Go Gray Your Way! A talk about why I decided to go gray at age 49 after over 25 year of coloring
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ธ.ค. 2018
- A talk about the reasons why & the process of how I stopped coloring and embraced my natural color, which led to all kind of creative projects including a modeling contract
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You wear that gray hair very beautifully!!!! Rock it girl !!!
Wow you are stunning! Love love your hair! Thank you for sharing your story!
Looks great, I wasnt very brave, I waited until 64 to go gray. I buzzed my hair, im now 65, soon to be 66, and I love my natural white, darker in the back. God knows what hes doing, and what color looks best on each of us. I wish I hadnt waited so long.
You are gorgeous! Thanks for sharing your story. Your natural hair color really suits you!
Hayleigh, Thank you so much for the kind words! I'm glad you enjoyed watching.
Your stunning, your hair is gorgeous! I just finished my 1st year of letting go, I should be done in a few months! I decided to get a shorter cut ,to help speed the process.... My hair is going to look like yours, I'm super excited!
Thank you, so excited for you!
Thank you for sharing your story. I really enjoyed it. Very inspiring and you look amazing!
Thanks Jenn!!
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m just beginning to take my silver journey. I’m one month in and plan to let it grow out a few more months then cut it into a pixie. I’ve been dying it for the last 33 years and toying with the idea of letting it go natural for a couple of years. I turned 63 last month and decided I’d finally had enough of dying my hair. So thanks for the encouragement and inspiration I appreciate it. 💖💫
hi Kim, thanks for your message and sharing. It sounds like you have a great plan! You will love the freedom of embracing your own natural color.
Kim Lean-Guerrero....I too just turned 63 and started my grow out, it’s 1 month in and I’m excited to see for the first time what my natural hair looks like. I’ve dyed my hair for 50 years.
I agree about red lipstick, looks fantastic with your color hair. I like your advice, I’m transitioning but still a lot of deep brown mixed in with some pure white streaks. Hope to hear more from you, just subscribed. Happy New Year!
Hi Carolyn, Thanks for saying hello! Many of us have a mix of colors which can look amazing and unique. I have a lot of ash brown underneath. If I can help at all feel free to email me at smartbeautyrituals@gmail.com. If you have the right stylist that's half the battle! And patience if you choose not to go short.
Thank you for this post!! I have a hair appt tomorrow (short, curly hair..... have colored with at least highlights since 1981!!!!) have discussed my plans with my stylist & am nervously excited to see what we discover & develop a plan to go au natural!!! THANKS AGAIN!!!
You are so welcome! It's great to have a stylist who is supportive and understands your vision for your hair. Good luck!!
Wow
You are beautiful! Awesome stylist that reacted so supportively to you wanting to grow out your color.
Thank you! Yes, he was great, it made the process so much easier.
Thank you:)
Thank you for sharing! Your hair is so beautiful. I’m on month one of my grow-out (I’m a little terrified) and it’s so encouraging to see someone who looks young & natural with a similar hair colour as myself. I hope you make more videos soon :)
Tara, Thanks so much! Month 1 can be hard -- just keep going! If I can help let me know.
Hi Tara! How is your process going?
Wonderful!!! This is super inspiring. I just turned 44 and I’m feeling magical. I want more authenticity across all aspects of my life.
Thank you! It was an amazing process and about so much more than hair in the end:)
Not sure how I landed on this post, but it must have been in the Universe somehow that I got it. I AM a hairstylist - or at least was for ten years - and started coloring my hair when I was about 28 or so. I continued it for 41 YEARS!!!! Every three weeks because my hair grows fast and when I turned 69 I said "ENOUGH". Everyone said the same thing "It will age you and you won't like it"...blah, blah, blah. Well, I did grow out the color in about four or five months (again with the fast growing hair that was short to start with) and I truly love it. I get more respect, it changes how I see my eyes which are somehow bluer, I like the colors I now can wear that I couldn't as an auburn color, etc. And I'm saving a ton of money. I figured that I spent about $5,000.00 coloring my hair AND I did it myself. Imagine how much it would have been if I had gone to a salon to do it! Anyway, I get tons of compliments, am still told I look very young for my age (which is now 70) and I couldn't be happier. Let me just add that in analyzing why people say the stupid things they do about Youth...it's because that's what our society keeps ramming down our throats. No one is worth anything if they are old....must be young, have whiter teeth, no wrinkles, etc. Nothing but crap to sell us more stuff - and destroy our self confidence and self worth in the process. Okay...I'm off the soap box now.
