I Left My 24 Years Marriage & My 3 Bedroom House For A Bedsitter
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Thank.you.so.much
My colleague,neighbour and friend,just want to let you know that:
1.Its OK not to be OK
2.Its OK to choose you coz at the end you need you
3. Its OK to miss your wife and children
4. Its OK to let go
5. Its OK to be where you are appreciated.
And above all its OK to choose peace over violence. Good job brother. Let's follow our brother and support him.
Pole sana
Give the guest time huko na kameme sana whish it was lynn hosting this guy
I did left too after 25 year.after educating him,our children, building a house in his absence but couldn't held his hand in prison and hospital but couldn't find anything good in me.i now live alone in a single room and am happy, peaceful.
Ideal in place of expedience...all worthwhile
Every human being needs peace of mind
I think it's good to also listen to the side of his wife..
I would support the woman in question and I am show she went through much pain. Hold on to Jesus Christ my sister. You are not in anyway lesser
I was giving up in life being a single parent is the wordiest thing I have ever experienced now I'm strong again after watching this
Not an easy journey sorry for the many tribulations .. The devil comes to steal kill and destroy.. Thanks for sharing your lifes lesson
Blessings upon you brother.. thanks for standing strong in the storms
People never learn. Similar situations are told countless times and still find people stuck in such cases. Not discouraging anyone but be on the lookout. Great humble guy.
Living with someone who's never learn is such a big mess, but guess what, there's God in heaven the righteous judge.
You made a good decision to walkout. It is difficult to live in a relationship where you cannot communicate. No marriage works out without communication. Communication is the foundation of everything relationship.
I have had the same question to my ex husband, how i he could explain why he hated me so much and tormented me and the most painful part is for him to start confusion the children against me and deep down his heart he knows i never wronged him. It pains as a mother to see the children failing to follow the correct direction and follow a parent who misleads them.
It's never easy to leave or to be left, Only those who have gone through such situations understands better. But Glory be to God Who Never dissapoints and loves us unconditionally. May peace prevail. Good advice, never Carry today's burdens to tomorrow for tomorrow is a new day and it's not garanteed
I relate this story as the one I heard from Tuko because it relates, but the years are different the tuko is 27 and here is 24,so am confused or people look alike
Just concentrate on your 2nd marriage hii ya kwanza imeenda
For a parent to loose a child is very very hard.pole sana brother.
Waaaaah, what a story, what a gentleman. Hats off for you. All the best in life.
George you made a good decision, may the almighty God give you strength and heal you from this abusive marriage. I left my marriage of 28years and now am at peace with my heart. These people are devil in human nature.
Am so sorry for the loss of your Son. Suicide is the worst type of death.
May Gods grace and comfort be your portion
Conflict resolution expert not able to solve his own conflict.
This man is not happy on his new house..n regrets..but its late..sorry..May he find peace..Such a strong man..he has gone through alot..The partner of ur youth.
Thank u brother for sharing. Men also cry. Not outwardly but. The thing is men also go through alot in marriages but rarely speak out.
I thank this lady for such a forum.
Well done George and courage to you. All women here poking holes in his his story, learn that you have sons and brothers. They deserve to be heard too and we should encourage them to come out and speak as this is a healing process. Lets not start useless stories as if the story is ours. Once more, more power and courage to you Mr. Chacha, take care of your next family and may your sons be with you for the longest time possible. Pole kwa kumpoteza mwanao.
Everyone should be heard. No one is poking holes. Man and women have issues in equal measure
I would wish to hear ex wife's side of the story.
She is not willing to talk
@@jackianotieno4085 coz she knows what she did
Imagine some women are possessed with demons.......l have a sister in law who behaved the same which lead to the death of the husband. Men are very secretive and proud that if he was the cause....he could not have come out in public
If it was the woman here,you couldn't have asked for the husband's side of the story... some women are naturally wicked
@@marthawangui7237 there must be something in to this than what we've just heard ...according to me something is not adding up...women can take in alot before they say its enough.
I love the way he has narrated his story but of çourse one sided,may be the time they discuss Ed their issues,he never kept His words ,which may be made his wife angry
your grief became your strength! thank you for becoming my strength.
I don't trust military personnel...talking out of experience
Why?
Such a humble man,wanapatikana wapi?Us we're just enduring bcs of the children.
Most good men get badbad wives
@@irenekarimi692 and the vice versa is true😥
George ,could be you just said you loved her but your actions were opposite
The only thing that will hurt a woman is cheating on her. Let’s hear the wife’s side of the story.
True..
