It's very difficult to try and change someone's habits and addictions which you know are destroying them. I have a daughter who is 153 kilograms. I have touched on the subject of her weight several times and even paid for a swim and gym membership a couple of years ago. A week ago, I pointed out how concerned I was and was quite direct in warning her of likely health problems. She has now been on social media describing me as "toxic" and "abusive".
@Lookup2Wakeup I'm not an emotional person but I find it distressing to think of the precious little thing who I would have guarded with my life and supported through her whole life would think of me this way. I'm still hopeful and optimistic for reconciliation.
@@Parawingdelta2 She's probably having her behavior enabled and validated by the "body positive" "anti-fat shaming" far left woke culture online. These people are the real toxic ones who cheer people on into an early grave. I'm sure you're a loving father and I hope she'll come around. All the best friend.
Listening to your and other guys/gals experiences makes a real difference. We're in this life together, and sooner we realise we can help and support each other on whatever subject (instead of bitch and wreck) the better. Loved this video, truly supports. My ex-wife is an alcoholic who didn't want to change, preferred to stew in her own negative thoughts, and she ruined a very good marriage and young family; there's no go-around, no second go at it either. I have my own addictions but have faced up and accepted the lot as fearlessly as I can. It sucks, it's painful, I still crave what will ultimately cause me shedloads of trouble, but I stay off because staying off it's the only thing that makes my life better. And little by little my life has got better. So your words resonate Tim, and the sentiment and knowing it's not just me, really help. Here's to the Lionhearts.
4 years in for me , really difficult first few months years in social situations - I’ve found when people challenge you for not drinking just saying I have to for medical reasons seems to deflect most negative reactions and confrontation
Tea is the best! I'm over 1000 days free from alcohol now. I like watching planes from the ground, but I stumbled across your channel just now. 8 weeks into going alcohol free my husband died suddenly in a motorbike accident. Being off alcohol has saved my life. Every day isn't beautiful, rainbows and unicorns but there is beauty in every day. Life without alcohol in it, is a much better life, not perfect but better
Tim, please keep doing the videos. I never thought I would ask someone I knew could fly jets about stopping drinking rather than the flying, but here we are.
Gave up drinking when I was 38 yr old. Used to drink all the time. Giving it up was the best thing ever. Working out 🏋♀ squatting makes you feel awesome - waking up without feeling bad and more focused and driven
I can never be bored with this subject as I have never understood its complexity. Having been in hospital over 30 times with various health issues I have seen many alcoholics in opposite beds struggling badly with alcoholism. Most were having alcohol smuggled in and the few on withdrawal could not cope going into violent madness throwing cups etc at Nurses and other patients. Hence hospitals have plastic drinking jugs and drinking vessels. A Senior Sister who has spent 20 years dealing will drug and drink dependency said the patient had to want to get better for the treatment to work. So admitting having a problem is very key to making progress. For you Tim I totally respect your honesty and frankness.... A lesson to us all. If we cannot admit to having a personal problem then we are only lying to ourselves like an addictive gambler who says tthat they have won the £100 Bandit prize. Er.. No you have not... you've just pumped £300 in to get £100 out... so you have lost £200! Keep it up Tim... I hope you used a digital vernier height gauge to check the strimming is within your allowed tolerances! You have a super wife Tim. Lucky you. Don't do what my Dad's colleague did at BAe... He his wife an iron for their Wedding Anniversary.. Legend! Divorced and she cleared him out... Still took the fucking iron too.. Lol.
Tell people “I can’t drink for medical reasons “ people then stop trying to force it on you. In the early days don’t go to places that stimulate your triggers , pubs especially. Once you have stopped then you have to clear out the closet (emotional issues). Good Luck to you all battling this. 1 day at a time try not to project just stay sober for today ! Worry about tomorrow when you are there.
The biggest thing to consider is the health benefits of not drinking, as you get older is the higher health dependency and poor health, poorer daily awareness, and the risks of doing something stupid and regret later. ❤ you mate thank for your vlogs
While in treatment for H, I did a course called intuitive thinking. The main things that helped me where understanding the amygdala and why it makes you crave things (caveman brain), and before giving in and going to score, writing out a list of everyone you love and how you are hurting them by continuing to be an addict. That would usually fill about two pages and by the end of it, I would hate myself for wanting to pick up. The most difficult thing to deal with is the unexpected sudden temptation. That takes real strength.
I've given up sugar and smoking, but i keep going back to alcohol. After a week or so i forget the horrible mornings and just have a couple and im back on it again, till i give up once more.
Massive respect to you for these videos Tim. I had my last drink 24 December 2023. Now 3 months in. Pretty tough as a student at uni but you can make it work! I genuinely feel so much better. Better sleep, better skin and a much more positive outlook on life and the future.
Tim you smashed this mate so much common sense. I stopped Drinking 7 years ago as my life was a car crash, admittedly I went to AA because I was really fucked in the head but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done outside of having children.
Listening in to your dialogues on drinking Tim, brings it home to me just how addictive it is. I've been so lucky because I never experienced that addiction, although I did binge drink in my youth. I'm an old fossil now, still like but don't need the occasional social drink, but I have stopped needling friends who drink too much. They need it.
