backs when teachers suck
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W mom indeed
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also the giving detention for like 2 students goofing off is SO ACCURATE. Why did *all* of us get detention when it was like 2 people?? there's literally fucking nothing we can do to stop them 😭
The part where you cried over speaking to an authority figure is something I can deeply relate to. I get so stressed if I do something mildly against the rules or something that isn't against the rules yet not stated that we can do. Even when I play video games, stealing and stealth missions actually make my hands sweat and tremble because I get so scared of getting in trouble. Yet, I've never met a single person who shares the issue, so it's nice to know I am not the only one who is afraid of that stuff.
i dont have it in games but irl i have the same thing yeah 😭
almost never broke rules because i felt so guilty getting in trouble
That's a mild problem for me. For example, when I kill NPC's in games, I feel bad
same, i break rules on accidnet all the time, talking to my princepal i once cried and i wasnt even in trouble
If I do anything morally wrong, not just breaking rules, I get an INSANE feeling of guilt and it doesn’t go away for weeks. Even if it was an accident.
Brooo, I get that too 😭
My step dad used to "discipline" all of us when one kid messed up. Great way to build resentment
I had that too in my school, I think that the idea is that people are more likely to stop others from doing bad stuff if they know they will be punished as well
Mild problem, the UN prohibited collective punishment for a reason and that only led to further rough housing
You don't have to care about the kids or learn their names if you punish them all equally. It builds teamwork. By making everyone responsible for the collective, it means it is everyone's responsibility to keep everyone else out of trouble. If one person screws up, it is the responsibility of the collective to cover it up so nobody finds out. Or for everyone to commit the same crime. I mean, you're all going to be punished anyway, might as well have the fun of doing something illegal to justify the punishment.
I despise collective punishment
@@HaloTropicalwanna talk about it over a snickers bar?
A one way ticket to the nursing home...
I had a scenario where in elementary, everyone in my class had to do an assignment on their mobile device, and part of the assignment had to do with an app. The school was pretty strict about playing video games on your phone, so the teachers were walking around making sure no one was fooling about. Low and behold, when the teacher reached my desk, an ad of solitare started to play on the app we had to use. The teacher told me to go outside the class and when I tried to explain it was an ad, she threatened to send me to the principle's office. Will never forget how bs the school system can be.
Honestly at that point I'd let them send me to the principle, then show them the ad. Explain the situation, show the evidence, make a huge deal out of how horribly uncomfortable you are with that teacher now for singling you out over something *she* demanded you use. Get some retribution in.
@@cyqryyes but that was in elementary. Kids at that point don’t have that kind of rationale. If it was late middle school or high school then yeah totally but it wasn’t.
oh now that one makes me mad
I remember in 7th grade where we had to review a previous test we took and fix the questions we got wrong on another paper. Unfortunately I didn’t really understand that I had to put my new answers on another piece of paper and not on the test itself, (thanks ADHD, very cool) and I finished pretty early. The teacher, (who was a complete asshole) saw me sitting there and warned me that if I didn’t get started she would call my mom. Note that she DID NOT tell what I’m doing wrong. I was confused because I already did everything so I continued to sit there. She saw me and took me into the hall and called my mom and, because the teacher twisted the story to seem like I was PURPOSELY wasn’t doing anything, my mom yelled at me for it. Screw you, Ms.Meadows.
nta divorce the teacher marry solitaire
I love how sometimes schools be like, "if your experiencing mental health problems, or need someone to help you, you can always talk to an adult or teacher in the school," but it's like, I'm pretty sure I'd rather not go to a person who flips out on people for eating, and defending themselves.
they zerg the teachers and school staff with students. the lack of quality was obvious from the fact that the number of interactions that any sane teacher can juggle mentally without losing track is about the same as the number of items that a professional juggler can juggle yet they force their teachers to handle more than double that amount of potential individual concerns because of monetary constraints and the hope that the chance of the number of students needing individual teacher-to-student attention at any given point in time won't exceed the teacher's mental juggling capacity. Don't think to yourself that the trick is easy nor repeatable on a five-days-a-week basis that the teachers have to meet you for. No one should have to be overwhelmed by 17 or so individual student concerns on a day-to-day basis. Plus, the fact that the teachers have to leave you after a year makes trying to solve your problems really difficult, especially when they have to solve another 40 people's problems after their year with you ends. Plus, how easy can our most critical problems be for them to solve if they still go through their own problems that they had as a child that their school systems couldn't solve when they were school students themselves? Adults are usually children who survived, not children who got to thrive. We learn as we learn, but it seems we never learn fast enough to obsolesce our damnably useless hindsight, so we spurn our teachers in a situation that we don't understand but a situation that hurts us nonetheless.
Ice inspires me.. My parents said if i get 40K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally
Begging..
And if you do talk to a teacher you'll get the response "JuSt Be PoSiTiVe"
Tbh they do be hypocritical
@@_Rampart_ Don't know what teacher did that to you, but that's not normal. Teachers, in general, strive to be good listeners, understand their students, and safeguard their physical, mental, and emotional health. We are not perfect, and we have a million other things on our plate, so we do struggle to be as good at our jobs as we'd like to be, but we also are, once again generally speaking, committed to our students and anxious to be a safe and trusted adult in their lives. We all know they need that.
Love how teachers see any form of trying to communicate what happened as talking back
Wait u love that?
@@soundblazer7968 it's sarcasm
Actually. They need to learn human rights such as; EVERY ODY is INNOCENT until PROVEN guilty
@@7Roverain't no way he didn't know that. He was probably messing around. (I hope)
I want to like your comment... but the magic number...
All this does is reinforce my will to step in against the school authorities if my daughter ever gets "in trouble" at school.
I just told them "no" and didn't comply and they couldn't do anything about it. If I did not listen they couldn't punish me. If they tried to enforce it I would still refuse. I wouldn't let them ruin my childhood memories because of their BS. If it truly is unfair, just don't listen. My parents trusted me when I was telling the truth and the publoc school system got their lies shoved up their ass. lmao they really took an L there
I would rather just homeschool.
I was homeschooled, and from all of the stuff I hear about the modern american education system, I feel bad for anyone having to go through it.
Go for it! My sis was being bothered by a boy in high school to the point that finally one day in class he was bugging her yet AGAIN and she jabbed him in the leg with a pencil (not enough to draw blood, btw). Of course SHE got sent to the principal's office, and then my dad showed up he lost his fucking marbles on the principal. The mom of the boy eventually stopped by our house and when my dad told her what happened she was like "Oh really??" and made her son apologize. My dad gave that kid a stern father look and gave him like this whole dad speech about respecting women and growing up to be a good man and stuff. I hope that kid took that to heart and actually grew up to be a better person.
Always listen to your daughter :)
if you have a kid and you ever get called to school for it being "in trouble", give the director and teacher responsible a 30 minute lecture on responsibility
you’ll generally find that teachers are very quick to make assumptions. I was put into the student help program at my school and every single time I went to the teachers with a problem they’d come up with a “quick and easy solution” to my problems that did absolutely nothing and was there to fix a problem that I didn’t have.
Bro seriously. One time in 2nd grade, a classmate accused me of stealing her breakfast muffin and the only reason she came to that conclusion was because she lost hers and saw that I happened to have one that was the same kind that she had lost, so she told a teacher that I stole it, the teacher asked me if I did and I said no, of course, but he still made me give it "back" to her even though it was mine. I know it is a silly thing to hold onto because it is just a muffin, but I think the reason I still remember that is because I did absolutely nothing wrong and got punished for something nobody had any proof that I did.
Once when i was little i got a *detention* because some other random kid was being noisy and jumping about in the library while i was quietly reading
*instant detention for being in the library* and doing *library things*
When I was bullied the teachers just said to "not play next to them"
People can move, CLARENCE
@@nathanielsemans That's theft, that's illegal
You should have sued the teacher lol. It's not about the money, it's about sending a message.
@@KyleTheFolf It’s the beginning of my sympathetic villain arc
This video unlocked a *_great deal_* of anger and bitterness I had from my days as a schoolkid surrounded by this sort of petty and incompetent authority figures. I graduated _17_ years ago. I'm still pissed.
Over two decades ago, my grade school math teacher performed a problem on the board for the class, and got the answer wrong. I raised my hand and waited to be called on to tell her the correct answer. She told me that she wasn't wrong and asked how I did the problem. I explained the method I easily did in my head and was not the one we were taught to use. She told me that was why I got it wrong and didn't understand the correct solution, and I should always use the method they taught, even if it meant having to write it down. So she re-did the problem, discovering in the process that she was, in fact, wrong. When she got the same answer I did, without another word from me, she sent me to the principal's office "for arguing with [her]."
I am still angry and bitter. But also, as an adult, greatly disappointed in her and the systems that led her to that moment.
@@RaethFennecit looks like your teacher there doesn't know math problems can be solved by more ways than one, or atleast doesn't remember it
this video brought back some very unpleasant memories for me too LOL. i also remember all of the times where the teacher just started lashing out at us and punished the entire class when we either did nothing wrong or only 1 student did smthn wrong. fun times.
core trauma unlocked 🥲
@@nbkarkat Did you know that collective punishment is literally a war crime per the Geneva Convention?
Absolutely love the fact that you animated the Demon Core incident at 5:55.