I agree with all you shared, and yes grey/white and silver hair can brighten us up, flatter skin tones and make blue eyes pop:) Good for you for going natural. It does NOT have to be aging, though there is nothing shameful about growing older (and wiser).
Fantastic Information Michelle!
Thanks Susan! XO
Your silver hair is so beautiful. I love it.
Stunning, hair so beautiful and very attractive overall, thank you for sharing.
Louise, thank you for your kind words!
I love your hair colour and the style.
Penelope, thank you for the kind words!
You are stunning and this has really helped me as I get used to more greys xoxo
Thank you Ruth if you're at all like me you'll like the color more and more as it grows in fully!
It will be healthier most likely shinier and completely unique
@@michellerayfriedman9665 I have just a few round the front at the moment but one day in the future I'll be rocking the same look as you, without all the expensive and toxic dyes x
GORGEOUS!!!
Thank you, Torie!
Just bought your book!.. thank you!!!
Thank you! I hope it helped:)
I'm doing the same, and it's great to see someone with a similar color/growth pattern. It looks great! My stylist did highlights and a pale ashy toner, and I'm using purple shampoo periodically during the growout. Going well so far.
Hi, thanks great to hear! It can be a fun process.
You look gorgeous. Good tips. Thanks
Thank you!
Lovely to hear your story. Let us know how you maintain the condition of your hair it looks fabulous !
Love Angie from UK x 💋
Thanks so much, Angie! Tips: I use John Masters lavender avocado conditioner and a mild shampoo; rarely blow dry; and wash only every 3rd day. I use silicone free products only. Please visit my blog for more tips and product reviews! smartbeautyrituals.com
Wow I was 30 when I colored my hair ...stopped at 50 said enough and went cold Turkey and it has been 3 years I'm all grey and I love it
Your hair is beautiful, thanks for sharing :)
Thank you!! Happy 2019.
Hi...I'm over 2 years into my grow out. I've got about 4 inches left since I don't cut more than a couple of inches off my ends. Like you, I was light blonde so the grow out wasn't too bad but now my ends are kind of brassy..
Can't wait for the final cut. You look gorgeous...thanks for the video❤
You are just beautiful. Hair color suits you. You look young. I am only 4 months going silver. I have long hair too. Thanks for the inspiration.
Paula--thanks for your kind comments! Enjoy your transition!!
A wee bit dramatic of me, but this changed and answered everything- like changed my life. Lol. I couldn’t articulate it or wrap my head around it, but it’s not the “gray hair” that ages one. Thank you! Completely changed my thought process.
You had a great stylist to help you and had you wait as long as you can good story
I was lucky to have good support and talented stylists, and an amazing community of "silver" women on Facebook to help along the way....
Your hair looks great! I'm going to go the same route with highlights.
Thank you! Yes, highlights can make it much easier.
@@michellerayfriedman9665 I got the highlights and it has helped.
@@paintnknit Fantastic. Heavy, or a few?
You look beautiful. I also let my gray grow out. It's about like yours... almost blonde/gray. I love it but cut it short when I grew the gray out, and have continued cutting it into some layers... Now it's about shoulder length, and I'm getting rid of the layers. Not sure I can handle all this hair, but I'm going to try. Thanks for sharing your story. I subscribed. Hope you have some more videos.
So sorry for the late reply! Thank you for your comments....Is your hair grown out now? I am planning to do a new video later this month.
Absolutely Beautiful 💕
Thank you:)
It's amazing how mother nature seems to know best! And thank you :)
Your beachy hair waves and the white looks amazing! Lucky! I have had enough of dying my hair also. I started dying at 35 when my blonde hair darkened. At 52 I’m over it! . I have dishwater blonde hair with over 50% grey I’m intrigue as to what it will look like in a year or two! I’m just 5 weeks post dye 😬
Hi Jane, Good for you! It's so freeing to embrace real color. Keep it trimmed and conditioned and am sure you will love your new look...And it will be healthier which is a nice bonus.
Lovely video. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Hello Michelle
You're hair look amazing! I went to the salon 1 month ago and wanted to do also high- and low-lights, but the guy took over and said he knew what to do, that i will like it.... well he bleached and did 2 toner and purple shampoo and it looked great!
