Oh Yes Dr. C, I'm always the "bad and crazy one", silent treatment, with holding everything from me. (affection, touch, talking, ect.) Married for 31 yrs. This Year and Y E S barely now bare minimum. I'm in therapy again and have my daughter in therapy too now. Thanks to My Therapist ,You &Dr. Ramani I'm learning sooo much, I hope You and Your Family have a Wonderful Blessed Holidays. Thank You again so much for Everything You do, I Appreciate it more than You know
Thank you thank you thank you ❤ your replying to my question (I’m almost 💯 certain it was my question) was an unexpectedly cathartic experience for me this morning 💞🥹😌thank you again for your dedication to what you do for others and Happy Holidays 🎄 to you and Gus and your family! ❤
I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.
I needed to hear this so bad, thank you 🙏🙏 Dealing with textbook covert narc brother and enabling, on the narc spectrum parents, expecting me and my fam (spouse, child, me) to show up holiday /fam vacations after being treated so cruelly like me & my family are so inferior or don’t exist. Won’t put my child in this again
There are not enough hours in a lifetime to satisfy THEIR demands and "requirements!" Who wants that job??!!? Definitely ZERO benefits and perpetual subservience! Just NO! Stay Healthy!! Happy Holidays and Greater Blessings to all! 🎄🦌🎁 🕊️
Merry Christmas, Dr. Carter! God bless you and your family in the coming new year! Appreciate your wisdom, experience and insights, and enjoy your sense of humor! We love you too, from Team Healthy! 🎄♥️🙂
Happy Holidays Season dr C 💚✨🌼 Merry Christmas 🌠 to you, your wife and all your family 🌼🧡✨💚 Big hug to Gus 🐕 the silent healer. Great thanks to all your tech team people ✨🧡🌼 Thank you from Italy 🌿
Someone in my family dont show any appreciation if i organised anything like a get together or anything... she doesn't really listen to me and my husband but she talks so much about her and her life... we are distancing ourselves as we feel its pointless, shes very draining... thank you so much for your videos, they are very helpful
That has what I have learned. I’m on high alert when I am vulnerable around people now. Unfortunately I am getting colder and that is not my true personality.
I couldn’t figure out why my husband rebukes compliments. He gets hostile! Wow. So I learned no more of that. Your new format sounds great. You work so diligently. His bless you and you family. Merry Christmas 🎁🙏🏽💕🫶🏼
I think you will like what my 15 year old son wrote in his paper for school, Walt Disney: How to Shape Failure into Success: In conclusion, the story of Walter Elias Disney is one that shows us the true nature of success and failure: they’re not opposites that directly contrast each other, at least not always. They’re both ultimately stones that pave the path of life for everyone here on this planet. In the end, you can’t choose what stones that path is paved with; you can’t change how rough or smooth it is, but that doesn’t mean there is no choice involved. You can choose what you learn from each experience, with what eagerness you tread the path, in what direction you roam. I wish narcissists could understand this.
My wishes to all people in Team Healthy for good relaxing holidays (at least, not too hurtful would be ok). This is a wish for myself and for everyone still "in contact" with severely narcissistic individuals and/or on the difficult recovery path from complex traumas. From Italy 🌿🌼💚🇮🇹🇮🇹🧡🇮🇹💚💚💚🌼🌼🌼🌼💚💚💚💚💚💚
Thank-you, Dr. Carter. I'm looking forward to your new format this coming January. I have a request rather than a question. Have you ever had a podcast regarding shame? Being married for 40 years to a malignant narcissist, this has left me with a lot of painful shame because of what my ex-husband said and did. I thought I would ask if this is something you might have some advice on. I'm working with a domestic violence therapist and this is one of my most painful issues.
Interesting about the two kinds of abuse. My sister, her husband and one of my nephews justify their overt abuse of me by accusing me of being passive aggressive. What they call passive aggressive I see as self protection, for instance not having anything to do with my brother in law because he is verbally abusive and patronising towards me.