When I was young I figured out I couldn’t drink without taking drugs, I was not a happy drunk but the other levelled me out, it was something I buried my lack of coping in. My biological dad is a drunk. Finding a job I loved saved my life and having my daughter opened up a part of me I never imagined I was missing. I’ve now given up smoking, I’m running and swimming, this process has taken 15 years but I feel amazing now, I do struggle with going out though, I feel like a spare part when other people drink.
Good for you. Keep it up! I don’t drink much, prefer weed tbh! My brother gave up drinking 2 years ago & he did drink too much & I’m proud that he gave up along with smoking & he’s a different person now. Totally changed his diet too. I do miss going out for a few beers with him when he comes down from London but it’s a small price
Love Berlin, love the Germans, posted to RAF Gatow back in 89 to 26SU, great time to be there with the fall of the wall, left the RAF in 96. Enjoy your videos mate.
Tim, you are an inspiration. We are the same age yet our lives could not be more different. I returned to the family home at 32 to assist an acoholic father look after my mother who had suffered a catastrophic brain injury. Goldfish memory and loss of long term memory were she didn't recognise me as her youngest child stood before her. I have given up and returned to alcohol many times and NEVER wanted it to form me as a person but sometimes, needs much. Will always listen to you and your words of wisdom for they are gold. Thank you Timbo!
I can relate to what you're saying geez, if you're using alcohol to suppress feelings you can't drink enough to beat them. Drank heavily for 30 years through the fire service, just done 9 months to clear it out my system, had a couple of beers and a glass of wine last week and didn't enjoy it. It disrupted my sleep again and made anxiety worse. Can't see me going back to it.
My boy's in the Royal Navy, he's 23 and he and the young lads around him have got a saying. "Giving up booze is like a free pay rise" :-) there is some real hope in the attitude of some of our young'ns. I'm proud of him, he's a good lad.
I spent three months on a hospital ward with alcoholics, and I stress, I'm NOT a drinker, it's just where they put me, and most of the patients I was with suffered very serious consequences through drinking, a couple of people had been through the last chance saloon and didn't make it, it wasn't a pretty sight or sound watching them die, the nurse asked this chap if he wanted a drink of water, he snapped back saying he wanted water, with alcohol, he died soon after. Another fellow was warned if he touched alcohol again his pancreas would go into spasm and there would be nothing they could do for the pain, he is in his twenties. Spend some time on a ward like that, believe me, you will never touch the stuff again.
To my mind, the hardest part is peer pressure ... and alcohol is everywhere you look ☹☹ Be a man or woman enough to say "No thanks, I don't drink" and walk away from anyone who does not respect that.
Eyup laaaad! Tim don't put yourself or your videos down you only have to realise the majority of TH-cam is rubbish "look at me" muppets, the help you provide us is huge I just hope you get something from us all in return with our community comments! Take care Boss!
There will always be like minded people who are staying alcohol free in ur local communitys. AA is good set up, there will be AA groups online for more information. Don't beat urself up if u have a drink again, try to learn ur triggers for drinking again. Fellowship is a powerful group. Peace ✌️
A really well made soda with ice , lemon and lime juice now tastes as good to me as a cold beer or G&T used to , I thank God for giving me the strength to keep off the alcohol , over 3 years now
Agree, Tim is authentic and credible on this topic and the rest. So many channels just do not have that authentic touch, they say similar words but have never walked the walk. Great leadership needs authenticity. Tim has that in spades.
I'd stopped drinking about a year when I decided to varnish a wooden cupboard. It was winter time and I had the window shut. I got so high I forgot I didn't drink any more and decided to go down the pub. Luckily someone came in and stopped me. I'm still dry 30 years later.
I’ve been on a keto lifestyle now. The last ten years have been amazing. Now 60 years young ,I find it’s teaching me to just say NO! No more sugars or bad food. I was a serious sugar addict. Thanks for all your great advice. Love the channel x
I commented on your last post on this: I found myself nursing a drink for the sake of other people. I'm just straight about it (in a non-knobber way) "Thanks, I'll stick to this if that's ok" "This" is usually OJ and fizzy water or a non-alcoholic beer (I've found a few I actually like). What I would say to your guy who's about to get married and worrying about his weight - it might be worth getting a blood test done for HbA1c because his blood sugar may be out of kilter and potentially peri-diabetic. if that's the case he may be able to arrest that before it develops over a period of time into type 2 diabetes. There are some warning signs of this to note: feeling tired, get up and go got up and gone, thirsty at night and needing to go the toilet more than usual, changes in eyesight, feeling dizzy after a meal. I'd seriously suggest that when you get to your middle ages you just get it checked as routine as it's surprising how many people are undiagnosed (I was in Nov last year, I think I've been living with it fort about 5 or 6 years).
Great video Tim, have a friend who I have mentioned before. Near 50, still on the fosters, haven't seen for a while, was a great mechanic, had own business, on my list of people I respect. Now on long term sick, walking with a stick. Not purely down to drink,soft drugs aswell. Such a shame to see the difference from say 10 years ago.
