Arranged and love marriage have the same rates of divorce in India. The only difference is responsibility. In love marriage, if the marriage ends, its your fault while in arranged marriage, if the marriage ends, its your parents fault and they are required to help you.
😂😂😂😂😂 People really show weakness. It doesn't matter how a relationship ends up, you are the only responsible person for it. It's only manipulation to say oh it's parents fault and they have to fix it. IF YOU WANNA DIE SO BADLY IT'S NOT MY FAULY😂😂😂
@vincentfox4929 •Er what about if the man admits adultery ?There are children involved?Is that the parents thought hopefully they are only on the side of the woman and children?
How is it that in some cultures we’ve got these arranged marriages where women end up broke, trapped, and expected to be nobody but a cook, a cleaner, and a caretaker? It’s a whole nightmare situation! I mean, can we talk about the fact that some fathers are literally pocketing the cash when their daughters get married off to strangers? Like, what is that?! And let’s keep it real-while some men are out here playing matchmaker for a paycheck, those poor women are stuck in situations where they can face abuse, bullying, and even violence. It’s like they’re living in a tragic story we thought was only in the movies. And let’s not forget the pressure on these girls to remain ‘pure’ until marriage, like that’s gonna solve everything. Newsflash: it’s not a solution, it’s a setup! We gotta do better, people. It’s time to empower our girls to have a voice and a choice in their lives and their futures. Ain’t nobody got time for these outdated traditions that turn marriages into a prison instead of a partnership. Let’s support love, freedom, and respect-not this nonsense! Now, can I get an amen?
Not always. Both of the couple are asked separately if they consented to this marriage......if one says no then the marriage is off. Sure the couple are under enormous pressure from their families and community to agree.....but they can get out of it if they feel the must. They may however lose their families and standing in the community. @@kyleknight8267
I am a traditional Catholic from the Philippines and getting married soon to my American fiance who shares the same religion. We are very much a minority religion and its VERY difficult to find a partner. I met him through my own efforts, but honestly if I was in an arranged marriage concerning our religion I will accept it (as long as I can reject the men I don't like and have the choice to choose from the men they introduce to me). If you study the Bible especially the Old Testament, a lot of the most successful biblical marriages were actually semi-arranged marriages. I believe it takes more than romantic feelings to have a good marriage. A priest said that ideally you should share a lot of things: religion, social castes, economic level, political beliefs, habits, and family approval. Logically family arranged marriages are a good option and that is why it has worked for a long time throughout history.
Only a successful marraige works where couples give 100% of their responsibilties, doesn't matter arrange or Love. Most people think marriage is 50-50 it's not, that's why most marraiges are broken, divorced and in depressed state.
I have many Indian friends, they say in arranged marriage, the bride gets returned to her husband if she runs away. The married couple are told to stay together or they lose out on inheritance and the family turns their backs. Most of the "single" indian men on dating apps are actually married and run wild when they come to Minneapolis. I worked with an indian social service here in mn and many arranged marriage brides get abused by their husbands
I can attest to tht. Indian men are the creepiest because they try their best to reserve their desires. Online they hunt women to fulfill all those desires. Muslim men are weirder. They will do the same but not nearly on the same level as indian men
My Muslim friend had to wait 9 years to marry as my friend was only 17 and still at high school when they met at a family wedding. My friends dad wanted her to finish her education and then go to law school, which she did. The young couple were not allowed to date in the meantime but her fiance was allowed to visit her at her family home occasionally. Then he went to Saudi Arabia to work and make money for his wedding and the dowry etc which his family contributed to. Their parents thought they wouldn't wait for each other during those long years and they tried to arrange other marriages for them but the couple refused and waited for each other. They phoned and emailed each other and twice a year when the fiance came home on leave he visited her at her home. Finally after completing her law degree she married the man she loved and they had a spectacular wedding. Now they have been happily married for 19 years, have 3 daughters and are still in love. They emigrated to NZ after their first child was born and they embraced Kiwi life. I have watched their kids grow up into beautiful accomplished young women.
Arrange marriage is NOT the same as forced marriage, but that is one of the first sentences said in this documentary. Better to inform yourselves before pushing a wrong idea on people. Just because westerners have abandoned the practice doesn't mean it isn't good.