Was looking for someone else to have noticed it
@@tristanbarber5331 me to
Dude ok the whole "talking back" thing messed me up so badly growing up. So many times I'd try to explain what happened, why someone else was the one who did it, or how I didn't do what I was being accused of. It made me so scared to explain myself to this day, 16 years later, that I'm prone to shaking and going completely silent from anxiety if someone thinks I did something
And then the honesty thing, I kept telling the truth and was still punished. It got to the point that I, the annoying weird ADHD autistic kid, was constantly used as the scapegoat to the point that even my family started believing the teachers and students over me because my honesty was "lies"?????
As a fellow ADHD autistic scapegoat, I feel you.
Man that sucks, hope your doing better now!
oh my god same, i hate the neurotypical attitude that the gut instinct about who did something couldnt possibly be wrong...
I still don't get why the teacher or any other person higher than you don't leave you explain what happened. Like why I can't give my vision of what happened, why am I forbidden of doing so ? For me it's absolutely non-sense.
It feels like : Oh this happened, then I don't care it's your fault, you clearly told me what happened, proved me that I'm wrong but it's you anyway 'cause it's not my problem it's yours
Not adhd or autistic but was used as a scape goat
I love how the more his animation improves, the more chaos is introduced.
Edit: My replies are full of people arguing who commented before me and the quality of his animation, what is my life
Yes, his animation becomes more chaotic
Yes
@peanut5008 Me: (Playing On Switch)
Mom: Go Play Outside
Outside:
YHYHU
eh, the chaos is getting kinda unfunny recently, like with haminations
"Nobody would put a victim in the doghouse, right?"
Literally every school system imaginable: allow me to introduce myself
Probably the thing I hated most was when the entire class would be in trouble because of one person or a select few. For a system that's supposed to prepare youth for the real world, they often do a horrible job at it.
No truer words could ever be spoken. It only takes one person to ruin it for everyone else.
I don’t know about you but at my old elementary school all of 5th grade HAD to be in chorus. So the entire 5th grade is in the gym and the music teacher is doing her thing and some of the people in my class where messing around and because of that when the rest of the 5th grade got to have recess my entire class had to just stand outside and redo chorus for the entire recess WHEN HALF OF THE CLASS DIDN’T DO ANYTHING my self included
Who is the couple kids in my class that I never like we never got to do anything because they what they had a rule if one person did something bad or a copy the whole class we get in trouble of the kids will never stop talking And we never got to do much because then to do much
I mean, that is a good representation of the real world: Authorities don't care about you, they will abuse their power as long they can get away with it and justice doesn't exist.
Fun fact: The whole "discipline the entire class because of the action of one member" has a name. It's called Collective Punishment. Bonus fun fact! It's considered a war crime.
I still remember my 4rth grade class was doing clay sculpting for a geography lesson and I was too excited to stay quiet about it. I kept whispering under my breath how I knew what they were talking about and agreeing with the teacher. Teacher got beyond pissed at me for being noisy and banned me from the project and sent me to the hall the rest of the lesson. I cried the rest of the day. I literally couldn't help myself I was just so excited to do the project, and then got swifty punished for being excited. What a great lesson to teach a child.
exactly, the teacher got angry because they wanted power cus you were excited and already knew what was going on
Or maybe the teacher is not a mind reader and has to teach a lesson to 15+ other students who are not excited while staying on schedule and is trying to get out what they got to say, so all the teacher heard was whispering and responded accordingly. Maybe, just maybe, the adults in your life are people too, and have been wronged before, and just maybe make mistakes
@@Missingmycalliestill dumb to punish a kid for whispering
@@Missingmycallieyeah the fuck you on about
@@WalnutAnimationshave you ever had someone whisper constantly while you're trying to say something? Then multiply that happening daily. Plus you don't know what is happening to that teacher in their personal life too. The lack of empathy for teachers is real and is why there'd a teacher shortage
The punching incident made me remember something similar that happened to me in the fourth grade. The teacher had stepped out of the classroom and we were all supposed to be working quietly at our tables. This kid, who always used to tease and make fun of me, started tapping me on the shoulder and I ignored him. He kept on tapping me and I, finally having had enough, brushed his hand away. Barely touching him, like brushing off lint from my clothes, that's how quick and gentle it was. Two minutes later, the kid gets up, walks over to me and literally pushes me out of my chair onto the ground. I had the entire class on my side, trying to tell the teacher what had happened, how I was innocent and just trying to work.
But because I "made contact first", we both got suspended. 20 years later and it still pisses me off thinking about it.
The hell you "Made contact first"! Them tapping you insistently doesn't count as them as "making contact first"?
Teachers like that piss me off.
@Zarkonem apparently me brushing him away was considered "aggressive behavior", the tapping wasn't 😡
Well I’m glad that was 20 years ago and you dont have to deal with stuff like that anymore
Every time I think that the school system isn’t that bad I read these stories on the internet and immediately lose faith again.
Ahh yes; the "you didn't fight back but still got in trouble as if you did" and the resulting emotional turmoil it all.
I was that kid in a similar story to that recorder one. One teacher, a day before holiday break, decided to not wheel out the TV and put on a movie. I remember him warning us not to question it but my dumb potato brain still decided to ask why (because he didn't give a reason). - it was the only time I got full-blown detention and it's the only thing I remember from that class.
I was bullied relentlessly as a kid. I did everything the teachers said I should do. I ignored them, I told the teachers about it, I reported abuse through our student council office and to the teacher in charge of our year. Every time it was ignored and the bullies kept going. A few times I got in trouble for something I didn’t do because of them. Take my advice, the teachers won’t do anything because they don’t care. If you get into trouble for something your bullies did and you didn’t do, you might as well beat the shit out them and get in trouble for something you’re proud of. The bullies will leave you alone and you’ll be in no greater trouble than you would have been for doing nothing in retaliation anyway.
Yep, i can vouch.
The best part Is when they Then have psychologists or whoever else come in to Say "bullying Is a real problem guys!" And they talk about the "proper" way to deal with It.
In reality, you have two options:
-suck It all up and persevere, possibly/likely for years on End, like i Did
-take matters into your own hands.
Its a sad state of affairs, but school Is a Dog-Eat-Dog kind of Enviroment.
It was worth it, every time. Taj, Alex and Jack your faces were priceless.
Good advice for school
CANNOT think of worse advice once you are an adult in society.
In school, you will just get scolded. In real life, you can and will go to jail for that kind of behavior, and if you thought school was horrible, then your ass will be UNBELIEVABLY grass.
@@warefamily2559 agreed. Best not go dishing out knuckle sandwiches to co-workers no matter how much you want to. But keep in mind an adult would have more sense than to spit their disgusting chewed up tuna sandwiches at you (like my bullies did to me on the bus rides home). Rearranging their dental structure was the single most cathartic moment in my teenage years.
the problem is when you can't beat the shit out of them ;-;
which is often the case
When I was in middle school a teacher got mad at me for literally just answering her question. During our recess period, people were going inside to use the water fountains occasionally, but they were using the one that was at the end of the hall instead of the one closer to the door. bc of this i investigated to see why people were only wanting water from the further water fountain and it was just bc the water was colder down the hall. eventually a teacher came outside and she asked everyone why people were drinking water from the further water fountain instead of the closer one, and since i knew why, i told her, but she scolded me and said i was talking back to her?? like girl you asked a question and i gave an answer how is that bad
It sounds like it may have been a rhetorical question. Not actually intended to receive an answer, but more to inform you all that you were doing something she didn't want you to do.
excellent detective work. A teacher should know the next Sherlock when she sees one.
@@KingRidley dunno if it even makes it better.
@@KingRidley doesn't mean answering should be punished, I would've done the exact same thing. It can be hard to tell when questions are meant to be answered or not when you're a kid. Then again, I grew up autistic, so maybe it's different for me
@@fennelcomeaux9663I would have too. Sometimes explanations are needed for trivial things like that. But obviously this teacher doesn't listen to anyone
In elementary school I got in trouble for not holding the door open for a teacher. According to her I looked back and intentionally did not hold the door open. I remember being about 10 ft away from her and judging, pretty reasonably, that she’s not near me, I’m holding a big metal door that’s obviously heavy for an elementary schooler, and she’s an adult woman who can open doors herself.
What the heck
PETTY AF
"Intentionally didn't hold the door" is a crime, now? What an entitled little tinpot tyrant.
I had something like this happen in my high school Jazz Band class. Every month we’d have professional Jazz musicians come in and hear us play and they’d give tips and pointers to the different sections on how everyone is supposed to play off of one another to build up the bands sound. I play guitar and was in the rhythm section by their definition so, guitars, bass, and drums. One time while the Jazz musicians were there I was practicing something my buddy had shown me earlier in the day while they were talking to another section. I was muting the strings so at most you’d hear a little buzz from the string. I was having trouble remembering something he’d shown me so I leaned over to him and whispered a question about a certain part in his ear to get a yes or no response. We weren’t even loud enough to be heard by someone 3 feet from us but there were some people talking a bit louder in the section that was being talked to that the Jazz musicians told to pay attention. My music teacher looked up after this and saw me leaning over asking my question and assumed they were referring to me, even though they were pointing at a different section of the band. After class my teacher called me into his office and just went off on me about how disrespectful I was being to these musicians who were trying to teach us how to improve and just layed into me for a good 15 minutes about how I should be paying attention since I don’t have years of experience like they do and how I’m not a good musician and if I didn’t want to learn then maybe I should look into transferring out of band. I felt so hurt from that because to me it came out of nowhere since I knew they hadn’t been referring to me so I didn’t understand why he was yelling at me. He gave me a late slip for my next class and I walked to my class on the verge of tears. As I walked out, the jazz musicians were waiting to talk with my teacher and I guess they took notice of how I looked or they’d overheard the yelling because the topic came up in their conversation with my teacher. I guess they straighten out the situation because the next day my teacher called me into his office again. Since I had no knowledge of what had played out at this point I’d assumed he was going to scold me again or worse give me the slip I needed to sign to transfer me out of band. So I was shocked when he apologized for laying into me and explained that the Jazz musicians had explained that they were talking to someone in the trumpet section who was talking not to me. He apologized for what he’d said and actually shed some tears for, in his mind, having almost broken a kids love of music over a misunderstanding that could have been cleared up instantly by getting both sides of the story. Truth be told he was right, it was the closest I’ve ever come to quitting guitar but I wasn’t going to tell him that since he seemed genuinely sorry. All these years later I still play guitar and I still remember him as an amazing music teacher. If you somehow read this Mr. Graham, you’re still one of my favorite teachers from high school.