My bus. partners former hubby alcoholic. He would drive home from work having drunk 4 cans and empties chucked out of window. Would go local petrol station buy 4 more cans same evening, use refuel as excuse.. Finish off at home. Odd bottles kept back as presents he drank. Drank anything, wine, beer, cider. Nip outside smoke. What happened, heart problems and diabetes. He had 2 visits to hospital to restart his heart as it went to 180 bpm. Sweats. My bus. partner said you could feel his heart thumping through the bed.
Hi Tim Love your videos common sense man to man talks! I'm 64yo and I appreciate your straight forward talk and bare honesty. We need men like you tough straight forward manly and honest with your struggles. Keep up the good work pal. The best role model for any man (& woman) is Jesus Christ. Jesus is Lord!
I can so relate, I hit that point were it didn’t hit the spot anymore, at first it seemed to help ease shit but then it just creeps up and doesn’t seem to help anymore, I did fry Jan this year, with a few non alcoholic beers, went great but slipped back in again
Great content. 20 years for me, after some false starts - just by not having a beer ‘today’ and not promissing myself one ‘tomorrow’. I worried a lot about ‘what will people assume, if i dont drink at this party or that occasion?’ Will they realise….I started off, so many times intending to just have ‘a couple’ and massively over did it? - so i pretended a few times to be ‘on antibiotics, best i dont’ - for toothache or whatever. Eventualy i realised, very few care or notice. But no ones opinion is worth throwing away your peace of mind for. Be sober for the day you are living in, dont over think it & dont plan exceptions for special days……i ruined my daughters christening celebration that way. If anybody is threatened by you not drinking, they may need to take a good look in the mirror…..but never tell them that, just move out of their orbit and hang with the people who enjoy you as you….and dont need you to be a drinking partner. It gets easier pretty fast. If i can do it, anybody can.
I have never had a problem with drinking until last year, when I felt like I was starting to get to the point where I was drinking something every day, and I felt I had to have alcohol in the house, even if I didn't drink. I gave it up for 4 months, but unfortunately, I broke my keto diet and got back on sugar after 2 years off. I found that I am really addicted to sugar, and I behave around it like other people do with alcohol or drugs. I can have alcohol in the house without drinking. I can not have any sweets or baked goods in the house without eating it. I know sugar isn't as damaging as alcohol, but remember: After the Seven Years' War, France gave up all their claims on Canada to get their sugar plantations in the West Indies back. Sugar is one helluva drug.
Tim, I have never drunk alcohol so that probably explains why I am content with my own company and people regard me as socially awkward. You and I share an interest in military aircraft (60 years of visiting airshows)so I am interested in your channel. For what it's worth I share your views on DEI. Being retired, I can say what I think. Keep going. I am now a subscriber.
Thank you for this one Tim, much appreciated. Since my last comment, I have been sorely tempted by beer but still haven't touched one. Unfortunately, we're into the season of my other nemesis - chocolate! Anyway, despite smashing a couple of Easter eggs. today's weight was 94.3 kg. Definitely going the right way and, in no small way, you're inspiring that! Anyone for tea?
I packed in drinking back in 2018. That not to say I don’t very occasionally imbibe, very very occasionally! I’ll take a dram of my favourite Welsh malt but a bottle will last months but I absolutely have no need to drink at all! A good brew or a coffee hits the spot every time. It does get easier over time that is for sure! A bit like smoking I gave up 100s of times before actually achieving it but finally quit in 74! I blame both habits on the airforce it was enough to drive anyone to drink
3 and a bit years in fuck yeah still get days I miss it but I know if I have one, 3 and a bit years down the pan. All out there like all of us who want to stay dry , keep listening to the positives. Great video again Tim
My bro retired with an RAF issued drink problem. He’s still on two bottles of wine a day. He hasn’t hit the edge of the cliff yet so thinks it’s not approaching.
Ive known many people who stopped smoking when diagnosed with lung cancer, too late of course. I suggest a visit to ones doctor and have liver tests done and if they are seriously deranged then that might be the wake up call needed.
Lad our flying school went to heli meet in France. Lots of military there. They drank till 2 in the morning and up at 7 to prepare to fly. Lightening pilot on airline course invited us to pub. One lad asked for orange. He said wouldn't get on in air force due drinking culture drinking that stuff..
Your videos on alcohol are incredibly useful! However, if they kill your channel off, don't feel compelled to continue with them. Thank you and cheers!
Almost 11 years off alcohol, your physical and mental health will be way better without alcohol. As for events and special occasions there are good zero alcohol options available - beer, wine. In terms of how to do it, just stop rather than wean off, get through the first day, get through the first week, the first month then get to 3, 6, 9 and then 12 months and you can do it. As for wedding days there is no need for alcohol, if others want it, fine.
Important topic. Especially for military laaads. I got atrial flutter from doing long cycle rides then hitting the sauce at the end of it. Found out it was a trigger for me. Had a catheter ablation and literally stopped drinking after that procedure. It was torture. Drinking was never worth it, and looking back, I was always a dick when I did. Just give it up, be that guy and live your own best lives. Good luck everyone. Mines an orange pekoe with milk no sugar. Lad.