My sister is 64 and after listening to you I believe she is a narcissist. She also professes to be a Christian, but I see no grace or forgiveness with her. Will she outgrow the narcissism?
@ Charlie Brown's Christmas is a MUST watch each year I am also a huge "Elf" nerd! I think C.B. because it's from a less narcissisticly aware state of mind and Elf because, well, come on, a giant ELF, Bob Newhart 🧡🧡🧡🧡, Great Christmas themes ...
A Christmas Story, is my all time favorite. So many great and funny scenes in this movie. Got to love when the family goes to the Asian restaurant and the waiter sings the Christmas song "Tis the Season," with his thick accent "Faw raw, raw ,raw, raw...raw, raw, raw" 😂
I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.
Oh Yes Dr. C, I'm always the "bad and crazy one", silent treatment, with holding everything from me. (affection, touch, talking, ect.) Married for 31 yrs. This Year and Y E S barely now bare minimum.
I'm in therapy again and have my daughter in therapy too now. Thanks to My Therapist ,You &Dr. Ramani I'm learning sooo much, I hope You and Your Family have a Wonderful Blessed Holidays.
Thank You again so much for Everything You do, I Appreciate it more than You know
Thank you thank you thank you ❤ your replying to my question (I’m almost 💯 certain it was my question) was an unexpectedly cathartic experience for me this morning 💞🥹😌thank you again for your dedication to what you do for others and Happy Holidays 🎄 to you and Gus and your family! ❤
You are so welcome!
UNBOUND🎯👍🏼
I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.
"You're unstable and insane" - my favorite phrase to hear when confronting someone who hurts you over and over.
So true about vulnerabilities
I needed to hear this so bad, thank you 🙏🙏
Dealing with textbook covert narc brother and enabling, on the narc spectrum parents, expecting me and my fam (spouse, child, me) to show up holiday /fam vacations after being treated so cruelly like me & my family are so inferior or don’t exist. Won’t put my child in this again
This is the main thing that triggers my c-ptsd. Then again its what created it in the first place 🤷🏻♂️
Yep !!!!....me too !
Yes.
There are not enough hours in a lifetime to satisfy THEIR demands and "requirements!"
Who wants that job??!!?
Definitely ZERO benefits and perpetual subservience!
Just NO!
Stay Healthy!!
Happy Holidays and Greater Blessings to all!
🎄🦌🎁 🕊️
✨🧡🌠✨🧡✨🧡✨🌠🧡✨🧡✨🧡🌠✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🌠
Oh my goodness Y E S ❣️ Happy Holidays and Blessings to you
This was timely!!!
In reference to the TH-cam equivalent of tape recording; it's typically referred to as "VOD" which is Video On Demand.
Yeah, I need to upgrade my vocabulary!
Peace be.Happy Holidays to all. 46:10
Merry Christmas, Dr. Carter! God bless you and your family in the coming new year! Appreciate your wisdom, experience and insights, and enjoy your sense of humor! We love you too, from Team Healthy! 🎄♥️🙂
Thank you, Christine
Happy Holidays Season dr C 💚✨🌼
Merry Christmas 🌠 to you, your wife and all your family 🌼🧡✨💚
Big hug to Gus 🐕 the silent healer.
Great thanks to all your tech team people ✨🧡🌼
Thank you from Italy 🌿
Man man, we rule, go team healthy,
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Completely understand Doctor 👍
Powerful and spot on evaluations of the narc personality. ❤️
These videos are so helpful, so clear. Thank you!
Mahalo
Mahalo Plenty
Someone in my family dont show any appreciation if i organised anything like a get together or anything... she doesn't really listen to me and my husband but she talks so much about her and her life... we are distancing ourselves as we feel its pointless, shes very draining... thank you so much for your videos, they are very helpful
Dr.C wishing you very merry Christmas and happy new year and many years to come to you and your family!
Thanks Fred. Nice pic!
