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Anna, jag undrade vad du gjorde för ett jobb tills du började göra youtube-videor? Och om du hade ett jobb innan du träffade din man. Jag har inget jobb och folk i Sverige kan vara dömande mot min pojkvän och jag
Amazing,God bless your modesty and you are a living testimony that shame and condemnation and guilt of our past sins can be broken ,I believe everybody can be free from this ,they just need some faith and to trust that Jesus Christ will make a way out ,he did it for me he will do it again for someone else 💖✝️💯
So many people are trying to trash Anna on TH-cam and I’m so happy she has taken control of this and explaining it. She has never denied having a past and always shared some of her experiences. Now jokes on all those who think they have some “juicy secrets” they think they are exposing! She is brilliant and is an original with this type of content. I have learned so much from this Channel. Thank you Anna for sharing!
Her honesty is everything!!! That's why she is shining, more and more... Truly appreciate you Anna!!! I am very grateful for sharing all your knowledge with us! 💐
She handled the haters Anna style. Staying classy. Haha. Stupid haters are insecure about themselves so they try to bring others down because misery loves company. Team Anna!
I bet those so-called haters are only trolls. No-one can honestly have a go at Anna for anything. She is a real inspiration, and is also a REAL human being in every way!
So true. I no longer follow anybody else from the sector but her. It is like I can trust on her, I can know her better much than anybody else. Thank you very much, my dear elegant teacher
This is the best come back ever. I loved it when she looked straight in the camera and said to her haters “show me your perfect past”.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Your true fans will always follow you Anna; because you are authentic.
Actually Anna's shenanigans are quite mild compared to some things I've seen and experienced from both men & women! If you look at shows also such as "The Real Housewives" or "Vanderpump Rules" my goodness....they are just disturbing, yet people glue themselves to the TV to watch.
It takes a lot of courage to admit being silly in past rather than justifying our mistakes. Kudos Anna! This story is an example that no matter what is your past, your present and future doesn’t have to be the same. Scope of improvement is first an idea in our minds. Thanks my dear elegant lady Anna ❤️💖🎊
All these things are coming out on TH-cam. I’m glad she’s taking control of the situation and explaining it so the other TH-camrs that think they are “exposing” juicy content , jokes on them! Everyone has a past and she has never denied this. That’s why she is aways talking about “leveling up!” Anna is Brilliant, and original when it comes to having content like this. There are other TH-camrs that try to make a buck off trashing her. I think they should be the ones embarrassed.
Brava Swadha and this site alone is an example of Anna's growth & success. Her intial approach turned me off in some ways but she quickly addressed & Improved it significantly. Anna's an intelligent & elegant lady who knows how to accomplish goals.
I love the quote that says, “You don’t inspire people by being perfect, you inspire them by how you deal with your imperfections”. Thank you for sharing. I struggle with dwelling on the past and decisions I regret, but this reminds me to let it go and keep creating the person I want to be.
As a woman in her 50’s, I can absolutely attest to the fact that everyone makes mistakes in their early lives. That is what our late teens and 20’s are for, to learn from our silly mistakes. Don’t let bad choices from your 20’s, or 30’s for that matter, define who you are in the present moment. Every day is a fresh start, another opportunity to be the best version of yourself. Glad you shared this Anna.
My aunt tells me the same thing. She had my cousin at 16 years old, dropped out of school, ran away from home, got very badly hurt by a crowd she thought of as “friends,” ran away once more, found some strange man in Morocco, had a shotgun-wedding, and nearly burned every bridge between her and her family - all before her 30th birthday. Now, she’s 66 years old. She’s spent 15 years making amends with her family and last year she earned her doctorate while her daughter earned her master’s degree. She grew up in a chicken coop (I mean *chicken coop* literally) but just bought her own dream home and is happy as ever. She gets to teach what she loves and watch her daughter succeed after a lifetime of mistakes plus the damage-control. She tell me it is NEVER too late. To do ANYTHING. It’s not too late to make changes to your life (whether good ones or bad ones). It’s only too late when life’s over, take advantage of *now.*
Yep. Ever since that tough as nails streetwalker escaped from my basement, despite her being manacled to the radiator, I've found it much wiser and fruitful to instead swipe both high school girls who are walking to school in the morning, and freshman coeds who are on their way home after dark. This not only reduces the chances of the girl being the sort who's adept at getting her way out of such circumstances, but the flesh is inevitably much softer and smoother against the blade of my machete
Am i the only one who doesn't see this past as a "dark past"? I mean she was just someone young, who navigated life with what she knew from it. The moment she realized (learned more) what she could achieve with her potential, she started making the necessary changes and it (naturally) impacted her level of living. That's it! I just see a normal girl learning to live better. However, hats off to you Anna for being true and transparent, instead of acting as if you were this perfect since birth :P
This is an excellent strategy Anna. As you become more successful people will try to find ways to discredit and humiliate you by digging up your past. By putting it out there and owning it you’ve taken away all future ammunition haters have. You’re courageous I respect you more than ever!
Dear Jutka12, I couldn't agree with you more I was going to add this comment, but you have done it for me ! This video will certainly take the wind out of the "haters" sails ! WELL DONE !
I'm so sick of people pulling ancient footage on a person in an attempt to attack their character. Get to know the person you see today. Todays Anna is gorgeous inside and out. I really don't need to know how she got here but she's here and awesome.
This video is exactly why I admire you. You don’t hide. You’re aware. You accept. You learn. You move on. You go forward. You have guts and you have arrived. No matter your past, today you’re a first rate lady.
The sad thing is a lot of men and people general will still judge you for the things you did in your past even if that’s not even you anymore. For some reason, women are supposed to forgive and ignore a man’s bad past but if a young woman has done some less than ideal things, we get harshly criticized and labeled automatically and not forgiven. People can be very evil in this way, especially if they know they can figure out a way to use it against you and make themselves look better than you. Speaking from personal experience.
@@WonderlandAdventure Oh of course not. I had a guy do this to me via an online social media smear campaign, after he was pissed that I wasn’t interested in dating him. He was 40 at the time (3 years ago) and is an English professor at FIU. Talk about a jealous psycho.
@@jessiejoseph1093 I did and we weren’t even involved. After I did so, he created an online smear campaign on social media to destroy my reputation. Only he LIED about everything with half truths about my past. I had to get a lawyer and get multiple restraining orders against this guy. I’ll never forget it.
Anna I strongly believe your honesty is the main reason you have leveled up. Many influencer would never admit who they used to be. You make us believe we can all level up no matter where you came from!