Scaffolder here.. I basically don't drink! If I got work the next day! Plus thai boxing 3times week... Alcohol is terrible stuff.. but no point letting it ruin the fun in life.. you have to rule it not it rule you! In my opinion .. drinking everyday is terrible correct.. 👍
So is alcoholism a congenital spiritual disability?? As a non-addict I lived / worked in a residential rehab unit for more than a year and I came to believe that it is.
Why did he quit drinking in the first place ? He needs to think about that and then decide if he still wants to drink . no hangovers , no anxiety , no making a fool of yourself , no accidents , no bad behaviour etc ,
Did you fly hung over? Or during your active years were you still able to completely separate the two? I could be satiated when I first got back with a nice tall bottle, fresh, I'd be satiated until it started to get down to the last two or three, then I'd have to make a plan to get more.
One of the tips is DONT BUY THE DRINKS PAKAGE ON BOARD CRUISE SHIPS ………..it will encourage you to drink ..and you will not drink your moneys worth either..! 😊
Sorry with my typing... I have a neuropathy issue where it cab 18 degrees and I fell warm then 23 degrees and I feel cold. With low blood pressure my hands are always ice cold even when I wear goose down mitts used on Everest. Currently I can't do any buttons up on my clothing. Hence my typing is not 100%. Ty for understanding. Ex RAF Phantom Electrical Technician.
In my 50s now and I think it starts hindering dwindling testosterone levels and recovery abilities. I cant just run or workout a hang over off any more.
I have a drink at the weekend with the wife, couple of Gin's, but that is literally it.........I don't crave it, but I do enjoy them, I don't consider I have a problem with it ? occasionally I might have a Gin mid week, but rare ? How is that perceived from the outside I wonder ? My wife is a teacher, she is a secret drinker in the week, much like MR Ballbag.....I have tried to take it head on , and thankfully she is not extreme with it, but it does concern me a lot.
As a civvy who worked in MOD, legion are the number of times I've had to say to service people, particularly officers, on the telephone, "Could you please slow down sir. I can't understand what your saying" (The combination of speed and shorthand acronyms being fstal). Relaxez -vous, . . . ,your're in retirement . . you've got a fooking stonking MOD pension, acknowledge it ? Why cling to the need to keep proving a thing ? Seek an alternative activity that doesn't require the constant imprisonment of self-validation. Its an institutional fixation. Ramp down. Slow down a bit . . there's a discipline in that. Substitute slow delivery comfort/gratification for fast acting ? Honestly. you don't want to be in a contemporary NHS Urology/gastro ward, overstretched as they are and with revised working practices, care of American management consultants, that make Camp Dora feel like nirvana. (I was an in patient for reasons other than the gargling fluid)
Out of interest as you were an ex RAF instructor, how would you HONESTLY view a student who was tea total back in the day and didnt engage in mess drinking games ? Interesting probing the military mind set sometimes !
Probably as a bit of an outsider and maybe not so much of a team player. I now realise how wrong I would have been but, that said, we did have students who didn't drink, not many of them, but I don't remember thinking any different about them at the time.
My father was an alcoholic.... He tried to kick it many times but always went back. He was told by hospital/docs etc he wouldnt make it to 60 when he was 52....... He died age 59 !
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Tea is all you need, tea is the best thing ever we British invented.
British invented tea? 🤣🤣🤣🤦🤦🤦💩 You must be properly brainwashed and close minded!!!
the Chinese may have somthing to say about that🙃
Please do yourself a favour and "educate" yourself by watching "Asterix in Britain (1986)". Trust me, it's well worth it! :D
:) he means proper tea, a brew, with milk @@anthonyg4671
@@anthonyg4671 1700's Chinese employed 3 million making cups and tea pots.
It's very difficult to try and change someone's habits and addictions which you know are destroying them. I have a daughter who is 153 kilograms. I have touched on the subject of her weight several times and even paid for a swim and gym membership a couple of years ago. A week ago, I pointed out how concerned I was and was quite direct in warning her of likely health problems. She has now been on social media describing me as "toxic" and "abusive".
@Lookup2Wakeup I'm not an emotional person but I find it distressing to think of the precious little thing who I would have guarded with my life and supported through her whole life would think of me this way. I'm still hopeful and optimistic for reconciliation.
@@Parawingdelta2 She's probably having her behavior enabled and validated by the "body positive" "anti-fat shaming" far left woke culture online.
These people are the real toxic ones who cheer people on into an early grave.
I'm sure you're a loving father and I hope she'll come around. All the best friend.
Send her some statistics and tell her to get mad at them instead of you!!!
And if she keeps that public embarrassment up- your out.
@jamessones4044 Unfortunately, after even more animosity, our relationship seems to have come to an end.
Nice one Tim..from a functioning alcoholic, ex RAF Regt. Recent liver/Pancreatic pains are telling me to junk it. Working on it mate. Thanks!
Tim, keep talking. A lot of us don't have this in our lives. Thank you.
Listening to your and other guys/gals experiences makes a real difference. We're in this life together, and sooner we realise we can help and support each other on whatever subject (instead of bitch and wreck) the better. Loved this video, truly supports.
