Midweek with Dr. C- Staying Strong When Narcissists Invalidate

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  • @samanthaenriquez509
    @samanthaenriquez509 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Oh Yes Dr. C, I'm always the "bad and crazy one", silent treatment, with holding everything from me. (affection, touch, talking, ect.) Married for 31 yrs. This Year and Y E S barely now bare minimum.
    I'm in therapy again and have my daughter in therapy too now. Thanks to My Therapist ,You &Dr. Ramani I'm learning sooo much, I hope You and Your Family have a Wonderful Blessed Holidays.
    Thank You again so much for Everything You do, I Appreciate it more than You know

  • @LisaSmith-yb2uz
    @LisaSmith-yb2uz 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +10

    Thank you thank you thank you ❤ your replying to my question (I’m almost 💯 certain it was my question) was an unexpectedly cathartic experience for me this morning 💞🥹😌thank you again for your dedication to what you do for others and Happy Holidays 🎄 to you and Gus and your family! ❤

  • @ChildoftheLIGHT
    @ChildoftheLIGHT 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    UNBOUND🎯👍🏼

  • @dawntreader815
    @dawntreader815 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.

  • @TiktokFAFO
    @TiktokFAFO 17 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    "You're unstable and insane" - my favorite phrase to hear when confronting someone who hurts you over and over.

  • @rosieE121
    @rosieE121 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    So true about vulnerabilities

  • @hcmangs3634
    @hcmangs3634 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I needed to hear this so bad, thank you 🙏🙏
    Dealing with textbook covert narc brother and enabling, on the narc spectrum parents, expecting me and my fam (spouse, child, me) to show up holiday /fam vacations after being treated so cruelly like me & my family are so inferior or don’t exist. Won’t put my child in this again

  • @m.o.t.h.studios
    @m.o.t.h.studios 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    This is the main thing that triggers my c-ptsd. Then again its what created it in the first place 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @BaraSchmidt
    @BaraSchmidt 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +10

    There are not enough hours in a lifetime to satisfy THEIR demands and "requirements!"
    Who wants that job??!!?
    Definitely ZERO benefits and perpetual subservience!
    Just NO!
    Stay Healthy!!
    Happy Holidays and Greater Blessings to all!
    🎄🦌🎁 🕊️

    • @lishmahlishmah
      @lishmahlishmah 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      ✨🧡🌠✨🧡✨🧡✨🌠🧡✨🧡✨🧡🌠✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🌠

    • @samanthaenriquez509
      @samanthaenriquez509 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      Oh my goodness Y E S ❣️ Happy Holidays and Blessings to you

  • @desormais22
    @desormais22 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    This was timely!!!

  • @tylerbloomington7695
    @tylerbloomington7695 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    In reference to the TH-cam equivalent of tape recording; it's typically referred to as "VOD" which is Video On Demand.

    • @SurvivingNarcissism
      @SurvivingNarcissism  ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yeah, I need to upgrade my vocabulary!

  • @ruthvholland
    @ruthvholland 24 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

    Peace be.Happy Holidays to all. 46:10

  • @christinewagner1722
    @christinewagner1722 56 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

    Merry Christmas, Dr. Carter! God bless you and your family in the coming new year! Appreciate your wisdom, experience and insights, and enjoy your sense of humor! We love you too, from Team Healthy! 🎄♥️🙂

  • @lishmahlishmah
    @lishmahlishmah 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Happy Holidays Season dr C 💚✨🌼
    Merry Christmas 🌠 to you, your wife and all your family 🌼🧡✨💚
    Big hug to Gus 🐕 the silent healer.
    Great thanks to all your tech team people ✨🧡🌼
    Thank you from Italy 🌿

  • @lindabell2940
    @lindabell2940 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Man man, we rule, go team healthy,

    • @Summer_Harvest
      @Summer_Harvest 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      🙌🏼

  • @elderlypoodle9181
    @elderlypoodle9181 30 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

    Completely understand Doctor 👍

  • @user-zl3bi7km3c
    @user-zl3bi7km3c 11 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Powerful and spot on evaluations of the narc personality. ❤️

  • @dawntreader815
    @dawntreader815 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    These videos are so helpful, so clear. Thank you!

  • @menotyou6254
    @menotyou6254 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    Mahalo

  • @jammyjay917
    @jammyjay917 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Someone in my family dont show any appreciation if i organised anything like a get together or anything... she doesn't really listen to me and my husband but she talks so much about her and her life... we are distancing ourselves as we feel its pointless, shes very draining... thank you so much for your videos, they are very helpful

  • @fred.k9875
    @fred.k9875 32 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

    Dr.C wishing you very merry Christmas and happy new year and many years to come to you and your family!

  • @elderlypoodle9181
    @elderlypoodle9181 20 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    That has what I have learned. I’m on high alert when I am vulnerable around people now. Unfortunately I am getting colder and that is not my true personality.