In a million years I would have never thought that was you, Anna. You look so sophisticated and gorgeous now! We all did things in our life that we regretted. You grew from that experience and blossomed into a beauty queen! Bravo! An example for us of us.
"When your mama tells you all she did as a young woman" that's the vibe I got from this video. I love the part when you said you were no longer attached to that version of yourself. Thanks for sharing Anna.
I love that Anna is so honest and unashamed of her past. It is so refreshing that she has this attitude of "yeah, I did some seriously trashy things, but it didn't stop me from leveling up." 100% respect her and like her even more for this.
I believe almost anyone can relate to your story, young and foolish, I wouldn't like having a camera filming all the silly things, mistakes and misbehavior I did when I was younger... Bravo for you Anna!
This is why I like Anna Bey, she is honest and real. People saying gold digger dont even realize that that word was invented by men to belittle and shame us women as if men are not drawn to money themselves when that's all they aim and work for in the first place. Thank you Anna for sharing and being vulnerable but most of all being real to the point where women like me can relate and feel good knowing we are not alone. I love you sweetheart.
When I was young I used to be invited to a “late-night” talk show and I talked a lot of “dirty jokes” I was too young to think of the consequences if being seen by family or other decent friends. I also used to shoot a supplement commercial for boobs and it had still been on tv until I started a decent work in office. Being made fun by whole male colleagues with their evil eyes. We all have past, we can take it as a life lesson, for ourselves and also for other young people. But it’s still very mean if people bring it up all the time. They are not noble just because they didn’t have such past. They are just low class to try every possibility to hurt people.
Ugh, what low lifes!! They are honestly just jealous because they never got to do anything so exciting, just living a boring life from home to school to their boring job. There's no shame in working in entertainment! It means someone out there thinks you're beautiful and interesting, or you wouldn't have been put in front of the camera in the first place! You should be proud of yourself. 👏👏
I have always admired people who were the victims of gossip or shame and stayed in whatever job/church/town. At some point, people get tired of talking or joking about it. I know some men never seem to tire of telling the same jokes over and over for years, so it seems like it will never end, but everyone else gets tired of it. I've seen it happen with women at work and church, and even when I knew the gossip was true and they truly did something wrong (or even illegal), I admired them for continuing to show their face and keep their heads held high when I feel like dissolving into a puddle over minor embarrassments. Eventually it's no longer entertaining to others and we all move on. I hope people have stopped bringing it up for you. We all deserve to be able to move on.
Anna you’re such a legend and inspiration. In this day and age this level of transparency and honesty feels so rare. In my opinion there’s no room for shame, guilt or bitterness and your attitude towards these past experiences is a symbol of elegance. So happy for you, myself and all other women that had the strength to overcome these things. If you’re reading this and you still feel burdened by these things it’s possible to let go, you just need to work on it actively. Give yourself the credit you deserve, whatever you’ve been through you’re here today now and that’s all that matters - tomorrow can be whatever you want to make of it. I’m 25 and have my fair share of trauma and troubles, but I’ve worked very hard the last years to be better and I’m now working with a-list celebs and in the process of buying my first house. There’s nothing special about me, I just worked hard and if I can do it then you definitely can too. Thanks so much for this inspiring video and happy new year!
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. My daughter has been approached to go on one of these shows, I'm really against it. I can't wait to show her this video. Thank you for sharing x
im glad that you're showing your daughter this video and also hope she decides not to go but sometimes we have to let people (even our loved ones) make mistakes because how are they supposed to learn without them?
Woman empowerment means too to recognize that everybody has a past and doesn´t have to be ashamed by it. Anna is powerful opening us her life and taking the control of those haters and trolls that want fame "exposing" her. I don´t care what did Anna did with her life in the past, I´m learning a lot with her.
Because of your honesty and truthfulness, I admire and respect you on a greater and higher level. You are a true role model and great “influencer.”Thank you!
YESS! You said that perfectly. If you have a PR person that came up with this, they deserve a raise and if you came up with this this would be another skill you sell. Been a fan since the beginning. You have had great influence in my life. We are NOT defined by our past
I love this women so much. I love the way she says, " Now let's dive into my trashy past." The juxtaposition between her life then and her life now is intensely motivating and gives me hope in leveling up. Way to go, Anna. Never stop teaching elegance and giving your opinion on how a man should treat a woman.
When I was around 16-17 I went to New Years Eve with my best friend to her boyfriend's. There was this guy quite interested in me and as we celebrated (and done some drinking 👀) we kissed. Then we we slept in same room, but we didn't sleep with each other or anything. But the next day everyone thought we did. I got bullied because of it for a year, then i stopped seeing anyone from that group, even my best friend. I was really ashamed of myself and felt terrible, but now I am over it. It made me realize lot of things and also made me stronger. Thank you Anna for this video. I hope it will help many young girls to not give up, no matter what they're going through. ❤️
How horrified would any of us be if our lives, as young people, were Recorded, and all of our disasters and mistakes were broadcast on TV for everyone to see? Anna, thank you for being you… And anyone who has anything negative to say, is likely jealous… People in glass houses should not throw stones, correct? You’re amazing! I’ve learned so much from you… Thank you for teaching people how to be elegant and how to better their situation by bettering themselves.
I lurk around your channel a lot but never really comment or anything... Just want to say that I appreciate this video. So glad that you shared your experience and you're teaching us how to deal with past mistakes and make better versions of ourselves. Thank you.
I agree, very hard but possible, forgive one self. Once we so that, we are more kind with ourselves, sometimes we get to that untill our 30s like me, but I am glad, I wish for all women to get to that point soon amd let go shame and guilt that serves no one.
It helps me to forgive myself when I see amazing people like you admit your wrongs in the past, but still choose to move forward. You are not defined by your past! You at any point can change your future by fixing things today!
Almost all people, from all walks of life, have made at least one embarrassing or ignorant mistake/decision. I love your channel. I feel most women should watch it! I appreciate the honesty and the openness. The advice you give is brilliant. Thank you!
I must say, this is shocking seeing you in this light, but very necessary because when when people see who you were, it’s helps us to understand how much time and effort you’ve put in to become who you are. You’ve grown and matured so beautifully, which is exactly what’s supposed to happen. I’m sure most of us have been there, young and dumb, insecure and seeking validation. You putting out this video just makes me love you even more because it humanizes you. Your not just this perfect person who’s been this way all her life. All I can say is that I’m so proud of who you’ve become and I hope this teaches so many more women that leveling up is possible and very necessary for growth in all aspects of life. 💕
I'm 22 and am at a point where I can either stay attached to the mistakes I've made or detach and try starting from scratch again . Thank you for this video
We all have been thru an "embarrasing" past, but as you wisely mention "past doesnt define us" and we are in the path of learning from what we dont like to a better life standard. Thanks Anna!!!! I missed you on the Holidays!!!!!