Forced marriage=physical harrasment Arranged marriage=mental harrasment Love marriage = this is your own choice and freedom if it works then we'll and good and if it's not then move on and learn from your mistakes 😉
@@subham99vlog you know when love marriage fail there is high the men generally becomes those alpha or sigma males and women those kill all men feminists
Arranged marriages have led to many lifes’ lost especially the bride for one reason or the other. Its scary sometimes to see how these very arranged marriages and the couples going through a very rough phase. Love marriages are also difficult and have consequences yet i feel both the partners get to know each other well and their families also get along in the process which may lead to successful marriages and happy couples.
You know promoting a woman's pain in financially rewarding for media houses. But talking about men is not the same. Many men are trapped in marriages with psycho women but can't leave because society will shun them in different ways compared to a woman. Many men are also tricked into marrying such women but stories as such will not come out. Only when the man snaps does something horrible, left-wing media arrives to harp about it.
33 percent of Indian arranged married women go through sexual and physical abuse not counting mental abuse 25 percent of men go the physical and verbal abuse in the arranged marriage in india
@@AbcDef-gw4dgand 99 percent of cases are never reported so they never make in these statistics you can actually check the the stats they are from " fir reported all over India , and ngo,s working for women rights go ahead check them all
How can you be in a relationship with someone for 7+ years and not know if they are married? Also, after 7 years you should be already either married or living together (in the same house).
She's his fiancé so they were engaged and going to get married. He was together with her for 7 years but she married someone else six months ago. Hope that helps :)
50% marriage in USA and europe end in divorce . Isn't this scary for humanity. Most of them are love marriage; partner chosen by self. In USA most of them have at least 1 step mom or step dad.
70% of divorces are initiated by women. So all you’re telling me is that there are an awful lot of very very unhappy women in arranged marriages in India. Divorce frees women to leave abuse and unhappiness. Divorce is always a good choice
@@dannianniexxoonot always women are suffered nowadays it's a trend called "cheating"stop thinking like that in all 70% cases women were victims....they falsely accused their inlaws in fake dowry case.....
All the marriages ,love or arranged it takes lot of adjustments and sacrifices to make it work.when you put others first then only it will work. It has to be from both side. There won't be a marriage without disagreements but how we work it out is what makes marriage success. Once married in India we think its done deal men/women and they put efforts.
Idk I actually like the idea of arranged marriages. It’s s as lot easier than non arranged marriages. I completely suck at romance even though I’m a girl. Surprising there are some of us girls that suck at romance just as much as men do. So I actually wouldn’t mind if my parents or a friend wanted to choose a partner for me.
The main argument is that the person you are marrying when arranged is Unpredictable, I think its quite the opposite. Theyre the same caste, very similar social, economic upbringing and raising. Also calling more liberal ideas "modern" is quite a misleading at least. Modern and western are not synonymous. I believe India is way more advanced in social regards, very impressive.
Are you doing this on purpose...? I saw one more documentary but you only highlighted the bad part that too in way like this is the norm while its not. Arranged marriages are prevalent but love marriages are a steady practice too. While that depends on the family and stance of the individual this documentary is very one sided
There's sky and land difference between 'arrange marriage' and 'force marriage' , it's like matrimonial site by the parents they do the match making thing. But they both been asked if they want to marry the another person or not it's not forced. And i have seen love marriage ending in worse way . If the marriage doesn't make out you can blame your parents but you can't do it if you do it yourself. Now days 50% marriage are love marriage. Like my parents did love and arranged marriage and it was intercaste marriage. In Bengal very few people care about cast . And why tf the translation is so horrible.
Wow this topic surprised me that haters gonna hate me here like pro keyboard masters & give critics. I dont agree on arranged marriage as not my choice for me or anyone. Whether or not, the suitor has to mk decision of the own & follow according to the family values etc. Everything seems perfect beforehand.Who knows tmr it might slow things down of no communication no affectionate. Its best to do research abt the person background & not say the word ' beautiful' ^handsome^ or ^nice^
It's fine if you don't believe in marraige or Love. Marraige is going to be tedious, burden of responsibiltes doesn't matter what type of marriage you chose. Wanna be happy? Remain single and get more cute animals.
just met an indian girl , she’s been in america 4mths , she tells me abt these arranged marriages . she has to go back to India May 30th! i do not want her to go ! but she speaks of her family like they literally control her rly . i hate it ! i wanna keep her here .