My ex-wife is an alcoholic who didn't want to change, preferred to stew in her own negative thoughts, and she ruined a very good marriage and young family; there's no go-around, no second go at it either. I have my own addictions but have faced up and accepted the lot as fearlessly as I can. It sucks, it's painful, I still crave what will ultimately cause me shedloads of trouble, but I stay off because staying off it's the only thing that makes my life better. And little by little my life has got better. So your words resonate Tim, and the sentiment and knowing it's not just me, really help. Here's to the Lionhearts.
Inspiring positivity and candid words. Cracking stuff well worth a listen.
Tim, your videos about this are so very helpful. Thank you
USAF pilot here… you made me laugh with the tea.
The rest. Real talk, man. You’re a real dude.
4 years in for me , really difficult first few months years in social situations - I’ve found when people challenge you for not drinking just saying I have to for medical reasons seems to deflect most negative reactions and confrontation
Tea is the best! I'm over 1000 days free from alcohol now. I like watching planes from the ground, but I stumbled across your channel just now. 8 weeks into going alcohol free my husband died suddenly in a motorbike accident. Being off alcohol has saved my life. Every day isn't beautiful, rainbows and unicorns but there is beauty in every day. Life without alcohol in it, is a much better life, not perfect but better
I wish you all the best, sometimes the hardest challenges come at the worst of times. Take care.
Tim, please keep doing the videos. I never thought I would ask someone I knew could fly jets about stopping drinking rather than the flying, but here we are.
Gave up drinking when I was 38 yr old. Used to drink all the time. Giving it up was the best thing ever. Working out 🏋♀ squatting makes you feel awesome - waking up without feeling bad and more focused and driven
I can never be bored with this subject as I have never understood its complexity. Having been in hospital over 30 times with various health issues I have seen many alcoholics in opposite beds struggling badly with alcoholism. Most were having alcohol smuggled in and the few on withdrawal could not cope going into violent madness throwing cups etc at Nurses and other patients. Hence hospitals have plastic drinking jugs and drinking vessels.
A Senior Sister who has spent 20 years dealing will drug and drink dependency said the patient had to want to get better for the treatment to work. So admitting having a problem is very key to making progress. For you Tim I totally respect your honesty and frankness.... A lesson to us all. If we cannot admit to having a personal problem then we are only lying to ourselves like an addictive gambler who says tthat they have won the £100 Bandit prize. Er.. No you have not... you've just pumped £300 in to get £100 out... so you have lost £200!
Keep it up Tim... I hope you used a digital vernier height gauge to check the strimming is within your allowed tolerances! You have a super wife Tim. Lucky you. Don't do what my Dad's colleague did at BAe... He his wife an iron for their Wedding Anniversary.. Legend! Divorced and she cleared him out... Still took the fucking iron too.. Lol.
Tell people “I can’t drink for medical reasons “ people then stop trying to force it on you. In the early days don’t go to places that stimulate your triggers , pubs especially. Once you have stopped then you have to clear out the closet (emotional issues). Good Luck to you all battling this. 1 day at a time try not to project just stay sober for today ! Worry about tomorrow when you are there.
John: Peer pressure is the hardest to fight ... walk away from 'friends' if they don't respect your "no I don't drink, thanks"
The biggest thing to consider is the health benefits of not drinking, as you get older is the higher health dependency and poor health, poorer daily awareness, and the risks of doing something stupid and regret later. ❤ you mate thank for your vlogs
While in treatment for H, I did a course called intuitive thinking. The main things that helped me where understanding the amygdala and why it makes you crave things (caveman brain), and before giving in and going to score, writing out a list of everyone you love and how you are hurting them by continuing to be an addict. That would usually fill about two pages and by the end of it, I would hate myself for wanting to pick up. The most difficult thing to deal with is the unexpected sudden temptation. That takes real strength.
I enjoy your walking videos too. They inspire me to walk more.
I've given up sugar and smoking, but i keep going back to alcohol.
After a week or so i forget the horrible mornings and just have a couple and im back on it again, till i give up once more.
Massive respect to you for these videos Tim. I had my last drink 24 December 2023. Now 3 months in. Pretty tough as a student at uni but you can make it work!
I genuinely feel so much better. Better sleep, better skin and a much more positive outlook on life and the future.
Hi Tim. I am ex RAF but left many years ago. I find your brutal honesty in these videos extremely inspiring. Thank you 🙏
Well done Tim Stay off it.
God bless you Tim! Legend!🇬🇧👍
Tim you smashed this mate so much common sense. I stopped Drinking 7 years ago as my life was a car crash, admittedly I went to AA because I was really fucked in the head but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done outside of having children.
Listening in to your dialogues on drinking Tim, brings it home to me just how addictive it is. I've been so lucky because I never experienced that addiction, although I did binge drink in my youth.
I'm an old fossil now, still like but don't need the occasional social drink, but I have stopped needling friends who drink too much. They need it.
When I was young I figured out I couldn’t drink without taking drugs, I was not a happy drunk but the other levelled me out, it was something I buried my lack of coping in. My biological dad is a drunk. Finding a job I loved saved my life and having my daughter opened up a part of me I never imagined I was missing. I’ve now given up smoking, I’m running and swimming, this process has taken 15 years but I feel amazing now, I do struggle with going out though, I feel like a spare part when other people drink.
Yes, I try and prioritise mornings because the evenings make me still feel quite low sometimes.