I am not going to hide the fact that I am pleasantly surprised that you decided to adress this part of your past. In your face, haters! Haha. Thank you for sharing and once again proving what an amazing and genuine woman you are. Hälsningar från Sri Lanka.
I really appreciate your authenticity and life philosophy. Your courage to share your "not so glamorous" past is amazing and encouraging. You are a woman who is beautiful from the inside out.
I love your transparency. And yes, we do SO MANY stupid things when we are insecure and seek validation. But the past shouldn't define your future. Such a great message here, Anna. Thank you for this!
I am so glad that she turned her life around. She is an example that working on yourself, and improving your life will be rewarded in the future. Never give up!
I love this transparency moments. This owning up to the poor choices and opening up about the fact that not all of us get to be born into elegance, wealth and self esteem. This is so positive because it is encouraging for all of us who think "oh I will never be like her".
it is no transparency, it is damage control. Someone posted the entire show where Anna participated and suddenly she is talking about it. It is - because it is better when she shows that rather than some haters would make a video about it.
@@ParisAntarktis but she has showed us a big part of that type of person before (her before) She has showed pictures of herself looking "not elegant" like those moments in the show, she has told us that she smoked, drank, and had a "scandalous" type of life. The information about her participating in the show is new, BUT that version of her is not new to us 🤷🤷
Anna: I love that you read the comments and appreciate them. Your sense of humor (and willingness to be silly on camera when you show us what not to do) and your willingness to show us the 'before', are such strengths and set you apart from the phony youtube presenters. Thank you.
I'm sorry that you have to remember all of this, and I admire so much your strength to recognize, reflect and talk about it. Thank you for bringing awareness to these issues. These shows are unethical and predatory
It can feel so empowering also to clear the air. In my youth, I made a mistake because I was young and impressionable. Though I matured and went on in life, it wasn’t until I decided to clean out any skeletons from my closet that I felt I truly regained my power. And of course I’m not on TH-cam so it was only a select few I talked to. Being in the public like you is a blessing as you share your insights on elegance & etiquette, but it can also bring out people with insincere motives. Bravo to you for reminding us to keep our personal power in our own hands. Thank you
Anna! I have to tell you, this is the best video you ever made! You are a huge help for young girls to save them from social pressure to make mistakes in their life. Awakening. Educating. Honest. Very deep. I love every world you say. Thank you!
We live in a time of much criticism and judgment from people who dare to do it in public and who believe they are saviors of the world. There is nothing worse than disempowering people than telling them directly or indirectly that they are weak and do not have the strength to defend themselves. Your content is excellent and I appreciate it more, as you did a great job in speaking it fluently and showing graceful humility and personality. I want a thousand times more than what you already have in your life. ♥️
We are all human, make mistakes and learn from them. Its wonderful she is sharing all her experiences. It's part of changing, learning, growing as a person.
When you said the past doesn’t matter, I actually felt that. I needed to hear that. Anna, seeing you go from that to this, wow! That is fantastic. I’ve lived ashamed of what I’ve said, what I’ve done. That’s literally been me. I’ve held myself back from things because I just didn’t want people to know about those things.
dear Anna, this is my favorite of all your videos because you got so transparent and used your experience to encourage us all to let go of being captive to something or thing(s) from our past: what a great quote you shared”let go of your past and it will let go of you”.
OMG I just started watching, and I can relate! I was on The Bachelor in 2008 and did very well. I was on a short lived show on Bravo in 2015. Then I was on TLC for one episode of My Feet Are Killing Me in 2020. I could crawl under the table just thinking about it. I'm 41 now and much more of an elegant lady. When I look at women now, living trashy and I say hey, let's all elevate, they look at me and throw my past in my face. My last was my past. No one should be living now how they were fourteen years ago! Come on! Times have changed and so have I. I'm glad you can relate to this....you understand what many people don't.
Was just talking to one of my friends who is feeling down about some bad decisions about how nobody is perfect. I love that you make the point of saying “show me your perfect past” in response to possible judgements.
You are ashamed enough to regret it but brave enough to share it with all of us and that's what I really like in you and I'm so glad that I follow you💞💞💞💞💞💞
Being open about your past mistakes makes you authentic and self-aware, which is a perfect example of having class. It's inspiring to see how no matter where you've been in life, there is always a way to level up and transform into an aspiring version of yourself, so long as you have the desire to do it.🌟
This makes you even more legit! Who cares what you DID…What you continue to do is all that matters. It’s easier to take advice from someone who has been through certain things vs. someone who has always been a certain way. It helps us understand CHANGE is POSSIBLE! And THAT is one of the MOST motivational things is being an example and allowing us to SEE that people CAN and want to GROW!
Anna!!! Watching you in those clips running around drunk with overplucked brows and a cigarette hanging out of your mouth! Omg girl 🤣 I was 24 in 2010, and I could have told you that those producers hand pick people who they know will act the fool on TV to get ratings. You have done a great job on yourself. I’m even more proud of you after seeing this! You’ve done a great job transforming yourself 💖💖💖
I LOVE seeing your trashy side! Lol. Just to know that you've been there and done that like the rest of us. It only makes me respect you more. Incredible to see how far you've come. As difficult as that time was for you it likely gave you the push you needed to move in the opposite direction... and clearly, you did it girl. Sadly, most of those people are just older versions of the same people they were when seen on the show... because most people don't want to do the actual work it takes to change. They also don't want to own their past behavior... a lot of people can't/ won't do that. (Esp if they are still the same) Trashy is easy... but classy takes a lot of work. So... anyone out there with something to say, please... let's see where YOU'RE currently at on the trashy to classy journey. & if you're still somewhere in between... & you are... then shhh!! The only person you're making look bad... is yourself. See... truly classy people do not waste their time making trashy videos about others. They look ahead & not behind. Like Anna.
Honestly Anna, the fact that you were willing to go here speaks volumes! You are comfortable enough in your own skin to be authentic and candid and empathetic. Would that we had more women like you in the world. Brava to you and for how far you've come! Brava!
Firstly, Anna, you look great. The hair and the dress look excellent on you. This was such a mature video and your honesty is refreshing and admirable. I think a lot of young ladies can learn a lot from this.