Well if you smile the other ladies would say to you not smile. So basically, they probably think “how dare she is happy and smiling if I was crying and unhappy when I marriage”
Actually I agree, arranged marriage would be good, if the parents really love their child. I think we got it wrong in western society. Marriage should be building family with someone, accepting the other just as he is, not letting emotions ruin family. Of course in time the love grows too, and trust, respect. Of course if the daughter absolutely feels very strongly that no not that man then the parents can choose someone else.
Having an arranged marriage doesn't necessarily guarantee a successful building of a marriage and family. Marriages, arranged or not, can be unpredictable.
@@tiinaikonen7754 and it should be !! Why you have to wait for your parents to choose so called perfect bride or groom for you?? Don't you have any maturity to talk with girls for your own?? Or you are like coward or immatured??
Arranged Marriage is not a thing in my culture but this documentary pisses me off. The documentary itself (without the commentary track) is good. You can see the pros and the cons of arranged marriage over love marriage. But there's a vast disparity between the data shown and the conclusion. The documentary showed examples of how arranged marriage works in this culture, how the people of this culture think of it and how the rate of arranged marriage in this country is actually lower than that of love marriage. And yet the conclusion the commentator arrived at is a complete 180 - "Arranged marriage is bad because it is contrary to the modern (and might I add western) ideology of individualistic freedom." WTF! This documentary is a great example of how people tend to mock or belittle the customs and traditions that don't align with their own. Here's another example from a Jesuit missionary (in New France, 1610-1791) named Jean de Brébeuf , who wrote this about the Wendat burial customs he witnessed during his missionary work. Here's a paraphrased version: "Their customs and ceremonies are extraordinary to behold, and the reverence they show for their deceased is great. But it grieves us that they continue to follow these pagan rituals. We hope that one day they will embrace our Catholic religious customs, including the proper burial rites."
Arranged marriages all the way! Lowest divorce rates, expectations to bring family well, no broken families, kids taken care properly by parents and sacred enough not to break it for seasonal whimsical reasons. We dont want client changing marriages here. Even love marriages are approved by family.
There's nothing wrong with arrange marriage.. Because they still have a choice unlike forced marriage.. My boyfriend did forced marriage which killed him emotionally and mentally 😢
Let me break it down for you! Why is it that we see these arranged marriages popping off while women are still out here struggling and living like slaves? These ladies are stuck cooking, cleaning, and raising kids, and it’s just not right! And don’t even get me started on these fathers who are cashing in on their daughters like they’re some kind of prize. Instead of teaching their daughters to get out there and chase their dreams, these men are just looking for a quick payday by marrying off their girls to some dude she barely knows! Now, this whole thing is a nightmare, baby! In these unions, women are at risk of being abused, bullied, and even sexually assaulted. They can’t even leave if things get bad, and we all know the stakes can be deadly. I get it, parents want to keep their daughters ‘pure’ until marriage, but come on, this is not the way to do it! We need to be empowering our girls, not trapping them in a cycle of control and fear. This madness has to stop! 💅🏾✨
This video deserves way more dislikes than 13. Also I see people praising the Indian Caste System here, so that should say enough of the people who support this. Edit: I've seen some arguments in favor of arranged marriage and I'll debunk them. "Arranged marriages end in less divorces"- lack of Divorces doesn't mean a good marriage. Also worth mentioning that religious marriages like these people are highly discouraged to divorce. "*Insert 3rd world country here* have extremely low divorce rates thanks to this"- same countries that have a high rate of abuse against women and girls, coincidence?
I had arranged marriage and to this day, I hate arranged marriage culture. I would never let my daughters go through that shitty arranged marriage culture. Happy for people who had successful arranged marriages. But, I think there won't be that romantic spark in arranged marriages.