But after my first wash my hair was screaming.. total frizz... i feared that cause i colored and highlighted my hair for about 30 plus years...
So i cut it some more and use a lot of good produkt and wait till it grows out.. im in my 3. month, so still a long way to go but really looking foreward. it's the right moment, i m 63..
The only thing that i noticed, since the treatment my hair almost did not grow... any suggestion how to grow hair faster?
By the way you should put up a bit the volume when making videos...
You have on great stylist to help you achieve your look. I wish more would see that they are not loosing a client , but are gaining one possibly forEVER!! The trust one feels from someone helping with such a personal journey is invaluable!! You look beautiful , I'm just starting my journey and will be doing pretty much what you described , hopefully is will go as well. Thanks for sharing.:)
Hi Theresa, You are absolutely right! I appreciate the 2 stylists who helped and talk them up to friends all the time. Good luck w your transition. Do you have a good stylist?
Beautiful. Love your hair. I’m obsessed too! I’m 46. Almost one year into growing out my gray. It’s been fun. I love my natural color which is ashy/grey/white highlights. I went cold turkey and half is dyed blonde and highlights. The more my natural gray comes in, the more I wish the blonde to be gone. My hair is collarbone length. It will take me another year to be fully transitioned.
I felt the same way - once you can see your "real" color you just want more of it! Good luck. Enjoy your process.
Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it
My hair looks really similar to yours... I bleached the old color out and recolored with toner. The ends did not get covered as much as the roots, so my ends are still very light blonde. It looks like a biolage' color (how ever that is spelled). Good thing we are in a fashion era where anything goes. 20, 30 years ago if the part in my hair was not perfect I was a mess.
Thank you, great talk. I just decided to let my real hair color grow out after coloring for 24 years.
Hi Julie, Thanks for saying hello. It is an amazing process! If I can help at all, feel free to ask me...
So happy I found this video. I am 48 years old and going gray the second time. I wasn't ready the first time and dyed it again. I liked it for 3 weeks..It was en mistake. Now 2 years later I am growing out my grays again. The only thing is, that my husband doesn't like gray hair... but he has to accept it, I am ditching the dye for good! I had very dark hair, but I am almost white in the front (like you) and dark gray at the back. I have grey eyes, so I look pale with gray hair, I definitely have to wear more make-up. How old (young) are you ladies? Please write down here , thanx !!
Hi! Thanks for your message. He's more likely to like it when it's all grown in ..... so if you can be patient it will be worth it! I also used more make up and color around my face during the process. I've always taken care of my skin, as that is what makes one look older in my opinion. I am 54.
Good luck!
Hair color is beautiful :D
Thank you! I've found pretty much everyone who lets their hair go natural comes to appreciate the final results:)
I love your hair. I am just 2 months into this process. I had heavy highlights 2 months ago, using a chrome toner that seems to fade to a more yellow blonde in two weeks or so. I have probably 75 percent gray in my crown and around the hairline. However, the back and some right in the front top is a lot darker than I imagined it would be. I think I will go for low- lights next. Any suggestions?
Hi Al'an!
Thanks for your message. without seeing a few different photos of your hair it's hard for me to make a good suggestion ...I would just say be sure to take great care of your hair throughout the low lighting highlighting process and maybe give it a chance for more hair to grow in before you add more color? unless of course you're not liking the way it looks. it's going to take about five months to really see what your pattern is and you might end up really liking it!
That's part of the beauty of gray hair ...everyone's look is unique and has different shades of white or gray.
I assumed I would always add some lowlights a few times a year since I knew my hair was pretty white on top....however about six months in I realized the dyed hair would always turn brassy at some point and also I realized my own color was pretty:)
Starting on my journey. I gave short hair and I want to grow it but cannot stomach the thought of continuing color long hair. My color never looks good for more than a week. I am starting to notice how fake it looks on friends ....hmmm maybe I do too. I am 64, look young but it is starting to feel fake. I cannot take 2 years ...I have to look decent for business. So I am taking the plunge, letting it grow out as long as I can, then getting a pixie. Then I can grow it as long as I want. I know this has to happen at some point. I have taken the edge off by using dandruff shampoo to remove some of the color, you hair looks great!
Thanks! Would love to see your before and after.