The good ending ☺
I think way too many adults get a little too excited about being the authority and forget that a response to a question isn't necessarily talking back. I got into more trouble than I should have in school because of how many times teachers tried to give me detention and such for stupid things to which I always just said "no, cause I haven't done anything wrong you are just having a power trip." They didn't usually like that but they also couldn't really do anything outside of calling security on me
It's called Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it's rampant amongst people with any modicum of authority. I'm glad you called them out on it, it must have really curled their nosehairs. XD
@@tirsden actually NPD develops in childhood because of severe trauma and usually abuse
Plesse be put in charge of other people's children while habing to teach a curriculum and follow specific guidelines made by people who have no idea what kids are like while always being pushed by students who don't have boundaries, and see how perfect and right you get it at every instance. I, as a teacher, have made mistakes and do apologize to my students and admit wrongs, but rest assured that not all students are innocent victims and truly are rude
@@Xenkatze I think it's more that those type of people explicitly go after jobs that give them a modicum of authority, not that the job itself makes them that way.
@@Missingmycallie no one said students are innocent I am a proud believe in how truly awful they are I mean the other day a couple of kids brought a dead cat up to me, it was cute in a way ya know with the team work and all that I mean look at they tiny little hand each holding on to each paw of a decomposing cat who more than likely died of starvation! (A cruel and grueling way to die)
I have met teenagers too and they try to act like their adult in the most annoying way possible they try to act mature but it makes them seem far younger than what they actually are just take their first grade picture make the background smaller, yellow the teeth take the smell completely off and make them look as annoyed and annoying and aggressive as possible and there you have it at least for most of em the thing is though they act like adults so they expect to be treated like adults but when you do it's a whole mess and they act like you're in the wrong which is also proof of their immaturity
I've seen them cuss up a storm in a classroom before but when the teacher cusses suddenly they act like that's the most shocking thing out there then they act like there the victim
moral of the story I've never seen so many people so confidently wrong in my entire life
And don't even get me started on how overwhelming it is to take care of so many little people especially when they won't sit down or calm down and think they can do whatever they want to with no respect for you and I'm not talking about you as a authority but I mean you was a person
I get it I get it especially trying to get them to do what you need them to do cuz ultimately when they don't do it it's on you
So yeah I get it BUT the point is no one every wants to listen and that exactly why they act the way that they do that's why the try to act like adults because they want to be treated as such not because they actually want to be an adult but because they know that being an adult means that at least your opinions get heard
But little do they know that's not actually the case most of the time but at least their chances are higher
There's much more going into it and I know it's not your job as a teacher but at least try to look into things more that's often what puts teachers into a lot of students good books is when they actually care about their students
And I don't mean letting them do whatever they want to do that just makes you seem like you're trying too hard and then they just kind of walk all over you
But be more along the lines of- will technically there's a lot to it and I would have to give a in-depth explanation on each part
But literally it's just listen, and look out for them and there healthy and safety and I don't just mean physical health I also mean emotional and mental health as well if they seem like they're having a hard time give the class some time to breath
And ta be honest it's not that simple and as much as I hate when someone doesn't explain anything fully to me and just expect me to get it I generally do not think that I can cover it all in just one comment if you want you can do a little bit more research about it though it's really just how to healthy treat another human being but treat them like a kid just don't let them know
Think of it like taking care of a drunk person! You'll get it in no time
But I know it's not that easy honestly you should probably forget what I just said
All I'm gonna say is most adults are not mentally aware enough to take care of a child mentally and emotionally wise and don't know how to properly communicate and because of how they were raised treat children less like their another human being and more like a servent because and I quote
"Your feelings do not matter, I am your mother"
"You listen to me I am the adult, you are the child"
"Life isn't fair, suck it up"
These are things I hear adults say to children among other things now these things may seem completely normal and make since but given the instances I've heard these being used it's quite frankly sad
What was the point of this again?
Sorry went on a tangent thank you for listening? Or well reading and just ignore it thanks oh and sorry for any grammar issues this is a comment section not my English class-
It's too late for this-
This video unlocked some core memories
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I love how everyone’s using this as an opportunity to also trauma dump their bad school experiences. Good job everyone.
Fr bro
@Oppenheimer797 It explains alright.
My school did almost nothing when a girl accused me of saying the n-word on TWO SEPARATE OCCASIONS
She was wrong of course we easily proved that but still like god damn
There is nothing quite like the righteous fury of a child punished unfairly. Right Mr. Wagner?! I DIDN'T HIT HIM I WAS PUSHING HIS HANDS AWAY FROM MY KEYBOARD THAT HE WAS SLAMMING HIS MEATY PAWS ON WHILE I WAS TRYING TO TYPE MY ASSIGNMENT.
0:21 a terrible feeling...
The hands
Sometimes it amazes me what you can get in trouble for in school. I think my favorite incident from when I was in school was when I was in kindergarten. Basically, whenever we did an activity, the teacher usually said to not worry if we didn't finish in the allotted time, not turn in the work, and you'd have time to finish it later. This one time, though, the teacher said to turn it in anyway, even if you didn't finish it. This so shocked my 5-6 year old brain that I shouted "what!?" without even thinking about it. I had to mark down that day as a yellow day instead of a green day, which made me especially salty since it was the only yellow day I had in kindergarten.
So... apparently, I'm not allowed to be surprised.
In 2nd grade we were in the middle of doing centers. I was in the crafting area gluing Christmas trees onto something else. After some amount of time I no longer remember, we would have to switch to a different area. I had also always been taught to clean up after myself before going onto something else. So when the time came to move, I didn't because I was trying to finish and clean at the same time. The substitute was getting increasingly annoyed and pulling my tickets (we had green, yellow, blue, and red). I don't think I ever got below a yellow and even that was rare, so I was also freaked out about that while trying to explain, and maybe crying a little? I don't exactly remember if I told my mom who then told my regular teacher, but I was assured it wouldn't count against me.
It's just so maddening that when you're doing a not-actually-bad-thing and get punished for it. And if you have a student going at their own pace, but still being productive, what's the harm in letting them finish something or heck, reassuring them they can work on it later (maybe offering to help get them to the next task)?
The stop light chart thing? We had that too. One of my earliest stress memories is getting moved straight to red in first grade when the kid next to me asked me an important question and I got in trouble for answering it, and then bonus trouble for trying to explain to the teacher why it happened. I was a real goody-two-shoes, too, so it did a fair amount of damage to my little psyche.
Dude, that happened to me too... except it was my landlord and I was in my early 20s. I mentioned once that I was worried about getting rent in on time because I was having more and more migraines. She said, oh, there's a five day grace period, so if you're a couple days late it's okay. Go figure, when quite some time later I did end up paying rent a couple days late, she freaked out and said I can't pay my rent late... then blinked at me like a deer in the headlights when I told her what she'd said before.
Sometimes, people are just dumb.
Never trust a Devin spelled with an "i"
Devon only.
GingerPale
How does this only have 1 reply?
@@Conchobar907 idk
hi :p
What about Devan with an a?
i feel like getting in trouble for doing absolutely nothing is part of everyones school career 🤣
Character development
Bro I got bullied my brain was rebooted but I’m still dirty minded >:[
Do you have a fix?
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@@Jurassic_E-zilla My logic at the time was that injustice could be lessened by causing damage to the school in equal proportion and getting away with it. In other words: vandalism.
Teachers would always be like
"Uh uh uh. No. I'm talking."
"nuh uh im talking"
I remember one time my teacher gave me a bad grade because according to her my art project was too good and I clearly didn't do it myself. That sure is one way to teach kids to not try ever at anything in life.
I remember hearing about one of the students in my university (was doing programming) who got flagged for plagiarism because his code was found on an online repository... a repository *he* owned and was uploading his work to as a form of backup in case his computer failed. My own computer has failed more than once and using backups was a hard-learned lesson, but nah apparently doing so can cause you to fail your unit now.
@@cyqry I take it he wasn't allowed to prove it was _his_ repository.
Damn, that's rough, at least you knew your art was great
@@cyqry That is incredibly, massively fucked up. Please tell me they cleared him afterwards though!
My friend told me his English teacher saw him write the majority of his essay and then he got in trouble for “using AI” because AI detectors aren’t perfect and got his wrong just cause he did a really good job
The sad part is that some things like these (psychological/emotional scars) could be carried into adulthood, which could affect how they deal with other people and life-changing situations, while offenders won't even remember the wrongdoings they made from far back.
This is one of the aspects that most schools need to address and fix.