What about a woman who got married and has been blessed with 2kids only to find out that the third child isn't yours and she's the first to file divorce.
@@thomasmomanyi285 leave. People should learn to leave when they can. Its not a matter of life and death.
There’s many cases for women abusing their husbands and nowadays they have doubled women’s cases so don’t doubt please!!! Many women are cheating on their husbands also too!!!
@@e.sharmer2057 Of late women are adulterous than men ,more worse others cheat to an extended of God punishing them with an all over sudden conceiving hence giving birth to an outside wedding children ,once awoman does that it haunts her and becomes too brutal to the husband cooking all manner of a husband's weaknesses hating her inlaws almost hitting everybody, booom! here come DNA test results.
Love fades and plummets
It 🔥 dies, it is OK it happens and move on . A bad marriage is not good for anyone.
Sorry for such a painful experience, please take heart.
The case of a codependent man who got a covert/vulnerable narcissistic woman... This was my life 2012 - 2020... I can categorically say that nothing could/can help the relationship. The only way is to have no contact with her. Then try to get your long lost glory.... Be careful with any new relationship coz the pattern could be same.. Heal from codependency first...
…chacha truly you are a gentleman 🇰🇪🇹🇿
What a couragious man to leave all his wealth behind to search for peace.
Salute sir, my colleague and good friend, all is well soldier
You are solving many problems in every family. Keep sharing. I worked with you on Peace Building and it will be well
It is because you live your family. Never regret of doing good brother.
Your story resonates! Your courage to speak up to inspire others is simply amazing. May you find true peace and happiness that you really deserve.
I can relate with him..the wife could be narcissistic..
Let's hear from the wife
Av never come across such an intelligent man!.
Something a miss in this story, I believe this former soldier is not revealing all info. There are always two sides of coin. Bring the ex-wife on board too.
I agree. When men cheat some wives never get over and it leads to bitterness. If not handled, it leads to ugly situations
You got it👍
Good to see Men Speak out.
In life put God first and Family second please Mr chache
I left marriage of 23yrs, it's okay for your peace ..wish you well brother
Ooh, so i am not alone....My sister, we must have been riding on the same boat...23years and throwing in the towel. Osa vinya mukamba.
Thanks George for sharing your story. I think you are strong man.
Chacha some men were never meant to marry and some women were never meant to be anybody's wife. You enter into marriage with such characters and you end up getting hurt badly however much you try. You try building the relationship but they are busy destroying it. I wish you well as you endeavor to seek for a reconciliation.
The interviewer though. 🤔
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They didn't get to know each other through dating. She persevered through hardship but reached a level when she couldn't take it anymore.
You are just a frustrated CUCKQUEAN.
No wonder you shall be buried at the peripheries of your father's homestead.
Oooh my good men still exist ....the question is why does bad thing happen to good people 🙄
Good man that cannot take care of his wife. And cheats instead of paying attention to wife. And cheated to make her regret or miss him nonsense
Am just awed by the courage you had in turning the other cheek
Chacha has just reminded me of my ex when he said that his ex would remind him of things he did in1994
Good job George, you tried to keep your marriage of which many men can't do that,if possible his ex can share to us her story.once again congratulations good job.
Sorry for you Sir....May God heal you and restore ur marriage and if He wills u get another even BETTER WOMAN!!
Hi Cate, you need to add volume on your mic. I have strained to listen.
Lynn Ngugi this is your story to narrate
What else will she get out of him apart from what we've heard here arleady🤷?
Some of us are asking where we can get the kind of man while authors are chasing them,at my age I need one caring,hug brother u are a real man
The fact that he would address her as "my love"🥰🥰many huwa wanaitwa "wewe
Ukitaka kujua uhondo wa ngoma uingie ucheze 😂😂😂
Thanks Chacha, for sharing your story. It's true that in marriage, we are silent, partners are usually silent over issues and let the matters pass...but these are the cracks in the marriage palace. Thanks for putting all these into perspective/ words....these have always gone unspoken yet people/partners feel offended, taken for granted, unappreciated etc and keep to themselves yet hurting.
I really commend you for sharing your story. I believe it will help many couples who care to listen.
I also believe it will help your son's and your first wife too. Maybe, you'd get to that point of reconciliation and communicating.
Yes, it feels bad that they had a function for your late son yet you were not invited but forgive them.
I also feel that both you and your first wife need therapy (counseling). The children need therapy too. Your second wife needs therapy too.
Thanks for choosing peace over violence.