I admire Anna's sense of style, but haven't particularly been a fan...until now. This was such a powerful message! Our past doesn't have to define us- it's a life lesson we should all be fortunate enough to learn.
I LOVE how you are vulnerable in a classy way because you are not putting yourself above everyone else. You are showing how as humans we grow, we make mistakes and no matter what you start from, you can elevate your elegance.💗
I think the biggest mistake that so many of us make, is letting loneliness affect our decisions about men. We don't just enjoy our singleness until we encounter someone suitable, and worthy, but grab the nearest loser because we don't want to be alone. And it's not their fault, they were just being themselves and we chose them. Yes we did.
Literally Anna, this is one of your best videos and the most honest one. Sharing this says so much about who you are today and how confident you are. Thanks for sharing
A real example of your past does not determine your future. Anna you changed your entire narrative and now you’re helping others. What a queen. Can’t wait to do the same. ✨
Every Saint has a past, every sinner has a future! Amazing video Anna and you should be proud because this will inspire so many women who had written themselves off to think again! Xx
We all do things sometimes past, sometimes present, and then think "yep. That was me. Wish it wasn't, but it was!" We're all human and the more we're vulnerable, the more we encourage and connect with others by letting them know we are all human! Thankyou Anna!
I love that you are showing this side of yourself and being open and honest, I am currently 25, lived a very similar past life to yours. I am ready to step up my life. I always felt that I couldn't because I had such a trashy past. I did absolutely crazy things. Hearing your story tells me that I can become the elegant lady I long to be, with having the past that I do. We are not that different. thank you for this video I needed it.
Anna we love you, the unfortunate state of the world right now is people like to bring up peoples past to tear them down- nothing shows grace like laughing at the past and saying what you learnt from it! Im sure if someone filmed me at university people would be shocked at my behaviour- You've inspired me to stop trying to bury my party girl past and instead laugh at it and use it to remember just how far ive come x
Anna, I think that you are amazing. I appreciate your incredible honesty about your past and your journey getting to where you are today! Most people, including myself, would never be comfortable being so vulnerable to such a large audience. Your honesty is an inspiration in showing others, again including myself, that one can learn from their mistakes and make a better life for yourself. I love the idea of "I am no longer attached to that version of myself."!
Every time I think I can't love her enough, she proceeds to share more vulnerable information about herself to teach us that we can start over and you can rewrite your own story and recreate your own path. So much respect!!
In college I fell in love with a perfect guy, but I thought being 'cool' and 'fun' and 'popular' meant going clubbing, getting drunk and staying out late every night with the crowd (and I thought this would impress him!), but all he wanted was someone to get up early with to go running or to church or to visit historical places, which is what I really preferred as well. In trying to get validation from everyone I ended up losing out on the one person who really mattered and losing those experiences that I would have treasured instead of nights I can't remember and mornings sleeping in being sick.
I have to add, that was the beginning of my own 'level up journey', I was so depressed I took a semester off school and got a job which was awful but once I recovered I resolved to stop getting drunk, I cut my hair and learned to do makeup online, I invested in a small but classy wardrobe that complimented me and made me look elegant rather than 'fun', and I pursued my own interests like photography and reading and spent more time with real friends instead of just going to random parties to feel included, and most importantly I outlined my dreams and goals and thought about how to get there rather than living in the moment trying to be sexy to impress strangers who didn't even care about me. I never met another guy so perfect, but when I went back to school it was night and day to how I was treated and the quality of people who I attracted as friends and partners.
Anna, I applaud your level of maturity and honesty. You are awesome! Thank you for sharing your story. I hope young girls will learn something. Young girls are always the easy prey of exploiters and it’s a very hard lesson.
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Anna, jag undrade vad du gjorde för ett jobb tills du började göra youtube-videor? Och om du hade ett jobb innan du träffade din man. Jag har inget jobb och folk i Sverige kan vara dömande mot min pojkvän och jag
Anna, you are so inspirational. Thanks for sharing this. Try Bioré - Aqua Rich Watery Essence FPS 50. No oily at all.
You were gorgeous then, youre gorgeous now. People all grow up. I have done worse, and many times. BUT; NEVER EVER on camera. I hate cameras.
Amazing,God bless your modesty and you are a living testimony that shame and condemnation and guilt of our past sins can be broken ,I believe everybody can be free from this ,they just need some faith and to trust that Jesus Christ will make a way out ,he did it for me he will do it again for someone else 💖✝️💯
I believe God is using you to raise up the women in modesty 💖✝️💯🔥
I love how Anna admitted that she was insecure, as most insecure people will deny it for a long time
I too think I’m very funny and humorous with pure honesty🧚🏿♂️
To me, admitting our flaws means that we came to terms with them or have already worked to get past them❤️
So many people are trying to trash Anna on TH-cam and I’m so happy she has taken control of this and explaining it. She has never denied having a past and always shared some of her experiences. Now jokes on all those who think they have some “juicy secrets” they think they are exposing! She is brilliant and is an original with this type of content. I have learned so much from this Channel. Thank you Anna for sharing!
Her honesty is everything!!! That's why she is shining, more and more... Truly appreciate you Anna!!! I am very grateful for sharing all your knowledge with us! 💐
She handled the haters Anna style. Staying classy. Haha. Stupid haters are insecure about themselves so they try to bring others down because misery loves company. Team Anna!
I bet those so-called haters are only trolls. No-one can honestly have a go at Anna for anything. She is a real inspiration, and is also a REAL human being in every way!
This is everything
I really like your honesty........thanx for sharing this informative vdo...... keep rising nd shining always....gud wishes..👍👍
"I am no longer attached the that version of myself."
Thank you Anna, I needed to hear that.
best quote EVER!!!
This is regrettable. Anna kissing more girls while topless in a hotel, and perhaps going much further than this is a sight many are eager to behold
This is my dream, to no longer be attached to the stupid version of myself. I wish I could and I hope I could learn how to.
@@rampadora3404 let's try the best to be a better version of ourself ladies😔😤🏋🏻♀️
Yes
She is the proven fact that you can level up no matter where you’ve been and I only respect people like this!! ✨🦋
Ma’am, not even the CIA could’ve gotten this confession out of me. You’re so brave 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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This is why Anna is different from other feminity influencer . She's relatable ❤️❤️
So true. I no longer follow anybody else from the sector but her. It is like I can trust on her, I can know her better much than anybody else. Thank you very much, my dear elegant teacher
Bwahahaha !!!
This is the best come back ever. I loved it when she looked straight in the camera and said to her haters “show me your perfect past”.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Your true fans will always follow you Anna; because you are authentic.