Yep!!! There were two times in school where I was humiliated by teachers for something I didn’t do. To this day (decades later), being accused of lying makes me so intensely upset that I feel just like 3th grade me being forced to write an apology letter to my parents for using a swear in class that I didn’t even know.
"The tree remembers, but the Axe forgets."
And even worse is if you try to bring it up later they'll try to gaslight you saying that that's not what really happened.
Yes, exactly! It's hard to prevent sometimes, but stuff like this are like drops in a bucket that add up to bigger issues, especially if a kid already has some mental health issues going on.
Getting in trouble for things that were not your fault is incredibly damaging, because if doing nothing results in punishment, and doing the right and wrong thing also results in punishment - then there's no right answer. It's like thanks guys; now my childhood development was filled with fear, mistrust and doubt, and now I have anxiety.
they wont
It will never fail to blow my mind just how stupid school staff can be about violence.
Ice inspires me.. My parents said if i get 40K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally
Begging..
I am a teacher in training, and believe me. When you are behind the scenes it's worse.
@@namantherockstar BS.
@@Momperino My aunt was a teacher for a charter school and she's got a lot of awful students about how the school was run. There are some teachers I feel bad for because they're just trying their hardest but some of the stories I've heard about staff at that school just remind me of the kind of people I grew up having as teachers.
You mean “violence”. You forgot the sarcasm.
i had a similar experience to the last story. when i was in kindergarten we were lining up to go outside for recess. i was in the middle of the line. then someone threw an eraser across the room. the problem was that it came from the middle of the line so everyone was accusing me. eventually i got overwhelmed so i “admitted” to doing it even tho i didn’t. i ended up having to sit out for recess. i know it was a stupid move but i felt pressured and i was like 5 and didn’t know how to advocate for myself.
_Taking notes for parenting_
- Assume my children are being honest (I’d rather believe them when they’re lying than disbelieve them when they’re telling the truth)
- Take time to hear all sides of the story
- Let the children participate in solving problems rather than just imposing uninformed solutions
- Be a person my kids can turn to when they do face injustice, ideally not inside the home
Make sure to not be a yes-man for your child either though. Children will pick up bad behaviors from other kids, it's just another par for the course of them growing up (curiosity and learning). If you let them get away with anything, it will 100% spiral out of control. There's a definite need for discipline and supervision, but, as with all things in life, in moderation.
I also strongly recommend asking them 'why' a lot so they think about things. "Okay, you put your toy in the toilet. Why? What does that mean for the poor toy? How does it make people feel?" "why did you hit that kid? were there any other ways to solve the problem?" because if they start wondering 'why', for everything, they can start to want to learn about things and understand them early. Expect to be asked why right back though lmao.
I think if you let kids ask why under certain circumstances (and teach them how to do it respectfully) and actually give them reasonable answers, that just helps them know they can trust you 🤷🏾♀️
3.14 👍
You already sound like an S tier parent
As some who DESPISES group punishment and being ignored when there is a logical explanation. I felt that playground story in my soul.
same, my class went throgh a group punishment bcthese two kids would not just SHUT UP.
the rage i felf that day i can't even begin to explain lol-
Teachers suck so bad sometimes- not all teachers- but when they mishandle situations it can be so unbelievably frustrating and make you wanna drop kick yourself into the sun.
I related so much with this video- and have a small story time of my own.
Two teachers and a handful of my peers were flown across the country for 3 days for a long field trip. Since we went from a very cold place to down south, the weather change was unbearably hot for us. Not only that, we never stopped at our hotel, or any place we could have bought food or water. We left the air port at 2am, arrived at 10am, and wouldn’t eat (at a restaurant) until 4pm, and all in between was touring the towns by foot and various tourist attractions.
I, being hungry, dehydrated, exhausted, and not used to the hot weather, within a few hours already began experiencing heat exhaustion. My friends who were with me told the teachers over and over again that I wasn’t feeling good and needed help (first time at 11am), but the teachers would give me a pat on the back and do nothing.
I got so dangerously into heat exhaustion that I have literal gaps in my memory of that day and couldn’t walk straight, this went on for several hours with the teachers in the know. Finally once we got to the restaurant I literally was so sick I couldn’t eat and ended up vomiting- and only then did the teachers acknowledge I was sick… but then proceeded to wait another hour to call me and Uber to the hotel.
And the next day the teachers held a PSA for the whole group. They said “if you’re feeling sick, you’ve got to tell us right away, don’t just wait until the last minute!”
I was fuming.
If they had just listened to me the first time none of that would’ve happened (skipping many details) but instead they ignored me for 6 hours, watched me vomit, almost go into heat stroke, and then told the whole class that I was in the wrong, and that they “didn’t know.”
TL:DR Teachers did nothing let me almost go into heat stroke and then blamed me for the trip going wrong
I have a similar story. I'm 5th grade normally the whole 5th grade would go to a trip to Boston, but because of budget cuts instead they took us to a baseball game in the state we live in. But we went on the hottest day of the year, they didn't supply food or drinks (my family couldn't afford to get extra food and drinks for me just for the trip), and we were stuck sitting on metal benches for the game. I told a couple of teachers throughout the game that I'm really not feeling well and they all just told me to sit back down and watch the game. I ended up getting a heat stroke and had tunnel vision and passed out for a short moment so my chaperone (a parent of one of the students) bought me an ice cream and a water and took me somewhere inside where it was cooler so I could get better. After the game was over I heard the principal scolding my chaperone for buying me ice cream and water because he didn't buy some for the entire 5th grade so it "wasn't fair". I'm thankful for the chaperone, he went OFF on the teachers AND principal and believed every word I said about them shrugging me off when I was asking for help, and he did not appreciate being lectured about now paying for about 200 ice creams because it was "unfair" that a child that he was responsible for for the day was unwell and passed out because of their terrible choice of a field trip. (The entire 5th grade agreed that baseball was HELLA boring and we all collectively hated the metal benches we were forced to sit on for a couple hours)
@@HighQualiTTrash bro what is up with teachers not doing their job, felt that.
I have a school story. Nothing to do with yours. Just wanted to tell the tale.
There was a teacher.Mrs Chassagne. One day i was with friends on the grass on an afternoon. So that one teacher spotted us and told us: GET OFF THAT GRASS NOW!!!
I got off the grass with my Friends, and she told us: I ALWAYS SPOT YOU HERE!!!!
And i answered : no you don't it's the first time in the whole year.
And she responded by staring at me for like five secs.
She thought i was like: well sh*T
But insted i was like: does she think im scared? HAHAHAHAHHAAHHA
thats it.
I spent SO much time in the principals office for these same dumb reasons, I finally punched my bully and the principal played Jenga with me and essentially went "Nah, you did what you needed to, just don't do that again"
I wish my principal was like yours, i swear, if she was walking around the school she would scream at kids for "running", LIKE BRO TF💀
The main takeaway is that most teachers and authority figures do not, infact, have your back and those that do are genuinely few and far between. The rest are petty tyrants at worst, apathetic at best.
I had a sub that gave the whole class about 50+ laps in a single day. One girl that had to reorganize her desk was given 1 lap for every single sec that she spent to organize it. We were in like 3rd grade so we couldn't stand up for ourselves and report the guy so we all just had to take it.
I feel bad for the people who didn't have many cool teachers.
The adults think they’re teaching us how to be “proper” when all they’re teaching us is how to hold a grudge.
@@TriflingToad It sucks that happened. But in some cases reporting these people doesn't even do anything. I work as a TA and reported a sub I worked with for telling misbehaving children to fix their actions in the eyes of the christian god which I don't think you are allowed to preach to kids in public school. Also, we have a pretty sizable Muslim population so that's a yikes. I told my principal everything yet I worked him 3 other times that year because we had a sub shortage. And he had a shitty attitude towards me the whole time.
Agreed
I would often get in trouble in elementary school for things I didnt do, as I was the loud ADHD kid. So I attracted attention, and if anything went wrong it was instantly 'YOU, OFFICE!' even if I wasnt THERE.
...so, I realised if i was gonna get in trouble if I broke the rules or not, I might as well do WHATEVER the hell i wanted. Life got better from there. Don't be part of the problem. That's selling yourself short. Embrace change, strive for greatness. Be the whole problem.
I remember witnessing this happen to a kid when I was in elementary school. Except it was a kid who did get in trouble sometimes, but then one time someone else did something bad, and the teacher thought it was that other kid. This kid yelled and said he didn't do it, and got in trouble again for yelling. Then he just put his head down on his desk in defeat. I regret not speaking up. I had selective mutism and some undiagnosed stuff, so I wasn't talking even on a good day, but still, this is a weight I carry with me.
@zoyadulzura7490 I hope you’ve forgiven yourself for what you did as a kid haha. We all did things like that and learned from them. But if it would help you move on to get some form of punishment, then here you go: « I can’t believe you did that! You’re a horrible person! »
This feels like a villain arc.
I had almost the EXACT SAME experience with the recorder. I frigging LOVED music class. Picking up the recorder was easy and always wanted to learn new songs, weather we needed to or not. I was probably the only one paying attention there.
It was last day of the school year for music class and we were coming down to taking the photo for the class. The kids were goofing off and playing notes when they shouldn't have, REALLY getting to the teacher. She also did the "next person who plays a note gets their recorder taken away". But here some other kid played a note and because no one would speak up, ENTIRE CLASS HAD THEIR RECORDERS TAKEN AWAY. She couldn't get a single person to smile for the class photo, but she took it anyways. (Looked a little awkward in the school year book).