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Therapy for both ,nooooo ,he came out to save himself,he got his therapy and that's enough
Satan is a liar.Couples needs to be Christ centred.Marriage is spiritual and it's a matter of time everything will be restored.Let"s pray for our families,not by our own strength but strength from above Amen
What you don't you know is that mwanamke akikupenda anakupenda with all her heart.utampiga,utamhanya,utamtesa na bado akupende na akuvumilie BUT when the love is gone my friend, there's no forgiveness no reconciliation no nothing....I am a victim also I can relate....
Me too work for years like donkey to better our life.
You are right
I swear what we parents make children go thru is out of this world. I feel u my brother. Am sorry for the kids 😢
He misses her and still calls her my " wife ". The love is still there. But now that he has an additional family, he should cherish them. And cultivate them to what he yearned for, a complete family and a long lasting marriage
wanaume haki the marriage has challenges unaenda nje na unaenda kuoa really?? yani umemvumilia na shida akapata pesa anaoa,,this is discouraging
The interview is all over the place...direct the interview and give the guest time to explain juu tunarukishwa kama kwa matatu
That part of his son hanging and him had to take his dead body down is really saddening 😔😔
Im really sorry for your loss and may the Lord grant you the fortitude to continue bearing the loss🙏.
This man is a soldier and he can bundle it. My thought
@@tomntooki1612 Being a soldier doesn't mean he has no emotions or feelings.
He's just like other human beings.
I have Keely listen to the conversation and Chacha cares so much for his first wife.Chacha was able to establish mental health for his son and not his wife.I strongly feel she has a lot of mental issues that needs to be addressed and your son issues could have been heriditary it had nothing to do with the way you were treating him..Kindly get a psychologist and help her.Divorce is not a solution she needs help.And thats thereason she couldn't write on the paper your fault in the marriage Many people today are suffering from mental health without our knowledge.
Losing your son and your wife at the same time is very sad, wish you ad stayed together and grieve over your son together .I lost my only child I'm grieving alone I feel sad every day.
Pole Mami🙏
Commit the soul of your departed child to Christ and find rest. ❤️
Am sorry for you dear but the problem many men have is to love you after leaving, take a note ,that if a woman leaves you she has gone dear cool down
Thank you sir for sharing the real story, and performing well in the interview, mat God heal our marriages
Something doesn't add up here my brother. Your side of the story sounds too good to be true. You cannot be innocent in all the equation. WA shayashaya wena
You are reminiscing too much, gooosh. Io ndio ubaya ya kupenda sana, you get crapped on. Kama hataki reconsolidation wachana naye, especially now that you have moved on, she can never accept it.
However, there are two sides to the story. Something's going on he doesn't know, maybe ATA YEye alipendwa na mwingine
Thanks a lot George! My peace is in my enemy’s hands
I think you didn't try enough. Ungebembeleza tu. No need starting another family
At what point did you start seeing the cracks in the marriage?
Bring the wife we hear her side
All others are done for women.
One mistake which people make is to be consumed by love emotions during the dating period and ignore the subtle red flags that they might be incompatible. Such relationships are "bipolar" marriages and are usually very toxic. Mnaona vile Wetangula huchapwa makofi na Njeri na hashiki line.
LOVE and blessings to you my brother I feel your pain I leave my marriage and living by myself to be happy 💝👁👁😭😭🇯🇲
Waaa
its wacheke. mwabie amuache akuoe
@@MyJOSE2013 why are you responding to a 3-week-old comment or you had to wait till your LGBTQ partner showed up so you can use her phone?
Wow what a man!
Sometimes we don't value what we have until we lose it,
My man died over 20 years ago?,I just wonder how Someone would just let their man,father to their children just slip away???
I need such a man. Wako wapi!
Ask the ex wife what went wrong. You never know what happened
He was a military man. No expression of love. Just criticisms. No compliments
@@syntabellehawa, police men n teachers no joke ... First if you are the kids .... lots of pressures
They married too soon i think. The moment you showed her your payslip thats when she knew you are too meek and meek people are to be taken advantage of even by insects. Payslip hata mamako hafai kujua. He misses her because she was supportive and could advice him but she seems to take advantage of his meekness and she know he loves her and the more he tries to pursue her the more he gets punished. At this point, its better to cut ties completely. We wemen easily give in tukibembelezwa huyo sijui ni wa wapi. Im sure we wont hear from her even though we would want to since even the sons wish their dad happiness meaning she may be the fierce one.
It was hard for her to hear he had another family bearing in mind what she went through with the man when they were beginning their life together.
Very hard for the lady.