  • @CharMinsky
    @CharMinsky 11 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    I couldn’t figure out why my husband rebukes compliments. He gets hostile! Wow. So I learned no more of that. Your new format sounds great. You work so diligently. His bless you and you family. Merry Christmas 🎁🙏🏽💕🫶🏼

  • @KathieMihindukulasuriya
    @KathieMihindukulasuriya 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I think you will like what my 15 year old son wrote in his paper for school, Walt Disney: How to Shape Failure into Success:
    In conclusion, the story of Walter Elias Disney is one that shows us the true nature of success and failure: they’re not opposites that directly contrast each other, at least not always. They’re both ultimately stones that pave the path of life for everyone here on this planet. In the end, you can’t choose what stones that path is paved with; you can’t change how rough or smooth it is, but that doesn’t mean there is no choice involved. You can choose what you learn from each experience, with what eagerness you tread the path, in what direction you roam.
    I wish narcissists could understand this.

    • @JackieFerrell-f6o
      @JackieFerrell-f6o ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      This is beautiful and I really need these words right now. Thank-you for sharing this.

  • @lishmahlishmah
    @lishmahlishmah 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    My wishes to all people in Team Healthy for good relaxing holidays
    (at least, not too hurtful would be ok).
    This is a wish for myself and for everyone still "in contact" with severely narcissistic individuals and/or on the difficult recovery path from complex traumas.
    From Italy 🌿🌼💚🇮🇹🇮🇹🧡🇮🇹💚💚💚🌼🌼🌼🌼💚💚💚💚💚💚

    • @Summer_Harvest
      @Summer_Harvest 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Same to you @lishmahlishmah 🎄🕯✨️🫂Blessings 🙌🏼

  • @WilGoudswaard
    @WilGoudswaard ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I wish you and your family a Merry Christmas Dr Carter and all the best and health for 2025🌲🌲🌲and thank you for all the wise lessons

  • @JackieFerrell-f6o
    @JackieFerrell-f6o ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank-you, Dr. Carter. I'm looking forward to your new format this coming January. I have a request rather than a question. Have you ever had a podcast regarding shame? Being married for 40 years to a malignant narcissist, this has left me with a lot of painful shame because of what my ex-husband said and did. I thought I would ask if this is something you might have some advice on. I'm working with a domestic violence therapist and this is one of my most painful issues.

  • @snowbear1877
    @snowbear1877 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Interesting about the two kinds of abuse. My sister, her husband and one of my nephews justify their overt abuse of me by accusing me of being passive aggressive.
    What they call passive aggressive I see as self protection, for instance not having anything to do with my brother in law because he is verbally abusive and patronising towards me.

  • @joannajohnson696
    @joannajohnson696 8 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Sorry I missed gorup today, I was at Doctors office.

  • @lauraleaking222
    @lauraleaking222 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    My sister is 64 and after listening to you I believe she is a narcissist. She also professes to be a Christian, but I see no grace or forgiveness with her. Will she outgrow the narcissism?

  • @triciadreas9835
    @triciadreas9835 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    How do you submit questions? Will you let us know in advance what the topic will be?

    • @SurvivingNarcissism
      @SurvivingNarcissism  3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

      Put the questions in the comment section of any video, just like you did here.

    • @aaronkwolfe
      @aaronkwolfe 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@triciadreas9835 He collects the questions, and ones that fall in a group topic get addressed in that stream.

  • @aaronkwolfe
    @aaronkwolfe 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    Ok, A week before Christmas is last live, so... what is your go-to Christmas movie? And "why" if you can.

    • @aaronkwolfe
      @aaronkwolfe 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

      My annual Holiday "classic" is "Meet Me In St. Louis." Although it is a musical, I enjoy the year-long storyline that culminates at Christmas.

    • @BaraSchmidt
      @BaraSchmidt 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

      @ Charlie Brown's Christmas is a MUST watch each year
      I am also a huge "Elf" nerd!
      I think C.B. because it's from a less narcissisticly aware state of mind and Elf because, well, come on, a giant ELF, Bob Newhart 🧡🧡🧡🧡, Great Christmas themes ...

    • @BaraSchmidt
      @BaraSchmidt 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

      ​@@aaronkwolfeI love Judy!! 🧡

    • @Blackcatsrlucky
      @Blackcatsrlucky 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

      A Christmas Story, is my all time favorite. So many great and funny scenes in this movie. Got to love when the family goes to the Asian restaurant and the waiter sings the Christmas song "Tis the Season," with his thick accent "Faw raw, raw ,raw, raw...raw, raw, raw" 😂

    • @aaronkwolfe
      @aaronkwolfe 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

      @ Judy Garland was my Dad’s celebrity crush, so I got to see so many of her movies.

  • @user-zl3bi7km3c
    @user-zl3bi7km3c 22 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Very big mistake to make yourself vulnerable to a narc. Ammo to use against you when they feel like it.

  • @dawntreader815
    @dawntreader815 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +9

    I had the first scenario happen to me recently. I stated "Really? I wasn't aware there was a problem - but I would hope they would bring any concerns to me directly." And that was the end of it. Not that it didn't bother me, it did and does -but that's how I handled it.

    • @Jayy_Pea
      @Jayy_Pea 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@dawntreader815 ooh I love that. Thanks for sharing

    • @dawntreader815
      @dawntreader815 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      @Jayy_Pea I will admit I saw it coming and rehearsed with my husband until I had it down.

    • @trinab7762
      @trinab7762 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      I like this. I'm going to use it.

    • @trinab7762
      @trinab7762 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      I haven't gotten.'wind' of it. Their body language and nonverbal screams it