She also NEVER GAVE THEM BACK. Which started a slow growing hatred for music in me until when I was a teen any music that I heard IMMEDIATELY put me in a sour mood. I grew out of it and I'm back into loving music again. Trying to get into singing. At least it's a BIT harder for some mean teacher to take away your vocal chords.
These animations crack me up, it’s like watching a fever dream on crack with a tinge of ADHD and it’s perfect.
One time, I was at lunch, and I had grabbed a biscuit. The biscuits were so hard to get out of the plastic packaging that if you could get it open you were basically a saint. One time, I used all my strength and got it open, but little biscuit pieces sprayed all over the table. This was a complete accident. Of course, one of the teachers saw it, and one of my friends snitched on me. I was so overcome with emotions that I couldn't form words. I was known for being mischevious and a bad kid, so they just assumed the worst.
Didn't help your name was Kyle. I get it dude.
EDIT: I thought it showed my name. My channel's name is The Kyle Fyles.
I was a kid who never got in trouble so the times I did really stuck with me. Particularly once during an ASL test where a group of other kids in the class would pick 15 or so signs and the rest of us had to write down what they meant in English. Well my teacher decided that I was looking off of my neighbors paper and failed me. After the test she said that anyone who cheated could admit it and still get partial credit, but I didn't cheat, so I just left. When we got our tests back I tried to explain to her that I didn't cheat but she just would not listen, and made me retake the test. The worst part was that I got a 100% on the original test and like a 75 on the retake. I didn't like her after that.
Screw her, i think she could probably understand this sign language 🫵🖕
She sounds like most of the students in her class had a bad time.
It’s crazy how these “teachers” can just enforce their ideals onto us, as long as they aren’t caught. I once had a teacher that would shut anyone up with a citation if the student’s opinion/thoughts didn’t seem to agree with the teacher. I hated her so much. Never knew what happened to them after I left, but I couldn’t more more glad about leaving that place.
God yeah. Once in high school we had a sub for Anatomy and she just spent the whole time talking about how women were too weak and emotional to hold positions in government and we should never have one as president. It was fucking awful.
@@childofanolddeadgod1278I don’t see the problem with why she said tbh
@@tylerlynch2796 Of course you don't, you can't even write a sentence grammatically correct. Two idiots _would_ get along.
@@tylerlynch2796 AHEM WHAT?
I’ll never forget my second grade teacher, Mrs. Kendrick. She was mean to me because she had my brother in her class a few years before (I didn’t learn this until I was in like middle school!) and he had been a “cut up” according to her. My brother was just extroverted with trauma from home so not the best combo. Anyway, I was VERY different- introverted, shy, middle child but also trauma from the same home😂 she not only bullied me - refused to let me use the bathroom anytime I asked until one time I peed myself in class bc I could hold it and she LIED to my parents when they came to change my clothes and said she told me I could go and I didn’t go🙄 stuff like that - but she also refused to teach me. She wouldn’t help me with things I was struggling to learn (my mom even had to teach me cursive over the summer so I could be ready for 3rd grade bc she refused to teach it to me during the school year). She was THE WORST and I carried a lot of trauma from the second grade for a long time. It reinforced the injustice I was facing at home (same treatment from my grandma we lived with when my sister would bully me - she favored my sister and actively bullied me herself). By the end of the school year, Mrs. Kendrick had broken her neck somehow and had to have surgery which she spent the last few weeks of school recovering from. Her sub, Ms. Leverette (SHOUT OUT TO THIS AMAZING WOMAN - WHEREVER YOU ARE NOW) was AWESOME and I could tell she loved kids even at that young age. She actually helped us, listened to us, and answered our questions. On the last day she let us bring cards and play Crazy 8s all day. She was the break I needed and helped me finish off the school year right.
I said all that to say - it’s honestly shameful how many bitter, hateful people are in the education system doing years of damage and trauma to children who are just being kids. It’s awful that we all have the core memories and didn’t even have the same teachers! It’s kinda like healthcare - where you end up with the only ones staying in the job being the ones who hate it and are there for a check and take it out on whoever they come across. While good people can’t handle the mistreatment or lack of resources so they quit.
I hate when adults says “don’t talk back to me!” That’s how conversation works!!!
Mate, I love it- also, seriously, the amount of times that teachers tell off *innocents* is BLASPHEMY.
One time I got detention for having wet hair??? ON A RAINY DAY???
@@theunknownpixels6484 SERIOUSLY!?
@theunknownpixels6484 what...That's like people who just took a shower in the morning before school. That's stupid
@@8_BlackOut_8 Yeah it was some teacher that no one liked, they were retiring like a week later so I think they just didn’t care at that point
@@theunknownpixels6484 Good thing they left, eh? I once had a teacher who gave the kid sitting next to me both a behaviour point and a detention for putting his hand up- she was fired a few weeks/month later tho-
I once got in trouble at school for trying to learn. We were reading The Canterbury Tales in class, but the teacher told us we were skipping the bard's section of the story. I wanted to know why, so I did a quick internet search for a plot synopsis of that section.
I told the teacher it didn't seem like such a big deal. I was then forbidden from looking up information that was not directly fed to me by the teacher ever again. This was not, in any way an enforceable rule.
ah yes. reminds me of getting in trouble for "getting too far ahead compared to the other kids" in math. Like, give me more to do then?
For me it was when our class read Fahrenheit 451. Our teacher had us go home and read specific chapters. I was one of if not THE only student who read the whole thing.
Thankfully, the teacher actually praised me for having such curiosity. Honestly, it seems like the best ones are usually either Literature teachers or History teachers (and no, I don't think it's a coincidence).
@@BennyHyenathat is extremely ironic that they would skip certain parts of a book about burning information
You could've asked why you were skipping the section, though what the teacher did was mean and weird.
In middle school I used to use composition notebooks as sketchbooks, the one I'm talking about here had a lot of drawings I was very proud of at the time, they were basically my diaries. One day my 7th grade teacher scolded me for drawing in class and confiscated it, telling me to come back at THE END OF THE YEAR for it. I go back to get it at the end of the school year - the fact that my little undiagnosed ADHD brain even remembered to do that says something - and she just flatly tells me she threw it out. I walked home from school crying.
That's just theft... I hate top-down authority structures like most schools. The students need a union or something to have more leverage on their side.
As a person who is also been scolded heavily for drawimg in class I completely get you. I am also utterly disappointed with such a heartless teacher. Sure, they want us to pay attention (even though we can perfectly well listen as we are drawing) but to throw it out ????? That's just damn unnecessary and brutal... Im so sorry that happened to you
@@inkonmyhandsSo many teachers are seriously delusional in thinking that just because a kid is staring at them i guess that means they must then be listening and *taking in every word* lol
(I remember one time I was sitting in class and apparently I had the nerve to glance at one of those stupid "classroom posters" or whatever, that the teachers tape up all over the walls, and the teacher sees me and literally stops what they're talking about to instruct me that I have to be *looking directly at them* or I guess I'm not paying them enough attention apparently.. smdh. I thought to myself, well how about you just leave all the walls freakin blank then dumb@ss?!??? I wasn't good at standing up to people back then bc I'd definitely handle it differently now 😡)
christ my heart just broke for you, what an asshole
Every single student can agree that the “no ‘Talking back’” rule is the dumbest thing, and teachers only use it once they realize they have made poor judgment but want to win the kerfuffle.
I hated the false sense of authority some teachers and staff had over students, and even some of our parents hated it because they'd get notes home or called out of work for the most benign things or 'talking back'. Staff only took kids seriously when their parents got involved and that was seriously dehumanising sometimes. Shoutout to the teachers that listened to both sides of the story and decided it wasn't worth the paperwork and screw the "good has to suffer for the bad" types because even the 'bad' agreed you were the literal worst.
This still happens to me, only with my parents. Usually regarding when you want to explain the situation of how you didn't do anything wrong, but they count it as 'talking back' and you're punished even further for trying to explain because apparently its just an 'excuse.' They just never let me speak.
EXACTLY DUDE
I feel like this use to happen to me, but it doesn't anymore. You wanna know why? U gotta be mature and tell them sometimes (not in the heat of the moment when your already in trouble for something, but just a time where everybody can talk and calmly) that counting things as "talking back' like that upsets you. I'm sure if you have a discussion about it they will change their behavior. The parents are not always right!!
My dad does the same thing, he’s on a constant power trip. But my moms good and is helping me a lot
That’s sad
I will never stop talking about this: I was in school in music class hitting the plastic music sticks (or whatever they’re called) when two people in front of me decided to begin hitting me with them in the middle of the class trying to beat to a song and I got in trouble, no matter how many years pass I will always remember
i was a fresh-faced middle school assistant teacher over the last school year. seeing things from the other side was an *experience*... for what it's worth, 4/5 teachers agree with the students that dumb rules are dumb, however are still expected to enforce them. the trouble (heh) comes in the fact that teachers have way too much to keep track of at any given moment and stuff falls through the cracks almost as often as not. it sucks. it's unfair. i hated it. i'm not a teacher anymore.
It's traumatizing to the kids and there needs to be some better way to handle it
a perfect lesson for kids to learn that they can't trust adults with their problems
Also, I feel like it would encourage children to fight because if they know that they’ll get in trouble whether they fight back or not, they’ll probably just fight back.
Only thing I ever learned in school was how little I can trust authority figures
@@arikeo6214"If I'm getting in trouble anyway, better make it for a real reason."