Im not an indian, but my bf is. We’re together going 3years now. He was single when we met. His parents are in india. He had an arranged marriage, he didn’t want. But he needed to bcoz he doesn’t have a choice. So he got married as the wish of his parents, and left his indian wife in india to take care of his parents. But he is here with me abroad and living together in the same house. Sad situation for everyone. 🤷♀️ yeah your arrange marriage works for your parents.
@mtofficial7565 •Single is not divorced?Children ?In India don’t fall for this idea of “I am so lonely anywhere or any man do a complete background check request a Divorce Certificate and don’t have children or even think about it if someone says they love you but doesn’t introduce you to his family vice versa ?Plus if he really loves you he will request your Family Permission to marry you -I have been there done that lived with a Sri Lankan man so whatever you do be very careful.
@@EllaBella-76 yeah lmao. If he really likes her then he would introduce her to his parents. Pretty sure, she will be dumped by him later if he doesn't really convince his parents.
Even Rama's marriage broke up Mahabharata is full of similar marriages. Death is not uncommon. What is the other choice. Do it like animals. Wait for the season and the smell. If you figure it out let me know. Bill gates, Beezo, Putan, Mao Tse Tung, Napolian, and a hundred more The roman Empire The ottoman Empire? I have ben married 65 years. Love Marriage.
Arranged and love marriage have the same rates of divorce in India. The only difference is responsibility. In love marriage, if the marriage ends, its your fault while in arranged marriage, if the marriage ends, its your parents fault and they are required to help you.
😂😂😂😂😂 People really show weakness. It doesn't matter how a relationship ends up, you are the only responsible person for it.
It's only manipulation to say oh it's parents fault and they have to fix it. IF YOU WANNA DIE SO BADLY IT'S NOT MY FAULY😂😂😂
@vincentfox4929 •Er what about if the man admits adultery ?There are children involved?Is that the parents thought hopefully they are only on the side of the woman and children?
How is it that in some cultures we’ve got these arranged marriages where women end up broke, trapped, and expected to be nobody but a cook, a cleaner, and a caretaker? It’s a whole nightmare situation! I mean, can we talk about the fact that some fathers are literally pocketing the cash when their daughters get married off to strangers? Like, what is that?!
And let’s keep it real-while some men are out here playing matchmaker for a paycheck, those poor women are stuck in situations where they can face abuse, bullying, and even violence. It’s like they’re living in a tragic story we thought was only in the movies. And let’s not forget the pressure on these girls to remain ‘pure’ until marriage, like that’s gonna solve everything. Newsflash: it’s not a solution, it’s a setup!
We gotta do better, people. It’s time to empower our girls to have a voice and a choice in their lives and their futures. Ain’t nobody got time for these outdated traditions that turn marriages into a prison instead of a partnership. Let’s support love, freedom, and respect-not this nonsense! Now, can I get an amen?
I'm also South Asian, all my friends (except one) who have married out of love have divorced.
Arrange marriage is different from the forced marriage.
Arranged marriage is forced marriage
@@kyleknight8267 common. If it is forced then it can't be successful.
Come out of the mindset of West...!!!!
World is larger and more diverse
@@kyleknight8267not really it is more like blind dates, if you like you can carry on with marriage or else there are always more options
Not always. Both of the couple are asked separately if they consented to this marriage......if one says no then the marriage is off. Sure the couple are under enormous pressure from their families and community to agree.....but they can get out of it if they feel the must. They may however lose their families and standing in the community. @@kyleknight8267
@@noneedofhatersoverhere2401 yeah
Divorce rates are low as they don't divorce even if marriage intolerant due to family shame
True agree with you 💯
I am a traditional Catholic from the Philippines and getting married soon to my American fiance who shares the same religion. We are very much a minority religion and its VERY difficult to find a partner. I met him through my own efforts, but honestly if I was in an arranged marriage concerning our religion I will accept it (as long as I can reject the men I don't like and have the choice to choose from the men they introduce to me). If you study the Bible especially the Old Testament, a lot of the most successful biblical marriages were actually semi-arranged marriages. I believe it takes more than romantic feelings to have a good marriage. A priest said that ideally you should share a lot of things: religion, social castes, economic level, political beliefs, habits, and family approval. Logically family arranged marriages are a good option and that is why it has worked for a long time throughout history.