@@paulinapoznan8401 I think she means a comeback from the trashy past, and levelling up. I could be wrong.
Actually Anna's shenanigans are quite mild compared to some things I've seen and experienced from both men & women!
If you look at shows also such as "The Real Housewives" or "Vanderpump Rules" my goodness....they are just disturbing, yet people glue themselves to the TV to watch.
@@paulinapoznan8401 Anna had a Christmas/New Year 1 month holiday break. She did mention this in one of her posts before taking the time off 🤗
@@dijonvolner6024 Twas not mild at all. But at least she hath improved. A lot.
It takes a lot of courage to admit being silly in past rather than justifying our mistakes. Kudos Anna! This story is an example that no matter what is your past, your present and future doesn’t have to be the same. Scope of improvement is first an idea in our minds. Thanks my dear elegant lady Anna ❤️💖🎊
All these things are coming out on TH-cam. I’m glad she’s taking control of the situation and explaining it so the other TH-camrs that think they are “exposing” juicy content , jokes on them! Everyone has a past and she has never denied this. That’s why she is aways talking about “leveling up!” Anna is Brilliant, and original when it comes to having content like this. There are other TH-camrs that try to make a buck off trashing her. I think they should be the ones embarrassed.
Brava Swadha and this site alone is an example of Anna's growth & success. Her intial approach turned me off in some ways but she quickly addressed &
Improved it significantly. Anna's an intelligent & elegant lady who knows how to accomplish goals.
I love the quote that says, “You don’t inspire people by being perfect, you inspire them by how you deal with your imperfections”. Thank you for sharing. I struggle with dwelling on the past and decisions I regret, but this reminds me to let it go and keep creating the person I want to be.
Wow I like this 😍
Indeed it is trueee!! If all perfect, nothing to be correct. Nothing we can learn.
Amen!
As a woman in her 50’s, I can absolutely attest to the fact that everyone makes mistakes in their early lives. That is what our late teens and 20’s are for, to learn from our silly mistakes. Don’t let bad choices from your 20’s, or 30’s for that matter, define who you are in the present moment. Every day is a fresh start, another opportunity to be the best version of yourself. Glad you shared this Anna.
We only have God to answer to, in the end. Not ppl.
Agree, but accountability starts with accepting consequences from your choices.
My aunt tells me the same thing. She had my cousin at 16 years old, dropped out of school, ran away from home, got very badly hurt by a crowd she thought of as “friends,” ran away once more, found some strange man in Morocco, had a shotgun-wedding, and nearly burned every bridge between her and her family - all before her 30th birthday.
Now, she’s 66 years old.
She’s spent 15 years making amends with her family and last year she earned her doctorate while her daughter earned her master’s degree. She grew up in a chicken coop (I mean *chicken coop* literally) but just bought her own dream home and is happy as ever. She gets to teach what she loves and watch her daughter succeed after a lifetime of mistakes plus the damage-control.
She tell me it is NEVER too late. To do ANYTHING. It’s not too late to make changes to your life (whether good ones or bad ones). It’s only too late when life’s over, take advantage of *now.*
I'm in my 50s. All I can say is holy CRAP i'm happy there were no TV cameras around.
Her face is an ongoing mistake.
Love how you owned up to it and set an example for all of us. We are all learning from our mistakes ❤️
Agreed! We all had our moments
Exactly. From our mistakes, not others' mistakes.
Yep. Ever since that tough as nails streetwalker escaped from my basement, despite her being manacled to the radiator, I've found it much wiser and fruitful to instead swipe both high school girls who are walking to school in the morning, and freshman coeds who are on their way home after dark. This not only reduces the chances of the girl being the sort who's adept at getting her way out of such circumstances, but the flesh is inevitably much softer and smoother against the blade of my machete
Well said
Am i the only one who doesn't see this past as a "dark past"? I mean she was just someone young, who navigated life with what she knew from it. The moment she realized (learned more) what she could achieve with her potential, she started making the necessary changes and it (naturally) impacted her level of living. That's it! I just see a normal girl learning to live better.
However, hats off to you Anna for being true and transparent, instead of acting as if you were this perfect since birth :P
I agree with everything you said!
Looks super dark to me. Normal people don't participate in such behaviors, no matter their age. She really must've been going through something.
exactly she was just a silly 20 something. I mean my god I think I've done worse
exactly, part of growing up
RIGHT
This is an excellent strategy Anna. As you become more successful people will try to find ways to discredit and humiliate you by digging up your past. By putting it out there and owning it you’ve taken away all future ammunition haters have. You’re courageous I respect you more than ever!
Dear Jutka12,
I couldn't agree with you more
I was going to add this comment, but you have done it for me !
This video will certainly take the wind out of the "haters" sails !
WELL DONE !
Absolutely!!
That is the great example of taking control and power in to her own hands! :) Respect!
It also shows that no matter how dark, bad or hard your past was...that you can completely turn your life around. That's inspiration and admiration 💝
I'm so sick of people pulling ancient footage on a person in an attempt to attack their character. Get to know the person you see today. Todays Anna is gorgeous inside and out. I really don't need to know how she got here but she's here and awesome.
This video is exactly why I admire you. You don’t hide. You’re aware. You accept. You learn. You move on. You go forward. You have guts and you have arrived. No matter your past, today you’re a first rate lady.
The sad thing is a lot of men and people general will still judge you for the things you did in your past even if that’s not even you anymore. For some reason, women are supposed to forgive and ignore a man’s bad past but if a young woman has done some less than ideal things, we get harshly criticized and labeled automatically and not forgiven. People can be very evil in this way, especially if they know they can figure out a way to use it against you and make themselves look better than you. Speaking from personal experience.
Very true - but we shouldn’t want to be with men like that anyway. We deserve a lot better
Quality men won’t do that. Just men who are insecure and want a power trip.
@@WonderlandAdventure Oh of course not. I had a guy do this to me via an online social media smear campaign, after he was pissed that I wasn’t interested in dating him. He was 40 at the time (3 years ago) and is an English professor at FIU. Talk about a jealous psycho.
@@jessiejoseph1093 I did and we weren’t even involved. After I did so, he created an online smear campaign on social media to destroy my reputation. Only he LIED about everything with half truths about my past. I had to get a lawyer and get multiple restraining orders against this guy. I’ll never forget it.
@@chelseabunker2391 Precisely.
Anna I strongly believe your honesty is the main reason you have leveled up. Many influencer would never admit who they used to be. You make us believe we can all level up no matter where you came from!
I love this part of Ana’s life because it shows the level up is possible for all of us. Thanks for sharing with us!!