Honestly a lot of these stories that people have described are sort of micro-traumas. I mean they're impactful enough that we remember them even years or *decades* later, which really speaks to how much of an effect they must've had on our social development. The way in which US public schools foster this idea of the authority figure always being correct and to entirely disregard the experience of the child, to the point where *trying to even state your case* is considered "talking back," is really appalling.
I also remember one time I chugged a milkshake as a 6 yo because I couldn't take it on the metro with me, but I wouldn't consider that a traumatic experience. Just something dumb that happened.
then when the person in power blows a fuse, the students just sit back and laugh. unless the teacher is a good teacher and actually helps the students, then the student who was the asshole gets their ass served to them on a silver platter.
th-cam.com/video/S6fj4Pzry6E/w-d-xo.html part 2
At least it taught to despise a corrupt system
As an American, the lessons I learned from school are as follows: If you're smart, but not as dedicated to grinding yourself into oblivion to scout yourself to some college, you get literally nothing from school. You learn that the world isn't unfair because of forces of nature, but because people are stupid, incompetent, and because they just don't care to understand anything. I was constantly grounded for getting Cs and Ds in classes that I only had Cs and Ds in because I didn't give a shit, and yet, by the end of the year, I'd get my grade back up to a B like it was nothing - because it WAS nothing to me. It was easy and pointless. "WhY DoN't YoU jUsT tAkE aP oR aDvAnCeD cOuRsEs?" Because school is POINTLESS, and I knew that from the FOURTH GRADE. You get a report card. Okay. You are told how well you did according to their grading system. Okay. This grading system has nothing to do with what you know, or how well you can apply yourself to learn new things or to demonstrate that you can actually do anything - it just demonstrates how well you can temporarily memorize things... okay, so school is pointless to a smart person. Got it. AP and Advanced classes? Just more work for literally no reward - other than my father calling up his siblings and other people to brag about me... so I purposefully started doing worse so he'd stop. I WAS SO GOOD AT SCHOOL THAT I COULD GET THE GRADE I WANTED. Oh, I need a B to satisfy my father? I guess I'll just stop doing homework for the next 3 months, then start again, because the way this teacher grades, the percentage curve will even out, assuming I do fine on the quizzes and tests oh look I was right. Dang.
Oh, and someone stole my drawing book once, so I picked them up and put them on the ground (literally, it was kinda scary, I don't know where that came from, fight-or-flight I guess... I'm not bragging. It wasn't fun. I was sore for the next week), and they STABBED ME in the LEG with a pencil... so of course I also got in trouble. By which I mean they called my father, who said, "Are they hurt? Is the other kid hurt? No? Good," and then we got pizza that night because fuck the system, and fuck the idea that school matters. GRADUATING matters. You need that HS diploma to get the jobs that matter. That's it... just graduate. If anyone tells you to apply yourself more or work harder to study harder or try more or blah blah blah, just tell them to fuck off.
I had a similar revelation, though it didn't happen until high school. Before that, I only ever got A's in classes I had an inherent proclivity for-usually Science and Math. My teachers over the years always told my mom: "he's smart enough to do the work, he just doesn't want to apply himself". It wasn't until high school that I realized I didn't want to apply myself because school was boring as hell. I dropped out and got my GED. Unfortunately, I want to get into STEM, so I've no choice but to go back to college which is just more of the same.
That's another thing; you hear all the time how the high school won't be the same as middle school and college won't be the same as high school. That's a damn lie. College in particular was only different in that everyone's trying to take notes at mach 1 while the teacher talks with barely any pauses. The only time I enjoyed myself in college is when a friend and I went to the library after class to do homework and study together. In the end, the main thing I learned is that if I want to actually succeed in college the next time around, I need to teach myself and take things slower so I can actually learn the material.
Indeed, the world is unfair because of the people that run it. To be honest, we as citizens need to start calling out our leaders; they're not the only problem.
Dude I had this epiphany in 8th grade and I felt so betrayed. I’ve been saying the same thing. I do almost none of my homework but still pass. That’s all that matters to me lol.
The worst part about realizing this for me, is that later it was used as ammunition against me. I'm AFAB, and was getting screened for ADHD and the first psychiatrist I talked to said "You said you struggled with motivation and focus in school, but I see here that for one year you got honor roll the whole year? That wouldn't be possible with ADHD" and brushed me off ENTIRELY, despite ALL the symptoms lining up. The only reason I did well that year was because if you stayed on honor roll all year, you got to skip finals and go to Six Flags, and that sounded dope enough to bother for. Literally *every other year* past fourth grade, I scraped by with as little effort as possible, and even got sent to Adult Ed in high school for math because I had convinced myself it would be better if I went to an art school (spoiler alert, it was not). But no, the single year out of 12 that I gave half an ass about the assignments, means I *couldn't possibly* be dealing with a chemically imbalanced brain.
1:09 is sincerely a cinematic experience. Really felt that one in my esophagus. Thank you Andy.
Same bro
To further prove that the school system is trash at fair punishment: As a kid, I hardly ever got in trouble. I was like the little "angel" of the classroom. But then 3rd grade rolled around and I started to get a bit aggressive (still don't know what caused it). The school took notice and DID give me proper punishment some of the time, but I can still remember plenty of times where I very much DESERVED punishment, but got away with it meanwhile the poor kid I just yelled at or punched is the one getting in trouble. But of course, I was a child, so I didn't want to defend the kid because then I'd get in trouble (kids, amiright) so I kept quiet. I got detention and suspention a few times but so did the poor victims of my behavior. I have never been proud of my actions, and I started seeing a counselor around 6th or 7th grade, and have since improved my behavior, but I still feel bad for those poor kids who were punished for my own doing and weren't at fault.
Good to hear you’re working on yourself and trying to be better. Many don’t change their ways or realize their actions are incorrect and/or unfair. While you made mistakes, sure, a many few whoopsies, you’re getting better. Proud of you, random stranger on the internet.
@@poupiefeer3919 Thank you. It's very difficult and I have had a few slip ups but I am looking for a proper therapist now as I am no longer in school (I start college soon so I may visit the counselor during my time there as well) and I have been doing some reading to try and improve. I was raised by good people who taught me well, so I'm not sure what caused my behavior to change like this, but the support I've been getting from people around me is making it easier for me to keep trying to improve. Thank you, random stranger on the internet!
So nice to see these comments 🥲
As a fellow 'bully' it helped my conscious a lot to apologize. I only bullied one kid so it didn't take long. Still a rock fell from my shoulders.
@@pain002 Well I wouldn't call myself a bully, I on,y ever acted out when someone instigated or was making a noise I didn't like. Still mostly my fault of course, and while I did often apologize, some of those people never gave me the chance to, and even when I did apologize, I still felt guilty for it. Though there was one time where I definitely was a bully, but the poor girl left the state because of it and I can't apologize now. That's my biggest regret I think.
My core takeaway from these kind of experiences is that teachers, principals and educators have weird power trips on kids to compensate their miserable life
You're not wrong. Twice now I've had a supervisor and a quality control technician who were a former preschool teacher and a high school math teacher, respectively.
If they ever end up in a profession outside their area of study, and they still refer to themselves as an "educator," something went very wrong before and they left their last job so it could be swept under the rug. Trust the teachers who keep trying, but never the ones who failed themselves.
Not all teachers , principals and educators
@@IdentifiantE.S what is the goal of this sort of message, seriously
@@dolfinsbizou The point is not to generalize - there are excellent teachers just as there are bad ones.
@dolfinsbizou - Their goal is to make a statement that is so obvious and inoffensively sterile that it literally adds nothing yet acts as a passive aggressive virtue signal to make the commenter seem more reasonable than anyone who would dare notice any kind of patterns in human behavior.
It can also be a defensive reaction from people who think they need to address every criticism as if it is a personal attack, most likely because they had an educator in mind and expect an internet stranger to take their personal exceptions into account as if it somehow cancels out the original point.
It is like a commenting equivalent of a person who hangs a poster that says "don't be a bully" in a school hallway or interrupts a comedian to tell them "racism is bad" and thinks they actually did something.
2:48 “Cool And Awsome and I’m not about to apologize for being Cool And Awsome”
Fun Fact - there is no such thing as "talking back", its just an excuse used by abusive adults to prevent others from proving them wrong in order to keep their sense of superiority. In the real world "talking back" is called defending yourself - and you should always be encouraged to do so :)
Yeah, I would like to see society phase out this trend XD
This
Talking back is two things: not listening to what you're being told and speaking before thinking. Just think about it. How can you defend yourself if you begin to talk without knowing what is beimg told to you?
@@arodvaz1955 So do you think he was talking back in the example shown in the video?
@@arodvaz1955 That makes no sense, and is just a way to shut down someone talking because you are too lazy to care about what they would say. A mature person doesn't resort to such tactics. Whether they are right or wrong, it's not "guilty until proven innocent", and you have no way of knowing until you let them speak. Notice how "talking back" only applies to people who are in positions of authority, such as bosses or teachers, it's because they belittle your opinion because they don't even want to try and head it because they always assume they are right.
If someone said that to me now, as an adult, they would lose their ear for being such a narcissistic child.
i'm over 30 y/o now, and somehow hearing these old grade-school stories has given me a surge of anxiety i didn't know i still had.