Sure arranged marriages can work but they're not thinking of the ones that don't work.
Same goes for love marriage as well
@@arijitpal166 love marriage has more freedom and choice than arranged even today !!
@@subham99vlog look i am not against love marriage..
Only a successful marraige works where couples give 100% of their responsibilties, doesn't matter arrange or Love. Most people think marriage is 50-50 it's not, that's why most marraiges are broken, divorced and in depressed state.
If you look at failure rates of love vs arranged, people will go for arranged!!!
I have many Indian friends, they say in arranged marriage, the bride gets returned to her husband if she runs away. The married couple are told to stay together or they lose out on inheritance and the family turns their backs. Most of the "single" indian men on dating apps are actually married and run wild when they come to Minneapolis. I worked with an indian social service here in mn and many arranged marriage brides get abused by their husbands
The definition of abuse is very loose and broad ! So it's hard to believe social service types!!!
Very sad they have wife and want to cheat.
I can attest to tht. Indian men are the creepiest because they try their best to reserve their desires. Online they hunt women to fulfill all those desires.
Muslim men are weirder. They will do the same but not nearly on the same level as indian men
@@161BMW Don't western married couple cheat!?
I'm from Nigeria and we still practice arrange marriage and it's always work out more than love marriage
😂😂😂
But west will criticize India Nigeria as they think we are black hence weak
It doesn’t seem like he was that serious about her if she was a girlfriend for 7 years…
Word
Maybe she didn’t want to get married…
My Muslim friend had to wait 9 years to marry as my friend was only 17 and still at high school when they met at a family wedding. My friends dad wanted her to finish her education and then go to law school, which she did. The young couple were not allowed to date in the meantime but her fiance was allowed to visit her at her family home occasionally. Then he went to Saudi Arabia to work and make money for his wedding and the dowry etc which his family contributed to. Their parents thought they wouldn't wait for each other during those long years and they tried to arrange other marriages for them but the couple refused and waited for each other. They phoned and emailed each other and twice a year when the fiance came home on leave he visited her at her home. Finally after completing her law degree she married the man she loved and they had a spectacular wedding. Now they have been happily married for 19 years, have 3 daughters and are still in love. They emigrated to NZ after their first child was born and they embraced Kiwi life. I have watched their kids grow up into beautiful accomplished young women.
She was already married
Arrange marriage is NOT the same as forced marriage, but that is one of the first sentences said in this documentary. Better to inform yourselves before pushing a wrong idea on people. Just because westerners have abandoned the practice doesn't mean it isn't good.
Forced marriage=physical harrasment
Arranged marriage=mental harrasment
Love marriage = this is your own choice and freedom if it works then we'll and good and if it's not then move on and learn from your mistakes 😉
@@subham99vlog no you're quite biased.
@@nethaliabeyasinghe1458 okay If this is biased then I want to remain in this biased stage:))
@@subham99vlog depression and mental problems and trust issues have left the chat
@@subham99vlog you know when love marriage fail there is high the men generally becomes those alpha or sigma males and women those kill all men feminists
My parents been married for over 50 years no problem they had 7 children grandchildren and now great grandchildren we are all happy
feel sorry for the dude that lost his longterm gf. but he should have locked that down within 4 years
Arranged marriages have led to many lifes’ lost especially the bride for one reason or the other. Its scary sometimes to see how these very arranged marriages and the couples going through a very rough phase.
Love marriages are also difficult and have consequences yet i feel both the partners get to know each other well and their families also get along in the process which may lead to successful marriages and happy couples.
50%marriages end in divorce is west. 49% of them are love marriage.
You know promoting a woman's pain in financially rewarding for media houses. But talking about men is not the same. Many men are trapped in marriages with psycho women but can't leave because society will shun them in different ways compared to a woman. Many men are also tricked into marrying such women but stories as such will not come out. Only when the man snaps does something horrible, left-wing media arrives to harp about it.