Seriously. No one is perfect and that’s okay.
@@Ashas.Garden you are right :) I don’t aim perfection, just to be better than yesterday :)
Portugal??
@@Adrianaaaa17 what do you mean?
By your name, are you from Portugal? :)
Love how Anna embraces her past mistakes and decisions instead of hiding them
In a million years I would have never thought that was you, Anna. You look so sophisticated and gorgeous now! We all did things in our life that we regretted. You grew from that experience and blossomed into a beauty queen! Bravo! An example for us of us.
Haha! I
Could tell!
I had to squint to make sure it was her!
Admitting you were wrong and learning from it is the most elegant thing ever, thank you for being so honest Anna.
"When your mama tells you all she did as a young woman" that's the vibe I got from this video. I love the part when you said you were no longer attached to that version of yourself. Thanks for sharing Anna.
I love that Anna is so honest and unashamed of her past. It is so refreshing that she has this attitude of "yeah, I did some seriously trashy things, but it didn't stop me from leveling up." 100% respect her and like her even more for this.
I believe almost anyone can relate to your story, young and foolish, I wouldn't like having a camera filming all the silly things, mistakes and misbehavior I did when I was younger...
Bravo for you Anna!
This is why I like Anna Bey, she is honest and real. People saying gold digger dont even realize that that word was invented by men to belittle and shame us women as if men are not drawn to money themselves when that's all they aim and work for in the first place. Thank you Anna for sharing and being vulnerable but most of all being real to the point where women like me can relate and feel good knowing we are not alone. I love you sweetheart.
I feel like this just makes your advice even MORE valid because it makes your level up more exciting!
When I was young I used to be invited to a “late-night” talk show and I talked a lot of “dirty jokes” I was too young to think of the consequences if being seen by family or other decent friends. I also used to shoot a supplement commercial for boobs and it had still been on tv until I started a decent work in office. Being made fun by whole male colleagues with their evil eyes. We all have past, we can take it as a life lesson, for ourselves and also for other young people. But it’s still very mean if people bring it up all the time. They are not noble just because they didn’t have such past. They are just low class to try every possibility to hurt people.
Like she said, if we were all judged by our youthful mistakes, it is what it is. Good for you for moving on.
Ugh, what low lifes!! They are honestly just jealous because they never got to do anything so exciting, just living a boring life from home to school to their boring job. There's no shame in working in entertainment! It means someone out there thinks you're beautiful and interesting, or you wouldn't have been put in front of the camera in the first place! You should be proud of yourself. 👏👏
I have always admired people who were the victims of gossip or shame and stayed in whatever job/church/town. At some point, people get tired of talking or joking about it. I know some men never seem to tire of telling the same jokes over and over for years, so it seems like it will never end, but everyone else gets tired of it. I've seen it happen with women at work and church, and even when I knew the gossip was true and they truly did something wrong (or even illegal), I admired them for continuing to show their face and keep their heads held high when I feel like dissolving into a puddle over minor embarrassments. Eventually it's no longer entertaining to others and we all move on. I hope people have stopped bringing it up for you. We all deserve to be able to move on.
It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to share this. So proud of you!!!
Anna you’re such a legend and inspiration. In this day and age this level of transparency and honesty feels so rare. In my opinion there’s no room for shame, guilt or bitterness and your attitude towards these past experiences is a symbol of elegance. So happy for you, myself and all other women that had the strength to overcome these things. If you’re reading this and you still feel burdened by these things it’s possible to let go, you just need to work on it actively. Give yourself the credit you deserve, whatever you’ve been through you’re here today now and that’s all that matters - tomorrow can be whatever you want to make of it. I’m 25 and have my fair share of trauma and troubles, but I’ve worked very hard the last years to be better and I’m now working with a-list celebs and in the process of buying my first house. There’s nothing special about me, I just worked hard and if I can do it then you definitely can too. Thanks so much for this inspiring video and happy new year!
Came for tea, left inspired. Thank you Ana
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. My daughter has been approached to go on one of these shows, I'm really against it. I can't wait to show her this video. Thank you for sharing x
I exactly thought that I would do the same thing with my daughter if I had one!
im glad that you're showing your daughter this video and also hope she decides not to go
but sometimes we have to let people (even our loved ones) make mistakes because how are they supposed to learn without them?
For people still judging by her past, remember that she went from there to here now, so this itself is enough for motivation
I have grown to love you. Your transparency is so refreshing. This story is so educational in so many ways!
Woman empowerment means too to recognize that everybody has a past and doesn´t have to be ashamed by it. Anna is powerful opening us her life and taking the control of those haters and trolls that want fame "exposing" her. I don´t care what did Anna did with her life in the past, I´m learning a lot with her.
Because of your honesty and truthfulness, I admire and respect you on a greater and higher level. You are a true role model and great “influencer.”Thank you!
YESS! You said that perfectly. If you have a PR person that came up with this, they deserve a raise and if you came up with this this would be another skill you sell. Been a fan since the beginning. You have had great influence in my life. We are NOT defined by our past
You're a trooper for showing this. I admire your courage. You truly are a leader.
I love this women so much. I love the way she says, " Now let's dive into my trashy past." The juxtaposition between her life then and her life now is intensely motivating and gives me hope in leveling up. Way to go, Anna. Never stop teaching elegance and giving your opinion on how a man should treat a woman.
When I was around 16-17 I went to New Years Eve with my best friend to her boyfriend's. There was this guy quite interested in me and as we celebrated (and done some drinking 👀) we kissed. Then we we slept in same room, but we didn't sleep with each other or anything. But the next day everyone thought we did. I got bullied because of it for a year, then i stopped seeing anyone from that group, even my best friend. I was really ashamed of myself and felt terrible, but now I am over it. It made me realize lot of things and also made me stronger. Thank you Anna for this video. I hope it will help many young girls to not give up, no matter what they're going through. ❤️
How horrified would any of us be if our lives, as young people, were Recorded, and all of our disasters and mistakes were broadcast on TV for everyone to see? Anna, thank you for being you… And anyone who has anything negative to say, is likely jealous… People in glass houses should not throw stones, correct? You’re amazing! I’ve learned so much from you… Thank you for teaching people how to be elegant and how to better their situation by bettering themselves.
I lurk around your channel a lot but never really comment or anything... Just want to say that I appreciate this video. So glad that you shared your experience and you're teaching us how to deal with past mistakes and make better versions of ourselves. Thank you.
I respect your transparency and courage to own your "not so good" decisions you made in life. Congratulations on your amazing level up journey.