Gotta love the “if the person who did this doesn’t fess up, the entire class gets punished” strategy. I know the intent is to make everyone in the class dislike the person who did it and potentially make them squeal, but it comes out to being “Either i’m punished and humiliated in front of the class, or i deal with this one short-term punishment and stay anonymous.” It also presents the culprit with an opportunity to make the rest of the classroom miserable. It’s like blowing up a whole hotel because there’s one criminal in it who refuses to leave
Thanks for bringing back some school memories. People who say being an adult is worse are so high off their mind on nostalgia they'd happily reminisce on being in prison. Don't mind me, I'm just gonna go do whatever the hell I want, with the money I earned for myself, in an institution that doesn't have a medieval approach to authority and discipline and where I'm treated as an actual human person, at my free time that isn't occupied by doing homework as if spending most of my time in soul-crushing school experience wasn't enough.
PLEASE, WHAT SCHOOL IS THIS?
What feels worse than getting in trouble is having NO IDEA WHY you're in trouble. I have vivid memories of sobbing as a child because I was being punished and no one told me what I did wrong. I would just suddenly be told by a teacher, "You stay inside today, no recess." "Why?" "Sit down, no talking." "What did I do?" "You're in trouble, no recess."
Great way to get a kid to start questioning everything they do (: (yeah, happened to me too.)
Genuinely got my blood boiling 😅 got me the anger and anxiety issues i have till this day
I’m just glad to know that I’m not the only person who immediately cries when speaking 1v1 to authoritative figures. Love your videos, bb. Keep on postin at your own schedule; don’t let no one pressure you to change your routine.
Yeah I cry when any confrontation is made specially when it's not my fault TwT
Same
Oh lord me too ;m; at least I’m not alone
Same
i immediately cry whenever i have to explain anything or talk with anyone who’s not on my side in a debate lol
and it sucks because like i’m not ACTUALLY that sensitive my tear ducts just hate me lol
An incident at science camp comes to mind. Our camp counselor was giving a lecture while we huddled around her. I’ve always been bad at remembering things so I took out my little notebook to start writing down all the new words I was learning. She stops the lecture to tell me to put it away and before I had a chance to say anything she ripped my notebook out of my hands and confiscated it. I was in middle school. Looking back she obviously was having a hard time handling us kids and was always on edge. I really hope she didn’t continue being a camp counselor.
Camp counselors are wild
You got in trouble for paying attention and taking notes? That’s a first
It's surprising that the teacher didn't do a little snooping, and saw you were actually taking notes later on. She missed a perfect opportunity to atone for her mistake.
the weird rules in schools are honestly so stupid it's almost funny. in middle school, there was a rule that said we weren't allowed to have backpacks... like AT ALL. it was so stupid, but everyone got around it by using huge binders and really big purses😅
(i was one of the huge binder kids lol)
As a teacher, this is why it's so important to me to listen to each kid when something happens. Stressful as all get out when you have to contact parents too
Something about your animation, and sense of humor, is AMAZING! It's like a secret formula only very few can get. Keep up the good work Andy
3:01 is my favorite part
3:13 the tears of the kingdom bokoblin hat got me laughing hard
It was originally from breath of the wild and he does look good in it
@@catrex916 I didnt say he didnt look good in it
@@catrex916 neilson
@@catrex916lol I was going to say that
I once got in trouble for not bringing a towel to a swimming field trip (2nd grade). My mom forgot to pack one, being a single mom no big deal she was busy, maybe I could just stand in the sun and get dry. But no, I wasn't allowed to swim because I didn't have a towel. Any argument I tried to make was brushed off because I was just a dumb kid to them. The teacher got mad at me more and more because I was "talking back." She wrote a note home about how I made a scene or something. For "talking back" and for something I didn't do, I got punished more, and didn't get to swim with everyone else. Because of a towel. I still remember it because yeah - all it did was teach me that your teachers wont listen, and what you said didnt matter.
Anyone who has a problem with "talking back" has a problem with "being wrong." If you can't explain yourself, then they can't be wrong. Just know that you are for sure smarter than they are.
Omg I used to get in trouble sm for forgetting white socks for PE class. I usually forgot because when I'm coming to school I'm already wearing socks. But they're not white sooo...detention for me🤷
I went to a water park once and we all brought money for icecream, I miss interpreted what the lady said the time for icecream was and she made me sit at the table next to her for the rest of the trip, purely for buying icecream, this was a summer rec thing done by the school btw, also the news came and was interviewing kids about what they liked to do at the park and I wanted to be interviewed so badly but the lady wouldn’t even let me up to be interviewed she didn’t let me talk to her either and she didn’t let me stim (Idk some of that ‘quiet hands and still legs’ stuff that targets nd people) this led to me being overstimulated and in the hot sun. I wasn’t even aloud to go on the slides after everyone else got icecream and are it.
Almost had a meltdown, old women in the school system hate nd kids for some reason idk.
There were multiple instances like this and still are and instances of me getting harassed by other kids for being nd and the teachers siding with the nt kid every time I tried to get them in trouble.
The only time when somone got in trouble was when I was literally s/a like??? (Won’t go into detail but the kid’s only punishment was getting kicked off of the bus for 9 months and a restraining order saying he can’t come onto our property. He’s aloud to walk up and down our road, but since it’s the middle of the woods Maine I chase him off with a hatchet or a gun because get the f*ck off of our road you creep [he has not improved as a person and is an incel] I wish that more of the kids got in trouble because of bullying I had no friends and was bullied severely to a point where a kid who literally harassed me (he kicked me in the legs really hard all the time) wouldn’t get in trouble (he somehow always got away with an excuse of it being an ‘accident’ and later brought it up in middle school as like a nostalgic funny memory and got annoyed when I told him flat out that it wasn’t funny and that he was an ass who wouldn’t listen when I told him to stop kicking me.)
(Edit: I am about to be a senior in highschool and still these kids harass me even when they sympathize with my remarks about how nd people [more specifically autistic people] are treated and bullied and yet they don’t change their behavior, are they ignorant or are they consciously choosing to not be self aware enough to realize that they are literally doing the thing they agreed was wrong and awful for someone to go through?? This one kid still does this stupid dopey voice and says ‘Duhhh, Daisy likes dinosaurs’ every time he sees me in the hallway [at least I have friends in highschool now? Mostly other queer and/or nd people who are also sometimes secretly furries] :/ )
Ice inspires me.. My parents said if i get 40K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally
Begging..
I hated it when teachers (or anyone) said I was "talking back". Like BRUH, just want me to stand there in silence and say nothing. I'm trying to explain the situation. so stupid
ADHDers tend to have a strong sense of justice! Back in school you were faced with so much injustice it was infuriating, didn't even matter who got wronged it just felt bad.
ADHDers AKA the people who were always told in school that they were "so gifted" but "needed to apply themselves more" so they grew up thinking of their condition as a moral failing.
@@ArchibaldClumpyfor some reason, I didn't really exhibit many symptoms until I got to middle and high school, but I feel like I'm getting really close to someone telling me that lol
Also, I didn't know that a lot things the teachers were doing were bad unless it was saying "don't talk back" or whatever.. like how they yell at the class or how they grade you super strict over stupid stuff just 'cause.. I just knew it mad me mad, until I got over hating myself for messing up any miniscule thing on assignments, and then I realized a lot of teachers are jerks
Justice sensitivity baby!
@@elvinwispCrazy how somebody will be perfectly functional until they are placed in an environment that is innately hostile to them. Almost as if trying to use the same cookie cutter on everyone with no room to exceed outside of it is a bad idea.
That "YOU'RE TALKING BACK." part is so relatable. I had this teacher who always used 'talking back' as a way to get their way. One time, a group of me and my friends were working on a project that we had a choice to do. The teacher said that we COULD TALK during it, if we chose to do it. Me and my group were just working and whispering, yknow. Then the teacher just said, "Girls, stop talking.". I was screaming inside, but I tried to stay calm. I told them that we are doing the research for the project that they said we could talk for, AND THEY INTERRUPTED ME HALFWAY AND JUST SAID, "Don't back talk me!". I was absolutely fuming inside. But, they were the teacher, so I couldn't say much more. I still hate that teacher.
Also, she got 2 strikes already for getting fired 👁👄👁
1 for hitting a student and 2 for unfairly deducting points for tests. (Ex; if someone's 6 looked like a b.)
Yep that’s a mean teacher for you
BRO ISN'T HITTING A STUDENT ILLEGAL???
6:29 kills me every time
*I LAID MY SOBER*
I still feel an unending grudge over getting in trouble, and berated, because my iPod got stolen. A classmate went through my bag while I was out of the classroom, stole it, and somehow *I* was in the wrong. Admin wouldn't do anything bc I "shouldn't have had it in the first place". Completely ignored my breach of privacy. Did nothing.
I only got it back because a teacher found the thief with like 6 stolen iPods and the teacher made the kid return every one of them with a personal apology. Cue me getting a stink eye from admin again because when he handed back mine (screen cracked) and "apologized" I told him I didn't accept his apology and hoped he'd get held back from the upcoming sports tournament (he was an athlete).
Heh. The kid being an athlete? Thanks for giving mean EXACT description of what they look like.
I was always got in trouble in Elementary school for things that everyone else was doing. Everyone having a snowball fight, I was in the general vicinity, just watching, and teacher screamed at me for causing the snowball fight because I was the closest one she saw and I was sent to the principal who said "I should know better because I'm the smart kid in the class." No one would listen to my side of the story for anything, anytime I got in trouble for doing something that every other kid is doing because I was supposed to be the "responsible smart kid". I'm was just a kid who wants to be a kid and do the stuff everyone else is doing, but no, I was wrong for having fun.