His story is not convincing me.
She still loved the guy,may she had hormonal imbalance which affect women at latter ages
you are just struggling with the fact that women can turn into narcissists in marriages. Remain open to this fact, especially if you got sons. Then for us as women, we need to learn to LET GO. We need to learn when to let go...especially if one has grown out of love. The other thing is letting him marry again (but we normally cant entertain this because we are perpetual beggars who abandon their personal development once they get married!!).
I would like to know the other side of the story! Till then, i reserve my comment!
You have commented arleady 😊
Yap
Host asked about length of courtship.I believe how long you court has nothing to do with a marriage not working.If a person is ready to fake, they can do so even for 5years in courtship.
Sometimes it affects
You think about your son who you never showed concern about? Fathers are hypocrites i nearly hunged myself and my daughter back 2021 and my dad seemed not to care, i fought depression alone and ky daughter he blocked everything took my ID and my certificates my daughter's notification nisitoke nyumbani niteseke zaidi, we will live with the truth that some of us go through alot in the hands of parents more so the so called fathers! I know the boy you call your son now with degrees as you mentioned seems you never showed concern, to an extent of hunging himself he really tried , rest in peace Steve.
Very Bad interviewing skills. He has a story to tell but hii interview hapana.
Ikr. I was getting soo frustrated coz it’s a very interesting story but poorly directed.
@@aiishacali7425 Very much so..Couldn't get through to the end😵
@@Honey-rb9vo Me too.
I totally agree with you! The interviewer needs some skill.
It’s good to leave done staying in the house where they is no peace
I am.really tired of these stories. Can't Kenyan journalists look for something else to talk about apart from failed marriages? Where is their creativity?
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let people talk and heal. enda kwa churchilo ukaone comedy
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Bring the ex wife now for why she left this man
Thank you for your service sir
Leaving was the right thing to do man.There are many marriages that are exactly like yours was and spouses hanging on because they still love their family
I wish we can hear the other side of the story.
I have a feeling that you ghosted yr family.
Most men backstab their wives to justify their bad actions.
On point. Just 10 mins into the story and the amount of self praise is alarming
I smell narcissism
I also doubt all the self praise. Might she have been going through emotional abuse?
Yeah it doesn't make sense a woman has stood with you through your poverty then suddenly just goes cold on you ..not talking to you for a month??🤔suspect!!! Kuna kitu alifanyia uyu bibi yake aki
If you have never been in such a situation you will never understand! He said it as it is he even praised her for who she's been in his life! It's very easy to judge when you haven't been there! I always listen and do not judge either party. After I went through my own it's never an easy journey and no matter what you say people will always take sides
I've just come to learn that ladies should marry men who are already established....This men never appreciate anything they will later marry someone else and you'll be the one to be blamed.
Be strong man, those are life’s crosses, lift everything up to God. I have a feeling that maybe that your former wife is not herself.
Problem shared is a problem almost solved.These people never talk and solved their problems.His first wife was selfish and self centred.
@ Sarti kimutai remember you have only heard one side of the story
May you find comfort and peace
If you had any hope of reconciling with your first wife you can forget about it now, how do you go around putting her in such a negative light all over media and expect her to reconcile with you? In life we protect what we love, and what you are doing is the exact opposite of that. And what about your new wife? How must she feel as you are going around telling the whole world that you would you wish you were still with your first wife? You are failing to protect neither of them, although the second wife is getting her karma for going into another woman's marriage.
yaaani retired soldier you cheated to your wife who stood up with you in bad times mimi kuoelewa nataka bwana ako nayo tayari this is really discouraging
Happiness,peace, love cannot be bought by money so if your happy wherever you are then let it be.
peace of mind is very important
Sorry sir,but could the host also bring your wife, for us to hear her side of the story...
people who look talk gd outside here are fire inside let's get also from her side men who look fluent out here are.....I think u need also to visit me I give u out my story about this men finally this thing of u don't break marriage u break the weeding ndio kitu gani buana
New wife simply being used....single women stay away from married men unless he's fully divorced.
Chacha you are brave enough bravo, you have/had the same challenge My brother is undergoing, my brothers wife cut off all the links first with family members then couldn't talk to my brother , lastly the woman has sired a child out of wedlock sensing this is abominable she has filed divorce, kindly get me Chachas nomber.
Poor sound very good
Life story
Thanks namesake for sharing, I am going through the same right now and I bet it's going to end like yours pretty soon.
Never stay with a narcissist you can always pick up the broken pieces and move on then get killed
So sorry
Wah
Pole sana chacha