That has what I have learned. I’m on high alert when I am vulnerable around people now. Unfortunately I am getting colder and that is not my true personality.
I couldn’t figure out why my husband rebukes compliments. He gets hostile! Wow. So I learned no more of that. Your new format sounds great. You work so diligently. His bless you and you family. Merry Christmas 🎁🙏🏽💕🫶🏼
I think you will like what my 15 year old son wrote in his paper for school, Walt Disney: How to Shape Failure into Success:
In conclusion, the story of Walter Elias Disney is one that shows us the true nature of success and failure: they’re not opposites that directly contrast each other, at least not always. They’re both ultimately stones that pave the path of life for everyone here on this planet. In the end, you can’t choose what stones that path is paved with; you can’t change how rough or smooth it is, but that doesn’t mean there is no choice involved. You can choose what you learn from each experience, with what eagerness you tread the path, in what direction you roam.
I wish narcissists could understand this.
This is beautiful and I really need these words right now. Thank-you for sharing this.
My wishes to all people in Team Healthy for good relaxing holidays
(at least, not too hurtful would be ok).
This is a wish for myself and for everyone still "in contact" with severely narcissistic individuals and/or on the difficult recovery path from complex traumas.
From Italy 🌿🌼💚🇮🇹🇮🇹🧡🇮🇹💚💚💚🌼🌼🌼🌼💚💚💚💚💚💚
Same to you @lishmahlishmah 🎄🕯✨️🫂Blessings 🙌🏼
I wish you and your family a Merry Christmas Dr Carter and all the best and health for 2025🌲🌲🌲and thank you for all the wise lessons
You're kind. Thank you.
Thank-you, Dr. Carter. I'm looking forward to your new format this coming January. I have a request rather than a question. Have you ever had a podcast regarding shame? Being married for 40 years to a malignant narcissist, this has left me with a lot of painful shame because of what my ex-husband said and did. I thought I would ask if this is something you might have some advice on. I'm working with a domestic violence therapist and this is one of my most painful issues.
Interesting about the two kinds of abuse. My sister, her husband and one of my nephews justify their overt abuse of me by accusing me of being passive aggressive.
What they call passive aggressive I see as self protection, for instance not having anything to do with my brother in law because he is verbally abusive and patronising towards me.
Sorry I missed gorup today, I was at Doctors office.
My sister is 64 and after listening to you I believe she is a narcissist. She also professes to be a Christian, but I see no grace or forgiveness with her. Will she outgrow the narcissism?
How do you submit questions? Will you let us know in advance what the topic will be?
Put the questions in the comment section of any video, just like you did here.
@@triciadreas9835 He collects the questions, and ones that fall in a group topic get addressed in that stream.
Ok, A week before Christmas is last live, so... what is your go-to Christmas movie? And "why" if you can.
My annual Holiday "classic" is "Meet Me In St. Louis." Although it is a musical, I enjoy the year-long storyline that culminates at Christmas.
@ Charlie Brown's Christmas is a MUST watch each year
I am also a huge "Elf" nerd!
I think C.B. because it's from a less narcissisticly aware state of mind and Elf because, well, come on, a giant ELF, Bob Newhart 🧡🧡🧡🧡, Great Christmas themes ...
@@aaronkwolfeI love Judy!! 🧡
A Christmas Story, is my all time favorite. So many great and funny scenes in this movie. Got to love when the family goes to the Asian restaurant and the waiter sings the Christmas song "Tis the Season," with his thick accent "Faw raw, raw ,raw, raw...raw, raw, raw" 😂
@ Judy Garland was my Dad’s celebrity crush, so I got to see so many of her movies.
Very big mistake to make yourself vulnerable to a narc. Ammo to use against you when they feel like it.
I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.
@@dawntreader815 ooh I love that. Thanks for sharing
@Jayy_Pea I will admit I saw it coming and rehearsed with my husband until I had it down.
I like this. I'm going to use it.
I haven't gotten.'wind' of it. Their body language and nonverbal screams it