You’re not the only one 🥲😶
And then people tell you that being a child is the best time of your life.
I would hate to be a child again.
Sometimes I was the only one who got in trouble while I was doing the activity that everyone else was doing too
They were mad about a snowball fight?
@@Mythmasyer4728 It was a huge no-no at my school because kids could potentially get hurt. I always thought it was a stupid rule. Snowball fights are a kids staple. If you don't want to get hurt, don't join in!
This video unlocked some core memories that I try to forget. One of my greatest fears in life now is to be blamed for a crime I didn't commit. It's second to pain and torture.
4:26-4:37 I liked the facial expressions and the inner monolog
5:34-5:44 How the kids pop up in and out of frame and the teacher's facial expression is hysterical
"I laid my SOUL BARE"
I was held in trouble for saying the Pledge of Allegiance in German, despite this being my 1st amendment right to speak any language I please. I was lectured by THREE adults on how I had the right to speak German but was "making the other students uncomfortable". One even tried to guilt me with the "social and political climate we're in". But, in fact, none of the students cared. Heck, half the class was sitting or on their devices during the Pledge.
Adults get so worked up about the Pledge, when in reality no student cares enough to be offended
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@@LDogSmiles adults have to pretend to care because they know they're being watched by other adults who double pretend to care .
What ??? Someone said and you didn't care ? Clearly that means you support him ! Burn ! Nobody's allowed to say .
Dude, I relate. One school I went to under the bush admin, would force us to watch a video of George W Bush talking every morning and then say the pledge of allegence and even though it is our right to refuse, it was not in this school. They would force you. You could get in trouble for not participating. Psycho authoritarianism in that school. Was only there for a year before switching, probably because of a few incidences that happened there...
Wait people actually said that
Somehow, Andy is the only one who can make entire stories seem out of context by simply existing
I remember this one time, back when I used to work at Walmart, when my department manager yelled at me in front of customers because he thought I used his first name on the radio when I was actually calling for him and another associate who happened to have his last name as his first name to help move a heavy pallet with a forklift. I explained what happened, but I don't think he ever apologized.
It was embarrassing as Hell, and I remember holding back tears in front of the customers afterwards.
I have supervisors right now who tear you a new one in front of everyone if someone else does something wrong.
You set foot in the fucking place and they rip you a new one because others have screwed up before you. Or you’re hauling rear trying to get orders out (it’s grocery delivery), and they rip you a new one because everyone is slow or you’re the only one there that day because of short staffing and you had to deal with being an hour behind with customers screaming at you.
At one point an employee who doesn’t give a crap about how he does and doesn’t do his job correctly yelled at me for checking his work before sending it out saying he’d be blamed.
I snapped back at him that three supervisors have yelled at me for his work and I didn’t want to be blamed for his behavior again.
That finally stopped him from speaking up about me checking him. I am so happy that I found a new job next week.
anyone who has worked at walmart will definitely have the most horrible working experience ever... sorry that happened to you
All I learned from middle school was that no matter how honest and logical you are, some authority figures won’t believe or listen to you. I also learned that adults aren’t as smart as they seem.
Yes
Used happen to me constantly all throughout K-12. Somehow I was almost always singled out in class for things I didn’t do. It led to me have zero trust or respect for teachers and school administration as a whole. Despite being a good student in AP classes, I would get yelled at for having the gall to ask a question or ask for help if I was being treated unfairly. I learned very early on to just shut up, be invisible and figure things out myself, yet somehow trouble would always find me while somehow other students would get away with other blatant classroom offenses.
I grew up with no one I could trust or turn to, which has helped in the sense of learning to fend for myself but has caused immensely more damage personally and emotionally. I used to be numb to everything growing up, and over the past six months or so I notice I’m beginning to act out due to a lifetime of repressed anger and trauma. I just notice I have a very short fuse for bullshit lately- while the past 20 years I’ve always been the calm and level head to turn to no matter what the situation. It’s beginning to scare me, and I don’t even know where to begin to start to get help. I can’t afford therapy, and even if I could I don’t trust them due to school faculty spilling the beans on conversations I had begged to be in confidence. I just feel like a pot that’s constantly boiling over at this point.
It depends on how much faith you have in it, but prayer is, at least, free, and God is always eager to help us if we but ask Him. Can't hurt to try. Ask for help controlling your temper, and ask for guidance on what to do to get to a better place. Then watch for opportunities; they may surprise you. The worst thing that can happen is you waste a few minutes in private, right?
You could also talk to strangers on the great wide web. There’s places like discord and other chat apps where it’s not very difficult to find random people to talk to anonymously. You can try to engage in communities you’re apart of, such as TH-cam comment sections. It may take some time to find the right person/people but once you do, in my experience it’s so much easier to tell an anonymous stranger personal things than a therapist or friend. There isn’t much trust required because they don’t know you and it’s unlikely they ever really will. Of course be safe about it and don’t use any real names and all that if you do this. Shut down weirdos right away. Obviously. But you know, it’s free, and it can be mutually beneficial. And it seems like something you can do, since you commented all of that.
tbh the only time i started to turn to being more social was in middle school when i was in a kind of gifted and talented program and there were finally more kids who were like me
A program I know about is called WIZe. I can’t remember off the top of my head what it stands for, and I’m not positive that there is a version for adults, but I think that would be something you could at least look into a little. It has definitely helped me in the past
I'm sorry about all the hardships that have happened.
I also suggest praying. And looking for opportunities.
But another suggestion is, if you have anyone, even one person, that you trust, speak to them. They might be able to help.
Another another suggestion I have is get in touch with your local missionaries from the Church of Jesus Christ of later day saints. They are young men and women who dedicate a couple years to serving people. They can help you get in touch with local church leaders. Even if you have no interest in going to church, the church does offer free counseling services.
I hope this helps. 💜
That story about the teacher and how he reacted to the magic trick filled me with unbridled rage for a few seconds, I feel that.
As an also late adhd diagnosis, I discovered Rejection Sensitivity Disorder (RSD) and it explained why getting in trouble and receiving criticism felt so much worse than what others experienced. I also had a lot of these kinds of situations and I still get mad about a lot of them so you’re not alone 😂
i just looked this up wtf i thought i was just depressed this actually makes so much more sense (also late adhd diagnosis)
wait that has a name?! I always thought I had some kind of PTSD from being yelled at by authority figures for years!
not quite ADHD diagnosed yet, but i definitely have RSD and have cried when in trouble by teachers and others since i was little. Didnt help that my mum was the "let her cry it out" type.
@@randomgeneration7781 i used to think it was that as well :') its possible your bad experiences still caused you at least minor ptsd, especially if you have RSD
Autism and ADHD, if theirs something the opposite of RSD I have that. For whatever reason criticism barely ever effected me in any way, not even in the normal “this is just a normal criticism” sort of way I would listen to these people, wonder why they’re bothering to say it, if it goes on too long I get bored and if theirs something I have any desire to work on that was mentioned then I’ll take it into consideration. It felt like a boring lecture to me. The only times I got upset was out of a sense of inconvenience rather than injustice or bullying (unless the bullying was also inconvenient)the bullying eventually stopped when I got older and morphed into some people being scared of me for some reason and a lot of girls hitting on me (which I never picked up on until someone pointed it out after the fact)
It’s like my aura of apathy just blocked out the haters.
I still vividly remember when I unjustly got in trouble, at music class, when i was 10. During recess, the boys (which includes me) all went outside to play various games, while the girls stayed inside the classroom (Splitting boys and girls this way wasn't the default way of spending recess, just happened to be the case that time). When recess was over, the teacher lady send one of the girls to come tell us boys that class is starting again and come back inside. But we never heard or saw her do it. I think she just barely came around the corner and said to come back inside, nobody heard her over the sound of playing, and she just went back in without any confirmation from us. So then, 5 minutes later, teacher lady came get us, angrily we didn't listen to the girl and tried to extend recess. No matter how much we said we didn't hear or see anything, she believed the girl, who claimed she did called us 'properly', and all boys got some punishment to do before next class.
i can honestly say that some boys in that group would do something like purposefully ignoring a call like that, but that was the minority of boys in that group. Most, including me, wouldn't not do such a thing. Unfair!
The amount of repressed rage and sadness I have built up over the years of taking hits for others has put me on a borderline. It’s a pin drop before I put hands on someone.
It's a shame that this is how society is headed. I don't blame you, it's a fncked system.
do it 😃
@@AmythestAnimations dude it’s been a month. I Molly whopped someone a Minute ago.
good :)@@SeventhGod77
When I was in preschool, I was part of an after-school program for children whose parents couldn’t pick them up right away. One day, while I was using the bathroom, a group of rowdy kids came in and started kicking and banging on my stall door. A teacher came by to see what was going on, but since she was outside the bathroom and I was inside the stall, I couldn’t participate in the conversation. The group of kids immediately blamed me for kicking the door and left without any consequences. The teacher waited for me to exit the bathroom, and I got in trouble. I was sent to the preschool principal’s office and had to wait for my mom to pick me up. Despite my protests, no one believed that I wasn’t responsible for the damage. It was a terrible experience. 😔
Are you saying there was physical damage? Cuz if so wouldn't you be able to tell from which side the damage was dealt?
@ingeaten I honestly couldn't remember since it was super long ago, but I don't think there was damage
Besides the school was one of those schools that didn't have a dictatorial rule where everything gets monitored so it could've slipped by without anyone even caring (if it was broken)