33 percent of Indian arranged married women go through sexual and physical abuse
not counting mental abuse
25 percent of men go the physical and verbal abuse in the arranged marriage in india
@@AbcDef-gw4dgand 99 percent of cases are never reported so they never make in these statistics you can actually check the the stats they are from " fir reported all over India , and ngo,s working for women rights go ahead check them all
The documentary wasted so much time on "chujoy" and his dubious girlfriend. Stupid
Most of the first half of this video isn’t about arranged marriages at all.
How can you be in a relationship with someone for 7+ years and not know if they are married? Also, after 7 years you should be already either married or living together (in the same house).
She's his fiancé so they were engaged and going to get married. He was together with her for 7 years but she married someone else six months ago. Hope that helps :)
50% marriage in USA and europe end in divorce . Isn't this scary for humanity. Most of them are love marriage; partner chosen by self.
In USA most of them have at least 1 step mom or step dad.
in india most married women are suicidal
70% of divorces are initiated by women. So all you’re telling me is that there are an awful lot of very very unhappy women in arranged marriages in India. Divorce frees women to leave abuse and unhappiness. Divorce is always a good choice
@@dannianniexxoonot always women are suffered nowadays it's a trend called "cheating"stop thinking like that in all 70% cases women were victims....they falsely accused their inlaws in fake dowry case.....
So abuse is inseparable part of west weddings considering 3/4 of women population go through it?@@dannianniexxoo
@@dannianniexxoo that's not good for the mental health of your kids.
No one marries based on caste, what agenda do these people have? People look at occupation and long term prospect.
watching from the philippines..hi evryone..Godbless to u all😊
Hi from Kenya, God bless you too
Hare Krishna bless all
All the marriages ,love or arranged it takes lot of adjustments and sacrifices to make it work.when you put others first then only it will work. It has to be from both side. There won't be a marriage without disagreements but how we work it out is what makes marriage success. Once married in India we think its done deal men/women and they put efforts.
My parents & I also recomend love marrage but i dont have a girlfreind 😢 thats why i'll choosed to arrange marrage 😂👍
Idk I actually like the idea of arranged marriages. It’s s as lot easier than non arranged marriages. I completely suck at romance even though I’m a girl. Surprising there are some of us girls that suck at romance just as much as men do. So I actually wouldn’t mind if my parents or a friend wanted to choose a partner for me.
The main argument is that the person you are marrying when arranged is Unpredictable, I think its quite the opposite. Theyre the same caste, very similar social, economic upbringing and raising. Also calling more liberal ideas "modern" is quite a misleading at least. Modern and western are not synonymous. I believe India is way more advanced in social regards, very impressive.
Are you doing this on purpose...?
I saw one more documentary but you only highlighted the bad part that too in way like this is the norm while its not. Arranged marriages are prevalent but love marriages are a steady practice too. While that depends on the family and stance of the individual this documentary is very one sided
Western propoganda
There's sky and land difference between 'arrange marriage' and 'force marriage' , it's like matrimonial site by the parents they do the match making thing. But they both been asked if they want to marry the another person or not it's not forced. And i have seen love marriage ending in worse way . If the marriage doesn't make out you can blame your parents but you can't do it if you do it yourself. Now days 50% marriage are love marriage. Like my parents did love and arranged marriage and it was intercaste marriage. In Bengal very few people care about cast . And why tf the translation is so horrible.
Wow this topic surprised me that haters gonna hate me here like pro keyboard masters & give critics. I dont agree on arranged marriage as not my choice for me or anyone. Whether or not, the suitor has to mk decision of the own & follow according to the family values etc. Everything seems perfect beforehand.Who knows tmr it might slow things down of no communication no affectionate. Its best to do research abt the person background & not say the word ' beautiful' ^handsome^ or ^nice^
No one seems to be disputing what you’ve said?
It's fine if you don't believe in marraige or Love. Marraige is going to be tedious, burden of responsibiltes doesn't matter what type of marriage you chose. Wanna be happy? Remain single and get more cute animals.
just met an indian girl , she’s been in america 4mths , she tells me abt these arranged marriages . she has to go back to India May 30th! i do not want her to go !
but she speaks of her family like they literally control her rly . i hate it ! i wanna keep her here .