Good for you. Keep it up! I don’t drink much, prefer weed tbh! My brother gave up drinking 2 years ago & he did drink too much & I’m proud that he gave up along with smoking & he’s a different person now. Totally changed his diet too. I do miss going out for a few beers with him when he comes down from London but it’s a small price
Love Berlin, love the Germans, posted to RAF Gatow back in 89 to 26SU, great time to be there with the fall of the wall, left the RAF in 96.
Enjoy your videos mate.
I do love your no nonsense plain speaking.
No crap just honesty 👍
Not a big drinker, but a very interesting video.
Good man !
For a minute I thought this was going to be a fast-jet themed bench press tutorial. 💪
Tim, you are an inspiration. We are the same age yet our lives could not be more different. I returned to the family home at 32 to assist an acoholic father look after my mother who had suffered a catastrophic brain injury. Goldfish memory and loss of long term memory were she didn't recognise me as her youngest child stood before her. I have given up and returned to alcohol many times and NEVER wanted it to form me as a person but sometimes, needs much. Will always listen to you and your words of wisdom for they are gold. Thank you Timbo!
I can relate to what you're saying geez, if you're using alcohol to suppress feelings you can't drink enough to beat them. Drank heavily for 30 years through the fire service, just done 9 months to clear it out my system, had a couple of beers and a glass of wine last week and didn't enjoy it. It disrupted my sleep again and made anxiety worse. Can't see me going back to it.
Thanks again Tim you are a massive help
My boy's in the Royal Navy, he's 23 and he and the young lads around him have got a saying. "Giving up booze is like a free pay rise" :-) there is some real hope in the attitude of some of our young'ns. I'm proud of him, he's a good lad.
I spent three months on a hospital ward with alcoholics, and I stress, I'm NOT a drinker, it's just where they put me, and most of the patients I was with suffered very serious consequences through drinking, a couple of people had been through the last chance saloon and didn't make it, it wasn't a pretty sight or sound watching them die, the nurse asked this chap if he wanted a drink of water, he snapped back saying he wanted water, with alcohol, he died soon after. Another fellow was warned if he touched alcohol again his pancreas would go into spasm and there would be nothing they could do for the pain, he is in his twenties. Spend some time on a ward like that, believe me, you will never touch the stuff again.
To my mind, the hardest part is peer pressure ... and alcohol is everywhere you look ☹☹
Be a man or woman enough to say "No thanks, I don't drink" and walk away from anyone who does not respect that.
Love your honesty. And your channel. Thank you.
Do the videos, Tim. They are awesome. They are really helpful. It's interesting to hear about how your wife dealt with it.
Eyup laaaad! Tim don't put yourself or your videos down you only have to realise the majority of TH-cam is rubbish "look at me" muppets, the help you provide us is huge I just hope you get something from us all in return with our community comments! Take care Boss!
Keep doing these videos the people who don’t like it are the ones who need to give up!!!
There will always be like minded people who are staying alcohol free in ur local communitys. AA is good set up, there will be AA groups online for more information. Don't beat urself up if u have a drink again, try to learn ur triggers for drinking again. Fellowship is a powerful group. Peace ✌️
A really well made soda with ice , lemon and lime juice now tastes as good to me as a cold beer or G&T used to , I thank God for giving me the strength to keep off the alcohol , over 3 years now
Tim.....brilliant as usual. Thanks for your candour.
Agree, Tim is authentic and credible on this topic and the rest. So many channels just do not have that authentic touch, they say similar words but have never walked the walk. Great leadership needs authenticity. Tim has that in spades.
I'd stopped drinking about a year when I decided to varnish a wooden cupboard. It was winter time and I had the window shut. I got so high I forgot I didn't drink any more and decided to go down the pub. Luckily someone came in and stopped me. I'm still dry 30 years later.
I’ve been on a keto lifestyle now. The last ten years have been amazing. Now 60 years young ,I find it’s teaching me to just say NO! No more sugars or bad food. I was a serious sugar addict. Thanks for all your great advice. Love the channel x
Video spot on and not too long.I gave back up New Years Eve and going strong.Well done for your frank no nonesense video......
I commented on your last post on this: I found myself nursing a drink for the sake of other people. I'm just straight about it (in a non-knobber way) "Thanks, I'll stick to this if that's ok" "This" is usually OJ and fizzy water or a non-alcoholic beer (I've found a few I actually like).
What I would say to your guy who's about to get married and worrying about his weight - it might be worth getting a blood test done for HbA1c because his blood sugar may be out of kilter and potentially peri-diabetic. if that's the case he may be able to arrest that before it develops over a period of time into type 2 diabetes. There are some warning signs of this to note: feeling tired, get up and go got up and gone, thirsty at night and needing to go the toilet more than usual, changes in eyesight, feeling dizzy after a meal. I'd seriously suggest that when you get to your middle ages you just get it checked as routine as it's surprising how many people are undiagnosed (I was in Nov last year, I think I've been living with it fort about 5 or 6 years).
have a great weekend yourself Tim. Thanks for the video.