This is such an important video. We really have to forgive ourselves for what we did before we knew better. Thank you, Anna!
I agree, very hard but possible, forgive one self. Once we so that, we are more kind with ourselves, sometimes we get to that untill our 30s like me, but I am glad, I wish for all women to get to that point soon amd let go shame and guilt that serves no one.
It helps me to forgive myself when I see amazing people like you admit your wrongs in the past, but still choose to move forward. You are not defined by your past! You at any point can change your future by fixing things today!
Almost all people, from all walks of life, have made at least one embarrassing or ignorant mistake/decision. I love your channel. I feel most women should watch it! I appreciate the honesty and the openness. The advice you give is brilliant. Thank you!
I must say, this is shocking seeing you in this light, but very necessary because when when people see who you were, it’s helps us to understand how much time and effort you’ve put in to become who you are. You’ve grown and matured so beautifully, which is exactly what’s supposed to happen. I’m sure most of us have been there, young and dumb, insecure and seeking validation. You putting out this video just makes me love you even more because it humanizes you. Your not just this perfect person who’s been this way all her life. All I can say is that I’m so proud of who you’ve become and I hope this teaches so many more women that leveling up is possible and very necessary for growth in all aspects of life. 💕
I'm 22 and am at a point where I can either stay attached to the mistakes I've made or detach and try starting from scratch again . Thank you for this video
We all have been thru an "embarrasing" past, but as you wisely mention "past doesnt define us" and we are in the path of learning from what we dont like to a better life standard. Thanks Anna!!!!
I missed you on the Holidays!!!!!
Shirley , so true!
I’m embarrassed over my play girl stage back in my 20’s!
I cringe now that I’m in 50’s & religious! Youth is a target for the Devil
I am not going to hide the fact that I am pleasantly surprised that you decided to adress this part of your past. In your face, haters! Haha.
Thank you for sharing and once again proving what an amazing and genuine woman you are.
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i have just gotten out of a toxic relationship that truly ruined me and made me feel worthless. this video really inspired me, thank you anna! 💗
I really appreciate your authenticity and life philosophy. Your courage to share your "not so glamorous" past is amazing and encouraging. You are a woman who is beautiful from the inside out.
I love your transparency. And yes, we do SO MANY stupid things when we are insecure and seek validation. But the past shouldn't define your future. Such a great message here, Anna. Thank you for this!
I appreciate you being open this truly shows that people can change if they hold themselves accountable and put in the work.
Hearing you share this story just makes me admire you even more.
I am so glad that she turned her life around.
She is an example that working on yourself, and improving your life will be rewarded in the future. Never give up!
She just takes the wind of her haters sails by showing this and don’t make a big deal out of it. So cool, Anna 👍🏻🌸💕
So proud of you dear Anna! I love this saying "Don't judge me by my past, I don't live there anymore"
I love this transparency moments. This owning up to the poor choices and opening up about the fact that not all of us get to be born into elegance, wealth and self esteem. This is so positive because it is encouraging for all of us who think "oh I will never be like her".
it is no transparency, it is damage control. Someone posted the entire show where Anna participated and suddenly she is talking about it. It is - because it is better when she shows that rather than some haters would make a video about it.
@@ParisAntarktis but she has showed us a big part of that type of person before (her before)
She has showed pictures of herself looking "not elegant" like those moments in the show, she has told us that she smoked, drank, and had a "scandalous" type of life.
The information about her participating in the show is new, BUT that version of her is not new to us 🤷🤷
Anna: I love that you read the comments and appreciate them. Your sense of humor (and willingness to be silly on camera when you show us what not to do) and your willingness to show us the 'before', are such strengths and set you apart from the phony youtube presenters. Thank you.
I'm sorry that you have to remember all of this, and I admire so much your strength to recognize, reflect and talk about it. Thank you for bringing awareness to these issues. These shows are unethical and predatory
It can feel so empowering also to clear the air. In my youth, I made a mistake because I was young and impressionable. Though I matured and went on in life, it wasn’t until I decided to clean out any skeletons from my closet that I felt I truly regained my power. And of course I’m not on TH-cam so it was only a select few I talked to. Being in the public like you is a blessing as you share your insights on elegance & etiquette, but it can also bring out people with insincere motives. Bravo to you for reminding us to keep our personal power in our own hands. Thank you
Anna! I have to tell you, this is the best video you ever made! You are a huge help for young girls to save them from social pressure to make mistakes in their life. Awakening. Educating. Honest. Very deep. I love every world you say. Thank you!
We live in a time of much criticism and judgment from people who dare to do it in public and who believe they are saviors of the world. There is nothing worse than disempowering people than telling them directly or indirectly that they are weak and do not have the strength to defend themselves. Your content is excellent and I appreciate it more, as you did a great job in speaking it fluently and showing graceful humility and personality. I want a thousand times more than what you already have in your life. ♥️
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We are all human, make mistakes and learn from them. Its wonderful she is sharing all her experiences. It's part of changing, learning, growing as a person.
When you said the past doesn’t matter, I actually felt that. I needed to hear that. Anna, seeing you go from that to this, wow! That is fantastic. I’ve lived ashamed of what I’ve said, what I’ve done. That’s literally been me. I’ve held myself back from things because I just didn’t want people to know about those things.
dear Anna, this is my favorite of all your videos because you got so transparent and used your experience to encourage us all to let go of being captive to something or thing(s) from our past: what a great quote you shared”let go of your past and it will let go of you”.
OMG I just started watching, and I can relate! I was on The Bachelor in 2008 and did very well. I was on a short lived show on Bravo in 2015. Then I was on TLC for one episode of My Feet Are Killing Me in 2020.
I could crawl under the table just thinking about it. I'm 41 now and much more of an elegant lady. When I look at women now, living trashy and I say hey, let's all elevate, they look at me and throw my past in my face.
My last was my past. No one should be living now how they were fourteen years ago! Come on! Times have changed and so have I.
I'm glad you can relate to this....you understand what many people don't.
Was just talking to one of my friends who is feeling down about some bad decisions about how nobody is perfect. I love that you make the point of saying “show me your perfect past” in response to possible judgements.
You are ashamed enough to regret it but brave enough to share it with all of us and that's what I really like in you and I'm so glad that I follow you💞💞💞💞💞💞
Being open about your past mistakes makes you authentic and self-aware, which is a perfect example of having class. It's inspiring to see how no matter where you've been in life, there is always a way to level up and transform into an aspiring version of yourself, so long as you have the desire to do it.🌟
This makes you even more legit! Who cares what you DID…What you continue to do is all that matters. It’s easier to take advice from someone who has been through certain things vs. someone who has always been a certain way. It helps us understand CHANGE is POSSIBLE! And THAT is one of the MOST motivational things is being an example and allowing us to SEE that people CAN and want to GROW!