I hope she stays for you
@@Whitemoon379May be she has to convert into christianism to marry him! That's why the girl isn't that intetested in him.
What society fairs better: Those with arrange marriages or those with 3rd wave feminism?
There is no correct option :))
Yea there is. It's called divorce rate.
Why the man in wedding ceremony seem not to be happy...
Well if you smile the other ladies would say to you not smile. So basically, they probably think “how dare she is happy and smiling if I was crying and unhappy when I marriage”
During indian weddings which lasts for day due to different ceremonies, both the bride and the groom tend to be tired
In India educated people prefer arrange marriage due to gold digger girl is moving around metro cities 😂
Wtf
All of them speaking bengali only one guy at the end spoke hindi
Obtained phone data from previous colleagues/connections - I wonder if it’s even legal. That’s abuse of authority.
Although clever to profit out of it
This isn’t arranged it’s matchmaking.
i wonder when was this filmed ?!
Actually I agree, arranged marriage would be good, if the parents really love their child. I think we got it wrong in western society. Marriage should be building family with someone, accepting the other just as he is, not letting emotions ruin family. Of course in time the love grows too, and trust, respect. Of course if the daughter absolutely feels very strongly that no not that man then the parents can choose someone else.
Having an arranged marriage doesn't necessarily guarantee a successful building of a marriage and family. Marriages, arranged or not, can be unpredictable.
@@shahnjaylaconnors1476 of course. But western world have really romanticed love. Obviously this is general observation.
@@tiinaikonen7754 and it should be !!
Why you have to wait for your parents to choose so called perfect bride or groom for you??
Don't you have any maturity to talk with girls for your own??
Or you are like coward or immatured??
@@subham99vlog tum rndbaj ho kya ? Ya tumhare ghr ki aurate?
Arranged Marriage is not a thing in my culture but this documentary pisses me off.
The documentary itself (without the commentary track) is good. You can see the pros and the cons of arranged marriage over love marriage. But there's a vast disparity between the data shown and the conclusion. The documentary showed examples of how arranged marriage works in this culture, how the people of this culture think of it and how the rate of arranged marriage in this country is actually lower than that of love marriage. And yet the conclusion the commentator arrived at is a complete 180 - "Arranged marriage is bad because it is contrary to the modern (and might I add western) ideology of individualistic freedom." WTF!
This documentary is a great example of how people tend to mock or belittle the customs and traditions that don't align with their own.
Here's another example from a Jesuit missionary (in New France, 1610-1791) named Jean de Brébeuf , who wrote this about the Wendat burial customs he witnessed during his missionary work. Here's a paraphrased version: "Their customs and ceremonies are extraordinary to behold, and the reverence they show for their deceased is great. But it grieves us that they continue to follow these pagan rituals. We hope that one day they will embrace our Catholic religious customs, including the proper burial rites."
😂😂it's Western propoganda
That's why I'm not married all are worse 😂
Just enjoy being single and can go out with anyone
Arranged marriages all the way! Lowest divorce rates, expectations to bring family well, no broken families, kids taken care properly by parents and sacred enough not to break it for seasonal whimsical reasons. We dont want client changing marriages here. Even love marriages are approved by family.
I think it is best to actually date someone that would be compatible with you as well. how you meet that person shouldn't matter
@@farzananushinrezvi6935 According to you, arranged couples dont love/not compatible to each other?
More than half of American marriages end in divorce and financial ruin.Whats the divorce rate in India? Arranged marriage is good in most cases.
Arranged marriages don't work. They only last because Indian society frowns on divorce and shuns divorcees.
There's nothing wrong with arrange marriage..
Because they still have a choice unlike forced marriage..
My boyfriend did forced marriage which killed him emotionally and mentally 😢
who's the guy at 8:22 taking a photo?