Hey Tim! Just thanks 😉 you and Tony Jeffries helped
Great video Tim, have a friend who I have mentioned before. Near 50, still on the fosters, haven't seen for a while, was a great mechanic, had own business, on my list of people I respect. Now on long term sick, walking with a stick. Not purely down to drink,soft drugs aswell. Such a shame to see the difference from say 10 years ago.
My bus. partners former hubby alcoholic. He would drive home from work having drunk 4 cans and empties chucked out of window. Would go local petrol station buy 4 more cans same evening, use refuel as excuse.. Finish off at home. Odd bottles kept back as presents he drank. Drank anything, wine, beer, cider. Nip outside smoke. What happened, heart problems and diabetes. He had 2 visits to hospital to restart his heart as it went to 180 bpm. Sweats. My bus. partner said you could feel his heart thumping through the bed.
Hi Tim Love your videos common sense man to man talks! I'm 64yo and I appreciate your straight forward talk and bare honesty. We need men like you tough straight forward manly and honest with your struggles. Keep up the good work pal. The best role model for any man (& woman) is Jesus Christ. Jesus is Lord!
Thanks Tim. I know these are old videos but still helping ppl.
💯 percent makes me feel better watching these videos.
I can so relate, I hit that point were it didn’t hit the spot anymore, at first it seemed to help ease shit but then it just creeps up and doesn’t seem to help anymore, I did fry Jan this year, with a few non alcoholic beers, went great but slipped back in again
Thanks
Great advice Tim
Peer pressure is a bastard. Rise above it. Feel above it 😊 Kev
100% the right advice.
appreciate your openness!
Great content. 20 years for me, after some false starts - just by not having a beer ‘today’ and not promissing myself one ‘tomorrow’. I worried a lot about ‘what will people assume, if i dont drink at this party or that occasion?’ Will they realise….I started off, so many times intending to just have ‘a couple’ and massively over did it? - so i pretended a few times to be ‘on antibiotics, best i dont’ - for toothache or whatever. Eventualy i realised, very few care or notice. But no ones opinion is worth throwing away your peace of mind for. Be sober for the day you are living in, dont over think it & dont plan exceptions for special days……i ruined my daughters christening celebration that way. If anybody is threatened by you not drinking, they may need to take a good look in the mirror…..but never tell them that, just move out of their orbit and hang with the people who enjoy you as you….and dont need you to be a drinking partner. It gets easier pretty fast. If i can do it, anybody can.
Ukpitts: some sound advice there - 'friends' who try to tempt you for "just one" are NOT friends 😮
I have never had a problem with drinking until last year, when I felt like I was starting to get to the point where I was drinking something every day, and I felt I had to have alcohol in the house, even if I didn't drink. I gave it up for 4 months, but unfortunately, I broke my keto diet and got back on sugar after 2 years off. I found that I am really addicted to sugar, and I behave around it like other people do with alcohol or drugs. I can have alcohol in the house without drinking. I can not have any sweets or baked goods in the house without eating it. I know sugar isn't as damaging as alcohol, but remember: After the Seven Years' War, France gave up all their claims on Canada to get their sugar plantations in the West Indies back. Sugar is one helluva drug.
Tim, I have never drunk alcohol so that probably explains why I am content with my own company and people regard me as socially awkward. You and I share an interest in military aircraft (60 years of visiting airshows)so I am interested in your channel. For what it's worth I share your views on DEI. Being retired, I can say what I think.
Keep going. I am now a subscriber.
Amazing post Tim.
Thank you for this one Tim, much appreciated. Since my last comment, I have been sorely tempted by beer but still haven't touched one. Unfortunately, we're into the season of my other nemesis - chocolate! Anyway, despite smashing a couple of Easter eggs. today's weight was 94.3 kg. Definitely going the right way and, in no small way, you're inspiring that!
Anyone for tea?
This is a great channel. Fast Jets. Love it.
I packed in drinking back in 2018. That not to say I don’t very occasionally imbibe, very very occasionally! I’ll take a dram of my favourite Welsh malt but a bottle will last months but I absolutely have no need to drink at all! A good brew or a coffee hits the spot every time. It does get easier over time that is for sure! A bit like smoking I gave up 100s of times before actually achieving it but finally quit in 74! I blame both habits on the airforce it was enough to drive anyone to drink
Never bored mate 💥
I love tea. Big up to tea but I do like a drink from time to time. It’s all about self control & not everyone has it.
Have a couple of pilot friends, both boozers but function brilliantly in their careers, which is bloody scary tbh.
3 and a bit years in fuck yeah still get days I miss it but I know if I have one, 3 and a bit years down the pan. All out there like all of us who want to stay dry , keep listening to the positives. Great video again Tim
My bro retired with an RAF issued drink problem. He’s still on two bottles of wine a day. He hasn’t hit the edge of the cliff yet so thinks it’s not approaching.
Ive known many people who stopped smoking when diagnosed with lung cancer, too late of course. I suggest a visit to ones doctor and have liver tests done and if they are seriously deranged then that might be the wake up call needed.
Lad our flying school went to heli meet in France. Lots of military there. They drank till 2 in the morning and up at 7 to prepare to fly.
Lightening pilot on airline course invited us to pub. One lad asked for orange. He said wouldn't get on in air force due drinking culture drinking that stuff..