You look wonderful! I am going to let mine go white. The only concern I have is I’m overweight. Why that concerns me I’m not really sure. I think maybe one issue can be hair loss while losing weight but keeping it brown is just too tiring these days. Every 3 weeks at the salon is getting old after 30 years! Thanks for the inspiration!!
Thank you Thea! Good luck with your journey.... white hair is beautiful.
Bytheway... u look beautiful... just wished my hair behaved liked urs... greying the way urs has would be goals. I am in the process of growing a lot of clrd hair (And long hair) which I need to grow out yet to be honest this whole process gives me anxiety.😣
Hi Pia, Thank you for your message. There is so much inspiration on line and on Facebook....check out Silver Foxy page.
Hi Michelle, I am just starting this process and you are an inspiration. I have an appt to have silver highlights put in my hair next week. I'm worried because I hear a lot of people say they turn yellow. I'm wondering if you had this experience and/or what you did to combat that? Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank you for your kind comments.... yes my highlights did turn a little yellow over time I had to get them toned and I also used purple shampoo.
I stopped blow drying to minimize heat damage and generally babied my hair as much as possible!
Most important make sure your stylist is very experienced and that she's done this process before if she doesn't lighten your hair enough the color will not look right
I’m 47 and a redhead. I’ve been coloring for years but I’ve never been satisfied with the faux reds. A year ago I quit and am completely embracing the white❤️
Thanks for your comments and I'm happy for you... the white will look stunning!
I’m a redhead too and am well underway. It’s a real adjustment being this pale but it is a relief. It’s making me rethink clothes and makeup. The white is pretty but I won’t lie, it’s hard to give up my identity as a redhead.
you look beautiful! I have gone grey too, however I felt that once I let it all grow out that I missed having highlights. So my hairstylist just put in some baby silver highlights last week and I absolutely love it! Its funny, because you may think your hair is going to have soooooo much silver or grey, but when you are done with the growing out process it might be different than what you originally thought. thanks for the video & gonna check out your website. Cheers! chenel
I'm so glad you love your highlights they made a tremendous difference for me to the gave me a hint of what my real hair would look like eventually
It really helps when you have a skilled stylist that can blend the white into the highlights/lowlights. After about two years my hair is at a stage where the new growth looks natural. Feeling happy with the results. After a trim and some toning last week, my stylist suggested we can go four months til the next appointment.
First off your hair is gorgeous! I started the transition about 4-5 months ago cold turkey. I have a situation that is troubling me. My son gets married in June. My hair has a strong demarcation line. I don’t want to get color but want to look good for the wedding. Do you have any suggestions?
Hi Sherry ..
thank you for the kind words
If you have for 5 months growth could you have your hair put up in an updo to hide the demarcation line a bit ? That might be a good solution if not getting a cut or a trim should help you feel a bit better... a toner might help the colored hair but I'm not sure because I don't know what color the hair is if it's brassy like mine was itcould help and that's not permanent color.
Looks beautiful on u...
You are beautiful and I love your hair color. Do you have any photos of how your hair looked when it was highlighted that we can see?
Thank you so much! I will try to post here, or you can visit my instagram @michelleraysmartbeautyrituals.
@@michellerayfriedman9665 Please post on here -- not everyone uses INstagram.
@@kristineharder7814 I am not sure how to post here, but you can see a collage on my personal website home page at: smartbeautyrituals.com
Looks good on u...
Thank you!!
Isn't it maddening. We color our beautiful natural hair for decades not knowing how beautiful it is.
Exactly! It's so true. We're just programmed to cover it up.
Your stunning and your hair colour suits your skin tone. However I’m very grey at 60 but I can’t go grey because it does not suit my skin tone and actually ages me unfortunately.
Hello Michelle. Just found your channel. Your hair looks beautiful and very healthy. I have started my journey to letting my grow out cold Turkey. My natural hair colour is black so once my Gray started to come though i had to start colouring my roots. This was getting crazy having to my roots every 3 weeks so i decided to let it grow out last October 2018.i am 62 years old and i am ready for my long journey. Could you tell me what shampoo and conditioner you are using i no its so important to use the right shampoo and conditioner to keep your white and gray hair in good healthy condition. Thank you so much for your video. Much love from the UK.🤗🤗🤗💖💖
Hi Dawn, Thank you for your kind comments! I use a few products: Giovanni Smooth as Silk, Oribe Silverati shampoo and sometimes I use Aveda Blue Malva conditioner. I clarity twice a month, Avalon Lemon Clarifying shampoo is my fave.