Anna!!! Watching you in those clips running around drunk with overplucked brows and a cigarette hanging out of your mouth! Omg girl 🤣 I was 24 in 2010, and I could have told you that those producers hand pick people who they know will act the fool on TV to get ratings. You have done a great job on yourself. I’m even more proud of you after seeing this! You’ve done a great job transforming yourself 💖💖💖
Your honesty is refreshing! We all have iffy things in our past. Even the classiest people! You’ve handled it very elegantly.
I LOVE seeing your trashy side! Lol. Just to know that you've been there and done that like the rest of us. It only makes me respect you more. Incredible to see how far you've come. As difficult as that time was for you it likely gave you the push you needed to move in the opposite direction... and clearly, you did it girl. Sadly, most of those people are just older versions of the same people they were when seen on the show... because most people don't want to do the actual work it takes to change. They also don't want to own their past behavior... a lot of people can't/ won't do that. (Esp if they are still the same)
Trashy is easy... but classy takes a lot of work. So... anyone out there with something to say, please... let's see where YOU'RE currently at on the trashy to classy journey. & if you're still somewhere in between... & you are... then shhh!! The only person you're making look bad... is yourself. See... truly classy people do not waste their time making trashy videos about others. They look ahead & not behind. Like Anna.
Honestly Anna, the fact that you were willing to go here speaks volumes! You are comfortable enough in your own skin to be authentic and candid and empathetic. Would that we had more women like you in the world. Brava to you and for how far you've come! Brava!
Love it, when you say, the past doesn't define who you are today.
I have never thought of that..."let go of your past and it will let go of you". Thankyou 😇
Firstly, Anna, you look great. The hair and the dress look excellent on you. This was such a mature video and your honesty is refreshing and admirable. I think a lot of young ladies can learn a lot from this.
I admire Anna's sense of style, but haven't particularly been a fan...until now. This was such a powerful message! Our past doesn't have to define us- it's a life lesson we should all be fortunate enough to learn.
I love how when I first looked you up, people were posting this to TRY to discredit you, but here you are owning your past. 🤣 Joke's on them.
Anna your are wisely authentic and authentically wise! Well done!💋
I LOVE how you are vulnerable in a classy way because you are not putting yourself above everyone else. You are showing how as humans we grow, we make mistakes and no matter what you start from, you can elevate your elegance.💗
I think the biggest mistake that so many of us make, is letting loneliness affect our decisions about men. We don't just enjoy our singleness until we encounter someone suitable, and worthy, but grab the nearest loser because we don't want to be alone. And it's not their fault, they were just being themselves and we chose them. Yes we did.
Literally Anna, this is one of your best videos and the most honest one. Sharing this says so much about who you are today and how confident you are.
Thanks for sharing
Oh honey, your makeup on the show! Bless your heart, you’ve come a long way! 😂💕
A real example of your past does not determine your future. Anna you changed your entire narrative and now you’re helping others. What a queen. Can’t wait to do the same. ✨
Hahahaa that footage was brilliant! I love it. It’s nice to have a character arch
Every Saint has a past, every sinner has a future! Amazing video Anna and you should be proud because this will inspire so many women who had written themselves off to think again! Xx
She is so down to earth I love her
Openly admitting and owning up to your past so that nobody can use it against you, is a power move and i stan
One of the reasons i like you..the uniqueness you bring and how you handle "chaos" in a very calm and elegant way😊
Life is about levelling up and getting better. Thank you for showing this ❤
We all do things sometimes past, sometimes present, and then think "yep. That was me. Wish it wasn't, but it was!" We're all human and the more we're vulnerable, the more we encourage and connect with others by letting them know we are all human! Thankyou Anna!
I love that you are showing this side of yourself and being open and honest, I am currently 25, lived a very similar past life to yours. I am ready to step up my life. I always felt that I couldn't because I had such a trashy past. I did absolutely crazy things. Hearing your story tells me that I can become the elegant lady I long to be, with having the past that I do. We are not that different. thank you for this video I needed it.
Anna we love you, the unfortunate state of the world right now is people like to bring up peoples past to tear them down- nothing shows grace like laughing at the past and saying what you learnt from it! Im sure if someone filmed me at university people would be shocked at my behaviour- You've inspired me to stop trying to bury my party girl past and instead laugh at it and use it to remember just how far ive come x
I don’t watch reality tv show but we classy ladies don’t judge someone’s past. Thanks for sharing, you’re still awesome babe
Anna, I think that you are amazing. I appreciate your incredible honesty about your past and your journey getting to where you are today! Most people, including myself, would never be comfortable being so vulnerable to such a large audience. Your honesty is an inspiration in showing others, again including myself, that one can learn from their mistakes and make a better life for yourself. I love the idea of "I am no longer attached to that version of myself."!
Every time I think I can't love her enough, she proceeds to share more vulnerable information about herself to teach us that we can start over and you can rewrite your own story and recreate your own path. So much respect!!
In college I fell in love with a perfect guy, but I thought being 'cool' and 'fun' and 'popular' meant going clubbing, getting drunk and staying out late every night with the crowd (and I thought this would impress him!), but all he wanted was someone to get up early with to go running or to church or to visit historical places, which is what I really preferred as well. In trying to get validation from everyone I ended up losing out on the one person who really mattered and losing those experiences that I would have treasured instead of nights I can't remember and mornings sleeping in being sick.
I have to add, that was the beginning of my own 'level up journey', I was so depressed I took a semester off school and got a job which was awful but once I recovered I resolved to stop getting drunk, I cut my hair and learned to do makeup online, I invested in a small but classy wardrobe that complimented me and made me look elegant rather than 'fun', and I pursued my own interests like photography and reading and spent more time with real friends instead of just going to random parties to feel included, and most importantly I outlined my dreams and goals and thought about how to get there rather than living in the moment trying to be sexy to impress strangers who didn't even care about me. I never met another guy so perfect, but when I went back to school it was night and day to how I was treated and the quality of people who I attracted as friends and partners.
Relate completely
Anna, I applaud your level of maturity and honesty. You are awesome! Thank you for sharing your story. I hope young girls will learn something. Young girls are always the easy prey of exploiters and it’s a very hard lesson.
Thank you for the vulnerability Ms. Anna. We respect you a lot!