Its an endless pit, I know that from experience.
Your videos on alcohol are incredibly useful! However, if they kill your channel off, don't feel compelled to continue with them. Thank you and cheers!
Almost 11 years off alcohol, your physical and mental health will be way better without alcohol. As for events and special occasions there are good zero alcohol options available - beer, wine.
In terms of how to do it, just stop rather than wean off, get through the first day, get through the first week, the first month then get to 3, 6, 9 and then 12 months and you can do it. As for wedding days there is no need for alcohol, if others want it, fine.
Blunt but true.
Number one tip if your drink of choice is beer/lager. Buy a Sodastream.......
8 days off . But I failed yesterday 😢. Really hard after 36 years
AA saved my life.I can’t drink safely ever again x
Well said.
I love getting pissed up on my own at weekends.
Important topic. Especially for military laaads. I got atrial flutter from doing long cycle rides then hitting the sauce at the end of it. Found out it was a trigger for me. Had a catheter ablation and literally stopped drinking after that procedure. It was torture. Drinking was never worth it, and looking back, I was always a dick when I did. Just give it up, be that guy and live your own best lives. Good luck everyone. Mines an orange pekoe with milk no sugar. Lad.
Top lad, thanks Ant, all the best to you.
Scaffolder here.. I basically don't drink! If I got work the next day! Plus thai boxing 3times week... Alcohol is terrible stuff.. but no point letting it ruin the fun in life.. you have to rule it not it rule you! In my opinion .. drinking everyday is terrible correct.. 👍
Into coffee now feel better for it.
I always say its not the 1st or 2nd that hurt its the 7th and 8th.
So is alcoholism a congenital spiritual disability??
As a non-addict I lived / worked in a residential rehab unit for more than a year and I came to believe that it is.
Why did he quit drinking in the first place ? He needs to think about that and then decide if he still wants to drink . no hangovers , no anxiety , no making a fool of yourself , no accidents , no bad behaviour etc ,
I like Tim
Did you fly hung over? Or during your active years were you still able to completely separate the two? I could be satiated when I first got back with a nice tall bottle, fresh, I'd be satiated until it started to get down to the last two or three, then I'd have to make a plan to get more.
@@MaxPlankton jag mates were all a bit strange, agreed.
I've met plenty of Jag and Harrier drivers who are knows. Must be something in the water.
One of the tips is DONT BUY THE DRINKS PAKAGE ON BOARD CRUISE SHIPS ………..it will encourage you to drink ..and you will not drink your moneys worth either..! 😊
Sorry with my typing... I have a neuropathy issue where it cab 18 degrees and I fell warm then 23 degrees and I feel cold. With low blood pressure my hands are always ice cold even when I wear goose down mitts used on Everest. Currently I can't do any buttons up on my clothing. Hence my typing is not 100%. Ty for understanding. Ex RAF Phantom Electrical Technician.
In my 50s now and I think it starts hindering dwindling testosterone levels and recovery abilities. I cant just run or workout a hang over off any more.
Not bored mate. Keep it coming. Sent you an email. It's helping me.
I have a drink at the weekend with the wife, couple of Gin's, but that is literally it.........I don't crave it, but I do enjoy them, I don't consider I have a problem with it ? occasionally I might have a Gin mid week, but rare ? How is that perceived from the outside I wonder ?
My wife is a teacher, she is a secret drinker in the week, much like MR Ballbag.....I have tried to take it head on , and thankfully she is not extreme with it, but it does concern me a lot.
As a civvy who worked in MOD, legion are the number of times I've had to say to service people, particularly officers, on the telephone, "Could you please slow down sir. I can't understand what your saying" (The combination of speed and shorthand acronyms being fstal).
Relaxez -vous, . . . ,your're in retirement . . you've got a fooking stonking MOD pension, acknowledge it ?
Why cling to the need to keep proving a thing ?
Seek an alternative activity that doesn't require the constant imprisonment of self-validation. Its an institutional fixation. Ramp down.
Slow down a bit . . there's a discipline in that. Substitute slow delivery comfort/gratification for fast acting ?
Honestly. you don't want to be in a contemporary NHS Urology/gastro ward, overstretched as they are and with revised working practices, care of American management consultants, that make Camp Dora feel like nirvana. (I was an in patient for reasons other than the gargling fluid)
Saying this 'Will' get you started again, is kind of a trigger in itself. I'd suggest "May'.
Out of interest as you were an ex RAF instructor, how would you HONESTLY view a student who was tea total back in the day and didnt engage in mess drinking games ? Interesting probing the military mind set sometimes !
Probably as a bit of an outsider and maybe not so much of a team player. I now realise how wrong I would have been but, that said, we did have students who didn't drink, not many of them, but I don't remember thinking any different about them at the time.
Hey TD, you gotta stop worrying about our attention spans lol.
You could do an hour video and we will still be here. 😉
FJP RULES OK 🇬🇧
My father was an alcoholic....
He tried to kick it many times but always went back.
He was told by hospital/docs etc he wouldnt make it to 60 when he was 52.......
He died age 59 !
Cut out all bloody carbs and sugar, eat meat only. The weight has dropped off me, gone from 15 stone to 12.