Let me break it down for you! Why is it that we see these arranged marriages popping off while women are still out here struggling and living like slaves? These ladies are stuck cooking, cleaning, and raising kids, and it’s just not right! And don’t even get me started on these fathers who are cashing in on their daughters like they’re some kind of prize. Instead of teaching their daughters to get out there and chase their dreams, these men are just looking for a quick payday by marrying off their girls to some dude she barely knows! Now, this whole thing is a nightmare, baby! In these unions, women are at risk of being abused, bullied, and even sexually assaulted. They can’t even leave if things get bad, and we all know the stakes can be deadly. I get it, parents want to keep their daughters ‘pure’ until marriage, but come on, this is not the way to do it! We need to be empowering our girls, not trapping them in a cycle of control and fear. This madness has to stop! 💅🏾✨
Its dying in urban area now
This video deserves way more dislikes than 13. Also I see people praising the Indian Caste System here, so that should say enough of the people who support this.
Edit: I've seen some arguments in favor of arranged marriage and I'll debunk them.
"Arranged marriages end in less divorces"- lack of Divorces doesn't mean a good marriage. Also worth mentioning that religious marriages like these people are highly discouraged to divorce.
"*Insert 3rd world country here* have extremely low divorce rates thanks to this"- same countries that have a high rate of abuse against women and girls, coincidence?
Are the names messed up for any particular reason or is it just like that? As a Bengali it pains me to see the names!
Yes to demean denounced Hindu and India
Not chujoy. Sujoy. A common bengali names
No I'm Chinese and I insist it's Chujoy😂
I had arranged marriage and to this day, I hate arranged marriage culture. I would never let my daughters go through that shitty arranged marriage culture.
Happy for people who had successful arranged marriages. But, I think there won't be that romantic spark in arranged marriages.
Which country are you from?
@@koushikdas1992 South India
"No puedes harma la vaca"
Im not an indian, but my bf is. We’re together going 3years now. He was single when we met. His parents are in india. He had an arranged marriage, he didn’t want. But he needed to bcoz he doesn’t have a choice. So he got married as the wish of his parents, and left his indian wife in india to take care of his parents. But he is here with me abroad and living together in the same house. Sad situation for everyone. 🤷♀️ yeah your arrange marriage works for your parents.
@mtofficial7565 •Single is not divorced?Children ?In India don’t fall for this idea of “I am so lonely anywhere or any man do a complete background check request a Divorce Certificate and don’t have children or even think about it if someone says they love you but doesn’t introduce you to his family vice versa ?Plus if he really loves you he will request your Family Permission to marry you -I have been there done that lived with a Sri Lankan man so whatever you do be very careful.
@@mtofficial7565 He's just a narcissist and doesn't represent Indian man community at all.
@@EllaBella-76 yeah lmao. If he really likes her then he would introduce her to his parents. Pretty sure, she will be dumped by him later if he doesn't really convince his parents.
Why are you picking this song this song sound like Arabic language and you make this documentary on India .
Arabic was invented in INDIA 😅
😂😂 Western propoganda 😂😂
That's their understanding bro. But they like they are superior and hence the world should follow only their methods.
Why the guy Investigated? Doesn't he know marriage and love are opposite? Its a matter of duty.
watching from ph 🇵🇭
Even Rama's marriage broke up
Mahabharata is full of similar marriages.
Death is not uncommon.
What is the other choice. Do it like animals. Wait for the season and the smell.
If you figure it out let me know.
Bill gates, Beezo, Putan, Mao Tse Tung, Napolian, and a hundred more The roman Empire The ottoman Empire?
I have ben married 65 years. Love Marriage.
No one looks at caste in today’s age that’s stupid, this video is false.
Deep rooted in the caste system, what’s wrong with you. Definitely an agenda driven video.
*India have 1% divorce rate* 🇮🇳
Gee I wonder why? 😆
That 1% of India's population is still more than some countries' population.
Found myself hea...
01-07-2023
23 31 uur kan ik jullie vanwege deze clip op LFG horen lachen van plezier
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I don’t like arranged marriage :( 💔
Such an archaic patriarchy system. Marriage is so complicated and become old, cohabitation and partnership. Arranged marriage sounds contractive..
Marriage is old idea - be it arranged or love ones.
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jai hind gobar gaumutra bhai 🙏🇮🇳
first to watch
Love & arranged marriages are all not perfect ! Arrange marriages more problems !
keep breeding
😂 Indians are illogical & have sheep mentality in this regard