@@michellerayfriedman9665 Hello Michelle. Hope your keeping well. Thank you so much for your message i will give the shampoo and conditioner a try thank you. I want to use the best that's good for healthy and strong hair.i have always taken care of my hair with having to dye my roots so much. I just cannot wait till its all grown out. My daughter gets married next July 2020 so my hair should be almost grown out by then so i can have my hair in a lovely updo fingers x sending much love xx🤗🤗🤗🌹🌹🌹
Yes same here my hair fades out and it looks good for only a few weeks after the hair gets done by the hairdresser
Natural is so much easier :)
I am 49 et I’m going gray this year 👍
I just made the announcement to my husband, son and daughter in law, that I’ve decided to go gray.
My husband said “do whatever you want” , but my son and daughter-in-law looked at me and laughed and said I’ll never make it. I’m so determined to make this work. Now the challenge is on!
Thanks for your information.
Thank you and Good for you! It gets easier after the 1st few months once you can really see your real color.....
You can do this yes do not not let anyone make u feel u can't
Shawn Christine Jones you will not regret it I am 1 year into last July I ditched the dye as my hair was thinning out out not it more thicker and healthier it is platinum grey with my black it’s like sugar coated it so beautiful I get a lot of compliments even if it all grey I had made a decision of not turning back sitting with the dye every month I was thinking what am I doing to my hair and the all that colour in the scalp and forehead used to wash everyday to make it look natural then the month was her again sprouting with the white hair coming out so embrace this is god glory and we should enjoy 😉
What drugstore shampoos do u use??
There are several at Whole Foods I like: Acure, EO, and Avalon lemon clarifying shampoo.
Hi all! I want to do another video .... Is there anything you want me to talk about in particular relating to gray hair? Care tips, products, etc?
Please do more videos. I just found your channel. I'm really searching for inspiration to let my gray how. I haven't colored it since October.
@@irenemowers9897 Thats great! I will work on some videos while home this week :)
My greys start showing after 10 days. Im fed up off dying it.
You have the prettiest silver color.
Hi Janice-- thank you!
The great thing is everyone's silver white or gray tends to flatter their unique skin tone
I hope so.@@michellerayfriedman9665 I've gone light blond in preparation for allowing my gray to grow out.
You're welcome.@@michellerayfriedman9665
I am 63 yo and wanting to let my natural color come through... it has been 7 weeks now... I have an appointment on Thursday to get it colored... I don’t know which direction to go in!... I am so happy I found your video.. thank you for all the info... all of what you are saying I agree with!.,, I wear makeup daily... I stay thin... I don’t think women look older going natural... I think they look better!... I would love the help!... much love and appreciation!💜💜💜💜
Hi Linda thanks so much for your comments! if you can be a little bit patient and let your color grow in I'm sure you will be happy with it ...the grow out is the hardest part but you can always highlight and or low light or cut some of your hair off to speed up the process:)
Michelle Ray Smart Beauty Rituals my hairstylist said we could highlight and lowlight... someone else suggested trying on wigs to see how the grey would look... men can just go grey at the blink of an eye... nobody cares... but, everyone makes you feel you as a woman, will look so much older... I am so into skincare, and love wearing makeup.., I don’t believe that statement... especially now seeing you!... you look amazing!... gorgeous hair color and gorgeous face! Thank you for responding!!!!💜💜💜💜
@@lindamarocco4583 you could definitely try on wigs to get some idea but the truth is you won't know what your exact color looks like until you have at least a few inches of growth unless of course your mom or dad went gray then chances are your hair could be similar to theirs...
In any case you'll definitely notice that your skin looks healthier once you have your own natural hair color... that is a big bonus!
Michelle Ray Smart Beauty Rituals I will love that with the skin!... right now I am using truth treatment skincare ... amazing stuff!.,. Only been 3 weeks and such a difference!... I am all about the skin🤣🤣🤣... thank you so much for being so kind and responding!.,, I greatly appreciate it!... I don’t know your age, but you look SO young!!!!!... you give me hope!😂😂😂😂
How old are u??
53.
VERY VERY BEAUTIFUL